FDS is a godsend, I wish I had found it sooner or I never would have entered my last relationship. Or the one before that. I am a recovering pickmeisha.
The breakup section of the wiki is great. I would LOVE to hear experiences of how y’all levelled up after a shitty relationship.
For context 2 months ago I was blindsided by my ex and had to move out of his apartment. I’m still reeling from the addiction aspect of the relationship and want to fully move on - red flags I ignored and mistakes I made:
porn addiction. He convinced me it was under control but slipped up a couple of times. This would cause him to emotionally check out for 1-2 weeks, and “flatline” a month or two later.
Didn’t like going down on women, but would “do it if you didn’t get off”. “All my exes got off through penetration”
Moved into HIS apartment after 2 months when Covid hit. Luckily I still kept my lease open on the side.
thought he was high value since he had a high paying job and was leading a team of engineers. Told me he was a “people person” and felt he was emotionally intelligent. Also was very clean and responsible/in shape.
strange gaslighting. “What can I do to make you feel better?” I told him chocolate. He said okay. He never did get me chocolate. Next day I called him out and he said “well I never actually SAID I’d get you chocolate”
stopped initiating sex entirely and I’d have to ask him each time to wash his penis
he never communicated he needed any space (poor communicator in general) until like a pressure cooker he completely ended things
I am embarrassed of how I let his actions dictate my self worth, I WISH I had been the one to end things. now I’m ready to LEVEL UP!
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