What are the prerequisites to start seeking marriage? 5 upvotes | May 8, 2020 | by OrlandoTheAxe ------------------------- A man who cannot lead himself will also not be able to lead a woman. If you are going to set sail in a marriage, there are some basic things you need to be able to do to run the ship. Our society has too many drunk captains, who ignore this fact and end up in divorce.   My question is: WHAT ARE THE PREREQUISITES (PERFORMANCE METRICS) THAT A MAN NEEDS TO MEET BEFORE SEEKING MARRIAGE?   SOME CAVEATS TO CLARIFY THE QUESTION * YMMV _I don't expect the forum to define exactly where the line is,_ but I think we can all acknowledge the fact that there _is_ a line (even if it is somewhat subjective). Stats matter; that's why Rule 2 exists. I'm seeking a way equip the romantically impaired folks (me) with a way to _approximate_ for themselves where the lines are.   * Prerequisites can easily be misconstrued into a _Toolbox Fallacy._ This fallacy creates artificial prerequisites to an action as a form of procrastination. It is the false belief that you cannot start an action until you have some nebulous item in your metaphorical toolkit.   * Dating before you're ready shrinks your dating pool. Once someone develops a paradigm of who you are, it takes a lot of work to change that paradigm. Failures in dating create negative paradigms, not just with the girl you date, but with her social group as well.   * There is a balance between gaining experience and burning through your dating pool. Experience is important, but you have to make it count.   _If there's a vetting process for potential spouses, there's a vetting process for you too._ ------------------------- Archived from https://theredarchive.com/post/660865