I'm currently dealing with a man that has such serious mommy issues and is very inconsistent with the level of respect he demonstrates toward me. Tonight I actually thought he was gaslighting me. I have been getting better (ASPIRING High Value Woman) about not taking his tantrums personally and that what I expect (consistent communication, doesn't think two questions back-to-back is overwhelming) is not too much. I feel like I am constantly 'bracing myself' like I'm about to be mentally punched in the gut but that I know I'm not wrong, I know that I'm not too much and I am finally getting comfortable saying so and that I'm not backing down.
I cannot find it in me to block and delete right now but I am still very proud of myself for not abandoning myself. I know being firm with my boundaries would be to block, delete and move on. I feel like I started getting more bold in communication because I'm having less fears about doing that, but I just am not there yet.
For anyone who has struggled to get from being a doormat to blocking and deleting and keeping your internal peace - what was your last straw? When did you level up? When did you stop arguing, stop sending paragraphs that gave men way too much grace than they deserved?
Please be kind, I know what I SHOULD do, and I will get there. I am asking for other women's journey's of how they got there. Much love to FDS. I am clearly not perfect so far but after less than a year following this group, my mindset has completely changed. Cheers to more growth.
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