You Shouldn't Want a Boyfriend The Rules Revisited | May 19, 2015 | by Andrew ------------------------- The other day, a girl I've been seeing casually [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2013/04/men-and-friends-with-benefits.html] for a long time told me that she "really needs to find a boyfriend." I've known several single girls who have communicated this to me in one way or another, and they haven't only been hinting at the fact that they wanted me to be that boyfriend; they've also been expressing an honest desire. Some have suggested it through their behavior or by talking around it; but a few, like this girl, have said it explicitly. The problem with wanting a boyfriend is that it isn't wanting a husband. Yes, of course, for some girls, saying "I need a boyfriend" is just an abbreviated way of saying that they want to meet a guy who they can date and who will eventually propose; but I wouldn't be writing this post if that applied in every case. Some girls only mean that they are tired of being lonely - that they just want companionship and to feel loved again. They might have some minimal requirements for the boyfriend, but the point is that those requirements fall significantly short of the ones they have for their future spouse. If your end-game [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/06/know-why-you-are-dating.html] is getting a boyfriend, you aren't going to be filtering the men you date for their long-term compatibility. You'll get into relationships that you could have known from the outset would be terminal (if you'd stopped for a moment to think about it), and you'll end up wasting your time [http://therulesrevisited.blogspot.com/2012/01/dont-let-guy-waste-your-most-eligible.html]. So be honest with yourself about what you want in a man - maybe even write it down - and don't give in to the temptation of temporary companionship and affection. RELATED POSTS 1. Know Why You Are Dating [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/06/know-why-you-are-dating.html] 2. Don't Let a Guy Waste Your Most Eligible Years [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/04/men-dont-have-commitment-problems.html] 3. Why Men Are Capable of Commitment [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2013/09/why-men-are-capable-of-commitment.html] 4. How "Hard to Get" Should You Play? [http://how%20%22hard%20to%20get%22%20should%20you%20play/?] 5. Men and "Friends with Benefits" [http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2013/04/men-and-friends-with-benefits.html] ------------------------- Archived from https://theredarchive.com/blog/The-Rules-Revisited/you-shouldnt-want-a-boyfriend.34495