Woman on AskMen isn't attracted to her loving/doting beta provider husband, and is planning to kick his ass to the curb. Happy Thanksgiving.
676 upvotes | November 24, 2016 | by needsomehelp3211
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SUMMARY: MARRYING A WOMAN WHO ISN'T ATTRACTED TO YOU IS A LOSING
PROPOSITION. IF SHE STARTS SPINNING YARN ABOUT "YOU DON'T MAKE ME
HORNY BUT I'M IN LOVE WITH YOUR PERSONALITY", FUCKING RUN IN THE OTHER
DIRECTION.

Original post here. [http://archive.is/tznb6]

Our story begins on AskMen where a guy posts his experience of being
trashed by a woman he loved after 10 years of marriage because... yep,
you guessed it. She didn't feel the tingles anymore. After 10 years of
marriage, she was willing to torch her family because she didn't feel
the tingles.

There was probably a 6'5" steel-jawed Chad lurking in the corner too,
but OP never goes into that so it's speculation on my part. Anyway,
here's his post:

> I wanted to post this on a throwaway but I guess I can't due to
> subreddit rules. So whatever. I feel like this is important enough
> to just post on my main account.
> 
> This might sound overly pessimistic, but here it goes. I learned
> that physical appearance IS actually very important. A lot of people
> say "it's what's on the inside that counts" but that's not always
> enough. Leagues are a thing I guess.
> 
> My wife just left me because she "was never attracted" to me and
> "wanted to want" her husband. She told me that she didn't think it
> mattered that she wasn't attracted to me because birth control had
> given her such a low sex drive that it seemed irrelevant I guess?
> After stopping the pill, her libido increased. She wanted to be
> intimate with me but "in a different body" ... but at least she
> admitted my face looked "okay."
> 
> We had fairly few problems in our relationship. It should have maybe
> been a red flag to me that my libido was higher than hers for a lot
> of it, but I was willing to live with it. She was my best friend and
> I loved her dearly. I wanted and planned to spend the rest of my
> life with her.
> 
> I'm not the best looking guy, I'm a little overweight by appearance
> standards (but I technically have a BMI in the "normal" range now)
> and I'm balding. My facial features aren't remarkable. But I feel
> like I didn't deserve this.
> 
> I feel like our personalities were so compatible, and after over
> half a decade together- it's just such a huge self-esteem blow for
> appearance to be the deal breaker. Good for her for trying not to be
> shallow I guess, but: people are shallow, and fighting that
> shallowness isn't good for anyone. I'll never try to date someone
> I'm not completely 100% attracted to in the future- it is cruel.
> That's what I learned.

Poor guy. By all accounts he sounds like what women _tell_ us is their
ideal partner. Sweet, sensitive, kind, etc. But here's the thing
nobody tells you - on a primal level, all that stuff makes women want
to barf. Even if she holds her nose and marries a beta for his
provider status, eventually the facade will crack and her animal side
will erupt out. That's when you get the clandestine cheating and in
this case, outright divorce.

What women actually want is dominance, stoicism, peak physical
stature, and ambition in their men. But that's not politically correct
to say, is it?

Also, for bonus points, there's a woman in the comment section
basically saying the same thing as me:

> I am leaving my husband of 10 years for pretty much the same reason.
> We have other issues too but nothing major. I just can't love him
> the way he loves me.
> 
> I feel awful for putting him through this but I can't sacrifice my
> own happiness anymore.
> 
> ...
> 
> Yes. From the beginning. I dated him because he was a nice, safe
> choice. Different from the guys I usually dated.
> 
> Don't get me wrong, early in the relationship an attraction grew and
> we had a great sex life for the first couple years but it was always
> unbalanced and eventually the attraction died completely. Stayed
> because we have children and I thought it was the right the to do...
> but I can't put my life on hold anymore and we're not showing them
> an example of a healthy relationship.

See, folks? She just isn't haaaaaaaapy. Sufficient justification for
bulldozing a marriage and children, right? This is seriously how women
think.

Go lift. Like, right now, log off and go exercise. Otherwise it's a
vicious cycle and you'll end up like these poor fools.

TL;DR: WOMEN CAN PRETEND TO BE ATTRACTED TO BETA MALES FOR THE SAFETY
AND SECURITY... BUT IT NEVER LASTS.
 
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