Is this a red flag?
22 upvotes | February 22, 2021 | by raphaellastorm
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I matched with a guy on a dating app. He seemed okay. He listed
himself as Christian on the app, so I thought maybe decent morals, and
also had a picture of himself and a young child who looked like his
niece. We exchanged numbers and I asked him what he was looking for.
He said “start off as friend said and go from there.” I said okay
great, I’m looking for a relationship and am not interested in hook
ups, to be clear.

He then asks if he can ask me some personal questions, e.g., when I
last had sex, was I clean, when was my last relationship. I answer
even though this seems a little bit too soon given I just said I
wasn’t interested in hookups. Seems like we could clear this up
later, if he’s ever lucky enough to have sex with me.

Then he asks if he can ask me a personal question. I say okay, shoot.
He says he is looking for something long-term and someone to
“merry” (yes, he did misspell “marry” even though he listed an
undergraduate degree and a professional job requiring a professional
license), and sexual attraction is very important to him, so he wanted
an idea of what my pussy looks like. He said he wasn’t asking for a
pic, just a general idea.

I responded that I really had no idea how to answer that question. He
then said he was looking for someone to go down on and so that was
important to him, he hoped I understood. I didn’t understand and
stopped responding. He later asked if I was “mad” or
“offended.”

I kind of was. So, is this a red flag? Should I stop engaging at this
point at all? I’m trying to learn not to be a pickme anymore and
normally in the past have excused sexual questions early on because
sex is important to everyone. But this seems like a really
inappropriate gating question. I wanted to ask why he didn’t care
about asking first anything about me like what are my hobbies, or what
I do for work, or if I believe in god (since he listed himself as
Christian..) instead as a preliminary personal question. Is my pussy
the most important and interesting thing about me? Anyway, help
ladies.

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