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| 1 | Fellas, is it discriminatory for women to experience attraction? DiscussSure, they can be single though. Absolutely almost no one is going to take someone over a certain weight/size unless they have no choice because they are also huge or they have some kind of weird fetish for that size. I would never date someone fat. If my husband got fat, I'd not leave him or anything but past a specific weight I probably wouldn't be able to have sex until he lost it. I would probably tell him as he approached that size that it was coming. I've absolutely demanded that he tell m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/26 10:35 PM |
| – | Q4women if your long time bf/husbands sexual orientation slightly changed after years together would you break up?It most definitely does. While I would have been fine dating a bi man casually (though still highly dependent on the individual), I want my husband to be straight. I'm bi myself. I also care about the type of women my husband dated before me. I know what they look like and why he dated them and what he liked about them. If he had dated someone unattractive or below his standards out of desperation ever, I would be turned off. I like a man who has a type. A very specific type. Of which I am and l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/26 02:43 AM |
| 1 | Are all men watching porn? Where are the decent men?I don't think every man is obsessed with porn. A lot, sure. But some probably don't even use and and some really don't care and rarely use it and when they do do so appropriately. I have no problem with some porn as a woman. It can be fun. I wouldn't want a guy obsessed with it or obsessed with a particular person now that we have things like only fans. I don't think my husband has cared about porno much since he was 10. He wanted the real thing and has been having sex since age 12. We've always… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Are men who gossip or make fun of others generally considered attractive to women?Me neither. Bullying is tacky and something bad children do. It shows an insecure person and I hate men with insecurity. Truly confident people would never bully someone. But gossip is fine, especially with your wife. Gossiping with any old acquaintance is maybe unattractive but my husband tells me everything because I won't tell anyone else. My daughter and I smack talk about people at her school. Because we're close family who cares. I can be trusted to keep anything they tell me private. I do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Are men who gossip or make fun of others generally considered attractive to women?Bullying is something bad children do. No one likes a bully. Gossip is fine, if it's to your spouse. My husband tells me everything. I'm his wife. He's supposed to. Sometimes that could qualify as gossip I suppose. But he'll tell me anything I want to know about anyone. Why shouldn't he. My daughter tells me everything too. It's not gossip in the traditional sense. But I hear about anyone they come in contact with, especially if that person does something ridiculous. You could call it gossip. If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 03:21 PM |
| 6 | Do women value past investment into a relationship? And do they feel relationship nostalgia?If you don't have women friends you won't have relationships. My husband has always had girlfriends since he was kindergarten and had sexual relationships since he was 12. He never had trouble getting the girlfriend he desired. And he considers himself average. He's 5'9" btw. But he's handsome and has charisma and never gave off any desperation. His first best friends was a girl and he had slumber parties as a young child with girls who were friends. Talking to women as friends makes it easier t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 02:54 PM |
| 14 | Do women value past investment into a relationship? And do they feel relationship nostalgia?Because walking just to walk is boring. I don't care about dates, but I expect my husband to be the same person as always. The reason why we got together. Long discussions, philosophy, laughing together about ridiculous things, telling me stories about his wild life - even if I've heard them many times before I still like to hear them - as long as he can make me feel young because he's got a youthful personality then I'm happy. A walk is fine if there's a purpose and something to see. We take a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 02:42 PM |
| 1 | Men pretend theyre not as picky as women. Even the “desperate ones” are picky.There's plenty of picky men that have the right to be picky. That's the kind I wanted. I know what my husband's exes looked like and asked him what was interesting about them and why he dated them. I want a man who has a "type". If he had ever dated anyone simply to get laid but wasn't attracted to them or didn't like them he wouldn't have been good enough for me. Having standards and being able to get what you want is sexy. It is to me anyway. I don't care how good looking a man is or how well … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/26 02:09 PM |
| – | Past what age women are no longer attractive to you?I feel that being with someone from a young age it doesn't necessarily matter how old they get, as long as you don't grow apart. Even if I were 70 I think the average 70 yr old man would still look like some wrinkled old guy to me, except for the few outliers of people that still look awesome old. But someone you've been in love with for decades, when you look at them you can remember what they were. So long as they do the basics of taking care of themselves. Like gaining weight is fine but don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/06/26 08:16 PM |
| 1 | Women "love" men for what they do for them, not who they are.Ridiculously stupid and completely false. People don't have to love someone to use them for what they can do for them, even if they take it so far as to get married. I never loved any man because he had money or provided something. No amount of money would ever make me love someone. I'd be happy to take the money. Money might have bought me putting some minimal effort into being nice, but it wouldn't buy respect and definitely never love. And I would throw everything else away for love. I mean I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/04/26 10:17 PM |
| 0 | If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AFPeople can decide to not fuck you for any tiny reason at all. You have no right to anyone's body. I am a bi woman and there's plenty of bi men I absolutely would never give a chance to. Some I would though. Would depend what I wanted out of them. For a casual relationship or fling it wouldn't be problematic. I even had a gay friend that I knew was gay but we were young and he said he was still deciding if he was gay or bi, years later he was very openly only gay but at the time he wasn't positiv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/26 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women avoid dating inside a communities?They also don't sound very clever or logical if that's how they take things. One thing that is guaranteed to NEVER get them a date is sitting at home on reddit moping and whining. I think the hobby groups are a great idea. People shouldn't expect the first thing they do outside of the home to get them dates anyway. I think the point is more getting comfortable interacting with different people and meeting people of various interests. Having female friends, genuine friends that you aren't just us… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 06:03 PM |
| 5 | Why do so many women avoid dating inside a communities?Because not everyone has that rule. And if you only have one community or hobby that makes more sense to not date in it but people that have several activities they participate in have other options. It doesn't have to be a weekly thing with the same people constantly. What if your city has like music festivals in the summer or something. Maybe get involved in that. You would be exposed to many people that share interests but you wouldn't only be seeing the same small group every single week so … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women avoid dating inside a communities?I met my husband from a coworker. I was dating someone at the time, but not seriously and I didn't know yet if it was going to turn into something serious, so when my coworker stopped me in a hallway and said she had a friend that I had a lot in common with and that he was cute and we loved the same weird underground music I was interested. She wanted me to go to his place that night and I didn't feel like it that night for some reason. But I've always had strong intuition, like I've known I nee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/03/26 05:16 PM |
| 2 | Leonardo DiCaprio is only doing what is natural to most men for preferring women in their prime over women his own age.Women who will date an older man are ONLY doing it for money. They will mock you behind your back and consider you a literal joke. They will leave as soon as it's convenient or cheat while they're waiting for you to croak. If that makes you happy then you must be pathetic. I had many such men offer me marriage and wealth. Only one I considered because he wasn't too old, mid 30s and he was handsome but I only saw $$$$ and didn't care for him beyond friendship. Then I met a young, hot, fun bad boy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/03/26 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Men are the prize.These men are absolutely delusional. Like mental ward crazy. If you can't get someone to desire you in your 20s, no one will ever want you. Ugly and socially incompetent people don't suddenly turn beautiful and into witty charismatic characters as they age. Anyone that's actually desirable as an older person was most likely hot as shit or at least comfortable in their skin and around people. The whole ugly duckling to swan story is just a fairy tale for most people. Looks and personality. Person… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Men are the prize.Anyone who isn't a complete loser can get in a relationship in their 20s. That's when people are usually the most physically fit with good hair and attractive face. People who are very good looking when they are young often remain so when older. Uglies don't suddenly get handsome at 40 or 50. You'd have to have a LOT of money to get someone you want later and they will still think you're a joke. Money doesn't create love, admiration or respect. The people that will have you for money just see yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/26 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Why are yall downvoting women saying they love their husbands?Yeah, but I don't think you'll find them here. They (miserable women) are more likely to be in other subreddits. I don't usually see miserable women on here but in other places on reddit. Just my personal observation. The person you are replying to must only be talking about this subreddit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/26 07:26 PM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessTrash would be the people no one wants. I've never ever seen a person seek out a partner with 5 kids and I doubt they ever will. When people get with someone with kids it's not something they want but something they eventually accept for whatever reason - can't get better, already have feelings, have their own litter of children, or they were lied to about the existence of kids until months or a year in. But no one ever has ever 🤞 hoped to meet someone with 5 kids. There's way too many negatives… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 02:05 PM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessYes but what kind of men want a single mother to 5 kids? There won't be many, not unless they have their own and need a bangmaid or have some other ulterior motives of some kind. How many women want to date a man with several kids? So it has nothing to do with her settling, she's going to lack options to choose from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 12:34 PM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessI wouldn't date a man with kids. If he had only one really cool and sweet kid I might consider it. Like seriously give it consideration. But it'd have to be the perfect kid and perfect situation with an awesome ex. But it still wouldn't be what I wanted. If the kids were grown and not assholes then that might be almost like not having kids. So that's a maybe. Anything else hell no. I met my husband young, around age 20, so it was easy to find a man without kids. I absolutely wanted nothing to do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 12:30 PM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessLol, that will never happen. Of course the mother should be discerning for her children's safety but someone with 5 kids most likely got that many by being irresponsible. Both mother and father. They often bring terrible people into the home. The number of people who have horror stories about stepparents can tell you that. Yes she needs to make sure any man she dates is safe but the thing is, she can't really be expecting a super hot guy with no kids and a fabulous job to fall in her lap because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 12:18 PM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessProbably depends on the kid and the woman. Now if older I don't see the problem in dating someone who's children are grown, so long as the children aren't complete fuckups that try to interfere too much. Though if I were single I would never want to remarry. Keep things fun. My adult kid probably wouldn't interfere too much because she knows I'm taking care of her financially by way of inheritance. No man will trick me into leaving things to him first. But some adult children will terrorize thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 11:54 AM |
| – | CMV: Single mothers should not have to settle for lessThen be single. No one cares. Someone with 5 kids shouldn't dare try dating. They really have no time to offer anyone anything. They can have the men with 5 kids that those of us who were smart enough to only have 1 or no kids would never date. Plus what does this woman with 5 kids look like? I know women that have had up to 3 kids bounce back, so long as they didn't have them one after another. But many don't bounce back even after one and 5 that's a doozy. What desirable man is going to want t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/12/25 11:37 AM |
| 1 | "Nice Guys" are basically an urban legendPlus they don't know what goes on in other people's relationships. The other night during our cheesy awful movie night after having a wild weekend we were watching Krull of all things and there was a scene where the girl was asking the guy if he would "jump" for her just cause she asked. My husband made the comment "well maybe sometimes sure, but not just because, and you wouldn't like that anyway". Which is true. That's what a dog is for, not a man. If I could just order a man around like a dog… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:47 PM |
| 1 | "Nice Guys" are basically an urban legendYou aren't supposed to harass your friends into dating you. How do you exist in the world with such ignorant ideas? Men who actually try to be friends with women will have the skills to speak to woman that they ARE interested in in a way that makes them comfortable. My husband always was friends with girls. A little boy his first best friend was a girl. He got to go to slumber parties with the girls. And he always had a girlfriend from kindergarten on and started having sex at age 12. He was alw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/12/25 06:28 PM |
| – | User flairs should include ageMuch better advice than a fellow single 20 yr old loser is gonna give you. If their advice was any good, they wouldn't be single. Women know what they want and who they will give a chance to and why. Married and older women know even more and they know what their husband knows about his experience dating. You obviously don't want real advice. You must like being lonely and pathetic and ignorant. Maybe you should put that in your flair. Then people don't have to waste any time trying to help you.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/11/25 04:01 PM |
| 1 | The idea that women don't enjoy sex, comes from male sexuality being demonize in society.Is this a skill issue with your partner or something else like something medical or along those lines? You can't even orgasm on your own with masturbation/vibrators? I mean sex can feel good before the orgasm, otherwise how would you orgasm. Sometimes it can take awhile to get there, sometimes it doesn't take long. Sometimes you can have so many. We took lsd last weekend and sex is great on it. Husband gave me head to the entire album The Cure 'Disintegration'. I think it's like 71 minutes long … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Why do women share so many details?I mean my husband talked about how his highschool sweetheart (who was the only virgin he ever got with) was really vanilla and weird in bed. She was absolutely beautiful and knew it so it wasn't insecurity of that nature and she was a gymnast for several years and would do things for attention in front of others like doing the splits so she wasn't shy. But yet she was weird about anything different than the basics. The few times she agreed to doggy style she covered her entire body with a comfor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Men should increase thier standards and be ready to be single if they dont get what they want.I'm a woman and I agree with you. I don't want a fat man either. I don't expect my spouse to look the same forever and I won't either but letting yourself go is basically a huge "fuck you" to your spouse. I've gained about 40 lbs myself but I'm holding steady and can lose it fairly easily but don't want to. I'm close to 5'9" and I was always 120-128 pounds. I'm 162 right now. I'm not overweight at all. No fat rolls, no lumps, nothing hanging or sagging. I wear a size 8 to 10. I was a 2 and somet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Men should increase thier standards and be ready to be single if they dont get what they want.He must be one of those sex addicts that will fuck anyone and anything, unless he's lying or just can't get anything any better. We knew a young guy once who was actually attractive and well liked but he would take sex from anyone. He'd let some grossly overweight girl give him blow jobs. Of course he wouldn't be seen with her and I don't think he had actual intercourse with her but still. I can't be with such a guy. I know loyalty is a separate thing but let's say someone was going to cheat on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/10/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | People who want to be in relationships, don't engage in these discussions/debates. tl;dr of my Debate point at the end.I've been happily in a relationship/married for 23 years. I come here for the same reason I read anything I do on reddit. To laugh at other people's drama and misfortune. My family life is too normal and happy. I need drama from some source, and it's better to find it here than creating it in my own life. I need a good adrenaline, dopamine and endorphin rush now and then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/25 05:36 PM |
| -2 | A Man is either desired by many women or no womenI dumped a guy who was 6'4" who looked like Ryan Gosling for my husband who is 5'9". I was more physically attracted to my husband and he was fun and interesting. The other guy was too generic. Some women would say the guy I dumped was better looking. I didn't think so though. And I'm not the only one. My husband had hot girlfriends and was sexually active beginning at age 12. I didn't care that he is of average height. I'm close to the same height as him. I need fun and excitement more than I n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 11:48 AM |
| 1 | Wow, older women really are full of baggageI've been with my husband for 23 years. I have ADHD and such a short attention span that sometimes even when I ask a person a question I grew bored and don't care anymore by the time they are done answering what I asked them. So the fact that I've been with the same man for 23 years and I'm not sick of him means he is the best and if something happened to him or between us I would still always consider him the best. I didn't make him father of my child for shits and giggles. People my age should… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Women, would you be friends with an active sex worker?I like friends that are interesting and unique people, and who can make me laugh. I'd rather be friends with a sex worker than a christian or one of those "live, laugh, love" types. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/25 11:30 AM |
| – | Why do men here act surprised that women like attractive men ?Stop lying and pretending you aren't 100% aware of the answer. Women have always wanted attractive, the same as men do. To have a relationship you need looks and personality in equal measure. I dumped a very very attractive 6'4" man for my husband who was only 5'9" at the time (he's grown ½" to an 1" since then but still). I was more physically attracted to my husband even though many women may have found the other guy more attractive. I liked the structure of my husband's face, his bone structu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/25 02:45 PM |
| 3 | Women gaslight men who date younger due to intrasexual competition.So true. Actual attractive young women don't actually want old men unless it's for money, to take as much as possible, then leave. When I was young I only talked to older men for such reasons. Never fucked them, not willingly of course. I did have a FWB that was 11 years older than me, but he was 31, and trendy and hot and interesting. He's 54 now, and you wouldn't ever believe it. He's got that rare movies star good looks and non-aging. I've never seen a better looking and better kept man of 54… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/25 06:10 AM |
| – | Locking a man down in your 20s is the worst adviceExactly. The right person is fun as hell. I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 20. He had access to all the fun party drugs, parties, fun times, sex was better than with even older guys. And someone who is good looking when young is likely to stay good looking when older. I'm into my 40s and see women in their teens and 20s in worse shape than me all the time. Would I rather be ME 15 years ago? Sure. I did look more youthful. But body wise I'm just a good, still fit, no stretch marks, no lu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/25 12:42 AM |
| – | The hate on passport bros just proves that alot of women just dont want some men to be happyBecause it does happen all the time. That's the way it works. Money can't make someone love a person. It might in rare circumstances make someone temporarily desire a person but usually they go into it scheming the quickest way to get in and get out with as much money as possible. Before I met my husband I had a few somewhat older and wealthy men that were interested in me. One wanted to marry me, and he was young enough and tolerable enough that I may have considered it. I then met my husband w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/25 05:21 PM |
| – | In online debate, women insist "Husband Material" always encompasses "Hookup Material", but in real life it's a distinct categoryI'm not fucking someone I find personally unattractive. I'm not marrying such a person either. I expect people to not let themselves go, even after 30 years of marriage. I met my husband when we were 20. I knew right away I was willing to fuck him and I'm the one he came onto him the next night. We were both dating other people who were both very attractive when we met. We broke up with them the day we met, before we had sex. I moved in 3 days later. A hookup just needs to be good looking and no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 01:47 PM |
| – | In online debate, women insist "Husband Material" always encompasses "Hookup Material", but in real life it's a distinct categoryI met my husband when we were 20. We hooked up in the first 24 hours and moved in together 3 days later. (We also had been seeing other people when we met but we broke up with them the day we met). Of course my husband has had 'success' since he was 12. He almost always had a steady girlfriend and sex between then and when we met. I guess that would make a difference in confidence levels. I remember enjoying our first talk immensely. He didn't seem rushed or desperate. Talked to me like a human … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 01:38 PM |
| 1 | Extreme redpillers do indeed misrepresent pre-Millennial marriage, but bluepillers do it just as much, if not more so, albeit in different waysYeah well I don't see how Tinder has the best of the best anyway. Until we all live perpetually in some VR world, most attractive and well rounded people will still meet their partners in the real world. I was born in 82. By the time I grew up in the earlier days of the Internet, even back then people met people online though they didn't have things like Tinder and Match.com yet. Before that they had personals in newspapers and magazines. I'm pretty sure most people thought such people were lose… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/25 12:58 PM |
| -4 | You don't "deserve" to be treated like Chad because you aren't ChadEach woman is attracted to something different. Me personally I don't care about height as long as he's as tall as I am. My husband is only 5'9". When I met him I was dating a really hot guy(looked like Ryan Gosling) who was 6'4" and 27 years old, and I was talking to some other men, one who was also tall, in his mid 30s and a wealthy CEO and half owner of a large business and he expressed interest in marrying me. I dropped everyone for my husband the night I met him. My husband was a broke 20 y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to.I mean, only an idiot would be with a hot bum that laid on her couch all day while she worked and cleaned and did everything. But I did pick a 20 yr old broke, drug partaking man who waited tables over other men I had been seeing who included a very wealthy CEO in his 30s that wanted to marry me. The young guy was fun and exciting and I fell in love immediately. He wasn't a bum. He worked hard and was able to take care of himself and never let us starve or not have our own place. He always came … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Women have different rules for guys they're actually attracted to.I mean, you can't just be a bum even if a woman is attracted to you. But yes to a large extent that is true. How does it not make sense? When I met my husband he was young, only 20. I had been seeing other people before him. A guy who was also really hot and nice who was 26 or 27. I forget what exactly his job was. I had been talking to this other man who was in his mid-late thirties. He was a wealthy CEO and part owner of a large business. He wanted to marry me. I met my husband. He had long ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/25 03:25 PM |
| – | Under what circumstances would a younger woman be willing to realistically date an older man?I think in most situations money is the only reason. If someone was exceptionally good looking and didn't age the way most people do, I could do it, for a time. But based on the limited time we have don't know how long. If we lived to be 200 years old or something and we're relatively youthful for a longer time then it would make more sense. But we don't. I'd rather be with someone that grew up in my era. When young I had a FWB situation with a guy when I was 19 and he was 31 or something. Not a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/25 05:44 AM |
| 3 | Would you be okay with a (one-sided) open relationship if there was a lack of sex in your LTR?I mean a good relationship is about more than sex. But yeah there needs to be some sex or a dry spell would need to end at some point, like a sex therapist would need to be hired as a last resort. Most couples that just stop having sex all together don't seem very happy or in love. But if there is a health reason or they can still do it occasionally then that makes sense that that could happen and you still be very much in love. Quality is definitely better than quantity. My husband agrees. Rath… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/25 10:18 PM |
| 2 | What is the point of dating or getting into a committed relationship with men?My husband has gotten a boner from horrific stomach pain before, and not because he's a masochist, I think the body's nervous system can get confused sometimes. And apparently what he calls 'hope I don't get a boner, boner', from nervousness or stress like during a meeting and especially back in the day in school. He doesn't usually look at porn. Not that I would care. Plenty of men don't pine away after other women. They must not be very happy with their wife/partner if they do this. I expect h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 07:50 PM |
| 2 | What makes a guy boring?No you definitely would be considered boring. She just said it didn't really matter what activity or where they were at. Her husband is a fun person. They could be sitting in a blank room all alone and have fun. Girls like to have fun. They wrote a song about it. Lot's of people are just too generic, too boring, too much like the crowd, more worried about fitting in and what people think than truly enjoying themselves. And I stay clear away from any type of religious person or church goer. Churc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 07:17 PM |
| 1 | What makes a guy boring?People who refuse to drink I'm sure she means. I like drugs. Doesn't mean I want a junkie. Recreational usage of specific things are fun. People who completely abstain are boring. I like hedonistic people. Good sex, good food, good music good drugs, good party. Pleasure. Otherwise you're just going to work, and going home to bed. Eat, shit, sleep. We only get 70-80 years on this earth if you're lucky. I get being responsible enough, but being too responsible and we'll behaved all sounds like a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 07:07 PM |
| 1 | What makes a guy boring?I'm 43 and I'm a millennial. We are middle class and have a house. I don't think you know what upper middle class and rich are anyway. Besides when my husband and I were young we waited tables. We partied all the time. Lots of fun drugs, parties, etc. We were broke but just lived it up. And now we are normal responsible adults. He has a career, we own stuff, I raised our kid. We still 'party' on occasion. Every couple of months we take a bunch of really good LSD and expand our mind and have fun … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: When you hear women say they want to feel "protected", what does that mean to you?Women choose shorter men all the time. I dumped one who was 6'4" for my husband who is 5'9½" while I am also 5'9". I liked him better, I liked his face better, I liked how wild and interesting he was, I liked how much fun he was, I liked his long hair. The other guy was handsome but generic. My husband was smarter and tougher too. Back then he was alot leaner whereas now he's really broad and naturally muscular, sorta like Wolverine. Back then (20+ years ago) we did a lot of coke so he was small… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/25 02:40 AM |
| 2 | Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms)This guy is social reject and obviously stupid as hell too. I know more women with ADHD. Back in the day they prescribed so many boys because of boys behavior. Most of those kids didn't even actually have ADHD. Just because a child is rowdy doesn't mean they were incapable of focus. They were just medicated to help the teachers. OP obviously doesn't know what ADHD actually is and what it's like. I know the strip club meetings were a bigger thing back in the early 80s though I wouldn't think so n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Female-only spaces shouldn’t exist (except bathrooms and locker rooms)Lol sure 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 03:58 PM |
| 3 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.Your logic is stupid. A short man can be just a tough as a taller man. I've seen thin guys knock out big buff ones. People aren't scared of big dumb shit talkers. People who go around starting shit are insecure losers. And everyone knows that. Most men have no fear of another man simply because he is taller. What difference do you actually think that really is going to make? You sound like a child. I'm a woman and I know young boys who have more upper body strength than me. I've had a loaded gun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 03:19 PM |
| 3 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.Uh huh, and how many fights has your boyfriend actually been in? That weren't against 10 yr olds. People that go around looking for fights, especially as adults, are usually so stupid that you're probably committing a crime by sleeping with him. I bet wittier men call him stupid to his face all the time and he doesn't even realize they insulted him until 10 minutes after the fact. If he were as tough as you claim he'd be in the penitentiary. Because no one over the age of 18 can go around being … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 02:48 PM |
| 2 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.Smaller guys win in fights against bigger guys all the time. And it's not like the movies. Big tall people are just as susceptible to punches and bullets and everyone else. Starting fights outside of highschool will end you up in prison or a grave. Women don't like bullies. We like a man that isn't afraid. Your 6'7" 300 lb guy that's used to being bigger than everyone is the guy that will run off scared when a 6'9" 310lb guy comes along or when 2 6'1" guys start messing with his girl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 02:40 PM |
| 5 | The “Nice guy” is a loser to most men.Lol, sure dipshit. First off someone who only fights when they're sure they can win is a coward or bully. A man like that will run off and leave your ass if there is real trouble. I bet he was the type as a teen that started shit and then said he was going to come back with his friends but then disappeared. That's not 'alpha' behavior. A real man doesn't look for a fight but he's willing to if he needs to protect someone, even if that means he's going to get beaten to a pulp. My husband has neve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/25 02:10 PM |
| 2 | If a woman desires “bad boy” traits from a guy in order to be attracted to him she doesn’t truly like himLol, what? You either are something or you aren't. Pretending will just make you look stupid. Which is why you still won't get a woman. And so few seem to understand what "bad boy type" is desirable. My husband was the bad boy type. I left a really hot 6'4" sorta normal preppy looking guy for him. We were 20 years old. My husband had long hair, tattoos, piercings. Wore all black. I think he was wearing a Dead Kennedys T-shirt under his Misfits hoodie when I met him. He was naturally rebellious. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 2 | If a woman desires “bad boy” traits from a guy in order to be attracted to him she doesn’t truly like himSo few know what the bad boy type is. A felon is someone that got caught. Who wants that? That means he's either stupid or did something actually bad (child molester, rapist, murderer). None of that is desirable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 02:17 PM |
| 2 | If a woman desires “bad boy” traits from a guy in order to be attracted to him she doesn’t truly like himThat's not a bad boy, that's just a jerk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/25 01:54 PM |
| 1 | I think women feel the same thing for famous men that men feel for regular attractive womenI'm like you. I care nothing for any celebrity. It's the character's they play that sometimes I feel something for. I always loved Indiana Jones. Which is weird because Harrison Ford looks A LOT like my dad at certain points in his life. Now that they are both old they look alike and when they were both young, think his small role in Apocalypse Now, that looks almost exactly like my father did in his 20s. Even my husband when watching that movie said "OMG he looks just like him". But Indiana Jon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 05:38 PM |
| 1 | Men obsess over achieving a variety of women, to their own detrimentIf he's a stupid doofus at home I'm sure it's hard to be nice to such a man. Besides I was NEVER nice. All my husband's previous girlfriends were pretty and nice. No fights. He dumped a gorgeous nice girl the day he met me for me. He saw my true colors in the first two weeks when I kinda inadvertently (long story) ate 9 Xanax bars and was a blacked out bitch for a few days. You know that scene in American Psycho when Patrick is out with his affair partner Courtney and she's so out of her head sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/25 12:00 AM |
| 0 | Men obsess over achieving a variety of women, to their own detrimentThen he needs to put effort in. To get a woman horny after all this time it takes more. Asking to have sex like you would ask her to grab a beer for you is not that exciting. That's why so many marriages end up with dead bedrooms. Sometimes one or both let themselves go. Sometimes men don't practice proper hygiene. There's many reasons a wife stops wanting sex that happen to be the man's fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Men obsess over achieving a variety of women, to their own detrimentMaybe he sucked in bed. If you want more or better sex you have to up your game. After a woman has been dealing with kids or working or slaving over a hot stove the last thing she's gonna want is 10 minutes of the old in out with a fat smelly husband who lets his desires be known by either saying "let's have sex" or just shoving his hand in her pants while she's busy. That's why half of these husbands stop getting sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 10:16 PM |
| 3 | When times are hard financially for women, Why do they choose to be sex workers instead of moving in with one single wealthy man?You do understand that we don't have Terminator vision and can't just walk down the street and instantly get stats on any man that state his wealth, criminal history and relationship status, right? A woman that wants that probably meets these men by already doing a type of sex work or working in an environment where they will meet such a man. That's if she wants that. People want different things. I'm sure some sex workers do ok and are able to do their work in a relatively safe manner. Not ever… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 10:04 PM |
| 5 | Unless in the context of an LTR, “Physical intimacy” is a word horny people use to pretend they’re romantic.Physical intimacy is anything I do with someone I care for. It could be as simple as holding hands if something more is there. Sex with someone you don't give a shit about seems like just going through the motions. Sex is generally bad with people you don't care for but in the rare situations it's good, the sex may be fun, electric, exciting but I don't really see it rising to the same level as physical intimacy with someone you love. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 09:57 PM |
| – | A lot of men on here underrate the importance of personalityWhy can't you meet people in person? Back in my day, that's all we did. It would have been embarrassing to do online dating. I was born in 1982 so I was 18 in 2000. Things can't have changed that much in 20 to 25 years that people can't still meet people in real life. Most people I know that are in relationships met in real life. I do know a couple of people who used dating apps briefly, like after a divorce, but the people they ended up with they actually met IRL. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 08:10 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of a guy making you wait for sex?If it was because he was religious absolutely not. I have never and refuse to ever date someone religious. I would never have waited for marriage. I usually had sex really fast. I've been with my husband for 23 years. When we met we talked for 2 hours and he picked me up from work (we met at my work when he came to visit a friend who worked with me). I worked nights so it was 2am when I left with him. We hung out that night and I stayed with him and slept in his bed with him that night but we ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/25 06:42 PM |
| 1 | “Women are selectors” but redpillers constantly complain about never wanting fat women, older women, and single moms.Sex addicts? My husband and I knew this young guy that worked for my husband. A guy that many young women would find attractive. My husband told me that this kid told him that one night when he didn't have someone better he let this "fat girl" that liked him give him a blow job. Lots of guys do things like that. They just really aren't picky when it comes to sex. I wouldn't date a guy like that though. My husband wouldn't ever take a blow job from a woman that he didn't find at least pretty and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/25 06:25 PM |
| 1 | I don’t think men are “intimidated” by strong independent womenI dumped a guy who was 6'4" who was also hot, for my husband who is just right at 5'9" when I'm 5'9" too. He never told me not to wear heels no matter how tall. There were times I wore 4½ inch heels when with him. He is completely 110% secure in himself and doesn't care what people think. He's what is actually strong and masculine and charismatic, not what some of the guys here would call being strong and masculine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/25 11:07 PM |
| 1 | I don’t think men are “intimidated” by strong independent womenUmm ok. I'm basically a "traditional" wife. But I'm about as good a housewife as Peggy Bundy from Married With Children. But I make (or order) dinner, I lay out his work clothes, I iron everything before he has any work meetings, I do all his laundry, I grab him a beer if he asks nicely. He recently is getting a new passport and ID and they needed all sort of stuff and we've had some trouble because he was adopted by his stepdad as a kid but I gathered up all his documents and everything needed,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/25 10:54 PM |
| 1 | I don’t think men are “intimidated” by strong independent womenI'm 5'9". When I met my husband I was dating a really hot guy who was also really nice and he was 6'4". My husband is 5'9". In fact he was a smidge shorter than me at the time. I liked him a lot more than the other guy and I felt more physically attracted to him and his face and personality than the other guy. He had long hair which I love. I have no problem dating someone my height or a tiny bit shorter. I mean I picked one over a really tall guy who was a dead ringer for Ryan Gosling. Maybe so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/25 10:16 PM |
| 0 | Gynocentrism doesn't make sense in monogamous societiesWith modern technology males don't even need to be alive to serve their purpose. This is true of all mammals. We could keep a small number of males on sperm harvesting farms, out of sight out of mind, and do away with the other 90+% of you. Humans would be just fine. Men aren't doing anything special by creating sperm. It'll happen on it's own. Nocturnal emissions are a thing you know. Men always are trying to give their sperm away anyway. You lose nothing by doing so. So it's 'cheap' even to yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/25 06:06 PM |
| 1 | "Every woman is unique in their taste in men" lol no they aren'tDid you ever do those statistical math word problems in grade school? They showed women the same 100 men on tinder. Each woman swiped right on only 20% of men. That doesn't mean all the women picked the same 20 men. Only 1 man was picked by every single woman. 38 of the men's profiles were disliked by most or all of the women apparently. So what that means is 62% of men stand a chance and will be picked by some women. Because people like and are looking for different things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/25 06:03 PM |
| 8 | Men are angry about the current dating dynamics because they don't want to feel cucked.Drunken hookups aren't treated better. Usually it's crappy sex and people never want to see that person again. Men and women both. That's in fact being treated worse. The person wanted sex for sex not for that person. I fucked my husband 6 times in the first 24 hours we met. We dumped the people we were dating, hooked up, moved in together within 3 or 4 days. We were 20 then and have been together 23 years, still happily married. I liked him right and away and saw no reason to wait. We also took… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/25 07:21 PM |
| – | Experience in bed is a downside for men, not an upsideI mean I like a man with experience. He can be picky too. My husband has been having sex since age 12. Most of those were long-ish term girlfriends (at 13-18 two to three years is a long time). We met at age 20. All of his girlfriends were very attractive. He dumped attractive girls if they were stupid or boring or crazy. He didn't date girls he found unattractive. He didn't have to. But when I got him he was good and confident sexually and good at relationships. It's been 23 years. I wouldn't w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/07/25 10:32 PM |
| – | Men Can't Be Blamed for Age Gap Relationships Because Women Are the Sexual Selectors and Choosing to Be in Those RelationshipsIt's bullshit to take someone else's youth like that. The older person already got to experience their youth, whether they wasted it or not. Twenty year olds don't normally wanna hang out with 35-40 yr olds. Imagine wasting your 20s with someone so old. You don't get that time back. You're never young again. Let young people be dumb with people their own age. When I was 19-20 their was a 30-31 yr old guy I had a FWB sorta thing going on with. He wasn't predatory. We didn't have a relationship. W… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/25 06:23 AM |
| – | The "orgasm gap" is primarily due to women behaving passively and lacking initiative during sex. Women expect men to take full responsibility for both of their orgasms and usually do nothing to help themselves climax.Well you don't have much experience the do you? Women all prefer head over penetration. Penetration is just fun in the right situation and moment. It doesn't usually result in an orgasm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 06:41 PM |
| – | The "orgasm gap" is primarily due to women behaving passively and lacking initiative during sex. Women expect men to take full responsibility for both of their orgasms and usually do nothing to help themselves climax.Are you laying down when she's on top? Because if so that an awkward angle for what is required, especially for someone with less muscle. You try it (simulated obviously). Now if the guy is sitting upright and I can get at least one foot on the ground while straddling him, but preferably both feet, then I can go as fast and easy and long as any guy. But who keeps the right sized chair in a bedroom for that? Once my husband and I were in the bathroom and he put the toilet lid down and sat and it … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/05/25 06:26 PM |
| 2 | There is nothing society nor anybody else can do to make any given individual more attractive to another. The answer is in the individual themselves.That only works with a man you already have some attraction to. It doesn't do anything for one you think is ugly or don't like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/25 12:02 AM |
| 2 | There is nothing society nor anybody else can do to make any given individual more attractive to another. The answer is in the individual themselves.Lol no it doesn't. I'm a woman. A woman who had no problem using someone for what they could do for me back then. I had several men of varying wealth willing to give me all of it when I was young. When I met a man that I felt real feelings and attraction for, who was currently broke, I cast the rich ones aside. Feeling real physical attraction for a persons face/body/personality and they feel the same - it feels like the best high on earth. And I've tried every good drug out there so I know what… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/25 11:53 PM |
| – | Most Men Do not truly want a relationshipLol, you can't observe shit. Relationships go on behind closed doors. Just like secret societies. You aren't a part of it. And you will never know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/25 07:19 PM |
| – | I was proven wrong yesterday regarding women and biphobia. But I don't understand the reasoning.Christians disgust me. I was born and raised christian. My whole family is christian. I only fuck atheists. Pagans or Buddhist could be acceptable too. Jews don't bother me because they don't try and convert people but they usually want a Jew you see. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 07:34 PM |
| – | I was proven wrong yesterday regarding women and biphobia. But I don't understand the reasoning.Marriage is different than casual dating. My first relationships were with lesbians. But I wouldn't marry a man who was bisexual. In fact I wouldn't marry a man who didn't have the pickiest of standards and that didn't have a clear type. If he had fucked ugly or fat women before me then he wouldn't have me. I fully trust him to be loyal regardless, but it's just one less thing to have to think about. Plus he would gross me out. And I might actually have to be nice all the time if he wasn't so pi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 06:57 PM |
| – | If You Believe Women Only Go For A-Holes, Does That Mean You Believe Married Men and Men With GF’s Are Assholes?Women in my family have had babies up to age 55 easy. My grandmother's had 9 - 10 babies each at home no issues. My great grandma had 17 at home spread out across all ages. Mom only had 3 but she picked our birthdays when she decided when to conceive. I could easily pop out babies now past 40 if I wanted and I'd most likely be thin afterwards just like I was with my daughter. I was wearing crop tops and bikinis two weeks after giving birth, flat stomach and no stretch marks and I gained 60 lbs d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/03/25 05:49 PM |
| 3 | Men complain about women dating bad boys yet men date horrible womenYou know those aren't the only two options. People are allowed to choose someone based on attraction. I get sick of hearing both men and women claiming making sure you are attracted to your SO is some kind of superficial vetting point. You know people who choose based on looks also choose based on personality the same as unattractive people do or those who claim they don't care about looks. They don't just take any attractive idiot. My husband and I have both dumped very very conventionally attr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/25 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Paternity tests should a standard part of the birthing process.Lol if he's that much of a wuss no wonder she screwed around behind his back. Again, not our problem. Some of us have good marriages. We don't want the government having our child's DNA on file. And they have always done that. One of husbands very closest friends has been a geneticist for 23&Me since the beginning. He told us many many years ago that they do in fact share that information. Any type of test an actual hospital would do would certainly be added to a database. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 05:52 PM |
| 4 | Paternity tests should a standard part of the birthing process.You do realize the war on drugs is a war on the poor. No one should allow that either. Someone who is an addict will be obvious for other reasons. They get false positives all the time. They give women many drugs at the hospital and test after and it will be in the baby. People have lost their baby for months over the medication the hospital gave them, but only of course if they are poor. A rich person wouldn't lose their baby for having weed or whatever in their system. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 05:33 PM |
| 4 | Paternity tests should a standard part of the birthing process.We only allow the ones needed for the child's health. DNA testing doesn't help make the child healthier. Therefore not necessary and not allowed. People can test their own damn baby if they want once they leave the hospital. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 05:30 PM |
| – | Paternity tests should a standard part of the birthing process.You idiots are obviously not parents and will never be not should you be. You don't give a crap about your child. Plus you are a Nazi. I'm allowed to hide anything I want because it's mine, not because I have something to hide. I once crashed a car into a tree because the passenger was moving my purse or something. If it's mine you don't touch it. Simple. We don't want our child DNA tested. They do keep records and give it to the government and have from the beginning. We have a friend that work… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/03/25 05:28 PM |
| -4 | Mandatory paternity/DNA testingThose people are just bad judges of character. I am not. I'm always right and I've pointed out to people, my husband even, multiple times... don't trust that person, this is exactly what's going to go down. And I was always always right. And I love saying "told you so". It's so deeply satisfying. I don't permit people to question me. I'm fine all on my own. It's the other people that want me around. My entire family and circle have adjusted their behavior to keep me, because I won't be questione… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 10:43 PM |
| 0 | Mandatory paternity/DNA testingExcept I don't really give a shit about other people's families or kids. None of that is my families problem. They ruined their own lives and they can deal with it. Maybe if they gave a shit about their own kids they'd have handled things before it got to that point. My child won't be DNA tested. Their DNA won't be stored by the government. My child's DNA belongs to my child. Not to the government. None of us will be DNA tested. I really don't care about any people that aren't in my circle. If y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/24 10:12 PM |
| 0 | People who only know shallow people typically are shallow themselves.Lol, what? That's not the point of a relationship. I think you have the wrong idea. Relationships aren't participation trophies and people aren't shelter pets. You don't get a pat on the back for picking the one no one else wanted when it comes to relationships. Relationships are about passion, finding someone who you are compatible with, who is enjoyable to be with for 50 years, and it helps if you can stand to look at their face that entire time. I get bored incredibly quickly. I'm like a kid … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/12/24 02:36 PM |
| 0 | Invisible women exist just as much as invisible men.I mean, that shouldn't happen unless you just ask someone out without conversation first. I never gave anyone the time of day that just walked up and started trying to get me to go out with them. Have a reason to speak to me. Doesn't have to be a great one but needs to be a reason that I would have spoken to anyone. Strike up a conversation. A normal conversation like you'd have with a friend or your aunt. Once we see something in common and we are getting along and laughing, you can usually try… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 04:39 PM |
| 3 | Why social media and dating apps have destroyed dating for average men and wreck the mental health of average womenAnd who on earth would respond? I've never used dating apps, before my time and I've been partnered with the same man since I was 21. But anyone who ever hit me up on any kind of social media platform has always been ignored or told to fuck off. Same would happen if I was single. I'm not interested in a random man no matter what he's like. I meet people organically. If someone actually had a reason to speak to me, and I liked what they had to say, then maybe MAYBE something would come of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Why do single-moms volountarily struggle alone???The put abortion clinics on every corner and let the government pay for them. It's cheaper than paying for an actual child. I told my daughter what a wonderful thing abortion was starting at age 10. Having a child young just makes things that much harder. Even when people are highschool sweethearts the guy usually disappears. I wouldn't consider someone a single mother just because they divorced, so long as dad was still around and did equal parenting. That's co-parenting, not single parenting. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 03:57 PM |
| 0 | Why do single-moms volountarily struggle alone???How would someone who isn't a single mom know what they think? Being a single mom isn't something I would have any interest in, unless I was some wealthy career woman that made a baby with donor sperm and I had so much money that I had live in nannies, housekeeper, and a chef, then no way. I only had a child when I was in a relationship with a man I knew would stick around. Sure our relationship could have failed but he would have always been an equal parent. If something happened to him though … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Why does it seem like women's hookup standards are higher than relationship standards?Most women don't want children without a partner. I was raised catholic and I would abort any resulting pregnancy. There's only been one man I'd be willing to have children with. We had a child before marriage but I absolutely knew he would do his part regardless because we had a serious relationship. We are still married. But he's the only one I would. Even if we divorced and I got with someone else, he's still the only one I'd reproduce with. Don't know how that would work but we both insist o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 02:02 PM |
| 3 | Why does it seem like women's hookup standards are higher than relationship standards?I would avoid any man who didn't have a looks standard. The type of guys who are good looking enough to get a decent looking woman but will fuck or get a bj from a woman they don't find attractive sound like desperate sex addicts. I prefer a man who would rather go without sex and use his hand than do a woman he has no interest in or desire for. Standards are attractive. Men also feel the same way, except when they're on the losing end of that thought process, like the guys here that can't seem … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 01:48 PM |
| -1 | Why does it seem like women's hookup standards are higher than relationship standards?Yeah, that sounds like a good way to end up in several pieces in a suitcase, finding a rando online. I would never recommend a woman do that. I'm from the era anyway that online dating was for people who were too pathetic to find someone in real life. I know that's not how it is anymore, supposedly. But if I were ever single again, which I don't plan to be, I'd do my best to meet someone in real life, or through someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 01:42 PM |
| 7 | What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to?Lol, you're a liar but let's pretend you aren't for a minute. She can want what she wants but she's not going to get it. I have never in my life seen a fat woman with such a man. Fat people are generally with other fat people. When a woman is fat and the husband is skinny they're usually old as fuck, like 60+. You may occasionally run into a fat fetishist where the guy is skinny with a fat woman but he's never some great catch. Usually you see a Homer and Marge Simpson type couple. Overweight ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 12:38 PM |
| 4 | What do women like in men they AREN'T attracted to?Only fat people say that. No one expects you to be with a fat woman if you aren't fat. I wouldn't be with a fat man. If my husband got fat I might not divorce him(unless he got so fat he couldn't move, that's just sickening), but sex would absolutely be out of the question. I would never allow myself to get fat, my husband has been told if I gain weight he better say something before it gets out of hand if he knows what's good for him. I'd rather be dead than be fat and unable to lose weight. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 12:31 PM |
| 1 | Women who get the ick = porn brained menOMG what is wrong with you. Everyone is asking what is emasculating about jumping on a trampoline? Literally no one thinks like that. This thing you're doing here...the way you're arguing and can't explain yourself or answer a simple question. Not very masculine of you is it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Women who get the ick = porn brained menThose ten things you listed are definitely ick and gross. My husband has never smelt bad in 22 years. I know, I'm a lucky woman. Even after doing yard work he doesn't have a gross smell, must have weird body chemistry. But beyond that he has impeccable hygiene. He doesn't do any of the things on that list. OP listed dumb stuff like being silly (jumping on a trampoline) or being clumsy occasionally or something (chasing a ping pong ball?). How is that an ick? No one can be perfect all the time an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 11:53 AM |
| 3 | Women who get the ick = porn brained menI don't even see how that would give you the ick? Cause someone's clumsy? Maybe if they were perpetually clumsy but no. I remember when I had just known my husband literally like 3 days we went to his buddies house and it was pouring down rain. I tried to run to the door and slipped on the walkway and slid into his friends BBQ. Friend came out cause of all the racket asking what the fuck he was doing. Husband just shook it off and laughed about it. I still crack up about it but at the time tried… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other womenLying just makes you look stupid and embarrassing. No wonder women won't be with you. If you were my own child I would deny your existence. "Is that your son?.." "nope never seen that loser in my life" would be my answer. That's how embarrassing the drivel you're spewing is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 05:12 AM |
| 1 | Older men pursuing younger women while belittling other womenWhat a loser. It's highly likely he wasn't the one doing the dumping. They probably dumped him when they were the ones paying for everything. He may have thought saying such things made him seem more desirable but he's an idiot. No woman wants to date a man older than 22 that does odd seasonal jobs. That's about as attractive as dating a carny. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 05:07 AM |
| – | What according to you is the real issue why so many men can't get dates/sex in this modern eraEugenics only gets a bad rap because governments use it as a way to commit genocide and keep entire races down. That's obviously wrong. Eugenics to improve humanity where the person who is procreating makes such choices is perfectly good and valid. If I had any genetic faults I would not pass that on. I wouldn't reproduce with a man that wasn't attractive, in good health, or that came from a fat family as he'd likely become fat eventually and I'm not sleeping with a man that's fat nor do I wish … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 03:26 AM |
| 6 | What according to you is the real issue why so many men can't get dates/sex in this modern eraI was born in 1982 so even though I guess you could meet people on the internet in the late 90s and early 2000s it was considered kind of a loser thing if I recall. Everyone met people in daily life. Most people I met around work, either coworkers or customers (I was a cocktail waitress in a club), or hanging out with friends. I was introduced to my husband by my coworker as she had gone to highschool with him. Somehow that meeting was meant to be as we had instant spark and within hours were du… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 02:23 AM |
| 10 | What according to you is the real issue why so many men can't get dates/sex in this modern eraIf you can't even be friends with women, how on earth are you going to get a woman to want you for more? My husband was always friends with girls from a very young age. He has slumber parties with girls in grade school. The last time he was scared to approach a girl to ask her out was in 4th grade and she said yes and he was never afraid again. Some will say no. Fuck them. He always had steady girlfriends that he had sex with from age 12 onward. He was 20 when I met him. And he was amazing from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/24 01:36 AM |
| 1 | How would you feel if the guy you're dating was much more romantically/sexually enthusiastic with his ex-girlfriend?Ok you need to understand a thing or two. How old are you? I'm 42. My husband and I have been together for 22 years. We've had the most passionate relationship. We were both dating other people when we met and within hours of meeting he dumped a girlfriend of a year. We moved in together after 4 days of knowing each other. We are still together. We've raised a daughter who is almost 18. We still have great sex and have fun together like we used to. But we're older and more tired. It's not a nons… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/12/24 09:01 PM |
| 1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.Hahaha 🤣. Nope. I was capable of falling and staying in love with one man. I've met other guys that I could probably have a relationship with sure. Most suck and are stupid. Women too. If you believe in god I already hate you and no amount of money or good looks will change my mind. Most people are believers. They would have never had a chance. I have so many other things that will make me turn someone down that have nothing to do with looks. I don't care if someone is "attractive" to others. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 03:09 PM |
| -1 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.Did you have female friends? My husband had steady sex and girlfriends from age 12. But he was always friends with girls from like age 5. He had best guy friends too but his first best friends were girls. He even had sleepovers with some girl neighbors as a little kid. I grade school there was a girl he wanted to ask to be his girlfriend. He was so scared. He asked her on the last day of 3rd grade I think. She said yes. So that taught him not to be scared. And he wasn't again. Sure girls said no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 02:48 PM |
| 0 | For average men, getting a female partner mostly comes down to luck, everything else is insignificant.I've never been cheated on. I've had a non-exclusive situationship and FWB but I was young and it wasn't my business if there was someone else but I didn't expect anything out of it. My husband would never cheat on me. He didn't think he was that good looking but when he was young he looked very similar to River Phoenix in the era he had long hair. Google "River Phoenix long hair". A lot like that. But better looking to me. Hubby had regular sex and girlfriends since age 12. He's only 5'9" thoug… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/11/24 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Men have been misblamed for the overturning of Roe v Wade; the true culprit is religious conservatives, and it's time to stop saddling liberal-minded men with collective guilt and enabling conservative women to enjoy unmerited collective innocenceNo one said they did, but neither do republicans. At least Dems CLAIM to be for something better. Hopefully they actually do something about it one day. Don't know why you'd expect anyone but you're parents to actually care about you. Politicians don't care about people. We all know this. Some are actually evil though. The ones voting for pro-life policies. If a republican was for choice then they wouldn't be evil. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 10:49 PM |
| 0 | Men have been misblamed for the overturning of Roe v Wade; the true culprit is religious conservatives, and it's time to stop saddling liberal-minded men with collective guilt and enabling conservative women to enjoy unmerited collective innocenceAnd why do you care? A person online could be anyone. A troll. Could even be a Republican fucking with you so you end up saying fuck being pro-choice. If you are an adult what one random person you don't know says shouldn't bother you. Tell them you voted for choice and then call them crazy and to fuck off if they don't shut up. Nobody is blaming you specifically for anything like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 10:46 PM |
| 2 | It feels like women are in one giant collective post-breakup phaseOur 17 yr old even goes to concerts with us. NIN, The Cure, Sisters of Mercy, Ministry, Boy Harsher, Skinny Puppy, Gary Numen, and more... we tried to go to Bauhaus but Peter Murphy cancelled to go to rehab... We're cooler to her the most of the guys that would approach her. We don't dig church or sports or Taylor Swift or whatever goes now and neither does our daughter. She has a boyfriend anyway. Wears all black with long blonde hair halfway down his back. Her friends are a variety of people t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 10:08 PM |
| 4 | If women is above 30 and a virgin is she still expired?But you've never had a woman at all. Like you know their ages. Beautiful people stay beautiful. My daughter was just showing me Facebook pictures of people she went to school with from a town we lived in temporarily years ago. My daughter is 17. So many of these 17 yr olds she used to know looked as old as 30. When I was 30 I looked 20. I recently took nudes for my husband, at age 42, my body is indistinguishable from an early 20 something with a good body. I've seen 50+ women that look 30 and 2… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 08:19 PM |
| 2 | If women is above 30 and a virgin is she still expired?Start to decline doesn't mean crap if you have normal or high fertility. What's a 10 or even 20% reduction when you only have to try once or twice to get preggers? My friend started at 38 and in 6 years had 5 babies. I know tons of 40 somethings getting pregnant easy enough with healthy kids. I know 55 yr olds who've done the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 07:54 PM |
| 1 | If women is above 30 and a virgin is she still expired?Women in my family have had babies as late as 55 accidentally. Several at 53. My mother had her last period at 55. My grandparents and great grands and their siblings all had like 9, 10 kids easy. One set has 17. At home. And they didn't start at 15. They married at a reasonable age, they were legally adults. So some of those kids were born past 40. Only one set of twins. Some people have early menopause. 40 is considered early. Most women are 50+ that I know. Having a hysterectomy doesn't count… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 07:51 PM |
| 2 | If women is above 30 and a virgin is she still expired?If you were high quality anything women would want you. You'd be rolling in it since puberty. Doesn't sound like that's the case. A virgin will always leave you. When they realize you suck and they can get better elsewhere. Unless you make sure she never talks to anyone or watches TV or the internet, she'll find out what having good sex and a good relationship is supposed to be like. It should be fun and exhilarating. You don't sound like either of those things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 07:11 PM |
| 1 | If women is above 30 and a virgin is she still expired?Nope, it is stupid. People like your single example would have trouble at 20. Women in my family have gotten pregnant accidentally as late as 55. Several of them past 50. Weren't trying. Healthy babies. My mother picked our birth months/astrological signs when having sex. My parents were 35 with me and I only took a month of trying, if you can call it that. That's how easy we get pregnant. No faulty babies, no miscarriages, grandmother gave birth at home all alone to 9 kids, great grandma did th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Why is male flesh suddenly attractive when they have money?They just want the money. If it's enough money that they can get for themselves, especially if they don't have to give up too many years of their life to him, yeah, can see that being worth it for lots of people. Men would do the same thing and have when the opportunity presents itself, it's just less likely for a woman to think sex is worth giving up money. But it still happens. That guy you mentioned by name is ugly and weird looking. Too tall and lanky. Plus I hate sports. The only sport my f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 06:16 PM |
| 0 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?Why would you care if a man has something from an ex? Adults have cared about people before you. If it ended amicably or she died why shouldn't he keep and wear it, especially if it's valuable? A nice expensive watch that complements the outfit, I'm going to notice. If he's wearing some tacky ass watch that doesn't match, I'm also going to notice, but in a bad way. Other men look at each other's watches in the business world. My husband has convos with other men about watches each other wear all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 05:33 AM |
| 2 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?He's not going to listen. So many guys look deformed after because they did it wrong or over did it. Too much bulk is gross. I like the body on Michelangelo's David. The muscle definition in that sculpture is pretty much perfection. It's arms could have a little more bulk perhaps and not look like a freak. You've got to keep your body proportionate. My husband is broader now as he's aged and slightly bigger arms and legs than "David" but his musculature looks great, he's still got a nice proport… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 05:22 AM |
| 0 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?What is provocative? We need to know that first. Again if I were trying to impress a man, it's more about how well my clothes look on me, how perfect the outfit fits. An outfit with more covering fabric can look so much sexier than some tiny pieces of fabric if the out fit is fitted properly and showcases the curves underneath the best way. It doesn't even have to be skin tight. A well fitted outfit looks amazing. Most of those tiny dress dresses some people wear are cheap and don't fit well and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 05:06 AM |
| 1 | Why do women dress provocatively if they don't like most men?What do you even call "provocative"? Of course I always wore attractive clothes around other women. I wore sexy clothes. I don't wear trash clothes. I think nicer stuff looks sexier. Like if you are going to wear a short mini skirt, get an expensive one and wear it with a shirt that covers enough. I wouldn't wear a mini with a crop top past age 15, just kinda tacky and cheap looking. I'll wear a low cut top but with pants or a pencil skirt to my knees. Even in front of men, that's sexier than so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 04:59 AM |
| 1 | Do men see women as "expired" after 25 now?I had just turned 21 when I met my husband. He was 20. I'm 42. I was almost 25 when baby was born. I could still get pregnant. I know I could. All the women in my family are very fertile and had lots of healthy babies easily. I have a great grandma that had 17 babies at home. One grandma has 6 and the other 9. My mom essentially picked our birth months/astrological signs when having sex, and I'm 13 years younger than my next closest brother. I have female relatives that got naturally (accidental… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 04:35 AM |
| 0 | Do men see women as "expired" after 25 now?That's the same for me as a woman. Aging isn't what bothers me in my man, (although I do miss his hair but I've gotten past that.) I don't want him to get fat. That would be a problem for our sex life. He wouldn't like me fat either. Luckily he doesn't have to worry because I wouldn't like me fat or flabby. I've gained a little weight in 20+ years but it's the sexy kind of weight. I'd cut out the sugar or get lipo and a physical trainer if I thought I needed it ever. I wouldn't personally be int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 04:25 AM |
| 2 | Do men see women as "expired" after 25 now?Are you going to listen to people that don't even have a woman? I know old women that date and get married no problem. Some of them to really awesome men. A lot of men think dating younger is gross. My husband thinks anyone in their 20s looks like kids and act like kids and at 42 the youngest he'd consider is 35, but would prefer a woman born early 1980s because of the way we grew up in that era. More in common. I looked my most amazing at 28 to 29. I didn't even begin to age till almost 35. Lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 04:03 AM |
| 1 | Do men see women as "expired" after 25 now?Honey you shouldn't let the number get to you. People look how they look. Some look younger, some look older, the exact age doesn't usually matter. No one should even be thinking like this at 25. Who wouldn't rather be 30 but beautiful than 19 but average looks? Same thing with weight. I judge if I need to lose weight by looking in the mirror. I don't worry what a scale says. I looked my absolute best at 28-29. Of course even as old as 35 many people still thought I was 21 or younger, but I know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/24 02:44 AM |
| 4 | Do men see women as "expired" after 25 now?Those people had trouble in their 20s too. I know a lot of 20 somethings that have 3 or 4 kids all with mega disabilities. No one in my family ever had a kid with any disability other than maybe ADHD. My great grandmother had 17 kids. My grandparents had 6(paternal) and 9(maternal) kids. My parents had 3 but mom decided when she wanted us born when having sex. Women as old as 55 have gotten pregnant naturally and had healthy babies in my family. I could have a kid just as easily now as I did 20 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 10:37 PM |
| 2 | If you're an average or below average man, don't waste your time with dating apps.I've been with my husband 22 years. Maybe their were apps back then, I don't remember. Either way I've never used one. Apps remind me of those goofy personals in newspapers back in the day. I've always met guys naturally. And I was actually introduced to my husband, a girl I worked with thought I'd like her friend. Those don't usually work out either but we were both dating other people anyways. We dumped them both a few hours after meeting. Guess my coworker knew me better than I thought. Or it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 07:32 PM |
| 1 | If you're an average or below average man, don't waste your time with dating apps.You need a reason to speak to someone. You don't just stop someone doing whatever and expect them to talk to you. Would you do that to a man or a child? No you wouldn't. The same rules that apply to start up a conversation with others apply to women also. There needs to be some reason to speak to them. And you need to have a normal friendly conversation like you would to get to know any type of person. If that goes well, then you can maybe try asking them out. Otherwise expect to get pepper spra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 07:24 PM |
| 0 | If you're an average or below average man, don't waste your time with dating apps.I've never asked anyone to open up. If you can't say it in 20 words or less, chances are I don't want to hear it. Write me a letter or something I can read on my own time. This applies to men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 07:10 PM |
| 0 | The bar is in hell for womenMy husband has already given me everything. I haven't worked in years. He put my name on everything, even everything he inherited so far, which no one has to and I didn't ask. He pays the mortgage. He put $140,000 down payment on our house and I put $40,000. We're equal on our deed. But I'm not responsible for the mortgage. We're also equal on the other house from his mother. If he dies I get about a million in life insurance and twice that if it's an accident. He's taken care of me all because … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 06:30 AM |
| 1 | The dynamic of age gap relationships is multilayered...The whole jealous thing is hilarious. Someone who was hot and thing when young is probably still just as hot at 30 and attractive enough at 40 so long as they didn't totally let themselves go. Not every young person is beautiful. Most people are average. So young isn't really a thing to be jealous of beyond wishing you still were because 10 years simply wasn't enough time for all the wild partying I'd have liked to do plus the world was more fun back then to me. I'm certainly not jealous of some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 05:56 AM |
| 1 | The dynamic of age gap relationships is multilayered...When I was 20 I was FWB with a guy who was 30. We'd hang out now and then and have sex. That was fine. No control, no relationship. He was attractive and cool. Ladies man. Someone like Brad Pitt could get who he wants at an older age and no one's gonna think much of it because he has things younger women might want. Still attractive, money, fame. Most older men are predators however. Everything about it is gross from all sides. These men probably have kids the age of the woman. Bad fathers, bad … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 05:03 AM |
| 11 | Do women who engaged in lots of casual sex, inherently love the man they wind up marrying, differently than those who did not?I slept with my husband within 24 hours of meeting him. We had sex 5 or 6 times that night. We didn't even make it home from where we were before starting. Car ride back was crazy. We'd taken ecstasy. A friend was driving us cause we were wasted. I moved in with him within a week. We've been together 22 years. We tied the knot about 9 years in, our kid was 4 then. You marry cause of love and compatibility. Doesn't really matter how you start out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/11/24 02:39 AM |
| 3 | Why do you think so many women have the same dating issueIf someone actually wants to be with you they will be with you regardless of how soon sex happens. When I met my husband I dumped the guy I was seeing and he dumped his girlfriend of a year. We did this just hours after meeting. I slept with him at right about 24 hours after meeting. Think we did it 5 or 6 times that night and we started before we got back to his place. A few days later I had moved into his apartment with him. We were like 20 years old. That was 22 years ago. Our kid is a senior… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/24 01:46 AM |
| 1 | Virgin men that are rejectedPeople have control over how many birthdays they've had? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 08:02 PM |
| 1 | Is marriage worth it? How many marriages are actually happy and how many suck in your experience/circles? Why are most people pursuing this goal?My husband and I are 42. Been living together 22 years, we moved in together after knowing each other just a few days, literally. We had a child a few years later, and got married on our 9th anniversary(at the courthouse). Kid is 17 now. We are atheists so nothing dumb like religion keeps us together. We still have fun and want to be together. We still love each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 06:39 PM |
| 2 | Is marriage worth it? How many marriages are actually happy and how many suck in your experience/circles? Why are most people pursuing this goal?I think that's very true. I could have had a wedding. I was the only girl grandchild on my side and both our parents had money to throw a huge wedding. My husband and I moved in together 3 days after meeting. We had a child 4-5 years later and one morning on our anniversary date after dropping her off at kindergarten we went to the courthouse to get married. She's 17 and we've been together 22 years. Never regretted not having a wedding. And I'm a girl that likes fancy shit. I think we're the on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/24 06:30 PM |
| 5 | The most common argument against financial abortion is easily refuted. What remains is mostly misandryWhich is why abortion should be encouraged as a valid option after every positive pregnancy test, and religion should be mocked in such a a setting. I'd abort any pregnancy that wasn't desired by both parents and with a man I was sure would stick around for the kid. Once I found that guy I decided his kids were the only ones. If he'd died or something, I'd refuse to have more. Don't ask me why some women have the child of a one night stand. I can only assume they are nuts or have some lingering … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/10/24 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: woman in the gym appears to be pinned under the weights and needs assistance. What do you do?Yes, you must be right. Not even a good troll post, just weird... It's a real head scratcher. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 06:47 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: woman in the gym appears to be pinned under the weights and needs assistance. What do you do?Also maybe you should read this story you keep posting. It's not an example of men getting in trouble for trying to save a woman. It's an example of idiot Liverpool police. The woman was dead for hours crushed by an armoire. The EMTs guided him on the phone to do CPR. They said he could go. Police came and arrested him, some other men, and one of the woman's friends. They were released shortly after, all of them. The woman's family was horrified these people were briefly arrested. It was obvious… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 06:38 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: woman in the gym appears to be pinned under the weights and needs assistance. What do you do?Women help men all the time in a public place. If you're trying to pull a Ted Bundy or Buffalo Bill by asking for help in an isolated situation or by your open car trunk, then yeah our reaction is eff you. Too many people have been lured and kidnapped in such a way. We teach children as soon as they are big enough to be 10 ft away from us to never do such a thing. In a public and security monitored gym a woman would help the same as a man. I wouldn't think it wise for a man to allow himself to b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 06:30 AM |
| 2 | Q4M: woman in the gym appears to be pinned under the weights and needs assistance. What do you do?Have you seen Blade Runner? This sounds just like the questions they use to catch a replicant. The Leon scene with the question about the flipped over tortoise in the desert. This reminds me exactly of that. I guess OP is trying to figure out who is AI or something.... 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 06:14 AM |
| 6 | CMfV: Most abortions constitute child sacrificeA fetuses brain isn't developed and connected to the rest of the nervous system until 28 weeks gestation. And even after it's barely aware. But before 28 weeks it's like being brain dead. It knows nothing. It can't feel anything because the brain isn't developed or connected to pain receptors yet. Without a functional brain, pain receptors do nothing. It literally doesn't care before then. My child didn't start doing crazy responsive movements in my belly till after 28 weeks. Seven months was wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 05:41 AM |
| 2 | CMfV: Most abortions constitute child sacrificeIf we don't allow people to control their own reproduction now, it's going to be a shit show someday. We will one day be so overpopulated, maybe much like a dystopia. I can't predict exactly when that will be, but it will happen. Animals are already disappearing from Earth. We are already running low on many resources compared to what they were 50 years ago. What's 100 more years and billions more people going to look like? What about famine? The same soil can't always be planted without a break… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 05:27 AM |
| 1 | Women, what’s the one quality in a man that instantly makes you interested?A hot guy with a nasally voice will turn many women off. An average looking English guy with no money can get a girl if she likes his accent. American women love other accents. And I've seen unattractive men that had amazing voices and it at least made me stop and think about his amazing voice. I'd prefer both hot and a voice I like but I could sacrifice some amount of looks for a fab voice. Stop running around saying "nuh uh" like a douchebag to everything everyone says just cause you don't lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 04:53 AM |
| 2 | Women, what’s the one quality in a man that instantly makes you interested?He doesn't even know what worldly is. What he's describing is a broken person full of trauma, the walking dead basically. Worldly people want new experiences of every kind. Usually sophisticated. Definitely educated. Want to meet and will respect people different than them. Will be respectful of totally different cultural norms. The opposite of those weird christian missionaries that preach and bring bibles to people suffering a famine in places like Africa instead of bringing food and an open m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Women, what’s the one quality in a man that instantly makes you interested?Confidence and charisma. You can notice that right away. Yeah he needs to look attractive to me. I was always the most attracted to a guy who looked good with long hair. But confident, charismatic, witty, smart, fun/funny. Appreciating the same music and an atheist, though those are learned after talking for a little bit. Politeness need to fit in somewhere. I like a good nihilistic asshole, I really do, but obviously don't want some hooligan. An asshole that knows when to be polite and kind. So… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 04:34 AM |
| 2 | Women, what’s the one quality in a man that instantly makes you interested?How many times do I have to explain this over and over? Feel like a broken record here. My life experience proves you wrong. Do we want someone as tall as us or within a few inches? Yes probably. A specific height no. Even 5'4" guys have relationships. I had plenty of options at any given time of different variety. I'm 5'8"-5'9" from a Czech family and I looked like an actual model from ages 14 to 30 something. Was dating a guy who was 6'4". Good prospects. Nice guy. Hot. Looked a lot like Ryan … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/24 04:12 AM |
| 2 | Porn is not cheatingI've never cared about porn. I watch it myself if I want. My husband doesn't like much porn, really only amateur stuff, a woman alone masturbating type of thing. A lot of porn is so fake and ridiculous. He would only use it if he had insomnia and I was sick and said no sex, which is rare, if he absolutely can't sleep I don't mind a quickie at all even if I wasn't in the mood for more. I'm not at all insecure about such things. I know what he likes and how much he likes me. I've never been insecu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 04:30 PM |
| 0 | Porn is not cheatingMen always orgasm when they have sex, unless he's faulty or something, ED, though they have solutions for many men. Women don't work that way. Penetrative sex, does not give something like 85% or 90% of women, orgasms. There are some, probably quite a few, men's wives have never had an orgasm with them. So they either have to masturbate or he needs to improve or lose her. We have a friend who's wife has done some major evil cheating in their relatively new marriage. Yeah she sucks. Not going int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 04:12 PM |
| -4 | Why is men’s dating advice “you are wrong”, and women’s “he is wrong”?I remember being on vacation with my family in San Francisco when I was around 18. I went down to the pool, got in the hot tub. This little 12 year old boy, he was a cute kid, came and literally started chatting me up. It was funny but he wasn't scared. Pretty damn witty for a 12 year old. He had a response for everything. At one point he pulled that stunt you see in movies where a couple on a date are at the drive in and the guy stretches to put his arm around the girl. The last thing he said b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/24 02:15 AM |
| 11 | How do you think the world would look if there were more absent mothers?People would still get pregnant stupidly. But even more women would seek abortions. People who usually decide they are in love and want a baby would definitely cut back on making them in some way. It's possible even christian women would seek abortions if something collectively caused most women to no longer desire motherhood. Lot's of babies are wanted by the mother or they are at least open to them or not strictly opposed. If most of us immediately felt the way the strictest child free woman f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 10:52 PM |
| 20 | How do you think the world would look if there were more absent mothers?Because lots of them already don't want the kid. If they had to do everything even less would be open to children. Births would plummet. Women aren't going through the dangers and trauma and life changing bodily functions of pregnancy and childbirth just to make a baby for someone else. Even money wouldn't make it worth it for most women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 09:26 PM |
| 2 | The notion that women prefer to be interested in only one man is bad advice from the Red Pill ManosphereHe doesn't know the difference between a user name and a flair, and believes something you chose can actually insult you. How dumb. He could be the handsomest male alive and still fail with women with those brains and insecurities. When they realize insecurity is the most unattractive thing they'll have more luck. Insecure men are as sexy as a gross slug. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 07:46 PM |
| 1 | The notion that women prefer to be interested in only one man is bad advice from the Red Pill ManosphereIf she's getting regular sex she's obviously attractive and has charisma cause it sounds like she doesn't entertain losers and unattractive men. She's not the one making posts lamenting her life and failures so I'm going to assume she's pretty damn satisfied. You sound exactly like a 5 year old that's crying because someone else got something you wanted. Sounds like you should get used to disappointment. It must really suck to not get your way. I wouldn't know what that's like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 2 | The notion that women prefer to be interested in only one man is bad advice from the Red Pill ManosphereIf a woman left you for another man the relationship was total crap. She wasn't gonna keep you anyway. Happy people don't look elsewhere. When I left someone for someone else, it wasn't even a real relationship we had. We were still working towards that. Hadn't spoken about being exclusive totally yet. There was an awkwardness to it. I was introduced to my husband. Coworker said I'd love her friend, we had so much in common. She invited me to a party I turned down but regretted it but couldn't f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 07:23 PM |
| 2 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADA virgin is more likely to run off on you when she realizes you maybe were a bad idea and she catches wind the sex may be bad from talking to other women. I would never recommend someone marry their very first sex/relationship. Some still try and a few are successful but I don't know of any personally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 12:25 PM |
| 1 | N COUNTS WEEKLY DISCUSSION THREADNope, impossible. Like defies the laws of physics, for me. He needs to be attractive to ME. Even married. If my husband got fat I couldn't do it till he lost some weight. Horniness requires more than that though for most women. Stress doesn't help. Fun does. A chill atmosphere. Good attitude. I'm really susceptible to the stresses of real life but many women say the same thing. Also don't smell bad. My husband has the absolute best hygiene and even when dirty and sweaty from working in the hot s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 12:15 PM |
| 3 | For those of you who think sex as a teenager is really important, what do you think can make up for it not happening then?The longer you take the less women are going to be willing. Once you get over 19-20 it probably gets a lot harder. Women will either think there's something wrong with you that you never sealed the deal. They might think it had been a religious thing. I have no interest in a religious man or one who believed in waiting till marriage past the age he was old enough to think for himself. Also if sex is bad I really wouldn't give someone another try. My spouse was 20 when we met and lost his virgini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 03:22 AM |
| 3 | For those of you who think sex as a teenager is really important, what do you think can make up for it not happening then?I would just think you religious honestly and because I think religion is dumb and waiting till marriage even dumber I'd roll my eyes at the idea. If I knew there was some other reason like you said of course not. Not that it's a anyone's business what your personal reasons are. Sorry people did that to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 03:00 AM |
| 3 | For those of you who think sex as a teenager is really important, what do you think can make up for it not happening then?I had a female friend that at around age 19 or something she was hooking up with a guy a few years older and when he found out she was a virgin he said no that he didn't want to teach her or something. She was nervous of the next boyfriend doing that but all was good after. Think she married him eventually. But it can happen but yeah it's different. Because some men place importance on virginity or getting there first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 02:57 AM |
| 3 | For those of you who think sex as a teenager is really important, what do you think can make up for it not happening then?That's still kid sex. Not that teens can't experiment but it's different. And they are probably way more self conscious about some things and it's not as good. It's practice for normal sex sure but adults are different. The girl in your story had some years of experience but probably pretty vanilla stuff. And multiple partners don't mean much if you only screw them a few times. Someone in a relationship with someone they trust is have much more sex, less awkward sex and probably more adventurous… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 02:48 AM |
| 6 | Proposals for child support reformDon't agree. I mean I would in the situation of a one night stand baby I guess. Like what kind of crazy woman wants to keep one of those. I would not keep any baby unless I knew the father was staying and taking responsibility. I had a baby with one man and wouldn't have any with anyone else no matter what. However in a marriage where you LOVE each other and intentionally had or decided to keep the baby then you should want to provide for them. My husband put my name on everything including inhe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/24 02:21 AM |
| 1 | When women say "I have a boyfriend," it is usually still a personal rejectionIt's not cheating if you don't keep them. Husband and I met like that. A friend of his I worked with wanted us to meet. I was dating a guy. My guy wasn't my exclusive boyfriend, I really wouldn't have called him boyfriend quite yet anyway, we were still working to that and he was kinda bland and it felt a little awkward still. He was beautiful and nice and tall and wonderful but something was missing. Husband had a girlfriend of a year who by all accounts was amazing and gorgeous (I've seen her,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 11:48 PM |
| 2 | Women - do you judge your friends who engage in affairs with married men?These people probably drop people at the hint of any social embarrassment. I wouldn't drop a childhood friend unless they did something truly heinous. Hurting kids or animals, that sort of nasty thing. I'm not giving up the best friend I ever had because someone else doesn't like it. I don't care if other people trust them, I care if I can trust them. They wouldn't screw me over. My husband wouldn't screw me over. Also my husband would not be interested in my friends anyway even if they were all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women - do you judge your friends who engage in affairs with married men?Do you even have any childhood friends still? You don't keep those by talking behind backs. Yeah we'll talk about each other about things someone is going through but we would tell each other to each others face we had been, like out of concern, with permission kind of thing. Nobody trash talks each other from that group. When you've know a group of women for 35 years it's like sisters almost and siblings would talk to each other about a sibling having troubles so long as no one is estranged. Bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:29 PM |
| 1 | Women - do you judge your friends who engage in affairs with married men?My girlfriends from childhood that I've known for like 35 years? One girl I've been best friends with since we were 3. That's 39 years. No they are like sisters, they'd have to do something truly evil to stop talking to them. I wouldn't care who they slept with. If they were cheating on their own husband I wouldn't care unless they have kids involved and then I'd just give them a good talking to cause it's messed up to mess up your kids home life. I'm not friends with their husbands. None have d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:22 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?It's not though? As a woman I care a lot more about my partner being fat than I do height. I'm not short. I'm like 5'8.5" or 5'9". You'd think I'd care how tall a guy is but I don't. I like them as tall as me at least and I dumped a hot 6'4" guy for one who was 5'9" and that's who I'm married to. I did have a fwb thing with a guy who was 5'7" once. He was hot and a ladies man despite his height, and we were friends and hooked up few times but I wouldn't have dated him for several reasons. I look… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 08:03 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Which of these dating preferences is acceptable?Anything is acceptable in selecting a partner. I wouldn't date a fat man or continue having sex with a man I was with if he got fat. I don't care about height beyond him being as tall as me. I dumped a hot 6'4" guy for my spouse who's about 5'9". He was more attractive to me in every way. Would it have been nice if he were a little taller? Sure I guess. But if I cared I wouldn't have made that choice. He was too awesome to pass up. I wouldn't date someone shorter though, unless maybe a fraction … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Women SHOULD only aim to reproduce with the top 20% of menStill doesn't mean you'll get a woman. If I was forced to go with man I didn't choose, I'd wait till he fell asleep and kill him. The government would probably bomb anyone rioting over such a thing considering the government obviously approves of this hypothetical situation where only the best reproduce. The best option to not end up someday in a situation where any government or group needs to care about the quality of reproduction is to not overpopulate now. Make abortion a valid option for ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Women SHOULD only aim to reproduce with the top 20% of menBeing motherly has nothing to do with producing a child with good characteristics. Someone who would be an excellent mother but who has some disease or genetic issues that she doesn't wish to pass on to a child could buy eggs from a woman who has zero interest in ever having her own children. Finances have nothing to with genetics either. Drive does perhaps but that very likely has equal to do with nurture instead of nature. Some people are driven to make money but other are driven to be happy a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Women SHOULD only aim to reproduce with the top 20% of menDo you not understand how genetics work? A child can get any combination of genes or features from either parent and it's possible to get something grandma had. Two beautiful people each from beautiful families might combine to make a not so attractive effect. Their next kid might get the right combo of features that looks fabulous. Two uglies could theoretically make an attractive kid, though certainly two beautiful people are most likely to have pretty kids. My kid came out looking pretty much… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Women SHOULD only aim to reproduce with the top 20% of menI've told my husband straight up that I'm with him cause I love him and he's attractive to me but if he'd had bad genetics I'd have gone to the sperm bank. Same for me with eggs. He laughed but we're only half joking. Why make a child that has a high likelihood of suffering some way. I also didn't want an ugly kid. Two pretties can make an ugly, two uglies can make a pretty, it happens. I thought the features I find attractive in my husband would compliment mine in a baby. Daughter looks pretty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 06:24 PM |
| 1 | Women SHOULD only aim to reproduce with the top 20% of menWe do have IVF but that could present problems when all the children are related to each other. I didn't think about selling eggs till I was too old but my whole life I've literally been one of those people that could eat ANYTHING and not gain weight or lose my figure. I used to get a box of little Debbie brownies and donut sticks every day and eat them all in one sitting, in addition to the multiple Dr. Peppers, pastas loaded with cheese and whole cream sauces, pizza, ice cream, whatever I want… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 06:12 PM |
| 1 | Who you associate with reflects on you.Nice people are fake. Unless you're speaking of someone you know, nice people aren't really nice. Christians claim niceness and many can be the most garbage people. I don't trust anyone who looks too "nice". Scary looking people can be much kinder. I'm not usually nice. I can be evil. Vengeful. But I'm kind to animals and the humans that deserve it and other than that I prefer to keep to myself and my family. Niceness is a facade for dealing with people I don't know and don't want to know when s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 05:08 PM |
| 3 | Are there certain sex acts you'd perform with some men but not others due to how hot you find them?Men can be the biggest crybabies. Whiny. And worse. My husband has said I have the emotions of a spider. People often have trouble reading me, even those closest to me. Stoic, silent and mean I've been called. I definitely feel of course but don't always show it outwardly. Anger is the most difficult to control but that's true universally I imagine. I can write them but find it difficult to speak my feelings very often. My husband is more emotional than me, at least in showing and speaking. Who'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 04:40 AM |
| 11 | Are there certain sex acts you'd perform with some men but not others due to how hot you find them?Me too. I have to find them attractive. Dated one guy though with long hair and piercing eyes that I thought was attractive and so did other women. I saw him after we called it off and he'd cut his hair and he was really ugly to me. So guess with him the hair blinded me to it and hair really helped him. But regardless of what others think he must be attractive to me. I always liked my guys to look kinda like goth vampires. Hubs looks normal now and it's all good but I still like the long haired … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/24 04:09 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: How would a guy know if she is taking her time versus. stringing him along?I don't have to tell anyone anything. If I wanted to have sex with someone I did. Everyone I did willingly (which wasn't many), it was fairly fast. My husband I went home with 2 hrs after meeting him but we didn't even kiss. We talked all night. I slept next to him in his bed with him wearing boxers but we never touched that night. The following night we went out to a club, he gave me some MDMA for my first time trying it and we had sex like 5 times when we got back there (and maybe on the way t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap?I had some older guys that gave me money when I was young. I worked at a bar/club as waitress or working the door. I was cute, big smile, pretended to be nice, and had conversations with these guys. Never had sex, never dated, didn't even kiss these people. The one guy when he brought me an envelope with $8,000 cash(that was the biggest sum at once but he'd also given me $5,000, $3000 and $500-$1000 many times) in it to my job I gave him a hug and a peck on the cheek. Those kinda things happened… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Why feminist and people see the "gender gap" as an "advantage" but not the spending or dating up gap?I do. I worked when we were young before we had our kid and afterwards here and there. I'm not the best housewife. Way more Peggy Bundy than June Cleaver. I have my ways of making cleaning easier. I do the lawn and all that, built every piece of furniture that's come in the house, minor repairs, stuff that guys usually do, so they say. But yeah, I have access to all my husband's income and he put my name on his inheritance/assets from his mom. We're equally on the deed to the house but he's the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 07:26 PM |
| 2 | If An Attractive Guy Were To Ask You Out in Person And You Simply Said No Because You Didn’t Know Him, What Could He Do To Change Your Mind?He may be attractive but doesn't mean I think so. I have a type. If anything lead me to believe someone is christian or other religion I'm not gonna bother giving a chance. If he sounded stupid or approached at an inopportune time or anything else I didn't like then the answer was always no. Sometimes people just don't want to deal with people or aren't interested and nothing else really matters. Not even looks at those times. I do care about looks. The looks I like. But I care about other stuff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 06:57 PM |
| 1 | What is flirting to you?Times are different I guess? Us 80s and 90s kids lived in a different time. Having a conversation didn't mean flirting. Being nice doesn't mean flirting. I don't know what goes through a 20 yr olds mind nowadays so I can't say. Don't know why anyone would think a normal human interaction would be anything more. Men were more aggressive back when I was young. I had several incidents where I was pumping gas or trying to get back in my car somewhere where men actually cornered me and put their hand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 06:34 PM |
| 2 | What is flirting to you?People are different and so is every situation. I will tell you I never went out with guys who just walked up to me to ask me out. There needed to be some reason to talk. And he needs to talk to me like he would to someone he's not planning on asking out first before starting the flirting. Have a human conversation first, then flirt. I was introduced to my husband by a coworker. He came to the bar/club we worked at to meet me. I took a break to sit with him. He was really smooth and comfortable.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 06:07 PM |
| 0 | What age are you willing to date? In your relationship what is the age gap?Plenty of women can get pregnant later just fine. The thing is they maybe don't want to. I know lots of women in their 20s that suffer infertility or have multiple kids with major disabilities. Several women in my family got naturally pregnant at age 53. Mom picked her kids birth months. Meaning she picked when to have sex and was successful all 3 times. I got pregnant on birth control, didn't keep it, then the one time we tried on purpose years later we got a baby. My best friend is 43 and in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 05:47 PM |
| 1 | What age are you willing to date? In your relationship what is the age gap?Lots of 20 year old women don't even look good. They are out of shape or aren't attractive and plenty look so much older than they are. There are some haggard looking people in their 20s. I remember one time at my SILs business years ago when I was 32 and another woman was 21. The other people there kept treating me like I was some young kid and her like she was older than me. It finally came out where they guessed our ages. They thought she looked 30 and they guessed I was 21. You could see on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 05:19 PM |
| 2 | What age are you willing to date? In your relationship what is the age gap?Lots of 20 year old women don't even look good. They are out of shape or aren't attractive and plenty look so much older than they are. There are some haggard looking people in their 20s. I remember one time at my SILs business years ago when I was 32 and another woman was 21. The other people there kept treating me like I was some young kid and her like she was older than me. It finally came out where they guessed our ages. They thought she looked 30 and they guessed I was 21. You could see on … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 05:18 PM |
| 1 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?Lol, don't make me laugh. I've never watched a romcom in my entire life. I watch sci Fi and horror and adult swim cartoons. I've watched every incarnation of Star Trek. My husband and I were goth kids when we met and we're hardcore atheists. Romcoms have nothing to do with either of our lives. And yes when we met it was instant attraction. There was literal music too because I worked in a club and one of the waitresses I worked with wanted me to meet a friend of hers from when she was in highsch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 12:01 PM |
| 2 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?My husband has a pretty narrow type of what he finds most attractive and he'd hold out for it. Based on his ex's I know this is obvious. But he's always treated me amazingly. 22 years now. He loves to talk to me, we have deep existential conversations. I can't even get him to have guy's night outs but maybe once a year, he prefers being with the family. He'd also dump an attractive girl quick that was stupid or ridiculous or had nothing in common. There was one long ago I heard about that was so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 05:24 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?People don't only want attraction. They want attraction plus everything else. It's not as superficial as you make it seem. Great looks with a shit or stupid personality or toxic behavior isn't going to work, obviously. But I wouldn't want someone I wasn't attracted to. It wasn't necessary anyway. I was a beautiful girl. It was possible to find someone that worked for me on everything that mattered and I did find him. I did sacrifice on height. As long as he's the same height as me that's enough.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 04:29 AM |
| 2 | How would you feel if your bf/husband said he wasn’t initially attracted to you?I don't have to worry about that. My husband is very picky and narrow about what he likes and would rather use his hand that get with someone that wasn't his type. I know what his exes looked like. They were all gorgeous and he very much has a type. We were introduced by a friend. He saw me when he came in and asked about me. Luckily he was told I was the one he was meeting. He couldn't believe it at first. He said he would have ditched the girl he was suppose to meet and take his chances with m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?I believe that too. I love my husband so much. We had a lot of drama and problems in our youth and some toxicity but we saw it through and came out on top and were in love every step of the way. We moved in together after a few days and it's been 22 years. I really believe he's the one. I could love another but I don't think I could love them as much as him. If we live multiple lives then I want him again. We're together as much as is humanly possible since the beginning. I usually quickly get a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 03:36 AM |
| 1 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?Sometimes there just isn't something better than what you've already had and maybe I wouldn't want it anyway. There's a part of me the relishes pain. And I would probably choose to live that way for a long time. Fostering some bottle baby kittens over and over would make me very happy though. I'd do that. Even if my husband were dead I'd still consider him my current husband. I'd always keep his name. I'd keep his ashes on my nightstand. Our kid will get all our stuff. Don't really see how I cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Would you be with someone after your partner sacrifice their life for you?I'd be worried about my kid and the assets I intend for them to receive. My husband wouldn't marry. But pretending he did, that could be very problematic unless he gave daughter everything and had to beg her for his own money when needed. That's the only way marriage could be acceptable. You don't need marriage to be happy, we only married to protect the FAMILY financially. I expect an older person to have their own shit already. When it comes to views on who inherits I'm a damn near psychopath … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Why do women always respond with stuff like “do I know you?” and “how did you find me” or act shocked or like it’s so bizarre you would approach them in person or online?Guy's need female friends as a youngster. Husband always had female friends as a child and was never awkward or afraid to speak to girls. He was smooth as hell when we met. Even after a bad day of adulting when we reminisce about meeting I still get horny talking about it, that's how cool he was. Not from being a player, he likes relationships, but from being comfortable with women. These men don't see any benefits to being friends with women. And if they try they expect it to pay off immediatel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 02:34 AM |
| 2 | Why do women always respond with stuff like “do I know you?” and “how did you find me” or act shocked or like it’s so bizarre you would approach them in person or online?Plus attractive women either have a partner or don't want one at the moment. I've never gone out with someone who approached me randomly and I don't know anyone else either. Even if the guy is attractive just coming up to me in public isn't gonna work. Everyone I ever went out with at least had a reason to begin speaking to me based on the situation and they carried a conversation first, like a human conversation. Like you would with anyone. Then they asked. My husband was introduced to me and I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 02:10 AM |
| 2 | CMV: women should not sign prenupsPrenup aren't needed for that. Inheritance and pre marital assets aren't included in marital assets. Just don't put it in the same account as your paycheck and you are fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 12:35 AM |
| 1 | CMV: women should not sign prenupsIncome is marital assets. That's normal without a prenup anyway. Pre-marital assets and inheritance belong to one person. Why would you have right to that unless they wanted to share? Prenup may be in your best interest actually. We didn't have a prenup cause we married young and had nothing then. He's given me half of his inheritance and everything. I'm on the deed but he's the only one on the mortgage so I could take half the house and he'd be stuck paying unless a judge decided otherwise. But… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 12:33 AM |
| 3 | CMV: women should not sign prenupsUgh, later life marriages, second marriages should always sign a prenup. This can protect women too. It's different when you are young and build things together. My husband and I share everything, even things we legally don't have to regardless, like inheritance and parental large gifts of money. If my husband dies or we divorced for some reason, I probably wouldn't remarry but if I did, all my assets would already be in a trust for my daughter. I ain't sharing shit. My kid from my marriage come… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/24 12:10 AM |
| 1 | How would you react if your daughter publicly accused a man of SA, and he denied it?A two year old knows if someone is asleep. An adult is required to know this. You make sure someone is responding to you before you start or resume anything. Unless this is a solid relationship where you have previous PERMISSION to attempt sleep sex purposely and you know and trust that person well enough to know they won't change their mind without telling you and they don't have any sort of problematic mental issues, you should not attempt it. If someone you just met gave you permission to try… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 11:59 PM |
| 1 | How would you react if your daughter publicly accused a man of SA, and he denied it?Fucking a sleeping person is SA. You must be brainless if you can't tell a sleeping person. Awake people are capable of speaking. And responding. Don't have sex with a sleeping person if you don't know them extensively, like a relationship and have permission. I have given my husband permission back when we started dating. Like to purposely try when I'm asleep. Only a few times has he succeeded in finishing before I woke. But it's fun to try. Sometimes we still joke about the first time early on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 11:44 PM |
| -2 | Guys who did escorts - did/would you tell your SO?Lots of reasons. If a guy is a virgin past a certain age it's probably gonna affect his confidence and actions. Also the sex is gonna be bad. If sex is bad I'm not having it again. My husband lost his virginity at 12 and he liked having a long term girlfriend so he was having regular sex all through highschool with someone he could try stuff with for lack of a better word. So by the time I met him when he was 20 it was good and fun and he was confident and things went very smoothly and weren't w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 09:58 PM |
| -7 | Guys who did escorts - did/would you tell your SO?Because it shows desperation. Any young guy that has to pay for sex wouldn't be good enough for me. I wouldn't have to know about the escort you see. He would reek of being a loser. There's a confidence that comes with knowing you can get what you want and that they want you too. And people can see that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 09:38 PM |
| 2 | Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental.People don't ONLY date for looks unless they're one dimensional. People need a full package. Looks, personality, stuff in common, common goals. Otherwise it won't last. Attraction is required to WANT to start dating. You don't know them right? But they're cute so you give it a chance. If they are dicks or stupid or boring then it doesn't matter how good looking. But I also can't have sex without some level of attraction. It's impossible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 08:23 PM |
| 5 | Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental.You sound pathetic. You want a pity date and pity sex? Like that's the definition of pathetic. I wouldn't date anyone that my family thought was good. Guy's that think they are good are annoying and generally not good in relationships. I won't have anything to do with any guy who is any kind of religious or believes in god. I only like atheists or some kind of occultist is ok. My family is catholic so no go. My husband wore all black when I met him, had long hair, "satanic" tattoos, piercings, d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental.Ha! Individuals live their lives for themselves. I don't think about things that don't affect me or my loved ones and I don't really need to. Some random guy boohooing about his lack of a relationship has not shit to do with me. I could never leave my house without both men and women coming up to me in public to tell me I looked beautiful or like such and such actress or a supermodel. It literally happened all the time. It happens to my 17 yr old daughter too. Why would I date someone that didn'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 07:34 PM |
| 2 | Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental.I wouldn't date a guy who dated someone who was fat or unattractive. There's no reason to fat shame some random person passing you by living their life, that's harassment and bullying. I have no reason to even interact with a random stranger minding their own business usually so why would I scream insults at them? However if someone intrudes on me and my life, causing problems directly for me I'll insult them for whatever they can be insulted over. The reason for not dating a guy that doesn't ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 06:29 PM |
| 3 | Rejecting anyone for any reason is fine, the end, dating is inherently selfish, discriminatory and judgemental.Everyone can improve themselves. If someone wants to wallow that just makes them even more unattractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/24 06:06 PM |
| 4 | Women, if a man left you because he wasn't the best you've ever had, would you be offended?Then I hate to tell you but you're probably gonna continue to be consistently disappointed in life. You will never be able to be the best lover for anyone if you can't also be the best at these other things. Listening and communicating is required for good sex. One dimensional thinking where you only care about one thing means you can't be a woman's best lover. That's not how sex works for women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Women, if a man left you because he wasn't the best you've ever had, would you be offended?Then you do the work with your partner to become the best by listening and trying together. Put effort in to become the best. You don't run away like a sissy girl to sob in a corner somewhere. You'll never be the best at anything if that's your reaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/24 05:34 PM |
| 2 | How would you react if your son was accused of SA, and he denied it?Mother's can get info out of their kids. Bad people usually put up red flags others choose to ignore. Unless we're talking brain tumor or something that causes people to act out of character beyond their control then I'm not gonna protect a sexual predator. That's hurting the weak. Same thing with people who hurt children and torture animals. I'd be ashamed of such a child. Those acts aren't even a little bit forgiveable and there's no justification at all in them. Alot of murderers are more eas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 03:57 PM |
| 1 | How would you react if your son was accused of SA, and he denied it?Says the loser that has to beg and plead and harass to even hope to get laid. Pity sex has to really suck. If I had a son I'd teach him about consent. If he didn't take that to heart that'd be a him problem to deal with. If this hypothetical boy were actually mine and my husband's son, women would be coming on to him. Hubby never had trouble, he lost his virginity at 12 to a 14 year old girlfriend, always had a steady girlfriend, dated a 23 yr old when he was 15. When we met he did not have ask … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/24 03:35 PM |
| 0 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenIt's your fault if no one is attracted to you. Sure everyone likes different things, but even if I'm not personally attracted to someone I can tell if they are generally attractive or not or what they can do to improve. Physical looks matter equally to personality, behavior, intelligence, charisma, etc. You can be pretty/handsome and also unattractive. If you are a whiny turd no woman will want you even if you are physically attractive. Incompetence is unattractive. Being a bore is unattractive.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 08:03 PM |
| 5 | Women lose attraction to their husbands more than the reverse, and that's why women divorce much more oftenIf my husband got fat I wouldn't fuck him sure but I wouldn't leave him. I can go without sex. Now if he was some gross smelly 400lb+ slob who couldn't do anything then yes, I'd leave. Not dealing with that level of fat. But he would never allow that to happen. I think we'd both do anything to not be fat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/24 05:40 PM |
| 12 | Why is this sub so puritanical? Why no recreational drug use at all?Because many drugs are fun. I avoid the dangerous ones once I grew up fully(coke, opiates, crystal) but still smoke weed, take LSD, shrooms, and would take molly if I could easily get some good quality shit. My husband and I are 41 and 42 and take LSD several times a year. We have a great time together. We have good sex anyway but LSD sex is like god level. Any drugs that enhances sex and expands your mind is a good time. Even when I'm 80 I'll still take lsd if I can. Not everyone who doesn't do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/06/24 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Mothers almost never tell their sons what to look out for when it comes to women.And that's the best advice. I told my daughter she will get no money for a wedding till living together and having a year of marriage counseling. People always go to marriage counseling once things are broken, but I bet going before marriage could really be beneficial to a couple and if you find out things that make you incompatible, that's better to find out before. Also never date a Mama's boy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 06:46 PM |
| – | Women logic: quick sex for men with red flags, good men must waitWhen I met my husband we clicked immediately. A friend of his I worked with introduced us. He came to meet me at work(bar/club) we hung out, had a drink, then he picked me up after and we went some places and talked at his apartment all night. We didn't kiss or touch or anything but we slept in the same bed cause it was like 5 am at that point. He took me home, I got HIS number because I didn't want to wait for him being afraid to call me right away, we agreed to go out that night I said I would… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/24 06:25 PM |
| 1 | The real wall is menopauseBotox looks ridiculous on most people. That's why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 06:13 PM |
| 2 | The real wall is menopauseI have been asked out by men 15 years younger than myself that didn't believe I was older. Even if I weren't married I wouldn't want a man that young. At least not for long that's for sure. But yes turning 40 changes things. I could throw on some makeup and do hair and stuff and I bet I'd be just fine. I never really wore makeup often in my life and I always had men and women come up to me in public to say I was pretty or beautiful or should be a model or looked like such and such actress. Many … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 06:01 PM |
| – | Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable?There are other ways to be attractive. Ever watched old David Letterman shows? Actresses seriously flirted with him all the time. He was ugly but really witty and quick with a retort. Some women find that attractive. It's not all one thing. Looks totally matter but they aren't the only thing. A beautiful man who is stupid or has other personality flaws is not going to be desired by most women. Some will take him just for his looks but not most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 05:20 PM |
| – | Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable?My husband always thought he was average at best but he always got the attractive girlfriend he wanted so obviously he's better looking than he thought. He was exactly what I wanted looks wise. I tried to point out that every girl he dated before me was very pretty and he had no trouble dating so obviously enough women he liked found him attractive. They weren't picking him for money back then or height, he's just at 5'9" and he was poor when I met him. He was interesting and cool though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 05:11 PM |
| – | Is the fate of being settled for, unavoidable?Doesn't mean they are in love or even necessarily want the guy. Just means he was exceptionally attractive to them and they felt like sharing that thought. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 05:06 PM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?They only think he is an asshole because he has something they want. How would they know he is an asshole or not to his girlfriend/wife. They wouldn't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 02:10 PM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?You have to have both equally. A good looking guy with terrible personality is going to be unattractive. An ugly guy with good personality is... Unattractive. You need both. How is this hard to understand. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 02:03 PM |
| – | What's your dating unpopular opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you down voted?I only dated men with long hair. Now my husband losing his hair I accepted but it did hurt my attraction to him for some years. All men used to have long hair. It's sexy. Some men can't pull it off and there are a few men that may look better with a regular guy haircut but it's not my thing. When Peter Steele of the band Type P Negative was in his prime he was a sexy beast. His hair was some of the most beautiful hair on any human ever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/03/24 01:49 PM |
| – | Do men not care about having female friends?Maybe a smarter guy snatched those women up when they realized she was attractive and intelligent. I'm probably one of the few people my husband has deep philosophical conversations with, we're both atheist and often discuss the nature of the universe, alternate dimensions, society, nature, religion, etc. He said his dumb highschool girlfriend was really nice though, whereas I'm can be really mean, but apparently it was terribly annoying that she couldn't converse. I think he just likes pointing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 07:04 PM |
| – | Do men not care about having female friends?I met my husband like that. He never had trouble getting the girl he wanted, probably because he was comfortable around girls because he had always been friends with them even as a child. But I worked with a woman who he was friends with in highschool and she thought I'd like him and had him come meet me. Went home with him that night to hang out, 21 yrs ago. We were both dating someone at the time but neither were serious. We loved each other almost immediately. So it does happen and the fact t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 06:32 PM |
| – | Do men not care about having female friends?My husband always had female friends from childhood. He has guy friends too but won't be friends with certain types of men. I met him because I worked with a girl who knew him in highschool. They were friends some of the time, apparently he screwed her once when on the rebound from a relationship in highschool, but she wasn't his type anyway. They were friends enough and she thought I would like him. I did. Went home with him that night. Been together 21 years. We are the only relationship of ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically?90% of men aren't "attractive" to me. Although it's not the same 90% that other women find unattractive, idiot. I dumped a guy that looked very much like Ryan Gosling and was 6'4" for my husband who had more of the hot Jesus look going on, if jesus had tattoos and wore all black. My husband is the same height as me, 5'9". He was way more attractive to me than the other guy. Looks aren't everything. You have to be hot AND awesome with charisma and confidence. Desperation turns all women off no ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Is it true that most people cannot lower their standards biologically?People have to be realistic but they don't have to change everything. My favorite thing is a guy who looks good with long hair. How many 40 or 50 yr old men have enough hair for that and if they do, actually don't look like weirdos with it? Not many. So that's something I would probably have to let go of if I were single. He'd still have to be attractive to me. I'm not single so that doesn't matter. My husband lost his beautiful hair years ago and I didn't dump him because of it. I miss it. But … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/24 10:54 AM |
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