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The Private Man Has Completed His Journey It is with great sadness that I have to inform everyone that Andrew Hansen a.k.a. The Private Man has ...
About MeThe Private Man04/04/17 03:14 PM

My Going Away Party UPDATE 3/7/2017 The party was a lot of fun. Thanks to all who attended and special thanks to all who helped! UPDATE 3/3/2017...
About MeThe Private Man28/01/17 08:58 PM

Again, A Defense of Pickup Artistry (PUA) My buddy, Dagonet, recently wrote a superb blog post where he defends pickup artists (PUA). One of his...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/01/16 09:11 PM

Notes About Blab (@Blab) In my quest to find a web-based platform to facilitate real-time conversation, I was referred to Blab from Bobbi Palmer...
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man11/01/16 08:31 PM

Racism In Dating?! (Not This Crap Again) Start here. Read the article. Do some research on the author. Then come back to this blog post. Here...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/01/16 12:22 AM

A Woman Responds To A Recent Blog Post I sometimes get some great comments. The one that I received today is mid-range. It’s worth comment...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/12/15 11:52 PM

Frame – Three Quick Personal Stories It is both a blessing and a curse to live in a town where all the locals know, or know of, everyone. ...
About Me, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/12/15 02:51 AM

Attraction, Dating, And Aspirational Lying Researching, observing, and experiencing attraction and dating has taught me that human beings are no...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man19/12/15 04:06 AM

Let’s Try To Fix Online Dating One of the biggest problems with online dating is the vast number of messages that attractive women receive...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/12/15 10:21 PM

Online Dating Profiles – How To Figure Out Women’s Lies It’s well-established that most of us lie to some degree on our online...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man20/11/15 05:13 AM

The Future Of Online Dating Sean Rad, Tinder’s CEO recently gave an interview that was described as cringe worthy. He says he has a lot ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/11/15 06:34 AM

Go Ahead, Shame Men Confession time for The Private Man. In 1992, I worked seriously with the South Carolina Democratic Party when I was living ...
About Me, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man18/11/15 11:27 AM

“Journalism” Meets The Red Pill With increased frequency, hide-bound and agenda-driven mainstream media outlets are making a stab at...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/11/15 10:16 AM

It’s Not Your Fault! (Actually, It Is) I read a lot. I read articles written for men. I read articles written for women. I read articles a...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/11/15 10:03 PM

Unleash The Neg! [Note: I had originally intended to make this a video podcast but the ideas here do best in writing, not me talking at my video came...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/11/15 10:06 PM

Beware The Self-Fulfilling Prophesy I recently got a call from my buddy, Mark the musician. He’s a regular reader of my blog and lives in ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/11/15 08:40 PM

Who Owns The Red Pill? The first order of business is define the very nature of the Red Pill. As a reader pointed out, the Red Pill way of looki...
Good Links HereThe Private Man03/11/15 02:15 AM

Two Video Interviews! In the first interview, Dan Silverman interviewed me about some of the issues facing men in regards to dating. In second interv...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man20/10/15 12:24 AM

Dating Apps – Technology Versus Biology When the smartphone was released, it was inevitable that some form of online dating would find its...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man14/10/15 07:22 AM

The Protection Factor Some time ago, a tweet arrived from DateMe Kenya: Ladies! Before starting a new relationship, ask yourself Will he protect yo...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/10/15 08:01 AM

Where Be The Men? I’ve had a few recent phone conversations with a Miami-based matchmaker, Dan Silverman. Unlike the vast majority of matc...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/10/15 11:37 PM

Guys, Prioritize Your Efforts On Yourself In my ongoing research efforts to find good information about attraction and dating for the post-divor...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man05/10/15 11:00 PM

Lurkers Of The World, Unite! (Again) It’s been three years since I asked for my blog’s lurkers to “out” themselves here ...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man04/10/15 12:47 PM

300 Red Pill Relationship Proverbs Preface This incredible and extremely lengthy blog post originated in a motorcycle forum where I am an active...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/10/15 12:28 PM

Pay To Play No, I’m not talking about prostitution. Pay to play is the concept where a fee is levied in order to present information or enter...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man01/10/15 03:25 AM

On Feminine Pleasantness [Note: Lots of links in this post to other blog posts I’ve written over the years] Life is not easy. This is known. ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man29/09/15 11:43 PM

Video Podcast 8 – Social Media & Men After some introductory stuff about Periscope and the events in Asheville, NC, there’s a pr...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, Video/PodcastThe Private Man25/09/15 04:06 AM

The “Boris Flight Simulator” Hanging out with my readers in real life is always great fun because my readers are a clever bunch. I wish t...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/09/15 11:49 PM

Need Personalized Attraction & Dating Advice? Skype Me (Google+, too) [Note: This blog post is always displayed at the top of my home page. ...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man14/09/15 08:34 PM

An Attraction Preference Is Never An “Ism” Rarely do I venture into the culture conflict that plagues our social landscape with political...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/09/15 02:36 AM

Video Podcast 7 – Bad Dating Advice In this video podcast, I cover two pieces of really bad attraction and dating advice. [Note: This vide...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, Video/PodcastThe Private Man09/09/15 09:15 PM

Ready For Dating? 15 Yes/No Questions For Men Men are big on practical and actionable advice that’s not based on touchy-feely platitudes. ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/09/15 10:34 PM

PUA? No, It’s Now MSI My friend, Boris, is a typical guy looking for some answers about life, love, and coping with the world in a healthi...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/09/15 04:08 AM

Labor Day Weekend Blog Post Mélange I was recently hanging out with a very loyal reader, Boris (such a great pseudonym!). We had a nice discu...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/09/15 01:55 AM

Dating/Relationship Closure and “The Vanishing” This subject periodically arises when there is discussion on the Internet about how men a...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/09/15 02:55 PM

Mr. Cellophane One of my Twitter followers is a fine fellow from Israel who sometimes writes for The Times of Israel (it’s in English) and is a...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/09/15 07:10 PM

Two Questions For My Readers These are not grand philosophical questions about attraction and dating. These are two questions whose answers migh...
About MeThe Private Man01/09/15 10:33 PM

Dating Demographics – Who’s In Charge? [Note: There are many links in the post. Some of those links connect to more articles and ess...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man31/08/15 11:10 PM

Video Podcast 6 – Bald & Evil This blog post requires you to watch two YouTube videos. The first is from DarkAntics, a popular YouTube...
About Me, Good Links Here, Video/PodcastThe Private Man28/08/15 09:37 PM

An Online Phenomenon In Search Of A Name UPDATE: WE HAVE A WINNER FOR THE NAME OF THIS PHENOMENON! Quantum Selection – Assume that all Wom...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man27/08/15 03:47 AM

Video Podcast 5 – A Dating Secret For Women Yes, I’ve been cranking out the video podcasts recently. This one is aimed right at wome...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, Video/PodcastThe Private Man25/08/15 07:33 PM

Video Podcast 4 – Chivalry This video podcast is fairly brief at about six minutes, but I get my point across about chivalry. Guys, don...
Dating/Online Dating, Video/PodcastThe Private Man24/08/15 09:31 PM

Guys, Don’t Be A Schmuck Early in the dating process, when a man and a woman have clear mutual attraction and the possibility of a serious...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man23/08/15 06:31 PM

Video Podcast 3 – Request The Date I give some very solid advice on how guys can get a date with a woman. This one is fairly long at about...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Video/PodcastThe Private Man22/08/15 04:54 PM

New Dating Term – “Twigging” One of my favorite online activities is to find new words and new concepts that apply to attraction an...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man21/08/15 06:37 PM

Alphabet Soup, Volume 1 Years ago I had a satirical website, Upchuck.com, about the city of Charleston, SC. I lived there on two separate occasi...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/08/15 06:12 PM

The Stayover Relationship As we get older and have experienced relationships and the sad breakup of relationships and divorce, our approach to new re...
Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man19/08/15 03:43 PM

Video Podcast 2 – The Five Noble Rules of Attraction & Dating I’ve written about the Five Noble Rules of Attraction & Dating...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Video/PodcastThe Private Man18/08/15 03:37 PM

A Woman’s Red Pill Online Dating Profile This woman’s online dating profile is real. She and I have corresponded in the past and she...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man17/08/15 03:01 PM

Video Podcast 1 – Introduction I’ve finally decided to add video content to my blog. After experimenting with sound and my phone a...
About Me, Video/PodcastThe Private Man16/08/15 08:04 PM

My Oil Rig Summer – Part II [It’s strongly recommended to read Part 1 of this story from my young adulthood.] The line at customs was...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man16/08/15 12:34 AM

Deconstructing A Woman’s Online Dating Profile Even though I don’t recommend that post-divorce guys spend all their dating efforts t...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man14/08/15 06:53 PM

A Red Flag – Perfectionism My previous blog post described a woman’s red flag of no emotional impulse control. That particular red f...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man12/08/15 09:43 PM

A Red Flag – No Emotional Impulse Control It’s summer here in Lauderdale By The Sea. The tourists are gone. The snowbirds are gone. ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/08/15 03:30 AM

My Oil Rig Summer – Part 1 [Note: This is a personal story about an adventure I had overseas much like the first one I described. Do know ...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man06/08/15 11:09 PM

The Intelligence Factor I recently had a Twitter discussion with a couple of my followers regarding how women are attracted, or not, to intelligent m...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/08/15 05:02 PM

Dating Velocity Knowing one’s relationship goals is a good thing. Men tend to be very goal oriented and work logically and rationally towards a...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/08/15 06:35 PM

Honest Dating – Repost [I don’t frequently repost, but this one was worth it. It’s sort of naive considering a woman’s h...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man01/08/15 04:38 PM

That Visceral Reaction – How Predictable “Well, they’re losers then!” This remark was the result of a heated conversatio...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man21/07/15 06:46 PM

Exchange Program To Western Australia – A Personal Story From My Youth This post includes some stories of my life and some advice. It also...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man15/07/15 01:54 AM

Twitter! I like Twitter. I like how it forces a tweet to be short, concise, and hopefully unambiguous. If the message can be delivered effectively in...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man11/07/15 02:21 PM

Busy Social Life, Busy Intellectual Life I continually exhort my male readers to be more social. Many of my blog posts are about the difficulty ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/07/15 08:04 PM

Request For Questions Inspired by this Illimitable Men blog post, I am requesting that my readers send me questions about post-divorce attraction a...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/07/15 07:53 PM

The Opposite Of Validation Is Shame I spend a great deal of time reading commentary and news on the changing trends in American culture. Our cul...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man05/07/15 10:17 PM

The Perils Of Technology (Beware The Facebook Zone) As I peruse the interwebz looking for interesting and relevant content for my blog, I came a...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man03/07/15 07:28 PM

How To Be A Good Presenter At Work Speaking to an audience is a very scary experience. This is one reason that there are paid speakers to kick o...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/06/15 05:57 PM

Learned Introversion Being introverted must be a difficult thing. While I can sympathize, it’s hard for me to empathize. I’m an extrovert...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man29/06/15 01:50 PM

Patreon For Me – Yeah, I Went There One of the things about going through a seriously life-changing event is the realization of priorities...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man26/06/15 08:27 AM

A Man’s Adversity Is His Test For Women As everyone knows, I’m dealing with a serious medical condition that’s ultimatel...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/06/15 05:04 PM

Suggestion Box – A Request To My Readers I’ll make this brief. Since I started blogging back in 2011, I have never reached out to my...
UncategorizedThe Private Man20/06/15 07:02 PM

The War Between The Sexes I’ve heard this expression often over the past couple of decades. This is the concept that men and women are inv...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/06/15 05:09 AM

A Most Amazing Comment [Not too long ago I published one of my blog’s early posts about what men want from women. One of my lurking female...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man10/06/15 09:07 PM

What Men Want From Women – Repost [Note: I posted this over three years ago.] Deti, a regular commenter on a variety of blogs wrote this i...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/05/15 04:34 AM

Conversations – Poor, Ordinary, Good, Great I’m talking about conversation between or amongst people. While driving back from an awe...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/05/15 11:06 PM

Small Talk And Uber I am a huge fan and a big consumer of Uber, the car and driver hire service. Â If you don’t have Uber in your city, I...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/04/15 12:29 AM

Why I Do This I recently watched a very interesting video from Rollo. He asks the question, “why bother”? I ask myself the same ques...
About Me, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/04/15 03:33 AM

Two Recent Interviews With Me (Podcasts) There are two recent podcasts where I was interviewed. The first interview was by Dom Torres , a young ...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/04/15 01:29 AM

What Does She Offer? Through the miracle of Twitter, I was linked to this article: Here’s the full transcript. My comments are at the bott...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/04/15 12:58 AM

A Man’s “Edge” Factor So many times I have read this in a woman’s online dating profile: “I’m looking for a nice ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/04/15 02:18 AM

Ladies, Compliment Him As many of my readers know, I’m on Twitter. I follow over 1,000 accounts, including many dating coaches. One of my favor...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/04/15 01:34 AM

Feminine Predictability This is a fast moving blog post. Guys, if you want to push a woman away, either a friend or lover, just remind her that she&#...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/03/15 01:15 AM

Lena Dunham #Facepalm The New Yorker, a publication I have been reading for decades, has dove into the culturally stinky landfill of millennials by p...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/03/15 03:19 PM

My Blog Is Anathema To Women I lost another one because of this blog, another woman that is. I’m quite well used to it at this point in my...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/03/15 04:15 AM

Never Go Shopping With Her, It’s a Shit Test Shopping is all about the estrogen. During my first marital administration, I remember too ma...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/03/15 03:17 PM

The Man’s Shed – The Australians Are Getting It Right! A few days back, I wrote a post about the pathology of male loneliness and so...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man23/03/15 11:50 PM

The Pathology of Male Loneliness I write frequently about social isolation. It’s a huge problem for middle age men who retreat into their ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/03/15 04:17 AM

For The Women – Girl Game There was a relatively short-lived blog named “LaidNYC” that existed in 2013 and 2014. The blog is g...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/03/15 04:58 PM

Things I Hate I’m normally a fairly optimistic and happy guy. I try to give good information to post-divorce singles about the tough experience...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/03/15 07:14 AM

Small Town, Shame – Big City, Technology I follow cultural trends that specifically relate to attraction and dating. I follow a great vari...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man09/03/15 08:00 PM

The Special Snowflake Phenomenon One of the key concepts behind Manosphere and Red Pill wisdom is that human behavior – especially as it d...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/03/15 12:38 AM

501 Blog Posts Yeah… Top that, motherfuckers! [Inside joke…but still…] P.S…. it’s my birthday… I’m now 53 A...
UncategorizedThe Private Man07/03/15 06:43 AM

The Clooney Effect (Snort, chuckle, guffaw) The good folks at The Atlantic recently typed this article about a study from Helen Fisher that was ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/03/15 11:47 PM

Fuck, Marry, Kill (FMK) – The Game This is a new parlor game and it’s not uncommon. As a parlor game, it serves to increase sociabil...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man26/02/15 08:20 AM

A Request To The Guardian This gets a bit complicated but bear with me. There’s a new Guardian woman columnist who writes about attraction...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man24/02/15 08:15 PM

Online Dating Features I’d Like To See I’ve tried a bunch of online dating websites over the years. I have purchased the premium fea...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man23/02/15 10:44 PM

Middle-Aged Women And The Invisibility Factor I recently read this opinion piece in The Guardian, a UK-based newspaper/website. It was posted in...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/02/15 04:17 PM

Dating Takes Courage She clicked the wrong button on Plenty of Fish. She was viewing her auto-generated matches and there was my smiling face on her ...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man19/02/15 01:26 AM

Guys, Don’t Be A Blowhard I’m often in public company, whether just walking in the village, attending a social event, or having a co...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/02/15 05:26 AM

The Sexiest Part Of A Man’s Body Note: Several twitter account links are included because I likes me some Twitter. Get yourselves some Twi...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/02/15 08:16 AM

Valentine’s Day – A High School Memory I went to a very small private high school in New England. There were only 63 kids in my grad...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man14/02/15 05:26 PM

About A Woman’s Online Dating Profile Photos Guys, when a woman posts her online dating profile photos, be keenly aware of the context of ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/02/15 04:03 AM

Should I Do The Patreon Thing? What is Patreon, you ask? Here’s the Wikipedia description: “Artists set up a page on the Patreon web...
About Me, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/02/15 04:54 AM

“Not interested in your car, boat, motorcycle…” This is an actual headline in a woman’s online dating profile. This particula...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man12/02/15 12:51 AM

Valentine’s Day 2015 – A Rant Valentine’s Day is a horrible, wretched day. It’s a shit test for men on a corporate scale...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/02/15 01:00 AM

Online Dating – The Validation Queen I’ve been doing online dating for over a decade, off and on. I’ve read thousands of pro...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/02/15 03:30 AM

Abundance Mentality – An Unintended Consequence There is much talk in the PUA (Pick Up Artistry) Manosphere about “abundance mentali...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man06/02/15 06:42 PM

The Basics – Agree And Amplify One of the biggest challenges facing post-divorce men is conversational ability. This is the result of soci...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/02/15 04:45 AM

The Frustration Of Men – From Another Source I’ve recently returned to a very popular motorcycle forum for riders and owners of R...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/02/15 06:41 PM

I Can Write About It Now… I made a promise. Now, I am no longer held to that promise. She was a vivacious and alluring woman. I thought I ...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man01/02/15 11:44 PM

Honest Dating My blog-buddy, A.B. Dada, recently tweeted out a link to his Facebook post about “low reward dating”. I’m not a big f...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man31/01/15 09:42 PM

Dating Exercise For Women – Comments My dating exercise for women has attracted some criticism. This doesn’t surprise me because tha...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man12/01/15 05:24 PM

“I Don’t Like To Be Touched” This made no sense to me when I first heard that phrase uttered by a young woman back in high sch...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man10/01/15 04:23 PM

Welcome ADV Riders! I was away for some years. Now I am back. For the rest of my readers, this is a bit of an inside thing. Life is interesting. Post...
About MeThe Private Man07/01/15 11:37 PM

A Dating Exercise For Women (Re-post) [I posted this just over three years ago. It needs to go viral.] A fair number of women read my blog and f...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/10/14 10:29 PM

A Very Revolutionary Statement Men and women are different. The two sexes are so different that I’m amazed our species manages to reproduc...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/10/14 01:28 AM

The Male Gaze This is not about the ridiculous politically correct phrase. This is about a concrete tip for men that can be easily followed. Christia...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/10/14 04:01 PM

The Frustration of Expressing Masculine Emotions A blog colleague recently posted an extremely well-expressed break up note. I don’t know ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/09/14 01:25 PM

Online Dating… The Phony Profile This post is a quick one. I haven’t stopped online dating. In fact, I’ve upgraded my membersh...
UncategorizedThe Private Man27/09/14 02:40 AM

Text Charisma Example A reader saved a text conversation with a woman he met via Tinder. The very long graphic below shows some key elements to succe...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man17/09/14 09:50 AM

#gamergate (Yup, it fits here) Note: This is an unfolding story. Anytime 4chan is involved, the origin of things can get murky. Even if 4chan st...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man11/09/14 10:12 AM

A Blog Milestone Hooray, Me! Actually, it’s hooray to my readers and commenters. It’s been three and a half years of blogging. This proje...
About Me, Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man23/08/14 05:32 PM

An Instant Messaging Interlude While I’ve been rather chilly towards online dating in the past few months, I haven’t backed away fro...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/08/14 01:35 PM

Observations At The New Job I’ve recently taken a new, full-time contract job in Miami. The contracting agency threw enough money at me to...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/08/14 11:15 PM

Yeah, Florida If anyone asked me 15 years ago if I would ever live in South Florida, I would have said firmly “Hell no!” Yet here I have ...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man09/08/14 01:32 PM

Spreadsheet Husband Now that the news of the Spreadsheet Husband, “SH”, has faded and cooler minds can prevail, it’s my turn to w...
Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man07/08/14 02:03 PM

What, Chivalry Again?! I look seriously askance at the concept of chivalry. I’ve made that no secret in my blog and my tweets. When Bring Chiva...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/08/14 04:29 PM

GI Joe Got It Right In a recent email, a reader asked for some advice regarding making some changes to his life to help him meet his relationshi...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/08/14 06:05 PM

Getting Back Into A Better Blogging Routine While my blog never stopped over the past few months, it did slow down substantially. I also put com...
About MeThe Private Man30/07/14 09:00 AM

Cuddling For Dollars Read this story first. Welcome back. This is important because it speaks to a human need. Many of us get enough physical contact...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/07/14 02:47 PM

Courtship Lite!® There’s a discussion going on amongst the “Olds” The discussion centers on courtship and the lack thereof. Matt...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/07/14 10:21 PM

Social Isolation Redux I know I harp on this subject. I do this because it’s a huge problem for men. I’ve covered well how technology ser...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/07/14 10:30 PM

Men Helping Men I recently retweeted this from @AoverK: “A majority of the population has written off improving their lot in life while a small...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/07/14 07:43 PM

Attraction Asymmetry A fundamental and biological truth is that men and women are different. The sexes are different below the shoulders and above th...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/07/14 09:48 AM

The Timbre Of A Man’s Voice Timbre is a great word. It’s the description of the sound of a musical instrument or voice. The better t...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/07/14 09:51 AM

Some Realities About Attraction And Dating Ross Jeffries is a seduction educator from way back. His first book on seduction was published over 2...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/07/14 06:47 PM

Getting Old… It’s Going To Be Epic! (Repost) Living in South Florida means being around lots and lots of retirees. Thankfully, most ...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/07/14 12:37 AM

Remember Danny From 504? “Editor’s” Note: Danny has pretty much given up blogging on his primary website. That’s his cho...
UncategorizedThe Private Man09/07/14 12:29 AM

If My Traditionalist Readers Only Knew… I have a wonderful and diverse group of readers. They hail from all over the world and cover many ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/07/14 12:46 AM

Call It A Date, Dammit One of the biggest mistakes a man makes after meeting a woman in real life is when he retreats on the nomenclature of dat...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/07/14 05:28 PM

Post-Divorce Pickup Artistry For Men To be honest, the type of advice I give to post-divorce men contains a few elements of Pickup Artistry (PUA...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/07/14 01:10 AM

Just Who Is This Wiggler? I got a fine, politically correct email where the sender takes some umbrage at one of my recent blog posts. I enjoy su...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/06/14 01:52 AM

The Mine Field Of Adjectives Nice guy Good man Mysterious fellow Arrogant prick Confident dude How a man is perceived is complex and confusing, ...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/06/14 12:38 PM

Pretty Lie Nuked – Nice Guys This one is easy. The dames completely loathe and despise nice guys. If a man is nice to a dame, she will ins...
UncategorizedThe Private Man23/06/14 10:18 PM

Another Pretty Lie Is Slain   As I’ve already savaged two pretty lies in my previous blog post, I’ll go for the hat trick with ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/06/14 01:12 AM

Two Pretty Lies Addressed TRIGGER WARNING – There are some truths in this blog post that might cause offense (That warning inserted becaus...
UncategorizedThe Private Man14/06/14 12:44 AM

Advice For The Singles Event With online dating such a time and energy investment, a live singles event is a far more efficient means to meet ot...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/06/14 06:13 AM

Four Single Young Women On Vacation Consider this something of a stage play. Every time I venture into the village to walk my dog, I always make...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/06/14 10:14 PM

Reader Email – Online Dating Edition The email is in italics and my commentary follows it. Hello and thanks for your site. It and a few ot...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man06/06/14 01:12 AM

The Protection Factor This tweet arrived recently from DateMe Kenya: Ladies! Before starting a new relationship, ask yourself Will he protect you? Wi...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/06/14 11:59 PM

Match.com And Their Big Dating Survey…And My Comments The numbers have been tallied and results are in. There is bullshit but also some va...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man30/05/14 12:51 AM

Excellent Questions From A Reader Private Man, Lately I have been seeing many women on POF write in the First Date section something along the...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/05/14 12:55 AM

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (About Past Relationships) My target demographic is the post-divorce (or post-long term relationship) crowd. A...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/05/14 12:52 AM

Bad Date Stories We’ve all heard the stories of bad date stories. Put some post-divorce singles in a room and it takes about a nanosecond for t...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/05/14 12:59 AM

A Fine Feature of True Femininity A woman of whom I’m quite fond has a remarkable feature to her personality. She’s peaceful. She ha...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/05/14 12:02 AM

Bring Chivalry Back… Dot Com! There is actually a new website with that name. There’s also an accompanying Twitter account and the a...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/04/14 11:28 PM

Thoughts About Re-Entry Dating Despite my eyesight, I do go out and flirt with women. The village is great for that because of the steady influx...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/04/14 11:58 PM

Two Single Women Over 40 – And Observations As a smoker, I take my smoke breaks with the few other smokers in this fairly large office bui...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man25/04/14 12:52 AM

Bad Early Date Idea – The Music Concert With old rock and roll bands still performing, there is a strong temptation to turn a music concer...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/04/14 11:58 PM

“Watch This Video And Get Laid Tonight” I have signed up to receive emails from the guys selling pick up artistry (PUA) systems. I g...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/03/14 02:42 PM

The “Lockdown” Factor And More Of My Mistakes Monday was Saint Patrick’s day. Like many towns, there were parties and events a...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/03/14 01:58 AM

ABC – Always Be Charismatic I awoke very early this morning, despite it being a Saturday. My circadian rhythm is well established now. My ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/03/14 03:13 PM

The Invisible Middle Age Person This is about men and women over a certain age. When women are no longer noticed, usually because of age, there ...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/03/14 02:52 AM

Feeling Connected To Society Social isolation is a real problem for the post-divorce demographic. It’s more acute for men. I am constantly...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/03/14 02:37 AM

A Potential Online Dating Profile Photo Experiment UPDATE – This photo is now the primary photo of my Plenty of Fish online dating profile...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man26/02/14 12:10 PM

It’s Not Fear Of Rejection, It’s Fear Of Punishment I read many different Internet forums that deal with men’s issues as they ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man25/02/14 02:57 PM

Carrying One’s Self “Carry” has a different meaning than simply hauling something around. It also means how one presents himself or...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/02/14 12:37 AM

Three Years O’ Blogging It’s been three years since I started this blog. It started as a way to express myself and to describe my da...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man11/02/14 12:00 AM

White Knights Attack! Earlier this evening, a white knight physically attacked me. For real. I was talking about not putting women on the pedestal an...
About MeThe Private Man01/02/14 05:36 AM

How To Meet Girls In Cold Weather I lied. I don’t know shit about this subject. I live in south Florida. But as a big part of this country...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man25/01/14 04:16 AM

Gentlemen, Let’s Talk Body Hair And Its Removal “Manscaping” is a real thing. It gets far more important with age because for ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man23/01/14 11:27 PM

Self-Righteousness Is Repellant Have you ever sat next to a guy in a bar who immediately starts spouting off about politics? He’s usually in ex...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man18/01/14 05:44 PM

Attention South Florida Readers! If you’re reading this and live in Miami-Dade, Broward, or Palm Beach counties. I want you. I’ll be...
About MeThe Private Man14/01/14 02:57 AM

I’m Mulling Over A Crowdfunding Idea… Crowdfunding represents a good opportunity for launching a business with small investments. My...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man08/01/14 03:17 PM

Donation Time! I’ve only pushed for donations once before. It’s time again. While I do have medical insurance, there are many costs which...
About MeThe Private Man06/01/14 02:54 PM

Long Commentary On Red Pill Understanding Of Attraction I spend way too much time reading stuff on the Internet. I read dating blogs, feminist b...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/01/14 03:17 PM

Going Public? There is some definite controversy about Manosphere bloggers going public. Most bloggers here are anonymous. I support that. When the p...
About MeThe Private Man22/12/13 07:07 PM

Dating Advice Gone Bad I usually don’t criticize dating coaches directly. I support all successful dating coaches because they are perform...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/12/13 09:28 AM

From A Reader I sometimes get amazing correspondence from my readers. Here is something from a woman about the nature of women. I’ve done some ...
The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man14/12/13 02:45 AM

Weekend Weirdness – Pomeranian Edition I’m dog-sitting for a week or so. My friend, Brenda, left behind these two Pomeranian dogs fo...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man02/12/13 01:18 AM

The Power Of Public Speaking A recent comment over at the The Red Pill (Reddit) reminded me about the value of social confidence: …when I ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/11/13 02:16 PM

Middle Age Men, Fashion, And “Average” – A Rant Guys, you dress terribly. Your clothes are outdated. Your clothes don’t ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/11/13 10:01 PM

Be The Researcher I look askance at psychological and sociological “studies” that are trotted frequently in order to present a better und...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man12/11/13 09:21 PM

Dating 2.0 And Baby Boomers Younger people have done a very good job of adopting the positive and negative elements of Dating 2.0. When a young ...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man07/11/13 05:34 AM

Crashed My Motorcycle Again, Dammit This time has been a bit more serious. I’ve been in the hospital since early Sunday morning with at le...
UncategorizedThe Private Man06/11/13 01:02 PM

Ol’ Timey Words: Prickly & Sour “Prickly” is a word my mother used to describe both herself and any other woman she found ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man23/10/13 03:40 PM

The Mainstream Media Comes To The Manosphere As Roosh predicted, 2013 is the year that the Manosphere starts getting serious attention from the ...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man18/10/13 07:05 PM

Meet Space, It’s Trending Humans are social creatures and so have a strong need to physically interact with other human beings. Even intro...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man09/10/13 06:21 PM

Inscrutable From Merriam-Webster: “not readily investigated, interpreted, or understood : mysterious” A man should not be an open book. W...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man23/09/13 08:15 PM

The Eyes Have It [Note: Further updates will be in the comments of this page of my blog. Dating and attraction advice is too important to be sid...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man19/09/13 09:34 PM

Dragon*Con Photos Part 1 Here are a bunch of Dragon*Con photos. Expect another batch soon (Alex, that’s you!) The famous Dragon*Con parade...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man05/09/13 11:29 PM

Dragon*Con Final Day Dragon*Con 2013 has ended. The geeks and nerds have dispersed from downtown Atlanta. I’m on the road heading back to South...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man03/09/13 04:49 AM

Dragon*Con 2nd & 3rd Days There was a parade. There were crowds. There were costumes. There were interesting people. There was an interview ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man02/09/13 04:08 AM

Dragon*Con First Day The lines were long, the streets were full. It was like the running of the bulls at Pamplona except the bulls were cars on Peach...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man31/08/13 04:21 AM

Dragon*Con Setting Up Dragon*Con is essentially a trade show for the geeky nerdy crowd. Having a strong geek streak myself, I do identify with this b...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man29/08/13 10:47 PM

Getting To Dragon*Con If y’all read this post, you know that I am working Dragon*Con to help a friend work a booth as a vendor. Doing a trade s...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man29/08/13 04:49 AM

Weekend Weirdness – Ugly Dog Photo Caption Needed With some effort, a photo of Lucy, my ugly dog, was taken that showed her with an unusua...
About MeThe Private Man25/08/13 02:45 AM

I’m Working At Dragon*Con In Atlanta Over Labor Day weekend, a friend and I will be trekking from sunny Florida to Atlanta to work at the ...
About MeThe Private Man23/08/13 02:58 AM

Input Needed About a year ago, I spun off another website/blog/business that I named “Red Pill Dating” (link below). I thought the name w...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/08/13 12:18 AM

Manosphere Insider Stuff My regular readers know that I am part of the “Manosphere”. Yes, it’s an awkward name. Regardless, the nam...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/08/13 03:35 AM

Weekend Weirdness – Dog Antics I was out on Friday night at my local bar with Lucy, my ugly dog. In the first photo, I was sitting in the ...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/08/13 03:25 AM

My Interview On Manosphere Radio Pete’s a good guy who is doing a series of interviews with Manosphere bloggers. My interview with him is ...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man06/08/13 08:35 PM

Guys, Don’t Be A SNAG SNAG is the acronym for Sensitive, New Age Guy. There was once a time in our recent social history when guys were ex...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/08/13 07:05 PM

New Comment Policy All comments are now going into moderation. Most of the comments are reasonably thoughtful and add to the general discussion about...
About MeThe Private Man26/07/13 03:09 PM

The Classics Never Die Someone reminded me of this joke and apparently it’s quite old. It’s also quite telling. The definitive answe...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/07/13 02:31 AM

Merciless, Yet Casual Cynicism When new readers emerge and send me emails, I am always pleased. New voices and fresh perspective are necessary f...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/07/13 10:51 PM

Weekend Weirdness – South Florida Quickie If the human beings are strange enough down here, mother nature got into the act just yesterday....
UncategorizedThe Private Man20/07/13 09:28 PM

Dating For Men – The Date Idea List Guys, if you’re serious about the dating process, you’ll need to come up with potential da...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/07/13 03:03 AM

Men Are Bitter And Angry And That’s Awesome After reading one too many Red Pill blogs, a female friend texted me: I need a break from all ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/07/13 02:57 PM

“That’s Cheating!” My neighbor, James, is a good guy. He’s in his 30s, works a full-time, labor intensive, skilled job. He...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/07/13 10:25 PM

A Scene At A Wedding Reception Note: All the names have been changed. I had the opportunity to attend a beach wedding recently. It was in Key We...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man08/07/13 11:17 PM

Reality TV Knocks On My Door – A True Story Almost a month ago I received this missive in my email in-box account: Hello, My name is [name...
About MeThe Private Man30/06/13 12:11 AM

The Parable of Mark and Lauren (by laidnyc) I’m a huge fan of cleverly written blog posts. With the author’s permission, I’m r...
Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/06/13 01:30 PM

Weekend Weirdness – A Pink Police Car While out walking my ugly dog (photo below) this morning, I came across a small local event promotin...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man01/06/13 05:04 PM

An Invitation To Describe Your Online Dating Experiences Moxie over at And That’s Why You’re Single posted about what not to say to ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/05/13 04:31 PM

More On Masculine Social Confidence Red Pill dating and attraction wisdom firmly states that women are attracted to confident men. A reader has ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/05/13 02:06 AM

Almost Time To Upgrade The Phone – Not To Samsung I’ve seen this commercial several times. It’s not for the American market be...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man27/05/13 03:45 PM

Why No Chivalry When Dating? A dating adviser, Christie Hartman (link below), recently tweeted: “Guys: chivalry is an easy, cost-free way ...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/05/13 06:14 PM

Five Noble Rules About Attraction And Dating This is short and sweet and needs to be restated from time to time: Men and women are different. Th...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/05/13 07:48 PM

Yeah, The Donate Link If you donate, it’s all going to Red Pill Dating. It will be for advertising, paying the graphics guy, getting a goo...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man13/05/13 05:52 PM

Random & Tweetable Dating Tips For Guys Of A Certain Age Some of these might seem patently obvious but each one is based on women’s ac...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/05/13 10:27 PM

Dating For Men – The Escalation Factor And Dating 2.0 Note: This is also posted on Red Pill Dating. The biggest challenge for the post-div...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/05/13 09:04 PM

The Wise Uncle A recent tweet from the Wall Street Playboys (@wallstreetplayboys) gave some succinct advice – gotta love Twitter and that 140 c...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/05/13 11:04 PM

Comment Gold The comments on my blog posts are consistently good. Every n0w and then a new commenter shows up with something special. A female reader...
UncategorizedThe Private Man06/05/13 10:02 PM

Between The Genders – Changing The Vocabulary “Traditional gender roles?! You just want to return to the 1950s where women were hous...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/04/13 08:08 PM

International Online Dating – Some Words From An Industry Insider It’s not often that I get access to someone truly in the know abou...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/04/13 11:56 PM

The Mind Reels… And Is Repelled… My long time readers know that I’ve backed away from the vitriol that immediately arises when...
UncategorizedThe Private Man19/04/13 05:33 PM

How Women “Open” Men “Opening” is a pick up artist (PUA) term for starting a conversation with a woman. However, women can ce...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/04/13 02:23 PM

I See How This Works Note: This is combination of two posts from last year that proved to be very popular. This dialog is a mash-up of all the c...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man29/03/13 04:58 PM

“Ask Me Anything” Sub-reddit Event, Right Now! Tuesday, March 12, 7PM (Eastern Daylight Time). http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/ A...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/03/13 11:00 PM

Spring Break Manosphere Meetup – The Plans Yes, it’s happening. I’ll be there as planned and on time. Things have come togethe...
UncategorizedThe Private Man05/03/13 01:55 AM

It’s Slowly Building Momentum Getting the second blog up and running was the start. Now it’s moving ahead with blog posts and more d...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/03/13 06:33 PM

Of Soul Mates And Superheroes About two years ago I posted about emotional pornography (link below). That’s the pornography of unrealistic...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/02/13 05:33 AM

So Private Man… Where Ya Been? I’ve been right here, healing up from my motorcycle injuries and working on a project that will go li...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man22/02/13 09:35 PM

We Carry The Bags, Not The Porter There is so much discussion about the emotional baggage we all carry and how it impacts our ability to date an...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/02/13 05:18 AM

Please Vent About Valentines Day I’m giving the opportunity for my readers to unleash their feelings about this thoroughly awkward and pot...
UncategorizedThe Private Man14/02/13 02:41 PM

Temporary Absence I’ve not posted in a week or so because I’m still dealing with the injuries related to my recent motorcycle mishap. Yes...
UncategorizedThe Private Man12/02/13 04:43 PM

Risk And Mitigation – Motorcycling Be Dangerous! Finally, after 9 years and almost 130,000 miles, I really dumped my bike. While I didn...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/02/13 06:28 PM

Let Her Be Nurturing For all the talk of empowered, strong, and independent women not needing a man, there is a large part of the feminine psych...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/02/13 05:01 PM

Astrological Sign Determines Romantic Compatibility? WTF?! “Oh, I can’t date a Capricorn” A woman friend of mine actually said...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/02/13 05:57 PM

Spring Break 2013 Manosphere Meetup Update I took this photo earlier this week… and it’s February! I’m going through my posts ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/01/13 09:26 PM

A Reminder – Spring Break, 2013 Details here: https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/spring-break-2013/ This could be much fun. Posted in Unca...
UncategorizedThe Private Man26/01/13 04:58 PM

How Women Turn Men Into Pickup Artists A friend and colleague is doing the online dating thing with OKCupid. He’s 26, intelligent, and wit...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/01/13 06:17 PM

So, How’s That Working Out For You? Human beings are incredibly adaptable to outside influences. We adapt to changes in climate, geography...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man20/01/13 12:31 AM

Know Your Relationship Goals While dating is fun and interesting, it’s an investment in time and money (for both sexes). Embarking on the ...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man15/01/13 08:39 PM

Emotional Pornography [Yes, this is a re-post. This subject very recently came up in discussion and I feel it’s important to keep this idea cir...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man14/01/13 04:53 PM

First Date From Online Dating – Protocol For Women [Note: I posted about the protocol for men (link below) and now it’s time for the ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/01/13 03:19 AM

A Reminder – Spring Break, 2013 Details here: https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/spring-break-2013/ This could be much fun. Posted in Abo...
About MeThe Private Man10/01/13 08:57 PM

The Online Dating Profile Photography Problem…For Men A good online dating profile must have photographs. This applies equally to men and women...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/01/13 06:40 PM

Calling Captain Obvious! When I hear discussions about dating, it always amazes me that many of you seem not to have any time for actual dates. We st...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/01/13 08:17 PM

Does “Game” Work And Three Ways To Get It – Guest Post I only rarely do a guest post but this is an interesting exception. A p...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/01/13 09:13 PM

First Date From Online Dating – Protocol For Men [Note: My target demographic is for a cohort over a certain age. You youngsters can sit t...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/12/12 06:00 AM

Satire Ahoy! Advice For Princesses And Goddesses Dating and relationships are so difficult. It’s so hard for the modern, sassy woman to fi...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man26/12/12 06:40 PM

Why Is Dating So Horrible? There are two reasons. First, there are these words – “polite company”. It’s really rather si...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man20/12/12 09:03 PM

A Subject That I’ve Been Avoiding A reader made a comment and it contains a request for advice and information on a topic that I can’...
UncategorizedThe Private Man19/12/12 11:48 PM

Oh, Come On… I think one of my Manosphere buddies sent the following comment. It was in response to A Social Exercise For Men (link below). Wha...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/12/12 04:02 AM

Dating 2.0 – Good News & Bad News For Women One of the most prominent and public of the Pick Up Artistry (PUA) guys is Roosh. He trave...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/12/12 04:57 PM

A Social Exercise For Men One of my readers commented that he wanted more specific exercises and less theory. I agree. I have already started wi...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/12/12 05:57 PM

A Request To My Readers… This blog is approaching a million page views. It’s also approaching its two-year anniversary. There will b...
About MeThe Private Man12/12/12 01:59 AM

Men – The Gatekeepers To Commitment (Long Post) [I wrote this post back in August of this year. It’s still valid] An interesting blo...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/12/12 11:12 PM

Manosphere Blogging 101 – 21 Pieces Of Advice There are many new, self-identified Manosphere bloggers cropping up ( some links below). I&#...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/12/12 05:07 AM

A Social Risk Is Still A Risk [A very recent post over at Heartiste (link below) covers “peacocking” in some detail. Peacocking is a...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/12/12 08:56 PM

Is Deti Brilliant Or What? Yeah, he’s brilliant. I read too many blogs. My eyes get tired and I’ll probably go blind soon. No matter...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/12/12 03:32 AM

From the Masculine to the Feminine in 35 Minutes [I posted this almost two years ago. It’s still germane.] For the most part, the private ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/12/12 02:20 PM

One A Day – A Social Exercise For Men There is a mantra amongst those teaching and practicing the Venusian arts – approach women, ap...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/11/12 04:18 PM

Oh, Another Hater Comment! The vast majority of my commenters are thoughtful and intelligent people. Yeah, even Danny with his hockey helmet and...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man27/11/12 03:34 PM

Shoot Your Television, Be Prudent With Your Internet [Irony update, 3:14 today… Suzanne Venker, the author of The war on men, is appearing...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/11/12 03:36 PM

Spring Break, 2013 – Reminder I’ll be regularly reminding my readers about this event. There is certainly some interest and I’...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/11/12 04:23 PM

I Need To Keep Track Of My Posts Almost a year ago I posted “Helpful Hint For A Woman’s Online Dating Profile” (link below). T...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man24/11/12 09:17 PM

New Manosphere Term – Lapdogging The guys over at 3rd Millenium Men (link below) posted something about the whole Alpa/Beta thing. In that...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/11/12 04:18 AM

The Pain Of “Be Nice, Be Yourself” Yesterday’s post, A Man Reveals His Anger (link below), linked to an incredible blog post b...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/11/12 06:16 PM

A Man Reveals His Anger 12 years is a long time. 12 years without any intimate physical contact from another human being can shred a man’s...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man19/11/12 06:03 PM

I Like Trinidad And Tobago – International Men’s Day Ironically, I’ve never been there. No doubt it’s a cool place becau...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man18/11/12 02:27 PM

The Placeholder Relationship A particularly unhappy Reddit post (link below) brought out a host of men describing the “placeholder” relat...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/11/12 08:41 PM

The Manosphere Is Evolving Some prominent blogs have voluntarily shut down in the past couple of weeks. That’s perfectly natural because t...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/11/12 12:40 AM

Big Media – This Is An Eye-Opening Graphic Why is this relevant to the Manosphere? Because this loose collection of blogs, forums, and web...
UncategorizedThe Private Man13/11/12 09:43 PM

Be A Unicorn I read way too many dating and relationship blogs. The mainstream, blue pill dating and relationship advice – usually dispensed by...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/11/12 04:50 AM

Spring Break, 2013 I don’t make a secret of where I live (the ZIP code is 33308) and it’s also no secret that where I live is very close ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/11/12 12:03 AM

The Long Strike – Don’t Be So Ambitious Politics tend to be the manifestation of social trends. Given the gender breakdown of last n...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/11/12 03:47 PM

The Sexual Marketplace And Middle Age Amongst the younger set of Manosphere bloggers is the idea that a woman over a certain age has no value in...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/11/12 04:51 PM

Reader Mailbag – The 30Something Single Professional Woman This very interesting email arrived just last night. I must credit the writer w...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/11/12 02:50 PM

The Running Of The Lurkers Yesterday’s running of the lurkers (link below) proved extremely successful. I thank all the lurkers who de-clo...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man31/10/12 05:01 PM

Lurkers Of The World, Unite! I did this exercise last year and it was quite successful. I’m going to up the stakes. I want 100 new comment...
UncategorizedThe Private Man30/10/12 06:50 PM

Online Dating, Additional Advice For Men Last year I described my online dating system (link below). I still dabble with online dating but mix t...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/10/12 04:26 PM

Women’s Online Dating Profile Headlines – The Good, The Boring, The Bad This is my most popular blog post and it was written for wom...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man26/10/12 05:02 PM

Flirting, It Yields Interesting Results And Requires Observation While at the physician’s office very recently, I went into flirt and Char...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/10/12 04:49 PM

Game For Smokers – Post Recycle I am a smoker. [Update – I have pretty much stopped] About a year ago I remembered some funny lines ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/10/12 08:28 PM

I’m Lazy And Trolls Allow Me To Be So Overnight comments can make for fun mornings. A commenter left behind three highly enjoyable comment...
The Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind, UncategorizedThe Private Man18/10/12 06:25 PM

Run Your Errands Alone “Hey, I’ve got to run to the supermarket, want to come with me?” “Sure, swing by my place and we&...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/10/12 01:26 AM

The Age Of Point And Snark® Writing With serious newspaper journalism ebbing into a sea of Internet goo and political-driven slime, a new typ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man15/10/12 06:51 PM

A Dating Exercise For Men The dating exercise for women (link below) went quite well. While doing some research about women and their emotions &...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/10/12 04:02 PM

Texting – The Smoke Of the Potential Relationship I was recently made aware of this awesomely awkward website – He Texted (link belo...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man10/10/12 05:29 PM

Stop Holding Hands So you’re out and about on a date with a woman who you fancy and she fancies you. You’ve already kissed passionately a...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/10/12 04:16 PM

Dating 2.0 – Selection, Active And Passive – Post Recycle [I’ll be busy the next few days so I’ll leave this up for as m...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man06/10/12 03:08 PM

The Resiliency Conundrum I recently had a long and fascinating phone call with one of my blog readers. He told a picaresque tale of Cluster B (link b...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/10/12 10:00 PM

Chivalry – A Good & Honest Rant Is Epic To Behold For the last two days I have been pondering the nature of female privilege and how i...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man04/10/12 11:47 AM

I Lost An Important Email From A Regular Commenter He was asking for some of my help and I’d like to but I lost the email! Will that comme...
UncategorizedThe Private Man02/10/12 10:27 PM

Rationalization Hamster – Post Recycle [Note: This post has been a fair amount of attention just today – 09/28/2012 – so let&#...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man28/09/12 11:21 PM

The Whining Red Pill men face an enormous dilemma. There are many things that have a negative impact on guys, personally, socially, and politically. ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/09/12 01:47 PM

Creeps Or Criminals? [Note: For some reason, the word “creep” and its variations angers me greatly. The way women throw around that word ...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man25/09/12 01:14 PM

This Story Must Be Read… It’s Long, Too. Fellow Manosphere blogger Ian Ironwood wrote a long and thoughtful post (link below) about ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man24/09/12 04:02 PM

What’s He Doing Wrong? My incoming mail yields greatness. This one arrived just today and I’ve posted unedited and uncorrected. So, ...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man24/09/12 12:56 AM

The Running Of The Buicks – Weekend Weirdness Living in South Florida (Fort Lauderdale area) has given me the opportunity to indulge in a ...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man22/09/12 01:29 PM

Online Dating Profile Photos And Honesty Is there any such thing as online dating profiles and honesty? I wonder. This is the primary photo for ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/09/12 03:47 AM

New Blog To Watch Red Pill wisdom is percolating nicely on yonder interwebz. While bopping around the Manosphere and chasing various links, I ca...
Good Links HereThe Private Man18/09/12 04:45 PM

Cautionary Down the rabbit hole I go. Deti, being brilliant and savagely honest, has been commenting prolifically at The Woman and the Dragon (link b...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/09/12 09:55 AM

Pre-Selection While Absent Your friends can help you with women even when you aren’t around. If a friend or group of friends and is out and abo...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/09/12 10:06 PM

Finishing School For Young People Growing up in WASPy New England, I was introduced to the concept of the finishing school for girls. Such schoo...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/09/12 06:57 PM

Leaving The Gene Pool A very bright and capable single fellow has quite possibly committed genetic suicide. He blogged about it (link below). Th...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/09/12 02:14 PM

Post Recycle – Charmed By An Older, Southern Woman Note, September 2012: I never did run into this woman again, alas. I walked over to the...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/09/12 10:00 PM

Two Dating Rules For Men This is about the women you have been involved with romantically and how they have impacted your life. This is also abo...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man08/09/12 01:31 AM

Women, Television, And “Attention Porn” A tweet from Moxie the dating coach (link below) triggered an interesting bit of wisdom and quite...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/09/12 12:58 AM

The Vicious Circle of Lies and Misinformation With Good News I wrote about the vicious circle of lies and misinformation (link below) last year ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/09/12 01:31 PM

Post Recycle – Have A Social Comfort Zone Men can get a bit isolated from a social life. With the distractions of video games, the Interne...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/09/12 04:39 PM

Weekend Weirdness – Florida (As Usual) I know Florida is a screwed up place. Everyone knows that Florida is a screwed up place. Perhaps it...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man01/09/12 07:42 PM

25 Things About Me Y’all don’t be afraid to be click on that donate button. Since I’m pretty much public now, here’s mor...
About MeThe Private Man31/08/12 03:01 PM

You Know You’ve Taken The Red Pill When… You automatically observe social interactions between men and women and instantly determine...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/08/12 02:47 PM

The Clusters – A Warning For Men If you’re not familiar with the clusters, these are certain behaviors that are not quite mental ill...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man29/08/12 02:56 PM

Finding “Chemistry” Note: This was my sixth blog post (out of almost 350 total) and I wrote it back in February of 2011, long before my b...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/08/12 08:25 PM

A Dating Exercise For Women – Amazing Follow Up Almost a year ago, I posted an exercise (link below) for women that could open their eyes ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/08/12 04:22 PM

The Chronology Of Masculine Fail A recent and soon-to-be legendary post from Rollo over at the Rational Male blog (link below) described how a y...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man23/08/12 03:34 PM

The Most Remarkable Blog I Have Read But Won’t Link To I have stumbled across a most extraordinary blog while reading comments elsewhere. ...
RelationshipsThe Private Man21/08/12 03:46 PM

Trying Something New – Need Input Now that I’m technically no longer The Private Man (link below) and I have the infrastructure to r...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/08/12 07:39 PM

This Has Been Going On For Awhile… This video is long at 25 minutes. You have been warned. It’s important to understand the date whe...
UncategorizedThe Private Man18/08/12 05:46 PM

Faith, Gender Roles, Masculine Charisma A massive comment outbreak is occurring over at Dalrock’s blog (link below). Given the intelligenc...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/08/12 04:18 PM

Men – The Gatekeepers To Commitment (Long Post) An interesting blog post over at Hooking Up Smart (link and note below) gives 25 Political...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/08/12 01:57 PM

Dating 2.0 – A Definition When dealing with the social reality of Dating 2.0, it’s extremely important that we all have the same gen...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/08/12 04:32 PM

Charisma Travels Light (Guest post from LostSailor) LostSailor is a tremendously talented commenter on quite a few blogs. I asked if he wanted t...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/07/12 10:02 PM

Deference The recent tragic events in Colorado have revealed the depths of heroic actions that a man will automatically give to women. Three men lost...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man23/07/12 03:35 PM

The Octomom Interlude (Guest Post With Photo) What follows below is a guest post from Kurt Green, a friend and colleague who spent the time and ...
The Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind, UncategorizedThe Private Man19/07/12 06:09 PM

What Men Want Imagine a woman a singing this: http://youtu.be/uYZ9uB987Uk I am a sucker for the female singing voice. Hayley Westenra, oh my. (While ...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/07/12 09:39 AM

The Comments Make The Blog I am continually stunned by the thoughtful and well-written comments that my blog garners. This is from AnonWriter: W...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man10/07/12 07:43 PM

Honesty From An Unlikely Place As I don’t own a television so I read a great number of blogs. Of course I read many of the Manosphere blog...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/07/12 07:48 PM

Who Pays? (Short Post) I’ve been reading a lot about the issue of who pays for the date. I argue that the man pays for the first date. I n...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man06/07/12 08:54 PM

Comfort And Charisma My readers and commenters have much wisdom. In a couple of comments on a recent post about my hit and miss relationship experien...
Good Links Here, Munson, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/07/12 02:05 PM

Patton Oswalt – The Two Dumbest C*nts In The World Patton Oswalt is a pretty funny stand-up comedian. A couple of ladies are actually talk...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/07/12 04:51 AM

Munson Has Left The Building To cap off a truly shitty week, I have just learned that Munson has passed away. His story is a page on my blog. Pl...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/06/12 02:18 PM

Fat Acceptance? Not Here – Post Recycle [Note: I wrote this post about eight months ago. It’s not the most polite of posts but this ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man28/06/12 01:21 AM

Why I Blog Since I’ve started blogging, I’ve banged out over 300 new posts. I have recycled a few posts, as well. My regular commenters a...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man26/06/12 03:30 PM

Woman Up! (Re-visited) [Note: This post was the last of three entitled Woman Up! that I posted about eight months ago. The female blogger bbsezmore (...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind, UncategorizedThe Private Man25/06/12 10:57 PM

Ex-Wives Understand Hypergamy In the course of a high-conflict divorce, the soon-to-be ex-wife has an iron clad grasp of hypergamy. She knows that by...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man24/06/12 06:15 PM

Hey Blog Readers! What’s On Your Mind? It’s a lazy, rainy, viciously humid day here in South Florida. I’ve noticed the Manos...
UncategorizedThe Private Man23/06/12 07:56 PM

Picture, 1000 Words… This image has made the rounds in the Manosphere already. But its simple and direct message is so strong that it needs to ...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/06/12 07:19 PM

The Marriage Analogy – A Must Read This one is long but very much worth the read. It originated from an excellent Dalrock post (link below...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/06/12 03:38 PM

Getting Old… It’s Going To Be Epic! Living in South Florida means being around lots and lots of retirees. Thankfully, most of them d...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man18/06/12 03:24 PM

Outcome Independence – Find Her Flaw While talking Red Pill wisdom with a younger colleague (single guy), he expressed curiosity about the...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/06/12 04:27 PM

Post Recycle – From the Masculine to the Feminine in 35 Minutes Note: I’m recycling some older posts because only 200 posts are curr...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/06/12 03:55 PM

Weekend Weirdness – Cutting Off Florida Yes, Florida is a truly weird place. While this odd state is home, there are times when I want to ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man10/06/12 03:16 PM

A Social Risk Is Still A Risk The willingness to take a risk is one of the hallmarks of a man with Charisma and confidence. When a man takes a r...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/06/12 03:49 PM

Post Recycle – Why Feminists Hate Us Note: I wrote this post last year and it garnered some great comments. It’s worth posting again...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/06/12 04:50 PM

Coldest. Advice. Ever. The Roissy/Heartiste blog (link below) is not a warm and inviting spot on the Manosphere. It’s a cold, heartless, and cy...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/06/12 12:51 AM

Off Topic, Sort Of… A PDF Book It’s an entire book and Charisma (Game) is a strong theme. It’s not edited, only linked. If the...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/06/12 03:27 AM

Liberation! The Manosphere yields some terrifically thoughtful blogs and comments. It’s spectacular that men are abundantly sharing truths and ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/06/12 01:03 PM

For Guys Seeking Single Women 28-35 Years Old… It’s not easy, I know this. Most women this age are married or in committed relations...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/05/12 08:49 PM

Reader Mailbag – Same Woman On Different Online Dating Websites A reader presents some interesting scenarios regarding women who use more ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man30/05/12 02:07 AM

Reader Mailbag – Soft Harem Conundrum A reader writes: I’ve never been happier as a man since acquiring the “soft harem”...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/05/12 03:30 PM

Creating Clever And Charismatic Conversation [Yeah, the headline ain’t so clever, sue me.] Good conversation doesn’t come naturally ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/05/12 04:25 PM

Off Topic – Let’s Talk Tech… Deep in my soul beats the heart of a Luddite (link below). Because of this, I am not an early ado...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man24/05/12 11:21 PM

500K Page Views & Blog Recommendations I must recognize milestones. February was this blog’s one year anniversary (link below). As of ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man23/05/12 05:25 PM

New Manosphere Word! Hear ye! Hear ye! An uncommon word has surfaced in the Manosphere (link below) and it must be spread widely. The word is: Uxorio...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/05/12 05:17 PM

If You’re Not Reading “Awful Profiles by Women”… If you’re not reading my “Awful Profiles by Women” page (l...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man19/05/12 03:06 AM

Online Dating And Geographical Undesirability A regular reader sent the following email [parts of it edited]: I’ve been active in online d...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/05/12 03:28 PM

Escalation Trajectory Finally, it all came together in a very nice choreography of Charisma. This past Friday, after work, I stopped in for a glass o...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/05/12 06:02 PM

Weekend Weirdness – Gin It’s a Saturday night and I’m actually pleased to not be on a date. I’ve got good Pandora music ...
About MeThe Private Man13/05/12 01:59 AM

Addressing Social Awkwardness Human beings are social animals. Given the conditions of our hunter/gatherer forebearers, it was vital to band together...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/05/12 02:21 PM

Female Attention Deficit Disorder (FADD) This is not the disorder where a woman’s attention span is way too short and her brain is too eas...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/05/12 11:53 PM

Weekend Weirdness – Alphabet One Liners – 2 Analog – Retro digital Bra – It shall be removed! Corpulent – Fancy wor...
UncategorizedThe Private Man06/05/12 05:04 PM

Online Dating And When To Log In I am ramping up a new online dating campaign. I will be using my existing system (links below) with Plenty of F...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/05/12 04:32 PM

Dating 2.0 – Selection, Active And Passive First, credit and inspiration for this post goes to Cedo Nulli, a blogger who lives in Thailand...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man02/05/12 03:00 PM

The Timing Advice Given To Women There is some problematic advice for women on finding love. Such advice is all too easy to find as it’s d...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man30/04/12 07:26 PM

Insatiable (With Work Safe Photos!) I’m talking to you, the person reading this blog. You’re freaking insatiable and it’s a re...
UncategorizedThe Private Man26/04/12 03:06 AM

A Man Expressing Emotions “A man should get in touch with his emotions and express them more.” While far less frequent, that mantra ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/04/12 12:48 AM

My Readers Are Brilliant My previous post yielded some excellent comments. Buried in the many comments was this gem from Wudang: Men seek challe...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/04/12 11:09 PM

Men Like A Challenge? Bullshit! Conventional Dating Wisdom Is Slain I read a great deal of dating advice, most of it bad. This includes dozens o...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man14/04/12 01:24 AM

Generation Spinster I’ve covered specific spinster blogs in past. Moxie turned me on to another one. Doing some digging via Google, I’ve ...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man12/04/12 04:33 PM

Down To Basics While the tables in this post are rather tongue-in-cheek, there are some basic truths presented. The rank is not just sexual appeal, b...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/04/12 06:19 PM

What Men Want From Women Deti, a regular commenter on a variety of blogs wrote this in a comment on the Haley’s Halo blog post last year. ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/04/12 07:52 PM

Leykis Is Back The Manosphere needs to reach out to Tom This could be big. Posted in The Collective Wisdom of Men Single Post Navigation ← Older...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/04/12 08:09 AM

De-Programming The Programmers This is for you technologists – programmers, systems guys, database dudes, and any other guy who deals with tech...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/03/12 04:49 PM

Constant, Unending Attention A faithful reader and commenter, DC Phil, was talking to another blogger, Badger, and passed along something interesting...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man27/03/12 05:18 PM

Real Life Meets Blog In one simple declaration, a piece of my blog anonymity almost came to an end: You’re the Private Man. Outed. It was ...
About MeThe Private Man26/03/12 07:27 PM

Men And Women Are Different While it should be obvious, it’s worth reinforcing… Women are the gatekeepers to sexuality Men are the g...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/03/12 05:14 PM

Reader Mailbag – Dating Younger Women This excellent email arrived recently: I’ve been reading your blog regularly since its incepti...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/03/12 04:44 PM

Good Frame From Receiving Compliments When a woman is really into a man, she will compliment him. Receiving a compliment from a woman is a great...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/03/12 08:02 PM

Nuking The Hamster I was chatting online with Danny the other day. I mentioned to him that each time I hear a woman talk about a guy involved with a ...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/03/12 02:20 AM

Actions Over Words – A Vignette I was hanging out at my local wine bar recently. Two of the female regulars were with me. Both are single ...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man19/03/12 07:16 PM

For Women – A Player Test At the risk of incurring the wrath of my fellow Manosphere bloggers, I am going to give a method to women for de...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/03/12 01:19 AM

On Generalizing And Stereotypes Human reproductive behavior is remarkably predictable given consistent inputs. To not generalize or stereotype w...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/03/12 08:09 PM

Getting The Date A man and a woman meet up in real life. Perhaps it’s a coffee shop, a nice bar, even the grocery store. They have a nice conve...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/03/12 04:38 AM

The Military Marriage When given financial incentives, people will generally act in a predictable way. Apply those incentives to divorce and human be...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/03/12 07:14 PM

Hats There was a time when a man was expected to have a matching hat – usually a fedora – for each suit. The hats were custom-made and re...
UncategorizedThe Private Man29/02/12 05:31 AM

An Interesting Comment This comment was recently made on one of my older posts. It’s kind of long so I have redacted some of it to get the juic...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/02/12 12:57 AM

The Dating Exercise And Its Challenge I created a dating exercise for women to help them find the good in men. During a recent foray into the vi...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/02/12 02:23 AM

The Classroom Is Bad For Boys We need men to be teachers. Imagine a classroom where students are scored fairly, where boys and girls are treated...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/02/12 07:54 PM

Men, Women, Food A couple of years back I was a serious participant in the adventure motorcycling community through a website/forum where fellow adve...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man18/02/12 06:22 PM

Reader Mailbag [Note: A nicely prolific commenter, DC Phil, has described a real-life scenario where he requests some righteous Manosphere input. His...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/02/12 01:43 AM

Finding “Chemistry” – Post Recycle [Note: It’s the winter blog-posting doldrums here in the Manosphere. With that in min...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/02/12 01:00 AM

A Huge Dating Secret For Women While I’m not exactly sure what “successful” dating is for women, I do know that many women sim...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man11/02/12 09:48 PM

She Gets It Once again, being in the village with my dog yielded some compelling social interactions with women. It was Superbowl Sunday and I was si...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/02/12 03:26 AM

Social Science Is Slowly Catching Up To Red Pill Wisdom Academia is ponderously following behind what Red Pill men have known for years. The jou...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man07/02/12 11:26 PM

Occupy Valentines Day Gentlemen, the fateful day approaches. It is the day where your resolve will be tested and your wallet unnecessarily taxed. It ...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/02/12 12:52 AM

Three Birds, One Timer I’ve been corresponding with a reader who is doing some good work on improving his dating skills. He was castigatin...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/02/12 04:04 AM

Uncle Sam Wants You To Save Your Marriage! NOTE: This is a re-post from March of last year. As my blog is getting far more traffic, I think it&#...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/01/12 02:18 PM

On Nagging During my first marital administration (the blond phase), I came up with a simple guideline to determine if my wife was nagging when she w...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man28/01/12 03:33 PM

College Guys – Strike When The Iron Is Hot A guy has a massively greater amount of social opportunities with women while he is a student t...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/01/12 12:09 AM

The Perils of Propinquity Propinquity is just a fancy way of saying that something is close by. When we were at school, having lots of single yo...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/01/12 08:59 AM

Incredible Comment This past has nothing to do with a man’s Charisma but is tangentally related to relationships and is certainly about the pow...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/01/12 11:25 AM

I Might Date Liz Jones Deep breath. I am profoundly ashamed of the next few sentences I’m about to type. But at the risk of enraging femini...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man23/01/12 05:04 AM

I Have Unleashed Munson A month or two past, I become familiar with tvmunson, an incredibly prolific commenter on several blogs. He’s at H...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/01/12 09:13 AM

Dating Advice From Two Bloggers (One Male, One Female) The other day, I received some questions about dating from one of my readers. I answered ...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/01/12 12:20 AM

Oh Boy – My First Hater! A classy and sophisticated woman has posted this comment in response to A Woman Who Speaks Her Mind. Because unli...
The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/01/12 01:36 AM

Martin Luther King I was six years old when he was assassinated. I remember my parents bringing my brother and I to watch the television and see the ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/01/12 08:00 PM

Reader Email – A Question About Conversational Skills Chris writes: Brief question: how do you salvage a beta-ized conversation? I’l...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/01/12 12:00 AM

The Zombie Apocalypse – It’s Upon Us! Zombies are all around us. The shuffling masses of the walking undead are everywhere. They are...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/01/12 11:42 PM

Generic Female Narcissist Blog – LA Edition Last month I presented the blogs written by women that I follow regularly. Soon after, I prese...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man09/01/12 12:22 AM

Weekend Weirdness – Japan The weirdest shit always seems to come from Japan. I wish I had a better understanding of the Japanese psyche so...
UncategorizedThe Private Man07/01/12 10:50 PM

The Online Dating System, Revisited. As my blog is getting close to a year old and with over 220 posts so far, it’s again time to remind m...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links HereThe Private Man06/01/12 07:00 AM

In Praise Of Men Over 40 I got this from a spinster… Her comments (and those of the original piece she references) in are italics, my comm...
UncategorizedThe Private Man05/01/12 05:06 AM

Female Sexual Competitiveness I just ended a five month employment contract at a large wireless telecom company. The commute was simply awful (on a m...
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man03/01/12 12:13 AM

Weekend Wierdness – Street Art I’m going to wrap up this year with something fun and lighthearted. Here are samples: There is a whol...
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man31/12/11 05:44 PM

Men, Beware The Narcissistic Female Blogger I do read other female blogs, the non-narcissistic being the exceptions and I pointed those out alre...
Dating/Online Dating, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man29/12/11 01:58 AM

Reader Mail My request for advice-seeking emails has yielded a winner. DC Philo writes [I’ve done some judicious editing to get the crux of his...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/12/11 07:07 PM

Reign Her In [The Post Title Is A Pun] Spread this around… especially to men who claim to be Democrats. Barbara Walters, ABC News: “What ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man24/12/11 08:48 PM

Female-Written Blogs That I Follow Of the many blogs I follow (mostly Manosphere), there is a small group of blogs written by women which I find...
Good Links HereThe Private Man23/12/11 05:41 PM

I See How This Works – Part 2 [For part one, go here.] Claire takes a gulp of her drink, finishing it. She quickly signals the bartender f...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/12/11 06:53 PM

I See How This Works – Part 1 A middle-aged fellow is having a libation at an upscale bar and restaurant in a big city. It’s about a...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/12/11 07:06 AM

In Femininity, There Is Strength The current social expectation is that femininity is considered a weakness. It’s an extraordinarily entre...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/12/11 12:34 PM

Helpful Hint For A Woman’s Online Dating Profile Did you find this post useful? There’s a Donate button on the right. [This post has...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/12/11 06:43 AM

250,000 Total Page Views With this post, my total traffic since starting this blog back in February will most likely reach over 250,000 page vie...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man19/12/11 12:22 PM

Weekend Weirdness – More Florida My local newspaper, The Sun Sentinel, has a sometimes funny and sometimes disturbing news blog feature. T...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man18/12/11 06:44 PM

A Tale Of Two Blogs Danny and I each have blogs. I’ve been blogging about a year. Danny has been blogging since June of this year. As we a...
About Me, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/12/11 09:07 PM

Radical Feminism Still Exists The social activist division of the Manosphere has recently been shining a bright light on the dark and ugly place...
Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man16/12/11 07:11 PM

Should I Give Dating and Relationship Advice? Short post: I’ve received some emails requesting dating and relationship advice. I’m b...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/12/11 05:18 AM

Avoid The Online Dating Bait And Switch I like to collect online dating stories. If I discover that someone is doing the online dating thing, I ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/12/11 08:43 PM

The Rationalization Hamster Is Now Immortal The Manosphere contains many, many words regarding a woman’s rationalization hamster because i...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/12/11 02:54 AM

Weekend Wierdness – Florida Florida is a strange place. If someone asked me ten years ago if I would consider living in Florida, I would s...
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man11/12/11 09:53 PM

Fisking An Online Dating Profile For those not in the know, The term fisking is blogosphere slang that describes a point-by-point criticism that...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man10/12/11 02:36 AM

Femininity – You Have To Take The Good With The Bad The Manosphere has a huge hue and cry over the lack of femininity in modern, American ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man06/12/11 05:07 AM

Take His Side There are times when a man – as a friend or close relative of several women – will be on the receiving end of her complaint...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man05/12/11 05:27 PM

Relationship Language Ruined By Political Correctness It’s known that women are turned on by dominant men. We’re just not allowed to...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/12/11 03:20 PM

How Will They Find Husbands? I am not good at statistics. However, I am good a sensing socio-gender trends. Houston, we have a problem. It’...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/12/11 03:44 AM

Manage Expectations Early There are some men with Charisma who are seeking more than just a series brief trysts and assignations with the opposite se...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/11/11 02:31 PM

Woman Up! Make The Man Feel Desired I started the Woman Up meme with the intention that women look at men differently. When I read comments at M...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man25/11/11 05:10 AM

Being Thankful – The Manosphere Way Never mind friends and family for now. These are the things I’m thankful for from a Manosphere p...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/11/11 05:02 PM

What Are You Really Good At? This is my shortest blog post to date. It’s a bit disappointing that my post about the confidence sub-routine...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man23/11/11 01:40 AM

Why Feminists Hate Us Feminists loathe anyone who participates positively in the Manosphere – PUA, MRA, MGTOW (defined below). I used to a...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/11/11 05:01 AM

A Woman Who Speaks Her Mind My neighbor is a somewhat elderly woman. She’s sometimes good company if occasionally batty. She’s fond ...
Good Links Here, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/11/11 05:01 AM

Stealth Red Pill Lessons – Weekend Weirdness I created a fake profile on Plenty of Fish. The persona is “Marcus”, a 53 year ol...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/11/11 04:37 PM

Mining The Comments For Gold Every now and again, an old post gets an hilarious comment. These two (scroll down or click here and here) popped u...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man11/11/11 05:01 AM

The Confidence Sub-Routine Expanded This recent post needs to be re-visited because of a comment that asked for a further explanation on the nat...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/11/11 05:05 AM

A Warning For Christian Men Dalrock has been posting a great deal regarding the misconception that a Christian woman of faith is somehow a diffe...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man09/11/11 05:05 AM

Rules For Single Women, Revisited Note: I posted this way back in February. As my blog was quite new back then, this post didn’t get a lot...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man01/11/11 01:44 PM

The Confidence Sub-Routine I receive a lot of email marketing from businesses that sell dating systems to men. I get the most from these folks: Shell...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man31/10/11 05:20 AM

Boobs – Weekend Weirdness I found this on Jest. It’s a video showing a Russian guy feeling the boobs of 1,000 women. It’s work...
UncategorizedThe Private Man30/10/11 06:38 PM

My Dog Is Ugly By popular demand (well, a couple of guys in the Manosphere forcefully requested), I present my ugly dog: My ugly dog. I acquired...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man29/10/11 12:58 AM

A Dating Exercise For Women A fair number of women read my blog and for this, I am pleased. Normally, I write my posts with a male audience in m...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/10/11 11:27 AM

The Accidental Entertainer – Don’t Be Him Women hate being bored. They hate boredom almost as much as they hate beta NiceGuys™....
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man26/10/11 11:12 AM

For Guys Over 40, An Amazing Strategy To Meet Single Women I’ve been chatting online with Danny quite a bit recently. He’s a natural...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/10/11 11:32 AM

Weather Shift – Weekend Weirdness Living in a subtropical environment means being hot and humid most of the year. It’s bearable and ...
About Me, Good Links HereThe Private Man23/10/11 08:19 PM

A Dilemma For The Man With Charisma A colleague and friend, Jaime, presented a very vexing question. Some background – this friend is 30 y...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/10/11 08:08 PM

Fat Acceptance? Not Here This social trend has been around for over 40 years. As Americans have been ballooning up in weight, the fat acceptance...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man20/10/11 06:24 PM

Women, Words, Actions, Research As a massive consumer of blogs and comments, what I find buried in comments or in the actual post sometimes requ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/10/11 05:02 AM

Halloween Charisma Note: I’m going to back away from the word Game and start replacing it with the word Charisma (with an uppercase C). After a...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man18/10/11 12:39 PM

Some Texting Charisma Note: I’m going to back away from the word Game and start replacing it with the word Charisma (with an uppercase C). Afte...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/10/11 05:24 PM

The Vicious Cycle Of Misinformation And Lies It goes something like this: 1. A new social expectation arises where women are suddenly supposed t...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/10/11 03:46 PM

Zombie Ammunition – Weekend Weirdness This is real. Seriously. And note the tagline: “Just in case”. In order for us to be bet...
UncategorizedThe Private Man15/10/11 08:06 PM

Woman Up, Revolutions To end the hat trick of the Woman Up posts – one and two – I present the blogger bbsezmore (the link is to her blog...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female Mind, UncategorizedThe Private Man15/10/11 03:19 AM

Woman Up, Reloaded Yesterday’s post, Woman Up, has clearly resonated with this blog’s readers, It also attracted the interest of a new fe...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/10/11 04:24 PM

Woman Up With the furor over William Bennett’s recent opinion piece decrying that men don’t voluntarily present their backs to masterR...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man13/10/11 11:32 AM

$30K A Year Millionaire – It Doesn’t Work When I first arrived in South Florida just about eight years ago, I was woefully ignorant ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/10/11 11:48 AM

Trading Season First, watch this Comedy Central video from a 2004 animated program. There’s a bit of a set up but once you get into the comedy ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man11/10/11 04:32 AM

The Choreography Of Attention Sometimes it’s necessary to review old blog posts for new insights. https://theprivateman.wordpress.com/2011...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/10/11 11:33 AM

Man Talk Back in my blue pill days, I was under the erroneous impression that women wanted me to open up to them emotionally. I worked hard to not be...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man06/10/11 11:29 AM

A Bit Of Advice For Men Of A Certain Age It’s astounding how sloppy our fashion has become. Here in South Florida, the men dress horribly....
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man05/10/11 11:20 AM

Thanks Lurking Readers! (And Another Request) Yesterday’s post received the response I was hoping for and for this I am very appreciative....
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man04/10/11 11:10 AM

Attention You Lurking Readers! I know you’re out there. I get lots of page views and few comments. The view-to-comment ratio is about 1,50...
UncategorizedThe Private Man03/10/11 11:26 AM

Weekend Weirdness – What Kids Will Never See This is one of those tangent posts because history – post WWII American social history ...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man01/10/11 07:13 PM

The Power Of The Manosphere Mike C [linkage to blog needed?] commented on a wild and wooly discussion over at Hooking Up Smart: From the time of...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/09/11 11:30 AM

Attractive Women Approached More During the Day? Big Debate! Comment Now! Now that Roosh has released his latest book (buy it!) an old debate ha...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/09/11 11:27 AM

The Ultimate Agent Of Social Change The ultimate agent of social change will be safe, effective, private male birth control. Men are already the...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/09/11 11:20 AM

Weekend Weirdness – Alphabet One Liners Alpha – What betas should want to be Beta – What women find unattractive Cosmopolitan ...
Good Links Here, UncategorizedThe Private Man25/09/11 04:46 PM

Support Your Local Dating Coach Ever since I found Evan Marc Katz, the concept of the dating coach has intrigued me. When I first heard of this ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man23/09/11 11:16 AM

A Woman’s Unique Online Dating Arbitrage Opportunity Badger clued me in to this one via a comment over at Rollo’s blog. I heap major...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/09/11 11:27 AM

Expressing Irrational Self-Confidence One of the Game axioms for men is that they be ridiculously self-confident. This is sage advice for men who hav...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/09/11 11:14 AM

Have A Social Comfort Zone Men can get a bit isolated from a social life. With the distractions of video games, the Internet, 500 television cha...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man20/09/11 11:25 AM

Act Like A Woman To Be More Alpha The title of this post sounds oxymoronic. Hear me out. One of the major problems with women is their flakiness...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/09/11 05:28 PM

Concern Or Control? A Woman’s Shit Test Several women I have dated over the past few months have expressed their concern regarding my safe...
Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man16/09/11 08:50 PM

The Real Work In Relationships Decades ago, I was about to marry a Catholic woman. In order to have a priest officiate (referee?) at our wedding...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/09/11 02:41 PM

Fulfilling A Woman’s Hypergamy Danny asked an important question regarding a woman’s hypergamy and what it’s based on. In part...
Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man09/09/11 05:28 PM

Women And The Saber-Tooth Tiger What do women really want? Not to be eaten by a saber-tooth tiger. Seriously, I mean that. (Hat tip to Danny) Of...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/09/11 10:17 PM

Creeps Or Criminals? Rarely do I address issues brought up by feminist writers or websites. The back story can be found here. It all comes from one c...
Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man05/09/11 01:12 AM

The Dating Phone Prepaid cellular phones are an extremely cheap way to acquire a second cell phone. It’s the dating cell phone and is advantage...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/09/11 08:58 PM

Identifying Female Archetypes With The ® Symbol This issue is bothering me of late. There is much discussion about the stereotypical NiceGuy...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man02/09/11 01:26 AM

Advice For Princesses And Goddesses Dating and relationships are so difficult. It’s so hard for the modern, sassy woman to find Mr. Perfec...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man29/08/11 08:24 PM

Match.com Hates Happy Relationships Dalrock has recently clued me into to the Match.com online magazine, “happen“. There’s eve...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man28/08/11 10:15 PM

Women, Dogs, “Casual” Conversation When I return from work I always walk the dog. Normally I avoid other dogs and the humans attached to ...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man21/08/11 11:14 PM

The Female Self-Esteem Crisis Self-esteem in American girls and women is at a crisis point. It’s so bad that our culture now has a generat...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man17/08/11 04:33 PM

The Broken Gender Social Contract The Hooking Up Smart blog and subsequent comments always yields wisdom in regards to the gender dynamic in the...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/08/11 07:32 PM

PM Caption Contest #1 I found this photo over at Lily’s blog. It needs a caption and a good one. I’ll start (at bottom of photo) â...
UncategorizedThe Private Man14/08/11 11:12 PM

Young Men Can Be So Clueless Thanks to a comment regarding a post over at Hooking Up Smart (Player or Beta?), I came across the one of the funni...
Good Links HereThe Private Man13/08/11 04:45 AM

Throttle Back To Beta I ride a motorcycle that has some serious engine braking going on. That has proven to be quite useful when I’m out o...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man12/08/11 07:08 AM

About Those English Riots Rarely do I comment on current events because there is an army of pundits and bloggers for that. But the very recent r...
UncategorizedThe Private Man10/08/11 04:44 PM

A Woman’s Unspoken Rule On Intimacy Men should know this: Before a woman is intimate (physically or emotionally) with a man she is activel...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man08/08/11 07:09 PM

The Hamster In This One Is Strong Occasionally, I do get messages from women on the three online dating websites where I have a profile. Most of...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man03/08/11 04:49 PM

The Single Most Important Blog For Singles, Ever The blog review continues. I should have recommended this blog months ago. I am remiss in my Ma...
UncategorizedThe Private Man31/07/11 11:33 PM

Blog Recommendation I have found a righteously funny blog about a 30-something math teacher out in the Los Angeles, CA who is tearing up the dating s...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man31/07/11 07:29 PM

Technology And Game – I Need Help On This Issue While swimming in the dark verbal waters over at In Mala Fide, I came across a post about ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man30/07/11 12:36 AM

New Contract Job For Me I’m back squarely in corporate America doing the cube monkey, wage ape thing. It’s a long term contract job ...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man26/07/11 07:15 PM

Marc Rudov, Support Him For those who don’t know of Marc Rudov, you should. Marc is often in the media discussing the very men’s iss...
Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/07/11 06:22 PM

A Woman Visits The Veterinarian… “Doctor, I’m worried about my hamster.” “What seems to be the problem?” “I...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man22/07/11 07:19 PM

“Can I Get Him To Commit?” Breaking It Down A serious tip o’ the hat to Haley. Seriously, a major tip o’ the hat. Evalua...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/07/11 11:20 PM

False Text Error – Text Game Amplified Exponentially My friend, Balthazar, discovered quite the texting Game tactic. He calls it the ̶...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man19/07/11 03:00 AM

Amanda Marcotte Urges Men To Learn Game! Stop the presses! Send snow to Hell! Amanda Marcotte urges men to learn Game.It’s all part of the...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man17/07/11 05:22 AM

Day Game Openers – A Recommendation My blog buddy, Badger, brought up some brilliance regarding day game and openers. I take a very differ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/07/11 10:09 PM

Her Reasons For Breaking Up I have no TV. I surf blogs. I especially surf blogs written by young women claiming to give dating advice. It’...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man14/07/11 05:47 AM

The List This from Plenty of Fish: 1. Honest/Honorable 2. Witty 3. Great Lover 4. Handsome 5. Adventurous 6. Dresses Well-specially in a suit 7. Trea...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man11/07/11 03:20 AM

Online Dating Game And The Delayed Response I loathe Game in the context of online dating. While I’m fairly good at it, this form of Game ...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man10/07/11 06:28 PM

Blog Recommendation When I run across a good blog, I usually bookmark it and return on a regular basis. If I were smart, I would subscribe and get em...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/07/11 05:53 PM

Fix Your Damned Voice There isn’t a great deal of Game discussion that goes into the details of how a man sounds when he speaks and the co...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/07/11 05:05 PM

A Picture Is Worth A Thousand Words I found this image over at Roissy’s place buried in the comments. There really isn’t much of a n...
Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man05/07/11 03:46 PM

My New Dog – The Game Changer Through some interesting turns of events involving an ex-girlfriend, I have very recently come into the poss...
About Me, Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man04/07/11 09:32 PM

I’ve Had No Bad Dates, Seriously In the past year or so of online dating, I’ve been out on a lot of dates. I’m very good at &#...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man02/07/11 02:30 AM

Judgmental Bitch Meets Online Dating I regularly peruse a variety of blogs including those of single women. I also often look at feminist blogs....
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man01/07/11 04:24 PM

Worst Video Ever… The Parody! Remember the worst video ever? Here comes the parody. This one needs spreadin’ ’round the Manosp...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man29/06/11 03:21 AM

He’s About To Take The Red Pill Recently discovered your blog, and find it very empowering and encouraging. In several places you use word...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man28/06/11 04:33 PM

“You Can Do Better” Remember this post of video of the two girls commenting on the online dating profiles of men? It is disturbing a...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man26/06/11 09:08 PM

I Pity The Younger Generation This website got my attention some months ago but I haven’t been keeping up with it as much as I should. htt...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man25/06/11 04:32 PM

Snooping And Fishing Women snoop. Given a chance they will look through your cell phone calls and texts, go through your wallet, dig through your Fac...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man21/06/11 01:28 AM

Canadian Asian Hipster Nerd Hockey Rage I stole this from a comment over at Sofiastry. I am originally from Boston and so I got all giddy from t...
UncategorizedThe Private Man17/06/11 05:56 PM

Greatest First Date Question Ever By way of an introduction to this post, I once again salute the Manosphere and its many and varied bloggers, c...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man14/06/11 06:41 PM

A Great Game Movie My neighbor is a 40-something, never married woman who understands the red pill attitude. She clued me into this move: The Ma...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man13/06/11 06:57 AM

The Aspiring Alpha Orbiter In the process of the transition from beta to aspiring alpha to alpha, men are constantly told to stop being an orbit...
Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/06/11 09:09 PM

A Red Pill Dating Coach? Last week I posted on a couple of dating coaches. One of them, Evan Marc Katz , has really piqued my interest. I signed...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man09/06/11 09:01 PM

Manosphere Powers… ACTIVATED! Spread this far and wide because it’s extremely destructive to masculinity and everything important to the ...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man08/06/11 04:23 AM

An Ugly Social Expectation And More On Female Projection This subject has been covered in other blogs but is so important that it needs a consta...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man06/06/11 05:36 PM

Good Frame: Statements, Not Questions As it turns out, my date has done some Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) therapy to help tone down here f...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man05/06/11 09:16 PM

A Most Epic Of Essays It started with my post here. (You need to read this) Aunt Haley responded here. (And you need to read this, too) In the c...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man03/06/11 06:10 PM

50,000 Blog Views – Congratulate Me, Dammit I started this blog back in mid-February of this year so it’s been on the Manosphere for...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of Men, UncategorizedThe Private Man02/06/11 10:38 PM

One Online Dating Profile – Two Cities A new colleague at work has provided a rare opportunity to look at the differences between two citi...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man02/06/11 03:04 PM

The Power Of Female Projection Addressed By Dating Coaches I have signed up for several free email newsletters written by dating coaches. These ...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/06/11 05:07 PM

Search Term Weirdness Every now and again I have a look at the search terms by which readers find my blog. Here are a couple of winners: “iwant...
About Me, UncategorizedThe Private Man31/05/11 11:57 PM

Regarding Women – The Most Important Word In A Man’s Vocabulary “No” Two generations of beta men have been trained to ne...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man31/05/11 02:46 PM

Bad Dating Advice Courtesy Captain Capitalism, backstory here. Basically, it’s a letter written by the cousin of a woman who had a date with th...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man28/05/11 02:52 AM

Online Dating… Never Give Out Your Personal Email While it might seem logical to use personal emails once dating has commenced, it’s...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man23/05/11 02:19 AM

Three Of Four Have Flaked… An Online Shit Test? Since my last online dating update from a few days ago, the usual flaking has resulted. On...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization HamsterThe Private Man18/05/11 03:18 PM

I’m Thinking Of Offering A Class… Input Needed Two days ago I was sitting at my favorite wine bar talking to the owner, Michael, abo...
About MeThe Private Man14/05/11 05:10 PM

Conversational Narcissist – Don’t Be This When on a date, the art (and it is an art) of conversation is supremely vital. To fail at ...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man10/05/11 03:38 AM

Game For Smokers I am a smoker. About a year ago I remembered a some funny lines from a comedian regarding smoking. Since then, I’ve been using...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/05/11 01:53 PM

Feeding The Rationalization Hamster When I send a message to a woman on Plenty of Fish or Match, I always include the following postscript: P.S ...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man01/05/11 07:22 PM

Single Men Over 40 and Facebook My advice is simple – never use Facebook for any reason except to communicate/post with the closest of fri...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man28/04/11 08:13 PM

A Young Man With No Game Sam was sitting at the bar two seats down. He’s young (mid-20s), rather good looking in a shaved head, stubbly fa...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/04/11 06:14 PM

Three Young Blondes And The Bench Every Friday here in the village by the warm, South Florida Atlantic ocean where I reside can be found live mu...
The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man20/04/11 09:39 AM

An Alpha Moment “Private Man, what do you think about this…” This is from Cynthia, one of my recruiters/agents. She’s made a ...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/04/11 12:47 PM

Long Term Relationship Advice In the Manosphere The Badger recently wrote a most revolutionary thought regarding relationships. The title of his...
Good Links Here, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man12/04/11 01:13 AM

Online Dating – Turn Around That False Sense Of Abundance “Mr. Perfect is right around the corner so a woman should never settle....
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/04/11 09:24 PM

The Worst Men’s Website Ever http://www.consciousmen.com/ They have drunk deeply of the Kool-Aid and taken a knife to their own genitals. ...
Rationalization HamsterThe Private Man07/04/11 10:23 AM

Field Report From A Friend For a bit of the back story on my friend, go here: My friend, Balthazar, called me yesterday to tell the story of his...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/04/11 07:05 AM

Married? Long Term Relationship? BUY THIS BOOK!!! OK, so Athol Kay is a Kiwi (New Zealander), we’ll forgive him for that. Regardless, his ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man03/04/11 02:27 PM

It Gets Better For Men, Sort Of I’m stealing the title from the It Gets Better project, an initiative to let bullied teens know that life ...
Dating/Online Dating, Good Links Here, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man31/03/11 08:31 PM

Uncle Sam Wants You To Save Your Marriage! I don’t own a television. Instead, I watch Hulu programming. The commercials on Hulu are not wh...
Good Links Here, RelationshipsThe Private Man28/03/11 02:51 PM

The Frustration Of Finding That Special Someone One of this blog’s faithful readers waxed poetic about his pessimism of finding the woman ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man21/03/11 11:15 PM

Perspective Men grieve too. CNN did a good story on the recent Japan disasters, here. It’s a quick and surprisingly good article. Posted in Unc...
UncategorizedThe Private Man18/03/11 06:30 PM

“My Wife, My Son’s Family And Four Grandchildren. I Lost Them All.” A man’s grief is powerful, no matter what the cultur...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/03/11 02:17 PM

I Hope This Video Goes Viral I love classical music. I’m also open to interesting interpretations of various famous works. This is from a ...
UncategorizedThe Private Man17/03/11 01:33 PM

Check Out This Video! I don’t know if the embedding feature works. If not, hit the link. Now. “I don’t know… I mean̷...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man17/03/11 10:52 AM

From the Masculine to the Feminine in 35 Minutes For the most part, the private sector work environment is a masculine place. The business of ma...
Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man16/03/11 11:34 PM

Khan Knows Game A Star Trek reference ahead. This clip is not even three minutes and encompasses much of Game. Amazing frame, preselection, higher va...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man15/03/11 08:07 AM

The Manosphere – The New Men’s Club There once was a time when men had formal gathering places where women were simply not allowed. S...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man11/03/11 01:33 AM

Online Profile Codewords Used By Bossy and Domineering Women I’ve already covered the concept of the strong and independent woman, here. I...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man10/03/11 10:25 PM

Embrace Constant Rejection I’ve been seriously online dating for just over a year. I’ve become the lord and master of the first date and ...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man07/03/11 01:20 AM

Her Toxic Female Friends Single women over 45 tend to stuff their days with endless activities outside of work such as errands, hopefully the gy...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man06/03/11 07:55 PM

Through a Different Lens With age comes experience. With introspection and honest observation comes knowledge of self and the human condition. C...
About Me, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man04/03/11 03:50 PM

Distance and Online Dating I am fortunate in that I live in a metropolitan area with over 5 million people. I have certain guidelines regarding ...
Dating/Online Dating, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man01/03/11 02:27 PM

Be Taciturn, Not Garrulous Sue me. I am a pedantic man. I use big words. It’s my nature to be sesquipedalian. My advice here is thus ̵...
Dating/Online Dating, Relationships, The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man27/02/11 05:18 PM

Describing The Feminine There was a comment on one of the manosphere blogs where a girl expressed frustration that she didn’t know exactly what...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man24/02/11 10:32 PM

Where Are The Men Online? Imagine that you’re a marketing specialist and your job is to sell a new widget to men. It might be a fine widge...
The Collective Wisdom of MenThe Private Man22/02/11 01:11 PM

Is This Thin?!? I peruse profiles. It’s what I do. So, I find this profile of a 41 year old woman on Plenty of Fish. She describes herself in w...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, RelationshipsThe Private Man22/02/11 03:57 AM

Mom Was Wrong – A Personal Narrative “Be nice, be yourself” I remember those words well. I took them to heart for decades and ...
About Me, Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, RelationshipsThe Private Man21/02/11 10:33 PM

A Confession I really do want to see men and women in intimate and satisfying relationships. While the marriage contract is a terrible business arran...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man20/02/11 07:39 PM

Beware the Fake Online Dating Profile! Fake profiles are the minefield of online dating. Does the photo look too good? Is there only one photo? ...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man19/02/11 06:14 PM

Rules for Single Women I stumbled across this and thought it might make for some good reading. Most women will hate it. Thoughtful, intelligent,...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, Relationships, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man19/02/11 01:04 AM

Strong and Independent Women “Strong and Independent”, such an interesting phrase. That descriptive phrase is perfect for a man. Tha...
Dating/Online Dating, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/02/11 08:58 PM

If She Describes Her Shape as Average (Online Dating Profile) She’s fat. Americans have a fat problem. We’re fat. Dangerously so. Av...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man18/02/11 03:24 AM

A Good Comment Worthy of a Longer Reply A reader posted a comment in response to “Online Dating, A Short Primer”. It’s all abo...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man17/02/11 01:29 PM

Share Those Awful Online Dating Profiles! I love reading the online dating profiles of women, especially the really bad ones. Gentlemen, if you ...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man16/02/11 08:34 PM

Finding “Chemistry” The word “chemistry” the most overused word in all the online dating profiles. This is especially true fo...
Dating/Online Dating, Rationalization Hamster, RelationshipsThe Private Man16/02/11 01:38 PM

Emotional Pornography [This particular post is getting lots of hits. I urge readers to check out the rest of this blog. I also urge readers to commen...
Rationalization Hamster, The Collective Wisdom of Men, The Eternal Solipsism of the Female MindThe Private Man15/02/11 10:58 PM

Online Dating, A Short Primer It’s all about having a consistent system. I will assume that you already have a profile and photos with one...
Dating/Online DatingThe Private Man15/02/11 07:32 PM

Online Dating and Flaking This is when a woman stops corresponding with you for no stated reason. She simply doesn’t return your latest me...
Dating/Online Dating, RelationshipsThe Private Man15/02/11 05:56 PM
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