Evidently it’s necessary to confirm upfront if their listed location is where they actually live 🚩

saddiesadsad · 2021-12-09T02:18:47+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if FDS REALLY gets through to women. This is a case of block and delete, educating them to be more sneaky won't benefit women. He will probably not mention it anymore and just hook up and then ghost, I'm sad for the next woman.

CatSweets · 2021-12-09T05:26:55+00:00

This was one of the reasons why I quit OLD (before I discovered FDS). I talked to a guy on the app for weeks, he never asked me out. One day I was out with a friend and asked him to join us (wrong, I know) and he gave me an excuse. Some days later he asked my phone number and only then he pointed the different state code - I didn't even notice! He even jokingly blamed me for not realizing the distance in the app (my dude?? If we matched you were within the distance I set).

He told me that he had family in my state and didn't say anything because he didn't "like to talk about the reasons he moved out" 🙄 - I just cut contact and delete his number and the app a few days after. OLD is a dumpster fire.

electroloop · 2021-12-09T01:16:13+00:00

idk why you’re giving him tips to be more dubious sis, you should have blocked and deleted after he texted you about his “sister”.

pitifulparsnip · 2021-12-09T05:05:48+00:00

They do this SO OFTEN! I was ranting about it to my younger cousin, she later tried Hinge for a week and texted me saying she now understands why I get so annoyed at these weirdos.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2021-12-09T01:18:44+00:00

His “sister” is probably his girlfriend. By responding you’re literally handing him the key to hiding this for the next woman who talks to him. Ever heard of block and delete? We don’t “confront” these scrotes.

Aocwannabe · 2021-12-09T08:58:00+00:00

I actually tried this in the hopes of meeting men- I would put in the location of a city I would be visiting. But I had it clearly stated in my profile the city I did live in.

It taught me that OLD is trash everywhere 🤣 and FDS can be applied universally.

Determinedblonde · 2021-12-09T11:31:18+00:00

“Sister” = gf He also openly told you he’s playing the field. Damn these men are getting BOLD.

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LR_today · 2021-12-09T03:21:23+00:00

They change location in hopes of finding a free sex worker for the duration of their trip. Then they can just bounce and ignore you.

sequinpig · 2021-12-09T02:26:00+00:00

My profile says No Tourists for just this reason!!

fireforestfairy · 2021-12-09T10:38:04+00:00

When I was playing around with OLD, I saw a lot of these foreigners too. I think there were looking for exotic girls to flirt with or someone to hookup with when they travel somewhere.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2021-12-09T05:51:43+00:00

I live in a large city, and when I was on OLD my first question was, "Are you local or visiting?"

Last thing I want to do is to entertain some tourist community dick 🙄

extraodi · 2021-12-09T13:25:15+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been done explaining things to men a verrry long time ago.

Equipoisonous · 2021-12-09T13:28:34+00:00

I once went on a date with a guy who neglected to tell me in our chatting that he was "only in town for the summer." That already would have been a deal breaker but it was mid August! So you're here for 2 weeks?! I said he should have disclosed that earlier and got up and left.

preppykat3 · 2021-12-09T01:46:45+00:00

I HATE when they do this!

ironglaciers · 2021-12-09T16:16:40+00:00

He is looking for a hookup. Block and delete.

DumpsterWitchy · 2021-12-09T17:32:21+00:00

Dated a guy who stated to live in a certain big city. During the date it turned out, he didn't live there, but on a farm in the middle of nowhere, 6 kilometres away from a tiny little village that didn't even have a supermarket and said big city was 50 kilometres away from that village. I lost all interest right on the spot. Blocked him after the date.

DuchessDurag · 2021-12-10T04:45:20+00:00

I live in a transient city so I’m used to Seeing dating profiles who lie about their location or are visiting temporary.

I hated it when some guys would assume I’m Eager to see then straight away or they I would wait for them until they got into town.

Don’t bother questioning these guys because you’re giving them ideas 😂 Just block and delete.

kolsen92 · 2021-12-09T20:43:19+00:00

Was just thinking of this today!!! Why do men use OLD dating when they’re somewhere for the weekend or traveling? I’ve seen so many that don’t even mention it or something along her lines of “here a good time not a long time, show me your favorite spots” …… what.. and for gods sake WHY would I?

poison_snacc · 2021-12-09T21:17:26+00:00

It’s crazy how they think. The first thing I’d say if I changed my location like this and ended up talking to someone living there would be to mention exactly that: “I’ll be in Newark on the 15th through the 2nd on a business trip, but I actually live in Philly.”

It’s especially weird that he obviously already happened to mention where he lived full time? Did he slip up and not realize the info during your convo was different from that on his profile? Was his original plan all along to just pretend he lived in the city where he was trying to meet people so he could pretend to start dating them without telling them?

It’s a lie of omission. I wouldn’t trust someone like this for another second. Who knows if anything else he’s saying is true?

AwkwardDisaster4150 · 2021-12-10T17:28:28+00:00

Guys will also try to match with women in other towns/ cities and then say they’re planning on moving soon. I’ve had guys do this and they really don’t like it when I say, “oh great let me know when you get settled in.” Because they aren’t really planning on moving but they want an out of town hookup. Also when you tell them you’re not interested in dating until after their move, you will NEVER hear from them again I guarantee it. They are not moving. They are full of shit.

katiekat0214 · 2021-12-11T01:20:25+00:00

Facebook OLD does this ALL the time. Men are never local! Eight hours away isn't feasible. Hard swipe left, when I bother looking at it at all, quite often forget it's there. And don't tell me any 20- or 30-something dude REALLY wants to date me; he's swiping right on everyone just to cast a wide net. Spare me.

purasangria · 2021-12-09T01:41:53+00:00

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verysexycaterpillar · 2021-12-10T18:11:55+00:00

Sis read the handbook, this is a block and delete situation

electroloop · 2021-12-09T01:26:06+00:00

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panicpixiememegirl · 2021-12-10T20:50:17+00:00

He just wants to have sex lol

Title	Evidently it’s necessary to confirm upfront if their listed location is where they actually live 🚩
Author	cryptohobo
Upvotes	489
Comments	47
Date	December 9, 2021 1:15 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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