The Archwinger Series: What do you do when a girl cries?
Rian Stone | November 4, 2018 | by Rian Ston
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 [How do the rest of you guys deal with crying? - Besides just kicking
the girl to the curb] [tearsinrain.JPG] 

How do the rest of you guys deal with crying?

Besides just kicking the girl to the curb

> A great starting point from an anecdote from a fellow Marriedredpill
> vet. I think he’s gone forever now, so I want to keep his stuff
> around. First post of the Archwinger Series:

I wake up every morning at 5:AM to leave the apartment and drive to
the gym, missing traffic and getting in a few sets before work. I'm
tough to get along with if I don't get my workout in. Last night the
weather was bad, and it’s still raining this morning. She is next
to me, asking me to please not leave because she’s worried about
me.

"It’s so dark outside, she says "You're Going to drive into high
water and die; there was a story about someone who did that on the
news last night."

A normal guy would probably give into that, but my early morning
waking up and working out has been her longstanding issue. She’s
been trying to get me to spend less time at the gym since the day we
met and secretly hopes I’ll give up working out entirely.
Partially because she’s kind of heavy and has esteem issues,
partially because I probably make her feel guilty, partially because
my waking up early makes her “too tired” to work, definitely
too tired to work out herself. Partially because it’s a power and
control thing.

So I tell her that I’ll be fine and proceed to pack my stuff to
leave. That’s when the tears start. Shaming and guilting me
didn’t work, so she moved on to the manipulation. I don’t
care about her any more, she says. I don’t care about her
feelings. I’m selfish and can’t skip one workout, for her.
I, of course, mention that I can think of one really great way she
could keep me around for another hour, and that just makes her cry
more because I’m “joking” about her feelings. I was
serious, but okay.

So screw it, I get my stuff, tell her once more that there’s
nothing to worry about – I commute to and from work in bad
weather all the time -- and head out, leaving her crying on the bed.
Then, fuck all, it’s cold and rainy out, and I can’t get
that nagging picture of her crying into the pillow out of my head, so
I go back inside. Amateur mistake, letting crying work.

I could see it visibly. All of the attraction and all of the respect
she had for me just draining out of her face as soon as she saw me
back in the bedroom. It was too late. There was no fixing this.

She’s not happy to see me. She’s still crying. She’s
not grateful, of course, because her precious feelings are so terribly
hurt and I’m still so terribly selfish and she never should have
even had to ask me to stay. If I were a better man, she wouldn’t
have had to ask me!

The whole time I’m home, she keeps accusing me of being mad at
her. I’m fine. I’m eating breakfast. I’m great.
It’s her that’s mad, but she can’t quite put her finger
on why. She got exactly what she wanted, but she’s so filled with
subconscious contempt and disrespect, and doesn’t understand what
she’s feeling or why, so she assumes that she’s picking up
on me being angry and accuses me of being pissy.

_It’s pretty clear where I screwed this one up, but maybe someone
out there can learn from the above._

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