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I don't think she anticipated how long it was going to be to find a partner. By 40 she decided to freeze them knowing it would be harder to conceive naturally later. She told me a lot of women 45+ use surrogates, not IVF so she was unusual even with her "younger" eggs. I'm not a medical professional but I do believe younger eggs are probably preferable. It's not sexism, but biology. There's certainly added benefits to being an older mom; financially stability, more life experience. But definitel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 12:17 AM
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I have a girlfriend who froze her eggs at 40 and then had a healthy happy baby using IVF at 45. The kid is almost 2 and the cutest thing ever! My friend had a hard time finding the right partner but knew she really wanted to be a mother someday. Freezing her eggs and undergoing IVF was a rough but she really wanted a baby and that made it worth it. If having children is important to you, I say go talk to women who have frozen their eggs and get a sense of the process. It may give you peace of mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/22 09:28 PM
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The lettuce was the perfect finishing touch! Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:42 AM
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I believe actions and behaviors, not words. A real feminist is evident in the choices they make. I've met enough male fEmInIsTs that it's actually a red flag when they declare themselves as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 02:17 AM
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Imagine little girls go to this site to learn how to treat and interact with men when they get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 08:36 PM
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some of that doesn't apply if you're a woman - and some doesn't apply if you're not white, and some doesn't apply if you're under a certain income or education level Exactly this and predators know who to target based on who is least protected under our systems. That's why we need to demand accountability for these women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 07:52 PM
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Would it still be a HIPAA violation if both women consented to meeting each other?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 10:25 PM
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Yes...they're happier too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:47 PM
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When you consider women live longer single and men live longer married to a woman...bachelorhood really should be a goal for the ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:39 PM
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Getting out before the abuse gets physical is good but emotional abuse is just as valid a reason to GTFO. I've heard many trauma survivors say the emotional abuse took the longest to heal from. Emotionally healthy people are consistently kind. If it's intermittent the good days don't cancel out the bad. Trust takes time to build up but can be shattered in an instant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 09:28 PM
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Think of your body image like a garden. The first thing you need to do is identify and pull out weeds and garbage from the plot. This is people and environments that have toxic ideas about how women should look, or media that shows you imagery of unattainable beauty standards. You can't get rid of it 100%, but even a beautiful garden will have a few weeds here and there. Second, you need to plant it with healthy, nourishing plants. This can be people who are affirming and encouraging. Being phys…
/r/askFDS14/02/22 12:13 AM
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I'm so proud of you! Imagine what being in a relationship with this guy would be like if he is already half assing things at the very beginning? Blocking/deleting in my mind isn't even always a way of punishing the guy...it's freeing your mental energy because every time they drop back in, it is a disruption and prevents you from moving on. Blocking and deleting is about setting us free of having to think about them again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:27 PM
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I’m sorry you had to go through that! When Simon was demanding Ayleen sell her house and car to bail him out I was thinking…he has to be a psychopath. How can you bankrupt someone so you can take vacations and enjoy luxuries unless you have absolutely no empathy?!?! And like you said, it’s so hard to imagine there’s people that evil out there but if you don’t allow yourself to accept that truth, they exploit it. Simon should be behind bars. He’s learned nothing. He and your ex will only continue…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:44 PM
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See, I really warn against this kind of thinking because it could happen to anyone. Your weak spot may be different but judging these women gives a false sense you’d do better. Simon targeted mostly blonde Northern European women who were into luxury and status. I was conned because I trusted my friend (who was deeeply commited to helping others and being a community leader) and transferred that sense of trust to the con artist he had met. My con artist fooled other investors out of their saving…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 05:38 PM
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Omg this! Integrity and HV doesn't create confusion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:19 PM
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If you buy it online you buy it before you need it. They don't expire right away. Sorry if that wasn't clear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:17 AM
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OMG! Woman Code by Vitti (not to be confused with another title The Woman Code) was arguably one of the most empowering books for me on how to BE a woman. I recommend it to girlfriends all the time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:32 AM
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It's infuriating!! He gets white male immunity and her life is devalued because of the color of her skin....even being drop dead gorgeous wasn't enough for this to be sensationalized by the media. And why would his story be automatically believed.?? He literally has the biggest incentive to lie. Why is he not automatically a suspect until they investigate further?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 12:02 AM
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You can buy Plan B super cheap on Amazon. The super high prices at pharmacies are because they know you're desperate. Not a substitute for vetting of course!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 11:50 PM
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Even if she hadn't explicitly asked him not to, and even if she didn't have the trauma of the car accident this is a deal breaker. Why would you want to humiliate your partner in front of her family and friends? How can that be interpreted as anything but malicious?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 10:52 PM
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"...can go fuck themselves" ?! So sex-work is good and self pleasuring is bad? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 06:01 PM
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"ethical non monogamy" omg. I'm saving this phrase!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:58 PM
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Anyone else notice the early red flags....their first date was a trip on a private plane from London to Bulgaria?!? She let him know that she trusts blindly and falls for lovebombing right off the bat. It should have stopped at that red flag even if he was as rich as he claimed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:52 PM
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I'd like to know if this guy is ok with a male friend masturbating to pics of him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 05:25 PM
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I think it's important to note that alcoholism is often an addiction stemming from past trauma. Alcohol numbs the pain quite effectively. I've known many people suffering from alcoholism and interestingly, the women I know are pretty compassionate people and still do a lot of work on themselves and prioritize their healing. The men, on the other hand, refuse to acknowledge they needed help and that their drinking was excessive. So I don't cast judgements on someone battling with alcoholism but I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:05 PM
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lol! An Insignificant Other!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 04:42 PM
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Anger is the key to getting over lvm. It really is, and this sub lights that fire.
/r/askFDS06/06/21 12:56 AM
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Chanel Miller's Book Know My Name illustrates just how much we traumatize female sexual assault victims in the US legal system. And Chanel was an adult, white passing, and had a support system and it was a harrowing ordeal to press charges. We shouldn't be prosecuting this young girl we should be apologizing for failing her and giving her resources to recover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:36 AM
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You were always going to die alone. Women live longer than men and kids move out and start their own lives and may just put you in a nursing home. But you'll have lived a full life on your own terms. Forget the dying part let's focus on the importance of the living!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:30 AM
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Gift of Fear is a must read for all women! I think it is very appropriate for your situation. The book describes how there's two kinds of stalkers...men who don't realize how over the top they are and a clear NO sends them packing...and ones who know they're being invasive; they just don't care. Aside from letting him know you are NOT INTERESTED which you've already done the next best thing you can do is stop giving him energy and attention as much as possible. Given you see him at work I know t…
/r/askFDS06/06/21 12:07 AM
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I wonder if you could try the Forgot Password trick with OF to check his account without sending a potential alert to his e-mail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:00 PM
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Just wow. This totally sanitized the experience of stripping! Made me think of this old Vice video Life as a Truck Stop Stripper Started out two very naive girls having an adventure and they got a quick taste of sexual harassment and very real threats to their safety by the end. Stop Glorifying This Shit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 10:47 PM
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I'm glad you found this sub! You bring up a topic I've been thinking of late: if I ever merge my finances with a guy, I'd want to print out credit scores/credit history and show each other. If you marry and become legally liable for their debt or make major joint purchases this seems critical. Just like asking to see actual STD test results and not taking their word for it, it's not fair to simply tRuSt sOmEoNe when you are assuming a lot of risk. If they have nothing to hide they won't mind sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:48 PM
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I'd be gay for Rachel Weisz. But she's in a classy marriage with Daniel Craig.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:38 PM
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This is the Elder Pickme mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 07:36 PM
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And honestly if you can separate your emotions from your body it's probably because of PTSD/dissociation. This! And why is the goal: "How to have sex devoid of emotional connection" instead of "Celibacy"? If you think celibacy is hard try unwanted pregnancies, assault, STDs or being continually emotionally abandoned by sex partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:41 PM
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I'm super punctual and like to make solid plans in advance. One of my best friends is a "go with the flow type" but she accommodates me because she sees it's important to me. I can name so many HV people in my life that have vastly different preferences but mutual respect and a little effort makes up for those differences. It's really that f*cking easy. LVP create problems and conflict that don't even need to exist. They're exhausting to be around! I know I'm preaching to the choir but nobody wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 11:31 PM
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Poor Communication Skills.... They avoid conflicts and difficult adult conversations. ... they sweep issues under the carpet until they blow up. This!!! Learning how to have difficult conversations is so High Value! It is uncomfortable to deal with conflict and disagreement but resolving it feels 1000% better than stewing in negativity. I also notice Low Value People don't respect your right to have a say in the terms of the relationship. You can say a million times what your needs are, what's i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:44 PM
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Don't forget to watch out for Mama's Boys!! Aka men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers. This happens a lot when his parents divorce and his mom latches onto him for emotional support of a partner. It's gross, it's emotional incest often disguised as being extra loving and close bond! You'll always be sharing him with his mom cuz he never learned how to become an autonomous person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:06 PM
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She was seen walking her dogs without the engagement ring but had a "Friends" dog leash!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:00 PM
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a half melted Bill O'Reilly candle OMG I'm dying!! FDS has the bests roasts!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:58 PM
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Men have been dumping their own unresolved issues on women for centuries and designed this patriarchy to facilitate it. When enough women stop accepting that abuse, men are left alone with their own shit. Many of them are incapable of the self reflection needed to take responsibility and do the actual healing work on themselves. They're freaking out because in their eyes we don't have the right to opt out as their physical/sexual/emotional punching bag. I hope they self implode and we enter into…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:51 PM
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You're allowed to have that boundary and not be shamed for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:40 PM
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"We must dismiss all women with sexual abuse allegations because of the small minority of women who lie just to tear an innocent man down!" /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:37 PM
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But my girl and I had an argument and she handled it like something out of a romance novel. This is the biggest green flag and gem of your post. Even LVM can do some things right some of the time. How a person handles conflict is infinitely more telling and valuable than when everything is all rosy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:34 PM
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I see female health practitioners only (to the extent it's possible). My last male dentist refused to use real terminology or share my charts with me. My female dentists (before and after that schmuck) are very communicative and transparent and feel like collaborators with me in maintaining my oral health. Edit: the hygenist's snarky comment at you implies YOU need to adjust to his cultural norms and not the other way around. Why is it women are always supposed to be the ones to emotionally acco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:27 PM
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Men have a deep need to feel admired and appreciated by women. But what I've observed is so many men simply seek the woman who will admire/appreciate them for with the least amount of effort , usually younger/naive women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:22 PM
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I have never used OLD. Most of my boyfriends I have met in exciting organic ways that make for super romantic "how did you meet" stories. They feel lucky to have had a chance meeting with me when I was single and just living my best life and they don't squander the opportunity. If they knew I created a dating profile and matched with them it would have completely altered the dynamic from day one and killed the allure and excitement. I've seen how OLD has changed the dating landscape (I started d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:41 PM
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A Bluetooth Essential Oil Diffuser sounds like the epitome of a tech bro trying to come up with something women want without leaving the comfort zone of his own interests. That's hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:21 PM
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This!! Women who are victims of abuse are often confused, gaslit and enmeshed and a therapist should be that lifeline to snap them awake. It's even more dangerous when the supposed professional just tells you to cOmMuNiCaTe better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 11:39 PM
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Children allowed to consume massive amounts of junk food also reported being happy immediately after so maybe we should let them eat all the garbage food they want too. It's been scientifically proven ok!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:57 PM
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Why Does He Do That is also an excellent book. That and Gift of Fear should be required reading for all women, honestly. Gift of Fear author runs a firm that protects high profile people from crazy predators including stalkers so he understand their psychology and behavioral patterns. Restraining orders are well intention ed but generic advice people like to give out. If this guy is stabbing people he already doesn't care about the law so why would he care about a restraining order?! It would pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:28 PM
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'Repeats what you just said back to you and pretends that it was his original idea.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 12:19 AM
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Please check out the book Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker. It goes into the psychology of dangerous, predatory men including stalkers. It will help you understand what type of monster you are dealing with and the best way to handle it. Not all stalkers are thwarted by a restraining order, sometimes it encourages them because even bad attention from their victim is still attention. For stalkers in general you want to disappear from their awareness as much as possible. You're right to take this se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:40 PM
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It's hard to answer that question in a broad way because people and relationship dynamics are incredibly unique. If you communicate your needs and the other person ignores them they may just be lazy & inconsiderate. Others, particularly with narcissistic abuse, they learn what buttons to push. They can pretend to be innocent and get you triggered and then gaslight you for overreacting and being irrational. This gives them license to be dismissive of you further. A lot of abuse actually happens i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:43 PM
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yesterday 9 months ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:44 AM
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That is quite literally the only weight she needs to drop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:43 AM
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Dressing like you come from a family that has the means to destroy someone who fucks with you is a legit safety strategy. It just upsets me that it leaves other women vulnerable targets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:37 AM
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Communication works when someone is sincere and genuinely means you well. Communication doesn't work in an abusive relationship. An abuser never had your best interest and well being at heart. At best they just don't fucking care. At worst your cOmMuNiCaTiOn just gave them ammo to use against you, you basically showed them your vulnerabilities to exploit further. TLDR; if communication doesn't work immediately GTFO now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 02:02 AM
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I know what you mean. I have a huge crush on John Gilbert (in his silent film phase). It's kinda funny crushing on someone old enough to be your great grandfather. This Clift fellow has stunning eyes. Any favorite films by him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 11:00 PM
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My thoughts exactly. Hoping/trusting they aren't lying means you assume ALL the risk. Ask to see the actual test results.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:56 PM
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I saw him in person once. He looked like a sexy pirate from another era! Even if you lived in a cave and didn't recognize him, he just stands out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 10:32 PM
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I had a boyfriend gift me a tea pot saying it was from Japan, a country he knows I like. A little later I notice on the bottom of the tea pot written in all caps: MADE IN ENGLAND The f*cker lied about many things before I dumped him. But it's the pointless lies like the tea pot that really confound me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:54 PM
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Nicolas Kristof of the NY Times did this piece in April and a double piece on the damage of Porn Hub in Dec 2020. There is plenty of current conversation acknowledging the ways pornography is causing serious harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:32 AM
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One thing FDS has helped me remember is that it ultimately is about how he makes you feel. The temptation is to get caught up in analyzing everything but regardless of the backstory and potential explanation it already sounds like you don't feel very valued and special in his eyes with his fixation on this "friend". If he's pursuing you and making you feel this I'm sorry but he failed. That's your answer. An HVM wouldn't even put you in a position to be wondering this. You can do better than thi…
/r/askFDS13/05/21 12:19 AM
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A man bragging about being a feminist is as absurd as a white person bragging about believing other races deserve equality. Why are you asking to be congratulated? Why are you centering it around yourself?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:16 AM
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I think the reason you don't hear as much about the Kevin's is also because a man's "authority" isn't challenged or second guessed as much as a Karen's. A lot of the Karen videos I see are deplorable. Just wear a f\cking mask in the grocery store ffs!!* But sh*tty women can also be victims of misogyny and this may be their sh*tty outlet to feel some power/control in their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 01:07 AM
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OlD fAsHiOnEd but asks to shower at a lady's house on second date?!? Pulls out his dick on a second date?!?! Where's the old fashioned part??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:47 PM
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A guy who would blow up your phone like that from barely knowing you is definitely a potential stalker. Glad you trusted your gut on him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:44 PM
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This is why I am a huge fan of Hayao Miyazaki films. There's almost always an old wise woman (sometimes she's evil but still powerful and wise). Patriarchy tries to mute this entire category of woman because she is the most powerful and the hardest to manipulate and control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:28 PM
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According to Tantra women are more powerful because they possess more sexual energy which is the most powerful energy one has. This message is consistent across different modalities/ideologies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:14 AM
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Wow. I wish these scenarios weren't so common. I almost wonder if his strategy is to tether a woman down by having kids with her so he can financially leech off her. ​ When I clicked the YouTube link all the headlines on the sidebar of other Ramsey posts half are LVM posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:56 PM
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Your current BF sounds like he is doing a good job being validating and attentive to you during your period. Homemade chocolate prailines? Yes please!! I just wanted to say that unless you have a serious chronic health condition, the pain from periods can be eliminated. Even women with endometriosis or poly cystic ovarian syndrome can see great improvements with their periods by making some lifestyle changes. Our healthcare is still rooted in a misogynistic patriarchy and it normalizes having pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:47 PM
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I don't give such people my time and energy. With family they're a little harder to avoid and in such cases I recommend reading up on the Gray Rock Method.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:33 PM
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I mean women's sports being viewed less speaks to a broader sexism that is a whole other topic. This inherent perception that the female version is less valueable. Women in many industries have faced this and we're making strides in some ways. If the gender roles were reversed though in a given situation and the men outperformed the women, men wouldn't ask for equal pay, they'd ask to be paid commensurate with their performance. It speaks to how liberal feminism's notion of equality has stunted …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:30 PM
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It sounds like your family is negging you to get an emotional reaction so they can get a "hit" off it. It's fucking lame and a sad substitute for a loving, nurturing, healthy connection. But if they knew how to have such a relationship they wouldn't be picking on you in the first place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:26 PM
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Excellent Post! Therapy can really improve a man's performative wokeism, performative feminism. In my experience the men who are the most vocal about being feminist are the ones using it for their self image, the men who truly are feminists just quietly do things that actually help women without needing to get a reward and recognition for it. Behavior over the long term is the only true measure of a person, if therapy doesn't lead to change in behavior it counts for nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:22 PM
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It reminds me of how the US Women's Soccer Team has consistently outperformed the Male Soccer team and won the World Cup several times and yet are paid less. There was some uproar in the press about the Women's Team being paid equally. It pissed me off....why are we demanding equal pay to an inferior under performing team? They should be compensated MORE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:14 PM
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Maybe he can't get a woman his age...has to find them before they're old enough to know what a manchild he actually is.
/r/askFDS22/11/20 07:52 PM
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Gotcha. Bless those spam bots!
/r/askFDS22/11/20 07:33 PM
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It's youth fetishism. Agreed. It's also a lot easier to manipulate a 28 yr old than a 35 year old. There are successful happy non-manipulative age gap couples out there but I'd say they meet over a common interest and values. He chose OP entirely on physical appearance and nothing more. Spending that much on strangers is creepy, it's either desperate, predatory or both. If he can blow that much so casually because he actually is that wealthy then there's probably a power/financial gap to conside…
/r/askFDS22/11/20 07:15 PM
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This is all fantastic advice. Thank you! I don't know why I didn't think of creating alternate social media accounts. Doesn't it look weird that you have no friends/followers or that they are all guys though?
/r/askFDS22/11/20 07:09 PM
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Abortions are a brute solution to a myriad of problems that fall upon women. But like you said, if you're anti-abortion, anti-Real sexual education, anti-contraceptives, anti-consent (even in marriage) you're not pro life, you're pro-forced-birth, let's call it what it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 01:21 AM
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I had a dude on a date compliment my earrings...which was tufts of my hair sticking out from under neath my hat! So he's either not even paying any attention or he has really creepy taste in jewelry! It's a No either way!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:50 PM
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I never see men's empowerment being packaged as dependent on female consumption so why the hell is our eMpOweRmEnT supposed to rely on men?!?! Also: because they are hot and aren't prudes If not wanting to commodify one's body and sexuality for money = prude, you've alienated the majority of women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:23 PM
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If anti-abortion motives were truly pro-life then we could find ways to stop abortions by giving women access to affordable living, healthcare, and childcare, protection from domestic violence, contraceptives. Words have meaning and to be pro life imo means to look after the lives of women too. A lot of Anti Abortion isn't pro life but pro forced birth. It is the most overt way to oppress and control women. My heart goes out to the women in Poland and everywhere that women are suppressed for wha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:10 PM
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I think handling this really varies on the culture where you're at. In a northern climates men seemed to be shy to even be caught staring at you in the first place and if you hold their gaze they will turn away. But in hotter climates meeting and holding their gaze can be taken as an invitation. Even a look of disgust might flatter them. In those situations I just ignore ignore ignore. If they're shameless and with a partner you might say "I'm sorry can I help you?" force them to explain their s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 09:01 PM
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"Yes, it is a one time thing because I will never give you the opportunity to disappoint me again."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:51 PM
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I make a fair bit less than he does That's over 4 times less! Fair bit is an understatement. Men don't suddenly become financially generous upon marriage. He's showing you who he is and will continue to be with you. And if he doesn't believe in shared finances then what does he call splitting rent, groceries and utilities? edit: typo
/r/askFDS01/11/20 08:47 PM
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Suggested new title: She's Not That Into You If. . .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:38 PM
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Nice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:36 PM
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Exactly....it's not a dating strategy it's a life mindset and it changes everything!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:30 PM
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Exactly. If it is so trivial and insignificant then why not appease your partner to whom it is important? OoOoOoh...because you actually have some underlying issues that if spoken would end the relationship? I see. Just stick to the piece of paper crap then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:28 PM
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Exactly, and worry about surrounding yourself with those who know how to have a healthy exchange of ideas, including disagreements!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:13 PM
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Women have been harassed and threatened for every demand to be treated as human, the right to vote, to have credit/bank account in our name alone, be paid the same as men for the same job etc. etc. etc. The internet does change dynamics in that you can cyber bully someone with relatively low effort and anonymity. In person I test the waters with people to gauge how receptive they are to FDS ideas. With some people I might engage further with others I don't. Do what you need to protect yourself o…
/r/askFDS25/10/20 09:09 PM
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I think it's perfectly natural to try and find a reasonable explanation for this abrupt change in behavior. I wouldn't say you are gaslighting yourself unless you continued to deny reality once the shock wore off. There aren't any plausible explanations for him to ghost you that demonstrate he is HVM at this point. Maybe he found someone else? Maybe he lost interest and couldn't be bothered to communicate that to you? Maybe he couldn't keep up the act he was playing and hide the real him any lon…
/r/askFDS25/10/20 09:02 PM
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If you are chasing them around with your opinion then you are lowering yourself in their eyes. If there is genuine mutual respect then there is room to voice your viewpoints. If he doesn't value what you have to say in the first place then any further effort on your part just makes him think even less of you. You put him in the place of authority by doing so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:43 PM
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#11 If you're in your teens and early 20s most guys your age are at their peak physical attractiveness. Don't waste those years of enjoying your hot peers on an old man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:40 PM
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OLD has turned people into commodities. Both men and women. You objectify others and yourself. I've heard enough horror stories both here and from friends and the few success stories hardly seem worth it. I like meeting organically and in person. You take in the totality of the other and get LOADS more info on who they are than a curated online profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:32 PM
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In the States we're taught in history that slavery was this very bad thing that happened a long time ago. Not only is it a lie but it protects the modern slave trade. I read somewhere that during chattel slavery (plantation slavery) one paid around $1200 USD (accounted for inflation) and now you can buy a human being for $50! Imagine how much worse you would treat human property when their life and worth are valued so low?! It breaks my heart thinking about these things but we can't look away an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 09:26 PM
8

Yeah, the interviewer gave me the creeps too. That question was loaded with assumptions and Eartha rightfully pointed this out....Compromise?! For what?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:00 PM
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When I was 26 my boyfriend was 23 and he had a friend in his mid 30s who only dated women under 30. His friend said women over 30 were emotionally damaged and bitter. He grossed me out then and I wish I could go back in time and say "Yeah I guess we have a lot in common cuz I like younger men too for the same reasons!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:42 PM
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By all means, be generous, help others and give to charities. That doesn't mean dating a charity case, marrying a charity case, having kids with a charity case. Your romantic partner is the one time a woman is morally obligated to be selfish and scrutinizing and that selfishness benefits their offspring and society!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:39 PM
12

I can't help but think that I'd like to take her out and also ....all the bad things I'd wanna do to you Take her out and then do bad things to me?! If a but boy can't even be grammatically consistent in a few sentences what am I to expect from dating him long term?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:36 PM
7

Love this! I was about to comment a novel because we really need to reassess what Gender Equality actually means if we are ever going to achieve it but I made my own post instead! Saving this graphic too though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 07:28 PM
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Your friend is going through a divorce and starting dating again? Not knowing the specifics of her situation, this detail is a bit concerning. A HVW can stay single and content with herself, she makes room for a man who adds to her life but isn't trying to fill a void or distract from inner work she needs to do on herself first. As for the question, I agree with other comments, don't ask. If he wants to be exclusive he will let you know! If months go by and he doesn't say anything . . . well you…
/r/askFDS11/10/20 06:29 PM
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Men take advantage of women's conditioning to be pleasant to not make someone uncomfortable even when that person is literally making them uncomfortable. If you had a time machine, I'd say go back to that question "Are we friends?" and look at him blankly with a simple "No." Because that answer says "I have boundaries, I am not afraid to uphold them and I don't need to explain or justify shit." Don't worry, there will be plenty of opportunities in the future to practice making men uncomfortable …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:31 AM
3

It's possible he didn't know for the same reason. I just felt condescending to have to tell him to air it out which he thankfully did!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:17 AM
8

The women I know/knew involved in BDSM are often the Dom. One worked in a dungeon for a while and said that her clients were men in powerful positions and wanted to the role reversal. That being said, I think BDSM stems from unresolved trauma and abuse. It's literally deriving pleasure and satisfaction through exerting power (or surrendering power) over another human being. I see it reflected in our capitalism, that requires many to lose for a few to win. Sexual liberation is two people who have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:39 AM
19

I had a male roommate once that never pulled the shower curtain open after taking a shower. Like, how is it that only women know there's such a thing as mold and mildew?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:44 AM
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That is disgusting! That poor woman. I feel like there should be more stuff in the handbook about damage control when dealing with an abusive ex or stalker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:23 AM
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Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood. She discusses co-dependency and treats it as the serious topic ( and addiction) that it is. This was recommended by several girlfriends who then broke the pattern dating emotionally unavailable men in unfulfilling relationships.
/r/askFDS08/10/20 01:14 AM
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Nothing about that interaction was trivial. His friend shamed her in front of her for being affectionate and her boyfriend didn't defend her. Then they all ganged up on her for what?! ...being cuddly and affectionate?! An HVM will have a natural protective instinct and defend you. If you were in the wrong he'll have a conversation with you in private. As a couple you are the inner most intimacy bubble, and if he sides with friends or family against you, he doesn't value you. In this case the fri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:04 AM
2

Princess week! I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:27 PM
3

You are enamored with a person that doesn't exist. It's a projection that you put onto him. He may have helped create that image of being HV but so many of your bullet points are automatic disqualifiers of being high value! You said he was hurting you and he told you to go to sleep?! Why do you think he is going to be perfect for someone else for a long time? That he was willing to lower his standards for his treatment of you is a reflection of him. If you keep a guy around who treats you poorly…
/r/askFDS07/10/20 05:18 PM
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Sex. Is. Not. Casual. Getting pregnant; having an abortion or bringing a human being into the world isn't casual. Having herpes for the rest of your life isn't casual, nor is dying from AIDS. You wouldn't have cAsUaL sex in front of your grandma would you?! Would you be ok if a CaSuAl sex tape of you was leaked to your boss and co-workers? If sex is casual then WHAT THE FUCK is intimate, serious sacred?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 06:08 PM
6

I saw in another post here a great suggestion of having a emergency fund in case the relationship/marriage dissolves. I think a lot of people stay stuck in a dead end or abusive situation because they can't afford to move out on their own. And divorces are expensive!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:54 PM
3

When a male blood relative acts like he owns you and needs to scare.... patriarchalal = patriarchal If you make these tweaks it reads very smooth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:45 PM
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He sounds like an energy vampire. He won't leave his GF until he has a new victim to suck the life from. A guy making $165k doesn't need to stay with someone to split the rent. He is incapable of living an independent life without latching onto another human in a parasitic manner. I've seen this type before. Very well could be a cluster b personality as they often have a very underdeveloped sense of self and thus can't stand on their own two feet. I'd be very careful and try and get a new job as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:34 PM
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God that's horrible. I'm so sorry for your friend! I feel like before sex two people should bring their STD results to show each other...not just say it verbally but show the actual lab work results. And before getting married or merging financially each partner should pull up and share their credit history/credit report online in real time in front of the other. I'm sure there's still a way to hide money in foreign bank accounts or something but anyone not willing to be this transparent, anyone…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:22 PM
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Agreed. This is a lot of emotional energy for someone you wanted to be low key with. Sex isn't casual. Sex can lead to pregnancy, STDs, assault, stalking/harassment or ,at best, intensified emotions and vulnerability. If you can't have deep meaningful communication with someone then don't have sex with them, have coffee with them, that's casual.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:38 PM
7

I saw this video a few months back on Johnny Depp's dating Winona Ryder and how predatory it because of the major age difference. Shallon spent a moment on the fact that Depp's favorite book was Catcher in the Rye and how douchey that was. It's interesting seeing that book mentioned again. I see a correlation forming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 09:14 PM
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This won't work. Women's brains have these super computers in them that will assess the types of dishes, the way they were laid out against the dietary and living habits of the man and the calculations will alert her conscious mind to something being amiss. It's how women know he's been cheating too. He better have a story that can account for all the details and multi tiered questioning or be able to run the same cognitive assessments in creating his hack. And at that point it would've just bee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:28 PM
22

A blood sucking parasite is less demanding!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 06:03 PM
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So true! I love the analogies you make with the interviewing process and financial investing. We've become desensitized to how absurd their expectations and effort are you need to compare it to something else to see how ridiculous it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:53 PM
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a criminal who got caught with an illegal firearm with several rounds of ammu. ... he also was heavy into breaking and entering. I wouldn't want to date that, but even more so I wouldn't want an ex boyfriend like that either!! Scary!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:44 PM
10

Or they get to heaven and discover everyone is in a faithful committed relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 05:39 PM
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A man that cannot show even the slightest concern or empathy over his partner being hospitalized is literally a liability. Showing care and support in such circumstances was part of the job and he is taking up that space for someone in her life capable of being that for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:47 PM
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OMG, divorcing her was maybe the best thing he did! It helped her realize her true potential. That being said, this is not always the story for SAHMs who suddenly find themselves single with no job skills or experience trying to enter the work force in their 40s, 50s or 60s. The fact that society expects women to take on such a disproportionate risk in marriage is beyond problematic. They're the same people who don't understand why feminism exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 10:31 PM
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I hope she uses this opportunity to learn how to stand on her own two feet and seek out some amazing friendships and mentors. I also hope she cuts him out completely. Can you imagine being the new girlfriend and your new garbage BF has to help his foreign ex GF get established? ? He's just an unending cycle of disrespecting women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 08:07 PM
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My grandfather died the day I had to start a new job. You know what I did? I showed up for work because they didn't know me well yet and starting out with an excuse would have set a bad first impression. I explained the situation in person and they let me take the day off but I kept my integrity. There's a way to handle family emergencies that show respect for the other person and their time. Glad you had an awesome lunch though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:49 PM
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At first I thought the FDS post flair #KickHimOut2020 was referring to Trump. Lol! I later realized that it's for any NVM/LVM and FDS is obviously an international community. It still amuses me though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:41 PM
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Exactly!! You can't win with a narcissit so you just stop engaging all together! I wish we could collectively just band together and ignore TF out of Trump. He'd self implode. He thrives on our reactions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 07:39 PM
3

If you assume most of the costs of hanging out with her it creates an awkward dynamic, even if both of you have only the best intentions. I think the most generous thing you can do is hang out with her in ways that are within her means, especially as you are just getting to know her. Ultimately you appreciate each other's company and there are lots of affordable settings do do that in. This isn't to say you can't treat her on occasion but calling attention to the financial gap between you two ca…
/r/askFDS30/09/20 07:34 PM
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Yep! They have a conversation at you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:27 PM
1

Thanks for that. I think vetting is a constant process because people do change and shift over time but I'd like to think that most abusers have some warning signs before you get deeply invested!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:19 PM
1

Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:16 PM
3

I gave myself a second matriarchal last name. I didn't use my mother's maiden name as it is still a patriarchal one and the one I chose is very feminine and beautiful. I use it for my profession/business too. My patriarchal last name connects me to the men in my family and shows my heritage. I have no interest in changing my name again, it's perfect now. :) In an egalitarian society I envision having a double last name makes sense: wife's name + husband's name. Then the girls should carry the ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:28 PM
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I have seen that dormant abuse come to life after certain milestones in other women's relationships. Do you think that vetting (or a specific type of vetting) can catch those things early or do they just flip a switch and you are dealing with an entirely different person?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:12 PM
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It just sounds better for the hunt for a good time LVM are such wizards at using the passive tense when owning their shit sounds worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 09:01 PM
2

The psychology in the book Why Men Love Bitches works on LV male family members too! My ex once complained to his mom about some detail in how she did his laundry (he was a teenager) aaaaaaaaand that was the last day he had his laundry done for him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:50 PM
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Came here to say this. Have him pay the full amount, you're the one who has to undergo the actual procedure so it still isn't 50/50. If he needs motivation to come up with the money say you'll notify his parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:44 PM
2

Trust me, even if you were even more articulate than you already are, you won't change the minds of these men. Any effort to do so only flatters their egos further. If you really want to shatter them, hold steadfast in your beliefs and don't exert an ounce of energy trying to convince them, because their opinion is not important to you and should not be treated as such. Let them try and convince you, let them demonstrate their opinion is worth landing in your precious ears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:35 PM
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Right?! He identified his girlfriend as bi and Delilah as a lesbian and then is shocked when they both behaved as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:15 PM
6

Running his battery dead required a little planning and foresight, but then when it comes to using those mental faculties to be helpful they'll play dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:04 PM
6

Help some women in an abusive relationship make their escape with 24 hrs to safely do so!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 07:00 PM
4

Perhaps one of the first red flags in my husband was how he was pretty obsessed with the notion of gold diggers. He’d speak disparagingly about them and say how he knew I wasn’t one. Obviously you weren't! A gold digger can't date another gold digger!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:28 PM
2

Haha!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 06:02 PM
6

It literally takes 2 seconds and zero effort to call someone crazy. I just looked out my window and called a tree crazy. It was that easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:04 PM
3

When I walk passed a well loved home, it just radiates that warm fuzzy feeling. It gives off a distinct vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:52 PM
4

I have never met or heard of a woman that defined being feminist by fucking a new guy every two days. Maybe that's just me tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:46 PM
7

Gotcha. I see it says Automod mail still gets through and mods can reach you if you've participated (comment or upvote) on a sub. The post/comments are 3 yrs old though so Reddit may have changed policies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 10:00 PM
8

Does this prevent mods from being able to message you too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:31 PM
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If you're in the US and not vulnerable to severe COVID-19 complications consider working a polling station this November to help others vote! powerthepolls.org can set you up in less than 5 minutes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 09:27 PM
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Not sure if anyone else agrees if you want are some of my most hated words uttered by a guy/SO. I had a boyfriend keep saying it even after I said how much it bothered me. I am perfectly capable of turning down an invite if I don't want to. But it's such a tepid/flacid way to initiate an activity. Edited for clarity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:55 PM
1

There are so many things I would do if I magically turned into a straight guy with all I know from being a woman. Tuning into my female partner's fertility cycle would be at the top of my list. Each phase effects our moods, energy levels...honestly everything because hormones effect everything. Your cervix moves and gets firmer or softer throughout your cycle making different kind of sex appealing at different phases. It's like having a cheat code on a woman. LVM won't put in the effort to learn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 08:50 PM
1

Oof. I honestly haven't really followed his personal life. I just like looking at him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:56 PM
2

Kudos to you for not outing her just to make a point as sad as it is she had to hide her identity just to play a freaking game! Your story reminds me of the common inverse scenario I see on this sub where FDSers are posting stuff so obviously a man trying to sound like a chic to further his male-centric agenda. I guess women just know women better than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 05:55 PM
2

he is more interested in exploring masculinity and inherited male trauma in a less traditionally-heroic way. Wow. He just got hotter to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:34 PM
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I think the guy who wrote this is conflating his idea of feminism with the fact that his girlfriend doesn't want to sleep with him anymore. He can go get that dog and leave us alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:30 PM
7

bring up the Irish slaves argument when discussing BLM Any grown-ass adult that doesn't know the difference between indentured servitude and chattel slavery isn't really worth arguing with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 10:04 PM
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He's so insecure he managed to pervert a compliment into scheming on how to screw her over. Imagine being that miserable a POS that you misconstrue kindness as an excuse to hurt another human being!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 12:29 AM
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There's no comparison between a consumer of violence against women, human trafficking, and child rape and wanting to hang out with guy friends or using social media. None.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:56 PM
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Maybe follow up with her. I'm sure he will make a bunch of excuses and rationalize things and she might cave. Concealing that you have an STD and thus giving it to someone is sexual abuse. Not knowing it means you aren't to be trusted, I mean, it could've been AIDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:35 PM
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They learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:14 PM
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women seem to instinctively be able to adjust their output so that everyone in the circle gets enough energy to thrive. Men do not have this innate capability and so, even if they are 'givers' it will never be enough to match what we give them. Wow. You just put into such eloquent words what I have felt in the pit of my stomach for so long!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:13 PM
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Yang had my support for this very reason. It really isn't that radical an idea. Jeff Bezos is estimated to be about 6 years away from being the worlds first trillionaire. How is an economic system that creates mass poverty and multi-billionaires not considered the irrational, extremist mode?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 10:07 PM
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I have always been uncomfortable with porn and FDS is the first place I have found solid validation of what my gut was telling me . . . that this is wrong, it's commodified abuse that is especially harmful to women and girls. I would love for the FDS community to rally together to fight the normalization of selling such grotesque material to the masses and normalizing it. When chattel slavery was legal and sadly normal in the US, there were people who said "This is fucked up. These are human bei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:21 PM
22

Whoa. He took his emotional grief and transmuted it into something beautiful to honor her that others enjoy that simultaneously is helping charity?!?! This is soooo next level!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:55 PM
2

I hope to God that this applies to 2020 as a whole!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:40 PM
2

It'd be sweet if there was an FDS remake of certain TV episodes and movies. In the remake she'd play dumb fox until he realized his opposable thumbs were perfectly adept at lifting a laundry basket and doing dishes, and making lunches!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:02 PM
1

Thanks! I'll check this out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:51 PM
4

I didn't type it but that show was in the back of my mind too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:51 PM
3

That is infuriating! Why isn't he jumping in to address the problem he identified? I never saw that show but can't help notice how even the name of it infers that it's all from the husband's perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:50 PM
1

In hindsight I think the title should have been that gaming helps weed out one layer of LVM. That they are nice to female players isn't automatically make a man HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:48 PM
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I imagine this study was working with the notion that females were the minority players in a male dominate culture. It would be neat to see a deeper study on how gender AND skill level informs behavior. Similarly, you hear about men who seem fine until their wife makes more money than them, and then their insecurity rears its ugly head. Boy is that a thing! I wonder how do you test a guy for that? We could call it the Stedman test after Oprah's SO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:47 PM
2

Very true! This just weeds out one layer of LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:43 PM
1

Gross!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:43 PM
1

You bring up a valid point. I tried to be succinct with the title but I agree that you have to vet from multiple angles. Men can be HV in some areas but you must assess the whole person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 07:42 PM
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That and every sitcom from the 90s and early 2000s. I've literally never seen the show but King of Queens comes to mind. So barf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:17 AM
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Yep, people have told me I look mean when I’m in the streets... ​ What they meant to say is "You don't look very muggable, rapeable."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 01:11 AM
3

Really? That's so rad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:51 AM
10

I love Kim's channel!! I literally just recommended it on another post here of empowering YouTubers to check out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:14 AM
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Gosh that episode sounds so funny! It's like a gender reversal of professional sports. It makes me wonder how many things women are just glaringly better at that are minimized/dismissed in this patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:12 AM
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I would speculate that the HVM, feeling no threat to their own abilities, would treat male and female gamers the same regardless of skill level. Maybe a more challenging opponent they would go harder on but LVM attacking female gamers is rooted in insecurity which the HVM aren't afflicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 12:10 AM
2

One more...Jill Bearup she discusses all things around swords and choreographed fighting. Her narration is so captivating and humorous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:49 PM
5

For Harriet is a channel by Kim Foster discussing issues around Black American Women. She is outspoken, articulate and occasionally interviews other intelligent and eloquent ladies on topics like abolishing the prison system etc. Thoraya Maronesy interviews random people on the street in sort of a Humans of New York kind of way, showing their humanity, vulnerability with intimacy and respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:46 PM
3

Wow! I'm definitely checking her channel out! Thanks for sharing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:35 PM
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This is so true. RGB knew this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:35 AM
2

So why do men who look like that get to vote?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:44 AM
1

Being polite doesn't work. Subtle hints doesn't work. Straight up ignoring them (unless you get up and leave the scene) doesn't work. I am just very direct and it is only perceived as rude from the assumption that women are supposed to be accomodating and nice at all times. "I don't want to have this conversation." "I would like to be left alone." simple statements, don't explain or justify or add any gentle words like "kinda" that just gives them something to work with. If we women did this mor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:42 AM
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This destroys her ego. Her ego is attached to her vagina. Uuuuuh, project much??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:34 AM
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But you let me suffer and twist myself into unhealthy shapes to try work it out your way. I let me suffer, because I just did not know any better. This sounds like narcissism not autism. There's plenty of neurotypical guys that behave this way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:20 AM
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Making lots of money while keeping your dignity, integrity, and privacy intact is empowering. Having a successful career doing something you love so much you'd do it for free is empowering. I feel like this word has been hijacked in it's use towards women. When you truly feel empowered you don't need anyone to convince you, it's pretty damn obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 05:05 AM
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Yep. And when you look at the world through that lens shit makes sense. We live in a misogynistic pedophillic patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:52 AM
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I find I can get a lot of my needs met through friendships that I used to seek-out from a romantic partner. My friendships with my girlfriends are so much richer now. They remember dates and things and follow up/check in. They are punctual and reliable. They are good listeners and offer solid emotional support. I meet more interesting people and learn about new stuff and activities through them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:30 AM
14

Oh my God yes! The snoring! I can't date another smoker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:18 AM
8

Definitely a man. I'm not going to google it, but I recall hearing their prostate gets stimulated when they're penetrated anally. So if a guy want's to do anal, just tell him to bring his preferred dildo and you'll oblige.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 04:13 AM
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The older the movies the more astonishing and overt the sexism is. I once saw an interesting breakdown of how, pretty much all of Harrison Ford's iconic movie characters were sexual predators rebranded by Hollywood as masculine badasses. I grew up loving these films and revisiting this was definitely a mindf*ck. Especially Blade Runner, rape through coercion. Like, whoa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:52 AM
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Planning and executing a date isn't just a way to vet a guy's level of interest and investment in you, it shows that he has the mental capacity and willingness to share the invisible emotional labor. A date showcases so many skills; taste & aesthetic, time management, logistics, cultural savvy, chivalry, listening and emotional attentiveness etc. This translates into the skills you want in a partner to share your life with, have children with. A HVM knows this and wants to show off these abiliti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:36 AM
5

He won't have the beautiful jawline forever. It's a waste to hide it under a beard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 03:20 AM
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