You're supposed to be here because you were tired of jerking off, not because you want a new lube.
158 upvotes | November 5, 2020 | by RStonePT
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Any man who finds his way here isn't happy. No exceptions. Men who are
happy, content or fufilled don't type "Why is my wife a bitch?" into
Google as a last ditch effort before idling the car in the garage for
a quick nap. They don't type "Why won't she fuck me?" and then find
some old /r/archwinger [https://old.reddit.com/r/archwinger] article
about women being for fucking
[https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4rirp6/guy_friends_are_for_social_and_emotional_support/]
And they sure as shit don't reach out to a few hundred random assholes
on the internet, dump their life story onto an internet forum like a
brand new jigsaw puzzle then ask everyone how the fuck the pieces fit
together. The point is those guys are hurting.

Why?

BECAUSE WHAT THEY ARE ALREADY DOING IS NOT GETTING THE OUTCOME THEY
THOUGHT IT WAS.

I was that guy. I came in here a mess, Whinemoreplease and ultmatecad
called me a homosexual and laughed. I realized I was crying like a
bitch and not solving anything, so they pointed me in the direction of
some stuff to get started and told me to fuck off unless I had a
specific question or a sticking point _on something I've already
tried_. Do you know what they didn't do?

They didn't call me a noble warrior poet whose 'got this!'
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7mho_QpQIQ] because they were busy
sorting their own shit out and didn't want to waste it on someone who
can't be arsed to do the heavy lifting in his own fucking life. Thats
as masturbatory as I'll put it, because the 'work' is heavy. It's not
the working out, thats kinda fun. Not getting fat and eating right is
fun, cooking is fun. It's all fun. You know what isn't fun? Forgetting
all the dumb shit your mom/pastor/wife/friend/idiot told you about how
to manage your life without fucking it up. that takes effort,
introspection, time, patience, and most importantly,

NOT FUCKING LYING TO YOURSELF

And the process is shit simple to get from that google search of
desperation to a dude who has his shit together. I'm not talking about
your career skills. You're a great business owner. I was a great
sailor. No one fucking cares.

You get angry. Either your wife cheated, or left, or made you a eunuch
(technically you made it yourself) and you do everything and are taken
for granted, or worse ... punished for it. You're supposed to get
angry, anyone telling you otherwise is an asshole. Awesome, you're
angry, now what?

ANGER: Anger is what stops you from being lazy. If you're not
experiencing real emotional pain you won't do anything. Why? Because
we are bred to be lazy that way. Brains take energy, and without a
real survival pressure it's going to keep doing what it's already
done, because changing how you think about the world and how you act
takes a shit ton of energy. This is why girls just go with the flow
... theres no survival pressure for them to act any other way. That
anger is your survival pressure.

MENTAL/PHYSICAL HEALTH: If you're fat, stop being fat. If you're
skinny, gain muscle. if you look like shit, buy some nice clothes and
take a shower. Thats simple, it's not easy. The part thats not simple
or easy is that shit on the sidebar. They are there to make you into
your personal shrink. All your mommy issues, abandonment fears, nice
guy behaviours, risk aversion, lack of assertiveness, all the other
bullshit tools that make you act like a bitch; they guide you to stop
doing them, and do more attractive things. You probably don't know
whats fucked up about you, hence the thousands of dudes in here who
will shit all over your stupid LARPING fantasy. You reflect our former
shitty selves and calling you a retard helps us get over that. You
realizing you're a retard helps you get over it. Everyone wins. If
it's worth someone elses time to offer more than that its because
they've been there and they see you doing the heavy lifting and know
you wont waste their time. Teaching is the best way to learn, everyone
wins.

DIRECTION: This is the first thing people ask for, and the last
fucking thing they need.
[https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/b3v7pg/we_dont_do_that_you_dont_want_us_answering_that/]
No one here can help you with that, though most people who haven't
done 1 or 2 will gladly offer their services. In his autobiography,
jesus said "Know these assholes by their useless fruit". You're lost,
we get it.
[https://old.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/4duudk/why_youre_lost/]
we all are. Life is 99% guess work and 1% adaptation. Want to be a
"Family Man™" "Patriarch™" or "Alpha Male™" ? fill your boots,
thats no ones business but your own. It's outside the scope of this
place. your only goal should be to make yourself attractive enough,
mentally resilient enough, and with enough resolve to do what the fuck
you want to do in your life.

It's as hard as you want to make it. For me, it was simple. the
military told me what to do for most of my working adult life, my
parents before that. I wanted to be selfish and live for me, not being
taken for granted surrounded by as few or as many people who added
value to that as possible. Once I had that, everything else became
subservient. Is it alpha?

Who fucking cares, it worked.

I will suggest that whatever you decide to put as your raison d'etre,
ensure no one else is required to achieve it. Because 'my kids' 'my
wife' having to do or be anything is another covert contract, and
you're wasting your time.

SPARTAN SHIELDS NOT REQUIRED.

If you're doing this shit right it should be as matter-of-fact as your
workouts are. Nothing special, just a process of getting shit done for
you. Normally this part is where I add some annecdote, a little pathos
to get this to resonate with you. I don't want to, it misses the
entire point. Your feelings are retarded and you're retarded for
having them. Fix your life and fuck off and thats it.

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