Scared of all the hate we get :(

Anodynic · 2020-10-25T22:01:38+00:00

If you were a libfem you would get the same amount of hate. There are disgusting YT videos about libfems, about regular reddit subs in general, death threats towards liberal women. Same goes with women who are overly religious or women who are athiests. Same goes with liberal women from conservative men and conservative women from liberal men.

It is in human nature to be critical. While it is always easy to see the praise that people who disagree with you get, you have to recognize that anyone with any type of opinion gets dissenters. Don't lower your standards, but also don't feel the need to be so open with people. Don't tell people about FDS and don't go sharing things as part of a bigger principle.

About sex, just say you're not comfortable being intimate so fast. Avoiding 50/50 just say you're not used to this type of treatment and you are used to relationships where you are treated that way. About high standards, just say that you don't want to date someone who can't follow the same standards you set for yourself. And on and on. You don't have to label yourself, especially publicly, if you don't want to. But never lower your standards for fear of being judged, especially as you will be judged regardless. That is just the nature of being a woman. If you have too much sex you're loose, if you have too little you're a prude. If you have too high standards you're a bitch, if you have too low standards you're easy. If you enjoy partying you're irresponsible, if you don't like partying you're frigid and boring. You can never win, so stop trying to impress people who don't matter. All you need is one when it comes to a partner.

FleetingDaisy · 2020-10-25T18:34:46+00:00

Don’t be scared. You get used to it and your skin will get really hard to this over time. The threats are something I laugh at now. They are all talk, so you don’t have to worry about anyone acting on it. In all my years of online activism no one has ever had the balls do to anything to me and I use a picture of my face as an avatar. They are just cowards. The lies about single women like us not having any accomplishments come from misogyny. People just can’t fathom a woman making a life for herself without a man helping her! It takes time to build confidence, just keep working on you and don’t surround yourself with the negativity and stay focused on you.

lunatigre · 2020-10-25T21:09:31+00:00

Women have been harassed and threatened for every demand to be treated as human, the right to vote, to have credit/bank account in our name alone, be paid the same as men for the same job etc. etc. etc. The internet does change dynamics in that you can cyber bully someone with relatively low effort and anonymity.

In person I test the waters with people to gauge how receptive they are to FDS ideas. With some people I might engage further with others I don't.

Do what you need to protect yourself online but don't let haters silent you though.

dkwantsdk · 2020-10-25T19:23:14+00:00

You should read The Alchemist. The closer you get to your goal, the harder it will get.

The anger you see from those around you is from fear. It is a sign of what they value and not of what your life should or will be. You will level up, they will be in your rear view mirror for a bit, then not on your map at all. It can be hard, you will have to say goodbye to people and places that were once important to you, but they now no longer serve you. That may mean deleting your Facebook, leaving hobby communities, straight up moving cross country. It's okay to be scared. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other towards your goals.

Title	Scared of all the hate we get :(
Author	FleetingDaisy
Upvotes	76
Comments	14
Date	October 25, 2020 6:02 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	/r/askFDS
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