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| 39 | Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣A lot of these princesses were minors too. How creepy... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:57 AM |
| 82 | Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣The original fairytale is even sadder. The mermaid sacrificed her life for a prince who didn't care about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:56 AM |
| 14 | Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣Isn't Cinderella based on foot binding in China? I don't think any western culture valued small feet in women that much... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:55 AM |
| 2 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Wow, these men were obsessed with messaging you to the point of responding to your comments in another sub? I guess this is why so many users had to create a separate account just for FDS... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?Even if most Redditors were female, FDS would probably be quickly infiltrated by LVM who hate how women would rather stay single than date them. LVM can't leave women alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 12:49 AM |
| 108 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?I just had a look at FDS Pros. Lol why would they create a parody of this sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 05:04 PM |
| 282 | Have you ever seen your threads on FDS being shared in other subs?These men would rather shit on us than to level up. They could have learned how to treat their SOs or women they're interested in in a HV manner from reading our posts, but nope, they're not interested in doing that. They claim FDS users are irrational, but they're ironically proving us right with their behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 04:02 PM |
| 15 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?All of my past crushes were taken. At this point, I stop having crushes and taking initiative in flirting with the guy as I assume any guy I like is probably already taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:44 PM |
| 5 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?That's why it's hard to find HVMs... They are relationship oriented and there are plenty of HVWs, so they won't be on the market for long. I suspect this too. Almost all of the men I had crushes on later turned out to be taken. I can't help but think if I'm attracted to a guy, other women probably feel the same about him so he's probably taken before I even have the chance to meet him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:25 PM |
| 10 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?Yeah we shouldn't have our lives revolve around finding a HVM (which is something beyond our control). It's better to have goals within our control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:22 PM |
| 7 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?I don't like men with typical "chad" looks too. This is why I didn't care much about Fine as Fuck Fridays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:14 PM |
| 38 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?and of course the ones I do like are usually gay or taken I know this feel. I sometimes can't help but feel like if I like a guy, he's probably already taken as other women probably find him attractive too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:57 PM |
| 10 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?Unfortunately, most men I know are neither extraordinary or HV. As for the ones who seem decent, almost all of them have at least one deal breaker... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 01:15 PM |
| 45 | Do you sometimes think whether you come across a single and compatible HVM who likes you back is beyond your control more than anything else in life?This is true. I guess there are more stories of LVM than HVM here as many came here as a result of coming across toxic LVM. That being said, unfortunately I think the percentage of HVM (or people should I say) is lower than 10-20%. This is based on the people I know. Many people are selfish in one way or another (as in only nice to you when it benefits them) or have some LV personality trait. Even the men who are decent in terms of personality have other issues such as poor hygiene so I don't kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:40 PM |
| 5 | Another reason why you shouldn’t use dating apps: your photos can be used without your consent.Yeah my first thoughts is that's probably a guy. He's probably upset you didn't match with him or what so decided to post that pic of you online. Maybe he pretended to be a woman so that nobody will call him out for having sour grapes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Another reason why you shouldn’t use dating apps: your photos can be used without your consent.I'm sorry this happened to you. That was so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:32 PM |
| 12 | What’s the FDS-flavoured tea on cold approaches? Advice appreciated.I'm not a fan of cold approaches too. The only thing a stranger can tell about you is your looks so a guy cold approaching you probably only likes you for your looks. I guess you can try joining interest classes, hobby groups, or other events. But bear in mind that there's no guarantee that you'll meet a HVM there. I tried joining all these activities to meet men and am still single. I hence advise against joining events just for the sake of meeting men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:30 PM |
| 0 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?I guess it's true that a white guy will probably be out of touch with the struggles of Asians. I guess the same thing happens when you date a super rich guy when you're not rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:24 PM |
| 2 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?Well these decent white men I know with an Asian SO (and some of them are living in Asia) seem decent or HV in terms of personality. But then I guess a lot of LVM are experts at pretending to be HV. I don't know these men well enough so who knows if they're HV? I've yet to meet a white guy who struggles to communicate with his Asian SO due to language barriers. I know these couples exist and I have no idea how these relationship can function... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:23 PM |
| 18 | Why do men pretend women don't go for looks?Why do men pretend women don't go for looks? They don't? If that was the case, they won't rant about being single as they're unattractive. I think what they mean is they think having a lot of money can compensate for unattractiveness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 06:19 PM |
| 9 | How to tell if a man likes you as a friend vs something more?This. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/askFDS | 03/04/22 06:21 PM |
| 16 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?While some white guys I know who moved to Asia are really that undesirable (conventionally unattractive, fat, bald or balding, having personality issues, you name it), some of these white men who eventually ended up being in a relationship with a local Asian women seem decent or desirable by western standards (i.e. average to somewhat attractive looking with a nice stable career). I know some subs have a tendency to shit on white male-Asian female couples (mostly subs filled with Asian or hapa m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 01:01 AM |
| 15 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?Yeah that makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:36 PM |
| 70 | Is it generally "better" for WOC to date within or outside of their race?Some of my Asian uncles are very HV and sweet to their wives. They've spent their entire lives in Asia. Yes, a lot of Asian men are LV but it's just the same with every race. I guess at least I don't need to worry about being fetishised by an Asian guy. As for white men, I don't know any white guy well enough to confirm he's HV. Some of the white men I know with an Asian SO seems decent or even somewhat "desirable" by western standards (as in being quite attractive and having a nice stable caree… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:21 PM |
| 21 | Genuine question: how can a woman maintain the hope that there really are good men out there?I know that feel. Most men I know are LV. For the men I had crushes on (as they appeared to be HV at that moment), they were all taken (and who knows if they are truly HV?). I sometimes can't help but think a HVM will probably be taken by the time I meet him as he'll probably have little problem attracting women. There are HVM out there but they're a minority. This is why it's best to focus on yourself and have your own dreams and goals which do not involve men. Whether you come across a HVM who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 04:01 PM |
| 37 | Where do men go to find the audacity? What kind of good man is this? Is this the standard? Because if so, then sorry to this man. 33 and childish with his priorities out of order. What an embarrassment. Feel sorry for that baby.There's no secret family Seems legit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:52 PM |
| 20 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?Oh I'm not thinking of it in the Greek philosophical sense where someone else is "your other half". What I'm referring to in thsi thread is more like a guy being meant to be "the one" (or "the ones" if you think several guys can be "the one"). But yeah I think even that can lead to women becoming pick mes who prioritise finding an SO over their own goals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:45 PM |
| 25 | TL;DR: her 'hack' is buying Tinder Gold to change your location and minimising small talk by, I assume, inviting men on a date.I guess she wants an exotic lover so she started finding men in New York City prior to actually moving there. Anyway, her strategy isn't that uncommon. When I played around with Tinder, I got matched with some men who would later admit they didn't live in my local area and only plan to move here lately. I'm sure some women do this especially those hoping to move to another country via a spouse visa or something. I guess she created publicity regarding her Tinder strategies to promote her book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:27 PM |
| 94 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?The older I am, the more I think of "falling in love" as something risky. There are way too many LVM who are experts at pretending to be HV. Who knows if they're abusive, had cheated in the past, have STIs, or have some other negative traits they're hiding? The chances of the next guy I meet being LV is much higher than him being HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:31 PM |
| 41 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?To be fair, HVM (let alone one you are attracted to and are compatible with) are scarce. However, I do think the abundance mentality prevents you from being obsessed with a guy you barely know or is taken thinking maybe the two of you would be together if things were different. Being obsessed with a guy who doesn't even care about you isn't healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 01:29 PM |
| 17 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?I think we all have a "type" we prefer and when we come across someone of that type who appears to be HV, we feel "the spark". That's the way I see why we sometimes experience the spark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:50 PM |
| 46 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?There are likely 1000s of people out there we'd be extremely happy with Kind of off-topic but I think these people are a minority (or maybe I just didn't have the chance of meeting them). Too many people (men and women) are LV, selfish, and only nice to you if it benefits them... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 12:26 PM |
| 34 | Opinion on my first dateI'm uncomfortable with the oversharing part. In my experience, people who overshare when you've just met them usually have some ulterior motives. It's unnatural to share your deep secrets with someone you've just met unless you want something from them. | /r/askFDS | 29/03/22 11:22 AM |
| 2 | Looking at stuff reminding us of LVM we know, exes, or former unrequited crushesThanks. I'm not planning to create something that drag on about the men I had liked. What about looking at it as a "loose" source of inspiration? Let's say I am writing a creative story and experience a writer's block. Is it a bad thing to look at social media profiles of people I know (including LVM I know and former unrequited crushes) to read about their experience as a source of inspiration? | /r/askFDS | 28/03/22 06:57 PM |
| 75 | How to get rid of this school girl crushAssume he is married For so many of my crushes I had, I discovered they were taken after having a crush on them. It was so embarrassing as I ended up as "the other woman" unknowingly even though some of these men didn't flirt back with me. These days I just play it safe and just wait for men to show their interest in me first. I can't help but think if I'm interested in a guy, chances are other women will feel the same about him so he's probably taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:55 PM |
| 41 | How to get rid of this school girl crushThis. That was a perfect opportunity for him to ask OP out (I wonder if OP subconsciously said it as she wanted the guy to go on a date with her at such a restaurant). He only responded by recommending restaurants. It's his way of subtly signaling he's not romantically interested in her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:51 PM |
| 10 | How to get rid of this school girl crushYeah I totally get that. I have a thing for men who are kind and knowledgeable too. Almost every time I would later discover they are actually taken and then I realised I embarrassed myself by flirting with them. I ended up as "the other woman" unknowingly even though some of the men didn't flirt back with me. My experience discourages me to take initiative in pursuing men in the future and I think it applies to your case too. Anyway, that doctor was probably just being nice. Based on your descr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 02:49 PM |
| 118 | Man deliberately pushes woman in front of train at Brussels metro stationI remember such an incident happened in New York before where a homeless guy pushed a woman in front of an oncoming train. It was really sad that she got killed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 10:39 AM |
| 22 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsFor looking at Asian men: ask them what they think of Glenn from The Walking Dead, and if they tell you they think it's so cool that he dated a white girl, get rid of him. The men on Aznidentity are so obsessed with AMWF. Even though they like to shitpost on Asian women for putting white men on a pedestal (and some really do do that), I've yet to meet an Asian woman who becomes obsessed with another Asian woman and seeing her as "cool" and role model-like simply because she's with a white guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:36 AM |
| 29 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsYes this happens with men of other races too. LV white men shitpost about how they hate white women for dating black men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:30 AM |
| 47 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsI think the thing about these men on Aznidentity is that they have a toxic view of what it means to be a masculine Asian guy. They're obsessed with being more muscular, being taller, and having a larger d*ck than white men and having a white SO simply to "compete" with white men. While these men may try to hide their views in front of their SOs, they may give away their views on race and masculinity when they they say stuff like how they hate BTS as it portrays Asian men in a "feminine flower bo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:25 AM |
| 35 | Interracial dating and avoiding MRAsLol I actually discovered FDS as some members of Aznidentity shitposted about this sub there. While it's true that negative stereotypes of Asian men exist in the West, a lot of the members of Aznidentity have double standards towards Asian men and women dating outside of their race. They'll label Asian women who date outside their race as "self-hating white worshipers" yet when an Asian guy does the same thing, it's seen as "masculine" and "improving the image of Asian men in the West". I think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 11:11 AM |
| 14 | Ok, what to do when another girl finds out her crush has a crush on you instead of her?There's not much you can do about this. Just be diplomatic around the girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 10:48 AM |
| 32 | Hiding my former crushes' posts on social media was such a great decisionOh I found out they posted a lot on social media after developing a crush on them (and yes, I was the one who took initiative in adding them first). I think constantly posting on social media is a turn-off too so I don't know why so many of the men I had crushes on turned out to be like that (Like why was I even drawn to them in the first place?). It seems like many people who frequently post on social media do so to brag about themselves or enjoy being in the centre of attention. There's also a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:09 PM |
| 37 | Hiding my former crushes' posts on social media was such a great decisionYup. I also archived our past conversations to avoid thinking about them when I see their names. It really works. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Hi everyone, I'm back after two weeks away! And new question of course!why are men not learning from women, and only seem to be learning from the culture, from other men? Because scrotes hate women. They don't want to learn how to be a HV SO. They only want to learn how to pick up and manipulate women. Being a HV SO isn't "beneficial" from their perspective given how they only care about sex, having a trophy SO, or someone to look after them. Learning from women isn't so hard. Men can learn a lot just by lurking in this sub. Unfortunately, a lot of men would rather… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:23 PM |
| 2 | Happy Friday beautiful people 💖 buy your own flowersThe flowers look gorgeous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:20 PM |
| 1 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?Your post reminds me of this post I made while ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:19 PM |
| 30 | You are never safe when online dating EVEN IN PUBLIC. Please be careful. TRIGGER ALERT: Assault and rapeYeah imagine being perverted to the point of raping a woman in a theatre as opposed to somewhere isolated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:09 PM |
| 26 | You are never safe when online dating EVEN IN PUBLIC. Please be careful. TRIGGER ALERT: Assault and rapeWow this was so horrible. I'm sorry this happened to her. This is why I'm not comfortable with meeting men on OLD. I've played around with it and talked to men online but I've yet to meet anyone irl. Yes, it's possible that there are HVM on OLD, but I can't help but feel like a disproportionate of men are on OLD as they want free sex, want to sexually assault women, or have some deal breaker preventing them from finding an SO irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:07 PM |
| 12 | How can you tell if a guy is negging you or not?Wow he was truly moving the goalpost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:13 AM |
| 11 | How can you tell if a guy is negging you or not?You're right. I guess women do talk about men they are attracted to but they often only do it among other women (e.g. discussing male celebrities they like). It's kind of strange to do it in front of someone of the opposite sex who is not your SO. You're either hinting you're attracted to them by saying you like a trait they have or implying you find them unattractive (which is not polite to do). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:12 AM |
| 12 | How can you tell if a guy is negging you or not?Yeah I doubt they are so naive. Most of these men who like to talk about their preferences in front of women who don't have these characteristics would not do the same thing in front of their female managers even if they saw her as 1 out of 10 lookswise. So yeah, I guess they know what they're doing is not nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 11:09 AM |
| 61 | How can you tell if a guy is negging you or not?You're right that if a guy cares about your feelings, he'll not mention having preferences you don't meet to avoid making you feel hurt. What about men who are not your SO and are not pursuing you who bring up their preferences without explicit invitiation? For example, you're overweight yourself and a male acquaintance talks about how he finds skinny women spectacularly attractive after you mentioned how some skinny celebrities have a large fanbase. Is this considered as negging? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 12:22 PM |
| 34 | Scrote Bingos from the red flagsSo accurate. I don't see many fishing pics here. Men here are into portraying themselves as rich on OLD instead (e.g. skiing in a foreign country, partying on a yacht, driving luxury cars, or claiming to be CEOs or doctors). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 11:48 AM |
| 2 | Suspicious?With the 18? Yes. He's probably posting in some NSFW subs and hence the 18+ text. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 11:33 AM |
| 3 | Should we aim to find men who resemble us?Yeah I've yet to find a guy who matches me in terms of those criteria too. It's statistically very improbable. It's not really narcissism but how I assume similarity will result in less incompatibility. You'll never worry about one party wanting kids and the other doesn't not. You'll also never worry about incompatibility due to social class or cultural differences. | /r/askFDS | 16/03/22 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Should we aim to find men who resemble us?Fair enough. I guess it depends on if I want change or not. | /r/askFDS | 16/03/22 10:42 AM |
| 3 | What would you tell your 10 year old self if you could?Don't idealise my crushes I the future. All of my crushes were unrequited and only led to embarrassment and misery for me. I would have gone through much less pain had I been wise enough to stop myself before falling head over heels for men who don't like me back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:20 PM |
| 3 | From the tinder subreddit. I have no words.Why do men have such gross fetishes? Why are they turned on by sticking their fist into a woman's anus? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:17 PM |
| 1 | Fantasising about fictional menYeah I guess these fictional men can make me feel "hopeful" of meeting HVM especially given how so many men irl are LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 05:10 PM |
| 32 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidUnfortunately, that's how a lot of men view women. They only care about a woman's looks and will treat her based on how conventionally attractive she is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:34 PM |
| 36 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidYeah. These men are not looking for "the one" to love for the rest of their lives. They're looking for the hottest girl they can attract or a lot of women to bang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:30 PM |
| 165 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidThis. A lot of men want an SO hot enough to model. They pursue women who are less conventionally attractive as placeholders as they know it's close to impossible for them to find an SO that hot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:21 PM |
| 49 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡Scrotes like to claim only women can be gold diggers but that's not true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 10:37 AM |
| 3 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.This was so sad to read. Imagine being married to a guy for 30 years who doesn't even love you. Why do men do this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 10:59 AM |
| 10 | If you could write your ex's Tinder profileI feel like the vast majority of men on OLD would have shitty profiles if they were written by their exs. All these men on OLD claim to be attractive, tall, muscular, well-educated, rich, nice, and outgoing. Who knows how much of it is true? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 10:57 AM |
| 6 | Meeting men at bars or pubsYou're right that it's not a good idea to meet men at bars if you're not into this lifestyle yourself. Is it fishy for men to spend a lot of free time at bars though? I assume some are at bars hoping to get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:37 AM |
| 22 | Fucking idiot 🤡Yeah it sounds like some porn scene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:35 AM |
| 32 | What happened to the men that told you they dumped, dated, or married someone because of their parents?These men are mama's boys. It's a no for me. If you marry such a guy, you'll probably have to listen to everything his parents say. You'll be living the life his parents want you to live as opposed to according to your own wishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:34 AM |
| 87 | Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life?It's possible but very unlikely. The thing about LVM is many of them don't see their low valueness as a problem so they don't bother to improve themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:31 AM |
| 14 | Always keep this in mind, ladies ✨Yeah I agree so much of it depends on luck. Back when I was unwoke, I tried all of these ways to meet men and I'm stil single. And I agree it is very statistical unlikely that anyone will meet a compatible HVM who likes them back. Most men are LV. For the HVM, a lot of them will probably be either incompatible with you or taken or you're just not attracted to them. And even if the two of you get together, you may not get along with his family members. If you marry a guy, you will inevitably have… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:29 AM |
| 13 | Friends with Men?The thing about men is many of them do not respect women as equals and they befriend women with the intention of wanting to flirt or date them. For HVM, even friendship with them can be tricky. If a HVM is taken, he will naturally distance himself away from women to avoid sending the wrong signal. It's hence very hard to become close friends with men. I think it's ok to have male friends at work, especially if your workplace is predominately male so you don't have much choice. Since you're just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:11 AM |
| 15 | Meeting men at bars or pubsFair enough. And I guess I can bring a friend to accompany me. I've heard horrow stories of men injecting women they met at bars with ruffies though. Is this risk higher for meeting men at bars and pubs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 05:02 PM |
| 20 | Creepy IG man strikes againWhy do so many men do this on Instgram and other social media apps? Do they really think they will succeed in getting laid by doing this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Dating men who are grievingYup. If someone is truly grieving, they will not be in the mood to date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 104 | Always keep this in mind, ladies ✨Yeah there is no magical "way" to find a HVM. Whether you come across a HVM you like who likes you back depends on being at the right place at the right time. The thing you can do is creating boundaries with LVM and distancing yourself away from them if possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 24 | Dating men who are grievingThis. If a HVM has other stuff going on in his life, he will wait before dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 10:55 AM |
| 29 | Man wants to have a kid with his wife's younger sister....the traditional way. This poor woman is actually confused about it. WHAT.I saw this on the homepage too. It was so gross. The scrote probably has fantasies of banging his wife's sister all along and now has the perfect excuse to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 05:49 PM |
| 3 | guys who say they don't know what they are looking for on oldI feel like a lot of these men who say they don't know what they want are actually looking for hookups. They say they're not sure about what they want to hide their fuckboy nature as they know women are generally less open to casual sex. When they later dump you, they can justify that they did nothing wrong as they never said that they were looking for something serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:29 PM |
| 69 | Falling off of the maskA lot for scrotes view OLD as a way to hey free sex. This is why they're not even bothered to portray themselves as HVM looking for something serious. They think they can save time by being clear about what they want aka free sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:26 PM |
| 7 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?I have the feeling OP's boyfriend wants to relive his memories with his ex with her as opposed to being low effort. Yes, a lot of men are low effort, but honestly, most people prefer travelling to somewhere new (that's what travel is all about anyway). Even if they travel to the same location they probably want some new experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:06 PM |
| 79 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣I'm sorry this happened to them. Why do so many men get turned on by smelling the bras and underwear of women? I've yet to meet a woman being turned on by smelling the underwear of men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 12:00 PM |
| 7 | Thoughts on a man who doesn't text to make sure you made it home?Not exactly a red flag. Maybe he feels like asking you at night will annoy you. | /r/askFDS | 25/02/22 11:35 AM |
| 2 | When You Ask Men What They’re Looking ForI would answer truthfully. Be careful of men who lie though. Plenty of fuckboys know women are generally less interested sex than men so they will lie about wanting something serious when they don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:33 AM |
| 25 | Pick-Up Artist "PUA" Tactics: Which Have You Heard?PUA techniques is an euphemism for manipulation techniques. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:32 AM |
| 14 | Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lackingSame here. All of my crushes had traits I admired and it never led to a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:09 AM |
| 5 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?A lot of men don't read the profiles of women they swiped right on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 11:06 AM |
| 6 | Being attracted to something you want to be / feel you're lackingI was the same as you. The men I had crushes on had traits I admired. However, I think I was different from you in the sense that the men I had a crush on truly had those traits I admired instead of appearing to have them. You're right that blindly idolising men is not a good thing. It's more important to develop those traits yourself. The guy may change or leave you. Meanwhile, you know you'll always have your own interest at heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:37 AM |
| 21 | Forever girlfriends turned wivesFrom what I've heard, men do this when they reach a certain age (usually aged 40-60) when realise they can't live a fuckboy lifestyle forever or are unlikely to find an SO they like more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:32 AM |
| 195 | Co-Worker Randomly Offered to Rent His Room to Me 😅🤣I would be uncomfortable with this too. He may genuinely have no ulterior motives but IMO it's best to play it safe and decline his offer. I assume your coworker will be ok with you doing your laundry at his home, and the idea of a woman leaving her bras and panties to dry at her male coworker's home with him around to see them is just uncomfortable. You also just met this guy and don't know if he is trustworthy. Even if you keep your valuable possessions locked up in the bedroom he assigns to y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 10:30 AM |
| 4 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayHow old are you now? If you just left high school this makes the whole thing even more gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:26 PM |
| 7 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayI normally would not have drinks as a first date but I thought he’s a teacher so he’s more trustworthy. Every occupation has its fair share of LVM so next time don't trust a guy because he has a certain job. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:25 PM |
| 8 | My third grade French teacher hit on me at the gym todayI think many male teachers dream of fucking their female students when they are older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 04:17 PM |
| 2 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂In my experience these men only ask to switch to another app to communicate with you in private messages. I guess they don't put in on their profiles as they don't want to make their intentions obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂I wonder how many men on OLD have an SO irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:20 PM |
| 9 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂I think men all over the world think profiles like these are attractive to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:18 PM |
| 2 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂This is why I hate OLD. OLD gives you the impression that you have a lot of men to choose from but all of the men tend to be extremely similar to each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Me too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 02:33 PM |
| 38 | Noticing a pattern of men comparing me to other women in their lives?For men who say you look like their ex, I think they miss their ex but knowing they can never get back together, they decided to find the closest "substitute" they can get (aka you). They think it is a compliment as it means you're their type but really they're just looking for someone to fill in the gap their ex left behind. | /r/askFDS | 23/02/22 10:41 AM |
| 5 | Women leaving the dating appsFor me, I need to be drawn to a guy's personality to be attracted to him to the point of wanting to date him. It's really hard to figure out whether you have chemistry with a guy when the communication is all online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 03:58 PM |
| 21 | It only takes one wrong guy to ruin your entire life.Or it only takes one wrong guy to end your entire life. Sadly there are men out there who had killed their SOs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 12:50 PM |
| 48 | Beware of Males that claim to have no social mediaIf you met the guy via OLD and he claims to have no social media, he's probably a catfish or a cheater who doesn't want you to see his real account. If it's a guy you have a crush on, telling you that he doesn't use social media is probably his way of distancing himself away from you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 04:26 PM |
| 60 | What common FDS advice or opinions do you disagree with and why?Blocking a guy you have an unrequited crush on that you haven't asked out directly. Reacting like that implies you liked him while he didn't like you back and it will only make you "lose face". It's best to just distance yourself away form him without making things obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:38 PM |
| 237 | FDS lingo is catching on!This phrase applies to other types of relationships too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:00 PM |
| 37 | OLD is a place holder for when you’re feeling lonelyHonestly if the COVID-19 outbreak was really awful to the point of lockdown in where I lived, I would just avoid meeting new men for the sake of my own health. I would need to worry about being infected with COVID-19 instead of just STIs... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 02:39 PM |
| 55 | OLD is a place holder for when you’re feeling lonelyThat's how I view OLD. In the past, I tend to play around with OLD after finding out my crush is taken with the belief that I it's a good way to distract myself and move on. My experience with OLD was that very few men would message me first so Is suspect some men just swipe right for every woman they came across. It was also hard to move past small talk given how I didn't have much in common with random men on OLD and I wasn't comfortable with revealing too much about myself. I'm just uncomfort… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 02:36 PM |
| 10 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?I want to ask this too. How can you know a matchmaker is not a scammer? Even if a matchmaker has good online reviews, those may be fake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:58 PM |
| 22 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?Yeah I assume desperate scrotes want to use as many apps as possible to meet women. The male userbase of one app is probably similar to that of another as they all consist of the same group of scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:51 PM |
| 38 | Bring back - fine af friday flairI'm not that drawn to the types of men who get posted on Fine as Fuck Fridays. I also need to be drawn to a guy's personality to be really attracted to him so just a pic of a hot guy doesn't do anything for me. However, I think posting pics of hot guys every Friday is a good way to piss off unattractive scrotes who lurk here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:57 PM |
| 12 | Bring back - fine af friday flairI think it was good to piss off unattractive scrotes who lurk here though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:56 PM |
| 16 | Someone’s lack of reciprocation is not an invitation for you to convince them of your worth.Oh yes. In the past, I had taken initiative in flirting with my crushes hoping they would ask me out. Obviously that didn't happen. They just ended up distancing away from me or using me for attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:54 PM |
| 5 | The occupation of men on OLDWhere I'm from, most people date (and certainly marry) within their social class. When wealthy men date less wealthy women, the women are often conventionally extremely attractive as opposed to successful. I doubt I am what these men are looking for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:38 PM |
| 3 | The occupation of men on OLDFair enough. Educational differences can result in incompatibility. As for the men who claim to be doctors, lawyers, or businessmen on OLD, I highly suspect some of them are catfishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 1 | The occupation of men on OLDI don't think I've seen these men on OLD too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:30 PM |
| 4 | The occupation of men on OLDI know women with specialized job titles who use that term so that men can't find them easily online (ex: Alison is an Occupational Therapist in X city and with one quick Google you can find her NPI number and place of work). Given how a lot of places list healthcare professionals with a practicing license publicly, it can be easy for someone to be doxxed if they use their real first name and list their exact occupation on OLD. How can you know if a male healthcare professional on OLD is doing t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:30 PM |
| 11 | The occupation of men on OLDThis. At least you know your coworker's name and job title are real as opposed to random men on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:27 PM |
| 20 | The occupation of men on OLDYeah. I guess scrotes like to claim to be entrepreneurs as it sounds fancy and you can't exactly figure out how much they exactly earn based on the job title. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:24 PM |
| 22 | The occupation of men on OLDI don't see many struggling artists in where I live. Where I'm from women tend to care about a guy's income more than women in the West so I guess men here are less likely to admit they're struggling financially on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 05:23 PM |
| 32 | The occupation of men on OLDNow that I think of it, there's probably a linguistic difference that explains why "engineers" are less common in my area. "Engineers" can be synonymous with "builders" in English but not in my language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:01 PM |
| 23 | The occupation of men on OLDYeah. I won't be surprised if a guy working as a secretary in an IT company will describe himself as working in IT on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:55 PM |
| 9 | The occupation of men on OLDI've noticed how a lot of men like to list their height on OLD. It's almost like they think they will get laid as long as they are tall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 10 | The occupation of men on OLDAre you sure this isn’t a projection of the lie discussed in the podcast regarding the belief that uglier men will treat you better? Do you think a male nurse will treat you nicer or more fair than a surgeon? They will not. Of course not. However, I think incompatibilities resulting from social class differences will be an issue. I'm also from a culture that values collectivism so even if the wealthier guy is open to dating me, his parents will probably disapprove of the relationship and will ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 15 | The occupation of men on OLDI agree we can weed out catfishes by asking the men questions about their professions. I doubt catfishes can answer technical professional questions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:47 PM |
| 9 | The occupation of men on OLDYeah. It's one thing to have a highly-paid job. It's another thing to constantly talk about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:46 PM |
| 24 | The occupation of men on OLDI've read somewhere you have statistically speaking more chances to find your love at work, so prioritizing this route feels more time-efficient Isn't dating your coworker risky and not FDS-friendly though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:45 PM |
| 29 | The occupation of men on OLDI assume it's easy for LV pilots to cheat. They're always flying all over the world so it's easy for them to have sex with other women without being caught given how their SOs are not in the same region as them. I assume some women will also be drawn to pilots as they see them as highly-paid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:44 PM |
| 43 | The occupation of men on OLDI won't be surprised if some of these men in IT are working as secretaries instead of programmers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:42 PM |
| 56 | The occupation of men on OLDWhere I'm from engineering is not lucrative. I don't often see engineer men on OLD here and I doubt this is a coincidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:41 PM |
| 28 | The occupation of men on OLDWhile men irl can lie, it's harder for them to fabricate their entire identity unlike men on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:40 PM |
| 3 | The occupation of men on OLDSame here! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:39 PM |
| 100 | The occupation of men on OLDOh yes. I suspect a lot of unemployed men just claim to be "self employed". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 02:38 PM |
| 64 | The occupation of men on OLDAre you American? Given how IT is lucrative in America, I think American men claiming to work in IT on OLD are just implying they are well-off. Anyway, based on the responses here, it seems there is the worldwide trend of a lack of diversity of occupations for men on OLD. I wonder why this is the case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 12:09 PM |
| 16 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)Yeah it's more common for women to post about their relationships on OLD than men. However, for all of the men I had a crush on who turned out to be taken, they posted about their SOs on social media. Maybe they were hinting at me to back off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:42 AM |
| 2 | Can long distance relationships work?Wow that wasn't even that far away. I totally understand why you pursued those LDRs. I assume international LDRs are even less likely to work out given the greater distance involved, the culture and language barriers, and the potential ethnic fetishism that may occur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Can long distance relationships work?Yeah I guess some people are interested in LDRs as they live in a place with a very small population. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:58 PM |
| 2 | Can long distance relationships work?Did you meet those men irl prior to meeting in an LDR. Did you guys live I the same country? Now don't be so hard on yourself. Way too many people sell the idea of these LDRs as "romantic" so I guess some women are persuaded to perceive LDRs like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:56 PM |
| 8 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisThese men put more effort into dressing up for a job interview. Nope, just nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 11:03 AM |
| 55 | I may already know a high value man. I just wasn’t healthy enough to notice it.Yeah I've met nice men I'm not attracted to. I need to feel "the spark" to want to date someone and I don't always feel this when I encounter HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 05:08 PM |
| 68 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthYeah since these men are scrotes, I don't think they will automatically become HV around whitish or white features. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 04:36 PM |
| 83 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthI know that feel. I'm East Asian. A lot of people here also prefer pale skin. A lot of men here also prefer "Eurocentric" features such as large eyes, double eyelids, and tall nose bridges. Yes, Asian women can naturally have all of these traits too but these traits are stereotypically associated with whites. I sometimes feel like these men of colour don't go for white women due to cultural or language barriers. I think this is one of the reasons why so many Asian men in Asia are hyped about Eur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:50 PM |
| 137 | Seriously though, this is such a sad truthOh yes, a lot of POC men have internalised colourism (and racism), negging women of their own race by telling them how white women are more likely to be beautiful (or maybe they truly think like that). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 03:30 PM |
| 63 | Happy Valentine’s Day, Queens! ❤️🌹✨It's much better to spend Valentine's Day alone if you can't find a compatible HVM than end up as a pick me as you don't want to be single. Way too many scrotes are too frugal to spend money on something special for you on Valentine's Day anyway. And then you need to deal with other negative traits of theirs such as gaslighting, negging, bad breath, and poor hygiene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:15 AM |
| 12 | Introspection- when you aren't sure ask yourself would you do the same to him?All the women I know who took more than 24 hours to reply with an emoji were deliberately trying to avoid me. I don't think men are an exception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:09 AM |
| 130 | An example of a LV Valentine's day gift. The bar is so low, that she's so excited about receiving this "gift" 🤮Yes especially with part where she explicitly praised Dyson and shitted on Dirt Devil. It looks suspiciously like a sponsored ad trying to badmouth its competitors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:05 AM |
| 48 | An example of a LV Valentine's day gift. The bar is so low, that she's so excited about receiving this "gift" 🤮Yeah. He's just hinting he wants her to do the housework with the gift. He also "benefits" from the gift despite how it should be something special for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:02 AM |
| 59 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceOr they marry because their families want them to. Some also marry the hottest girl they know as they want a trophy wife to brag about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 11:00 AM |
| 41 | Scrote refuses to marry forever gf because of “dead bedroom” and has been stringing her along for 3 years. Can you count the red flags in this post?Why does the woman want to be engaged to him despite the dead bedroom? She deserves better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 5 | Can long distance relationships work?You can’t “fall in love” online. That’s a fantasy, not real life. Yeah it's so hard to determine chemistry when all the communication is online especially sexual compatibility. And this is before taking into account that the other person may be a catfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:43 AM |
| 8 | Can long distance relationships work?I'm sorry this happened to you. The idea of meeting men in another country on OLD seems very risky to me. What made you willing to take the risk to meet this guy irl let alone date him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:41 AM |
| 13 | Can long distance relationships work?Yeah my thoughts too. It's not impossible but extremely rare (and the percentage of these couples who are happily married must be even lower). And IMO meeting men like that is riskier than buying a lottery ticket given how some of these men can be scammers like Shimon Hayut or perverts hoping to sexually assault you when you visit his country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:37 AM |
| 12 | Can long distance relationships work?it's some safe pretend nonsense for people with some kind of problem - anxiety, no social skills, trauma, porn sickness, avoidance, inability to meet people in real life. Or the guy is a scammer like Shimon Hayut or a pervert hoping to sexually assault you when you visit his country. It's just so dangerous. I have no idea how some women are comfortable with finding an SO online who doesn't live in the same country as you. I would be so concerned about the guy having malicious intentions to the p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 10:34 AM |
| 38 | Happy Galentines 💜Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 12:49 AM |
| 7 | Men asking for Instagram or WhatsApp prior to meetingI just read an article on the dangers of OLD in my area and apparently some of the men who ask for your number are salesmen hoping to send ads to you on Whatsapp. Other users here said they wanted your number to stalk you or continue harassing you after you blocked one of their numbers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:17 AM |
| 2 | Dating Apps Are Not Only Mentally Dangerous . . .This is why I am uncomfortable with meeting men via OLD. It's much harder to verify the identity of a stranger you met online and he can turn out to be a psychopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:49 PM |
| 88 | Why do so many men have bad breath?I've met male healthcare professionals with bad breath. These men are obviously not dentists but still if they work in healthcare, surely they don't think of maintaining personal hygiene as "gay"? Some of these men are passionate about their jobs and experts in their fields so why don't they care about maintaining dental hygiene? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:38 PM |
| 58 | Why do so many men have bad breath?How can they be ok with not brushing their teeth? I can understand why scrotes like being lazy but brushing your teeth is not hard at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 110 | Why do so many men have bad breath?Why is it that so many men dislike flossing? Sure, floss costs money but the opportunity cost of not flossing (as in visit to the dentist for dental procedures) is greater. Since frugal scrotes are obsessed with saving money, won't they worry about the opportunity cost of not flossing? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 03:32 PM |
| 8 | Red and False Green Flags :: My Epiphanies from The Tinder SwindlerOh I didn't know he rented the jets. I've never seen the Netflix show and only read news articles about it so I thought he truly owned the jets. But yeah, I've heard of scammers renting mansions or villas to pretend to be rich investors to scam others. These scammers know people are less likely to think of someone as a scammer if they truly believe they are rich and they exploit them because of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 02:49 PM |
| 18 | Red and False Green Flags :: My Epiphanies from The Tinder SwindlerThe thing about Simon is that he bought a private jet to pretend to be rich to scam women. I guess the woman truly believed he was rich as it's almost be unheard of for scammers to buy private jets to scam others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:02 AM |
| 2 | Shower thought: Society literally had to coin the term ‘gentleman’ in order to accentuate behaviors that show a minimal level of consideration and respect towards women. Also, it indirectly shows that the vast majority of ‘other’ men don’t care about such values.Your post made me think of the song Gentleman by Psy. He sings about being a gentlemen while acting like a horny creep in the music video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 57 | Juxtaposition, Screencapped by me, Digital, 2022Oh that's my thread! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:25 PM |
| 48 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄That guy is not even that unattractive. He's average-looking. He probably has some charteristic that is off-putting to women but instead blames it all on women being picky about looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:24 PM |
| 78 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄These men are looking at sex from a men's point of view. Casual sex is only beneficial for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 01:21 PM |
| 228 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄This fucker is wearing a woolen traffic cone I have the feeling that he has a receding hairline and was trying to hide it in the photo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 11:35 AM |
| 169 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄The discrimination unattractive men face is nothing compared to the the discrimination unattractive women face. Sure, unattractive men will struggle more in dating than a hot guy given if everything else is the same, but women are generally less picky when it comes to their SO's looks than men. For men, having money, a decent career, fame, talent, intelligence, humour, or a kind personality can compensate for not conforming to society's beauty standards. The guy doesn't even have to be extremely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 11:28 AM |
| 6 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"Did you immediately clicked with your husband when you first met him? When did you realise he was "the one"? Did this happen before endless vetting? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 10:51 AM |
| 16 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"I've also come to the point where I'm done with wading through so many lvm that I'm done wasting my time with them. I know that feel. The men I came across were more likely to bring trouble or sadness into my life than happiness. I assume things would be worse if I dated one of these men. There are women who are not related to me by blood who helped and supported me a lot but I can't say the same about the men I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 05:35 PM |
| 8 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.He probably mispelt "geeky". That's the impression I got with the video game console emoji. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:28 PM |
| 15 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.And what's with the American, British, and Turkish flags? Why is it that men love to talk about how multicultural (or multiracial in some cases) on social media when trying to meet women? Do they seriously think women are open to dating creeps as long as they are "exotic"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:27 PM |
| 34 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.Second account = account without any direct connection to his real primary account so that he can can stalk women without exposing his own identity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 7 | This scrote just followed me. Can’t decide if it’s a fake or if he’s married.Looks like a creep who likes to follow random women on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:12 PM |
| 34 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"I've heard about people experiencing this and I totally get what you are talking about. In Chinese we call this "yuanfen". I've yet to experience such positive yuanfen with a guy who turns out to be "the one". There were times when I clicked with men I met but then I later found out they were taken and I ultimately distanced myself away from them. That was the "closest" I got to this feeling. It sometimes felt like we met (or even were a couple) in a previous life but they found someone else in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 04:09 PM |
| 92 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"I'm Chinese and there's the expectation that you have to respect your in-laws and obey them. Many Chinese families like to meet up all the time and in-laws are expected to attend all of the meetings (some meet as frequently as once every week). This will really suck if your SO's family members are LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:56 PM |
| 140 | I'm now less obsessed with finding "the one"Yes a lot of women are pressured to date at a young age as they're being told that all the good men will become taken very quickly, women hit the wall quicker than men, and men don't like older women as they are infertile. Scrotes like to rant about how it sucks to be a men in the dating game, but let's be honest, they never have to deal with the pressure to get married before a certain age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 94 | Men being labor and emotional diggers is real problem not the so-called gold diggers who is only doing what is biologically naturalContrary to what scrotes claim, women succeeding in gold digging is not even that common (certainly way less common than men labour and emotional digging). Most women I know only dated and married within their social class. Sometimes the woman is wealthier than the guy. How can gold digging occur in these cases? While some women do want an ultra wealthy SO, most do not succeed in finding such an SO. When rich men date outside of their social class, they often go for a specific type of woman (i.e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 11:44 AM |
| 13 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menAnd what they like about Asian women is based on stereotypes about Asian women being feminine, skinny, submissive, and having "a tight pu**y". Some of them do admire Asian women due to stereotypes of Asians being intelligent but at the end of the day it's a stereotype. A relationship based on stereotypes isn't healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 11:02 AM |
| 7 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menSo you're saying, if they don't look creepy, they could exude creepiness by the way they talk? Could you elaborate? I'm not the person who initially responded to you but the thing is a lot of white men with yellow fever view Asians with Orientalism. They will make comments related to Orientalism at some point. There are also racist white men who act condescending around POC. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:49 AM |
| 24 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menSome white men go for WOC because they have trouble attracting white women and think it's easier to attract WOC. There are all these stereotypes of WOC putting whiteness on a pedestal and misogynistic and racist white men like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:46 AM |
| 29 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menWhen I did something "good" it was attributed to my white/Irish side, but when I did something "bad", or when my ex (in the US) or his friends wanted to poke fun at me, my black/latina sides were blamed and attacked. Wow that was totally racist. I'm sorry this happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:41 AM |
| 40 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menAnother edit: if they keep bringing up how you’re hotter than their own race … that’s triangulation This. Some POC men do this to their monoracial SOs too despite being the same race as them, negging them by saying how they think white and half white women are generally hotter than women of their SOs' race. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:40 AM |
| 6 | Precautions for POC women while seeing/dating white menI'm Asian. I think yellow fever is a form of Orientalism. A guy with yellow fever will hence probably say stuff related to Orientalism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 10:35 AM |
| 6 | Boyfriend buys diamonds yet complains about a 5 $ teaHe was pretending to be a guy willing to spend money on luxuries for you when he's actually frugal. | /r/askFDS | 10/02/22 12:54 AM |
| 6 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?That will work. Thanks! | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 05:21 PM |
| 12 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?I'm not threatened by these female celebrities. My point is wondering if this is a sign that he objectives women but tbh men can find hot female celebrities inspiring and follow them on social media for this reason. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 7 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?My point is how can I know if a guy is following a hot female celebrity because he finds her inspiring or because he is objectifying women? | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 05:18 PM |
| 7 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?all provocative content Not all women admired by men for their looks post provocative content though (e.g. Emma Watson and Taylor Swift). | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 01:54 PM |
| 9 | When does it become problematic for men to follow female public figures on social media?How can you be sure if a guy is following a hot celebrity as he sees them as inspirational or simply likes them because they are hot? Some celebrities are both very attractive and inspirational. Oh and to be fair some women also follow men they see as hot too so how is it different from men following hot too? I guess women are much less likely to fantasise about degrading a hot guy during sex but most men will never publicly admit having these fantasies. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/22 12:27 PM |
| 109 | He’s picky af! 7-8ths are only for banging not love.Yes. Plenty of men want to date 10/10 supermodels. It's just that they know these women are a rarity and will almost never be interested in them so they go for women with a girl next door vibe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 11:04 AM |
| 2 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYes I remember someone here posted about feeling devastated and wanting to look more Asian after finding out his boyfriend had yellow fever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:59 AM |
| 2 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYeah beauty trends are like fashion trends. It's constantly changing to pressure people to spend money on new products (or surgeries in terms of looks). Plastic surgeons earn so much from women who feel insecure about their looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 2 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsI highly suspect POC men who shit on women of their own race for being unattractive wish they were white themselves. Obviously they can never become white, so they want a white SO and half white kids as this is the "closest" they can get to being white. White men who fetishise Asian women are somewhat different. Yes, it has to do with men wanting "exotic" women but yellow fever has to do with Orientalism and stereotypes of Asian women being submissive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 10:51 AM |
| 52 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"A lot of men younger than the age of 30 (especially men still in uni) are broke or living paycheck to paycheck and frugal. They don't see themselves as being able to afford paying for dates but still want a girlfriend for sex and social status. They hence go for women open to splitting the bill and claim it's "feminist" to do that when in reality, they just want a girlfriend with as little monetary investment as possible. Many of these men are also immature and think it's ok to date around (aka … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:11 PM |
| 25 | "All the good men are taken! They're all married by now!"I've heard some men born into the working class with little career ambition want to snag a girlfriend before graduating uni as they believe women are generally much pickier in terms of their SO's wealth after they leave uni. I guess high school dropouts also think in a similar manner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 18 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listthey once even crowdfunded a porno where an Asian man fucked a white woman Seriously? I didn't know about that. I only know Eurasian Tiger (former mod of the Hapas sub) got into some fishy relationship with a Greek vlogger despite how he's married to a Chinese woman. They complain about Asian women putting white men on a pedestal yet they fetishise white women themselves. I also once saw this guy on Aznidentity asking in another sub if white women living in his area were interested in meeting hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 03:58 PM |
| 24 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listHe was into mixed exotic women from his own ethnicity. There was a specific look and aesthetic to these girls being that they looked like ABG import models. I've noticed this for some of the Asian men I know. They have a thing for Eurasian women and are obsessed with Eurasian public figures such as Emma Raducanu. Many of these Asians men are in a relationship with Asian women, and I wonder if they would go for Eurasian women instead if they could snag one as a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:31 PM |
| 72 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listI think a lot of people are drawn to use social media as they enjoy bragging about their lives. This isn't a HV trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:17 PM |
| 40 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listMen like to claim being obsessed with female celebrities is the same as women being obsessed with male celebrities, but I've yet to meet a woman who fantasises about degrading a male celebrity during sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:15 PM |
| 27 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listYeah. Some men added coworkers on their real Instagram account so they probably don't want to follow pornstars with that account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:10 PM |
| 27 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listI have something to ask. Is it really such a red flag if a guy follows hot female public figures when he's single? I mean some single women do follow hot male public figures too but I guess the main difference is that women will not fantasise about degrading the male public figures during sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 10:40 AM |
| 34 | If you ever want to get over an infatuation/crush, just check their Instagram follow listYeah, and they almost always only follow female Olympic athletes who are conventionally attractive. It's even more suspicious if they are not into sports themselves and live a physically inactive lifestyle. Why are they suddenly so obsessed with an athlete if they don't even give a shit about sports? It's even more fishy if he only follows female athletes but not male ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 09:49 AM |
| 26 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsOh yes, I've heard of pale blondes being overrepresented in Southern European media when most of the whites there are brunettes with tan skin. It's not that different from Asians with large eyes, double eyelids, and tall nose bridges being overrepresented in Asian media despite how Asians can naturally have all od these traits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:22 PM |
| 8 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsI'm not sure where you're located but I genuinely haven't heard this kind of talk (where anything positive gets complimented in a comparison to Caucasian features) for decades. I'm from Hong Kong and I sometimes here Asians say stuff like that. Many of these Asians are from older generations and have never lived in the West. IMO Asians who are living or had lived in the West are less likely to make these racial comparison statements as western cultures focus more on political correctness in term… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:20 PM |
| 14 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYeah I've met Asian me vocal about how they think Eurasian women are more likely to be beautiful than Asian women. As someone who is full Asian, I can never be sure if they truly think thay way or were trying to neg Asian women but given how your ex said that to you (and you're Eurasian), I assume he really thinks like that. The obsession with a V-shaped face definitely exists. However, I wonder I don't think this has much to do with western beauty standards. I don't think it's particularly comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:13 PM |
| 14 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYeah only a small minority of white women resemble Victoria's Secret models. Most beauty standards of the world have a narrow definition of what it means to be beautiful and pressures women to chase that unobtainable image. However, I think the difference is at the end of the day, western beauty standards are less affected by the beauty standards of other cultures than Asian ones. Again, this is something that goes back to the colonial period. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:07 PM |
| 60 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYeah. A lot of these men just want an SO to show off as a trophy. Not that different from their obsession with Ferraris I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:04 PM |
| 34 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsIn countries where the majority has dark skin they value white skin more In countries where the majority has white skin they value tanned/dark skin more. Yup. I can't help but feel like the makeup industry is selling unachievable beauty standards to earn money. No women would buy their products if they felt like they naturally looked beautiful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 03:35 PM |
| 16 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsAs an Asian, of course I know not all Asians have monolids. I'm southern Chinese and I actually think double eyelids are more common here. However, Asian women with monolids are underrepresented in Asian media (excluding token ones who aren't celebrated for their looks). Specific eye shapes, sizes, bust size, and nose size are also not specific to a certain race. However, when you hear Asians praising another Asian with large eyes with double eyelids for "having beautiful Cacasianish eyes" and A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 03:34 PM |
| 51 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYeah I guess looking mixed with a predominant Caucasian phenotype is "trendy". A lot of winners of international beauty pageants are Latinas who look mostly Caucasian as opposed to blonde white women (which I guess was the historical western beauty standard). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:57 PM |
| 69 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsI'm sorry this happened to you. I'm East Asian, and I think while East Asians are less vocal about favouring western looks, it's definitely there. I guess East Asians favoured pale skin long before the colonial era, but hmm, I doubt they were that obsessed with other "western" features back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:55 PM |
| 62 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsYou're right. I guess scrotes want to have sex with a "variety" of women and will feel bored even if his SO is a supermodel. Scrotes are never satisfied... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:53 PM |
| 27 | I'm sick of Eurocentric beauty standardsThis is true, but for the other "western" features, I'm really curious if Asians favoured these features before the colonial era. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:51 PM |
| 10 | Singles events and speed dating popping up around Valentines day?I don't think singles events work. Chances are the men you come across have little in common with you (besides how they're supposedly single). Single's events are also filled with desperate LV scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 10:31 AM |
| 18 | "The Tinder Swindler" on Netflix is a parade of red flags 🚩🚩🚩I haven't seen the show but I've read about it. I guess the women who got scammed thought that won the dating "lottery" by attacking an Israeli billionaire and hence refused to let him go and chose to ignore the red flags. Seriously, almost all billionares don't need OLD to find an SO as they are probably swarmed with women. Even if they do use OLD, they probably have little reason to look for an SO abroad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:34 PM |
| 18 | Stop fucking falling in love with "potential"!Scrotes talk about their "potential" as they don't have much to offer now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:30 PM |
| 9 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?There is a post in the handbook on personality disorders. It's hard for me to pinpoint a specific sign but sometimes you just know. Trust your intuition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:10 PM |
| 10 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?I see this more as a lovebombing tactic not unique to men with mental health issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 10:17 AM |
| 1 | PSA: Tinder will stop showing your account to people nearby if you're inactive for several days, so don't fall for "I deleted this app ages ago but didn't know I need to deactivate my profile separately!"I assume everyone will get very few matches if inactive accounts are shown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 10:15 AM |
| 3 | Spotted this ad under "housing" on craigslist 😬This is so creepy. I remember seeing men post similar "ads" on Reddit too but I can't remember which sub was that in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:09 PM |
| 8 | I don’t know what to say other than ewwwww!Why was she talking about herself as if she was a farm animal? Nah sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:08 PM |
| 16 | PSA: Tinder will stop showing your account to people nearby if you're inactive for several days, so don't fall for "I deleted this app ages ago but didn't know I need to deactivate my profile separately!"Yeah. When I was playing around with Tinder, I got many matches. I was inactive for some time and when I returned to using Tinder, I didn't get that many matches so I guess Tinder hid my profile. For another OLD app (can't remember if it's Bumble or Coffee Meets Bagel), I actually got messages saying my account will not be visible if I remain inactive when I didn't use the app for some time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 05:50 PM |
| 44 | Cooking together in a new relationship - wifey shit?Yeah, make it clear you don't want to do all of the cooking after marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 01:53 PM |
| 4 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenI think some do know they can never compete with attractive and rich men so they "settle" for women they see as less attractive. Still, this is what I mean. Some men think they are desirable enough to snag an SO hot enough to model so they look down upon and refuse to date women they see as less attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 09:12 AM |
| 7 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenAt this point, I assume that if I am interested, there is a high likelihood they are already snatched up Same here. It's hard to be "first". It makes me want to give up on finding a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:54 AM |
| 6 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenHow common is it for a guy to withhold from dating as he has some other stuff going on? I've yet to meet a guy who did that irl. The men I know who are extremely busy due to having a full-time job while studying part-time do have SOs. I know it's possible for me not to chase you other than him being already taken, but I think this way of thinking helps me to know how to act around them. I guess I have a subconscious tendency to avoid interacting with men I am attracted to who havent signalled th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:53 AM |
| 9 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenYup this is why having a crush is not a good thing. It'll make you see the guy in a romanticised manner and ignore the red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:50 AM |
| 43 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenMixed signals often mean the guy is using you for attention while not wanting commitment as a couple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 10:49 AM |
| 63 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenThat was an FDS post as I saw that here too. And yes, a lot of times I was obsessed with my crushes as I admired a trait of theirs and idealised them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 06:38 PM |
| 54 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenI definitely experienced limerance. For me, it would occur when I came across a guy who was my type and I felt "the spark" (this rarely happens for me). I would become obsessed with them as I would see them as "the one" and refuse to let them go, believing signaling my interest in them would result in them asking me out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:58 PM |
| 87 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenSmiling and complimenting them once or twice is more than enough. Most men will think “She wants me” if you look in their direction. Yes. Similar to how a pick me will overanalyse any interaction between her and her crush, a guy interested in you will overanalyse all of your actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:54 PM |
| 81 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenYeah it's impossible to be happily married to a guy who doesn't even like you to the point of asking you out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:53 PM |
| 62 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenThey usually aren’t chasing you because they’re taken That has been my experience too. But I guess some men decide not to chase you as you're not their type or they perceive themselves as "out of your league"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:52 PM |
| 166 | Act around men you are attracted to but haven't signaled their interest in you yet as if they were takenYeah I agree it's a waste of time. All of my crushes did not lead to a relationship and only led to sadness and embarrassment. The sooner you can move on from having a crush on a guy the less you suffer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 04:51 PM |
| 32 | Prefer meeting men spontaneously and organicallyLol your post tittle is similar to a thread I created so I guess this is common. For me, it was hard to move past dmall talk on OLD as I was avoiding disclosing too much about myself so there wasn't much to talk about. | /r/askFDS | 01/02/22 06:57 AM |
| 115 | Does the quality of men you attract affect your self esteem?This. IMO a lot of men go for the most popular girl in their social circles regardless of how desirable they are. Some know it is unlikely they'll get a girl out of their league but since it's free, they'll try it anyway. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 03:46 PM |
| 2 | Staying safe on OLDWhat happened after you went to the police station? Did he immediately fled away? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:32 AM |
| 3 | Staying safe on OLDYeah it seems like most men on OLD are looking for free sex. In the past, men had to put more effort into pursuing women or pay prostitutes in order to have sex. These days, scrotes think they can have free sex just by messaging women on OLD. I don't think these success stories are as rare as 1 in a million but these couples are definitely a minority. I've yet to meet a woman who found a HVM via OLD irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:29 AM |
| 2 | Staying safe on OLDI agree it's much safer to meet people with mutual friends irl. I had met online friends irl and we had mutual Facebook friends. I had matched with men who were second-degree connections with me on Tinder. They almost immediately asked if I wanted to have sex with them after matching with me. I've yet to match with men who were first-degree connections. Some men like to use nicknames on OLD or social media websites. How can you find info related to them if they use nicknames? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 11:00 AM |
| 3 | Staying safe on OLDOh yes, they delude themselves into thinking they are "chick magnets". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:45 AM |
| 3 | Staying safe on OLDYeah I feel like these men want the phone numbers of women to stalk them. They're so creepy. Given how these men are so comfortable with giving away their numbers to strangers on OLD, I won't be surprised if they used fake phone numbers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:45 AM |
| 2 | Staying safe on OLDIf you’re really worried about it, insist he see a provider that provides results through an online patient portal…that can’t be faked This is a good suggestion. Will a HVM be willing to do this though? I've yet to meet someone who really did this before having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:43 AM |
| 4 | Staying safe on OLDThe fact that men literally don't have to do or worry about any of this really says alot about modern dating Men almost never had to worry about being sexually harassed or assaulted since antiquity... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Staying safe on OLDYeah that was a smart move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:38 AM |
| 2 | Staying safe on OLDWow this was so creepy. I'm sorry this happened to you. How did you know he was following you if the two of you didn't meet irl? It could be hard to recognise someone based on photos (and many men use fake or photoshopped photos on OLD). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:38 AM |
| 2 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳I thought the animal was a cat too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 10:35 AM |
| 6 | Staying safe on OLDThanks for sharing. How can I know when I can trust a guy to the point of revealing my last name, place of work, etc? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 08:16 PM |
| 51 | This poor woman thinks this is funny 😳Why would any woman want a trophy like that? Imagine having such a NSFW trophy displayed at home when guests come to your home for a visit... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:17 PM |
| 12 | Staying safe on OLDI used a nickname on OLD and also avoided talking about anything too personal on OLD. The problem is it was very hard to move past small talk when I avoided disclosing too much about myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:08 PM |
| 12 | Staying safe on OLDIt's true that men irl can be LV while men on OLD can be HV. However, I think it's much easier for men on OLD to fabricate their identity than men you met irl. It's really hard for a guy to lie about his name and occupation when you two met via a mutual friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:05 PM |
| 5 | Staying safe on OLDThese fuckers like the anonymous nature of other apps; they know that if they send dirty stuff via the dating app they'll get kicked off. Won't they be banned if you report them for harassing you outside of the OLD apps too? It's so much safer, avoids wasting time, shows you who he is, gives you ALL the power and control. Why should you take the risk of meeting him in public when 99% of the time he's gonna be a waste of your time? Yes, and you don't need to worry about getting COVID-19 from a gu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:40 PM |
| 9 | Staying safe on OLDI'll admit I am not comfortable with using OLD. This is one of the reasons why while I had played around with OLD, I had never met any guy I talked to there irl. I think the chances of some guy I meet irl via OLD being a psychopath with a criminal record is very unlikely but it's not impossible. Using OLD to seriously meet men will really be "a last resort" for me given how here are safer ways to meet men. OLD is a cesspool of trash men, so you're not missing anything if you decide not to do it.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:29 PM |
| 16 | Staying safe on OLDI've noticed how a lot of men on OLD list themselves as business owners. I think it's often either euphemism for having odd gigs or being engaged in illegal activities (eg. being a drug dealer) or their way or pretending to be rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:14 PM |
| 7 | Staying safe on OLDHe either gave you a false name or lied about his job or other aspects of his life. If he told you he is a scientist, doctor, author of any kind, owns his own business, is/was a pro athlete, artist etc. etc... pretty much any job where you would want possible customers and future employers to be able to find you and nothing related to that pops up when you google his name, he lied. And some men work in jobs that require a professional license. In most countries they list the names of the people … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 05:10 PM |
| 3 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.Well there are matchmakers doing this by doing criminal record checks of all of its members but many of these matchmakers are expensive as fuck and even meeting just one guy can cost more than USD100. I hate how matchmakers take advantage of women wanting the guy they meet to be checked for a criminal record by charging loads of money for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:42 PM |
| 22 | Staying safe on OLDI googled his name while he was still away from the table and the very first hit was his Level 3 sex offender status for sex crimes- he had just been released from prison for a ten year sentence for rape. This was so creepy. I'm sorry this happened to you. But yeah, I am scared of this happening to me. Yes, it's important to google a guy prior to meeting, but I assume some men may want to use a nickname or something on OLD to avoid revealing too much about themselves. I know some women to this o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 03:02 PM |
| 12 | Staying safe on OLDIs there the risk that the guy can ask someone to follow you around with a car? It seems very unlikely but not impossible. It's really hard to have a 100% safe exit strategy once you meet the guy irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:52 PM |
| 15 | Staying safe on OLDThis happened to me on OLD apps without this requirement (eg. Tinder). It also happened to me on language exchange apps. I can't help but feel like these men want your personal info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:42 PM |
| 11 | Staying safe on OLDThey do it to send dirty photos Can't they send them via the chat function of OLD apps too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:41 PM |
| 9 | Staying safe on OLDWhat's that about? And men on OLD liked to ask for Whatsapp contact info long before the QR code existed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:29 PM |
| 34 | Staying safe on OLDDo not let someone talk you into going to or passing through a secondary location of his choosing from your agreed upon meeting spot or agree to sudden changes of plans. If he tells you to "take a shortcut somewhere" (that incidentally leads through a lonely alley or park...) or "show you that cool secret spot just a 5 minute walk away" or "I'm just around the corner, can you meet me there? I'll give you the coordinates" or texts you "Oh no, the restraurant I wanted to take you to is closed! I'l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:24 PM |
| 19 | Staying safe on OLDIf you keep dating How do you know you can trust a guy to the point of going to each other's home and having sex? I think going from being strangers to the point of being exclusive requires a great leap of faith even with careful vetting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:20 PM |
| 43 | Staying safe on OLDWhen I was on OLD way too many men asked if they could have number as it's easier to communicate via Whatsapp. I wonder why so many men are desperate about getting the numbers of women on OLD. Communicating on OLD is not that inconvenient. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 02:19 PM |
| 6 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?Because they think "going on an adventure" is something positive and "masculine". It's not that different from scotes seeing speed driving as something positive and bragging about how fast they can drive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:56 AM |
| 57 | He forgets about her bday and ignores her, but he (finally) surprises her! Is this a new rock bottom?What gifts? He's unemployed. Those are "presents", he bought with her own money. Yeah. They are not really gifts if he bought them with her money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 11:51 AM |
| 2 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.I think they know they're lying. They're lying on purpose to get laid or scam women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 10:14 AM |
| 7 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wife50k is not that little. It's certainly enough to live a decent life in a developed country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.This man is clearly very good at manipulating women Yeah I guess the women believed he was rich after seeing the private plane.They probably thought he couldn't be faking about his wealth as it's almost unheard of for conmen to buy a private plane just to scam women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:26 PM |
| 6 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.Most men on OLD are either catfishes, scammers, or fuckboys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 02:22 PM |
| 16 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.The women thought they had won the dating "lottery" by snagging a rich boyfriend so refused to let him go. They probably also truly thought he was rich so thought it would be impossible for him to be a scammer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:04 PM |
| 76 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.And it's really fishy how all these men on OLD claim to be rich. Rich people are a minority. Why is a disproportionate proportion of men on OLD rich? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 02:02 PM |
| 51 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.I think these women thought they won the dating "lottery" for being able to snag a billionaire boyfriend so they put him on a pedestal and ignored the red flags. Yeah I assume billionaires are swarmed with women so billonionares have little reason to use OLD let alone look for an SO who doesn't live in the same country as them. And when they date, they almost always either date extremely hot or wealthy women. And yup, if a guy is a rich enough to afford a private jet, then it's super odd for him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:49 PM |
| 70 | Conman pretended to be a rich guy to scam women he met on OLD. Nope, just nope.And the fact that this guy claimed to be very rich makes the whole thing seems more odd. If he was rich to the point of affording a private jet, why would he need to borrow money from others? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 01:37 PM |
| 36 | Cars, driving, and HVM: another good testAnother red flag is men who are into speed driving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:05 PM |
| 16 | How to approach multi-dating?Unfortunately men irl are not always better... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 11:01 AM |
| 17 | How to approach multi-dating?This. Even finding one guy seems tough. And men irl are not always better too. I haven't met a single HVM who I am attracted to who likes me back so far in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 10:59 AM |
| 41 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsThis. Sounds like OP swiped right for every female profile he came across. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:41 AM |
| 66 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingYeah I saw this before. It was so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:38 AM |
| 2 | Advice on not being attracted to HVM mom introduced?Sounds like OP's mother really wants OP to get married soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:10 PM |
| 3 | Advice on not being attracted to HVM mom introduced?He doesn't seem HV. Just ignore him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 01:10 PM |
| 57 | Should we avoid dating men of certain occupations if we don't want kids?Oh I don't want kids. You're right that men who work with kids may not want kids themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 11:31 AM |
| 95 | Man pretends to be doctor, lawyer and council official to control his girlfriend. Story in the comments:I've heard of scrotes pretending to be rich lawyers and doctors on OLD, but this was taking catfishing to a whole new level... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:46 PM |
| 19 | Man pretends to be doctor, lawyer and council official to control his girlfriend. Story in the comments:What the actual fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 01:12 PM |
| 137 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherThe fact that he lied about his height probably means he's lying about other stuff. Given how this guy is a stranger you met online, how cab you know the other stuff he said to you is the truth? He's probably also masking other negative personality traits around you. You had only been on four dates with him and that was too short to observe much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 11:08 AM |
| 1 | Need some advice regarding this guy I'm talking toI think the issue is he decided to match with you before moving to your location. A guy who is not desperate for sex will probably wait until after moving before he starts looking for an SO in the new area. The fact that he got matched with you prior to moving to your area gives me the impression that this guy cannot stand the thought of not having sex for a while so wants you "lined up" as an option. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/22 11:03 AM |
| 5 | FDS tips for getting over a crush??Since you barely know this guy, I guess your brain is just filling in the gaps of what you don't know about him with a romanticised version of him. Acknowledge what you like about him may be just a figment of your imagination. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/22 10:57 AM |
| 17 | What does it mean if a man gives you his number in a business/singles environment?He was probably trying to test the waters by starting off with "professional" contact. But seriously, do you want to date someone that old? By the time you're in your 40s, he will be old enough to retire. | /r/askFDS | 19/01/22 10:55 AM |
| 72 | This trended on r / starter packs with a lot of men gaslighting women’s experiences in the comments 🤦♀️This. When I played around with OLD, very few men messaged me first. It similarly hurted my self esteem, but then I realised a lot of men on OLD were probably just trying to see how many matches they could get to see how popular they were or were not bothered make the first move as they got matched with a lot of women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:50 AM |
| 108 | This trended on r / starter packs with a lot of men gaslighting women’s experiences in the comments 🤦♀️Most men on Tinder (and really any OLD site) are looking for free sex instead of love. The ones who are looking for something serious often have deal breakers or other undesirable traits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:47 AM |
| 251 | A disussion about men's heights and lies thereof with my HV fatherYour dad said what I want to say. It's not the height that's a deal breaker but the lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 10:45 AM |
| 22 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.Well there is the male anglerfish being a sexual parasite. Are they the marine equivalents of hobosexuals? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:53 AM |
| 24 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.The blobfish (top left corner) actually looks much better in its natural habitat. It just becomes "saggy" when taken out of underwater trenches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:39 AM |
| 10 | There are plenty more fish in the bucket.Was this made to shame women instead of men? The fish at the top right corner has a "Karen" haircut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:38 AM |
| 12 | Forgive yourself for past mistakes with men, but never forgetI agree. This applies to all learning experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 12:36 AM |
| 96 | We don't do that no moreSounds like this scrote wants free housekeeping, therapy, and sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 2 | Could dating be anymore discouraging for women today? 🤦♀️ I found a log book today that logs potential online dating matchesThis. Plenty of guys swipe right for every woman. I suspect some are using OLD just to see how many matches they can get to get an idea of how popular they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:36 PM |
| 25 | On dating married menSeriously why "date" a married guy? It's so fishy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 11:28 AM |
| 49 | Epiphany! HVM are NOT entitledScrotes are incapable of being thankful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 11:47 AM |
| 1 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?Yeah it'll be hard to relate to someone who grew up around yachts and luxury cars when you didn't. People from different social classes tend to have different hobbies, goals, and personal values. The power imbalance is definitely an issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:45 PM |
| 3 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?I don't think I will ever want to date an ultra-rich guy, but I do prefer a guy who is somewhat wealthier than me. And I guess you're right that I never have to worry about whether the guy likes me or not. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:43 PM |
| 1 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?Yeah I come from a culture that values collectivism and family ties. I assume most families dislike the idea of their sons dating women they see as "below their league". I hence don't know if it's ever worth it to date a guy with more social status than me. It'll probably come with great family resistance and being looked down uppn by his family members. I assume most men are unwilling to stand up for their SOs in front of their family members and even if they do, it's hard to avoid the guy's fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 01:40 PM |
| 29 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?Yeah I guess if it's meant to be, it will happen naturally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:26 PM |
| 16 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?I think it's hard to relate to someone who grew up around yachts and luxury cars when you don't. The hobbies and personal values of people from different social classes will probably be very different. I'm not from the West too. I live in Asia, and the thing here is even if a guy is ok with dating a woman with less social status than him, his family may still frown upon the relationship and treat you miserably to get you to break up with their son. This is why I think dating a guy with much more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:25 PM |
| 52 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?You're right. If he wanted to, he would. I don't think I will ever want to date an ultra-wealthy guy. It's just that I don't know how wealthy is too wealthy to be compatible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:22 PM |
| 20 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?Youre right that beauty is subjective. And I guess unattractive LVM do go for attractive women (or really any woman) just to see if they will "get lucky" and will then date the hottest girl they can snag as a girlfriend. Not that different from people buying lottery tickets to see if they will "get lucky" even if they know it the chances of them winning the lottery is close to impossible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 02:07 PM |
| 67 | How much of an issue are "leagues" in dating?This is true. A lot of men who look extremely good on paper are LV. However, I do think a HVW librarian probably has little in common with a HVM multi-millionaire businessman. I don't think high valueness is enough to make things work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 01:54 PM |
| 10 | Current guy I’m talking to lied about his height on dating appYes it's a red flag. His height is not really the problem but the lie is definitely an issue. If this guy is comfortable with the idea of lying about his height (which is so easy to observe as soon as you two meet irl), who knows what else he is lying about? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 11:06 AM |
| 16 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?You're right about chemistry. Chemistry at first sight is definitely a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:56 AM |
| 33 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?since many of them know who they want to marry within the early stages of meeting a woman Don't the way most men make this decision is based on whether the woman is his type? IMO it's still leaning towards lust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:55 AM |
| 1 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofYou're right, but I won't be surprised if someone with multiple accounts deliberately posted in a somewhat different style with alt accounts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 12:53 AM |
| 7 | OLD Men that use nicknames / different alphabets when they don't speak that languageThink about it, it makes it harder for a wife or girlfriend to find him if he's using a fake name and moving off the dating app quickly Of he doesn't want the women he got matched with to find out he is cheating by googling him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofI remember when Reddit banned all these racist subs a few years ago, a lot of users on Aznidentity (and Hapas) freaked out as they were worried about the sub being banned. If they aren't racist, why were they so worried about being banned? IIRC the mods of Hapas even made the sub private as they didn't want Reddit the notice the sub and ban it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:20 PM |
| 4 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofYeah I feel like a lot of the hapa men of the sub dislike hapa women. They probably think it's easier for hapa women to find a white SO than them and resent you guys because of this. They shit on hapa women who date white women as white worshipers yet they want to date white women themselves. Go figure. Your username made me thought of Eurasian Tiger and all those other accounts with "Eurasian" in the username. It was fishy how so many of these "Eurasian" accounts posted in a similar style and d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:16 PM |
| 2 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofYeah I feel like some WMAF hapas shit on all WMAF couples simply because they hate their parents. And yes, a lot of Asian men are sexist. They expect their wives to do all of the chores, think it's OK to disrespect their SOs, and see themselves as smarter than women. Some are even physically violent and will beat and kick their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 02:01 PM |
| 9 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofYeah, I suspect a lot of the members of Aznidentity (and the Hapas sub) are white worshipers. They will not tolerate racist Asian jokes but they do want a white SO as a sign that "they've made it". Eurasian Tiger (former mod of the Hapas sub) is one such example. He claimed to be woke but his actions speak louder than words. Despite being married to a Chinese woman, he got into a fishy "relationship" with Greek vlogger Persephone Narra as soon as she showed some interest in his content. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 01:47 PM |
| 15 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofOh yes, there a lot of Asian men with internalised racism who see white (and hapa) women as generally more attractive than Asian women. And when they like Asian women, they prefer women with more "Euro" features such as double eyelids and a high nose bridge. They want half white kids as status symbols and some will even push them into modeling and the entertainment industry. Some Asian men like to shit on Asian women for wanting to look hapa to attract white men who prefer Caucasianish women, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 01:34 PM |
| 54 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofDon't forget just because an Asian guy is neither white worshiping and doesn't shit on Asian women outside of their race, it doesn't mean he is HV. Plenty of Asian men who are only interested in dating Asian women and don't shit on WMAF are scotes in the sense of thinking it's ok to have a placeholder girlfriend or cheat emotionally, telling a lot of lies, being misogynistic, being addicted to porn or video games, or having poor hygiene. Your username reminds me of those who are members of the H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 05:21 PM |
| 139 | Types of men that Asian women need to be wary ofI actually discovered this sub as some men on Aznidentity shitposted about this sub there. That sub (and formerly the Hapas sub) loves to talk about why it's a bad idea of Asian women to date white men with yellow fever but I doubt they think like this due to genuinely caring for Asian women. I think they hate WMAF (white male x Asian female) couples simply because they don't want to compete with white men and they're jealous of how it's generally easier for Asian women to find a white SO than t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 02:26 PM |
| 39 | Success Stories?I'm still single. I still haven't come across a HVM I am attracted to who likes me back but I'm perfectly fine on my own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:41 AM |
| 2 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮Or women are ok with dating a men much less attractive and not wealthier than them but the men wouldn't have done the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 08:39 AM |
| 7 | Week 1- May we all chase after our dreams this year like a retriever after a ballWow, I didn't know there's a Level Up Strategy sub! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 11:15 AM |
| 38 | Pickmeisha me vs FDS enlightened me:I've never dated but back when I was unwoke I view my crushes in a romanticised manner. Obviously that didn't lead to any happiness for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:52 AM |
| 11 | Take the advice given by the guy you like with a grain of saltYeah. Viewing advice as a personal opinion as opposed to something that can guide you will make you less likely to blindly believe what others suggested to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 04:19 PM |
| 13 | Take the advice given by the guy you like with a grain of saltYeah I agree women can also give bad advice. A lot of people give advice half-heartedly regardless of whether they are male or female. It's just that if you're heterosexual and the person giving you advice is a guy you like, you're more vulnerable to blindly believing all of his advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Do any of you NOT want to get married one day?I don't want to get married. The law requires couples to combine their assets and then split it in half if they fail to agree on how the money should be split up. Getting married hence seems risky financially given how there is no way to fully "prove" a guy is HV. I'm also Asian and theres the culture of daughter-in-laws being expected to prioritise the needs of their parents-in-laws before her own needs. I don't like that. I can get away with this by having a "forever boyfriend" who lives with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 11:28 AM |
| 91 | Although painful at first, this perspective will save you so much grief in the long run. A man who is sincere about you will not play mind games. If commitment is not spoken AND shown, it’s overMixed signals = the scrote using you for free attention or sex | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:11 AM |
| 5 | HVMs are not unicornsI agree with what you've said. HVM are a true minority. I think the abundance mindset strategy is just a way of thinking to prevent women becoming pick mes for a particular guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:06 AM |
| 11 | HVMs are not unicornsDid you ask your HVW friends to set you up with HVM? I think that's a nice way to meeting men but I don't know if it will be a bad idea as asking to be set up with men is technically the woman taking initiative and FDS is against that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:04 AM |
| 49 | HVMs are not unicornsYeah. People you're compatible with as life partners are a true minority. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:03 AM |
| 12 | HVMs are not unicornsIf a HVM isn't interested in you then he aint the one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 11:02 AM |
| 49 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.Many of these scrotes know that deep down, looks matter. A lot of them have an inferiority complex to men they see as "chads" despite being vocal about looks mattering less for men. Many of these unattractive scrotes will hence try to control an SO they see as more attractive than themselves due to fearing they will leave them for someone more attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:53 AM |
| 68 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.It doesn't help that a lot of women are brainwashed to think they can tolerate any form of sex with an SO even if they don't enjoy it. Since so many pick mes are willing to put up with bad sex, scrotes are not bothered to make sex enjoyable for women. Things are different for men. Almost all men will orgasm as long as they have someone or something to stick their dick into. Scrotes also like to shame women who they see as "not fun" during sex by shaming them as "starfish in bed" or whatsoever so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:49 AM |
| 0 | How can I meet men who meet my preferences?Yeah I guess you're right. It's all chance and luck. | /r/askFDS | 04/01/22 11:35 AM |
| 72 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.I think deep inside, men know their looks matter. There's a reason why unattractive men rant about "chads" stealing all the hot women. It's just that scrotes at uni are either too lazy to put an effort into their looks or believe their education and future career can compensate for their lack of hygiene. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:33 AM |
| 5 | What classifies as social media red flags?Always liking the posts of other women in their social circles and tagging them in posts despite being in a relationship. These women are often the most conventionally attractive in their social circles and I doubt this is a coincidence. A guy who respects his SO should maintain some distance away from other women to avoid sending the wrong signal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:23 AM |
| 30 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.Men know looks matter. There's a reason why unattractive men rant about "chads" stealing all the hot women from them. It's just that many scrotes are too lazy to put an effort into looking good. For those born with unattractive physical features, many don't get plastic surgery despite expecting women they see as unattractive to do that. They are either too poor to afford plastic surgery, look down upon women as a cohort so don't think getting plastic surgery to attract women they see as "inferio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:51 AM |
| 84 | It is SO easy for women to access sexGetting laid is nothing to be proud of The same applies to being in a relationship. It's super easy for any women to obtain that given how some men are desperate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 10:47 AM |
| 6 | My sister is dating a guy who lied about having kids, thoughts?Nope. Lying about something so important is a HUGE red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 01:04 PM |
| 7 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.Language exchange websites are basically websites where you chat with soneone in the language you want to practice. Most conversations die down due to failure to move past small talk or you come across creeps asking for your phone number. I'm Asian. The thing about Asians is that there is sexual racism against Asian males in the West. Asian women are fetishised whereas Asian men are emasculated. It's hence easier for Asian women to "integrate" into western culture via marriage although the white… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 12:59 AM |
| 13 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexYeah usually because these men do want kids as their "legacy" and they want to have them with an "official" wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 12:07 PM |
| 17 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.Yeah language exchange websites as filled with horny scrotes. I used language exchange websites in the past. The vast majority of guys I came across would immediately ask for my number after a few messages. When I said no they would stop contacting me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:56 AM |
| 10 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.I guess these men shitted on the appearance of these women due to sour grapes. Not that different from scrotes talking about how they hate hot women as they are "whores". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:51 AM |
| 55 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendShe might not have died if her friend immediately sought for help after she got locked outside of her apartment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:41 AM |
| 55 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendIt's sick that men are into this shit to the point of paying to see it. They could have spent the money on making the world a better place, but nope, they had to spend it on watching a guy abusing his girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:33 AM |
| 26 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendYeah. She might not have died if someone sought for help right after she got locked outside of their home. They waited too long to seek help for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:30 AM |
| 31 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendAnd this guy got paid to abuse his girlfriend. How ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 11:28 AM |
| 1 | Would you persevere with this?Yeah. This guy is just a stranger to OP. Who knows if he actually already has a girlfriend? | /r/askFDS | 01/01/22 06:22 PM |
| 51 | Remembering Valentina Grigoryeva: 1 Year Anniversary of Being Murdered by Youtuber BoyfriendWhat a monster. I feel so sorry for the girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:29 PM |
| 44 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.I think a lot of them do find these women unattractive. It's just their depravity allows them to use "ugly women" even easier and with less morality than attractive ones. This. There's a reason why scrotes don't mind having sex with women they see as unattractive but will never see them as wife material. This is particularly the case of the woman takes initiative in pursuing him. Most scrotes will not say no to free sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:49 PM |
| 72 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.I've seen men diss female celebrities for being ugly, saying stuff like "she has nice eyes but her nose is ugly", "she's not that hot as her mouth looks weird", and "she has a really pretty face but she's too fat". It seems like "ugly" is a word they use to diss any woman who doesn't fully meet their preferences visually. You're right that these men are probably pushing unrealistic beauty standards to maintain patriachy. Almost all of these men who like to diss women they see as unattractive are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:24 PM |
| 37 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.Oh I thought of her too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:16 PM |
| 24 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERBut why would a person who is married allow themselves to become familiar with someone who isn't their spouse? You're right. A HVM who respects his wife will maintain a professional-like distance away from other women. He will never become close to other women to the point of having a crush on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:13 PM |
| 73 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexthey won't wife her up, they won't commit if they are LVM/NVM That's because these men are fuckboys who want to have sex with an infinite number of women and never get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 05:11 PM |
| 216 | As funny as this sounds it's really hard to find men who actually like sexThey like sex is the sense of the women doing everything the exact way they want. Scrotes don't give a shit about whether the woman is enjoying the sex or not. It's all about me, me, and me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 03:12 PM |
| 5 | How can I meet men who meet my preferences?Yes I assume any place designed to meet HVM will be quickly infiltrated by LVM pretending to be HV. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 01:50 PM |
| 408 | Self-aware guy realizes he doesn't take debate seriously when he perceives the person to be a woman.It's sad how so many men look down on women like this. They see women as less rational and intelligent as them and hate it when a woman is smarter than them. This is why a lot of men refuse to date women with more advanced degrees than them. A lot of men also look down on women they see as unattractive. It doesn't matter how talented or HV that woman is. She gets dissed by men who find her unattractive as "ugly". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 12:44 PM |
| 2 | How can I meet men who meet my preferences?My closest friends all no longer live in the same country as me so it's not like we can do activities together to meet men. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 12:25 PM |
| 11 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERYeah I was wondering if men like the one in Good Girls Revolt are seen as HV. Yes, a lot of men fall I'm love with someone else when they are married as they are LV and horny, but I was wondering if it was possible that if could be that the marriage just didn't work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 12:18 PM |
| 16 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERCan a divorcee (I'm referring to men who only fall in love after dirocement) ever be HV excluding those with LV ex-wives? Most women do not want to leave their husbands unless if they are extremely LV. This is even more so if they have kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 12:15 PM |
| 69 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERMarried men who are not my husband is a big no for me. It's so morally wrong be in a relationship or have sex with a guy who is married to someone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:57 AM |
| 95 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERI have a question to ask. Can a guy who falls in love when they're still married (while their marriage is falling apart) ever be HV despite how they only start to pursue the other woman after the divorcement is finalised? At the end of the day, they're still leaving their SOs for someone they like more. If they truly hated their wives that much, why did they only decide to get divorced after a woman they liked more appeared in their lives? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:26 AM |
| 2 | Frauds on datingsites/appsYes. And going to a place you're not familiar with to visit some guy you've only talked to online is dangerous. He's familiar with the local surroundings when you're not. It's harder for you to flee if the chooses to sexually assault you. Things are even more complicated if the guy doesn't live in the same country as you. You're probably not familiar with the local law and unable to communicate fluently in the local language so even filing a police/legal complaint against him is tough if he sexu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 11:17 AM |
| 2 | Frauds on datingsites/appsOh I didn't know a lot of Dutch women are into foreign men. Anyway, I think the idea of meeting men who live abroad via OLD is a bad idea regardless of where you're from. It's really hard to vet a guy who doesn't live in the same country (or even continent) as you. And honestly the men who look for love abroad are probably extremely LV. Most people have zero interest in long distance relationships if they can find an SO locally. Those who look for an SO abroad via OLD do this for a reason. They … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:42 AM |
| 7 | How can I meet men who meet my preferences?No. My friends also have the same difficulty meeting compatible HVM who like them back as me. I don't think I like a guy because he is taken. I had fallen for guys I assumed is single but turned out to be taken. I got so frustrated every time it happened. It seemed like even finding a guy I liked who wasn't taken was "impossible". I can't help but think all the men I had crushes on were taken as chances are other women find them attractive too so it's easily for them to find an SO whereas the on… | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 10:13 AM |
| 5 | Would you persevere with this?Yes, taking initative in organising a date isn't difficult at all. Even if he is really that shy, do you want an SO like that? If he is too shy to organise a date, he's probably too shy to do a lot of other stuff in life. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 06:57 AM |
| 8 | Would you persevere with this?Most men will not say no towards free attention or sex from women as they're horny scrotes who want a free ego boost. Even taken men want to be swarmed with women. | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 06:55 AM |
| 10 | Would you persevere with this?He's not shy. He's not that interested in you. He will not say no to dating or sex though as long as you are the one taking initiative. You don't want an SO like that. Most shy men will take initiative if they are truly interested in a woman. There's a reason why so many shy men end up as "orbiters" around their crushes. Even if he is truly being passive due to shyness, do you want an SO as shy as that? | /r/askFDS | 31/12/21 06:43 AM |
| 83 | Was wondering if any FDS ladies on here have lost interest in dating after finding a job with a healthy environment and/ making more money?Yup. Dating is high and low reward for most women. Most men are LV and some are leeches hoping to gold div or violent towards women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:12 AM |
| 151 | FDS angers Reddit at large, and that's how you know it works.How is this sub "disturbing"? The only "disturbing" content that appears here is cases of men being violent towards women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Where I'm from a woman wanted to break up with her boyfriend and then got stabbed to death by him in the middle of a bus. This is why it's better to stay single than date random men for the sake of dating. Some men react extremely violently after discovering their girlfriends want to break up with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:07 PM |
| 6 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Given how the guy is controlling to the point of pouring acid on his girlfriend's face when she said she would leave him, I won't be surprised if he tried to control her like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 02:52 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]I've seen scrores shaming poor women for wanting a rich (and sometimes a guy who is only middle class) SO. These men label these women as superficial yet they want an extremely hot SO so it's not like they are any less superficial. A lot of these men who hate "gold diggers" are broke themselves so I guess they resent the idea of women picking men based on wealth (as it doesn't work in their favour). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:55 AM |
| 25 | Another post about Gold-digging/Sugar-babyingI guess some women want to gold dig as as think they can go "from rags to riches", but you need to remember at the end of the day, it's his money not your money. Most men are not dumb enough to shower a women with luxurious gifts without expecting something in return. A lot of these rich men not only want a trophy SO but someone he can control. Don't forget if your SO comes from a wealthy family and you do not, they may look down upon you for being born poor. Many rich families are classist as f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:48 AM |
| 5 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.I think she chose to marry him as she really wanted to get married and thought it would be impossible to find love with a disfigured face so chose him as "the best choice available". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:39 AM |
| 6 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.And now this guy is running loose in Turkey. He's so dangerous and violent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 7 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.She's sending the message that even if a guy is extremely violent and dangerous towards women, women may still forgive them. This isn't a good thing. I think she decided to married him as she thinks it'll be impossible for her to find love with a disfigured face and saw him as "the best option available". Yes, I know a lot of women cannot stand the thought of never finding love, but how can you trust men (especially the one who attacked you) after such a violent acid attack? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 8 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Yeah I suspect she married him as she wanted to get married and think it'll be pretty much impossible to find another guy with a disfigured face so saw him as "the best choice available". There's a reason why she tried to break up with him but got back together with him after being disfigured. Yes, some women cannot stand the thought of never finding love, but seriously, given how this guy (and other men) are extremely dangerous, it's much better to stay single. If anything, this traumatic exper… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:28 AM |
| 20 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Or maybe he is pretending to love her simply because he doesn't want to be jailed. She no longer filed a police complaint against him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 11:17 AM |
| 29 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.But wasn't she already in the process of leaving him? She did take initiative in contacting the police. My understanding of Stockholm syndrome is that it often happens to women who can't escape (e.g. women being locked in the basement of some creep). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 04:04 PM |
| 68 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.Why does Stockholm syndrome exist? How can anyone fall in love with someone who disfigured and burned off their face? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 02:32 PM |
| 208 | Turkish woman marries boyfriend who threw acid in her face. Nope, just nope.How can anyone see this as romantic? This guy permanently ruined the poor woman's life. She's now disfigured, in constant pain, and nearly blind. Even carrying on with everyday life is difficult for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:35 AM |
| 7 | Frauds on datingsites/appsAns given how it's just some stranger you've met online, the entire thing seems fishy as fuck. The whole thing screams it's a scam. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 11:00 AM |
| 12 | Frauds on datingsites/appsThis happens a lot in Asia. The scammers like to pretend to be white or half white men from the West and target Asian women hoping to have a western, white/half white SO. They usually pretend to be Americans in the navy who are currently stationed in Asia, pilots (prior to the COVID-19 pandemic), or businessmen. Some pretend to be Asian men with western citizenship. They'll usually claim they urgently need a lot of money or they had sent you a present but it got confiscated by the post office of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:50 AM |
| 34 | RIP to another amazing lady: Helen Murray Free, chemist who revolutionized diabetes testing, dies at 98RIP. This sub needs a new flair for posts like this. Historical women get mentioned here every now and then and we don't have a flair for this topic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:48 AM |
| 37 | And don't you ever forget it. Not ever.People almost always have some ulterior reason in mind when they contact someone they haven't talked to in years. This includes wanting to have sex with you, get back together with you, know what you've been up to out of nosiness, show off their recent achievements in life, borrow money from you, and persuade you to buy the products of their new company. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenAsian women do pick men based on their looks but less so than the other way around. Some Asian women do say they prefer Asian men with "Euro" features but I guess women in general are also more open to dating men who do not 100% meet their preferences in terms of looks. I'm personally ok with a guy as long as he's not extremely ugly and he's HV. Meanwhile, almost all men want a hot trophy wife, and this means having large eyes, a tall nose bridge, etc. for Asian women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenI would say it's more targeted at East and Southeast Asian women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 01:01 AM |
| 7 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenI think the love bomb itself is fishy. It's generally odd for someone you barely know to suddenly become very nice to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:56 AM |
| 13 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenI think it has to do with internalising sexual racism and seeing half black guys as more attractive than half black girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:55 AM |
| 166 | And don't you ever forget it. Not ever.This is why you don't pursue men. You deserve better rhan some guy who isn't even interested in dating you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:51 AM |
| 9 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenThese standards exist for Asian men. It's just that for Asian men (and really men of all races), they can compensate for not conforming to society's beauty standards more easily by having some money and simply having what appears to be a HV personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 12:50 AM |
| 24 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenI can't help but think there are white women out there who fetish black men but see black women as unattractive which is why they worry about having half black daughters. I've heard some white men with yellow fever also think in a similar manner and worry about their sons "looking feminine and having small Asian dicks". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:07 PM |
| 18 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenAgree with everything you said! I've also noticed that Black men also don't care if they're being overtly racially fetishized by their partners, so long as they're getting laid Plenty of men of colour suffer from internalised racism and are willing to lower their standards if it means they can find a white SO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:04 PM |
| 19 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenWhy do so many non-Asian guys get tattoos of Chinese characters that make no sense? I had seen some completely random Chinese tattoos. Seriously what were these guys thinking? Yes it's due to Orientalism but do they really want some random words that make no sense being left permanently on their skin? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:03 PM |
| 27 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenI think women in general are much less interested in "sexpating" than men simply because casual sex doesn't benefit women. Women are also less interested in marrying someone of a race they look down upon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:01 PM |
| 29 | Dating Strategies for Asian WomenHe seemed a bit bitter that (in his opinion) Asian women often chose White guys and bad mouthed Asian men. Whenever I have been on dates with East Asian guys,it just seems like they want a White woman and are just envious that Asian women can attract White guys Yeah. A lot of Asian guys like to shit on Asian women for putting whiteness on a pedestal but the truth is Asian men can be just like that. It's just that white women are generally less open to dating Asians than white men so things are "… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)This. In Asian cultures (more so than western cultures) when you marry a guy, you're marrying into his entire family. This is why I don't want to get married (another reason is the law here states that if a couple gets divorced and they fail to agree on how their assets should be split up, their assets get combined and then split in half and this sounds risky). I'm happy to be in a long-term relationship without marriage. That way I can have a loving SO without the family commitments and the ris… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 05:48 PM |
| 7 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)Yes. Again this has to do with white privilege and how whites are not held to the same standards as Asians by other Asians. Adding to this, I've heard of cases of Asian couples favouring their Eurasian grandkids over their full Asian ones and bragging about their Eurasian grandkids as some status symbol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)Now that I think of it, do some non-Asian women take pride in "stealing Asian men from Asian women" similar to how some non-Asian men are turned on by "stealing Asian women from Asian men"? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 03:12 PM |
| 23 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)Yeah many Asian men like to shit on Asian women dating white men as white worshipers who want whiter babies for status, but the truth is Asian men can be just like that. It's just that fewer white women are open to idea of dating Asians compared to white men so things are "not fair" from an Asian guy's perspective. I've heard of Asian men showing off their white SOs as trophy SOs and pushing their Eurasian kids into modeling in the hopes of benefiting from their fame and fortune. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:35 PM |
| 9 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)I get what you're talking about. There are way too many Asian men who are vocal about how they see white or Eurasian women as more attractive than full Asian women due to internalised racism. Many of these men have an Asian SO though, and I really don't know if they're vocal about how they like white or whitish features as a way of negging their SOs or if they truly have such a preference. Even when it comes to full Asian women, these Asian men prefer the ones with "Euro" features such as large … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:30 PM |
| 91 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and successI think the safest thing to do is date within your social class. Even if a guy less wealthy than than has no intention to leech off you, social class differences do result in incompatibility. Your personal values, spending habits, hobbies, and life experiences will probably be different from his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:32 PM |
| 21 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)it is actually harmful to Asian women because Asian women have endured centuries of abuse and rape from Asian men. Idealizing Asian men turns a blind eye to the pain Asian women have endured As an Asian woman, I don't think it's actually that "harmful" to us. I think this is simply a case of women idealising men of other races due to a "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" mindset. If anything, non-Asian women who are unaware of how misogynistic Asian men can be are more vulnerab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:19 PM |
| 28 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)I think white men fetishising Asian women is generally different from Asian men fetishising white women. White guys often end up with yellow fever as a result of struggling to find submissive white women and they hence want to go for Asians as an alternative. Asian guys fetishise white women as a result of internalised racism and seeing "white" features as more attractive. Of course, both can be simply due to men being bored of women of their own race and wanting to have sex with different "type… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:13 PM |
| 10 | Reminder to not idealize any ethnicity of man (I'm talking to you, kpop boyband stans)I guess women tend to look at men of others races with a "the grass is greener on the other side of the fence" mindset. It's the other way around with Asian women.Plenty of Asian women stereotype white men as more romantic, cultured, attractive, and fitter than Asian men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 12:07 PM |
| 6 | Online dating just to practice or learn FDS?Don't do it. In my opinion it's not that different from men cresting OLD profiles just to see how many matches they can get. It's not a good use of time for yourself and it's not fair to the other person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:40 AM |
| 28 | Trust him, he’s worth itFor me, "bull in a china shop" gives me the impression that the guy is into speed driving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 13 | Trust him, he’s worth itAt least he's honest about how much he loves sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:37 AM |
| 114 | Look, he'll have breakfast with you if you cook him dinner!Looks like this guy wants a free nanny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:58 PM |
| 2 | Scrotes have no idea what they're doing when they shame us as "female incels"It said it automatically got removed due to low quality content. I don't know why this happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 05:06 PM |
| 10 | The “ Crazy Ex-Girlfriend “Scrotes love shaming their exes as crazy. It implies all the claims by their exes about how they're LV are not true as their exes are mentally unstable. And men don't only do this to their exes. Scrotes love shaming their current SOs as crazy (and us too by sending us Reddit Care Resources medsages). For some reason, it's only men who love shaming women as crazy when they're not. The reverse is much less common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 12:24 PM |
| 40 | Scrotes have no idea what they're doing when they shame us as "female incels"short, bald, unwashed, pot-bellied porn addicts who hate and objectify women. Don't forget they may have STIs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:52 AM |
| 3 | People keep telling me to give a chance to men I’m not interested inDon't date men yours not interested in. You're going to regret it if you "settled" for a guy and then "the one" appears in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 10:27 AM |
| 12 | Beware: don't respond to Holiday / New years Texts from New numbersIn my experience, a lot of these text messages from new numbers are from scammers telling me to click on some fishy link to "invest my money". I just block them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:39 AM |
| 43 | Paying on dates, are we discouraged to go 50/50 on just the first date or first few dates?This. Men should pay for most dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 02:51 PM |
| 26 | If he’s in a power of superiority over you, check he’s not exploiting itIs your ex a teacher? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 01:52 PM |
| 77 | If he’s in a power of superiority over you, check he’s not exploiting itThe power imbalance itself is probably unhealthy. It's a really bad idea to date someone who is currently your boss or teacher. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 01:52 PM |
| 42 | It’s just me or you also find man cave a bull$hit ?I've never heard of man caves. They sound like places where men circlejerk about how much they hate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 04:11 PM |
| 72 | RANT: aDvEnTuRoUs guysOr maybe that guy wants to lure OP to some isolated area. Meeting random men on OLD in the middle of nowhere seems scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:38 PM |
| 275 | RANT: aDvEnTuRoUs guysI've noticed how a disproportionate number of men on OLD are into being adventurous, outdoorsy stuff, and extreme sports. I guess some men think having these traits make them "masculine" and hence more sexually appealing to women. And yes, some of them may be perverts trying to lure women to isolated areas. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 02:37 PM |
| 94 | Men knows they’re saying hurtful things to youThey know what they're doing. There's a reason why men neg their SOs and women they've met on OLD but not their managers at work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:58 AM |
| 103 | Good sense prevailing in the commentsShe deserves better. Given how this guy is selfish and unemployed he's not "special" so there's no reason to cling on to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 10:54 AM |
| 22 | If your boyfriend doesn't support you but instead belittles you constantly, it's time to leave. Don't let your "partner" drag you down.A friend shouldn't be like that let alone a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:58 AM |
| 87 | The worst regret you will have in life is not what you did wrong, but what you did right for the wrong peopleI wonder if any of the users here who had a relationship with a LV ex-boyfriend had ever looked back on the relationship and think they dodged a bullet by not marrying him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:56 AM |
| 88 | How often should a guy be planning dates with you?Around four times to twice per month, depending on how busy both of you are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 12:54 AM |
| 25 | Sex Work is Dangerous (FDS sketch by me)A lot of men love banging sex workers but they will never consider marrying one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:41 PM |
| 139 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”Yeah these pics are super sexist. And they're doing this to their own family... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 86 | “Merry Christmas from me and my family, whom I hate!”These pics look so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 05:54 PM |
| 13 | Divorce Drama: Wang Leehom and Lee Jinglei’s Wild Weibo WeekIt's worth noting that Lee had financial and career success prior to her marriage to Wang. She was an assistant vice president of her department at JPMorgan. Unfortunately, she had to give that up after being impregnated by Wang. Imagine how much much money and career success she would have now had she never met Wang. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 04:49 PM |
| 24 | Divorce Drama: Wang Leehom and Lee Jinglei’s Wild Weibo WeekI'm Chinese and yeah everyone in the Sinosphere is talking about him. Kind of surprised he got mentioned here as I assume he's not well-known outside of the Sinosphere. Wang Leehom (and his parents) is a total scumbag. I can't think of a male celebrity in the Sinosphere who is more "scumbaggy" than him. I feel so sorry for Lee Jinglei. She was educated at Princeton and Colombia Univeristy and had a great career at JPMorgan as a assistant vice president of her department. She had to give that up … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 02:36 PM |
| 23 | Relationships are supposed to make life better and easier!Relationships are supposed to make life better and easier! This. Unfortunately, the reverse is much more common irl. Way too many women's lives have been ruined by scrotes due to being cheated on, getting STIs from a guy, being forced to give up their jobs, and having their reputation tarnished as the guy bad-mouthed about them after they split up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 02:04 PM |
| 52 | Sex Work is Dangerous (FDS sketch by me)It's pretty much the only type of job that will hurt your chances of getting another type of job when added to your CV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 02:01 PM |
| 2 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveI'm sorry this happened to you. Sounds like he used you as an ego boost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 04:46 PM |
| 8 | Needle spiking in Australian clubs this past weekScrotes get turned on by non-consent sex. It makes them feel in power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 03:29 PM |
| 11 | Freeloading scrotes 😐Scrotes conveniently don't know how to do something when doing that thing doesn't work in their favour or requires a lot of hard work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 10:36 AM |
| 7 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.I like to think this way - rather than thinking and wondering "Will I ever find my HVM" and start getting jealous of other women who found theirs (not gonna lie, that's the hardest part especially as we get older) - I start thinking "What will be, will be". I sometimes think like this too. I'm not jealous of the women I know irl who found a HVM because the men I know irl who I confirmed to be HV are either my relatives, not within my age range, or I'm just not attracted to them so it's not like … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:05 PM |
| 246 | Needle spiking in Australian clubs this past weekWasn't this originally only a European thing? Goes to show how shitty LVM tactics spread like wildfire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 01:06 PM |
| 8 | I learned this lesson the hard way - looking outside yourself for validation will make you feel powerless and desperate. Look within to find true power by developing a strong sense of selfYeah. Chances are the men these women end up with are LV or incompatible with them or the women are not attracted to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:37 PM |
| 38 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVOh yes, plenty of LVM try try portray themselves as HV during dating. They will show their true colours after marriage when they think it is harder for their spouse to leave them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:22 PM |
| 38 | Just because a guy doesn't have some negative traits doesn't mean he is HVYes, and I guess some women may mistakenly see such men as HV given how so many men cannot even meet the bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:21 PM |
| 17 | It is NOT about "Finally finding the perfect HVM so that I can have my happily ever after" - It is about prioritizing YOUR HAPPINESS no matter what happens.Yes, there is no "secret" to finding a HVM. Finding one seems to depend on luck more than anything else. Amyway, I sometimes think I will never find the one so I should not make my happiness dependent on it. I'm not being pessimistic but finding a guy who is HV, compatible with me, and likes me back is just statistically very improbable (given how most men are LV and it's unlikely two people with a different upbringing will be compatible). It's even more unlikely that I will get along well with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:37 AM |
| 8 | Misogyny in the Words we have for WomenOh yes, there are many derogatory words to describe women. This doesn't only exist in the English language. In Chinese we have words like 剩女 (leftover women) and 沒女 ("nothing" women, a word to describe women without good looks, a nice body, proper education, wealth, etc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:27 AM |
| 12 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.They put zero effort into their looks yet want to date supermodels... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:22 AM |
| 13 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.Physical appearance is just another way to vet for personality. OP also mentioned the woman said the guy was well-groomed in his photos. The guy was deliberately trying to portray himself in a way different from what he really was like. Since the guy was being dishonest, he couldn't be trusted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 11:21 AM |
| 12 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.Typical false advertising by men on OLD. And men talk about women wearing makeup as the worst form of "false advertising"... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:57 AM |
| 14 | From the dad of one of my daughter’s friends, out of literally nowhere.Was he sending this to you or your daughter? Anyway, it's creepy for both cases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:42 AM |
| 15 | This woman is a QUEEN. So many people were telling her off for having standards, more so women than men. The pickmes came out in force telling poor OP to give poor hairy nostrils a chance. Pickmes are their own worst enemies, giving chances to low effort, low value men.Sounds like this woman got catfished by some random guy on scrote. This is one of the reasons why OLD sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 10:40 AM |
| 19 | I learned this lesson the hard way - looking outside yourself for validation will make you feel powerless and desperate. Look within to find true power by developing a strong sense of selfOh yes, quite a lot of pick mes end up with a guy as they want someone to "replace" their ex or unrequited crush. I guess some of them dated some random guy to "save face" as in "even if my ex dumped me or that guy I had a crush on doesn't want me other men want me". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 09:00 AM |
| 22 | When posting here have you gotten Reddit Cares messages from scrotes because they’re big mad?I didn't create any posts about sex work but still get these messages every now abd then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:21 AM |
| 82 | Would you date someone who doesn’t understand misogyny?No. They're probably misogynistic themselves for being out of touch with what women have to go through. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:20 AM |
| 12 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?They just want to have sex with as many women as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 08:25 AM |
| 37 | Shout-out to this line in a Korean drama. Didn't expect that but really loved itYes. These men are scared of their SOs leaving them so they will use manipulation tactics to control them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:42 AM |
| 71 | Only the real feminist men can pass this test!More like name women known for their achievements as oposed to their good looks. Scrotes can name numerous female singers, actresses, models, influencers, and porn stars. Famous women who are not celebrated for their looks? Not so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:36 AM |
| 2 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?I'm sorry this happened to you. I guess some bisexual women may prefer to be heterosexual relationships as they want to pass as straight and want straight privilege, but I didn't know it was so common for bisexual women to dump their lesbian girlfriends for a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:33 AM |
| 45 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?I feel like in general, true HVW are relatively rare. But on average, women are less predatory then men (with exceptions of course). There are predatory, manipulative and narcissistic women out there. Yeah I agree. Plenty of women like to gossip, lie, are self-centered, and only nice to others when it is advantageous to them. As others have pointed out, the real dating situation of lesbian and bi women is different and dating options are very scarce. Yeah. Only a very small percentage of women a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:41 PM |
| 8 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?I think accepting of porn is different than being turned on by it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:18 PM |
| 32 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Does this have to do with lesbians disliking how bisexual women can pass as "straight" if they only date men and hence have straight privilege? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:17 PM |
| 67 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Why are so many lesbians into a "fuckgirl" lifestyle? I thought wanting to hookup with a lot of women was a male trait (probably due to the biological desire to impregnate many women and have a lot of offspring). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:16 PM |
| 25 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Yeah I know many LVW too who will throw other women under the bus just to win attention from men (yes, I'm thinking of women who think it's OK to "steal" someone else's SO). I assume lesbians are less likely to do this though given how they are not attracted to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:14 PM |
| 60 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Oh wow I didn't know this is a thing. I thought people were only joking when they say they are bicurious and want to have sex with someone of the same sex as them for fun. Using others just to have a new experience doesn't sound nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:12 PM |
| 8 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Ok I didn't know so many bisexual women are into porn. I thought you guys were like straight women in terms of disliking porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:06 PM |
| 116 | When a man acts as if him being empathetic is some rare gift and not a normal thing everyone should have, I always think of this memeMost people have empathy unless they have a personality disorder or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:00 PM |
| 31 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Yeah most people are heterosexual, so I guess finding a same sex partner you're compatible with who loves you back is tough. And yeah, many women are LV too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:45 PM |
| 23 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Just curious, how are women in same-sex relationships misogynistic towards their partner? It's not like they have male privilege. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:42 PM |
| 44 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Do you mean they're bicurious? What's the appeal of experimenting? I never experienced that myself and I assume most people can figure out their sexual orientation without experimenting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:39 PM |
| 113 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Oh yes I've heard of men pretending to be women on OLD just to have sex with lesbians. I didn't know so many women on OLD are looking for a 3rd woman to have threesomes with. I remember switching to lesbian mode on OLD just to see what online dating was like for a lesbian. Way too many of the women I saw were hot enough to work as professional models and I can't help but feel like many of these profiles were fake (not that different from men who claim to be extremely rich on OLD are probably lyi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:20 PM |
| 40 | Do you think you would have an easier time finding a HV partner if you were attracted to women instead of men?Wow I didn't know that. Why would the women be into porn? Don't most women find that gross regardless of their sexual orientation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 01:09 PM |
| 23 | My Friend's Husband is About to Ruin Her Entire Career. This is why you should always be financially independentI'm sorry this happened to your friend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 11:10 AM |
| 23 | What are your standards when dating?Has a nice personality Doesn't lie, gossip, cheat Not patriarchal Willing to admit his mistakes Doesn't flirt with other women when I am not around Truly loves me Spoils me with nice dates Has a sense of humor similar to me Introverted (I am an introvert and I doubt I will be compatible with someone who is very extroverted) Attractive to decent-looking Has good personal hygiene Educated From the same social class as me Self-actualised and not "boring" Around the same age as me No smoking and ill… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:39 AM |
| 24 | Strategic ignorance of women is what keeps the majority of relationships aliveYeah I assume your ex said something bad about you in front of his girlfriend. Most people will not immediately block the ex of their SO without finding out what you want to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:30 AM |
| 10 | This is why venting is a must! And also, it’s hard to leave an abusive relationship because we can straight up get murdered. Some men can’t take No. Rip to these poor souls.What a monster. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 10:22 AM |
| 67 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.I've never liked these "girly" toys as a kid. I don't think being a princess or a caretaker is that appealing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:46 PM |
| 38 | This holiday season I urge you to take trip down the girls toy aisle.Yeah a lot of the dolls are white. I live in Asia and it's the same situation here. Many Asians also suffer from internalised racism and I've heard Asians commenting on how they think white toddlers are more beautiful than Asian ones as "they look like western dolls". I guess this compliment sounds odd to English speakers but it's less odd in Chinese (it pretty much means looking beautiful for looking Caucasian). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 04:42 PM |
| 23 | Your thoughts on this guy?This. Plenty of men will use women for only for attention as opposed to sex as they want an ego boost but don't want the consequences and "commitment" that come with sex. Some scrotes feel like their reputation will be ruined if they are caught hooking up with women they have no intention to date but if it's just flirting, they can easily get away with it by claiming how nothing sexual happened and they were just being friendly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:45 AM |
| 5 | In need of some positivity and also a reminder of what HVM look like..He will compliment the qualities, traits, and characteristics that are unique to you I don't think this is something restricted to HVM though. Way too many LVM love to shower women with compliments just to get laid... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:37 AM |
| 26 | In need of some positivity and also a reminder of what HVM look like..Not as a useful subordinate I hate patraichal scrotes who feel like they always have to be the most dominant one in a relationship. Oh, and way too many of these men hate the idea of women being more capable or smarter than them... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:27 AM |
| 2 | I feel like I can't trust menThanks for sharing this. It's nice that your father is so HV! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:13 AM |
| 9 | If you have trouble thinking about continuously vetting after finding a man - try the "Wing Mindset".Yes. A HVM will make sure you feel safe and happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:11 AM |
| 11 | Where to look to find HVM?I don't think there is a specific way to meet HVM. The truth is it depends on luck more than anything else. I guess you can technically maximise your chances if finding a HVM by joining numerous activities. However, given how most men are LV, you'll just probably come across more LVM so I don't recommend joining activities just for the sake of meeting men. And nope, I don't think moving to a city with a large population will help. I live in a big city and I still haven't come across a single HVM… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:02 AM |
| 10 | I feel like I can't trust menbut a fat ugly old woman with $$$ can never do the same thing This is actually becoming more common due to more men becoming gold diggers. The woman is usually a multi-millionaire though whereas it's generally easier for fat ugly old man to snag an attractive girl for dating. Some men date wealthy elderly women as they think they'lll die really soon and they can quickly inherit their assets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:59 AM |
| 19 | I feel like I can't trust menWay too many unattractive scrotes will pursue women they see as 10/10 if they suddenly become rich or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:54 AM |
| 10 | I feel like I can't trust menOnly a small percentage of men are full on psychopaths who can completely mask for a year+. You're right. Most people are not that good at acting, if some actors in the entertainment industry suck at acting despite years of training, it's just going to be more difficult for the average person. Do you think the woman who was dumped after several years of helping her boyfriend level up is going to be entirely honest about the warning signs she saw early on, or is she going to construct the narrati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:51 AM |
| 34 | I feel like I can't trust menWhere I'm from, the law requires couples to combone their money and split it in half if they fail to agree on how it should be split. This is why I don't want to get married. It's too risky. And yes, some scrotes are known to transfer almost all of their money to a relative's bank account prior to divorcing so that they don't have to share any money with their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:44 AM |
| 22 | I feel like I can't trust menthere's no 100% guarantee or way to know for sure Yup. It has to do with how you can never truly "know" something via induction as opposed to deduction (and trying to figure out if a guy is HV is induction). The only person you can confirm is HV via deduction is yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 12:40 AM |
| 60 | I feel like I can't trust menThanks for your advice. Unfortunately, I've heard of men who spent a lot of time pursuing a girl dumping their girlfriend later when they snagged a girl who is more conventionally attractive. I don't think I have issues with love and affection due to family. It's just that I've heard of way too many horror stories of men treating their girlfriends as placeholders and dumping them when they could attract women they liked more. I think it has more to do with stereotyping how men care more about lu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 04:22 PM |
| 211 | There are only double standards (vent)This. Many Redditors hate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 02:31 PM |
| 12 | Don’t convince anyone of your worth. If they can’t see it, it’s their loss.Yup. I used to have trouble moving on from unrequited crushes but I can now do it more easily. If a guy doesn't appreciate me for who I am then he ain't the one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:49 AM |
| 7 | 2.5 Year together and he doesn’t know what she likes. How is that even possible?This guy is using this as an excuse. Even if he really doesn't know what types of presents OP will like, he can usually give her some gift vouchers as gifts. But nope, he didn't give her anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:47 AM |
| 8 | How often do you go on a date?I've never been on a date. I've never come across a guy I am interested in dating to who is single and likes me back. And yeah, multi-dating is technically "hard" given how so many men have noticeable red flags so it's not like you want to date them. I think multi-dating is a theoretical thing that encourages women not to become too attached to any guy you are initially dating as opposed to actually encouraging women to date a lot of men just for the sake of multi-dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 10:46 AM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Sweet. Love the one with the next sign. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:06 PM |
| 139 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?It's because LVM hate the idea of more women becoming woke and refusing to date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 04:03 PM |
| 176 | Wife’s message to husband on TinderIf the guy is cheating, she should just leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 09:13 AM |
| 10 | The Realities of Age Gap RelationshipsAdding to what you've said, a woman who married a guy much older than her will be more likely to become a widow at a younger age than other women who married a guy around the same age as them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 10:47 AM |
| 167 | How long does it take you to say that you love someone?Wait for him to say it first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 10:43 AM |
| 35 | 'RACE PLAY' probably means he's lowkey a RACISTYes, so many of these guys into race play have a slave or colonist fetish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 08:26 AM |
| 26 | My Adaption of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: HVM vs LVM/NVMYes, I want a partner who is self-actualised, have passions and hobbies, and is happy with his life. I find this very attractive. Adding to what you've shared, some LVM cannot even meet basic psychological needs. Some of them are too poor to even afford decent food or are unemployed and leeching off others for money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 12:21 PM |
| 675 | sEx pOsiTivitY 🤡🤮Whats the point of being in a relationship when it is an open relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 12:19 PM |
| 19 | Men who don’t hold doors openI'm a zillenial. I think people of all generations should do this put of politeness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:26 AM |
| 3 | Men who don’t hold doors openI think this is something impolite to do. This isn't a positive thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:15 AM |
| 66 | Do you have any male friends?Well your cousin is also your relative. Anyway, your friendship with your uni friend is so exceptional! It's amazing how he is your ally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:35 AM |
| 66 | Do you have any male friends?One was the brother of my ex Did he signal his interest to you while you were still dating your ex? If that was the case then it was very gross. Imagine being turned on by "cucking" your own brother... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:07 AM |
| 78 | Do you have any male friends?Yeah, I tend to maintain a professional-like distance away from my male acquaintances. I will avoid initiating conversations with them too much to avoid sending the wrong signal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:44 AM |
| 3 | Automatic dealbreaker for me, but are men who use intentional misspellings lv/nv?Depends on how frequent it is. I've seen HVW do this but of course they don't text like this all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:13 AM |
| 29 | When I’m doubt, DO NOT give men the benefit of the doubt.This. These days everyone is glued to their phones. Eben if a guy is super busy, he can easily rely to your text messages when he's waiting for a bus, queueing to order lunch, or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:11 AM |
| 28 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tPickmeism = putting men on a pedestal due to internalised misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:09 AM |
| 52 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!My thoughts too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 10:06 AM |
| 21 | Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends?Some of them become interested in whatever their boyfriends like to increase the chemistry between between. And yes, some of them do become misogynistic due to internalised misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Serious question, do any of you not want to get married?I don't want to get married. Where I'm from, the law requires a couple to combine their money and split it in half when they divorce if they fail to agree on how the money should be split up. Getting married hence seems very risky. Even if your husband is wealthier than you, it doesn't mean he'll share his money with you after a divorce. There has been cases of men transferring their money to the bank accounts of their relatives before getting divorced so that they can get away with sharing mone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 05:27 PM |
| 119 | Men date you to level up. Don’t date men to level down.I don't know a single guy dating a woman less attractive and less wealthy than him. This is not the same the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:55 PM |
| 59 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionDon't forget a lot of men on Tinder are looking for sex as opposed to love. Casual sex is not beneficial to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 02:44 PM |
| 26 | LVM/NVM Child Predators Grooming Young Teens For Nudes in the Guise of “Sex Positivity” - Mom Says She Tried To Prevent Daughters From Falling Victim To Online Predators, But They Were Still GroomedIt's not just Snapchat. These pedophiles are everywhere so the parents here really need to be careful. I know some young girls irl (as in still in primary school) who have their own public YouTube channels. There were these random accounts leaving shortened URLs in the comment section of the videos. I had a preview of these URLs (I used archive.is to stay safe) and guess what? They were all links to "fun dating websites" with pics of naked women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 11:04 AM |
| 221 | This is not how you ask about financial healthHonestly I think OP has the gut feeling that there's something wrong going on given how she doesn't feel comfortable about letting him know about her wealth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:49 AM |
| 69 | This is not how you ask about financial healthHe def knows she has money Yes. It's possible to tell how wealthy someone is wealthy even if they don't explicitly talk about it. Usually random remarks about what they see as expensive or not will give it away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:46 AM |
| 23 | Evidently it’s necessary to confirm upfront if their listed location is where they actually live 🚩Or maybe his sister is someone he just made up. But then with all the travel restrictions during the pandemic, I suspect he is truly planning to visit someone and yes that's probably his girlfriend. There are so many quarantine regulations these days so people are less likely to travel to just visit their sisters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:41 AM |
| 15 | Evidently it’s necessary to confirm upfront if their listed location is where they actually live 🚩When I was playing around with OLD, I saw a lot of these foreigners too. I think there were looking for exotic girls to flirt with or someone to hookup with when they travel somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 10:38 AM |
| 8 | "Next time you feel sad because you don't look like another girl, remember that flowers are pretty, but so are the Christmas lights, and they look nothing alike"Love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:25 PM |
| 17 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveThat's their problem not your fault. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 45 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveIt's exhausting as the guy isn't that interested in you in the first place. You're essentially chasing after someone "unobtainable". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:26 PM |
| 20 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveJust curious, why didn't you choose to be married? I've been thinking I may choose the same thing if I do find a HVM partly because of the way the law works here (i.e. if you and your spouse fail to agree on how to split the assets after the divorce, both your money get combined and then split in half). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 04:15 PM |
| 11 | Your career and dreams are a strong barrier against LVM (FDS art by me)It's interesting how so many scotes love shitting on art and design as being "girly". And then there are all these men in STEM who shame women who like humanities and art subjects as not being as smart as them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:59 PM |
| 128 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveYour dad has some good advice there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:57 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I'm Chinese. We don't do that here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:01 AM |
| 1 | Preferring to meet men in a "spontaneous" mannerYeah I agree. It's very hard to tell if someone is compatible with you or not based on online profiles. Similar music tastes and hobbies don't matter that much. | /r/askFDS | 07/12/21 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Attraction vs. pragmatismThis. You'll "know" if you are attracted to a guy or not. I feel like OP just wants to give this guy a chance as she doesn't have feelings for anyone else at the moment, think that this guy is OK, and doesn't want to turn him down. | /r/askFDS | 07/12/21 10:34 AM |
| 3 | Attraction vs. pragmatismYou're not attracted to him for a reason so don't date him. You'll regret it if you start dating him and then "the one" appears. | /r/askFDS | 07/12/21 10:32 AM |
| 8 | Your career and dreams are a strong barrier against LVM (FDS art by me)We are very lucky to be alive in this era. In the past, women were not even allowed to go to university or pursue certain careers. Even if they did, they faced rampant sexism. Most of us here now live in countries that allow women to pursue tertiary education and major in anything. We should cherish this opportunity and make the most of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:21 AM |
| 5 | Your Legal Name is a Commodity- Protect It!This is certainly the case for meeting men on OLD. Don't immediately give away your real name, phone number, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:17 AM |
| 30 | Men telling on themselves on OLD, exhibit AI already have the dad bod Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:47 PM |
| 43 | Seen this post on a fb group I’m in, and one of the comments under it 🤡 i can’t believe there is women who will excuse behaviour like this?Nah I think men like all pussies. Given how men can orgasm by sticking their dicks into fleshlights, I guess they like anything they can stick their dick into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:46 PM |
| 69 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobIf I were you I won't feel comfortable dating him. You will start a VP job whereas he works a minimum wage job. There's always the possibility that he's dating you because of your money. And yes, social class differences do matter. Your spending habits and personal values will probably differ from his due to earning way more than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:44 PM |
| 44 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?Given how most men are LV, you're not missing a lot out. Anyway, I would like to think "the one" for me is out there somewhere and we just haven't met yet. He is probably wondering when he will come across "the one" too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 04:49 PM |
| 578 | Seen this post on a fb group I’m in, and one of the comments under it 🤡 i can’t believe there is women who will excuse behaviour like this?I honestly think a lot of men don't care about their grilfriends and only got a girlfriend because they hate the idea of being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:33 AM |
| 83 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?If I were meeting some guy on OLD, I would not be comfortable meeting at a restaurant specified by him that is close to his place. Unfortunately, there are perverts on OLD. The guy is more familiar with the surroundings than you do so it'll be easier for him to isolate you if he wants to assault you. It'll also be more difficult for you to flee away from him given your lack of familiarity with the area. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:22 AM |
| 148 | Can you share your thoughts about “Why men love bitches” by Sherry Argov? I personally don’t understand why it gets recommended so much, half the book is about modeling yourself to male expectations.I agree with what you've said. I think the book is about pretending to be hard to get when you're a pick me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:54 PM |
| 36 | Falling in love should be a stress-free experience for youWell relationships are hard in the sense that finding a HVM you are compatible with is tough. However, after you find such a guy, things should go very smoothly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 04:52 PM |
| 85 | Women are some sort of trophy wives to men and Reddit proves that, every single day.Or they go for Asian women because they stereotype them as submissive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:25 PM |
| 130 | Women are some sort of trophy wives to men and Reddit proves that, every single day.I think they're more likely to go for conventionally attractive girls. The ones who go for wealthy women are gold diggers. They value the status that comes with the money more so than the status of not being single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:18 PM |
| 60 | Put Yourself Out There!It's interesting how your mother would encourage you to use OLD. Most mothers (who are part of the older generation) frown upon OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:15 PM |
| 418 | Women are some sort of trophy wives to men and Reddit proves that, every single day.This is true. Many men get a girlfriend not because they love their girlfriends but because they think being taken implies they are desirable to women and they see this as bossting their own social status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:05 PM |
| 52 | Falling in love should be a stress-free experience for youYes. A HVM will always make you feel loved. He'll make sure you feel comfortable during sex, buy you nice gifts, and respect your opinions. There's nothing "ambiguous" about his love for you. He will prove again and again that he loves you to pieces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 02:03 PM |
| 79 | Have you all noticed…Yup. Men get turned on by fantasies of degrading women (or other men if they're gay). Straight, bisexual, or lesbian women are almost never turned on by the idea of degrading men or other women during sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 01:03 PM |
| 21 | Break up songs by guys that make you laughSomebody That I Used to Know by Gotye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 10:04 AM |
| 81 | Falling in love should be a stress-free experience for youOf course. And this goes with what I am saying. If you feel uncomfortable about a guy be it not being sure that he truly loves you or spotting some red flags, then dating him isn't a "stress-free" experience for you and being with him isn't worth it. Trust your gut feeling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/21 09:56 AM |
| 189 | Would you date someone divorced/ have kids?I think the general consensus here is that it is a bad idea to date someone with kids who haven't reached adulthood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 01:30 PM |
| 25 | Preferring to meet men in a "spontaneous" mannerYeah, and it's more than just safety. I would prefer meeting a man spontaneously as opposed to say ugh, joining an interest class deliberately just to meet men. It's the "spontaneous" factor that makes it romantic. | /r/askFDS | 04/12/21 12:26 PM |
| 7 | When you realize the guy that sounds good on paper is flawed.Yeah, I don't think OP really had a crush. She was probably just infatuated with the guy in terms of sexual attraction and did some extra daydreaming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 10:14 AM |
| 6 | Green Flags - Holiday EditionI've seen guys ask other women they know what they should buy as gifts for their girlfriends as they want to understand what women like and want to keep the gifts as a surprise. But yeah, these men often end up buying expensive gifts such as high-end jewellery. Don't settle for guys who never get you a gift or give you cheap gifts or things he got that he didn't want himself (eg. dining vouchers of restaurants he dislikes). You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 10:13 AM |
| 3 | Remind me I did the right thing?I would just stop responding after finding out he is still that close to his ex. | /r/askFDS | 04/12/21 10:00 AM |
| 45 | Quick test for misogyny while vetting: compliment a woman and watch for his reaction!Sounds like triangulation. Most scrotes do this by complimenting the beauty of other women but sounds like you ex decided to focus on intelligence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:56 AM |
| 186 | LmfaoAnd how vocal are men on International Women' Day? I've never met a man irl who talked about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:44 AM |
| 22 | Quick test for misogyny while vetting: compliment a woman and watch for his reaction!Yes, don't avoid complimenting women as hot as a test. It's not that we should feel jealous of women we see as hot but unfortunately many misogynist scrotes will like a woman as long as she is hot so the test will not work. Look at all those scrotes who hate feminists but love Emma Watson as she is hot. I would say we should avoid complimenting women seen as conventionally attractive as a test. Oh, and don't forget just because a guy celebrates the success of women, it doesn't mean he is HV. Ple… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:38 AM |
| 8 | Addition Facebook Profiles will be a Safe Haven for CheatersYeah Facebook doesn't allow fake accounts and will delete accounts detected as fakes. Unfortunately, many fake profiles are not detected though and remain active. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:28 AM |
| 10 | Addition Facebook Profiles will be a Safe Haven for CheatersI don't think guys who use Facebook to cheat create a second account related to their real one. They probably create fake accounts completely disconnected from their real one. I'm not sure how Facebook works but I'm pretty sure message notifications for your second account do appear in email updates in your real email account and scrotes receiving messages from other women probably don't want that. But yeah, Facebook is full of creeps. I've heard of men sending random friend requests, messages, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:26 AM |
| 5 | When you realize the guy that sounds good on paper is flawed.Yeah, plenty of guys that look good on paper are LV. They are sexist, addicted to porn, have poor hygiene, likes to lie, or think there's nothing wrong with flirting with other women while being in a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 09:24 AM |
| 31 | You really are the prize. Don’t let the media and the patriarchy convince you otherwise.A lot of guys I know are unattractive, have poor hygiene, are poor or financially unstable, are selfish, and like to gossip and lie. I would rather stay single. And yes, plenty of women meet "the one" later in life. You're going to regret it if you marry some guy you don't like that much as you believe "the clock is ticking" and meet "the one" later in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:38 AM |
| 8 | Title is along the lines of "she doesn't have a sense of humor." Nah bro you're just being a creepI feel like he's trying to test if she likes him without confessing his feelings. If she responds with "Don't worry, I like you more than anyone else!", he'll know she likes him without him making an obvious first move. I guess men these days are too scared to ask a girl out directly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:32 AM |
| 84 | You deserve to be someone's first choiceI guess a lot of women end up settling for guys who don't like them that much as they believe extremely HVM do not exist or assume such men only date conventionally extremely attractive women. HVM who love their wives to pieces definitely do exist, and nope, they're not always with supermodels. Every HVM I know is not married to a supermodel. While coming across a comptible, single HVM who loves you requires luck, you shouldn't lower your standards just because you haven't come across such a guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:28 AM |
| 44 | You deserve to be someone's first choiceMore like mixed signals = free ego boost +/- sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:19 AM |
| 57 | Some guy slid into my insta DMs, but all his "flirting" consisted of weird negs and backhanded compliments on my photos. Frustrated, I went to check my timeline and saw this post. Paris Hilton is such an icon, loves it!You should set it to private. Pretty much everyone I know set their Instagtam to private. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:18 AM |
| 9 | help me heal the last of my pickme tendenciesI rarely come across strangers who flirt with me, but then I live in Asia and people here tend to avoid chit-chatting or interacting with those who are not in their social circles. People here are generally more reserved around strangers. I only get catcalled when I travel to the West. Anyway, it's quite common for me to come across male acquaintances in my social circles who want to flirt with me. I don't feel flattered as I'm pretty sure many of these guys flirt with everyone due to boredom an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:16 AM |
| 39 | Some guy slid into my insta DMs, but all his "flirting" consisted of weird negs and backhanded compliments on my photos. Frustrated, I went to check my timeline and saw this post. Paris Hilton is such an icon, loves it!How come the guy found your Instagram account? IA your account public? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:08 AM |
| 13 | Every rule on FDS is written in bloodYeah I agree. Not all rules apply because things may somewhat vary across different cultures and contexts. The idea of what is considered as HV doesn't really change though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 11:05 AM |
| 8 | I have an album saved of the best (re: worst) OLD profiles I’ve come across. I present to you: Men Who Love Telling on ThemselvesThese men are so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 12:53 AM |
| 159 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..It's more like subtle negging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:01 PM |
| 93 | What is the general rule or idea of gift giving during the holidays, birthday, or anniversaries?I will not give a guy an extravagant gift unless he gives me one first. Unfortunately, a lot of scrotes are incapable of being thankful. If the guy is less wealthy than you, he'll probably either enjoy being spoiled with posh gifts and leeching off you or secretly resent you for being able to afford expensive gifts while they can't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:00 PM |
| 183 | Beware of men who engage in avoidance, intimidation, infantilisation, or emotionally abusive manipulations when you bring up a concern. The very moment he displays any of the following (& more), DROP him! Do not let men damage your health.Yeah it's creepy how he's comparing women to children. Or maybe he really does enjoy dating young girls who haven't turned 18 yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 125 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Oh I remember there was a recent thread here on Maric. It compared Einstein with Pierre Curie (who was very HV) and pointed out how Marie flourished careerwise but Maric didn't. The thread is a good example of how the HVness of your SO can affect your life to a great extent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:29 PM |
| 188 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Lise Meitner, a physicist who missed out on winning the Nobel Prize. You can read about her here. Rosalind Franklin was another scientist who missed out on winning the Nobel Prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:38 PM |
| 14 | I am a bisexual woman and I was just catfished by a man pretending to be a female on Bumble. Please stay safe.Something similar just happened in where I'm from. A woman met someone via a lesbian dating app. She only realised he is actually a guy once they were inside a hotel room. You can read about it here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:22 PM |
| 206 | "Let's see where things go...""Let's see where things go" = I don't want commitment but since that's not what you want to hear I'll just pretend I haven't made up by mind yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:16 PM |
| 65 | FDS opinion on casual sex with other women (as a wlw)?You'll still be at risk of STIs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:42 AM |
| 29 | This is too funny 🙄Yeah if they're so "workaholic", they shouldn't be dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 12:40 AM |
| 746 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Yeah I remember seeing Leo DiCaprio posts here. All of his SOs were under 26 years old and he's aging. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 02:03 PM |
| 3 | Does anybody else never click links posted here for security reasons?You're welcome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:48 PM |
| 25 | Does anybody else never click links posted here for security reasons?You can see a "screenshot" of a site by copying and posting the link on archive.is without truly accessing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:45 AM |
| 9 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.Yeah I doubt OP is physically cheating with his coworker. His coworker seems completely unaware of his feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 12:43 AM |
| 9 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.I'm sorry this happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:06 PM |
| 17 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.This. The sexual desires of men are way more disgusting than women's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:57 PM |
| 11 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.I'm curious as to why these men enjoy being peed on. I can understand why some men enjoy peeing on women (as they get turned on by humiliation) but why is the other way around hot to them? And yeah, I hate these fetishes. Most if not all fetishes are related to degrading women and that's not ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 16 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.IMO scat is way more gross than watersports. Why do men have such disgusting fetishes? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:52 PM |
| 15 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.This is why it's important to vet men by screening what they had posted online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 14 | Presented without comment😰I highly suspect the guy managed to snag a woman he likes more which is why he is dumping OP. If he saw her as sister-like, he would not have sex with her in the first place (I assume he's not into incest). These feelings don't appear suddenly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:20 PM |
| 25 | Presented without comment😰Nah, she will not divorce him. They're not even married. This is so cringeworthy. I feel so sorry for OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:18 PM |
| 378 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.This sub is now famous! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:16 PM |
| 225 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.Given how the guy has a post history of looking for women into golden showers, he probably has been physically cheating as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:13 PM |
| 40 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.It's sick how men are turned on by degrading women. They have these sick fetishes and then become so surprised when they hear women say they would rather stay single. Go figure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:10 PM |
| 32 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.Golden shower is euphenism for peeing on a partner. A long time ago I came across some posts where guys said they were into "golden showers". I googled the term and yeah I was grossed out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:08 PM |
| 52 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.Even if they're the ones doing the cleaning up, it's still gross to pee on a girl. Why the heck would anyone do that? Women are not toilet bowls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Right as we are about to get a place, I found out my boyfriend lied about his income.You deserve better. If this guy is capable of lying about his income he probably lies about other stuff. You'll have trouble trusting him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:49 PM |
| 84 | Neither woman wants you, dude, because your post history is you looking for a woman who’s into golden showers and “water sports?”. This is why we shouldn’t be friendly with men. Friend or lover, they just want to use you for emotional support instead of going to therapy. Vet everyone.golden showers Yuck. Why are so many men into golden showers? Anyway, maybe this is the reason why his marriage is falling apart. I assume most if not all women are turned off by golden showers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:41 PM |
| 21 | I have no wordsOP probably sees the "white" way of doing things as the most superior and hence threw away his girlfriend's towel. It's not that different from how during the colonial period, some western countries forced POC kids to live with white families to "westernise" them as they see their way of living as inferior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:01 PM |
| 27 | I have no wordsYeah, I guess he doesn't want her to use "ethnic" stuff around his family which is why he threw away her towel. I assume OP is white and he probably sees the "white" way of doing things as the most superior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:58 AM |
| 41 | I have no wordsMeanwhile, men lie about their age on OLD and photoshop their pics. They only complain about makeup being "false advertising" though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:56 AM |
| 71 | I have no wordsI think it has more to do with how he wants to control the girl and wants her to do everything in the exact way he wants. Some users here say the girl is biracial and if OP is white, he's probably also racist and wants his girlfriend to assimilate into "white" culture as he thinks it's superior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:54 AM |
| 9 | Assuming this is not your first time meeting, is it always a red flag or deal breaker if the man does not pick you up for the first date?This. I would not be comfortable with riding with a guy I just started dating if we just met. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:41 AM |
| 20 | HVW Texting PatternsDon't take initiative in texting a guy and don't always text him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:39 AM |
| 2 | Do you have any female role models?It's great that you have a mentor! I like having mentors too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:35 AM |
| 1 | Age gapsIf he wants to start a family now and you don't, then both of you are not compatible. Btw please also be careful of "Peter Pans" in academia, you know, the men who choose to do a PhD right after their bachelor's as they don't want to work as opposed to being passionate about research. These men are uninterested in starting a family so soon but please think twice before picking someone like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:54 AM |
| 2 | Age gapsYeah if he wants to start a family, he should be looking for women around the same age as him. He probably wants someone younger to control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:52 AM |
| 22 | Touchless Date, should I be relieved or concerned?It's a bit odd, but I would observe it longer. I can't help but think of gay guys who choose to date women to hide their sexual preferences. | /r/askFDS | 30/11/21 10:49 AM |
| 9 | Age gapsA guy who had worked for a couple of years is at a different life stage than a woman who just graduated from uni so you're leaning towards "kid-like" to him. It's not that different from how some who just started uni is probably "a kid" to a uni graduate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:55 AM |
| 7 | Do you have any female role models?Sure, you could name fictional characters as role models. Interestingly, I remember there was a post here on how Pierre Curie was very HV too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:45 AM |
| 4 | Do you have any female role models?Sure. Love yourself before anyone else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 12:43 AM |
| 58 | Reason 20000000000000007 To Align With FDS, Vet RUTHLESSLY, Enforce Boundaries And Say NO To Casual Sex!Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 09:44 AM |
| 40 | The Media Hates Women: TV Title EditionTo be fair the smart male characters of the Big Bang Theory aren't exactly "chads" too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 183 | The Media Hates Women: TV Title EditionIt's not just the title. Plenty of TV shows portray women in a sexist manner even if their names are not sexist (eg. The Big Bang Theory portraying Penny as a "dumb blonde" whereas the male main characters are smart). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:12 PM |
| 3 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.To be fair, the professors who all contacted me via Whatsapp are female so yeah I didn't have to worry about them being creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 02:18 PM |
| 81 | IMO, there's no fixed way to determine whether a man you're dating is actually good.There was a post here just a while ago on how despite David Attenborough loves animals, he expected his wife to do all the cooking and now his daughter has to cook for him as he can't cook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 12:29 PM |
| 52 | I agreed to go on a date with someone I’m not attracted to at all. Should I cancel and how do I let him down nicely?Yeah don't meet him. You're not attracted to him for a reason. Don't settle. You're going to regret it if you date a guy you're not attracted to and "the one" appears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:16 AM |
| 64 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.Why were they like that? Female professors should be more supportive of their female students. Please don't tell me the female professors had feelings for the guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:48 AM |
| 3 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.I think it depends on where you are from. Where I am from it's ok for professors to communicate via Whatsapp but of course everything is related to work or study. It's just more convenient to communicate via text when trying to meet up for a professional meeting or talking to a large group of people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:26 AM |
| 22 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.82 year old? This was so creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:23 AM |
| 6 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.I think it depends on where you live. Where I'm from it's OK for professors to communicate with students via Whatsapp. It's just more convenient when you have to meet up somewhere for a meeting (related to academics of course) or have to communicate with a group of people. But of course most of the professors only discuss matters related to work or study. It's creepy how the professor admitted his feelings to OP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:22 AM |
| 90 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.His feelings are feelings of lust not love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:13 AM |
| 258 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantYeah if they're on a budget, they shouldn't be hosting guests so frequently. I hate how scrotes are generous and nice with their friends but frugal and harsh with their wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 07:57 AM |
| 27 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantIs the scrotation report a new flair? Anyway, if he wants to host a lot of guests, he should be the one doing the cooking (as well as cleaning up afterwards). It also sucks how the guy shamed his wife for having family members who cut them off during the argument. Scrotes are obsessed with shaming their wives and winning arguments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 07:54 AM |
| 5 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.24 years senior? Nope, just nope. He's probably just looking for a young woman to have a fling with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:54 AM |
| 64 | My mentor confessed to me. He's 24 years my senior.I'm so sorry this happened to you. Did you finish your degree in the end? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 6 | My chats aren’t off (I know) so I got this message - he wants “advice” AKA free labour. Who cares about my time, energy & emotions right?!Based on his username, he's probably a scote obsessed with being an "alpha". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 05:51 AM |
| 46 | Reminder: Time is precious.I hate these men who see women as placeholders. It's selfish to date just because you hate being single as opposed to loving the other person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 91 | Reminder: Time is precious.This. The same applies to crushes. The guy hasn't asked you out yet not because he's shy. It's because he's not interested in you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:23 PM |
| 1 | "3 thing we were taught that we should not teach our girls: Virginity as a value; Marriage as goal; Maternity as destiny"Yup. Gotta stay safe from STIs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:46 AM |
| 366 | Let me start by saying that cheating is terrible, but I cannot help but wonder if this "Wife-Girlfriend" of 10 years has utterly given up on him. I also like the "I guess" there at the end, suggesting a general passive-aggressiveness.The "wife (girlfriend)" part of this post is so cringeworthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:43 AM |
| 42 | REMINDER: It's ok to ignore / not be friends with / get distance from a man "for no reason".Yeah, a HVM would have stopped pursuing you out of respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:42 AM |
| 13 | Reminder of why it's prudent to never go off appYeah I would never give my number to a guy I just met on OLD. Quite a lot of scrotes are experts at doxxing others. Changing your real phone number after being stalked is an annoying process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 12:53 AM |
| 35 | Ugly scrotes fishing for women in low income countries… they’re scrambling!They're called "sexpats" or "losers back home". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 03:00 PM |
| 16 | Red flag: Emotional incest/family enmeshmentI think this is more common in cultures which value collectivism. To me, it's not really emotional incest but a guy thinking blood is thicker than water. Anyway, I agree with what you've said. Getting along with a guy is tough. It's even tougher to get along with all of his family members if they are so attached. This is rarely discussed here, but it's definitely possible for your in-laws to hate you due to competition. Sometimes his parents will resent you for "stealing their son's attention" d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 02:43 PM |
| 5 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?Yeah now that I think of it, maybe I'm just drawn to men in their 30s or late 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 11:00 AM |
| 3 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?Yeah, I guess whether you grew up with WiFi or cassette tapes matter less when you're older. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 12:46 AM |
| 56 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?And don't forget when a woman marries a guy much older than her, she will probably become widowed at a younger age than her peers who married men around the same age as them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 04:42 PM |
| 37 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?Only creepy dudes don't care about having anything generationally in common with their girlfriend They're looking for someone younger to manipulate or show off as a trophy SO or someone older to financially leech off of as opposed to love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:55 PM |
| 14 | How big of an age gap in relationships is acceptable?Lol even people only 4 years older than me can remember "millenial" stuff that I don't and sometimes joke about me being "too young", so I guess anyone older will be too different than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:54 PM |
| 14 | I’m not sure where to go from here in terms of meeting someoneYeah, but honestly, I tried to deliberately meet men but to no avail too. I think whether you come across a HVM who loves you depends on luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 12:13 PM |
| 1 | I’m discovering that MOST men are to some degree narcissistic, sociopathic, or borderline…what are the red flags we should all be aware of ?Check out the handbook. It has info on this. | /r/askFDS | 24/11/21 10:18 AM |
| 73 | I’m not sure where to go from here in terms of meeting someoneI don't think you're missing out a lot by not using OLD. Most men on OLD are scrotes or inactive and will never reply to your messages. A lot of men I stumbled across on OLD had odd profiles and the ones with no red flags never messaged me first or we couldn't make it past the small talk stage. I do agree sometimes things happen spontaneously. I've seen posts here where women shared how they met their HV SOs and they all seemed to have done that spontaneously. You can't force a relationship simi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:05 AM |
| 7 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?In the past, I thought men and women could be just friends, but nah, it's tough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 11:23 AM |
| 40 | Is this HV behavior?Think twice before you date someone 4 hours away. If both you of you agree to meet rach toher at midpoint, it'll still take you two hours to travel to meet him and two hours to return home. That's four hours of traveling in total. Imagine how much you could have done with the time. Also, be careful when you date someone without citizenship. Men like to shame women for dating for citizenship but it's not like men don't do this too. | /r/askFDS | 21/11/21 09:08 AM |
| 32 | Always google a man you’re interested in, use the tools we have now.Yeah, I think not having a criminal record is a bare minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:39 AM |
| 79 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.David Attenborough is wealthy enough to hire a private cook to cook for him, but nah, he had to ask his wife to do all the cooking for free and now his daughter had to do that after his wife passed away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:29 AM |
| 45 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.This. It's dangerous to have sex with random men youve just met on OLD. You're putting yourself at risk of STIs. The same applies to men you've met irl. Quite a lot of guys think it's ok to cheat or fuck around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 12:10 PM |
| 3 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)This. Regardless of how busy someone is, they can usually sneak some time into responding to texts. If it takes him days to respond, he's not that into you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:34 AM |
| 3 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)Within a day. If the guy is really into you, he will find some time to reply. Responding to someone's text takes a very short amount of time and people can do it during lunch breaks, dinner, or whatever. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:32 AM |
| 2 | One way to say "if he wanted to, he would"What a great quote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:31 AM |
| 102 | The importance of lying about your disfunctional familyHe proceeded to NAG THE FUCK OUT OF ME for not having daddy issues. "I usually do not get along well with people like this" He told you he likes exploiting women with daddy issues without telling you he likes exploiting women like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:17 PM |
| 374 | How Do You Handle Friends Trying to CompareI usually distance myself away from such people. They're probably not true friends if they are bitter and jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 12:47 PM |
| 2 | If he proposes to you with a Ring Pop, he is not a keeper.Scrotes these days are too frugal to buy an actual ring. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 11:39 AM |
| 6 | Dating outside of your raceAnd I highly suspect a lot of the Asian guys of those communities want to date white women to get back at white guys for "stealing Asian women". Of course they'll never admit that and will say they want to date white women so that the imbalance between white guy/Asian girl and Asian guy/white girl couples is not so great. I honestly suspect the Asian guys there don't care about Asian women that much. They're only angry about white guys with yellow fever going for Asian women as they hate the ide… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:38 AM |
| 68 | Reject a man if you meet him in the wild and your gut screams NO but your people-pleaser wants to give him your numberA lot of men who flaunt about their business or job is not even that rich in the first place. The like to portray themselves as rich and successful as they're not like that irl and feel insecure about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:29 AM |
| 81 | Reminder: Don't befriend male colleagues who are married!I just maintain a respectable distance away from all men who are not pursuing me. Even if these guys are single, there's not much point in becoming extremely close to them as it will send the wrong signal and lead to embarrassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 10:20 AM |
| 49 | [deleted by user]Oh yes, you need to be attracted to the guy you're dating. He doesn't have to look like a supermodel but you need to be at the very least attracted to his looks. Just liking a guy's personality is not enough. If you're dating a guy you see as unattractive at some point sex with him will feel repulsive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 06:33 AM |
| 47 | curious why men send dick picsThey get turned on by harassing women. They see it as a form of humiliation so it makes them feel "powerful". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 28 | Little Mix dropped a new album and it's got some new anthemsTrash Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 45 | Anyone had a scrote try this on them?This never happened to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:35 PM |
| 14 | Dating outside of your raceI don't think the Asian men of those online communities care about the wellbeing of Asian women as much as they claim. I've seen users of those subs talking about how they dislike paying for dates and how much they love Japanese porn (and apparently watching Japanese porn is a good thing as it implies they like Asian women more than white women as this is a sign they don't suffer from internalised racism). I've also heard of Asian men negging Asian women by talking about how they see white or Eu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:31 PM |
| 26 | Dating outside of your raceAre those Asian communities Aznidentity and Asian Masculinity? I've lurked there too and yes, their posts did affect me. Nowadays I'm very wary of white men with yellow fever. I agree many Asian men are LV too. Nope they don't fetishise Asian women but many of them are patrichal, love to gossip, think it's ok to flirt with other women when they're in a relationship, and dump their SOs when they can snag a hotter girl. Some of them also suffer from internalised racism and think white or Eurasian … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 03:33 PM |
| 73 | Dating outside of your raceI'm also Asian and I worry about this too. It seems like many non-Asian men into Asian women have yellow fever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 01:43 PM |
| 12 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.Yeah when I saw that photo, I thought it would be an article on creepy age gap relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 11:32 AM |
| 98 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.And like the author, it's possible to find a HVM when you're older. There's no reason to rush just because you're single in your 20s or 30s. "The one" appears later in life for some people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:25 AM |
| 13 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Why would anyone want to have sex with someone treating them poorly? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:14 AM |
| 9 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.It's because these men have a sour grapes mentality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:14 AM |
| 60 | Love is never enough!Or the guy is a scrote and lied about being extremely compatible with the girl when he's not. I've heard about scrotes lying about believing in a certain religion and only revealing the truth after getting married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:16 PM |
| 7 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.Oh right there are still lockdowns in many parts of the world. Where I live there are no lockdowns at the moment but I guess the situation is different in other places. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 02:14 PM |
| 17 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.And it's more dangerous for women than men to use OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:45 AM |
| 23 | The maze I went through to find ONE seemingly HVM on OLD. The statistics are staggering.I think OLD has a higher concentration of LVM than irl. HVM probably find it easy to meet women irl so they don't need to use OLD. LVM also gravitate towards OLD due to its "anonymous" nature. They can disappear more easily after using you for sex with zero negative consequences from their perspective. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 12:38 AM |
| 6 | Doesn’t it seem like men only value women who they think are out of their league?It's just that most men are not that desirable but they all want to date supermodels, so yeah, the women they treat as "goddesses" are all out of their league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:00 PM |
| 22 | Have you ever noticed that older women NEVER manipulate younger guys for personal gain? While men do it daily...Many women are not sexually interested in guys who are much younger than them. For those who do like younger men, they don't get turned on by manipulating and controlling a younger SO unlike their male counterparts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:54 PM |
| 9 | Is it a red flag if he kisses you on the first date without asking first?I would say so, especially now given how here is an ongoing COVID-19 pandemic. I don't want to be kissed by some guy I've only been on one date with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 12:52 PM |
| 2 | How should we act around guys we are attracted to?Thank you! I don't think I always like men who look like models. I do like nerdy, intelligent, and skinny men, but I'm sure there are other women out there with the same preferences as me who will shower these men with attention. You're right about how trying to gain their attention in a forcible manner is off-putting. Relationships should happen naturally. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/21 12:49 PM |
| 7 | How should we act around guys we are attracted to?Yeah. In the past, I flirted with my crush and later discovered they were taken. It was awkward, and I guess keeping things friendly is a way to play it safe. | /r/askFDS | 09/11/21 10:37 AM |
| 24 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Yeah, a lot of the men on OLD have red flags. I don't need to meet them irl to know they're LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:12 PM |
| 18 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Did you meet any guys on OLD irl? I've never done that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:11 PM |
| 62 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...I want a guy with depth. It seems like almost every guy on OLD is not like that. They're either into hobbies that men think will help attract women (eg. extreme sports) or very boring and has no interesting hobbies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:07 PM |
| 116 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...Where I'm from, it's common for men to portray themselves as fuckboys (shirtless pics, gym pics, etc), having extremely desirable traits (extremely well-paid job, owns a posh car, etc... it seems too good to be true), or having extremely undesirable traits (unattractive selfies, being stuck in a boring dead end job that pays very little, etc). I just want a "normal" guy but it seems like most guys on OLD are not like that. For the small minority of guys with "normal" profiles, they never message… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 03:01 PM |
| 87 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.She probably thinks it's ok for the guy to like her as she's "mature for her age". Honestly, regardless of how mature she is, someone who is still in secondary school is at a different life stage than someone old enough to graduate from uni. Older HVM should realise and pursue women in the same life stage as them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:39 AM |
| 6 | After this, she is still unsure if she should leave.This was so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:37 AM |
| 136 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.This is why we should never propose to men. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:23 AM |
| 119 | This is hands down one of the most utterly depressing things I’ve ever seen. No matter how bleak things get, thanks to FDS we’ll never be this woman, passively rejected for a proposal by her child’s father after 11 YEARS of dating.Also, is he living with them?? I’m so confused Same here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:23 AM |
| 10 | For any woman who has ever been negged about her appearance...Yeah, or they're brainwashed with the idea that it's ok for a guy to be unattractive as long as he has a decent personality or some money (that may not even be a lot). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:13 AM |
| 13 | For any woman who has ever been negged about her appearance...I immediately thought of the Big Bang Theory. I do like nerdy guys, but seriously Sheldon and all the other men are way less attractive than Penny. I don't think the characters dated each other but you get the idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:10 AM |
| 18 | For any woman who has ever been negged about her appearance...Way too many men want a trophy SO when they have nothing to offer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:05 AM |
| 16 | For any woman who has ever been negged about her appearance...A lot of men I know are unattractive to average-looking. They have little to offer but want a trophy SO to look after them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 11:05 AM |
| 21 | Needle spiking - happened to my best friend last weekend in Denmark be carefulThe men who do this are not scrotes. They're monsters. There's also the risk of HIV if these men choose to reuse needles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 02:28 PM |
| 7 | Using Social Media to VetDefinitely do that. Someone's social media says a lot about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 02:19 PM |
| 14 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sThese broke men hate "gold diggers" as they hate how these women are uninterested the them. If they were rich, they would love "gold diggers". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 07:12 AM |
| 77 | I left a perfectly good man because FDS made me believe I could do better. And you were rightCongrats! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 12:14 PM |
| 50 | Dont mention your standardsIf you mention your standards to a guy, he'll just pretend to be what you're looking for if he's LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 05:05 PM |
| 88 | Cancelled a date today 😌 My first unmatch block delete!!Do scrotes these days think being "hard to get" work in their favour? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:33 AM |
| 32 | As an essential worker, I’ve honestly met more male ‘Karens’ in my life than the stereotypical lady ‘Karen’These men are called "Dicks". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:47 PM |
| 4 | Would you still go on this date?He's hinting he's not into something serious. He is reporting his intentions so that if you later call him out for lying about wanting something long-term, he'll blame you as the one at fault for missing the hint. | /r/askFDS | 02/11/21 11:11 AM |
| 11 | Where to meet HVM?Interest classes? Volunteering? There's no shortcut to meet HVM and the truth is whether you come across a single HVM who likes you depends on luck. And honestly, you shouldn't do something just for the sake of meeting men as chances are you'll be disappointed. I had tried all of the above methods and guess what? I didn't meet any compatible HVM. | /r/askFDS | 02/11/21 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?I personally don't see the point of it. It's not that different from hooking up "just for fun". Causal relationships with sex are not beneficial to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:59 AM |
| 18 | Great boyfriend, not-so-great husband?I've never been in this situation, but I can say the guy sees the girl as a forever girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:56 AM |
| 18 | I was a pickme for 11 years - I changed because of this sub.Congrats on being woke! I agree most men are LV so dating them is a horrible idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:55 AM |
| 5 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?If a guy is HV, he'll probably not pick scrotes as his BFFs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:51 AM |
| 4 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Yeah. I think most men are looking for sex or a trophy SO as opposed to love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:49 AM |
| 7 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?And some men are kind to their kin (including other female relatives) but not their SOs. Quite a lot of LVM think blood is thicker than water and will treat people not related to them shittily. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 10:46 AM |
| 32 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Don't give the time of day to any boy who uses you in an attempt to make another girl jealous. What he does with you, he'll do to you. Oh goodness gracious, I really hate these men. These men want an ego boost at the cost of ruining your relationship with the other girl. The other girl who has a crush on the guy will usually resent you for the attention you're getting even if you're not interested in the guy at all. These men are just being more "enemies" into your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:48 PM |
| 11 | Happy Halloween!When a guy you haven't talked to in ages suddenly reaches out to you, he almost always has some ulterior motive for doing so. He either wants to get back with you, have sex with you, or persuade you to join his pyramid scheme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:34 PM |
| 7 | Is it okay to not want to date in your 20's?Sure. Most men are LV. Trying to find a compatible HV guy in the dating pool is like waddling through a swamp to find a diamond. It's not worth the effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:32 PM |
| 19 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Yeah I agree. These men often want a trophy SO as much as (if not more) their more extroverted and attractive counterparts. The only reason why they're not dating supermodels is because these women are not into them. Men are often as loyal as their options, and many of these shy and unattractive guys will immediately dump their SOs if they can snag a hotter girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:29 PM |
| 32 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Same for female friends as well. If someone really wants to be your friend instead of only being friendly out of politeness, you'll see them taking initiative in contacting you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 01:25 PM |
| 4 | A man asked, "most men aren't bad so why don't women trust us all?" Here is my my reply:Pretty sure the percentage of men who are LV is higher than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 01:47 PM |
| 29 | if a beaver can wash his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfWhy can't LVM do something as basic as maintaining personal hygiene? If they can't do something as basic as that they're not ready for dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:45 AM |
| 13 | A man asked, "most men aren't bad so why don't women trust us all?" Here is my my reply:Most men I know are not extremely horrible (e.g. physically cheated in the past, had been arrested, being addicted to illicit drugs, etc) but they definitely do have at least one red flag (e.g. being selfish, having a fragile male ego, likes to gossip, thinking it's ok to dump their SOs if they can snag a hotter girl, constantly telling lies, having poor hygiene, etc). I'm not even talking about HVM. Even finding a "normal" guy is tough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:37 AM |
| 3 | How do you strategize outfits and fashion for dates?This. I would have done this too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:22 AM |
| 27 | What a Pick Me's future looks likeNah, the eyesight of these gamers would have deteriorated to the point of being nearly blind so they won't be able to play video games. This is what happens when you play video games for hours on a daily basis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:18 AM |
| 9 | California condors remind us not to settleThanks for sharing this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:42 PM |
| 7 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVOk glad to know you are feeling better now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 05:29 PM |
| 15 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVI'm sorry this happened to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 29 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVFrom personal experience, the men who looked amazing on paper (great career, successful, attractive) were the LOWEST value of all time IMO the vast majority of men are LV regardless of whether they look good on paper or not and I don't think any type of men is particularly LV as most of them are equally as bad. At least if I date a wealthy LVM, I don't have to worry about him leeching off me as opposed to a broke LVM. What's the point in being in a relationship with someone who's attractive and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 17 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVOh yes, LVM are obsessed with portraying themselves as HV to lure women into dating them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:07 PM |
| 9 | Just because a man looks good on paper doesn't mean he is HVSounds cool. I'll check it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 02:04 PM |
| 117 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.As Marie Kondo said, "Does this spark joy? If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 8 | How does asking friends to set you up on a date work?I know a woman who tried to set her friend up with a guy without her friend asking for it. The guy was intially somewhat interested after she showed him a photo of her friend and he immediately asked about her job and relationship history. He rejected her as soon as he discovered she got divorced as he wasn't open to dating divorcees. Obviously the woman never told her friend about what happened but it was pretty embarrassing. I guess being rejected in this manner is somewhat less embarrassing t… | /r/askFDS | 27/10/21 03:47 PM |
| 21 | Crushes are like drug addictionsWhich sub is it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 27 | Crushes are like drug addictionsI really hate men who exploit women who have a crush on them. In some ways, they are worse than men who ignore, avoid, or reject women who have crushes on them (despite how the latter will result in the woman "losing face" earlier). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:40 AM |
| 24 | Crushes are like drug addictionsYeah. Men are portrayed to be HV and there's the idea of finding "the one". I hence mistakenly idealised my former crushes as I saw them as "the one". If they were "the one", we would have been dating instead of me having some embarrassing crush on them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:39 AM |
| 55 | Crushes are like drug addictionsFor me, it has to do with how I find it difficult to meet men I feel "the spark" with so it was difficult to let go of men I liked even if I knew they didn't like me back. I guess I idealised them as they appeared to be HV when I barely knew them. Quite a lot of LVM are good at pretending to be HV. My former crushes may even be talking shit about me being desperate, easy, and unattractive and I remind myself this to move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:37 AM |
| 32 | So I just discovered what demisexuality isYeah. How is only being attracted to people you have an emptional connection with a form of greysexuality? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/21 07:26 AM |
| 106 | So I just discovered what demisexuality isYeah I found this label very odd. I'm pretty sure a lot of women perceive men like that. How is this a form of greysexuality? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/21 07:22 AM |
| 37 | What does it mean when a guy wants to be exclusive but not in a relationship?He wants exclusive sex but no commitment. | /r/askFDS | 09/10/21 06:49 AM |
| 3 | I just saw a show about headhunters and it made me think of matchmakersOh I'm not from the West so I assume the recruitment policies here are different. Many the headhunters in the TV show were making stuff up but idk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:59 AM |
| 7 | I just saw a show about headhunters and it made me think of matchmakersI don't know anyone irl who tried to find an SO via matchmakers, but I've heard it doesn't usually work. Unlike headhunters who have to pay a certain amount if the employee they recommended chooses to leave the company before the time they promised, matchmakers will not pay you back if the date is not a success or they've met you with someone who doesn't meet your preferences. It just makes the whole thing feel more scammy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:57 AM |
| 14 | I just saw a show about headhunters and it made me think of matchmakersA lot of matchmakers mainly care about how much they earn. If a LVM pays is willing to pay for their services, they'll just set him up with women he likes to earn money. If they turn him down, they'll lose a business opportunity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 12:47 AM |
| 8 | Even The Onion knows open relationships are BS 🤣What the fuck is an open relationship? If it's open then it's not a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:56 PM |
| 21 | Straight from the horse's mouth and a reminder why you shouldn't date men you are not attracted to in some way shape or form. Because chances are he's just settling for you, if he could do better he would replace you in a heartbeatmen are as faithful as their options What a nice way to sum up how scrotes think. Extremely attractive or rich men never pursue me. It makes me question if the men who had pursued me would have done that if they were born very attractive or rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:53 PM |
| 19 | Straight from the horse's mouth and a reminder why you shouldn't date men you are not attracted to in some way shape or form. Because chances are he's just settling for you, if he could do better he would replace you in a heartbeatI don't mind men who are somewhat less attractive than me because to me a guy's personality matters more than his looks. But nope, no extremely unattractive guys. I think women are more open to dating unattractive men than the other way around as women are less superficial than men when it comes to judging people by their looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:52 PM |
| 32 | Straight from the horse's mouth and a reminder why you shouldn't date men you are not attracted to in some way shape or form. Because chances are he's just settling for you, if he could do better he would replace you in a heartbeatMen always date and always take chances on women they are not attracted to This. To them, any sex is better than no sex as they're horny perverts. A lot of scrotes would immediately dump their SOs if a supermodel was interested in them. They just haven't done that yet as conventionally extremely attractive women are not interested in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:50 PM |
| 97 | Straight from the horse's mouth and a reminder why you shouldn't date men you are not attracted to in some way shape or form. Because chances are he's just settling for you, if he could do better he would replace you in a heartbeatFor me, I realised this before discovering this sub. The vast majority of men want a hot trophy SO, but since conventionally extremely attractive women are a minority and these women are not interested in them, they just go for women they see as less attractive. I highly suspect a lot of men would cheat on their conventionally average-looking SOs if a supermodel was interested in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:48 PM |
| 242 | Reading a relationship book made me realise I don't want a relationship that muchThe book is literally teaching pick mes to continue to be pick mes but in a more "subtle" way so that the guy doesn't notice. I will not have sex with a guy I've just met not because I want to pretend to be a madonna but because I will be genuinely uncomfortable with it and feel unsafe. If I'm not asking people I've just met to be my BFF, I'm not thinking about marrying a guy I've only been on a date with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 11:52 AM |
| 4 | Just because you are both HV doesn't mean you will be compatible.Yeah. Just because a guy is HV doesn't mean you two are compatible regarding wanting kids or not, religion, and other stuff. It's hard to be extremely compatible with someone except if they're your twin or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:32 PM |
| 108 | We don't compete against other women & we don't chase menChasing men never works. I did that back when I was unwoke and so did some other women I know. The guy either ignored us, avoided us, rejected us, or used us for sex and attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:26 PM |
| 53 | Women who like women, approach them in a totally different way than men. Plus they are sexy in a different waySometimes I think I would be more likely to find the love I wanted if I were a lesbian instead of being straight. Way too many men are incapable of love and only care about sex or having a hot trophy SO to boost their own social status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:13 AM |
| 23 | If he wanted to he wouldThat's awesome! My HV uncle also got my aunt Tiffany jewelry too. My aunt doesn't even wear jewelry on a regular basis. If he wanted to, he would. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:47 PM |
| 19 | Meeting men via speed dating or singles eventsAre many of the guys socially awkward or have some type of red flag? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:44 PM |
| 28 | Meeting men via speed dating or singles eventsBut still, no matter how you meet men the majority aren’t worth your time, so I think however you choose to engage in dating is fine as long as you keep that in mind Yeah. Chances are you'll come across men with red flags. Even if they seem decent, you'll probably feel not attracted to them to the point of wanting to date them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 03:43 PM |
| 13 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡To be fair, at least your chances of getting COVID from a guy through a date like that is lower than eating with your mask off. Meeting strangers during the pandemic seems risky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 12:04 PM |
| 40 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡I've seen men on OLD with profiles that say they hate women expecting them to pay for dates and how they don't want a girlfriend like that. They literally don't even have to go on Reddit to complain about women being gold diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:55 AM |
| 44 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Just don't reply. And yeah I know that feel. I had matched with men on OLD who would suddenly ask if I wanted to have sex with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:07 AM |
| 105 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡Nah, he's an adult who is probably looking for free sex on OLD which is why he refuses to pay for dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 11:06 AM |
| 68 | Bfs family jokingly asking why I am with him - red flag?Yes it's a red flag. Most parents don't want their kids to die alone and will not speak about their kids negatively in front of their SOs. Just look at all those mothers who want to pair up their LV sons with women they see as desirable. The fact that they joke about why you're with him implies he has huge red flags they know about and hence think you deserve better. Even if it's a joke, if that guy is very HV, the family will not joke about that in the first place. | /r/askFDS | 29/09/21 12:14 PM |
| 123 | The entire pole is a red flagThere's a lot of these creepy non-Asian guys looking for Asian women in Asia too. They think Asian women will fawn over them as they're Cacuasian and exotic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:58 AM |
| 3 | Don't have your life revolve around menThis. People tend to only post about the best part of their lives on social media. Scrotes and pick mes love to portray themselves to be in loving relationships even if they're not. The scrotes want to portray themselves as HV so that nobody else will realise they're actually LV. Some pick mes deliberately post a lot about how much their SOs love them on social media as they know their SOs have been cheating and want to encourage the homewreckers to leave them alone by portraying themselves to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 12:55 AM |
| 9 | Open communication doesn't seem to be a thing anymoreThey're clarifying the type of women they want. I assume many of these men on OLD think physical or emotional cheating is ok which is why they want a woman who is ok with him being "secretive". Men hate women asking them too many questions about their lives for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 10:56 AM |
| 18 | Don't have your life revolve around menWell finding a decent man is way more probable than winning the lottery. I know some women married to HVM whereas I don't know any lottery winners irl. What I mean is since whether we find a HVM or not is beyond our control, we shouldn't make it our main goal in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 12:50 AM |
| 14 | Anyone else having trouble making new friends after FDS?Or they actively take part in gossiping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:00 PM |
| 37 | Anyone else having trouble making new friends after FDS?I've always found it difficult to make true friends. Discovering FDS made me realise I'm not the odd one out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 02:22 PM |
| 19 | Golddigging husband wants hardworking wife to buy him a new PC (so he can undoubtedly waste time playing video games). All the comments were praising him but god forbid if a woman does the same. Men just love to project.I don't see any point in being in a relationship with someone leaching off me. Athletes with severe physical disabilities are training to compete in the Paralymlics, and these guys with zero disabilities are just lying on the sofa all day playing video games or surfing the web. What are shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:29 AM |
| 17 | This meme is insulting to sharksThis. Almost all of the men I know have at least one of these traits. I assume they have even more red flags I don't know about given how LVM love to hide their flaws in the public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:21 AM |
| 10 | Treat relationships with men like they are temporaryThis. I've had distant relatives distance themselves away from me after they've moved away. Even my own relatives slowly faded away from my life let alone men who are not related to me by blood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:19 AM |
| 2 | Is it ok to have a first date that’s not in your area if the guy pays for your transportation?but I read about a man who "sent an Uber" for a woman and he showed up as the driver This is so creepy. | /r/askFDS | 26/09/21 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Is it ok to have a first date that’s not in your area if the guy pays for your transportation?Did you meet the guy on OLD? If that's the case, meeting him in his area seems risky. You're not familiar with the surroundings whereas he is. It will hence be more difficult to flee if things go south. | /r/askFDS | 26/09/21 02:55 PM |
| 3 | My friend has her first date and she's asking me if this is okayI would be uncomfortable with spending time with a stranger at night. | /r/askFDS | 26/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 13 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.This. The vast majority of men will naturally orbit around a woman they see as 10/10. If he's not asking you out, it means he's not interested in dating you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:37 PM |
| 5 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Extroverted guys want women to come to them too. They want to be swarmed with women like James Bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 02:35 PM |
| 12 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.A lot of men think they want this, but deep down it’s a turn off for them They want to be swarmed with women like James Bond, but who they want as an SO is a 10/10 "stacy" popular among other men as having a trophy SO will boost their own social status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:36 AM |
| 13 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.This. I know women who asked guys out and yup, the guy would use her for sex until he snagged a girl he liked more or rejected her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:35 AM |
| 20 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah, many of these "shy" men will naturally pursue a woman they see as 10/10. There's a reason why so many men are willing to "orbit" around "stacies" despite how they claim to be shy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:33 AM |
| 9 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah. If he's struggling with caring for his own mental health, he will struggle with caring for a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:32 AM |
| 19 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah, they just want to be swarmed with women like James Bond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:31 AM |
| 22 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.And many men have a madonna-whore complex. They'll label any woman who asked them out as a "whore". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:29 AM |
| 21 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Im I'm this happened to you. This is why we should never ask guys out. If he's a scrote, he'll gossip about you being a "desperate whore" in front of others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:28 AM |
| 9 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah, and you don't want to date extremely socially awkward men too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:27 AM |
| 34 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.I know women who asked a men out. It never ended up well from the girl's perspective. The guy either used the girl as some"temporary girlfriend" until he could snag a girl he liked more or rejected her due to a lack of interest or the fact that he was actually taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:24 AM |
| 23 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.I have no idea why so many people support the idea of women asking men out. My mother said women almost never did this back when she was my age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:23 AM |
| 155 | Scrote wants woman to pay for dates, even though they’re not exclusive after several dates. Pretty impressed to see the comments from other guys saying that they happily pay for dates.Yeah, there's not much point in dating a guy like that. You can't force him to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:01 AM |
| 20 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeha this is really basic. If a guy doesn't like you to the point of asking you out, he'll probably refuse to pay for dinner dates and buy you gifts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:23 AM |
| 59 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.I know some girls who asked guys out, and it similarly never ended up well from the girl's perspective. The guy either dated the girl until he found someone he liked more, rejected the girl even though he was single by saying he wasn't interested, or rejected the girl by revealing he actually had a gf all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:22 AM |
| 15 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.Yeah, you don't want a guy like that. Just move on if he doesn't ask you out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 07:20 AM |
| 6 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areI've personally never heard of a matchmaker paying a man to pretend to be rich I think it's more of a thing here. I live in Asia so things are different here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:17 PM |
| 9 | So…the bare minimum is your standard?Yeah. Why date someone who is not into you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 02:09 PM |
| 30 | “Men always complain about being friend zoned, but do they know how much it hurts to be fuck zoned? As if our friendship only had value to him because of possible sex?”Fuckzoned is such a nice word. It sums up a guy using you for sex so nicely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:24 PM |
| 182 | “Men always complain about being friend zoned, but do they know how much it hurts to be fuck zoned? As if our friendship only had value to him because of possible sex?”They know women don't want to be fuckzoned. There's a reason why fuckboys pretend to be looking for a long-term relationship on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:23 PM |
| 6 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksWell if the beastly woman was as rich as the beast, she could probably still attract some gold digging guy given how so many men are golddiggers these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 11:00 AM |
| 86 | “Men always complain about being friend zoned, but do they know how much it hurts to be fuck zoned? As if our friendship only had value to him because of possible sex?”Or "temporary girlfriend until I find someone hotter" zone. Btw being friendzoned is not something exclusive to men so being friendzoned has nothing to do with women being too picky as scroteslike to claim. Back when I was unwoke I had been friendzoned too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:58 AM |
| 21 | Dating Apps = CircusI like the image you shared. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 10:57 AM |
| 1 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areI don't live in America. I've seen people posting what they think of certain matchmakers on forums here but I can't help but some of them are the matchmakers themselves writing positive reviews about their companies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 09:23 AM |
| 3 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areOr they see you as a cash cow to be milked. The fact that we are paying just to be "introduced" to other paying men adds insult to injury The idea of men being paid to catfish women is also ridiculous. At least this doesn't happen on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:44 AM |
| 3 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areOh I've never paid for a matchmaker. I just decided to look up info about matchmakers after seeing posts on it. Honestly I've always felt random meets are the only way So you meet men by initiating conversations with strangers in the streets? Doesn't this mean you're taking intiative in hitting on men and FDS is against that? I live in a big city and I guess it's quite uncommon for people to meet potential people to date like that (unless if you look like a supermodel of course). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:42 AM |
| 3 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areMost men who pay thousands of dollars for 1-1 matchmaking usually want a very specific woman down to race, height, weight, hair color, occupation, etc which means even if you were paying you wouldn't be their type and therefore would never meet them Yeah, almost all extremely wealthy men either want an extremely hot trophy SO or someone within their social class. If this type of men is never interested in you irl, it seems odd how so many men like that are suddenly interested in you once you pay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:39 AM |
| 1 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areWell FDS is different. FDS is discouraging users from dating random men instead of encouraging it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:34 AM |
| 2 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areYeah. Given how meeting one guy via a matchmaker can cost over US$100, meeting numerous men via matchmakers is a great way to become broke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:02 AM |
| 6 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areI looked up the show. Arranged marriages suck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 08:01 AM |
| 75 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksYeah, men know money can compensate for looks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:15 PM |
| 84 | Guys know that the problem is not purely their looksThis. Women are way more open to dating unattractive men than the other way around. Women who don't conform to society's beauty standards tend to have a much tougher time attracting members of the opposite sex than men, and men still have the audacity to talk about being an ugly male as the worse thing in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:15 PM |
| 28 | I hate how scammy a lot of matchmakers areYeah, scammers know women long for love yet love is hard to find so they promise they will help them find the mythical HVM to exploit them. It's not that different from scammers asking people to join "get rich quick" schemes. They know people long for wealth yet becoming extremely rich is hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 02:12 PM |
| 17 | Most men are NOT capable of genuine love. In order to love a woman, they have to see her as human. That’s why most of them would rather keep the privilege of seeing you as an object — to feel less bad about the mistreatment they put you through.Yup. There are way too many men who are not dating their SOs because they truly love them. They only want sex and attention from her, someone to be their "temporary girlfriend" until they can snag a hotter girl, or a trophy SO to brag about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 10:55 AM |
| 444 | I'm on my second solo vacation and it's really hard to imagine anyone topping the way I treat myself. Also, disgusted with the men I observe.I'm Asian. Every time I got to Europe, I come across European men hitting on me in the streets. They'll say random stuff like konichiwa and how they like sushis. I'm not even Japanese. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 12:42 PM |
| 17 | *questions my entire childhood*And Peter Pan is one of those guys who never become mature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 07:28 AM |
| 43 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.Plenty of scrotes resent men who are wealthier, more attractive, taller, more successful, and smarter than them as they think it will make them look bad in comparison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 06:00 PM |
| 48 | LVM don't just hate women. They hate HVM too.These LVM are literally wasting all their energy putting down HVM when they could be using that time to improve themselves They also waste a lot of time shitposting about how much they hate this sub and sending us Reddit Care Resources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 45 | A nice summary of some of the common red flags we hear about on FDSIf he's already showing red flags when you two are dating (or before you two start dating) then things are just going to get worse after marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 11:31 AM |
| 19 | CHILDFREE WOMEN BEWARE: if a man tells you he is childfree, make sure he is ACTUALLY child free and not a deadbeatLVM really have to lie about everything about themselves, eh? They lie about if they have kids or not, their relationship status, the number of women they've dated, their age, their looks, how wealthy they are, their life experiences, and their personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 11 | An example of HVM in real lifeYeah, HVM definitely exist but they are a minority. Don't lose hope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/21 12:54 AM |
| 82 | You make me laugh. All because I said men should please leave a relationship with a woman if they can’t handle her choice to grow out her natural body hair and NOT just withhold intimacy (emotional abuse in this instance). Also sir your active communities says it all ... Reminder to block DMs! 🤦🏻♀️Reddit allows you to block all message requests. You may consider that. Edit: Just got a Reddit Care Resource message after writing this. Lol, just lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 07:14 AM |
| 10 | "Should I really vet for the rest of my life?? That seems excessive and too much work!" Yes, sis, yes you shouldYup. Vet men for life. How long it takes for a scrote to show his true colours depends on what he is hoping to get from you. If he's hoping to fool you into marriage, then he'll start acting terribly after marriage. If he's hoping to obtain the same citizenship as you, he'll dump you once he obtains citizenship. If he's a gold digger, he can be nice to you for your entire life as he wants to leech off you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 03:21 PM |
| 40 | Be careful about helping "disabled" men!(potential trigger warning!)I was thinking of exactly the same thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 07:57 AM |
| 4 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsI guess you can wait for a few months at most. The truth is there are LV women out there who charm "orbiters" to use them for gifts and attention so HVM will worry about being used too. They will probably want to wait for a while to vet you a bit before deciding to buy your posh gifts. It's not that different from HVW choosing to have sex with a guy only after they've been dating for at least three months. You can tell if a guy is generous or frugal based on how much he is willing to pay for dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 06:29 PM |
| 8 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsThe pornsick ones are the ones that will give you things that will purely benefit THEM Or they give you cheap stuff or stuff they got from someone else for free as they are too frugal to even buy lingerie. The green flag men are also the ones who are the most observant. If he can remember some art you mentioned, or noticed a beautiful piece of furniture that would fit perfectly in your space and brings it over as a gift, take note of this too It's the same with friends. A friend who cares about … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 02:18 PM |
| 19 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsIt's ridiculous how he gave you earrings when you don't have pierced ears. Surely he would have noticed you don't have pierced ears? And yes, I think those earrings were a worse gift than paying to get your ears pierced. At least the latter is more expensive. It just goes to show how frugal he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:50 AM |
| 57 | NEVER admit insecurityOr they think the whole thing happened because it was your problem so other people weren't treating you unfairly. Not only will they not support you but they will question if you were the asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 11:42 AM |
| 11 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsI would wait until a day where it's common for people to give gifts (eg. Valentine's day, Christmas, your birthday, etc). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:37 AM |
| 224 | NEVER admit insecurityThis. It's a bad idea to reveal your insecurities to a guy you haven't vetted. He will either gossip about it (if he's gossipy) or use the information against you. LVM LOVE using what they perceive as your weakness against you to gaslight and control you. And yes, some of these men will pretend to be HV simply to lure you into revealing your insecurities to them. I would say the same principle applies to women too and you shouldn't be telling someone you haven't vetted all your insecurities. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:34 AM |
| 45 | Why are so many men obsessed with teenage girls?I was thinking of 17 year old as opposed to 13 year olds. But yeah, 13 year olds are basically kids. Most women in their 20s or 30s are not obsessed with male young teens and certainly have no interest in dating them. It seems odd that so many older men (and some even in their 50s or 60s) are obssesed with female young teen influencers or other public figures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 09:27 AM |
| 20 | Green flag - thoughtful, non-sexual giftsI'm going to add cheap gifts or gifts he got for free from someone else that is of no use to him (eg. giving you dining vouchers of a restaurant he dislikes after winning the vouchers at a raffle) to what you've said. Don't date men who are this frugal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 12:49 AM |
| 161 | Why are so many men obsessed with teenage girls?This. They want something with the looks of an adult but the naivity of a child. Teens have "the best of both worlds" to LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 12:41 AM |
| 4 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah, many men on old are not looking for love. They just want casual sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Avoid using OLD to meet menWell your situation is different given how you are attracted to women too. I think women are less likely to catfish other women to cheat or get laid. Meanwhile, most men on OLD are fuckboys or cheaters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:42 PM |
| 13 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.Yeah, they want a daughter in law who always listens to her. I also highly suspect many of these women want grandkids which is why they are taking intiative in trying to find an SO for their sons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:54 AM |
| 3 | Avoid using OLD to meet menCan you ask the people you know to set you up with men they know? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:51 AM |
| 3 | Avoid using OLD to meet menA Great HVM doesn't need online dating because he can easily find a woman within his environment through his interactions This. I've seen pick mes pursuing unattractive and poor LVM irl so I assume it's easy for a guy with a HV personality to find an SO even if he is neither attractive nor rich. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:48 AM |
| 8 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah it's sad to see men spend so much time to stalk women. The person who came up with the method to find a woman's location by drawing three circles is actually pretty intelligent, but instead of using his intelligence to make society a better place, he decides to stalk women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:45 AM |
| 3 | Avoid using OLD to meet menSame for me. It was very hard for me to move past small talk with men on OLD. Maybe it has to do with how I am uncomfortable with revealing too much personal information about myself so I have fewer things to talk about. And yeah, men on OLD tend to have hobbies such as extreme sport, drinking wine, "partying", driving posh cars, and travelling. I don't think it's a coincidence that these hobbies are hobbies men think will increase their appeal to women. It's all very boring when so many men on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:42 AM |
| 3 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah, and the chances of that guy being LV is way higher than him being HV. I think it takes a great leap of faith to go from meeting a stranger online to dating him. It's hard to fully verify his identity unless both of you happen to know the same people irl. If people can lie on CVs and during job interviews, they can certainly lie online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 10:35 AM |
| 10 | Avoid using OLD to meet men$200+ was so expensive. I would rather try to meet men via interest classes or volunteering. Dick is not worth that much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:09 AM |
| 6 | Avoid using OLD to meet menThis is why I created a new Facebook account with a nickname to create OLD accounts. I don't want a guy to find me by searching for my name on Facebook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:07 AM |
| 12 | Avoid using OLD to meet menThey can find your location too. There was a post on this sub about how men on OLD can use the distance away information on OLD to stalk women. All they need to do is travel to three different locations and draw a circumference of a circle based on how far away the OLD sites say you are away from him. The point where the three circles intersect is your location. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:06 AM |
| 13 | Avoid using OLD to meet menThe type of men who love OLD love it because it allows them to have more options than they would irl Or they like how you can be "anonymous" on the internet so they can have casual sex and cheat "with no strings attached". If he can’t meet people in person, there’s a reason Yup. Men naturally prefer meeting women irl than online as they will naturally have crushes on women they've met irl and want to pursue them. Men will also worry about being catfished and stereotype women on OLD as "unwanted"… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:02 AM |
| 5 | Avoid using OLD to meet menI'm sorry this happened to you. Yeah, many men on OLD will pressure you to stay with him or lie about how desirable he is. While men you've met irl can be terrible too, at least they're less likely to lie about their entire identity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 21 | Avoid using OLD to meet menOh yes, many guys looking for casual sex use OLD as they can have free sex "with no strings attached". Many scrotes are poor or frugal so yup, they want to save every dime and hence prefer getting laid on OLD than paying a prostitute to have sex with them. Men also tend to stereotype women on OLD as "unwanted by other men" so they'll not see women on OLD as wife material and will only be interested in hooking up with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:56 AM |
| 10 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah. I rarely see guys balding at the age of 28. This is one of the reasons I am not a fan of OLD. It is very hard to fully verify a guy's identity unless if you two happen to mutually know one person or some people irl. Transitioning from some random guy you've met online to a long-term relationship seems to require a leap of faith. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:44 AM |
| 19 | Avoid using OLD to meet menI saw a lot of men on OLD wearing hats, posing with their face partially hidden, only sharing pics of their musucular body without their head, posting blurry pics of themselves, or not posting any pic at all. I feel like these men had profiles like this as they were hiding something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 12:39 AM |
| 18 | Avoid using OLD to meet menYeah. I guess LVM love OLD due to its anonymous nature. They can exploit you and get away with it as they lied to you about their identity. It just seems like an unsafe way to meet men compared to meeting men irl. Honestly, most of the profiles I had seen on OLD were fishy or undesirable in one way or another - no photos or detailed information, covering the face in photos, bragging about being rich, tall, outgoing, and athletic, or admitting they like drugs. I don't even need to meet these men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 05:17 PM |
| 69 | More important than a man is slaying it in your career, money, and friendshipsGiven how so many men are LV, we really shouldn't be hoping our future SOs will "save the day". Way too many men are unreliable and will cheat, dump you for someone else, lie, or abuse you. It's important to have your own money and career so you have something to fall back on when things go south. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:57 PM |
| 54 | Not even 3 weeks post break up, and he's already back on TinderMost men prefer meeting women irl than on OLD. They will naturally develop crushes on women they know irl and want to pursue them. They will also worry about being catfished. Usually, the men on OLD are cheaters (so they want to meet women in a way with "no strings attached"), struggle to find an SO irl due to having undesirable traits, or are scammers. You don't want to date someone like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:57 AM |
| 43 | Not even 3 weeks post break up, and he's already back on TinderYeah I wanted to say this too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:54 AM |
| 24 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"While some women I know married guys wealthier than them, pretty much all of them married within their social class. It's about as common as women marrying guys less wealthy than them. The only woman I know irl who married into a higher social class is a model. It just goes to show how it's not as "easy" for women to marry into higher social classes as scrotes like to claim unless you are conventionally attractive enough to be a trophy wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/21 12:53 AM |
| 163 | In every interaction with a man, you should be asking yourself "what do I get out of this?"I think men are more likely to be "transactional" than women. Pretty much every guy I know is in a relationship with a woman who is more or equally as attractive as him or wealthier or equally as wealthy as him. Meanwhile, I've met conventionally decent-looking women from somewhat wealthy families dating unattractive guys from the working class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:01 PM |
| 44 | This video is really something else. How they made the pickme the face of super gonorrhea when patient zero was a scrote who visited southeast asia and cheated on his partner there. Just a reminder of what slutty guys bring to the table. Can we get a community dick flair on here?Dafuq did I just read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:53 PM |
| 138 | This video is really something else. How they made the pickme the face of super gonorrhea when patient zero was a scrote who visited southeast asia and cheated on his partner there. Just a reminder of what slutty guys bring to the table. Can we get a community dick flair on here?slutty guys They are called sexpats. I live in Asia and there used to be a lot of these western sexpats here. Before the pandemic, OLD websites were filled with western guys looking for casual sex with local women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 05:47 PM |
| 8 | AI Deepfake app allows users to face swap women's faces into porn. There are also one where they can digitally remove your clothes. Lo and behold this kind of thing gained popularity on Reddit and was said to be created here.Men are disgusting and this is horrifying.It's not just porn. Men also use deepfake technology to catfish on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:43 PM |
| 4 | Are beauty pageants empowering or are they a pick-me tournament?Beauty pageants sells the idea that that the most attractive women look and act a certain way. Even if recent winners look more "diverse", winners of beauty pageants are usually white or whitish-looking, tall, and skinny but "curvy" in the right areas. I can't help but feel like there's some tokenism involved. The competitors are also ok with wearing a lot of makeup, high heels, bikinis, and dresses and act "feminine". These pageants create the impression that you have to be a certain way to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 11:38 AM |
| 1 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areLol why would someone use OLD photos on LinkedIn? That's so low effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 01:01 AM |
| 2 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areTbh I highly suspect many men on OLD who claim to be rich, muscular, tall, and athletic are not even like that irl. I'm not surprised if some turn out to be catfishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:59 AM |
| 2 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms arehis pictures were ones from a couple of years ago lol!!! This is so cringeworthy. I can see why you left your ex-husband. Your experience just proves how OLD profiles of men are full of lies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:55 AM |
| 1 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areOh yes, if a guy has to wear something to hide his face, he's just implying he thinks he looks unatractive and is insecure about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:54 AM |
| 1 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areI rarely see the "apparently that matters" part in where I live. But yeah, the men on OLD are obsessed with listing their height. It's almost like they believe their height will help them get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:51 AM |
| 3 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areThe men with shirtless selfies are less common on non-Tinder OLD sites, but they're like Tinder guys in the sense of trying to portray themselves as wealthy, athletic, muscular, and outgoing. Since I know unattractive and poor LVM with pick mes pursuing them irl, it really makes me question why a rich, muscular guy have to resort of OLD to find an SO even if he has a LV personality. I highly suspect some of these profiles are fake. My experience was that men on OLD tend to be very inactive and r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:49 AM |
| 1 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms arebut I want to see that someone has the ability to go deeper and be an individual as well Yeah, most guys on OLD have hobbies such as going to the gym, water skiing, partying on yachts, drinking, traveling, and listening to loud electronic music. These are not coincidentally hobbies men think will help them attract women. I rarely see men on OLD listing reading, chess, and art as their hobbies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 12:44 AM |
| 9 | Ladies how do you feel about mother’s who pick out girlfriends for their sons?Yes, and someone with "nice genes" to have kids with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 08:47 AM |
| 5 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.I don't have any close male friends. Honestly, most HVM will avoid being too close to someone of the opposite sex to avoid sending the wrong signal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 06:58 AM |
| 11 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areIn the past, I didn't understand why men would post pics of themselves with other women on OLD. Now that you girls have mentioned this, I get it now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 04:43 PM |
| 11 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah. And leaving their intentions to the side, it's not a nice thing to upload photos with other people's face on it without their consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:20 PM |
| 6 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah there are way too many doctors, lawyers, and engineers (and pilots before the pandemic). Only a small percentage of people have these jobs. It's odd how a disproportionate of men on OLD have these jobs. And yup, there isn't an abundance of male accountants, nurses, teachers, translators, designers, technicians, libarians, fire fighters, and chefs on OLD. It's only the prestigious and highly-paid professions that get overrepresented on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:46 PM |
| 3 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areFor me, I care about a guy's personality than looks. Something about the guy's personality needs to capture my attention before I become interested in dating a guy. And yup, it's hard to know about a guy's real personality based on OLD profiles which is why I am not a fan of OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:13 PM |
| 7 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah, these nerds are not the type of nerds I want to date. Some do admit having jobs that pay very little and they tend to rant about how they dislike their jobs when you talk to them. This is such as turn off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 12:09 PM |
| 3 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah. It seems like the men on OLD thinks being rich, tall, muscular, and sporty can compensate for having a bland personality. And then there are men on OLD who seem to portray themselves as living life with a defeated attitude complaining about having a job that is boring and pays very little when you talk to them. I think there are more women who like skinny guys than you think. It's just that the media is hyped about muscular men given how men themselves are obsessed with having the body of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:16 AM |
| 5 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah, some of these guys are so muscular they look like they've been taking steroids. And I get the feeling they want to have six-pack abs as they believe it will help them get laid too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 11:05 AM |
| 6 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah, they all have a typical look. The ones who portray themselves as rich and tall tend to be average-looking, very muscular, and tan. The ones who portray themselves with undesirable traits tend to be unattractive, wear glasses, and look scrawny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 10:45 AM |
| 5 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areThey all wanted supermodels Yes, way too many men want a hot trophy SO. The only reason most men are not dating women like that is because they have nothing to offer to attract one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 08:00 AM |
| 80 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areThis. There is another subset of men on OLD who portray themselves with traits women generally see as undesirable. They're unattractive, are not fit, seems boring, and are stuck in a job which pays very little. I can see why they're on OLD and their profiles seem more authentic than the men claiming to be "tall and rich chads", but honestly, most women don't want to date men like that. Oh and there is another subset of men with low effort profiles. They have only one pic of themselves or some sc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:21 PM |
| 18 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areI think scrotes look at other profiles to "copy" them. Not that different from students wanting to copy homework form each other due to laziness. Yeah all these profiles look fake. They are either super low effort with a pic of themselves or some scenery with no text or too good to be true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:16 PM |
| 65 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah, the profiles are created from a male perspective of what they think women see as 10/10. Many men falsely think all women are onto into "tall and rich chads who are outgoing". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:14 PM |
| 126 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areYeah way too many men have pics with themselves and other women. And these pics often feature them partying like crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:12 PM |
| 119 | I hate how "similar" men on OLD platforms areThis is creepy as fuck. Anyway, Bundy managed to find an SO and eventually get married without the aid of OLD. It really makes me question the quality of men who have to resort to OLD to find a girlfriend given how even a serial killer can find a partner irl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:11 PM |
| 17 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptIf a man can't look after himself, he should prioritise learning to do that before finding a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:48 AM |
| 205 | "All ages considered!"a very down to earth, relatively successful, decent looking well educated family man Seems legit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 02:52 PM |
| 5 | Was I drawn to non-single men or was it just a coincidence?I don't think I fell for these men as solely because of physical attraction. I felt "the spark" and was drawn to how they appeared to be intelligent and very caring. They weren't particularly nice to me but I was drawn to how they supported everyone they know and volunteered. I have moved on now, but I am scared of ending up like I did in the past which is why I am evaluating my past history of crushes. I acknowledge I don't know what these men are really like. I've met men who appear to be real… | /r/askFDS | 09/09/21 10:35 AM |
| 5 | Was I drawn to non-single men or was it just a coincidence?Ok thank you. | /r/askFDS | 09/09/21 12:22 AM |
| 2 | Was I drawn to non-single men or was it just a coincidence?Thank you. I don't think much about these men now. It's just a pattern I noticed from the past and I don't know if it's because I have some toxic mentality I am not aware of. I've never liked a guy because he's taken but had developed feelings for taken men before (although of course I didn't act about that). | /r/askFDS | 09/09/21 12:22 AM |
| 23 | How do you feel about video games?It depends on how much time the guy spends on playing video games and what type of video games he play. Playing it an hour per week is very different from playing video games for hours on a daily basis. There are violent and sexist video games and others which are actually good for you (eg. Wii Sport). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 03:26 PM |
| 54 | SCROTE WHO DATES YOU TO SELL YOU SOMETHINGI've never experienced this, but I've heard of men befriending women in the hopes of seeling them something. These men are usually suddenly very "nice" to you before the sales pitch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 11:02 AM |
| 3 | How should women approach or flirt with men?Thank you. Yeah, I agree most people met their SOs via an existing social circle. I don't think I know anyone who married an SO they've met as complete strangers as passersby. Is it even possible to meet HVM like that? Your example refers to existing social circles. Btw when you said make eye contact, should I smile before looking away? I tend to look away when I make eye contact with strangers and I don't see it as any different from what I usually do if I don't smile. | /r/askFDS | 07/09/21 12:03 AM |
| 2 | How should women approach or flirt with men?Thank you! What I mean is is it a LV trait for men to pursue women they've just met or is it ok? The part about looks makes me uncomfortable as I can't help but feel like they want a trophy SO or the hottest girl they can get. I personally want to feel "a spark" before dating a guy. Do many HVM approach dating in a different manner? | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 05:54 PM |
| 2 | How should women approach or flirt with men?Thank you I will check it out! | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 05:05 PM |
| 16 | How should women approach or flirt with men?Thank you! I live in a big city (Hong Kong) which makes me wonder if this way to approach or flirt with men works given how people almost never chit chat with strangers here. Is it really possible to meet HVM via this way? I don't believe in love at first sight and I can't help but feel like men choose to chase strangers out of lust instead of love. I am also uncomfortable wih opening up and sharing my contact info with a stranger. | /r/askFDS | 06/09/21 05:04 PM |
| 35 | When you are not attracted to a potential HVM... SighI'm not OP but I sometimes wonder if I am drawn to emotionally unavailable men. Pretty much all of the men I like are taken or just don't like me back. I have no idea if it's just a coincidence (as chances are if I find a guy desirable, other women will like him too so he's probably taken) or if I am drawn to emotionally unavailable men. How can I tell the difference? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 02:30 PM |
| 9 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?Unattractive scrotes are just bitter that women don't find them desirable. You don't see tall, attractive guys complaining about women favouring men with these traits. They don't give a shit about crazy beauty standards for women as it doesn't affect them in a negative way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Why do men always bring up women's height preference when factually speaking we know men have a race, weight, look, and physical feature preference?This is true. Pretty much all of the men who have flirted with or pursued me are less attractive or around as attractive as me. They're also less wealthy or around as wealthy as me. I don't think it's a coincidence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:58 AM |
| 11 | Why you shouldn’t go back to OLD.So basically an online version of matchmaker services? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 10:44 AM |
| 133 | Why you shouldn’t go back to OLD.More like trying to find high quality food in the section of the supermarket that sells near-expired food. The food are not chosen by other customers for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 12 | Set your account to not allow followersWhy are scrotes so obsessed with following us? It's not like we are posting selfies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 04:54 PM |
| 13 | Scrote wanted to waste my timeIMO when a guy you haven't talked to in years suddenly reaches out to you, he almost always has some ulterior motive for doing so. He either wants you to shower him with attention, have sex with him, join his pyramid scheme, help promote his new company, buy products from him, or help him with a favour of some sort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 12:42 PM |
| 33 | Thoughts on long-distance?Yes 2 months is too short. You can't even confirm if the guy is HV as you've known him for such a short period of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 12:37 PM |
| 12 | You can increase your standards at any time. Try it with me.The green flags are a bare minimum for me. I will not date any guy without these traits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:43 PM |
| 13 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.Some non-white men fetishise white women similar to white men fetishing WOC. Some of these non-white men may also view white women are more likely to be attractive than women of their own race due to internalised racism. They want a trophy white SO to brag about and someone to have "whiter" kids with who they assume will be naturally more beautiful than monoracial kids of their own race. It's not unheard of for non-white men with half white kids to push their kids into modeling, beauty pageants,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 17 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.It comes from putting whites on a pedestal due to having a colonial mentality. Some POCs who have never lived in the West also view white guys in a romanticised manner. Hollywood movies often portray white men as HV and they believe what they see. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:42 AM |
| 13 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.I'm Asian and living in Asia. Most Asian men I know are LV due to being sexist, selfish, liars, or have a fragile male ego. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:22 AM |
| 4 | Please do not use race as sign someone is a HVM, VET EVERYONE.Well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:16 AM |
| 43 | What I've learned from dating a HVWCongrats! If I were bisexual, I think I would more likely find the love I wanted from another woman than a man. I think women are more capable of love than men. Most men only care about sex or having a trophy SO to brag about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 07:12 AM |
| 5 | Reason #4,000 not to use OLD: A recent Bumble bug put women at risk. Any creep with a modicum of tech know-how could pinpoint a woman's exact location. It's fixed now, but you cannot trust these sites to have your best interests at heart!I'm not a software engineer and I figured out it's possible to do this even before reading OP's article. You don't need extensive IT knowledge for this. All you need is a willingness to spend a lot of time into "guessing" an OLD user's location to become a stalker. This is why using OLD can be dangerous as pretty much everyone can become a stalker as long as they are committed to doing so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:36 PM |
| 12 | Reason #4,000 not to use OLD: A recent Bumble bug put women at risk. Any creep with a modicum of tech know-how could pinpoint a woman's exact location. It's fixed now, but you cannot trust these sites to have your best interests at heart!Even before reading your article, I figured out it's possible to locate a person's location with OLD's GPS function. The technique I thought of was walking in a random location and seeing if the distance increased and then walking in the opposite direction. You will then probably reach a point where you will be closest to the person. You will then walk at a right angle to the line you walk and then see if the distance between you and the person increased or decreased. If it increases, you walk i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 04:30 PM |
| 38 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youThis is why I avoid texting a guy first. I only do it if there is something important I need to ask for tell him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 02:54 PM |
| 31 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youAnd some of these women are obsessed with men who are taken... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 02:53 PM |
| 162 | A guy who is sending you mixed signals is just using youif he wanted to, he would This. And this applies to all sorts of relationships not just crushes. Someone who wants to befriend you will take initiative in getting to know you. A manager who wants to hire you will sell you the idea of working there. As for men, you don't even have to "wait" for them to ask you out. If he really sees you as "the one", he will ask you out almost immediately. There are exceptions (eg. you two met while working at a temporary job and the guy chooses to ask you out af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 11:36 AM |
| 4 | 🚨ALWAYS EARN YOUR OWN MONEY! Financial freedom is the ultimate power💲💰💪This. It's risky as fuck to depend on a guy for money. Many men are LV and if he leaves you for someone else you're in trouble. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/21 11:28 AM |
| 5 | Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social mediaI don't always agree with block and delete though as it's possible for a guy to "check" you've deleted and blocked him. A guy who has been sending you mixed signals will probably "check" if you've blocked and deleted him as he enjoys getting attention from you and wants to make sure you are not bailing out. If you block and delete right after noticing a guy is not interested in you or you find out he is taken, your actions imply you like him and that's embarrassing. I think changing the settings… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/21 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social mediaThis. The fact that it is a crush implies the guy doesn't like you back. If he was interested in you, you would be in a real relationship instead. You deserve better than orbiting around a guy who doesn't care about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 10:31 AM |
| 15 | Don't take initiative in adding or interacting with your crush on social mediaYeah. Putting effort into adding a guy on social media and coming up with new ways to interact with him online is too exhausting. We deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 10:28 AM |
| 3 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.I have a theory that these type of men are disproportionately LVM. And even if they weren't LVM before they became famous, I think the fame corrupts them when they see how easy it is to get away with things Yes. LV people are drawn to the entertainment industry as they dream of fame and money. Wanting to be rich and famous is not necessaeily bad but a lot of people in the industry will do anything to get that "to stay competitive". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 45 | Protect yourselves against vengeful and bitter lurkersThis is why I don't post detailed stories of scrotes I've met as I don't want to be identified. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:26 AM |
| 19 | Came across this while doing research...This is so sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 12:24 AM |
| 57 | HVM that make less than youI think it depends on how much you earn. If you earn US$230000 annually, then the guy is still earning a lot even if he earns half of what you earn. Both of you can live a nice lifestyle and he can still afford pampering you at nice restaurants. And yes, I think finding a guy who earns as much or more than you AND is HV is going to be tough. If what you earn is $47000 annually, then yeah, the difference is huge. It's the difference between living a decent lifestyle and living paycheck to paychec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?This is not the norm where I'm from though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 10:17 AM |
| 7 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!These men often have bad breath due to poor dental hygiene and they often have other hygiene issues as well (eg. shooting pee outside of the toilet bowl when peeing and not cleaning it up afterwards). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:27 AM |
| 5 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!It's funny how men who hate this sub label us as "ugly incels". Just because we would rather stay single than date LVM doesn't mean we are ugly incels. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:24 AM |
| 14 | Never be a fangirl/stan/groupie for musicians, actors, or pro-athletes.The vast majority of these men are not HVM. They just pretend to be HVM in front of the press to help attract female fans. You don't know who they really are so there's no reason why you should be obsessed with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 08:38 AM |
| 15 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!Yes, and unfortunately way too many of them are too lazy or selfish to become HV. This is why I don't feel sorry for LVM who struggle to find an SO. At least if you're unattractive, you didn't choose your looks. Meanwhile, your personality is something you can work on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 35 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!Most men are LV. You're hence more likely to be unhappy in a relationship than being happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 59 | Care to share examples of HV behaviour from the men in your life?I know HVM who love their wives to the point of transferring almost all of their income to their bank account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 03:07 PM |
| 62 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!IMO stepfathers are more likely to be "evil" than stepmothers. It's much more common for stepfathers to rape the kids as opposed to stepmothers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 3 | How long is too long to wait?The handbook says 1 year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:39 AM |
| 44 | If he can he will.Yes. I've known way too many men in a long-term relationship or flirt with or pursue other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:38 AM |
| 9 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?I don't think faking a wealthy background will ever work. Other people (including people who have no interest in dating you) will probably find out what background you are truly from at some point. And yes, some women like to look out for younger women as if they're mentees or something which is nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:30 AM |
| 8 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?Yes that's my point. IMO it is a bad idea to join an activity for the sole purpose of meeting men as the chances are you'll not come across a compatible HVM who likes you back during the activity. But IMO if you had to do an activity to meet men, I guess volunteering would be one of the best options given how you would make simultaneously making the world a better place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 12:29 AM |
| 20 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?I've met men who appeared to be really kind and altruistic (we didn't meet at a volunteering event though) only to later catch them flirting with hot girls they know when their SOs are not around. Not that I was ever romantically interested in these men but it just goes to show how men who appear to be extremely altruistic on the surface level can be LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 25 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?Also, many men know 100% that volunteer means "nice women" and totally do it just to get laid I think there are men who volunteer because they think women will assume they're HV and it's hence easier for them to attract women. I think some men claim to be animal lovers for similar reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 04:09 PM |
| 30 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?I wouldn’t volunteer for the sake of meeting men, LVM are everywhere I agree. I think doing any activity for the sole purpose of meeting men is a bad idea as the chances you coming across a single HVM who likes you back is very slim. But if you had to do an activity for the sake of meeting men, I think volunteering would be the best choice given how what you're doing is making the world a better place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 02:23 PM |
| 31 | Is volunteering one of the best ways to meet HVM?I know that feel. The men I know in my social circles who had flirted with or pursued me were all less attractive (with some being very unattractive) and less wealthy than me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 01:37 PM |
| 40 | Entertainment media's history of mistreating young women - a wake-up call for manyIt was really sad that Lady Gaga got raped. Totally not ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:21 AM |
| 3 | The amount of material that this website gives me is astoundingWhat's the context? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 11:20 AM |
| 10 | If its meant to be then you wouldn't be asking me for adviceThis. Adding to this if it's meant to be then you will not be having an unrequited crush on a guy. Some pickmes struggld to let go of their crush even if they know they don't like them back as they rarely feel "the spark" with other guys but honestly if it's meant to be he will like you back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 10:47 AM |
| 21 | Pickmeisha in Training: Very SadYeah they don't do this. They are pickmes in the sense of stalking the guy they have a crush on at school on Facebook instead of posting semi-nude pics of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:17 AM |
| 49 | Pickmeisha in Training: Very SadOr a scammer trying to scam pedophiles by pretending to be a young girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:16 AM |
| 71 | Thanks to FDS men's language classes, I now know that what this means is "we want to be useless and play video games our entire lives so we're victimising ourselves."What's the context? Was he talking about video game achievements? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 11:14 AM |
| 72 | Some guy asked for my number while I was walking my dog at the park today and his first date suggestion was: "we should walk our dogs together."And then are LVM who pretend to be Christian as they want to meet girls at church. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:31 AM |
| 30 | Do not waste your time fantasising about a crushYup. You shouldn't spend all of your time daydreaming about a guy when he doesn't even care about you. It's a waste of time and the time can be better spent on improving yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:25 AM |
| 8 | Do not waste your time fantasising about a crushYes that's the right word for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 10:24 AM |
| 29 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesI think some men are drawn to mini golf similar to how they're drawn to buying fake Rolex watches. They see it as an affordable alternative to the "real" expensive thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 21 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesTo portray themselves as sportive men (as many men stereotype women to be only into sportive guys). As for the mini golf part, I suspect they're trying to create the impression that they're into the "high culture" of golf and how they're aiming to play real golf in the future. Not that different from men on OLD describing themselves as business owners and how they aspire to become millionaires. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:26 PM |
| 8 | The sex industry is the most Racist and discriminatory industry there isThis. A lot of men are racist and sexist as fuck and actually get turned on by male pornstars degrading white women or WOC. They have really sick fetishes such as seeing white women being "blacked". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 12:06 PM |
| 18 | Need a little boostOr the guy actually already has a gf which is why he doesn't want to be in a relationship with OP but wants her to orbit around him. | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 12:52 AM |
| 22 | Need a little boostIt's really strange how the guy wants exclusivity but not a relationship. Sounds like he wants a fuckbuddy with "no strings attached". A HVM not into having a relationship at the moment would just not "date" at the moment. Distance yourself away from him and be careful. | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Do we really have to choose ?No. Your mother simply internalised how women are either beautiful and "dumb" or intelligent and unattractive. You can definitely be both. | /r/askFDS | 24/08/21 12:47 AM |
| 11 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.Almost no. The only reason these men "settled down" is because they realise they've hit a wall and want to start a family. There's always the possibility that the guy realised it is wrong to be a fuckboy so quit hooking up with women, but it's statistically unlikely. Most assholes remain as assholes in the first place as they don't think what they are doing is wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 11:15 AM |
| 22 | How do we vet successful men to see if they previously used a woman to “build them up” before leaving her from earth they became successful?It can be hard to know about the guy's intention if you weren't there to observe him dumping his gf for someone else. These men try to hide their intentions especially when they're trying to pursue you but there are some clues to help you observe him. Making "casual" remarks about how it's ok for a guy to dump his SO when he can snag a hotter girl. He won't have made these remarks if he didn't think like that. Describing flirting with a lot of women as "fun". Yes, some men still flirt around des… | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 10:51 AM |
| 24 | How do we vet successful men to see if they previously used a woman to “build them up” before leaving her from earth they became successful?Ask him what his longest relationship was like and why it ended This. Things are fishy if he happened to break up with his gf right after he became successful. | /r/askFDS | 23/08/21 10:21 AM |
| 143 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?Asking me if I've 'been with' a white man before Yes, I hate it when random white men ask me this. I was once working part-time at a job and this white guy who looked like he was in his 50s asked me if I have a bf from the same country as him. An Asian woman who looked like she was in her 30s entered the store with him and I assumed she was his gf. It was pretty gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 07:28 AM |
| 55 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyBundchen, Ambrosio, and Lima are all superstars! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:30 PM |
| 137 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyYeah I'm glad she found someone better. I never understood the appeal of DiCaprio too. I guess some women were drawn to him as he portrayed Jack in the Titanic and they thought he was truly that HV which added to his appeal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:29 PM |
| 44 | Should you ever pay on a first date?No. Don't split the bill. It'll give them the message that you're ok with them being frugal so they'll keep on doing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 02:27 PM |
| 69 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyJust look at his dad bod. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:47 PM |
| 108 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyThis. There's a reason why all of his newest girlfriends are not A list celebrities. His current gf was also a huge fan of Justin Bieber. I guess she's drawn to LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:31 PM |
| 13 | There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorceThis is also why I’m hella suspicious when women are encouraged to not get friends/family “involved” in their relationships by talking to them about what’s going on LVM know perfectly well what they are doing. They are just trying to isolate you. It's not that different from pedophiles telling kids to keep their relationship a secret. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:17 PM |
| 8 | There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorceAlso the biggest red flag in the world that he “dislikes” her supportive family members to the point that she hesitated calling them for help Looks like he has been trying to isolate her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:16 PM |
| 12 | I'm constantly sexualizedI'm sorry this happened to you. These people are not true friends and you should find better friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 17 | I'm constantly sexualizedThis. Plenty of scrotes only choose to befriend women because they want to get laid. It's gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:12 PM |
| 5 | There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorceLol you made me think of the Thanks I Hate It sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:09 PM |
| 18 | There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorceIt's just sad. She's smart and strong enough to work in research and still internalised she might be the asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:09 PM |
| 27 | There's everything wrong with society if having the locks changed and being locked out isn't grounds for divorceWhy is her husband so paranoid about her cheating? Because he's projecting? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 01:01 PM |
| 86 | Why do we see this violence all the time. not all men- far too many men.I'm so sorry about what happened to her. These men are not scrotes. They are monsters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:36 PM |
| 111 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyThis is why movies like Titanic is a lie. These movies portray men in a romanticised manner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:28 PM |
| 157 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyI'm pretty sure she's one of the models who earn the most in the world. It's sad she ended up as a forever girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 12:26 PM |
| 82 | I'd say any super common/basic/unimaginative chain restaraunt is a no *for the first few dates*, with few exceptionsIf he's frugal with you when dating, he's going to be even more frugal after marriage. You don't want to be with a guy like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:48 AM |
| 9 | Pickme 🤡 = Weak BoundariesI think pickmeism has to do with the women putting men on a pedestal. Some feel pressured to date and stay with a guy even if he has red flags as they've internalised how finding a "better" guy is hard or close to impossible. They're not wrong that finding a compatible HVM who likes you back is tough, but just because of this you shouldn't be throwing yourself at random men. It's much better to stay single as LVM will make your life miserable. I guess some pickmes also see being single as someth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:46 AM |
| 2 | Importance of partner's family when vetting?Not badmouthing other people, not into gossiping, not selfish, doesn't pressure you to do what they want, doesn't look down upon you, and doesn't expect you to listen to everything they say because they are "wiser". Pretty much the same as what makes a man a HVM. | /r/askFDS | 20/08/21 08:36 AM |
| 20 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Lol you just summed up my view of the dating pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:50 PM |
| 8 | Dating coworkers in an FDS-friendly waySorry I deleted my comment as I updated the original post. Thanks for sharing your insight on this. Yeah, I guess nosey coworkers are annoying and they'll be curious about your private life even if you don't break up with a coworker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:46 PM |
| 12 | Dating coworkers in an FDS-friendly waybut there is still the risk that the two of you could still end up as colleagues again in the future if you're both in the same line of work Does the same thing technically apply to uni students of the same major too? If you major in something linked to a tight industry, there's always the chance you will end up working at the same company as that guy you dated during uni who majored in the same thing as you. And is this especially the case for grad school students? PhD students are technically … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:45 PM |
| 22 | Dating coworkers in an FDS-friendly wayYeah I guess many of these "HVM" who pursue women they've met at work are actually LV. I guess dating a coworker only works when both of you have met at some temporary job unrelated to your career (eg. an accountant dating a guy she met while working as an exhibition helper). Maybe the FDS members here who met their HV husbands at work met at a job like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:42 PM |
| 12 | Importance of partner's family when vetting?I think whether my partner's family members are HV or not is more important than how sophisticated or educated they are. I've met a lot of people whose family fits your description. Some people from Type A families are HV while some are LV. The same applies to Type B families. | /r/askFDS | 19/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 11 | The "I have a boyfriend" lie and my personal issue with itSome LVM fantasise about "cucking" other men as the idea of women choosing them over their SO will boost their ego. This is why they don't a shit that a girl they're flirting with is taken. There's a reason why some men are into this type of porn. It's really disgusting. Not only are they misogynistic but they also hate other men as competitors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:28 AM |
| 21 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Sorry to hear this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 24 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Yeah I assume HVM are "off the market" really quickly. But to be fair all the men I've met who I can confirm as HV are all at least 40 years old and I assume most people of that age do get married. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 5 | Is it normal to never be comfortable in dating apps?I feel like that. The idea of picking men on OLD feels strange to me. It's like choosing which items to buy in a catalog except we are dealing with people here. | /r/askFDS | 19/08/21 10:13 AM |
| 60 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Extremely common. The vast majority of the men I've come across are LV (and I'm talking about every guy I've come across not just the ones who pursue me). I do know some women married to HVM. Coming across HVM requires luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 4 | She's a 35 year old mom, he's 58 grandp..dadThanks for the info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 22 | So I'm deleting my Facebook. A strategy?I hate Facebook. Delete it if you want. The only reason why I haven't deleted mine is because I've added some friends who live abroad on Facebook and I don't have their phone number. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 01:50 PM |
| 8 | She's a 35 year old mom, he's 58 grandp..dadWho's the guy? I'm pretty sure I've seen him in movies but I can't remember his name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 12:02 PM |
| 40 | Explaining having few friends to a partnerA lot of people are LV or incompatible with you so it's ok to have only a few friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:09 PM |
| 48 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueLVM don't really think like that. They are just negging and blaming women as usual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:11 PM |
| 12 | I subscribe to FDS values because I refuse to accept any form of abuse from any man.We are voluntary celibate not involuntary celibate lol. I've had countless men flirt with me. Maybe I would end up dating one of them if I had chosen to ignore their red flags, but nah, I don't want to waste my valuable time dating a scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:58 PM |
| 92 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueThis is negging. The truth is LVM almost never "date below their league" as they look down upon women they see as unattractive and think they deserve better. Just look at all the scrotes who only flirt with conventionally attractive women and are mean to women who don't conform to society's beauty standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:49 PM |
| 12 | How to turn down coworker?This. Just say you are "busy". | /r/askFDS | 17/08/21 11:12 AM |
| 7 | A reminder on the Scarcity Mindset: don't allow yourself to get too deep into this state of mind. 🧲We attract what we believe.🧠 Operating from a place of bitter disbelief will significantly decrease your chance of attracting a hvm. (+✅green flags)This. Believing how you will never come across a HVM will turn into a self fulfilling prophecy. Yes, it's statistically unlikely you will come across a compatible HVM who likes you back but you gotta believe in yourself. It's not that different from how it's statistically unlikely for an athlete to win a medal at the Olympics yet the ones who do win are the ones who believed in themselves instead of telling themselves it's "impossible". Alternatively, you can just focus on yourself and care less… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 11:08 AM |
| 358 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....And these lurkers HAD to send us Reddit Care Resources after we changed our settings to not accept any private messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:50 AM |
| 20 | I should dump himHe's obviously less interested in you than the other way around. You deserve someone better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Don't put pressure on yourself to date a guy JUST because he's a nice, decent human and you're so used to men's poor behaviorWhich post was this? I just did a quick search and can't find it in the handbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:46 AM |
| 64 | Don't put pressure on yourself to date a guy JUST because he's a nice, decent human and you're so used to men's poor behaviorThese nice guys I don't feel "the spark" with are great as acquaintances. I don't want to date them though. I don't like them enough for the relationship to work and I don't think dating them for the sake of dating is fair for both of us. BTW what if I am unsure about the guy, as in I am attracted to him but am not sure if I want to date him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 189 | I asked on another sub for gift ideas for my boyfriend and someone suggested I take him to a strip club. Imagine the absolute state of my relationship if I even consider letting him disrespect me like that 😒 cOoL gIrLs TaKe ThEiR kInGs To StRiP cLuBs 🤪🤪🤪Scrotes are like that. They have to turn every post with a female OP into something related to sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 02:11 PM |
| 19 | Friendly reminder: Mixed Signals = Hell No 🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️Mixed signals = the guy does not see you as a priority or "first choice" but wants to use you for attention or sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:28 AM |
| 7 | You don't need a man to live a fulfilling lifeAt this point I'm not sure if I want to date. There are just way too many LVM out there I don't know if I can ever trust a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:47 AM |
| 5 | You don't need a man to live a fulfilling lifeOf course. Any type of guy can be LV. Whether he has a successful career or not has nothing to do with HVness. And of course some of these men are workaholics who care about work more than your happiness or will use their career success to help them attract other women aka cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:45 AM |
| 7 | You don't need a man to live a fulfilling lifeYup. A "mediocre" guy will not make us happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:41 AM |
| 8 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?For some reason, only women are taught to feel like that. Men who are single for a long period of time tend to resent women for being picky as opposed to blaming themselves for being unattractive or having a LV personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 5 | How does liking a guy work?Yeah the fact that's it's a "crush" implies the feelings are unrequited. | /r/askFDS | 15/08/21 04:25 PM |
| 24 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?HVM are a minority so it's difficult for everyone to find a HVM. It has nothing to do with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 64 | What does the FDS think about being a stay at home mum?Not a good idea as you'll depend on the guy financially (unless if you can work for home or have a lot of money). If you depend on a guy financially, it's hard to walk away if things go south. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:31 PM |
| 36 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?This. The money can be better spent on pampering or improving yourself. Why spend it on dick? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 10:44 AM |
| 16 | How does liking a guy work?True. Chances are these men I have a crush on are LV as too many men are LV. | /r/askFDS | 15/08/21 10:34 AM |
| 9 | How does liking a guy work?I don't know if I like men due to the very fact that they are available or already taken. Maybe I am drawn to men like that similar to how some men are drawn to women who play "hard to get" as opposed to pick mes throwing themselves at them. However, I feel like part of it has to do with how if I am drawn to a guy because of his personality, looks, or talent, chances are other women who stumbled across him will feel the same so these men are "off the market" really quickly. I do notice the men I… | /r/askFDS | 15/08/21 10:32 AM |
| 13 | How does liking a guy work?I guess I can tell if I like a guy not long after meeting him and this happens even before dating. | /r/askFDS | 15/08/21 10:26 AM |
| 54 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?That's because HVM are a minority. It's really hard to find a HVM let alone one who is compatible with you. The number of HVM will not suddenly increase when you pay for a matchmaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:57 AM |
| 48 | Los Angeles Matchmakers?$10,000? It's really not worth it. I'll be honest here. I think your chances of meeting a HVM there are slim if not none. HVM probably have no trouble finding women to date irl so they have little reason to pay for a matchmaker. Even if they are single, they'll probably try other ways to meet women. There are so many good alternatives that cost less. Similarly, there are a lot of other options to meet men which are free or much cheaper. Investing so much money into meeting men is just not worth … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:55 AM |
| 12 | Does anyone else feel like an outcast at their job for being single? It sucks.No because I don't tell my coworkers my relationship status. It is none of their business. Honestly, work friends are often not real friends. Most people lose contact with their coworkers after they quit their job so there's no reason why you should date to fit in. | /r/askFDS | 15/08/21 07:45 AM |
| 6 | Even my mom who’s never heard of FDS is 100% FDSMy mother is FDS too. She had commented on how more young women these days are pick mes and this has resulted in more men being low-effort when pursuing and dating women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:36 AM |
| 3 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Oh ok. Definitely wasn't expecting this to be a birthday card! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 02:58 PM |
| 7 | This card at the store made me think of y’all…Reminds me of this song. Btw which category was this card placed in? I'm really curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:18 AM |
| 28 | The ONLY person you should be a pickme for...Yes, you should always pick yourself. The only perspn you can 100% be sure that will always have your best interested at heart is yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 10:17 AM |
| 8 | 🚩Why you shouldn't settle for "no red flags"🚩A guy with neither red flags nor green flags is at best mediocre and at worst a LVM in disguise. I'm looking for a partner who will be with me until one of us dies. Why settle for a mediocre guy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:07 PM |
| 70 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?I feel the same especially after reading news articles like this. LVM can be extremely violent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:40 AM |
| 49 | HVM Behaviour: He speaks highly of you to people you’ll never run intoThis isn’t just limited to me though, I’ve literally never heard him speak ill of anyone behind their back Yes this is a HV trait. It doesn't only apply to men as it applies to women too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:30 AM |
| 180 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?Why call us incels when most of us are fine with being single? It's much better to stay single than date LVM given how some are violent like the guy in the article. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:28 AM |
| 12 | Questions to ask yourself when vetting a man:That's how I see relationships these days. As an introvert, I'm fine on my own. I don't like attending a lot of social events with people I don't click with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:23 AM |
| 6 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaGross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:15 AM |
| 12 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaOh that was gross! I'm sorry this happened to you. I love looking up men I know on social media. Not only can I weed out LVM but I can weed out incompatible men. You can figure out a guy's personality, personal values, social class, and relationship with other people via his profile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:15 AM |
| 52 | Breakfast first date?And if you've never met the guy before, it's less dangerous to meet a guy in broad daylight than at night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 11:09 AM |
| 3 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.I think your experiences are different from what I've observed as I assume we come from different parts of the world. I assume you come from a country which values research and did your PhD at a top-tier uni which is part of the reason why everyone in your lab is so dedicated to research. There are not that many research jobs where I'm from so most people do not pursue it as they see it as a high risk field. The people who choose to get PhDs hence tend to fall into the extreme categories of eith… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:59 AM |
| 22 | In a Happy Relationship with my Twin Flame and Wanted to Share…When I saw the beginning of your post I was really curious as to why you would create a post like that as I'm pretty sure this sub is against the usual "love at first sight" bullshit and then I saw the pic of your cat lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:46 AM |
| 29 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.If anything, the men I meet in Grad school are worse- they want to date the 18 year old girls they TA and more than one has told me it does not matter what his wife/gf/fiancé is studying or has any hobbies because “she is going to be a stay at home mom soon anyway” Or they're looking for a hot trophy SO, which is why they don't give a shit about their SO's education or hobbies as all they care about is having a hot SO to show off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 181 | So. Many. Red. Flags.What the actual fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:47 PM |
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