Single >dragging a dead horse.

thepsychopathhunter · 2021-08-02T20:28:31+00:00

Facts! 👏 I hate the stereotype usually promoted by pickmeishas who act like being single is some sort of “lack.” Actually in many cases it represents that we rejected an abundance of options because they didn’t meet our standards.

I agree that just being in any relationship is not an accomplishment. While it’s nice to celebrate a happy relationship, many women are not in relationships with high value men. They are not any more desirable or accomplished than single women.

I also think society needs to focus on women’s actual accomplishments (e.g. amazing career, degrees like PhD or Master’s, published research, amazing home, car, financial abundance etc.) because sadly that often gets swept under the rug especially by Pickmeisha friends who only want to know whether you’re dating a dude. Meanwhile you could be on the NYTimes Bestselling List and their eyes would glaze over as they interrogate you about your relationship status. 🙄 Because to them that’s all that matters and it’s the only “trophy” they have in their lives, which is sad. But they’ll project onto successful women their own misery and act like being single is some sort of “lack” despite everything you have going for you. In reality, them dating an LVM is the true lack.

lillylilacladybug · 2021-08-02T20:23:36+00:00

I never understood the appeal of dragging around a body just to say you “had someone.”

I mean I guess if you’re Jeffrey Dahmer but otherwise…

Vmchik · 2021-08-02T22:05:01+00:00

After my last relationship just two years ago, I forced myself to have standards and boundaries. Now I can barely stand being around men and dating them. 99% of them want you to do all the work and all the chasing in the relationship. Any time I feel lonely I just scroll through relationship advice and dating advice to reaffirm that no relationship will always be better than a shit relationship.

One tiktok comment section really woke me up and it was a thread of women saying they had been in 7-10 year men relationships but were hesitant to end it. I realized how lucky I am because they wasted a majority of their twenties to some LVM who wouldn’t pee on them if they were on fire. Now I’m dedicating my twenties to myself because that thread was a nightmare.

lolmemberberries · 2021-08-02T23:35:19+00:00

Relationship status says nothing about your worth as a person. There are people who will settle for anyone and anything just to say they're not alone.

Also, I like to think of myself as a butterfly. Pretty and hard to catch.

Low-Big-1911 · 2021-08-03T03:24:36+00:00

I said what I said !!!! It rolls off the tongue just right

Title	Single >dragging a dead horse.
Author	modernmedusaa
Upvotes	461
Comments	12
Date	August 2, 2021 7:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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