The mistake of mate-guarding 
Alpha Game | March 22, 2014 | by VD
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 The Chateau explains why showing how much you care
[http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/03/21/why-men-shouldnt-mate-guard/]
when a rival expresses interest in your woman is a problem:

> Here’s where it gets interesting for philosophers and warriors of
> Game alike: While mate guarding may offer some temporary or discrete
> relationship security, multiple acts of mate guarding will
> paradoxically increase longer term relationship fragility. The
> mechanism by which this LTR instability is generated is a status
> feedback loop; if a man mate guards, his woman will subconsciously
> evaluate his romantic worth downward because (her sensitive idware
> will reason) only a beta male would feel the need to mate guard. An
> alpha male would not; his aloofness would be perceived as proof of
> his impenetrable high status.
> 
> Yes, when a beta male mate guards, his girlfriend will proclaim in
> the moment her ego-stroked thrill at his display of jealousy, but
> over time the accretion of those displays will erode her charitable
> judgment of his mate value. This is why women are viscerally
> disgusted by the thought of overly “possessive” boyfriends.
 At the end of the day, people will do what they decide to do. There
is no controlling them; the failure of one totalitarian government
after another has shown that not even the threat of lethal force will
suffice. The only reliable "mate-guarding" tactic is to do absolutely
nothing at all, except to be sufficiently desirable that it is
eminently clear that you can find a new mate whenever you wish. 
 
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