Of Lifestyles and Limitations
Black Label Logic | June 29, 2018 | by Black Label Logic
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red pill sphere has a major focus on self-improvement, which is one of
the reasons why I enjoy being part of it. Men all sharing knowledge,
encouraging improvement and driving each other forward is probably one
of the things that we’re missing when raising boys today. However,
it can be a bit of a double-edged sword at times. I had lunch with a
childhood friend of mine earlier this week, and as conversations among
men often do, it included his lamentations about not being able to get
laid enough. This is hardly a rare topic topic in conversation for me,
and I’ve developed a bit of a diagnostic model for rapidly
diagnosing the problem the man I’m talking to is having in his
relationship with women, that I call the PIECE model, short for
POPULATE – INITIATE – ESCALATE – CLOSE – ENDURING.

I came up with this model because I concluded that just about every
issue men have with getting laid falls into one of the following
areas:

POPULATE – How many women populate the man’s immediate area of
activity. If you work in a male-dominated field, all your hobbies are
either things you do alone, or activities that largely involve couples
or just other men. You will have few interactions with women as a
natural part of living your life, this means that unless you
specifically set off time to go out to places where you meet women,
engage in online dating or go out and do day game, you’ll probably
not interact with many women.

INITIATE – How often does the man initiate interactions with women.
If you never really initiate interactions with women, you will never
be in a position to reach the escalation stage. Some MGTOWs may work
in female dominated environments, but advocate a position where you
never initiate or interact with women unless the women initiate.

ESCALATE – How often is the man able to escalate the interactions.
You can be surrounded by women at work, in your hobbies, and initiate
interactions all the time, if you never escalate the interaction in
some manner, you will not get laid a lot. One could go into details of
kino escalation, topic escalation and so on, however from the big
picture perspective the role of escalation is to signal interest. The
most classical form of escalation is simply asking a women for coffee
or drinks.

CLOSE – How often and capable is the man of closing. Once the
escalation has run the course, how capable is the man of isolating the
women in an environment where the final escalation to sex can take
place. The work done in the preceding stages lead up to this point in
the interaction a man who is incapable of doing this will never get
laid.

ENDURING – How capable is the man at transitioning the interaction
from a one-night stand to a longer term relationship. The reason for
including this point in the model is that it’s always more
cost-effective to sleep with a woman more than once. Consider that you
have already done the work in the preceding phases, thus for most men
it will be easier to sleep with a woman again than it will be to find
a new target, initiate the interaction, escalate and then close.

The power in this model comes from the fact that it allows me to
rapidly diagnose what area of a man’s lifestyle is presenting the
major problem for him. The funny thing about my childhood friend is
that he’s in many ways the exact guy men think of when they think of
Chad. He works as a fitness model, 6 ft 2, about 200 lbs, generally
stays 6-pack lean for most of the year, and does a lot of traveling. 
He’s never really had a problem with women, since he’s been this
way more or less since he was a teenager.

His problem is squarely in the population aspect of the PIECE model.
He travels a lot for work and on top of that he has to stay muscular
and ripped most of the year as part of his job. For a lot of men this
seems like a great situation to be in, he’s in the top 1% of men for
appearance, he gets to travel around the world, does photo-shoots with
beautiful women, and he gets paid for it. However, in order to stay in
the top 1% of men for appearance he trains 5 – 6 days a week, he is
more or less constantly monitoring his diet so that he maintains
muscle, and doesn’t put on more fat than he will be able to drop in
max 4 weeks of dieting. He also has the same problems as most people
who travel a lot of work do, namely spending a lot of time in hotels,
airports, and on public transit, late night arrivals, and red-eye
flights.

LIFESTYLE DESIGN AND BARRIERS

Rollo wrote a great article some years ago entitled “Buffers” [1]
that I’ve referenced a few times on the blog, that deals with
various methods men use to avoid rejection, I’m not going to repeat
that essay here, but I do recommend that everyone who hasn’t read
it, and those who have read it, read it again. Buffers are methods men
use to interact with women without actually having to risk rejection.
Barriers as I’m going to talk about them here represent those things
that create problems with various parts of the PIECE model. In the
case of my buddy, his problem is that due to his schedule, and the
required lifestyle, he does not have a huge population of women where
he can initiate, escalate, close and create an enduring supply.

This is the case with many men I come across in my day to day life as
well, they can be men with an SMV between 7 and 9, who are not
realizing above average returns in the sexual market place because
their lifestyle rather than enable it, actively prohibits it. It could
be bodybuilders who despite their appearance never leave their house
except to go to the gym. Busy executives who work 80 – 90 hour
workweeks, then go home and collapse for 4 hours in bed, only to
repeat the cycle the next day. It can be men so focused on increasing
their sexual market value that they ignore obvious indicators of
interest from women they interact with. It can be men who only
interact with women in situations where escalation would represent a
risk, such being surrounded by and interacting with female co-workers
8 – 10 hours a day, 5 – 6 days a week in the age of MeToo. It can
be men who find themselves unable to close because they have
roommates, live out in the sticks or spend their life as a “digital
nomad” and are currently living out of a backpack in a hostel.

If one looks at men who rack up very high notch counts, they have
designed their life around the PIECE model.  The main reason why
I’m blatantly stealing Donovan’s [2] “Kevin from Sales” for
this example is that Kevin has control over his own schedule (as long
as he delivers), his job is to initiate with his customers, escalate
them until they are ready to buy, then close, and ideally turn them
into a return customer. His lifestyle naturally makes him good at
game. However, if he’s selling pipe-fittings for oil-fields, he may
be great at game, but it won’t really matter if there are no women
for him to run game on.

This is what I told my buddy, yes he interacts with beautiful women
for a living for a photo-shoot, then he leaves the location, eats his
meal, gets to the gym hammers out a workout with headphones on,
showers, eats a post-workout meal on his way to the airport, goes
through security and then to his next location, arrives in the early
morning or late evening, has a meal, goes to sleep, has breakfast,
hits the gym, goes to the shoot, and repeat. Where would he meet
women? His lifestyle isn’t designed to populate his sphere with
women, with whom he can interact, escalate, close and create an
enduring supply. It’s designed to maintain his physique so that he
can get work.

SUMMARY AND CONCLUSION

The self-improvement focus of The Red Pill is one of the major value
propositions of the philosophy, it gives men the knowledge, motivation
and support they need in order to make themselves into better men.
However, most men do not come to the red pill in order to become
better men, they come to the red pill to improve their sex-lives.
Whether they are 18 year old boys wanting step up their game in
college after a 4 year dry-spell in high-school or a 48 year old man
who is in a dead bedroom situation and as tried everything from
couples counseling to choreplay, they want to get laid. Becoming a
better, more valuable man is a means to this end, it is not an end in
itself.

I’m a big advocate of increasing your sexual market value, but
understand that the reason for increasing your sexual market value is
in order to improve your movement through the PIECE model. If your
sexual market value is higher, then women will be more receptive
towards your initiations, escalations and less hesitant when you move
in for the close. However, if your investment in self-improvement
becomes such that it creates a barrier against being  able to
populate your sphere with eligible women, then your increase in value
is not real. Money has value because it can be traded for other
things. If I have $100, and you have a bottle of nice scotch, I value
that bottle of scotch more than $100, you value $100 more than the
bottle of scotch, then we can trade and both be better off. If I have
$100, but no use for that $100 it has no real value. This is why
preppers stock medicine, food, ammunition, and to some extent precious
metals instead of currency, because the former will have value in the
situation they prep for, a suitcase full of cash won’t.

This is perhaps a danger of the Red Pill, with the breadth of men
contributing an astounding depth and volume of great content every
week, it’s very easy to be swallowed whole in the “_build sexual
market value_” phase of a red pill awakening. Between the weekly
content on intersexual dynamics, style, weight-lifting, nutrition,
intellectual development, artistic development, travel, psychology,
and many others, you can quickly find yourself not having much time
left to talk to girls. It’s very easy to go “_accidental
monk-mode_” simply because you can always find something else to
improve, tweak or fix, self-improvement becomes both a barrier and a
buffer.

If I were to play armchair psychologist for a minute, I think this
stems from perhaps the most discussed topic in the manosphere, namely
putting pussy on a pedestal. It hasn’t received as much focus as it
used to as of late, but it stems from the fact that men have an
inherent tendency to view women as more valuable than them. This leads
to a never-ending circle of self-improvement where they have to fix
just one more thing to be perfect, but perfect doesn’t exist. This
is simply subjective value theory in practice, in order for a trade
(or sexual liason) to take place, both parties must value what the
other party can give them, more than what they are willing to give to
the other party.

A NOTE:

I recently launched a Patreon page
[https://www.patreon.com/Blacklabellogic] where I will be posting
additional content every month for those who support me and I will do
a Google Hangout for the highest tier Patrons (limited to 10 people).

I’ve also had some requests for consults, which I’ve declined up
until now, but due to demand I’ve chosen to open up for doing some
consults on request. For details please check out my Consulting and
Patreon Page [https://blacklabellogic.com/consulting-and-patreon/]

As always you can buy my book Gendernomics at Amazon.com as both
paperback and Kindle
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SOURCES:

[1] https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/26/buffers/

[2] https://www.donovansharpe.com/

 

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