How can i stop caring about their attitudes?
41 upvotes | April 8, 2021 | by 19Bubbles98
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How can I stop caring so much what my pickme mum and sister think?

My mum who is 50 now has always had horrible relationships because she
just goes for anything and has always said "Don't be so hard on men"
or "You're too demanding". I bought up how if men weren't predators
then why is there a teen porn category and she said "Men aren't like
that in real life" like what???.

She said today that she might just look for a man who has money, a car
and fake a relationship with him and my sister even said it would be a
good idea for her to. I said "Why would you put yourself in that
position?" and my pickme sister started yelling at me saying things
along the lines of -

"You don't understand men" "That sub reddit you're on isn't real life"
"Men aren't really like that"

Then she proceed to tell my mum -

"Men don't care about your body mum" (because my mum is insecure) "Men
in their 40s-50s don't want younger girls, they want to settle down
now after they have had their kids and been in relationships for half
their life"

I'm thinking um what???

My sister is a typical pickme who talks to random men online (i think
she loves the attention from them) but the thing is she was friends
with a narc guy for months and just laughed about it.

A guy messaged her on Instagram and said "If my girlfriend messages
you please don't tell her I've been talking to you" and she was 100%
on his side and called the girl crazy.

To her men aren't liars or creeps, she's been talking to 3 guys, one
where she leaves her child with alone (he tried to meet a amateur porn
maker 2 years ago, he literally drove 8 hours and then found out she
and her bf were playing him for money), Another guy she is talking
about knows a close friend of our mums and he said he's weird and has
issues and so my sister asked him about himself and he denied it all
yet my sister still says he's so boring and plain yet is going on a
date with him. I'm like um why do you even trust men like that?, She
doesn't believe men would lie 🙄🙄🙄🙄. And the third one just
messages her saying how beautiful she is and she thinks that he _loves
her_. 🙄🙄🙄🙄, um no sis he doesn't.

My other sister is like this too, she has been in an abusive
relationship with her boyfriend for years and still thinks he can
change, she says he is "80% better% 🤡🤡🤡🤡.

How can I stop worrying about their opinions and attitudes?, it's
really affecting me when I hear it because it's unbelievable how
ridiculous it all sounds.

Ty!

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