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One question I receive from readers frequently goes something like this: "My boyfriend broke up with me because of X, Y or Z reason. It has been toug...
being single, boundaries, boyfriend, Breakup, moving on, relationshipAndrew30/01/16 10:04 PM

I recently spent a couple weeks in Europe. While there, I noticed something that genuinely surprised me: older European women are sexy. I found mysel...
age, appearance, attractiveness, beautiful, beauty, confidence, heels, how to get guys, how to keep a man, Looks, self-image, what men wantAndrew15/09/15 07:25 PM

Several years ago, I got into a discussion about women's clothes with my girlfriend at the time and her friend. The friend mentioned that she had "ki...
appearance, clothes, fashion, femininity, how men think, masculinity, misconceptions, sexy, style, what men wantAndrew01/09/15 09:47 PM

I haven't come across many online dating advice resources for women that I consider valuable. You might have noticed that (until today) I didn't foll...
authenticity, how women think, self-improvement, vulnerability, what men wantAndrew25/08/15 05:29 PM

Every once in a while I get e-mails from girls who have clearly resigned themselves to a life of lovelessness because they think they are ugly. This ...
appearance, arousal, beauty, cute, horny, hot, how men think, Looks, sex, sex drive, sexyAndrew18/08/15 10:23 PM

Everyone's talking about the whole "dadbod" thing, so it's been on my mind recently. Before I say anything else, let me just make it clear that I res...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, confidence, female game, gym, how men think, how not to get guys, how women think, human energy, self-improvement, settling, working outAndrew09/06/15 09:17 PM

The other day, a girl I've been seeing casually for a long time told me that she "really needs to find a boyfriend." I've known several single g...
being single, boyfriend, dating, husband, marriage, relationshipAndrew19/05/15 10:00 PM

After far longer than I ever expected it to take, my first book, Beyond the Breakup, is finally out. You can buy it in print format on the ...
blog, book, break up, Breakup, ex-boyfriend, how men think, male behavior, rejection, relationship, relationships, what he's thinkingAndrew22/04/15 12:27 AM

There's one thing some girls do that never fails to make me laugh. When they walk by a group of guys and suspect that the guys will check out her ass...
appearance, authenticity, female behavior, honesty, how men think, look, self-image, sexyAndrew07/04/15 10:51 PM

I suspect a good portion of the readers of this site have stumbled upon "The Manosphere" while browsing the internet for information about relationsh...
honesty, how men think, male behavior, men, what men wantAndrew02/03/15 11:19 PM

In July I posted an announcement that I’d finished working on a manuscript for a book about breakups. While I never committed to an exact relea...
bookAndrew14/02/15 05:45 PM

When people change something about their appearance – their hairstyle, clothes, makeup, hair color, etc. – they often rely on the feedbac...
Andrew20/01/15 05:07 PM

I get e-mails from girls all the time telling me that they are attractive, sweet, well-dressed, fun, etc. but can't seem to get the guys they want. T...
appearance, attraction, attractiveness, how men think, how to get guys, intelligence, personality, what men wantAndrew17/12/14 10:46 PM

Blogs that give dating and relationship advice can be hugely motivational. When you read them, you can feel like you've uncovered some huge secret, a...
misconceptions, responsibility, self-improvementAndrew10/11/14 08:56 PM

Dating and relationships are rife with cliche lines and expressions. People hear them in movies or on television, and then rehash them because they s...
female behavior, female game, first date, good girl, how men think, how not to get guys, promiscuity, sexAndrew29/10/14 06:33 PM

I hear the following conversation regularly: Guy 1: “Man, check out that girl in the yoga pants [or any tight article of clothing] over there.&...
appearance, attractiveness, dress, how men think, Looks, sexy, weightAndrew20/10/14 06:35 PM

When women go out, they are done up: they have makeup on, their hair is done, they are wearing heels, wearing their best clothes, etc. In addition, n...
appearance, approachability, attraction, attractiveness, bar, clothes, drunkenness, female behavior, male behavior, nightclubAndrew12/10/14 11:29 AM

Everyone adapts their behavior to the people around them, and in response to the situation at hand. We are nice to people we like and mean or bitchy ...
attraction, attractiveness, authenticity, dating, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, how women think, nice guy, personality, playerAndrew26/09/14 04:53 PM

Most women I've met like the idea of setting up the single men in their lives with the single girls in their lives. In other words, they like match-m...
approach, boyfriend, dating, female game, friendship, girlfriend, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, masculinity, relationship, responsibility, self-respectAndrew22/08/14 09:10 PM

I've met the majority of the women I've dated in bars. There have been plenty of girls that I've met through friends or randomly in public, but in ba...
approach, approachability, bar, female game, hard to get, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, nightclub, pickup, what men wantAndrew07/08/14 03:45 PM

I am sure everyone who reads this blog regularly has noticed the decline in post frequency in the last several months. What's probably not as evident...
blog, bookAndrew21/07/14 09:37 PM

There is a girl in my office that is extremely attractive. She is good-looking, but she is much more than that. She has great posture, always fi...
appearance, attention, attractiveness, beauty, clothes, dress, fashion, hair, how men think, how to keep a man, LooksAndrew30/06/14 08:47 PM

Here is another round of questions and answers that have come through my inbox recently: 1 ---------------- Andrew, I have a question for you. I read...
reader question, readersAndrew17/06/14 08:51 PM

I spent the last month without a computer, so I am way behind on posting and e-mails. In an effort to get back on track with both simultaneously, and...
reader question, readersAndrew01/06/14 12:50 PM

I didn't kiss a girl until I was 20 years old. Although that doesn't seem very odd to me in retrospect, it definitely made me feel awkward at the tim...
dating, how men think, men, modesty, promiscuity, self-esteem, self-respect, sex, virgin, what men wantAndrew20/04/14 11:16 PM

Girls are famous for complimenting each other and supporting each other with their words. On the surface, this seems like a good thing. Telling your ...
attractiveness, female game, honesty, vulnerabilityAndrew08/04/14 08:19 PM

I was contacted a few months ago by an editor from the Australian women's magazine, CLEO, asking if I could answer a few questions for an articl...
attraction, blog, how men think, how women think, misconceptions, projectionAndrew20/03/14 09:55 PM

A reader recently posted a link to a video that captures, in extremely clear terms, a phenomenon that has been implicit (and at times, explicit) in e...
commitment, female game, how men think, player, promiscuity, relationship, sex, sex drive, slut, what men wantAndrew09/03/14 11:42 AM

Whenever you are dating or seeing a guy, and there is some kind of external impediment to a normal relationship (or to the normal progress of a relat...
boyfriend, commitment, confusing, dating, female game, how men think, male behavior, player, rejection, relationship, self-respectAndrew24/02/14 11:19 PM

Every now and then I meet or see a girl wearing loose jeans. By "loose" I don't mean that the crotch is sagging around her knees, I just mean that th...
appearance, attention, attractiveness, beauty, classy, clothes, hoe, how men think, how not to get guys, look, modesty, promiscuity, prude, slutAndrew20/02/14 08:00 PM

Every woman has been advised at one time or another that she can increase her attractiveness to a man by showing him less interest, that is, by playi...
boyfriend, break up, Breakup, confidence, dating, hard to get, how men think, how to keep a man, how women think, league, rejection, self-respect, text message, the lower hand, the upper handAndrew27/11/13 06:39 PM

I am sure that regular readers have noticed I have been posting and commenting less on this blog in recent months. I've been commenting less mainly b...
blogAndrew31/10/13 08:12 AM

I've pointed out some things about the male attitude towards relationships that - considered by themselves - might make women despair of the possibil...
break up, commitment, dating, how men think, marriage, misconceptions, relationships, romanceAndrew29/09/13 04:40 PM

I always cringe when I hear girls talk about a situation with a guy they like (or are dating), and they end with something like “…of cour...
confidence, emotions, femininity, feminism, intelligence, intuition, rejection, relationship, subtletyAndrew07/09/13 07:13 PM

I have made this point before, but only briefly; and as simple as the point is, it warrants further explanation. If a man goes out of his way to inte...
approach, attention, confidence, confusing, how men think, how women think, male behavior, misconceptions, pickup, projectionAndrew28/08/13 05:47 PM

A lot of girls have e-mailed me asking for my opinion of the book Why Men Love Bitches. I'd heard of the book a couple times outside of the blog as w...
authenticity, boundaries, confidence, dating, how men think, how to keep a man, human energy, Je ne sais quois, perception, personality, posture, relationship, self-esteem, self-respect, what men wantAndrew18/07/13 07:57 PM

Dating isn't easy. In fact, for anyone with romantic ambitions, it is extremely difficult. There was a time where dating options were far more limite...
attraction, boyfriend, break up, Breakup, commitment, confusing, dating, humility, husband, relationship, settling, won't callAndrew09/07/13 06:57 PM

I was recently given a link to a blog that I found hugely impressive. Not only did I agree with the author on just about everything, but he also make...
female gameAndrew23/06/13 01:32 PM

I need to give some advice that doesn't fall strictly into the category of "here is what you don't realize about men" (or what men like) - not becaus...
boyfriend, break up, Breakup, commitment, girlfriend, how women think, relationship, relationships, the lower hand, the upper handAndrew18/06/13 10:10 PM

The other night I was out with a friend who had invited some of his coworkers to join us at the bar. A couple of these coworkers were girls. After ev...
approach, approachability, bar, flirt, game, nightclub, phone number, pickupAndrew11/06/13 08:16 PM

I've had a lot of girls ask recently how they can be more "open," more authentic, more vulnerable. They recognize that these dispositions n...
attraction, authenticity, confidence, date, female game, first date, personality, pride, self-improvementAndrew26/05/13 09:57 PM

I've been noticing lately that I really like it when women wear long necklaces. I recently stopped to think about why, and I realized that long neckl...
appearance, beauty, fashion, styleAndrew21/05/13 10:00 PM

I've heard a lot of girls make the following comment: This guy at the bar was staring at me all night, but he never approached. What's the big deal??...
Alcohol, approach, attraction, authenticity, drunkenness, game, how men think, male behavior, pickupAndrew11/05/13 01:51 PM

Since I've already explained how you should reply to a man's texts, the obvious follow-up is to explain when to reply to a man's texts. You've probab...
authenticity, female game, initiative, message, text messageAndrew04/05/13 02:01 PM

I have a crazy couple weeks starting in the next few days, so it might be a little while before I post anything new. In the meantime, I encourage you...
blogAndrew11/04/13 01:01 PM

Women sometimes complain about men "fading out" - that is, slowing and then ceasing contact after dating for a little while, or else just stopping it...
Breakup, dating, how men think, rejection, relationships, won't callAndrew09/04/13 08:26 PM

While explaining her relationship with a guy she is interested in, a reader who recently wrote to me for advice reminded me of the dif...
commitment, how men think, how not to get guys, how women think, male behavior, men, misconceptions, player, relationship, self-respect, sexAndrew04/04/13 06:00 PM

There is no question that you look better with your hair and makeup done than you do without it. If your boyfriend tells you that you are hotter with...
appearance, beauty, dating, how men think, Looks, makeup, what men wantAndrew01/04/13 05:48 PM

Hi Andrew, I don't think I'm your target audience but found myself agreeing with many of your posts (mercifully they are short, to the point and well...
appearance, attractiveness, boyfriend, dating, first date, how men think, relationshipsAndrew27/03/13 02:48 AM

Your love life is in trouble if... You minimize the time that you put into looking good because you believe that "only shallow men care about your ap...
misconceptionsAndrew23/03/13 03:09 AM

Imagine you are dating a guy who doesn't know that you are a virgin. Everything is going well until, one night, he starts to push things past the lim...
boyfriend, commitment, confusing, dating, how men think, men, misconceptions, player, prude, relationship, self-respect, sex, virgin, what men want, whoreAndrew20/03/13 12:57 PM

The effects of UV radiation (sunlight). See item #1 for an explanation. I am at the age where my skin is starting to showing initial signs of aging. ...
attractiveness, beauty, hot, Looks, skin, styleAndrew18/03/13 09:22 PM

Hi Andrew, I would like to start this email with a sincere compliment about how much I have enjoyed your blog over the past few months since I discov...
approach, flirt, how men think, male behavior, misconceptions, pickup, projection, reader question, self-esteemAndrew14/03/13 07:14 PM

A reader recently asked me if I've learned anything new about women from writing this blog. I have. To be specific, I've learned one thing - one...
boyfriend, confusing, how men think, infatuation, love, projection, relationshipsAndrew10/03/13 11:01 PM

I pulled the following statement from the comments of the post The Analogy Between Confidence and Beauty: So I had a revelation about a few week...
femininity, feminism, masculinity, misconceptions, projection, self-improvement, what men wantAndrew04/03/13 09:10 PM

If you've been reading this blog for any time now, you are familiar with the idea of cutting off a man after he breaks up with you. I want to explain...
boyfriend, break up, dating, female game, how men think, player, pride, rejection, self-esteem, self-respect, the upper hand, value, won't callAndrew26/02/13 02:34 PM

Most women who complain that they "don't get any attention from men" actually mean that they don't get attention from the men they want. And the simp...
approach, attraction, attractiveness, boyfriend, chemistry, dating, how to keep a man, how women think, league, misconceptions, out of ten, projection, settlingAndrew23/02/13 07:59 PM

[This is the third of a three-part series that describes how to focus your dating efforts in your teens, twenties and thirties. There are links below...
appearance, dating, female game, friendship, how to get guys, self-respectAndrew17/02/13 07:35 PM

Two women step out of their front doors on a Friday night in New York City. It is the middle of winter and a light snow is just starting to fall. Bot...
age, attractiveness, bar, beauty, dating, female game, game, nightclub, relationships, self-respect, valueAndrew15/02/13 01:54 PM

The average guy doesn't like Valentine's day. Aside from the obvious fact that the holiday is driven by marketing hype much more than by th...
Gift, how men think, masculinity, men, pride, relationships, Valentine's DayAndrew11/02/13 04:47 PM

A recent post on Hooking Up Smart really grabbed my attention. The first item in the post 7 Reasons Why Women Reject Eager Men reads: ...
commitment, dating, how men think, how women think, polarity, projection, relationships, sexAndrew08/02/13 04:14 PM

In response to our instinct for self-preservation, we, as humans, cling to what is safe. Even when we recognize the benefits that can be afforded by ...
appearance, attraction, attractiveness, beauty, clothes, hair, look, styleAndrew05/02/13 03:32 AM

The Rules Revisited Traffic (as of this afternoon) The internet traffic to this blog has been increasing rapidly, and the number of comments on recen...
blogAndrew31/01/13 09:54 PM

Hello there Andrew, I reached out to you about three months ago regarding a man that had recently left me after three years. Well you will be happy t...
boyfriend, break up, Breakup, female game, girlfriend, initiative, reader question, relationshipAndrew31/01/13 12:58 AM

A post I made about why women shouldn't take the initiative in relationships evoked some questions about how to deal with shy men - af...
dating, female game, femininity, how men think, initiative, male behavior, relationshipAndrew25/01/13 02:07 PM

Note: I've removed this post, for reasons that are philosophically similar to those described on the placeholder for the removed posts Never Say...
how men think, how not to get guys, how to keep a man, polarity, relationship, sex, sex driveAndrew22/01/13 06:00 PM

A reader recently asked "...you said that a female should only be responding to a man's text. So, when responding, does she ask a question to keep th...
female game, how to keep a man, initiative, message, text messageAndrew20/01/13 05:31 PM

A reader recently asked in the comments of another post: I saw you made a Twitter post about women wearing makeup to the gym...  I go to the gym...
approach, approachability, game, gym, how men think, how to get guys, pickup, twitter, working outAndrew18/01/13 08:33 PM

One of the easiest ways a man can approach you in a nightlife setting is to strike up a conversation with you while you are at the bar. He ...
approach, approachability, bar, female game, how to get guys, nightclub, nightlife tipAndrew16/01/13 05:03 PM

A reader recently commented on the post Men Don't Care About Your Accomplishments. I am a highly intelligent woman, though not a genius by any means....
attractiveness, femininity, how men think, intelligence, masculinity, relationships, what men wantAndrew14/01/13 06:38 AM

The most recent post on Hooking Up Smart borrows a Venn diagram from a website called Doghouse Diaries. The diagram attempts to dispel a fe...
attraction, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, misconceptions, polarity, what men wantAndrew10/01/13 08:35 PM

A reader, Caroline, recently commented on the post about large earrings, offering an explanation about why they are attractive. I thought it was wort...
attractiveness, beauty, Earrings, fashion, styleAndrew02/01/13 04:43 PM

Below is a question I recently received from a reader, followed by my response to her. I will be posting questions and answers like this mo...
boyfriend, how men think, how to keep a man, male behavior, reader question, relationship, self-respectAndrew31/12/12 10:06 PM

In the United States, the most flagrant misconception about dressing well is that it is something you should do only for formal occasions. The popula...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, clothes, fashion, hair, look good, Looks, self-improvement, styleAndrew30/12/12 06:12 PM

While none of the items on this list should be considered conclusive on their own, they all point in varying degrees towards "player" or "he doesn't ...
Alcohol, bar, date, female game, how men think, male behavior, men, nightclub, player, sexAndrew28/12/12 08:09 PM

I read the blog POSTMASCULINE regularly. The author is a guy who spent years wading through the bullshit world of pick-up tactics, only to final...
attraction, authenticity, confidence, posture, self-respectAndrew28/12/12 07:17 PM

[This is the second of a three-part series that describes how to focus your dating efforts in your teens, twenties and thirties. There are links belo...
appearance, dating, female game, friendship, how to get guys, self-respect, the upper handAndrew26/12/12 02:18 AM

There are any number of signs that indicate a man's disinterest in you, or give away his attempts to sleep with other women. Maybe he goes out to a b...
boyfriend, how men think, male behavior, player, relationshipAndrew23/12/12 04:39 PM

In the spirit of the post I made recently about considering where you live and work, those of you who live in New York City will be interested to rea...
female gameAndrew23/12/12 05:06 AM

You may have perfected your look, your personality, your fitness, and your confidence, but if you aren't crossing paths with men frequently, it is al...
approachability, bar, female game, how to get guysAndrew20/12/12 06:06 PM

Here are the results of the survey I posted: The resounding admonition from the comments on the "post length" and "post frequency" questions was: "lo...
blogAndrew19/12/12 08:13 AM

In order to collect some feedback for the future of the blog, I've created a quick survey. Especially if you are a frequent reader, please take the t...
blogAndrew13/12/12 09:36 PM

For whatever reason, the topic of female pubic hair is one that men discuss frequently. This probably has something to do with the fact that trends i...
appearance, how men think, sex, STDs, what men wantAndrew11/12/12 04:55 PM

When I first published the post Your Age and Your Attractiveness (which graphically illustrates the change in a woman's attractiveness as she ag...
age, appearance, attractiveness, beauty, how men think, personality, valueAndrew07/12/12 05:42 AM

I get a lot of e-mails from women who are desperate to win back a guy that has slowly stopped contacting them, or explicitly broken up with them, or ...
Breakup, confidence, female game, pride, rejectionAndrew03/12/12 03:35 PM

[This is the first of a three-part series that describes how to focus your dating efforts in your teens, twenties and thirties. There are links below...
appearance, dating, female game, friendship, how to get guys, self-respect, the upper handAndrew28/11/12 05:31 PM

Last year, two of my female cousins were in town, staying with me for a wedding we were all attending. When they arrived, they told me they had to fi...
appearance, attractiveness, beautiful, beauty, hot, how not to get guys, LooksAndrew27/11/12 03:06 AM

A lot of people use laughter in their texts to convey that they are just kidding, or only semi-serious, or just to be light-hearted. By laughter I me...
confidence, female game, how not to get guys, text messageAndrew26/11/12 03:10 AM

Consider two ways that a girl can (and American girls often do) speak the same message: [In a whiney, high-pitched voice] "Do you even KNOW how diffi...
attractiveness, confidence, how men think, how not to get guys, self-improvement, what men wantAndrew21/11/12 06:42 PM

Any outfit can be improved by adding lace. Lace makes an outfit look ornate, eye-catching and more feminine. I have yet to meet a man who doesn't fin...
attractiveness, beauty, clothes, dress, fashion, femininity, style, what men wantAndrew20/11/12 05:27 AM

[Continued from How to Reject a Guy at a Bar - Part 1] The worst rejections men endure are the ones that are surrounded by rudeness. M...
approach, attention, bar, confidence, good girl, how men think, nightclub, rejectionAndrew14/11/12 07:20 AM

I recently wrote a post about rejecting men, but a reader (in fact, the author of an interesting blog about women's fashion) recently asked a mo...
approach, attention, bar, confidence, good girl, how men think, nightclub, rejectionAndrew12/11/12 10:06 PM

I want you to help me conduct an experiment. For a couple of years now I've realized just how much I am attracted to the hairstyle that most women ca...
attention, attractiveness, beauty, female game, femininity, hair, hot, how men think, Je ne sais quois, sexy, tasteAndrew07/11/12 10:15 PM

I get a lot of e-mails asking for relationship advice. This blog is growing rapidly in popularity, and the number of requests I get for advice has be...
blogAndrew05/11/12 07:40 PM

There is a lot of talk on some of the blogs that I read about the horrors of feminism - from men and women alike. While it might be obvious to some r...
attraction, attractiveness, feminism, how men think, polarityAndrew04/11/12 10:04 PM

[Note: Although I edited this post later, I wrote the vast majority of it after coming back from a bar on the night described, hence the use of the p...
approach, bar, confidence, how men think, rejectionAndrew02/11/12 07:12 AM

Every once in a while I meet a girl who is cute, aside from a noticeable dusting of hair on her upper lip. Usually it isn't visible from several yard...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, how men think, how not to get guys, what men wantAndrew31/10/12 05:59 AM

One time on a first date I was making out with a girl, and started trying to take off her clothes. She stopped me and said "Sorry, I don't do that un...
dating, female game, first date, good girl, how men think, sexAndrew25/10/12 01:01 PM

I am taking a short break from the internet world for a few weeks. I have a bunch of new posts lined up for when I get back, and I've posted one belo...
blogAndrew25/09/12 05:50 AM

If you aren't swooping up dudes by the dozens you might not give too much thought to this topic, but at some point it will become relevant. Whether y...
date, female game, how men think, how not to get guys, phone numberAndrew25/09/12 05:35 AM

In a previous post I pointed out that if you want to control your posture, it is more effective to remind yourself of your strengths each time you ca...
attraction, attractiveness, bar, beautiful, beauty, classy, confidence, female game, how to get guys, look good, posture, self-improvement, self-respect, valueAndrew23/09/12 02:31 AM

In the post I made called How to Avoid Looking Fake, I pointed out that a girl needs to understand what kinds and tones of makeup work with her face ...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, color, fashion, female game, hair, how to get guys, look good, makeup, skinAndrew18/09/12 04:36 PM

Imagine that you go out to dinner on a first date with a guy you met recently. You go to a nice but fairly laid-back restaurant and you really hit it...
female game, how men think, prude, rejection, self-respect, sex, slutAndrew16/09/12 10:31 PM

In the spirit of paying attention to what a guy does and not what he says, you can put yourself into one of the following categories by considering h...
attraction, boyfriend, female game, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, what men wantAndrew13/09/12 03:14 AM

I keep seeing girls wearing Chuck Taylors, or Vans, or even some more modern high-tops, and I always cringe. Sneakers are intended for function, not ...
attractiveness, beauty, clothes, dress, fashion, look good, style, ugly, what men wantAndrew01/09/12 12:50 PM

I used to ask girls for their last name when I got their phone numbers. I would do this for two reasons: Because it was normally a hint about their e...
female game, femininity, how men think, phone number, pickup, what men wantAndrew26/08/12 06:54 AM

In the same vein as the recent post I made about femininity, authenticity and compatibility, the following are excerpts from David Deida’s book...
attention, attraction, chemistry, dating, femininity, feminism, how men think, what men wantAndrew20/08/12 05:50 AM

My model for understanding the way a woman acts and dresses has always been something like this: the more a woman dresses like a slut, the more ...
bar, clothes, dress, fashion, good girl, how men think, look good, misconceptions, modesty, nightclub, pickup, slut, slutty, whoreAndrew16/08/12 07:27 PM

Somehow I missed reading this post in detail when it was written, but I just did, and really liked it: Hooking Up Smart: 25 Politically Incorrect But...
female game, femininity, how to get guys, what men wantAndrew14/08/12 02:20 AM

"You want to check out Vin de Syrah?" I asked my brother, as we walked up Fifth Avenue. "Yeah sounds good. I liked that place last time." "OK, b...
age, attractiveness, bar, beauty, female game, game, how men think, out of ten, self-respect, value, what men wantAndrew08/08/12 09:16 PM

I was on a second date last week, and towards the end of the evening the girl told me "You know what I like about you? You don't ask me what I want."...
attention, attraction, chemistry, dating, femininity, feminism, how men think, what men wantAndrew06/08/12 12:05 AM

I recently watched the music video for Katy Perry's song Part of Me (I was just hoping she would look hot in it). I was sorely disappointed by h...
attraction, boyfriend, break up, Breakup, femininity, feminism, hair, how men think, how not to get guys, katy perry, personality, what men wantAndrew30/07/12 11:58 PM

I've lost count of the times girls have tried being "just friends" with me after I've called off the relationship. It's happened after one-night stan...
boyfriend, break up, Breakup, dating, girlfriend, how men think, moving on, rejection, relationshipAndrew24/07/12 07:31 AM

I changed the look of the blog a bit. It still isn't quite what I want it to look like but it's getting there. If anyone has any comments or suggesti...
blogAndrew08/07/12 07:09 PM

Components of Feminine Beauty by Attention Deserved When it comes to attracting men, your physical fitness matters - a lot. In another post I ra...
appearance, attraction, attractiveness, beauty, fitness, gym, how men think, self-improvement, weight, working outAndrew04/07/12 05:13 PM

I recently met up with a friend for a couple drinks at a local bar. Part of our conversation went something like this: Me: Good to see you again man,...
how to keep a man, marriage, masturbation, pornography, promiscuity, relationships, sex, sex drive, what men wantAndrew24/06/12 07:49 PM

Many people’s understanding of the differences between the sexes is plauged by a single misconception, namely, that the difference between...
attraction, blog, femininity, masculinity, personality, polarity, varietyAndrew13/06/12 04:16 PM

Most of us don't often think of Catholic priests as authorities on dating and relationships (in fact the popular belief is exactly the opposite)...
boyfriend, break up, Breakup, commitment, dating, husband, marriage, relationshipAndrew08/06/12 08:38 PM

A reader recently asked what men think about being called "cute." I have a very poignant memory of the first time I heard a girl call a guy "cut...
cute, female game, how men think, masculinity, relationship, what men wantAndrew04/06/12 10:45 PM

If a man isn't getting rejected by women regularly, he will probably never find one that satisfies him. Because all women have di...
approach, Breakup, female game, initiative, rejection, responsibilityAndrew01/06/12 06:38 PM

There is nothing I hate more than people who are self-righteous about not smoking. Far too many Americans have fallen prey to the excesses of an...
attractiveness, bar, how not to get guys, nightclub, smoking, what men wantAndrew29/05/12 10:45 PM

Romantic movies, and romantic comedies in particular, are made to play into the supposed ideals of women, not to reflect the reality of relationships...
men, misconceptions, romanceAndrew26/05/12 09:16 AM

I tend to stick to "how to" or observational posts rather than motivational ones, but everyone needs a kick in the ass once in a while. Here is ...
attraction, boyfriend, commitment, dating, husband, relationship, responsibility, self-improvementAndrew23/05/12 01:30 AM

It is built into our very nature as human beings to have to endure the conflict imposed by the combination of our biology and rational...
attraction, beauty, league, personality, quality, rank, settling, valueAndrew20/05/12 01:27 PM

I was reminded recently of a comment that I once heard a radio DJ make after he played the Destiny's Child song Independent Woman. The song...
attraction, boyfriend, commitment, dating, husband, marriage, relationship, responsibilityAndrew19/05/12 03:42 AM

In the post You Can Control How Attractive You Are, I reiterated the point that most unattractive women aren’t genetically unlucky, they just a...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, clothes, color, hair, how to get guys, human energy, look, look good, makeup, self-improvementAndrew16/05/12 12:46 AM

A woman can brag endlessly about how much money she makes, the deals shes has closed, the celebrities she's rubbed elbows with, or the awar...
attraction, femininity, feminism, how men think, how not to get guys, intelligence, masculinity, what men wantAndrew13/05/12 02:12 AM

Check out this post at Charming Disarray: http://charmingdisarray.blogspot.com/2012/04/wouldnt-it-be-nice.html From the conversations I've had with m...
boyfriend, commitment, how men think, marriage, proposalAndrew17/04/12 12:57 PM

I received the e-mail below from a reader recently, and thought it would be interesting to other readers as well. I've polished my response slightly,...
approach, confidence, female game, game, how men thinkAndrew17/04/12 07:37 AM

Popular magazines routinely publish the results of polls in which both sexes are asked what qualities they are most attracted to in the other. And th...
attraction, beauty, confidence, how men think, husband, look good, personality, what men wantAndrew13/04/12 03:08 PM

A girl I used to sleep with is now dating a guy who refuses to make their relationship official, and she is constantly complaining to me about h...
attraction, commitment, female game, how to get guys, pride, self-improvement, self-respect, won't callAndrew09/04/12 07:07 PM

Tops, dresses or jackets that make your shoulders look larger do two things: they diminish your waist and broaden your shoulders. You should always b...
appearance, attractiveness, clothes, dress, fashion, femininity, feminism, how not to get guys, how to get guys, look, styleAndrew07/04/12 06:06 PM

My audience on this blog is not uniform by any means: Some readers are good looking, others are not.  Some readers are interesting, others are n...
appearance, attraction, attractiveness, beauty, fashion, how to get guys, human energy, intelligence, look good, personality, what men wantAndrew29/03/12 07:00 PM

If your parents or guardians haven't taught you anything about men, they've probably also neglected to teach you about your sexual health. Whether yo...
how men think, player, promiscuity, sex, STDs, whoreAndrew27/03/12 04:05 PM

Continued from Part 1. So if you agree that bars are a reasonably good place to meet men, which ones should you go to? Onviously you will want to han...
approachability, bar, how to get guysAndrew24/03/12 12:44 AM

In the comments to a recent post, I suggested that a reader not give up entirely on the idea of meeting guys in bars. Another reader asked why n...
approachability, bar, how to get guysAndrew21/03/12 01:57 AM

Kate Middleton I am not an expert on women's fashion, let alone something so specific as hair. However, even the simplest observations ...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, color, fashion, femininity, hair, how not to get guys, how to get guys, kate middleton, makeup, minka kelly, shakira, style, what men wantAndrew17/03/12 06:35 PM

I've also added the illustration to the original post, which you can read here: "Because Of" Versus "In Spite Of" ...
appearance, attractiveness, fashion, hair, kim kardashian, look goodAndrew13/03/12 08:07 PM

I've filled out the About This Blog page. Check it out when you have a chance. ...
blogAndrew12/03/12 12:20 AM

I've registered the domain name www.therulesrevisited.com and linked it to this blog. Now, instead of typing in the old address (which will stil...
blog, readersAndrew11/03/12 10:03 PM

Other than your physical fitness, your hair is the most important controllable aspect of your physical attractiveness. Most women know this. I am not...
appearance, attraction, beautiful, beauty, fashion, hair, hot, Je ne sais quois, look good, makeup, style, what men wantAndrew10/03/12 07:46 PM

I've spent some time recently trying online dating, and while I can't offer too many rules about what you should put on your profile, I see a lot of ...
attraction, attractiveness, game, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, mass messaging, men, message, online dating, sexy, what men wantAndrew07/03/12 03:47 AM

One of the funniest but wisest quotes I've ever read was from the recent bestselling book & Twitter feed "Shit My Dad Says." The author...
date, female game, first date, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, humility, personality, pride, what men wantAndrew28/02/12 07:42 PM

I've been on a number of first dates, or early dates anyway, during which the girl essentially tried convincing me that she was hot shit. This hasn't...
date, female game, first date, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, humility, personality, rejection, what men wantAndrew23/02/12 02:25 AM

TIME and TIME again I meet girls that try to set themselves apart from other women by identifying with men, hanging out with men and professing to be...
attraction, drunkenness, femininity, how men think, how to get guys, masculinity, promiscuity, what men want, whoreAndrew16/02/12 04:31 PM

Taylor Swift Some girls have expressed their disappointment when I've told them that they look "cute" rather than "sexy" or "hot." I used to res...
appearance, confidence, cute, dress, fashion, hot, how men think, how to get guys, makeup, megan fox, sexy, style, taylor swift, variety, what men wantAndrew13/02/12 08:13 AM

I spent about a year dating almost exclusively women older than myself. What follows are my observations from that time in my life. For the purp...
age, appearance beauty, attractiveness, confidence, how men think, sex, what men wantAndrew05/02/12 02:22 AM

If you are interested in getting married, you need to be well aware of the fact that you are probably most attractive sometime in your mid- to late-t...
age, attraction, boyfriend, break up, Breakup, commitment, dating, how men think, how to get guys, husband, marriage, proposalAndrew27/01/12 04:48 PM

In another post I wrote about the importance of posture to a woman's attractiveness. I suspect this is probably interesting to many wo...
attraction, attractiveness, bar, beautiful, beauty, classy, confidence, female game, how to get guys, look good, posture, self-improvement, self-respect, valueAndrew25/01/12 04:13 AM

When it comes to paying for dates, the rule is simple: always assume you are going to split the check, and offer to do so. If you wouldn't ...
date, dating, first date, how men thinkAndrew23/01/12 12:24 AM

I have no shortage of ideas for new posts on this blog. However, I would like to make future posts as relevant and interesting as possible. I encoura...
Andrew18/01/12 07:51 AM

Notes: These curves are based on observation and careful thought, not empirical data. Internal attractiveness consists of personality, femininity, op...
age, appearance, attractiveness, beauty, how men think, personality, valueAndrew15/01/12 11:00 PM

Components of Feminine Beauty by Attention Deserved I've estimated previously that a woman's posture accounts for 3% of a woman's external attractive...
attraction, attractiveness, bar, beautiful, beauty, classy, confidence, female game, how to get guys, look good, posture, self-improvement, self-respect, valueAndrew13/01/12 05:26 AM

It has often been said that women are turned on by what they feel, while men are turned on by what they see. There is a lot of truth to this. Of cour...
appearance, arousal, attraction, bedroom, femininity, hot, how men think, look good, posture, sex, what men wantAndrew09/01/12 12:48 AM

If you get dumped by a guy you like, remember that although this is probably due in part to men playing below their league, it is also the ...
attraction, break up, Breakup, female game, humility, relationship, settling, the lower hand, the upper hand, valueAndrew04/01/12 07:24 AM

I've been getting a lot of e-mails from girls asking for urgent advice about how to act around a particular guy, or how to interpret his behavior. Ot...
attraction, how men think, human energy, men, quality, rejection, self-improvement, valueAndrew25/12/11 12:16 AM

I recently had the following conversation with a friend of mine: "Dude, that girl I really liked - remember, the one from the beach? She resurfaced t...
attraction, confidence, female game, flirt, how men think, the lower hand, the upper handAndrew23/12/11 05:58 AM

In response to a reasonable suggestion from a couple readers, I just started a Twitter account. The link is about halfway down the left column of the...
following, readers, twitterAndrew18/12/11 09:25 PM

No guy wants to date a whore. No guy likes the fact that his girlfriend (or potential girlfriend) has slept with a lot of other guys. Most guys&...
attraction, boyfriend, hoe, how men think, player, promiscuity, self-respect, sex, value, what men want, whoreAndrew18/12/11 07:39 PM

This post used to link to a blog in which a girl had posted photos of herself everyday for a few years. The photos illustrated how much her hair and ...
attractiveness, beauty, color, fashion, hair, makeup, skin, styleAndrew05/12/11 06:38 AM

In another post I advocated asking for feedback from a guy that breaks up with you. Here is how to go about doing it and what to say: DISCLAIMER: Thi...
break up, Breakup, dating, female game, first date, men, rejection, self-improvement, won't callAndrew01/12/11 02:23 AM

The other day I was reading the blog for OKCupid.com (which is extremely interesting by the way, I highly recommend it) and came across a study that,...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, how men think, what men wantAndrew28/11/11 03:21 PM

I've remained friends with some girls that I've slept with - partially because I like them and partially because they aren't smart enough or motivate...
attraction, female game, hard to get, how men think, how not to get guys, how to get guys, jealousy, what men wantAndrew28/11/11 04:20 AM

If you want to make yourself more attractive, you need to focus on three things when you are choosing your clothes: style, fit, and color. The n...
appearance, attention, beautiful, clothes, fashion, how to get guys, look, look good, sexy, taste, what men wantAndrew17/11/11 05:29 AM

I've been traveling and busy with other parts of my life recently, hence the shortage of posts. There are plenty more in the works, but for now, I hi...
how to get guys, husband, player, promiscuity, self-respect, sex, what men wantAndrew13/11/11 08:57 PM

One time I went back to a girl's studio apartment after going out with some of our mutual friends. I'd met her that night, and wa...
attraction, bedroom, date, how men think, how to get guys, neat, perception, what men wantAndrew01/11/11 04:45 AM

I already have a fairly lengthy post making this point, but I am not convinced I made it strongly enough. I want to present it again in another mediu...
appearance, attraction, beauty, clothes, fashion, heels, hot, how to get guys, makeup, posture, sexy, style, what men wantAndrew31/10/11 03:35 AM

Flirting and being personable will definitely and significantly increase your chances with guys. While you need to rely mainly on your appearanc...
attention, attraction, confidence, flirt, relationshipAndrew28/10/11 01:16 AM

Most guys behave differently after consuming alcohol, and this often leads to situations in which a woman is left trying to decipher her crush's word...
Alcohol, approach, bar, confusing, drunkenness, flirt, how men think, men, nightclubAndrew21/10/11 09:44 PM

Every person has a limited amount of time and energy, as well as the ability to choose how to spend it. At every moment of our conscious lives, we ar...
appearance, attraction, attractiveness, beauty, fashion, how to get guys, human energy, intelligence, look good, personality, what men wantAndrew19/10/11 05:46 AM

Men place a high value their male friendships. While the following scenarios may not be representative of every man's attitude towards his&...
bro, friendship, game, ho, how men think, male behavior, men, won't callAndrew12/10/11 05:31 PM

Heels are the single most powerful item in a woman's wardrobe for improving her attractiveness to men. I routinely recognize this when...
appearance, attractiveness, beauty, clothes, dress, heels, height, look, look good, posture, sexy, style, what men wantAndrew11/10/11 01:47 AM

I am working on a couple posts about female appearance, and while doing some online research for them I came across this web...
attractiveness, beauty, clothes, dress, look, sexy, styleAndrew09/10/11 04:08 PM

Next time you are talking to a guy that you want to make a good impression on, do not mention anything about your infrequent gym attendance. Especial...
attraction, attractiveness, female game, first date, gym, how to get guys, husband, look good, men, what men want, working outAndrew08/10/11 01:21 AM

I dated a girl not too long ago that was clueless about how to deal with guys. She was incredibly sweet and very attractive, but not very d...
break up, Breakup, dating, men, rejection, won't callAndrew05/10/11 01:09 AM

In a previous post, I made the point that before getting married, women usually get to have sex and relationships with guys that are "out of their le...
boyfriend, female game, men, player, quality, relationship, the lower hand, the upper handAndrew03/10/11 05:44 AM

Men are barraged by images of women in their underwear. We see them in movies, on billboards, in magazines, on the internet - all over the place. Thi...
attraction, beauty, lingerie, look good, men, sexy, underwear, what men wantAndrew29/09/11 02:20 PM

When you are evaluating what things or changes in your life have ostensibly made you more successful with or more attractive to men, make sure you co...
appearance, attractiveness, fashion, hair, kim kardashian, look goodAndrew27/09/11 04:44 AM

Advice abounds for women looking to score a guy, and some sources actually have solid suggestions. But while these...
appearance, attraction, beauty, clothes, fashion, heels, hot, how to get guys, makeup, posture, sexy, style, what men wantAndrew21/09/11 07:45 AM

If you want to ignore this blog for the rest of your life, you can probably get everything you need from this post on Freedom Twenty Five: http:...
attraction, attractiveness, boyfriend, how to get guys, what men wantAndrew16/09/11 01:44 AM

So I was out tonight and not too long after I arrived at the bar, I stepped away from my friend to approach three girls standing nearby - or more acc...
approach, approachability, bar, female game, game, nightclubAndrew15/09/11 08:28 AM

As I have indicated in other posts, there are three aspects or stages of female game: Making yourself as attractive as possible Making yourself appro...
approach, approachability, bar, female game, game, nightclubAndrew13/09/11 02:51 PM

I grew up surrounded by families that warned their daughters against wearing clothes that attracted “the wrong kind of attention.” W...
approach, attention, attraction, attractiveness, fashion, sexy, what men want, whoreAndrew12/09/11 03:09 AM

I wrote a similar post about not initiating contact after a guy breaks up with you. This is somewhat related, but deals instead with the beginning of...
approach, attraction, first date, game, hard to get, initiative, men, phone call, player, text message, won't callAndrew10/09/11 04:50 AM

The male sex drive is 100% rechargeable. No matter how man times he fucks, or fucks the same girl, or masturbates, a man cannot deplete his capacity ...
how to keep a man, masturbation, pornography, sex, sex drive, what men wantAndrew05/09/11 03:17 PM

I've approached hundreds of women in bars and nightclubs. Maybe thousands. I've done it in all kinds of moods and at different stages of my life; I'v...
approach, approachability, bar, game, nightclub, what men wantAndrew25/08/11 05:51 AM

The use of pornography is the most addictive habit most men will ever encounter. Every man masturbates frequently when he isn't getting laid, an...
how men think, how to keep a man, masturbation, pornography, sex, sex drive, what men wantAndrew22/08/11 06:05 AM

It is no news to most girls that have tried internet dating, that men often send out generic messages to large number of girls. I recently gave ...
how men think, internet dating, mass messaging, men, message, online dating, player, profileAndrew20/08/11 11:22 PM

Women that wear large hoop earrings have a reputation for being slutty. I was recently fortunate enough to be taught the expression "T...
Earrings, fashion, hoe, hoop, katy perry, kim kardashian, whoreAndrew20/08/11 10:32 PM

All men can identify with the gut-wrenching feeling we get when we see a beautiful woman. She enters our field of vision and immediately seizes our a...
attraction, Je ne sais quois, mystery, subtlety, what men wantAndrew20/08/11 08:58 PM

The perfect height for a woman is somewhere between 5' 2" and 5' 6". Most women think this is too short, but this is only because they misunders...
cute, heels, height, perfect height, sexy, short, tall, what men wantAndrew18/08/11 03:59 AM

As human beings, we always try to project our own perceptions on those around us. We call the person driving in front of us an asshole because they a...
attraction, confidence, hard to get, perception, projectionAndrew17/08/11 06:28 AM

Most girls already know about the 10-point scale, but for those who don't, here is a brief explanation: Men are shallow assholes and routinely judge ...
attractiveness, beauty, how men think, menAndrew15/08/11 05:13 AM

I am strongly convinced that it does more harm than good to give a compliment when it isn’t deserved, or to give handouts that haven’t be...
attractiveness, beautiful, hot, men, Preference, taste, variety, what men wantAndrew15/08/11 04:40 AM

You'd think that this one would be obvious, as hackneyed as the admonition is, but I’ve actually had some girls be genuinely surprised that we ...
attraction, first date, player, promiscuity, sex, value, what men want, whoreAndrew15/08/11 03:03 AM

"Who is this girl??" I thought as she handed me a bottle of wine. I'd only been dating her for a few weeks and we'd probably only gone out a couple t...
attraction, classy, date, Gift, what men want, wineAndrew15/08/11 02:10 AM

You won’t find many girls that have had sexual partners uglier than themselves, but you’ll find an endless list of guys that have –...
husband, league, quality, sexAndrew15/08/11 12:23 AM

For the sake of this discussion, by "breakup" I mean everything from ending a long-term relationship all the way down to going quiet after a couple d...
break up, Breakup, confidence, how men think, how not to get guys, rejection, self-respect, won't callAndrew14/08/11 07:58 PM
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