Getting Laid for Ego Validation is Perfectly Okay
Kill Your Inner Loser | May 2, 2020 | by Andy
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This comes from a coaching call
[https://killyourinnerloser.com/coaching/] with one of my clients
recently. We were discussing all the pros and cons of getting laid,
and he was man enough to admit one of the biggest reasons he wanted to
get laid a lot was for the ego boost and validation. He phrased it as:

_“To be honest, a big part of this is about being viewed as
“elite” by other people.”_

The mainstream _normies_ will tell you doing anything for ego or
validation is “wrong” or “shallow” or “beta as fuck, bro –
an Alpha
[https://killyourinnerloser.com/keno-and-escalation-during-the-corona-crisis/]
doesn’t care what others think!”

Fuck that nonsense.

EGO VALIDATION IS A FUCKING _BRILLIANT_ REASON FOR PUSHING YOURSELF
AND TURNING YOURSELF INTO A BETTER MAN.

If most guys are honest, ego validation is the _main_ reason they want
to get laid. That’s a _good_ thing – at the start you need all the
motivation you can possibly get, especially when you’re full of
doubt as to whether you’ll actually succeed. If you’re doing it
for ego and validation, GOOD. Use that as fuel to push yourself harder
– chase that ego validation.

Yes, _eventually_ you want to let go of your ego and not care so much
what others think of you; ego-validation isn’t a fuel you can rely
on forever, or you’ll develop an unhealthy pathology. BUT THAT’S
SOMETHING YOU CAN WORRY ABOUT A YEAR OR TWO FROM NOW; right now keep
chasing that fucking validation. It’s great motivation to push
yourself to improve, to push yourself to start getting laid, to work
on yourself and become a better human being.

Humans care about what others think of them; that’s unavoidable. _No
man is an island._ Over time as you gain confidence and start to
achieve your goals, you’ll naturally care less about what others
think of you. You’ll become more self-assured, you’ll need less
validation from others; your own opinion of yourself will become the
most important one. But you’ll still care what others think to some
degree; there’s still a small part of me that cares what _you_ think
of _me_ right now.

If you’re relatively inexperienced with girls you’ll _definitely_
care what they think of you. Get laid and stroke that ego and give
yourself some of that much-needed validation. It’s ok to chase pussy
for validation… as long as you eventually work on needing a little
less validation over time.

There’s a reason after all this time, after all these
100-and-something lays [https://killyourinnerloser.com/proof/], I
still post stories and pics and videos – especially if you follow my
thread
[https://www.goodlookingloser.com/forums/lay-reports/139680-andy-wants-you-to-blindfold-every-girl-in-the-universe?start=999999999]
over on the _Good Looking Loser Forums_. Yes, at this point I bang
girls mostly because it’s fun – I do it 95% for myself. But
there’s still 5% of me that loves the ego stroke every time I do
something cool [https://killyourinnerloser.com/nike-girl/]. I love
being able to tell other people about it and share in the excitement
of it with them. Being excited to share your accomplishments with
others – and have them congratulate you and push you harder – is a
_normal_ human need.

So the next time someone tells you to stop chasing validation, tell
them to _suck a fat dick._
[Post image]An old fuckbuddy of mine drew this for me. If you think
chasing validation is “wrong”, you’re welcome to have a nice
little suck.
When you achieve something big – you’re _supposed _to share it.
You’re _supposed_ to show off your achievements. Yes, don’t _only_
chase validation from other people – it’s important to give
yourself some validation too. Your own opinion of yourself is always
more important than the opinion of others. But you’ll always still
care what others think – that’s normal.

As for “being humble” – fuck humble. You did something worth
celebrating? Celebrate it. You did something most people can’t do?
Give yourself a pat on the back. Share your successes with people
who’ll be happy for you – especially when those successes took
genuine hard work from you.

When you build a habit of sharing your successes with other people,
you’ll find it makes you try _harder_ and push yourself _even
harder_ to achieve the next goal. If you know you’re going to tell
your mates about your next achievement, it’ll force you to go above
and beyond, so there’s more of an awesome story to tell, and SO
YOU’LL GET MORE OF A PAT ON THE BACK FROM THEM – MORE EGO
VALIDATION FROM THEM.

Ego validation makes you _more successful_ – especially at the start
when you really, really, really need a little ego boost because
you’re not all that sure of yourself. When you’re just starting
out, every little bit of validation goes a _hell_ of a long way to
keeping you motivated – SO I WANT YOU TO LAP UP EVERY BIT OF
VALIDATION AND EGO-STROKING YOU POSSIBLY CAN.

Besides, it’s not like getting laid is _only_ about ego. The very
process of getting laid and improving yourself forces you to develop a
tonne of other skills and traits; skills and traits that’ll have a
positive impact on every facet of your life. You’ll have to become
stronger, leaner, more focused, hard-working, more social and more
open and vulnerable.

As I said here
[https://killyourinnerloser.com/getting-laid-makes-you-a-better-man/],
GETTING LAID MAKES YOU A BETTER MAN.

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[Yo, Andy here. I’m an Aussie guy who went from a depressed,
suicidal loser to a guy who gets laid regularly, has 3somes & BDSM
sex, crushes weights at the gym & loves his life. I killed my inner
loser. It's my mission to get you to kill your inner loser too.]
[https://killyourinnerloser.com/my-transformation/] 

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