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QUEEN SH*Teverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 12:07 AM
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STRATEGYeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:05 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 11:35 PM
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LEVEL UPeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 05:49 AM
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NICE FOR WHAT?everwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:57 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 11:08 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?everwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:33 AM
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everwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:44 AM
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DISCUSSIONeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 02:41 AM
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LEVEL UPeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 08:57 AM
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DISCUSSIONeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 05:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 03:43 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 01:15 AM
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SCROTES MADeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 11:46 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTeverwonderlust/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 11:33 PM
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I had a lot of fun watching it! Loved that they took their power back. Also cringed at the first woman talking about loving watching “The Beauty and the Beast”, as that was me!!! I’m pissed off that he didn’t get more jail time, but I believe this documentary is such a Queen move!! Yes, they believed him because they are good-natured women, and empathetic women trust people, too much! I have trusted men like this while they pretended to be sweet, kind, friendly men to everyone they knew, but wer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 10:46 AM
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You’re so welcome ❤️ I know it’s tempting to give men a pass because they seem like a good guy but is he really?? If he was that good, he would have dealt with his mental health issues by now, he would have created a career that doesn’t depend on his successful mummy and would have acted like he is an independent man with some balls. I have mental health issues too but am I complaining about it? Am I moping to my friends about it? Am I claiming that life has been so unfair to me? Fk no. I pay my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:30 PM
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He’s a loser. You clearly know this. He’s acting like a total victim of life and attached at the hip of his mother (working for her in his late 20s). Also, do not get with a guy who has mental issues. This will only be a drag on your connection. You seem like a really lovely empathetic person but honestly you gotta be practical and logical about it. I’ll choose a mentally healthy person over someone who is medicated for breakfast, lunch and dinner, any day. Do not be their saviour. Do not rescue…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 09:15 AM
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Your mother is wrong. He choked you during sex. Clearly something to be worried about!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:26 AM
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Do not take advice from your pick-me mother. Your fear is based on the fact that he insulted you and choked you during sex. Sorry to say this, your mom’s response is total garbage and completely insensitive to you and what you experienced. Tell him to stop contacting you (via text or email) or you will report him to police - make this threat! - otherwise he will continue! as evidenced that he has - stop being nice and tell him to FUCK OFF - this will serve as your written evidence for that inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 08:22 AM
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You’re so welcome, I can feel you’re very receptive. I mean what I say with a lot of care, I’m just being direct as I dislike beating around the bush in my language. This thread has seriously put me straight back on track with elevating my mindset about how I want to live in the world and what to accept from men, so I’m glad you’re in this community - it’s so good. I read the threads almost every day and ask for support when I need to reorient or get feedback on my thinking. It absolutely wonder…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 09:46 AM
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Your self-reflection is very refreshing and I’m glad you see it for what it is. He’s an immoral asshole. I personally established a standard for me, thanks to FDS, that I simply cannot afford to play in any gray area. If men fuck with me in the slightest or show poor character in various areas of life, they’re done. It’ll save me time because I know who I am now and what I deserve. And I don’t fuck with vague BS that is a drain of my energy. I have wasted far too much time and life is too damn s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 09:19 AM
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Also - TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for this situation, immediately. First step!! Where have your missed the red flags? Why have you ignored them when they were burning up in your face (=your emotional affair, hello!)? Don’t have affairs, they end badly, they bring bad karma, as you see clearly in your case! Where have you tolerated sub-par behavior from him? Where have you been dishonest with yourself? Why have you involved with someone who is so blasé about everything? Sooner you take responsibility fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:53 AM
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Sis, you must open your eyes. He has fkn strung you along. Men, when they really want you, they SHOW it, immediately, with drive and with passion. They drop everything else like a hot potato. They move MOUNTAINS to be with you. None of this simp shit. I had one guy travel across the ocean to make sure I move to his country when he met me. This dickhead has played with you, AND his gf, and you do not deserve this. He promised to break up with his gf, then he went all cryptic on you. This cannot b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:42 AM
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Absolutely, just DM’d you. I got the same quotes for 10K for all the initiating work before the 1st court date. I find it’s too much for basically taking down the history of your relationship, writing initiating application, collating evidence of your assets, and shooting off some emails to the other party’s lawyer, negotiating on your behalf. My quotes ranged between $4400 to about $10K, I went with the most affordable and with the highest ratings on Google. It worked out! I got a tiny settleme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:55 AM
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Good on your for trying to help your friend! I just settled a financial settlement with my ex husband and out of court, using lawyers. Cost about $4400 AUD for the financial settlement (Australian prices), paid in instalments I paid it off in about 4 months and that was doable. Some firms offer flexible payments options. How the settlement goes and what you pay really depends on whether the other party is collaborating or not. Lawyers told me no one really wants to come to court because it can c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 11:23 AM
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You’re really good!! Keep it coming, well done 👍 Loving the mood 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:48 AM
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We are stronger for having dealt with those kind of people. I didn’t know at first how I played into the abusive dynamic, but I did - by not leaving asap. Peace is worth fighting for ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:28 PM
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Thanks so much!! When we know better, we do better. And yes, I became aware of the conditioning thanks to FDS too. I often labeled the dynamic between men and women as “this is how it’s always been”, and now I realise that it’s because we have vastly different dating strategies and agendas. Appreciate your wisdom 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 11:24 PM
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Thank you so much!! Yes FDS gives away all the most crucial things to watch out for, I feel really supported here thanks to all of us sharing information freely. 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:12 PM
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Thank you! Yes, I found that ownership gives access to power. I’m not some leaf being thrown around in the air. There are consequences to all my choices, and there are people whose behavior show that they are literally dangerous and I can’t change them..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 10:01 PM
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Friends was my favourite show of all-time. I also watched it when I was a kid/tween. I don’t think I can rewatch it ever again thanks to FDS. Even when young though, I thought the guys in the show were funny but losers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:32 AM
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I have a friend like that. Gushes over her boyfriends, they get violent with her, she leaves at some point later, then she quickly finds another one, moves in quickly. We chat about it and I find out that she’s dating a former dr-g dealer, and basically stuff starts getting messy after the honey-moon. She keeps repeating the pattern of being with “bad boys” and she puts them on a pedestal, totally losing herself and depending on their validation. I haven’t cut her off yet but I really feel like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 05:19 AM
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I used the title she used for her Medium article. 👍 But yeah, she calls herself snarky, up to interpretation 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:19 AM
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She says it’s meant to be humorous ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 12:47 AM
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Whatever helps you move forward, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:14 PM
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“If someone who died was an asshole it should be said out loud and their funeral should be basic and with poor attendance.” Savage. Loved it. What a story. Holy shit. You seem like you are super strong and you will get thru this!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:09 PM
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https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/13306276-gone-girl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 11:03 PM
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I had the same thoughts! When I read this article, I loved her snarky approach, so perhaps it’s just worth giving a shot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:57 PM
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Ooooof good pick up! Didn’t even register. I thought: “awwwwww how cute, 6 hr date”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:52 PM
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Yep she says in the article she’s trying to be funny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:50 PM
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TURN HIM IN NOW. You don’t want it to be one of those cases where they say “well why did you wait so long to report it?” Make a fuss and demand that your company supports you! And, you might want to record your interactions on your phone, secretly, from now on. Also, fucking yell at him if he brushes past you, this is NOT OK. Let us know how you go, OP! Your management told you that he was gonna go, he has to go now that he’s basically assaulting you. I would ask for someone to be sent there, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 01:59 PM
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OP, you’re freaking awesome. Keep them coming! I love that put so much effort into this, you’ve got a great talent!!! 💝
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:55 PM
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This 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:35 AM
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Thanks for sharing this, this woman could have easily been the victim… I’m glad she went along with her intuition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 02:37 AM
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Amen sis. You mean, guns for protection? Or money to get out of a bad relationship?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:59 AM
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You gotta live your best life before you date. When you have created an awesome life for yourself, it will be much easier to vet if the man is HV or not. Honestly, it sounds like you need new friends. I have started cutting off low-effort friendships and also pickmes who have no hope of changing. Pickmes can be as terrible for your mental health as LV men, I found. There is nothing to be valued in women who give you shitty dating advice while they themselves have poor vetting skills, poor self-e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:43 AM
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I’m sorry to hear what you’re going thru. Have you got trusted women around you and in your family? Are you getting treatment for your condition? Sometimes, when we are being mistreated, our bodies can manifest disease… Vetting for you is extra important. Make sure you read the whole handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:31 AM
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Wtf. This is no OK. Your sis is in for a rude awakening. How come your family doesn’t get that it’s dangerous?? Do you have a lock on your door? Can you talk to legal council about this? Call a bunch of lawyers and see if you can get some legal advice. They will usually give you 10 mins if not more for free. If you call 10 lawyers, you’ll get heaps of advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 12:26 AM
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Set boundaries with your stepdad. Why the eff he talks to you like that. Holy shit. Don’t fucking sit there and listen while he rants at you for an hour, just get up, tell him to stop ranting at you, that you don’t tolerate the rants and leave the room. What a waste of energy. Stop tolerating this shit from men, even family. And, block and delete your scrote of a specimen. Like, yesterday. You need to block and delete at the sight of the first red flag. These scrotes ain’t coming to Jesus. They …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 11:46 PM
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ABSOLUTELY NO MEN W KIDS - my ex had a 5 yo boy, with whom I got along really well, but my ex was looking for “help” with his son. His ex situation was super messy as predicted, he went thru a custody battle while I was with him, and he made sure to let me know how crazy he thinks she was, all only his side of the story. It was nothing but headaches, because when you date someone with young kids, you forcibly become a mother-figure, mentor, babysitter, and the whole family expects you to be “bet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 07:50 AM
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This 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:09 PM
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Thanks so much, I had to learn all this the hard way… 🥺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:16 AM
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I attest to this, I have been scrote-free for 6 months now, dating myself. I’ve been taking myself to awesome solo-trips and local getaways, soaking in nature and honestly it’s a good time to treat myself better than any LVM has. I’m giving up dating for a while to live the life I truly wanted, without the distraction of men. Space from men reminds you that you don’t actually need them to be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:48 AM
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Brilliant work of art 🖼 May it be forever etched in the hall of “Casting spells against the LVMs” 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:17 PM
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How to react: Stop caring about what he’s doing, 100% - you can’t control him and what he does, if he wants to cry to everyone and whine about you, let him, whatever the fuck he wants to do, just let him show everyone how unhinged he really is - not your circus, not your monkeys! Gray-rock anyone who wants to talk about him - Do these acquaintances even matter to you? Are they good friends to you that you wanna keep in your circle? If not, then it’s not their fucking business. Tell them that you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 12:49 PM
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This is so interesting!!! Such LVM behavior. Lying straight to her fkn face. I can’t even…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:42 PM
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Right, makes total sense, car is some weird bubble… scrotes had serious tantrums in a car, something about a tight space where the devil comes out to play!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 06:48 AM
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Wow, I got so much out of your response, thanks so much!! Low-key threatening…. That’s really interesting. Like, threatening to be violent? I had one scrote basically yell at me to get out of the car in the middle of an argument, he is absolute garbage. Always fucking justified cause I was “SO cRiTiCAl” of him. Bloody momma’s boy. Middle aged. Also constantly claimed he was “a goOd MaN and A FaTheR wiTh a GoOd jOb”. He was an asshole. Not a good man. Good men don’t go around telling everyone how…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 05:03 AM
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He’s on a dating show AND he’s got a girlfriend? Isn’t that that technically CHEATING??? TV or no TV, he is about to date/flirt/hang out with other contestants while he’s got a GF. I don’t even know… at this point, women are doing it to themselves, allowing this shit, she’s an idiot. TF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:45 AM
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It’s not a date… it’s a walk. Lol, a free walk date..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:43 AM
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This is great advice, thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:39 AM
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I wouldn’t waste my time with a man I want nothing from. Of course I want something - I want to find a good man! If he doesn’t pass the initial assessment, I want nothing from him. Not only they out themselves, their motives are exactly the opposite of “nothing”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 03:35 AM
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Yep! My 2 narc exes were aggressive on the road, like everyone was “in their way”, one even flipped other drivers off because another car was tailgating him. Aggressive driving I think is pretty much linked to narcissism?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:58 PM
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One of my narc exes said, after 8 months of insane pain and shock after my step-mother suicided: “Aren’t you done being sad yet??” I swear they do not do empathy, LVMs, narcs, they don’t know how to be human. Being human to them is like being an inanimate object.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 03:23 PM
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Blocked! Lowest effort of them all… and he also told me he wants “nothing more”. Why would a man want to spend time with a woman and talk about hobbies. Impossible without having an agenda.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:40 AM
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This is such a good analysis, didn’t pick up on the fake safety about the dog. Great point. Perhaps a practiced line. And that of course wealth would speak for itself. I find myself wary of these over-confident business guys, you never know how much debt they have or what shady deals they’re doing. I need to project the aggressive eyes 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:37 AM
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This is what a low effort invite to a non-date looks like… I love the Google Voice idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:29 AM
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My motto is I’ll try things at least once if I feel like it, sexually, safely of course. I wanted a threesome, I tried it. I wanted to kiss a girl, I did it. I only live once 😂 I dated a porn-sick loser and did anal, he was suuuuuuper into it, he saved a crap-ton of anal porn videos on his pc. It was his thing. Shoulda run then when he showed me! There were many times I really liked it and even had anal-gasms from it, it really felt like an orgasmic sensation expanding from my anus. Kinda cool. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:25 AM
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Damn that’s a weird stealthy approach… I’ve had a few on-the-street approaches but it never worked for the guys! It’s too weird!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:04 AM
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I thought exactly the same, but even now talking about I feel like I’m giving this way too much thought! Men do flaunt things they feel the most insecure about, as if blowing it up out of proportion will make it look better like a shiny armour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:03 AM
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Yeah I’m afraid of the bad response. A bit left over from my unhealthy relationships where an ex used to lash out. I think I’m still fawning towards these guys!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 11:01 AM
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I shoulda said the bf line, damn I keep forgetting to lie to the damn scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 10:56 AM
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I have dated outside my race but I find that there were too many misunderstandings for me to continue dating outside of my race, too many cultural and value differences. Most of the time, they don’t really get my culture and I don’t get theirs. I’m from Central Europe. It’s more of a cultural misunderstanding than a racial one. I honestly just wanna date within my race now, I want my babies to look like me. Just my own personal preference. I do find that different races bring a myriad of differe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:51 AM
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I knowwww right! She is HV, and her husband definitely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:34 AM
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Australian-born Crown Princess of Denmark Mary and Crown Prince Frederick. Her speech is everything I have ever wanted, to speak about a man like this. Most wonderful ode to a husband I have ever heard. Make sure you have English subtitles on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:17 AM
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Don’t you just love when the trash takes itself out 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 03:58 AM
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Good on you. Could you ever really be just friends with men..?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:40 AM
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Send screenshots to his wife, this mf needs to pay 🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:04 AM
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Us women are awakening, we are sharing the secrets by the virtual bonfire 🔥 Thank God for the internet, as my closest women mentors/family members were clueless, I would have just continued to repeat the same shit they did 😂 Same, I read FDS almost every day and contribute where I feel pulled to. I hope you get rid of whoever my post made you think of! 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:44 AM
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Glad it helped, sis!! I just keep reading FDS, there is something that often blows me away. Keep readin’!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:04 AM
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He’s not a HVM, sis. Why did you think he was HVM? A true HVM is who he IS, always, he doesn’t magically shift 4 months later. He is a LVM at best.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:00 AM
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That’s assault, you should go to police and report him. I’m sure the club would have footage of this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 03:15 AM
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Report him to police for stalking! What he’s doing is illegal. I am taking my ex to court for an IVO over messaging me when I asked him to stop. I’m happy to chat with you more about it if you need help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:58 PM
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I’m taking my ex to court over stalking me. No he hasn’t threatened me death or something insane but he’s sent me 15+ emails from 4 different accounts, showed up in my neighbourhood, has dropped off stuff at my house uninvited, sent me voicemails all after I asked him to stop. I started to have nightmares I felt so anxious. My best advice is to document everything. Save emails and messages. Do not interact at all, zero. No messages back. Go to police station in person and ask to speak with a lad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:12 PM
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You’re welcome. I wish I wouldn’t have to share these things online but it happened, hope it helps in some way. Ultimately I realised I need to control better who is part of my life, and who I accept as partners. My judgement was insanely poor for a pick-me and now I realise that unless a man adds insane amount of value to my life, compassion, empathy, respect, emotional intelligence, great morals, growth, or if he’s as good a company as I am to myself, I will be single for as long as I need to …
/r/askFDS21/10/21 12:47 AM
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The last straw was one more argument where he lost his shit at me over something tiny, started yelling “get out!” at me, gaslighting me that I deserved it, denying that he yelled, and then completely misconstructing what happened to paint me as the perpetrator. He looked so ugly in that argument, rolling his eyes at me, being a bully and a man-child. I was so repulsed by him in that moment. I finally connected deep dow with how ugly he fucking was. He was faking his entire persona. I had to take…
/r/askFDS19/10/21 10:31 PM
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Go to police and report him!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 03:44 AM
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Therapy therapy therapy. Find a great therapist that will hold you to account. I had to accept that I CHOSE to stay in an abusive relationship. I had to look deep into the wounds that matched me with toxic partners. Some days are good, some days not so good. Don’t expect perfection in this process. It’s ok if it’s messy. Sometimes I just keep playing really good music and dance. I go roller skating. I started reaching out to wonderful people and have some one on one time with new friends. I keep…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:07 PM
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Fantastic advice!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 09:09 AM
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More women already ARE finding out about it. Share it with all your friends!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 09:00 AM
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THIS IS WHAT A WOMAN WHO KNOWS HER WORTH SOUNDS LIKE. Well done to you, you are seriously going to accomplish some amazing things!!! Loved your story! ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 08:57 AM
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Yeah, do not enable his scrotery by not helping a sister know what’s going on 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 02:36 AM
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Just tell his wife OP!!! If you were married to him, wouldn’t you want to know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 12:43 AM
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Hope you’re ok, love this community, be strong vs the scrotes, they got audacity only 👍 Looking forward to reading FDS soon ❤️
/r/askFDS12/10/21 03:55 AM
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Hope you’re ok, love this community, be strong vs the scrotes, they got audacity only 👍
/r/askFDS12/10/21 03:55 AM
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Girl, you need to read the Handbook. We don’t do coffee dates and FDS doesn’t advocate hookups. You told him that you “don’t do hookups” but then and did it anyway. Now he knows that you are willing to go against your boundaries. This was not “a casual relationship”, this was a hookup. You’re not even FWB, just a hookup. I wouldn’t expect anything from him. If you’re seeking a serious relationship, I really recommend reading the Handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 11:25 PM
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Yeahhh I was unfortunately agreeing to anal cause NVX “couldn’t get off without it”, sometimes it was nice and I’d have anal orgasm but honestly mostly it was uncomfortable, painful and bleh. I mean, shit comes out of there, why would I be turned on?? He has told me that the pain I feel is “all in my head”. I honestly feel so disgusted. This scrote had hundreds of videos saved of anal porn and was obsessed about it. Also wonder wtf aren’t you fucking guys, it would make total sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:10 AM
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Once my NVX threw a fit about something he was stressed out about and yelled “I AM DISGUSTING!!!!!” and he was absolutely right. He hated himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 02:43 AM
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Amen, sis!! 🙏 HVW leave at the first sign of a red flag 🚩 🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:51 PM
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This is an excellent post. Thank you 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 10:37 PM
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DO NOT TELL HIM ABOUT LEAVING. Do all the prep work in secrecy. Document everything. As in, any abusive texts, photos of bruises, etc, in case she needs evidence for an IVO. Call local abuse shelter and ask for help. Call as many shelters as needed. Delete call logs for abuse shelters. Call the Abuse hotline in the country she is at. Leave ASAP! Make sure she has all the documents and most important items packed when she leaves, at least. Call local universities to inquire about financial aid. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 06:19 AM
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I love that you’re quite aware of the culture and having been indoctrinated. Good on you for looking at therapy. Honestly therapy was the key that unlocked the fact that my abusive mother was the culprit of me pleasing all these frickin abusive men. I don’t think my ex is stalking me, my intuition doesn’t say that. I think he really likes running by the beach on a good day where I live and is probably sorta hoping to run into me. It is slightly suspicious I saw him but he’s actually respected my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 03:52 AM
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Thankfully, you have it now. No point in wishing the past was different, we all met our scrotes for a reason - to become badass high-value women and to find FDS. I also just had my recent NVX cross my paths when I saw him running in my neighbourhood a couple of days ago, he didn’t stop but I got triggered, even considered tAlKinG to him. Never mind I blocked him and told police to tell him to stop stalking me. Your triggers show that there is still some parts of you to heal. Your traumas, your i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 02:48 AM
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Love this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:05 PM
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Hey, you’re giving him wayyyyy too much of your precious thinking energy. Just move on, block him on LinkedIn and any other platforms he might find you on. Stop trying rationalise for him as to why he visited your profile. He’a a fucking scrote. He deserves to be blocked from your life, and please for the love of God don’t accept apologies from idiots like him. Tell them to “fuck off”, plain and simple. It just gets them off the hook. He shoulda fucking done better. By getting your apology, he t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:01 PM
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Amen, sis, say it LOUDER for the people in the back! I’m done with all this shit!!! Putting me first, man or no man. Up-leveling, up-skilling, up-scaling, getting fit, removing all people from my life who have not been supportive of me or loving, and not settling until I find a king 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 10:53 PM
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All NARCS and PSYCHOS liked that post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 12:00 PM
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Why do think he became a HVM? Was he raised this way? I swear, when I read about HVMs, it’s like reading about a totally different species of men. I’m fascinated how he found himself to be this way when the culture doesn’t really set a standard for it. Is he an extraordinary high-performer at work or possibly someone who is highly talented? Or his mother is a fabulous woman? Glad to hear a really positive story here, I’m really happy for you 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:33 PM
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Amen!!! Most significant change… I thought the same, these conversations are so potent!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 09:16 AM
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I would consider filing a report for stalking with the police and moving. I’m serious. Install a doorbell cam, start ignoring him completely. Don’t answer his calls. Block on all channels. Start grey rocking him. Be completely boring and give him super bland one-word answers. Start documenting what he’s doing. Do not underestimate what a rejected man can do and how crazy he can get because he no longer has access to your pussy. He knows you’re super nice and using that against you. Also, never s…
/r/askFDS13/09/21 09:18 AM
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LOVE THIS ❤️ Such a good list.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:30 AM
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THIS. No more nice girls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:54 AM
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OP, you deserve a man that plays no games. He seems like a waste of your very precious time and energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 03:42 AM
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Thanks for sharing, very helpful. Have you had much success with the way you wrote and created your profile?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 02:05 AM
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This looks AWESOME
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:28 AM
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Your posted is removed, have you got it somewhere else? Would be great to read it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 01:25 AM
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Can you share more? What have been questions you ask that cracked them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:21 AM
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My NVX joked : “it isn’t r*pe if you’re married” in a really random context - we weren’t even talking about anything like that. Also, in a fury about something frustrating in his life, he yelled: “I AM DISGUSTING!!!” Oh, and he had sex with his half-niece cause “she had the hots for him”. I think that’s in**st? I seriously started thinking maybe he was a r*pist, post breakup. I had such odd vibes from everything he shared.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 11:18 AM
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I personally know someone who was exactly like you described, super skinny and teased about it. He did everything he could to learn about eating, nutrition, exercise, and he exercised into a hot lean and muscular body, over a few years I think, purely by willing himself to. If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:18 AM
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I find men can be insecure about their bodies just as much as women are… but only some do something about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:10 AM
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Awwwww yeah sis, I had the same exact thought. I thought he was handsome when we first got together, but quickly realised he turned ugly when we argued, crazy blown up eyes, throwing up hands. And then, I saw this part so often that he turned into a troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 12:08 AM
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Small things add up to be the moments that truly count. So glad you have someone like that 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:56 AM
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We do like to deceive ourselves… been there too, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:51 AM
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Sounds like he was jealous of you spending time with the boxer, who I’m assuming had a hot bod? 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:50 AM
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May try being less polite but being more truthful. I shoulda told my ex that I don’t date balding out of shape men and that would have been the end of it, faster. I would have saved so much time 😅 If they have an opinion about your body, then you should make yours know, too 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:48 AM
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Yes there are loose asses, lolll. Like you know, asses out of shape, not round, droopy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:41 AM
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Lolll. You cracked me up. You know. Like a nice round ass, that’s in shape, been exercised. A tight ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:40 AM
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There are so many things a man can do to help their looks. Women do it all the time, Botox, fake eyelashes, nice perfume. Every little bit helps, ever superficially you can make yourself feel so damn good with new clothing, shoes, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:14 AM
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Ughhh the treatment of you is the most unattractive thing ever. It’a a massive turn off. A man can be short and gorgeous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 12:10 AM
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My NVX is was super squeamish/weird about periods but ok with anal sex. He was the most selfish lover ever and wasn’t really into eating me out, when I had other men before him lick every drop, and often, almost every time I had sex with them. I never freaking understood why he would do anal but couldn’t fuck me when I was bleeding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 09:27 PM
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Unless a man proves himself worth to be the father of my children and a husband, do not continue dating him!! Approach dating as looking for the one, disqualify all men that do not fit that category in the slightest. Prioritise making money over dating losers who you know are pieces of shit. Prioritise your friendships and looking for HVW to be friends with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 11:27 PM
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That’s crazy, I never had to pay for applying. You can always look at FB pages/groups for people subletting short term stays, which would probably be affordable. Maybe even more than a hotel. Good idea OP, it seems like once you’re out of his space, you can start healing and moving on, and that is going to be a great place to restart, away from him. Don’t forget to get into therapy, it will help you heaps. Wishing you much strength.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:42 PM
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Question I would ask yourself, do you really want the future mother in law and the deadbeat father be the grandparents of your children and be your family? (If you’re having children, that is) And, you’re already having doubts + you’re posting on Reddit (which is not a good sign for your relationship if you feel like you need Reddit’s validation), my best guess is that you already know that this man is not your future husband and the love of your life. I’d say if you’re having doubts about him, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:32 PM
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That’s weird, you have to pay for applying to apartments? I have never heard this… I hope you find somewhere soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:19 PM
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What about DV shelters? Or somewhere else?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 01:18 PM
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OP, I’m really worried for your safety. How soon are you moving out? Have you made plans for how you will move out? Can you just go a friend’s place?? Can your parents or friends loan you some cash so that you can get the fuck outta there? You’re entertaining someone who is incredibly disrespectful to you. This piece of shit is an asshole, who know what he’a capable of doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:06 AM
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Sarcasm is the kind of "joke" LVMs can laugh off by using the excuse of "sarcasm" or "just jokes hur hur", especially if the sarcastic joke is aimed at someone. It's a thinly veiled insult is what it is. Designed to low-key cut you up into pieces and make a mockery out of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 03:05 AM
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AMEN, sis. It's like they think being an asshole is "sO StrOnG", so fkn "nExT lEvEL", something to be "aDmIreD" for. I am killing my own pick-me self right now. She is dead. I can't believe I ever fell for this bullshit. Thanks for illustrating that I really need to be looking for men that openly are good people via their actions. Good luck to you out there in the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:59 AM
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One time, one of his good friends laughed and said "You're such an asshole" to my NVX in a middle of a dinner debate. My ex's sister told me in a private convo after I went back to him: "Yeahhhhh my brother is kind of an asshole", in relation to justifying me why I left him in the first place. I fucking stayed for 5 more months. NVX told on himself after a nasty argument where he lost his shit at me as per usual: "I should stop being such a dickhead". They know who they are. They live with thems…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 02:49 AM
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Thanks, where we are it’s lockdown so I will just ask to work from home “so I can focus more”. Yeah he has a couple of employees. I’d love to hear your suggestions 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:51 AM
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It's fucking disappointing this kind of behavior in the workplace. But yeah, I should be better armed next time and not respond to stupid invasive questions. Great advice, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:29 AM
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AMEN, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:26 AM
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And if one man says "ooga" the other will say "booga" and then they all scratch their asses in agreement. LOL, I love your comment, brilliant. I always feel bad about lying but I straight up shouldn't - thanks! I appreciate your kind words and great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:25 AM
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Agreed, I have 2 more weeks left with him, I'm gonna go cut off right after and try to work from home during these 2 weeks cause it's lockdown anyways where we are. I know they're fragile with being rejected, as if we don't have a say in who we are attracted to. Fuck him. Thanks for the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:20 AM
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Yeah, walking home stops now. I'll say I have a call or something as I'm leaving and try to work from home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:17 AM
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So true, I just didn't know what to say, it came out of nowhere. So started laughing nervously...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:17 AM
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I seriously don't think like a man. I show up to work and to work only, and get money. I have dated in a workplace before and it was a nightmare because the guy I was seeing told me he doesn't want to "be serious" and changed jobs, and told me that it was because of our "situation". I can have any dick indeed, just spread my legs and open a dating app, though no dick has been created equal and right now I only care about making my life better, not about finding low-value dick lol. It's really up…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:13 AM
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That's clever. I was thinking of getting an engagement ring for myself just because, maybe it can be my engagement ring. I just tell the truth far too often and I reckon I need to allow myself to lie a little with men, for my safety. Sucks the world we live in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:05 AM
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Yeah... I need to find me a bf just for that purpose. A stand-in imagined body-guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:03 AM
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Told him I have no bf, but I might have to find one real quick :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:01 AM
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Seriously, it's like if I work for them, I'm not even safe - I'm a target. Fuck him. Glad he has paid me so far but I only have 2 weeks of contract left so I'll just try to work from home. Male logic is beyond me.... "Let me hire her and see if she's interested in my overweight, 12 years her senior ass with a daughter half her age" ???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 12:01 AM
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I wish I could take back the walk home… But, I know better now. I’m really too trusting. Thanks for good advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:19 PM
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You and I sis, love to chat. I need to keep it on down-low, for real. Great ideas, I’ll be more boring. He just messaged me after 7pm asking me how is lockdown and if I’m getting out of the apartment. The audacity. Is all they have got.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:16 PM
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Great points, I feel like I might be still naive about men and their intentions. I need to wake up and shake it off. Every man is a scrote until proven otherwise, client or not. I’ll try grey rock, fantastic idea, thank you. I literally had someone private message me (probably a man, cause only women would understand the peculiarities of this highly uncomfortable dynamic) criticising me and telling me that “I’m biased”, and “maybe he wanted to make friends” and that I shouldn’t be so toxic”. Can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/21 01:14 PM
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THIS, OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 01:35 AM
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He can’t answer it immediately, far out. Seems like she’s more of a stranger to him than a gf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 02:09 PM
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Even though it’s difficult, your work doesn’t go unappreciated. This sub is my MOST visited sub, I’m learning so much here. It’s literally helping to become a stronger person. Thank you so much for all you do ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 11:51 AM
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OP, btw, don't blame yourself so much, you're not an asshole, you are asserting your boundaries - what you will and won't tolerate. Period. Sometimes when you are new to being assertive, it feels like you're being an asshole. Good, be a little bitchy an declare outright that you won't tolerate this shit. Let him call you whatever he calls you. It doesn't matter. It's all about you and what you want, girl!! I see so many red flags here. He's pressuring you into MLM (don't do it, it is not good, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:51 PM
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This is brilliant!!!! Saving it. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:39 PM
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Yassssss queen! Keep going! You deserve the most amazing man, not this dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:37 PM
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Seriously, get the fuck away from him. He's brainwashed or something. No normal adult sleeps in his mother bed or is asked to raised adult siblings. Are they mentally demented?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:32 PM
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Wtf. This is definitely fucking not normal. He's 28 and sleeping in his mother's bed???? What???? Kissing on lips and mother sitting on his lap???? That is fucked. No normal people do this, come on, we all know this. Something fishy is going on. I would say your ex feels this too "normal". And, he's asked to raise adult siblings???? This is not right. Fucked up family boundaries and dynamics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:31 PM
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You could hire a private investigator, they're professional detectives essentially, and have them follow him if he goes on these getaways or something. Or, set up secret cameras in your house, or buy a secret voice recorder and place it in his car. This is definitely breaking your trust boundaries, but this point, I don't feel like people are telling you the truth, so you might have to go to extreme measures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:26 PM
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Have you spoken to her? One on one and in private? Ask her what she actually mean by what she said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:19 PM
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Wait and they told you you are the that would make someone's life hell?? Whatttttttt? Are you ok with how they are treating you? What they're saying is super rude!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:16 PM
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Are you reading what you're writing? It seems like people around you are gaslighting you. I might be wrong but they are literally telling you what to believe, how to feel, and that you shouldn't be paranoid. This is what manipulators tell their victims when they have intuitive feelings that are negative about a situations and they are called "sensitive" or "paranoid". So would your partner allow you to go to overnight trips with your male friends? Have you flipped his request and asked him what …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:13 PM
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I'm curious now, what's dodgy about her? Was she a sugar baby?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 11:07 PM
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Just looked up what that mean, I'm curious why do you say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:00 AM
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Anna Bey! Awesome elegant content and also how to get a HVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:59 AM
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What is your intuition telling you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:30 AM
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The fact that HE is focusing so much on the joke, your reaction, lack of reaction he wanted, he needs to take time out should be indicative that he's triggered. Wonder why!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:27 AM
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Im sorry but he needs to take out time because "you didn't react well". WHAT. If it's not funny, it's not fucking funny. I would seriously reconsider and reevaluate everything. The way he's defending himself is litterally childish. Being distraught over the fact that you didn't get the joke? Come on. Are there any other red flags he's giving you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 05:25 AM
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Thank you so much! So much gold in here. I'm sorry to hear what you went thru, definitely not worth it for a scrote!! I have already started doing therapy, watching feel good content, and also content about narcissism. Every bit helps, though the mood is lingering. I also think that relationships like these do feel like a transformative experience on the other side. Like a really really harsh lesson. Onwards and upwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 02:14 AM
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This community has inspired me for the better, I knew that something was wrong with how I tolerated bullshit, and FDS gave me words to call out my pick me behaviour. I feel strongly enlightened by so many posts here and the fact that you regulate tightly the community, that you take time to give flairs and approve posts is only helping. I believe you gals are doing a fantastic job! When you're doing something that's against the norm, that illuminates how men manipulate women, of course you are g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 11:21 PM
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Wow... well karma is a bitch...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:21 PM
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"It's ok babe, I don't need to finish", said NO MAN EVER 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:09 PM
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He is already stalking her. OP, get some legal advice. Be safe. Move houses if you need to. But yeah, he is definitely stalking you now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:09 AM
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I say do it if you feel like you'll get the result you want. And, get legal advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:06 AM
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They just wanna LOOK like they care so much. My narc ex used to explain his monologuing at me because "he cared so much for me". THAT'S why he was still calling me after I told him explicitly to stop contacting me. They wanna "talk" cause they wanna feel like they have a grip on you. They should have fixed their behaviour immediately if they really cared, NOT when you walk away ffs. They wanna "talk" cause they wanna feel like they have a grip on you. Power and control. Sis, what he's doing is S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 04:04 AM
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Im going for nothing less like this hot stuff 🔥🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:20 PM
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Thank you for kind words 💗 It seems like even with bad choices, you have gained much wisdom and knowledge about the world and men around you. You have reminded me that every bad choice leads to a better one 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:05 PM
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Excellent book recommendations and advice, thank you so much 🙏 I'm in my early 30s so the socialisation tells me I should be settling down but I'm likeeee what for?? I haven't even crushed my goals yet, and men are simply a distraction and mostly waste of energy. You've given me a great reminder about a 5 year plan, thank you 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 01:02 PM
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Thank you so much for your kind post, I'm so overwhelmed with the support already on this thread. What struck me the most about what you said is that yes, this is not all my fault. I was fed those fantasies, the princes, men driving the show, my value being tied to mother and whatever. It's like having the crushing realisation of how brainwashed I have been by everyone, media, school, people. It leaves me empty, but I know I gotta empty all the crap to make space for the new. Oxytocin is one hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 12:57 PM
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Yaassss this is so awesome. What away to stand up for yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:18 PM
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Seriously. If I had a balding spot and big eye bags, I'd hate myself too. I'd hate myself if I left me. I'd hate myself if I was 40 with 25+ failed relationships, with a kid from a woman I hated, and just recently moved out of my mother's house where I got free babysitting. Yeah, I'd be yelling screaming blaming the women for all of it. I do not know what tf was I even thinking. Good riddance indeed 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 03:10 PM
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Preach, sis!! I slept with a NVM on the first date, as I got drunk (yay pick me days, AND he took us to a bar after he saw me drink 3 wines as dinner), and I was honestly really surprised that I hooked up with him, because when I woke up next day and saw his physique in the light (no muscle tone, droopy chest, a bit of a belly, balding spot, big eyebags), my intuition was like "HELLLLL NAH YOU FUCKED MUCH BETTER LOOKING DUDES WITH BIGGER DICKS AND SIX PACKS WHO LICKED YOU OUT LIKE A QUEEN WHAT A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 02:49 PM
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Wow, thanks for sharing. Some people can be given everything, love, attention, and still find a reason to despise their caretakers. So much here speaks of people passing on patterns of resentment and their kids just listening to them like sheep. Why oh why don't we question our family members...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:37 AM
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I feel ya, same for me, for a few guys... We know now what to look for. We gotta vet the guy's mother, too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:31 AM
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Wtf... Couldn't pay someone $20 or go to dry cleaners for that gas money?? 😳 6 hours of driving is a lot of gas. Glad you no longer go to that circus!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:30 AM
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Yesssss. You're on point. These mothers catered to them, my NVM ex moved in as an adult back with mum when he had his child, and he didn't even pay rent, and lied about it to me! He was a freakin adult in mum's house, having a job and she didn't even charge him rent, he could have helped pay the mortgage, but no. I don't, even. Mummy's boy forever ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:26 AM
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So much this!!! You nailed it. I resonate with you saying it's emotionally immature parents who don't really study or educate themselves about how to high-value parent. Most people just repeat the same mistakes their parents did (generalizing here). I think my parents raised my to think like a LVW, based on this description, hence I have attracted LVMs. Thank God for FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 09:23 AM
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Couldn't have said it any better! Well summarised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:45 PM
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Totally, the girls in my ex families somehow were actually really nice, emotionally intelligent, caring, funny, engaging, responsible, and then... There was the LVM. I'm really starting to think it's got something to do with the male entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:44 PM
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Wow... To a T hey. Not surprising. I'm guessing some guys I've been with also have been narcs. Seems to be the all boy praising but critical mother + distant father, and lack of intimacy/connection in the family. It's scary how these patterns manifest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 11:41 PM
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That's all you can ever do. No one gives us a manual when we're born for "how to date", we gotta learn the hard way sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:30 PM
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Your approach is BRILLIANT. Thanks so much for sharing <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 09:10 AM
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Why would you be in the same space with him? I don't get it. Is saving money more important to you than being around a clearly toxic LVM father? Also, why are doing unpaid work? Come on, sis, get a grip, why are you doing this to yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 08:28 AM
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Arghhh I made this mistake far too much. Never freaking listening to another monologuer. The best bit is they KNOW they talk too much or they jokingly say they "love" the sound of their voice, they just never change to accommodate people they talk to, like women. Seem too be fine with men, no monologing there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 12:54 PM
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Society is troubled. Women are the gatekeepers for men, to sex, to family, to multiple dates after the first one. Why do the porn movies show the woman's pleasure mostly and show the man like a tool? Cause we are the epitome of "hot" - we COMMAND men's attention for a reason. Nature made us this way. I feel ya, I wish I didn't watch so many Disney movies. And that I would have rather watched documentaries about women billionaires and how they made their money. You're on the money though, got you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:14 AM
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Thanks so much for your lovely support. Yeah, kids is another ballgame, especially when they're not yours. I think I was too proud, saying "I can do it". But no, I really can't and I really shouldn't. You aren't just a gf, you are mother-in-training, whether you like it or not that is the expectation from family, partner and society. Its like trying to have a relationship with a whole family in a mother's role. And the kid is his own being, too. I had a lot of emotions came up with that, lots of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 12:33 PM
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Agreed. Heck, I was in many rooms like that too, before I found FDS. Learning every day 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 08:05 AM
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Please, get High Value Friends, they do not deserve you. Jealousy is a lousy way to dump on someone else's success. You deserve to be in "chat room" full of geniuses, not these LVM idiots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:42 AM
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That's why we do not rely on men and go out there and make our own lives happen. Congrats on your crypto success! Typical LVM behaviour involves being defensive and bringing no good argument to the table, just a bunch of stupid, immature jokes, without any forethought, finesse, logic or giving fair weight to legitimate arguments from the other side. Clearly they are just jealous of your financial success - you need new friends who actually admire you and congratulate you rather than put you down…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 06:39 AM
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Riiiight. You're on point. It was just such a stark contrast. I was straight up thinking : OH, so he COULD be this nice to me too?? But he wasn't, it was so confusing. Like a well thought out fucked up tactic to keep me off balance. He was generally deeply insecure, manipulative and would throw tantrums when I would challenge his fragile ego, blaming me for "making him upset", his excuse was that he was "just expressing his frustration". He was actually supposedly "well-off" but super stingy. Li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 02:59 AM
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You'll get there. We had our company long before they showed up. I mean, I spent at least 15 years as child, playing, reading, hanging out with friends, before any boys came along, pretty sure I can handle it on my own, and so can you 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 01:32 AM
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I dated a single father for a year and a half and I honestly regret it. I am in my early 30s, childless. Would like kids but only with the most amazing HVM, ever. It's true, his time was split with his son, naturally. We'd have to cater to his son's needs when he was around, I had to pay attention to him too as he was asking me all the questions about life. My ex would basically turn into an "all-serving fun Disney dad almighty". When he was with his son, he ignored me, basically. Gave his son l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 11:16 PM
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I dated a single father for a year and a half and I honestly regret it. I am in my early 30s, childless. Would like kids but only with the most amazing HVM, ever. It's true, his time was split with his son, naturally. We'd have to cater to his son's needs when he was around, I had to pay attention to him too as he was asking me all the questions about life. My ex would basically turn into an "all-serving fun Disney dad almighty". When he was with his son, he ignored me, basically. Gave his son l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 10:40 PM
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Absolute truth - LVMs are bad for health!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 09:50 AM
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It only took me like a decade or something to find this thread and start adopting this mentality... all cause of these amazing women who are part of this thread, sharing their strategies! If not for FDS, I am sure I would have stayed a pickmeisha...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:22 AM
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Such a good idea, thanks for this reminder!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:20 AM
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I am so sorry to hear this.... I am SO glad you are OUT of this toxic situation. Read "The Gift of Fear", it will teach you how to predict this behavior. And that it is always important to follow your intuition, it knows before you know. Great read, highly recommend it. Good luck upleveling!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:16 AM
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Thank you! Life is too short... to continue suffering...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:13 AM
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AMEN!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:12 AM
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I know, so scary. It definitely turned into months for me. I feel like a weight off my shoulder though after the breakup and loving my own company now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:12 AM
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Sisters helping sisters is what this community is all about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:11 AM
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You're welcome <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:11 AM
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I did the same... so funny. The heart knows what's what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 04:10 AM
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I'm going to treat me like this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 10:59 PM
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Me too!!! Changing how I think about everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/21 08:24 AM
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THIS!!!! You nailed the dynamic. The manipulative game is as old as time... It's a modern witch hunt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 11:47 AM
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I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. I hope you are better now. Men treat women like trash (ok, not all men, it's most likely to be a man with the controlling behaviour!), gaslight them and manipulate them for standing up against their shitty treatment, we lash out and they paint us as "unhinged". It's even more disturbing than mocking our trauma. It's undermining us as humans, valuable and equal members of society, and if we are revolutionary (like Britney Spears and her extraordinary pop…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:30 AM
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There are going to be heaps of people investigated in relationship to this inhumane conservatorship. And hopefully sued, fined or jailed. Her power and the power of her fans is going to stand. This is why happens when a pop icon shines, she gets silenced at the most restrictive levels. It is absolutely horrifying that an American white woman has been forced to basically be sterile with an IUD against her wishes. Absolutely abhorrent. I really really hope that this sends shockwaves throughout the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 07:23 AM
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