LTR, something more important than n-count?
0 upvotes | September 12, 2015 | by LibertarianLibertine
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Recently a post came by that warned men to look out for alpha-widows,
rather than the number, because alpha-widows is what truly matters.

To a certain degree, they made a very good point. However in the
comment section it was said that it was difficult to spot an alpha
widow, thus figuring out the n-count was a good proxy. As more
partners increases the likelihood of a high n.

I say it's a bad proxy, and there's a much better proxy.

What's the reason we enter a LTR? We look for certain things, we want
our lives to be nicer and improve our happiness. A woman that's
alpha-widowed will nag at you because she constantly compares you to
the alpha. She will never be proud of you or have a high libido around
you once you're in a stable LTR. She will never truly appreciate you
and want to care for you, she is settling.

Obviously, an alpha-widow can by default not bring you a happy LTR.
There's no need to check if she's an alpha-widow, you'll know by
having a shitty girlfriend.

What about the n-count? None of us want to date a slut, but the truth
is that finding virgins above a certain age is near impossible, so we
have to give some stretch to that. (Despite maybe wanting to fuck 18yo
virgins on the side, for a LTR they may for various reasons not be
suitable) A girl that has been with a 100 men is obviously an extreme
example and you don't want to LTR that out of pure shame and disgust.
But what about 10 or 20? If she's 25 and lost her virginity at 18
(very decent) that'll still be 7 years of having sex. Even with a
couple of LTRs on her side she may easily move to these numbers by not
wanting to not have sex for over 3 months as she enjoys sex. Some of
you will disagree with me here, but let's say that that's not very
extreme behavior and may for some of us be acceptable. Maybe you agree
with the core of what I'm trying to say, but disagree on my 10 to 20
interval, that's all fine, we can say the same but put the numbers on
5 - 10 or 2-5 if you like, it's not the point here to say what a high
n-count means.

But, if within acceptable range for you, and she makes a great
supportive girlfriend who's proud of you and cares for you, are those
not the more important values in a LTR? Especially for the new guys
here, if the debate becomes obsessed with terms as n-count and
alpha-widows, you may forget what the reasons are to enter a LTR in
the first place, and that she must qualify on thát level for you. She
must make your life better, it's simple as that. If she brings you
drama and wastes your time, you dump her, if she makes you a better
man and enables you to develop yourself even further, that's a woman
you want to stick around.

Nevertheless, always remember that it can end at any moment and that
you will need neverending frame to keep a LTR going.

The lesson I want to convery is that a virgin who isn't alpha widowed,
but doesn't add any value to your life other than sex, is not LTR
material. Women that only provide sex are plates and FWBs, not LTR.
Her non-virgin sister who's had a ONS, a LTR, and 3 FWBs before you,
may prove much more worth in your life.

An alpha-widow however, cannot be a worthy LTR no matter how bad she
wants your commitment as in her eyes you'll never be as good as what
she feels she deserves. No need to dig into her history to check this,
it'll show automatically.
 
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