The Decline has made us the poorest men in history
209 upvotes | October 26, 2015 | by NightwingTRP
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Prompted by the recent piece by /u/IllimitableMan on how to be happy,
the below is an attempt of mine to address the depression phase. The
realisation that while you're banging attractive women and have two or
three plates spinning... it's not bringing you the inner happiness you
wanted. In appreciating where this comes from, it should help get you
to acceptance faster than I did.

I recently wrote in a thread about how we as men can no longer afford
the luxury of falling in love, of being able to give in to those
strong feelings which cause oneitis. From my rooftop, this is my view
of the decline.

In order to understand this post you will need to have internalised
the differences between

 	* Men in love [http://therationalmale.com/2012/09/10/men-in-love/]
 	* Women in love
[http://therationalmale.com/2011/12/27/women-in-love/]

and then from this realised how oneitis is actually useful to nature
in the past. There is no one, and it's pretty straightforward to
maintain an abundance mentality. BUT YOU WERE DESIGNED TO FALL IN LOVE
WITH A WOMAN because if you didn't, then you'd leave her while she was
pregnant to go spread your genes elsewhere. The successful strategy
for any man who was not a tribal king or warlord (and thus had
resources/people under his command to look after many women as he saw
fit) would be to stick with the best quality woman who fell pregnant
and protect her and his children. Otherwise the effort of passing on
your genes would go to waste when the kids get murdered by a new man
or barbarians come in and rape and kill her. Civilisation and societal
etiquette is the fairly obvious solution to these old problems from
stone age tribes. The modern oneitis comes from a persistent spreading
of the soulmate myth. The deep loving feelings are the same, but the
search was instead altered causing great pain for the modern
misinformed man.

Anyway, as society has evolved, women were typically contained within
a submissive role. The woman who stepped out of this role would be
punished with physical violence. The "rule of thumb"
[https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rule_of_thumb#Thumb_used_for_abuse] is
an excellent example of how this was previously legally enforced
within society. So absurd levels of shit testing and frame stealing
were legally enforced against, even for the most beta of betas. (The
violence served as a deterrent for the women. If you pissed off your
husband too much, he would likely beat you.) Please note that this IS
NOT an endorsement of violence against women. The sub has been very
clear [https://archive.is/x2CMA] in its position on this. (Do not try
to twist my explanation of history into some kind of sick
endorsement.)

As a result of this high level of dominance being backed up legally
and physically, we saw society develop on the cultural side to develop
romanticism. I'm sure you're all familiar with the phrase men are the
romantics pretending to pragmatic and women are the pragmatists
pretending to be romantic. As we had set up the dominance/submission
dynamic between men and women so strongly, men could afford an
additional luxury out of the relationship. They could sacrifice a
little dominance to enjoy being romantic with women. Any good LTR game
will tell you how you need to mix alpha behaviour with a sprinkling of
benevolent behaviour in order to achieve a balanced relationship that
would not make the woman too insecure. I would count the romanticism
of the time as such. So it actually benefitted the ladies and made
them a bit happier too.

What we didn't note was that the change in the dynamic when we
reformed laws on this, meant that romanticism to some degrees was a
luxury that some men could no longer afford. This was when "the abuse"
would begin as Girlwriteswhat would put it. I recall she's spoken
about relationships in which women will follow their man from room to
room constantly berating them, insulting them and putting them down.
Telling them they're a worthless piece of shit, and he takes it
because he can no longer react violently within legal means (though
that didn't stop them sometimes, and why didn't it stop them? Because
bullying and berating someone who can't escape is a form of
psychological abuse. It's why we hate bullying in society.) That
deterrent is no longer in place to prevent shit testing escalating to
this kind of level. It presents a danger to men that was not faced by
our ancestors. This new danger was the psychological violence women
can enact on men with a level of impunity. The scales were reversed.
It's no wonder men are not happy [https://archive.is/qMOun] anymore.

If we put the marriage and divorce issues to one side for a moment (we
already know these are bad deals for men, that's generally accepted
here), let's take a quick look at the two major issues for Red Pill
men who want to run LTR game. Screening is absolutely essential. The
reality is that many women have either damaged themselves
psychologically beyond repair and simply make bad long term partners,
and others just had the wrong personality to begin with. In addition
to this, you've then got the large pool of women who are too boring
and/or don't share any common interests with you. Each of these four
screening statements rules out a HUGE majority of modern women from
being relationship material. There are probably more, which leaves an
absolutely tiny percentage you could develop an LTR with.

We then add to this that the way the legal system now works, combined
with the natural hypergamous behaviour of women, the dominant
behaviour you display to maintain the balance in a modern relationship
will be difficult. Even if you've screened for the right woman, you
can never let your guard down. NEVER. Female love is conditional upon
their emotional state. Upon their feelings currently being generated
by your value. When that drops, she will be looking to head out the
door at the first opportunity and take as much of your resources as
she can with her. The reward for dealing with this over the long term
will be a companion. You will need to balance your dominant and
benevolent behaviours perfectly.

What you can't have is a woman you can fall in love with and develop
the associated feelings of oneitis. Once you develop that oneitis,
that is the beginning of the end. The emotions take over the rational
and the slow decline into trying to please her begins. We've all seen
how that story goes. It's all over the Red Pill. The majority of
modern marriages tell the same similar tale ending in divorce (and
frequently sexual infidelity.) That's before we even think about the
disgusting rise in cuckoldry. It's both funny and sad to think about
how a man could sell himself out like that. As a slave to a woman.
Pathetic. That's an example of the horrifyingly negative power that
oneitis can have on the modern man. A man who takes that level of
psychological abuse because he loves her. There is no great equality
in that. A man must protect himself.

With that in mind, it comes to your options... the only reasonable
options all modern men now have:

 	* Live with spinning plates and develop no real emotional connection
to them. Connect with your male peers and do other things with your
life.
 	* Attempt to find one of the tiny percentage of rare women who are
LTR material and achieve companionship along with a superficial
emotional connection.
 	* Disconnect from the game altogether and become a MGTOW. Focus on
your passions to try and fulfil yourself emotionally.

The option you do not have WHICH PREVIOUS GENERATIONS DID:

 	* Find a good woman to fall in love with, develop a deep emotional
connection to her and start a family.

Emotionally, (that force which _really_ drives humanity) we are the
poorest generation of men in the entire history of civilisation. The
irony is, this generation in the job market now is the first
generation in a century in the west to be poorer than their parents.
The last time that happened was because of a world war.

Our economic poorness makes an excellent metaphor for the emotional
landscape men now see. We now look back at history and see how our
grandparents could afford that really nice house and that Ferrari.
They worked hard and they earned these things. We now realise that the
economy is so bad... that we can work twice as hard and we'll still
never earn the Ferrari, and we'll be lucky to get a decent appartment.
That is how emotionally poor the modern man is - and there's nothing
wrong with being angry or depressed by this realisation. _It._ _is._
HORRIBLE. With the relationship dynamic so screwed up that a deep
emotional connection can no longer be maintained, the women are
emotionally poorer too. They're ending up destroying their own
relationships and marriages, then ending up alone with cats. This is
the decline gentlemen. It's no wonder we're all so miserable with the
modern dating market.
 
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