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| 29 | my red flags"Trust me." is super inappropriate and the sign you are talking to someone who thinks their talk matters more than their actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:07 PM |
| 27 | my red flagsLove this nuanced take! I would add that we need different medicines for different ailments- so some of us are at a stage where we are confident in just going with our gut while others need to analyze what red flags given their personal life context and the stage of their life. Eg...A college student who lives in an urban environment won't think it is a red flag if a man does not own a car. But a woman who has been in the work force or lives in a place where a car makes life considerably easier … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 05:04 PM |
| 43 | my red flagsAlso, broke men do this because they want to hide their financial situation until they have gotten you invested and/or all they have to offer is the title/honorific of "girlfriend". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 04:58 PM |
| 14 | How can I know if someone is truly nice to me?I do not have a chronic illness but I tried to be friends with a woman who DID have a chronic illness. I always acknowledged that I didn't know how hard what she is going through. But I was in bed with Covid in a foreign country and she began to emotionally dump on me. I told her that it wasn't a good time for me and the conversation quickly devolved into her writing me nasty messages about what a hypocrite I am...So I just blocked her. Nobody talks to me like that- chronic illness or not. I rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 04:51 PM |
| 21 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?A. I got most of my ideas about dating from tv and the movies. So a lot of fantasy scenarios…the majority of people do not enjoy dating. B. Even when men have taken me on cool dates, the vast majority of these men I was NOT sexually attracted to so it took away from the date. This was pre FDS when I gave chances. C. Dating is fun IF the other person has good social skills, there is mutual attraction and the man has the logistical skill to execute a cute, shared experience. This is NOT the dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 12:21 AM |
| 17 | How can I know if someone is truly nice to me?Busy as an excuse I’m is also a reflection of poor time management skills and/or that they are not available and highly interested. Hilarious how many people use this as an excuse and then feign shock when you won’t make them a priority. Most of these people are aquaintances and think of you as filler IME. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 06:34 PM |
| 210 | How can I know if someone is truly nice to me?ALL humans are opportunistic BUT there are two categories: People who want to be in a mutually beneficial relationship with you. People who are "zero- sum" and just do what it takes to get what they want. A huge percentage of men operate this way. They don't care if you derive any benefit. This is why as humans we don't like cheap people. Accept this and notice the people who match your energy, have good boundaries and have awareness about reciprocity. Our relationships are not charity so be war… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 12:11 PM |
| 46 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?Exactly. Extract yourself. To engage with anyone in this scenario is getting into the mud. If the guy likes you, he will be polite to her but also extract himself and try to talk to you without her around. This is also just basic manners, not forcing things and group harmony. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 12:00 PM |
| 8 | HVM in smaller cities?University is great- especially if you are in a small program with a niche interest. By "closed to newcomers", I am talking about the "Seattle Freeze" and "Minnesota Nice", whereby people stick with the same friend group from their childhoods. But in Los Angeles and SF, you have the "fake friendly" and normalized flake culture so the depth of relationships can be a challenge. If you are still choosing a program, ask about the school culture- its where you will be spending most of your time. A sm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/22 10:03 PM |
| 10 | HVM in smaller cities?It’s no shallow to want companionship or to weight the possibility for intimacy/romance into your life decisions. It would be different if we hadn’t been groomed otherwise our whole lives… I, too, love dancing but it’s a no for me apropos meeting men. I feel kind of bad for saying it but I think places where men have to behave, pay money and care about their reputation are where you will meet men that will interest you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 06:27 PM |
| 117 | “If he wanted to, he would” fair, but how do I let him know I’m interested without directly asking him out?That you have to ask is your signal to divert your energy back into yourself. If he likes you, he will be thinking what you are thinking. “How can I show interest so that she knows I want to be more than professional with her?” If you “send signals”, you could really embarrass yourself AND look unprofessional and jeopardize your careers. If you lean back, stay professional and stay contained, his interest will build enough that he will make his intentions clear with you. It is a myth that men ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 12:08 PM |
| 11 | What do you all think about the Johnny Depp v Amber Heard trialExactly. How are men that prey on young women constantly portrayed as victims? They have enough wisdom to become rich and powerful but a woman decades younger is smarter, more conniving and savvy enough to take advantage of them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 12:02 PM |
| 96 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.Agreed. Why would this woman go on reddit if she is okay with this? Seems like the fiction of a man who wants to gaslight his wife into accepting his adultery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 09:22 PM |
| 100 | HVM in smaller cities?Do not feel bad that you are thinking about this before you relocate. But I’ve known women who have met their partners in both small towns and big cities. Luck is the common denominator. I’d choose a place where you can easily create community with both men and women because a social network might increase the probability of meeting a HVM. And if you don’t you will have good friends regardless. Some places are notoriously closed to newcomers… Golf and tennis could be good if you enjoy those…I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 12:10 PM |
| 14 | Women Never Hit the Wall: A Field StudyAge of male partner is HUGE so go younger. The “research” into fertility is misogynistic and skewed. We can’t even gage accurately the fertility of women because most women after 40 are not even trying to get pregnant or they have older partners or they are women trying to get pregnant for the first time who may have had these “issues” if they had tried earlier for a baby. I chose no children over children with a LVM. I feel profound sadness that I never met a good man for children but I have ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/22 08:03 AM |
| 35 | Self sabotage.It’s a grief process of taking off the rose colored glasses. But it’s temporary. Living in the world the way it is VS how we want it to be will ultimately lead to better decisions. PS Any truly good man will respect your skepticism/ vetting process. Any truly good man will acknowledge that there are a lot of bad actors in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 10:10 AM |
| 19 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.A. They are lazy. This way they don’t have to plan anything. B. They are cheap. Could be a way to avoid paying for the date. C. Terrible manners/etiquette. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/22 11:25 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever witnessed/experiences a LVM turn to a HVM?A woman Can make a good man better. But she cannot make 🗑 into a good man. Biggest lie of the century that men change for the “right” woman. Best case scenario, a man changes and then who he is in relationship with sometimes reflects him. The happiest relationships I know of are men that were intentional about finding a relationship and also found the right woman for the relationship they wanted. The least happy couples I know of are because the man was/is not intentional. Also, spoiler alert: s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 08:00 PM |
| 18 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesIf it is a boundary that OP’s friend is stating, then great. “Hey, I need space because I’m processing what you have said to me. Thank you for being honest with me even if it stings to hear.” OPs friend is acting typical to how many of us would when presented with new information that can make us feel a little ashamed. It will really depend on if the two decide that this can be repaired. But if there exists a dynamic whereby OP has to handle the friend with kid gloves or be her therapist/life co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 07:00 PM |
| 82 | HVM prefer monogamous relationshipsSupposedly we can only be deeply, intimately connected with 5 people at a time. So this makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:53 PM |
| 88 | losing friends ever since accepting FDS valuesExactly. There is a difference between setting boundaries to nurture closeness vs punishing someone with a “boundary” by asking for space AFTER you required emotional labor of them. Give your friend the space requested but do not feel obligated to be her free therapist anymore. I have had this happen to me when I have even asked people “Do you want to just vent and be heard or do you want feedback?” Even in that situation, I’ve had people go off on me. Not advice, but if this relationship is imp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 03:36 PM |
| 5 | 'Men age like fine wine' 'Women hit the wall'Agreed. I used to think not saying anything would make men put less pressure on women but it doesn’t work. The lack of any pressure on men whatsoever to appeal to women has made them delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 07:41 PM |
| 5 | 63 year old scrote with 38 year old woman expecting a 7th child together 🤢🤢. Good luck sis!And it is why older women cannot get pregnant in the first place. Where are the studies on women with younger more virile partners and their ability to get pregnant? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 06:25 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts as I'm packing my things while he sleeps, drunk after going to bed at 7am (a normal night for him)This. Leaving IS hard. You cannot out think your feelings or the sadness that seems irrational. And the tug of war between your rational mind and what seems irrational (how can I stay when he doesn’t brush his teeth?, etc…) is quite normal. Try to get out of your head and keep doing action steps. Mantra: “I cannot out think this. I can’t analyze this to make it right.” This takes practice but diversion is a skill and will also get you out of this situation physically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 09:55 PM |
| 14 | What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video)A man's definition of his "prime" is when he thinks he will have the most access to sex with women. To them, a woman's prime is when the most amount of men will want to use her for sex. But they are men so they don't realize that most women don't want to have tons of sex partners. Also, by these men's definition a woman in her 40s or above who is sexually desirable to men in their 20s is in her prime. lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:24 AM |
| 16 | What we can learn from model Paulina Porizkova (the latest Aba & Preach video)Exactly. It is her money as much as it is his. I'm tired of the "self made man" myth and the ignoring of how much women contribute free labor (and take on the risk of death when in childbirth) when in the marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:11 AM |
| 9 | Baldness is DadnessIt makes it seem like women who don’t prefer older men are the anomaly. Like, “you are a freak if you are not attracted to men significantly older than you!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 09:47 AM |
| 37 | "But hon, in this city no one will want to wait 2+ months to have sex with you" -- female acquaintanceIf sex is important, than it’s better to wait. The reason piv sex gets boring for some people is because they do it so quickly and don’t enjoy other sex acts/ foreplay. And why have so many women thrown our the concept that sex can and does get better with the right man. I’m not talking about a porn addict but getting it just right with a partner has never happened to me the very first time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 10:09 PM |
| 83 | I’ve been saying this… It only takes men just a few months to know if you are the one! 👆Exactly. A high percentage of men do not see marraige as a commitment to love you for life. Usually men that do this have receding hairlines. Men in their 20s don’t do this… I don’t want to knock the “quickie wife after the forever girlfriend” but I think it’s just that he thought he could do better, realizes he couldn’t and then settles for someone who will accept him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:38 PM |
| 23 | Baldness is DadnessGoogle “I’m not attracted to older men”…my mind was blown because it redirects to why women prefer older men with zero dissenting opinions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:34 PM |
| 11 | I wonder if these are high expectationsThey 100 % would. Conventionally beautiful women only get treated better short term. And possibly wade through a larger pool of narcs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 05:44 PM |
| 116 | is planning the same weekend trip with a different girl one year later an issue?THIS. Why do you have this information? It’s not important to your relationship with him. Moving forward, reconsider talking past relationships with your partner. I do think this reflects that he is a creature of comfort (which has high correlation with lazy) and won’t be thoughtful. Alternately, he is “busy” and knows the logistical details well so it takes some of the work out of it. But I would never try to recreate the same memories with a new partner… PS The only thing that matters is that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 05:25 PM |
| 2 | scrotey man can masturbste ‘for hours’ but can’t hold an erection with his girlfriend. sex columnist advice ‘oh don’t feel ashamed, just communicaaaaate’☠️ the “non inflated” balloon imagery cannot be unseen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 08:06 AM |
| 147 | guys who say they don't know what they are looking for on old“I want to use you for sex and if I can’t find something better we can be in a relationship for a few years where I will use you for sex and therapy until I can find something better.” -said no man ALOUD ever | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:34 AM |
| 9 | Stick to your boundariesRelationships take skill and practice. Men who live a hook ups/ casual sex lifestyle don’t have the skill set for a relationship. Vulnerability, honesty, commitment, empathy can’t be cultivated “at the flip of a switch” as you poignantly stated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:33 AM |
| 236 | What has been your biggest bullet dodged, and which vetting strategy do you attribute to it?I know of zero happy relationships that begin with an inconsistent man. So if he disappears for more than 48 hours, I block and delete. Almost every time, they reach out and beg for another chance and then ruin that, too. So no more second chances. (Second chances means “I’m learning how to manipulate you.”) If he doesn’t follow through on something super basic that he said he would do…he calls at 8 PM like he said he would or he gets blocked. Follow through is not difficult for reliable, stable… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:03 AM |
| 4 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Agree. In my world, a gift adds value to the receiver’s life. It’s actually wasteful to but something for someone if they will not use it. I expect thoughtfulness from the tiny group of people I haven’t cut off.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:35 AM |
| 29 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Agreed. We need to “shamelessly” ask for gifts the way that men ask for sex/companionship/etc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:06 AM |
| 59 | I dumped the guy I was vetting over the birthday gift I received 🍪Maybe next time, say yes you do want a gift. And still dump him.😂. Because you are correct, that he even asked you is ridiculous and indicative of what a terrible partner he would have been. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 08:01 AM |
| 7 | Valentine’s Day Has Always Been the Saddest Year of the Time For MeAgreed. Forgiveness is overrated. Forgive yourself but block the other party and it’s great for them to know that you are angry and they should stay away. Forgiveness narratives are used to oppress. I am far happier and healthier now that people think of me as a “bitch” that will seek revenge than as an enlightened doormat. To each their own, but I am living my best life now that I allow myself anger and enforce consequences on people who attempt nonsense in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 12:16 PM |
| 9 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.Exactly. That was free labor and teaching him how to manipulate the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:07 AM |
| 39 | Negs her, calls her response a meltdown, asks reddit if he is wrong or if she is overreacting.I was already done when he made the “I’ve been busy” excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:03 AM |
| 23 | Harbouring resentment in future relationshipsI am 39. I attract as many men now as I did in the fictitious “prime years” of my 20s. But now I have wisdom to see that the vast majority (over 95%) are trying to use me for sex- just like in my 20s. And as you get older they are even trying to use you for your money. 🤢. In my 20s I was on rose colored hopium/crack about the abundance of good men in the world.🤣. “Abundance thinking” made me feel like there was something wrong with ME vs the reality that a lot of humans are not great or even goo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 10:56 AM |
| 10 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?THIs. I only have sex with men if I am okay with them being the father of my child. Which has meant no sex for me 🤣 I’m really disgusted by how many liberal men see abortion as a way to be heaux rather than as a conscious decision a woman makes for the good of a potential child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:44 PM |
| 8 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?I think he should be paying for all of it plus her recovery. His body is taking on NONE of the responsibility. Although abortions are a “safe” procedure she still has to take time off and process her feelings around it. If men don’t want children or are not ready, they need to her vasectomies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 04:40 PM |
| 11 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meEven if a man wants to provide, it doesn’t mean he can…and if he should fall ill or there be a recession, he can depend on you in a way that you cannot depend on him. Gosh forbid he passes away, does he have life insurance yo provide for you and the kids? This would always generate a thread of underlying anxiety for me. I dated a man who deeply desired to be a provider. But as he began to make more money: we both realized that it wouldn’t be enough for me (I love international travel whilst he w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 03:42 AM |
| 16 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as meAgreed. OP is in such a tight spot because at the end of it all she is in love with his potential. This is a huge risk. If she has great supportive family and is okay with getting baby trapped by him, then okay. But she must weight the reality that he will hold her back AND she will have children in tow. Realistically, he can’t start a family for at least 2 years. Not advice but she should dump him and move on. He can circle back when he has money in the bank. But what might terrify OP is that i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 09:12 PM |
| 45 | What to do?Confirm THEN trust. The “trust then verify” quote is from 80’s actor turned president, Ronald Reagan. He was also a proponent of “trickle down economics” and look how that is working out for most of the country. I don’t think OP should say anything to her husband but should be making an exit plan just in case. It is sinister that he is using therapy to deceive her! And his therapist either does not know because he is a narc or liar OR he has a terrible therapist. If OP is able to pull away I thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 01:05 PM |
| 10 | LVM / Dating down never worksHe was correct- you two are incompatible. But like so many men, he waited until after he got what he wanted (sex) to tell you what you both knew but you were prob being empathetic. Mantra: “I don’t do projects.” A man is ready to go and to your liking or you are out of there. This will filter out 95% of men which means that you will waste less time and have more energy for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 04:57 PM |
| 22 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.That is what bothered me. She didn’t have to add that second part. If a woman isn’t a “natural born provider” like you are, why demean her? Just do you. But just as she gains false self- esteem from providing for herself, she gains false self- esteem from putting other women down. She hasn’t learned that you do not have to earn a man’s love- especially not with money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:23 PM |
| 39 | This is one of those things that sounds "Cool" and "Empowering" when we are young with no responsibilities, but once you get saddled with a parasitic man that takes everything and gives you nothing, you will realize just how NOT cool or empowering this is.So not only does Elon refuse to pay taxes, now crowdfunders provide for the mother of his child, too? Sounds about billionaire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 02:20 PM |
| 68 | Oh god…this is so cringy and sad. Why is no one telling this woman to get some therapy? I have no words. This is far worse than just a PickMe.Yeah, therapy is not a panacea. It works for some people. But it didn’t work for me. I was even diagnosed and medicated as bipolar…getting money WAS the solution for a huge part of my struggle with “depression”. Going to therapy just retraumatized me and enabled me to stay stuck. Especially if you are not white and middle class therapy is not helpful. Also, therapy cannot replace a social support network. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 12:53 PM |
| 66 | Sometimes a woman is single BECAUSE she settled not because she was too picky.Happened to me. Tried to dump a guy like 20 times. He begged me to believe in him and his potential. Then tells me verbatim that he can’t be in love with my potential after 3 years and when I’m seriously down. And of course I’m 36 and have been in a fog of baby fever.😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:48 PM |
| 69 | Sometimes a woman is single BECAUSE she settled not because she was too picky.Yes, and usually after their self-esteem has been dragged through the mud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 11:46 PM |
| 26 | Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.Yeah, it bothers me that it is taboo to talk about how white women, just like white men can be average looking and be considered to be better looking than a poc. It is not my intention to disparage another woman’s appearance but I think that we don’t talk about it to coddle white women’s feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 09:17 AM |
| 14 | Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 09:14 AM |
| 79 | Pretty Privilege is Real, But False and Fleeting.My attempt to inject nuance…A beautiful woman is constantly bombarded by men that would like to use her as a free prostitute. But the self-esteem (which contrary to Western psych is NOT solely internally generated) and validation a woman gets from being beautiful does create a bit of a buffer. Every “hit” her self-esteem takes gets a boost with positive external validation- even if it is fleeting. Ultimately, the women with the most solid boundaries will be the most successful in life. No woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 10:58 PM |
| 84 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.bringshameback2022 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 77 | No more one sided relationships in 2022.Translation: “I’m bored and lonely. I neglected to maintain my relationships but are you still doormat enough to accept my effort to reconnect?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 10:21 PM |
| 32 | Thoughts on a male heaux phase?Men and women are promiscuous for different reasons. This isn’t a double standard, it is context dependent. The men I know who are promiscuous are usually morally bankrupt 🤡 with little respect for women. And they usually treat their sex partners terribly. The women I’ve met who engage in promiscuous behavior usually have low sel- esteem and are trying to get love/validation from a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/21 09:23 PM |
| 17 | Anyone else have "COVID glasses" about men now?Get out now. As soon as you dump him, he will be incentivized to change…temporarily. If you wait, this will continue for years if you let it. And then you will be more afraid to leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 06:04 PM |
| 18 | How does a HVM approach a woman?Also, does the chicken take advice from the 🦊? OP mentions that this is an acquaintance so I don’t think she should put much weight in what he is saying. He says he does this but he’s also single and so it might not be working for him. Also, he might alter his behavior for some women. The men I think are HV agree with not pursuing men AT ALL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 11:07 PM |
| 9 | Your thoughts on this guy?I agree with an above poster- he is using you for ego and emotional validation. Possibly setting you up to be a placeholder or emotional affair partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 08:24 PM |
| 93 | How does a HVM approach a woman?If a man ever gives you his card or tries to give you his phone number, just look at him doe eyed and blank faced and say, “What do you want me to do with this information?” I’ve never had a very interested man do this btw. Only men with low self- esteem or playing some weird game will do this “I want her to text/call first because equality”. A highly interested man with basic manners and healthy masculinity intact doesn’t behave passively or weaponize “feminism” against women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 07:41 PM |
| 599 | There are only double standards (vent)Women maybe cheat less because: A. Men are uglier as a class so women don’t have as much temptation. B. Men are more violent and the social consequences are harder on women. If women were naturally monogamous then why do places like Sudan and SA have laws that stone women for adultery? C. I hypothesize that young women with old, rich husbands cheat the most. But are they going to yap about it when it might jeapordize their livelihood? D. The “research”. People who cheat probably also lie about t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 03:14 PM |
| 18 | Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone?Where were we when we were younger ?🤣😂 I deeply regret the volume of people that I “gave the benefit of the doubt” and had limitless compassion for when really I was being a doormat and overlooking red flags. I didn’t know any better so I don’t feel ashamed but man I am still in awe that it took me this long to stop behaving that way. But I also got terrible advice from mainstream therapy, life coaching, and personal growth and development so hallelujah for FDS- it’s one of the few “systems” tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 10:45 PM |
| 65 | Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone?Your feelings are not right or wrong. So be annoyed. Because dropping off for 3 days isn’t cool if you and she have an upcoming trip. You can communicate this if you haven’t before. “Hey, it doesn’t feel good to me that you haven’t responded back to me in 3 days. Are you okay? Please let me know that you are okay within the next 48 hours.” This is just a template. If she is a friend, then she gets the “benefit of the doubt”. Unless this is a pattern of behavior with her- which I suspect that it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 05:03 PM |
| 29 | Help me stick to my wordBanal but true cliches: A. take it day by day and B. what is the exit strategy? Write out your budget in detail to move within 3 months with your to do list and expenses. 💡Get pissed instead of depressed. Anger is energizing which is why oppressed groups are discouraged from feeling it.💡. Use your anger to follow through on your list. Very important- other than your cat, what is one thing you do to get an endorphin rush daily? A daily practice like yoga, running, etc is free and will keep you sa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 09:43 PM |
| 112 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!We need to shame them! I haven’t had anyone try this on me but maybe it’s because in my early 20s a friend told me that if a man ever asked me to split or pay to look him dead in the eyes and say “I thought you invited me”. Then be quiet. If he pushes back? “I don’t have the money to pay for this.” Even with your wallet right there. Majority of 🤡 are relying on your “politeness” of not saying anything. So they will fake incompetence and take care of it. If he continues to push, then pay, block a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 03:39 PM |
| 45 | F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the worst shows I've seenTwo takeaways from SATC: 1. Destigmatization of the vibratory. 2. Don’t act like any of those women in real life. I don’t remember Charlotte as prudish- more like discretionary. I think the way lib fems talk so graphically about their sex lives in PUBLIC in earshot is kinda…off putting. I ❤️ girl talk and how we talk about things here anonymously but “don’t kiss and tell” is a good practice for your own privacy, the sanctity of your relationship and to not offend strangers that don’t want to hea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:58 PM |
| 134 | F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the worst shows I've seenYeah, not into it either. Maybe if you were a white straight person in the 90s that fantasizes about a lily white NYC it would be your zeitgeist. It’s a 🚩 for me when people love these shows. Add it to SATC, Seinfeld, etc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 12:09 PM |
| 69 | Men who don’t hold doors openYes. It is not okay if he is that lacking of spatial awareness and your presence to do that. You wait by the door. He comes back and you say something right then and there. Be prepared to walk. Also, this little stuff does matter. Do you want to be with a man that walks in while you have baby in carrier with no one to hold the door open? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:26 PM |
| 47 | Men who don’t hold doors openSometimes they’re just excited, too. Once I was in the car with a man after the end of the date. He wasn’t picking up on cues that I was ready for him to let me out. I could have opened the door myself but instead I said “this was so much fun! How do I get this door to open?” And I pretended to be an alien trying to get the door open. 🤣. He laughed, got out and opened the door for me. And did that every single time thereafter. Humor can be a great way of letting men know how to treat you. Altern… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 02:45 PM |
| 26 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!Fascinating. My experience with gay male friends is that they treat me better than most straight men. Like, they’re more chivalrous- opening the doors, paying for stuff and supporting me in being a queen. 🤣 Only huge issue I have had is a lot of them espouse lib fem lifestyle- like telling women it’s empowering to sleep with strangers. They still live under patriarchy so tons of mansplaining and whitesplaining, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 01:57 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]A broke man begged me to date him based on his potential. He was wise enough to treat me very well and I was wise enough to never go into my wallet to help him. (But he got the benefits of my cheerleading and the emotional labor and the confidence he got from having me as his girlfriend in addition to not having to expend his energy dating🤦🏽♀️) As soon as he started making enough money to no longer live paycheck to paycheck, he became arrogant. It wasn’t even that much money! He began to check … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 12:40 PM |
| 199 | Men who don’t hold doors openI stand by the door until he opens it for me. And if I am in the car, I also wait until he opens it for me. There are 2 types of men: The man who laughs and then opens the door for you. Because now he knows how you expect to be treated. The man who goes on a rant about “equality” blah, blah, blah. The man that does #2 IS a #2 but personified. I’ve never met a man who was a good partner to a woman that would balk at doing something so simple. It’s free and makes a woman feel good. So if he’s that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:45 AM |
| 50 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!99% agree but I think it’s important to be precise with language. So men can be acquaintances- people you like who you keep at an arm’s distance but no, straight men are not capable of platonic friendship with women. Also, the reason some men like “friendship” with women is that it fulfills his emotional needs so he can compartmentalize and use other women for sex and he never has to be emotionally vulnerable with his sex partner/situationship. This is why I am not friends with exes. Women who s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 11:18 AM |
| 109 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!I have male acquaintances but I do not have male friends. Don’t know if it’s nature or nurture but men do not make friends with women. If you are nice and have intimacy with a man the way that you have with your girlfriends, he will assume that you are interested. Or he is hovering you in the hopes that at some point he can have sex with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 08:03 AM |
| 4 | A huge red flag that I ignored. Never give him the benefit of the doubt.If a man is okay with you opening your wallet around him in the courtship phase, he is not that into you or he is cheap and/or broke. 💡Courtship phase is different than dating phase and is context dependent. I won’t even go out with men that make jokes or inquire about my finances. I think it’s incredibly tacky and usually these men are gold diggers with bad manners that think they are “edgy”. And I live by the adage “truth in humor”. If a man “jokes” about you buying him things or that if you b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:41 AM |
| 27 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tFor me the defining characteristic of a pickme is a woman who knows better and continues to behave otherwise. Most if us had a pickme phase. And some of us are still unlearning our pickme ways and have pickme “hiccups”. But there is a difference between people who are learning and growing and people who are willfully obtuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:17 AM |
| 113 | Negotiation tactic: always be willing to walk awayNegotiations 101: You have something I want. I have something you want. But 🤡🤡 don’t offer anything and then are confused as to why women are uninterested. Eg “Want to meet at a coffee shop near my house? You have to pay for your coffee because of equality. If I like you after talking your ear off for an hour than you can come back to my place and give me a blow job. And we can see where things go. Btw- I’m 44 and might want kids someday.” Something sinister happened in 🇺🇸 in the last 30 years t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:11 AM |
| 58 | When I’m doubt, DO NOT give men the benefit of the doubt.“Make exceptions for the exceptional.” But I’ve never ever met a man that proved to have such exceptional circumstances that he couldn’t send a 30 second text. Even if he had an injury, emergency, death in the family, etc that makes him feel too overwhelmed to communicate, it means he is not in the place to be starting a relationship. We are not grief counselors or caregivers to men we barely know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:01 AM |
| 34 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionTHIS! Some men like OLD because it gives them artificial opportunities- they think they have a chance with a woman who has a profile on OLD- but she would never look twice at him in real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 05:55 PM |
| 33 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionOmg☠️Flashback to a guy who tried to convince me that I should have casual sex with him because “a study was conducted on old people and their biggest regret was that they hadn’t had more sex.” In what 🤡 peer reviewed journal did he read that?🤣 I’ve never regretted passing on men that demonstrated how lazy they were. And if you online date, I have the impression that that is the rule not the exception. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 05:51 PM |
| 81 | Do Pickmes imitate their boyfriends?This is 10,000 percent accurate. I have experienced borderline abusive behavior from pickmes in terrible relationships. Instead of dumping the guy, they turn around and repeat the cycle with you. Because they have normalized terrible behavior in their own life- low standards, gaslighting, inconsistently- they think it is okay to do to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 04:10 PM |
| 187 | Men date you to level up. Don’t date men to level down.💯 Why are women shamed for doing a cost benefit analysis the way that men do? When an ex broke up with me it took me awhile to realize that the reason I was so pissed was that his life got better in every way being with me- he was making more money, got more confidence, etc…whereas I was constantly stressed out about the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 03:50 PM |
| 26 | Evidently it’s necessary to confirm upfront if their listed location is where they actually live 🚩I actually tried this in the hopes of meeting men- I would put in the location of a city I would be visiting. But I had it clearly stated in my profile the city I did live in. It taught me that OLD is trash everywhere 🤣 and FDS can be applied universally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 08:58 AM |
| 10 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileI met some nice men but I wasn’t attracted to a single one. I just think really attractive men with act together have lots of opportunities for meeting women in real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:15 PM |
| 10 | Want To Meet Decent Men Online? Write a Bitchy ProfileI think she got lucky. A lot of women have great profiles but if the men don’t exist… Also, their first date was coffee and it doesn’t seem like they have been together for that long. I think this is a premature call on her end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:13 PM |
| 112 | Older does not mean wiser and they always use the "she's such an old soul" bsAlso, you know why younger men love “older women”? They have no clue how old we are.🤣Majority of men do not look good after 25-30. We wear sunscreen and are under tremendous pressure to maintain our appearance so especially as we get older, there are always more attractive women than men. So many men flirt with me and don’t know my age or think we are similar in age because of how THEY look. I’m 39 but the other day I was flirting with a man who I thought was the same age as me. He was 32. Men a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveIt is a huge bummer that this behavior has been normalized. And I do think that there is a correlation of pickme women who engage with 🤡 and then turn around and do the same behavior to female friends. (The ghosting, the being unreliable, the acting like you are a convenience item or that they are doing you a favor by doing the bare minimum.). And yes, “friendship breadcrumbing” is a thing. I just block now when people do any of that uncouth stuff. They can follow me on Instagram but they don’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 04:08 PM |
| 14 | How to get guys to plan dates when they are the one traveling to you?A. The relationship you have with your girlfriends is not the same dynamics as the one you have with a man trying to have sex with you. So it’s not unreasonable to expect more. B. Good luck and let us know how it goes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveGirl, the “pop up then flake” phenomena is real! And soooo bizarre. And as someone who struggled with depression and anxiety for years, it makes me angry when people wield it as a constant excuse. It also just creates unhealthy behavioral dynamics where you are a free therapist and enabler. 🚨opinion 🚨 People like myself who struggle with this need accountability and compassion. And I’m the type to say so to someone, “If you are super duper depressed or anxious today, I’ll come to your place and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 11:22 AM |
| 77 | Van life with a grown up child! Any ladies jealous yet?I am scratching my head. Why is this aspirational for women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:59 AM |
| 22 | The post says it all. If he’s too “stressed out” to talk to you he’s not all that interested sis.What are the odds they are already sleeping together? She gets a crumb of validation, he gets easy sex when it’s convenient for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:57 AM |
| 28 | How to get guys to plan dates when they are the one traveling to you?“Nudging” energy is you doing work and is a sign that you can’t trust this man to plan a great date. Lean back. “Surprise me.” And drop a vague pin 10 minutes from your house (or wherever is convenient). Any adult man can Google or yelp for like 3-8 minutes to find something. Other than you letting him know about the types of food you like, this isn’t rocket science. And if he acts like it is, 🏃🏽♀️. 💡Dating you is a man’s advertisement of what kind of partner he will be. If you “nudge” this man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:52 AM |
| 32 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:Men and women can say the same thing and mean different things. When men say this it’s because they know, “I want convenient, easy sex from you with no effort or investment on my part” is NOT going to get them laid. These men know that the only place they want to go with you is to your bed. They are dangling the “commitment 🥕 “ with ZERO intention of committing. By contrast, when women want something “casual”, they don’t want to be future faked and love bombed. They are genuinely open to the pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:40 AM |
| 17 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:It’s the opposite. The “open minded” are usually people who are moderates that “see all sides”. They’ll tell you that you must listen to what Nazis have to say and that Dr. MLK wouldn’t approve but also “support our troops”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:35 AM |
| 29 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:It’s also code for “I’m racist and have conversations with my “more” racist friends to debate the human rights of others.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:33 AM |
| 42 | Here are a few OLD phrases to look out for as a High Value Women:Abuser territory. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:30 AM |
| 24 | Why do men gain weight after getting engaged?I will only date men with an active lifestyle because when I have dated men that don’t, I would gain weight and didnt engage in the things I love. And I would opt to watch tv instead if hit the gym if that man wasn’t into the gym.🤦🏽♀️ And the REAL zinger is that I’ve dated men who weren’t going to the gym themselves suggest that I lose weight/ change my diet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:27 AM |
| 67 | "Next time you feel sad because you don't look like another girl, remember that flowers are pretty, but so are the Christmas lights, and they look nothing alike"I am a tropical orchid. Some women are tulips or roses or daisies. They are all wonderful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:20 AM |
| 6 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveThat is such bad manners that she did that! Part of the paying for stuff (even with people I know well) is that I don’t ever want to make assumptions about people’s finances. This is another reason it is SOOOOO rude for a man to ask a woman out and then expect her to pay. 10,000% people who live in the bizarre “this is who I am” and I don’t need to make a good first impression are not people you want to spend time with with. I also avoid the “so busy social butterfly” who acts like they’re doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 09:16 AM |
| 7 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveMen love to compete for a woman’s affection. They want to know that she is desirable AND picky. And yes to your point that it is to a woman’s advantage for men to see their competition- sporting events can be a great place to meet men even if you don’t like sports.😂 They will do anything for the “treasure” as long as he knows/thinks he is the only one getting the treasure.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:59 AM |
| 51 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveAttractive men are accustomed to being hit on by women. Attractive men who like this are usually feminized or enjoy the easy sex. Unattractive and socially inept men are likely to say this because they aren’t getting the attention from the women they like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 12:16 AM |
| 30 | On subreddits outside of FDS women are coming to understand that being “independent” 50/50 women will only attract losersI met two Dutch guys once on vacation. Both paid for all of my stuff as they tried to outcompete each other for their perceived opportunity to smash. “Going Dutch” is 🤡 propaganda. Universally, if men like you they pay for your stuff. 🤡 and pickmes need to be mad at the truth, not me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:34 PM |
| 38 | On subreddits outside of FDS women are coming to understand that being “independent” 50/50 women will only attract losersThe only men who talk about gold diggers: A. Don’t have gold. B. Are themselves gold diggers and are projecting. C. Are also shameless sex diggers and youth diggers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:28 PM |
| 15 | As a Black woman I am (sadly) familiar with fetishization in the dating pool. Black women and other WOC, PLEASE be advised that LV potential suitors will not see you as fully human, just as someone who ticks a specific box.I went on a first date with a man who told me he wanted to marry a Japanese women because they are submissive. Context: He begged me to go on a date with him for months! To tell me about how I wasn’t even his type. What kind of next level red pill, 🤡 melange is this? Because I don’t want it! Do NOT give chances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 11:25 PM |
| 34 | On subreddits outside of FDS women are coming to understand that being “independent” 50/50 women will only attract losers“Dicks That Got Talent”- the show I do not want to watch but am unable to 👀 away from | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:34 PM |
| 7 | Need advice, feel like giving up on datingYeah, 7 times meeting over 3 months is not enough time. There is NO shortcut for spending hours with someone- seeing how they treat servers, seeing how they react under pressure, etc…. Im sorry that OP had this experience. Block him. He will circle back. At best he has little self- awareness and wanted sex with you so “the spark” excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:29 PM |
| 21 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspective💯 Men don’t even know this about themselves 🤣 but they love overcoming the feeling of anxiety/nervousness/anticipation from asking you out/. Do NOT rob a man of this! Stay quiet, breathe deeply and relish the awkward silence of him contemplating how to ask for your phone number/Insta handle. It’s one of the cutest things evah🤣 PS so many men think I’m mysterious when really I’m hungry or thinking about impending geopolitical conflict. It helps that I’m a former yoga instructor so I understand th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:35 PM |
| 7 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveI think 1 new good friend is jackpot! 💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:29 PM |
| 24 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveBecause gay men know that men are visual and are under pressure to compete. Women’s kindness combined with 🇺🇸 media have men convinced that they can be busted with ED and that we should just love them for their personalities. I’m not outrageous for saying that our “revolution” includes telling men outright that they need to look good for us. Otherwise we are setting them up for life as Quasimodo sex pests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 08:25 PM |
| 48 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveTbh I’ve never tried Bumble BFF because I think it presents some of the same issues as online dating- high degree of flake-itude and low investment. I know Covid seriously complicates things but my best way of meeting new people are structured classes where you will see the same people repeatedly over time and share a common interest. People are already there and have paid so way less likely to flake on you. Socializing as an adult is taxing when it’s on the “to- do” list. This is why we tend to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:53 PM |
| 143 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspective💡Unconventional feminist advice! But first- you might have a visceral negative reaction because it flies in the face of everything you have been taught… Take excellent care of your physical appearance, have 2- passions you pursue and always let men come to you. This is about energy management. Your looks matter but NOT in the way that society brainwashes you to think…I am not recommending plastic surgery or anything drastic. If you practice excellent grooming, always smell nice and dress well fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:24 PM |
| 114 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveI disagree in principle. Women already are paid less and have the deck stacked. So the “work” of pursuit is more unpaid labor. When we get to Equality Land, I will happily agree in principle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:12 PM |
| 117 | Pursuing men never ends well from the women's perspectiveThe reasons a man doesn’t approach and/or pursue you: He’s already in a relationship. Understand that humans get a lot of validation from just flirting and will “lie by omission”. So he will leave out that he is married and/or in a relationship. Also, he is “single” and has a few situationships and/or a harem of “friends” that fulfill his sexual and emotional needs. These women might even think that he is in a “relationship” with him. Do NOT make it easier for a man to cheat or “monkey branch” i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 01:08 PM |
| 41 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobYou want a man with options because men are as loyal as their options. What I mean- men who have options learn self- restraint and discipline and choose to be loyal and faithful. They see value in being invested in their relationships. When a man doesn’t have options, he might pretend to be grateful but if he gets a chance to cheat he will- because he is not accustomed to opportunities for sex. This is why hot men are just as loyal as ugly men. It is ugly man propaganda that an ugly man will be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:34 AM |
| 22 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobDoes not matter if it is nature or nurture…men still derive masculinity from providing. The only thing that will happen when you help a man level up is that he will go to another woman to feel masculine.😬. I’ve seen women who were paying all the bills be cheated on AND these men used these women’s money to court other women! I learned quite young to never bring my wallet out around a man. Keeps away the gold diggers and let’s you know how serious a man is about you. Also, when men are busy provi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:29 AM |
| 18 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobWhat job market do you live in?🧐 Because if you scour job searches in many places, people with advanced degrees (masters and PHDs) are being forced to work in the gig economy. Or to be paid $15/hr with no benefits. And a group that is incredibly HV is mother’s who leave the workforce are unpaid and then only have the options of minimum wage jobs because they have been raising children. I 100% support women in seeking partners that are excellent providers. My grandmother (like many women of post … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:24 AM |
| 16 | Just broke up with a sweet, funny, kind and attentive guy, because he works a minimum wage jobWhen an ex lost his job people tried to shame me for saying that I would not be staying by his side unless he got another job ASAP. 1. We were NOT married so I didn’t owe him that commitment. We hadn’t even been together that long. 2. If a man loves you, he shouldn’t want you to struggle! And he especially should not compromise your ability to keep a roof over your head and to live in a safe enviornment. The most ridiculous of all the 🤡🤡 I dated used to try to argue with me that “if I really lov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:19 AM |
| 55 | BDSM is falsely advertised as a way to heal traumaHonestly, gives me the “Burning Man” vibe. The only people I’ve met who are openly vocal about how “empowering” BDSM is are hyper privileged and otherwise bored with hot water, delicious food and their expensive hobbies. Until women who are being sex trafficked have a choice to NOT be prostituted, this isn’t a choice! Until domestic violence and sexual assault are NOT normal, this is not radical! Im disgusted by people like this…they’ve got the time and energy to do so many things that do NOT in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:02 AM |
| 64 | I need advice about workplace sexual harassmentGet out of there. If something bad should happen, the emotional, psychological and spiritual roll will be far greater than whatever the compensation is now. Your employer should know that if you feel this scared he is a liability. And I’m guessing he has done this behavior. Have you had a background check done? PS Have the phone on at all times- do NOt wait for something to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 09:55 AM |
| 29 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂What’s pathetic is that there are so many attractive women in his age group! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:04 PM |
| 125 | Precisely all the red flags we talk about 😂He’s kinda delusional to think he looks 44. He is a nice looking 54 but the rest of the profile kills it. Also, I’ve noticed that men who lie about their age usually do not want children but they know a higher percentage of younger women want children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 10:01 PM |
| 11 | Are all adults just getting dumber?I think it is very much true that majority of Americans do not have a global perspective. It’s not wrong or even bad but it is how the majority of the population is groomed. And I think this also extends to sometimes lacking in basic social graces and etiquette. The whole world talks about this btw…again, this isn’t bad or wrong. Every place on the planet has its issues but within 🇺🇸 I would agree that many people actively take pride in being ignorant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:40 PM |
| 23 | Are all adults just getting dumber?Im in Europe now and I have better conversations with people who speak ESL and have a nuanced global perspective than I do living in a big cosmopolitan city. You are not alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 08:34 PM |
| 7 | I need help analyzing this guy please.This is a NO for me. A. Didn’t pay for his breakfast.🤢. Didn’t pay for your breakfast. B. Tagged along with you for the day. He doesn’t have his own life. Also, make exceptions for the exceptional but usually when a man doesn’t have a plan or plan a nice date he is looking for easy, convenient sex. C. I think that “if you have to ask…” D. If you really feel a profound connection, then tell him you are busy for the week. He can ask you on a proper date or travel to your next destination to see yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:58 PM |
| 14 | I need help analyzing this guy please.I very much regret the year I was part of the couch surfing “community”. So many gross people. And yes, 💯 percent of the men looking to hook up. A couple of swingers even tried to “seduce” me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:54 PM |
| 7 | Friend completely ignored me at her wedding. Should I block her?I blocked a former friend after she called me a hypocrite and sent some rant in like 20 text messages. She wasn’t in a good place. But she is never in a good place. And if you cannot argue without name calling then we are not compatible. I will not be explaining that to a 47 year old woman. She has chronic pain and I have compassion but I also have boundaries and found that she was using that as an excuse to justify bad behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:17 PM |
| 5 | Friend completely ignored me at her wedding. Should I block her?Bring back the acquaintance zone! I think people’s feelings get hurt when they lack awareness about the intimacy level of the relationship. I only have “serious” conversations and do conflict resolution with friends and people who have earned that place in my life. Every time I’ve tried to “communicate” with anyone else- they usually resented me or wouldn’t respect basic boundaries- which is why they were in the acquaintance zone to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:13 PM |
| 3 | Friend completely ignored me at her wedding. Should I block her?Yeah, even if this “friend” is having problems, it is okay to notice that this has never been a relationship of reciprocity. I feel like by calling her back you are just getting back into the dynamic of rescuing her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:10 PM |
| 8 | Friend completely ignored me at her wedding. Should I block her?Sometimes you need to treat people the way that they treat you. She has not been a good friend to you. Nothing is going to change. You deserve better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:07 PM |
| 172 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?A. You are grieving. Treat yourself as such and cocoon. It won’t make you feel better but honoring your feelings helps them to be felt. B. I’m 39 so I’ve now witnessed a divorce wave, unhappy marriages and too many married men trying to start affairs with me. Slapped the rose colored glasses off of my face. C. This might scare you at first, but it set me free. Being in a content marriage with children is like hitting by lottery- IT IS RARE. And there is an element of luck. When you are ready beg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:32 PM |
| 31 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?When did so many 🇺🇸 men give up on being masculine? Makes me feel like the Sahara. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:44 PM |
| 142 | Do not let this mentality make you more susceptible to manipulation, gaslighting, and other forms of abuse. You do NOT need to ‘see things from his perspective’. All you need is block & delete!There is a difference between courting stage and relationship stage. …which is also why you should take the advice of people in ltr and marriage with a grain of salt. Of course people in committed relationships have to communicate differently and work through certain things. But if you’ve known someone for less than 3 months, you are not functioning as a unit yet and should adjust accordingly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:26 AM |
| 53 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?You could send him a vague map with a pin 10 min from where you live. But I agree with others here that this is not a good sign. The last minute planning for a reservation and making it convenient for him… I don’t consider it a date unless time, date and location have been established. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 06:23 AM |
| 52 | How do you feel about the comments hating on her? (Possible trigger warning)I’m deadly allergic to bees and I wouldn’t even have done you dirty like that!😅😭😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 11:20 AM |
| 152 | How do you feel about the comments hating on her? (Possible trigger warning)This is why you only date men who take pride in protecting you. Btw- truly masculine men do not start fights but they will not hesitate to defend weaker people than them. The last man I dated seriously told me that if anything should ever happen I should run and get help. He would take care of everything else…and def didn’t want me to see something that would traumatize me. Contrast that with a man I went swimming with and thought he spotted a shark, began swimming away and left me there. Circle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 07:56 AM |
| 50 | Roast-A-Scrote 🔥male narcissist edition 😝I used to think it was hilarious but now I just see that it is salve for the mediocre white man’s soul. Kind of like Joe Rogaine but supposedly funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 10:41 AM |
| 28 | I'm going to sound ridiculous...☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️ I live in existential torture that my logic doesnt override the reality that most men are 🗑. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 10:30 AM |
| 84 | How come ladies say you don’t want to be the “ride or die” woman to a man who grew to be successful with you?I dated a broke, very average looking man who got so arrogant once he started making enough money to not live paycheck to paycheck. So it wasn’t even beaucoup money. AFTER wasting my time, he told me to my face that I must have had low standards when I met him and the he couldn’t be in love with my potential. He had amnesia that he begged me to date him, begged me to believe in his potential and had thrown tantrums with crocodile tears when I had tried to break up with him multiple times. Dude s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 10:19 AM |
| 1 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerExactly. A young woman in love will invest in his business, but him a car, help him with his debt. All of the things men ought to be doing…It is not a double standard- it is context dependent. In another true story of a gold digger, I know a man who insisted marriage was just a piece of paper and wouldn’t marry his forever girlfriend and the mother of his 2 children. She came into money. Guess who got married? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 10:09 AM |
| 137 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerOr just date men in the same income bracket as you. I personally won’t let a man see where I live until I’ve been to his place. It will shrink your pool but it’s okay if you only want to date men in your same financial position. But even wealthy dudes can be stingy. It’s a conundrum many people envy. But I will no longer date men who have less than me because in the past men either try to bring me down or they get resentful. And a man will absolutely use your money to court other women. 😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 01:29 AM |
| 341 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerHonestly, hide your lifestyle and pretend to be “broke” around men. Stay vague and mysterious because his finances are none of your business. Gold diggers are disproportionately men. And the only men who have inquired about my finances either could not or did not want to provide for me. They were looking to see how they could upgrade their lifestyle by being with me. One of the BEST stories a multimillionaire man ever told me was that his daughters wouldn’t inherit until they were 40 because men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:36 PM |
| 15 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?Yeah, once I decided I was no longer going to give chances to men to whom I don’t feel attraction- my pool got reduced to men in their 20s.😂🤣 But seriously, clarity brings peace. It feels awful to sit across from a man and try to make yourself feel attraction your coochie doesn’t feel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 11:27 PM |
| 78 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?This must go in FDS lexicon. I saw some man telling a woman she should sleep with a man because at least she can have some sex. It really doesn’t occur to them that bad sex is not worth it for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:01 PM |
| 5 | Anne Boleyn Has Had a Bad Reputation for Nearly 500 Years. Here's How One Historian Wants to Change ThatMany of Mohammed’s wives he married out of pity… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:52 PM |
| 9 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaTbh I don’t have these conversations anymore because too many pickmes are willfully obtuse. I have compassion for women who have little experience and genuinely don’t know any better. But I’m also older than most FDSers, I have compassion fatigue and I’ve learned it is okay to prefer the company of women who are FDS aligned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:51 PM |
| 4 | Lala Kent Details The Moment She 'Got the F--- Out' of Randall Emmett RelationshipI don’t know who these people are but where is his neck? 🕵🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:06 PM |
| 100 | "Let's see where things go..."If a man really likes you, beyond sex, he is “afraid”/anxious of losing you from the moment he meets you. When men genuinely like you, they study you, ask questions and attempt to impress you and demonstrate how they will be a good partner to you. They are also consistent and ask to see you with frequency. But most women don’t know that over 99% of the men they will encounter in their lives are not looking to be a good partner to them. This has NOTHING to do with the woman. I get approached a lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:17 PM |
| 129 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?-orgasms 🏆🏆🏆 This is how bad sex is with some men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 03:56 PM |
| 22 | Story time: do not EVER date a man who admits to cheatingI had the project manager of men doing work at my home offer to buy me lunch. Like, did he know I overheard the conversation he had with his wife or girlfriend about how he was too busy to do XYZ? 🤢🤢🤢 I also began speaking in Spanish with some of the workmen when they erroneously thought I didn’t understand what they were talking about when they were getting vulgar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:28 PM |
| 91 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Not only did Thomas Jefferson’s wife know about it- she and Sally were half- sisters. 🤯 How can a 14 year old consent to sex with a 44 year old man that can have her and her family whipped if she says no? Also, this is pre healthcare and dentistry so he prob looked 60. It is grooming on steroids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:14 PM |
| 305 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?The “looks don’t matter for men” is one of the biggest manifestations of sexism in our society. Most men don’t try AT ALL. A man can’t control his height or hairline but many men also refuse to do basic skincare, physical activity, or matching their shirt with their pants. And even men who think they have “great personalities” usually just have basic social skills. For every woman who claims that she fell in love with her man’s personality even if she didn’t feel attraction- is she having orgasm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 02:03 PM |
| 96 | When pickmes parrot LVM propagandaCan we add?: “And in the mean time you pay for our dates. Since we are just casual.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:18 PM |
| 83 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekHis initial offer tells you everything you need to know. I used to think in the past that a man counter offering with dinner or a cute date AFTER I rejected coffee or drinks was a win for my “communication” skills. EVERY single time these men were lazy and/or cheap. If you have to “prod” a man to ask you to a nice dinner, it’s dead in the water. He will just play along until he can no longer keep on his mask. Last minute means he has no life or is hoping for easy sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 01:13 PM |
| 56 | Anne Boleyn Has Had a Bad Reputation for Nearly 500 Years. Here's How One Historian Wants to Change ThatLove this post. Also, Oracle of Delphi was greatest astute leader/“scammer” in Greek history. Lived on a side of a mountain sniffing noxious, hallucinogenic gases and giving counsel to entire Greek world.🤣 Cleopatra was like 20 when she meets STd riddled 60 year old Caeser. Her “love” for him may have also been that if she didn’t seduce him she would be taken to Rome, raped until she was barely alive and then marched through the streets having people spit on her. Edit: “hairline hypothesis” Juli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:24 AM |
| 7 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Honestly, I would rather have Clooney at his younger, hotter peak than what Amal got…🤭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 09:55 PM |
| 9 | A Different World: Was Dwayne Wayne LV?I like Gabrielle Union but she is a pickme and I can’t stand that she encourages other women to have a “ho” phase. Even if they were on a break, how irresponsible was he to get another woman pregnant? I will be unsurprised if they have a “conscious uncoupling” a few years down the line. I’m guessing they have an open marriage. At least he is rich and hot but I still couldn’t do it. She is in a stratosphere where most men are not going to be on that level so this seems like a good compromise for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:17 PM |
| 121 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?Loving a man for his potential 😭😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 11:00 PM |
| 70 | I don't think there can ever be too many reminders that: if he wanted to, he would.I think a man like this will treat all women like trash- so even if he met his mythical dream women- his dream woman would be a gorgeous Pickme who would accept coffee. Then he will treat her like trash, too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 01:24 AM |
| 27 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?There actually is a stigma towards men who are never married/no kids after 40. After 35, women talk about men like this quite viciously but women don’t control the media so you don’t hear it vocally. I even know many women who prefer to date a divorcee or divorced dad over men who have never shown that they’ve even tried to be in a formally committed relationship. And the reasons men and women are single after 35 are very different. Many women in this group don’t like their options so choose to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 03:49 PM |
| 4 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requestedI was an “ugly duckling” and as a teenager I thought being beautiful would solve everything. So this is my perspective now that I am considered “conventionally beautiful”. Also, my advice may not be culturally relevant to you as I imagine you are working with different variables in India. 💡Average looking women with self- esteem and healthy boundaries always do better in dating/love than beautiful (even gorgeous) pickmes.💡 So your best bet is to do what you can about your physical appearance and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 07:02 PM |
| 43 | Never feel bad about enforcing boundariesI had a “friend” call me a hypocrite over text and send a long paragraph and it felt wonderful to just say, “Ok. Best wishes.” And then I blocked. Name calling is a deal breaker for me and I am not going to explain that. And you know you have done the right thing when you feel relief. Boundaries take practice but they are wonderful! And you get better and better at them the more you practice. 💡It is HOW the other person responds that matters just as much as the boundary.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 01:44 AM |
| 51 | Is FDS a new take on dating or just the pendulum swinging back?Unfortunately, I think she is serious because she got a book deal and a TedTalk. But most dating and relationship advice is just shaming and scaring women about how we are too picky and shallow. There is a fundamental dishonesty about the “abundance” of suitable men available for partnership. Their businesses would dry up if they just told women “work on yourselves and live your best life and maybe the man will come along.” I DO find some value in telling women to have standards, boundaries, etc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 09:26 PM |
| 157 | Is FDS a new take on dating or just the pendulum swinging back?I ♥️ everything that you have written but when I saw whose article you linked…👀 yikes! The author does not have a foot to stand on other than having been married 3 times- unsuccessfully. I think she is borderline bat ish for claiming that she knows what it takes to get married. Or rather I should restate- she knows what it takes to get married- including to a man who slept with a 19 year old when they were in their 30s. Her article is drivel and devoid of any context as far as how women are play… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 08:50 PM |
| 35 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requested“Pornsick facism”! This is exactly what we are living with! Like, the lizard brain tyranny must be stopped.😂😭🥶 FDS is helping me keep my sanity because I no longer have the energy to argue with lefties who have ridden the pendulum into a different galaxy. I just saw a post about making kink “accessible” or anti racist and I just was hoping I was being trolled. Like, strategy has never been a strong point on the left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:14 PM |
| 28 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requestedThis wave of men in their 20s is WILD! I think it is because we still look good to them AND we have the confidence and flirting skills. When you are younger you think flirting is agreeing, being submissive and likeable. Which older, creepy men like and fuckbois also like. As you get older you realize that men can hate you and will still have sex with you, so you begin to say what you want. And 💡you realize that male validation has little to NO value.💡Younger men really love the bad bitch energy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 05:05 PM |
| 23 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requestedPlease block him. It might take you a few years to see it but he is a dbag. And he prob has anxiety because HE is aging out of dating younger women so he is trying to scare you into being with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 43 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requestedI am 39 and I know that men will be after me even when I am into my 80s at the nursing home.🤣😂. I hope that I will always be vibrant and playful in addition to looking “good for my age”. I have no idea what ahole tried to shame you for being 26 but they were seriously out of pocket. And people obsessed with “looking young” or “young looking” people give out desperation, youth vampire vibes. I am embarrassed for people like that… Be religious with sunscreen, water, retin A and your beauty sleep.😘… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:57 PM |
| 36 | Let me start by saying that cheating is terrible, but I cannot help but wonder if this "Wife-Girlfriend" of 10 years has utterly given up on him. I also like the "I guess" there at the end, suggesting a general passive-aggressiveness.Yep, and if he had been sober for long enough he might even have gone on to dump her and trade up… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:41 PM |
| 48 | Let me start by saying that cheating is terrible, but I cannot help but wonder if this "Wife-Girlfriend" of 10 years has utterly given up on him. I also like the "I guess" there at the end, suggesting a general passive-aggressiveness.Yeah, women cheat for different reasons that men do. If she even cheated…She may have wanted out of the relationship for awhile now but he guilts her into staying because he makes her feel like his sobriety is dependent on her. He lost me when he mentioned that they aren’t married and have been together for 10 years. Addiction is so intense and destabilizing for everyone involved. He sounds like a guilt tripper. Yes, cheating is wrong! But if I had a partner that behaved like my child and then t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:40 PM |
| 75 | Reminder: Time is precious.I am all about accountability but I don’t think I waited too long…I operated out of fear and the sunken cost fallacy within a society that told me to “make things work”… I knew for a long time that the man I was with wasn’t my best match but making decisions in your 30s IS different than in even your late 20s. So I hesitated leaving a relationship because of my fears about not meeting anyone in time to have a family because pickings feel non- existent after 30. In 🇺🇸, most men who are family ori… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 04:21 PM |
| 18 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."Just because something becomes acceptable does not mean that women will choose it. Eg.., It would be acceptable for me now because I come from a progressive family and live in a progressive area and can buffer myself from bigots. But I still do not choose that…I do think there are many women who aren’t as straight as I am so yes, for a woman with more fluid tendencies this is great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 03:53 PM |
| 186 | Reminder: Time is precious.I think every women should know about the “sunk cost fallacy” before she enters into a relationship. Also, men should know that they too have a “peak desirability” and that it is 18-35 max- if they take care of themselves. I see too many men that are 25 but look 40. For women, if you take good care of yourself men don’t care about your age if they are attracted to you. 🤣. Also, even if you do NOT want marriage anytime soon or ever- only date men that you wouldn’t mind being married to…because th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 02:36 PM |
| 315 | "Men don't actually like women, they want to have sex with female anatomy, but they don't like women."“Attraction to straight men is proof that sexuality is not a choice.” I would be a lesbian if sexuality were just a social construct. I even tried kissing a woman once and I just don’t feel the sparks I feel with a man. And I’ve met hot butch women that were “masculine” but something is missing for me. I imagine it is similar to how gay men can appreciate beautiful women but do not want sex with them. Like my choices are that I can get with a hot Angelina Jolie look- alike or a schlubby Seth Rog… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 01:04 PM |
| 194 | Older women of FDS, your wisdom is requestedWhen I was in my 20s and early 30s, I used to be so scared of not being desirable to men as I get older. But now that I am 39 upon reflection: Male validation has very little value. We are human animals so we do benefit from some positive external validation but the lion’s share of validation we get from straight men is that we are “fu**able” and that they want to do pornogrphic stuff to us. Ladies, over 99.9% of men you encounter will not become your husband or even a fun, respectful date so do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 10:21 AM |
| 19 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceNobody behaves more single than a married man…than a married man with a newborn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:04 PM |
| 42 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceShe didn’t say anything “wrong”. It’s just oversimplified which is what most social media clips are… When you are in a good place, it’s easy to not take what she says personally. And her message isn’t for everyone so she doesn’t need to adjust her language t make it for everyone. But it gives me faux- powerment vibes… In a bizarre paradox, telling women to “just love themselves” can make some women feel worse because they are weak, stupid, myopic, or not strong enough to see men’s 🗑 behavior for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:56 PM |
| 32 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side piece💯 Personal growth and development, religion, the therapy industries will NOT benefit from calling out systems of harm. Much easier to blame individuals. Im for balance. Acknowledge what you can control and have awareness that there are some things you cannot control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:04 PM |
| 18 | Who’s the best example of a HMV celebrity?Meghan is a come up for him.🤣 She is better looking and is now showing him how to make his own money. If he wasn’t a Royal then there just isn’t anything that special about him. 🤷🏽♀️ He is “protecting” them but it’s not like he decided to become a pauper or even a “commoner”. He gets to break free from a controlling family that caused his mother’s unhappiness, have a family with a beautiful woman and get millions of his own money now vs just inherited wealth for just waving st people in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:30 PM |
| 31 | She has far more patience than meI think I would have slowly inched away from him and then stepped on the gas pedal to get out of there. He is unhinged and you cannot rationalize with someone like this so do whatever you need to do to get away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:24 PM |
| 238 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceI ❤️ everything she says…minus telling women that it is their lack of self-esteem, etc that causes them to not see their worth/ options. Lack of self- esteem, self- love or self- worth is NOT a reflection of personal weakness. It’s a reflection of being born into a crap family and/or being treated badly by society at large. She has a great message but self-esteem and self- worth do NOT happen in a vacuum. And we need to stop blaming women for “not loving themselves” enough when our culture is bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:21 PM |
| 25 | Amazing response by a woman who was prepositioned by an LVM to be his side pieceAgreed. I no longer spend time with straight men unless other people are around or it is a date. Many married men get an ego boost just by talking to us and deluding themselves that if they wanted to, we would welcome their advances. A married man with a child should be too busy for a casual catch up lunch with a single acquaintance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 05:17 PM |
| 31 | Importance of political beliefs?It could “work” if you are okay being with someone who doesn’t believe in the fundamental human rights of other groups of people. I don’t know of any of these pairings but I highly suspect that women that marry men like this have higher rates of alcoholism and maladaptive coping behavior because they literally cannot discuss values with their supposed best friend. I don’t even need to talk politics with people to suss out what their values are…but your politics are absolutely a reflection of you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:56 PM |
| 158 | Communicating after a first date: am I being a pickme?This is what I do. Huge smile, “Thank you for such a lovely experience. The thoughtfulness is so appreciated.” Unless you FORGOT to say thank you at the end of the date, I think it is a nice but unnecessary gesture to send an additional text. Only men who feel entitled or have issues will get angry with you for not being overly thankful. The men you date are not looking to be your friend so do NOT treat them like you would a girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 04:51 PM |
| 233 | Anyone else become disillusioned with their male friends?Straight men can be acquaintances but def not friends. Part of this is because most men are socialized to only be nice to their mothers, family and women they are attracted to…so when you are nice to them/ a good friend they will assume that you are attracted to them. Some men are only friends with women to use us as social proof. I used to be a yoga instructor and men would tell my female students how they studied with me as a way to lower the women’s guard. “Well, if he has studied with her he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:55 PM |
| 91 | When a Man Negs You, Find a Way to Turn It Back on Him10,000% it’s “just communicate” but actually helpful! Since I began matching energy, people are a lot more careful with how they talk to me. And what a freaking radical experience to have other people have to think about how they are impacting you vs you always tiptoeing around their feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:47 PM |
| 8 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Yikes. 💡Make exceptions for the exceptional.💡 But 98 % of human behavior is a pattern… Your friends story only becomes a success story if she feels great about her quality of life and he doesn’t diminish it in some way- so we will never know. I think you are right to intuit codependency vibes. I personally am not attracted to men that have to be prompted to make good life decisions to benefit us as a couple. His motivation is external so if that goes away… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Do not date men who are “separated”.I’d prefer a divorced man > a never married man who strings women along and wastes their time. But I have also mostly lost interest in men over 40. I am going to try dating younger because all relationships require that one tolerate nonsense so I at least want a full head of hair to tug on and someone nice to look at.😂🤣😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 11:10 AM |
| 35 | I haven't seen a disgusting serial dater like Pete DavidsonIs he even funny? He gives me Jimmy Fallon vibes. Mediocre white men that are “hot” only compared to Seth Rogan and Larry David and Napoleanic 🤡 like Kanye. Men don’t even have to be hot anymore to be considered hot. And most men’s comedy is a dude whining about his diagnosed mental illness that he refuses to get treatment for.💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 10:44 AM |
| 8 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡So much trash behavior is normalized and excused and when we address it, we are the “difficult” or “demanding” ones. If something is important to YOU, then people who care about you will respect that. My birthday is important to me so even if birthdays generally are not important to a friend, they will celebrate mine. I’ve learned that anyone who insists otherwise is selfish and/or lazy. I dumped a man who didn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day. The pickmes in my life thought I was being harsh b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:27 AM |
| 127 | Never beg a man to marry youI feel sad for her. I was in a situation like this but could not see that I was being low key manipulated. She is confused by the highs and the lows of the relationship and she is putting icing on a shit cake. He is lying to her about social media. Her gut knows this but it is being overridden by societal pressure and the sunken cost fallacy. I had a man beg me to take him back and promise marriage and children and less than 2 weeks later he refused to discuss any concrete plans about the future… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:12 PM |
| 6 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Hmmm. I do think there can be space to see this as context dependent vs a double standard. Women tend to leave relationships for different reasons then men do. You gave your husband the legal paperwork to terminate your marriage and it sounds like he didn’t want to sign as a way to continue being tied to you and controlling you. So I think that is different than if you were just afraid to be alone and jumping into a new relationship. Make exceptions for the exceptional. It’s just that frequently… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:07 PM |
| 10 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Um, do you want to have a messy conversation with the wife to verify that? And do you want to date a broke or cheap man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 11:02 PM |
| 2 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡It took practice and I didn’t have FDS or anyone to counter these nonsense aphorisms. So hopefully you get fast tracked to where I am😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:28 PM |
| 78 | Do not date men who are “separated”.Separated is still married. If he tries to behave like it is anything else, he doesn’t take ANY type of commitment seriously. Also, starting in your mid-30s you will begin to encounter a lot of men like this…”recently separated just waiting for the ink to dry”. Do NOT waste your time. Any man who has respect for his partner- even is she is about to be an ex- will not try to jump into another relationship. It is very common for men to use a new woman as a transition or rebound. He goes back to hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 09:13 PM |
| 26 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡👸🏽bitch is my mood for life. 🤣😘 I seriously am in awe of how much better my life got when I stopped making excuses for people. Clarity brings peace to your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:34 PM |
| 28 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡Eastern philosophy is written by the “priest class” and universally religious men are corrupt and know how to get people to obey without thinking critically. Religious theology is a tool for social control. That so many white liberals are “seduced” by Eastern philosophies is actually unsurprising if we dig a little bit beneath the surface. Karma is wonderful if it means that you deserve to be born into wealth! “Don’t take things personally” is easy to say when you are at the top of the social hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 08:31 PM |
| 59 | Life hack: 💡Yes, there is a time and a place to “take things personally”.💡Exactly. It’s just another way women are trained to be walking free therapists for anyone they encounter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:44 PM |
| 9 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupYep. 🤡 feed on “doormat” behavior. PS Notice how many men HATE that Carrie Underwood song about how she did serious property damage. But they don’t have that same energy for men that cheat. Just the other day, I suspected that a man was trying to tape me with his phone. So I kept looking directly at him and giving him dirty looks. And I premeditated that if he began taping me as I exited the pool I was going to approach him, be polite and then throw his phone in the pool. I’m done being nice. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 24 | Annoyed with How Pressured Women Are Not to Be Angry or Bitter After a BreakupI ❤️ this post but I think it is necessary to inject nuance. I think people make great points that this is context dependent. 💡What I have learned is that it is good for people to know that if they screw you, there will be consequences. 💡Even if a man is a narc, this will impact his behavior. He will want to shield himself from public embarrassment. Even if he makes you look “crazy”- he will not enjoy the hassle of having to replace his stuff if you say, do some property damage. Story time📚: I t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 04:39 PM |
| 34 | Mom said something that really bugged meI am beyond lucky that my mother has NEVER pressured me to get married or have children. But society brainwashes us so much I used to get upset that my mom didn’t “want” that for me. She does have some emotional unavailability tendencies. Anyway, normalize single > shitty relationship. Normalize not gaslighting and blaming woman about the lack of suitable men for partnership. Maybe it isn’t a woman’s “limiting beliefs” or “scarcity mentality”? Maybe it’s the reality of growing up in a patriarchy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:56 AM |
| 58 | Your commitment/attention should be hard-earned by men who want to court you.Being a “bitch” is a life hack! Being respected > being “liked” And notice that being a “bitch” usually just means that you do not act like everyone’s mommy. You just live in the expectation that adults around you behave like adults. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 10:51 AM |
| 148 | I will let you guys tear into this one 🤣 keep in mind that the screenshots are NOT from a dating app so that makes it even worse. This app is solely for writing letters to people in different countries and making friends🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣I mean a not phallic cool purple mushroom does sound cool! Is this red pill satire? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:43 AM |
| 45 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.I don’t get it either. The same for Anthony Bourdain. Travelled, ate interesting food and has basic social skills but he’s elevated as some foodie star… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:08 AM |
| 45 | Mom said something that really bugged meAgreed. You may want to practice changing the subject or grey rock when people do this to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:00 AM |
| 22 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)We can hope? Harvey Weinstein was “happily married” even though it was an open secret he is a predator. Bill Gates and Melinda seemed like goals but it’s being floated that she filed for divorce because of his relationship with Epstein. NOT meaning to discourage you but we never know what goes on behind the scenes and especially with nefarious types they are masters of PR.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 06:39 AM |
| 51 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.Men who forgive deadbeat fathers or idolize fathers that abandoned them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.It’s w-i-l-d. They see us as toys that they can pick up off of shelves and put down at their convenience. It is more justification for block and delete. normalizeconsistency2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 09:01 PM |
| 79 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)He was 80s/90s writer icon. “Pretty in Pink”, “Say Anything” “Sixteen Candles” “Breakfast Club”. All of his films are usually nerd gets girl after pestering her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 17 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.📝📝📝 (hopefully my vetting is good enough now I don’t get stuck with any more 🤡 but just in case…) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:55 PM |
| 91 | Kinds of men that should be a deal-breaker but aren't, for majority of women, idk why. Note: some are a mix of all these.I’ve been on dates with men who tell me about the models and beauty pageant winners they have dated.🤣🤢. Best case scenario, they are trying to insinuate that they are accustomed to dating women as beautiful as me. But they just come off as shallow and insecure. Worst case scenario they are trying to neg me and make me feel like I’m lucky they are interested.😂🤣. And it is NEVER the hot ones that do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 467 | Type of man to avoid: the brosocial or homosocial manAlso, watch out if you don’t like his friends. They are a reflection of him and who he seeks counsel from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 05:36 PM |
| 192 | LVM blocked by ex decides to plaster self-indulgent hoover letter all over her new neighbourhood (French)A narc ex of mine was excellent at these “romantic overtures”- especially public declarations. And women don’t realize that this is red flag behavior because the men that run the media are 🗑- it’s the John Hughes template. One of the most influential romcom writers was a 35+ man with a 16 year old as his muse 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:57 PM |
| 16 | Model Christy Giles Found Dead at 24 - three men dropped her dead body outside of a hospital after drugging her and her friends during a night out. THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T TRUST MEN AT ALL.Yeah, a much overdue but VERY difficult conversation to be had is how much beautiful women are hated on by other women. And it is absolutely true that people assume life is easier for conventionally beautiful women. For women, it seems to be a dichotomy of be ignored/invisible/abused if you are “plain” OR be put on a pedestal but also get negged and treated like you are a bitch when you exercise basic boundaries. I had a former “friend” who claimed to be a feminist consistently try to take me do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 02:53 PM |
| 26 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Women are NOT more naturally monogamous. Women have less temptation because men are allowed to be ugly and there is no pressure for them to appeal to us. Why do countries like Sudan stone women for adultery? Women are just as unfaithful but the social penalties are more brutal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 11:19 AM |
| 4 | Sugarbabies and the trope of "modern dating through female empowerment!"This is why I now refuse to call it sex work. It is prostitution. And manipulating the language does not help the vulnerable women that are “choosing” this work. In my entire life, I have never met a woman with an education and career or from a well to do family that has opted to prostitute her body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:27 AM |
| 3 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagIt’s context dependent so there will be some trial and error. There is a difference between outright lying to people about your history of mental illness and just reserving it as privileged information that people have access to when they’ve demonstrated that they are safe. 💡Even if someone does not have mental illness It doesn’t mean they don’t have their own skeletons and yet we don’t shame them for guarding that info.💡 Eg…, if someone tells you on a 2nd or 3rd date, “I do not ever want to dat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:21 AM |
| 8 | Leveling up from your PickMe pastYes, I won’t call her LV but I dropped a woman for these 🚩🚩: 1. Wouldn’t call when she said she would call. 2. Always had the excuse of being “too busy” for flaking. 3. Was unaware that she was trauma bonding and over sharing her life history. Was asking me way too many personal questions early on. 4. Was “too nice” to people and thought I was bitchy for refusing to be nice to ppl who were making me uncomfortable. A pair of swingers were hitting on us at a bar so I made my exit and I had the imp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:12 AM |
| 7 | Pick mes like this are the reason bisexual women have to hide our sexuality.I was OFFENDED when I was propositioned by couples as a unicorn. Their behavior is predatory! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:03 AM |
| 7 | Pick mes like this are the reason bisexual women have to hide our sexuality.I knew my relationship was over when an ex ogled 2 beautiful women right in front of me. He had never done that during our relationship and it was just one of a cluster of behaviors that he was doing. Also, this was a man who had said that “people were going to think he was rich because he was dating me”. I will never again date a broke, average looking man. Sadly, it is true that some men build their self- esteem by tearing you down. I exited that relationship confused as to how I went in a con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 08:00 AM |
| 12 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Property damage is non violent action.🥶. A. He will have to work to replace his stuff so he won’t have time to be out in the world tricking other women. B. He won’t have the resources to attract other women. This is just my justice fantasy because this world is so unfair. I’m not advocating a woman do this- but given that men treat our bodies like property to defile- they are wild to think that us exacting consequences i for the harm they do to our bodies is “crazy”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:46 AM |
| 22 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.“Wyd” or “I’ve been thinking about you.” Or “I’ve been so busy.”? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:42 AM |
| 5 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagI agree with you. I will not date someone who has an unmanaged or unmanageable mental illness. But if a man revealed to me that he had a depressive episode in college, it prob wouldn’t deter me. I now successfully manage my “severe depression”. But I’m also unconvinced that the Western therapeutical industrial complex diagnosed me accurately. Mood swings/ disorders that are the result of trauma and adverse life experiences are NOT the same as schizophrenia/BPD. Again, your standards are your sta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:36 AM |
| 5 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagAgree with everything but No, there is no way to definitively state that mental health is extremely hereditary. Epigenetics. The zip code you are born into will determine your quality of life and mental health just as much, if not more than your genetics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 07:08 AM |
| 16 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.I bet he has man boobs.💅 If possible, go on a swim date with a man before becoming exclusive or sex. A. You can see his body and if you find him attractive. I just can’t with man boobs or short, pencilly arms. B. If you do not feel comfortable being in a bikini around him, do NOT get naked with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:59 AM |
| 63 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.I had a 48 year old man call me after 2 dates and tell me that “in the spirit of transparency he was going to pursue a relationship with another woman”. I told all of my girlfriends that he met another woman who was going to put out and that he would be back and that his “honesty” with me was a manipulation tactic to seem like a “nice guy” and leave the door open. I got a text from him LESS than a month later. This solidified my passion for block and delete. Lessons learned: 1. Don’t date men yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:52 AM |
| 49 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Don’t be ashamed. Shame is for when you know better and choose not to do better. Instead, feel sad and angry that there are nefarious types out in the world that are okay with hurting you. This is why I have a huge issue with how women are encouraged to share their bodies with men they barely know and then are also shamed when they “can’t handle casual sex”. Like, maybe it is unhealthy to be treating something like sex so casually? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:44 AM |
| 227 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.It’s always the uggos that obsess over women’s looks and then neg women vastly more attractive than themselves. It’s like they need to find a hot women to help them produce better looking spawn. Hot men might do this but if so, they do it privately. One of the most important things women need to do as a class is to unapologetically speak about our desires- yes, our physical desires, too. Too many men tell me to my face that they want younger women and then are shooketh when I’m like, “I want som… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:39 AM |
| 29 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Back in my pickme days, I let a man I had gone on 3 dates with continue to call me after I told him I didn’t want to date him anymore because he felt that we could be friends. The reason I was a pickme was because he continued to call me a few times after that and tell me how he was dating a woman but she was too fat and he was hoping she would lose weight because he really liked her personality and she was in Med school. Of course he was sleeping with her and eventually dumped her because she w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:26 AM |
| 51 | Model Christy Giles Found Dead at 24 - three men dropped her dead body outside of a hospital after drugging her and her friends during a night out. THIS IS WHY YOU DON'T TRUST MEN AT ALL.Agreed that male validation is vastly overrated and fleeting. But I think all women get abused. But with conventionally beautiful women, people are more likely to have empathy or find her believable.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 06:04 AM |
| 53 | Ladies, please do not sleep with a man early on. This is what will happen.Men are not thinking clearly before sex. Women do not think clearly after sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:39 PM |
| 15 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagI only disclose personal trauma and my mental health history when it is necessary or relevant. And it mostly isn’t anymore. If a man were to ask me I would feel comfortable asking him to qualify himself as to why he wanted to know privileged information. I would never lie but I would be skeptical of someone who wanted to know just to “know me better”. And any HV person will respect you if you say, “That is incredibly personal, I don’t know you like that yet.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:11 PM |
| 49 | A man disclosing his mental health/therapy habits early on is an absolute red flagThere is nothing wrong with having a mental illness but you will still be stigmatized and shamed for it in some contexts. It is not right or fair but it is the way things are. And it is not up to us as individuals to destigmatize mental illness. I have actually seen many therapists encourage harmful behavior- chasing men, reaching out to people who clearly are not interested, “communicating” with narcs and abusers so I’m no longer a fan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:04 PM |
| 11 | What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date?The American Psychological Association issued an apology for being complicit in systemic racism… There is little evidence that therapy even works. I know many people here advocate for it but I did it off and on for 20 years and I feel annoyed that I wasted so much time and money. Many therapists may be well intentioned but they are the main purveyors of “just communicate” and they are not usually skilled in helping their clients build supportive networks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 12 | What do you think about a man opening up and telling you he goes to therapy on the second date?It’s “tell rather than show” behavior. In my experience this type of oversharing is a way of premature bonding. I would be very turned off by this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:53 PM |
| 4 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmYes, I’m not into tantra at all unless drugs are involved.😂. Like between 8-20 minutes with amaze foreplay is 🧑🍳 kiss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 05:06 PM |
| 21 | FDS when you're down on your looks😘😘😘thanks! Also, if you do the aforementioned things, it is likely the stress relief will lower your cortisol level and you might lose weight. It is a myth that you need difficult exercise/ diet regimes to lose weight. Do NOT take personal responsibility for growing up in a culture that has taught you to think that your worth is tied up in the way you look. Most self- help is nonsense and devoid of the science of how humans actually work. You are NOT weak or crazy for struggling to detach from d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 02:29 PM |
| 76 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmHealthy, masculine men LOVE naked snuggles. And I wish more women knew that you should only have sex with a man that loves cuddling you. If a man doesn’t enjoy cuddling, higher probability that he sees you as sex on legs vs a whole person. Sex education is so terrible and extreme in 🇺🇸- it’s either abstinence and shaming or porn/lib fem casual sex culture. I just can’t imagine being intimate with a man that didn’t take pride in making me happy-including sexually. 👀Look how when women have troubl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 10:13 AM |
| 47 | Do NOT procreate with bum ass men!It is men that trap women with babies NOT the other way around! The men who are afraid of being baby trapped are always broke and make terrible fathers! And they refuse to get vasectomies! I had an abortion instead of being a “baby momma”. I have never ever regretted it. A man who will let you have his child but will not protect you or HIS child legally! Also, forever girlfriends do NOT leave because they know they are discriminated against as single parents. And if the man is a decent father th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 09:03 AM |
| 192 | FDS when you're down on your looks💡Being conventionally beautiful will attract more men that want to have sex with you NOT men who want to love you and be a good partner to you.💡 Yes, your looks matter. BUT this is easily worked on and you do NOT need to be perfect. Instead of focusing on losing weight, focus on impeccable grooming- if you always smell nice, always moisturize, get adequate beauty sleep, drink water and gently move your body both your mood and looks will be positively enhanced. Also, physical movement like exerci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:21 AM |
| 3 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.It’s like playing the lottery. A tiny, statistical anomaly DO win. I think the experience could be better depending on your “market”. I tried it in many major US cities and will not try it again. But a small town where people know each other and you just haven’t overlapped might be a better experience. Also, it can be a good strategic move for people with niche lifestyles- like Christians or vegans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:09 AM |
| 11 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.Yeah, I thought that was bizarre. She was effectively shaming women for behavior she engaged in and had success with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 07:05 AM |
| 39 | Let’s count the red flags together!Yes, it was rude that she was late and didn’t apologize for it but he isn’t pissed about that- he is angry that he isn’t getting sex for $100. Also, what does her driving a nice car have to do with him paying? He sounds like a gold digger to me. Also, I wouldn’t have shown up if a man expected me to circle for 30 minutes to find parking. And hopefully it wasnt in a sketchy part of town. I ask men up front what the parking situation is and the majority of men tell me they will take care of valet.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:32 PM |
| 213 | Perfect explanation on why you should NEVER date or marry down!Every time I have dated a man with less money than me, he has resented me and tried to make me feel bad. You want a man who has lots of options and chooses to be with you out of his options just as you are choosing him from your options. When a man has options he learns discipline and self- control. When you “give chances” to the man who asks you to bet on his potential, he thinks you are a sucker for being loyal to him! I literally had a man tell me to my face that he couldn’t “bet on my potent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:42 PM |
| 12 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.Yeah, I’ve heard that about Nordic countries. One of my sisters lived in Sweden for a year and even though people were not unfriendly she was profoundly lonely because of how hard it was to make friends. You may have to surrender to making friends with expats for now. Language classes might be good or some kind of cultural immersion? 💡We can get our social needs met without having deep friendships. Obvi, deep, intimate friendships are THE BEST but sometimes that is just not an option. I think th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:36 AM |
| 15 | "Hyosung (Korean idol/celebrity) targeted at anti-feminist protests after participating in campaign against dating violence"At least it’s a mildly creative fetish?🤣☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:04 AM |
| 16 | "Hyosung (Korean idol/celebrity) targeted at anti-feminist protests after participating in campaign against dating violence"I’ve never met a hot Brit, ever. And I spent 6 weeks in London. It’s the teeth for me. Even Prince William and Harry are pretty average looking…those “royalty goggles”. At least Australians are decent to look at. Italian stallion is also a marketing coup/scam (depending on how you look at it). If you like tall, Germans and Scandinavians are nice to look st but talking to them us akin to waiting for water to boil. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 10:02 AM |
| 29 | "Hyosung (Korean idol/celebrity) targeted at anti-feminist protests after participating in campaign against dating violence"I, too, am baffled at how 🇺🇸 men seem to have zero desire to appeal to the female gaze. And the homo-haters are the most homoerotic! Men are men everywhere but 🇺🇸 men think they can look like garbage and be mean and that we will see them as masculine. A big part of me culture shock of travelling in places like 🇦🇪 and 🇷🇴 is that a larger percentage of men know how to flirt and their clothing, hair, basic grooming is intact. Straight men even take dance classes! In LA, the hotter a man, the higher… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:57 AM |
| 26 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.So you used Tinder to find a HVM but now are discouraging other women from doing the same? Do you see how that might be confusing or perceived as lacking in self-awareness?🧐 It’s great that you are the exception but it’s a bit myopic to criticize women who just didn’t get lucky like you did. And in the same breath that you tell women how to be HV, you are saying not to look for a partner but that OlD is how you scored your HVM?📝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:44 AM |
| 8 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.Can you join a sporting club/ team where you will see the same people every day? Fitness is my fave way of meeting people. You don’t have to talk a lot- esp if there is a language barrier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:40 AM |
| 14 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I’m grateful that FDS helped me get off of the hopium I was addicted to apropos online dating. I think I still tried OlD for like 6 months after reading many posts here at FDS. New information isn’t always readily digestible. And like working out on your physical body, change does not happen overnight for most people. Online dating is like playing the lottery. A teeny, tiny percentage of people WILL win. But they are a statistical anomaly. And in online dating you will encounter borderline abuse… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:37 AM |
| 39 | Y’all do not be hating LVM enough for me.I think we all have pickme tendencies because we are baptized in it before we swim in it. This post cracks me up because it seems to live in the notion that all women deserve protection and empathy without regard to their behavior. And now the women who are calling out trash pickme behavior are somehow more cruel than woman who are purposefully inflicting harm. There are benign pickmes that really don’t know any better (this is most of us at FDS) or have grown up in traumatic circumstances. But … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:30 AM |
| 47 | Where the lie 🤣🤣🤣I seriously cannot believe how many men have asked me about my finances on first dates!!!🤯 And the same men who herald 50/50 are the ones who look for “independent women” with women who obviously have more money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:19 AM |
| 55 | Thanks to female dating strategy I am watching movies with a different set of “glasses” on.And he is fugly! I can’t watch any film with a huge looks gap- it just depresses me. And in almost all cases of interracial romance on screen the woman is gorgeous paired with a basic Kevin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:18 AM |
| 91 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexYeah, lib fem sex therapists are a part of the problem. Good sex is NOT rocket science. If a man is bad at kissing, is too rough when touching, doesn’t cuddle you BEFORE sex, is impatient or doesn’t listen there is no need to see if he will be good in bed. Every one of the characteristics that make a man “good in bed” can be vetted for before letting a man into your bed. Pickmes who spread the gospel of “I need to know right away if he is good in bed” overlook 1,000 🚩 and then wonder why a man g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:15 AM |
| 70 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexI kind of wish I surrendered to the idea of a life without a partner sooner in life. Yes, I still want it to happen, it would be a dream come true.💖 But the anxiety of not meeting the right man really lowered my quality of life, hampered my ambitions and generated depression and low self- esteem. And the social pressure for women to have partners causes them to be vulnerable to bad relationships. I know this might sound radical but I think a young woman who lives with the knowledge that maybe “t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 09:02 AM |
| 89 | REMINDER: Do not clean up for dirty scrotes and make them feel cozy in their filth *busy none* they can find *one* hour out of the week to clean their scum.Hallelujah, amen! The behavior you tolerate is the behavior you replicate. Pickmes do not make good friends because the behavior they accept they will do to you and/or they will manage your standards down. Endless compassion does NOT work. It enables behavior and usually harms the kind person extending it. It doesn’t need to be draconian punishment but boundaries and consequences WORK. Asking someone to please stop while you continue to do everything for them and their quality of life does not c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 08:55 AM |
| 46 | Realizing the “cool girls” you used to be friends with were just total pickme’sHmmm, I’m one of those people who prefers dogs over people.🤣. But I roll my eyes so hard when women say that it’s easier to be friends with men. Like, whaaaaat? If they are not trying to have sex with you, they are trying to have sex with your friends or want therapy. This is also why for me it is pointless to be in a sexless relationship or with a man I am not attracted to. Some women say they just want the companionship but most straight men aren’t even good at that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:15 AM |
| 198 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexYeah, by test for “sexual compatability” he never means- “How happy can I make you in the bedroom?” It means: A. I want to pressure you into sex without commitment then tell you I’m not looking for anything serious or that we should just go with the flow. B. I can only sustain an erection if I do weird, disgusting pornographic things to you that have nothing to do with your pleasure. C. You need to perform for me because standard foreplay is not enough. You are “vanilla” if you don’t want to be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 07:06 AM |
| 12 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.Many women do not understand that he doesn’t marry the next one because he loves her more. He marries the next one because he is running out of time and energy to poonhound and realizes that his best option is to find a wife for regular sex and emotional support. Also, these same men will send you letters about how you were the one that got away WHILE they are married to someone else! A friend of mine had a man circling her while his wife was going through chemo 🤯. She had no idea until she did … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:36 AM |
| 18 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.I knew a man who screamed up and down that “marriage is just a piece of paper” for a decade even though he knew his forever girlfriend and the mother of his 2 children deeply desired marriage and came from a traditional family. Guess who got married when she inherited money and offered to help him fund his dream business? The lessons here: 1. If gold diggers exist, they are disproportionately men. 2. If a man will let you be the mother of his children but deny your desire for marriage or protect… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:25 AM |
| 13 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.I dated a man who made sure I was on his life insurance policy within 3 months of dating. He wanted to make sure I would be taken care of in the event that anything happened to him. He also asked me if I wanted to be on his health insurance. Btw- he was in his early 30s and only a few years older than me… Honestly, the idea that there can be love without provision is propaganda so that men can offer empty words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 05:07 AM |
| 15 | Why do they keep normalizing this gross behaviour????Now when men tell me that they prefer younger women, I tell them that my preference is younger men.🤣. They are shooketh. Like, I literally mirror what they say to me and they go into shock and sometimes try to convince me why MY biology should want an older man.☠️🤣😂🤣 It sounds trite but so many men have NEVER heard from a woman directly about her physical desires so it’s almost a radical act to let them know that we have preferences and what they see in the media as far as women preferring older… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:59 AM |
| 35 | Vetting during OLD/date suggestionsHe is too cheap to pay for a prostitute. We need to stop calling it FWB because friends do not behave this way. Also, if you are too anxious to go on dinner dates, then: 1. Your vetting strategy needs work. 2. There may be some underlying issues about “owing” a man for putting in bare minimum effort. A drinks/ coffee date is 90 % of the time a sign of a lazy man- so you are wasting your time by going on those and a dinner isn’t that much longer. Worst case scenario you get up and leave. No need … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:52 AM |
| 3 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?It baffles me that 🇺🇸 don’t reflect on how if America were truly a meritocracy the richest Americans would be the descendents of Black slaves and the primarily Black and Brown migrant labor forces in California and Florida… I think it was LBJ who made the infamous comment about how racism has been a powerfully effective way to get poor white people to vote against their own interests. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | Is the collapse of the middle class producing more LVM?👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:01 PM |
| 5 | What's acceptable in terms of expressing interest in semi-social non-OLD settings?I don’t even make eye contact and I wear headphones and men go out of their way to start conversations with me. 1. Take impeccable care of your physical appearance. I know this sounds anti feminist but you will have more success with men if you live in the world as it is vs how you wish it would be. Notice I’m saying impeccable NoT perfect or plastic surgery or makeup. I personally think there are many celebrities that are quite average looking but they take care of their skin, bodies, teeth and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:57 PM |
| 5 | What's acceptable in terms of expressing interest in semi-social non-OLD settings?Exactly this! Match his energy and sometimes lean back and give less. A man that is interested will lean in. Most men are lazy so it vets for a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:51 PM |
| 50 | Saw this on r/confessions... This is why I don't do FWBMost fat women still look beautiful and have impeccable grooming. But most men- fat and skinny- just look like they’ve given up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:39 PM |
| 8 | Stop making excuses for abusersNot one person here has said that she deserves abuse. Also, by your Dworkin logic, enslaved women like Sally Hemings need to have compassion for Martha Jefferson. Martha Jefferson allowed her half sister, Sally, to be raped by her husband, 🇺🇸 founding father Thomas Jefferson. Quoting a white feminist that I can prob google and easily dig dirt on is not a great rhetorical strategy. Gives me Gloria Allred vibes. You are prob a very kind person. I’m not being pedantic when I say that I hope no one … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 05:03 PM |
| 84 | One way to say "if he wanted to, he would"This is why I’ve never cooked or cleaned for a man. 🤣 Had a whole ltr with a man who would tell me about how macho he was and I just stayed quiet. Ask me how many times I cooked? Or cleaned? ZERO. Zeta. 😁. Sometimes you have to let them think they are winning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:19 PM |
| 12 | Stop making excuses for abusersI ❤️ everything you have written here. Monica Lewinsky maybe could have kept Hilary out of it? I totally get the opportunistic vibes and btw wasn’t she 25? That is old enough to know not to play with other people’s husbands.💅 She absolutely deserves to live a good life beyond that scandal if she course corrected and decided not to sleep with other people’s husbands but it is ridiculous that she doesn’t see herself as complicit in infidelity. Hilary sucks but she is at least shrewd and a savvy po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 04:04 PM |
| 26 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.Yes, crying right now from a mountaintop in Europe.😂🤣😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:24 PM |
| 21 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Being abused also does not justify you abusing other people. Dani Leigh abused darker skinned Black women. We need to name and call out her behavior appropriately. I will be unsurprised if she now expects the emotional labor of Black women to lift her up. Please do NOT enable her. There IS a time and a place for shame. When you do not know any better, do NOT be ashamed. But she did know better and the Black women who told her- she called them jealous, so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:04 PM |
| 26 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.💡Being abused by men does not give you the excuse to abuse other women.💡 I have serious suspicion that the people here caping for Dani Leigh were real quiet about her abuse of darker skinned Black women. It is the gut reflex of most people brainwashed by white supremacy to defend the person in closest proximity to whiteness > blackness. If Dani were dark there would be no sympathy or calls for compassion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 12:01 PM |
| 27 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Um…Nobody will shame me for pointing out that she was complicit in his abuse of other women- the most vulnerable group of women that are NEVER protected. She would have kept behaving this way. At some point, we have to acknowledge that having a vajay jay doesn’t exempt you from being called out for behaving like 🗑. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 09:02 AM |
| 20 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.“The same energy must be kept.” 💯 From the gospel of Black Proverbs 💚❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:58 AM |
| 44 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.She PURPOSELY and willingly abused Black women. So this isn’t the same as a brainwashed pickme that didn’t know any better. I understand the desire to be endlessly compassionate but people like Dani Leigh have thrived because of unchecked privilege. She is exactly the type to weaponize your compassion against you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:55 AM |
| 40 | The Rapper Da Baby kicked out his baby mama and his newborn child, and when she didn't leave he called cops on her and reported her. He allegedly wanted to invite another woman to his condo and he wanted her out after she cooked, cleaned for him, slept with him.Agreed. Dose your compassion with accountability. She rode her light skin privilege to…hell. I ONLY feel sorry for their newborn baby being born into such toxicity. Light skinned women who are complicit in this 🗑 behavior can clean up their own mess. 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 08:25 AM |
| 112 | The "Marriage is just a piece of paper" lie.Marriage benefits SOME people- primarily men and the person with less resources (which has traditionally been women). But if you are not a woman who will not benefit, it is wise to not do it. Marriage is way more than a “piece of paper” but it also doesn’t insure fidelity or lifelong love. I’m in a bizarre conundrum in that I have zero desire to marry (I’ve witnessed too many men be gold diggers) but I also would NOT want to be with a man who held the value system that “marriage is just a piece … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:48 AM |
| 201 | How long to wait for men to reply? (Busy career-oriented men)Opinion 🚨 (weight this against other perspectives) The only acceptable circle back when a man disappears for more than 2 days is if he sends you a message explaining his absence. Otherwise he is just priming you to come and go as he pleases. This is called intermittent reinforcement and it drives anxiety and insecurity. I have never been in a relationship with an inconsistent man. My best relationships were with men who I met and were consistent from Day 1 and never wavered. This is NOT the same… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 06:59 AM |
| 5 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Then do not have children out of wedlock- which is mostly wise. But this is why I believe in looking at things from a “context dependent” lense and why I think your blanket statements are overly simplistic. A. Marriage does benefit SOME people- primarily men. But it does benefit a subgroup of women- make sure you are one of those women if you are going to get married. B. No, marriage does not give emotional security. Ask a divorced woman who waited years to exit a bad marriage from a cheating sp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 03:57 PM |
| 81 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorMen are men. They are just seasoned differently. Many flavors of deliciousness and many dishes that need to be sent back to the chef. Have standards and expectations and find your best match. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 02:09 PM |
| 21 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?I, too, didn’t realize how opportunistic and gold digging “not all men” are until I hit 35. When you are younger, they want your youth and beauty. As you get older, they want your money, support and caregiving. And if you’ve got both 👀👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:59 PM |
| 7 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Pre-nups can be voided- see Kelly Clarkson. And sometimes they do not cover what is acquired during the marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:53 PM |
| 9 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?We can date with different end goals in mind. 💡Marriage doesn’t elevate your status if you marry down or if a man is embarassing.💡 💡Marriage only elevates your status around pickme women and women who have yet to learn that your desirability is not reflected by your relationship status.💡 It took me YEARS to awaken to this! I even thought for a while that it would be better to have been divorced than “never married”. My bank account shows me otherwise.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 07:07 AM |
| 88 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorGirl, I am ethnically ambiguous with a big butt and very curly hair and the racists are very attracted to me.🤢 I understand that you won’t want to believe me but true story a man rolled up his shirt to show me a swastika tattoo after I rejected him and went on some rant about being of the master race. Racist white men love white Latinas and Asians because of their racist ideas about submission. They also like Black and Arab women, too but they just use porn to get that fix.🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:37 AM |
| 88 | Do not let men of color triangulate you against women of colorYep, I had a few Arab men keep it 💯 with me. They like white, esp European women because no dowry or brothers, fathers to deal with and way more likely that have sex before marriage. Plus, racist beauty standards and porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:30 AM |
| 218 | The reason why men marry some women and not others. Warning! ⚠️ Long post.I read this article years ago and it both rings true but also uses language euphemistically… A small percentage of men get married for love. A larger percentage of men get married for pragmatic and cultural reasons. The “hairline hypothesis” is true in that men begin to realize that as they get older they have less opportunities for sex so they get married. But the advice to set a timeline on a “stringer” is terrible! He might marry you and resent you and still cheat on you. 💡Marriage is not the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 06:12 AM |
| 28 | Chelsea Handler Says Boyfriend Jo Koy Has 'Renewed My Faith in Men': 'Never Settle'I’ve never heard of him but given that she is kind of a faux- powerment white feminist this pairing makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:53 AM |
| 57 | Chelsea Handler Says Boyfriend Jo Koy Has 'Renewed My Faith in Men': 'Never Settle'Girl, 2 months?! For me it’s a long weekend tops.😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:47 AM |
| 41 | Her Persistence Paid Off: How many red flags can you count in this wedding announcement?This must be troll satire.😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 05:37 AM |
| 81 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsMiserly behavior doesn’t feel good in friendship or dating. And misers tend to be very opportunistic. There is a big difference between people struggling financially and being cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 09:56 PM |
| 100 | becoming an older woman is the best in most waysI am shocked by how much I ❤️ being an “older woman” at 39.🤣 A. I can see opportunistic men from a mile away. The gold digging, the sex digging, the youth digging. Younger men tend to be naive but older men are NOT more mature- they’ve just had years to fine tune their manipulation. B. I can’t be future faked because most men do not offer me a partnership that benefits me and I see how many men are not loyal. Also, I look way hotter than the men my age so I can date younger if I want to… C. I se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 09:04 PM |
| 114 | Is marriage always a good idea for a woman with assets?Whether or not marriage is a good idea is context dependent. I I have zero desire to be married because I have an excellent quality of life that most men would take away from vs add to. And even if I met a spectacularly wealthy, hot man- men are just a lot of work. I’m also no longer interested in a lifelong partnership. To me, men tend to be depreciating assets that I can’t really afford. I’d like to lease- like try a man out for 1-3 years and then renew the contract if it works for me. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 08:48 PM |
| 65 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.I’m not against approaching/pursuing men for morality reasons or tradition but because of logic and observation. I’m not attracted to or compatible with passive, shy or lazy men. Also, when a man genuinely likes a woman, there is little that stops him from pursuit. Men that expect to be pursued are usually feminized. There is nothing wrong with this but it’s not for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 05:36 AM |
| 56 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.I would find it problematic if we shamed “youth diggers” and “sex diggers”- especially because that is who “gold diggers” pair well with. But the cultural narrative is always some innocent old man who gets “swindled” by a young baddie AND older men are wiser/ more mature? Make it make sense. Also, the Romans are the literal gold diggers that would invade countries and immediately extract gold. Look how they are heralded as the originators of Western civilization 🕵🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:18 PM |
| 12 | Does anyone have a pickme family member that is always in a dilemma with men? How do you handle them?I agree. You can state It once but I wouldn’t expect anything. If you want her in your life, invite her to do things where you don’t have to talk about her relationship or provide “free therapy”. You cannot talk her out of bad decisions but you can be physically present for her and help her feel good about something (endorphins from exercising or laughter from a funny movie) in her life. I’ve noticed that when women are codependent with bad men, they feel like they have nothing else in their lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 07:06 PM |
| 33 | Men and their innate habit of dating youngDoesn’t Kenny have a lot more 💰? I’m pretty sure younger gay men don’t mess with broke older men. And notice how the older women go to these countries to perv on younger men, too. Then the young men dump them once the women run out of money or he gets his green card.🤣 Predatory behavior is 🤮 regardless of gender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 08:37 AM |
| 6 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Me, neither. I’ve never been able to have attraction “grow”- not even for wealthy men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 10:55 PM |
| 50 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Most men don’t realize that the most sex they will ever be having is within a relationship where they treat their woman well. Single men don’t realize that they lie to each other about the sex they are having. 😂🤣 And some men choose a sexless existence and/ or porn and the fantasy of sex with models over committing to one woman.🤦🏽♀️. Unless they are Ronaldinho or Idris Elba, panties are not going to be dropping easily. And most men are not going to be making “George Clooney money” so I don’t kn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:45 AM |
| 39 | The manosphere line that men hit their peak in their late 30s and 40s is a biological lie - male fertility begins to decline once the man is over the age of 34.Younger men have more energy to be fathers and are physically stronger to protect their families. The “older men are more desirable” trope is only true within capitalism where older men expend their youth in exchange for resources that they then use to attract women. And 👀 what happens when women have their own money. They often go for younger men. Also, are these 20 year old models available to older men with average salaries? If straight men would just vote for more “socialist” policies (unive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:32 AM |
| 50 | Am I codependent or do I have a strong intuition?Exactly! No need to “just communicate with one’s self”. Your feelings are a type of nonverbal communication that you want to learn to honor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:36 PM |
| 78 | Am I codependent or do I have a strong intuition?Your feelings when you are away from someone are just as important as when you are in their presence! It’s great that you acknowledge that something is off for YOU. If he is a wonderful man, then break up with him and tell him you need space and he will respect that and let you come back when you are in a good place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 01:32 PM |
| 10 | An observation regarding hair loss in men versus womenThis reminds me of the HOURS I have sat quietly and listened to men talk about their "preferences" and desires and needs from women. It was ALWAYS unattractive men that did this and they never would ask me about what I like. Unattractive men have NO self- awareness. And their lack of self- awareness keeps them ugly. Some even had the audacity to let me know that I wasn't their type. Like, I know they can afford mirrors, so wtf? This is why you cannot be friends with men, they think you being nic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 09:11 AM |
| 14 | Hookup culture is a scamThey are addicted to the "validation". Alcoholics love alcohol and sometimes die from their denial of how much their lifestyle harms them. I have yet to meet a single woman with high self- esteem and self- awareness that loves casual sex. Casual sex is a defense mechanism to not having options for a relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 08:11 AM |
| 19 | The Dying Art of Conversationmilitary, prison, the police force, Spartans, etc... (to support your point) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:54 AM |
| 32 | In case you're tempted to dip your toe back into OLD...The only 2 gentlemen I met from old- I wasn’t physically attracted to at all. But it was an absolute dumpster fire. Every time I logged on I had to brace myself for abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:29 PM |
| 34 | That time I THOUGHT I was dating a HVM 🤡 And the PLETHORA of red flags I ignoredThese words may at first terrify but they ultimately set me free. “Sometimes it’s just luck.” I find the language of scarcity and abundance gaslights women about the realities of available men for partnership. I very much want to meet an amazing partner but accepting that I have limited control over that has been freeing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 10:12 PM |
| 83 | Leave the LVM/NVM men for the Pick-me's ladies, they deserve eachotherWe need to hold pickmes accountable AND we can acknowledge that there is a drought and water is being purposely poisoned? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 08:32 PM |
| 29 | Violence against women in movies and TV? Oh, it's just for the realism effect!Oh God😭😭😭 now they want to argue “rape olympics”. I’d vomit but I watched the news this morning so I have nothing left. Going to watch animal music videos to find a shred of hope before bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:42 PM |
| 23 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.The cognitive dissonance astounds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:39 PM |
| 17 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?Yes and no. It is context dependent. It only takes a man about 20-30 minutes to figure out what you like and his level of interest. Men who do the “friends first” schtick tend to be faux nice guys. Friends first also means they don’t have to pay on dates. This is especially true of OLD. It’s different if it is through a hobby group because then men are correct to not come on too strong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 12:56 PM |
| 58 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.That Pickme Hemingway with her 🗑 editor “article” that was so biased and yet illuminated everything we’ve been saying over here?😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 11:54 AM |
| 46 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.😘😘😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 11:52 AM |
| 59 | Violence against women in movies and TV? Oh, it's just for the realism effect!Exactly. If you “remember correctly” demonstrates that this is not prevalent in the media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 08:26 AM |
| 23 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?I agree. When I reflect/cringe on the bad sex I’ve had, I can easily see the 🚩🚩 I missed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:37 AM |
| 122 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽”Take bad sex very seriously.” What is even the point of being with a man you are not excited to have sex with? “But I want the companionship.” You can get better companionship from girlfriends and pets than most straight men. 🤣 There is nonsense in even great relationships, so I need to like looking at a man to tolerate it. Unless I want to rip a man’s clothes off or feel compelled to be by the door naked when he gets home, I don’t want it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:34 AM |
| 58 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?I think that men have “performance anxiety” is a conspiracy and/or 🤡 propaganda. Up there with blue balls. He only has performance anxiety if he can’t be patient or take his time. I hypothesize that this means he either faps with a death grip to porn or is not in good physical shape. Even if a man is premature, majority of healthy men that care will want a second round ASAP to prove to you that they can perform. Some men even masturbate before sex so that they can last longer when they have sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:28 AM |
| 86 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?Match energy. If he takes 2 hours to respond, take 2 hours to respond. And only text between 9 AM- 7 PM. So if he texts you late, wait until the am to text back. You are showing that you are not on demand and that your responsiveness is dependent upon his behavior. Do NOT ever say this aloud. Show don’t tell. If he only texts you once a day and takes forever to respond, then he isn’t that interested. You only have to match a man’s energy. So do NOT ignore a message but take your time. Get into a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 07:02 AM |
| 38 | A real "Cool Girl" is one who turns down Leonardo DiCaprioNot really. Women don’t prefer men with resources if the men are ugly.🤣 Women who don’t have resources “prefer” men with money and power because they don’t have a choice. When women have their own resources, their standards for their male partners go up. The only people who believe that it’s biology for women to prefer older men are delusional older men who control the media and brainwash younger men into thinking their prime is when they have no hair left.😂 But this is also how these old men ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 06:10 AM |
| 90 | Remember to give low-income males a chance, ladies! Don't be classist! /sWhat he is doing is abuse. That is not a word to throw around lightly. It is the public humiliation coupled with brutal honesty. Only a woman who is being abused and whose self- esteem has been pummeled would stay in this relationship. If this is who he is comfortable being in public, what does he say privately? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:56 AM |
| 107 | How to make it clear you will NOT go on a drinks date?Men that are genuinely interested will generally ask for a date within 3-4 days to a week. Even if it is just to set something up for the following weekend. If it takes them longer than that they are already juggling other women and/or have poor work/life balance. You avoid time wasters, future fakers and cheap men by: Don’t text for more than 10 minutes a day. Have a full life and limit their access to you. Men use texting and phone calls to build faux intimacy and to avoid paying for dates. Th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:51 AM |
| 60 | Listen to your GUT not your Heart: guys will fake a nice first date and drop effort OR try a switch a roo as their masks slipThere is no shortcut for time. Also, this is why you have to be in people’s physical presence because they have to show you who they are be just telling you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:36 AM |
| 120 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?Don’t get tricked into 🤡 sex. It doesn’t get better if it isn’t decent at the beginning. Please don’t listen to the same “sex experts” that say, “it’s about the journey, not the destination.” 🕵🏽Most straight men would be celibate if they knew they were never going to have an orgasm but women are supposed to pretend they enjoy getting jackhammered for 30 seconds- 3 minutes? I think the fuck not. Don’t have sex with a man until after he’s given you a leg massage and there has been heavy petting. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:15 AM |
| 10 | Is bad sex a deal-breaker?Over here you would think I’m peeling onions.😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 05:02 AM |
| 289 | Violence against women in movies and TV? Oh, it's just for the realism effect!Also, how come these shows (GoThrones, Westworld, war films, etc..) rarely depict men’s sexual violence towards each other? So many 🤡🤡 ignore that men r*** each other- especially colonizers and slave owners. Also, ancient Spartans were so homoerotic but they leave that out in movies like “300”. 💅 PS Julius Caesar slept with other men to solidify political alliances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 04:58 AM |
| 42 | A real "Cool Girl" is one who turns down Leonardo DiCaprioHe peaked at like 18. Also, so did George Clooney (although he was pretty hot until 40). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 03:28 AM |
| 43 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.This! She is mourning something very real. It’s borderline gaslighting and unhelpful to rationalize with someone’s grief. Also, we are human! Of course she desires romantic intimacy and it is not the same (not better or worse) as other types of intimacy. And 🎯, it’s exhausting to be the peripheral friend because everyone else is “too busy” with their so or more important friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:37 AM |
| 45 | Let's assume this is a straight woman... I hope she and others who feel this way finds this sub because this was really sad to watch, and I hope she doesn't find out the hard way that 95% of men in the dating pool are trash and all the people she's seeing in relationships likely aren't that happy.I think it’s easier for those of us who have been in relationships to know that we are not missing out. But I totally understand how people who haven’t had a romantic relationship feel like she does. This is why I get legit angry that our society refuses to acknowledge that being partnered is in part luck and that I am not a “man hater” or “negative” for pointing out that a sizeable percentage of men are not good partners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:28 AM |
| 3 | Why non- verbal communication (body language, eye contact, silence, etc) is often MORE important than verbal communication (ie, “just communicate”🤢)?Nat Geo also did an apology letter for perpetuating racism. There is no such thing as legit anthropological research so long as only one group dominates. Even the Tropical School of Medicine in London was founded as a research arm for the British army. And we all know that museums are repositories for theft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:18 AM |
| 10 | Why non- verbal communication (body language, eye contact, silence, etc) is often MORE important than verbal communication (ie, “just communicate”🤢)?I love the show “Love on the Spectrum”. Exemplifies why there are no excuses to be made… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:16 AM |
| 21 | Why non- verbal communication (body language, eye contact, silence, etc) is often MORE important than verbal communication (ie, “just communicate”🤢)?Depends on your metrics for measuring sexism. I think it’s just as sexist that 🇺🇸 women are expected to work an 8-12 hour day, do most of the housework and pay bills as countries where women stay at home but can’t leave because they have no way of supporting themselves. Different flavors of sexism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:12 AM |
| 4 | Why non- verbal communication (body language, eye contact, silence, etc) is often MORE important than verbal communication (ie, “just communicate”🤢)?Oh, great! The “apology tour”. 😴😴😴Is this irony? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:56 AM |
| 69 | LVM hero Dave Portnoy revealed for being an extremely predatory, hateful, psychotic freak who lures teenage girls to his place for violent, humiliating sexExactly. It’s just a projection that resonates for ugly, neurotic men. Also, Woody Allen’s films haven’t made money for years so I have no idea why they continue to support this pedo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/21 10:27 PM |
| 16 | The IckA 44 year old man I was getting to know kept calling me “butthead” as a term of endearment. 🤢. And I smelled the old man smell one time when we were hanging out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 09:11 PM |
| 373 | “Men aren’t loved unconditionally, women are”Yeah, I am disturbed that I was turned on by this.😬🤣😎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:56 PM |
| 18 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsWow🤯. This is an amazing point I will be mulling over the next few days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:52 PM |
| 18 | The IckMine was when an ex told me that his age settings were 18-40 when he was doing online dating. So you were okay dating a teenager who just graduated high school? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 01:58 PM |
| 90 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.truthinhumor every single time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:58 PM |
| 6 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsThis could be an entirely new post. I very much wish I knew this sooner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:51 PM |
| 2 | More on Why Block and Delete Works“Just communicate” is one of the biggest scams of the century. Manipulative people will always find a way to weaponize your words against you. This is why I avoid pickmes- they replicate the behavioral patterns of LV men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:38 PM |
| 1 | More on Why Block and Delete WorksI didn’t realize how much ego validation they get just from “keeping in touch.” Even if you give zero indicators of interest, many of them think they have a chance. It’s so delusional! It’s also why I avoid being friends with straight men. Some men are only nice to women they find attractive so they are floored that women are nice just to be nice. I’ve had more than one male “friend” express to me that he wasn’t attracted to me and I thought it was hilarious. Like, please look in the mirror. I’m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:28 PM |
| 1 | More on Why Block and Delete Works❤️ it. I’m drinking a MaiTai at this virtual FDS bar.😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:21 PM |
| 18 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsExactly. There has to be balance between self care and community care. A balance between compassion and accountability. I’m 39 so that is part of where my perspective comes from. My experience with a lot of younger women is that they want me to be a big sister or mentor to them. This is more emotional free labor for me to do and Ive already got siblings…many of these younger women refuse to listen to me (after asking me because I don’t give unsolicited advice). I’m just drained generally by othe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:59 AM |
| 47 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.😘😘😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:48 AM |
| 130 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.Isn’t that called manipulation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:46 AM |
| 23 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsAgreed but I don’t think this is generational. A profoundly sad lesson I’ve learned is that you cannot be friends with people who are jealous of you. I’ve had women treat me in borderline abusive ways instead of just managing their resentment towards me. 💡It’s taboo to say “I’m jealous of you”. So most people will sabotage you, say mean things under the guise of “being honest” or push you away.💡. Fascinating for me is I’ve tolerated such bad behavior from women that I have never tolerated from m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:45 AM |
| 470 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.I’ve always thought of him as an average white guy that failed up because so many other average men want to see him win. 🚩it is not amusing that he is priming her for no effort on her birthday. That is low level manipulation. The “I’m just joking” 🤡 A. If he doesn’t do anything, “what about that very public post?!” As OP illuminates, this man has resources and still thinks it’s ok to be cheap with effort and money. B. He will act like a “nice guy”. “Honey, I was joking. Of course, I would never … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:29 AM |
| 52 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented PodcastsI feel you. Women are conditioned to be each other’s therapists and do free emotional labor. We are taught that this is “female bonding” vs going out and building things or sports, etc… I am here at FDS because I want to talk about this stuff tho😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:21 AM |
| 73 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.And no last minute dates. It means he was bored, lonely, had nothing else to do or that another woman flaked on him. “Make exceptions for the exceptional” but men who do this are usually “go with the flow” types.🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:17 AM |
| 73 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.Flakey, unreliable people drive and generate depression and anxiety. One of the most bizarre things about Western psychology/therapy is that it behaves like people are 100% responsible for their mental state when we are social animals. It doesn’t feel good when you don’t know if someone is going to be responsive to you when you are a baby and this doesn’t just magically change as we enter adulthood. Flakey people will absolutely use this behavior to manage down your standards and expectations. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:13 AM |
| 137 | If You Have to Confirm Plans, Cancel Them Instead.Life hack- if you have to remind someone that you exist, dump them. There are people who are excited to be in your life, those are the relationships worth being in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 11:03 AM |
| 139 | Difference I Notice in Women Oriented Podcasts👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I like most of her stuff but sometimes it gives me a “faux empowerment” vibe. I’m also wary of social media couples who uphold their relationships as goals- that is a very delicate dance. And it’s low level gaslighting when they deny that sometimes finding the right partner is about luck vs “limiting beliefs”.🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:51 AM |
| 12 | To dress up for dates or show up as you are?👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽If i don’t care what I look like, I’m not into the man. It is human to want to look good to potential mates. Sometimes this “decenter the male gaze” goes a little too far. Obvi we shouldn’t be overly invested in male validation but I want to be sexually attracted to my partner and he better care about being attractive to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:47 AM |
| 46 | To dress up for dates or show up as you are?Agreed, this is context dependent. And: It’s healthy to want to look good for your date. We are all on our best behavior until we know it’s safe to be holistically intimate. THIS is one reason we say no to coffee dates. Because we match effort and coffee dates are inherently low effort. I could go in my gym clothes to a coffee date and I’d feel fine about myself. But why? It’s a waste of my time and doesn’t inspire romance. If a man invites you to a nice restaurant and you show up in sweat pants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 10:40 AM |
| 47 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Why in the world would I choose Viagra penis when I can get with a hot 20 something that wants to please me multiple times in the same night? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:44 AM |
| 98 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Can we keep calling it manopause for maximum trollage? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:36 AM |
| 114 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.Why are young men taking advice from the men who couldn't get laid in high school? This includes 95 % of the men who control Hollywood. If a man can only attract women with his wallet and coercion, maybe don't listen to him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 06:23 AM |
| 15 | No return policy - why do they always come back?its the phenomena of the circling penises | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 07:59 PM |
| 11 | Bikini waxing?I worked at a Skincare place that did electrolysis amd our most frequent clients were people who had their hair grow back- sometimes worse than before. I don’t even know how legally laser places are allowed to say that it’s permanent/. Also, I had electrolysis 20 years ago on my face and no new growth. I had laser on armpits and bikini and it did come back within 2 years. Same amount of discomfort and way better results with electrolysis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 4 | Bikini waxing?Get electrolysis. It’s the only true permanent hair removal. Waxing actually stimulates hair growth😱 And hair can grow back worse after laser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 11:51 AM |
| 222 | Dating When You’re Young/Not Intending to Marry YET?Date for marriage even if you don’t want marriage. And only have sex with men if you are okay with them being the father of your child. What I mean to say is…date men who are capable of commitment, financially stable and have a vision for their life and are intentional about how they spend their time and who they are spending it with. In your age group these man are probably not in the space for marriage either but the sooner you learn to vet for these qualities, the better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 05:18 PM |
| 43 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?I’m not opposed to him going to jail for his imaginary crime… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:26 AM |
| 52 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?Women are dramatic but look who fight wars and drop bombs over imaginary weapons of mass distraction. 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:26 AM |
| 117 | What the acronym “BDSM” stands for.I ❤️ it here. I’m tired of being labeled as vanilla when I don’t want to be humiliated/ abused in my free time. Ps Vanilla is delicious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 08:23 AM |
| 221 | Could you imagine the outrage if women routinely turned down sex with their partners to watch porn and masturbate? How did that become something we have to accept from men?Also, can we stop with the “it’s about the journey not the destination” when applied to how women should not be upset if they don’t have an orgasm during sex? Like how many men would even have sex if they knew they weren’t going to orgasm most of the time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 02:59 AM |
| 6 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?A. People are going to talk. Don’t ever explain or defend yourself to strangers. Also, you get to remove or unfollow people for ANY reason. B. You can control who messages you in the settings. Anyone who really needs to be communicating with you has your phone number. Otherwise they probably don’t need to be communicating with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:48 AM |
| 8 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?Being a bitch keeps nefarious actors away from you. Yes, your social media presence gives people a sense of false intimacy- similar to how people feel deeply connected to celebrities. Putting things on vanish mode may mean he has a girlfriend and is looking to cheat… I usually have my account on private so that interested men have to get to know me instead of lurking on my profile. And I am not interested in men who slide into my DMs because it’s all of the similar elements of meeting men from O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:37 AM |
| 9 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankAgreed. It’s context dependent and that we can make exceptions for the exceptional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:31 AM |
| 12 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankI know my answer might disappoint but do NOT fast track vetting. The men you date, have sex with and engage in relationships with will effect the trajectory of your life. So vet accordingly. Time and observing the gap between his words and actions will give you everything you need to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:29 AM |
| 26 | Just broke up with a LVM and have FDS to thankHmmm, I think it’s important that OP pointed out that this is 1 of many red flags. I do not lie but I do not share deeply traumatic personal history with people until they’ve shown me they are going to be a reliable, consistent presence in my life. This is not going to be 99 % of humans of both genders. And saying “passed” instead of “murdered” is a way of keeping people out of your business so I don’t think that is what made him LVM. I’m astounded at the rudeness of people who ask me about my f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 03:26 AM |
| 133 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.Agreed, it inflates their ego to infinity! Most men don’t realize that they are “meh” in the looks department but we are hoping that their cool personality will make it worth our while. Spoiler alert: They never have a cool personality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:21 AM |
| 117 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.Exactly. They have a price tag in their heads of how much money they will spend and yet they can’t just hire an escort because…? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 02:16 AM |
| 20 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?Yes, its not hard for a man to say, “Oh, I see you like X. Next Thursday at 6, I’ll make reservations and you and I can do X.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 03:49 PM |
| 50 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?This happens with men who have never even asked me on a proper date! And women who just think I have a cool life and want in. This is bizarre when men do it and I think it reflects: 1. 🚩Overfamiliarity. This doesn’t bother me with people I know well. But it does bother me when I “don’t know you like that”. I hypothesize that these types are more likely to future fake or low bomb. They don’t expect to be vetted. 🚩Lazy/bumbling man alert. Joining me requires zero effort and actually creates work f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 03:47 PM |
| 25 | Why do men/ LVM keep try to invite themselves into your life?Good point apropos how people who hold privilege never get their behavior checked or they even think it’s “cute/edgy” to break with social norms/ etiquette. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 03:39 PM |
| 16 | Never let a man use you as a placeholder. Don’t “build” a man up. Keep your standards high.For me, I dated down out of loneliness AND I was being gaslit about how my “limiting beliefs” were the reason I wasn’t meeting men.🤢 Women who state the fact that there aren’t as many HVM as women are “man haters” or “toxic” or “negative”. Women are encouraged to gaslight ourselves and then shamed when it doesn’t work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 12:48 PM |
| 37 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Yep, if we dive deep into when and how marriage was created and structured- it’s not a good arrangement for women with lots of resources. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:46 AM |
| 33 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Billionaires are THE definition of gold diggers. Ironic much that LVM they exploit idolize them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:44 AM |
| 55 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…I will not marry or have children with a man with less money. I’ll date them. A. Marriage is not just about love and women frequently get screwed in divorce settlements. B. If you have a child with a man with less money, he benefits. I would never let the father of my child live in poverty. And a child who inherits from me is going to have a big heart and take care of their father. I’ve seen it happen to many times where a man disappears from his children’s lives to pop up years later to reap th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:41 AM |
| 85 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…Yep, conventionally beautiful women aren’t allowed to talk about the resentment/ cynicism they feel at being bombarded by people (both genders) who judge them by their looks or try to use them for their looks. Unconventionally beautiful women are not allowed to talk about how hard it is to “know your worth” in a world that rewards conventional beauty. And they are “jealous” if they point out how some women disproportionately benefit from racist/sexist patriarchal beauty standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:35 AM |
| 41 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…❤️❤️❤️❤️this. No woman escapes misogyny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 11:29 AM |
| 150 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama culture cont’d…👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽same goes for those who advocate for voluntary single motherhood. “Exceptions are for exceptional circumstances.” I’m not against baby momma hood or having children out of wedlock from ANY kind of morality standpoint. I’m for women being able to choose situations that most benefit them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 10:57 AM |
| 10 | When you can’t handle rejection. Wait until the endMy first thought is pepper spray. But I know that could have escalated. This is why I pretend I do not speak English when men are pushy/scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:32 PM |
| 15 | Decline of marriage, rise of baby mama culture, divorce prevalence, rise of age at first marriage - is a huge part of WTF Happened in 1971The 50/50 man is a direct response to white middle- upper class women entering the workforce (everyone else has ALWAYS worked) so that the Uber rich could benefit. Feminism isn’t the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:28 PM |
| 6 | Truth in humor?😬I think we can make exceptions for the exceptional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 03:14 PM |
| 25 | Truth in humor?😬❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 12:21 PM |
| 24 | What are your ladies’ opinions on finances when moving in with a boyfriend/fiancé/husband?Thank you for sharing context. 😬☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 08:38 AM |
| 74 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?Yep, it’s his imaginary harem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:32 AM |
| 41 | Are you okay with your male partner only having female friends?🤣they’re usually afraid of other men’s toxicity but have zero intentions of protecting women from it. In fact, they’re using women to shield themselves from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:31 AM |
| 43 | A friend I shared FDS with sent this to me today! Great reason why men should pay for dates!Yup. And it’s just bizarre that even at FDS, white women continue to dismiss facts because the history of women and dating and feminism only begins with them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:16 AM |
| 35 | What are your ladies’ opinions on finances when moving in with a boyfriend/fiancé/husband?This depends on where they live. I actually passionately disagree with the narrative that marrying young is ALWAYS a bad idea. OP and her partner sound more mature than people I know in their 30s. Also, I’ll get downvoted but I think if she is in marriage that benefits her, it is better than being a forever girlfriend where she will not have legal protections. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:11 AM |
| 35 | What are your ladies’ opinions on finances when moving in with a boyfriend/fiancé/husband?I don’t know enough to give advice. But if it is an engagement ring and he breaks it off, keep the ring. And it needs to be a nice ring that demonstrates thoughtfulness and an investment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 04:08 AM |
| 180 | What are your ladies’ opinions on finances when moving in with a boyfriend/fiancé/husband?💯 Not advice but please consider that by living together he is getting the benefits of a wife. Know that: 1. Many people stay together because they split rent or cannot afford to live alone- especially in expensive housing markets. Even if he takes care of mortgage, unless your name is on deed, you are better off having roommates. 💡You might get into the habit and comfort of relying on him which will make it more difficult for you to leave- especially if he stalls on marriage or you are out of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:48 AM |
| 374 | When negging is made mainstream!🤮🤮🤮 A. This is why we do not approach men and sometimes pretend like we don’t hear them or that we don’t speak English. If you can wear headphones at work, wear them. B. Look how the mildly geriatric toad admired him instead of shutting him down.🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:26 AM |
| 50 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Don’t worry, it will pass. It’s normal to feel sad when we’ve been lied to our entire lives. Someone else here posted it but if you are eyes wide open about marriage then you cannot be future faked and your tolerándolas for nonsense drops to Zero.🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:17 AM |
| 115 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Wild theory! He is admitting it to begin an affair with OP and men tell us this stuff only to appear honest and in touch with their feelings. A man who isn’t complete trash would just shut up, accept the decisions he has made and not humiliate his loyal wife by airing his laundry to an unpaid stranger. He can go to therapy or his priest. But he doesn’t have good intentions so why would he do that?💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 168 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."You are karma.😘 These men are delusional in thinking that they can poonhound until their mid- 30s and that the moment they desire a relationship, women are going to be lining up.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:10 AM |
| 201 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."The fact that he is even sharing such intimate information with OP is 🚩🚩🚩🚩. It’s disrespectful to his wife even if he doesn’t love her he should just stfu and go to his grave with that secret. OP be careful. This man might have a crush on you and is creating faux intimacy with you and trying to get you to feel sympathy for him. I will be 100% unsurprised if he is trying to start an affair with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:06 AM |
| 249 | How to you feel about the idea that "most men don't marry the woman they love the most. They marry the woman that’s around when they’re ready to marry."Marriage is a legal and financial commitment. Good men are not wrong or bad for wanting to be sure before they make such a commitment. But it takes them max 2 years to know…and many men weaponize women’s desire for marriage and children against them and heartlessly string them along. Or they marry a woman because they know that she is their best option for regular sex and companionship. Men, like “cutthroat” women, do a cost benefit analysis of whether or not marriage will benefit them. Women ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 03:01 AM |
| 21 | Knowing Your Worth: Pricing the First DateAgreed. He spends money to show that he can and wants to provide for you and maybe children someday. It also shows if you have compatible lifestyles. If a man only wants to go to local free events, he should find a partner that is okay with that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:44 AM |
| 77 | Welcome to the troll revolution! 🌺I’ve watched this like 5 times.🍿🍿🍿 notallmen claim women aren’t visual but look how they get triggered🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:37 AM |
| 50 | Men literally believe murder is a justified response to a woman leaving. Also men still think a woman who was literally murdered by her partner was just “pulling the abuse card”👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽This is why women are more likely to be depressed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:21 AM |
| 93 | Men literally believe murder is a justified response to a woman leaving. Also men still think a woman who was literally murdered by her partner was just “pulling the abuse card”Betty Broderick has never expressed remorse which is why she is always denied parole. I’m riveted that she doesn’t just lie to get released. Respect is not the word. Neither is admiration. But I totally get why Betty remains stubborn. She gave 20 years of her life and 4 children to a man who dumped her for a 20 year old and was happy to leave her destitute. He and the pickme would even belittle her appearance. What does justice even look like when a man does this to a woman? When women are brain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:14 AM |
| 111 | Men literally believe murder is a justified response to a woman leaving. Also men still think a woman who was literally murdered by her partner was just “pulling the abuse card”Betty Broderick. Who is in prison for life. Had she been a man it would have been “a crime of passion”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Thanks to r/FDS I was able to walk away from a BDSM obsessed man! Thank you so much!Hypothesis that I anecdotally confirm.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 02:01 AM |
| 47 | Knowing Your Worth: Pricing the First DateDates ARE about money AND I agree with pretty much everything everyone has said. This is context dependent. This depends on your age, where you live and the standards/expectations you have for your life and the people in it. It’s tempting to oversimplify by putting a price tag in things… I’m currently traveling in Romania and it was explained to me that men here will ask for coffee but it is implied that they are taking you someplace way cute and that food will be involved. This isn’t Starbucks … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:58 AM |
| 64 | A friend I shared FDS with sent this to me today! Great reason why men should pay for dates!What about slavery though?🕵🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 01:46 AM |
| 8 | Dear Men: So you think you want a ‘strong, independent woman’Yeah, I didn’t read yet because I think the word “independent” is loaded… It’s great to be independent but many people confuse this with hyperindividuality. Also, the entire point of a relationship is to be interdependent with a partner and mutually benefit each other. Also, why is it sooooo terrible for a woman to say, “I want to be taken care of” ? I get that many think that that is unrealistic or makes her too vulnerable but that women are not even allowed to express their desires or that thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:46 PM |
| 28 | Thanks to r/FDS I was able to walk away from a BDSM obsessed man! Thank you so much!🚩Men who talk about sex this early on or use innuendo. They are testing the waters. Also, higher probability they are promiscuous and talk this way to ALL women they are attracted to. And a higher probability that they complain they are afraid of being accused of sexual harassment or rape.🤡 🚩”Preferences”/sexual kinks. One of the devastating consequences of the pornification of our culture is that people who are boring now follow a script and call it “radical”. Sexuality is no longer about two p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:40 PM |
| 19 | For your safety if you want to reject men don't do it in person (I highly suggest not doing it at all)I think ghosting is context dependent. If someone has treated you with respect, it isn’t cool to ghost. But many times women “ghost” after openly communicating that a boundary has been crossed or because they are scared which I think is wise. By contrast, I think men ghost because they are conflict avoidant, breadcrumbing and/ or being manipulative and priming a woman to accept unreliability. OP makes it clear that she’s seen a lot of stuff and now she is strategizing with how to stay safe. I’m … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:29 PM |
| 10 | Here's something for your midday coffee break: watch Graham Stephen roast a "pickup artist boot camp"“Ancient parrot” ☠️☠️☠️☠️ I’m 15 seconds in and dying thinking this is a spoof video as he explains that all women are babies that will age and grow old- so they are human?🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:21 PM |
| 214 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupNo, he doesn’t owe her anything but it is a reflection of his miserly character that he doesnt WANT or ENJOY being generous now that he is comfortable. It is terrible advice to “give without expectation” in intimate relationships which are different than charity. We are all human and if you behave this way you will get mooched off of and abused- including by other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 11:11 PM |
| 229 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.Girl, me too! I watched til 10 seconds and then had to stop. Unless you are a prostitute, why would you feel badly for a man paying? 💡The person who invites, pays. And for straight women dating straight men it is a terrible idea to ask men out.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:20 PM |
| 13 | The farce that “men age like fine wine”☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️the brilliance of a succinct statement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 04:11 PM |
| 68 | Men's hair turns white faster then women's do. Idk how the world still believes we age fasterExactly! Bad men/partners prematurely age women because she has anxiety and depression which she might treat with excessive alcohol consumption. And just the time factor of having to cook and clean and caregive for children when you have a lazy partner. She has more time and money to care for herself when she dumps the scrote. Thus, the glow up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:49 AM |
| 264 | Here’s What Women Say About Their [Male] Partners In TherapyI wish this were more common! Most women can articulate quite clearly about what isn’t working and they are hoping the influence of a 3rd party will make the man see the light. But men often know and even if they agree to therapy they like it because they can lie to the therapist and/or continue to just talk for an hour once a week and pretend like it’s progress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:45 AM |
| 97 | 15 years old and already and already mentally ahead of 99% of adult men.Men who do this are never satisfied and they do it to keep the woman thinking she has to be on her toes to keep his love. I’m a 34C cup and a man asked me if I’d get implants. We also had a conversation where he didn’t explicitly state it but I got the impression he wanted to travel to Costa Rica so he could have sex with minors.🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 03:41 AM |
| 31 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.Girl, me too! I’m gonna look 32-40 for-evah!🤣 (Or at least for another 8 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 09:46 AM |
| 15 | How do you handle men in your professional life who think they’re in love with you?Yeah, I’m pretty bummed that the owner of a company has offered me paid promotions for his brand but he’s giving me creep vibes so I’ll probably say no. He texts/ calls at weird hours, sends me music videos, talks about his kids but always leaves out his wife. If I’m already this uncomfortable and having to strategize in how to dodge him, I don’t think it’s enough money to tolerate. The | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:49 AM |
| 7 | We should work together to ensure that signs like this are posted in bars and restaurants across the country.I think you are being idealistic. I doubt a pay raise was involved for their employees or maybe a 1 hour team meeting about how to be helpful. I loathe to sound cynical but feels very corporate wants cookies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:42 AM |
| 40 | We should work together to ensure that signs like this are posted in bars and restaurants across the country.I agree. This is performative. Putting more job responsibilities into their workers and I’m guessing a pay raise wasn’t involved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:40 AM |
| 64 | We should work together to ensure that signs like this are posted in bars and restaurants across the country.Except that something like 50% of the police are domestic abusers. Have we not learned anything especially in light of Gabby Petito?🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:39 AM |
| 1 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Yes, I think this is a marker of narcissism or just rabid selfishness. Just because you are okay with something, doesn’t mean I have to be okay with it. 🚩🚩🚩 when you tell people you do not like something and they insist that you should be okay with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:38 AM |
| 3 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Yes, this is abuse. And that he is doing this publicly makes me think he enjoys humiliating her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:36 AM |
| 129 | Be wary of the guy who communicates a little too wellAlso, many broke/ starving artist types use communication and EQ to avoid providing anything material for a woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 06:32 AM |
| 26 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Another reason to avoid older men that have heartlessly strung women along and are now hoping to waste another woman’s youth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:13 AM |
| 13 | One of the most bittersweet, but ultimately helpful realisations of my dating life: For a LVM, it isn't about you. Make sure that it is about you for the guy you're dating.One of my family members is a narc and one year she gave me a hideous piece of jewelry that is something I would never wear in a million years. It was maybe tacky of me 🥶 but I asked if I could exchange it because “it is lovely but I don’t think I’ll ever wear it.” She flew into an absolute seething rage. The purpose of present is the “thought that counts” but sometimes there has been no thought so wtf? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:19 AM |
| 15 | One of the most bittersweet, but ultimately helpful realisations of my dating life: For a LVM, it isn't about you. Make sure that it is about you for the guy you're dating.Excellent point. I’ve never dated a man as intelligent or cosmopolitan as me. I even had an ex who thought that telling me that he would love me “even if I were a waitress at a local bar”. Btw- that is NOT meant to knock waitresses (which I used to be btw). It was offensive to me because he did not admire, love or respect my ambition or intelligence- and that I wouldn’t feel good being stuck in a job that didn’t incorporate my true passions. Same guy didn’t see the value in me getting an advance… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 26 | "The talk" about pornYeah, boundaries are meaningless if they aren’t enforced. Giving endless chances isn’t loving, it is enabling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:49 AM |
| 38 | "The talk" about pornYes, this is why we don’t tell men “No to coffee but I’m open to dinner.” He isn’t doing it because he wanted to and is a generous man, he is doing it to get what he wants- access to her body and time. Any whiff of “potential” is a no. He will potentially stop using porn. He will potentially come around to wanting marriage. He will potentially make more money some day, etc…should be a no for women. A man wasted years of my life requesting that I bet on his potential. I’m not a gambler but I thou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:46 AM |
| 22 | "The talk" about pornEverything you said but…would we as a society be okay with putting 16 year olds in cars, giving them zero training and then telling them to just trust other drivers? My life actually got dramatically better when I got skeptical and began having the expectation that people prove themselves to me just as I must prove myself to them. Only sketchy, shady and at best immature people, insist that you trust their words over listening to their actions. Trust is actually a loaded word for women because w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:35 AM |
| 157 | Is Marriage a Bad Deal for Women?This is why I have an issue with oversimplified scientific writing. A. She mentioned that attractiveness is “unevenly distributed” amongst men. Because she can’t say that men are not pressured or don’t care to put any time or effort into their physical appearance? It isn’t that women are just better looking. It’s that men are brainwashed by old white men who run the media to think that only men are visual and that a “good personality” can override looking busted. B. Are “happier” people married … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:21 AM |
| 123 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.Same goes for men who refuse to wear sunscreen. It’s not just vanity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:12 AM |
| 294 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-So he is allowing his girlfriend to think that he is going to marry her and is now publicly shaming her for being loyal? “If my girl could leave me for a guy who is more established or appreciates her more..” Um, this is not a man, this is a Grade A 🤡. He doesn’t appreciate her, so pretty much any man would be an upgrade for her. I can’t believe he posted this publicly where she, friends, family and a future employer can see this. And obviously he is shallow because he is talking about a physica… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 02:10 AM |
| 7 | Flirting tips + dating when not ready for marriageAgree so much with this post. 💡Even if you don’t want marriage, date like you want marriage. Similar to how it’s a life hack to only have sex with men who you are okay with being the father of your child.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:06 PM |
| 25 | Navigating the FDS as a WOCThis. Men absolutely weaponize a woman’s desire for marriage and children against her and prey on the fears society instills in us about our “window closing”. I have a particular distaste for men that say they are being “honest” when they string a woman along for sex, girlfriend experience and get in the way of her finding someone who shares her vision for marriage and a family. But a “man can only waste your time if you let him!” Nonsense. Women are under incredible pressure and men know this a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:11 AM |
| 25 | Navigating the FDS as a WOCA dusty is as a dusty does and many white men that target Black women do it because they think Black women have lower standards. Him: “I think we should go 50/50.” Me: “No. I am not a white liberal feminist.” Him: “I mostly don’t date white women.” Me: “It would behoove you to stop talking. I’m going to be pissed if you tell me that you have been taking resources from Black and Brown women.” The 50/50, “build me” white man in a relationship with a WOC is particularly exploitative/revolting becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 05:02 AM |
| 1 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Of course men should want to be better! But I cannot live in the world of shoulds or how I wish things were. It isn’t facts but just my belief and observation that people who hold privilege can’t be educated out of it or educated into wanting to be better people. So we can keep trying to change people who do not have empathy or we can encourage oppressed classes to do whatever it takes to get out from under their oppressor (in this case almost literally). I’m a big fan of withdrawing access and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 04:43 AM |
| 9 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Agreed with everything you have said. I’m perplexed that men love sports, can be a part of getting us to the moon (women’s contributions have been largely erased from space history), build skyscrapers, etc but are beyond lazy when it comes to courting, dating and relationships. I really do have compassion for women who have been brainwashed or are exhausted as you have pointed out. But I do not have compassion for women once they have been shown the light and continue to engage in the behavior o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 08:53 AM |
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| 12 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Agreed. The bare minimum= violence against men. Also agreed, if men were offering high quality, loving relationships then women wouldn’t engage in casual sex at all. Why can’t some women admit that they choose casual sex because they literally do not have other options? I have NEVER met a woman that rejected a high quality, sexy man offering a loving relationship to engage in casual sex. Pickmes out here screaming they love casual sex but haven’t even experienced anything other than a shitty rel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 07:25 AM |
| 33 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”I think it’s the lib fem ethos of “if we behave like men, we will have the power of men.” Wouldn’t it be more powerful to influence men to behave like women? Empathy, connection, meaningfulness? The “if you can’t beat em, join em and get an STD” mantra makes no damn sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 11:00 PM |
| 39 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Casual sex is mostly women being used as masturbatory tools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:57 PM |
| 17 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Also, unless your into BDSM, the sex will stop being good if you are being constantly disrespected.🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 10:57 PM |
| 17 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*You’ve also got me thinking now about how many people just have terrible friends but they stick around because being lonely appears to be worse. I avoid pickmes because they normalize and even replicate the bad behavior of their 🤡🤡. For example, I’ve had to have several sit downs with people asking them why they think it’s okay to blow off a message I’ve sent them and then pop up and pretend like they didn’t blow me off. It’s 9/10 times people who have shitty, inconsistent people in their life s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:57 PM |
| 62 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Excellent point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 07:02 PM |
| 39 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Wild if you read some of the comments in this thread that in a sub that is for dating and relationships the pickmes gone wild need to come here and explain to us about why casual sex benefits them.🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:16 PM |
| -3 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”I’m pointing out that if you refuse to vet or make time to qualify partners, you up the probability that you will engage with shady people. It takes 10 minutes to do a Google/ social media investigation. I’m confused as to how you are super busy and career focused and yet you are on a relationships/dating sub arguing about some of the basics of the goals of the sub. I’ll be disengaging because I’m getting troll vibes but good luck with all that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:13 PM |
| 18 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”Same girl same! I love it here because everywhere else it feels like I am being outrageous for my expectation that I be treated with respect.🤦🏽♀️ It’s also bizarre because these are often women who see how good my life is, see that men desire and pursue me in a way they would like for themselves but then continue to stay mired in the same behaviors and resent me when I refuse to love them “unconditionally” and play free therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:09 PM |
| 4 | Age gap relationships look like this…“Balls in the toilet when he pees”☠️☠️☠️☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:02 PM |
| 4 | Age gap relationships look like this…I once had an elder Kevin begin yelling at me and then pull up his sleeve to show me a swastika tattoo and give me some unhinged rant about the master race. Umm, less than 30 seconds ago he had offered to take me to Las Vegas (presumably to stick his peepee in me) and then flipped when I wasn’t interested in poorly aged white penis. Btw- I am obviously brown. And most 🇺🇸 slave owners raped their slaves and/or had second families with their concubines. Thomas Jefferson was total pedo who “picked”… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 06:00 PM |
| 104 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”This is its own post! Please consider posting.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:54 PM |
| 7 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”I don’t know what your point is. Also, you mention that you don’t have time so are you making time to vet? Because your casual approach might end up with you sleeping with someone else’s husband. You can be okay with that but I absolutely am revolted by that behavior and selfishness. Another poster points our quote brilliantly that we all effect each other with our “private lives”. Good for you that it’s not “that deep” but why comment on a post or manage down the standards of women who do desir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:45 PM |
| 33 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”This is an excellent point. I agree with you on all of it. AND I didn’t always know this information. But I did course correct when presented with it. A huge reason I quit OLD was because I read about how a huge percentage of men on it are married or are already in relationships. I had no clue about this until FDS! There is a difference between women who really do not know and then are presented with this information and continue to deny what you are saying vs women who make changes after being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:37 PM |
| 62 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”It’s complex. I have compassion for women who don’t know any better and have terribly low self- esteem because contrary to what our culture says most women have low self-esteem because they have been treated badly. Low self- esteem is not a personal failing. But I won’t be close with people like this who want free therapy and continue to self- harm or refuse to work to change their behavior. I just don’t have the bandwidth anymore. And some of these types will resent you for having high standard… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 05:30 PM |
| 81 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”Say no. Although I know I’ll get downvoted for this…the more you enhance your physical appearance or conform to beauty standards, the more options you will have with LVM.🤣 Conventionally beautiful women attract a higher volume of men but that doesn’t mean that they are quality men. But if sexual attraction is important to you and you are not attracted to the men that are attracted to you, it might be time to work on your physical appearance. All humans are visual. Women are just as visual as men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 135 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”I feel so sad for your friend. She’s paying to be treated badly. it’s also this bizarre competition/ race to the bottom some pickmes do where they think not having feelings or being vulnerable makes them desirable or a “boss bitch.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:34 PM |
| 23 | They will always show up again, one way or anotherEven the ones that dumped me tried to come back. They thought they could do better and discovered they couldn’t.🤣. I feel badly for the other women they attempt to string along.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:29 PM |
| 117 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”“I have to sleep with him right away to see if he is good in bed.” -the woman who has never had an orgasm and gets repeatedly ghosted There are many ways to tell if a man will be good in bed before you let him close to your bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:16 PM |
| 118 | “But I love casual sex. I have a high sex drive and I don’t want a loving relationship.”It’s hilarious that we are being downvoted.🤣 i have zero idea as to why intelligent women continue to push this casual sex narrative even here at FDS. It’s radical denial. If casual sex were so fantastic, I would be doing it!🤣. I’m an avowed hedonist so I don’t do casual sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:10 PM |
| 22 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.This is why I want to meet a man who has as many options as I do and we choose each other out of all the other options. Men who don’t have options love bomb and/or are broke and beg you to rely on their potential. But if they get money, they have more options and cannot handle it. Men who have options and choose loving relationships have learned to delay gratification which bodes well for a committed partnership. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 04:00 PM |
| 21 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Friends with exes= imaginary harem | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 03:55 PM |
| 32 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Part of the reason that they marry the next one is that they recognize that their options are diminishing. It’s like an extreme rebound. Story that I hope makes sense: I once had an ex that continued to act like my “friend” after he broke up with me. Brought me gifts for holidays and out of the blue. Invited me for cool dates . I was very confused and thought maybe it was because he was still in love with me. Sometimes I wouldn’t even respond to his texts and he would still continually reach out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 03:52 PM |
| 49 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*Hallelujah, amen! Even if you “win” this 🤡 game, what 🤡 prize is worth it? It is not “boss bitch” vibes to be emotionally unavailable to a man you are opening your legs for. Can we just normalize women wanting a loving relationship and using a vibrator for orgasms until she gets it? I’m sick of women claiming that their high libido overrides their logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 03:31 PM |
| 24 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*Yeah, what about oxytocin? If you are having orgasms and good sex with a man you respect and like who likes and respects you, you will get attached. It would be odd if you didn’t….otherwise you are having sex without orgasms and/or sex with a man that you do not respect. Someone with a healthy sense of self- esteem doesn’t do that. And why would you reward a man who doesn’t like or respect you with sex? Why are you having sex with men that use you as a mastubatory tool or allow you to use them? … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 149 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*PS being emotionally unavailable to a partner or compartmentalizing is not goals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:49 AM |
| 246 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*Yikes. I like her intention but this gives me “cool girl” vibes. Do NOT share your body with men that are not committed to you. And no, beating them at their game doesn’t benefit women as a class. He is still getting sex! He’s not that pressed that she doesn’t want a relationship with him. (Which she prob does because we can’t override the biology of oxytocin with logic.) It’s a myth that men fall for women like this. Instead they use her for sex and get their emotional needs met elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:47 AM |
| 14 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Rummaging through trash, metaphorical or literal, is def not a life hack. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 10:48 PM |
| 2 | PSA: For the love of God, STOP faking your orgasms ladies!What white male therapist or his pickme handmaiden dictated that verbal communication is at the hierarchy of all communication? Where are the peer reviewed journals and think pieces about how talking to men like they are toddlers or that stepping in as anatomy teachers is going to inspire them to pleasure us? justcommunicate 🤢🤮 Only a borderline sexual predator tries to kiss or touch a woman who is leaning away with her arms crossed. I seriously want to know at what moment in 🇺🇸 culture reading … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 10:41 PM |
| 62 | Are men not attracted to women they respect?🤢🤢🤢🤮 could not hold that in. He will prob also marry and impregnate said white women. Most bizarre logic yet of a man who is prob just ashamed of his “preference”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:48 PM |
| 433 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.It is purposefully kept from women that some men choose women for convenience and that’s it. Humans but especially men can be in relationships with people they do not respect or love. Marriage has traditionally been a way for men to secure steady, consistent sex. It is not a guaranteed symbol of commitment. We know this because think of all the married/committed men that flirt with you or are otherwise “too friendly”. And some men even use their married status to lure in naive women and/or pickm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:40 PM |
| 202 | Are men not attracted to women they respect?Definitely. A man like this WILL circle back years later to tell you he always had a crush on you. This is why you don’t want to be a man’s dream girl. Men who have dream girls frequently also treat all the other women terribly and see them as training wheels to get to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:31 PM |
| 42 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”“Be careful who you share your standards with.” People who have low standards for their life will manage your standards down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:27 PM |
| 44 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”And it must be a walk date through a field after you go 50/50 on coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:26 PM |
| 80 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Yes, my anti- aging secret is that I dump men as soon as they begin to trigger even an ounce of anxiety/stress/depression for me. Unless we are well into the relationship and have had tons of fun already, I have zero tolerance for feeling anything less than cherished by a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:25 PM |
| 38 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Exactly. We all die “alone”. My grandmother had 5 children, outlived my grandfather after 50 years of a mostly happy unión (or so I’ve been led to believe) and outlived all of her oldest friends. She died peacefully. And alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:24 PM |
| 32 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 09:19 PM |
| 72 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”Or the hospital (maybe even psych hospital) from years of suppressed emotions and stress that manifest as cancer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:30 PM |
| 152 | Pickmes and 🤡🤡🤡: “If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.”“My community penis will heal you from being a lesbian.” genre | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 06:26 PM |
| 22 | Men are such pick mes trying to gaslight me into being a pick me“If you are so picky, you are going to be single forever.” Translation: “If you don’t go on no effort coffee dates with men you are not attracted to and then refuse sex on the first date, you are going to be single forever.” Also, “You are responsible for your happiness but if you complain about orgasm less sex and men who bring zero value to your life, you are a shallow gold digger that deserves to die alone.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 05:37 PM |
| 19 | Watching Sweet Home Alabama after FDSI was interested in filmmaking but in my very first class the professor was a misogynist- mediocre Hollywood type that maybe had success with one high budget film and leveraged it into a teaching position. One day I looked around and saw who my “peers” were- all white men and one Black guy. I knew that it was a network that I wouldn’t thrive within in. Also, I am astounded how every white man thinks his depression/angst screenplay is a story we’ve never seen before. Also, I lived in LA for many … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 05:25 PM |
| 50 | reminder. none of us like this. but...(if you are serious about wanting a relationship with a quality man) you HAVE to meet a lot of men 🤢. finding hvm involves luck. if you go on as many dates as possible 😢you will increase your bleak, terrible odds.I agree. It’s a pernicious myth that “it’s a numbers game”. I get that it is disturbing to those of us who grow up with the 🇺🇸 ethos that we have control over our relationships. Dating coaches businesses would dry up if they were to admit that sometimes it’s just luck. I think being intentional and going on fewer, high quality dates is an optimal strategy. Also, I’m 39 and I very much regret treating dating like a part time job. OLD was a waste of time, energy and it negatively effected my menta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 09:28 PM |
| 3 | "WIFE 💍"Also, married men use their married status to pull naive women or Pickme heaux. Honest women think that a married man won’t try anything because he usually waits to tell her about how unhappy he is blah, blah, blah. She is thinking, “wow, this couple is goals.” But really he is just presenting himself as a good guy to prey on her naïveté. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 04:00 AM |
| 1 | "Have no expectations, then you won't be disappointed" and "Stop expecting so much" being thrown around like they'll help you.This is why having great, non- pickme friends is vital. I only spend time with men that treat me as well as my friends do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 03:35 AM |
| 1 | blocked and deleted a scrote for switching up on me after 2nd dateThis is called priming or grooming. This is why I can’t stand fake “honest/nice” guys. These men will come on strong but then pull back and claim that they’re too busy to respond or be in a relationship. They’ll def try to use you for sex/ girlfriend experience and then say “I was honest with you about how busy I am.” Beware of men who claim to be “busy” or want you to be their social director (like they will tell you that they will pay for everything if you plan it). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 03:25 AM |
| 1 | "You will end up 40, alone and desperate, because you so stuck up". A teardown of one of the most common negs out there.I spent years in a relationship where I was very depressed but thought I was the problem for not “being grateful”. Um, being with a man whose main hobby is watching television, is mediocre (mostly bad) at sex and doesn’t intellectually stimulate you IS depressing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:36 AM |
| 1 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoI once knew a man who would blather about how marriage is just a “piece of paper”.🤢 His forever girlfriend and mother of his 2 children came into a little bit of money and offered to set him up in his dream business…as long as they got married. Guess who got married? He knew that marriage was important to her but only saw the value in marriage when it benefitted him. And he knew that she would rather be a forever girlfriend than single mom. Gold diggers are disproportionately men. PS I am going … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Response to 40+ yo men who want kids "someday"I will not date a man unless he looks good to me. So unless he is a unicorn, I really have no choice but to date younger men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:02 AM |
| 1 | Can we talk about loneliness?I’m glad that that works for you. But chasing friends is also pickme energy and that had never worked for me- especially if one is childless and single. You are constantly expected to be there for people who think it is okay to NOT be there for you. People make time for what is important to them. It is healthy to opt out of relationships with people who are “too busy”. I match energy and my life has gotten so much better since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 12:58 AM |
| 78 | This is why we don’t do hike or walk “dates”…he proceeded to MAKE FUN OF ME, before I unmatched. DANGEROUS.I don’t think I’ve ever been on a coffee date because I did know about all of the other red flags present before a man even offers a coffee date. The negging, the endless texting, the inability to plan a date/tule… It’s a myth that women are dismissive. The 🚩🚩🚩🚩 usually come in a flurry and not individually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/10/21 06:16 PM |
| 8 | They always come back for a temp checkteachtheyouth please | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:31 AM |
| 4 | They always come back for a temp check☠️yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:29 AM |
| 10 | Poor PickMe did a dang photoshoot 🤦♀️Very bizarre passive aggressiveness towards people who make commitments? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:35 AM |
| 115 | Poor PickMe did a dang photoshoot 🤦♀️Very bizarre passive aggressiveness towards people who make commitments? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 02:07 AM |
| 16 | The lack of attractive men out there is so dishearteningDon’t forget lack of sleep and having to pay for water that hasn’t been poisoned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:26 AM |
| 26 | The lack of attractive men out there is so dishearteningThis is also why we need start to putting pressure on straight men. Gay men are disproportionately hotter because they know they have to compete. Straight men are spoiled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:24 AM |
| 24 | The lack of attractive men out there is so dishearteningYeah, I wish we could normalize having a sex drive but no interest in sex because straight men are just not cutting it. I meet the occasional hottie but IN MY ENTIRE 39 years, I have yet to meet a man who is the total package. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 05:22 AM |
| 10 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysTigress here. A tigress let’s the men come to her. I do not love the cougar analogy because older women preying on younger men the way that older men prey on younger women is still pretty gross. The majority of older women (like myself) don’t go after younger men. They approach and pursue us. Se discover that some younger men treat us better and look so much better than their older counterparts. I still laugh riotously when men 35+ offer me FWB. I don’t do “casual” sex but if I did it’s going to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 08:58 PM |
| 591 | When people ask me why I suddenly only date younger guysI’m with you. “Older men are more mature.” Issa scam. Up there with 50/50 and “casual” sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 08:08 PM |
| 86 | I don’t want my life to revolve around my relationship. How can I find friends who believe in FDS when I work from home?Do not try to make friends. Instead, pick a few things you love that are enriching and social where you will bump into the same people frequently. Adult friendships are dictated by time and proximity. Clubs and classes are great because: People already want to be there. Less awkwardness than a friendship date. Also, I am against “talking dates” with strangers. Too many 🇺🇸 confuse trauma bonding or unpacking life history as “friendship”. I prefer doing things with people and having common interes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 01:40 AM |
| 140 | Thoughts on Building With A Man10,000%! I asked my 20 year old neighbor who is in undergrad if he had a girlfriend and his response was that he wasn’t in a position to date until he was making enough money to take a woman on dates. Also, he used to give me rides long distance (2-3 hours) and he would always ask me to let him know when I would be using the bathroom so that he could find a restaurant in time. He didn’t think a woman like me would be okay with the gas station bathroom. He is wrong but I didn’t tell him that.😂🤣 H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 10:45 PM |
| 7 | A few bad datesI won’t cook at all. 🤣 Because it isn’t something I enjoy. I don’t know FDS guidelines exactly on this and mine is just a perspective but I’ve been very happy in relationships where I found my way of reciprocating withOUT money, cooking or cleaning.🤢 I’ve bought small gifts- like a sweatshirt or tickets. I am def NOT for 50/50- more like 90/10. I am in the financial position to occasionally pay for “small ticket” items. If you do not want to or you are not in the financial position, then don’t d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 09:19 PM |
| 44 | A few bad datesDo not ever pull you wallet out when with a man. As the courtship progresses you can make him dinner, buy the occasionally movie ticket, etc…but even then always do things online so your wallet physically never appears in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 01:55 AM |
| 2 | This is literally a serious fucking comment I just got today. I wish I could say its rare that males talk like this but its not. They really believe themselves too.🤡 rhetoric. Also, I concede that this man is smarter than me but what is up with his inability to capitalize Is or correctly punctuate? I guess it is some advanced 🤡 language that I do not speak.😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 10:46 PM |
| 76 | The level of mental gymnastics here🤢🤮🤮🤮 couldn’t keep it in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 03:59 AM |
| 5 | Stop Giving a F: Quit “Paragraphing” For Men IRL, Too.A life hack for me has been “sometimes you need to treat people the way that they treat you”. My endless kindness and compassion frequently resulted in being treated like a doormat. It isn’t “mean” to stand up for yourself or enforce consequences when people violate your boundaries. A big part of why I stopped believing in “just communicate” or “teach people how to treat you” is because I’m actually pretty masterful with words and I observed that even when I was kindly communicating bare minimum… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 12 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?RMWNE- “removing myself with no explanation” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 10:24 PM |
| 44 | I’m just so over dating at this point“I’m busy.”= “I’m too busy for you.” Radical perspective- if a person demonstrates that they cannot use a telephone to communicate effectively, I just block. Confusion is a no. Taking forever to respond to messages, no acknowledging that I sent a message, leaving me on read, not RSVPing when I’ve asked them to, etc…, now I just block because communication with people like this is too taxing- you end up feeling more like a social director than a friend. I ignore people of both genders who do use … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/21 02:01 PM |
| 24 | Unfortunate Date AnalysisIt’s also a way of gaging your finances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:19 PM |
| 19 | Some men say, men going for much younger women or even teenagers is just "biology". I just realised adult men who try to be with teenagers/much younger women usually end up alone.I come for the dopamine hits of laughter myself. 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:34 PM |
| 93 | Ask Amy: After husband announces relationship with a 19-year-old, it’s time to talk to an attorneyI have trauma from my travels in Costa Rica and the Dominican Republic. Both out of sadness for the young girls and the women there that must be prostitutes for survival AND for myself and the old, nasty white American and European men that would hit on me thinking I was a local woman. I am VERY angry about the “glamorization” and “sex work is empowering” ethos by women who have never had to have sex for survival. I felt dehumanized SIMPLY by men leering and offering me money to spend the night … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:24 PM |
| 21 | Ask Amy: After husband announces relationship with a 19-year-old, it’s time to talk to an attorney👏🏾👏🏽👏🏾👏🏽👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:19 PM |
| 129 | For women of color/ minorities, be extra careful of fetishization or familial racismI’m not attracted to boorish men- and white men because of their culture disproportionately behave this way. They will brag about their ancestors being Vikings and in the same breath talk about other humans as “illegal aliens”- with zero irony that anyone of enslaved or Latin American descent has deeper roots and has “technically” (by their own freaking metric) been here longer than them. My ancestors got here between the 1400s-1600’s. His family came “legally” through Ellis Island in maybe the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 09:59 PM |
| 30 | Sad but not brokenDid you block him yet? His intentions don’t matter. Do not give him points for his “honesty” that he “isn’t ready” or that he is still “not over his ex” whatever it is that he claims is holding him back from asking you to be in a committed relationship. He should NOT be dating. A few things will happen: A. He will string you along, use you for sex and the “girlfriend experience” and then he will dump you. He will insist that he wasn’t confusing you because he was “honest”. You will try to be a “… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 01:55 PM |
| 10 | He said he wanted a relationship💯 We need to pushback against the narrative that dating is a numbers game. Some people are just lucky and meet someone organically and don’t have to have a bunch of traumatic dating experiences before meeting a good partner. I think dating with intention is the way to go if you feel like dating. American style dating is largely 🗑. Men are looking for sex, women are wanting to be courted. Mismatched goals from jumó. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 07:24 AM |
| 29 | I’m really curious to know..Do NOT give the “benefit of the doubt” to strangers. It is a privilege to be extended to people who have already proven that they are trustworthy, reliable and consistent. People who expect you to just “accept them as they are” when you have no to little history are a gigantic red flag. When people disappoint or upset you, do NOT pretend you are ok with it. Say something immediately and see if they honor your boundary no matter how tiny or if they pushback. Totally okay to drop people who think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 08:16 PM |
| 21 | A reminder on the Scarcity Mindset: don't allow yourself to get too deep into this state of mind. 🧲We attract what we believe.🧠 Operating from a place of bitter disbelief will significantly decrease your chance of attracting a hvm. (+✅green flags)Yeah, a lot of us are honest people and we “attracted” liars. No. It is not about what we attract. It is about what we filter. Otherwise why are so many of us “attracting” men 20+ years older? Because that is def not something I fantasize about or manifest.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:06 AM |
| 11 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.If a man walks into Maserati dealership and offers them $5, they will laugh and know he is a 🤡. We are invaluable so block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:28 PM |
| 6 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.What do we do to push you over the edge?🕵🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:26 PM |
| 13 | That's a nice way of asking if I want to drive half an hour for a coffee date.Do not Uber deliver yourself to a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 10:24 PM |
| 17 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesPlease read the handbook several times. Block him. And if you feel angry- be angry! Our anger is a powerful, protective boundary. He knows what he is doing. Do not let him string you along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:13 PM |
| 2 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileCan we start calling him Joe Rogaine? Also, the 🤡logic of listening to these red pillers that are obviously entering man-opause and using their last virile years to spew misogyny😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 17 | Don't be discouraged that you tolerated a LVMI told an ex that he was a bad investment that I deeply regretted. And then I excised him from my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:13 PM |
| 15 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesYeah, I’ve had enough of the 🤡 monologues. If I’m going to have to listen to that they need to be compensating me like a therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:11 PM |
| 13 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesThe simplicity 🔥🔥🔥🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 01:09 PM |
| 71 | “Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”One can judge without condemning. And sometimes it is necessary to judge AND condemn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:59 PM |
| 18 | Misogyny and inceldom have just caused the WORST mass shooting in decades in the UKHi! Don’t learn the name of these terrorists. Someone explained to me a few years back that we need to know and discuss terrorism but that we remove one of their incentives- to capture our attention.. https://www.dontnamethem.org https://www.npr.org/sections/publiceditor/2021/03/25/981170871/npr-standards-need-more-clarity-around-when-to-name-a-mass-shooter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:57 PM |
| 11 | Beware the “Mature Communicator”bringshameback2021🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:15 AM |
| -12 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMYeah, I hope the mods remove this whole post. Slavery isn’t cool even if the slave owners are women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:07 AM |
| 0 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMI stopped being friends with a woman who had a GWTW poster in her bathroom. It’s 2021, not going to be empathizing with women complicit in slavery🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 07:06 AM |
| 38 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaCackling! Sounds like an amazing account to rabbit hole down post 2 Mojitos with a girlfriend 😂😂😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:13 AM |
| 49 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaYeah, it is a personal pet peeve when people invite themselves into my space or into my life. I think this is a serious breach of etiquette. It also tends to be lazy men that do this because they don’t want to plan a date and they can future fake AND network if they are opportunistic 🤡🤡🤡. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 32 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaWhy? 🕵🏽 Me over here really thinking I knew all of the 🚩🚩😂😭🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:03 AM |
| 70 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaI am now very motivated to wear high heels.😈🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:01 AM |
| 3 | What do good sex and a good sense of humor have in common?Are we drinking Margaritas or are we just getting high on laughs? 🤗 (some of my friends are sober, some enjoy altering consciousness with substances) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:46 AM |
| 0 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.Maybe she’s strategic and secretly planning to get reparations?🤣 He absolutely knows that she is the prize. He may have been itching to get out of there for some time. She had the money to do it and possibly better business savvy for them to leverage Netflix deals vs him having to rely on Grandma’s allowance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:42 AM |
| 2 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”Hmmm, what comes to mind as part of releasing the anger is holding literal space for myself. I’ve begun with the smallest of boundaries. For example, I wear a mask (where I live Covid cases are on the rise) and when I am on the sidewalk I stay to the right and I do not make eye contact. On the rare occasion people bump into me, I shake my head with anger and keep walking. I also have verbal comebacks in my head and my phone ready- which I’ve never had to use but people are wild. I also no longer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:16 AM |
| 7 | What do good sex and a good sense of humor have in common?🤣😂🤣😂 I will consider your application if it means we 🤡 slay in our free time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:08 AM |
| 2 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersGirl, they sprinted past your point. Not your problem anymore but I’m glad that other saw it. And I’m sure that there are lurkers who agreed but didn’t get into the mix. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:07 AM |
| 1 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersThe podcasts are fun, too! Don’t worry babe- it’s taken me years to be strategic with my energy who I decide to engage with. One of the most powerful things we can do is walk away (online and in person) and ignore- people who think they have more power then us get really angry because they feel entitled to our energy. It’s like when a stranger walks up to you and says “Do you live here?” Or “Where are you from?” Just look them up and down head to toe, say “Who are you?” And then walk away. This … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 04:04 AM |
| 2 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”FET Life- “Fuck Everybody Though” It is a completely legitimate mood when the world is ugly and cruel. Since I have begun to feel my anger and seriously push back against toxic programming, I feel “empowered”. (I usually loathe that word.). And I recognize that people are so afraid of my anger because it is a powerful sometimes necesssry boundary. I tried those “toxic positivity” streets for years. Do not recommend. Happy to be “negative, angry, crazy, bitter” with you.😘. Let us acknowledge that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 03:58 AM |
| 1 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersI didn’t even bother reading past the first sentences of women who obviously are not open to growth conversations. Ignoring is best strategy. This is just what people with privileged identities do. Just as Black men will complain about racism but turn a blind eye to misogyny, white women will literally talk over Black women and then call us divisive. 🤣😂 Just take from FDS what you will and don’t waste your time on people who don’t want to learn or understand your experience.😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:30 AM |
| 26 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesAlso, unless he was super hot he needs to be careful with the generally unflattering lighting at the gym.🤣 Ps I also wouldn’t do gym because other hot men might be there and they will think you are off the market. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:25 AM |
| 5 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.Agreed. After an LTR relationship ended I felt so drained and ambition less and I realized it was because I poured all of my energy into that ex. And he really had the nerve to not acknowledge how much he achieved because of me. I wasn’t even a full on pickme. I even had a TERRIBLE life coach talk me out of dumping him.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:23 AM |
| 33 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesGet one of those Amish dresses at Target and report back how it goes.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 02:19 AM |
| 55 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesOn the surface it could be cool because that is a nice thing to share but I suspect he is cheap. OP mentioned that this was from OLD but def avoid this if it is a place you already enjoy because it will just be awkward if you have to bump into the person over and over again if that first date goes badly…and he knows where to find you.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 160 | Why LVM love walk/hike/coffee datesYeah, most mainstream dating and relationship advice is terrible and outdated to put it nicely. Peak Covid times major news outlets were suggesting the “walk date”. They completely ignored that cheap men and men who think Covid is a hoax were using walk dates to go on tons of dates and therefore not helping to contain Covid! Always read about the author, their credentials and if they are trying to sell you a product. Cracks me up that many of these Dr. Pickmes assert themselves as experts when t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:41 PM |
| 1 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersYeah, people sometimes don’t find the truth digestible so they reject the message.🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 09:15 PM |
| 11 | What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend?👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I agree. They’re modeling disordered behavior, making money from it and influencing women to fail. Most of these women come from privilege and wealth so they can abscond into the night and “reinvent” themselves as conscious capitalists and Instagram lifestyle gurus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:00 PM |
| 23 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.Daniel Holtzclaw We can’t even trust cops to walk us down from hikes where we might die of heat stroke. Angela Tramonte | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:24 PM |
| 32 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.I’m so sorry babe. Hugs through my phone.💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:23 PM |
| 15 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.They joke but then get angry when we call them 🤡. I am not obligated to laugh with you but thank you for making me laugh AT you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:21 PM |
| 234 | So. Many. Red. Flags.What is this bizarre pleasure I get from counting 🚩? 🚩Fiancé of 10 years. 🚩casual 🚩office fling where we could have lost our jobs or I could be accused of sexual harrasment 🚩she is an adulterer but I also recognized that she was probably lonely and I pretended to be an out, a “shoulder/penis to cry on” 🚩I need validation to dump her so I am mentioning that she is an adulterer- even though I knew this 10 years ago. Getting whiplash from how much I am 🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 324 | ..did anybody see this?This made me 😂🤣 He made FDS’s point for us when he went into his role reversal paragraph.🤣 Kyle, every day the media does tell women we are 💩, they just fancier language than your expletive laden potty mouth and brain can comprehend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:09 PM |
| 32 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.That “end the date early” energy 👏🏾👏🏾 That “no to a second date with a man who thinks drinking too much means he isn’t accountable” wisdom 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I get the vibe that you are a BDSM (“Block and Delete for Scrote Management” someone else’s witticism but I don’t remember her handle) woman.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I salute you.😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 06:03 PM |
| 58 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 🤡logic is really just them throwing their feces at us and then acting surprised that we don’t smell the nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:58 PM |
| 6 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersI think it’s misogyny that we even have the expectation of a single mom to do the equivalent labor of a village. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:20 PM |
| 3 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single Mothers👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Men who watch their single mother struggle or a working mom “do it all” don’t think, “Wow! I want to make a woman’s life easier.” They think, “My mom did it so why can’t my wife?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:19 PM |
| -4 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersOP I agree with your statement. And for those of you feeling offended, you get to have your feelings. OP never said ALL single mothers. ALL family dynamics have an element of dysfunction. What OP was highlighting and is mostly true is that because of how our culture is structured, men who grow up in single parent households are DISPROPORTIONATELY at a disadvantage and exposed to adverse life experiences. This is facts. Kids who grow up in single parent households are more likely to grow up in po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:14 PM |
| 2 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersOr they use their divorced parents as an excuse for why they’re “commitment phobic”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:01 PM |
| 117 | BDSM Apologist Slams Gail Dines, Claims it's Not Violent to WomenI did not read the article. I saw his photo and knew everything I need to know. The hairline situation is underrated data. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 218 | I can't believe he really said that to her yet if it wasn't because of she is on her period, he might wanted more than a innocent holding hands.Yeah, I might have to quit the internet for today. A. I hope that this is scrote fiction. B. She went to a strange man’s house for a coffee date!!!! C. He sifts through 🗑 🤢 We need a “State of the Union” address because the lunacy of encouraging women to go to strange men’s homes where they are not even allowed to use the bathroom is just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:51 PM |
| 74 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”Even if you did none of those things, why can’t these men ever just be decent human beings without expecting a payoff? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:42 PM |
| 23 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.I didn’t either until I spent time in the Middle East. I am not saying that women there have it better. But if an Emirati man told an Emirati woman that she would need to have a full time job, give him her money, split bills, come home and cook and clean, stay sexy and have sex on demand those “oppressed” women would LAUGH in his face and his family would shame him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:41 PM |
| 25 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.I get that it is cultural but I think it is beyond tacky for a man who isn’t seriously committed to you to be asking you to discuss your finances. Many 🇺🇸 do not realize that it is uncouth in many parts of the world to ask someone “what do you do?” and to talk about work. And be careful if you are a woman dating men that talk about work all the time because he will make you his business advisor, life coach, financial planner, secretary, etc…without paying you. And/or he will dangle the commitmen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:35 PM |
| 209 | 🤡: “But what if she is just trying to use me for a free dinner?”These men almost always: A. Are physically unattractive. B. Have terrible personalities. C. Trying to “sex dig”. They’re projecting their opportunistic ways onto women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:26 PM |
| 31 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.Gold diggers are men that either don’t have gold or have gold and are stingy/miserly. I am guessing by your comment that you are North American or from Western Europe. In many parts of the world, a woman’s finances/ money are NONE of a man’s business if he wants to court/date or marry her. Even if she has money, her money is her money and his money is their money. The only men that have been concerned about my “financial health” were men that could not afford to provide for me and future childre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 72 | “Sexual harassment should be normalized!” and other wtf scrote quotes from dates.“I love a confident woman.” 🤡 Translator: I like women that will have sex with me on the first date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 11 | I Avoid Men Raised by Single MothersI agree with OP. A woman cannot teach a little boy how to be a man. And what happens often in these communities with single mother households is that the mother will make him her surrogate husband. I now avoid men from single parent households after having dated 2 of them. They were both liberal, “momma’s boys” and it was gross. And they didn’t see how messed up it was that their fathers dipped out of their lives and then circled back once they were 25 and now they were such “great” friends with… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 10 | When men talk about "the wall", they are inadvertently admitting that women are oppressed.Like a Yelp for scrotes? I’ll make the time.🙋🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 03:08 PM |
| 47 | What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend?Flashback to a wilding liberal feminist who I stopped hanging out with when she revealed that she had “accidentally” slept with 2 of her friend’s boyfriends. Um, that is a pattern and thank you for telling on yourself. So bizarre the amount of women who think that behaving unethically is inherently feminist because to them feminism is doing anything you want.🕵🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:49 PM |
| 37 | What's the most insane thing you've heard from a pickme friend?By Class A drugs are we talking Prozac and Rose? Sucks that disproportionately young mentally unhealthy women are given huge platforms. Lena Dunham, that Prozac book lady, et al… Also, notice that any article written about why age gap relationships are ok and how women “prefer” older men are written by women younger than 40. Like Sara, calm down and maybe write about this after having been a man’s nurse and purse and being old enough to recognize predatory behavior? But why would lib fem editors… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:45 PM |
| 118 | Today's 👀 moment (can you spot the 🚩?)Tell me you’re bad in bed without telling me you’re bad in bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:38 PM |
| 48 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.Wealthy, qualified men can be gold diggers, too. Especially to women who have less than them! They play on a woman’s shame about not coming from money and her naïveté that she doesn’t want to seem like a “gold digger”. If a man only wants a certain type of “pedigreed” woman, then he is a bit of a snob, cares more about social standing than a connection and maybe is a gold digger that expects a woman to finance her side of the relationship.🤢. Be careful because his family might be this way, too. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:27 PM |
| 222 | A male friend of mine said something interesting to me recently about leveling up.And depending on the field they could be broke or drowning in debt. And be careful of Peter Pans that are “lifelong students”.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:17 PM |
| 2 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:03 PM |
| 5 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleYeah, it strikes me as vanilla/ boring to recreate scenes that you’ve seen in porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:11 AM |
| 9 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleI have compassion for women who really don’t know any better. Women with little dating experience, women that are growing up in the “normalization of porn era”, etc… I do NOT have compassion for Pickmes who do know better and insist on continuing to do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 05:08 AM |
| 16 | Things 🤡🤡 say:I get livid when I think how many times gay men (especially white gay men) have mansplained and gaslit me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 04:04 AM |
| 44 | Reminder:Relationships are healing but they are not therapy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 02:00 AM |
| 133 | Reminder:Respect is my love language. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 01:40 AM |
| 14 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Love me some B & D. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 6 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?Yes. Look for men with career success that care about work/life balance. Only date men that are financially stable. Also, some men work to make money and then are passionate about their hobbies. I like men like this because they aren’t overly identified with their work and sometimes are better about work/life balance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:15 PM |
| 22 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleYeah, the pickme cannon of “no expectations”, “I just want to have fun even though it consistently jeapordizes my mental health to be with men who don’t love or respect me”, I could write a novel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:08 PM |
| 14 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleWe are all special. But we will not be special to some people and that is healthy and okay! And it is healthy to vet people before deciding if they are deserving of being special to YOU. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:04 PM |
| 26 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleOmg! So many liberal feminists complaining about the tyranny of patriarchy in the Middle East but then they are terrified to ask the man they have been in a situationship with for the last 6 months to “define the relationship”. I would laugh but it makes me sad because these are smart women who just haven’t seen the light yet.❤️🩹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 18 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleI appreciate the bluntness of the statement, “He’s just not that into you”. But I also got a little bit of, “He will def be into someone else who is prettier than you.” I’m thinking of the Jennifer Coolidge/Scarlett Johansson triangle. Sometimes “he’s just not that into you because he wants cheap and easy sex so he will pretend to be into another woman to get it.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:58 PM |
| 35 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the rulePart of my Pickmeism was having been an “ugly duckling”. I thought if I were beautiful enough that I would have more options for love. Where could I possibly have gotten that idea?🕵🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 47 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleI only want to be a man’s rule. He treats ALL women with kindness and respect regardless of whether or not he is attracted to them. A woman who insists on or takes pride in being “the exception” is usually attached to a douchey man. She usually goes from “dream girl” to “doormat” within 3 months-1 year. One of the reasons I don’t have resentment (or at least not that much) towards past exes is because they took me on dates, trips, bought me gifts, were emotionally supportive, etc…so I don’t thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:52 PM |
| 7 | Of all the pick-me BS! Is this empowering?So that you don’t get used and abused. Very successful models know that they have a “shelf life” so they leverage their beauty into other careers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:17 PM |
| 16 | Of all the pick-me BS! Is this empowering?Yes, but I def feel that really attractive men are more likely to be dull as rocks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:06 PM |
| 9 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?And some men need to grow up and sacrifice their dream of a rock band needs to be surrendered if they want a wife and family. I seriously regret the time I wasted dating a man who still hope to make it as an artist when he was 32. I thought his dreams were beautiful but got increasingly frustrated that his main hobby was watching TV. He wasn’t even using his free time to pursue his passion.🤦🏽♀️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 05:01 PM |
| 11 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?Don’t date potential. A man will not date you because of your potential. These highly unstable fields affect the psyche of the men who choose them. Many actors are borderline narcissists and feminized because they are always waiting to get picked for the next job. It is difficult for them to relax. Even if they are successful, they might be workaholics because they fear that work could dry up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:56 PM |
| 5 | What is FDS's stance on dating men who work in really competitive fields where only the most successful people earn a decent amount or loads of money?It’s so embarrassing! An extra layer of embarrassment when they’re white.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:52 PM |
| 46 | After being told by men more than once that my standards were "too high", last weekend I got given the proposal and ring of my dreams by a man who meets those standards!Im generally against OLD- with the exception of people who have a specific religious inclination. A man who shares your value system is NOT negotiable. 🥳🥳🥳🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 109 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…Think about how men don’t wear engagement rings because they are not taking themselves off of the market. They give dowry/engagement rings to ensure that a woman does not take any more “offers”. This: A. Financially incentivizes him to follow through and not waste her time. B. Compensates her for her lost opportunity should he decide to break up. There is some truth to men having more time to become fathers (although the risk of fathering offspring with genetic abnormalities increases with pater… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:43 PM |
| 148 | But he’s got a 2k PC set up for gaming, complete with a $200 chair, spends $300-500 a month on weed/alcohol/fast food…but you should settle for this Cracker Jack ring because he shouldn’t have to prove he loves you. The pick me’s in the comments were just sad…“Does this man attempting to sleep with me treat me as well as my friends?” A girlfriend flew me first class to visit her in a large city. So when a guy I was dating from the same city suggested I buy a ticket to visit him, it made it that much easier to dump him. And get rid of fake “friends”- especially unreliable, flaky women who only show up for you at their convenience. They will “support” you in tolerating bad behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:36 PM |
| 101 | is a guy ranting about pornsickness a red flag?🚩🚩It’s uncouth for him to be talking to you about sex or money this soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:27 PM |
| 168 | Reminder to have as much confidence in yourselves as men aged 45+ on dating apps who display their child preference to “someday”.It is wild! Also, these men are scary in that they have never gotten beyond a daydreaming stage in most aspects of their lives. Eg, a 44 year old faux woke activist tried to tell me that we should go 50/50 because “blah, blah, gender roles and fairness, equality”. You may be familiar with this word salad. I said, “No, I have been transparent with you that I desire marriage and children.” He kept 🤡 monologuing for 10 minutes until I got off of the phone. At 44, he hadn’t thought about the detaile… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 11 | Notice how men that claim to want an “independent woman” usually just don’t want to help you with bills. Or they will call a woman needy if she asks for emotional support.a woman who needs very little from them And they are conditioning her to never ask for anything, either. These men are always 50/50 and looking for a “ride or die” doormat but should she fall on hard times he will claim that he can’t be a “Captain Save A Ho” or that he cannot love a woman for her potential. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 04:15 PM |
| 7 | "Sexual compability"Yeah, if a man ever tried that 3 minute jackhammer technique on me again, I would just stop, put my clothes on and leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:29 AM |
| 11 | "Sexual compability"Yep, 🤡🤡🤡 use these as shortcuts to get to sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:27 AM |
| 85 | Notice how men that claim to want an “independent woman” usually just don’t want to help you with bills. Or they will call a woman needy if she asks for emotional support.No need to put male in front of gold digger. Gold diggers are disproportionately men. Also, “sex diggers” and “youth diggers”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 03:14 AM |
| 128 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?We need to stigmatize the “confirmed bachelor”. Women already do and have for years but we need a bigger platform. Men control the media otherwise these lifelong hoes would have been called out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:21 PM |
| 70 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of time👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾This “fake honesty” needs to stop. But they know if they told a woman this, she would walk so they string her along and wear away at her dignity little by little. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:45 PM |
| 15 | guys who try for sex at the end of an obviously bad dateGood point. I specifically meant them missing social cues and now I see that that doesn’t even matter if it makes a woman uncomfortable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:08 PM |
| 99 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeYeah, wtf happened in our culture where people are terrified to state openly that they want committed relationships? I know people get skittish but we have been taught to “hustle backwards”. Maybe establish first that you want the same things and then proceed vs “just having fun” and then being disappointed when you are only ever in situationships with men who don’t love or respect you? And don’t even get me started on the “cool girl” faction with their low self- esteem disguised as “I just want… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:01 PM |
| 89 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeAnd don’t EVER let a man downgrade you from girlfriend to FWB. They will try btw which is why you block and delete exes with their lame “how have you been?” text messages.😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:59 PM |
| 23 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:54 PM |
| 36 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?Yeah, he sucks AND she is saying bizarro “cool girl” ish. Who sent out the memo that women should be coy about what they want- especially marriage and children? Because it only harms women! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:53 PM |
| 5 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”Got it. Thank you for clarifying.💚 You are correct that some people are largely uninterested in sex. AND a statistically significantl proportion of those people have been abused or traumatized with their experiences so it makes sense. I’d be curious to hear if you met a man to whom you felt attraction, who cherished you and treated you with love and respect, who took things slowly and made you feel safe, a man who made sure you had orgasms, a man you knew would cuddle you….I think your sex drive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:19 PM |
| 124 | guys who try for sex at the end of an obviously bad dateIt is repulsive. They ignore all of the basic cues that you are not interested and still try! I’ve had men try to “gently” reach around my neck to bring me closer for a kiss AFTER I have spent an entire date removing their hand from my leg. Watch “Love on the Spectrum” for some hope and to affirm how wrong this is. It’s a show about people with autism who are learning dating skills. This is maybe the only group of men who should get some leeway on not picking up on social cues- and yet LOOK- the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:37 PM |
| 5 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾exactly! They don’t make it fun to look at them 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 06:24 PM |
| 7 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…A “receding situation” 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂💀☠️💀☠️💀☠️💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:16 PM |
| 6 | Let's play a Game!This is a perfect response.😘😂🤣 We come here to share and to grow. Growth is often uncomfortable.🌺 I’m of the mind that we don’t have to elevate any of our heroes or role models. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 05:12 PM |
| 6 | Let's play a Game!I responded to you with facts. Obviously, I am not a fan of hers. No, I don’t give “credit” to colonizers that learn their subjects language. But for context, I’m not a white woman, and one of my parents is from a formerly colonized country. It is peak “white feminism” (you don’t have to be white to be a white feminist) to assert that me stating facts is “demanding perfection”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:18 PM |
| 3 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”Physical attraction and sex are defining markers of what makes a relationship romantic vs platonic or familial. Sex is a “small part” of a relationship in that you spend very little time in the bedroom. The lion’s share of your time is spent relating in other ways. If sex is not important to you, then you are seeking companionate love. Which is fine but be very careful about dating men because the vast majority want sex and will resent you if they hoped for a romantic relationship. Your post is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:11 PM |
| 6 | Let's play a Game!If by “her people” you mean slaves and Egyptians that couldn’t boot her from power, yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:04 PM |
| 11 | Let's play a Game!Yeah, being “nice” to cruel, unattractive men has only made them more entitled. I used to be one of those “it’s mean to looks shame/ body shame men and we can’t fight fire with fire.” But then I realized that this “niceness/politeness” we are taught: A. Silences us from expressing our desires. B. Creates delusional men that become fragile and cannot handle even the slightest, reasonable criticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:02 PM |
| 28 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…PTP 📢📢📢📢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:28 PM |
| 28 | Husband openly telling OP he doesn’t like the way she looks and he preferred her when she was 17…Not “the whisps” 😂🤣😂 we need to begin shaming men. It is cruel for us to let them walk around looking like they’ve got pubes on their head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:27 PM |
| 14 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”😂🤣😂🤣😂scam. Up there with 50/50 and living together before marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Wow ! New here, pretty certain this sub saved my life😘😘😘😘😘😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 07:08 AM |
| 102 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”💯 I also think it is a bit of projection. Men have sex with women they aren’t attracted to and still have orgasms so they don’t understand that women are repulsed and cringe and feel traumatized by sex with men they aren’t attracted to. For men, all sex is good sex because if they’re not porn sick they have orgasms. For women, most sex is bad sex because most men don’t know what they’re doing. Also, men have the nerve to resent women who aren’t attracted to them! Not my fault that the media lied… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:54 AM |
| 28 | Let's play a Game!Most of those women were raped by the Gods. Like Zeus was exceptionally rapey. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:29 AM |
| 2 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.This imagery is masterful. I need a drink now.😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 04:11 AM |
| 27 | Let's play a Game!Im pretty sure she was exceptionally bright. It’s usually a bad idea to baby trap a man but if you are going to do it- Julius Caesar is a good choice. 🤣. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:53 AM |
| 45 | Let's play a Game!Yeah, she was actually considered a colonizer by Egyptians because she was a Greek Ptolemy. And it’s white men’s obsession with looks because they should at least credit her for being a decent strategist. But god forbid a woman be notable without being “beautiful”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:46 AM |
| 22 | Let's play a Game!Never watched Scandal but wasn’t he the President of the USA? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:37 AM |
| 37 | Let's play a Game!Julius Ceaser and Cleopatra. He was bald with saggy balls and she had to sleep with him to not die. Cleopatra and Marc Antony. He was boorish but she tolerated him again as a strategic alliance to not die. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 03:36 AM |
| 18 | [deleted by user]I need a shower after reading this and seeing the photos where I see a father and daughter posing but then am told that they are a couple. IMPORTANT: online dating gives weirdos access to you. 🚩referring to girls. He never mentions women. 🚩he is a sex tourist. Just because it’s Western Europe and not Thailand or Eastern Europe doesn’t make it better. 🚩Her parents “accept” because they don’t have a choice. His parents accept because now it’s postponed him from going to jail. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 1 | The type of gold digging never talked about: men will date you to boost their careers, status and ultimately to make money.This has happened to me multiple times. A male “friend” once took me to a bar and made it a point to introduce me to the bartender- who he obviously didn’t know well. I realized that he was using me as social proof or triangulating. “Look at this hot woman who I’m friends with. I must be a nice guy.”🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:44 AM |
| 5 | Selectively Ignoring What You SayStory time📚 with 🚩🚩 galore! Chatted with a man on OLD. His profile said 44 not 40. These are usually men that want considerably younger women so I usually block. He sent me a great opening message. And by great I mean a basic ass thoughtful question that should be standard but y’all know how low the bar is… He begins to text and has basic social skills. More 🚩like mentioning more than once that he forgot something because of his drinking. He drops off for 3-4 days so I block. He reaches out to m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 2 | Selectively Ignoring What You SayIt’s from the “I’m going to invite myself into your life” instead of plan and take you on an actual date 🤡 playbook. I have no idea where men are getting the idea that it is ok to do this. It is def laziness but also maybe future faking or fast forwarding the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 01:07 AM |
| 1 | Why Is No One Preparing A Generation Of Women To Partner With The Brokest, Most Sexually Depraved, Infertile and Useless Generation Of Men?Yeah, the article is riddled with inaccuracies. Not many of these women married up- they married within their class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:59 AM |
| 6 | Questions on Social Media & Cyber StalkingCan they still do that if your account is private? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:48 AM |
| 123 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”PS Men are disproportionately really ugly and it is creating a public health and mental health crisis for women 😂🤣😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:36 AM |
| 102 | “But sex is only a small part of a relationship.”Guilty! I used to do mental gymnastics to overlook real flaws in men and force myself to be attracted to men because “I must be outrageously picky” to not find ANY men attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:36 AM |
| 3 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I had this happen to me with a friendship of over 10 years. I’m unsure if she ever really liked me tbh. I loathe to sound like an elitist but now I only make friends with women who are kind of similar to me. You cannot be friends with women who are jealous of you. It can be looks, personality, family, finances, etc…They always turn aggressive as you described. Another reason we don’t “communicate” is because if you tell someone constantly about how they should adjust their behavior for you it ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:25 AM |
| 3 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I am 🇺🇸 and I think 🇺🇸 culture is becoming increasingly narcissistic because of social media, the erosion of our communities and hyperindividualism as a response to a disappearing social safety net. Sadly in a pandemic world more and more people have adopted a “It’s all about me.” survival mentality. I live in a big city and whenever I visit my mom in her more mellow suburban town she checks me about perceived aggressive behavior. It’s little stuff and she is correct. I’ve just become accustomed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:21 AM |
| 8 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.If It is a woman that wrote this, she is a virgin or accustomed to bad sex and trauma bonding. What woman enjoys sex without foreplay? Dates are part of seduction and foreplay. Any woman who actually talks like this is a lib fem with low self- esteem. It’s men who think/talk like this and lib fems erroneously believe that behaving like men will get them picked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 12:05 AM |
| 28 | PiCk Me. I don’t require any effort or standards.The lib fem playbook: 1. Attach yourself to a famous man but act like you are a self-made girl boss. 2. Be famous for being conventionally beautiful. But have a “cool girl” personality because other women are “jealous” if they’re confused as to what your actual talents are. 3. Nudity IS empowerment of you do it “tastefully” or as “high art” and don’t get paid directly for it but leverage it for an acting career or as a paid speaker for women’s advocacy. 4. Only Fans=demeaning but Roman Polanski/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:57 PM |
| 109 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?I went on a date with a man who was 2 inches shorter than me with really bad teeth back when I “gave chances”.🤢 I was floored when a beautiful woman walked by and he openly checked her out. Like, he wasn’t at all aware that I was way out of his league and should maybe be grateful that I was willing to go on a date with him? It was the opposite! I validated that he could “pull” a hot woman like me. It inflated his ego and made him think other really attractive women would be interested. Women are… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:17 PM |
| 49 | [deleted by user]Vibes of “90 Day Fiancé” where working poor men think a woman from [insert any country] is a gold digger when she expresses that she doesn’t want to live in an RV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 2 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Toxic work environment and boomers with internalized misogyny! I’m glad you survived it. I’ve had the experience numerous times of being too nice/helpful or that is how it is perceived when I thought I was being a good team player. It sucks that patriarchy and mean girls behavior are just givens in our culture-even at the work place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:53 PM |
| 47 | [deleted by user]I theorize that women who get groomed into these age gap relationships: Don’t want to call it “daddy issues” because that is misogynistic. But I’ve noticed that women who just “prefer” older men disproportionately have absentee or abusive fathers. Women who are clear that they want a good provider- which I support. But often if a woman is in her teens/twenties- the good provider men are going to be older. I’ve yet to meet a young woman that would choose a broke older man over a broke young man. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:02 PM |
| 6 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Exactly! The behavior we tolerate is the behavior we replicate. Because she tolerates him treating her badly, she thinks she can treat others that way. Boundaries bring the right people closer. People who react with anger or resentment at your boundaries usually have poor boundaries themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:40 PM |
| 3 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.You are wise to avoid being “friendship bombed”. ALL relationships should be paced. There are some times in exceptional circumstances where you spend a lot of time with people but those are exceptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 1 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I think you are correct about the difference in expectations sometimes being generational. Millennials are wise to not expect to work for the same company for their lifetime and to be suspicious of employers that claim they treat their workers like family. So we are guarded about oversharing. Boomer women often have seniority or more power- so they don’t see that they can operate from a different place when engaging with people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:31 PM |
| 5 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾I avoid talking money, career success or finances with anyone other than 3 people (my mom, my financial advisor, and 1 friend). Too many people make assumptions about what I have to give or feel entitled to my generosity. Also, I’ve worked really hard to have work/life balance in my life so I’m just annoyed when women throw the “I’m flakey and unreliable because I am so busy/stressed out with work.” That is a reality but many women do not recognize that they make time for men/dating and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:12 PM |
| 2 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.What you are speaking of is accurate. Some of what you are describing are misplaced expectations but depending on the variables some of it is boundaries. As I’ve gotten older I def do not tolerate some behavior that I used to. Specifically the “pop up” at your convenience phenomenon. I’m not trying to be rigid but people who think it is “demanding” of me that I expect them to call when they say they are going to call are a No for me. This is why Im no longer “open minded” about some things and I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:22 PM |
| 7 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Agreed. It’s not you! Just like I’m no longer actively dating but open to meeting men, I no longer attempt to make friends. I had to stop attempting to make friends because it was exhausting and I didn’t realize that my belief system (FDS aligned) is so uncommon. I, too, want to be around women who share my values. But I often find women who are liberal feminists that lack basic social graces. Like, can you please not talk so loud about graphic sex especially since I’ve asked you not to do this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:13 PM |
| 4 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Yeah, when I get that “flake energy”, I no longer tolerate it. And something is happening in our culture where too many people are “over familiar”- they think you should just know and accept them off of the bat vs growing a relationship over time. “This is me. This is my trauma. I just want to be myself!” Thus why they think it’s ok to not put their best foot forward. I myself have had to learn the different between being vulnerable and oversharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 10 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I agree! By “free therapist” I mean the dynamic of women who expect me to listen or ruminate for hours but then disappear when I need reciprocity. It is normal to share ups and downs and vulnerability. That is what I think true friends do. It’s just I’m a bit baffled at how frequently women don’t show up for me after I’ve clearly been a really good friend to them. Women like this are “energy vampires”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:57 PM |
| 8 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Same. I have been treated as a “free therapist” more times than I can count. And it is obvious to me when some women are on the rocks with their boyfriend/husband because they reach out a lot more only to disappear again if they get a new one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:51 PM |
| 10 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.I’ve heard about this. The “Seattle Freeze” where people are uninterested in making new friends after college. I’ve also heard that about Minnesota- where people are very nice as a veneer but stick with their childhood friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 9 | the comments on this video i can’t😭 how do boys think a date in kfc is “making an effort”Yeah, I don’t understand why she went on the date in the first place? This is why we ask logistics first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 04:05 AM |
| 5 | Deleting OLD never felt better!Yeah, I see why people are resistant to let go of online dating because I continued to use Hinge for a few months after I began my FDS deep dive. It was the combination of reading here, articles online and just having repeated bad experiences. I really didn’t realize how bad it was for my mental health- until I stopped doing it. For me it was just the volume and tenor of the interactions. And having more awareness of how the inorganic process works against daters that want relationships. It’s al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:26 AM |
| 8 | In Defense of Bad Women: The Sexism Of Unreasonable Expectations Placed By Other WomenDid you even watch the video I suggested above? Because I know everything you have stated. I didn’t come to my decision by purely emotion or overtly misogynistic media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:12 AM |
| 1 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Yes, I’m learning that you have to show people that just because they have access to you, doesn’t mean you are available to them. Especially not on a whim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:07 AM |
| 99 | Reminder ✨When did verbal communication become the only “acceptable” communication? Blocking IS communicating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:44 AM |
| 16 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.Outdoors, sports, travel, etc…Like a decolonized National Geographic 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:33 AM |
| 33 | It is NOT elitist to treat your friendship as an exclusive invitation to the world’s most important club. How “pickmes” reproduce toxic behavior. On “Pickme” energy, “friendship” breadcrumbing, digital boundaries and vetting other women for friendship.My preference is just to meet people through my hobbies but keep it at the hobby vs quickly trying to grow a friendship. We all have so many obligations and people are more compelled to keep their commitments if they are accountable to something they already like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 01:03 AM |
| 15 | Make it stop. 💀No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:56 PM |
| 19 | In Defense of Bad Women: The Sexism Of Unreasonable Expectations Placed By Other WomenPlease watch- especially if you are open to a global perspective: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=rth6BtdCmOE Rafia Zakaria brilliantly takes down how the type of choice feminism that you are alluding to is ultimately harmful to ALL women. The only woman on your list I empathize with is Cardi B. But I don’t care about Wendy Williams or Hilary Clinton’s trauma when they have weaponized it to ACTIVELY harm other women. This is NOT ok. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:55 PM |
| 195 | Left-wing men are just as misogynistic as right-wing menYes! “I’m not into heteronormative gender roles.” 🤡 Translator: “I do not want to protect and provide for you. But if I say that you will not give me access to your body.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:54 PM |
| 1 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Agreed. Which is why I stopped being “friends” with those people. Compromise is healthy in a relationship but I have had the experience of too many people who don’t compromise at all and then are angry/resentful when I opt out of friendships with them. They are expecting me to enter into relationships with them and subvert my needs because they’re “so busy”, they have “anxiety”, they are “depressed”, their relationship with their boyfriend/husband/family/children is always more important. That i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:40 PM |
| 2 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!What is the point of dating a man with a house/condo if his intention is to use you as a prostitute or on his roster/harem? Men do this because they know that they are markers of stability and status. And this would be appropriate if they were relationship oriented and looking to provide. But they are not. They are doing a “bait and switch”. Using the markers of stability (house, good career, etc…) to trick women and then claiming she is a gold digger when he is clearly an opportunistic sex digg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 08:15 PM |
| 3 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!The “over promise, under deliver” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 9 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!When a man begins telling you all of the nice things he plans to do for you or the places he will take you, look him in the eyes and say, “Let’s get through this date first.” I’ve had to do this on majority of my dates.🙂😂. Many men are shocked because they are accustomed to future faking and dangling the relationship 🥕👨🌾 Integrity, honesty and consistency are the 3 traits I look for. As an adult it is lacking in integrity to make promises to people you don’t know well. Because: A. Even if you m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:07 PM |
| 5 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!I think a woman is better off ignoring. It is generally undignified to push back in this way. You are just being brought down to their level of UNsophistication. It is low level conversation and tacky for a man (or woman) to be listing places he has been as a status symbol. I’ve noticed that 🇺🇸 people who do this generally have only begun to travel as adults and they see travel as a marker of affluence. So instead of saying, “I loved this about Berlin, etc…” they just begin to list a bunch of pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Don't Stroke His Ego, especially in the early stages!Yeah, I yawn when men tell me they own property. I don’t tell them that I do, too. (Because I don’t want to attract gold diggers, compete or show my “worth”🤢 on a date.) I used to love the “sweet words”/romantic men but high proportion that do this are just broke or cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Unruly scrote duct-taped to seat after allegedly assaulting flight attendants l GMAHis account is amazing! He also has a “is 4 inches enough?” Video that is comedy gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 10 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.Another reason to not make friends with men (for those of you on the fence) is that if he meets a woman and respects/loves her, he will drop you out of healthy respect for his partner. And she will not have to ask. This is also why it doesn’t make it “cool” or “mature” to be friends with your exes. He is just using you as an emotional fluffer, until he meets a woman he wants to commit to/string along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:34 PM |
| 9 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.The equivalent of “I’m punching you in the face” but “at least I’m being honest”, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 03:31 PM |
| 7 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.Yeah, I can’t with people who ask the same thing over and over again because they want validation for their poor decisions vs actual feedback. They can waste their time but I’m not okay when they start wasting my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:51 PM |
| 11 | Princess Diana knew she was headed for a terrible marriage but her family still pushed her into itShows that “high status/rich” doesn’t make a man high value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:45 PM |
| 8 | Wow ! New here, pretty certain this sub saved my lifeAlways be careful who you discuss your standards with. It doesn’t matter if you are “paranoid” or if it is your mental illness. (It def was not in this case.). Your feelings and your safety are not debateable or negotiable. A worthwhile friend will just listen and affirm you. Sadly, women are taught to gaslight each other. Again, even if you were “paranoid” or being too sensitive or triggered, it is the opposite of helpful for the other person to tell you the equivalent of “calm down”. It is the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:36 PM |
| 5 | Wow ! New here, pretty certain this sub saved my lifeYeah, I think I was brainwashed by the glamorization of dating in tv/movies. I have had some really fun dates but the lion’s share have been awkward, unpleasant or uncomfortable or me trying to feel attraction for men I wasn’t attracted to. And too many men are boring or dating for casual sex/prostitution. The juice hasn’t been worth the squeeze. This was difficult to surrender but I’m surrendering to a more natural and ultimately peaceful place of doing all of the things I enjoy and if yuanfen … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:28 PM |
| 28 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Yeah, it’s a bad idea to do last minute dates even if you are technically available. I only do last minute days with friends I know well. If you do this with people you don’t know well (platonic and romantic), it just conditions them to think that they have easy access to you. It isn’t playing games btw. It is understanding how most humans operate and setting boundaries so people know how to honor your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:53 AM |
| 24 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?Not this week but months ago I was interviewing men for remodel work. I was inquiring about prices and a 🤡 said, “My parents taught me to never argue with women.” “So I guess you won’t be working for ME. Bye.👋🏾” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:50 AM |
| 9 | “Oh the breadcrumbs Look Gretel, there are a lot of sweets down this path but it will end in a fiery oven for you or you have to shove his ass in to save yourself.” 😭Yeah, I see how he has been manipulating and eroding her self-esteem for some time. Breadcrumbing is not complex but when you are in the fog of it AND our culture sanctions the “love is hard work”/“he still cares about you” ethos, I totally see how women get sucked into this. We can dose our accountability with compassion. I hope she finds FDS but I also wouldn’t want her to ser some of the above posts because Pickmes that are just naive/inexperienced do not deserve to be kicked when they are do… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:44 AM |
| 22 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.Wise men know to weight the opinion/feelings of their primary partner (aka the only woman they are SUPPOSEDLY having sex with) with the other women in their life- like their mothers, sisters, “friends.” The romantic dynamic is different than the familial or platonic dynamic. Story Time📚: A man I was dating tried to convince me to go 50/50. I said no. He argued that he talked to his mom and friends about it and they all agreed with him. Me: “Are you trying to have sex with any of those people?” A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 06:17 AM |
| 78 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.The “benefit of the doubt” is a privilege reserved for people who have demonstrated that they are reliable, honest, etc and are acting OUT of character. It is NOT for strangers and people you barely know. When you extend the “benefit of the doubt” to people you barely know, you overlook valuable data and 🚩🚩🚩 that show that this IS who this person is and they are acting like themselves. This “benefit of the doubt” always hurts people that are vulnerable and hold less power in our society. And it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:05 AM |
| 2 | i don’t know what to do here..You are doing the right thing by coming here to post!💚💚💚Integrity takes practice. It is a skill that we develop especially because we live in a culture where integrity is given lip service but too many people (especially our “leaders” and role models ) do not model it for us. It is HARD to have our actions match our words. And it is a muscle you will develop if you commit to it. I am an internet stranger and I am very proud of you for having the courage to write about this and ask for support. K… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 52 | Ladies and gentle..ladies, welcome to Tinder! There is literally one line in my profile text. Solely stating where I’m from.Is he la migra? (ICE or immigration) I get asked this on a daily basis because I am “ethnically ambiguous”. I ignore strangers who ask. Silence is an undervalued communication method for people who are being inappropriate. If you are a nonwhite person being asked by a white person, this question frequently has racist undertones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 27 | Don't chase menYears ago, I was in a bar and walking out as it was closing time. A drunk Kevin at the bar began scream/whining “Why won’t you talk to me? You are so hot. Why won’t you talk to me?” He did that weird thing where he was half standing up but would totter back down onto the bar stool. I didn’t even notice him because making eye contact or even hovering and trying to put himself in my line of sight had not occurred to him. In what 🤡 universe is a woman going to be attracted to a drunk toddler that s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:21 PM |
| 28 | Unruly scrote duct-taped to seat after allegedly assaulting flight attendants l GMAAnd like everything- deeply rooted misogyny embedded since the emergence of flight travel. Women being weighed! (And it has been a scandal more than once that these women are coerced into escort work.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:13 PM |
| 32 | LVM love to complain about high body counts but can’t help talking about how desperately horny they are when you just started talking to them. As if you are supposed to help them fix that.💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:01 PM |
| 44 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”Yeah, I HATE that I’ve found it to be true that I can only hang out with women that are considered same level of attractiveness as me. I am devastated by this knowledge but any time I spend time with a woman that doesn’t get as much attention from men as me- she resents me. Even if she is married or in a relationship!😭😭😭😭😭 Or she repeats scrote logic that I live my life on easy mode. Like, I just shared with you that my family is more dysfunctional than most and you are now weaponizing it agains… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:15 AM |
| 55 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”I feel devastated that sooooo many women view me as “competition”. I literally mind my business and other women give me death stares. 😭😭😭 deathtopickmeculture | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 45 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”10,000 % agreed. I don’t want to be friends with my friend’s boyfriends or husbands. It’s mostly co-dependent women who insist on this btw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 114 | “You don’t need to wear makeup around my boyfriend lol”And so often these are women who claim to be feminists! After a workout, a friend and I were hanging out at her house. She mentioned LATER that she was glad I put on a shirt to cover my midriff before her husband came home. It was such a bizarre comment to me because: A. I always dress modestly. I’m very aware of not making my friends or their husbands uncomfortable. B. Her husband isn’t cute. 😂😂Hilarious that Pickmes are convinced I’m trying to steal their man. I really should have backed out w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 01:43 AM |
| 102 | Men don't owe us to be nice to them because they said something nice expecting us to give them devotionYeah, the accuracy of random men coming up, insulting us after we have tried to turn them down nicely… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:30 PM |
| 99 | Scrotes madOnly men with small penises scream that “it’s the motion of the ocean.” But if you can’t feel the “ocean” (which is more like a dried up lake), then you will not have an orgasm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:27 PM |
| 219 | Just seen on relationshipadvice... guess it's about us“We don’t have labels”😂🤣🤣 A. Because this is an imaginary relationship. B. If she did exist she prob wouldn’t be dating a man who goes to Reddit for advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:25 PM |
| 12 | Red pill men are disproportionately ugly because they cannot attract women with their looks or poor social skills so they need to develop abuse tactics to manipulate women. Notice Kevin Samuels hairline and the general signs his testosterone is dropping.Agreed. I think FDS does a good job of addressing the language of “high value”. Specifically that “high value” is operating in the world with honesty, integrity and consistency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:51 PM |
| 15 | Red pill men are disproportionately ugly because they cannot attract women with their looks or poor social skills so they need to develop abuse tactics to manipulate women. Notice Kevin Samuels hairline and the general signs his testosterone is dropping.This makes sense. We all need to know defensive strategies and how to spot 🚩🚩. I’m older than most FDSers so I’ve had more experience and years of vetting for men with nefarious intentions. I’m also in a place where if I feel bad or my gut says something is off, I honor it without feeling compelled to articulate or rationalize why. But it took years to get here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 03:44 PM |
| 9 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Yeah, I kept seeing some of the same guys and I live in one of the biggest cities in the USA! I also saw an ex😱 And then there were men who I went on dates with, blocked and still tried to rematch with me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:20 AM |
| 9 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Can confirm. The men over 35 were vile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:17 AM |
| 12 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.The farther I get from it the more shocked I am that I tried it for so long. It’s like being in an abusive relationship with thousands of men you aren’t actually in a relationship with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 10 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.Yes, OLD has created a false illusion that it is the best way to meet people. Another poster said it but we need to restigmatize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:13 AM |
| 10 | Reminder: Delete your dating apps! Your sanity will thank you.This! There was a reason I was not meeting these men in real life. We didn’t share interests or hobbies or lifestyle. You know, the things that I wanted companionship for…I was deeply dissatisfied in a relationship with a man who was content to go to work and then get home and watch TV. Don’t ever date below your league because he will just drag you down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 5 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.I almost drank the kool aid but something told me that he “was too good to be true”. I don’t trust any of these relationship gurus. They are incentivized to gaslight women about the difficulty of the dating game. I used to lurk on a popular guru’s FB forum and she has some good stuff to say. But her husband is really ugly 😬 and some of the women asking for advice should have been asking therapists. A woman with integrity would refer them to professionals. Also, she talks a lot about how she oute… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 06:04 AM |
| 2 | For those who remember Derrick Jackson, he cheated on his girlfriend (now wife) when they were dating in college.Jesús might have told her to dump him. But according to this crowd he also is a blonde, blue eyed, etc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:52 AM |
| 9 | Poor girl. This is what men can do to you.I also think it was premeditated. But I think he is so cocky that he didn’t feel the need to cover his tracks. Being a police officer and knowing his boys in blue would back him, he isn’t wrong. 😱 Also, psychopath/sociopaths get aroused by notoriety and feeling they have outsmarted everyone around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:37 AM |
| 23 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorI think men need to be emotionally intelligent AND self- regulate their emotions. The moment you allow yourself to be a man’s therapist is the moment you begin to lost attraction for him. I was turned off by an ex being too emotional and crying to manipulate me. A man crying because someone died is completely different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 35 | Mate-retention strategies: benefit-provisioning vs. cost-inflicting behaviorHow many happy relationships do you know of that begin with an inconsistent man? I don’t know why dating coaches and relationship gurus have normalized this. But they also see their success as a woman getting into a relationship- with any old warm body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:29 AM |
| 23 | Can't even let go of your dog without being accused of trying to get men's attention. Actually saw this posted on Yahoo News first and fortunately she had a good deal of support at how crazy this guy is.Why did you open your mouth to breathe if you weren’t also going to give me a blow job? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:20 AM |
| 63 | Guy self-invites himself to dinner at girl’s home, gets angry she never gave him a heads up (to something he invited himself to?) - this is why we stay away from LVMShe should have said no when he invited himself over. No last minute dates. Also, why are they snap chatting? I would avoid because if they harass you you cannot screenshot and expose. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:19 AM |
| 40 | Lately I feel disgusted when men approach meAnother tactic is to ignore completely like you cannot hear. I wear head phones but I don’t play the music. This way I can pretend like I don’t hear them but if they are approaching or getting scary I can hear them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:13 AM |
| 11 | Can't even let go of your dog without being accused of trying to get men's attention. Actually saw this posted on Yahoo News first and fortunately she had a good deal of support at how crazy this guy is.💀☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:11 AM |
| 19 | Can't even let go of your dog without being accused of trying to get men's attention. Actually saw this posted on Yahoo News first and fortunately she had a good deal of support at how crazy this guy is.Variations of each other. “Loveable loser” is slightly more palatable than “Devil’s Advocate Both Sides Roid Calm Podcaster”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:11 AM |
| 20 | Be careful and be safeScreenshot and gather evidence. Although I think it is best not to engage if possible and I block and delete because they think negative attention is better than no attention. I am not “above” finding out his personal information and where he works and letting him know that if he continues to harass me I have zero qualms about letting his employer know about his behavior. “Does X know that you harass women online and threaten violence?” I’ve done this before btw when a man threatened to come to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 05:04 AM |
| 72 | Red pill men are disproportionately ugly because they cannot attract women with their looks or poor social skills so they need to develop abuse tactics to manipulate women. Notice Kevin Samuels hairline and the general signs his testosterone is dropping.That is all it is. Not my intention to drive traffic to his page. He is just a mascot/role model for ugly men that hate women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:09 AM |
| 82 | Red pill men are disproportionately ugly because they cannot attract women with their looks or poor social skills so they need to develop abuse tactics to manipulate women. Notice Kevin Samuels hairline and the general signs his testosterone is dropping.Don’t waste your time. I don’t need to know the nuances of poison to know that I’m not going to take it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 02:08 AM |
| 3 | And they say women are sensitive, sometimes you have to be glad you asked ladies. “Account disabled” 🤣Also, I said something passive aggressive or offensive but “love and light”💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:51 AM |
| 6 | Do not have a scarcity mindset in datingI will look it up! Thank you for sharing! Update: I now have a new subject to rabbit hole. 🤣😂🤣. Love a global perspective being infused into FDS🌎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:39 AM |
| 33 | Scrote blamed his 8 year old sister for downloaded porn 🤡Girl, … 🚩shot from his basement “studio” where he lives rent free because of daddy who he name dropped via a court case 🚩pube hairs poking out through his Halloween themed tank top Update: 🚩bright red scratch mark on his left shoulder because at best he was doing BDSM with a pickme and at worst he is a serial killer that is going to orgasm when he feels he outsmarted the cops | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:17 AM |
| 20 | Scrote blamed his 8 year old sister for downloaded porn 🤡People embarrassing themselves on platforms that can ruin their lives en perpetuity is a kink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:15 AM |
| 50 | Men on Reddit hate FDS because they know they’re LVMIm only open to the feedback of happily married men that are good protectors and providers. Zero of them disagree with FDS ideaology. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:11 AM |
| 35 | Women are crazy because they’re people?Whilst not “jerking it to Joe Rogan”, he is getting high off of Cheeto particle dust and dopamine hits from sending women RedditCare messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:07 AM |
| 30 | And they say women are sensitive, sometimes you have to be glad you asked ladies. “Account disabled” 🤣They have gotten spectacularly lazy. Story time 📚: In the olden days of OLD and pre- block game strong, I got a text message from “Zack”. Zack: “Hey.” Me: “Who is this?” Zack: “We were texting a while back but then you disappeared.” Me: “That doesn’t sound like me.” Zack then sends me a screenshot of our conversation where the end of the thread is him putting a 👍 to a photograph I sent him. He could have asked a question. He could have made a comment, etc…But he was THAT lazy and expecting me to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:55 PM |
| 77 | Women are crazy because they’re people?This is amazing. “Losing privilege Syndrome” should be introduced into vernacular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:19 PM |
| 42 | Poor girl. This is what men can do to you.This is so suspect. Even if you are still on the Blue Lives Matter crack… Call me a conspiracy theorist but we have had multiple scandals since the police were invented where police officers have covered for each other and effectively behaved as criminal enterprises. It will not surprise me if he sexually assaulted her and then used heat exposure to cover his crime and the police force and detectives look the other way. As usual, we need to “not judge until all of the facts have been presented a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:09 PM |
| 49 | Men on Reddit hate FDS because they know they’re LVMIt means you are doing something right/write. 😂🤣 Every time a scrote gets triggered, a woman somewhere is getting her wings or fixing her crown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:59 PM |
| 94 | Men on Reddit hate FDS because they know they’re LVMYou forgot the ones who think Reddit care messages will make us question our mental health. 😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 10:47 PM |
| 15 | Always Google Your DatesThis is an excellent point. He was “bumbling” and expecting a variation of “unconditional love and positive regard” from a stranger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 09:46 PM |
| 6 | Do not have a scarcity mindset in datingShould I just copy and paste?🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 08:31 PM |
| 24 | He really thought he did somethingAlso, “we are only deserving of asking for qualities we possess”. I am conventionally attractive, have a nice nest egg, am intellectually curious, etc and the only men I have met that are as well rounded are gay.🧐 I’ve lowered my standards in every relationship I have been in. Looks especially. Intellectual compatability definitely. It needs to become common knowledge that lowering your standards doesn’t generate a life enhancing relationship. These men are actually MORE likely to treat you badl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:30 PM |
| 18 | He really thought he did somethingPoverty/unemployment rebranded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:22 PM |
| 21 | A woman is told to lower her standards.Yeah, we need to stop calling them “confirmed bachelors” when really they are Dr. Peter Pans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 21 | A woman is told to lower her standards.💀☠️💀💀☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:55 PM |
| 2 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.😂🤣🤣 I, too, am a size queen. 💡There are many ways to know the size of a man’s package before having sex with him.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:51 PM |
| 1 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.🤡 probably would have liked that. FDS needs to become gospel so we can shame these men into oblivion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 2 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.🔮🔮🔮🔮 I wish your statement was outrageous. But given the times😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 35 | Do not have a scarcity mindset in datingA. A lot of it is repackaged by white Westerners to sell products. Buy my book, retreat, system, etc… When someone is incentivized by money, you are wise to be more skeptical. B. The origins of New Age literature are shady. Specifically that much like Christian religious leaders, many gurus have a documented history of being sexual predators and abusers. Bikram, a known rapist, is a product of the lineage of other predators. Also, Ghandi slept in bed with little girls.😱 My opinion is that many E… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:39 PM |
| 19 | The neg works manifoldExcellent post! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:15 PM |
| 148 | Always Google Your DatesThere is a difference between a Google search and social media verification check vs deep diving into his “virtual life” in place of getting to know him. Again, women are dismissed as being “extreme” when we take basic measures to protect ourselves. Verify that he isn’t married, engaged, in a few situationships, etc…verify information that he has already told you- like that he works where he says he works. Story Time📚 I went on a date with a man that I now suspect may have been married or a chea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:05 PM |
| 145 | Do not have a scarcity mindset in datingI think we need to invoke a “reality mindset”. And maybe even consider throwing out the language of scarcity/abundance which has come into popular vernacular in the last 20 years as a result of “The Secret” and other New Age propaganda that frequently gaslights and victim blames people looking for personal growth. A. You can accept that HVM are scarce AND it can make you feel better! The reason you are not meeting a lot of sexy, emotionally healthy men that desire monogamy isn’t YOU or your mind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:37 PM |
| 77 | I love having pro-FDS friends IRL.Why do people think verbally communicating is the only type of communication? Body language is communicating. Silence is communicating. Ignoring is communicating. Blocking is communicating. And there is no hierarchy. As women we do what we need to do. People who insist that we talk ourselves blue in the face just want to keep us from taking action. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:35 AM |
| 3 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Yeah, a pickme over shared with me that she was divorcing her husband after cheating on him. Then she introduced me to her affair partner who was so douchey. I was making excuses for her because she was “young”- only 27. But then I reflected that I’ve always known that it was wrong since I was like a child. She also was overly obsessed with looks (I can’t with women like that) as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 05:00 AM |
| 2 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.I’ve def felt this way. And most of these women’s husbands are really ugly so I don’t understand why they think I’d be interested. I’m also a loyal person so even if they were attractive I’m not looking to be an immoral person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:52 AM |
| 15 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.This occurred to me when I still did OLD. Even if I did meet a man, he is still likely to be in the habit of seeing what is out there. Or knows how easy it is to cheat 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:34 AM |
| 30 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.A guy named Anthony asked me the same question. He was an accountant. He also tried to mansplain investment to me. I think he even mentioned that he could even house sit for me when I was out of town. #hobosexual #golddigger vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:03 AM |
| 26 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!This is like the opposite of scrote fiction and I am here for it.💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:00 AM |
| 6 | Interesting Cuomo Scandal ObservationsYeah, I only vote left because I am not a nihilist. The right would take us back to slavery if they could. But I’m so jaded😭 I’m as grossed out by liberal men who generally pretend like they are woke as I am by conservative men who use religion to mask their depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:52 AM |
| 20 | Why they're hung up on their exTelling women to continue to give is from the Dr. Pickme canon of literature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:49 AM |
| 25 | This.My new favorite emoji 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:46 AM |
| 1 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 03:33 AM |
| 36 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.I think it warrants blocking. It’s more offensive than an offer of a coffee date. It’s a way of pressuring for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:41 AM |
| 44 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.Nope. They are just the minimum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 9 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.I am so embarrassed by people who act hyper sexual/thirsty.🤦🏽♀️. Like do that privately. I stopped hanging out with a gay friend because we couldn’t even have a conversation without him commenting on people’s appearance or attempting to flirt with men he thought were cute. And a lib fem aquaintance got the boot because she would talk really loudly in public spaces about the graphic details of her sex life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.I feel like women are taught to bond by talking- about other men. Yes, it is what we do here at FDS🤣and many of us it is awesome therapy 🥳 Now I Bechdel test when I meet new women. If the only things we have in common are talking about men, I slow fade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 09:15 PM |
| 13 | Scrote Translation: I’m going to wait for other men to work and erode your standards first, then swoop in and take advantage of you ;)Thank you for this post! The normalization of inconsistency and people “popping up” at their convenience is why I am so hesitant to make new friends. In the last few years I also have become skeptical of people who claim that they have friends where they won’t talk for ages but when they pick up the phone they can pick up exactly where they left off.🧐. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:51 PM |
| 11 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.They want free therapy/life coaching. Healthy relationships are therapeutical but they aren’t therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:46 PM |
| 4 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.That’s ok if they don’t like phone calls but it’s simple compatability. The same way you may be drained by phone calls, I am drained by texting. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 6 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalYeah, if Bumble or any of these dating apps cared so much about women why not vet the men? Why not do a background check? Because it would take money away from the bottom line. They wouldn’t have enough men because if they verified basic details the pool would dry up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 8 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalI don’t ever play the lottery. But I was tricked into playing the lottery of OLD. And we are paying with our time and energy. Even giving these men a little bit of attention inflates their egos and creates a false sense of abundance in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:29 PM |
| 6 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegal💯 It’s the high volume of bad experiences that is draining and bad for a woman’s mental health. I have negative experiences with strange men in real life but it is rare. Logging into an app you have to put yourself in a defensive mental space and then you are gaslit that you are being paranoid when a man says you are a gold digger for turning down a coffee/walk/field/hiking date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:25 PM |
| 9 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalI haven’t tried either but from what I have heard is that The League is just elitist scrotes and Raya is LV men with money/high status. I tried Hinge because of a former Roomate who met her very successful husband on there. But he isn’t that physically attractive. 😬 I think women are being gaslit on a societal level that there are attractive, successful men that desire relationships on these apps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:22 PM |
| 7 | Bumble wants to make 🍆📸illegalIt is the easy access that is making them so arrogant and behave badly. I find it to be the same with even well meaning friends on Instagram. They think watching my stories is as valuable as relating in person.🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 19 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.The “asks for advice constantly and doesn’t take it”- I can’t with people who do that. They are forcing you to participate in their ruminations. Such a waste of time. 💡Ruminating is different than venting.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:12 PM |
| 6 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Agreed. I “communicated” to a few “friends” that I would prefer phone calls over endless text messaging. They both pushed back about how they prefer texting. So I let them go. 🚩When people act like you are demanding when they can’t do the basic functions of a human relationship, it is ok to opt out. Also, I think the destigmatization of anxiety/depression is great but I’m deeply disturbed at how many people use it as an excuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 08:04 PM |
| 60 | He is LV or NV if you see any of these 🚩also, “sexual compatability” is a myth. Only a porn sick man or a man with bizarre kinks struggles to get and sustain an erection in the presence of a woman. Notice how the bumblers make basic dating etiquette and healthy sex/intimacy seem like rocket science.Im pretty sure I didn’t clean. Unless I blocked out that trauma.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:48 PM |
| 168 | Don't worry if you miss one red flag, they come in groups.I’m getting to a place where even if I can’t logically articulate why I don’t like someone or don’t want to do something, I don’t. I especially am no longer compromising with looks or finances. People dismiss women like we are shallow for evaluating these things but they are indicators of a man’s values, responsibility, mental health and work ethic. A man doesn’t even have to be wealthy to shower regularly, brush his teeth, walk outside for 30 min a day and just do a basic budget. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:44 PM |
| 121 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!This is why all girls and women need to screenshot inappropriate behavior and tell men that they will expose them. Being “nice” “open minded” and “understanding” isn’t working. bringbackshame2021🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:37 PM |
| 132 | STOP THE VANILLA SHAMING!Yeah, a woman who called me vanilla as an insult keeps trying to hang out. I’m grossed out by her liberal feminist values. I am no longer being “open minded” about people who have poor boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:15 PM |
| 29 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.I am a kind person but I’m not a therapist or social worker.🤷🏽♀️ I can direct people to services but I will not parent them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 07:00 PM |
| 2 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityMany people we opt out of relationships with aren’t “bad”. It is just incompatibility, timing or mismatched values. I observe what people’s awareness is around their work/life balance. I’m wary of people who are constantly busy because busyness can be it’s own addiction and it sometimes means they are emotionally unavailable. Much like workaholics. And I really don’t like the energy of “I’m so busy and I use it as an excuse to constantly flake or reschedule or streamline friendships.” Sucks that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:57 PM |
| 80 | Scrote sexually fantasizes about maid of honor DURING HIS OWN WEDDINGSo many 💎: 1. Don’t be friends with men. Married OR single. 2. You have to vet for life. OLD is replete with 🗑 but so are churches and community organizations. 3. Be wary of women that insist that they can be just friends with men. It’s his biased perspective but why is a married woman in a textationship with a man who isn’t her husband. #fuzzyboundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:48 PM |
| 55 | Scrote sexually fantasizes about maid of honor DURING HIS OWN WEDDINGYeah, just watered the seed that I should delete my Instagram. He’s probably masturbating to her cooking tips.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:39 PM |
| 2 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityI didn’t have Covid🥳🥳🥳 I’ve never tried Bumble because it gives me OLD vibes. 😱 Also, this is why when I meet new people I don’t want to share social media because I feel like many of them get their news about me from Instagram and assume we are building a connection instead of calling or checking in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:34 PM |
| 4 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityYeah, they’re trying to multi- task/streamline their friendships. This would be great if you actually liked the other people they were bringing along- but that is almost never the case. They are also creating more work for you if you are an introvert because you have to entertain 2 people and not 1. It dilutes the quality of the experience because you have to have your guard up for that new person instead of just more deeply connecting with the friend you know well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:24 PM |
| 3 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityI think it is linked to the myth that being popular is a reflection of being a likeable or charismatic person. It really isn’t. 💡People with high standards and integrity are probably more likely to be lonely because they speak up about behavior they find unacceptable and don’t coddle people. This is not OK to do if you are a woman. You are supposed to eat poop and then smile about it in our culture.💡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:16 PM |
| 3 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityYeah, I am noticing that many social butterflies actually have narcissistic or co-dependent tendencies. Many have so many “friends” because they can’t be alone vs having meaningful relationships. notallbutterflies I say this as someone who once aspired to be a social butterfly but felt drained and unfulfilled by having so many people in my life with whom I didn’t share any actual intimacy. I also feel like many of them think that being constantly “busy” makes them seem HV, high status or desirab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 36 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsYeah, something got lost in the last 20 years where men think they don’t have to develop their charm or personalities. Many think they have “great personalities” when they behave like Larry David or Kevin Hart. And many think they are hilarious when they just repeat Adam Sandler lines verbatim🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:43 PM |
| 27 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsNot the Reddit care message😱😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 This is the most comedic “battle tactic”- like ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:35 PM |
| 2 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityYeah, I only want to meet people through my hobbies and I don’t even want to do coffee or drink dates with potential female friends. It is like platonic dating. If you are still inclined, you can invite her to the shared activity. I hung out with a really cool woman 4 times and I thought we might be on our way to friendship. Then she canceled on me because “work” (which is legit) and then we rescheduled again because I had a Covid scare (again, legit). But she hasn’t reached out or checked to ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:21 PM |
| 12 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Terrible is an understatement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:35 PM |
| 55 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.NOT OK! I think it is just as predatory when women pursue/chase considerably younger men. Both genders do it as some bizarre vampire move to feel validated by younger people. I cannot believe she was doing this to your little brother🤢 Even if age appropriate I stay away from friends brothers so as to not have drama with my friends. I stopped being friends with a woman in her 30’s who only wanted to date men in their 20s that were models. She was on the liberal feminist bus of “I just want to use… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:34 PM |
| 9 | Location- How much of a factor in finding a HVM?Getting found by a HVM is LUCK. I’ve lived in many places in 🇺🇸 and lived in Latin America and the 🤡 phenomena is global 😭 I moved from a mid sized city where it seemed like everyone was married to a large, cosmopolitan city where men are largely Peter Pans. Men that are eligible for relationships AND want relationships are rare. Also, it is posited that in places where there are more men than women, men are more inclined to commit/settle down. But that doesn’t mean that they treat their partner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:06 PM |
| 55 | Love seeing women not falling for manipulation tactics.Yeah, men need to learn to trust their intuition, too. I think it is the result of too many “I chased her for years and then she relented” stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:53 PM |
| 139 | Love seeing women not falling for manipulation tactics.In romance with straight men we don’t need to match their efforts. Healthy, masculine men get energized by giving and making us happy. It’s 50/50 men and 🤡🤡 that are obsessed with “equality” and “fairness”. Similar to how men obsessed with “gold diggers” never have any gold or are just stingy/miserly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:46 PM |
| 119 | Love seeing women not falling for manipulation tactics.They seriously do nothing and expect us to fall to our knees in gratitude. He sounds like the type to be tit for tat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:43 PM |
| 39 | It astounds me how pickmes can be so... malicious.🚩”We are going to be best friends.” (Within 5 minutes of meeting.) 🚩”You are like a sister to me.” (When you barely know each other.) After 25, even if you meet a cool woman, you possess the knowledge that: a) friendships take time b)sometimes life circumstances beyond your control will prevent the friendship from growing. These are iterations of the “over promise, under deliver”. Any person with maturity and integrity avoids making hyperbolic promises (or statements). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:37 PM |
| 14 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Would it feel wrong to you to just leave on read for longer and longer periods of time? That she didn’t support you when you explicitly reached out for help is really messed up. She effectively behaved as a stranger (although a stranger might have been kinder), so I think it is okay if you begin to treat her as a stranger. No, you don’t have to do an official friendship breakup. But your mutual friends don’t need to know that you’ve decided to excise her from your life. If they ask you can just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:30 PM |
| 70 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.Agreed. And even age gap friendships have a slightly different dynamic (not bad, just different). Good friends are good friends AND it is okay to primarily seek out people who are at the same stage in life as you- which is often reflected in age. It has happened to me too many times where younger women (more than 3-4 years) think that I am like a big sister and expect me to coddle them/do emotional labor. Alternately I’ve had older women disappoint me with their attempts to manage down my standa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:26 PM |
| 5 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.You did great!!!!🥳🥳🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:27 AM |
| 7 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Yeah, a friend I adore did that. Her boyfriend actually seems like a good guy and she swears they are happy but he also has major depression. I struggle with depression so it isn’t my intention to shame but I’ve also known people who once they began to emerge from their depression dumped their partners. If he didn’t have depression would he be with her? I def stayed in a relationship past it’s expiration date because of the impact depression was having in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:26 AM |
| 13 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Story time: A man texted me and said, “Hey, you disappeared.” I looked at our text thread. The last communication he sent me was a thumbs up to a photo I sent. I was stunned by how spectacularly lazy he was! He expected me to carry the conversation. 💡It is a myth that you need to show interest in men. If they like you, they step in to do the things YOU are tempted to do when you intuit that he has low interest.💡. Eg, “I should check in. He must be busy.” No, he should be thinking the same and be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:20 AM |
| 17 | "High" standards will literally save your life. Say no to flying out to meet strange men. Say no to walks & hikes with strange men. PLEASE protect yourselves ladies!He is parading it in front of our faces. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:59 AM |
| 11 | Beware of men who are willing to commit too fast, they just want access to your body.Men that do this are either desperate or lovebombing or both. Men with options that want a healthy relationship are vetting us just as much as we are vetting them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:54 AM |
| 14 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.I do care if I live the rest of my life single. If I think too much it makes me sad. Like I didn’t get lucky enough to win the lottery. 😬🤣 (Happy partnerships are more rare than we have been led to believe.) I’m not some raging pickme for mourning the disappointment of not sharing my life with a romantic partner. I’m just off of the toxic positivity bus. 🤷🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:59 AM |
| 107 | Why is he single ladies??? Where is his queen??Sadly, I am only fluent in 🤡. Sadly because I had no choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:22 AM |
| 13 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.If it gives a man anxiety to spend time or be nice to people that care about you…🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:13 AM |
| 6 | "But whooo is going to care for your husband!"Im a huge fan of the show and obvi we sometimes suspend reality to enjoy things. I do think for its formula they neatly sweep the betrayal under the rug and it is symptomatic of how women are not allowed to feel anger/rage. But love it and am a huge fan of both Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin in their real lives. Even for 2021 the show is radical in prioritizing their friendship💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 17 | “A man in a room full of women is happy, a women in a room full of men is terrified”I apologize. My intention was to agree with you and add to what you said. Thank you for letting me know. I will be more careful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:04 AM |
| 13 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Yeah, I’m usually against online dating. But using it to practice ruthless vetting and blocking at the first sign of disrespect I can get behind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:47 AM |
| 13 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Don’t be interested unless he is interesting AND interested in you.😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:46 AM |
| 15 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Exactly. She will end up in a marriage with a serial cheater or a man who emotionally neglects her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:45 AM |
| 73 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.People who go into the “middle of nowhere” or off the grid (I like to do this), communicate with family/friends and people we are interested in beforehand. If they don’t, then they are just irresponsible and end up having to cut off an arm like that one James Franco film. Don’t date James Franco or any men that resemble the characters he plays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:40 AM |
| 67 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.Proud of you💚 His behavior is unacceptable. He took you for granted. A worthwhile partner would have communicated and said, “I am going someplace and won’t have service but I’ll be thinking about you.” Healthy masculine men: A. Want you to feel secure. B. Don’t want to lose you and know that a woman with options will get attention from other men. Don’t believe the “enlightened, I’m not jealous” crap. C. Want to match your intimacy threshold. He wants to be as close to you(usually closer) as you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:28 AM |
| 19 | "But whooo is going to care for your husband!"They lack self- awareness that that’s 2 women to dissatisfy with their sexual incompetency instead of just 1. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:16 AM |
| 35 | "But whooo is going to care for your husband!"Caitlyn is a Queen Pickme Extraordianaire. Now that she has walked through the door, she is slamming it on vulnerable people’s faces. She is coked out on her privilege. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:12 AM |
| 10 | "But whooo is going to care for your husband!"Would be very curious what you think about “Grace and Frankie”? I love the show but maybe I am need to watch more critically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 13 | I can’t evenYeah, it’s never been in style. NEVER. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:06 AM |
| 80 | I can’t evenAlso, “I will be complicit when he abuses you.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 12:03 AM |
| 27 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.Excellent point. I worked with people in recovery and consequently women should know that if they are going to be in a relationship with an addict, they must be prepare to walk at his first relapse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:04 PM |
| 134 | No, an abuser does not "lose control." He is perfectly in control of his faculties when he is abusing women. He knows exactly what he's doing. The first time an incident like this happens, walk away, block and delete, and never look back.And they don’t throw mantrums around men that are bigger and stronger than them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:02 PM |
| 10 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthGive a homicidal LVM an inch and he will kill you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 11:00 PM |
| 7 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceIf only. Lesbians have more orgasms more frequently. I would have opted into that lifestyle choice long ago if it were a choice. (And I could live in a progressive city/town or buffer from homophobia.) “Attraction to straight men is proof that sexuality is not a choice.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:57 PM |
| 11 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceOmg- new trash tv franchise “Pickme Wives of Beverly Hills“, “Pickme Wives of Atlanta” 🤣😱. “Love and Pickmes” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:49 PM |
| 21 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.Anecdotally, the only young women I know that “prefer” older men are very clear that they want a provider and the men their age tend to be broke. I have yet to meet a young woman who preferred a broke older man over a broke younger man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:42 PM |
| 12 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.I think men in 🇺🇸 are who they are by 30. I used to be hesitant about dating younger men and then I tried dating older men and discovered that they are disproportionately Peter Pans with less hair and more bills/stress than their younger counterparts. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:38 PM |
| 3 | Was Adam from the Bible a 50/50 🤡?Is he more like Jesus or is he more like the devil? 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣💀💀💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:08 PM |
| 48 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.We need a word for “protecting them from sexual predators” because cockblocking shouldn’t be used perjoratively when used to shield women from men’s depravity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:45 PM |
| 28 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.The Tigress Club (cougars chase, whereas a tigress lets them come to her) From a “biology” and culture standpoint, men die 7 years sooner than we do. So we should all be looking for men that are 7 years younger. And we are now at a time in our culture where older men don’t even have financial stability or wealth. So why risk ugly babies with a man that doesn’t provide and will die earlier than you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:43 PM |
| 33 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.I also think it tends to be women who are not being pursued by men their own age. And older men will choose a plain/average young woman over a baddie his own age. He can’t control the baddie his own age and she has options with younger, hotter men so he isn’t as desirable as he thinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:35 PM |
| 21 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.By mostly you mean 99% of outlets are controlled by men with the occasional pickme/minority thrown in? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:32 PM |
| 20 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.You are me. And I am you.😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:29 PM |
| 7 | Great pre-date tip for new FDS members: tell your gay male friend or female friend that “knows” how some men can be subtly manipulativeI like him. And I vigorously disagree that straight women should take advice from gay men- many of whom are liberal feminists. “Sex and the City”, much? A. Gay men orgasm like straight men. They can stick it into a sandwich and have orgasms. Gay men, although well intentioned, will tell a woman that casual sex is no big deal and that it is empowering. B. Gay men will still encourage a woman to give chances to men that she isn’t attracted to. Because ALL men will have sex with people they aren’t … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:25 PM |
| 6 | Great pre-date tip for new FDS members: tell your gay male friend or female friend that “knows” how some men can be subtly manipulativeYeah, I got amazing advice from older women and I didn’t listen because I thought they were jaded. Or that because they didn’t have what I wanted (marriage and children), I dismissed their valid criticisms.🤦🏽♀️. I thought it was like taking financial advice from a broke person except that I didn’t know that love isn’t something you can work for…and that quite often single women have integrity and courage when opting out of a traditional lifestyle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:14 PM |
| 7 | Mrs. Doubtfire Analysis: On Marrying Peter PansI used to think “Curb Your Enthusiasm” was hilarious 🤦🏽♀️ until I saw an episode where his character finds out the woman he is dating used to be fat and begins to monitor what she eats. Abuse much? These 🤡🤡 really don’t look in the mirror. Some of the most misogynistic men themselves look like 🗑. Downgrading how you treat someone based on their past as being part of a marginalized group is 🤢 (like men who shame women that are incest or abuse survivors, like racist men that are upset that their … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:08 PM |
| 62 | “A man in a room full of women is happy, a women in a room full of men is terrified”👏🏾👏🏽👏🏾👏🏽👏🏾When people are intentionally trying to hurt you or assert power or dominance, backing down or “taking the high road” ENABLES them to push further. Bullies and predators strategically choose people they think will not fight back. Im with you. I don’t start with people but I do not hesitate to reciprocate/ fight back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:55 PM |
| 42 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceOr beg him to go to therapy. Or book doctor’s appointments.🤦🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:50 PM |
| 37 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceI think it is worse than that. She is paying him for the “privilege” of saying she is someone’s wife. She is paying him with sexual favors to get him to do what a child with basic manners would do.😱 You know she is one of those who espouses that “relationships are hard work”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:49 PM |
| 41 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceIm usually the “messier” one in my relationships. But I’m not slovenly and I def don’t abandon personal hygiene. And I don’t cook. All of my men have done the lion’s share of cooking. ☺️ LVM and Pickmes attempt to weaponize that against me for one of the reasons I’m single but I think it has prevented me getting used for unpaid labor. Also, we need to weaponize the bumbler’s strategy. I can cook well but men don’t need to know that unless we are strategically operating together to budget and car… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:45 PM |
| 202 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceA. He doesn’t have a job. B. He is a bumbler and has mastered “strategic incompetence”. (Another poster’s brilliant words.) C. He is the boss at work so he thinks bringing home a paycheck should be more than enough. D. He is self-employed or an entrepreneur so she needs to build him and cover the bills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:38 PM |
| 206 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceShe is paying for the LVM experience. She is paying for bad sex and emotional neglect. Imagine if she diverted that energy into herself… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:34 PM |
| 91 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceNot the manic chipmunk energy💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceYeah, I feel so ashamed to be single and for being so picky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:30 PM |
| 380 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choicePathetic is maybe the most accurate word? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:29 PM |
| 66 | Everyday I am reminded that not starting a family with a scrote was a good choiceBumbler- strategic incompetence | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:27 PM |
| 142 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's health🚩Meeting/talking online for 2 months. False sense of intimacy/safety generated without spending “real time” with a person. When she met him in real life, she was more likely to override the red flags because she was confused that he seemed different than the man she had grown attached to virtually. 🚩Police officer. High percentage of abusers in the profession. 🚩Flying to him. Men that ask you to come to them are at best 50/50 men. And this is the worst outcome. Even if he pays to fly you out, yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:21 PM |
| 33 | Dealing with LVM is a threat to women's healthHiking dates are advanced field dates. Or coffee dates with no coffee. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:13 PM |
| 14 | Why is blocking sometimes a reasonable response/action to take in both platonic and romantic relationships?“Digital boundaries” is the phrase I was seeking. Yeah, I also think as women we should begin to train ourselves to not do things we don’t want to do. I’m not talking about bills or taxes. I’m talking about some of these “social graces” that exhaust us and don’t add value to our lives. Most of the time when people (of both genders) reach out to me after dropping off (vs drifting away which is natural) it’s because they are lonely- maybe it is a man that is recently divorced or a pickme that has … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | One of the BEST feelings in the world is another human being anticipating your needs. I would even argue that someone else’s desire and ability to anticipate your needs is a hallmark of someone who deeply cares about you. And no, it is not the same as “mindreading”.💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:28 PM |
| 88 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…I, too, wish I had learned sooner that withdrawing from conversation is a wise strategic move when people don’t want to grow. Some people think talking is action. It’s not. Also, notice how if you ignore or walk away from people who think they have more power than you (white people, men, your boss, your parent, etc), they flip out and feel aggrieved because they feel ENTITLED to your time and emotional labor. People that insist that we need to “educate” our oppressors are naive at best and delus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 04:15 PM |
| 93 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.Yeah, they want young women to be influenced by older men but not older women. Also, such a scam that older men are more mature or better in bed because of “experience”. “Mature”- manipulative Better in bed- Boldfaced lie. They still skip foreplay an jackhammer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:48 PM |
| 101 | Older women aren’t cock-blocking you. It’s the younger women that just don’t want you.I’m 39 and I have no choice but to date younger men. I refuse to date men that I am not physically attracted to. Most men don’t look that good to begin with and their looks steeply decline after 25 because of their lifestyles. Even amongst the men who do look good- they either are not well rounded or they are Peter Pans that will say “look at me, age is just a number. I’m in the best shape of my life.” Notice that older women almost never do this. They look great AND they recognize that age is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:41 PM |
| 49 | “I liKe HaNgiNg OuT WiTh GuYs, ThEy’Re LeSs DrAmA!!” And other lies people tell themselves.They kill each other and go to war. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:31 PM |
| 135 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…“We have to see both sides!” “Be open minded.” “What about…?” “You are being extreme.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:30 PM |
| 53 | Financial abuse by male relatives and friends.Yeah, a pickme tried to shame me when I told her that I would never support my husband financially “if he wanted to quit his job and go to cooking school”- like one of her friends had done. I just would never date or be married to a man who would EVER expect me to support him- with the exception of chronic/terminal illness. And even then, I’m dating men in their 30s so they should have their own savings. I also got shamed by a LVM/pickme pairing when an ex boyfriend lost his job and I told them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 03:19 PM |
| 265 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?“Are you just trying to use me as a sperm donor?” -balding, broke, 35+ aged man who begged you to go on a date with him vibes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:27 AM |
| 141 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?Agreed. He is trying to preemptively reject you before you reject him. He also wants you to see him as more desirable than he actually is and to chase him. He is pretending to be transparent about not being over his ex because he wants to use that as an excuse to offer you a situationship because he “told you he wasn’t in the space for anything serious”. Block him if you feel compelled. He will attempt to contact you through your social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 10 | Anyone else not dating becauseYeah, something shifted in me where I experience most humans to be LV. I have become an antisocial butterfly. The barriers for connecting as adults are too high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:21 AM |
| 7 | THIS. I believe in gender equality like anyone should but I’m so glad FDS woke me up to the true ramifications of things like porn and bdsm.I think the wise celebrities keep their relationships out of the spotlight. Not a celebrity but if I date again I will not be posting about my so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 01:17 AM |
| 20 | Where to Find HVW Who Put Sisterhood/Friendship First?I used to tolerate such bad behavior from women that I would never have tolerated from men.🤦🏽♀️. Lib feminism also undermines female friendship because most liberal feminists still value dick over the friendship of other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:59 AM |
| 7 | “YoU haVe loW vIbrAtiOnAL eNerGy”, tHat’s wHy YoU aRe sIngLe”According to the spiritual set, you attracted your abuse and you can positive think your way to healing by forgiving your abuser and giving him the benefit of the doubt. Also, you attracted the racism and misogyny! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:34 AM |
| 13 | “YoU haVe loW vIbrAtiOnAL eNerGy”, tHat’s wHy YoU aRe sIngLe”👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 95% of new age language is gaslighting, entitlement enabling nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:32 AM |
| 9 | Anyone else not dating becauseYeah, I feel like the time and energy I spent dating was wasted. People kept cheer leading me that there was going to be a big payoff for continuing to try and I realized that they were wrong. Contrary to the dominant narrative, you can meet a good partner without putting yourself through degradation and bad dates. I don’t think copious dating helps you build the skills for a good relationship. It just helps you become good at dating. And in 🇺🇸 dating culture, most men are looking to date to “so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:17 AM |
| 6 | Anyone else not dating becauseCame here to say that 🤣 We don’t have anger issues. They are constantly flinging their 🤡 feces at us and we are responding appropriately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:08 AM |
| 22 | Anyone else not dating becauseSooooo many gold diggers! I am stunned at how many men inquire about whether or not I rent or own and just generally fish to figure out my income and net worth. They would accuse a woman of gold digging if she did that but don’t see how tacky and opportunistic they appear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 12:06 AM |
| 35 | Anyone else not dating becauseWomen are funnier than men. I come to these threads for the comedy. I honestly think privilege makes people less intelligent. Humor is a coping mechanism they don’t develop. I think it’s why they think Adam Sandler is “hilarious”. Lowest common denominator humor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:57 PM |
| 11 | Anyone else not dating becauseHaving flashbacks to the “friend” who used to neg me. She would say such mean things to me under the guise of “friendship”. And even when she was married! she would still get jealous that I got so much attention from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:55 PM |
| 13 | Anyone else not dating becauseI feel so seen by this post.💚 I would be thrilled by “pretty privilege” if it helped me in any tangible way…but I’m not a model or a stripper, so…it has been a lot of men behaving WILD, the “privilege” of people being fake nice because they are the superficial ones and think you have had an easy life, and Pickmes hating you and trying to drag you down. I was an ugly duckling so being beautiful/desirable struck me as so wonderful but now that I see the reality of people’s inability to see me as f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:53 PM |
| 21 | Anyone else not dating becauseYeah, I look good but I’ve also cultivated a stellar personality, travelled, and I posess razor sharp wit. Or so I think.🤣And it sucks that only a tiny percentage of men match my intellectual curiosity or are even interested in anything I have to say. They only pretend to try to have sex with me. Also, it’s bizarre that we have this stereotype of beautiful women not being well rounded because in my highly anecdotal experience, it is gorgeous men that are not well rounded and rely on their looks.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:43 PM |
| 15 | The level of pick me that is expected of you of you if you're a black womanA Dusty is as a Dusty does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:24 PM |
| 90 | “My husband proposed to me with a box of pizza and a 20€ ring. I am marrying him because I love him, not for his money.”Agreed. I can usually tell when people are open to “growth” conversations vs when they are entrenched in what they believe. Just be careful because when a woman has lowered her standards she sometimes resents women like us who refuse to lower ours. The same woman who says she doesn’t care if her man brings her flowers will be livid years down the line if she finds out that her ex is bringing his new woman flowers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:12 PM |
| 7 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmYeah, I went on a first date with a man who made the excuse that he didn’t know the city well enough to pick a good first date spot. To his credit he brought me an amazing bouquet of flowers, we walked and found a decent place for dinner. But his inability to plan was an issue for the entirety of our 2 year relationship. 🤦🏽♀️. The first date tells you so much about a man’s ability to plan. I don’t understand how men who do literal rocket science act like dating women is rocket science. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:58 PM |
| 8 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmThat is what is wild. So many of these men don’t realize that they barely made the cute so why are they squandering their opportunity? This is why I won’t mess with men unless I’m excited about them. Fudges with your psyche to feel “rejected” by men you weren’t that interested in to begin with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:54 PM |
| 5 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmI am disgusted that people think it is okay to operate this way. It reflects a mindset of someone who views other humans as toys they can pick up and put down at their whim. When did it become ok to waste other people’s time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:51 PM |
| 16 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmIn the olden days when I didn’t block😂 if a man tried to offer a last minute date or “are we still on?” I would just say I had other plans. Over 50% of the the time I was doing laundry and watching true crime. I also do this with flaky friends who try to reschedule last minute. Men know that women are traumatized by their dating experiences so the good ones are on top of this stuff and not constantly shit testing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:43 PM |
| 26 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmAlso, I do not tolerate people- men or women- blowing off my text messages- especially when I have asked a question. The whole point of the question mark in the English language is to get a response. This pisses me off and I think it is the height of disrespect. And just because our society is normalizing it doesn’t mean I have to tolerate it. They wouldn’t do it to their boss, husband, etc..so I have no idea why they think it is okay to do it to me. (Obvi sometimes we just get overwhelmed with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:23 PM |
| 60 | Single >dragging a dead horse.Relationship status has NOTHING to do with your desirability. “A girl like me isn’t single for long.”🤢🤢🤢 or the pickme who says “This is the longest I have ever been single.” Because jumping from mediocre to mediocre relationship is a badge of honor? I used to marvel at people who are serial monogamists- like I can’t even find 1 man for a relationship or marriage and you are into your second marriage. A majority of the time these are just people who cannot be alone. I remember being very ashamed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:58 PM |
| 113 | I’m so sick of hearing “don’t undermine your value” in terms of having sex. Stop talking about “value” and “worth” when it comes to women and sex. This isn’t a market.We can value ourselves AND value the act of sex. I agree with the OP about the weaponization of this language against women and you highlight an important distinction. SEX IS NOT FREE. Not for women at least. Many of us have been conditioned to believe that if we say this aloud we are also saying that we are prostitutes and that we can be bought. In the West, we are taught that sex is a pleasurable act to engage in that only sometimes involves love. If we ask men to provide for us they will accu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:39 PM |
| 188 | “My husband proposed to me with a box of pizza and a 20€ ring. I am marrying him because I love him, not for his money.”Be careful about who you discuss your standards with🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:29 PM |
| 34 | The level of pick me that is expected of you of you if you're a black womanI don’t feel sorry for “preferences” that use white supremacy to their benefit but are then upset when the men they are with are raging misogynists. 🤷🏽♀️ Many of these “preferences” are convinced that they are special. ALL women are special and if he treats ANY woman like trash, he is going to treat you like trash. Even since I was a CHILD, I was disgusted by men that would tell me that they liked my light skin- and sadly it was almost always Black men that would do this. So what I’m hearing yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 09:25 PM |
| 166 | The date isn't happening until he contacts you ahead of time to confirmThe audacity! This is why I block if they drop off for more than 3 days. I have NEVER had a positive relational experience with men who think it is ok to disappear and then pop up. And if we get too deep into it I think these men are the “rolling stone” types. We need to stop normalizing this inconsistency! Especially when people are on their phones 24/7. He isn’t that interested or he is playing games if he does this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:03 PM |
| 106 | The level of pick me that is expected of you of you if you're a black womanI usually think Amanda Seales is on point with her commentary but I was surprised that in her advocacy for Black love she didn’t sit back and admit that since she is light skinned she has more options with Black men because they tend to be so colorist. I think what she did is extremely harmful to darker skinned Black women. Why should they be loyal to men who loudly and quietly disparage them? I’m starting to think the “Black love” agenda is mostly beneficial to Black men. I watched a few episod… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:56 PM |
| 20 | Don't feel pressured to date when you're young just because scrotes tell you "the clock is ticking"Children and a family are THE biggest dream of my life. But I also would rather be single and childless than unhappily married and attempting to raise children in an unstable or unhappy environment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:01 AM |
| 14 | Women are not a rescue plan for men.Huge myth that we need to work with our oppressors. In fact people who pretend to be “moderate” or “both sides” both dilute and slow meaningful change. Issues get moved forward because violence and cabals (like the men that are robbing people of voting rights) of men that concentrate their power. It isn’t how I want it to be. It is how it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:37 AM |
| 21 | Women are not a rescue plan for men.Hallmark of LV people is thinking it is “fun” to debate/ circle jerk about other people’s lives realities. Along with the “devil’s advocate” and “both sides” crowds. 🗑🗑🗑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 16 | Women are not a rescue plan for men.Yeah, income inequality and men that are resource hoarding are the problems here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 05:27 AM |
| 88 | Was Adam from the Bible a 50/50 🤡?Why do the men who claim to love Jesus not actually emulate him? Jesus is like the original HVM. Kind hearted, providing for his community, defending women and vulnerable people. Practicing self- care by going into the desert for a few days to meditate and self- reflect, which was BCE (Before Common Era) therapy. Satan, his scrote minions and bible thumping hypocrites have seriously warped his message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:57 AM |
| 5 | Keeping in contact with ExesIt is the new age toxic positivity of ignoring how we feel on a primal level and calling it “enlightenment” or “maturity”. On an evolutionary level, as a woman there is no reason to keep an ex around unless you have children. You aren’t having sex to create offspring and you have other women friends to get your emotional needs met. An ex is a man that is just mate guarding and energetic cockblocking to keep other men away from the cave. Male humans benefit from keeping exes around because they c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:55 AM |
| 6 | Keeping in contact with ExesSocial media was invented by nerdy men to be able to have nonstop access to women. And to be able to have virtual, mostly imaginary harems by orbiting their exes in perpetuity. None of this was conscious. 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:51 AM |
| 19 | Keeping in contact with Exeskeep providing emotional support for me and I’ll just have sex with someone else. Story time: I had a “nice guy” ex who kept contacting me after he broke up with me. I was still trying to be a cool girl and be “mature”🤢about staying friends. I never initiated contact and sometimes I would even ignore his text messages. I was very confused because he would still bring me gifts, take me on the occasional really nice platonic date and never intimated hooking up or wanting anything. But he also knew… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:32 AM |
| 1 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Do NOT pay for the “boyfriend experience”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:06 AM |
| 3 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Oh god! Car sex is like the cherry on top of a field or coffee date? 😱😱😱😱 #newlows | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:04 AM |
| 50 | The truth about the "honey moon phase"Exactly! There is a lack of maturity if you expect your partner to be a shiny, new toy that brings you endless excitement for eternity. The “I just don’t feel it anymore” doesn’t happen overnight. It is usually death by a thousand cuts. There is a high overlap of this crowd with the “I was blindsided” bumbler personality. No personal accountability or insight into why things haven’t been working for some time. Like Kyle, she has been asking you for the last two years to pick up your laundry, sto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 02:49 AM |
| 19 | Do you think that “the right one” will change an LVM?Girl, no. Are you kind to some people and then nasty and rude to others? As humans we are consistent with our behavior. If you treat some people badly just because you can, you are a problematic person. And I am using problematic euphemistically. It is pure myth perpetuated EVERYWHERE that the “right” woman inspires a man to be great or to change. Or that a man that has been hoeing his whole life (ahem, confirmed bachelor) meets his dream girl and desires monogamy, marriage and children. Observe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 02:33 AM |
| 79 | The truth about the "honey moon phase"Yes, but LVM and Pickmes have weaponized the natural “cooling down” period against women. You state that different types of love replace each other which is true- so the people in relationship don’t feel a loss, just a different kind of satisfaction and contentment. But the “relationships are hard work” crowd are dismissing women who have been love bombed, are now confused and cannot get very basic needs met by someone who claims to love them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 43 | The truth about the "honey moon phase"Yeah, there has also has been a normalization of poor boundaries and sexless marriage. Even these “jokes” or the idea that you should feel comfortable burping or farting around your partner is revolting to me. Are we 5? Is she parenting him through some bizarre outdated Freudian stage where she affirms his bodily functions? I’m a big believer that you shouldn’t share a bathroom with a man. And Ive dated some 🤡🤡 but I’ve never had a dead bedroom situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:56 AM |
| 74 | “Can we talk about this later?…” “Let’s discuss this another time. I don’t feel good. “Do not bring it up with him before your trip. He will try to sabotage your trip. Are these friends you can trust? If so, ask them to help you create an escape plan. This trip can be the momentum…if you can stay with a friend and then have someone go with you to get your stuff that would be optimal. You have expressed that he has a temper. It will not surprise me if he escalates into more manipulative behavior- like threatening to self- harm or suicide. You can have compassion for him- from a saf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingYeah, courtship stage of a relationship is about fun and bonding. Obviously we don’t want to be with men who are emotionally unavailable but a woman can vet for that without having to divulge vulnerable information and vice a versa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:28 AM |
| 3 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingThat is the problem I have with our “talk therapy” culture. People just learn to use their trauma as an excuse they weaponize against empathetic and kind people. Also, I’ve noticed that men who claim to have high eq are also just cheap so they use words and “intellectual” conversations to not have to spend money. This is a big reason to not text or do hours long phone calls with strange men. They are getting free access to the you without having to spend money and if they get sexual at all they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:26 AM |
| 3 | My strategy for Pickme AnthemsI also love instrumental versions of songs. Like Vitamin String Quartet. Especially as I really love hip hop but don’t like men’s cursing/vulgarity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 01:14 AM |
| 20 | “Soft” sex-work…?Can we also normalize robbing men that invite us over for “Netflix and Chill” on the first date? Like, in a 2021 post #metoo era, if a man thinks he won’t come off as a rapist by suggesting this than he is asking for it.🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:59 AM |
| 9 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistakenAs a woman without children (not CF), if I married a man with kids I would expect him to take care of his kids AND me in the event of his death. I’m not trying to be an evil stepmother and I would rather not have financial entanglements with his adult children. I would hope to have a positive relationship with them after his death but that is frequently not the case so I would also want to be able to distance myself vs fighting with them about money. Depends on many variables but I would rather … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:37 AM |
| 6 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistaken👏🏾👏🏽👏🏾👏🏽She gets the 🏅 for mental gymnastics Olympian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:32 AM |
| 3 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistakenI think you SHOULD laugh in a man’s face if he tried that nonsense on you. But I don’t think it is the same if you married a man with the expectation and understanding that he was willing to provide for you including after he passed. Women marry for different reasons than men. Smart women marry men that want to provide for them. Men are supposed to incentivize us to marry them. I’m not saying that that is the case here but I’m wondering how they didn’t have this conversation before marriage. And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:31 AM |
| 13 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistakenYeah, given what we know about the nature of men I’m a little surprised people think she is being petty. I’m also baffled that they didn’t have this conversation more openly/explicitly BEFORE marrying. Women have to operate differently than men to protect our interests so I do hold a “double standard” about a man’s decision to not be transparent about information and a woman’s reaction to his refusal to be transparent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:25 AM |
| 32 | She says she hopes she won’t have to deal with this for years to come… sadly, she’s likely mistakenYeah, the post is a bit fishy. She says that they talked about this before marriage so I’m confused as to why it is getting contentious now. I’m of the mind that my money is mine and if I want to leave it to charity then it is not my husband’s business. And if he is in a good place financially then he shouldn’t be concerned. If she loves his kid and wants to leave something for him, then she can do it without being coerced by her husband. *Adds to list reasons to not date men with children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 12:16 AM |
| 143 | Was Adam from the Bible a 50/50 🤡?When are we starting our bible study/Sunday school? 😂😂😂🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:07 PM |
| 19 | “Soft” sex-work…?Thank you for breaking it down. This is helpful- I don’t ever want to be dismissive or victim blame. Possible tangent- I think one of the reasons I have never been attracted to older men (more than 4 years) is because I had the privilege of my grandfather being an excellent provider. When women have choices because we aren’t struggling to survive, we pretty much NEVER choose sex work or jobs that are demeaning. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:05 PM |
| 47 | “Soft” sex-work…?Also, there is a practical economic reason men gave engagement rings. It was because they were taking her off of the market and she was closing off her other options. If he broke the engagement, she got to keep it for financial compensation. Especially in places where women do not have the means to provide for themselves, this is FAIR to women. I do NOT think it is “taking the high road” or “classy” to let a man impact the trajectory of your life and then pretend like you are okay with it. We ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 11:01 PM |
| 72 | “Soft” sex-work…?I think women need to be more cutthroat about money and accepting “gifts”. If they have bad intentions then I don’t think we should feel bad weaponizng their “generosity”🤢 against them. Men use money to get women. So if we affect their pocketbooks we also effect their ability to have access to women. This is why I am against the whole “if he asks to split the check, just pay your half and leave”. Scrotes/clowns have not had a negative consequence for bad behavior. By contrast if you embarrass/sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:42 PM |
| 23 | “Soft” sex-work…?Scrote Power 😂🤣😂 the imagery! Also, do these women make THAT much money to put up with this? I’d think that a high end restaurant they could make just as much money without the sanctioned sexual harassment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 76 | THIS. I believe in gender equality like anyone should but I’m so glad FDS woke me up to the true ramifications of things like porn and bdsm.The accuracy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:12 PM |
| 9 | Hilarious Ex-Scrote StoryThank you for the dopamine rush from the cackle this story elicited.🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:06 PM |
| 6 | After listening to an episode of the podcast, I made a FDS-inspired comic. Here it is!Agreed. This is wonderful! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:40 PM |
| 12 | After listening to an episode of the podcast, I made a FDS-inspired comic. Here it is!And the douche pube goatee 😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:39 PM |
| 64 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad ideaThose are hilarious. I would text back, “I didn’t know we had a date.” But I don’t get those anymore because I block at the first 🚩. Saying you are going to do something and then not making plans to do it, are a no for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:37 PM |
| 92 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad ideaI get it because she is probably young and majority of us are taught to internalize the bad behavior of others as an “us” problem vs a “them” problem. FDS should be a manual women read BEFORE dating but many of us find it after experiencing a spectrum of trauma from men. Just like we need to prepare to get driver’s licenses, we need perspectives about how to date. We get constantly gaslit with “if you keep having bad experiences, it is because of you.” “Your limiting beliefs are keeping the good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:33 PM |
| 55 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad ideaHmmm. In my experience drink dates are upscale coffee dates with men who want/need the social lubrication of alcohol. 💡By the time a man spends $40-80 on a drink date he could have taken you to a nice 90 minute dinner. So some men could even spend less money on dinner than drink dates. But they want to be efficiently trashy about getting sex. A drink date they can get you to get beer goggles and up the probability you will go home with them.💡 It is tricky to vet for high level interest in this c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:24 PM |
| 24 | Aaaand this is why drink dates and coffee dates are a bad idea👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 09:14 PM |
| 5 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾That is giving 🤡🤡 too much credit. They don’t think about us as all other than as robots to serve their needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 08:06 PM |
| 9 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾I am very disturbed by the truth of this comment.😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:06 PM |
| 10 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Moving forward- it isn’t a date unless he has established time, date and location at least 3 days in advance with you. And you NEVER have to remind a man that you exist or of plans you made. You are not his secretary or social director. Most men will text you 24 hours before hand to confirm and check in. For me, after those 3 logistical points have been established I just lean back and expect him to be an adult and a man of his word. Also, worthwhile men will make it convenient for you so I don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:00 PM |
| 14 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾These men don’t want explanations. They want access to you and an opportunity to gaslight you. Even negative attention is attention to them so it behooves us to block. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:49 PM |
| 6 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Not only does it get easier. It is kind of fun. 🤣 Makes life so much easier! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 4 | And Another One Bites the Dust! 🥳🍾Given his behavior, he is the type to gaslight her if she communicates with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:44 PM |
| 17 | Realization about “not like other girls”My ex tried to convince me that his thinning hair was making him look distinguished. I was still too nice back then but I’m pretty sure he saw me stifle my laughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 07:34 AM |
| 17 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Same. “Im tired. Do you want to come over for Netflix and wine?” “No. I do not want to come over and sit on your dick.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:42 AM |
| 15 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Yep, because you suggested it. It immediately repositions a woman as pursuer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:41 AM |
| 22 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.These are not men, these are 🤡🤡 It is okay that you feel this way. We make people study to get driver’s licenses but we send young women into the world telling them to be “open minded” and “give the benefit of the doubt” when really they need to know “defensive dating”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 20 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.I block in part because these 🤡🤡 will send a “breakup” message to say that they didn’t feel chemistry. Like, no surprises here, Kyle. Why do you think I haven’t texted or reached out to you in any capacity? It is to preserve their ego and to make themselves feel like they are mature and transparent for not ghosting when they 💯 would have ghosted if they had gotten sex from you. If you were to text back and say, “I think we should give this a shot. Come over to my place tonight for wine and we wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:34 AM |
| 11 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Yeah, even I have had to train myself not to do mental gymnastics or make excuses for men- and I’ve mostly been savage for a while now.🤣 It is best to just see what a man offers and if he delivers without your prompting. But I am offended by coffee dates. Men don’t do this when they really like a woman- unless they are too cowardly to full throttle pursue her and are trying to create s buffer from rejection by pretending they just want friendship. Don’t date those men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:26 AM |
| 7 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differencesYeah, I feel like some men even do it badly so that you will ask them to stop and they can just get to jackhammering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 5 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differences“No cum, no sex” is fantastic messaging. Especially palatable for a global audience.😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 06:09 AM |
| 16 | I demand equality of experience in sex. Sex rule: I COME FIRST because of biological differencesI am thrilled that you wrote this! I had a wilding therapist tell me that I should fake orgasms with one of my exes and that eventually they would become real 🤦🏽♀️ I’m proud of myself that as depressed as I was at that time I refused to do it. I strongly believe that faking orgasms is detrimental to a relationship and if a man finds out you were faking it he will never trust you completely. It’s also anti feminist and the reason we have so many 🤡🤡🤡 running around that think they know what they’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:56 AM |
| 9 | Beware of shady matchmakers, ladies.There were some good takeaways from that show. But I always thought that it was fishy that she herself was a forever girlfriend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:42 AM |
| 80 | Women that join men to bitch about or laugh at other women, are bottom barrel.Yeah, if a man is hitting on me but is any way rude to my friends- hell NO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:28 AM |
| 8 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.Body is def more important than the face. As long as the teeth are nice and he wears sunscreen, you will be fine. 😂🤣 Maybe women need to take a cue from men and begin robbing the cradle so we can get them before they’re jaded. We don’t have to groom them because they already like us and I much prefer the puppy dog adoration of younger men that want to impress me to the balding 35+ man who acts like he is doing me a favor by taking me to a dinner and then asking me if I’m trying to use him as a s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:22 AM |
| 95 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!Advanced panhandling by a Hobosexual, PhD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:06 AM |
| 107 | LVM Moocher!! Thank GOODNESS she got some solid advice in the comments to DROP! THAT! SCROOOOTE!She is obviously in an environment where this has been normalized. 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 05:00 AM |
| 38 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?I feel like this comment is unfair to dogs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:42 AM |
| 130 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?This! Men can rarely gage my age until they pick up on my “hostile/unfriendly” vibe. Men love how “older women” look because they are usually clueless! They are 25 with leather face, no hair and beer guts so they’re shocked at how good healthy older women look. What they don’t like about older women is that the proverbial gloves have come off. We mostly don’t tolerate behavior that we would have in our younger years. When I was younger I would attempt to be “nice/polite”.🤢. Now when strange men … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:31 AM |
| 358 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?A man once hit on me while I was at work and I said “No thanks, Dad.” He got livid. I was 29 and he was at LEAST 50. I think he expected me to nervously laugh and “take the compliment”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:15 AM |
| 12 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.the joke is he is likely to treat her even worse because he has to neg her to keep her. Truer words have never been spoken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:11 AM |
| 10 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.Ice wine ☠️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:09 AM |
| 16 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.I’m pretty sure I’m a bit older than you but I co-sign everything you have written. Looks and being sexually attracted to a man are very important to me and Im no longer lowering my standards or forcing myself to feel attraction. It doesn’t work. I am 39 and majority of men look busted after 30. My ideal man is now 32-35 and must look good to me. I would love it but I don’t need a deep intellectual connection because I can go take a class to get that need met. The one man with whom I had the wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 04:05 AM |
| 11 | This article also advises blocking & deleting after breaking up with a Narcissist 🙅♀️Not to be morbid but if she passes her husband is the type to remarry within 6 months- maybe even to the ex that he is keeping around for backup. 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:59 AM |
| 11 | This article also advises blocking & deleting after breaking up with a Narcissist 🙅♀️It is NOT mature to stay in touch or be friends with exes. It is fuzzy boundaries which is a common theme with people who do not like to be held accountable. I posted about this to my personal Instagram account about how unnecessary it is to stay friends with exes. And surprise🥳 a male acquaintance DMs me about how he and his college girlfriend still have such an amazing friendship all these years later. I didn’t respond because… Like 10 years ago he was my student and invited me for coffee. I r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:47 AM |
| 35 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.I once was a translator for an Engineers Without Borders team that was working in tandem with a an 🇺🇸 school of public health in a Central American country. The white men that were conducting their research survey tried to get me to ask questions of the local woman about whether or not they had experienced domestic violence- within earshot of their husbands. Thus one of the many reasons why I am so skeptical of so much research that is presented as science. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:36 AM |
| 139 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.“Attraction to straight men is proof that sexuality isn’t a choice.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:17 AM |
| 60 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.Yes! I took a physical anthropology class and the male professor was adamant about how much he loved his wife and that even though love might be an evolutionary “trick” meant to be a glue to keep parents together until their children were raised, he passionately loved his wife and looked forward to growing old together💚 He decided to be faithful as all humans can be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 29 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.Good for them if they’re living their best life🥳🥳🥳. AND I don’t take cues from celebrities because we get the highlights from their PR team. As you point out, fame, money and status put them in a different sphere than most of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:12 AM |
| 55 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.Exactly! I theorize that the group most likely to cheat are young women with old husbands. Which is common in places with the most draconian laws because women are forced by their families to marry crypt keeper looking men. These old men can’t even keep their eyes on their young wives so they rely on the rule of law to do it for them as deterrent and enforcer. From a “nature”/“biology” standpoint a young woman has the most options with men. So if she can get an old man to secure the bag but slee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:03 AM |
| 80 | Myth: Women are “naturally” more monogamous. Men cheat because of “biology” and their “natural” desire for variety.Especially as they try to pass it off as “science”.🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 12:20 AM |
| 72 | Getting hit on by gross old men is so bewildering to me. Do they really think I'd ever f*ck them?Yeah, too bad LVM see no value in dignity. It’s free and yet… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 10:47 PM |
| 9 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatThanks for sharing. Even if they were in Denmark, this date has the hallmarks of LVM/Pickme behavior. 🚩A first date where they talk for 5 hours. I don’t think FDS has guidelines about this but first dates shouldn’t exceed 2-3 hours otherwise you veer into the faux intimacy or love bombing territory. PS FDS is universal/global. I went on a date with a German man when I was in Portugal. I was courted by a German man when I spent time in Venezuela. I hung out with 2 Dutch guys when I was in Spain. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 10:40 PM |
| 74 | Don’t be a forever fiancée. This scrote leaves his family high and dry with bad choice after bad choice.One of my exes put me on his life insurance policy within 3 months of us meeting. And we were not married. It was actually really cute that he knew it was too soon to ask for marriage but nonetheless was acting like a husband. He wanted to make sure I would be taken care of if anything happened to him. Btw- He was in his early 30s and only a few years older than me not some old paternalistic sugar daddy. Contrary to 🤡 Peter Pan propaganda, worthwhile men tend to have their heads on straight by 3… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 07:51 PM |
| 39 | requirement for a childfree HVMI will only have sex with men if I am okay with them being the father of my child. So I have accepted that I will be celibate until I have gathered enough information about him to verify this. Even when careful there can be an “oopsy” and I am unwilling to get an abortion. I do not want kids out of wedlock or to be stuck with a man that doesn’t love me- and if you have kids with a man you are bonded for the rest of your lives. Even men who abandon their children will circle back in their later y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:35 PM |
| 24 | requirement for a childfree HVMYes! The reasons men are CF tend to be different than the reasons women are CF. Very rare is the man who is CF because of health or ethical reasons. For the vast majority of men I have met who do not have children…it is because they are Peter Pans that don’t want the financial obligations of children, they think they can ho for life or that they can hit 40 and the 20 year olds will be lined up and ready to start families with them (“look at George Clooney” they say without having Clooney’s walle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:20 PM |
| 84 | Don’t be a forever fiancée. This scrote leaves his family high and dry with bad choice after bad choice.Don’t date someone who doesn’t believe in science or public health until they are personally affected by it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:11 PM |
| 151 | Don’t be a forever fiancée. This scrote leaves his family high and dry with bad choice after bad choice.I skimmed and saw the “engaged but have 5 kids together- the oldest being 17” and knew everything I needed to know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:10 PM |
| 9 | Beware of shady matchmakers, ladies.Holistically attractive men don’t need to pay for professional matchmakers. Only caveat is if they have a specific religious inclination. Matchmaking services are exploiting women. I knew a woman who paid $6,000 (I think) and was guaranteed 5 high quality matches. She was a physician, attractive, etc…She described the experience as a joke. Men that were fugly or still attempted to use her for sex even though the matchmaking service was supposed to be vetting for her. Patriarchy ensures that ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:23 PM |
| 19 | Can age gap relationships stunt the mental development of the younger person?And to acquire a taste for saggy balls and leathery skin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:54 PM |
| 8 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatPickmes just aren’t the type to move in silence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:14 AM |
| 135 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Unless he is offering to fly you to the Big Island or Colombia 🇨🇴 for a tour of a coffee farm followed by a fresh cup, it’s a no. Actually, it’s still a no because women should not travel to men that they are not in committed relationships with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 06:07 AM |
| 7 | One of the BEST feelings in the world is another human being anticipating your needs. I would even argue that someone else’s desire and ability to anticipate your needs is a hallmark of someone who deeply cares about you. And no, it is not the same as “mindreading”.💚💚💚💚💚💚💚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:59 AM |
| 11 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatNot the wine and TikTok pairing 😂🤣😂🙋🏽♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:47 AM |
| 18 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.Sooo many Pickme LMFTs, Pickme PsyDs and Pickme PhDs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 05:03 AM |
| 11 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatFlashback to the NVM narc of my past that took ALL of the free coffee that was on display in the lobby and stuffed it into his backpack at a hotel where I was staying when he came to visit me.🤦🏽♀️. I am laughing now but that was so embarrassing when security asked him to leave the premises. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:49 AM |
| 37 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingEven in the very best case scenario of them just being socially awkward vs a sinister Narc- the oversharing is a reflection that he doesn’t have anyone to talk to😬 So he will expect you to be social director and therapist. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:44 AM |
| 40 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingYeah, most men- no matter how healthy the ego- will not want you to know that they have been cheated on or cuckolded until you have enough context and know them well enough that they weren’t at fault. (Because women tend to cheat for VERY different reasons than men. Neglect, abuse, etc…) The oversharing is an attempt to force you into: A. Divulging equally vulnerable information about yourself. “I’ve been an open book. Now reciprocate!” Narcissists like this because they are looking for informat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:38 AM |
| 27 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingWild!🍿 write that screenplay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:31 AM |
| 46 | Obviously this isn’t the right place for this, but it kinda does relate to dating so hope the mods will let it stay up.Drop her. Every therapist I have ever met is “well meaning” but that doesn’t mean that they are immune to the insidious and often subtle ways that women (especially WOC) are harmed by dominant cultural narratives. Eg, I had a couples therapist who was a WOC who said that I was being irrational for refusing to live with my ex before marriage. She lacked awareness that they were both imposing their value system onto me. She was the “expert” but I am so glad that I stuck to my guns and broke up wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 04:09 AM |
| 57 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieThe Middle East, parts of Africa, Asia, Latin America, rural parts of America where they practice polygamy and/or marry young women off to mothball smelling men 20+ years older… USA which has tons of sex trafficking, etc…Teen girls in juvenile halls that have been arrested for “prostitution” even though legally they can’t even consent🧐🤬 It is not the Taliban but I don’t think I am outrageous in saying that in every developed, “progressive” country there are women living in abject misery that is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:46 AM |
| 18 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatI was tempted to amend my post- like maybe they were drinking alcohol. But I, too, had a hunch that it was free refills on Cokes for the 5 hour duration. 🤣 Plus, 5 hours of alcohol would likely be 10 drinks for 2 people (1 drink/hour) so at least $50-$200. And no food after that much alcohol😬 They seem like LDS teenagers that don’t drink…but LDSers don’t even do caffeine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:35 AM |
| 10 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatPickmes and LVM deserve each other. Too bad they spread their misery to innocent people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 03:28 AM |
| 20 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatEmbarrassing yourself is a kink for some people?❓ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:54 AM |
| 54 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatAlso, it sounds like they didn’t spend any money (drinks and water over 5 hours) so that server didn’t have the ability to make a decent tip or at least served more tables had they left after an hour. I am assuming that this is in 🇺🇸 so that server maybe even didn’t make minimum wage that shift. Not only was their date lame but they affected someone’s livelihood. Do only people who have worked as servers know this? She and her boyfriend sound uncouth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:47 AM |
| 31 | How to be the friend that reaches out and keep good HVF friends?Hmmm. Maybe there is a reason you do not feel compelled to reach out that has less to do with not having a common interest and more to do with not feeling meaningfully connected? I match energy. So if someone reaches out I will always respond and reciprocate. But there are some people who I don’t want to hang out with because we don’t have a common interest AND our values are not aligned. Common interests are great for basic bonding and can be vehicles for deeper intimacy. But if you don’t share… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:10 AM |
| 207 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.I, too, believed that the counter offer of dinner after rejecting a coffee date was a success.🤦🏽♀️ But I noticed that men who do this are just biding their time to eventually lower your standards. It is strategically wise to see what a man offers as a reflection of his intentions for you and how he treats ALL women. If he offers you a coffee date, then he is offering many women coffee dates and some of those women are accepting. So really he is just accepting and strategizing that with some wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:01 AM |
| 97 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieRead somewhere else about how this is the issue with “The Handmaid’s Tale”…that isn’t a dystopian fiction- that was slavery! That was the lived reality for Black women! But many people only make the connection because the show primarily stars white women. It is similar to how abolitionists would print pamphlets of white passing enslaved children because the public couldn’t empathize with Black children being enslaved. 🤬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:47 AM |
| 124 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieAgreed. They felt happy to even see a woman naked. Now some PREFER porn to an actual woman 🤦🏽♀️ Also, men didn’t openly admit to using porn because it meant that they couldn’t get with real women. Now they want to tell you off the bat about what porn they like and their kinks/fetishes. bringshameback2021 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:43 AM |
| 175 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieThis! When the US invaded Afghanistan and the men there got access to the internet, how did they use it? To look up porn. The technology of social media invited by Mark Zuckerberg was meant to degrade women. And with any technological innovation there is an immediate market for exploiting women within it. As soon as photography existed, nude photos. As soon as movies, porn. As soon as TV, pay per view. Internet, porn websites. Cell phones for cameras, men asking for nudes. They just find ways to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:39 AM |
| 1 | 💡Don’t have penetrative sex with a man unless he can bring you to orgasm with his hands and/or mouth first.💡🤗🤗😘😘💚💚💚🌺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:16 AM |
| 6 | Anyone who is actually high libido who is now low libido because of disapppointing experiences with men... that thinking about having to deal with their BS in order to have sex is just too unappealing?You make a good point about not shaming people who have been brainwashed. Would be helpful if we had a 1-10 scale for pickme diagnosis.😬🤣 I’m not talking about them or women who just have little relationship experience and think dating will be like “Sex and the City”. I’m talking about grown women who used cry to me about their situationship but refused to listen to any feedback I offered. I’m talking about women who don’t acknowledge that they are parroting LVM and sound like borderline sex add… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 12:15 AM |
| 16 | One of the BEST feelings in the world is another human being anticipating your needs. I would even argue that someone else’s desire and ability to anticipate your needs is a hallmark of someone who deeply cares about you. And no, it is not the same as “mindreading”.Thank you for pointing this out. Didn’t even cross my mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 11:45 PM |
| 11 | Why we don't date downNot an apologist for homicidal women 😅 but… I don’t think it is that simple. With what money was she going to pay the team of lawyers to divorce him and get a decent settlement? Like Betty Broderick’s husband he had control of everything. She didn’t have family support and pragmatically didn’t want her daughter to lose the status and support of his well connected family either. His family behaves as if he was a HVM prince so… The idea that women and oppressed classes can get justice through the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!It’s such bewildering logic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:43 AM |
| 5 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!I think it might be people who grow up with that normalize it..I don’t ever want people to feel ashamed of being born out of wedlock but encouraging people to replicate the cycle is not okay. An ex was an illegitimate child and he tried to convince me that it ultimately didn’t matter as he felt loved. I think it was a cope and I didn’t have the heart to point out that he grew up in abject poverty and his father was a total deadbeat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:38 AM |
| 3 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!Yes, men will use children to NOT marry a woman! I knew a couple where she deeply desired marriage but he insisted it was just a piece of paper. They had two kids together so I think she was afraid to leave and felt that the odds were slim that with 2 kids she would find a new man. She might have had the courage to leave if she was child free. Also, to his credit he was a highly involved and loving father. But to his detriment I wonder about the underlying tension/ resentment she must have felt … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:32 AM |
| 3 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!Yeah, it is one thing for her to want that for herself but she shouldn’t take other women down with her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:28 AM |
| 6 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡Right. She’s on the verge of tears and he’s just about to head out for the day… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:09 AM |
| 2 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡Please respect “us” even though I do not respect us. Spot on. Also, did I miss something when he started yapping about how it’s not her fault and he needs to work on himself? Looking at that SnapBack that was already my assumption so it was bizarre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:08 AM |
| 3 | Does anyone remember the video of the wife asking her husband to delete instamodels, which he refused and he ended up getting smacked by his bad? They got divorced 😂🤡🤡I have ZERO regrets about the abortion I had even if it may mean that I do not end up having biological children which is the biggest dream of my life. Again ZERO regrets and only an occasional wonder about what might have been. And I had a dear single mother friend tell me that although she wouldn’t change a thing and loves her son more than anything, it is not a life choice to opt into unless you are wealth and have a solid support network. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 09:04 AM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 21 - Our Best Flirting Strategies! + Pencil D*ck & SpoonsI think it’s max 4 inches with a girth of 2 inches. Like one of those link sausages you microwave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:29 AM |
| 4 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughIf you must but I still see it as an economic loss for women’s wealth. Do not allow a man force you to spend money you didn’t intend to spend. I highly doubt he will get the cops called on you if you just say “I can’t afford this and I thought you invited me.” Try that first and then if he escalates give the money to the server. Make him feel the pain of a hit to his pocketbook. He is more likely to think twice before pulling that on another woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:07 AM |
| 3 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughAgreed. I was on a date that was running long (3 hours😱). He was cool but I was ready to go home and do my bedtime routine. I went to the bathroom and walked back to the table and didn’t sit back down. I asked him, “Has everything been taken care of?” He said, “Oops.” Pulled out his wallet, took care of the bill and walked me to my car. For those of you still with anxiety about not offering or feeling guilt about not wanting to do 50/50- if I had reached for my wallet or offered to split it woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 08:00 AM |
| 3 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughYes. Always have these 3 logistical details in place before assuming you have an actual date: Time, day, location. If those are not established you do not have a date. 💯 on the vague, wishy washy energy. Him: Let’s hangout. You: Define hangout. He will either make himself clear with specifics or bumble. In my experience, if they bumble it isn’t going to get better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:47 AM |
| 5 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketAlso, even knowing that these men are virtual strangers you will feel affected if they neg or insult you. I stopped OLD because the amount of negativity and borderline abusive behavior would make me sad for a few minutes and even a few minutes is too much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:40 AM |
| 6 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketPlease under any circumstance do NOT pay to date or be on a dating site. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:38 AM |
| 1 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketI don’t OLD anymore but also watch out for the older men who say they want kids because a lot of them are lying but they know that younger women tend to want kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:36 AM |
| 7 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketWhen did men become so terrified/repulsed by committed relationships? Like I’m seriously wondering about the surplus of single men in 10-20 years that are going to die alone because they preferred a lifetime of hoeing over forming healthy relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 07:34 AM |
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