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CULTURAL MISOGYNYcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 12:52 PM
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QUEEN SH*Tcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:12 PM
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RANTcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 01:15 AM
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cryptohobo/r/askFDS19/11/21 04:20 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:36 PM
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cryptohobo/r/askFDS04/01/22 07:32 PM
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cryptohobo/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:49 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:20 PM
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FDS HUMORcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 12:06 PM
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cryptohobo/r/askFDS16/11/21 12:54 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:30 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYcryptohobo/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:11 PM
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cryptohobo/r/askFDS16/11/21 07:48 PM
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Are we not allowed to make posts in the sub anymore or just allowed to comment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/22 03:01 AM
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Yea, I caught the way he was setting this up too in his favor, “she is very sensitive”…yet he’s the one asking Internet strangers for validation lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:03 PM
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This has to be some sort of mental illness. I wonder what sort of upbringing scrotes like these have, neglectful or vengeful mothers? I honestly don’t know but I’m curious what cultural factors influence this gynocentric obsession (besides porn of course). He derives his self-worth from sex with as many women as possible, it’s sad and pathetic. I would be ashamed if he was my son. In a way it’s also deeply ironic that scrotes do this as a way to gain an imaginary sense of power and control in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:59 PM
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This is interesting. What does it mean to have an inflamed ego? Is there any hope for people who have these sorts of issues to get their egos straightened out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 08:03 AM
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First thing to remember is that you don’t owe these guys anything, not even a reaction. Ironically what would attract them most is if you negged their quote lol. But if you feel like it’s getting to a point where the conversation is circling the drain like this and they still haven’t asked you out on a date: block and delete! If they’re not taking the initiative to ask you out on a date (which is the whole point of OLD) then you need to guard your boundaries and delete them because there’s nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:59 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 06:07 PM
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What’s with them using “spiritually”? Like that scrote in the other post who said he’s been spiritually married lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 05:50 PM
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Aside from the negging, any dude who writes that much upfront is a red flag to me, I’m not here for a pen pal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 10:20 AM
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I’m confused by your reaction lol. Sorry?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:59 AM
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Ooh that makes for a great vetting question, asking them what they think the point of marriage is lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:57 PM
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My inbox is always open for ladies here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:51 PM
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How did they propose sex for the second date? That’s bold and insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:49 PM
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Lmfao I want to make this my bio in my OLD profile!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:30 PM
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What was the point of going alone if he was going to have to get in touch with her for the pin? Lol exactly. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:21 PM
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Yea, she definitely missed some red flags prior to getting pregnant by him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 09:09 PM
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For me it would’ve been a swipe at “Cannabis - Frequently”. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:37 PM
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Reddit horror stories gave me an uncut dick phobia. If anyone knows how to vet for this please leave tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:34 PM
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OP I don’t like how you’re asking “how do I continue to show him I’m high value?”, it gives pickme vibes and anyone actually high value doesn’t ever focus on how to convey that to others. The actual power move here is to not show him you’re waiting for him to relocate. Go date other options. Keep yourself busy. How do you know this isn’t some game to string you along? You’re putting too much trust in someone after 7 dates, not to mention jumping the gun calling them a possible HVM already. You’r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:22 PM
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They’ll know once they ask their mommies first. No bigger turn off than an indecisive man, so I absolutely love when they disclose this. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:13 PM
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Not enough women know this because it’s something most of them can’t conceive doing themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 08:01 PM
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If a guy ever has the audacity to ask me what I bring to the table I’m getting off my chair and leaving. Seriously, whether it happens virtually or physically, I’m out. 💃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:59 PM
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Just to piggyback off this, if an animal isn’t an option then I highly recommend a plant! I have developed the most unexpected bond with a plant. Yes, a plant! My upkeep of her is a reflection of how I take care of myself. It’s the first time in my life (early 30s) where I’ve learned plants can be mirrors for us. If she’s dehydrated then so am I. I even noticed that when she needs a trim it also happens to coincide with when I’m due for a haircut. Can’t cuddle a plant lol but it’s special in its…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:48 PM
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I think you’d really benefit from learning about radical acceptance. Perhaps some body image therapy (there’s a leading researcher in this field, last name “Cash”). Spoiler alert: love will happen for you then even if you’re still single if you catch my drift. ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:38 PM
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I will be asking all potential suitors, (if it’s relevant to their circumstances), what they love about their mom so much, mostly for confirmation bias lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:33 PM
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Ironically this is what I realized after my brief time on OLD; that I’ll genuinely be happy if I’m single and never loved by a man! No one else is going to love us the way we can love ourselves. I’d rather learn this now and embrace the truth no matter how isolating it can feel at times, rather than waste my time and energy on a potentially life threatening pipe dream that I never stop chasing. I now see men as an accessory in my life and I treat them as such. I see it as such a blessing to know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:31 PM
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It sounds like you’re still framing being loved as something external rather than believing self-love is enough, but maybe that’s something you’re still working out in therapy idk. That said, it plays into harmful thinking to say that we’ll find someone shitty just because we believe most men are shitty…quite the contrary: if we think most of them are shitty we avoid ending up in shitty situations with them, that’s hardly a negative. Healthy love starts with loving ourselves first, anyone else t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/22 07:09 PM
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Because they literally want the most bang for their buck lol. But girlfriend, you’ve got me thinking whether I should mention coffee and walking in my profile, not related to outings but as things that I can’t do. Something along the lines of how I’m allergic to coffee and unable to walk much because of a recent knee injury that’s healing. LOL!! They still won’t get it, but it’ll make me laugh at them more than I already do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:42 AM
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I’m thinking of putting text on my photos. Maybe wear a shirt in one that says “no coffee, no walk dates” lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:26 AM
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It sounds like you’re upset because when you told your boyfriend this bothers you he invalidated your feelings by saying he doesn’t see the issue. Oh, so something is only an issue if he has the ability to see it too? Interesting double standard. What do you want to do? Are you okay being with a partner who is quick to dismiss your feelings instead of listening to you first? What if he told you he was bothered by something you did and all you said was that you didn’t see the issue?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 11:46 AM
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I did! I found it really helped!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:04 AM
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Unless he’s got an account on file that can be charged without him there don’t wait half an hour next time. If he was actually shy he would have showed up on time to prevent feeling more shy from being late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 08:01 AM
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OP it’s your call but if you have a moment PM her some supportive words and an invite to check us out. I do that whenever I can, definitely feels like I’m putting a bandaid on a fire hydrant that exploded though. Some reply and it makes me hopeful for our collective healing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:52 AM
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I hope my ex thinks of me as the one that got away one day. More so I hope I’ll be living my best life to not even care by then!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:38 AM
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If he ever ghosted a woman after sex then she was his sweet sweet karma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:12 AM
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The conditional wording is infuriating. First he uses “lets” to imply it’ll be fun for both of them. Then only after getting what he wants he dangles the relationship carrot, but it’s conveniently predicated on something that has an arbitrary meaning, wtf does “a real connection” even mean? Putting your dick inside a woman isn’t enough of a real connection???? These selfish scrotes get the flexibility of being misleading without any accountability. I really struggle to feel bad for women who rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 07:01 AM
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These are the coddled scroteflakes looking for their mommy. Imagine what they’d say if we asked them upfront how to trade crypto lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:32 AM
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Personally I would still go with “I’ll know when I find it” because for all you know he could just be saying he wants a girlfriend/marriage first because he thinks that’s what you’d like to hear. But as dumb as most of them are, they’ll never be stupid enough to admit “I want to fuck and chuck”. I’ve read this multiple times around here: no man is nicer to you than a man who wants to get in your pants. So for that reason never take what they say at face value. It doesn’t matter what they say any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 05:19 AM
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Article mentions she had a baby when she was 16 years old so her track record for making good decisions isn’t exactly the best. There’s clearly some deeply unresolved psychological issues here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:25 AM
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“Texts So Good He Can’t Ignore” by Bruce Bryans. I know, the title sounds very pickme, but surprisingly it is FDS-aligned barring a few parts that any lady who’s reviewed the handbook will easily able to distinguish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:10 AM
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Your comment is fire! 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:06 AM
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Yup, exactly. And then he actually takes your point one step further and says that when we start to wonder how a man feels about us it sparks an anxiety in us that makes us more likely to over invest in him. Here is the quote word for word as a sneak peek which I’ll share again when I write up the book review: “A man’s emotional indifference, if perpetually tolerated, has the potential to stimulate your anxiety, which will arouse your romantic desire and compel you to over invest in him.” Where …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 03:04 AM
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I’d love to, can I PM them to you? Not sure how to post them as a comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:53 AM
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“Texts So Good He Can’t Ignore” by Bruce Bryans. I know, the title sounds very pickme, but surprisingly it is FDS-aligned barring a few parts that any lady who’s reviewed the handbook will easily able to distinguish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 02:52 AM
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LMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOO I AM HOWLING!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:58 PM
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FYI ladies if you are dating a guy who looks up to Gary Vee please drop him immediately. There’s a comedian that did a hilarious bit on how full of shit Gary is, and once you hear it you will honestly think anyone who respects Gary was probably dropped on their head as a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 11:23 PM
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Ah I see, but omg your username!! 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:36 PM
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This was groundbreaking for reasons I’ll explain later, thank you. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:34 PM
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Yup, when they do that it’s so telling that they rely on the woman for all the emotional labour. They shoot themselves in the foot not learning this because then they’re clueless with how to pursue. That’s why it’s so important to match their energy as it helps you quickly see whether or not this is just another scrote wasting your time. They think we’re going to throw icebreaker questions and write them diary entries. What, so maybe we could be asked out for a walk or coffee? LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 10:29 PM
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Recently listened to an audiobook (I should do a review) and some key points from the (male) author: -A man is more likely to value something he’s worked for. -The fastest way to impede or kill a man’s emotional attraction to you is to chase him for attention. Allow him to initiate (especially at the beginning). Also let’s not forget that if we pursue a man then we’ll constantly be wondering if he’s really into us, and any self-respecting woman will not allow herself to stress about that, but mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:28 PM
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Wouldn’t surprise me if this DJ got previously cheated on and this is her cope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:14 PM
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Spoiler alert: they’re not actually happy! They are only happy that men are giving them attention, that’s why they accept poor treatment from them. If your friends were actually happy they would have standards and not tolerate any bullshit. Happy people have self-respect. I feel like you’re not seeing that you’re in a far better position than them; you’re actually happier than them even if the tinge of loneliness you’re currently feeling is clouding that. I would try to reflect more on why you f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 09:11 PM
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How do you know if they have unresolved inter generational trauma or if they’re just a POS? I know I sound facetious here but it’s a genuine question. From what I can see most men ignore their mental health or dismiss having unresolved issues that they probably don’t even know what inter generational trauma means. Oh and in my experience; he’d think the term IG trauma is some made up psycho babble, reassure you he’s fine, then proceed to ignore you for a few days because he has an avoidant attac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/22 08:40 PM
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NEVER GO TO HIS HOUSE ON THE FIRST DATE. BLOCK HIM FOR EVEN SUGGESTING THAT AS AN OPTION. YES I AM YELLING FOR GOOD REASON.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:50 PM
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Sis why even bother with him if anything shows up at all?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 09:01 PM
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I knew a girl in college who would bring guys back from a night out and have them go down on her and kick them out after. She was ahead of her time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 08:55 PM
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In the OLD platform I’m using it shows the row of men I matched with (they liked me first) but who still haven’t messaged me. I have to delete them after a couple days because it’s embarrassing to match with a man who acts like a princess. Seriously, I don’t even find them attractive once I’ve reached that point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 07:13 PM
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Yup. I have a collection of screenshotted comments scrotes have written that confirm why FDS is the way. Hell, all it takes is going on the red pll sub to see why such a movement would fail to exist if all women followed FDS. In fact they even admit it lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:53 PM
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Amen sister. I was just thinking how each post I see like that, despite being written by different women, really has the same formula to it. I even play a game where I guess if I’ll eventually see the post shared here, so far I’ve never been wrong. The patriarchy has subdued women into a mass psychosis. It’s depressing and infuriating that breaking up with scrotes seems to be a universal blind spot most women suffer from. Sometimes I message those women to give this sub a peek. It feels like the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:42 PM
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If only I had read this comment half my life ago. Reality really hit me hard when I realized my “sacrifices” for him were actually just ways to rationalize his abuse. In the end my “reward” for putting up with what he put me through was the harsh truth that the pain he inflicted was only intended to hurt me, nothing more. I would love to let go of the resentment I harbour toward him, because being left bitter doubly squanders my inner peace, meanwhile he gets to move on without consideration or …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/22 06:28 PM
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Hahahaha you have no idea how much you live rent free in my head! 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:22 PM
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Yea, I shudder to think that woman could’ve been me if I was never FDS initiated. These men on OLD need to realize that if they’re going to hit like on every single woman without bothering to check the location listed on her profile then they’re going to have to step up their game if she doesn’t live within a reasonable distance. But since most are porn sick scroties controlled by their lizard brains they’d rather cast a wide net by liking every profile, not realizing they’d actually increase th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 09:20 PM
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Back in high school a guy called himself a fuel engineer. He worked at the gas station lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 08:39 PM
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This is why I won’t even meet half way to go on a date, though I’d consider making an exception if thoughtful effort was put into planning. One clown proposed we travel 1.5 hours (each way) to meet, so I asked what he had in mind for our date. Two days later he replies with grabbing a coffee. “And if it goes well, we could go on a walk or go see a movie.” I don’t know what’s funnier; the fact that he thinks any woman in her right mind would accept this or that he thinks he stands a chance! 😂 I’v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 10:24 PM
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Don’t be hopeful. No expectations = no disappointment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:31 PM
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I hope every woman who feels lonely in her relationship finds the courage to walk away. One of the biggest fallacies I ever fell for in life was thinking that I’m lonely. When you have healthy relationships with yourself and others you eradicate loneliness.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 06:59 PM
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Ok but in his defence he bought her an air mattress! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 06:32 PM
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I don’t know if we’re allowed to post links here so expect a PM from me later today :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:31 PM
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Holy hell what is the point of his post??! Bet you he’s the same guy who complains women post emo crap for attention. Uncertain if he lacks a hairline but certainly no self-awareness here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 08:30 PM
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Lmao girlfriend see my post history I literally had the same thing happen but no awesome dad for this great advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:49 AM
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I low key want to do this on dates to terrify them lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 01:43 AM
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You’re right, this is true. I’m trying to find questions to ask my dates that can clue me into the type of person they are without them realizing what I’m doing lol. Their actions will certainly reveal everything, however I do wonder if there’s any good intel to collect even by asking something innocuous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 12:00 AM
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We avoid this by never telling them, but do we ever ask them first? If so, how?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 09:31 PM
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It only takes like 20 minutes tops to walk the stairs up the CN tower. What a flex LMFAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:58 PM
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A lady in a radfem sub recently commented that she’s come to the conclusion that all men are gay. She went into detail explaining her theory and I think she’s onto something lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:57 PM
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Oh no he felt disrespected! Thoughts and prayers rofl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:47 PM
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On OLD I can’t tell you how many profile pictures I’ve seen of guys who are holding up wads of cash or have it fanned out. Imagine if women posed like this in their pics too 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:41 PM
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Yea maybe if they have more of these spaces they’ll stop infiltrating our women only spaces!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:36 PM
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See I would have blocked and deleted after “how r u” because to me he’s really showing how low effort he is if he can’t be bothered to write out the two extra letters to correctly spell “you”. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:34 PM
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I can tell you for a FACT that this is unequivocally absolute BULLSHIT! I was reading a red pill site recently and the author outright acknowledges that red pill can only exist if women are offering up sex like it’s nothing. If someone wants me to find it and link it I will as proof. But this shouldn’t be surprising that they’ll take advantage of women who give up the cookie because they are LVM and it’d otherwise be too much work for them to properly court a woman. The fact that a red pill site…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:27 PM
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I really struggle with this because I am a very generous person at my core. I am the type to give gifts to my friends if I see something that reminds me of them, I pride myself on being an excellent gift giver. To me it’s not about the actual item but the satisfaction I get out of seeing them light up. I don’t know if the love language crap is real or not, but gift giving would definitely be mine. I have no issue with accepting gifts, but there have been a couple times where I had to hold myself…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 08:18 PM
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Report her to childrens aid, wtf!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:47 PM
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In the dating platform I’m using you can list your job so I put down I’m a business owner (because I am and this isn’t LinkedIn). Ladies, you should see how many messages I get from scrotes who ask me something about my business without even saying hello first. The fucking double standard and audacity! Imagine if we messaged guys upfront asking what they did for work without even saying hi. It’s so disgusting to me. And these are the majority of messages I get. Yes, I block and ignore. On the fl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:45 PM
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This is honestly why I think Disney princess movies should have disclaimers on them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 07:28 PM
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Gee, I wonder why? 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 07:02 PM
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Wow! Do you have a source for that IQ part? That’s fascinating!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:53 PM
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I was very touched by this and wanted to spread the inspo. No means yes and yes means giving yourself the permission to prioritize your time and energy in ways that lead you to create a meaningful life. This is very difficult to do when a string of setbacks and challenges can make you start to question the meaning behind all the self-imposed struggle, in addition to all the social scrutiny for not caving into society’s expectations for how women should live their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:18 PM
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Yes, this is outlined in the handbook as the blood in the water tactic and it is incredibly useful in seeing how they’ll test your boundaries or the depths they’ll go to invalidate you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 06:07 PM
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LOL! And THIS is EXACTLY why I ghosted the scrote after realizing he lied about his height after the second date. Look what fate I avoided! Hahahaha! (You can read my post about it too). ALWAYS have a measuring tape with you ladies! 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 07:24 PM
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For my birthday this year I decided I want a piñata that looks like Elon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 07:11 PM
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I think there’s a misconception that being assertive means being confrontational. I learned to employ a very low key assertive tactic by asking questions instead. It’s a calm approach but it also shows you don’t let shit slide. So in the case of your “friend” who made that snide MC remark, I’d have asked her what she means by him not adding value. Upon her explanation I would have asked her if she thinks that also applies to you, and then just relished in her backpedaling lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 07:10 PM
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I’ve been reading about this lately actually, and it turns out it’s a deliberate shit test all men do so they know where to rank us in terms of how easy it is to get sex from us or if we’re girlfriend/wifey material. There are a bunch of shit tests they put us through and this is one of the main ones. I call it the Madonna whore test. You either block and delete or you assert boundaries that you only reserve that kind of stuff for your boyfriend/husband. If his interest dwindles then you know he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:56 PM
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Yes, it’s very important we don’t have crushes, I believe the handbook touches on this, because it makes us more emotionally vulnerable. If he’s not courting me he’s just another fruit fly to swat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:43 PM
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Just live your life, fortunately I don’t think this is a you problem!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 06:41 PM
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Yes, Iris Apfel vibes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 11:47 AM
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There’s a reason why I bring a measuring tape on dates now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 02:22 AM
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What do you like to mention/talk about on your video calls?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:25 PM
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All great points. Additionally, if you feel ready to have sex with him then you are well within your rights to ask he provide you with recent STD test results and offer to do the same. If he plays that down or thinks it’s over the top then block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:24 PM
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What do we say if they ask us before we ask them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:18 PM
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Keep in mind they often lie about height! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:06 PM
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If he gets dressed up a little more for a rundown dive bar then I don’t even want to know how he looks dressed down lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 09:01 PM
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Have you let dates know ahead of time of your dietary restrictions just to see if they’re paying attention and factor that in when choosing a venue? I do, and one date had suggested a place and I checked the menu and it didn’t cater to my diet so I played aloof and asked him if it caters to my diet, although a part of me was tempted to just go there (on a full stomach) and make him feel bad that I can’t have anything lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:58 PM
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Ladies I propose we have some sort of Zoom Galentine’s meetup or something! Would be super cute to spend it communally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:51 PM
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I’m so sorry, wish I could give you a hug. You didn’t fail, your husband did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 09:54 PM
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I got banned from two subs this week and got an auto message from the mods it’s because I’m a member of a “hate group” like FDS lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/22 01:14 AM
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The fact that she’s even painting sex work as some form of martyrdom just proves how deep her denial is. Also, imagine believing anything a man who pays you for sex tells you about his life lol. Their fake sob stories are just another form of manipulation so they can get an extra 15 minutes or “priority booking” in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 04:00 PM
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NEVER HELP A MAN! They will resent you for it. Tell him your rate and if he has a problem with it and “discards you” then he actually did you a favour. You’re making a sweeping assumption that his help will be some huge missed opportunity when it’s not guaranteed you’ll benefit from it to begin with.
/r/askFDS28/01/22 03:18 PM
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Initially when we match he’s texting on the app. I always tell them I don’t give out my number when they ask for it (it’s an easy way to test if he respects boundaries).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:04 PM
22

I just want to sort this out for OLD…once I match and he texts me (I never initiate), do I tell him upfront I don’t text through the platform and to call me instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:55 PM
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Lmao petty me would’ve replied with “there is no next year” and then blocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 03:16 AM
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Toxic to men? Not all men! ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:29 AM
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I think what makes this line of thinking especially dangerous is that a sense of achievement in getting married will also be proportional to the sense of failure if one’s marriage doesn’t work out. No wonder so many people stay in miserable marriages just to save face. This is why it’s so important as women that we stay in control of our emotions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 02:19 AM
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Don’t take any of them back, ever! This also applies to HVM exes too: just because he’s an HVM doesn’t mean he’s your HVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/22 01:42 AM
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Perfect timing! These delusional scrote flakes have the most boring profiles, “just ask!”. Alright, here’s one: why don’t you wipe the crud off your mirror before taking a selfie in it? You never have to look hard, they tell on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 10:36 PM
3

Exactly! Every single one of them walks around thinking they’re probably the exception to the rules or something. Ha, not ours! 👯‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:15 PM
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No, you have a separate profile for the dating platform. There is a button in the chat that gives you the option to share your profile with them or to link you to Messenger (and they’d be able to see your profile that way too). I have everything on highest privacy settings so they can’t see shit if they go to my profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:17 AM
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Facebook Dating! LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 10:12 PM
4

OP, what were the questions you asked about the future? What questions did you ask prior to deciding to be exclusive with him? I’ve been asking men questions about the future before even being exclusive, figured that saves me more time. Is that wrong?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:48 PM
3

Wait, he broke up with you the day after asking you to be exclusive?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:43 PM
24

I’ve found myself in a very strange conflict with one of my dearest friends recently. She texted asking if I could drive her 6 hours away and offered me gas money and I said no because I knew I wouldn’t have that kind of time. She left me on read for a week so when I checked in on her to ask if everything is okay, she deleted her reply (all I saw was “sender removed message”) followed with a thumbs up. I’ve never known her to act entitled and we’ve been very giving to each other. It feels so unf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:10 PM
3

I’ve found myself in a very strange conflict with one of my dearest friends recently. She asked if I could drive her 6 hours away and offered me gas money and I said no because I knew I wouldn’t have that kind of time. She left me on read for a week so when I checked in on her to ask if everything is okay, she deleted her reply (all I saw was “sender removed message”) followed with a thumbs up. I’ve never known her to act entitled and we’ve been very giving to each other. It feels so unfair that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 07:10 PM
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The dumbbells are used as door stoppers right? It’s a sea of dad bods out there. ETA: to the scrote that replied I’m attracting those types because I have a post-30s whale bod…LOL! I dare you to PM me to exchange pics to see who has more of a 6 pack. I’ll hold a paper with the date and my username in the pic for proof. Until then, keep fantasizing about my 120lb whale bod. 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:57 PM
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LOL! I just found a feature in the OLD platform I use where you can see all your deleted messages, whether they’re deleted by you or the scrote. I open this one convo where I told a clown I don’t do coffee dates after he asked me out for one. Well I didn’t see this but it turns out he wrote out a paragraph mansplaining how he’s not going to waste $100 on a dinner just to find out there’s no connection, then proceeds to wish me luck with a thumbs up. LOL! He wrote alllll that only to delete it. S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 06:55 PM
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I like how he says he can’t cheat because he’s married with a kid. Buddy, that isn’t why and you know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 12:56 AM
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Oh okay, yea I can see how it would be unhealthy in that it opens the doors for more manipulation and starts to hardwire a dangerous connection between conflict and intimacy. Am I close? I just got Lundy’s book this week and am eager to finally read her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 06:49 PM
4

Sorry hun, what do you mean?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:31 PM
17

Don’t pay, PM me instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:05 PM
12

One former suitor lost any chance with me after he told me he went over to a lady’s house to hook up with her but found it really hard to be turned on because she told him an unpleasant story and he couldn’t look at her the same way. And yet, there he was telling me that lmao, so meta. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:53 AM
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Why the hell is she with him?! JUST WHY???!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:20 AM
3

Yes, it was actually my male psychotherapist that introduced me to FDS! 😊 I hope to write a post about it one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:18 AM
4

It’s all the drinking and drunk texting for me. Not a man with self-control. Next! 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 09:05 AM
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If you two get into a fight and he says that there needs to be consequences for your actions, aka you need to be punished. If he gets an erection from seeing you upset or physically hurt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 08:27 AM
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I feel this wave of resentment rear its ugly head from time to time, so I felt your post in my soul. How have you been working through letting go of the resentment? I find exercise is a great release, but alas I can’t do that all the time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:57 AM
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It’s so true. I saw a comment recently about a guy complaining that his negging is actually working against him rather than helping him. He was genuinely clueless as to why lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 04:13 PM
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Yes I agree and see your point, especially how it’s important to see how he responds to the question (not just answering it). Do you have any tips for how this should be asked btw? I recently read somewhere that asking too many questions can also come off as intimidating/parole officer-y, so now I just feel all jumbled up and want to make sure that at the very least (one of) the most important questions is worded/asked properly lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 08:11 PM
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It wasn’t until I joined OLD and saw so many men’s bios mention the most basic minimum shit ever (I own a car! I live on my own! I have a job! I shower!) that I realized how much I was downplaying my accomplishments that are far beyond that. I promised myself then that I’d drop the humble act and get used to exuding my awesomeness. There is no reason for women to stay humble when the bar is this low for men anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 07:48 PM
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Does this mean there’s no point in us having to ask why he’s dating/what he’s looking for, as he’ll make that clear himself (either by saying it or actions)?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 05:45 PM
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Oh hell no, the last part of your comment has me concerned. This asshole is unhinged, I didn’t realize it’s this excessive, and even using mutual contacts as intermediary pawns to check in on you, who knows what he’s even saying to them behind your back or what story he’ll concoct to antagonize you. If I were in your shoes I would email him making it very clear that if he tries to contact you directly or via anyone else that you are going to the police with this. I would BCC a best friend you tr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 02:31 PM
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This is reminiscent of my recent experience where I caught a guy lying about his height (feel free to go to my profile and read the post I wrote on it). Looking back I can see he wasted no time trying to craft a bond, presumably so that once the inevitable truth came out I’d be more likely to forgive him due to the emotional investment I put in. (Joke is on him hahaha). These are LVMs for you: they know they can’t have you without some form of manipulation and they absolutely love nothing more t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:07 PM
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Well I had an absolute blast going down the Deborrah Cooper rabbit hole the other night lol, thank you! I totally overlooked the part where you mentioned meeting him at a singles event; yea that does complicate things however now it clicks why you thought to post for advice here. What did you think of his email? Was there info there that you wouldn’t be able to find on your own as easily? Tbh my bullshit radar is still going off because he might be lying about having COVID just to buy time while…
/r/askFDS21/01/22 03:16 AM
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Wow a big eff you to your father. I would’ve told him “it’s a miracle I even turned out pretty given the shitty genetics I got from you”. I swear, some parents are so evil to their kids they act like their life depends on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 04:59 PM
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Can you give examples of how you do that? I want to do this too. I usually just ignore because it blindsides me so much that I’m literally speechless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 10:43 AM
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Also guilty of not reading past 15 years younger lol. Since you have no intention to date him and merely use him as a business contact I think you’d get more relevant advice by posting this in r/Diabla as this sub is more for dating. Can I just point something out that annoys me and has my bullshit radar going off? You can take it for what it’s worth, but it really annoyed me when I read all the various ways he’s making contact with you without it going anywhere. He sounds a bit inept for jumpin…
/r/askFDS20/01/22 12:02 AM
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I’ve been thinking about this ever since you mentioned it. What do you think a female only Internet would consist of and look like. Obviously there would be nothing related to the sex industry, but I do wonder what else there’d be (or not be)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:14 PM
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I don’t have time for games or liars!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 11:09 PM
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If they weren’t so pressed about it they wouldn’t have said anything in the first place lmao. Block and delete!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 07:21 AM
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Yup, I’ll admit, it seemed kind of cold to do and not in my nature, but keeping these things in mind really helped to go through with the block and delete and own it: 1) he knew he was lying. He thought this could just be a nice widdle conversation he could slither his way out of later if I accepted it 2) He is probably not honest about other things and I don’t have the time to go on an Easter egg hunt for other lies 3) Me accepting him would come down to me rationalizing his stupid reasons for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:35 AM
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Be like me and start bringing a measuring tape to first dates. I went through the same thing as OP and it inspired me to up the ante with how ruthless I need to be with vetting, even if it seems impolite or weird. Also, if you go to a shop together they have markers by the door that show height measurements so the camera can detect how tall a thief is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:17 AM
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I literally was just in the same situation as you. Go to my profile and read my post as I wrote about it too. I blocked and deleted and that’s what you should do too. I also have added a picture of me with a measuring tape in my profile and will bring it to first dates now. I also upped my screening, so that if there is a lie detected I just block and delete because I know it was deliberate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 04:12 AM
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Wow, how embarrassing! Those are some serious unresolved body image issues! I’m really set on not wasting my time, I’m even posing with a measuring tape in one of my pictures to scare them off lmao. I also ask them if all info in their profile is accurate, so that if there is a discrepancy I know it’s deliberate. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:35 AM
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Makes me wonder how much more stupid the doctor is for writing such a script for a guy lol. Oh to be a fly on the wall for that conversation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:21 AM
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Lol, unlikely given that this is the same scrote who invited me out to the movies only after he received a free voucher when he was denied entry going earlier by himself (during the day, when tickets are cheaper lmao). Irredeemably pathetic lmao. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:17 AM
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One dumb cheap scrote tried to lure me over for a sleepover, he kept pushing it so hard like it was the greatest thing ever and sent me a picture of a (dollar store) face mask to entice me with lmao. I ghosted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:01 AM
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Ok no joke I just saw a post yesterday where an early 20s guy asked if it’s weird that he keeps tampons and birth control pills at his house for ladies to use if they need it. He explained he’s able to get a prescription in his country without being a woman and that he gets a new pack if it’s close to expiry. 99% of people agreed this is fine but said to stop stocking bc pills for variously valid reasons. It seems like he meant well with the pills but missed the mark there. That’s all to say tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:37 AM
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I can’t help but think that if the tables were turned he would’ve kept grilling you for why you lied about your age. And that’s hilarious. He’s so NVM he even sucks at lying. Not that being good at it would move him up the rank. The bar is so low men are just beating themselves with it now! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 12:02 AM
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Me thinks it’s because he knows they’ll be able to see through all his lies. There’s never just one lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:53 PM
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OP let me guess, this lying scrote definitely doesn’t look younger than his age? Lol. I would’ve told him lying accelerates aging! Btw, did he ever mention he’d eventually confess? Or did he really think this was a lie he could take to the grave? This is why we need to be ruthless and never depend on a man, because these scrotes rely on us to become too invested and negotiate their lies as part of us accepting them (which they will inevitably use against you later). I recently ghosted a scrote a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 11:50 PM
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Thank you! Do you know if anything comparable exists in North America, or other continents? This got me thinking how out of all places, Africa, which gets egregiously stereotyped to be some massive third world wasteland, has such a progressive and thriving community that puts pickme women defending 50/50 in “advanced societies” to shame. It just proves that when women organize we are unstoppable regardless of any geopolitical/socioeconomic circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 10:50 PM
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Wow I never heard of Umoja and had to look it up! I read the wiki but have so many follow up questions. Are there any notable studies done on it? Wouldn’t surprise me if the women there have a higher average lifespan than the national average. I also genuinely wonder how they are able to keep their area safe without men trespassing. I would absolutely love to visit one day but until then is there a way to show them support? I’d love to buy art or jewelry made by these women!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:29 PM
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They would cry over how unfair that is to them and as usual would try to infiltrate another women-only space. Same scrotes who defend having male public masturbation booths like it’s a civil right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:03 PM
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Oh yea not to worry, he was blocked and deleted, no explanation! 🏌️‍♀️
/r/askFDS12/01/22 08:09 AM
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Hey I’m sending you a PM to not derail this thread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:26 AM
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LMFAO!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:19 AM
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I can picture it now: after he says yes I whip out a packet of paper telling him to sign this legally binding contract lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:15 AM
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The best part is he was a classmate, we weren’t even dating lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:13 AM
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I am with you on dating new post break up. I just want to point out (and I believe this is in the handbook too), to never admit you had any past problems with men. Most men are depraved, so when you tell them you had a previous problem that you want to avoid they just see it as a double dare. So yea, if you bring up your exes they were wonderful people who treated you very well! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:59 AM
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This reminds me of a guy I was once chatting with on OLD. I told him I was heading out to work out and an hour later I had 20 messages from him, one of which was “you better not be talking to other guys”. 😂🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:48 AM
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Well he’s made all these grandiose claims that he’ll one day be financially secure, be the main provider, blah blah blah, but on your end you need to give yourself a deadline with how long you’re willing to wait for this to happen. And you must STICK to that deadline and walk away if it doesn’t happen. This is the only reasonable thing to do here if you’re willing to stay and wait. Personally I’d find this too stifling but maybe I’m older than you and don’t have time to wait. I also heed the adv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:44 AM
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He can get it to zero if you don’t like it lol. The question is: why doesn’t he not like it? If it doesn’t start with him then it’ll end with him bitching about all the sacrifices he made to be with you lol. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:35 AM
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If they suggest going raw that’s a perfect time to ask if they’re able to financially support a baby LOL. I’m being facetious of course, but any reaction besides “yes” is a big hint that he shouldn’t pass go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:31 AM
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Hey if other ladies can’t trust their intuition then I have no problem sharing mine. I often find that I can sort out everybody else’s issues other than my own, so I’m happy to help lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:25 AM
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I like how it circles back to making it about my safety (because it is), so yea, if he respects that then it’ll be a non issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:19 AM
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Yes and then it doesn’t help that there will always be pickme women who will accommodate these types of men, thereby perpetuating the negative feedback loop. I know it comes down to men changing their behaviour, but I do fantasize about a day where suddenly zero women take any shit from a man. We would see mass scrote hysteria lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:17 AM
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Yea, that seems like a good idea. I just wonder if he doesn’t actually watch porn if he’ll think I’m the one lying after asking him, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:01 AM
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One time a scrote told me he thought it would be hot if he peed on me. I said sure so long as I pee on him too! I kid you not he got all confused and asked me why on earth I’d ever want to do that. They really forget we’re human 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:45 AM
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Does anyone have any tips on how to rule this out before too much time has been invested in dating a guy? Obviously I’d prefer not to waste my time but directly asking if they watch porn seems like something they can just easily lie about too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:40 AM
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She should tell him she’s down so long as he and a buddy of his fulfill her double penetration fantasy. $100 he’ll scrunch his nose, say that’s gross and break up with her because he can’t look at her the same way anymore LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:37 AM
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That’s great, I’m so happy for you because you saved yourself so much headache and humiliation. I joined FDS way before starting OLD and I one hundred percent concur that it’s made the whole process that much easier. Scary to think that somewhere in a parallel universe these are people and problems we would have taken on, and instead we have the great advice of women here along with the handy block and delete features lol. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:33 AM
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Haha, I stop and wonder what if I said the same thing. He’d probably want nothing to do with me if the tables were reversed LOL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:30 AM
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And you just know he’s the type that talks loud when in public too. I’d be mortified!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:29 AM
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He admitted to living in his car by choice because he didn’t want to work? I think I got a concussion reading this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 01:27 AM
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Yes, that’s exactly what I ended up doing! The idea that not everything needs to be a conversation with someone is extremely liberating and quite the adjustment from how I (and most women likely) were raised lol. I like how this feels!
/r/askFDS12/01/22 01:20 AM
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Listen, I know FDS doesn’t condone casual sex, but if any lady deviates from the rules, this is the best way to do it LMAO!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 06:14 AM
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Ladies this is just a reminder to not get intimate with a man before he shows you a recent clean bill of health. If you think that’s over the top I’ll have you know this was advice passed down by my male psychotherapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:16 AM
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I saw this too. I think later in the comments she said she’s going to sit down and have a talk with him. That’s nice, maybe she can change his diaper too while she’s at it. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 12:12 AM
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He’s uncomfortable with the idea that he may die only having had sex with one woman. LMAO. Scrotes like these make me wonder if they were breastfed until the age of 13.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 01:43 PM
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YES! “I don’t need this” is the mantra every woman should be repeatedly saying to herself in 2022! 💃🏼💃🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 11:19 PM
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Amen! What I’ve noticed is that the discrepancy is never subtle, like an inch (not that this makes it any better).
/r/askFDS05/01/22 10:56 PM
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Thanks for clarifying, hard to imagine what they’ll come up with when we don’t do shit like that ourselves. I actually waited for your reply first before I did anything.🏌️‍♀️
/r/askFDS05/01/22 10:52 PM
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You’re absolutely right, I’ve made the decision that he’s out, more have been getting screened through the pipeline already to replace him (I don’t know about others but personally I find there’s a finite number of guys I can handle dating at a time). One part I don’t quite get; how will me telling him I’m disappointed he lied about his height help him lie better to future women? Since it’s a primary characteristic he can’t change I wonder how else he could lie about it? If anything I was thinki…
/r/askFDS04/01/22 11:25 PM
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Thank you so much for taking the time to break this down, you’re completely right, my consent was disregarded as it’s tacit that the conditions to securing a date with me depend on his profile being truthful. Even when I met him for the first time I even said to myself, “oh I must have forgot to check his height” lol. At the time it never occurred to me that he lied because it’s not a detail I’d lie about. I’ve been thinking your angle over and I wonder if going out on those subsequent dates wit…
/r/askFDS04/01/22 11:13 PM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/askFDS04/01/22 10:06 PM
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YESSSSS OMG just want to reach out and high five you right now!!! I SWEAR TO GOD I was going to make a food-related post in regards to vetting! I recently cut off a dude after he pretty much started getting an erection while describing his favourite fast food item that I never heard of, realizing he eats cheap crappy food quite often. And sure enough, that lousy taste translated to lousy intimacy, so it was a no for me. I was actually so embarrassed for him that I ended up ghosting him. These ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 10:03 PM
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I’m sorry, I want to answer you but I don’t understand your question.
/r/askFDS04/01/22 09:46 PM
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Thanks so much for weighing in. This might sound ridiculous but you actually made me realize that when I confront someone or bring up an issue it doesn’t always have to be framed as a question or structured as a back-and-forth conversation; simply pointing it out and saying how it makes me feel is enough. It’s almost like I had a blind spot to this even being a possibility, if that makes sense. I’m going to get used to using this as an approach now, thank you!
/r/askFDS04/01/22 09:30 PM
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Thank you and you’re right. Do you think I should ask him directly “why did you lie about your height in your profile?”. Does it matter if it’s done in person or over text? I’ll be honest with you (and none of this I’d tell him), but if he had have listed his real height in his profile I would’ve not liked him back as I do prefer taller men. I remember when we first met I did think he was kinda short but didn’t think much past that as we had a great date.
/r/askFDS04/01/22 08:15 PM
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One of my goals for this year is to listen to all the episodes. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 08:07 PM
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Because deep down they know they are losers who will fail even if they try, so they play up a victim mentality as a cope even over issues that don’t affect/involve them. I bet it also helps them subconsciously believe it’s a good thing they’re broke…otherwise look what would happen! It’s the closest they’ll feel to a winner without winning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 05:34 AM
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He gave me a $5 bill to hold onto then later asked for it back after I had paid for his coffee and bus fare. Instead of giving it back I wish I had taken the money out, mentioned the price of each expense, said “I think we’re even”, smiled and slipped it back in my pocket. This was a while ago, we weren’t even dating nor hooking up. I think of this story anytime I sense I’m holding back when someone is attempting to walk over me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 01:15 AM
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Good point! Scrotes who hide their double chins behind a beard are the same ones who will go on to say women with double chins are unattractive lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:26 AM
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It’s true! You can definitely tell when a beard is properly taken care of versus if it’s lucky to get cheap 14-in-1 shampoo run off through it twice a week. I’ve noticed that the bigger the difference between head and facial hair texture, the more unlikely it is that they take care of their beards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 03:11 AM
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Personally I view beards with a lot of skepticism: a lot of men grow them to hide their weak jawlines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 02:26 AM
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Wow, that’s ridiculous but I like your reply to them lol. See if they told me they’re moving to my area soon I’d still see it as a red flag even if it were true because to me it screams poor prioritization skills.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:07 AM
3

Yup. I have a snarky comment in my profile that says men shouldn’t be online dating if they don’t know how to use Google maps first. I hit X on probably 99% of men because of this and I’m annoyed that there isn’t anything I can do with my settings because it’s a huge waste of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 03:04 AM
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I’d be curious to know what your sister’s relationship dynamic was like with your dad/male father figure growing up because that might explain why she acts like that with men now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 01:35 AM
1

I really hope she’s in a better place today, sounds like she went through serious issues growing up to knowingly chase taken men and be in denial of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 01:26 AM
1

I’m honestly so confused because I got a message yesterday saying my post was removed, so I thought okay well that’s too bad but what are you going to do. I got a lot of flack on that post for replying to the scrote (as I anticipated, but I thought it would be disingenuous if I had posted with my reply cropped out). Anyway I figured that means the post can’t be seen/commented on anymore, but it’s still getting comments today. When I posted this one today I thought it wouldn’t ruffle any feathers…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 01:21 AM
2

Okay, I see what you mean and why you’d think that! I probably should have specified somewhere that I did not message him first, I had cropped the screenshot because right above was his Messenger link with his info and prior to that was some dialogue that he initiated (I can PM it to you as proof). I NEVER have and never will message a man first, FDS scouts honour! It never occurred to me that it looked like I was the one who sent the very first message! (Forgot to add that I can also send you w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:47 AM
1

Well it’s good you’re a mod as I’ve been meaning to tell one that there are posts and links in the handbook that are deleted or broken and should be looked into so everything can be accessed. It’ll show the title but the content is gone for some reason. Tbh posting this and writing all the comments took more time than it did talking to the scrote, so to say I’m investing too much time in LV men is just another stretch. I can’t tell the intent with that but I’m open to criticism so long as the fa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:38 AM
2

Precisely! It’s like dividing by zero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:14 AM
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I guess you haven’t seen all my posts then. “Constant” is a bit of a stretch, it’s only my second one like this. The sub has various flairs for different flavours of content, just because it doesn’t appeal to your preferences doesn’t mean it doesn’t have a place here. If I’m not mistaken you can look through posts by specific flairs if you don’t like these ones. Also if I cared about fake internet points I wouldn’t have left all my downvoted comments from the other post lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 12:12 AM
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Because it fits with the rules and spirit of this sub, the corresponding flair, as well is an informative and entertaining example to those with less experience who are more prone to getting tricked by scrotes like these. Personally when I see a post that I don’t really connect with or see the point of I just keep scrolling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:33 PM
10

In today’s issue of The Daily Scrote, I looked up his profile after he sent me a Messenger invite (seemed redundant when we’re already chatting on the dating app). Lo and behold his profile says he’s in a relationship as of last week. So I play dumb fox and ask if he’s single (on Tuesday) and he gave that explanation today (Thursday) lol. Wouldn’t a single guy be thrilled if he was constantly bugged by women? Or you know, he could just block/ignore them instead of lying about his relationship st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:21 PM
57

I love that “opinion” has a typo lmao. It’s the perfect touch!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:17 PM
8

Not to go completely off tangent but one guy I’m dating is on the chopping block after he brought up he eats McDonald’s. I just need to confirm how frequently he eats from there and what meals he cooks at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:09 PM
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Yep, even with my online dating I only review the guys that liked me first. Also when I match with them I don’t initiate the conversation, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:57 PM
15

I say this with nothing but love; anything “on and off” is off. 🏌️‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 08:42 PM
6

This is exactly what I was going to comment. Next time you open your dating app say “I’m booked and busy!” as a reminder to prioritize your dating time for only the most promising suitors putting in the most effort. Apart from that the other FDS tip is to never agree to a date a couple days out; it should be more like 4 or 5 days. I once made a guy wait 2 weeks and he checked in regularly until then…but he fudged up the day of the date so I cancelled lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:28 AM
5

MEALS ON WHEELS, LMFAOOOOOO!!!! I am new to OLD and dating multiple men at the same time and when I mention it to other dates I notice myself feeling dirty over it. Not sure if I’m projecting some insecurity there but it seems like I’m still acclimatizing to dating culture (have only been in long term relationships before) and am working on reminding myself this is normal, and even more necessary for a woman to date more than a man does. Also if a man doesn’t have a problem with me dating other …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:18 AM
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And my questions to that would be: do you have your own collar and leash? Poopy bags?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:56 AM
15

Uh oh, I have my MB type in my profile lol! Should I remove it? Tbh it describes me pretty well too. Are there any other tests that are more reliable or valuable to check out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:54 AM
31

“My kid/s come/s first!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:52 AM
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LOL! “Just ask” cracks me up because the scrotes who write that are so middle of the bored plain ass boring looking that there’s literally no question I have for them. Newsflash scrotes, you’re not that interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:51 AM
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This is the part that hit me the hardest. I wonder if he taunted her with his ability to finance her education, or if he’s staying quiet and relishing in her having to jump through more hoops. I don’t know which is worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 09:04 AM
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Yep; when men do this it’s to leave one foot out in case something better comes along so he’s not tied down and has an easier way to dip. Not necessarily to go be with another woman (though that’s very common of course). He thinks doing this allows him to keep his options open and be able to reclaim his freedom more easily if shit hits the fan. Deep down the men that do this are scared and just outright selfish cowards. Common among men who have avoidant attachment styles. Also common among men …
/r/askFDS08/12/21 03:03 AM
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When they ask for my number I straight up tell them I don’t give out my number upfront until I’ve met and feel comfortable with them. Those that prod this get blocked for not respecting a simple boundary. It’s great because it doubles as a shit test for seeing if they respect simple and reasonable boundaries. The dating platform I use has a built in video/call option, so really there is no reason to leave it to get in touch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:19 PM
8

That’s what I’ve been doing and it’s fine. I just tell them that I use my nickname as I’m so used to it, no issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:15 PM
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Yup, one of the keywords in a profile that instantly makes it a no for me. That and when they call themselves a clown. I’m trying to run away from the circus, not join one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 10:13 PM
2

Omg are you me?! We need to PM! 👯‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:39 PM
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I tried out online dating, almost instantly it cured any sadness over being single lol. It actually turned it into a relief. I also remind myself that most people are in miserable LV relationships. The grass is greenest wherever you’re standing my dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:35 PM
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It’s not a matter of her just thinking he’d leave or cheat on you, it’s actually rooted in scientific studies. They have found that men are more likely to cheat on you if the woman is the breadwinner. You can Google this to read more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:27 PM
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Hell, they’ve normalized “bitch” so much that now LV women call each other that and even defend it with some backwards libfem logic! But them, hypocrites? “NoT aLl MeN”!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:06 PM
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I too was once hurt by being told I’m not marriage material. Ever since I clued in that a disproportionate amount of marriages are unhealthy and miserable I sigh in relief over my shortcoming lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 07:00 PM
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I strongly suspect he is HV. He scolded me for paying 50/50 (seriously!) and had a bunch of books on his shelf that regularly come up here as recommended reading. I’ll never forget during our first session he pulled out “The Rules” book and said I broke all but one rule. I’d say that moment was the catalyst for my mindset shift. I’d love to write a post about this someday and share in more detail. The man isn’t just a therapist, he’s a pickme exorcist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:40 PM
47

LMFAO! The Daily Scrote should definitely be made a flair here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:31 PM
23

Maybe the FDS subreddit wasn’t started until 2019 but I can say for a fact that the ideology existed for much longer. I was introduced to it earlier, by my MALE therapist, lol! I recommend him to all my girlfriends, it’s a life changing mentality that’s left me forever grateful instead of being a forever girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:26 PM
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You are right that “bitch” is used more which is why I level the playing field by using “scrotum” when referring to LV men in any conversation outside of this subreddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:14 PM
2

Ahaha, love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 06:05 PM
6

Yes, and just to add onto this; if he does have some sort of an issue then this is a loving reminder that you are not his therapist and don’t let a sunken cost fallacy fool you into sticking around. He shouldn’t be dating if building intimacy is a problem for him.
/r/askFDS30/11/21 06:04 PM
2

Thanks, that’s good to know! What do the two acronyms stand for?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 05:50 PM
2

Does it hint that he's good with respecting women? Curious to know more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:58 PM
5

Try to plan a fun activity, no matter how simple, just to have something to look forward to for yourself. Take a bubble bath. Remember that holidays are just social constructs, they’re only just a day, and that if anything you are coming out on top because you are deciding who should get your time and that’s a privilege. Lots of people will be spending holidays with family they hate or are also toxic, take warmth that you aren’t included in that equation. And just throwing it out there; maybe we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 02:58 AM
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I was a toddler when I was exposed to adult content for the first time and my NVM father did nothing to take it away from me. There’s got to be something deeply fucking wrong with you to let a 4 year old keep flipping through a porno magazine instead of quickly snatching it away. I never felt right after that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:36 PM
5

Could you pretty please message me the link? 🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:31 PM
1

Hmm interesting, just as a hypothetical counter to what you’re saying: perhaps JP is more focused on helping men more than women because he knows we’re leagues ahead and don’t need his advice to clean our rooms? It’s astounding how many scrotes found that to be life-changing advice LOL!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:27 PM
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Right on! An episode of the New Discourses podcast talked about this in great depth within the context of polarizing political stances. Listening to people we don’t agree with can also shine a light on our own cognitive dissonances, which is always uncomfortable, but necessary for growth and better argument development like you touched on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:23 PM
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Same. I’ve learned I don’t need to see eye to eye with people on everything in order to agree on one thing, it doesn’t have to be mutually exclusive. I don’t like this recent hypersensitive mentality of completely dismissing what a person says because one time they said something controversial or offensive, that’s not a way to advance our intellect as a society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:18 PM
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The entitlement IS astonishing. One of the ways I see it manifest is fat scrotes on OLD. Like are you kidding me?!! You really think you should be dating when you can’t even seen your own dick under that huge gut??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:00 PM
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LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I wonder what mental gymnastics the scrotes are coming up with to rationalize their reverence for someone who completely disagrees with them. Are the scroteflakes going to say JP is cancelled now? First time I’m hearing the term manosphere too lol. Where is that, mommy’s basement? Do scrotes really say that word with a straight face?! Lol. Ugh, and as if the video couldn’t be any better it was made by a stunning black woman with one of the softest voices I’ve ever heard. Welp,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:52 PM
3

His poor ex-girlfriend. Imagine how awful he must have been to her that she thought going into sex work was a better option than marrying him lol. Assuming any of that is true of course. But isn’t it interesting that regardless if that story is true or not it makes him look bad no matter what? Scrotes really tell on themselves!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:28 PM
25

On the flip side I bring this up as a dealbreaker just to see how they’ll react and if I need to run. It’s great, it’s like reverse uno lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:24 PM
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Even if we disregard all the vax stuff, he’s unemployed now. How is he going to afford taking you on dates and treating you lol. Run!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 08:09 PM
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I’m not sure as I never heard of Succession. I can PM you a link to the post if you want to read it in full as I don’t think I’m allowed to link here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:17 PM
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Jesus Christ. I was just scrolling through my feed and a post came up titled “my husband will only have sex with me if I pretend I’m dead”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:15 AM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:48 AM
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Yea, you’re right, I can see how that makes sense. Your explanation also makes me think it is just another side effect of pornsick culture. It’s never enough for scrotes, I can’t imagine the depths of their voids that this is what they stoop to doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:10 AM
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Okay this is one part I haven’t understood yet. Wouldn’t it make sense for a dude to keep sleeping with the same woman given how much effort it took to get her in bed? Like why get rid of her and start all the way from scratch again?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 03:35 AM
1

Sorry I feel like I didn’t word that comment right. Basically there needs to be a shared compromise, not just you hanging around for his availability. I was with a professional man who worked at least 80 hours a week. Lovely heart but absolutely not worth it. If I could go back in time I’d tell myself not to waste my time waiting, and since I can’t I’m going to pass that along to you my beautiful sister. Don’t let this compound, on to the next!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:56 PM
1

Speaking from personal experience, being with a busy career oriented man really sucks if you two don’t have the same expectations for how much connection/intimacy (I’m not talking sex) is adequate for you. After these expectations are set it’s prudent to standby and see if he keeps up. Any signs of “oh, something came up with work need to push the date back” is a huge warning sign that you’ll play second fiddle to his job. Now that’s fine if you can handle it and have a busy life of your own. Bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 07:52 PM
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Seriously, why do they do this? I grew up with a father who did this and it confused the shit out of me because he would lie about the most inconsequential stuff, like what he had for breakfast. I don’t get the point; is it some depraved power trip to see how much they can fool us?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:42 PM
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I guess it’s easier for them to pretend to feel offended than accept the lived experiences of women. But no, we’re the weaker sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:37 PM
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Or the classic, “well not all men are rapists”. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 04:35 PM
2

Oh damn, yea just reread the post. If I were OP I’d tell my friend to above all not move in with that guy before marriage. He can do whatever he wants in his spare time now if it’s not having any adverse consequences on his life or relationship, but there would need to be a conversation around certain changes that will need to be made once they move in together (after they marry, if that happens). So yea OP if you’re reading, my top advice is to tell her not to move in with her boyfriend. There …
/r/askFDS11/03/21 04:10 PM
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Do twitch streamers make money from this? If so, I could understand him trying to pursue this as a side hustle so would be remiss to call it LV behaviour, especially if he seems disciplined about it. Is he playing video games outside of these hours too?
/r/askFDS11/03/21 06:47 AM
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Yes, and to add on, studies show couples who live together before marriage often end up common law or having a longer engagement, and a higher chance of breaking up too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:44 AM
3

It’s crazy to me that when I comment a link to this sub on posts in other subs it gets automatically removed but shit like this can be posted with no repercussions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:31 AM
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I’m happy for her but need to point out that her asking him to be his gf and them living together before marriage isn’t in line with FDS principles. Just throwing that out there so that anyone new here understands there were deviations from the norm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:19 AM
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I swear to God I recently came across an article/study that said most men who complain about gold diggers aren’t rich. LOL! I’m sure I bookmarked this somewhere, I’ll try finding it to share!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:32 AM
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You need to report this pedo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:26 AM
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I can’t stand when contrarian arguments are made in the midst of tragedy, it’s so insensitive. Do people not realize how invalidating it is to say it’s “thankfully incredibly rare”? I dare them to tell that to the victim’s family!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:23 AM
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Wow this is going down such a crazy rabbit hole. Has Meghan ever spoke up about their “date” to straighten out that it was purely platonic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:55 PM
8

Before I weigh in, would you be okay with being treated as a secretary at your job if it came with a pay raise?
/r/askFDS10/03/21 04:44 PM
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Wow I didn’t know its etymology ran that deep! I’m Canadian but since I follow American politics so closely that’s how I learned the word!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:40 PM
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Yea I just added to the post again as another lady commented that Piers is a MARRIED MAN. If he got married in 2010 like his Wikipedia page says, then how on earth was it a date with Meghan when he didn’t meet her until 2016?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:32 PM
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OMGGGGG!!! I had to look into this and Piers’ Wikipedia page says he’s been married since 2010. This article however says that he didn’t meet Meghan until 2016, so yea, why would he say it’s a date when he was already married?! That makes him look like a cheating scumbag!! Either way it’s bad. I hope the media pieces this together as it appears to be a glaringly obvious detail hidden in plain sight!! I’m adding this to the post too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:22 PM
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Thanks so much, I added an edit to my post to clarify. The fact that this was never an actual date makes this all the more hilarious that he feels like he’s owed some sort of a follow up over what was certainly a one time interaction. My god, the entitlement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:46 PM
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Wow, no I didn’t see that, how could anyone think that was acceptable to do?! TV hosts’ outfits are usually picked out for them by production, so that poor lady may have already felt very uncomfortable wearing something that she may not have wanted to in the first place. In a way this reminds me of the female reporters I see on the Bloomberg channel: no matter what season it is they are almost always dressed in sleeveless v-neck dresses that are at or above the knees. I’ve watched Bloomberg for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:35 PM
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I’m just curious! Is there British slang that’s equivalent to the American term “bootlicker”? In the US it means a person that worships people in authority. I ask because the whole time Piers was defending The Firm I kept shaking my head and calling him that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 02:59 PM
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This is precisely the double standard that patriarchy makes us internalize: it forces many young women to worry about their own inadequacies in order to distract us from being more discerning when choosing a partner. That’s all to say that he’s probably not worried about how he measures up at all, and by the same token you shouldn’t either! You do not owe men an explanation for any of your experiences or lack thereof. As a general rule it’s better to say less than overshare so you don’t show any…
/r/askFDS10/03/21 12:01 PM
1

LMAO his reply is the equivalent to “you can’t fire me I quit!”, what a loser!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:30 AM
2

Willing to bet this won’t change among American scrotes even if minimum wage is raised to $15/hr lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:22 AM
2

Actually the 50/50 scrotes are to blame for spreading women so thin to raise kids, cook, clean and have a career, so where’s the time for her to monitor every second the kid is online or at his friend’s house? If dad’s only job is to work then in theory he has more time to look after his kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:16 AM
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There’s a fine line between being an asset to your husband versus being a bangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:09 AM
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That’s it, next time any scrote says anything stupid to me I’m asking if they’re autistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:17 PM
24

I blame Descartes, he really propelled men’s entitlement and delusions with his “I think therefore I am” logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:44 AM
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According to his forensic psych evaluations he wasn’t even an incel, he just claimed to be one as he knew he’d get more notoriety and the incel community would gobble it up and praise him, which they did. Incels don’t want to admit that the killer wasn’t an incel because that would mean they’d have to finally admit that there are other people in the world who are far more pathetic than them. Their whole philosophy ceases to exist if they can’t claim the top spot for victimhood lol. In light of d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:30 AM
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LVM tricking women into thinking their bare minimum standards are too high is the biggest social experiment ever conducted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 02:04 AM
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Yes, it is! Nothing wrong with having these told to you, I love weighing in where I can. That said, there’s a big difference between telling you once and telling you the same thing three times. It reaches a point where it’s clear that a woman who asks the same thing several times is misusing the sub by trying to rationalize her non-FDS thoughts instead of changing them. Ultimately there has to be an openness and willingness to change, otherwise we come to an impasse and it’s a pointless conversa…
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:12 AM
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Speaking of checking post history, I find it quite rich when I see women on other subs criticizing FDS only to see they’ve previously asked questions here lol. Ladies who do this: why not try to sort out these qualms here first? If you really believe something about FDS principles is harmful or wrong, then please point it out—let go of the idea that you’re going to get attacked or offend us, especially when your approach is civil and done in a space that acknowledges your vulnerability in sharin…
/r/askFDS04/03/21 01:00 AM
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Amen. I just want to add that asking repetitive questions is likely a sign of being in denial more than it is about not having enough clarification. The only way FDS principles work is if one has the courage to apply them. Yes, change is hard, but staying/tolerating the same way is harder.
/r/askFDS04/03/21 12:30 AM
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They brag about it because it gives them a false sense of power. They also have internalized misogyny to make fun of women whose NVMs subscribe to their content.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:58 AM
15

Look at how he tries to manipulate her to get his way through meaningless male validation, “I view you as a fair girl...”. Also, girl?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:52 AM
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I can’t believe she wrote this for Teen Vogue. She’s a child predator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 01:45 AM
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It’s very possible that his sudden increase of social media use and connection with these other women is his own (dysfunctional) way of processing the pain. For all you know he could be extremely miserable right now. Either way you deserve to prioritize your healing by moving forward with productive goals and healthy distractions.
/r/askFDS25/02/21 01:39 PM
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No, unfortunately it’s not monitored, though I wish it was so the bylaws could be enforced better. I actually ended up sending him an email tonight that touches on a few big points, I BCCd a close friend of mine so she has a copy just in case. I’ll post an update tomorrow!
/r/askFDS25/02/21 06:13 AM
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Good job! Scrotes will gaslight you into thinking you’re overreacting just because you have a low threshold for their bullshit. Let their moms put up with that! It’s unclear from your post if this was the first time you were meeting him or if he was going to switch with you to drive your car, so I just have a few safety tips in case they apply: -Never go to a guy’s place on the first date -Meet at the location the date takes place instead (something could go wrong and it’s always better to have …
/r/askFDS24/02/21 05:47 AM
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Thank you! So I shared this with an older friend of mine tonight and she suggested that I email him instead of saying anything verbally, that way that gives him space to process what I’m sure will be devastating to his delusion lol, but as you touched on it will be a way to document that I’m telling him to bug off. God forbid if he does anything stupid and denies even knowing me if questioned, there will be solid proof that I told him to stay away. Even though it seems highly unlikely that he’d …
/r/askFDS24/02/21 04:25 AM
3

This is the catch 22 with my earphones: I bring them to use with my phone but don’t leave them in my ears if I’m out not using my phone in order to hear better for safety reasons, ironic right?! Just with current circumstances my boyfriend can’t come, I haven’t even told him as I think he’d straighten this out to the point the guy ends his contract early LOL. Which on second thought might not be such a bad idea...
/r/askFDS23/02/21 11:47 PM
5

Thank you! Yes, you pinpoint exactly what I find to be the most concerning/creepy part: waiting for me. The fact that he even waited by my parked car without knowing if I was actually around or if I left it there for days. How does someone do that without thinking it might be a little weird, especially for that long? I could understand 5-10 minutes tops, but half an hour? Then I thought about how he waited for a good hour this past Sunday and how if I was him I wouldn’t even wait that long for a…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 11:33 PM
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I feel you. Imagine how much our collective confidence would improve if women held these same entitled delusions!
/r/askFDS23/02/21 04:37 PM
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Ugh, no, it’s just me all the way out here unfortunately otherwise that would be great in so many ways. One idea that I just thought of is to reply to one of his emails pretending I’m my boyfriend, “Who are you and why are you emailing my girlfriend? Leave her alone and never contact her in any way or shape again!”. Sad that’s only threatening when it’s perceived that a man said it.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:23 AM
22

Thanks, this is what I’ll start doing. I remember the first time he saw my dog he got really weird about him and shortly after said he had to excuse himself and left, even though he obviously initiated the convo (I still wonder what that was about). It’s manipulative; you give an inch they take a mile. Many other locals frequent here too and it’s just hitting me he had just as much ample opportunity to socialize with them, they’re also closer to his demographic. Ugh, at least it was me and not a…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 07:10 AM
10

I’d have no problem doing this except for the fact that I don’t know how he’ll react to the sudden change; it’s a remote area and he could easily get away with running me over with his car.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 06:54 AM
6

Vaginas come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. There is no average vagina and way to really specifically describe them, any well-adjusted human with basic knowledge of sexual anatomy would know this. It sounds like he just wanted to jerk off to whatever description you would’ve written. I suspect he was actually the kid in the picture because of how ridiculously immature he was. A good rule to follow is to block and delete anytime a man veers off the natural course of a conversation to ask “pers…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 06:06 AM
17

Just want to point out that this is so prevalent among men, it’s disturbing. If more women were aware they’d make it a point to keep their profiles private. A guy once said he doesn’t bother watching porn, he just jerks off to women’s pictures on social media. It’s fucking sick and creepy.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:58 AM
4

Thanks so much, I’m going to order this book! Hopefully OP does the same!
/r/askFDS23/02/21 02:35 AM
20

So then you have 3 choices: 1) Stay in clown town and continue this with no changes. 2) Leave clown town and start planning your life around your priorities and goals. 3) Mix of 1 & 2: give yourself a deadline by which you want to be proposed by. Let him know if no changes happen by X days/months/years that you’re out; you’ve got your own life that you can’t continue to put on pause. Follow through or you teach him he can do this forever. It all boils down to how much more anguish you’re willing…
/r/askFDS23/02/21 01:05 AM
4

Do you have a link to this study by any chance? I’d love to read more about this!
/r/askFDS23/02/21 12:54 AM
11

Just to add, if a man says “when the time is right” it begs the question whether he’s mature enough to handle life and marriage. Any adult with half a brain knows there’s no such thing as the right time in life. It’s a red flag to me if a man believes in ideal timing, especially when he’s not changing circumstances to make things right as time passes.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 12:53 AM
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Sweetheart, let me ask you something, when’s the last time it ever took you close to 5 years to feel sure about something? Exactly. Leave. If you think 5 years is bad or too long of an investment then read the stories of women who did it for 10+ years. He probably loves the LDR because there are no expectations for him to meet.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 12:42 AM
12

LMAO! I knew a guy who called himself an “environmental scientist” too, for an oil company. Guess what his buddy told me his actual job duty entailed? Banging pots in the forest to scare bears away. Us women really need to have the confidence of mediocre white men. A guy I went to high school with called himself a fuel engineer. He worked at a full-serve gas station pumping gas lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:40 PM
6

LOL! OP don’t leave us hanging, what does he do for a living that would be soooooo over your head? I bet his comment was projecting insecurity because he was actually intimidated by your work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:34 PM
19

He might be a HVM but that doesn’t mean he’s your HVM, especially when you have so much personal growth to do first. Until you do that first you will continue to have these types of issues in your relationships.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 01:39 AM
6

Lol at men calling themselves feminists and still doing jack shit in a marriage. Even if the tables were reversed and women called themselves men’s rights activists they’d still be slaving away in their marriages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:12 PM
3

Far too many women have been fooled into thinking their value depends on how well they can embrace being “wifey material” without putting this equal consideration on men. It’s a joke to think nearly as many men worry about if they’re going to make good future husbands. I think it’s time we reclaim the phrase “wifey material” and use it on HV men instead who show potential to be worthy enough of having a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 07:08 PM
2

That’s fine, my point in distinguishing that there’s a big difference between reading up on BPD and self-diagnosing versus being evaluated professionally is that you could be doing more harm than good to yourself. Regardless, DBT is the gold standard for managing it so I highly recommend seeing a therapist that specializes in it. It’s great because everyone can benefit from DBT regardless of what mental disorders they struggle with.
/r/askFDS20/02/21 05:52 AM
3

Have you been diagnosed with BPD by a psychiatrist or psychologist? BPD overlaps with A LOT of mental pathologies out there, but in fact the condition is actually rare. It can cause more damage to self-diagnose such a serious condition without being professionally evaluated first.
/r/askFDS20/02/21 05:12 AM
33

Exactly, women who don’t choose themselves first risk becoming victims. I heard a quote some scrote said once, “I love beautiful women with low self-esteem”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:11 AM
82

For real, why do women who date Wilmer IRL end up so broken afterwards? Look at Lindsay Lohan & Demi Lovato. I get bad vibes from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 01:08 AM
74

To any women reading this who disagrees or is scared to choose herself: learn the consequences by reading the plethora of posts on the marriage subreddit where wives lament they didn’t choose themselves sooner and regret putting a man first. Choosing yourself is your power, it’s the only way to survive as it’s a man’s world. Every time you choose yourself you also filter out potentially bad suitors: it sends the clear message that you don’t need a relationship, you choose to be in one, and a HVM…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 12:46 AM
6

Does he invest? Save? Have low or high expenses? Financial stability isn’t about how much a person earns, it’s about how much they keep!
/r/askFDS19/02/21 03:50 AM
2

Maybe at home workouts, start with something gentle like yoga? Sleeping and rest is good, but I’d try to monitor that it doesn’t become excessive, as that could be a segue into depression. You really do have so much to look forward to, every day that passes will be one day sooner to being out!
/r/askFDS17/02/21 02:00 AM
2

Maybe try to find productive distractions, things you can look forward to once you’re out of there? Get on Pinterest and start figuring out what sort of home decor theme you want to have. Maybe start going through your belongings and figuring out what you don’t really need anymore and post them for sale on local buy/sell groups under the guise of doing early spring cleaning? Since you’re back in school maybe start an online study group, or if the campus is open go there to study in the library? …
/r/askFDS16/02/21 09:46 PM
2

The reason I ask is because several of my friends who went through med school had no time for anything, they all ended up marrying after, except for one who married before starting. It is an insane time commitment so if you don’t have a set deadline (especially for having babies) then don’t put that sort of pressure on yourself if you don’t have to!
/r/askFDS16/02/21 05:22 AM
2

That’s amazing, I’m relieved you don’t fall into a horrific statistic! I feel like any woman who goes back to school when deciding to leave her partner is making the ultimate power move. In light of this don’t be surprised to get backlash as people will start to feel threatened.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:55 PM
1

Yup, I don’t mean to come across as invalidating because I’m sure it can certainly feel like you’re in too deep, but I promise you that you aren’t and we are all looking forward to your update on when you leave him! Life is only going to get easier without him dragging you down!
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:50 PM
5

I just want to tell you a quick story about my friend and her boyfriend, and how I witnessed him say something that told my gut this relationship was doomed! They ordered pizza while I was at their place and as we are eating he says to her “can you pay me back for some of the pizza?” OMG! That’s when I knew they weren’t going to work out. I didn’t say anything because I knew it wasn’t my place. Sure enough months later they split. So I’m telling you this story to show you how the little things l…
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:45 PM
1

I didn’t even read your post, I just came here to say that there’s no such thing as being “in too deep” with a man when you’re 20 and not tied to him in a marriage or with children. You are as free as a bird!!
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:27 PM
5

It’s hard to say if he’s stonewalling you but I can definitely see how it can be perceived that way. How does he normally cope with stressful situations, does he normally retreat like this? This is still wrong either way and it’s good you’re planning to leave him. Respectfully, I don’t think you’re asking the right question here, because whether he’s intentionally stonewalling you or not he lacks an incredible amount of awareness to not clue in how his actions affect others and that’s always a b…
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:24 PM
2

Are you planning to get married before or after med school?
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:11 PM
13

If he’s doing more for others than he’s doing for you then it’s time to go.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 09:10 PM
6

I don’t know how life-threatening your situation is, but if he’s not being abusive you might be better off going at a slower pace so you can stack up some of your own savings and upgrade your career first. A woman’s personal finances are her safety net and a huge source of freedom to do whatever the eff she wants. I hope you can establish that for yourself first if you have the option to. Invest your savings so your money continues to grow. Depending on how complex your marriage is (shared asset…
/r/askFDS15/02/21 08:38 PM
7

Yummers!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 08:00 AM
1

Hi! I sent you a message, maybe it went to your spam so wanted to give you a head’s up here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 01:59 AM
2

Absolutely, it all comes down to money! Btw, did you also get an invite from a mod to a Trisha Paytas subreddit after commenting here? What a sad way to gather members lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 08:57 PM
8

I completely understand trying to make a sale, I think it’s one thing to give a recommendation as a salesperson and another to make a recommendation and then admit you don’t like the brand yourself after the customer says they don’t like it. I think what I’m trying to get at is how he didn’t realize that was more disingenuous to say than withhold, and this relates to the overarching theme here how scrotes have no problem pandering their bullshit onto others fully knowing they don’t like that whe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 01:02 AM
24

Someone once posted a thread here called “just because he’s a HVM doesn’t mean he’s your HVM”, so that’s all to say that even if ladies here might not think your dad is HVM, if he is to you then that’s all that matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:43 PM
3

LOL! At least she can’t easily see it if it’s on her back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:41 PM
14

No need to apologize, I simply said that in jest to hype up OP! And it’s true, he had so much to work with and under delivered. Things like that are very telling of how little he would contribute and overlook in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:39 PM
20

I delete a resume the second I see any spelling or grammar issues when I hire people. Why would I make an exception for a man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:26 PM
30

Not to be pedantic, but she said “my secretary” not “the secretary”, the “my” gives it an extra boss babe touch! 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:15 PM
89

Why tf do men do this in all realms? I was shopping for a laptop several years ago and when a sales scrote recommended one brand I told him I didn’t like them and he told me he didn’t like them either. I get the scrote has to make a sale, but why recommend something you don’t like? (I didn’t purchase anything from him).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:12 PM
34

It’s a beautiful typo because it hints at the type of relationship this will be: complex overtime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:07 PM
44

Since it’s a man’s world the dad should be doing way more than blowing up his buddy’s phone, dad clearly has more leverage in this situation so he should use it to protect his daughter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:05 PM
60

Yes! And to add on, why prioritize giving him a chance before giving yourself one? Giving someone a chance shouldn’t be doled out so easily. I find women who make the mistake of giving men a chance so easily typically aren’t so quick to give themselves a chance, even though only one of those choices has a bigger payoff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:02 PM
37

They have 0 chemistry, you can tell it’s so forced, in fact he looks repulsed by her most of the time. He is definitely opportunistic and there’s way more to him than meets the eye. It was a huge red flag when it was revealed that he shit talks about his own family to Trisha and then tells Trisha to keep it under wraps. He’s playing both sides and it’s glaringly obvious he should not be trusted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:52 PM
35

Trisha Paytas is a vile internet pick me clown and a living textbook case of the consequences of following liberal feminist principles. She is an abomination and it saddens me how impressionable she is on young women as she’s an overall terrible person. Her upbringing did her no favours, but it’s pathetic to be using that as an excuse at 32 and still playing forever victim. I disagree that Moses is a HVM. No HVM would be with Trisha as she’s extremely LV. No one HV would tolerate her or be open …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:44 PM
2

Why do you keep going back to him?
/r/askFDS09/02/21 07:17 PM
1

My friend is best friend’s with her ex-husband’s ex-wife. They were able to figure out that he used his grandmother’s wedding ring for both their marriages lol. The inside is incribed with, “love you, samuel” lmao.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:19 AM
2

Imagine his reply if she texts him she’s been thrown into a trunk? “Oh no, u shoulda stayed the nite like I offered”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 09:16 AM
7

I loved Invisalign, make sure to take progress pics!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 08:45 AM
3

Kudos to these ladies making this video. I’m sure triggered scrotes are picking them apart for being called out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:52 PM
1

Scrotes will still complain even when there’s 3-in-1 shampoo, conditioner & body wash on the market catered to losers like them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:45 PM
6

I’m pointing at your dad and laughing at him in Nelson, “HAHA!”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:23 AM
8

I just imagine Trump reading your comment in total contempt and telling himself, “I’m the most logical man in America, some would say in the whole world!”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 11:17 AM
14

That’s so ridiculous that schools think they can enforce this. Are there any actual repercussions if your child is caught not inviting everyone to their party? What are they going to do, fine you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:19 PM
25

Yea, not to mention that some kids don’t live in homes that can safely accommodate a whole classroom showing up! Since when does inclusivity trump safety?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:17 PM
57

This is 100% what crossed my mind about the little girl that was stabbed by her friends a bunch of times and left for dead (slender man stabbing). She made friends with outcasts at school, and I always thought how dangerous it is to teach kids to be inclusive of everyone. No sorry, some people deserve to be shunned, as harsh as that sounds. Kids need to learn how to be discerning and have boundaries when selecting friends. The girl who came up with the idea to stab her friend in the first place …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:15 PM
11

Who has the authority to tell you the whole class has to be invited when it’s your home?! That’s insane!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 04:11 PM
6

Unreal, didn’t know I’d find another reason to hate animal research besides the obvious. Do you have a source for female subjects being excluded? I’d like to share with some advocates who are working on an anti-vivisection campaign. It’s insane how acts of misogyny are somehow always imparted on animals too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:38 PM
10

How do you ladies handle this? Usually I say nothing but then it just feels like I let them get away with harassing me, specifically the ones that pull over to the side of the road where I’m walking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 10:39 PM
11

I’m sure the haters will pull up extreme examples of women killing men in an attempt to show they’re right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:43 PM
9

He sounds like he would probably get off on the fact that he caused you immense pain and hurt you—don’t give him that satisfaction.
/r/askFDS28/01/21 06:54 PM
5

I saw this posted on the teen mom sub, the stuff they pointed out about how it relates to the show was astonishing. Ephebophilia hidden in plain sight!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 07:25 AM
20

Omg I’m so glad you’re safe!! My friend was killed by a psycho too, he actually killed 2 other people as well. I literally just cautioned a girl on Reddit the other day about not going to a guy’s house for a date. She got super defensive over the fact that a stranger is looking out for her better than she is for herself. I told her how it doesn’t matter how well you think you know the guy or if his female roommate is home and then I told her about my friend who got killed, (it was in the headlin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:28 AM
5

I’m so sorry to hear this, you are so strong. Just know that you’re going to go through a crazy ride of emotions due to the hormones and the trauma of this all, I am not saying that to scare you but just as a head’s up so that you can use this to remind yourself that things will feel more intense, but it doesn’t mean that they are or that you can’t get through them. We will be here to support you.
/r/askFDS26/01/21 12:27 AM
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100%. I also believe it would seriously decrease the amount of women seeking work in the sex industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 02:39 AM
4

Keep focused on the bigger picture, you’ll get another job and begin to put one foot in front of the other. I’m also only a message away if you need anything 💜
/r/askFDS17/01/21 09:44 PM
10

Yea honey, we don’t talk to ex-boyfriends. Whatever you did wrong or he did wrong doesn’t matter anymore because there’s no relationship. Do not continue talking to him, every time you do will be another opportunity for him to manipulate you.
/r/askFDS15/01/21 08:20 PM
1

Congrats! Funny thing is he will want you even more now lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 08:18 PM
58

Your first mistake was showing him FDS, now when you break up with him he’ll blame it on “you getting all brainwashed” instead of realizing it was because he’s a shitty contributor to the relationship. Of course he’ll say FDS is extreme and crazy, he’s gaslighting you.
/r/askFDS09/01/21 10:55 PM
16

“I’m trying...” As in, trying to not cheat again? I didn’t know it could be so hard for some. This is who you want as a partner? Block and delete, don’t look back, you are degrading yourself by being with someone like this and you deserve so much better.
/r/askFDS08/01/21 06:49 PM
3

Oh honey, thanks for the laugh and bless you for trying to be open-minded, but if you could reason with Trump supporters they wouldn’t be Trump supporters!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:04 PM
45

I’d indirectly point it out, “lol do you work?”
/r/askFDS07/01/21 07:20 PM
7

Have the scrotes ever wondered how they’ll continue to breed males if they keep aborting females?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 07:19 PM
1

Yes doublespeak, thank you! I came across an amazing quote that nails this: “The basic tool for the manipulation of reality is the manipulation of words. If you can control the meaning of words, you can control the people who must use the words”. -Philip K Dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:05 PM
18

Just remember to not go out of your way to impress them. We don’t do that for anyone!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 10:54 PM
1

LMFAO!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 03:22 PM
56

It’s been a while since I read 1984 so I might be using the wrong concept here, but I think lib fem nomenclature is a perfect example of double speech. Terms like “sex positive”, “liberal”, “empowerment” all sound deceptively amazing, who would want to object?! It is no wonder then that many feminist women fall into the lib trap doublethink. It feels like the egregious justification of what is essentially violence against women is hiding behind a veneer of nice sounding words. It’s sick, languag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:49 PM
2

Yup, so pathetic. These scrotes should be rounded up on a one-way flight to Mars.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:28 PM
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Nice to hear the woman isn’t stuck dealing with a fixer upper for once, in more ways than one!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:19 PM
2

I have marked this as NSFW in lieu of a trigger warning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:16 PM
912

The handbook doesn’t say this, but if you jingle your new house keys closely to your left ear you will hear a bitter scrote and his imaginary new girlfriend seething!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 03:02 PM
52

I don’t just want to talk about it. I want companies to be held accountable for allowing this type of content to be posted and distributed on their online platforms. This makes the release of sexualized Bratz dolls for toddlers look tame, even wholesome compared to this. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:52 PM
2

I love this, I’m on a similar vibe! I have “I am the woman of my dreams” written out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:30 PM
1

Her behaviour sounds deeply insecure, her trying to pressure you is her warped attempt at seeking validation for choices she even knows deep down aren’t really hers. Stick to your guns, tell her she’s going to feel hella embarrassed over how she’s acting in a few years and that you want better for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:24 PM
4

Starting to turn your back on sex-pos lib fem? Oh no honey, shun it completely, so glad you’re here!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:22 PM
7

FashionNova came out with a “mommy daughter” line, where basically they wear the same outfit. It’s fucking grooming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:15 PM
6

Some of my friends have told me their feet went up a shoes size permanently after pregnancy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:11 PM
7

Just as an FYI my friend is an OBGYN and she says elective c-sections are sometimes worse, she described them as “violent”. I guess there’s no easy way about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:08 PM
2

Human shit stain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:58 PM
7

I think it’s amazing that you’re self-aware enough to know that getting stuck in anger and resentment can certainly be a side effect of this, I’d give yourself a time frame for how long you need to process this, or at the very least how long you want to feel these things without them being permanent. As ridiculous as he is, Dr. Phil does have a good line about how long one tolerates bullshit behaviour/treatment, “better X years than X years and a day”. Even though he’s the one that ended it, it’…
/r/askFDS30/12/20 10:20 PM
6

Oooh two tone, congrats!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:05 PM
26

There needs to be an uprising over how hard it is to report CP and pedo account activity. This is only going to get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:16 PM
107

What do you mean a honey pot for the other subs? As in it posed as a link to one sub but turned out to be a CP sub? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:06 PM
89

I found an old man posing as a 14 year old in a teen advice sub a few months ago. They were arguing for lower age of consent and that they should be able to have sex as they please. What tipped me off was that they wrote this in a very childish way, almost as if they were trying too hard to sound young, and a deep dive of their profile confirmed it. Can that profile be reported? All signs point to them being a fucking pedo in disguise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 06:02 PM
13

Cornell University
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:07 AM
13

Oh yea, the vetting process never stops
/r/askFDS26/12/20 03:45 AM
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I was just discussing this with ladies the other day. I FEEL it, especially since PornHub is under fire recently and only more investigations are needed. Lots of shady shit (did you know Cornell was one of their early investors?). It’s going to drive a wedge into libfem because they’re going to see they can’t defend sex work while stuff like this goes down. To defend it is to protect the men getting away with all sorts of crimes, apart from the ones against women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:40 AM
36

This was touched on at Christmas dinner tonight with my parents. I shut that shit down by saying everyone I know who’s gotten married in the last 5 years is divorced. Getting married is such a short-sighted goal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 07:24 AM
15

LMAOOOO!! Did you get backlash from any scrotes yet?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:38 AM
4

Sure, I understand what you’re saying about cost of living possibly being the same, but I’m quite skeptical of that and since it’s his idea then the onus is on him to prove it’s the same cost. Just out of curiosity, what countries did he have in mind? If they’re truly that cheap then I can’t help but wonder if it’ll be safe, there’s usually some other “cost” for travelling somewhere dirt cheap if your round trip flight, eating out regularly, medical insurance, transportation aside from accommoda…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:43 AM
5

BuT iTs ~EmPoWeRiNg~!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:30 AM
7

I’ll say it again, a scrote randomly asking me for my Snapchat is no different than being asked if I can trade Pokémon cards with them. I’m 32, that’s fucking weird bro.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:27 AM
8

What’s a grey divorce?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:19 AM
8

Lol if people are weird then why doesn’t she blur her own face too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:18 AM
9

If he’s the one proposing a vacation then he should be the one paying for it. When I was in my 20s I was squirrelling away all my earnings into investments while my peers boasted about their all-inclusive trips. Maybe they will be able to retire like me by 40 and go on amazing trips too, I don’t know, but what I do know is that none of that would have been possible if I wasted my money on unnecessary expenses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:16 AM
47

Ladies, remember this story next time you think you have something to feel embarrassed about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 04:02 AM
1

Same here, even bet I looked worse than you as I wore neon green socks in slide sandals lol. An SUV passed by and waited by the side of the road until I walked by just to say I walk good. Even when I deliberately try to look terrible I still get hit on and that little voice inside me wonders what I did wrong even though I objectively know I did absolutely nothing to deserve that (in fact the complete opposite).
/r/askFDS17/12/20 12:36 AM
23

Since he loves his phone so much he’s got another name (yours!) to search nonstop now. What a weirdo! This screams poor impulse control and I’m sure looking back you might see he has terrible self-control in other parts of his life, issues like this don’t stay compartmentalized.
/r/askFDS16/12/20 03:12 AM
5

My partner did this to the sales guy at the car dealership once, “you seem very long-winded”.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:32 PM
3

https://globalnews.ca/news/7024781/men-convicted-toronto-college-street-bar-sexual-assault-judge-reasons/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 06:09 AM
45

Yep, there’s a serious sexual assault case in Toronto about a bar owner and bartender that raped a female patron at their bar. They went to great lengths to cover it up and of course are lying about consent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 06:28 AM
27

“The locks get changed in less than 3 weeks. Found a new place yet?”
/r/askFDS11/12/20 08:12 PM
10

She must be very insecure to act like that. If your work has opportunities for working on projects together I would offer to work with her. Even if you don’t want to or if she declines, it’s a power move because it shows you take initiative and are what she fears most: being direct. The idea is the more you try to get closer the more she’ll back away and not pull that shit again.
/r/askFDS09/12/20 07:50 PM
3

If you ask them to clean they’ll just complain that you’re nagging them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:06 AM
1

I helped a girlfriend with her divorce earlier this year and had a chuckle that the term “simple” is used for filing the more complicated of the two divorce options lol. I couldn’t help but go over what annulments look like, I think it’s pretty progressive that a woman can get her marriage annulled if her husband is impotent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:44 AM
4

If you can only afford a $20 wedding ring, then you can’t afford a marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 12:35 AM
2

Sometimes it’s easier and more worthwhile to pay someone to do what it is that you think you ought to learn. If my partner thinks he should do something but doesn’t know how and doesn’t have the time to figure it out, he’ll just look up who to hire to get the job done. I don’t have a problem with this because the task/issue gets fixed in the end and that’s what matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/20 08:09 PM
4

I’m 32, he sounds 16, but honestly it’s sad when a guy sounds like this at ANY age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:40 PM
6

Thanks for explaining, i guess it’s safe to assume he’s probably super popular among the red pill crowd then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:38 PM
20

Same here, would love a brief rundown. I genuinely don’t know enough about Jordan or Joe to understand how they contribute to LVM culture or what it is about them that they’re revered by LVM. If anyone can share please weigh in. This might even warrant its own post on the ask FDS sub I suppose? Edit: someone shared a good explanation below in the thread, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 07:33 PM
9

Yes! It’s also disgusting that OP’s bf thinks this is normal behaviour for a guy, I mean I guess it is if you’ve been socialized and indoctrinated to objectify women’s bodies as mere sex objects thanks to patriarchy. There’s a clear difference between looking around a restaurant and noticing people versus outright staring at a specific feature of a person. Imagine if us women did this to guys?!
/r/askFDS17/11/20 07:25 PM
7

Lol so his strategy is to gaslight you into thinking you’re insecure because he ogles other women? The question isn’t should you dump him, but when, and the answer is the sooner the better! PS: I’m curious what his answer would be if you asked him how he’d feel if someone looked at his daughter the way he did at that woman.
/r/askFDS17/11/20 07:16 PM
10

A date at Walmart?! Lol, do tell!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 02:42 PM
12

I’m really sorry about your sister. You can’t force your mom to leave him. All you can do is move out, take your sister with you and never look back.
/r/askFDS04/11/20 03:02 PM
3

The plastic bag doubles as wrapping and a card!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:43 AM
2

It’s a no for me, and it has nothing to do with the fact that I’m vegan.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:41 AM
15

I can’t imagine the depth of self-loathing this black woman has using the ALM hashtag and treating men on her birthday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:35 AM
11

I really hope so, in fact I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s the patriarchy that socializes girls to become pickme women. That has to stem from somewhere, and since being a pickme is an inherently vulnerable position, it must have some relation to the system of patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 07:14 AM
33

As sex work becomes more generally accepted in society under the guise of it being “progressive”, I really fear that one day incels may indeed get the government to provide them with prostitutes like they want, or a subsidy for buying them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:59 AM
25

Yup, and this has also evolved into the sugar daddy scene. Men who find sugar babies totally manipulate these women into thinking they’re giving her the world, unbeknownst to her she is actually just a cheaper alternative than ordering an escort on the regular. It’s really sad how women who have sugar daddies think they’re the ones coming out on top.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:53 AM
16

I 10000% agree with everything that you said. I often wonder who is to blame, as if that will hint at a solution for how this can be undone. Obviously men are at fault for how they behave, that is indisputable, but it irks me so much that there seems to be a growing number of women who choose to undermine their dignity versus fixing their pickme behaviour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 06:47 AM
1

Wow that’s even worse! 19 and and 32, both legal age but there’s something so predatory about him being so much older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 02:16 AM
4

They rape children there, little boys specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:53 AM
1

Wait WHAT!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:52 AM
4

I would resign my membership from there and leave a horrible review. Fuck paying money to a place that doesn’t address nasty behaviour like this. The best revenge will be when you drive by one day and see it’s empty with a for sale sign out front.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:23 AM
2

Where is this picture from? I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 10:06 AM
-6

What an interesting way to blame women for your shortcomings as a man. This is cultural misogyny at its finest.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/20 12:24 AM
61

For real though, go get properly sized here, I learned I was over 2 cups bigger than what I thought was my size after following their measurement guide! r/ABraThatFits
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 12:19 AM
53

I speak out against this bullshit no matter how much I look like I’m in the minority or if it appears culturally inappropriate. Once upon a time I used to care about not rustling any feathers, but I’ve learned that life is actually so much easier when you’re contentious and speak up. People with opposing thoughts don’t stay quiet on the topic, so why should you? You have just as much of a right to say something as they do, with the added bonus of rehabilitating someone. It can feel really scary …
/r/askFDS28/10/20 01:55 PM
13

Amen sis, they sound like crabs in a bucket. Also what a double standard for them to call out kink-shaming by...”vanilla shaming”?
/r/askFDS23/10/20 04:33 AM
34

Respectfully—and what I think should be of actual concern here—is that your post comes across sounding very pickme in 4 ways: 1) you indirectly want to know where you went wrong despite him being the shitty one, 2) you’re trying to sort pieces of a puzzle that need no assembly, let alone isn’t worth wasting your time and energy on, and 3) you’re not prioritizing what actually matters here: you moving forward focusing on yourself and not looking back. 4) if he’s everything you ever wanted after o…
/r/askFDS21/10/20 07:32 PM
5

It’s low value, so no.
/r/askFDS18/10/20 09:10 PM
3

LVMs are also notorious for not taking their own health seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 08:03 PM
18

This is exactly why I look like the biggest slob when I go grocery shopping, nothing will be good enough so I take the path of least resistance and most comfort. Fuck people’s opinions, they’ll judge negatively even if a woman is dressed to the 9s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:52 PM
18

You just know the scrote who made this meme has very serious body image issues and he’s just projecting his disgust with himself onto a woman who’s made more money in the last 10 months than he ever will in a lifetime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:41 PM
50

There’s a ted talk on the harms of porn use with empirical research, should be easy to Google
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:07 PM
15

I’d call it out next time playfully when he mentions friends again to see what he says out of curiosity, that should help you gauge.
/r/askFDS13/10/20 04:15 AM
1

I forgot about how it can be used that way. I don’t know what’s more pathetic, that this tactic works or that some women fall for it. Speaking of OF and Snap, I’m curious what other devolving social media platforms will appear in the future. Crazy to think it’s just going to get worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:43 PM
17

Asking him that won’t work because following FDS while engaging in pickme behaviour is at odds with one another. When a man wants something he pursues it, regardless of his temperament. He’s bound to ask you out again if he’s still talking to you; the only way I can see that getting spoiled is if you said you’ll let him know when you’re ready to meet because that would mean he’s waiting for your cue. Never cue a guy to do what he’s supposed to be initiating anyway.
/r/askFDS08/10/20 08:28 PM
3

Him treating you badly was a reflection of HIS poor self-worth and inadequacy that he saw in himself and cheaply projected by gaslighting you, that’s what shitty poor value people do. If he was actually thriving in life then he wouldn’t have been deliberately awful towards you. Happy confident people just don’t play such games. Your path to healing begins the moment you realize how he treated you had nothing to do with you in the first place.
/r/askFDS07/10/20 02:45 PM
29

Omg WTF is it with scrotes asking if you have Snapchat???? This is akin to if a random adult male approached me and asked if I want to trade Pokémon cards with him. It’s so childish, I cannot take anyone seriously if they ask for my social media upfront, especially since the irony of them asking that way completely goes over their heads. I had an item listed for sale with a funny description on a local classifieds app once and a scrote sent me a compliment about how it made him laugh and asked, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 02:33 PM
14

I do the same and if a scrote replies I say something to the effect of how sad it is they feel threatened by women-only spaces and leave it. If a woman makes a criticism I encourage her to come post her qualms in FDS as any decent woman should want to warn her sisterhood about potential pitfalls if she sees any. Just a fun anecdote: I’ve taken a quick peak at the posting history of all the women who’ve ever replied to my comment criticizing FDS and noticed they have actually posted in FDS before…
/r/askFDS05/10/20 06:56 PM
27

Are you specifying “FEMALES ONLY” in your ad?
/r/askFDS02/10/20 12:32 PM
2

Thank you!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 03:13 PM
47

Any recommendations or resources on how to start reading his work? I really appreciate his intellect but want to better understand it as some things go over my head.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 12:30 PM
12

Exactly, you get it! Remember that your generosity isn’t what’s central to the friendship, it’s a two-way street. I used to be very charitable with some “friends” I took pity on being poorer until I learned that was me just having a weird hangup over having more than them; as if it were some penance I had to pay. I realized I shouldn’t let guilt guide my generosity, or even feel guilty in the first place! I’ve learned that just because I can offer to pay/give without expecting anything in return…
/r/askFDS29/09/20 11:43 PM
2

My HV partner doesn’t have social media, I actually find it the opposite of a red flag. You’ll easily be able to distinguish whether he’s telling the truth or not just by picking his mind about it. People who don’t use social media (or very minimally) will have very insightful reasons that are unique to them, they also behave differently and it shows.
/r/askFDS29/09/20 11:15 PM
3

Get yourself a good teddy bear and go meet up with your girlfriends. This is a slippery slope for intimacy that can easily spiral into low value outcomes.
/r/askFDS29/09/20 11:11 PM
0

A HV woman won’t have male friends and will not make it a point to keep male company around when she’s in a relationship. If there’s a circumstantial reason for her having male acquaintances (work-related), then she will always involve her partner in some way if any interaction is involved. What do you get out of being friends with that guy you hooked up with, other than having your ego stroked?
/r/askFDS29/09/20 11:07 PM
14

Do they know you have more money? I would caution befriending a person who isn’t as wealthy as you (and if they’re aware of this). They could be someone that is looking to use you. Can’t be certain at this point, but do have your guard up. I personally steer clear of befriending people who complain about their finances and not having enough, it feels awkward and energetically not good for me to interact with people who have a scarcity mindset. I would not be so generous right off the bat; you wa…
/r/askFDS29/09/20 10:57 PM
108

Exactly what I was going to comment. I can’t imagine wasting my time duping someone into a relationship with me just to tell them they look gross. She must have been paying his bills or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 10:30 PM
3

I’m in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:31 AM
2

Leandro Carvalho's Brazil Butt Lift is really good!
/r/askFDS24/09/20 06:38 PM
14

I don’t even think he understands what he’s trying to distinguish here, other than he’s a very confused scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:05 AM
3

What a selfish insecure lunatic. He used a burner phone to confirm you are who you say you are, yet doesn’t uphold himself to the same standard. This gives me big red flags that he has serious control issues and inherently doesn’t see himself equal to a potential partner. Way too calculated too, this is some serious projection turning OLD into a fucking top secret security clearance.
/r/askFDS23/09/20 11:44 AM
2

He sounds like he has serious issues with showing his vulnerability, could be due to how his parents treated him as a child when he was more vulnerable then. Not excusing or justifying his behaviour, but since you asked why, that’s my hypothesis.
/r/askFDS23/09/20 11:35 AM
13

u, eww.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:37 AM
55

You should wtf he’s using his job to commit sexual harassment, fuck off fishboy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:34 AM
6

It’s a bad idea because it distracts you from doing something actually productive with your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:32 AM
80

RIP Meredith, this is heartbreaking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 02:31 AM
1

Wtf is up with that picture
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/20 02:18 PM
12

I think we need to have a whole thread about her, there’s definitely lots to discuss. Hearing the sex tape get mentioned had me look up years/ages: she was 23 and he was 36. It’s beyond fucked up that she was painted as a sl*t that did something deplorable when a scrote 13 years her senior clearly manipulated, took advantage of her and got off with no consequences. It’s insane that the huge age gap was never really highlighted back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:23 AM
2

I paused and counted. 18 MacBooks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 08:08 AM
26

I have no time for bullshit, did I read right that she’s fine going halfsies on an engagement ring? 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 03:37 AM
-2

Since you can’t engage in a critical discussion, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:11 PM
-5

It’s yours, downvote yourself instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:08 PM
-2

You seem to think the two are dependent when they have no bearing on each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/20 05:06 PM
13

Let’s leave it, more effort than it’s worth sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 05:33 AM
8

Thanks for explaining this, it gives a better context of the dichotomy. It will always amaze me how people can be such enlightened geniuses in one area of their lives and complete dumbasses in another.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:50 PM
3

Lol!! Complains about him all the time but how dare you not be supportive of her being degraded!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:07 PM
4

And you know these are the type of women IRL that if you pointed out the red flags in their relationships they’ll think you’re just jealous or trying to steal their scrote. Sorry for thinking you can do better?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:46 PM
7

Wow, that’s so sad. Unfortunately the later women figure things out the harder it is for them to rewire, but the fact that they can change is still worth hoping for. I also think it takes a special wisdom to discern a parent’s behaviours aren’t healthy when they are usually the only frame of reference for teaching us what’s normal when we’re children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 10:37 PM
24

Lol that’s so funny, what a surprise! Total opposite with me, when I first began dating my partner (also a millionaire) he drove a Honda and was proud of it. It was attractive to me that he didn’t feel the need to be flashy even though he could if he wanted to. He has since upgraded but still modest. It reminds me of how Oprah says wealth doesn’t change you it just becomes a magnifying glass of who you really are!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:40 PM
32

I still can’t get over how a woman with a PhD asked a sub how to deal with her husband’s affair after he blamed her for it. A PhD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:33 PM
14

Only after I realized it’s a joke!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:31 PM
19

To be fair it depends what the problem is. Are we talking forgot to order extra dipping sauce again or adultery?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:30 PM
76

Reminds me of my friend’s ex who left her and when she ignored his “wyd, I miss u” texts he blew up her phone the next day with a slew of insults and expletives lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:27 PM
36

Actual millionaires don’t brag about being millionaires. The only exception is rappers. Also very presumptuous for him to think you’re not wealthy and need a man to pay your bills. I wonder what trick he’d pull out of his hat if you told him you’re already a millionaire yourself. He’s so desperate it’s hidden in plain sight and boils down to this phrase: “please come back” lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:20 PM
3

Yep, I actually purposely try to look unappealing in my local community when running simple errands to not draw attention to myself, I feel like it could be a safety or privacy issue if I did. I don’t like people seeing that I have money especially when I’m by myself. I know what I have and who I am and feel absolutely zero pressure to puff out my chest metaphorically speaking. I actually like when others size me up or think I’m lesser than because it’s relieving to know these leeches won’t be u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:09 PM
12

Hmm the more I think about it the more trouble I have finding examples of women (celebrities) with long acrylic nails that are HV. Kylie, Nicki Minaj and Beyoncé’s nails come to mind but they’re all LV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:54 PM
3

This is just my opinion but when I see ladies wear obnoxiously overbranded clothes (eg. “PINK”) or slogans like “babe” it gives me strong pickme vibes. Also when they look visibly uncomfortable in their outfits, particularly if they struggle to move in them and have to adjust something every 5 seconds. The classic visual of girls in clubbing dresses on Vegas weekends who reek desperation and are walking barefoot by the end of the night carrying their heels. Also girls who wear women’s clothing t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:41 PM
12

You can’t take anyone who compares FDS to incels seriously. Some women here are in committed relationships or married. I’ve also yet to see someone post a manifesto here before they go on a killing spree like the incels who have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:30 PM
5

One scrote told me that many people agree with FDS being toxic, as if that proves it is. I told him many people support Trump too. He retorted with how he found supportive criticism of FDS on google. “If I google ‘FDS is toxic’ then that’s proof that I’m right!”. It’s actually terrifying how easily the internet allows people to bend truth to fit their desired reality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:26 PM
5

Lol did we see the same comment or is that what all the scrotes (and pickmes) say? One girl agreed with a scrote who said it’s toxic, lo and behold I see her profile includes posting here quite a bit for advice lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:12 PM
2

It’s really nice to have unique one-of-a-kind pieces! I love telling/listening to the backstory of whatever piece gets complimented whether I’m on the receiving or giving end. Most times it leads to a more interesting and memorable conversation with a friendly stranger rather than giving/getting a sterile thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 07:02 PM
15

I don’t disagree with anything you said! I personally have an affinity for (certain) designer bags because to me they’re like collecting pieces of art. I love to learn the history of a bag. I appreciate the craftsmanship and overall I enjoy buying extremely well-made quality items once that are classic wardrobe staples that last forever, instead of having to deal with a large wardrobe that requires endless repairs and replacements. I have a very “set it and forget it” approach for certain clothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:19 AM
19

Sweetheart, if he was serious about you then you wouldn’t need to request that he do more. Do yourself a huge favour and don’t sleep with him especially since he gets mad at you changing your mind, which you have a right to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:59 AM
63

I shoutout FDS in other subs whenever I see women in need of serious rehabilitation (eg. leaving a pickme comment or posting for advice on how to deal with her LVM). I hope I’ve had a hand in FDS’ growth by doing that; the more of us here the better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:55 AM
2

Yes, see Bill Gates as an example.
/r/askFDS31/08/20 05:40 PM
8

Yea, I can’t help but think RPW works in a temporary timeframe, permanently though it sets a woman up to too much vulnerability and risk that an otherwise sane woman should never be willing to put herself in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:14 AM
2

Philosophically I don’t disagree then, but I can’t subscribe to a belief that can be so easily manipulated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:13 AM
3

Oh of course, and probably didn’t even take going to school seriously when they were younger too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:54 PM
3

I’m not sure I even understand the RPW philosophy. Be submissive to your husband at all costs? Not even being sarcastic, I truly don’t get it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:53 PM
7

Wow, what shitty parents and grandparents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:52 PM
7

Have you read The Rules book? Don’t let him schedule dates last minute, if he’s serious about you he’ll arrange that by latest Tuesday/Wednesday to see you Friday/Saturday. That said if you notice a pattern of him having some epic excuse to not see you on weekends every time then yea, move on, can’t imagine the excuses he’d come up with once in a relationship (not implying that he’ll cheat but that he just will show minimal effort to balance a dating life with everything else going on in life).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:48 PM
4

I wouldn’t pursue things further as I already get a red flag from him delaying to meet you. But just to satisfy my curiosity and indulge how honest he is, I’d ask him if he’s been chatting with other women. Then you’ll know if it was a small or big bullet you dodged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:43 PM
6

I hope the woman who asked r/RPW how to deal with her husband’s affair (that he blamed her for) sees this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:26 PM
23

No shortage of Bob the Builders!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:14 AM
29

Tell me you left him on read—ultimate burn that will drive him crazy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:24 PM
5

I imagine this is what my last 5 brain cells look like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:26 PM
3

FDS’ goal is not about getting a lot of casual sex. It’s about women being the best possible versions for themselves in all aspects of their lives, being a HVF. If she so happens to meet a partner then it’s a compliment to her life, not a necessity she’s desperately chasing around.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/20 05:37 AM
4

Fuck yea, sister! 👊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 10:32 PM
4

I’m really struggling to understand how FWB arrangements can ever be 1) women-led 2) healthy: 1—just because a woman thinks she’s at the helm of a FWB doesn’t mean she actually is. This puts her at risk of feeling deep regret later on when she realizes her possible oversight. FWBs are intentionally distorted and contorted to be the mirage that they are so as a result they will always have an element of delusional thinking. But even so, if a FWB set up could be women-led it doesn’t automatically …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 10:05 PM
14

“One day he’ll realize how much of his bullshit I tolerated, then he’ll finally love & appreciate me!” 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:08 PM
17

Not self-inflicted if you didn’t know any better and only saw low value behaviour modelled to you when growing up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:05 PM
39

Block and delete him immediately, no explanations. Give it 3 months and he’ll be trying to find ways to get in touch to start a relationship with you. You’ll momentarily relish how the tables have turned but you won’t be interested in his offer; because no matter how nice the bouquet of roses he sent you smell, he’s still an LVM. 👋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:01 PM
12

Agreed. It’s sad how so many women who partake in FWB try to spin it like they’re the ones using the guy, as if he’s the one getting played. Sure Jan. I’m not so sure whether I agree that a guy will grow bored of FWB and wife a lady he respects. An LVM might permanently keep his FWB setup (possibly multiple) because it gives him a false sense of validation and is a suitable LV coping mechanism for his mommy issues. But jokes on him if he marries a woman he respects: she’s an LVF (obviously a HVF…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:52 PM
21

Ooh burn!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 08:38 PM
3

Yea, not to mention a mindset of “he could have done worse” means a never ending game of setting the bar lower.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:02 AM
1

There is no excuse that financial literacy should be on a back burner for anyone, in fact, the longer it’s delayed the more it hurts her (and you).
/r/askFDS26/04/20 01:39 PM
8

If you plan to have kids together I hope it’s not out of wedlock.
/r/askFDS26/04/20 12:41 PM
2

Ironic of you to say that since OP said investments will be joint, not in separate accounts. A woman’s savings needs to be independently earned and allocated, not accrued from her partner’s principal investment, otherwise it puts her at danger of financial abuse later, especially if she’s financially illiterate like the OP described.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 11:06 PM
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It’s true, it’s very reminiscent of that “give a man a fish” quote. What I’ve learned pays dividends, being a leech doesn’t, not to mention any HVM would sniff that out anyway.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:58 PM
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Ok, you’re making $25k, you have $25k to spend, and $100k for expenses. How are you going to set aside your individual savings, if any, if you can’t take from the $100k cookie jar?
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:56 PM
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Uh oh, sounds like she needs to join the r/femaledatingstrategy sub if she wants to move in, we can straighten her out lol. Lots of good studies out there show pre-marital cohabitation is actually a terrible thing to do. When you speak to her you should bring up what they say so that your concerns sound more legit and she will see you have valid reasons for why it’s not good to do this.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:46 PM
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Let’s imagine after taxes I make $100k and you make $25k and we move into an apartment together for $2500 per month. We agree to split expenses 50/50. Rent alone eats up $15k of your salary. Still think it’s a pretty good arrangement when you’ll have only $10k left to stretch through the year whereas I’ll have $85k?
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:40 PM
3

I read your comment thinking I had accidentally replied twice on different days because what we said is practically verbatim!
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:26 PM
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What I found interesting is how he thinks he can dictate how expenses are split because he makes more money, yet settles at splitting 50/50. You make 80% of the combined income? Then pay 80% of the bills! Funny how his leverage is so selective lol.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:23 PM
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My partner is very wealthy, pays for everything unless I insist, but the best part has been all the knowledge he’s taught me about finances/business. Imagine that, women who appreciate learning how to be more independently secure with their own finances without becoming leeches to their partners, and generous men who don’t feel threatened by sharing their knowledge lol.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:19 PM
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I smell a power imbalance: you make more so feel you have the upper hand on how finances are managed, yet you want to split expenses 50%. If you make 80% of the income then pay that proportion too. Also, you can’t just hope that she becomes financially literate one day, you need to address that together with a plan. You have a responsibility in this too because it won’t be fair to blame her later on for a drawback that you knew about but didn’t bring up.
/r/askFDS22/04/20 10:03 PM
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I totally understand your humour but for the sake of not sounding ageist I bet the only ones who can lay pipe at 50+ are the HVMs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:45 PM
3

This is what I don’t understand either, because feminism isn’t about equality between sexes. If that were the case then what’s the difference between feminism and egalitarianism?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/20 08:14 PM
2

If you’re a dime, why are you wasting your time scraping for nickels?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/20 08:13 PM
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This happens all the time on finance subreddits I comment on. By default I’m referred to as a “he”, but I always point out that I’m a woman and—shocker— can trade/invest in stocks better than them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:01 AM
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The real question is: how does a woman overcome the guilt she feels in being treated so well by her HVM? I always feel like I need to reciprocate because it’s very important to me that I don’t look like a leech. Objectively I know I’m not, I just have some weird guilt complex over this that I’d like to sort out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:52 AM
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Again, all conjecture until she replies with her honest thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 11:56 AM
2

It’s possible, would need her to comment here on whether it’s true or not. Maybe she does have a low key crush on BIL, though I don’t think that means it’s mutually exclusive from having to regret her own marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 11:44 AM
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I didn’t read it that way at all. To me she sounds like she thinks the grass is greener on the other side and deep down knows that’s not the case and wants to snap out of it because she does love and respect her husband. If her husband’s SES directly equates to how much she loves or respects him then she shouldn’t even be married to begin with. And if we assume for a second that she does equate SES to how much respect and love she has for a spouse, then it’s guaranteed even if she drops him for …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 11:20 AM
2

Anything is possible, sure, but if that is the case, then why is it specifically the BIL that makes her feel this way? We would also have to question whether she feels this type of jealousy when comparing her husband to other successful men: Mark Zuck, NBA players, Hollywood actors, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 11:07 AM
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I’m probably not going to say anything unique, but a few points: -Bill Cosby is a POS but apparently he’s quoted as saying “I don’t know what the key to happiness is, but the key to being miserable is comparing yourself to others”. So essentially, you’re choosing to be miserable with this glass half empty thinking. Why? What do you get out of hurting yourself like that? Do you think it’s going to motivate you to be reflective, conjure up ambition and be more like them? For real, there must be a …
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 09:38 AM
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Excellent comment, couldn’t be truer. To add, when I realized the amount of time that was sacrificed for work, I decided to put the time I spent waiting and harping to better use and instead made a career for myself too. It came full circle beautifully because now I’m busy with my own work and in a position where a man doesn’t need/have to take care of me if he doesn’t want to. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I used what was lacking as an opportunity to better myself, sitting around being…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/18 09:23 AM
2

Either or both, some people might benefit from a facelift, others not so much, but just in general anything done to the face will go further than fixing up boobs as an example, if all one is looking for is just enhancements.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:23 AM
2

Was I downvoted because those who disagreed are too lazy to explain?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/18 03:21 AM
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Women that I look up to are often way more than twice my age; fashion icon Iris Apfel (96yo) and world’s sexiest vegan Mimi Kirk (google image her and gasp that she’s 80!).
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:45 AM
1

It’s your body and your choice, but if I can raise a suggestion to you I’d say any facial procedures have a better ROI than boob jobs. Then again that’s at face value, I don’t know your particular situation (eg. breast cancer survivor) so it’s all conjecture.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:41 AM
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I’m 30 this year and started getting regular Botox at 23, 2-3x/year, maintenance is extremely important for me. The annoying part about looking much younger than your age is that people who don’t know how old you are won’t take you as seriously, coupled with being a woman and it’s just that much more of a struggle. It’s interesting how much more alpha I’m treated as soon as people find out my age. That said I will do whatever is feasible for me, but understand and accept that even my path won’t …
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/18 10:38 AM
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I’m in this situation too: he’s a wealthy CEO with an outstanding personal character and great morals, fit, intelligent, very beautiful inside and out. I’m not sure what the answer is, however I do believe that men like this don’t make value comparisons like we think. I think it’s us as a whole, our support in the many ways we can provide and nurture them can be valuable to them even though if written on paper it seems like there is a value disparity between us. It’s not for us to decide or meas…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/18 11:28 PM
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Have fun! Don’t let first date flutters get the best of you, remember HE has to do work to impress you too! What if HE runs out of things to say? Let him lead and enjoy yourself. :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 11:52 PM
1

Yes, it’s not the same as sex, the point is men shouldn’t be regarded as fuck machines with no self-control.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 02:26 PM
1

Things need to be discussed upfront. Is one dating just to sleep around? Dating to settle down? I need to know what the goals are first to see if we are even on the same page to prevent headaches surrounding this issue. Oh and I’m sorry, but just because a guy has strong sexual needs doesn’t mean he has to go sleep around with women. He’s got palm and her 5 sisters (his hand). Tired of men being painted as these barbarians that need to fuck anything that walks just to get “needs met”. I guess yo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 11:15 PM
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I agree, it’s totally wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/18 10:41 AM
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Nice, I’ve actually never heard that phrase before, learned something new!
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 06:21 AM
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Interesting. Admittedly I never really compare myself to other women, I recognize I am my own person and have my own hand of cards to play and improvements to make. Way too busy to draw comparisons or feel the need to distinguish myself as different. Often I find women who say they’re the exceptions/different are really...similar and predictable.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 03:58 AM
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I think you’re looking at yourself too one-dimensionally, which is causing this extreme shift in how you see yourself nonstop. Don’t do that, it’s hard on you and pointless. Instead just see yourself, that’s it. Notice the things about yourself and notice the ideals you have about being a wife. Sometimes they’ll be compatible, sometimes not. That’s ok, ideals aren’t real anyway, you’ll get farther with yourself with kindness.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/18 10:38 PM
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In a healthy and functional relationship a man would never feel the need to say such a statement. What she’s projecting is pretty loaded while also futile at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/18 03:35 AM
2

If a man is intimidated by intelligence, that’s not a man I’d want to date!
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 06:31 PM
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Ok I just googled the guy and on his wiki page it lists one of his views as women to blame for all the crazy in the world (abuse, war, addiction), because it all stems from violence and trauma in early childhood experiences, when women are mothering their young. Is this for real?
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/18 03:08 PM
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No worries! I am fairly new to commenting and stuff, so I’m still getting the hang of how things work. Perhaps when you’re done (or think it’s “the end”?) then you could comment in that post all the other posts that precede it. Thanks in advance for taking on such an educational feat for all of us!
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/18 12:50 AM
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For some reason I got it in my head that this would be a 5 part series, and I reread and see no mention of that, so it’s been a really long day for me lol. I suppose that could work, however maybe if you label them as being part of a series (no matter how many there will be) it’ll just be easier to spot. Or, once you’re done with the very last post, you can write out all the titles of the previous posts in case others join later and want to start from the beginning. You could also paste those ti…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 11:59 PM
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Could you number them? Would like to keep track (gonna save and read them later).
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 10:58 PM
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Hey I’m like the opposite of your boyfriend: I have a partner and have a business where all my employees so happen to be guys. I gotta interact with them all the time too. I honestly wouldn’t worry about it if he has been loyal to you and not given you a reason to raise your eyebrow. Don’t be jealous girlfriend, it only robs you of happiness you could be enjoying in your relationship, because you could very well look back on this one day and think “I had no reason to be jealous of any of that”, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/18 12:29 AM
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