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SCROTES MADFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:30 PM
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QUEEN SH*TFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:54 AM
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QUEEN SH*TFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:00 PM
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LEVEL UPFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:33 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMEFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:01 PM
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FleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 12:39 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:28 PM
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FDS HUMORFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:25 AM
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FleetingDaisy/r/askFDS25/10/20 06:02 PM
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FleetingDaisy/r/askFDS30/10/20 12:28 PM
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NAH, SISFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:49 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:54 PM
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SCROTES MADFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:26 AM
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LEVEL UPFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 08:32 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:26 PM
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NAH, SISFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:58 AM
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DISCUSSIONFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 09:06 AM
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LEVEL UPFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 11:47 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 09:13 AM
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STRATEGYFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 07:40 PM
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DISCUSSIONFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 10:27 AM
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STRATEGYFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 12:52 PM
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PICKME CULTUREFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:06 PM
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FDS HUMORFleetingDaisy/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 06:23 AM
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I was friends with her for a while after that, but it definitely fell apart when she started using me to endlessly vent about her NVM Tinder matches, only to run right back to #FuckboyOfTheWeek. I had to put a stop to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/20 01:55 PM
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My pickme ex-best friend showed her first red flag 1.5 years ago. I was going through a very nasty breakup with someone who lied his way into a relationship with me knowing that if I knew certain things about him, I wouldn’t have agreed to dating. Bad, ugly breakup, lots of crying on my part, screaming and swearing (not with him present, that is), because I was lied to and deceived. When I tearfully told her about how he told me that he in fact never loved me to begin with (in some kind of a fai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:22 PM
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I had to cut ties with my best friend for this. Also doctor in preparation. She was in a long term relationship with a NVM who was physically abusive with her and she was rewarding him by paying his rent on a student loan. I got her through the lenghthy process of breaking up with him, she was on my couch every week. I thought she learned her lesson. Then she met an absolute scrote who made her pay gas money to always drive to him and give him 1000€ for a holiday trip together, while she’s savin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 11:13 PM
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Hahaha didn’t know this was a thing, thanks. An ex who broke up with me for having basic emotional needs two years ago and ghosted me ever since, sent me a friend request today out of the blue. I deleted it ofc, but he’s really the last ex I’d ever expect to hear from again, so it must really be a special season.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 10:18 AM
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He found a dating app that told him women will be messaging him first because we force them to. He thought that’s cool, let dem bitches chase this D, and made a profile there. Sis, he’s not willing to make an effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:17 PM
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It’s a dating app where pickmes chase LVMs. I downloaded it yesterday and was wondering why I do have a few matches, but no messages. Then I did some googling and found out this. Never before did I delete a dating app this fast 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 10:12 PM
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Of course he did. But pickmes somehow fail to acknowledge that these skills are something anyone with half a brain should have acquired by 20 with moderate success, and pride themselves in “teaching” their men how to literally not rot alive in fungus while surviving on burned eggs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 08:03 PM
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Did you guys know women are REQUIRED to message men first on Bumble, like for men there isn't even an option to initiate the chat? Where are we going as a society? for a walk I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:23 PM
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He's not only going to go back to his old ways, he's also going to bring the week up against her everytime they have an argument :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:20 PM
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I normally wouldn't have given these people the time of the day, but this entire post is one scorching hot mess. We're APPLAUDING a grown-ass man for DOING BASIC LIFE SKILLS ON HIS OWN for a WEEK after she had to coerce him by the withdrawal of her contribution. Talking did not help. HE EVEN TAKES THE BABY SOME DAYS, so that she can get her vital functions in check. Not like every day, no, but some days. Some days, she will get sleep. I don't know which planet I'm on rn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:14 PM
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And it works, because 80-90% men really do be like that. If more women had self-respect, there would be a lot less relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 09:09 AM
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Right?? I feel so disrespected that I lost all interest in what was otherwise a good conversation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:56 PM
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Tinder guy just told me I’m a pussy for not wanting to fly with him on his actobatic plane. Unmatch?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 11:23 PM
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It's a sub for complaining about your man while fishing for justification as to why stay with him either way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 04:16 PM
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Yet, lists 7 specific requirements he has for a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:30 PM
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dELet dIs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:25 PM
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Oh and he chivalrously lets you message him first. This guy is a full package.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:24 PM
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Some of the cheap scrotes are unreal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:13 PM
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Accepting gifts was hard because we were taught to reciprocate. No longer, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 08:32 PM
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Sad that a concierge doesn't know better. He should normally be the one delivering the gifts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 06:31 PM
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In my opinion most men want to be in the position to buy gifts for their girlfriends/good female friends. The ones who are s*mp shaming this behavior are secretly envy-hating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 05:33 PM
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Good! He obviously has a lot of extra money and instead of spending it on your relationship, he spends it on porn. He made his choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 04:47 PM
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I'm so tired of how it is normalized to instead call women psychos for wanting these things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 09:49 AM
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This is why as a woman you can't get a fucking car checked out because some dude might believe this means you want his d.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 05:24 PM
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To me, “do not contact me” is precisely what it says, but indeed not to men. They understand it as “please contact me again in 3 months because I have the memory of a gold fish”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 04:03 PM
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I wAnT mE a RuSsIaN WiFeY yea cool, how many figures do you make again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 03:31 PM
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Oh I had a cool exchange with a LVM yesterday evening. Personally, I drop guys when a phonecall has been arranged for a certain date and time, and he does not call or give a plausible excuse on time (family emergency, work delay, etc.). Happened yesterday. Told him not to contact me again. His response was that I'm giving him drama :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:36 PM
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I blame pop culture and porn culture, nothing else. It’s insulting how Eastern women are portrayed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 10:29 AM
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Hahaha yes. I'm a conventionally attractive woman from Eastern Europe (Slovakia) living in Western Europe and you wouldn't believe how often I get fetishized by local men as some kind of a tradwife/porny housewife Cinderella with a thick accent. They literally expect behaviors from me that I know they have been taught by popular culture and porn. In fact, you won't find more angry women in resistance other than in Eastern Europe, it has to do with our history of severe oppression.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:48 AM
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Keep fighting, Slovak women support you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 09:43 AM
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Re-watching Legally Blonde 1 and 2 for the millionth time and Emmett is a HVM!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 08:27 PM
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He thought someone like you but even better is just a swipe away. Your personality and all, but 19 years old with an anime-like body and more of that tradwife vibe. Turned out they aren’t. Worse yet, they probably don’t exist. So he pulls out his phone and hits you with a “long time no see”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 05:06 PM
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This is also one of the reasons why exes tend to reach out after a year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 04:39 PM
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Having no expectations on the first date leads to giving men credit for doing the bare minimum. If OP had no expectations, she would be doing the "let's see how things go" ritual right now that is pushed on us by men, which really means hanging around in a situationship that is going nowhere, giving the man some more of her time and attention while getting nothing in return. While he's "figuring out where things go", translated into him using her for as long as she's going to let him. Expectatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:53 PM
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Instead of being single until he has his demons sorted out and has seen a therapist, he latches onto a woman, who, in hopes of a relationship, will provide the emotional support that he needs at the moment. When he's better again, he will dump her, because he never had a relationship on his mind to begin with, he just wanted someone to fix him. He's letting his depression/anxiety/whatever he has run its course without consistent professional treatment, and as it is perfectly normal, the conditio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:43 PM
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I agree, we should stop romanticizing this. This "girl who is always there" trope is all over popular media, and I think it's a variant of the "chill girl". A woman who accepts abuse and rewards it with unconditional love. Not good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:07 PM
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Move on. He already showed you on the first date who he really is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 06:54 AM
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My inner voice tells me that this kind of language signifies great emotional immaturity.
/r/askFDS30/10/20 07:26 PM
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This is a good response. To the shocking horror of my pickme friends, I routinely ditch guys for a "how r u".
/r/askFDS30/10/20 04:30 PM
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Never have, never will :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 01:24 PM
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I posted this question here a few days ago, even if formulated differently. Following :)
/r/askFDS29/10/20 07:49 AM
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Because her body changed after she gave him the children that he wanted. Seriously why are men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 08:12 PM
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Expectations on women in the 1950s: cook, clean, wash, iron, care for children, look good, emotionally support, don't be demanding, accept the man as he is Expectations on men in the 1950s: bring in money Expectations on women now: cook, clean, wash, iron, care for children, look good, emotionally support, don't be demanding, accept the man as he is, WORK FULLTIME Expectations on men now: 404 not found
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 08:09 PM
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This. You put it into perspective. The bullying of women hasn't changed, people just use different ways to convey it. And sadly, women have joined their forces.
/r/askFDS26/10/20 07:59 AM
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Thank you. Coincidentally, the moving country part I have already checked off my leveling-up list 😊
/r/askFDS25/10/20 07:25 PM
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I'm so comfortable with being single, that I can't understand this desperation to keep a LVM boyfriend/husband even though I'm miserable. But then again if they were not miserable, they wouldn't have the need to put other women down to feel better. They probably learned it from their men in the first place lol.
/r/askFDS25/10/20 06:57 PM
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This was in facebook groups that I thought were feminist, such as ones where we drag screenshotted content posted by shitty boyfriends/husbands, etc. But I guess I won’t comment there anymore.
/r/askFDS25/10/20 06:45 PM
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Honestly I wanted to listen to some FDS-relevant content on youtube while doing weekend chores, and instead I found so much hate. I wasn’t surprised that it came from male youtubers, but there was so much from women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:41 PM
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The fact is, I’m single because since I adjusted my standards about a year ago, the absolute most men simply don’t make the cut. Every single one of them will make me cringe at some point by being low level/misogynist/narcissist/etc you get me. But the women! WTF they get so aggressive when we talk about out standards. I mean if greedy ass LVMs that make you pay money to run after them are your jam, go for it sis, but calling me names for being different? Demoralizing and frustrating.
/r/askFDS25/10/20 06:39 PM
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I will repost this into the correct sub. Feeling really shit rn. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:00 PM
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I literally had a guy tell me on a date that "the most perfect female body is that of a 19-year-old". He was 40. I'm 29, so I should have taken the hint. I wasn't young enough for him :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 09:23 AM
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The term was coined by inc*ls, so yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 09:38 AM
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Anyone else noticing comments from male lurkers that promptly get deleted, about her looks? One even messaged me about that. Is that really the best you can do? Trying to undermine a woman's statement not with arguments against it, but by attacking her subjective attractiveness? Not like I'm surprised, but it baffles me how often men believe that they can refute any claim made by a woman by stating that you find her unattractive. Besides, why are we pretending that she's some kind of a hideous t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 06:05 AM
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Can't wait to receive my copy, so I looked up an excerpt. Here goes; "I’m walking down a road on the outskirts of Nantes, minding my own business and fully engrossed in my podcast about female octopuses, when out of the corner of my eye I see a car pull up alongside me. “Eh Mademoiselle!” a man shouts. Auto-program kicks in: keep walking, don’t make eye contact, try to ignore that feeling in the pit of my stomach." This. All of this. This fucking experience that is a part of every woman's daily …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:22 PM
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Um, throughout the entire history of literature and cinematography ever since humans developed language? I mean the freaking Bible is the first misogynist manifesto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:02 PM
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I'm in the Netherlands, and ordered it from bol.com. Personally I do not order from Amazon, because of Jeff Bezos' notoriously horrible treatment of his employees. But if you must, do it for the sisterhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 08:00 PM
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Message to male lurkers: Men hate women because women don't want to have sex with them. Women hate men because they rape, kill, and abuse us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:58 PM
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His peepee's feelings got hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:55 PM
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I'd pay to watch how he "sees it as a compliment" or "can take a joke" or "it's not like he raped him" or any other chant that men and pickmes love to sing to apologize sexual violence of men against women. Most straight men require 10 years of therapy when another dude stands too close to them at the urinal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:43 PM
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Sharon was lightyears out of is league when it comes to looks, and he still cheated on her all the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:38 PM
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I remember always thinking that Sharon Tate was a kind and innocent soul, way too good for that horrible scrote Roman Polanski who abused her emotionally and physically, in the rare moments when he wasn’t having sex with an underage actress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:29 PM
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I love how her publisher will tell her that there was a light surge in the pre-orders of her English book worldwide on the 21st October, and she will never know 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:24 PM
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Lol, imagine telling everyone like this that you’re a butthurt scrote 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 06:16 PM
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Provided it follows all the regulations of course. In my area hotels are open, but staff and guests are required to wear masks and keep distance at all times (except in rooms) and there are limits on guests according to the size of the place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 05:01 PM
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I posted a meme here some time ago about tacky truck dates and all dem pickmes came commenting like OmG If u HAvE bEeN ToGetHer FoR LoNg EnOuGh ThiS iS cOol and stuff OmG mY HuSbAnD DoEs tHiS fOr Me And I LoVe It like yeah you have been married for a long time to a LVM, move on. Nothing classy about a drive in with a RENTED truck (drive ins usually belong to fast-food chains with crazy unhealthy food). Take me to a weekend getaway (commitment-only date) with your own Tesla and order in room serv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:47 PM
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what’s up with all these truck dates? did I miss something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 04:39 PM
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Yup, all because the French government was trying to ban it. It did not work, and her sales skyrocketed as a response :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:32 AM
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yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 07:00 AM
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BROSCIENCE 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 08:08 PM
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Single = anything but lonely. Damn in the time I've been single I've moved country, done my Master's degree, started my research line, got an apartment, learned my new country's language, lost 10 kg, improved my skin, developed a healthy diet. Most men are irrationally scared of women's personal development, so I'm still looking for a HVM unicorn :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:37 AM
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me: ...see and this is why I haven't started a relationship with anyone in 7 years. my friend: Oh but that won't happen to me! me: So you'll settle? my friend: Yes. (this shit really happened, no joke)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:33 AM
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Just playing through my 90s-2000s playlist and can we briefly talk about how TLC's Scrubs is the most LVM-relevant song out there? Sisters knew the deal back then. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FrLequ6dUdM&list=RDbbqVg_23otg&index=34&ab_channel=TLCVEVO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 08:55 PM
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LVMs hate women with standards, and men who live up to these standards 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 06:54 AM
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Yes, we have a bigger problem than just the men who are scrotes and live and love the scrote lifestyle. It’s HVM-shaming and it puts men off levelling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:54 PM
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We discussed it elsewhere in this thread. Perhaps they both aren’t sexual. There are people like that, they do not find particular enjoyment in sex, but experience intimacy in other ways. The only important thing here is that both are on the same page ofc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:19 PM
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Right?? If a guy doesn’t cook or clean to focus on his career (like 90% of them do), everyone’s cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 08:16 PM
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You have to make the rules on that in a relationship. I’m confident you’ll either find someone who will value you enough so that you feel safe to express your sexuality, or if it’s your case, someone who simply isn’t sexual himself. This guy is sticking around so that means his sexual needs are similar to hers. There are men like that out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:49 PM
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In that case the headline is ironic. Great article and great example to give other women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:40 PM
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“He brings me an organic buffalo milk cappuccino every morning in bed and once spent hours making fresh syrup from rhubarb to add to my favourite champagne after I'd given birth. And yes, he works full-time.” Serious HVM alert! Male lurkers, take notes right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:24 PM
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Sis, I got out of that dating style last year. I was permanently unhappy and only recently figured out why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:08 PM
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More like Britain’s smartest wife but ok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:07 PM
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I fact checked because I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read the career focused part - it’s real! https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2424680/Kate-Thompson-Britains-worst-wife--shes-proud-it.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:06 PM
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Lack of commitment in exchange for bad sex? Sounds like a fair deal!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:03 PM
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Wine with receding hairline that starts collecting fat easier, and mostly around the belly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 05:22 PM
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oK bUt CaN We hAvE hIs PerSpEcTiVe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:11 AM
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You can ruin a good quality cast iron by putting it into a dishwasher though. It has to be hand washed with gentle soap, and then oiled before putting away. A dude would probably dunk your 200$ cast iron into the dishwasher though, thinking it's a regular pan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:10 AM
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“yea work has been crazy lately” me: *block
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:43 AM
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We all deal with this absolute scrote at some point in our workplace. I have worked in a data science lab of my university as an assistant manager in 2018-2020. My boss illegally provided some of our spaces to his side business partner, the dude wasn’t working for the data lab, nor was he employed by the university, he was just using our offices, supplies and equipment for free. Let’s call him Rick. And he started treating me like his secretary! Once or twice I did get him a parking spot, which …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:57 AM
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Men, showing once again, that if they have nothing to bring to the table, they always bring at least the audacity. Well done queen! Update us on further developments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 11:57 AM
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I dumped the last guy for not calling at an agreed-upon date and time that he suggested. I'm not here for flaky shit and we were only dating for 3 weeks, so no regrets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:53 AM
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Who thinks like this in their 30s?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:52 AM
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Clingy = expressing basic human emotional needs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:48 AM
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Very often, broke men come in the full package - broke, unable/unwilling to change his situation and as a result of that bitter, angry and abusive. A rich dude can at least afford therapy lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:44 PM
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Yup, it's the not-like-other-girls kind of people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:18 PM
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This. My ex-best friend is a diehard Pickme. I wrote about it here, about how she regularly calls me up on guy advice, wastes 2 hours of my time, and then goes back to running after some NVM who made her spend 1000€ on a holiday with him. She wants a baby some day. I told her - he does not want to spend a cent on you now, you think he will support the baby? Lol, he will if he absolutely MUST, and the “support” will look accordingly. He has a high-paying job being on a top position in internation…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:03 PM
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It's a valid point. But then again, it's just one flair category among many others. Let's just say it's an occasional cautionary example of how to not do things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:44 PM
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This. I will take a walk or have a picnic if it's on a weekend getaway in a high-end resort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:43 PM
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Ouch hahaha :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:28 PM
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“I’d rather marry for true love than marry a rich guy” Like you can’t possibly love a rich guy, right? This shows that they only experienced one half of the spectrum, the low-effort half.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:45 PM
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All that you said is true. But I’d like to point one thing out; “Men generally respect women with standards”. I was disrespected AS HELL in the past when I had no standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:36 PM
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I used to think that it's ok to have dates at home with frozen pizza. That's even one level below going for a walk. Imagine that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:27 PM
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With "more effort", you're referring to a picnic and nearby cafe light lunch? I get your flair now lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:44 PM
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I'm only willing to accept that in a committed relationship if those dates get outweighed by high-effort dates. It's not like now that a man has passed the dating stage, he can quit trying. That's what LVMs do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:35 PM
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*sure, Jan gif
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:32 PM
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I love how they always assume that only cheap ass truck dates can warm one's soul. The Michelin star restaurant I have been taken to on my most recent date was absolutely soul-warming I must say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:29 PM
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The most extreme thing I got from that was actually spending my then-student job money on halfsies with these LVM. Not again in a million years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:25 PM
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But she wouldn't want that anyway, because she's not a gOLdDiGGeR
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:23 PM
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Perfect, isn't it? A balanced blend of "I'm better than other women", "I'm not shallow like other women", "I'm cool because I swear" and "please date me" :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:20 PM
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This was posted below a meme showing a couple on a date inside of a literal truck parked somewhere with an ocean view, captioned as "no female today would be interested in this". I'm passively following the discussion, it's a parade of Pickmes, competing in who will get the most MaleAttention™ for the most I'm-so-low-maintenance comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:12 PM
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I'd give this 10 upvotes if I could. You just wrote the scenario I have been replaying in my head over and over, about how I will approach this. I's enough, next time he comes over what will he do, actually show me his d*ck? Screw that. I'm going to tell my landlord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 11:01 AM
2

Thank you, this is actually helpful and encouraging. I will request a new maintenance guy the next time in case something breaks, and if my landlord asks why, I will tell him why. Problem is, today I responded with apparent disgust to the d*ck joke. It did not make him stop, he laughed. There's another thing. In the past, when I reported inappropriate behavior, many of the men responded that I allegedly expressed interest in them first. I do not know whether they use that excuse to make the situ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:19 AM
1

I have not, and you're absolutely right. It's just my good ol' fear of being made into the overly sensitive one, you know the drill. These are conservative middle-aged white men, I'm in Western Europe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:01 AM
1

Hell no, it was p*nis jokes today. He's not directly hitting on me but he's being generally inappropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:57 AM
2

What’s wrong with blonde hair? Just make sure it’s bleached well, and only go for treatments that use Fiberplex or Olaplex. They make bleached blonde hair look natural, healthy and expensive (because they are lol).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:25 AM
5

Cargo shorts are on my list of unacceptable date items together with a backpack and a baseball hat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:23 AM
1

Telling me I “look great” and that he “enjoys spending time with me”. That’s not something I wish to hear from a man who should be on professional terms with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:21 AM
3

Today the maintenance guy is coming over to fix my kitchen. He's my landlord's contractor and fixes stuff around the house. He was giving me unsolicited compliments before, so I started doing what I'm usually doing in such cases - ignoring that and being slightly unfriendly in order not to encourage him further. He told my landlord I'm arrogant. I can't win here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:48 AM
33

Watch how quickly does a #niceguy make a complete 180 when you reject his advances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:27 AM
17

Whatever reasons you have for not wanting childen - it is fine. All the power to moms, and childfree women alike 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:40 AM
18

I have a master’s degree in cognitive neuroscience. The amount of men explaining the human brain to me without having any formal training in the subject, is astonishing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:38 AM
8

This. All of this. Both my (29F) cousins (35F and 30F) were desperate to have children, partly due to pressure from the family and the society we live in. The 35's husband is an artist who did not finish high school, spends the little he earns on himself and keeps her and the child isolated because he has social phobia. The 30's husband spends family visits playing games on his phone and in his free time, he's off sailing. He never really worked, because he inherited his dad's company that makes…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:07 PM
1

For privacy reasons, I won't be showing his face here, but he isn't. He's just your regular white dude, not ugly, not particularly handsome either. Definitely not something that would come close to justifying his big attitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:57 PM
3

Hahaha indeed. I have some conventionally attractive and decent male friends and they all say that getting a swipe back on Tinder, let alone a message really does not happen a lot. And if you literally put it out there that you're a scrote with a pregnant gf that you're cheating on...yeah, no. He'll be lucky if he gets 3 matches, two of which are probably bots.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 06:25 AM
6

So did I, but it turns out he’s just stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:56 AM
6

Same haha!!!😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:55 AM
8

And bullying people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 05:53 AM
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I rather don’t think so tbh. And if, then it’s a pickme who somehow falls for the cheating-is-my-wifes-fault narrative.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:33 PM
9

I’m nOt LiKe ThE oThEr GiRLs starter pack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:04 AM
16

Good! Take it as a compliment. You're not an object in a man's ownership to be "maintained" by him, so all he's saying is that he does not have what it takes to impress you. You're above him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 08:31 AM
1

Haha no, it isn’t wrong, in fact it’s a healthy choice. The point here is that pickmes love to use it to gain moral highground and put themselves above oThEr GiRls who enjoy a drink or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 06:29 AM
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Basically an open relationship but only when it's open on his end :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:51 AM
2

Yes, I sent it from an iPhone and it should be available across all platforms 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:09 AM
7

Try updating your system
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 06:08 AM
0

Date is taking me to a Michelin Star-awarded restaurant in my city Wednesday, any outfit tips?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:02 PM
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Thanks for your input everyone! One thing stands out though - what is it with these pickme’s all having an attitude deep down, hidden under layers of self pity and doormatting? My friend is ready to cut me off anytime I tell her something she doesn’t like, she even blocked me and unblocked me once, and will generally ask for my advice until I tell her some things she doesn’t wanna hear. Then she’s all like “I don’t wanna have this conversation” and “I’m hanging up” and shit. She even called me a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:47 AM
6

What’s next, he showers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:25 AM
9

I had this conversation with her on the values of this particular man. Apparently he’s nice and they have good conversations. She likes that he has a job. The bar has never been lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:22 AM
2

Right?? There’s even an imagined conversation in my mind between us; him: but...but...you swiped left? me: you literally asked me to? him: stuck up bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:06 PM
3

Hahahaha love this 😄❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 09:55 PM
1

This ^ ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 02:19 PM
3

On a side note, these are usually the only two pieces of furniture most men have in their apartments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:08 AM
3

"The bar is so low it's a tavern in Hades"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 11:14 AM
3

Right?? Because society tells us to be, no matter what we do. But reading through your comments that you ladies contributed here, makes me feel empowered and confident. Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:15 AM
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Hahaha, me!! 😄 I was a proud pickmeisha until about 27. Then I realized that I have a degree in neuroscience, speak 5 languages, have a job at the university, rent a beautiful city center penthouse apartment with a rooftop terrace, I published an article, worked at 5 research projects and starting my own project soon, just before entering PhD. Like, what the F am I doing here dating men who ride a scooter to work and buy microwave meals in the cheap supermarket rather than going out eating. Now …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:48 PM
2

Thanks for your input. With “why date a 30 when you can date a 22” I was just trying to think like a man. Not trying to age-shame women or anything, in fact I’m also 100% on the age meaning nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:27 PM
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I haven’t yet got to really know a man of over 40. After 7 years of unsuccessfully dating backpackers and other LVM, I’m only getting into this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:23 PM
5

Hahaha actually I’m finishing my Master’s as we speak 😄 (cognitive neuroscience)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:19 PM
5

You have a point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:18 PM
8

I haven’t yet met a mentally and emotionally mature man in his early 30s. In my area, it’s all boys with backpacks and scooters/on bikes who do 50/50. Then get scared of the first expression of any human emotional needs and love to throw around terms like high maintenance, psycho, you need to chill. I mean you get what I’m saying :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:17 PM
-10

Really? Because I’d think 30 and 45 relationship makes less of a mental difference than, say, a 20 and 35 one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:07 PM
-9

What is older though? I aim for late 30s-late 40s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 09:03 PM
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Okay but there’s probably a lot of relationships between HVM and 22-26 women. Just because no HVM hit on me back then doesn’t refute my original post. Thanks though :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:55 PM
7

I don’t even remember that 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:52 PM
2

Multiple resons; 1. It looks weird. Like a round bump on your back. It looks like it doesn't belong there. 2. Backpacks are for children. A man who wears one indicates that he isn't ready to let go of his childhood. 3. Backpacks are cheap. If a guy is carrying food in there, he indicates that he's too cheap to go for a lunch break to a restaurant. 4. No sense of style. Never in fashion except for a few brief moments have backpacks had any aesthetic value. If a guy thinks it's ok to hit the town …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:06 PM
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Hey all, my first comment ever. So, together with financial effort, I also look out for effort in terms of sense for style. Guys these days have a tendency to go everywhere with backpacks (a no-go for me, unless we're going hiking), and some of them even turn up to dates with one. Things end for me right there. But on a recent date, and I have no idea anyone would do this, the guy turned up wearing a baseball hat. Turned backward. He didn't even take it off inside. A grown a** man of 43 years ol…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 11:50 AM
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