My summary of the red pill basics. 10 things all men should know.
RedPillDad | March 11, 2019 | by RP McMurphy
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_Disclaimer: I am by no means claiming to be the a master of TRP or to
understand it fully, and I’m sure I’ve forgotten some shit I
shouldn’t have. Ultimately, there is nothing that can substitute for
intensive reading and study of the principals
[https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/], which I’ve undertaken over
the past year. _

_This is simply my summary of TRP, incomplete and flawed as it may be,
and I think at least some guys out there will find it useful._

To begin, I want to say that after you read this, you might feel
angry. You might want to lash out at me or you might think I’m
lying–more likely, you’ll simply choose to believe that what I say
isn’t true.

Regardless, you’ll likely be angry at society, or women, or both
if you read to the end.

This is perfectly natural, and in some ways, the anger is a good thing
as long as it’s channeled into doing something positive and
pragmatic with that energy. Unfortunately, many men despair or get
lost in that anger, and that is definitely not a good thing, nor will
it make your life any better.

I guess the best way to look at it is this: you’re about to learn
some hard truths–truths that will contradict what you’ve been told
about the world, particularly as it relates to women and human
sexuality.

But would you rather know the truth and use that knowledge for your
benefit, or would you rather remain in the darkness, fighting against
an invisible reality you either can’t or don’t want to
acknowledge?

If you continue reading, you’re choosing the former—you’re
about to take the red pill—and so what I’d say then is use
that knowledge to benefit, because otherwise the truth is no good to
you.

Ultimately, this is about sexual strategy. This is why the red pill
_isn’t_ misogynistic as some critics claim. It’s not placing
value on men or women or really anything—it’s simply an
observation of what is and what you can do about it.

As for misogyny, if we hated women so much, why would we dedicate such
a massive portion of our lives to being with them? We wouldn’t.
The truth is we love women, and in many ways, the red pill teaches us
to give them exactly what they want. It’s simply that we reject the
sexual strategy and confines society places on what should define
male/female relationships.

The best way I can think to start is just to lay some shit out there,
so here it goes:

10 THINGS EVERY MAN SHOULD KNOW

1) WE ARE PRODUCTS OF OUR EVOLUTIONARY PAST, ESPECIALLY WITH REGARD TO
HUMAN SEXUALITY. 

Why? Because if we weren’t, evolution would have kicked our ass
and we wouldn’t exist. Remember that always: women are going to
choose men who, in terms of evolution, would be the most likely to
give her offspring the best chance to survive.

It’s the same thing that attracts us to women: youth and beauty. Why
do we like big breasts and pretty faces and bubble butts? Because
these traits mean the woman is healthy and likely to successfully bear
and rear healthy children.

2) FOR THIS REASON, NO WOMAN OTHER THAN YOUR MOTHER (OR
GRANDMOTHER€”MAYBE AUNT?) WILL EVER LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY. 

No, every woman you take as a lover, whether for one night or 10 years
or a lifetime, will love you on one of two conditions:

A) you are exhibiting alpha traits and she wants to fuck you for your
genes, or

B) you are exhibiting beta traits and she wants to fuck you for your
ability to provide (money, comfort, companionship).

Now it may be that you look at that and say, hey, option B
doesn’t sound so bad—and you’re right, it
doesn’t… until you understand two more things: the first is
that if she sees you as a beta, she’ll still fuck the alpha given
the chance. The second, more importantly, is the concept of hypergamy,
which is our third topic.

3) HYPERGAMY IS THE FEMALE SEXUAL STRATEGY FOR MANY MAMMALS, INCLUDING
HUMANS. 

In essence, what it means is that a woman wants to mate with the
highest value male she perceives as being available. She will
generally not sleep with any man below this threshold, and usually, if
she’s single, this is an alpha male (don’t worry we’ll
get to that). However, once the female has offspring the strategy
flips, and she wants a beta male who will help her take care of them.

This is known to red pill men as the dual mating strategy. Alpha fucks
[https://therationalmale.com/2018/09/03/primordial-archetypes/]. Beta
bucks [https://therationalmale.com/tag/beta-bucks/page/15/]. Read
Rollo [https://therationalmale.com/].

Accordingly, there are basically two kinds of sex a woman will offer a
man:

A) crazy, ball-busting hot passionate three to four times a night
alpha sex, or

B) starfish, laying there until it’s over beta sex, one and done
time to pass out.

The other thing about hypergamy is that regardless of beta or alpha,
if a woman perceives she has access to a higher value male than the
one she is currently with, she’ll bolt in a heartbeat as long as
the social cost isn’t too high.

This is called branch swinging.

4) ALPHAS AND BETAS.

So let’s talk about the characteristics of an alpha and beta
male, but before we get into specifics, understand that these are
archetypes or extreme ends of two poles.

Alpha male: dominant, confident, daring, doesn’t give a fuck,
outcome independent, commands respect, leads, and is generally big and
strong (not always) with excellent social skills. The primary mark of
an alpha male is that he holds his frame—the concept of who he is
(a badass) and what he stands for does not change, waver, or vary,
almost without exception.

Beta male: defers to others, is shy or unassuming, is socially
awkward, cares deeply about what others think of him, follows, is
weak, small, and/or generally out of shape (not always), and opposite
of the alpha, does not hold his frame—the concept of who he is
wavers with regard to what others think.

Most males in our society are beta males, partially because it’s
the biological tendency (more betas than alphas naturally), but also
because our society tells us that this is the sort of man we should be
and the sort of man women desire.

Make no mistake, it is not.

5) IF YOU DO WHAT SOCIETY SAYS, PLAY BY THE RULES, GET A GOOD JOB, DO
NORMAL STUFF, ETC. YOU€™LL EVENTUALLY FIND A WOMAN WHO WANTS TO
MARRY YOU…HERE€™S THE RUB: 

A) If she finds someone better, or becomes unsatisfied for whatever
reason, she’s gone. Don’t believe me? Women initiate 70-80%
of all divorces.

B) If you do get divorced, you’re likely to lose a significant
portion of your salary for up to 20 years and get minimal custody of
your children.

C) Modern women are programmed to make men as beta as possible. As
soon as she has the relationship secured, she’s going to start
trying to nest and turn you into a beta—and that would be fine if
women liked betas…

But they don’t.

In fact, women hate and resent beta males, because they can’t
hold their frame, and this leaves her feeling constantly uncertain and
anxious, and even aside from that, she’ll always be more sexually
attracted to an alpha. Moreover, as soon as she sees you as a beta,
the sex will become shitty and uninterested—she’ll only be
using it to placate you.

If you don’t believe me, I’m currently writing this at a
bar. Two women and their husbands came in (rings). Even as they came
in, one of the women stared at me: sexually (once you learn game this
is something you start to recognize). Then while the other woman went
to the restroom, and the husbands were at the bar, this same woman
looked at me again, made eye contact, and winked. Less than 30 seconds
later, when her husband brought her a sample of beer, she smiled and
kissed him.

D) Even if you are the best she can get and you keep her happy,
it’s shown that women lose interest in long term sexual partners
after between a year and a half and four years. Additionally, it will
be a constant battle to maintain the upper hand and remain an alpha in
her mind. Understand that no matter whether it’s a short term
relationship or long term, the shit testing (we’ll get to this)
will NEVER STOP. Not even when you’re 80-fucking-years-old.

6) OK, SO YOU MAY BE ASKING YOURSELF: WHY DID/DO THINGS SEEM TO WORK
SO WELL FOR SO MANY MARRIED COUPLES THEN? 

First, remember that much of your perception of reality is based on
media and social media, which are both heavily curated spaces. Think
about it this way: how many wedding pictures do you see on Instagram?
OK, now how many times do you see someone post about their divorce?

Right.

Second, in the past, women didn’t have the economic freedom they
do today, nor do there exist the societal pressures to marry and stay
married. I’m not arguing that’s bad—I personally think
it’s good—however, what it means is that women can leave
relationships in a way they could not since the invention of
agriculture 10,000-15,000 years ago. People are less religious,
communities are large and mostly anonymous, and divorce is usually
justified on behalf of the woman (“he didn’t deserve
you”; “you can do better”; etc.). Hypergamy, in other
words, is unchecked—there’s no real penalty for a woman
leaving a man the way there used to be.

7) WOMEN ARE THE GATEKEEPERS OF SEX; MEN ARE THE GATEKEEPERS OF
RELATIONSHIPS. 

Women, because of hypergamy, are incentivized to want relationships,
and therefore often exchange sex to attain one. Society, partially
because of our monogamous history and partially because beta males are
inclined to help women achieve their sexual strategy, also pushes for
marriage and relationships.

However, the male sexual strategy is naturally polygamous. We’re
inclined to have sex with many different women, but this is not
accepted nor encouraged by women or society at large.

8) WOMEN COMMUNICATE USING POWER TALK; MOST MEN COMMUNICATE USING
STRAIGHT TALK. 

Straight talk means my words are exactly what I say and my meaning is
clear.

Power talk means my words are meant to get what I want and allow me to
avoid taking responsibility if necessary.

Additionally, women communicate on a subliminal, implied, and
emotional level. This is why arguing with a woman is pointless:
because she is not listening to what you say—she is only
concerned with the fact you are arguing, and in her eyes, are in
emotional, subliminal, and implied opposition.

That doesn’t mean it’s necessarily easier to convince a man
to agree with you—but his reason will be based on the argument,
not the fact that you were disagreeing (unless he’s an
idiot/partisan–when it comes to politics basically everyone is a
moron).

9) AWALT€”ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS. 

Yes.

Why? Because #evolution.

This is why you shouldn’t be mad at women or blame them.
They’re simply acting on their biological imperatives, and just
as you and I can’t help being attracted to beautiful young women
who have tight bodies and big breasts, they can’t help the fact
they’re attracted to alpha males and are hypergamous.

However, AWALT. There are no exceptions. There are gradations, yes.
But no exceptions. There’s no woman on this earth who is not
subject to what’s expressed above. Not one. Some certainly are
better than others, but again, AWALT.

10) SOCIETY WILL TAKE CARE OF WOMEN IN A WAY IT WILL NOT TAKE CARE OF
MEN. 

It’s the same basic principle as to why women and children were
given the first lifeboats on a sinking ship—because for society
to survive, frankly, women are more important than we are on an
individual level.

The point here is that other than your parents and your best friends,
no one gives a fuck about you. They will forget about you and abandon
you in a heartbeat, or more likely, over the course of many years. But
no one is going to rush in and save you.

Consider the difference: a woman who’s bankrupt and 30, but
pretty…there’s a good chance she can live with her parents and
still find a man who wants to marry and take care of her. However, if
a man is 30 and living with his parents, let’s face it: he’s
a fucking loser. And no one gives a shit about that guy.

Harsh, but that’s the truth, and it’s better to accept that
and start working on yourself knowing that no one is going to save or
rescue you, and moreover, that no one will respect you unless
you’re an independent man with some measure of wealth, status,
and game.

Now comes the good part…

This means you are Machiavelli motherfucker!

This means everything is within your destiny. This means you can be as
great as you want to be, fuck as many women as you want to, write and
live by whatever rules you want to—it means you choose, no one
else. And there is no greater freedom than that.

THE BASICS OF THE RED PILL:

1) LIFT. [https://redpilldad.blog/2019/04/03/lift-motherfucker-lift/] 

Seriously, get in the gym and lift heavy weights. Basic lifts, 5-10
reps. You only need to do this twice a week and you’ll see
massive gains. But the fact is, women love guys who are in great shape
and have big muscles the way we love a girl with a tight ass and big
tits. Get in the best shape you can—it will boost your
testosterone, give you more energy, and make you a badass.

This is the number one tenet of the red pill. If you don’t lift,
STFU–you’re sub par automatically.

2) LEARN GAME AND COLD APPROACH. 

Get off the dating apps and start talking to girls IRL
[https://redpilldad.blog/2019/03/09/the-beginning-why-sod-sucks-the-introduction-of-u-game/].
Learn how to flirt, push-pull, etc. A good start is to read The Game
[https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060554738/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=rpmcmurphy-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0060554738&linkId=93a3bbc5fffffd6adc65c5a2483a172b].
There are lots of other good resources. I think Todd V (on YouTube) is
one of the best, but I also like James Marshall, Karisma King, RSD Max
and RSD Jeffy. Tom Torero is cool as well
[https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B072PRTQ3W/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=rpmcmurphy-20&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=B072PRTQ3W&linkId=a1a8557bff78c71b1c72bb362e00655e].

3) FIND YOUR MISSION. 

This can be anything, but it should be something that increases your
wealth, fitness, happiness, or spiritual wellness. It is something you
are passionate about and that you are focusing on aside from women,
and it remains your focus, always.

4) VALUE THE PROCESS.

This is true of all the above. Girls will flake on or reject you.
You’ll feel like you’re making no progress on your mission
or lifting. Shit happens.

But if you stay focused on doing the right things: eating well,
lifting hard, working hard, and running game, over the long run, it
will work. Process over results, always.

5) READ BOOKS.

Get off the phone and start reading to better yourself. Whether
that’s novels, self-help, history, whatever, you’ll benefit
so much from reading. It gives you something to talk about with girls
(you’d be surprised), you can apply it to your mission, and it
makes you calm, smart, and resilient.

FIVE BOOKS EVERY RED PILL MAN SHOULD READ:

The Game, by Neil Strauss. [https://amzn.to/2oQsJxL]

The Rational Male, by Rollo Tomassi. [https://amzn.to/2VPD7lo]

The 48 Laws of Power, by Robert Green. [https://amzn.to/2BnLxHq]

No More Mr. Nice Guy, by Robert A. Glover. [https://amzn.to/33CUN6v]

The Four Hour Body, by Timothy Ferriss. [https://amzn.to/2qnTGt6]

If you do these five things, you will become an extremely potent man.

Good luck out there brothers!

 
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