Outcome Independence Levels In Relationships
Caleb Jones | August 9, 2018 | by BlackDragon
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As I’ve talked about in great detail at this blog and in my book
[http://www.alphamalebook.com], outcome independence, or OI, is the
most attractive non-physical quality a man has to females. OI, when
you have it, and most men don’t, is as close as you can come to
an actual love potion (barring something external, like alcohol or
celebrity status).

 [http://www.alphamalebook.com] 

To a woman, nothing is more attractive than a man who is polite and
chill but who clearly DOESN€™T GIVE A SHIT. Giving a shit, which
is men’s default setting when it comes to women they’re
pursuing or in relationships with, is a huge turn-off for women.

That being said, can OI go too far? Sure. Early in my evolution, I was
guilty of this myself. If you let your OI go completely out of
control, you will start being an asshole with women and start shooting
your mouth off on first dates about whatever comes into your head. You
_might_ get laid doing this, depending on other factors, but it’s
going to be a long, difficult road for you. In addition, happy,
low-drama relationships of any decent length are going to be near
impossible for you.

Regardless, that’s a guy who usually isn’t in a relationship
to begin with, and perhaps doesn’t even want one. In terms of men
already in relationships, can OI go too far?

The answer is: it depends on his goals.

Take a look at this chart.

 [https://blackdragonblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/OI.jpg]

If you view OI in a relationship as scale, increasing as it goes to
the right, on the far left side you’ve got a guy with _zero_
outcome independence. This is the extreme beta male (or fallen Alpha
Male 1.0 acting like a beta) with oneitis who is terrified that the
woman might leave him. He will make whatever compromises she demands
in an effort to keep her around, even if she’s being a total
bitch.

On the far right side of the scale, you’ve got the Alpha with an
extreme amount of OI. This is likely an Alpha 2.0, since Alpha 1.0s
usually lack outcome independence, since a high degree of confidence
and a low degree of outcome independence is what defines the Alpha
Male 1.0, as I showed in these handy charts here
[https://blackdragonblog.com/2017/10/09/charts-where-you-fall-on-the-alpha-beta-scale/].

Getting back to this extreme Alpha 2.0, this guy literally
doesn’t give a shit, at all, about anything in the relationship,
even if it ends right this second. He’s taken the extreme OI
attitude of, “I’m going to do whatever the hell I want, and
if she doesn’t like it, I’ll just next her ass and be onto
the next woman.”

This is a _GREAT_ attitude to have. I wish more men had it. The world
would be a far better place if more men had that attitude. Much of the
world’s problems and suffering are a direct result of men having
too much outcome dependence and oneitis when it comes to women.

That being said, that doesn’t mean there aren’t any possible
downsides with having this attitude. One _possible_ downside is that
with that attitude, you will only be able to have FB
[https://blackdragonblog.com/glossary/#FB]s and normal MLTR
[https://blackdragonblog.com/glossary/#MLTR]s, and even then, these
relationships aren’t going to be long-term. Having a high-end
MLTR would be extremely difficult. Having any sort of OLTR
[https://blackdragonblog.com/glossary/#OLTR] would be impossible.

You may respond that you don’t care. Again, that’s great!
Then that attitude is the correct one to have.

But, if you desire any relationships that are either more serious or
long-term, you’ll have to back down on that level of OI just a
little bit, about 10%. No more than 10%! Just 10%. At that level,
serious and/or long-term relationships will be workable and harmonious
for you.

You’ve got to be careful though! If you start getting oneitis,
lazy, or complacent, you’ll start dropping that 10% down to 20%,
30%, 50%, or more. De facto monogamy
[https://blackdragonblog.com/2016/02/25/de-facto-monogamy/] will
likely be the result. Drama and bullshit will be the result after
that.

If your goal is long-term nonmonogamous relationships that are
low-drama, your objective should be, _in terms of the relationship,_
to bring your level of outcome independence to 90%, then take a hammer
and nail it there forever, never letting it drop below that. (Or allow
it to grow beyond that, unless you decide you don’t want
long-term relationships anymore.)

Of course, as always, if you’re on the other side of the scale,
don’t mind lots of drama in your relationships, and/or love
monogamy, feel free to ignore everything I’m saying and forget
about outcome independence altogether. You’ll be a needy pussy,
and your girlfriend/wife/whatever will have you by the balls, but you
probably won’t mind.
 
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