Prefer meeting men spontaneously and organically

fireforestfairy · 2022-02-01T06:57:57+00:00

Lol your post tittle is similar to a thread I created so I guess this is common. For me, it was hard to move past dmall talk on OLD as I was avoiding disclosing too much about myself so there wasn't much to talk about.

super_thinker_ · 2022-02-01T14:42:53+00:00

I feel the same way about OLD. I think it’s because it’s all so artificial. In real life, someone catches your eye, you catch theirs, you get to learn about them by observing them, seeing how they act around other people. There’s chemistry. There’s inside jokes. There’s shared experiences. There’s excitement. There’s the slow burn. All of your “firsts” together happen naturally. Online dating is so mechanical by comparison. I’m never doing it again. My time for an organic relationship will come! 😂

HighPriestess31 · 2022-02-01T14:00:14+00:00

Idk, communicating smoothly on line is a skill that any other. You probably could improve with practice or therapy. But the real question is, do you want to?

I'm a pretty good conversationalist over text. On OLD I would find myself always picking up the slack, filling lulls, asking engaging questions and sharing interesting stories.

What was the result? A few dates with mediocre guys who weren't very good at conversing, or interested in learning about me. They just wanted someone to monologue at.

I've since quit OLD completely. I'd love to meet someone organically like you say. But with covid restrictions closing a lot of places, the opportunities have been limited.

I think I must appear somewhat intimidating to men? I'd consider myself average attractiveness, but I never get approached in person. I do notice men staring, get honked at/cat called, but no one has the balls to actually say it to my face.

On the one hand I'm glad it's clear I won't accept their bull shit. On the other, it's a bit lonely.

I don't really have an answer for you, just venting a bit at this point. But honestly OLD is shit so don't worry too much about it.

NotSoSmartChick · 2022-02-01T16:24:48+00:00

I don’t enjoy connecting online, I hate messaging back and forth. When I match with someone, I unmatch if they don’t ask me to dinner within the first couple of exchanges. It’s at dinner that I can see if there’s a connection.

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2022-02-01T10:10:07+00:00

I have never done online dating, and should I find myself single again, never will. It feels stilted and unnatural to me (because it is). There is nothing wrong with you and based on what women say of online dating, you're better off steering clear of it.

Title	Prefer meeting men spontaneously and organically
Author	ethylredds
Upvotes	104
Comments	9
Date	February 1, 2022 4:47 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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