Of Risks and Recommendations
Black Label Logic | August 16, 2018 | by Black Label Logic
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 [https://blacklabellogic.files.wordpress.com/2018/08/risk.jpg]One of
the first essays I ever wrote on the sexual market place was
concerning risk management
[https://blacklabellogic.com/2016/04/10/gendernomics-risk-management-how-to-avoid-getting-burned/].
I elected to write that early on because there are many pitfalls a man
can find himself in when he’s just getting started. Despite what one
would expect, the probability of a high visibility, successful cad
finding himself the victim of a BPD girl, an ooops pregnancy or
getting oneitis is fairly low, while the odds of a recently recovered
blue pill man doing so are much higher. This is very similar to how a
person who has been rich for a long time, perhaps all their life is
used to gold diggers, scammers and charlatans trying to get money out
of them, and in most cases their family will have trained them to see
through such scams. The person who just won the lottery does not have
this training, and thus becomes an easy victim.

The man who is still in blue pill recovery can be a very easy victim
for a woman with questionable intent, which usually means that she is
in her epiphany phase or even post-wall and is on the prowl for Beta
Bucks to lock down. A man who has started to slowly improve through
the red pill, will find himself facing down many types of risk, but
the greatest one in my estimation is that presented by oneitis. Many
men come to game and the red pill looking for a cheat-code to “_get
her back_” or “_just get that one girl_“, and if or when they
accomplish this goal they promptly stop being the man who got her and
go back to being the man who could have never gotten her. I’ll be
frank and say that this is the male version of a woman who loses 100
lbs, gets plastic surgery, locks down a husband and then proceeds to
put on all the weight again.

In this sense, a lot of men see the red pill and game as a diet, it is
something that they are on temporarily to accomplish an objective and
once they reach this goal they go back to their old lifestyle. The
problem with this is that “_old you’s_” life is the sum of
“_old you’s_” habits, “_new you’s_” life is the sum of
“_new you’s_” habits. You cannot have “_new you’s_” life
with “_old you’s_” habits, it just doesn’t work that way. This
is perhaps the biggest risk men face in the sexual market place, that
of their own comfort and complacency. The fact of the matter is that
being a high value man is like being the top guy in any field, if you
screw up or get lazy there are thousands of men with a hunger burning
them alive ready to take your spot.

ON RISK

Risk can come from many sources that I go through in details in that
essay and in the expanded version featured in Gendernomics, but an
easy shorthand way of remembering risk is that it is an uncertainty
which can negatively affect your desired outcome.  In the previous
essay and in Gendernomics I outlined many of the risks that exist
externally to the man, such as risk of false allegations, “_ooops
pregnancies_“, STDs, and the legal system. However, in the past 2
– 3 years of observations, I find that most of the time the major
risk presented to a man’s goals come from his own mind.

A woman can just go about her daily life, sooner or later a man will
approach her and odds are she will have an opportunity to reproduce. A
man who goes about his daily life and never approaches a woman, will
never have an opportunity to reproduce. The male version requires an
active act on the part of the man.

The fact of the matter is that complacency and comfort alone will
unceremoniously weed a man’s genetics out of the human species. A
re-frame on rejection is that a man who goes out one day and opens 20
women may end up being rejected by 20 women that day. If we take a man
who is highly competent in day game, he might get 10 numbers from 20
approaches, out of those 5 women respond to his texts, out of those 2
agree to meet up, and out of those 2, he is able to close 1. That man
was rejected by 19 women. However a woman who dresses to the nines,
puts on make-up, and deliberately goes out wanting men to approach
her, may be rejected by every single guy who notices her that day. A
woman who did not do anything special, just went out in a t-shirt and
jeans, may be rejected by every guy as well. Women can only influence
the probability of being approached. From this perspective, women face
rejection whether they put themselves out there or not, a man has to
actively put himself out there to be rejected.

The upside for women is that it takes a hell of a lot more work on
their parts to be eliminated from the gene pool, they have to actively
take steps to make themselves completely undesirable in every way, and
even then odds are that some guy will sleep with them. For men, merely
doing nothing presents a risk of being eliminated from the gene pool.
The upside for men is that we are in control of our own destiny, it
just requires effort on our end. Being female is the low-risk
low-reward approach to sexual reproduction, being male is the
high-risk, high-reward approach to sexual reproduction.

A recent short tangent on the Red Man Group was some commentary on how
labor intensive day game is, and quite frankly most forms of game are
somewhat labor intensive. To populate, initiate, escalate, close and
create enduring
[https://blacklabellogic.com/2018/06/29/of-lifestyles-and-limitations/]
relationships takes time, and effort on the part of the man. Which
part takes the most time and effort depends on the man, but I
understand why some men would prefer a different model than this. When
you add in that every positive change you make will take some time and
effort, the red pill lifestyle is not one with a lot of downtime. Many
men become Average Blue Pill Dudes because they are very comfort
oriented, they would like a lifestyle that consists of go to work,
come home to your wife and kids, relax in front of the TV for a couple
of hours, have a few beers, go to sleep and then repeat. This is a
lifestyle very different from one where you actively have goals and
plans for each aspect of your life.

The Red Pill lifestyle is not a low risk, low effort lifestyle, in
many ways it means embracing various risks. If we take sex in
particular, the attraction many men feel for monogamy is that they
will not have to face rejection, they do not have to put themselves
out there, they can perhaps put less effort into their lifestyle, and
just “enjoy” the life they have. It feels “low risk” because
unlike the red pill lifestyle where you risk dry spells and slumps,
many men expect that once they have given a woman the position as the
monopoly supplier of sex in their life, they will have a regular
supply available to them. However, men still face rejection within
their marriage, when your wife has had a headache for 3 years running,
suddenly remembers that she has to wash her hair every time you sit
down next to her or tells you “the kids might hear us” this is the
sound of you being rejected.

The fact of the matter is that before you ever make an approach you
have to put in a lot of effort. This was what I sought to illustrate
with my March Madness bracket
[https://blacklabellogic.com/2018/07/27/of-apex-and-alphas/], before
you even register on a woman’s radar, by passing her hurdle rate,
you have to build a certain level of sexual market value. Building
that sexual market value can be easy, if you are in a decent spot to
begin with or can be a mission that will take years.

SUMMARY AND CONCLUSIONS

I usually say that I don’t write prescriptive essays, but I do make
general recommendations. Usually what this translates into is that
I’ll recommend certain lifestyle changes that I view as having
little to no downside and a significant upside. This includes dressing
well, other than some extra money spent on clothing, there is really
no downside to dressing better, and the upside is noticeable. I also
recommend lifting weights, sure you may injure yourself in the gym,
but the upside in both health and appearance are much greater than
such risk. I also tend to recommend some forms of low-impact cardio,
because not getting winded going up a flight of stairs is a useful
thing. Eating less crap, getting enough water and sufficient sleep are
also common recommendations I’ve made, this will improve your
health, your energy levels and have very little downside, at worst it
means you get 2 – 3 hours less to waste on watching Netflix. I would
also point out that having a grasp of basic personal finance is a good
thing, so is knowing game.

The reason why I tend to go for recommendations of this nature is that
they have very little downside. Yes, it will take some extra time out
of your day, but the upside dwarfs that single downside. I generally
take the approach that I won’t tell a man to do something I
wouldn’t myself, and I won’t recommend anything that I perceive as
having higher risk of failure than success. This comes from taking the
same stance on recommendations as a medical doctor would to medicine,
first do no harm.

However, another reason that I’m hesitant of prescriptions is that
very few people will follow through completely with what you
prescribe. I’m sure thousands, tens of thousands or perhaps even
hundreds of thousands of men have gone out and done 1 set of day game
approaches, club approaches or something like that, I have no idea
what the drop off rate is but I’m guessing over 50%. I’m sure
millions of men have been at the gym once or twice to get a better
physique, how many of them have stuck with it for the years it takes
to build that physique? The drop of rate in any endeavor is huge,
people quit because it’s too hard, it takes too long, their
motivation slips, they are sick of being uncomfortable and they
gravitate back to their old habits.

This is why I find it useful to stick with prescriptions where the
downside of people not following through is having some extra clothes,
a few months left to pay on a gym membership they never use or 3
months where their financial life was not in disarray. Most people
will over time do what is easy, comfortable, and requires the least
effort, this is the appeal of the blue pill. It’s a bit like
communism, support the blue pill and you will be fed, clothed, have
shelter and get laid, it may be gruel, a burlap sack, a cardboard box
and a 350 lb woman with 7 kids by 9 different men and BPD, but
you’ll get yours.

The Red Pill means specifically doing a lot of things that are
uncomfortable, punishing, takes you well outside your comfort zone and
exposes you to things many would never want to see on a consistent,
long-term basis for a chance at realizing a better outcome for
yourself. To paraphrase Donovan’s intro, The Red Pill is HARD,
that’s why it works.

A NOTE:

I recently launched a Patreon page
[https://www.patreon.com/Blacklabellogic] where I will be posting
additional content every month for those who support me and I will do
a Google Hangout for the highest tier Patrons (limited to 10 people).

I’ve also had some requests for consults, which I’ve declined up
until now, but due to demand I’ve chosen to open up for doing some
consults on request. For details please check out my Consulting and
Patreon Page [https://blacklabellogic.com/consulting-and-patreon/]

As always you can buy my book Gendernomics at Amazon.com as both
paperback and Kindle
[https://www.amazon.com/Gendernomics-Black-Label-Logic/dp/1520743750/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1539436955&sr=8-1&keywords=Gendernomics]

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