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r/askFDS is a place for current or aspiring High Value Women and Men to ask r/FemaleDatingStrategy users good faith relationship questions.

January 16, 2020
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I've met this guy on OLD a couple months ago. He didn't ask me out right away but I kept speaking to him 🚩 . Once we went out, he didn'...
StalkerPoetess/r/askFDS13/03/21 12:22 AM
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It's only in retrospect that I realise this. For the duration of our relationship, and months (maybe even a year) after it ended, I believed I was ugl...
thanarealnobody/r/askFDS30/03/21 10:09 PM
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This probably sounds kinda silly but it's REALLY bugging me. I have sex with my boyfriend every day, often several times a day. Ive noticed recently t...
luceario/r/askFDS17/03/21 03:21 AM
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I've dated some horrible losers in the past. One was rapey towards me, controlling and mentally ill. He threatened to commit suicide when I wanted to ...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS31/03/21 08:19 PM
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No seriously there is no appeal for me anymore. Recently a man who i thought was super attractive for the past 2 years messaged me saying how pretty h...
Suitcase33/r/askFDS29/11/20 12:36 PM
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So yeah, basically all of my female friends have had sex and hooked up with guys they felt nothing for or who felt nothing for them. I am still a virg...
Gundekrose/r/askFDS30/04/21 05:51 PM
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The first day I met him he asked for a kiss and I rejected, I only danced with him. Then the second time we all met up ( a group of us) I kissed him o...
secretsbetween/r/askFDS28/04/21 09:02 PM
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Maybe I am just tired or had too many lousy interactions with guys. Maybe part of me is still heartbroken from when my first (and only) real love chea...
warinmymind94/r/askFDS18/02/21 10:26 AM
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I was in a short term LDR relationship with a LVM. He stopped communication, sometimes he would call me once every week or two weeks. I was like okay ...
96Bahhd/r/askFDS05/05/21 04:36 AM
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I'm legitimately so baffled by the audacity of some men. I need and want time to be on my own, to enjoy my own company, to recenter, reevaluate, and r...
aelyssi/r/askFDS23/02/21 01:03 PM
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He's been playing me for a while, sitting his ass playing games while ignoring me for hours then making excuses to get away with it and trying to make...
Bl4ckSiren/r/askFDS25/02/21 08:58 PM
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Since joining FDS I've observed a lot of us are angry (rightfully) and disillusioned. I've observed that a lot of this anger and disillusionment seems...
questionasker012/r/askFDS21/04/21 03:34 PM
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Gundekrose/r/askFDS27/04/21 06:24 PM
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LOL ladies just a story of how FDS has helped me not be a pickme. Met a guy on a dating app, we talked and went on a date, I'm in a sling post surgery...
bambii342/r/askFDS29/06/21 02:25 AM
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When I've dated in the past, I've addressed my concerns with them when appropriate. I remember I dated one guy, for example, when he would bec...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS15/03/21 06:19 AM
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As we turned into the parking lot of Walmart to get groceries, he asks "I not go in?" (A "cute" way to ask if he can stay in the c...
Affectionate-Cut-460/r/askFDS30/03/21 04:53 AM
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What the title says. I'm bisexual but (unfortunately) lean towards males. I feel like I'm almost asexual these days because male sexuality has...
GrapeJuiceEnthusiast/r/askFDS28/05/21 02:25 PM
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As title says, we obviously know so much of Reddit hates women. "Not all subreddits" but still too many on the front page. Why do women have...
throwaway-rhombus/r/askFDS02/04/21 06:57 PM
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I don't understand this ...
exhalefierceness/r/askFDS28/01/21 05:58 PM
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It's confusing and annoying af because they're grown men >25 y.o. and they say shit like "hang out". Turns out "hanging out&...
pancakeCEO/r/askFDS08/10/21 07:20 PM
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I'm in my 20s and so a lot of my friends are in relationships. One of my friends, buys several gifts for anniversary/birthday/Christmas/“well done f...
thanarealnobody/r/askFDS13/03/21 05:19 PM
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A guy I've been recent,y seeing originally started off taking me on nice dates and we were really hitting it off. The other day he said he's had a few...
luceario/r/askFDS24/06/21 06:06 AM
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My former pickmeisha would say, these poor guys I can be different, but now I'm seeing with my FDS eyes that they were the one causing the drama. My t...
Bellaskywalker1/r/askFDS10/05/21 07:03 AM
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I know this does not belong under the "dating" umbrella but I am desperate and there are NO SPACES for women to seek support online. I recently came o...
Livia_Drusila/r/askFDS03/06/21 03:58 AM
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I'm so proud of myself. I found FDS a year ago and left a narcissist cold Turkey. I've only ever been in 3 abusive long term relationships. I'm in my ...
wavesandtea/r/askFDS01/10/21 10:41 PM
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Sent packing. Story time. Please let me share. I had the most stressful crazy insane week. I'm a school nurse, going through a custody battle to k...
socalqueenofcheese/r/askFDS04/09/21 03:38 PM
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Yesterday we went to a restaurant, boyfriend and I. And then I saw he noticed a girl sitting next to us with big boobs. And he like moved his chair a ...
ubermoonchild/r/askFDS16/11/20 08:15 PM
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I fully agree that "if he wanted to, he would," that men will go above and beyond and be on his absolute best behavior (and even change his ...
No-Village-3946/r/askFDS14/04/21 05:02 PM
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He is not willing to commit to me and I think he is bluffing when ever he states his desired timeline for commitment (when his semester is over). I ha...
ordinarilynightmare/r/askFDS03/03/21 06:37 PM
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The question is in the sentence. A lot of people say that a man will never go out of his way to talk to a girl unless he's attracted or wants somethin...
diamond_pie/r/askFDS04/01/21 11:42 PM
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I've read previous posts on FDS about how many of you find that the whole process of sort of selling yourself on dating apps feels degrading. I've alw...
questionasker012/r/askFDS27/02/21 02:30 PM
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I'm breaking up with my boyfriend I love this man, but I don't feel loved by him. He says he loves me. But... the phone. The goddamn phone. When he's ...
koolaidmanbodyslam/r/askFDS15/12/20 08:16 PM
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How can I be granted access to the sub now? ...
youngsteryona/r/askFDS08/10/21 06:14 PM
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I realize now I'm dating a LVM. Idk what to do. I live with him. I lost my job. I've been a long time reader of FDS and finally realize that I am dati...
kaleisdisgusting/r/askFDS17/01/21 07:57 AM
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I've been thinking about it today, and I'm not sure I have an answer. I have my own money, house, career, a PhD. I travel the world, go to res...
GeorgiaPeach_94/r/askFDS19/05/21 11:16 PM
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Please help! Thought I had a HVM, but marriage seems to bring out his LVM Title says it all. Posted to RA first, but deleted it because I received cre...
throwRAunsexy/r/askFDS15/09/20 08:12 PM
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LVM will not settle for anything below their extremely high standards - they want a p*rn star. They want scarlett johansson. They literally only want ...
Affectionate-Cut-460/r/askFDS20/02/21 03:40 PM
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Thanks to FDS, therapy, and lots of self help books I have left my LV husband for good. I posted about this previously and while the comments were ove...
georgia__rain/r/askFDS03/04/21 02:57 PM
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Hello fellow queens, Everytime I'm upset over my work, life in general, covid, you name it...the way my boyfriend handles it is through kissing me and...
Sisi21cent/r/askFDS22/04/21 04:33 PM
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I cooked, cleaned, listened to his endless drama about his ex and kids, always ready for bed, always coming over to his place... I was such a pickme b...
Korok1989/r/askFDS10/01/21 04:13 PM
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Guy I was seeing is exactly what I'm looking for, and we have a lot in common. He wanted to see me often, was very consistent in communication, to...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS14/04/21 05:35 AM
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In perusing FDS, I've gotten the impression that for men to have had a lack of committed relationships or marriage over the course of their lives is a...
questionasker012/r/askFDS19/04/21 05:30 PM
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Hi guys Basically, I went on a date with this guy in January and then cut him off because he was too touchy. All of a sudden I start running into him ...
thelightsource12/r/askFDS02/06/21 12:32 PM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/n8nltq/why_does_a_child_need_to_have_his_father_last/...
exhalefierceness/r/askFDS09/05/21 09:06 PM
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I've been talking to a lot of my female friends, women of all ages with different marital statuses, and a lot of women have brought this up. For the w...
Nothinmaybesomethin/r/askFDS27/10/20 02:32 PM
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There is a guy at work who will make an assumption about me, assess my reaction, and then quickly change what he is trying to say, according to my rea...
super_thinker_/r/askFDS18/08/21 12:31 AM
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I just wanted to thank you. For the first time a man I was vetting dumped me over text and I.DIDN'T.CARE! Years ago I would have cried, maybe self...
Livia_Drusila/r/askFDS23/07/21 09:26 PM
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My ex was a LVM for many reasons but one of the biggest things that ended up being the final straw for me was the fact that he was constantly super cr...
luceario/r/askFDS30/03/21 10:25 PM
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Hi all, I'm (24F) kind of new here and I don't know how flairs work even after being on Reddit for a long while so my apologies if I'm doing this all ...
mellowdirt/r/askFDS31/12/20 04:06 PM
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That title is a very silly sentence, I know, but I've been going on so many dates and had opportunities to date men who may have been decent partners ...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS16/07/21 12:34 AM
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I broke up with him 3 days ago. 2 days ago, I moved all of my belongings back to my parents house. I was honest with him that I was not happy with our...
msemz/r/askFDS14/11/20 06:31 PM
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After a lot of work and learning (still learning on things here too), I now cannot unsee the LVM, PickMes, narcissists and codependent behavior in soc...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS21/07/21 11:04 PM
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I've never been in a relationship. All of the guys I had like din the past were either taken or not interested in me. Anyway, this was before I di...
fireforestfairy/r/askFDS03/05/21 03:02 PM
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I (24) have had 3 relationships so far, and before each one imploded due to an ex's LV behavior, they each would compliment other women's appearance a...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS08/04/21 01:47 PM
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I saw a lot of posts where men were just acting like little gremlins and I'm worried about my future self. I'm 15 and I go to an all male school so I ...
Prime-Iremep/r/askFDS23/08/20 10:50 PM
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GOD I can't even with this story. One of my friends from school (let's call him John), who I always thought to be a HVM, has a girlfriend who is absol...
luceario/r/askFDS02/04/21 08:34 AM
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I had a date from Hinge and lot of things were done right. He planned the date and paid - which was very nice. Gallery, dinner, then hot chocolate. Ve...
thanarealnobody/r/askFDS06/09/21 02:39 PM
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So, I've just been so demoralized with men recently. I feel like I only seem to encounter those on the narcissism spectrum. After some pretty traumati...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS02/10/21 04:52 PM
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Please if you ever doubt it just give it a try! I know it's hard to do initially (took me forever to finally pull the trigger) but I not only deleted ...
ordinarilynightmare/r/askFDS08/03/21 11:28 PM
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I'm sure it has something to do with my attachment issues, which I'm working on. But it's almost like I cant control it, but I'll keep thinking about ...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS09/12/20 08:31 PM
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Mods, please remove this post if it's not appropriate or if I'm misunderstanding the purpose of this sub. Hi to all women users of r/AskFDS! W...
Summerisle7/r/askFDS03/03/21 05:13 PM
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Inspired by a post I've seen on FDS, but why do men do this? I've personally seen/experienced previous bfs try to always keep me in their rota...
GreatOrchidAmbition/r/askFDS11/08/21 01:14 AM
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It seems like all of them want nothing “serious” but want gf benefits. It's really hard to find a guy who doesn't want to keep it casual. Why are ...
ordinarilynightmare/r/askFDS10/05/21 07:15 PM
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This isn't a question, but more of an update on my thoughts about being a parent. I'm not sure if it's more appropriate to post this here or to the ma...
questionasker012/r/askFDS04/05/21 02:51 AM
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Welcome to r/ASKFDS ! Submit a text post with your question and we (maybe) will answer it! All submissions will be automatically removed for review an...
TheOGJammies/r/askFDS12/03/20 03:12 AM
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On a couple of relationship subs I posted my bio and what I'm looking for (the subs are for people seeking relationships). I detail my age, where I li...
questionasker012/r/askFDS16/03/21 03:04 PM
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Every guy I've ever been involved with, it becomes apparent at some point that they aren't over their ex, no matter how long it's been since breaking ...
PresentationNew8083/r/askFDS30/05/21 06:44 PM
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I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. For context I am genuinely happy in this relationship and he treats me well. Early on in the relati...
w1tchyw0man/r/askFDS21/02/22 12:51 AM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/qzbqua/im_discovering_that_most_men_are_to_some_degree/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS22/11/21 03:20 AM
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A community where we are all supported by women. Local businesses, schools, sports and so on are run by women. A community where also, women have mont...
looking-for-freedom1/r/askFDS20/12/20 08:22 PM
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All the time he (NVX, 35) mewled how she abused him mentally, financially, and refused access to his kid, now he suddenly dumped me to move back in wi...
Korok1989/r/askFDS29/04/21 02:47 PM
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I had this weird epiphany last night after yet another failed dating prospect a week prior. I'm 26, about to be 27 this spring. I'm not where I want t...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS29/01/21 06:09 PM
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Hi Queens! A few months ago, an amazing article was posted here about mens rights activists talking about how men get abused too, but the examples the...
tamarisauce/r/askFDS10/12/20 06:09 PM
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I told him I'm not attracted to him in that way. He's overweight, 7 years older than me and has a very dirty apartment. We became friends because he w...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS30/07/21 08:21 PM
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I study ComputerScience, and in my classes the majority of teachers are men, the class is mostly men with 1-3 women in each class. Last Friday in my S...
spiderunderweb/r/askFDS02/05/21 11:38 AM
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I've posted numerous times but I (24F)was the pick me girl the handbook talks about. I finally found the guts to block my ex(24M) after 4 months o...
Pepsiluv123/r/askFDS23/11/20 09:57 PM
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Happened to me yesterday. Nice tapas-style place. Couple glasses of wine with the food. Asked toward the end if I wanted to go back to his place “to...
lovessourbeer/r/askFDS17/07/21 03:14 PM
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I am a divorced (5 years, and grateful), 50 years old and think I am done with men. Wondering how other Queens knew when men were never going to satis...
Discover-heal-grow/r/askFDS21/02/21 10:45 AM
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I wanted to share my life vision. Lately I've been feeling very angry at societal expectations of women to be endlessly and happily self-sacrifici...
questionasker012/r/askFDS18/04/21 10:32 AM
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Interested more out of curiosity than anything. I don't understand this idea of cohabiting, birthing kids together and the sharing the responsibil...
NoMoreWordsToConquer/r/askFDS08/12/21 01:39 AM
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As the title says. I found out something disgusting about my boyfriend that he did 13years ago and I am just in a space of wanting cry, scream and vom...
w1tchyw0man/r/askFDS10/01/22 11:19 AM
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He kept lying about it saying he hasn't flirted with another girl and I found out and he admitted that he had sex with another girl from dating ap...
ThrowRAmissdubai/r/askFDS25/01/21 03:43 PM
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I wanted to throw this story out and see if you ladies have experienced similar. I used to have an ex that wanted me to wait to be treated for dinner/...
souredskittles/r/askFDS22/02/21 09:13 AM
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I'm so sick of men thinking they have a right to make a comment on someone's body. I've literally had it up to my eyeballs in frustration. I am an ext...
bananasplitchocodip/r/askFDS19/05/21 11:46 AM
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Has anyone else had enough of those men who literally think they know everything? For example I was with a guy who is now my ex who said he knew atlea...
19Bubbles98/r/askFDS04/02/21 12:35 AM
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Even her most notable book, Pornography: Men Posessing Women, is prohibitively expensive for mass consumption. Edit: Found a digital copy. https://www...
pancakeCEO/r/askFDS08/01/21 12:14 AM
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Hi all, this is a heavy topic for me :( Basically: I have known for a while that i am bisexual. I have been in long term relationships with men since ...
canadiangirl1564/r/askFDS04/06/21 04:48 PM
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Someone commented on a post I made that after a year her ex stopped acting like a HVM and went LVM. I mean at some point LVMs get comfortable and stop...
greenteaapplepie69/r/askFDS22/12/20 10:35 PM
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Last night I was hanging out and watching a movie with a guy I've been into for a while, and I was very excited to hang out, catch up, and enjoy some ...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS22/09/21 08:45 PM
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Hi ladies, I posted a while back about my now-ex, more or less nervous that he wasn't being verbally affectionate and didn't seem to put much ...
fosho_away/r/askFDS07/09/21 06:59 PM
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A famous artist gave me a rose on hinge and I swiped left. He seems like a good person in his interviews and he's good friends with a pick-me friend o...
super_thinker_/r/askFDS25/05/21 06:06 PM
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I have a few male friends in my friendship group. One of them is away a lot but recently has been hanging out with the group more. Whenever he's there...
luceario/r/askFDS01/01/21 10:41 AM
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At the age of 24 (3 years ago) I made a conscious decision to turn my life around. I went back to university and completed a Master of Science degree....
squatbootylassylass/r/askFDS18/05/21 10:09 PM
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I recently went through his phone ( his fault for leaving it unlocked) and saw his IG messages. A plus sized girl asked him out. Instead of just sayin...
Alexlaflamexii/r/askFDS18/06/21 03:17 AM
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I was just watching a show about a married couple and I realize that in the past when I've had conversations with men I'm dating or ex boyfriends, vag...
puddlesteps/r/askFDS12/06/21 12:00 PM
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I know this will sound like such a trivial problem to some of you but honestly I am on the verge on a panic attack just thinking about it. I am young,...
fierce_and_mighty/r/askFDS17/04/21 03:00 PM
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I (35f) have been dating this guy (41m). Things were starting to get a little hot, so I asked him to get an STD test like a month ago. And he had no i...
maybesarahjane/r/askFDS09/04/21 01:28 AM
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So basically, I have a problem of getting way too attached too fast (especially if a guy is very attractive and/or has nice qualities I want in a part...
throwawayliz5195/r/askFDS05/11/20 01:17 AM
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Why when there are women characters in action movies - why are they always moaning on the low? Why are all their sounds sexual? A man grunts & cus...
kaleisdisgusting/r/askFDS22/01/21 11:12 PM
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A few lovely people on the subreddit relationship_advice recommended that I'd take a look at this page, I was wondering if it would be alright to post...
A_LittleSad/r/askFDS11/02/21 04:29 PM
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I was just shopping online for some new pieces for my summer wardrobe and I was imagining just how good I will look in them, but then it dawned on me ...
Lykah/r/askFDS08/06/21 08:29 PM
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I host a weekly bonfire in a park (thanks, covid). As a result, I start two fires a week, every week. Also, I'm 43 years old and I've been camping for...
thenotoriousaep/r/askFDS19/04/21 11:25 AM
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I'm an on and off lurker with more pickme tendencies and lower self worth than I want to admit. Lately, FDS hit home. This is a vulnerable post to...
lvlupfeb2021/r/askFDS21/02/21 10:53 PM
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This sub is for FDS members that have a good grasp of our handbook to give FDS advice to newbies and non-members. Please respect that. If you do not, ...
Phoenix__Rising2018/r/askFDS16/04/21 06:35 PM
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I thought I was seeing a HV man these past years (I am divorced with kids, remarriage is not currently a goal). My only complaint was that his texting...
enoughalready4me/r/askFDS25/10/20 05:00 PM
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I think I may have PTSD from all the stuff I put myself through. Sex with men I didn't even feel attracted to (I know it wasn't rape, but felt...
Livia_Drusila/r/askFDS12/09/21 03:48 PM
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So I tried online dating again. Worst decision ever. It made me feel so uncomfortable even though I managed to talk to a few nice guys. Their constant...
ethylredds/r/askFDS01/02/22 04:47 AM
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I had a very weird date today with a man I met through OLD. His profile seemed normal, he wrote normal sounding messages and he seemed normal when we ...
LunaPlanner/r/askFDS05/07/21 10:22 PM
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Two nights ago I hooked up with my next door neighbor neighbor. I had no intention of hooking up with him, but with the influence of a great deal of a...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS01/09/21 07:53 PM
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I go for a run or I do 1000s of one-handed surgical knots 🪢 or practice my suture skills. Sometimes I overdo it but I'm not wasting my precious tim...
96Bahhd/r/askFDS29/05/21 07:45 PM
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Ladies first off I want to say that I really admire and look up to all of you so much. Please help me with this situation. Did I do the right thing by...
anynameblahblahblah4/r/askFDS13/08/21 06:16 PM
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My long term (9 years) bf broke up with me five minutes after our first couples counseling session (which I paid for and scheduled) because the counse...
LosingNirvana/r/askFDS02/05/21 12:48 PM
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We often hear about a woman building up her man only for the man to leave her once he becomes successful and starts going after the women he preferred...
EurasianEmpress/r/askFDS23/08/21 02:52 AM
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Pre FDS I would respond with “tomorrow does not work but I am free this weekend” and men would then make the plans for the weekend. But since disc...
werker115/r/askFDS10/11/20 07:40 PM
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There's been many times I've communicated with men that they were hurting me, please slow down, be softer, etc. They comply for a while then continue ...
cherryspacesong/r/askFDS29/03/21 07:30 PM
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I recently blocked my ex LVM after he had reached out to me. Unfortunately, I was quite open to being friends with him but after asking him why he dec...
Hateorade_/r/askFDS06/06/21 09:09 PM
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My boyfriend of 1 year "proposed" to me, or he is trying to mentally prepare me, I don't know, it's all so confusing, it's the f...
HotTrouble0/r/askFDS18/10/21 01:01 PM
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This applies to men you are not in a relationship with at the moment. Should we hide our feelings, especially if the guy hasn't taken any initiati...
fireforestfairy/r/askFDS08/11/21 10:56 AM
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I've been seeing a guy for the last month or so. I thought it was going well until this weekend. I felt ready to introduce him to my friends so I invi...
LunaPlanner/r/askFDS28/06/21 01:14 PM
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I (F25) have been married for a little over 1.5 years to a LVM (M30). The “low value” expectation was normalized growing up and into my 20s. In th...
georgia__rain/r/askFDS01/02/21 02:33 PM
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So I recently started watching some of Deborrah Cooper's videos, and I watched one on “why you should never help a man.” She explained that the re...
questionasker012/r/askFDS22/01/21 12:35 AM
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This guy asked me out for a dinner. And then, my friend also got asked by someone else from his friend clique on the same day. Another friend I knew a...
Pingu_Pig/r/askFDS24/02/21 01:09 AM
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Modern dating question......Since when did it become normal that your significant other can be online constantly via social media platforms yet not re...
antoniaaahhh83/r/askFDS24/04/21 09:30 AM
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Hi, I love dating shows but it seems that even when women have the choice, most of the men suck. We're talking 1 or 2 decent ones out of 30, whereas w...
Determinedblonde/r/askFDS26/02/21 04:17 PM
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Hello ladies of FDS. Before I found this sub a months ago, I held the belief that this relationship would be of benefit to me. It was with a guy from ...
poody456/r/askFDS03/11/20 02:03 PM
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TL;DR Does anyone have any tips on how to navigate when you are assertive in the workplace and feel like you're been treated as the problem even w...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS14/10/21 08:25 AM
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I was with this guy over a year ago and he used me, took my virginity, told me he cared and then treated me bad and left. At the time, I was so in lov...
thanarealnobody/r/askFDS19/11/20 06:24 PM
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TLDR: my stepdad seemed a little weird at first but then I moved out and he made a sexual comment to me over the phone. my mom heard it and doesn'...
warinmymind94/r/askFDS30/04/21 06:32 AM
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I'm new here and I wonder if you ladies can help me to find a subreddit that only give women legal support. I would like someone to offer me legal adv...
looking-for-freedom1/r/askFDS02/12/20 03:33 PM
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I am close to breaking up with him, been together nearly a year - thought he was a hvm blah blah because no-one had treated me like he had before. Eve...
yesslovethat/r/askFDS29/09/21 09:26 AM
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I've been living alone for a few months, and this maintenance guy keeps going out of his way to be nice to me. At first I was thankful... until he cam...
korakata/r/askFDS27/10/21 04:24 PM
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We've been dating for 2 years now and everything seemed to be great. He maintained a good friendship with his ex (and most of his exs) and they ha...
kimchi_20/r/askFDS11/01/22 09:31 PM
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I've always identified as a straight women, and have always thought about dating men, getting married to a man one day. Over the past few months, ...
Sweetlikecream/r/askFDS31/03/21 06:01 PM
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Hey FDS, I'm seeing a guy who has informed me that he's quitting professional school in order to become a teacher. He wants to teach history/s...
Stunning-Panda81/r/askFDS01/04/21 02:48 PM
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Recovering_Scrote/r/askFDS11/06/21 03:19 PM
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I was groomed, manipulated/coerced, then assaulted by my old director (27M) a while ago when i was 18. He was completely unattractive and known for be...
LiveInvestigator4876/r/askFDS10/06/21 06:40 AM
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Over the last couple of years I've been doing incredibly difficult mental work examining myself and trying to heal from inner child trauma. I have...
GreatOrchidAmbition/r/askFDS07/08/21 05:02 AM
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So when I first started having sex with my boyfriend he was very gentle, a lot of foreplay and he would always make sure I had an orgasm before we eve...
luceario/r/askFDS11/03/21 05:39 PM
94

Something I'm struggling with is wondering if it was my fault my LVX left me. I was strong most of the way through until he started losing interes...
throwaway-rhombus/r/askFDS05/04/21 09:19 PM
94

I'm moving into a new place and currently staying at my moms house. Last night my mom and I got into a big argument over her alcoholism, I told my boy...
nancy5559/r/askFDS13/05/21 07:30 PM
93

I always hear "if he wanted to, he would," and it reminds me that I deserve better and should leave. And that even if he did want to, the bo...
throwaway-rhombus/r/askFDS28/03/21 07:29 PM
93

This happened with my NVX (21m) who I (21f) broke up with 5 months ago. I had a nightmare last night that I texted him and we were talking again over ...
fierce_and_mighty/r/askFDS16/03/21 07:54 AM
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I know I should have left when he wouldn't marry me, but I loved him. I know I should be angry and just move on, but I'm heartbroken and devastated. D...
LosingNirvana/r/askFDS08/05/21 08:49 PM
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Firstly, thank you for all the suggestions. I just wanted to give you all an update on what he decided. He emailed me from school yesterday asking if ...
2021IsOurYearToShine/r/askFDS18/11/20 11:24 PM
92

Since discovering FDS, I went no-contact with an immature, non commitment oriented, and pornsick man 14 years my senior, which has been a difficult pr...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:11 PM
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Let me be clear: I want to leave him, but it's somewhat risky what with the pandemic and my 2 toddlers. I can't just up and leave without a plan and I...
the-worst-/r/askFDS04/05/21 02:40 PM
92

Hey, I really appreciate my friend A., who made herself believe that your partner watching porn, liking and following instagram models is totally fine...
Repulsive-Ad1092/r/askFDS11/06/21 10:32 AM
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I have a very long history of sexual abuse and I engaged in a lot of self destructive behavior as result of my trauma. This self destructive behavior ...
_cnz_/r/askFDS15/05/21 02:08 AM
92

Hey everyone, I posted this on the main sub, and was redirected here. Glad to know this sub exists! It's been a year and a half since my ex fiancé an...
CrownWaster/r/askFDS26/12/20 12:46 AM
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Is bringing a girl (I'm gay) flowers on the first date too much? I want her to know I'm interested but I don't want her to feel like I'...
revengeofgivingtree/r/askFDS18/05/21 12:46 AM
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I recently moved into my first 1br, and I'm stoked with how much freedom and independence it has given me. It's been about 4 weeks and the reality tha...
korakata/r/askFDS01/10/21 12:52 AM
91

I was at a high end restaurant with some girl friends and beforehand a man that was clearly checking me out at the bar asked the bartender to introduc...
werker115/r/askFDS22/11/20 05:16 PM
91

I'm 35 and I had one healthy beautiful relationship when I was 22. After that relationship, due to trauma manifesting, I was attracted to and drew in ...
AdRevolutionary185/r/askFDS07/05/21 09:41 PM
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Hi, So I (24F) recently got tubal sterilization surgery (the irreversible kind). I wouldn't describe myself as "tokophobic" because seei...
questionasker012/r/askFDS15/01/21 10:56 PM
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A year ago I thought it would be terrible to be single and I would feel so alone. I have grown a lot and am feeling stronger and am loving being singl...
Nat_at_all/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:18 PM
90

This past January my NVM dad brutally attacked me and I have since cut off ties with him and his pickme wife. There is a long history of abuse in my f...
cryptohobo/r/askFDS19/11/21 04:20 AM
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hi, reposting from fds. i've been talking to my boyfriend about this and after that i'd really like to hear from you all about your experiences with p...
tarantula-slut/r/askFDS19/10/20 12:41 AM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/nzb6gm/being_a_woman_of_color_how_do_you_navigate_racism/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS14/06/21 01:21 AM
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I'd only been seeing this guy for 4mo, so it's better to do now than later. I get that. But man it fucking sucks. And yes, it was only 4mo so ...
eveninghope/r/askFDS23/12/20 09:55 PM
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I have no idea why I forgot about that situation. How can I bring that up now, should I dump him now... ? They don't follow eachother anymore because ...
secretsbetween/r/askFDS24/12/20 08:57 PM
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I found FDS recently and I've been absorbing the material like a sponge ever since. Before I got married I went to therapy, I even had a relationship ...
wavesandtea/r/askFDS22/10/20 10:23 AM
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Feminism has come a long way in most of the world, from developed countries to the developing, but popular culture is still heavily dictated by misogy...
Nothinmaybesomethin/r/askFDS28/10/20 01:34 PM
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After a few months dating and then a few months officially in a relationship, my boyfriend has started to ask to split the bill - a few times in the p...
fogplum/r/askFDS17/04/22 12:07 AM
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I've lurked the FDS sub and really like the attitude and expectations the ladies that follow FDS have and would really love that my daughter not h...
notinikew/r/askFDS28/08/20 09:59 PM
86

Eventually it has to be something I'm doing wrong. It just happened again after months of talking to this guy, not sleeping with him, vetting, etc. he...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS25/10/21 07:03 PM
86

So I've been dating really fit men recently and had a lot of fun. My problem is that when I follow FDS and get the commitment my attraction to them dw...
Competitive_Bar8657/r/askFDS08/02/22 03:22 PM
86

Over winter break, I (F21) hooked up with this guy we'll call John (M23). John is from my hometown, but goes to a school out of state. I knew him ...
luckycharmxx/r/askFDS27/05/21 12:52 AM
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It was a 9 months relationship. Full of passion, interests in common, shared works and artistic practices. I was crazy in love for the first time sinc...
mangopreacher/r/askFDS27/12/20 10:20 PM
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It's been 1.5 years since that not even situationship but I still think of him every single day. We are NC and I've deleted everything about him. Yet ...
youngsteryona/r/askFDS31/07/21 10:12 PM
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Good Morning Queens, I am interested in hearing your tips and strategies in building friendships with other HVW. I have some long term friendships wit...
panda_anda/r/askFDS06/05/21 01:48 PM
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I told him I'm busy and he said he understands but would text me even when I didn't reply yet. It's so annoying and a huge turn off. Is this a red fla...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS02/03/21 08:45 PM
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I was with this guy for 2 years. I tried to be what a “modern woman” was. I split the check, I cooked for him, I got him gifts, I pleased him sexu...
myownhater/r/askFDS10/05/21 02:28 AM
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Whenever I befriend a guy we end up clicking. He's always woke, he can always quote Bell Hooks and Judith Butler backwards. He is always empathetic an...
blilola/r/askFDS14/04/21 01:21 PM
85

A few days ago I replied to some Scrotes comment who was telling a woman that he enjoys lying to his gfs , telling them they're the one etc and then d...
Sweetoranges77/r/askFDS09/09/21 11:36 PM
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This guy I met 5 months ago seemed high value; he seemed ambitious, respectful, caring and would plan interesting dates (most he paid for; my pickmeis...
NoMoreWordsToConquer/r/askFDS19/10/21 01:00 AM
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Just needed to reach out... I grew up in a very liberal culture and have a lot of good, decent male friends from childhood (who subsequently got marri...
thenotoriousaep/r/askFDS11/09/21 01:41 PM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/oo4p8z/no_firm_plans_morning_of_a_date_ghost/...
lovessourbeer/r/askFDS20/07/21 03:48 PM
84

I've taken a break from dating, and accepted the possibility that I'll probably never get married because I don't want to settle. I've done that long ...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS03/07/21 11:34 AM
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Needing something powerful enough that it will deter me from entertaining even one iota of male nonsense....
autumnxo92/r/askFDS15/03/21 12:43 AM
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I loved this movie as a teenager but now that I'm a grown 28 year old woman, there are certain aspects of it that are disturbing. In one scene, Seth R...
nancy5559/r/askFDS21/01/21 08:54 PM
84

On our first date I told him I'm just looking to find a connection, not sleep with anyone. I said if he's not cool with that then he doesn't have to k...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS23/08/21 05:11 AM
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Hello, Looking for advice on how to stop writing paragraphs to specifically men you've been dating a long time or have been in a long term relatio...
londochig/r/askFDS14/01/21 10:43 PM
84

I (f24) started noticing pattern in our relationship, weve been together over a year and living together, but i noticed i am the only one cooking and ...
redditaccount741/r/askFDS09/01/21 08:36 PM
84

He ended up leaving me first, turning everything around. All of a sudden all my pleads for being treated right were controlling when I couldnt put up ...
thelightsource12/r/askFDS30/12/20 04:36 PM
83

I've been talking to a few very nice, successful men that will go back and forth in conversation with me via text but have not officially asked me on ...
crazykat1234/r/askFDS29/03/21 10:52 AM
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So I know that FDS advises against going 50/50 on dates - at least the first few dates. It's my understanding that this strategy is designed to fi...
questionasker012/r/askFDS18/01/21 07:01 PM
83

I obsessively daydream, and thought it was normal until I sat with myself and thought about all the times I escape to reality. I was so shocked to rea...
Nat_at_all/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:24 PM
83

If there is x2 of the same super hot man side by side, one🥰 is super interested in me and can't wait to go out, while the other😒 is apatheti...
Affectionate-Cut-460/r/askFDS19/02/21 07:18 PM
83

Today, the man I thought I would grow old with, the man I committed my life to, chose to binge drink every Friday night instead of spending his life w...
2021IsOurYearToShine/r/askFDS19/09/20 03:06 AM
82

I have many feminist friends (I consider myself a feminist as well) who will tell me that I'm “kink shaming” and “anti feminist” for expressin...
hangingplaintain/r/askFDS22/10/20 07:35 PM
82

I cannot find peace and solace today. Although I've made progress in my ability to block & delete and invest more time in self care, I feel myself...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS13/11/21 08:41 PM
82

I tried to post this in FDS but it wouldn't let me! So today someone that ghosted me for three months after a first day, reappeared. This was pre FDS ...
poody456/r/askFDS14/11/20 01:34 AM
82

If you're in a committed relationship, using birth control, and are very pro-abortion, if you got accidentally got pregnant and decided to not get...
hodgehogs/r/askFDS11/07/21 09:25 PM
82

I'm stared at A LOT in public. I have conventionally attractive features that are quite eye catching, even from distant cars. Some men will just stand...
cherryspacesong/r/askFDS03/05/21 08:26 AM
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I like what I'm reading so far. I understand there's a distinction between people who respect themselves and how they resonate with the world ...
lotekjeromuco/r/askFDS04/03/21 04:23 PM
82

This is me venting but it's also a question about men and society. I've heard about women who look completely different to the girls their partner jer...
greenteaapplepie69/r/askFDS21/12/20 01:08 AM
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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. He's wonderful and I'm very much in love with him. He treats me so well, prioritises my comfort and wellbein...
sleeeeepie/r/askFDS19/02/21 01:31 AM
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My family is not being exactly supportive during my break up Hi girls! I'm a long time lurker and in 2021 finally a big, huge thing clicked inside of ...
juisabele/r/askFDS03/02/21 03:49 AM
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I laid down, cuddled up with my fave blanket ready to peruse FDS and find new tips and memes on these dumbass men only to find i was like locked out o...
kittenunderduress/r/askFDS01/09/21 05:05 AM
81

(24F) Dating apps are exhausting to me. I've been using them (Hinge, OkCupid, and Tinder) to try to find a potential boyfriend for nearly a year now. ...
questionasker012/r/askFDS24/02/21 04:44 AM
81

I had lunch today with my two friends where one is happily married and the other is in a healthy relationship. I was discarded by a covert narcissist ...
AC7878/r/askFDS16/05/21 12:51 AM
81

(I am on mobile please forgive formatting) My partner and I have been living together for about 2 years. We have a two year old and a 3 month old. We ...
anyay45/r/askFDS29/12/20 07:34 AM
81

“You remind me so much of my sister/cousin/daughter/mom/friend/coworker/ex/teacher/neighbor.” And then most of the time, they never really explain...
super_thinker_/r/askFDS23/02/22 02:37 AM
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kittykittywoofwoof/r/askFDS17/09/20 01:05 AM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/q512at/why_do_some_men_prefer_receiving_oral_sex_over/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS10/10/21 04:27 AM
80

I'm almost 27 and a virgin, I've read a few posts on FDS recently that it's a red flag and a dealbreaker for most women, and I also read some comments...
Effective_Fox/r/askFDS06/11/21 09:24 AM
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Just what the title said. It takes the moderators a little time to get through the inbox. Thank you for your patience! ...
Phoenix__Rising2018/r/askFDS28/03/21 10:50 PM
79

I have a fluctuating sex drive most of the time I am pretty okay but there are really intense periods where it is just insanely high, in my past this ...
thatjimmylove/r/askFDS30/06/21 10:35 PM
79

My dating history has been... not great. I've noticed my pattern was to heavily pursue or attract men who do not respect me or value me even though I ...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS16/06/21 01:17 AM
79

However you practice your spirituality.... lately I've been experiencing depression about something that I thought I was over. I know it comes in wave...
lovetarie/r/askFDS07/06/21 07:19 PM
79

FDS is a godsend, I wish I had found it sooner or I never would have entered my last relationship. Or the one before that. I am a recovering pickmeish...
SillyPoopy/r/askFDS04/01/21 01:50 PM
79

I've been dating my SO since late August, we have been exclusive since November 1st. Recently it's begun to bother me that he hasn't said “I love yo...
rchprm10/r/askFDS15/04/21 03:23 PM
79

I matched with a man from an online dating site and we have had a couple of nice messages and he sounded interesting so we had a very brief video call...
LunaPlanner/r/askFDS01/11/21 07:43 PM
79

So I have decided to not have sex for the foreseeable future. It started about 2-3 years ago where I started to really listen to what I wanted sexuall...
Lost_Kale90/r/askFDS01/03/22 11:11 AM
78

I'm currently dealing with a man that has such serious mommy issues and is very inconsistent with the level of respect he demonstrates toward me. ...
decaf_flower/r/askFDS19/10/21 03:02 AM
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Hi all, posting for dating advice as I start to get back out there. I've been soaking up time by myself since my breakup 1.5 months ago but was asked ...
fosho_away/r/askFDS12/10/21 04:46 PM
78

Hello ladies of FDS! I often see women discuss how to react to men who offer shitty cheap first dates and the suggestions are pretty universal - block...
bleda_princezna/r/askFDS07/07/21 02:52 PM
78

My breasts are one of my major downfalls. I feel absolutely cursed. They are pitifully small, and at only 24 years old, they already appear to have a ...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS30/06/21 01:40 AM
78

The more and more I internalize the message of FDS, the more I feel myself becoming quite disillusioned at the inequality I see. I don't like being th...
autumnxo92/r/askFDS12/03/21 04:31 AM
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I posted on another sub but someone suggested I post here for more answers and advice Hi! So I (F23) started seeing this guy (M28) last year. It was s...
dancingpajamas/r/askFDS24/01/21 12:50 PM
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I'm 27F / divorced and am in a good place, but when I scroll through a dating app or even see men in public, I'm just left cold. Most men seem kind of...
lovessourbeer/r/askFDS14/05/21 04:42 PM
78

Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I have been together a little over 4 and a half years. We've been doing long distance for the past 9 months, but we ...
pea_pods2/r/askFDS22/02/21 04:12 PM
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So, my mother's father died a few days. So for a few days my mother was visiting her parent's house. Today my biological father was a little bit drunk...
pikkpie/r/askFDS21/05/21 05:29 PM
77

I feel like there are so many HVW out there but literally slim to none HVM. I'm reflecting on my life and realizing that I don't think I've really enc...
GreatOrchidAmbition/r/askFDS11/07/21 04:58 AM
77

From my family, I was conditioned to believe that if I felt good about myself, praised myself or felt confident it meant that I was conceited, selfish...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS11/07/21 12:13 AM
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I can't stop seeing all men as predators Long story short. My first ever "boyfriend" raped me the first time he was alone with me and kept me with him...
Smoochiesublime/r/askFDS15/12/20 10:55 AM
76

Hi all, I really need help on what to do for any of you that has had to file a restraining order or anything like it. I live in Florida and I really j...
Twolipz_78/r/askFDS24/04/21 08:35 PM
76

Hi everyone! New to this subreddit. Just looking for help. My husband left last week and is planning a divorce. I have a toddler and am pregnant. We a...
LegitimateServe7/r/askFDS12/11/20 09:13 PM
76

In reflecting over my college years, I realize that I've said yes to many things I didn't want to do because I was put on the spot unexpectedl...
_cnz_/r/askFDS03/07/21 09:30 PM
76

I know FDS is generally anti-OLD, but since I've been in lockdown and never really have any dating experience I decided to try it Bumble around la...
ethylredds/r/askFDS18/08/21 09:42 AM
76

My friend recently put herself back out there after a bad relationship and she was talking to this one guy. She told him that she took a risk and deci...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS30/08/21 05:38 PM
76

So, why would they do that? Why would they talk badly about you to other people, both male and female, and at the same time chasing you hard and wanti...
Ancient-Cucumber/r/askFDS01/06/21 11:27 AM
76

An ex of mine was insecure about men hitting on me. He didn't want me to go to the gym and get “more attractive”. And the second guy negged me oft...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS19/05/21 03:00 PM
76

I love and live the FDS lifestyle. But recently I have seen some absolutely disgusting YT videos about this sub, and read the death threats that peopl...
FleetingDaisy/r/askFDS25/10/20 06:02 PM
76

My best friend was absolutely amazing to me. He helped me through a breakup. He always did things that were thoughtful and caring and we had some real...
Apprehensive_Prune21/r/askFDS26/09/20 08:39 AM
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Throwaway account because of potentially identifying info. I live alone in a tiny house (small trailer) in a (lovely, gay, retired) man's backyard...
FDS_account/r/askFDS16/10/20 04:07 PM
75

When I used OLD, I came across a lot of guys who listed their height (which is often over 180cm), posted pics of their cars or themselves doing "...
fireforestfairy/r/askFDS14/06/21 05:10 PM
75

My daughter is in a relationship with this guy and lives with him. As she had just come out of a relationship when she met him and had to look for a n...
CologneMom/r/askFDS06/04/21 03:28 PM
75

I'm only twenty one but I was engaged and felt really broken after the break up and even during the relationship. I'm starting to have anxiety around ...
Continued_changes/r/askFDS07/04/21 07:03 AM
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Before today he was pretty okay. She had problems getting him to clean up after himself and doing things like putting the toilet seat down. Today she ...
tynike/r/askFDS11/01/21 08:11 PM
75

recently my grandpa was forced into a nursing home. its been the first time that my grandmother is living away from him, or on her own in general. ive...
warinmymind94/r/askFDS22/12/20 06:50 AM
75

I (23f) am a LVW, I can admit that. I don't have a degree, i work a crappy job, im still in therapy, im overweight, i smoke pot. That being said im co...
Affectionate_Pilot42/r/askFDS16/05/21 09:56 AM
75

Hello wonderful ladies, I decided to walk away from a situation ship recently and I have had lots of mixed feelings about it. I'm getting into therapy...
poody456/r/askFDS29/12/20 02:11 PM
74

Dated a guy since July was going well . On into November spent the week with me before starting a new job and my daughters wedding, had sex the 9 he s...
Areallmenstupid/r/askFDS16/11/20 06:21 PM
74

I was told by a family member that I needed to forgive my toxic sister because she's butthurt that I cut her out of my life because I put my foot down...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS03/08/21 09:17 PM
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In the past, this dude and I met up through a friend once. He asked me out to a nice dinner date and I said let's get to know each other a little ...
warinmymind94/r/askFDS08/08/21 07:54 PM
74

I had several recent block and delete experiences over even small things (don't want to waste my time). What I struggle with is not taking respons...
Kellianny/r/askFDS27/05/21 11:19 AM
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errgrimgrr/r/askFDS27/09/20 11:18 PM
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Hi ladies So there are a 100 days left of the year. I'd really like to make them count. Does anyone have any suggestions of what sort of things I can ...
throwawayyyyyynowww/r/askFDS24/09/20 12:40 PM
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With FDS standards, it's really better to weed them out from the start. I've been thinking about it, and guys who randomly try to start a conv...
ethylredds/r/askFDS09/10/21 02:25 AM
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I don't know what it is, I'm always considered temporary to most men. It could be that I'm choosing the wrong types, but I wonder if it's a result of ...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS08/11/20 08:16 PM
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I imagine a lot of guys are offended by FDS. But as I continue to read and glean tips for myself in my own dating life. I realized that all the hubbub...
kaazsssz/r/askFDS15/08/20 08:14 PM
73

Honestly this phrase triggers me especially because my worst ex who ended up being an narcissist said this phrase ALOT to me. Then with other men, I a...
AC7878/r/askFDS08/10/21 11:48 PM
73

In the last six months I have felt my attraction for men dwindle. I have come to find my interactions with them exhausting, invalidating, and wholly t...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS23/02/22 12:48 AM
73

TW: Physical Violence I continue getting emotional and mental flashbacks to the moment when he breached my physical boundary. The incident traumatized...
arnezuara/r/askFDS10/08/21 01:59 PM
73

I have had a couple of acquaintances that are or have been in poly relationships , and it's always one man and two women. It's obvious to me that the ...
hangingplaintain/r/askFDS28/11/20 12:02 AM
73

I was at my gym tonight as usual and I noticed that many LVM's had their eyes on any girl they could spot. Like we are there to workout not check ...
AC7878/r/askFDS08/06/21 01:20 AM
73

I dated my ex for about 10 months. He broke up with me over text in September so I blocked and deleted instantly. However, in December curiosity got t...
dovecharm/r/askFDS25/02/21 12:47 AM
73

Hi everyone. I'm very new to dating and have recently met a guy (20m) I'm interested in and have gone on three dates with. I'm 18f and a virgin and do...
havesomeyellowdrink/r/askFDS13/05/21 06:01 AM
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I'm new here and learning, please bear with me. I'm pretty confused on this issue I just came across with my new boyfriend who has been a HVM. I could...
Throwaway08520000/r/askFDS07/04/21 06:06 AM
72

Any recommendations for books or other resources I can give my teen daughter to save her the grief of learning these lessons the hard way? (Like most ...
crossingovertheabyss/r/askFDS03/01/21 03:45 PM
72

There is a man who is pursuing me who meets my minimum requirements for dating, and he's taken me out on a few nice meal dates with reservations, plan...
thighsmatch/r/askFDS13/10/20 02:56 AM
71

Every time I tell some random woman on Reddit posting about some LVM to go check out FDS, some sad little LVM gets triggered and starts calling me nam...
thenotoriousaep/r/askFDS05/10/20 09:57 AM
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Is there a difference between your partner "roasting" you or for example your best friends? I see a lot of people roast eachother "in t...
DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS21/12/21 02:39 PM
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Jesus, do men have the audacity! There is a man from my hometown who I have never even spoken to, I just know him through church and through his famil...
snowwhite224/r/askFDS10/02/22 04:58 AM
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Hi everyone. So something happened over the new year and it's been sitting really poorly with me ever since. My boyfriend and I (25m, 24F) have be...
magical_hermit12/r/askFDS02/02/21 03:30 AM
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I was at value village the other day, winter coat and mask as per rules. Made the briefest of eye contact with a guy as we walked past each other and ...
SkittleGangbang/r/askFDS16/12/20 06:23 AM
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Hi Ladies, Thanks for having this forum, I have greatly benefited from it. My bf and I (both 36) have dated for two years. He has good ways and ways I...
Introambi1/r/askFDS15/11/20 02:50 PM
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I always hear the man should always love more than you. One of my co-workers told me that their heads get so big if we show we love them so much and t...
butteryorzo/r/askFDS25/08/21 08:56 PM
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So I was dating this guy for almost 3 months (we met up around 6 times in total because of Corona) and I thought things were going well between us. Mo...
Bakamichi/r/askFDS13/12/20 05:22 PM
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Soo I'm trying to level up and move on from being a pick me I was in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship from 2016-2018 he was my first serio...
byebih/r/askFDS15/12/20 03:16 AM
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I'm an outgoing, confident girl. I love talking to people, having fun, making people laugh and making others feel comfortable. It's possible I...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS24/05/21 05:53 AM
70

Over the past year I have ruthlessly blocked and deleted many men from my life who weren't adding to it. The problem is, with Covid especially, I ...
FDSxMuffinVSrat/r/askFDS19/09/20 03:08 PM
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I'm looking for a roommate but so far only dudes in their 50s have responded to my ad. One of them mentioned "cohabitation" and sent me ...
lalalalaika/r/askFDS02/10/20 01:32 AM
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Thought about this after a recent event at work. In brief, I work in a highly competitive law firm as one of the glaringly few ethnic minorities there...
NoMoreWordsToConquer/r/askFDS21/04/22 10:00 AM
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Hey babies, just trying to find out if anyone else has experience with this. I'm not against physical touch at all, though it does make me uncomfortab...
kiki_do_u_luv_me/r/askFDS15/01/21 09:38 PM
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I am dating a guy for a while now but he seems to not want to make exclusive and I want to date others now so I don't get attached you know the dr...
thelightsource12/r/askFDS23/02/21 08:15 AM
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Question in title. My (27F) ex-husband was emotionally abusive/incapable of falling in love with me. Honestly, the signs were there early on. But I st...
lovessourbeer/r/askFDS23/11/20 07:06 PM
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I live with my boyfriend (I know, I know - pre FDS!) and generally we have a happy relationship. However, he is notorious for saying he's going to do ...
luceario/r/askFDS14/03/21 01:54 PM
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So I was reintroduced to a family friends son recently. We have been talking for a while and the texts have been suggestive/ general flirting. But he ...
sarstarss/r/askFDS02/09/21 10:16 PM
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Left a shitty toxic situationship. Was feeling the best I've ever ever felt. Positive and happy and like a million bucks everyday. I really felt like ...
Jazzlike__Coyote/r/askFDS08/05/21 01:37 PM
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We met around 3 months ago and at first I wasn't interested in a relationship. Don't get me wrong - he's attractive and definitely my type but I wante...
curlywurlyprincess/r/askFDS23/05/21 06:10 PM
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Like they'll reach out again, even if things didn't end badly but you decide you no longer want to deal with their wishy washy bs, why do they come ba...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS06/12/20 04:35 AM
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I want nothing to do with dating anyone right now. I am focusing on myself and putting a lot into growing my small business, so I have been using soci...
warinmymind94/r/askFDS08/06/21 11:55 AM
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These past few days i have felt really ugly. And my confidence is really low. I'm scared that my standarts are going to go lower, since i feel like i ...
lumijumalatar/r/askFDS05/04/21 09:54 PM
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It gives me this little nagging feeling of insecurity and jealousy. Like I wish I had that but I can't. Although I'm confident and love myself, I know...
AcadiaLeather5071/r/askFDS04/06/21 11:12 AM
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Hello, I am a 20f black junior in college. As you can see from my post history leveling up has been incredibly hard for me. I started this journey to ...
ceedee21/r/askFDS19/04/21 01:12 AM
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I have an open case in family court to revise the custody order between my ex and I. there's a hearing coming up in an hour, it's not even a particula...
_bethiebabes/r/askFDS12/05/21 06:33 PM
67

During the courting/dating stage, its known to not chase after guys. How can you ensure your man keeps chasing you/putting in the effort after you are...
Sensibility_/r/askFDS06/01/21 09:38 PM
67

I've been dating a guy for 6 weeks. All signs so far point to him being a HVM. He organises and pays for thoughtful dates, is respectful of my boundar...
sleeeeepie/r/askFDS09/11/20 10:25 AM
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Hello ladies! Thank you to the mod who pushed me in the right direction for this post. The other day I was running through a neighborhood that connect...
manwatheil_undomiel/r/askFDS17/10/20 05:12 PM
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I am in a fairly new relationship. We mostly go out to eat and he picks me up and drops me at home. But the times I've driven to his place for a m...
fogplum/r/askFDS24/02/22 11:38 PM
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(Edit below w/ update) Hello fellow redditors. I'm feeling like I'm kind of in a pickle here and feel the need to reach out for outside perspective. I...
shitlife4point0/r/askFDS03/02/21 05:43 PM
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I watched as dear friend of mine was stalked and harassed by a psychopath ex for leaving him and moving on with her life. He harassed her through anon...
lunatigre/r/askFDS21/11/20 09:58 PM
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I notice a lot of stories here are wonderful successes of women leaving abusive and narcissistic ex's. But are there stories from women who left someo...
Aloe_You_Vera_Much/r/askFDS30/12/20 08:21 PM
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I don't want to break up with him, I just want him to be the person I need him to be. I really want it to be him, but he doesn't treat me right. He ne...
avamansouri/r/askFDS04/08/21 03:49 PM
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I have a friend who has been dating a guy for about close to a year now. She tells me he treats her pretty well, gives her gifts, plenty of words of a...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS11/03/21 02:42 AM
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So, a core tenet of FDS is not sharing trauma with men. I used to be very guilty of this, sharing every upsetting detail of life with my SO. Of course...
raphaellastorm/r/askFDS15/06/21 02:05 AM
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I posted a few days ago seeking advice about an ex who wouldn't stop calling me. I've had his number blocked for a year but just started noticing tons...
super_thinker_/r/askFDS08/01/21 07:44 PM
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After 9 years, my bf broke up with me five mins post couples counseling. The following day he was screwing someone new. This was very out of character...
LosingNirvana/r/askFDS17/05/21 02:22 AM
65

Hi, does anyone think it's super weird and kind of creepy that Elizabeth Gilles is now married to one of the music producers of her show Victorious, w...
Remarkable-Culture-8/r/askFDS17/09/20 02:45 PM
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Hi ladies. I'm posting here because I need some support. I was dating a guy and out of the blue he told me he's getting back with his ex. Apparently h...
LunaValley/r/askFDS22/11/21 11:11 AM
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Healing from trauma caused by LVM/NVM is a slow and painful process. In some ways I've made tremendous progress but in other ways I remain broken and ...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS28/12/21 06:27 PM
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Hello Queens, I know this will be very infuriating, but I have to get it off my chest. My father (a NVM, tbh) died less than a month ago. I subsequent...
Livia_Drusila/r/askFDS15/12/21 04:50 AM
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I don't mean anything extremely out of ordinary. I just mean small things. I don't usually speak up my mind immediately. I think, reflect and later on...
Sisi21cent/r/askFDS02/01/22 11:33 PM
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Lately, I've dated attractive, young, and fit men and I can't take other men seriously. It didn't help that those guys treated me very wel...
Competitive_Bar8657/r/askFDS08/01/22 12:07 AM
65

Been talking to a guy and he makes an effort to call me from time to time and I feel like we connect and the conversations are good. However we were o...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS29/03/22 11:33 PM
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This is a colleague at work who started off super intensely with me. Constant compliments and talking for hours etc. Within a week of proper talking h...
Apprehensive_Prune21/r/askFDS27/09/20 10:12 AM
64

My ex reached out to me a few days ago about wanting to talk after I blocked him. He has some HVM qualities. Some, like he always wanted me to talk ab...
swdyww/r/askFDS12/09/20 11:02 PM
64

So I've been talking to a dude on hinge for like 2 weeks ish now, on and off because I'm busy working on the frontline of my states covid response and...
daglowup/r/askFDS09/09/21 06:31 AM
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I'm someone who usually has trouble giving men compliments because I'm skeptical and find that I fear the other shoe dropping. However, I know that it...
yangoseed/r/askFDS10/10/21 08:08 PM
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He was a porn addict, used onlyfans, and made offhanded comments about my appearance. But i still fucking miss him and want him back, he was trying to...
wickeddopefreshswag/r/askFDS08/02/21 10:05 PM
64

Time and time again, when they don't want to do something they opt out to tell you an excuse or stretched out the truth instead of "because I...
Previous-Focus-2013/r/askFDS04/03/21 10:05 PM
64

Hi ladies, today I wanted to speak about what happened right now. My family calls me a difficult woman, crazy bitch and all that stuff when I express ...
pikkpie/r/askFDS06/06/21 08:22 AM
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Hi, I've been lurking this sub for a long time, I'm f24 and a Scrote gave me hsv2 (herpes). Anyways not a pity party, it is what it is, I'm just wonde...
bambii342/r/askFDS06/06/21 12:21 AM
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A close friend of mine has been in an abusive relationship with a LVM for about 3 years now. There have been thousands of red flags and deal breakers ...
radsera99/r/askFDS11/05/21 11:06 AM
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I'm a 24 yo virgin woman who has never had her first kiss before. By nature, I'm reserved, have a lot of introverted tendencies, and I'm definitely th...
questionasker012/r/askFDS12/02/21 09:27 PM
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/r/askFDS23/02/21 06:56 PM
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Hi lovely gals. I dated someone a while ago that pressured me into oral sex on the second date, I went back to his house to drink after a date knowing...
poody456/r/askFDS09/07/21 08:56 AM
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I've been reading this sub for the past months, and I'm hooked. However, some of the things said in the guide are so American that I have trou...
Lamiek/r/askFDS18/11/20 06:08 PM
63

I've been out with this guy three times over the last two weeks. Ever since the first time we went on a date, he's been trying to get me to plan our n...
luceario/r/askFDS30/11/20 10:56 PM
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I know the title sounds dumb. I should be able to get out, but I'm scared to. It wasn't all 4 years at once. It was 3 years when I was in high...
numbers213/r/askFDS04/02/21 10:44 PM
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I work for a large, established technology company. Within my team I am the only woman, WOC and the only designated marketing person. I've been there ...
dancedance_83/r/askFDS10/03/21 02:40 PM
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I'm recovering from many years of lib-fem thinking & casual sex. I'm struggling especially because I have a close friend who gets a lot of male at...
poody456/r/askFDS30/08/21 05:49 AM
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This weekend I went on my first date with someone and I had a really great time. So naturally, my ex also chose this weekend to text me/call me. I did...
terrordactyl20/r/askFDS05/04/21 03:58 PM
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TLDR: I am saving penetrative sex until marriage and want to know when or if I should reveal it to future partners. I've been wondering how to pro...
WildTenderness/r/askFDS01/06/21 07:27 PM
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I saw it a while back and can't find it now, maybe the poster deleted it. I remember it saying something like "not having kids is the cheatco...
level_up_always/r/askFDS16/04/21 02:46 PM
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Questions that seem normal, but have the purpose of you understanding more how a new guy you just met ticks and find red flags. ...
ambitiousthings/r/askFDS23/10/20 12:55 PM
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From your eyes, what happened to men? Or is happening to men to make them such a pathetic option? ...
Nobodywantsdeblazio/r/askFDS12/03/20 06:31 PM
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One of my friends was telling me about this guy she matched with on hinge a year ago who she's been seeing and how they made it exclusive in august. I...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS08/10/21 08:52 PM
63

My dear sisters, I need your support because I feel my head being cloudy, like it's right in my face, yet my "pickme" is trying it's...
HotTrouble0/r/askFDS05/02/22 06:27 PM
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So I have been texting this guy for a few days and he's mentioned going on a date. He then asked if I was free for a video call. I know FDS advises a ...
tatogucci/r/askFDS11/10/21 10:50 PM
62

I work with a man whose quite arrogant. I'm a student social worker, he's a care assistant. We really don't have all that many dealings with each othe...
LunaValley/r/askFDS02/11/21 09:29 PM
62

I prefer to meet men in a "spontaneous" manner. While I guess it's possible to come across HVM via online dating or matchmakers, I can&#...
fireforestfairy/r/askFDS04/12/21 09:43 AM
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I'm talking about young men <30. In my experience they do. My ex would get rock hard quickly from making out at home, after sitting across from me ...
fogplum/r/askFDS23/01/22 08:10 PM
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Backstory- beloved family member is clearly involved with a disaster of a scrote. Lovebombing, controlling, rap sheet 5 pages long, moved into her (pa...
enoughalready4me/r/askFDS11/11/20 04:55 AM
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LVM Shenanigans So I've been talking with a guy for about a week. Telling me all the right things, he lives about an hour away so we make plans to mee...
LittleWinn/r/askFDS05/12/20 04:54 PM
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Honestly, most guys fail within the first week of texting. And now someone has come along who hasn't. I'm actually pretty happy my reaction no...
misszazie/r/askFDS26/01/21 03:19 PM
62

I'd appreciate some examples and tips. Thank you....
Heartbreakerchick/r/askFDS18/01/21 06:08 AM
62

Tips on how to rebuild my self esteem after having it tarnished by a predatory scrote....
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS02/03/21 07:58 PM
62

I keep going through different stages as I strengthen my resolve to leave. I found FDS in November, when he started the pull-away excuses. He kept up ...
Deborahwasaprophet/r/askFDS13/01/21 10:53 PM
62

I have been with my boyfriend for 16 months, he lives with me and I am in love with him. Problem is our relationship is trash. I know we have to break...
serilda2020/r/askFDS13/01/21 06:24 AM
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I've been on FDS for a few months now, have internalized all the empowering messages all of you amazing ladies have shared, and yet I still find m...
hologothic/r/askFDS22/05/21 06:02 PM
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EDIT: Hello! I apologize that I haven't replied to everyone separately but I wanted to thank you all for the wonderful replies regardless! It's given ...
dovecharm/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:36 AM
61

/r/AskFDS/comments/ot7h0d/how_will_men_in_a_relationship_try_to_seek_other/...
Sharp-Ad-402/r/askFDS28/07/21 10:50 AM
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I'm looking for advice / any ways of thinking that changed how any of you started becoming attracted to HVM. I was dating someone who was so terri...
decaf_flower/r/askFDS06/07/21 04:20 PM
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I was sent to this page by an very kind individual who commented on my original story in the dating advice subreddit. Long story short...the man (33) ...
Taciturn_Tumbler/r/askFDS01/12/20 10:54 PM
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Hello there everyone! My backstory with this post: So before the covid lockdown happened, last year in March, I was talking to different men on Hinge ...
rukia_kuchiki00/r/askFDS27/01/21 06:22 PM
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(About a month ago, I asked FDS why men were so deceptive about their drinking habits. In that post, I explained that drinking is a big concern of min...
super_thinker_/r/askFDS21/04/21 05:26 AM
61

There was a guy I've known since high school. He had a girlfriend all four years of college, and he treated her like the queen. Like true HVM beha...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS25/02/21 05:43 PM
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2.5 years ago I (F/24) moved halfway across the country, from the Midwest to the Northeast, for a job. I met my boyfriend (M/31) soon after, and we've...
suresher/r/askFDS04/01/21 02:24 AM
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My father sexually abused my sister when she was 8. Mom wont leave him yet shes (sister) is 16 now. CULTURAL MISOGYNY Im 20. We live in an orthodox so...
Acbc0077/r/askFDS04/11/20 05:45 AM
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Throwaway since my bf knows my reddit handle. I really need your advice here… I met my bf in college and we have been together and happy for the las...
successfulbfthrow/r/askFDS22/10/20 03:01 PM
61

I'm 23 years old and I haven't been in a relationship, but I have dated one guy (which looking back, wasn't particularly good) and I haven...
Sweetlikecream/r/askFDS28/09/21 09:36 AM
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First of all thank you. Due to your input and my friend's input I decided to leave. After 6 years of a toxic relationship I decided to leave. My b...
Puzzledchica/r/askFDS12/10/21 11:32 PM
61

Potential trigger warning - I was dating someone for some time and we once we became sexual he had lots of issues with staying hard because of using c...
poody456/r/askFDS20/11/21 07:13 AM
61

My mom is my dependent because she has rheumatoid arthritis (so she can't work) and she can't speak English. She makes no income so I pay for all her ...
PengBa/r/askFDS12/03/22 06:57 AM
61

I'm 27 and a few of my friends turned 30 recently and I realised that I'm basically a toddler compared to them in terms of having my life together. Do...
thanarealnobody/r/askFDS17/04/22 04:32 PM
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Whenever someone said if a guy truly wants you he would act right or if someone loves you they would change etc, it makes me quite upset to think that...
Apprehensive_Prune21/r/askFDS13/10/20 07:16 PM
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I have recently developed a sickness and lost weight as a result. I lost 2kgs in a week and I was already underweight to begin with. I have been put o...
Sadfemale321/r/askFDS26/11/20 04:03 AM
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Hi I posted this in a different subreddit, but I was recommended to post it here. So I've always been kind of an insecure person, but I let my boyfrie...
aveykay/r/askFDS10/02/21 07:08 AM
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Are these possible red flags? He says I'm overthinking them and that I'm ‘acting crazy' so let me know ... Been seeing a guy for a few months and ev...
K8erpillar1/r/askFDS14/01/21 05:39 PM
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SunflowerinVirgo0903/r/askFDS30/05/21 02:41 AM
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The title is self explanatory. I know I fucked up, I trusted someone who I shouldn't have trusted, I allowed him to take my on low value dates. In...
thruawoo90210/r/askFDS27/05/21 02:12 PM
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At 2 years ago I was extremely clingy and needy for attention. I would go into a panic and accuse others of not caring for me if they didn't reply...
TheTower_14/r/askFDS14/02/21 08:07 PM
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This was my first relationship ever. I thought I had chosen wisely. He is my ex now. Since I'm back lurking on this sub I'm feeling a lot of s...
kipri/r/askFDS25/12/20 01:38 PM
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Good day ladies, I am re-reading Why Men Love Bitches (up to Ch 8), and remember the book rubbed me the wrong way when I was a pick-me. I think I real...
FluffandRainclouds/r/askFDS26/12/20 06:45 AM
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Ive been friends with her for 4 years and since i met her she's been a self proclaimed nympho who swear she doesnt get hurt feelings over men and “n...
kittenunderduress/r/askFDS27/07/21 04:49 AM
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Hey guys I just made a new account so I could get some advice. I love FDS and you're all so supportive and helpful. I'm extremely glad I found it. Bas...
growthh77/r/askFDS16/11/20 02:50 AM
59

Not that I am using OLD right now but I played around with it in the past. I didn't meet any men irl as part of me was uncomfortable with potentia...
fireforestfairy/r/askFDS02/07/21 06:29 PM
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Pardon if this sounds like a rant. For background I'm 28 with no irl friends to hang out with Etc and after work I get so bored and then I fall into m...
throwaway23004345/r/askFDS02/07/21 01:56 AM
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Shower thought revelation here: But did anyone else have zero boundaries in their version of Pickmeism? I realized when I reflect back on my better, b...
dancedancedance83/r/askFDS02/05/21 04:53 AM
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I (20F) met my boyfriend (23M) a year ago and I am just starting to realise that this relationship doesn't contribute much to my life. More than a...
throwawayimlonelyy/r/askFDS25/06/21 04:55 PM
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If you read my post history, I found out a little over a month ago that my partner of six years stole from me. The problem is, he has always been a ...
Aloe_You_Vera_Much/r/askFDS13/02/21 02:02 AM
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I'm 19F and have never had sexual intercourse. I have done other things of a sexual nature, but never PIV. I don't see myself getting into a relations...
thepensiveporcupine/r/askFDS06/01/21 05:36 AM
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So, on online dating apps I focus on a certain type of a man, judging by things I can see right away - he must have a high profile job (higher managem...
FleetingDaisy/r/askFDS30/10/20 12:28 PM
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Hi FDS, I am new to this subreddit and wanted to clarify some ideas to help me better understand. It seems like a big part of FDS is a man living alon...
canadiangirl1564/r/askFDS02/11/20 06:53 AM
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Click the "request to comment" button below to become an approved user! Welcome to r/AskFDS! We are excited to have turned r/AskFDS into a s...
NecessaryCook/r/askFDS27/09/20 04:58 AM
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I work in retail. Sometimes customers (typically older men) think it's cute to jokey-flirt with the female employees. Because they're using a jokey to...
CrepeCraze/r/askFDS30/07/21 01:38 AM
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That usually means they are the cheaters. Please be careful! ...
ordinarilynightmare/r/askFDS31/03/21 04:45 PM
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i work in an industry infested with narcissistic, insecure, materialistic men. these men only do this job to make a lot of money and get the golddigge...
nikkirosex3/r/askFDS12/08/21 06:17 PM
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My ex cheated on me. I found out in Twitter. He was taking ss of his conversations with this girl. Never did it with ours. I'm so hurt. I wasted y...
Banananath/r/askFDS09/05/21 01:34 PM
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My dad is rude and misogynistic towards my mom. He's very condescending and shows no faith in her being able to figure something new out/find dire...
dovecharm/r/askFDS27/02/21 04:21 AM
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My boyfriend told me I dont know how to treat a man and that's why he's always hungry and the room is a mess. He really thinks because im a woman I sh...
serilda2020/r/askFDS13/01/21 06:52 AM
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I have posted in another sub and get like one half hearted response. I am desperate He is REALLY manipulative and emotionally abusive. I moved to anot...
HumanAdhesiveness360/r/askFDS03/06/21 10:43 PM
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I spent half of March and whole of April dating a seemingly HVM. (Previously posted about not be initially attracted to him, figured that out after fi...
puddlesteps/r/askFDS22/05/21 05:38 AM
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In the beginning he'd want to take me on dates and see me, then every time I start to reciprocate he would pull away immensely. Then when we start tal...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS18/02/21 02:23 AM
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professionalwitch/r/askFDS16/04/21 03:50 PM
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Hi ladies! I'm new to FDS but this sub has already changed my life entirely. I see a lot of posts calling out LV behavior that I might've not recogniz...
udontknowshet/r/askFDS18/11/20 05:15 PM
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I have this one close friend and we celebrated her bachelorette recently. She had met her fiancé through me. I had known her fiancé for a few months...
Snoo32629/r/askFDS06/08/21 01:44 PM
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Why is it that guys can go from woman to woman seeking what they desire, seemingly unfazed by rejection? I know personally that rejection causes me to...
questionasker012/r/askFDS21/01/21 10:28 AM
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This is a rescue mission... for me! Hello Queens, I'm a FDS newbie, and am ever so grateful for finding this sub. I've been trying to overcome...
GeorgiaPeach_94/r/askFDS07/05/21 01:15 PM
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Background: 15 year abusive marriage. Next was a LDR with a needy man who ended up getting a girlfriend in his hometown because "he missed me" too muc...
PurpyPops/r/askFDS04/04/21 10:01 PM
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Basically, my mom told me that she was happy that I went intelligent rather than beautiful because it was the best way in life. Ugh thanks mom.. Can&#...
Deneive/r/askFDS23/08/21 11:03 AM
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I'm f19 and the therapist seems to be in his 50s. I reached out to a lot and he seems to be the best fit for me. While speaking with him I could tell ...
softscalp/r/askFDS23/05/21 02:43 PM
57

Hi ladies. I matched with a guy on OLD in another state and we've been talking for a while. I know both of these (OLD and long-distance) are FDS no-no...
popularsongs/r/askFDS30/09/21 09:23 AM
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Hello fellow queens, My boyfriend of 1 year and a half has purchased a house with me (I know it's bad news, but we don't intend to live together soon....
Sisi21cent/r/askFDS05/12/21 01:16 PM
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We met on a dating app and he asked me what I'd like to do on a date. He said he prefers going for a drive or a walk on the waterfront. I said to ...
jules_994/r/askFDS20/04/22 02:12 PM
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Hi everyone, I am new to dating and found FDS after a few unfortunate situations in the past. I'd love for someone to tell me what my mistakes are fro...
Competitive_Bar8657/r/askFDS21/09/21 04:43 PM
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I'm pissed, I'm fucking livid and disappointed. I thought I was spending new years eve with a friend with their friends. And one of her female...
DiosaCordilia/r/askFDS29/12/21 04:12 PM
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This is a bit of a bummer because all else considered we've been on a few awesome dates, have great communication and connection. I see mostly green f...
cryptohobo/r/askFDS04/01/22 07:32 PM
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Met a guy recently, seems overall nice and very interested. Kind, considerate, emotionally aware. He's alluded to two things I find odd. Firstly, ...
AdRevolutionary185/r/askFDS21/02/22 11:27 PM
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I'm soooooo disgusted. He admitted he jumped into a relationship without feeling any attraction to trigger me and it "hurt" him that I blocked him eve...
AC7878/r/askFDS28/03/21 09:27 PM
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I've posted about dating again after a year of working on myself intensively. I came out from a narcissistic abused relationship that it completely ch...
AC7878/r/askFDS20/07/21 07:16 PM
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I went on a seemingly good first date with a guy a couple weeks ago and his texting pattern changed after the date (to contacting me every other day),...
blackflowerx3/r/askFDS09/08/21 05:07 PM
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I apologize in advance for the somewhat disorganized nature of this post. My question is about the post in the handbook titled "As a woman, it...
questionasker012/r/askFDS31/01/21 05:33 AM
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Alright ladies, I need some advice/general support here. I just had a zoom call with my girlfriends last night. It was nice to have a little virtual s...
Risoa/r/askFDS20/01/21 10:30 PM
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I have read the handbook twice in two days and didn't see this issue addressed. Is it ok to remain friends with a man if he didn't meet your standards...
panda_anda/r/askFDS05/05/21 11:51 PM
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Hi, I'm a 20f black girl. I've felt unattractive for my whole life cause boys have never given me attention growing up. I'm in college and have defini...
ceedee21/r/askFDS13/05/21 01:24 PM
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I am seeing a guy who might be high-value. I see a lot of green flags, but not getting too excited until we are a bit further along. I'm so relieved b...
littlefunman/r/askFDS09/04/21 01:25 PM
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Thankfully I've been 4 months single and working on myself, but I've been reflecting on ALL the LVM in my life and I'm SO mad at how I put up with the...
mashedtowel/r/askFDS08/04/21 12:30 PM
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I've had a complicated relationship with this man for 6 years. 2 and a half on, 2 and a half off. I know, I know. I'm not calling him HV or LV...
squishiiibb/r/askFDS14/03/21 06:47 AM
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I am a fairly attractive, outgoing, friendly, independent and free spirited woman. (ENFP 7w8) if that helps. I am passionate and a “go getter.” I ...
rainbow7sprinkles/r/askFDS17/12/20 07:27 AM
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To start out, I don't think his intentions are nefarious. He's just kind of intense and seems a little manic. He said he got me a gift. I thought it w...
CrepeCraze/r/askFDS05/06/21 09:07 PM
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It took me so long to get here. I have been working on my mental and physical health for the past 4 months. I initially didn't block him because he wa...
96Bahhd/r/askFDS07/06/21 05:33 PM
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I met a guy recently through mutual friends. We met at a small party and got along well. I'm not interested in him for various reasons (one is that he...
fogplum/r/askFDS22/06/21 03:37 PM
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Hey sorry I know I've posted a lot about this guy from Bumble I've been talking to! But yeah we've been talking for coming up to 2 weeks, he messages ...
VulperaBae/r/askFDS04/03/21 11:00 AM
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What do you all think about this? I recently started talking to someone who's in healthcare. We have known each other for at least 5 years but we were...
Sensibility_/r/askFDS02/01/21 07:36 PM
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So, maybe I shouldn't call it a fight but a disagreement in which, got pretty awkward and I could tell her was both uncomfortable and slightly disgust...
snowwhite224/r/askFDS28/04/21 04:30 PM
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^^ I am curious. Since I believe I have also been a low value woman at times and working at becoming more of a HVW by targeting my low value traits . ...
Hot-Raccoon1823/r/askFDS07/07/21 01:57 PM
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For whatever reason, a lot of my friends have gotten into new relationships over the last several months. A lot of them have gone from zero to 100 on ...
popularsongs/r/askFDS15/03/21 06:45 PM
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Hi Ladies, I posted a few days ago about my friends ditching me at a club. I ended up getting black out drunk and raped by a strange man. I know who h...
anynameblahblahblah4/r/askFDS16/08/21 12:47 PM
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I did post this on the main sub, but was redirected here. It's a difficult time for me, as I've made the tough decision to sever ties with an ...
lonechronicler/r/askFDS12/03/21 02:38 PM
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I'm wondering about things like: Who contacts who first after you match? If I end the chat for the day, do I wait for them to initiate next time or do...
Foomama48/r/askFDS22/06/21 12:43 AM
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Hey All, I really need some advice. I'm 24, have a sister and my dad has been an avid porn user for most of our lives. How do I know? Because the ...
squaremarshmallow/r/askFDS05/12/20 10:26 PM
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Hi! I know there are certain subreddits that constantly put us down and people who participate in these subs are automatically banned from FDS. I was ...
Volperossa_/r/askFDS08/02/21 08:23 PM
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Hi ladies, as the title says I need some motivation! I have been planning to leave my live-in partner for a few months now, but this weekend I was vis...
itsnothimhun/r/askFDS11/03/21 01:17 PM
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Recently broke up. He wasn't sure about his feelings and wanted the time think about it I said NOPE, you should not have to think about if you wan...
waywardheartredeemed/r/askFDS05/05/21 02:09 AM
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[using a throw-away acc] I was into bdsm and female degradation for several years. I figured I was simply accustomed to it via frequent exposure on th...
marinevoyage/r/askFDS04/11/20 06:55 PM
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Blog, book, podcast, and social media suggestions are welcome, but podcasts would be the most accessible for me. I've struggled with a lack of ass...
WildTenderness/r/askFDS30/09/20 04:22 AM
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I am a man that is recently separated after a long marriage and joined this community to try and see what women are looking for now. The last time I d...
hutch058/r/askFDS13/09/20 08:50 PM
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Been with my bf for almost a year now and it's been a great relationship for the most part. He's a really sweet and caring guy and has made me feel ve...
Sweetoranges77/r/askFDS24/09/21 08:29 PM
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This happened a few years ago. He seems HV but I haven't been able to figure it out. On their wedding day, he was a little standoffish, kind of dismis...
xpressurself111/r/askFDS28/01/22 06:46 PM
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Just curious what the history is. I don't think I heard it much before I found FDS, but I've been hearing it on a few popular TV shows recentl...
Equipoisonous/r/askFDS15/04/22 04:10 PM
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I thought I wasn't attached... I had zero feelings for the man and just sat and watched. But then he ghosts me after 2 weeks. And it hit me after he v...
throwawayyyyyynowww/r/askFDS26/09/20 05:30 PM
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Draw_Practical/r/askFDS24/08/20 10:26 PM
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There is a whole group of people claiming marriage is just a paper, doesn't guarantee commitment, is no different than being a gf/bf couple, that ...
tryingtoheal18/r/askFDS13/09/21 09:06 PM
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This is a question I've been asked on a video chat and I feel like there's an opportunity to strategically answer this so you can both show your value...
Alternative_Basil990/r/askFDS02/01/21 02:58 AM
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So these were apparently food videos that he sent me randomly. He sends me random videos anyways. But this?! It was on messenger. Does it really mean ...
Objective-Ad7211/r/askFDS19/05/21 08:39 PM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/oqwuuo/do_guys_ever_ghost_you_because_youre_out_of_their/...
jules_994/r/askFDS24/07/21 07:48 PM
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3 years ago at a park I regularly frequent, an older man (probably in his 60's) randomly struck up friendly chit chat. He said he's here on a temporar...
cryptohobo/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:49 AM
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He's one of a few men I'm casually dating. So far he's planned dates, paid, given me gifts, and is attentive and clearly keen. However, he seems to ha...
Crushed_Avocado/r/askFDS07/01/21 06:40 PM
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So, I am back with the OLD. Thanks to FDS, I am now entertained rather than wounded when my few matches turn out to be LVM. Thanks! Recent examples Du...
enoughalready4me/r/askFDS21/11/20 04:56 PM
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I can't stop thinking about my ex. He left me 2 years ago after a 2 year long relationship where we lived together. (I know better now). He seemed sta...
Optimal-Ad-5998/r/askFDS04/02/21 06:22 AM
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Hi lovely ladies! I'm a newbie to this forum and have been lurking around reading every post in the handbook for a month or so. Now I think I am final...
BabyFaceNightClub/r/askFDS02/01/21 07:29 AM
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I'm recognizing how unsupportive my family members are. They don't try to be unsupportive, but it seems like they just want to give their opinion on e...
Lost_Kale90/r/askFDS12/07/21 07:12 PM
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Me and this guy who I've known for a couple years as a friend have been on dates in the past. We started talking again and hanging out recently, per h...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS10/01/21 09:12 PM
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We met when I was 17 and in high school and he was a grown 25 year old man. He was also already a convicted sex offender after being caught in a sting...
timeywimeyspacey/r/askFDS22/04/21 02:54 AM
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Recovering pickmeisha. My previous mindset was that I would get very invested after 3ish dates and preferred low key, low cost dates like coffee and p...
materialexpeditor/r/askFDS08/05/21 04:35 AM
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thatjimmylove/r/askFDS20/04/21 09:50 PM
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One of the reasons my last relationship ended was because my ex and I had very different worldviews. Overall, he was more optimistic, and I was more (...
popularsongs/r/askFDS06/05/21 05:33 PM
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I have a couple guys asking me out for a drink. What's the polite way to say that It should not be just drinks - At least dinner? ...
CS_student99/r/askFDS28/09/20 08:23 PM
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Met on OLD. We're in our mid twenties. To be fair I mentioned earlier that I was parked on the street close to the restaurant, but it was late nig...
fogplum/r/askFDS09/10/21 06:06 PM
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butterfly2406_/r/askFDS27/09/20 12:40 PM
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Right now I'm casually dating this man and I'm trying to gauge whether I should continue with him or not. We've been on three dates, fourth scheduled ...
disfnal/r/askFDS16/09/20 03:07 AM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/powv67/are_men_who_wont_accept_a_woman_with_public_hair/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS15/09/21 07:16 PM
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My instinct is to ignore, strange men make me highly uncomfortable. I get worked up by the audacity. Wondering what other HVW do in these situations ...
korakata/r/askFDS07/10/21 09:26 PM
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After a year-long dating hiatus I finally went on a date. The guy did all the right things - proper communication, well-planned dinner, we had a lot i...
CaliforniaKed/r/askFDS03/12/21 02:14 PM
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Hello queens, To contextualize I work in healthcare which makes it guaranteed a good drama. I'm 12 years younger than my manager (he is 40 or somethin...
Sisi21cent/r/askFDS13/02/22 01:44 AM
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He's a genius and a generous friend, but as I learn about his dating and social life, I have built a wall and he has noticed. He was recently dating/(...
laffytaggy/r/askFDS21/05/21 03:06 AM
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How do I stay optimistic with the way that things are? It's hard not to get pessimistic when I see posts in the main subreddits or even read about oth...
greenteaapplepie69/r/askFDS27/12/20 10:09 AM
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Hey ladies I have come to this sad understending - I cant seem to enjoy anything unless when I am in a relationship The food is not tasty, the social ...
Gone_with_the_dream/r/askFDS10/07/21 12:48 PM
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Hello Beautiful Ladies! My nephew is 14 and needs some help. He called me last night and has asked a girl on a date (how freakin adorable!) this Satur...
2021IsOurYearToShine/r/askFDS17/11/20 08:42 PM
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Hey everyone I matched with a guy on tinder, he invited me over to his house to watch movies which I declined. He then asked me for my social media wh...
poody456/r/askFDS18/11/20 05:01 AM
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I've been making so much progress in terms of treating my depression and social anxiety, but today I'm slipping into a dark mood. I'm missing a “rel...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS27/05/21 06:44 PM
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I would like a relationship at some point but I can't bring myself to be attracted to anyone. I've gone on dates and stuff recently but in the...
kittycakes22/r/askFDS15/08/21 02:47 AM
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Posting this on the main sub too to get maximum number of responses as I need all the help I can get. Mods, if this is wrong, please let me know &...
Pure-Organization-26/r/askFDS26/06/21 03:38 PM
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POSTED IN MAIN SUB. WAS REDIRECTED HERE. Let's call her Pat. She's 50 and I'm 24. We're both in the Army so it's normal to bond wi...
ihavequestions15/r/askFDS12/06/21 07:35 PM
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I've broken up with my boyfriend but he has kindly helped me move out this weekend. In the last year of our relationship I had nagging doubt every day...
VulperaBae/r/askFDS24/01/21 10:20 PM
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Ok so I'm planning on moving from my native country where mothers pick sexual partners for their sons (arranged marriage culture) to a civilized count...
oleviking/r/askFDS05/05/21 01:34 PM
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For context, my bf and I (mid-late 20s, dating for a year) have a mutual circle of friends consisting of people who went to high school together (excl...
LordDunderhead/r/askFDS08/03/21 12:05 AM
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I've been a member of FDS for a while now yet one thing I still have yet to grasp is the feeling of not being good enough to date seriously. What ...
Meadow97/r/askFDS15/04/21 05:37 AM
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*I'm sorry, this is kind of ramble-y. I'm 27F and when I'm not in a relationship I feel empty. Aside from being in a romantic relationship, there have...
Lost_Kale90/r/askFDS26/04/21 12:43 PM
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I've heard asking “What kind of porn do you like?” because men who watch porn will be excited to tell you about their porn, and men who don't will...
starlight_sequence/r/askFDS21/05/21 08:53 PM
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Ive (27f) made my long distance boyfriend (32m) too comfortable. How do I reverse this? Yes, comfort is a great thing, but I feel like my bf does not ...
2020Suviver19/r/askFDS06/01/21 02:28 AM
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I am always and have always been all about honesty, however, I've learned from you all lovely queens that we shouldn't share with our partners what ha...
CashMoneyCarrots/r/askFDS09/04/21 08:57 PM
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A man (45) I (32) have been dating (and sleeping with) since early this summer gifted me a disappointing small bouquet for Valentine's Day. We live 6 ...
Olala_29/r/askFDS13/02/21 08:28 PM
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Hi, so I'm new here and slightly new to dating. I've only been on OLD for about a year but in now way was it a solid thing- only for maybe a month str...
Umbrellasaretheenemy/r/askFDS18/12/20 07:50 AM
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I have a friend, let's call her Becky. Becky is very gorgeous but not really doing much of anything as she found a very rich guy, a psychopath we ...
GreatOrchidAmbition/r/askFDS11/05/21 06:23 PM
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Hi ladies! I've been dating a guy for a few months and he's said some things that really concern me. Firstly, on a date yesterday he told me about a b...
poody456/r/askFDS14/03/21 05:44 AM
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I left an unhealthy and abusive situation with a NVM a month ago. Total no contact. It was the most confusing, debasing, stressful and heartbreaking r...
Coupon_Problem/r/askFDS23/06/21 06:00 PM
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So I've noticed at work that I have a few female colleagues who would always pester me about if I'll get married, what type of man I like as if they a...
I_chose_myself/r/askFDS07/12/20 03:16 AM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/o2e1fi/in_a_postcovid_environment_how_can_i_meet_guys_to/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS18/06/21 02:09 AM
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I'm a man who's only now started dating at 21, and I'm shocked at how low the expectations are of women my age. A girl I'm taking on a date has been r...
elephantsittingstill/r/askFDS22/08/20 10:50 AM
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Whenever I hear stories from my older male relatives, every single one of them settled down by age 25 (Bosnia). Living in the U.S., it's strange t...
ladyyninjaa/r/askFDS09/08/20 10:11 AM
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So I broke up with my ex over messaging. He was neglectful and ended up being an LVM. I thought he was thougtful and healthy because he was better tha...
AC7878/r/askFDS14/09/21 07:40 PM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/qnqob9/why_do_guys_remain_friends_with_ex_girlfriends/...
SignificantCap8064/r/askFDS06/11/21 02:22 AM
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Hi everyone, I have been using the FDS strategies for a while now, and most of it has been very helpful. Anything I struggled with, I eventually got b...
FDSnewbie/r/askFDS30/10/20 06:15 PM
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I am a divorced single mom. I made the huge mistake of marrying my first kiss, just because I wanted a "pure marriage." He cheat, hit and dr...
SuccessfulAppeal333/r/askFDS28/10/20 06:48 PM
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Basically what the title says. I've gone on 4 dates, all planned and paid for by him. But my natural inclination is to offer a date myself. And I can'...
Aloe_You_Vera_Much/r/askFDS27/09/21 05:24 AM
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To keep things brief I (22f) have been dating a great guy (26f) with a lot of HV traits and no red flags to my knowledge for a little over a month. ~9...
yangoseed/r/askFDS30/11/21 07:28 AM
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I had a really weird encounter not so long ago and I'm feeling confused about it. Background info: I've been friends with a guy for around 2 y...
Iceyboo/r/askFDS19/01/22 11:21 PM
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. ...
fogplum/r/askFDS19/04/22 12:56 AM
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Let's say it's a guy you just matched with online. After he contacts you, how into the conversation do you get? I used to try to be a good conversatio...
tatogucci/r/askFDS28/03/21 07:24 PM
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/r/AskFDS/comments/os7660/can_someone_explain_why_a_man_with_mommy_issues/...
Sharp-Ad-402/r/askFDS26/07/21 08:21 PM
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I made the mistake of oversharing certain things in my former relationship: to fill the silence, curate more intimacy/vulnerability, “vet” for emp...
arnezuara/r/askFDS17/07/21 01:40 PM
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I'm dating in the true sense of spending time with multiple people on dates and getting to know them. Although I make sure I keep my options open I'm ...
Crushed_Avocado/r/askFDS11/01/21 03:18 AM
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Hey all, I've been lurking on fds on different accounts for a while now, and I seriously credit the sub and all you wonderful ladies (and much needed ...
remainsteadfast/r/askFDS13/01/21 05:06 PM
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The commons argument I see for why women at FDS don't do 50/50 is that the woman has to bear the burden of childbirth/pregnancy. However, this is typi...
WittyImprovement/r/askFDS01/05/21 06:09 PM
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I know this sadly is a common thing, but I am dating this guy who's honestly all in all quite a HVM from what I can tell so far although I am stil...
thelightsource12/r/askFDS16/01/21 09:41 AM
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