I have many feminist friends (I consider myself a feminist as well) who will tell me that I’m “kink shaming” and “anti feminist” for expressing the idea that kinks are all rooted in harmful misogynistic principles.

I’ve been pretty adamant that I have no desire to ever try anal because I know I will not derive pleasure from it, and my friends respond with “so vanilla” or boring. I simply don’t want to do it because the pleasure is completely one-sided ; I’m a woman without a prostate, so what’s the point of anal for me? So my partner can humiliate me?

Choking, being tied up, slapping, biting, being rough, anal, restraints .... how is any of that empowering to women?

How do you have this conversations with the strong feminist ladies in your life?