Leadership means telling her she is pretty
Dalrock | October 1, 2015 | by Dalrock
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Brian Dodd (the same blogger I linked to on my last post) explains
that wives cheat because their husbands fail to show leadership
[http://www.briandoddonleadership.com/2011/03/20/6-reasons-why-women-cheat-and-how-to-hopefully-stop-it/].

> I’M CONVINCED WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO CHEAT.  I read many articles
> about the incredible guilt and grief they experience because of
> their actions.  Satan knew that when he tempted Eve that more than
> just one life would be destroyed.
> 
> Men, sometimes you can do everything right and there will still be
> women who simply make selfish, bad decisions.  However, most of the
> time IF WE PRACTICE PROACTIVE, LOVING LEADERSHIP THAT IS NOT
> PASSIVE, we can address these 6 reasons while protecting our wives
> and saving our marriages from the widespread and generational damage
> that results from infidelity.

If you are a worthy enough man, your wife is almost guaranteed not to
stray.  And of course, the key is leadership.  Keep in mind that he
isn’t talking about headship
[https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2015/05/03/they-arent-talking-about-headship/]. 
This is the kind of non threatening “leadership” modern Christians
love.  Most of the “leadership” Dodd urges husbands to practice
boils down to _not letting their wives lose the tingle_.  Key to that
is leading by telling her she is pretty:

> 5. HER EGO NEEDS A BOOST. She needs to feel pretty again or get her
> groove back.  Husbands, if you don’t tell your wife that she is
> pretty, your passivity will open the door for someone else to fill
> that void.

Dodd offers a specific warning in this area;  if a husband loses his
job and his wife goes to work, other men will tell her she is pretty
instead of her husband.  In this case leadership means not _telling_
her she needs to stay at home, but _allowing*_ her to stay at home
(emphasis mine):

> If you are a husband who has lost his job or you stay home with the
> kids because your wife earns more money, be very careful.  She puts
> on a suit and goes to work every day where she interacts with
> high-achieving alpha males
> [http://briandoddonleadership.com/2010/09/10/65-characteristics-of-alpha-male-leadership/]. 
> She gets complimented frequently because she looks good and is
> accomplishing much.  Then she may think she comes home to an
> under-achieving husband who takes her for granted.  Many times,
> this woman can think she deserves better than you and will act on
> that thought.  An office romance ensues.  If it comes down to it,
> husbands go to work.  LET her stay home regardless of the financial
> implications.

*Dodd tells us that he is a huge fan of Fireproof and War Room, and
both movies feature wives who are career women.

SEE ALSO: Don’t blame Heartiste for the equation of Alpha with
virtue.
[https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2015/06/13/dont-blame-heartiste-for-the-equation-of-alpha-with-virtue/]

 
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