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| 51 | all this going on farida.d. author is a reminder men are not our alliesUgh so gross! There are sadly a lot of male TikTokers who plagiarize the words of women. I’ve called it out and reported them whenever it happens and sometimes they’ll put up credit after the fact but not soon enough. There was even a case of a male TikToker stealing a woman’s works cited page to support the ideas she gave him and people were fawning over him providing references when he literally just stole her thoughts and put up the works cited part of her article to support its credibility w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/22 09:39 PM |
| 26 | Living With MenHave never lived with a man. Highly recommend it. 😂it is stress free and luxurious as f*ck. And I love living alone so much that I am considering asking my future hubby if I ever get married to get his own place. Lmao. I can’t even stand spending a whole few days with a man but maybe that’s because my experiences were with LVM. But even if it was an HVM I think it would still feel suffocating and I would need my space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 01:48 PM |
| 21 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsFacts! 💯 Envious friends are so harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:57 AM |
| 25 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsI am so sorry he said that to you and minimized it!! Congrats on your degree! 🎉 No doubt he was jealous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:56 AM |
| 13 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsLOL! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:45 AM |
| 24 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsCongrats on the scholarships and the PhD!! 🎉 He is definitely jealous of your education and the fact that he is lacking in that area. Unfortunately, there are way too many LVM in the dating world who claim they want an intelligent and educated woman but then try to drag her down because she threatens his little ego. "Feminine energy" my ass - LOL - he's just mad he's not as intelligent or educated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:45 AM |
| 32 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsIt is sick that he hassled you about a gift you treated yourself to and tried to condition you to feel badly about it, especially when he should've been happy for you and also treating you to nice things. I am so sorry you went through that and that he tried to ruin your joy with negative associations. I definitely know how that feels - to feel like every moment of joy will be stolen by a monstrous type like this. So glad he is your ex and that you got free!! I hope you're enjoying all the joyfu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 02:37 AM |
| 72 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsAbsolutely. That’s another way they do it. It’s one of their “destructive passive” responses rather than an actively destructive one. Very subtle yet harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:39 PM |
| 168 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsCongrats on your job offer!! 🎉 And I know exactly what you mean and so sorry you went through this. I had a similar pathologically envious narcissistic ex who would have actual meltdowns when I started making great money in my career. Their insecurities and mantrums are a plague - it’s beyond disgusting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:35 PM |
| 109 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsSickening! A lack of congratulations and joy for your accomplishments is a huge red flag to me. Congrats on your promotion! 🎉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:32 PM |
| 70 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsAgreed! Well said. It can start with statements that have a certain amount of plausible deniability or are easy to gaslight you on. Even in the example I gave above, someone could easily think, "Oh maybe he's just sympathizing with what a difficult process it was...although dark and dreadful are rather odd word choices to use" or "Maybe he wants me to be more realistic." One way to reality check is by thinking to yourself, "Would I ever react this way to someone?" Most of us would just say congr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 07:07 PM |
| 19 | Need support blocking and deletingI agree with your reluctance to date a stoner. A man who chronically uses weed usually uses it as an excuse to be lazy and low effort. It’s an undesirable behavior and should be seen as such. Glad you saw it quickly so you can detach. I had a thought about the ex - what if he was actually inadvertently“confessing” something when he brought her up? Maybe he’s still in contact with her and actually met up with her on the way to going to your bar since it’s close and that’s why he didn’t show up? O… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 08:44 AM |
| 175 | I don’t think what Will did was the best course of action or way to defend Jada. However I’m disturbed by the amount of people who antagonize her as a cheater; considering both of them agreed on an open marriage and have admitted they both have seen other people. They only praise woman who ‘stay’.I noticed that too. Everywhere I saw discussions about him there were always mentions of how Jada betrayed him and all that but then in other interviews Will straight up says there was no infidelity and they were open with each other. Plus Jada got together with certain people during their separation. Men only believe open marriages applies to them being with other people, so they demonize a woman who is exercising the same freedom. I really believe a lot of open marriages are scams because ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 08:20 PM |
| 17 | Let’s not fund research of a HIGHLY underdiagnosed and treated disease, but how it effects their male partners because sex is too painful 🤦🏼♀️"The lead researcher [is] Dr Paolo Vercellini, an obstetrician and gynecologist at Universita degli Studi in Milan." I wanted to find the lit review they did to "justify" their research problem because I am sure it was absurd too. Couldn't find it, but I did find a Guardian article talking about the retraction of the article...and found out the horrifying details about the lead researcher who is an OBGYN... It took 7 years of women protesting the article for it to be finally retracted. Who wants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 07:40 PM |
| 73 | Let’s not fund research of a HIGHLY underdiagnosed and treated disease, but how it effects their male partners because sex is too painful 🤦🏼♀️So true. They don't give AF about how men's self-created issues affect women, but will center men in issues that women can't even control. Unfortunately...it gets worse. I just discovered there's a study on the ATTRACTIVENESS of women with different types of endometriosis: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22985951/ AND they actually included the following on the Pubmed summary: "Conclusion(s): Women with rectovaginal endometriosis were judged to be more attractive than those in the two control gr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 03:36 PM |
| 120 | Let’s not fund research of a HIGHLY underdiagnosed and treated disease, but how it effects their male partners because sex is too painful 🤦🏼♀️I took a peek at the study and...this section made me laugh with how absurd it is. It centers a man's "helplessness" while ignoring a woman's helplessness completely. They actually interviewed full couples - both the men and women involved. But they still chose to hyperfocus on men's responses when they had an opportunity to focus on the women they interviewed. Some quotes below I found important to share: "Men reported that endometriosis affected many life domains including sex and intimacy, pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:49 PM |
| 180 | Let’s not fund research of a HIGHLY underdiagnosed and treated disease, but how it effects their male partners because sex is too painful 🤦🏼♀️Wow. So gross. They always find a way to center men — I wonder if these are mostly male researchers or pickme female researchers (I recently had a run in online with a sEx poSitIve pickme female researcher who thinks hookup culture and casual sex are fulfilling for women so I wouldn’t be surprised — she even claimed women should demand orgasms and questioned why they were not and blamed the orgasm gap on women as if contexts of casual sex don’t pose any danger or harm and women can just freely d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 02:05 PM |
| 197 | Blocked & DeletedGood work walking away! You dodged a bullet. I now stay away from LVM who try to convince me something I want is unreasonable. He wants to take you out to dinner to get his fave cuisine and tries to convince you you should like it too instead of spoiling and treating you based on your preferences? Nope. He wants to text on his timetable and expects you to be on call whenever he does text? Nope. Bye. He thinks having suspicious female best friends is okay or following suspicious accounts on IG an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 10:09 PM |
| 117 | What do you think about seemingly HVM doing psychedelic drugs occasionally?My personal preference after some experience with men who smoke weed is that many men do not smoke it once in a while but make it their whole identity. Like other commenters suggested, their effort and personality after chronic use becomes dull and lifeless. And they hide it with the idea that they’re just “chill.” Ironically those same LVM were the most rageful aggressive people I’ve ever met. So do ask yourself why and how they’re smoking it because some of them are just trying to mask narciss… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 02:52 PM |
| 15 | Exactly why do women hate on each other? (Especially for seemingly no reason?)They’re jelly. I’ve encountered many jealous and envious competitive women in my life — from coworkers to “friends” and family members all the way to many, many glares from random young women I don’t even know on the street on a daily basis. Those ones specifically think a woman existing in her body is a threat to them. Also includes women whose scrotey bfs ogle other women so they blame you personally when you’re not even looking at them nor do you want their man. And don’t even get me started … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 08:21 PM |
| 638 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himself34 and 49 for eight years…so they got married when she was 26 and he was 41?! And that doesn’t account for the time they spent dating… Even if he is very fit as she describes he’s still hit the wall and did hit the wall when he first met her at that age because scrote men rot like bananas. This is pure projection. He preyed on a young woman, used the age gap to manipulate her and now she’s brainwashed into thinking the solution to having more sex with this old scrote is returning to her pre-preg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 11:15 PM |
| 18 | Pickme women in the workplaceThey really are dangerous and work hand in hand with the patriarchy to oppress women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 10:50 AM |
| 29 | Pickme women in the workplaceTruth!! In my case the severe Pickme was thankfully not parents, but rather another female relative. But even just her behaviors had a huge impact and made me realize these PickMes will never protect other women. Some will go out of their way to victimize them and enable their abusers. They will defend predators and abusers while throwing the most vulnerable under the bus. I have heard many horror stories of women choosing their abusive or even predatory exes over their own children, friends and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 10:48 AM |
| 65 | Pickme women in the workplaceOh my gosh. She sounds like a piece of work! Doing all that just to make sure the attention is on her while disrupting your work no less. It’s selfish and absurd. Not to diagnose her or anything but these types of women always remind me of histrionic personality disorder (with some narcissism usually added in depending on their other behaviors/empathy). Attention assembly is right. I know exactly what you mean. They will stop at nothing to get attention and it really is bizarre to witness. 🤢 And… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 02:21 AM |
| 116 | Pickme women in the workplaceYikes. Sadly when you have family members like these you grow up watching these tactics. I had the misfortune of having someone like this in my life since birth (thankfully in my case not parents but other relatives). It’s even worse when they escalate to behaviors such as 1) going after partnered men 2) actively trying to take attention off of you, especially in times when they know you’ll get more attention/so covert sabotage to try to usurp the spotlight when they see you’re getting attention… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 9 | How to get over a friendship with a pickme friend?The double standard is outrageous. So sorry you experienced her lack of response during a difficult time while she’s responding to him. That is really awful and shows her toxic mindset clearly. I’ve experienced PickMes do similar things where they’ll go out of their way for a man but the minute a woman in their life who has always been there for them asks for basic things like that suddenly they are treated like a burden. These women who put low value men on the pedestal never win though because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:36 PM |
| 41 | How to get over a friendship with a pickme friend?Sorry you’re going through this especially during health issues. I know what you mean — I’ve encountered this type of Pickme more than once, in fact many times throughout my life. They will drop everything for a man and center men, even men they barely know. They will never protect you or prioritize you even if you’ve been there for them for years. It’s freeing to be rid of them and know you won’t be there when they crawl back during the breakup which they usually do. Prioritize yourself and tak… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:08 AM |
| 7 | Don't describe yourself as kind or empathetic to men.Precisely. I’ve weeded out a lot of creeps just by not revealing how empathic I am. In the past I would’ve emphasized that quality but now I don’t give a flying fuck about appearing that way. All they would do with that info is exploit it. I make sure I hint that I’ll take their ass down if needed and make references to “dangerous” women in popular movies and books I relate to. 🤣 I am selective with my empathy anyways so it’s not like they’re going to benefit from it unless they’re actually good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 09:07 PM |
| 239 | Just a reminder of the FDS handbook about the benefits of being high maintenanceI am so glad you saw his true colors. The entitlement and rage is insane! And a huge red flag. Years ago I went on ONE date with this scrote (I was dating multiple men at the same time back then so thankfully even pre FDS was a bit more detached) who tried to have me come over to his place and tried to force a kiss on me. The funny part is the other guys I was dating were far more attractive than he was yet he also had the audacity to pull a pathetic attempt to triangulate me during our date to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:03 PM |
| 37 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingThat is horrifying. 🤮 The company people keep says a lot about them. Predators often enable other predators and can travel in packs. Even if they don’t commit the same crimes themselves, the fact that they’re okay with these crimes being committed says a lot about their level of empathy and what they’re capable of doing. And since this crypto dude’s cofounder was also writing about child r*pe in a romanticized “fictional” (I doubt it was fictional) manner, it seems he also befriends other predat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 04:26 PM |
| 44 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingI didn’t know much about the men in crypto communities before but from what you and other commenters have said it seems another group (the males specifically) to vet thoroughly/avoid. 🚩 I feel like there is an overlap between obsessed male gamers, males in tech, and cryptocurrency…all roads lead to scrote. They’re so desensitized to debating human lives and as you said are not grounded in reality at all…they’ve lost all sense of basic morality and empathy if they ever had any. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:44 PM |
| 40 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingAbsolutely. There are just some things that should never be debated — ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:40 PM |
| 9 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s Horrifying💯💯💯💯💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:39 PM |
| 17 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingExactly! 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:39 PM |
| 87 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingHe posted those tweets only a few years ago and he’s now on the cover of Time Magazine. 🤯 It’s disturbing how little consequences there are for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:39 PM |
| 24 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingBrilliantly said and on point.❤️💯 Wish Omeid had responded to him in a similar fashion instead of this coddling nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:38 PM |
| 18 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s Horrifying❤️🙏 I don’t know much about the crypto community — thanks for letting us know about the men there. Will be avoiding and vetting carefully. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:36 PM |
| 139 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s Horrifying“I happily played World of Warcraft during 2007-2010, but one day Blizzard removed the damage component from my beloved warlock’s Siphon Life spell,” says Vitalik, the programmer who developed Ethereum’s original concept in late 2013, says in a bio hosted at about.me. “I cried myself to sleep, and on that day I realized what horrors centralized services can bring. I soon decided to quit.” This dude’s reason for creating his company was world of Warcraft. … Another reason not to date or be friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:13 PM |
| 53 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s Horrifying💯💯💯💯💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 02:09 PM |
| 231 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingThe story gets even creepier. Apparently the cofounder of his company is also likely a predator. He wrote this graphic story of child r*pe and his excuse was: “My blog posts at the time were meant to provoke intellectual debate and discussion around generally taboo subjects like the nature of consent,” he wrote. Intellectual debate. Right. Just two peas in a pod, these two founders. It wouldn’t surprise me if both of them were predators who connected on that “level.” 🤮 They should definitely be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:50 PM |
| 59 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingAbsolutely. And the story gets even more disturbing…apparently the co-founder of this man’s company wrote a child r*pe fantasy. https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/ryanmac/ethereum-cofounder-sex-underage-girl-fiction This is really creepy. They both need to be investigated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:47 PM |
| 124 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingExactly. 🤢💯 I can’t believe these are even “talking points” in any debate. It’s outrageous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:42 PM |
| 65 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingFor sure. If it was a woman saying anything even one third as abhorrent as this they would definitely antagonize her and be sending a mob to harass her. Actually, they sent some harassing mobs to any woman who joked about Vitalik’s appearance so just goes to show what men vs. women have to deal with even just online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:40 PM |
| 280 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s Horrifying🤣 Right?! He was so calm like “I’ll have to think more on this” and “Good point” — WTF? “I’ll just have to take a minute to think about the pros and cons of child r*pe thank you for your deeply thought provoking argument” — that’s what these fools who enable each other sound like. Being actually intelligent means you know not everything is meant to be debated but these weirdos have no empathy or understanding. They believe being a successful “nerd” who has created something makes them immune to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:29 PM |
| 65 | How can any one say supporting this industry is ethical when the customers are this openly irresponsible, depraved, & careless? What l read basically translated into, “haha I repetitively exploited women & thank God I got to use a prostitute without repercussions that many of them end up having.” 😥💔And then he finally only made an appointment to get tested for STIs after some people nudged him to do so. 🤮 What is wrong with him? And this society which normalizes unprotected sex like it’s no big deal? People don’t get that some STIs can pass even with a condom so taking condoms out of the equation completely just makes it super risky. And since he won’t be tested for HPV, he’s probably going to become a silent carrier of several strains that could cause women cervical cancer. Given that he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:19 PM |
| 384 | This Crypto Guy on Time’s Magazine Cover Has Argued For Legalizing Child ****…Read On, It’s HorrifyingWhen this guy was featured on Time’s magazine cover, some women tweeted out lightheartedly that he looked exactly what they would imagine a founder of Crypto would look like. Of course, some men took immediate offense and began defending him. But then another man posted these screenshots of this “prince of crypto” drawing a false equivalency between legalizing heroin and legalizing possession of child **** saying that child **** wouldn’t be harmful. What the actual eff. We need to stop dismissin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:11 PM |
| 35 | Most Pickmeishas will tolerate massive amounts of disrespect from NVM but won't tolerate that same disrespect from family and friendsYep. They will in fact throw their own family members and friends who’ve been there for them under the bus for a toxic or cheap scrote. Or even try to compete with you because they are desperate for attention and hate it when you get it. But they’ll be happy to rage at you for standing up for yourself or speaking out or anything they find irritating. It’s a really weird double standard. I stopped defending these types of toxic PickMes and hanging out with them and the freedom is amazing. Honestl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 03:36 PM |
| 54 | Men who glorify villainsI definitely feel like women liking villains is so different too because it’s not like the society we live in would allow for them to mimic that behavior without severe punishment. Even domestic violence victims who are merely defending themselves get punished all the time or shamed while their perpetrators get off scot free. Meanwhile we see everyday incel weirdos who idolize people like the Joker and carry out actual violence and it takes forever for them to even get arrested. By that time, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 01:04 PM |
| 111 | Do these shallow men expect us to feel bad for them? I certainly don’t ¯\_(ツ)_/¯You both are right on point. When they see a beautiful woman, especially if they see her through a pornified lens or choose women with body types that are objectified in porn, they are the ones who fail to see her as multifaceted. It doesn’t occur to them that she could be both beautiful and intelligent, or that just because she has a certain physical attributes doesn’t mean she’s only “good for a fun time” and as a trophy wife. I’ve witnessed with my own eyes men ignoring amazing traits in a wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 04:15 PM |
| 60 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?Truth. In my late teens to early twenties I had an ex who had diagnosed Asperger’s. He was just as damaging as my narcissistic exes and was also sexually coercive and abusive. I do think it’s important we call out abusive behavior and not make excuses for it because as you said neurodivergent women are held to different standards and expectations. The issue isn’t is someone autistic vs. narcissistic necessarily but more so how does their behavior affect you? Because even if there’s a way to rati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/22 11:19 PM |
| 4 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.The fact that he has the audacity to speak on what makes women “desirable” when he is not desirable in any form or fashion is the most laughable part to me. Do these men actually think they’re attractive even at the most basic physical level? They’re not. I would not look at them twice or even once if I ever saw them in real life. And when you add their horrid personalities to the mix, they make themselves look even more hideous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 12:22 AM |
| 21 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.😂 Exactly. I saw that video yesterday and I can’t imagine how the scrote speaking is so delusional he thinks high earning women want him. I don't think any woman would want him — and I mean that both emotionally and physically. No wonder they have to make misogynistic videos/podcasts to inflate their importance, it’s the only way they can get women to look at them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 10:52 PM |
| 75 | LVM advice to women on getting a guyInteresting how I’ve never seen articles catering to women like this. Would love for them to include something like, “Jealous of your girlfriend’s success? Stop being a whiny brat and trying to sabotage her and get yourself a career then. She’s not responsible for making herself small to make you feel better about yourself” or maybe “Have the urge to follow women on Instagram and like pictures of women you don’t know? Remember that your girlfriend settled for you and is doing you a favor by allo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/22 02:44 AM |
| 4 | Does anyone else feel the pressure to explain your single hood to partnered people?I’ve always been surrounded by PickMe friends in the past so I know what you mean. The truth is these people may not actually be happy. The reason they have to center relationships and judge others for being single is because misery loves company. I say this from experience because the PickMe friends who tried to shame me for being single (in similar situations as yours - just got out of a long term relationship etc) ALWAYS turned out to have alcoholic or abusive boyfriends or something else scu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 08:49 PM |
| 26 | Fresh | The new Hulu thriller. How many red flags can we name? [Spoilers]One survival tactic she used was pretending to fall for his ploys while planning her escape, basically pretending to be different and his partner in crime as if she was falling in love with him. You gotta do that with narcissists so they don’t realize you’re going to leave them. Pretend like everything is normal while you get your stuff together behind their back to leave. The movie itself made me nauseous and sick. 🤢😳 That’s a personal preference as I don’t have the stomach for gore especially … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 07:03 PM |
| 49 | NYT advice column tells women to CoMmUniCateI hope she finds an “understandable” sexual connection with her hot gym trainer, the handsome guy at the bar and her sexiest ex then. And posts it about it on Facebook. 🤣 But seriously the fact that women are gaslighted SO much by society and also dating coaches make me sick. And it’s not even just men doing it. There was a woman asking a female dating coach on a live TikTok about how she doesn’t like it that her current boyfriend doesn’t get her lavish gifts like he did for his ex and how she f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 12:57 AM |
| 6 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveSo true. I agree. Everything she’s going through plus panic attacks and the trauma bond is a lot to process all at once. I think she’s narrating it right now in the way her brain can take it - in digestible pieces and with beliefs that are familiar to her. Which is totally understandable. Complex trauma does a number on you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:21 PM |
| 17 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveOne of the other women he manipulated says he told her explicitly he wasn’t dating anyone else: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdA2xbEt/ In one of Chelsea’s Instagram stories she mentions he screamed at her saying “there was nobody else!” I believe based on both their accounts he lied to both of them and mislead them into believing he wasn’t dating anyone else. I agree Chelsea and other women definitely need to be careful and vet thoroughly but I do think this was a case where Chelsea told him in no un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:06 PM |
| 14 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveHe’s more sadistic than I thought…apparently he bragged to Chelsea about rupturing a woman’s ovarian cyst during sex with another woman mere weeks before getting with Chelsea trying to act like it’s a sign of his sexual prowess: https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdA2hgfn/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 03:00 PM |
| 77 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveI read Chelsea’s stories on Instagram and it seems like he definitely is narcissistic at the very least. He raged and screamed at her when she told him she might be pregnant according to her stories. He also had unprotected sex with some women right before her and told them he and Chelsea weren’t romantically involved. Sounds like pathological lying to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:34 PM |
| 16 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveAgreed!! I think hookup culture has brainwashed people into thinking there aren’t many risks to sex or unprotected sex and that it’s some carefree thing you can do without being harmed. I wish the consequences were equal for men and women when it comes to sex but they unfortunately aren’t and men haven’t done anything to mitigate that risk. They actually heighten it by not taking care of their sexual health. In reality women face the brunt of the consequences since they can be exposed to HPV str… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 02:00 PM |
| 16 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveRight that’s one of the saddest parts of this is that some trolls are already using it to fuel anti-Native rhetoric and to disparage his original messages. It wasn’t the overall message itself (critique of white supremacy and misogyny) that was wrong but the messenger since he’s practicing misogyny himself by deceiving women into thinking they can have unprotected sex with him without as much risk/implying exclusivity/not letting them know and having no respect for their bodies or health. He sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 01:53 PM |
| 53 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveOne thing I noticed was that his facial expressions and demeanor had this coldness that was very penetrating - like it could freeze you from the inside if that makes sense. He has several videos including ones where he’s flirting back at Chelsea where he forces a smile and it’s unnatural. I’ve seen that with a lot of people who have either narcissistic or psychopathic traits. I think people might not catch on to that because it goes with his “stone cold badass activist persona” but looking at it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 01:43 PM |
| 84 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveLance is an activist who I used to follow but I got weird vibes from him (while many of his messages on racism and misogyny were on point, he seemed very cold in his videos and it always reminds me of psychopathic traits when someone’s a bit TOO callous and cold). Anywho, sadly I am not surprised another so called woke man got exposed. He mislead what seems like multiple women into believing they were monogamous and Chelsea (in the video) had unprotected sex with him under the assumption that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 05:49 AM |
| 52 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveSo true. I think it’s a human instinct to be vulnerable when we feel safe with someone. That’s the cornerstone of emotional intimacy. And it’s supposed to be normal but due to male depravity you cannot follow that instinct and must vet. He definitely built a strong persona, following and and facade that was easy to lure in potential victims with even if they hadn’t met yet. Whenever I see men with huge platforms I always feel extra suspicious of how they’re using them and how many women they’re … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:46 AM |
| 91 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveRight?! Every woman knows that horrible feeling. The fact that she re-did her raw video tells me she’s still trauma bonded to him and is still waiting for the man she thought he was to reappear and make amends. That’s pretty common though especially since it’s so recent and raw. It’ll take time to process the betrayal. That’s one of the risks of getting to know someone’s public persona online and falling in love with their image rather than their truth. Sounds like your daughter is fully aware o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:41 AM |
| 7 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveThe fact that he tried to call their relationship just a friendship in his apology is just the pinnacle of gaslighting. 🤢 He really was trying to diminish what he did and get away with it. Makes you wonder how many other wolves in sheep’s clothing are out there. I know from experience (not just from romantic relationships but also work related) that men with these types of huge platforms are extra sus because they often abuse their power. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:38 AM |
| 11 | TikTok “Feminist Woke” Man With Millions of Followers Exposed In Violating Informed Consent via Unprotected Sex & Cheating On His Partners Who He Mislead into Believing They Were ExclusiveLance is an activist who I used to follow but I got weird vibes from him (while many of his messages on racism and misogyny were on point, he seemed very cold in his videos and it always reminds me of psychopathic traits when someone’s a bit TOO callous and cold). Anywho, sadly I am not surprised another so called woke man got exposed. He mislead what seems like multiple women into believing they were monogamous and Chelsea (in the video) had unprotected sex with him under the assumption that he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 04:21 AM |
| 158 | This is a new low. The bf is a doctor and social media famous and yet she is buying him a house 🤡I just watched a few of their videos and I don’t get it. He seems so…dull and blank. I’ve never seen someone so unenthusiastic and I’ve been approached by strangers who are more doting than this dude lol. She seems very PickMe as well and her personality revolves around having a man which is giving me “lacks personality.” But she’s reaching so many people and could be doing something more productive with her money than spending it on a man who should want to spoil her or spreading more important… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 08:23 AM |
| 111 | "I appreciate modesty in a woman" - says the man who watches porn.As a busty woman thank you for this post. Society spent so much time sexualizing breasts and then punish women for having them and existing in their bodies. It’s like they don’t connect the dots that it’s their problem that they see everything through a pornified gaze that reduces the woman into an object rather than seeing her as a person with rights. Policing what we wear is usually also a way to police and shame our bodies because I’ve definitely been shamed by other women for wearing exactly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 10:29 PM |
| 3 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.So true. She could've been so happy single or with an HVM who appreciated her like she deserved throughout of her life!! Instead of overexerting herself for this weirdo. I hope she gets to have an amazing life in the next few years and experience the freedom, peace and joy she always deserved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 04:51 PM |
| 1 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.This is EXACTLY it!! Love this. You really nailed their mindset. ♥️💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:29 PM |
| 7 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.She’s probably so sweet and empathic and has given so much of herself to him. I bet she settled for him in many ways (knowing how these scrotes bat out of their league she’s probably more attractive than him, more educated, intelligent etc) and rationalized to herself why she should stay with him throughout the years and he thinks it’s the other way around because he’s delusional. He probably chased away suitors who were actually worthy of her being the self absorbed person he is - ones who coul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.I thought about that too!! I almost wonder if he’s counting on her finding it and he has it set up where she will be able to find his Reddit account somehow. We don’t know anything aside from what he tells us. In this post he claims a safe, healthy relationship with his best friend - but I wouldn’t be surprised if it turns out he’s an abuser and is just trying to get his last attempt at triangulation and provoking his wife in before he dies so she’ll be traumatized even after death and he’ll get… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 03:16 PM |
| 38 | This Woman Dated a Man for 2 Years Without Ever Meeting His Family, Friends, or Seeing His HomeSo true regarding the social media thing - easier to dismiss, rationalize and gaslight when a real woman isn’t in front of you sharing her story. I’ve never seen exposing a predator to be petty or unevolved because I do think it contributes to the greater good and protects future victims. Plus it’s a way of getting justice deserved for the impact this type of manipulation has on someone’s mental and physical health. I hope it works out for her and his wife learns the truth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 01:38 PM |
| 160 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.It’s sad that this is true. This is also why I cringe at memories of being nice to LVM in the past. Ewww. There’s no reason to be nice when it’s not warranted. Never again. It’s better to be ruthless…even with HVM be ruthlessly cautious at the very least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 01:28 PM |
| 298 | Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad.🤣 That image gave me a laugh. Also this part gave me chills so true: “Our lives and what they steal from us is hypothetical to them.” He robbed her of having a partner who wouldn’t be writing such a condescending awful post before the end of his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 01:27 PM |
| 38 | Kanye wants to take away her right to remarry through court wtf. He also wants to make it difficult for her to divorce and claim her prenup.I wouldn't be surprised if it turned out he was misdiagnosed or he has a personality disorder in addition to bipolar disorder and in reality it turns out he's also a narcissist. I definitely feel like mental health issues has been overused for him to excuse all of his actions and personality disorders are a bit different than an "out of control" mental health issue, so I think if it did turn out to be narcissism as an additional factor there would be less excusing his more intentional behavior. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 02:05 AM |
| 60 | LVM Love To Spread the Myth That Women Should Settle Lower Than What We're Attracted To But Mistreat the Women Out of their League Who Give Them A Chance Regardless - SO don't settle and don't make this mistake!You are definitely worthy of so much more!! Look at the gorgeous, cool, intelligent, successful, funny women who have settled with scrotes far beneath them (and I mean this not just physically but they also have the audacity to mistreat them too even though they should be grateful to have these women in their lives) because they fed into this lie that "well as long as he's nice to me, right? I should give him a chance" only to find out the nice guy image is just a facade and the scrote is secret… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 01:35 AM |
| 175 | LVM Love To Spread the Myth That Women Should Settle Lower Than What We're Attracted To But Mistreat the Women Out of their League Who Give Them A Chance Regardless - SO don't settle and don't make this mistake!Exactly. That double standard is why LVM have the audacity to approach women well out of their league in every way both physically and emotionally....and mistreat her when she does charity by dating him or giving him a chance. And she only gives him a chance because of society "guilting" her for daring to have preferences and desires and has been programmed to prioritize other things than appearance. If I am going to get fucked over anyway it might as well be by someone I actually found hot and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 11:50 PM |
| 100 | Queen Jess spitting sad facts todayYep. This reminds me of a comment I saw on social media under a post about the additional dangers online dating poses. The comment was from a smug woman saying, "I met my boyfriend on Discord. He and I are sooo happy. It can work if you do it correctly." Cue eyeroll at last statement which shames people who have been victims of violent men especially from online dating just because of *her* experience. It also implies that women who don't experience male violence or don't experience abuse from o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 11:03 PM |
| 190 | (TW) Her husband PEED IN HERI was just reading this exact post a few minutes ago and thought of FDS, sooo gross and this is basically assault. 🤢 As if being married to men wasn’t risky enough women are made to endure this crazy weird shit. I am glad at least the comments seem fairly united as I was expecting to see some scrotes justifying shit but nope this is one of the few posts that seems to bring everyone together. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 03:05 PM |
| 309 | Never go backI looked up the post and the OP posted an separate update post of horrific and devastating news. Trigger warning for anyone who looks it up. Ugh. 😰 He was definitely involved/the one who did it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 10:31 AM |
| 111 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...Agreed. Do not ever approach them. Although I’ve never approached a man I’ve never heard good stories from other women that began from them approaching men. It always ends the way you said it will. At the bare minimum a man should be pursuing you actively otherwise it is not worth it. Ideally given we live in a patriarchal society where dating culture already terrorizes women…they should be worshipping the ground you walk on and those are the ones that lead to the best relationships but that’s j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:32 PM |
| 55 | How have your female friends and family members reacted to FDS when you introduced it to them? What are the ones who rejected FDS doing with their lives now?I have been surrounded by PickMeishas my entire life and thankfully I’ve recently cut all of them out. Whenever I did try to share FDS principles they of course got defensive. It’s been a relief to no longer have them in my life. I don’t care who they are in your life if you have a friend or family member who defends their abusive scrote hurting / abusing you in any way (I do understand there may be a trauma bond but their scrote abusing their loved one should wake them up and they should at the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 02:00 AM |
| 303 | I could not find ONE comment saying she’s in the right. He expects her to come over on the first date but gets offended when she mentions him paying for tea. A $2 item. 🥴Eww. The audacity of him to expect her to come over while he blames her for expecting him to treat her to some fucking tea which is like literally so cheap. He can’t even invest the price of tea for her to risk her own life to meet a complete stranger that could put her in danger. 🤢 So basically she’s being treated worse than a sex worker who would at least be compensated. I hope she gets some FDS comments soon and stops offering to pay half with dates with these scrotes. There is no reason to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 10:03 PM |
| 194 | Men want me to back down even when I am rightYou don’t deserve this. This is abuse. Someone who claims to feel insulted by something you said especially this which was this minor should never rage or curse you out or verbally abuse you like this with slurs and launch attacks on your career and personhood. There’s a way to respectfully communicate if someone is hurt and this is definitely a power play especially since you apologized (not that you needed to because he’s obviously abusive). It won’t get better. I highly recommend you get your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 06:07 PM |
| 71 | Why do dating apps bring out the worst in men? | the guardian articleI love Nancy Jo Sales. ♥️ I remember reading her article on I think it was Tinder and the dawn of the dating apocalypse a while back. She always spoke the truth and continues to do so in a world that continues to normalize the traumas and horrors of online dating for women. Thanks for sharing the article, it was an enjoyable and validating read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 05:48 PM |
| 57 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?I’ve encountered many scrotes on OLD in the past when I was in a more vulnerable young age and there was no app that was the exception to that, although Tinder was definitely the worst because many men see it as a hookup app even if we don’t. So I advise against Tinder specifically as many predators are on there. However I still got treated/spoiled to romantic dates and fancy places when I used OLD, so make sure you at least get a nice date out of it if you’re going to use it. Another good thing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 04:45 PM |
| 2 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItI am so glad you had a great Vday! Yep, it’s so much better when a scrote isn’t in our lives and we only surround ourselves with high value people. ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:23 PM |
| 20 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItSo true. LVM will purposely go out of their way not to give you what they know you want just to provoke you. The fact that he even mislead her into dressing up is so gross. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:18 PM |
| 13 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItYou hit the nail on the head. I cringe when I see low effort men and pickme women talk about how, “Guys, it’s not about the money. Valentine’s Day is a commercialized holiday it means nothing…” knowing full well their LVM does not treat them well on other days either. The HVM will spoil you on other days AND Vday. They don’t have to choose. To them it’s not a commercialized holiday so much as yet another opportunity to honor you and your relationship. I find some of the women who say VDay is not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:15 PM |
| 174 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItExactly. Women take on so many risks just to date men for very little benefit — not just the dangers of rape, assault, harassment, stalking but also wasting years of their life on a man who won’t commit, abuse, pregnancy, potential exposure to STIs that could give them cancer or affect their fertility (especially since LVM are reckless with their sexual health), doing more emotional/domestic labor, being mislead or scammed…the list goes on and on. Yet somehow women are the ones who should prove … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:11 AM |
| 108 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItIt’s insane how far these scrotes will take it and will act shocked after the woman leaves them. 🤢 I am grossed out that he even posted this. This is why I will never buy into the whole “wife material” idea because scrotes like this equate wife material to obedience, submissiveness and how much you tolerate their bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:05 AM |
| 139 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItEdit: omg. I just looked at his other vids. He’s even worse than we thought. Regularly posts videos about renting helicopters to do creepy disgusting things (I can’t even say what he did it’s too gross) or buying lots of things from Amazon and showcases his out of shape dad bod. And then while happily spending money for that he pulls this for his gf on V day. Meanwhile his girlfriend commented, “I love you babe thank you for everything you do for me I promise to always love you and be by your si… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 01:03 AM |
| 132 | Scrote Takes Out His Girlfriend to McDonalds for Valentine's Day, "Rewards" Her A Year Later for Tolerating ItHe should be both grateful and shocked that a woman wants to be in his presence. 🤢 Our society has given scrotes an excessive amount of entitlement and audacity…I hope the girlfriend finds FDS or sees the light somehow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 12:57 AM |
| 6 | Tessa Violet’s new banger “yes mom”. It’s all about loving yourself and being your own biggest fan. Boss babes take no shit and never settle for less. This song nails it! 🎶🎵🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 I love this thank you for sharing. I’ve only heard a part of this song on TikTok just the chorus and never heard the full lyrics until now. It’s SO good! Perfect for enhancing your self-concept and putting yourself back on the pedestal instead of those nasty scrotes! ♥️😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 12:07 AM |
| 9 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)Wow. Just wow. Saying he didn’t know who she was? 😳🤯 I highly doubt that’s true especially since he’s in the sports/athletics world. But even as just any human would he should recognize her name. And even if that was true that’s weird to admit and embarrass yourself. Now my suspicions are higher especially since they met through a dating app and he may be secretly jealous of her/negging her and exploiting her for her popularity. By saying he didn’t know who she was it could be a power play to pu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 08:04 PM |
| 9 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?Absolutely! 💯 You become “difficult” when your independence and intelligence doesn’t benefit them personally aka stroke their ego and cater to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:17 PM |
| 4 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?♥️ So glad it was validating! I’ve had a lot of experience with these envious types and it’s unbelievable how textbook LVM are in their resentment of intelligent women. HVM on the other hand will celebrate your accomplishments and passions and be genuinely proud of you. And their behavior in supporting you will be consistent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 07:16 PM |
| 338 | What is up with men saying they want someone who is passionate about something?You’re definitely not imagining the misogyny. Low value men love to believe that smart, accomplished and passionate women are “rare” because it fits in with their gross stereotypes about women which don’t leave room for their multifacetedness. In reality there are many women who are ambitious and intelligent — but as studies have shown, LVM are threatened by these women. LVM may pretend to feign interest in their passions and ambitions and goals but they are in reality threatened by their intell… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 03:14 AM |
| 80 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)I just looked at the captions on their respective engagement posts and the difference is striking even though they both posted similar pics…edit: I did more searching his other pics of her have better captions and seem supportive but those are all pre-engagement. I am hoping he truly is HVM and keeps up the same energy post engagement and doesn’t just get worse since now he’s “got” her. We’ll see! Her engagement caption says something like “omg I can’t wait to be married to you!! Easiest yes eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:16 PM |
| 45 | Just saying that I would like *his* to mention *her* in the description… also the #1 point in *hers*… nah, sis you’re AMAZING (treat her well JO we’re watching)It is sad that society thinks being engaged is a bigger accomplishment than even literally being an Olympic gold medalist and that women themselves internalize that idea. 🤢 I am really surprised she made that her first line in the bio and this is major free marketing for his smaller platform. It’s weird to do that for a man you barely know who doesn’t even reciprocate when he should be the one bragging (I don’t know how long they’ve known each other but even if it’s been years she hasn’t experie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 10:05 PM |
| 193 | Quite hilarious...It’s always the people in the worst relationships who judge you for not being in one too. MLM in this case = Misery Loves (other people’s) Misery 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 02:00 PM |
| 138 | The high cost of LVM- your attentionGreat post. I recently watched a popular TikTok from a woman who talked about how she is actually a very happy person - she knows this is her natural state because when she’s not dealing with men in a dating context she is calm, carefree and prioritizes herself and her goals. I truly believe many women are happiest when single (and not focused on any potential partners) and that this has a lot to do with the amount of LVM we encounter in the dating world. It’s one of the reasons why women who ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 10:01 PM |
| 8 | A lot of men don’t marry for love. They marry for timing. Don’t be the woman he settles with out of convenienceGreat point. I find that low value scrotes usually claim to fall in love with women who rejected them. I think it’s more of an obsession with the rejection itself regardless of who the woman is. It reflects back to them their unworthiness and they want to prove themselves so they fabricate the idea of a dream girl that got away when in reality if that same woman chased after him instead of rejecting him they would be wondering what’s wrong with her because deep down they know they’re not shit an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 12:54 PM |
| 20 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutI was so disgusted by this tweet by a pickmeisha which degrades the physical appearances of the women Caleb manipulated and claims it's so embarrassing they're speaking out because it show's they weren't "picked": https://twitter.com/tamagotchimilf/status/1484944231512875011 What a pickme gross weirdo to say such a thing. Like...Caleb himself is underwhelming. Why attack the women? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:58 PM |
| 232 | I Met My Friend's LVM During The HolidaysUgh. I am so sorry that happened to you. He sounds like a disgusting narcissistic jerk and his comments are reminiscent of some condescending male narcissists I’ve met in the past. 🤮 I’ve definitely had a pickme friend or two in the past (one specifically comes to mind) who enabled this type of behavior in male friends and it is disgusting. They are so thirsty for male approval they will throw good high quality female friends under the bus and allow this to occur. I am glad you blocked her. She … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:54 AM |
| 26 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)It’s disgusting how entitled they feel and how absolutely delusional they are. Had a creepy guy invade my space while I was waiting for an Uber (daytime afternoon on New Year’s Eve) he basically snuck up from behind and was so close he could’ve made bodily contact in fact I am 💯 that was what he was about to do and tried speaking to me. My instincts kicked in and I shouted at him to get the fuck away from me loud enough for people on the sidewalk to hear, become alert to what was happening and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:45 AM |
| 118 | Was wondering if any FDS ladies on here have lost interest in dating after finding a job with a healthy environment and/ making more money?Yep absolutely! After becoming financially stable and getting an amazing penthouse I see every date through a “risk” lens. I decline a lot more date offers and only go on dates that I know will have substantial benefit in some way - like giving me a new experience or a luxurious one. Because a) I will not abandon enjoying the incredible views in my home for some lowly scrote so they would need to be spoiling me for me to even date them and b) learned to enjoy my own company immensely and also ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 08:26 AM |
| 16 | The Dangers Pick Mes Pose to FDS WomenAbsolutely. I’ve witnessed PickMes defend child predators and blame the woman for trying to “seduce” them. 🤢🤮 I’ve also witnessed PickMes throw their own female family members under the bus just to desperately flirt with any man they think might be interested in the women around them and try to take the attention off of their more attractive and successful friends or family members. They get very upset when they’re not the center of attention. It’s disgusting the way they behave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 01:55 AM |
| 104 | Woman in Denial About being in an Abusive, "open" Marriage.I noticed that right away too! While watching I said aloud, “I know you ain’t talking about being alpha with that small head” 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:44 PM |
| 188 | Another Cringey Article Glamorizing Polygamy as Being More 'Secure' and 'Open-Minded': "My Husband's Girlfriend Is One Of My Best Friends. Here's How Our Family Works."What bothers me even more besides the tone throughout the article (which seems very "OF COURSE I am OK with it and not jealous and I SO love his girlfriend" lady doth protest too much-ish) is that when it was shared on Facebook, someone commented that it reeks of self-esteem issues and a bunch of PickMes commented that "No, someone has to be very secure to not be jealous, this is high self-esteem" as if people have to be OK with sharing their partner to be seen as secure. I don't know the writer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 01:10 AM |
| 4 | Do you have a friend who reaches out to you when things aren't working out with her man, and then the minute they're okay, she's gone?Yep. The happy ones rarely even boast about their relationship. I’ve noticed a tendency of women in bad relationships find any excuse to mention their husband or boyfriend though. And I am talking literally any. I could be speaking about how I like lobster and they’ll find some way to mention their husband. Or it’ll be in a completely professional setting and I’ll be talking about a project and they’ll bring up their husband. It’s almost like they think I’ll be jealous of them having a crusty hu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 11:23 PM |
| 1 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”I’ve never understood the appeal of living with a man and the idea of waiting around for a man to come home makes me feel suffocated personally. I definitely don’t think women should live with men before marriage just to keep themselves mentally sane and financially independent as it is easy to become dependent on a man and take on all the wife roles and responsibilities without having the title. It’s great to be treated well and pampered after you’ve already become a wife but when you’re a girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:39 PM |
| 5 | [deleted by user]These are so beautiful! Lovely work thank you!! My request is long black hair ones and olive skin if you’re able to add please and with the tiny penis gesture as well lol! 💖🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 10:35 PM |
| 38 | Why do men “not want a relationship” because of a breakup ages ago, but women are still willing to seek real connections and love despite the amount of horror we’ve gone through?I am so sorry you had to listen to that atrocious voicemail. I almost wonder if it wasn’t an accident and whether he did it on purpose as triangulation (setting up love triangles to get you to compete). With these types of manipulators you never know because they will deliberately play with you when they know you want something more which shows a certain level of depravity and lack of empathy. And they rub other prospects (whether real or imagined) in your face as well. It wouldn’t surprise me i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 01:05 PM |
| 14 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?Ugh so sorry you had to deal with this type of friend. I know the exact type and they are very stressful to deal with. They can’t stand being alone for even one week and will jump from LVM to LVM. They are desperate for male validation and approval and use their female friends as objects/backups instead of seeing them as meaningful friendships. Then they shame and judge their happily single friends for not choosing to be miserable like they are. “Funny enough, this same woman asked me to go on a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:53 PM |
| 2 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?🤣😂 Lmao! I love these. Oh wow at the woman suddenly remembering to mention your bf for the first time - these types are so transparent - love your response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:36 PM |
| 6 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So sorry you went through that! That sounds so uncomfortable and intrusive to experience. I agree…PickMe friends and their scrote bfs take a toll. They will defend their scrotes to the ends of the earth too. Glad you cut ties with them! These types will throw their friends (even lifelong friends) under the bus for a man they’ve only known for a few months or a couple years. Hell, even days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:34 PM |
| 7 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?Hahaha I LOVE these, thank you for sharing! ♥️🙏Especially this one: “If they make comments about your cleavage, just grab your boobs and really push them up.” 🤣🤣🙌🏼 I wish we could all do this. Women get unnecessarily shamed so much for their bodies regardless of what they wear or don’t wear. Might as well have some fun. 💃 Yep at this point the woman can stare just as much as the man sometimes. Why be in a relationship if all you’re going to do all day together as a couple is ogle other women and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 12:27 PM |
| 10 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So true. Well said. I think this is especially true for those in miserable relationships. The ones in happy relationships (or just happy with themselves in general) do not pull such antics, especially not projecting their insecurities onto complete strangers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So sorry you experienced this too. I am glad you’re more detached from it now and don’t give it attention anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:15 AM |
| 36 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So sorry you go through that with friends and their creepy gross bfs. And the fact that they blame you for his actions when they should be breaking up with him. Ick! 🤢🤮 That’s a very uncomfortable position to be placed in. Yep knowing the reactions of PickMes and just out of respect I will avoid looking at couples in general no matter what the man looks like. Many times in my experience the man ogling me is tall/muscular/handsome-seeming from what I can see in my peripheral vision (although ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 02:12 AM |
| 64 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?I am so sorry you experienced this too. Well said - they do try to get their LVM involved and will throw innocent women under the bus just to feel better about themselves and their relationship. It is so disturbing. I can’t even imagine commenting on a stranger in public let alone right in front of them so the fact that these people take it that far is beyond low. Reeks of jealousy and envy. 🤢🤮 And honestly is proof that so many people are in miserable relationships because if they weren’t they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:11 PM |
| 44 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?Lmao! I loved reading this comment. “Iron fist in a velvet arm” is the perfect way to describe it. Thank you for sharing. I’ll have to remember these tips on nonverbals and a way to communicate you’re not having it without feeding them the reaction they’re hoping for. You ladies are badass! 🥂 “You took the table and turned it. Now they’re eating the social shit sandwich they’d tried to serve up for you and thought you’d have to eat.” 🤣💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:50 PM |
| 16 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So true, thank you! I’ll try to not let their insecurities/projections disturb me. My favorite way of zoning them out is through listening to music when I walk, which is harder to do at more sit down events but I’ll find some way to stay grounded in the fact that these people really don’t matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:44 PM |
| 19 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?So true! It is icky. The ogling has always happened and I am not sure what it is about this month but the comments only began happening recently - I never used to experience actual verbal comments from couples before (perhaps because in these instances I went to events where I wasn’t just walking by these types with earphones on? Not sure) but the ogling happens daily to me because I walk around my city a lot for fresh air and exercise. (And I am not willing to give that up or hide myself just t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 09:42 PM |
| 30 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?Thank you for sharing your experience! I agree, I suspect the woman either notices the solo woman herself or notices her bf eyeball her/anticipates he will eyeball her, finds her threatening in some way and engages in this immature bizarre behavior with the man either continuing to ogle or them having a convo to somehow mollify her. When all along...all they had to do was mind their own business. I love going to places alone and enjoy myself immensely...but this is definitely one of the things t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 08:50 PM |
| 28 | Have Low-Value "Couples" Ever Tried to Degrade You As a Single Woman?I never make eye contact with any of these people. As I said in the post, I actively avoid them/keep looking ahead whenever I notice them staring. I get stared at a lot, so I've also trained myself over the years not to make eye contact. I do not think it has to do with that, but moreso the Pickle woman notices me, my outfit/body/hair/face/whatever/or sees her man ogling, or makes up some scenario in her head, and the man (if he senses her insecurity) either makes it worse or tries to mollify he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 08:28 PM |
| 35 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsYessss exactly! Posted this as a reply to another comment but wanted to share here too: They only care about “equality” when it means they benefit and even then it’s not true equality because men and women aren’t treated equally in the dating world nor do they take on an equal amount of risk/burden/labor in the dating world. Paying is just the bare minimum indicator that he’s investing in you and not just taking out multiple women on cheap “adventures.” Women take on far more of the risk in dati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:07 PM |
| 16 | Why Splitting the Check Isn't as Feminist As PickMes Think It IsPrecisely. They only care about “equality” when it means they benefit and even then it’s not true equality because men and women aren’t treated equally in the dating world. Paying is just the bare minimum indicator that he’s investing in you and not just taking out multiple women on cheap “adventures.” Women take on far more of the risk in dating (violence, STIs, pregnancy, harassment, stalking, abuse, actual murder, taking on more emotional and domestic labor etc) and generally have more of an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 04:01 PM |
| 17 | Be extra careful with men who have shady habits on the road. It's linked to narcissism.Can confirm. A past narcissistic ex had severe road rage and would even get out of the car to confront drivers. If you see this sign early enough, RUN. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/21 01:59 AM |
| 27 | At this point women should just complain about going 50/50 for the sheer hilarity that'd ensueMeanwhile these men wouldn't be able to survive even one day as a woman. I guarantee it. It takes a LOT of resilience and strength and they don't have even 1% of the amount we have, as evidenced by their hypersensitivity to issues that don't even exist. I've seen many shorter men with partners so it's definitely not height that's stopping him from having a gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 02:29 PM |
| 149 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseThis is exactly what I was thinking when I read this. Men really assume we are thirsting for commitment even with a low-value scrote LOL. So they try to use it to make themselves seem elusive and desirable when we don't even want them. It's insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 12:55 PM |
| 33 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"This is really disappointing and awful. Being surrounded by pickme family members and friends who excused the actions of abusers is so frustrating. These women need to be exposed. Often these women hide in plain sight and gain popularity without anyone realizing they are enabling predators. It's sickening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 02:00 PM |
| 76 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriendI think it is a good thing! 💯Low value men wouldn’t know true wife material if it was standing right in front of them. How they define wife material is pretty depraved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:25 PM |
| 85 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriendSo true. Or when you’re more successful, funnier and intelligent than they are in general. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 143 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriend“An educated, funny, witty, independent strong-willed person that’s a pleasure to be around.” Exactly! You hit the nail on the head when you said they don’t value the qualities I think they should value. You could be the most powerhouse woman who is also gentle, kind, funny, beautiful, etc. who is in fact “wife material” in all aspects of the word. But how low value men define wife material is, “I need someone to cook, clean and not stand up to me when I do shitty things.” It’s insane how friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:22 PM |
| 97 | Why Being Called "Wife Material" or "Girlfriend Material" Isn't Always a Compliment, Especially If It's Said To You By An LVM - A lot of the times, they are projecting qualities like unwarranted excessive deference, humility, obedience, bangmaid duties onto their "ideal" wife or girlfriendThe video left out the watermark for some reason when I downloaded it, but wanted to credit the source: efplange_gh on TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@efplange\_gh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 05:55 PM |
| 26 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*Yep precisely! And I've noticed these types of toxic men tend to become obsessed with the women who use them for sex and bounce (something they themselves have been doing for years). They can't comprehend it because for them they were socialized into believing every woman must want them for a relationship no matter what they (the men) look like or how they behave or who they are personality-wise. You'll have the most unappealing scrote puff himself up thinking, "Haha, I am going to deny this hot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:27 PM |
| 106 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*So true. This comment makes me glad I never cooked or cleaned for any man (except maybe one meal in my very early twenties) LOL! Although I definitely provided career advice, helped with job searches, edited resumes, rewrote essays for them (for their time at college) and provided plenty of emotional labor and support to emotionally stunted men who couldn’t reciprocate. Looking back I realize …I was basically working as a career consultant and therapist on the side. We need to start charging the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 01:25 PM |
| 114 | Watching Sweet Home Alabama after FDSSo true. Lol and the ironic part is big city living is usually fulfilling and exciting as a single woman IRL because there’s so much to do around every corner and lots of amazing activities and events to go to. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 12:02 AM |
| 2 | This Whitney Houston Song Has Some Great FDS Themed Affirmations & The Remix Is Awesome Exercise Music for Empowerment. Listened To This All Day, It’s So Good.I am glad it was inspiring! ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:10 PM |
| 2 | This Whitney Houston Song Has Some Great FDS Themed Affirmations & The Remix Is Awesome Exercise Music for Empowerment. Listened To This All Day, It’s So Good.🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/21 02:09 PM |
| 6 | Never call a man out for negging youAgreed. The OP's advice is sound for most situations (as in, don't even overexert yourself for these unworthy people or try to make them see the light) and I agree with it in that sense, but there are a few contexts where if the negging is done in public and the narcissistic individual doesn't expect you to expose them, sometimes reiterating what they said calmly in the framework of how it's inappropriate and calling it out as abusive before walking away can be exhilarating and empowering, becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 03:30 PM |
| 22 | Men have it so hard 😢Exactly! I remember watching this video and her other videos in the past. I’ve always had an off feeling from her. This video definitely caters way too much to men and doesn’t even address the culture of violence women are threatened by every day. To go out on a date, women literally risk getting raped, coerced, assaulted, murdered, emotionally abused, stalked and/or harassed. What do men risk? Paying for a date and not getting sex - which they were never entitled to in the first place. Yes, men… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 09:22 PM |
| 54 | New friend invited her boyfriend to hang outYou are absolutely NOT being dramatic. I am sorry you experienced this. This is just weird behavior and I’ve encountered it too. I don’t think you should pursue this friendship as it shows an inappropriate understanding of boundaries and a lack of care for a new friendship. One of the worst experiences I had was when I confided in a couple of female friends years ago about a medical emergency I was facing. Around that same time a sociopathic scrote I was in a relationship with who had contribute… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 11:15 PM |
| 7 | Who here ACTUALLY enjoys giving blowjobs?I have enjoyed it with certain partners in the past - as another commenter said it's more about the mental stimulation of feeling naughty & "skilled" at giving and satisfying the partner. I also enjoy it as a physical act too so long as I am attracted to and turned on by the person and they haven't done anything to stress me out before I do it (men who tried to coerce me into BJs are a huge turn off and I would never enjoy it in that context - the times I've most enjoyed it is when I really just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 21 | What true sexual liberation actually isBeautifully said. Love the puppers at the end! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 02:04 PM |
| 123 | One thing I learnt from my Narcissist ExGreat post. This is something I’ve thought about in the past and applied to my own life in constructive ways. Women suffer from so much imposter syndrome and feeling like they’re not enough when they are overqualified and often surpass narcissists in talent and competence. We do need to have some of that, “I deserve this and claim it” energy in our lives. As well as, “I’ll cut off any mfer that doesn’t give me the good I deserve” vibes. It doesn’t make us lack empathy or abuse others like narcis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 05:35 PM |
| 22 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?When I turn the sound off, the awkwardness definitely becomes even more clear. I am very curious about what the original sounded like - did they even greet her at all saying anything or just sat there awkwardly? I feel like the "don't be suspicious" TikTok music would be more appropriate for this one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:52 PM |
| 33 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?I think that's one of the reasons this video went viral. A lot of women could see their own stories of suspicious boyfriends/female friends in that video, as well as the lack of reciprocity/enthusiasm as a huge red flag. Yet her denial is common among women too. I think it's good to talk about the red flags, signs we might see that would help other women recognize this quickly and keep it in mind, especially if they are younger and inexperienced. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 01:51 PM |
| 56 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?There are some slow motion videos and stills of the TikTok floating around and it seems to show no phone in his hand (only the remote) prior to him leaning over and it appears the girl next to him slips it to him. In the beginning of the video you see him only holding the remote and no (apparently at least) phone on his lap, then the phone mysteriously appears and you see a coincidental hand move from the girl next to him too. Edit: video of slow mo here: https://www.tiktok.com/@jade.schutte/ Se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:21 AM |
| 98 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?Oh the countdowns were for each time she visited him in the past, not this time…😳😱 there were a few of them…all starting from 50 days counting down several times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 05:10 AM |
| 381 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?Update: I did take a peek at her other videos and she has several videos of her counting down from 50 days to the day of seeing her boyfriend. 😳 The countdown videos are super long too. I don’t think her attachment to him is healthy, even at this age where it may be more understandable. I doubt he’s making videos like that for her and I think she needs to back off and be with other guys, she’s too into him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:51 AM |
| 40 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?Agreed with this strategy!! 💯 So much stress in being a “girlfriend.” So freeing not to be one especially with untrustworthy and unworthy men! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:14 AM |
| 365 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?It’s all very bizarre and strange. In their other videos together she also looks 10x more excited doing the TikTok trends and he just looks … there. She deserves someone who surprise visits her not the other way around. I have a feeling that maybe because she thinks he’s “hot” she feels she has to hold onto him or something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 03:11 AM |
| 122 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?Truth...the lukewarm non-enthusiasm is just super disappointing and weird. And watching the video in slow-mo, it does appear the girl sitting next to him was handing him his phone when he leaned over. It wouldn't surprise me that a guy in college (at least, an LVM) would flirt with his female friends if not cheat with them, while he has a long-distance gf. In an ideal world, men would have female friends and there would be nothing to suspect, but in the real world, there usually almost always tu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:58 AM |
| 144 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?One of the commenters also pointed out that she grabs his face almost like to kiss him maybe? And he goes for the hug instead. Like...wouldn't you kiss your girlfriend passionately? Why would you go for the hug unless it's because you don't want to kiss her in front of other girls? Very suspect. I also think if people are saying all this on TikTok...which is filled with PickMes and lots of enablers of LVM...that's an extra level. Usually videos like this have heated debates, but there's literall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:55 AM |
| 260 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?TikTok users commented that the boyfriend didn't seem excited enough to see her and felt she deserved better. However, she denies this and says they're obsessed with each other. People watching got "off vibes" both from the boyfriend and the female friends all of whom just kept sitting...he only got up to greet her when she was really close to him. Background: they got together while they're both in separate colleges. She apparently knows all his female friends and calls them "so nice" (yet they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 02:20 AM |
| 6 | This queen is so funny ❤❤This is priceless! Love it! ♥️😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 01:20 AM |
| 33 | I still need FDS to have my back💛Hahaha thanks so much for posting this! This...describes me perfectly. Never have I been so unbothered, and I credit FDS for a lot of that, because finding this community validated my experiences so much. And I am not sliding back in, I am actively taking a looong break and finally enjoying being single after multiple relationships/dating scenarios. Not even chatting with anyone - which is a first for me, usually I have a "distraction" guy around to chat with. But not this time. It's a waste of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 06:21 PM |
| 2 | How are we meant to know?“It’s complex ptsd from being near men.” FACTS!!!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:47 PM |
| 79 | Apparently it’s hard for men to *not* be freely insufferable even while doing something as mud and as taking a lift/cab 🤮That’s terrifying! Sorry you went through this. I hope they banned him from ever driving again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:14 PM |
| 73 | Do NOT listen to men when they say richer men don’t care about your educational background or job statusI also never liked the idea/statement that "men don't care about your accomplishments" because it A) Inadvertently supports, validates and invites pathologically envious narcissistic men who absolutely despise successful women and work to pull them down - there are plenty out there - and almost agrees with their mentality and B) I do think some women are jealous of other women's accomplishments and success, and a part of them feels the need to minimize it to feel better about themselves and act … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:54 PM |
| 98 | Guy Shows A Provider Mentality. Some Women are Like "Yes, DO It!" Other Comments Show a PickMe Deprived Mentality - Ladies, Learn to Embrace Being SpoiledIt's great to practice this mentality and unravel some of the socialized guilt! We have to remember that many men rarely feel guilty for using and exploiting women (especially for sex, or if they are a hobosexual, for financial resources and shelter too). Women also take on most of the burden in dating and relationships already (STIs affect their fertility more yet men are less likely to get tested, women can get pregnant, they can experience stalking/harassment/abuse at higher rates, women perf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:39 PM |
| 58 | Guy Shows A Provider Mentality. Some Women are Like "Yes, DO It!" Other Comments Show a PickMe Deprived Mentality - Ladies, Learn to Embrace Being SpoiledExactly. Men pay for what they value all the time. Let them pay. He should want to impress you and make you happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 73 | Guy Shows A Provider Mentality. Some Women are Like "Yes, DO It!" Other Comments Show a PickMe Deprived Mentality - Ladies, Learn to Embrace Being SpoiledGREAT idea! Love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 148 | Guy Shows A Provider Mentality. Some Women are Like "Yes, DO It!" Other Comments Show a PickMe Deprived Mentality - Ladies, Learn to Embrace Being SpoiledNow if the women commenting were like, "I'd prefer gifts from you instead" because she wants something personally tailored to her, that argument would be perfectly understandable. But the comments under this video talking about how, "But I would just spend it on you!!!" and "I only need LOVE" irked me. It signals a pickme mentality where a woman is competing to show how generous she is to men and how she deprives herself. These women think they are "cooler" by refusing to accept generosity of an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 03:43 PM |
| 57 | Yes. Planning an interesting date or activity together can be a turn on. You don't have to be a genius to figure that out 😒. But the two replies on the bottom are just gold 😆.Truth! I also don't 100% agree with the original tweet. I think it still enables LVM to get away with cheap or otherwise thoughtless dates/things the woman they're dating wouldn't like under the guise of, "Well at least he planned it! That's what counts, right!?" I think women need to be taught that they deserve more than the bare minimum of effort and basic planning. They deserve a partner who thoughtfully plans things she would enjoy, that are romantic and high value. Because a scrote can also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:28 AM |
| 139 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.Right? His brother sounds like an amazing provider. Almost makes you ask, "Damn, does this amazing HVM have a brother?!" Except...his brother is the cheap LV of the family who thinks women are gold diggers for daring to be treated well. 🤣 Apparently being a good man doesn't run in the family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:25 AM |
| 185 | Make sure he’s complete because if you build a man, they will leave.Eww. Why on earth should a woman put HIS bills in her name? Nope. Men are not our responsibility. Women owe it to themselves to invest in themselves — their college bills, their career, their dreams - not some weird scrote’s. He’s not a child, we didn’t birth him and we don’t have to raise him. Let these dusty ass men rot because if you build them up they’ll exploit your resources and build a bob will be gallivanting off to a new victim with his new upgraded “status.” I really hope these Twitter… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 01:04 AM |
| 91 | Experience of men who mention their ex and a past behavior that their ex called them out on, but claimed their ex was wrong.Do not trust him. He may be purposely trying to make you jealous and knows exactly what he’s doing as is evidenced by him outright discussing it and being aware he has been called out for it before. My gut tells me he enjoys a woman’s reaction to him checking out other women. His complaint about his ex is an attempt to gaslight you and try to keep you silent. Trust me, I’ve met a few bizarre narcissists like this. They get off on the idea of making women who are too good for them in the first pl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 04:55 PM |
| 130 | They always tell on themselves on Twitter … VileWhat the actual fuck is this tweet? So horrible. I don’t know if they’ll take it down but I reported it. I also saw another horrific “joke” tweet about how “influencers should learn from Gabby how to get followers.” From a verified user on Twitter. What is wrong with people?! I reported that one as well. It’s here if anyone else wants to report: https://twitter.com/Dannyjokes/status/1440538875110191106 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/21 12:54 AM |
| 494 | Thinking about being married to any of my exes fuels my single hood🤢I don’t think many women have “the one who got away” because men never really truly leave. 💀 They always come crawling back. Some of these scrotes even come back while they’re in another relationship or marriage. And when they do come crawling back, even the men the woman idealized reveals more of his true self and vileness. And then she realizes anything good she believed about him was an illusion she created based on the short time she knew him. As she learns his true character, she becomes re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:50 PM |
| 177 | Gabby's Friend Speaks paints a different picture of Brian- the controlling behavior and abuse started early!So glad her friend spoke out. I cried along with her as she reminisced. It’s clear she loved Gabby dearly and was a really good friend and continues to speak up for her. Her and the 911 caller who tried to help Gabby by reporting his abuse are amazing. The only thing mentioned that I felt I had to comment on was that she believed he loved her (I feel like maybe she was trying to be diplomatic) but of course that is not true. That monster isn’t capable of love. I was sickened when I realized he a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 03:41 PM |
| 108 | No hiking dates— everIt’s so obvious to me that Gabby scratched him out of self defense and/or being provoked and chronically gaslit/emotionally abused. She was pushed over the edge and shows all the signs of being an exhausted, emotionally wrought victim. I hate when cops or anyone else in society tries to frame it as a “mutual abuse” or “relationship issue” narrative. Like…no. Most women don’t scratch their boyfriends for no reason or because of “anxiety” “feeding off of each other” as one of the cops said. He was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Kacey Musgraves Bread WinnerSuch a great song that embodies how successful women are targeted and put down by insecure pathologically envious scrotes. This is so sadly common. Love it! ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 10:28 PM |
| 655 | Never save a man! They will cheat on you and leave as soon as they are in recovery!One of the creepiest parts is him gloating in his Seth Meyers interview about how Olivia held his hand after rehab and didn’t get to see all the addict parts of him. Meanwhile there’s no praise of his ex wife who went through years with him and witnessed it at all and supported him. He just wants someone new who hasn’t seen the worst sides of him (he did cheat with strippers even before Olivia) and thinks it’ll be easier that way. But his true character is still awful so…Olivia will witness that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 05:13 PM |
| 21 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptThis is perfect! ♥️🙏 Thank you for putting it together. Makes it really easy to just “nope” it out of there when we see he can’t meet one of these. Also totally agree with the cat point. Men who claim they “hate” cats are always a red flag. Also the points about not being a slut and thirst trap follower on social media are chef’s kiss so needed on a list like this, so thanks for including that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:04 PM |
| 215 | Where is the lie, tho?I am so glad FDS exists and I can finally voice my distaste for polyamory which I think is a huge scam in a patriarchal society and serves mainly men. The amount of poly men on OLD who I can’t even understand how they even got one woman let alone wanting another…seeing these scrotes always filled me with “wtf”. They are ungrateful and greedy. It’s sad that high value attractive women have to swim through so much crap just to find even one high quality man but these weirdos somehow want a harem o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 10:58 PM |
| 61 | Know how valuable you are, PLEASE!That is awful. These types of abusers love to berate, humiliate and bully women in public. It’s a disgusting and vile control tactic. I hope she gets free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 07:50 PM |
| 7 | I finally left.Predators like these don’t treat other women better. They may love bomb for a bit but eventually unmask themselves. When you have a lack of empathy, that is a core part of your character. In any long term relationship with a monster like this he will unravel - usually when a victim has any needs that threaten his entitlement - aka being human which everyone does. I’ve met other victims of predators I’ve encountered and they were terrorizing them too. I know it’s easier said than done, but rememb… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 09:15 PM |
| 74 | Other Women distancing Themselves from Single WomenIt is definitely puke inducing. Women who have nothing else to talk about aside from relationships and men are so boring and usually have no accomplishments or interests to talk about apart from their relationship status. They secretly want to believe they are superior to single women and think they’re special even when they’re miserable. In reality, these are the same women who will have low standards just to say they have a man. I am glad I have distanced myself from these pickme women as I us… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 06:22 PM |
| 7 | I finally left.I am so sorry you went through this. It was never your fault! You hit it right on the nail. He was putting up a manipulative front to get what he wanted. His behavior was never your fault. This is not a safe person nor is he normal. Normal people don’t act like this and they seek out people not for connection and love but like you said a punching bag. He is definitely a predator and you will miss and grieve the first stages of the relationship, that is completely normal…but it’s not who he truly… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:10 PM |
| 145 | Just wonderingHonestly…I am starting to think women are the superior sex and the reason patriarchy was invented was because it would keep the true natural superiors from achieving their full power. 😉 Why else would they work so hard to keep us down? And even in a society that demeans and oppresses women, somehow women on average are funnier, more intelligent and witty, more empathic, more successful, more educated, more resilient, more creative on top of having the power to give life. Yet these basement troll… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:16 AM |
| 18 | I finally left.I am so sorry you experienced this horror and trauma! So glad you freed yourself. He sounds like a disgusting, vile, sadistic and entitled malignant narcissist if not psychopath. And him claiming he’s not a rapist is pretty much a lie considering he did not stop when he knew you were in pain and even told you he wanted it to hurt. Anyone with empathy wouldn’t be able to stomach doing what he did and causing you both emotional and physical pain. The fact that he stalked and tried to insult you af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:03 AM |
| 103 | FDS, why is it that men are such psychos about women having standards and boundaries? Our super fans in particular are just nuts.Facts! I was going to say the same. It’s a lack of empathy, entitlement and they are indeed SO spoiled beyond belief. They would not survive not ONE day being a woman yet think they are the biggest victims. Their biggest adversity in the dating world is basically getting refused sex and if they are really scrotey, having to pay the bill (a high value man would love to pay the bill because he’s naturally generous and a provider). Meanwhile women worry constantly about being harassed, stalked, abu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 10:27 PM |
| 48 | Watch this scrote get roasted for his views. Hands up if you’ve encountered an angry short guy with a complex like this 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️Every day I see about 5 different new roasts of this guy on TikTok. 🤣 I don’t get how he hasn’t deleted his account yet. I assume he enjoys the humiliation because it’s the only attention he gets? Getting mad at women for being confident, feeling like queens and having standards/boundaries is such small dick energy. 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 02:21 AM |
| 29 | Pickme actress assumes “dropped charges” = innocent man 🙄Gross. 🤢 PickMeshas are sadly often victim shaming enablers. How gross and darkly fitting that his character “Chuck” also tried to assault/rape a character on Gossip Girl and was still romanticized by its audience after…”art” imitating reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 15 | Protect yourselves against vengeful and bitter lurkersOh you’re not being paranoid at all! Everything you said is absolutely on point and I agree 💯!! There are a lot of sick, sick predators online and some will try to bait you with a false sense of security, so it’s best for us not to trust anyone we just started interacting with online and keep our guard up. I have years of experience with psychopathic trolls outside of FDS // Reddit and they will stalk, harass, and do really insane shit. Of course, I’ve found numerous strategies to get their acco… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 01:39 AM |
| 85 | Protect yourselves against vengeful and bitter lurkersGreat post. Also turn off DMs altogether in the settings if you want to avoid scrotes messaging you and be suspicious of any new members trying to get you to talk to them through PM without a specific reason (and even if they do give a reason, trust your instincts). Most conversations and questions can be said publicly. Avoid answering personal questions in the subreddit that would potentially serve as identifiers (I.e. specific city/location, job title, specific age) use generals and ranges. Pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 09:07 PM |
| 7 | I caught my husband watching porn and kicked him outCongratulations!! 🎉🍾 This is amazing and I am so glad you are free now of doing any more labor for this scrote. Also why are all these scrotes the same? I also encountered an LVM (in a dating context) from years ago who consumed Hentai, was mechanical in sex, was learning Japanese/obsessed with Japan, was a white soft boi obsessed with fetishizing Asian women and of course a gamer. It’s like they’re made from the same manufacturing scrote company. 🤡 I agree with the other commenter who said this… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 03:39 PM |
| 8 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellI don’t believe psychopaths are broken inside at all. I know they have control over their behavior and know the difference between right and wrong, they simply do not care and will harm whoever they want to get what they wish. That’s something I studied extensively in grad school, so I thought I’d share that with anyone who isn’t familiar with it. Nor am I looking for reasons, just citing research to combat the myth that these losers always have some traumatized childhood or sob story which is w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 05:27 PM |
| 50 | FactsAnd they’re always the worst, malicious, abusive person too. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:36 PM |
| 10 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellAgreed! There are some LVM who are truly psychopathic, sadistic and grandiose. They really do feel superior even when they are scum and enjoy hurting others for pleasure. This has very little to do with childhood trauma or some sniveling sad boy syndrome. This “low anxious” psychopathic subtype has actually been shown by research to not have experiences of childhood abuse as frequently. They are born, not made. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:23 PM |
| 5 | The dangers of the Slow Fade and circling back to small talk/Good morning textsBut the funniest part is when it’s a scenario where they have overestimated your interest in them — in reality you are not interested in talking to them and they are shocked you don’t chase after them when they try to blow hot and cold as a manipulation tactic and even more shocked when you don’t respond to their low effort texts thinking they hooked you lmao. Like bruh…you’re doing exactly what I enjoy. Your silence and absence are gifts and give women space to detach from predators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 03:13 PM |
| 13 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?Agreed! To the OP, I would suggest making your profile private if it’s not already. But, if a guy adds you, add him back briefly to scope his IG, gather intel as to whether you want to date him (e.g. a huge red flag is that their following list, likes and comments are filled with IG models/nude women/many girls their age - that means they already have a harem and are used to rotating women). It’s a huge time saver and you get emotionally disinterested early on when you see that and you can defri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 10:56 PM |
| 5 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁It’s working in the sense that he has a million followers and most of them are women commenting what a hero he is 🤡. Lots of young girls on TikTok are thirsty PickMes in dire need of FDS and I personally have been friends with a male TikToker in the past who is the fake nice guy so I know how they message these girls and get into their DMs etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:27 PM |
| 8 | FDS approved TV-shows?I remember that episode!! ♥️😄 The acting was amazing! The show does a terrific job of combating victim shaming and shows what justice would ideally look like for victims. The plots are always so compelling, which is one of the reasons I love it so much. It never gives me the sense that Olivia is just there as some sort of side to an overarching romantic plot line. She’s the main character and romance is a very small part of her life. The love and compassion she has for the victims she comes acro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 11:14 AM |
| 62 | FDS approved TV-shows?It can be a triggering show but Law and Order: SVU does a great job of not having the lead character Olivia Benson center her life around men. Her relationships if any are usually secondary to her son and her career. It’s been my favorite since I was a teen and Olivia is a great role model (badass, complex, empathic, multifaceted, inspirational). Although now they are doing more episodes of her and Stabler back together, but I like that the show never really had any kind of affair happen between… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 01:09 AM |
| 56 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.I’ve found that many of these men who claim women cheated on them so early on in the first dates are usually narcissists who are projecting. 🤣 It’s likely he’s the one who cheated on his ex and he wants to make sure he sets up this lie early on in case his so called “crazy” ex ever reaches out to you to tell you the truth. People who’ve been cheated on probably don’t go around sharing that on the first date and if they do at best it’s an issue with processing trauma/over sharing and at worst it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:55 PM |
| 113 | How can WHO make things right with WHO??? My heart hurts for her 🙁Truth! There’s actually a fake woke “feminist nice guy” on TikTok with a very large following of women who makes videos exclusively about how he keeps tampons available for the women coming over and shows his bathroom and his huge “supply” of tampons and pads for women. 😳 The concept (aka having things already available for women) is nice in theory but the way he delivers it and emphasizes it makes it clear he’s just trying to get laid and look like he supports women when in reality he’s a f-boy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:49 PM |
| 137 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?Maybe they need to make a version of this for LVM. “Minimize all noise. Stop playing video games and actually contribute to the housework. Your wife isn’t your maid. She just got home from work and she’s tired. Rub her damn feet, have dinner ready and run her a bubble bath, you useless scrote.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 09:32 PM |
| 16 | “Promising Young Woman”The movie is powerful but I agree it can be triggering. I am still not over that scene (I won’t go into it but the people who’ve seen it know what I mean). I felt sick for hours after. It was an all too realistic depiction/metaphor of what women sacrifice just for some justice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:33 PM |
| 84 | Mini Golf/Kayaking First DatesI believe those activities should be reserved for later dates not first dates and even if it’s a future date it should be combined with something else (so mini golf might be a supplement to a third date dinner for example — something to end the night on a fun note, or kayaking as a romantic outing AFTER dinner on a third date). Dinner dates where men treat you are best as they are high effort, show the man is interested/willing to invest and you’re in a setting where you can properly focus on ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 04:24 PM |
| 392 | OLD profiles of attractive men be likeLol. If women started writing, “Yes, I am in it for the long haul. However that takes a lot of time, money and dates you’ll be treating me to, basic empathy and decency from you and no guarantee of sex in order to figure that out”...their scrotey heads would explode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 84 | Podcasts to screen forThere’s been a past trend on OLD of guys referencing the Call Her Daddy podcast as a way to show women how “sex positive” they are. 🤢🤮 aka looking for libfem PickMes who are into casual sex for validation / to prove how “not like other girls how sex positive I am!” to them. I think they say they’re part of the daddy gang or some crap like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 09:17 PM |
| 530 | I have NEVER regretted dropping a man the moment he waves his first red flag. I have ALWAYS regretted giving them a second chance because it’s never just one red flag.Yes!!!!!! 👏 I also like to remember that LVM drop women with a quickness when they don’t get what they want (usually sex). Why aren’t high value women allowed to drop LVM with a quickness when they realize the red flags or won’t get what they want (e.g. the scrote is being cheap, no sign of relationship ahead, pressuring you to have sex, he’s creeping on girls on Instagram etc)? It can be hard as a people pleaser to internalize the message that we don’t owe them anything at first but it’s ultima… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:47 PM |
| 304 | Is she high maintenance tho?“He does not believe in conventional holidays and cards/flowers ...because they die or get thrown out” Umm okay then give me hard cash then. LOL. He’s a cheap, selfish scrote and I hope she leaves his ass. She could be spending the money she spends going Dutch with this worthless POS and investing it in her education, hobbies, career, self-care etc. He doesn’t even offer fries without being prompted. Like wtf? How is he ever going to look out for her in other ways when he can’t even do basic shi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 03:44 PM |
| 20 | Explaining having few friends to a partnerImma need a flair and a whole spellbook titled just that! 🤣💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:08 PM |
| 17 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueExactly. The most hideous scrotes I’ve met were always the ones who played the worst mind games to try to keep me focused on them because they knew I had way more options than them and were out of their league. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 08:42 PM |
| 66 | Explaining having few friends to a partnerDefense Against the Dark Narcs!! I LOVE that! ♥️🤣 Also yes to all this advice. 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 05:09 PM |
| 62 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!A bit off topic but this story may shed light on how effective vetting through who a guy follows/takes advice from can be. I had a miserable, balding, misogynistic condescending teacher’s assistant once in one of my neuroscience classes who promoted Jordan Peterson in one of the separate review sessions we had. 🤢 I am a straight A student and very successful in my career. The TA knew this because we had to share our profession/career in one of the main classes. Also in our Zoom classes during th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 12:56 AM |
| 12 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!I am very familiar with NYC but I’ve personally never seen that (but I haven’t paid attention to other people when I am out usually unless there’s a disturbance, so I am not saying it doesn’t happen, just that it’s gross that it does). I’ve always been treated on dates in every major big city I’ve lived in and visited. The idea of a man expecting to be paid for gives me the ick. 🤢 Good for you for looking out for these women!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 11:58 PM |
| 125 | "Like a toddler at a dentist's office"-- and this pick me thinks it's cute 🤢Does she not have a life outside of him for him to even think that’s an acceptable reason for that gift/to frame it that way? So condescending. 😳 But I wouldn’t be surprised if it was both: he’s condescending and not willing to spend time with her or plan special date nights around his schedule so he treats her like a child AND she’s a pickme who thinks it’s some sort of compliment and doesn’t have any hobbies outside of having a boyfriend to keep her busy. Honestly I don’t understand women who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:30 PM |
| 109 | Yikes....... I mean.. at least he admits what 90% of men won't (scroll)Gross. And he’s not as appealing as he thinks he is, inside or out. It’s always the weirdos who have the most audacity. Publicly humiliating your gf with a caption like that is downright sadistic and psychopathic. I hope she found out, left him, healed her PickMe ways, and got herself a hotter man who will treat her well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 10:25 PM |
| 28 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!I am so glad you told her and also called him out as he deserved!! ♥️💯 That’s so awesome! 😃 I agree completely...women take on so much risk dating at all and deserve the best. I never feel guilty about letting a man pay for the dates. That’s what he should be doing — treating me lol. Why should women ever feel guilty? He needs to impress her. I can’t believe there are scrote men who actually sit back and watch women even touch the bill. Gross. That’s not a real man. She could be using that money… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 09:51 PM |
| 88 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!That’s exactly what I was fantasizing about when making this post! Cute little (in my case pink) cards that say slogans like, “Dump him sis.” Or even more niche cards that says things like “Stop letting him triangulate you” with a link to educational resources on manipulation when you notice her man ogling at you or other women. 🤣🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:42 PM |
| 114 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!Interesting because dogs give you unconditional love and PhDs give you expertise/credentials/career opportunities/can be a sign of success/competence/intelligence/hard work etc. basically he hates assets that make women able to derive a sense of confidence and independence outside of a man. 🧐 Not surprising. Pathologically envious loser scrotes always hate things that threaten their power and control over women. I wonder what his opinion on financially successful women are. 🤣 Bet he finds ways t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:34 PM |
| 203 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!Really good to know! I am not familiar with him but I’ve seen him mentioned on FDS a few times along with Jordan Peterson as a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:01 PM |
| 85 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!She said she stayed on the date and continued to debate him even after receiving the note although she noticed the red flags. But thankfully there won’t be a second date! 🙌🏼 Honestly him asking her out for coffee for a first date should’ve prevented her from seeing him in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:59 PM |
| 162 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!Yep! She said she continued to debate with him even after that although thankfully there won’t be a second date. 😑Sadly a lot of PickMes will post these things then laugh about how they’re still engaging. I saw another post by a different woman where a guy was being a complete cheap asshole implying he wouldn’t pay for the date beforehand...the PickMe woman posted it on Twitter implying it was a problem, everyone roasted him and told her not to go. She was like “hehe I am still going, I like him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:57 PM |
| 207 | The edit is hilarious. Why do they make it so easy for us? Keep telling on yourselves scrotesLmfao. Reminds me of a troll who once commented on a popular article on narcissists. The troll was bemoaning how people stigmatize narcissists...and then another troll replied to her cursing her out for some reason even though they were both in agreement (they both disliked the article). Needless to say the first troll then understood from that experience that those were the types of people that article was against and it shut her ass up quickly. 🤷♀️ Not so nice when you’re on the receiving end… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 64 | Celebrity forever girlfriends & baby mama cultureProbably a bit off topic but I just dislike in general how people look up to celebrity relationships to the extent where they don’t even consider whether it’s a happy relationship or not and often times it’s with LVM. These women are so praised for being in a relationship at all even with an LVM whether it’s through children, marriage or being in any relationship. It feeds into the idea that the woman accomplished something big by getting into a relationship versus her many actual accomplishment… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:42 PM |
| 12 | Not sure if this has been posted here yet but for goodness sake, men are so desperate to be oppressed. I just hope it helped some women find FDS 🤷🏼♀️Interesting how he deliberately misrepresents the majority of women here who have had experiences with scrotes in the dating world as “generalizing based on one douche!” If so many women are encountering this, that means there is an issue of toxic LVM — lots of them. They realize this community is threatening because they can no longer claim that each woman who speaks out is alone in her experiences and somehow “crazy”. Far from it. They’ve been using that gaslighting tactic for a while now — la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:30 AM |
| 92 | Men are **farrrrr** more sensitive than womenRight! For example, men who are refused sex will throw tantrums like a 3 year old. Meanwhile women have endured countless traumas, threat of violence, rape and abuse and undertake lots of emotional labor in the dating world for years not to mention outside of it and they still find the energy and resilience to help others and be kind/empathic (not that they have to be, I am just in awe of how much we endure and still remain good people). The real babies are men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:44 PM |
| 51 | When in relationships HVM try to compensate for societal misogyny; LVM try to capitalize on itBrilliant post! ♥️🙌🏼 Thank you! 👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 08:58 PM |
| 39 | Submit your Handbook Recs!Why You Shouldn’t Date Down: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nk3avy/why_you_shouldnt_date_down_or_give_out_sympathy/ This series on Never Going 50/50: Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/nhumaq/why_you_should_never_go_5050_on_a_date_breaking/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 09:56 PM |
| 102 | Why is it the most hideous men that are Ethically Non Monogamous (ENM)?I think about this a lot. It is outrageous how greedy they are when they are lucky to even have one woman interested in them let alone expecting a harem. The hideous ones also tend to be the ones who neg attractive women the most. 🤣 I am sure they’ve built and practiced many manipulative tactics over the years to ensnare and abuse all types of women. They had to, because otherwise no one would care about them. I didn’t used to speak so ruthlessly about these types, in fact I used to sugarcoat ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 09:36 PM |
| 94 | You can learn a lot about a guy via his social media profileFacts. A lot of these OLD chumps collect matches like trophies by adding them to their IG. One of the first things I’ve always done (which prior to finding FDS I always thought was a taboo “snooping” activity but turns out it’s just basic protection) is go on their social media to see who they really are. It dispels a lot of the illusion because of the red flags as noted in this post (following lots of girls, liking posts in a thirsty way). A lot of these weirdos proudly engage in these public a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 12:53 PM |
| 70 | Even LinkedIn says we should say No to coffee datesLove it! I don’t even like the idea of getting coffee for networking or friendship let alone a date. Lol! So cheap and boring AF and this is coming from a caffeine junkie. The only coffee-related meeting acceptable to leave my lovely home with city/water views and step outside would be a non-date (colleague/friend/family member) at a fancy ass Russian tea room-like restaurant or bougie famous bakery something. 🤣Otherwise byeeee I have so much more fun at home. I think scrotes also forget...we ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 10:22 PM |
| 165 | FDS hits The Guardian 🥳: ‘Sales funnels’ and high-value men: the rise of strategic dating’Yay!! This is awesome!!! ♥️ 🍾 Glad to see they were fair to FDS and the work it has done and is doing to empower women. It pushes against any of the gaslighting/deliberate misrepresentation from scrotes and Pickmeishas out there about FDS principles and sets the record straight. And now women who have always deep down thought and felt similarly or now feel challenged to think differently from their libfem indoctrination will know to come here for support, validation and further insight! 🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 04:02 AM |
| 40 | What's a 🚩red flag you encountered this week?A TikToker with a sizable platform made a video criticizing an LVM. I followed him and he immediately followed me back - which he only does with a handful of followers. I had an instinct because this has happened to me before (a larger TikToker follows me back and I happen to be part of the small handful he follows) and of course his following list is filled with sexy women just like those other TikTokers. This usually happens with LVM. Then he uploads a video criticizing a woman for unmatching … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 02:16 AM |
| 142 | Attempting to “heal” my trauma set me up for more abuse.Great post. ♥️ Trauma therapy can be incredible for processing things but at the hands of a therapist who still has ingrained misogyny and patriarchal beliefs it can still reinforce harmful ideologies. This is something that isn’t addressed enough. There is lots of pickmeism and misogyny ingrained in the fields of therapy and psychiatry. I had a trauma informed therapist in the past who would excuse the actions of psychopathic males as “insecurity” and would remind me that, “Men get insecure too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 12:09 AM |
| 51 | I did it, thanks to FDSCongratulations on your new life of freedom! ♥️😄 There are only victories and peace ahead for you now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:31 PM |
| 212 | There’s absolutely nothing wrong with using a man as a cash cow.Agreed. ♥️💯 Always make sure you’re the one who is wined, dined, and spoiled. I’ve always lived this way even prior to FDS because my parents taught me this mentality early on. If men want to waste my time by misleading me in any way, they’re gonna pay for it. 🤷♀️ You always win because if you’re dealing with an LVM hiding his true intentions, you still got more out of it than he did and he got nothing but your presence (which is still more than he deserves). And if you’re truly dealing with an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 10:08 PM |
| 65 | Never trust dudes who have the female “best friend” in adulthood. Normally this woman is someone they strung along for years as a back up hook-up. 90% chance he is already sleeping with her.I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. So grateful I found FDS after 8 years worth of dating and relationship experiences which always involved some variation of shady friendships with female friends. It feels so freeing and validating to realize these things are fucking weird, no we aren’t being controlling when we realize it’s weird, and the sooner you detach from these fucking creeps the better. Let them have their female best friends and HVW go on with their bad selves. It’s so peaceful … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 05:10 PM |
| 110 | 🤡🤡🤡Some gamer creeps hit on girls playing the games they play online so even if he never left the house he could be having pathetic emotional affairs or sexting online. Lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 09:27 PM |
| 550 | Yet another example of emotional abuse when girls under 20 get groomed and marry older men with significant age gaps. This husband threatens to cheat when he doesn’t get what he wants with his young wife. They have 2 kids…Facts! 🤢 This isn’t a case of mismatched libido as she says at all. This is straight up abuse, rape, coercion and entitlement. He wants power and control and sees her as an object. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:55 PM |
| 45 | Always Google Your DatesWoah!! So glad you Googled them! Those stories are outrageous yet in this modern dating culture I am also not too surprised. I’ve run across DUIs and drug charges before but the most common thing I find are shady things on their social media pages. Nowadays their “following” list and comments from other women will tell you everything you need to know. If he has a harem of women or is pornsick (follows tons of IG nude women or such) you just avoided a date with a man who will never give you the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 04:49 PM |
| 257 | Scrote sexually fantasizes about maid of honor DURING HIS OWN WEDDINGEwwww gross. This is why women should vet very carefully and also be suspicious if a man has close female friends. If he’s not giving you his full attention do not ever get into a relationship with him let alone marry. I hope his wife wakes up and finds someone who deserves her. And I hope the female friend realizes what a creep he is too. My petty self also hopes the wife cheats on him with a hunky 6’3 Adonis in their friends circle before she divorces him LOL. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:53 PM |
| 4 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityI think it’s perfectly acceptable to make an excuse (like “I am super busy with this project and won’t be able to make it after all”) and fade out. I don’t think you owe anyone you don’t know that well an explanation especially if they’re being pushy about your boundaries. You never have to spend time with anyone you don’t want to or who doesn’t meet your standards. ♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:38 PM |
| 65 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsYou are so right!! Men do have it easy. Their biggest “problem” in dating is “woe is me, I didn’t get to have sex even though I used all my manipulation tactics! 😢” or “woe is me! I didn’t get to date the hottest girl because she’s way out of my league and I should’ve realized that! No fair! Me entitled!” Meanwhile yes you’re right they neg the women who give them a chance and are very delusional about themselves. So...they don’t get to complain. No wonder high value women are waking up and deci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 05:01 PM |
| 3 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentSo sorry you went through this! ♥️ I can relate as I’ve encountered this pressuring tactic and many others before. This seems like a common tactic by rapey scrotes. They will try to interrogate you about “why” you don’t want it as if they can convince you. They think if they provide counterarguments to the reasons they’ve been taught (mistakenly) why women don’t have sex (e.g. afraid of being perceived as promiscuous, afraid of his feelings changing etc) the woman will suddenly desire it. Like N… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:40 PM |
| 13 | In my journey to try to make hvw friendships…I’m focusing on compatibilityPlease bail and make an excuse! I only wish I had bailed the last time a woman did that to me. She ended up inviting her sociopathic pickme friend who would get jealous any time a man paid attention to me at the club and would try to go after any guy she considered “my type” (she asked me what was my type) even that was 💯 the opposite of her type like some thirsty bloodhound on the dance floor. She looked so angry and envious when guys approached me and ignored her. She did some other vicious th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:12 PM |
| 40 | Pick me women make for awful friends. They don't value female friendships and/or are obsessed with men should be avoided.I have posted a lot about this in the past and I agree with this completely!! 💯 Pickme women are freaking dangerous. They will drain you just like LVM do. Then they come crawling back around once their relationship ends. Don’t ever let them back in. They will always center their lives around men. Let them. They want to self-destruct and do nothing with their lives, let them. They will watch you flourish and achieve things they never could and they will never have genuine friendships because they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:01 PM |
| 96 | I need men to stop acting like heightism actually existsExactly. I see short men with girlfriends all the time. Lol. They can complain all they want but they know that pickme women have tolerated ALL shapes and sizes in order to say they “have a man.” In addition, I am sure many HVW have given chances to shorter guys in the past but they turned out to be LVM. So why not date a taller man if that’s our preference? No use in denying our preference if that won’t make them any more likely to be high value. It’s very normalized for a woman to date a man w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:52 PM |
| 6 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentExactly. 💯💯💯💯💯 Pressuring someone into it is not consent. If she said yes after giving you many refusals because you finally “wore” her down that is not consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:41 PM |
| 3 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not Consent“If a person has to trick, cajole, guilt trip or threaten someone into any form of sexual act, then they are a rapist.” Facts! 💯💯💯💯💯 Also if they wear you down (pressuring you 24/7 for sex you don’t want to have) that is definitely pressure and coercion. It’s not consent just because you exhausted her to the point where she felt unable to say no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:39 PM |
| 6 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not Consent🤢🤮 And doing so proudly at that. They’re so gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:35 PM |
| 5 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentI am so sorry that happened to you. ♥️ I agree completely...I’ve seen women outright deny they had been raped even in cases where it was just straight up a man forced themselves on them after a clear no was said. Our society has gaslit women to the point where they don’t even know if they’ve been raped or not. There are also so many sexually coercive behaviors in today’s hookup culture that get dismissed or overly rationalized when it’s abuse and manipulation plain and simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:34 PM |
| 5 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentRegardless of his diagnosis whatever it may be you never have to put up with any abusive or aggressive behavior. ♥️ Your safety comes first and his trauma is not your responsibility. Your therapist definitely sounds unethical in encouraging you to tolerate this type of behavior and definitely not the right fit. On another note, I am personally very surprised your therapist assumed he had BPD instead of NPD (Narcissistic) or APD (Antisocial). Did he already have a pre existing diagnosis of that f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 02:03 PM |
| 12 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not Consent“It is not the job of the oppressed class to fix the issues created by the oppressor. As women we work through navigating a truly agressively violent world. I see too many women speaking of equality and we're the same, and we're both accountable. You cannot hold us to the same standard, it is in no way comparable. Women do not have institutional power or even individual autonomy in this world. They work everyday to take that away, with social conditioning and punishment and reward. Punishment fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:25 AM |
| 9 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not Consent“Seeing through the timely manipulation of these calculated ‘nice guys’ is what made me see through men completely. They always know what they’re doing and it’s funny that these men think they’re the ‘good guys’ when they resort to pushy sales tactics and have the entitled mindset of a rapist. They all have their different tactics to break down women and groom them for abuse but they all work from the assumption they are entitled to use us and our bodies as they please. And that they’re entitled… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 04:23 AM |
| 28 | LVM Guilt Tripping You Into Sex = Coercion, Not ConsentI don’t think it’s a crazy question at all and I do believe what you experienced was coercion. He guilt tripped you into having sex with him and basically issued an ultimatum — no sex meaning no relationship. He conditioned you to associate fear with intimacy. He refused to make you comfortable during sex and reacted with anger in response to your pain and punished you for expressing your pain. I consider all of these behaviors coercive and frankly aggressive and sexually violent. Your therapist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 03:26 AM |
| 12 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…Damn, a few of the comments I posted before I received my first redditcare was about my financial success! Mystery solved. 😏 jealous ass scrotes lmao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 09:12 PM |
| 88 | As a woman all you can do is create the oppurtunity for the guy to make his move.I always question stories where the woman says she actively pursued him first and now they’re in a happy relationship. Sure it can happen in a rare circumstance - but I feel like the majority of the time it will lead to ending up with a low effort man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 19 | The Devil’s Advocate! I wish we could delete and block these men in real life situations…This must be the same scrote or a group of scrotes doing this, got my first ever one a few days ago too. 🤣 Scrotes mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 05:46 PM |
| 442 | Why do men think we are in love with them after 1 date?They are delusional. So many scrotes mistakenly believe that if a woman gives them the time of day that woman must automatically be looking for a relationship with them specifically. Umm no. And they also convince themselves that women who are out of their league must be INFATUATED with them and trying to lock them down. In reality, many of these same women are brainstorming how to politely reject these men and fade out peacefully (because they don’t want to deal with the bullying rage that some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:21 AM |
| 12 | Anyone else not dating becauseThese are Pickmeisha friends and if they were truly happy in their own lives they would mind their own business instead of projecting their own insecurities onto happy single women. Misery often loves company and unhappy women in relationships love to spend their time scrutinizing the lives of single women who are usually happier and more peaceful than they are in my experience. I recommend dropping them or detaching at the very least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:57 PM |
| 5 | “YoU haVe loW vIbrAtiOnAL eNerGy”, tHat’s wHy YoU aRe sIngLe”That’s interesting because it’s usually scrote men I’ve met who have the lowest vibes in the world. 🤷♀️ Yet no one ever scrutinizes them for being mean, selfish, gross, entitled and empathy deficient in the dating world. Most single women in the dating world (the ones that aren’t toxic or Pickmeisha) are very empathic, kind and genuine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:45 PM |
| 65 | Share your badass breakup stories!Back in my early twenties, an emotionally abusive scrote ex had ensnared me back into the abuse cycle right when I was about to leave. I went through many more incidents and on his birthday, he decided to make an insulting comment. He had a habit of sabotaging holidays and my birthdays which is what makes this story extra savage lol. I didn’t plan this at all but the insulting comment happened to be on the day of HIS birthday and was the last straw. I broke up with him on his birthday and told h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:38 PM |
| 44 | Where to Find HVW Who Put Sisterhood/Friendship First?This was one of my biggest issues when trying to find authentic female friendships. I encountered some of the worst pickme women who centered their lives around men. The few women I do trust are women I met through my career and classes and those who share a similar purpose as I do. But nowadays I vet women as thoroughly as I vet LVM. Low value women will suck the life out of you too with their lack of standards, their inability to see anything but relationship status as an accomplishment and th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 11:23 PM |
| 21 | The Hook-up That Ended All Hook-upsWhy is it usually the ones with a micropenis who are extra mean and always need a harem of women and constant sex to get validation? ☠️ Rhetorical question of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 10:40 PM |
| 81 | Single >dragging a dead horse.Facts! 👏 I hate the stereotype usually promoted by pickmeishas who act like being single is some sort of “lack.” Actually in many cases it represents that we rejected an abundance of options because they didn’t meet our standards. I agree that just being in any relationship is not an accomplishment. While it’s nice to celebrate a happy relationship, many women are not in relationships with high value men. They are not any more desirable or accomplished than single women. I also think society nee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:28 PM |
| 58 | Anyone else not dating becauseSame! It’s so weird because I am a very multifaceted and accomplished woman yet although they may masquerade in the beginning to be interested in all that it is always revealed later on that they literally do not care about anything but my looks/body/sex. I am also funnier/more entertaining/more fun than most guys I have dated in the past too. High value women bring so much to the table yet LVM are so gross and only objectify them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 08:02 PM |
| 29 | The new trick on the block : LVM pretending they ‘struggle’ on dating apps or ‘hate modern dating culture’.Yep. Even though handsome men get casual sex more frequently, I’ve also witnessed some very unappealing (inside and very much out) LVM still get sexual partners. And they don’t have to live in a patriarchal society where they are constantly abused, gaslit or led on while they’re pursuing what they want — they’re usually the ones doing the gaslighting then crying victim. They’re full of shit. There will ALWAYS be pickme women out there who will lower their standards and get with LVM and some of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 02:38 AM |
| 7 | Dating an LVM is Labor: Quit from the Thankless Job ASAPAbsolutely. An LVM will actually detract from your enjoyment of your career too since they are so threatened by your ambition and success. They will neg you out of pathological envy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 09:20 PM |
| 12 | Dating an LVM is Labor: Quit from the Thankless Job ASAPFacts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:22 AM |
| 14 | Dating an LVM is Labor: Quit from the Thankless Job ASAPTruth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 02:22 AM |
| 42 | Dating an LVM is Labor: Quit from the Thankless Job ASAPExactly. Anytime you are tempted to reach out to a scrote or do something that requires any kind of mental energy for someone who doesn’t deserve it, ask yourself, “Am I getting paid for this?” It’ll condition women to realize that time is money and they could be spending that time nourishing themselves or doing something that actually does pay them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:53 AM |
| 194 | Don't give a guy a chance after he offers a coffee date, even if he offers a nice dinner date after you say no to coffee.Facts! His first date offer tells you everything you need to know. An LVM may pretend to cater to you initially for his own agendas. An HVM comes ready with romantic plans and knows how to treat you from the beginning and it isn’t some ruse to get you into bed, it’s a generous attitude that lasts long-term. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 01:12 AM |
| 69 | Stop saying porn ruined men. It's a lieThank you so much for this post! 👏♥️ I agree 💯. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:58 PM |
| 55 | This man got up & left the date as soon as the bill came... and she still decided to be his girlfriend after thatShe also said that apparently he paid for the next dates “until they defined the relationship and now they split the checks.” 🤡 I have a feeling they only went on a few more dates before he asked her to be his gf and now he feels entitled to never treating her/taking her out again. It’s also SO easy to just put down the card and rush to the bathroom if that was actually the reason. Methinks it was a shit test and she fell for it. Just goes to show it’s never worth “being picked” unless it’s by a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:20 PM |
| 28 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketUnfortunately Meet Ups can also attract the same type of guys on OLD coming to them IRL in hopes of getting laid lol! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 2 | I discovered I was an online side chick. Told the girlfriend, got a half-assed sorry text from the scrote, blocked him in no time.This was a few years ago pre-FDS. It’s a very long and crazy story but basically went on a first date with a guy who I thought was single. He kept putting the moves on me but I never slept with him. We just made out and he got grabby. The next day on Snapchat his girlfriend of a month (as I discovered later) snapped them at a concert using his Snapchat ☠️. She was smart enough to know he must have been snapping other girls because she pretended to be taking a snap through his app of the concert … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 01:17 AM |
| 35 | my quickest vetting strategyYou’re not alone! There’s a lot of these pathologically envious scrotes out there sadly. I don’t think it’s our type but there’s just a high risk of running into them because very few men are actually secure enough to not lash out at successful women and display small dick energy when they see a woman winning. How sad is that? 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:49 PM |
| 22 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughExactly! And I recommend not even suggesting anything. Let them come up with ideas and you’ll see who they really are. If a guy already has a fancy romantic restaurant in mind for you, that’s a better sign than a guy who decides he wants to take you to a cheap food place and you can block the guys with cheap offers right away. Whereas if you tell them what you like they may decide to honor your request but it’s not their default and we want to be with guys who are naturally romantic + generous +… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:09 PM |
| 57 | Another example of OLD as a meat marketOLD is filled with fuckboys and narcissists. There are many handsome ones in my location but they’re usually evil psychopathic players with serious problems LOL. And you can’t even use it for “fun” or “casual” flings because of the risk of STIs and deception and risky behavior these weirdos partake in with multiple women. Not worth it. I think women would be happier if they never experienced OLD at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:07 PM |
| 17 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughLmfaoo!! I am dying! 🤣 You’re awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 09:08 PM |
| 81 | Scrotes wanting to split the bill always make me laughGreat tips. Also watch out for what he does and does say in the first place. Usually men looking to take you out will say so explicitly like, “Let me take you out” or “can I treat you to dinner sometime?” as opposed to vague things like “let’s hang out” or “let’s grab a drink.” Your answer to things like “let’s hang out,” could be saying, “I don’t hang out, I get taken out” before blocking lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 224 | my quickest vetting strategyTruth and great point. If I was a man I wouldn’t be jealous of a woman’s accomplishments or try to neg her when she is achieving at high rates. I’d be happy for her and support her like she does me. It would seem bizarre to go out of my way to put her down or make her feel small when she’s winning. It’s sadistic, evil, pathetic and weird. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 06:55 PM |
| 8 | I seriously question when men on Reddit say they've been in an abusive relationship with a womanAgreed! Well said. A lot of men actually believe oppression = not getting sex even though they were “nice” to women. For them that’s “oppression.” 🙄Meanwhile women go through SO much every day both individually and societally and they are expected to keep silent, apologize for even expressing that they’re angry about the labor, pain, violence and daily microaggressions they are expected to endure. Quite a bizarre society we live in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 04:04 AM |
| 23 | I seriously question when men on Reddit say they've been in an abusive relationship with a womanAn extremely emotionally abusive scrote from years ago used to post quotes from Mandy Hale (an author who writes about abusive relationships and singlehood) on Facebook bemoaning about how finding the right relationship isn’t easy and about toxic women too. ☠️ He was a gaslighter, cheater and emotional abuser. The fact that he was using quotes from a lovely female author who was actually abused while he was abusing women is bizarre. Another guy I know (a former friend I no longer speak to) is po… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 03:52 AM |
| 10 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMYou’re so welcome! 💖 I am glad it was helpful. I always wished I had someone to tell me in detail and remind me why these things were so effed up in my early twenties so I try to do it whenever I see similar situations. Deep down we all know something is off but we just need validation sometimes that other people see what we’re seeing. I actually found FDS if I remember correctly searching about female friends. I’ve had a lot of experience in this topic so I definitely wanted to share that you’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 12:19 AM |
| 37 | Can't Tell If New Partner Is HVM After Having Been With Too Many LVMI don’t think you’re being paranoid at all. I am glad you wrote these all down. While it’s easy to rationalize him as just being “helpful” “supportive” and “generous,” I notice you mentioned these were all instances of interactions with women he seemed to be interested in in some way - and the fact that he relays these instances to you makes me suspicious as to whether he’s trying to provoke jealousy. For me a plethora of female friends is always a red flag. And he seems to do an awful lot of “s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 11:54 PM |
| 19 | looking for examples of hyper-competency and then low-value behaviorTwo Master’s degrees from Ivy League universities, a successful career, dream apartment and I am financially independent and abundant at a young age. I relate to so many of these stories and it just goes to show that you should never settle for less than a partner who is excited about your success. I was always supportive of the men I dated but they were usually too jealous to do that for me. Have encountered so much pathological envy, negging and sometimes even sabotage attempts by these insane… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:33 PM |
| 63 | Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction.Some of the shortest and most unappealing men are the ones with the most audacity...😱 then they try to manage down the expectations and standards of women out of their league who are doing THEM a favor just by being with them. Ick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:19 PM |
| 107 | Ladies, it’s OK not to force yourself to feel attraction.And interestingly a lot of arranged marriages (which I personally don’t agree with arranged marriages at all but something interesting to think about) in certain cultures consider the employment status/financial standing/career of the man very heavily. For example in some cultures it’s VERY sought after to marry a wealthy doctor or engineer so the woman and her future children are provided for (of course this does raise the issue of financial overdependence or possible financial abuse too but ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:16 PM |
| 17 | Aren't Y'all Tired?One was a sociopath whose other victim I was in touch with. She confirmed the same fake account had watched her story in the past and funnily enough he also used his real account to stalk me too by accident during that time. For others, they were recently made accounts with zero followers after I blocked their original. Sometimes they’ll even post fake pictures that give them away. And the ones that use their real accounts of course show the most audacity. IG now has a feature that allows you to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:00 PM |
| 63 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itGreat post! This is a question I’ve wondered too, as someone who has never been on birth control but also has heard from other women about the horrible side effects. I’ve never had unprotected penetrative sex either. So I can’t speak personally to either of those things when it comes to using birth control for sex, but I frequently wondered why women put themselves through that for a man if it wasn’t for some other medical reason or because they really just want an extra safeguard against gettin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 03:29 PM |
| 3 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.Thank you! 💖☺️ I try to live by it every day. 😜😉😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 01:54 PM |
| 63 | Aren't Y'all Tired?Lmfao. The “tired of watching my story from a fake account?” killed me. 🤣😂 Yep. Guys I’ve gone on like one date with from a year ago have made fake accounts to watch every single story I post to this very day. Some have the audacity to do it with their real accounts too before I see it and block their access. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:00 AM |
| 15 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.48% of U.S. adults admit to being on a dating app in my age range according to that article. I would imagine that percentage is even higher in my city since pretty much everyone I’ve spoken to (including at hobby based events, social activities that center my passions — events you would stereotype as “oh those people have lives they wouldn’t be on dating apps!”) has used a dating app. And likely the numbers have increased with scrotes during the pandemic looking for sex, shudder. I am not defend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 04:47 AM |
| 69 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)So sorry you went through that, that is horrific behavior and he sounds like a horrible and sociopathic scrote. 🤯Glad you are free of him and safe from him now! ♥️ FDS is so right about men investing in us monetarily instead of us using our resources on them. Women take on far more dangerous risks in dating and relationships. They have every right to stay away from these cheap, toxic men who don’t deserve them and bring nothing to the table except trauma and more risk. 😓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:03 AM |
| 442 | woman calmly dumps and kicks out cheating bf (as she should)“I’ve got nowhere to go.” “That’s not my problem.” QUEEN! 👸🏻 Seems like she was already done and over it by this time and had a firm sense of self-worth. I noticed on her TikTok she had videos of her HVW girlfriends cheering her on and helping her too. That’s really awesome. 🙌🏼 Glad she doesn’t have pickmes surrounding her detracting from her decision. Also he had to call his mom. 🤣 Edit: She let him live rent free in her place for a year! Omg! The audacity for him in return to do that. Sociopat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:15 PM |
| 31 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.It really does create a fake abundance mentality in them! 🤢 Sounds like he was trying to provoke jealousy like the insecure LVM he is and you didn’t take the bait. 🤣 Men (using that term loosely lol) like that know they don’t have to give us such information (especially after a first date wtf) but they do so because they think it makes them look like a catch and they want women competing over their lame ass and hope we will lower our standards for them especially with regards to sex and how we w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:09 PM |
| 54 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.Unfortunately in big cities there are a lot of attractive single and financially successful men on dating apps. They have plenty of social skills (although not necessarily real empathy) too and tend to be charming. But of course that doesn’t mean they are HVM, they’re often LVM, narcissistic and think of dating as a “how many women can I sleep with this week” game as you noted. It really does promote the Peter Pan lifestyle and dating apps mostly benefit men. I hope women stop using them altoget… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 10:42 PM |
| 135 | I loathe to sound vulgar but #toomanymen see dating apps as free prostitution websites…without any of the stigma of seeking out a prostitute. 🤭 Thank you FDS for helping me delete the dating app I was trying.I agree completely. The sad part is when you live in a city where the majority of people your age use dating apps. So even when guys approach you in real life they may still be on the apps. I don’t think online dating is going away but hopefully as a society women are getting fed up with being treated like this and are raising their standards for what they no longer tolerate and hopefully withdrawing from the apps altogether. And not using the apps does prevent a LOT of trauma and investment in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 10:28 PM |
| 2 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...Right?! And that sounds way more fun than having a cheap weirdo doing it with you at your place for three days like the post describes! Marathoning on your own is self-care. Giving a scrote rent-free access to your place is self-destruction. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:01 PM |
| 107 | I Love It!The comments under this TikTok on the original platform are SO fun to read. A lot of queens relating. 🤣 Someone invite them to FDS! 😏🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 06:15 PM |
| 155 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.Excellent post. In reality the scammers are most men. Many of these men will pretend to want something serious or to pretend they want to get to know you. So they go out of their way to love bomb women and take them out to a romantic dinner. Then they’re floored when a woman won’t sleep with them because that wasn’t her intention at all most of the time. They scam women all the time. Let them spend their money for a high value woman’s time then. 🤷♀️ A woman is always taking a risk when she goes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 05:49 PM |
| 13 | Pick me WAKE UP“I am sorry you’re so broken” is an abusive sentence. It’s a depraved form of gaslighting especially since he’s the one who was negging you and also engaged in infidelity and betrayal. He knows he’s the defective one and projecting. He’s pathologically envious of your accomplishments. I know it is difficult to let go of someone you knew for so long but couples therapy only makes gaslighting easier for the narcissist since these therapists are trained to see “both sides.” I recommend individual t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 04:46 PM |
| 55 | Date ideas that don't revolve around food but where he still pays something?This probably doesn’t count but...Live jazz shows at a fancy place are amazing and count as one of my favorite date experiences. They usually include dinner and drinks but certainly a very exciting way to enjoy music and a meal at the same time. Comedy shows can be fun too depending on the venue (something highly rated not cheap) but also usually involve drinks and food. Exploring a speakeasy if they have those in your area can be fun too. Going out dancing if you like that activity (would of co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:40 PM |
| 28 | Guy I was dating left me at 4 am alone in the middle of the city to go rescue his ex. WTF?So sorry this happened to you. Glad you found out early enough to not waste any more of your time and energy on this worthless scrote. He’s her problem now. A loser who leaves a woman alone at 4 am is a low value man period and will screw her over too (since she’s an ex maybe he already treated her awfully and he’s trying to win her back like loser scrotes do). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 01:28 AM |
| 9 | When a man catcalls you and if you feel safe to do so, take a picture of him. Most end up looking embarrassed because they know what they did was wrongI have taken a bunch of photos like this and have even posted them sometimes on various platforms to expose them. It’s cathartic. iHollaback (be sure to Google them!) also has a blog too where you can submit your stories/photos of catcallers which can also help expose them to their local community. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:36 AM |
| 37 | Heavy weed use and its link to schizophrenia. Don’t date a heavy weed user.Can confirm. Some of the most abusive scrotes I’ve encountered smoke weed daily. Note: Now I am not saying weed caused them to be abusive (just as I don’t think alcohol makes people abusive, abusers usually already have a core lack of empathy and drugs tend to exacerbate that or are used to excuse abhorrent behavior)— they were already POS scrotes, but their excessive abuse of substances was a clue regarding their overall personality and lifestyle. They use it as an excuse to put in minimal effo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 12:07 AM |
| 21 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...So glad you’re free from that toxicity and freed yourself!♥️ Whew! These people want us to be miserable like them. I find that the people who interrogate you about your relationship status are often the ones unhappy in their relationships and projecting it onto others. Your coworker definitely sounds like one of those. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:59 PM |
| 12 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...🤣😂😭 Sadly true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:52 PM |
| 35 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Lmfao I love this! ♥️🤣 Good for you for leaving him in the dust and letting him pay his way back!! I love this strategy. Sometimes these LVM mess with the wrong ones and face some consequences for their actions. 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:52 PM |
| 8 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.It’s a really great book! Very witty too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 11:47 PM |
| 49 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...Right? I feel like when that phrase is used by men specifically it’s usually code for “I am a lazy person who spends their entire day watching Netflix, porn and gaming. Oh and I am cheap so don’t expect to be taken out. We’re dating at home.” 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:36 PM |
| 39 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...It is a dangerous risk to take especially on a first date since you don’t know much about him. I always recommend women run background checks on the men they date too. I don’t think I could even last a full day with any man in my house at any point! 🤣 Sounds so annoying. As an introvert I love being alone in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:34 PM |
| 76 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...So glad he is your ex and that you got out while you could! Some women unfortunately don’t realize what they’re settling for and don’t wake up. And by that time they’ve convinced themselves it’s a good situation. For example, I had a pickme former friend who also had first date coffee dates with her now significant other who she now lives with. Even though he had a job she told me early on they would never go out to eat, only do things like cook together sometimes or do free sightseeing things a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 194 | LVM’s idea of a first date is going to her residence, expect a home cooked meal and most likely sex.Ahahahaha this is priceless. I think a similar tactic was described in Sherry Argov’s book about playing the dumb fox 🦊 to basically do what you want to do/not even explain/or coMmuNiCaTe because he already knows right from wrong and it can also teach them a lesson via actions vs. words. “Sure what you want me to cook you? A steak 🤗” right before he realizes she sent him somewhere else lmfao. That’s what you get for expecting a free hookup and having the audacity to try to use a woman’s resource… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:23 PM |
| 107 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...Exactly! Even the guys who had shady intentions took me out for dinner and bought roses, took me to amazing fancy places etc. If he’s gonna waste your time anyway let him pay for it and show you a good time! 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 08:54 PM |
| 142 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...🤣 hobosexual alert. Can’t believe he’s trying to pass this off as dating. Just say you were hooking up and you are cheap and would “like for it to continue this way.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 07:53 PM |
| 2 | PSA: Beware of men who have Instagram accounts for their petsHaha I’d love that! Our usernames will make a badass FBI unit contributing to the takedown of predators! 💪 And ugh!! So glad you walked out! Doggos deserve the best! 🐶 I am stunned at how condescendingly these weirdos treat their beloved pets who they exploit to meet women no less. Treatment of animals can be a clear indicator of the empathy and character someone has. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Men's anger comes from our power - we have something they want and we won't give it to themGood for you!!!!!! That is some awesome parenting and I am so glad you drove the point home for him! 🙌🏼💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:59 PM |
| 60 | PSA: Beware of men who have Instagram accounts for their petsHonestly the conventional advice to women saying they shouldn’t “snoop” in any way is ass backwards. I recommend women snoop as early as possible. No, it’s not creepy to do a background check or check someone’s social media before a date for example. People gaslight women by calling them creepy or crazy when they snoop because they know women won’t even waste her time going on dates or investing long term in some pornsick weirdo who follows thousands of IG pornographic accounts or collects a mas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:24 PM |
| 51 | PSA: Beware of men who have Instagram accounts for their petsSickening. Yes I know plenty of men who use their pets to lure women. This happens on dating apps like Tinder or Hinge a lot too. They will use photos of their adorable innocent doggos and kitties to make women think they’re good people. Meanwhile they’re usually neglecting, exploiting or even in some cases abusing the pet in some way or speaking about the pet in a derogatory manner. It’s awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:21 PM |
| 39 | Proof that women are killed by men they know.These men (monsters really) deserve the death penalty. Horrific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 08:16 PM |
| 25 | Activision Blizzard, publisher of video game titles Call of Duty, World of Warcraft, and Overwatch, is accused of unequal pay, promoting men over women, and widespread sexual harassment.Wow. And interestingly the male gamers who play these games share the same misogynistic attitudes toward women in my experience. Pre FDS went on a date with a total predator last year who was obsessed with world of Warcraft and who had developed this weird obsession with another gamer he had never even met (or more accurately, other gamers - he used it as a hunting ground.) The female gamer and I actually connected later on to exchange stories about his predatory behavior. I don’t trust male gam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 12:53 AM |
| 28 | Ever blocked a guy and he still tracked you down?Yep. Sociopathic ex made like twenty fake phone numbers and email addresses with my name in it to continue harassing me after I broke up with him (sometimes with love bomby msgs and others angry and rageful). He got picked up by the police at his new job and spent a day in jail because I documented everything and I also got a restraining order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 03:46 PM |
| 281 | 💩“He thinks it’s cute she’s growing up” 🤢 the whole post was awful but this part is extra gross since she’s rationalizing it as this. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:54 PM |
| 111 | Why does stuff like this always go viral? It’s just encouraging more women to accept less and “adjust” themselves to tolerate bs !! 😤😐Most women already are conditioned to accept and rationalize even the most horrific mistreatment and behavior. They face societal gaslighting on almost every level teaching them to accept less and engage in people-pleasing for the worst types of people. Sad that this went viral instead of a more empowering message. What we need more of is encouraging women to own their valid anger and outrage at being violated so they can finally establish boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 02:49 PM |
| 1 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.Sorry you experienced that! Some people in the spiritual community actually have the biggest egos. It sounds like he used spirituality and the guise of “yoga” as a cover to prey on women. 🤢 The only community these fake guru spiritual predators are cultivating is community dick lol! Even the guy who founded Bikram Yoga has been outed as a sexual predator. 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 10:11 AM |
| 9 | How does he talk to the one who loves him unconditionally? You know, his dog?Yikes. That’s awful. Your coworker sounds toxic and abusive. Met a sociopath who also called his cats “assholes” and threw them out of bed because they came to cuddle with me and he was jealous they never did that with him. I wonder why. 😳😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 07:49 AM |
| 8 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.For sure. Your comment made me flashback to an attractive male yoga instructor I had in my early twenties. All the girls in the class fawned over him and idolized him and he was super flirty. He would always “adjust” our poses and while doing so would prolong his hands on our bodies and take an exaggerated deep breath during adjustment. LOL. So strange. One time he saw me waiting for the class and sat beside me and told me he offered “at home lessons.” For obvious reasons I never took him up on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:51 PM |
| 71 | What made her such an excellent villain in this movie was her highly realistic ax to grindPre-FDS I felt like I was the only one who really liked and understood her character and the cool girl monologue. Everyone else was just painting her as a sociopath which totally overlooked some of the effects of a patriarchial society which this movie illustrated with a punch. Yes, of course her actions may have been extreme and sociopathic but the underlying messages were profound. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 08:46 PM |
| 114 | Just because he’s spiritual or religious doesn’t mean he’s a HVM.A lot of so called spiritual men use these places as hunting grounds. They want spiritual women they can manipulate into prematurely forgiving them and turning the other cheek. They believe spiritual women will be more compliant (not always the case of course). They’ll pray with her for their “redemption” while having affairs. Cough Derrick Jaxn cough | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:32 AM |
| 9 | I had some scrotes ask why women ghost on dates and rather than listen to the why I was told I shouldn’t date.A lot of (low value) men are very sexually pushy even on the first date and they somehow assume that women want more of that. It’s bizarre. Like no. I do not want a man who feels entitled to my body that quickly. If women ghost it’s because they don’t want to deal with retaliation and unnecessary conflict for exercising her right to say no. A man who is rapey and persistent is likely to be persistent and entitled in other ways too. Funnily enough these are the same men who will defend how they’r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:19 AM |
| 28 | The Real Reason Scarlett Johansson Divorced Ryan ReynoldsYikes! Yet another LVM! 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:29 AM |
| 212 | The Real Reason Scarlett Johansson Divorced Ryan ReynoldsWow I had no idea they were even married in the past. He’s always given me “off” vibes and his marriage to Blake Lively always seemed a bit contrived the way they seek validation and attention online. It’s one thing to have the occasional inside joke but it seems they go out of their way to stay in the media. Also the fact that Scarlett was 23 and he was 31 and competitive/envious of Scarlett’s success is another red flag. He also seemed to overlap his relationships moving from one woman to anot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 01:21 AM |
| 4 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their Programming♥️🙌🏼 I sure hope so! I also would love for her to be interviewed on the FDS podcast or something, her videos are amazing! Here’s another one she has on PickMes: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMdGNt5UM/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:15 PM |
| 4 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their ProgrammingAh woops thank you for the rec! I mistakenly thought the question was referring to saving videos on TikTok. 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 04:13 PM |
| 63 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their ProgrammingTo clarify something, from reading the comments on her channel, she isn’t against women having children if that’s what they want to do and have the resources to do it/have worked on their traumas/have an HVM partner or another way of getting pregnant. However, she has a lot of great videos analyzing why many men in society aren’t ready to be fathers and fulfilling partners and bringing a child into that dynamic can be dangerous. I think her advice is great for women who are in their twenties esp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:42 PM |
| 7 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their Programming♥️😄 She’s great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:38 PM |
| 9 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their ProgrammingShe’s amazing! ♥️ I really love her videos, I find a lot of them are so aligned with FDS principles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:38 PM |
| 4 | Just Found This Empowering TikTok Channel Today. Some Great Advice In Here Especially for Younger Women Working on Dismantling Their ProgrammingWhen you click the share arrow button on the bottom right of the video, it will give you an option at the bottom to “save video”! :) Hope this helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 01:37 PM |
| 22 | 🚩 when he asks “are you the jealous sort?”So glad I found FDS. All my thoughts and feelings about these things were finally validated. Now I actually run in the other direction and feel turned off when I see a man trying to justify weird creepy female friendships and jealousy inducing tactics on social media. It’s like a breath of relief to admit these things are not OK and never were. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:24 AM |
| 25 | If women can go through the discomfort of being pregnant for 9 months, then men can go through the “discomfort” of not getting sex for the first 3months+ of the relationship.And there are guys who get mad and gaslight you or try to coerce you even on the first date and act like you’re denying them when you barely know them. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?Oh wow! This exact same thing happened to me to the tee on the train — the creepy man noticed me waiting for the train, I moved away, he followed me through the train as I moved to seat to seat trying to get away from him. I finally placed myself between two men one of whom was big, burly and muscular. Even that didn’t stop him as he kept trying to hit on me and then walked up to me and leaned over me. That’s when the two men sitting on either side of me simultaneously held their hands up to sto… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:10 PM |
| 35 | Document, document, document!I think the scrotes report the video maybe. Because when I exposed a predator on TikTok my video got a bunch of misogynistic trolls followed by someone falsely flagging it for nudity (which there was none, only the predator’s creepy face lol). I then appealed to TikTok in a short form saying “nope no nudity” and within seconds it was placed back online. However if her video went viral I can imagine it would be inundated with many false reports which might cause them to wrongly flag her account. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 08:44 PM |
| 8 | How Do You Handle This Comment/ Argument Tactic by MenI agree with the other comments to not engage. But if you want to say something before cutting contact, I usually stick with something like, “I don’t have to justify my valid emotional reactions to outrageous behavior. It’s unacceptable” as a closing statement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:30 PM |
| 320 | Document, document, document!Ugh so gross! So glad he was fired but there should be even more legal action taken against this predator. I am not surprised about the TikTok reactions. That platform is filled with misogynists. I actually had a video that got popular exposing a sexual predator in the park who was attempting to take upskirt photos of me while I was sitting on a bench and got similar victim shaming comments on that platform. The photo I got of this predator showed his creepy grin as he saw me documenting him. Ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 05:28 PM |
| 34 | ALL of his exes can’t be the “cRaZy” ones…Yep. Saying “no” especially sexually to a narcissist will result in gaslighting, coercion and rage. It will expose his true colors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:15 PM |
| 2 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesI think your instincts are right on that!! I agree, I think Meetup can be a great tool to meet people in a less pressured noncommittal way. I had a lot of fun with the activities I attended and although I opted out of many friendships with some pickme women long term it was nice to connect with a group of girlfriends and explore the city. I even became a social butterfly/ringleader/organizer in many of these groups because I loved planning stuff and this was back in my party girl days, so I don’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:45 PM |
| 2 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesI am so glad OP wrote this post! I have had a lot of experiences with meetups living in a big city. I’ve met men who were rapey (one even forced a kiss on me and the meetup male creator gaslighted me about it) misfits like the post noted, creepy, weird etc. I’ve also met some awful pickme women there too though I think that has more to do with the fact that some women in my city use meetup to “pass the time” before their bf/hubbie comes home rather than make authentic friendships. Depending on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 02:38 AM |
| 4 | Vetting Men by their job positionI wonder what everyone’s opinion is on male gynecologists or other similar fields. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 09:03 PM |
| 54 | Only 200 hrs of community service after sexually abusing a minor 🤡He is definitely sociopathic. Duping delight and no remorse. 🤮 Another horrible predator is Millie Bobby Brown’s 20 yr old psychopathic ex, who dated her when she was 16 and began laughing about basically assaulting her (he frames it as “sex” but clearly it’s not consensual given her age): https://youtu.be/YedHeDjNGt4 It’s all so disturbing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 10:51 PM |
| 21 | Easy vetting strategyOoh nice one. I’ve found their reactions to characters like Arya Stark in Game of Thrones is also very telling. Scrotes get super mad that she (spoiler alert!) was the one to slay you know who. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 09:05 PM |
| 34 | Is this meant to be belittling?I second this. 💯 The men who neg you will often hide behind a facade of “oh I am just a bumbling idiot” but if it’s a repeated pattern it’s most likely manipulative and deliberate. And in the rare case that it’s not, it’s still sexist, annoying and an indication of misogynistic stereotypes on his part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 02:55 PM |
| 18 | Wanting to date in theory, but not in practice.I resonate. I dated a LOT in my early twenties. I’ve had hundreds of dating experiences and multiple long term relationships, a lot of them with LVM, scrotes, along with some full blown psychopaths or narcissists thrown in there. The dates were all “HVM” quality in terms of, I always got treated and went to nice fancy places like amazing upscale restaurants with live jazz, bougie speakeasies with incredible food and rose petals on the floor, concerts etc. So at least the experiences of that was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 03:48 AM |
| 34 | Lingerie is NOT a giftNot the same situation but relatedly, I had a pickme friend (who would jump from relationship to relationship, spend 24/7 with her bf and abandon her female friends) back in high school who saved all her work money to buy lingerie to wear for her boyfriend. He ended up telling her he was falling out of love with her at the end. Lingerie is awesome but I think it should be reserved to make yourself happy, and if you wear it it should be on your own terms because you feel sexy in it and want to sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 08:49 PM |
| 14 | Ladies, what are your current level ups?Love this. ♥️ My level ups are: Moved into my dream apartment last year, top floor with penthouse views of city and water and multiple floor to ceiling windows in each room. Had an amazing time seeing the Fourth of July fireworks 🎇 all over the city outside my windows last night! I also began exercising every day and doing low carb since last November and it’s been a godsend for my health. Better skin, I am back to the weight I was in my early twenties, my cheekbones/dimples are much more visibl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:42 PM |
| 55 | "You need to forgive!"💯 Owning our anger is healing. Repression of authentic emotions actually slows down the healing process. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 64 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Exactly! 💯 I already do 6-8 miles of vigorous walking every day in nature including weekends with the occasional rest day. I value it as part of my solitary time, one I enjoy immensely and my mood is always lifted at the end. During that time I can daydream, process things, think over things deeply, re-energize and have a healthy outlet for my emotions. It’s rejuvenating self-care. The last thing I want to do is disrupt that by walking with some cheap scrote under the guise of a “date”. 🤣😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:27 PM |
| 14 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!I am so sorry you went through this bait and switch! 🤢Partnership...pfft. He hasn’t even courted or impressed you properly yet but expects you to partner with him in any way? Sounds like “hobosexual” behavior to me! 😆There are so many romantic ways to be safe during the pandemic — outdoor dining, ordering food delivery and doing an actual picnic or treating you to delivery from your fave restaurant and then doing a zoom call etc. These options would have all been far more acceptable than what he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:03 PM |
| 167 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youThat sounds awful and miserable. 😖 A great reminder not to breed with scrotes. At that point it would be better to have a sperm donor than to breed with an LVM who will only stress you out at the most vulnerable time of your life. And ugh, it is sad that she shamed you for preferring men who treat you on dates. It’s an indication of her low standards. I really dislike when women shame other women for having good standards and act superior because they think they’re being more “fair.” We don’t li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Sadly OLD is definitely filled with low effort men who have developed an entitled attitude due to hookup culture. Some of these men see OLD as a delivery service and expect women to lower their standards for them. Definitely focus on the IRL HVM! ❤️💯 If there is a rare HVM on OLD he would definitely also be asking you out to dinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:19 PM |
| 4 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!🤣💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:12 PM |
| 8 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Your standards are definitely not too high ever!! And remember many of these men could be dating multiple women, so being able to take you out on a proper date to show he has some form of investment in you or at the very least wants to put in effort. I remember in the past I dated a film director who turned out to have serious issues/LVM but he did take me out to fancy dinner dates, expensive live jazz restaurant places, speakeasies with floors covered in rose petals, some really romantic places… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 02:27 PM |
| 16 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Yikes! I feel like we romanticize activity dates that don’t actually have any romantic component to them. Where is the opportunity to even connect or get to know each other on a bike ride? Women can exercise on their own or with people of her choosing on non dates just fine. In my experience, I exercise on my own every day outdoors and it’s such a peaceful experience - having a man along sounds super annoying, as I’ve gotten a little taste of from catcallers and men approaching me disrupting my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:16 PM |
| 74 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Great point. Women invest money in clothes, maintaining hairstyle, makeup, etc. and many doll themselves up for dates and scrotes have the audacity to complain about paying for a date they asked her out on. 🤢 Not to mention they take on more of the risk and labor of dating and relationships in general (e.g. certain STIs, pregnancy, emotional labor, literal risk of being raped or killed on a date or harassed/stalked after a date). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:43 AM |
| 25 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Exactly. These LVM assume we don’t have anything better to do and think women are desperate for the company of any man. 🤢 But if you’re dating an HVW, enjoying her own company is going to be far superior to going out on a date with an LVM. Many high value women are already successful, have beautiful homes, good support networks, exciting enriching lives, careers, hobbies etc. You have to make it worth her while to take time out of her day to meet you. Why should she have to accept such a subpar … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:37 AM |
| 11 | No, he doesn’t just “meet the right woman” and become a good man. He meets a woman who doesn’t know any better, hides his 🤡 shoes in the back of the closet and cheats on her throughout their marriage. 🤡gonna🤡Exactly. And even therapies like DBT are effective for only certain personality disorders (like BPD). They certainly don’t seem to work for narcissists or psychopaths who usually don’t take themselves to therapy and are not truly willing to change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:32 AM |
| 61 | 5 Ways to Weed Out Guys Only Looking for Casual SexTruth! Be wary ladies, even the men who “adjust” the dates when you say it’s not up to your standards will continue to be LVM regardless and will often reveal himself to be cheap, selfish and only looking for sex usually. His first offer says a lot about him. Better to only engage with those who don’t have such audacity in the first place. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:26 AM |
| 30 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!So true. That indifference, cheapness and inconsiderate attitude is such a turn off. I don’t get how pickme women can even be turned on by something like that. They must be desensitized to low effort by hookup culture so they probably think hike first dates are a “step up” from Netflix and chill since “well at least he wants to see me in the daylight!” 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:13 AM |
| 11 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Absolutely, it’s one thing to go out for an outdoors hike activity when you’re well into dating them for months or are bf/gf and they have demonstrated themselves to be safe (I would still be wary especially of anyone who seems covertly manipulative and abusive — a Chris Watts type for example, who could take that opportunity to be violent). But to do so on a first date is both low effort and inconsiderate to the safety and concerns of the woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:12 AM |
| 63 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Absolutely! Great insights. I think first date chivalry and generosity are so needed more than ever in this modern dating age which is entrenched in hookup culture. We need some evidence that a man is willing to put thought, effort and investment into us and not just going on cheap walk dates with any woman who is willing. Even if they turn out to be LVM, at least we got to vet them on a date that meets our standards and honors our worth rather than wasting our time and energy on someone who has… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:07 AM |
| 68 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Facts! Dinner is just a better bet all around; you get to know the person so much better versus huffing and puffing with someone on a hike with someone you know put no effort into the date which feels both gross and unsafe. Even first dates aside, there are even a few women who have been murdered on hikes by their long-term intimate partners too. Isolation is never a good thing when you’re with someone dangerous. And being on a first date with someone you don’t even know is a huge risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 01:03 AM |
| 54 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Exactly, they are an awful and dangerous option for a first date. I can’t believe someone actually said “oh I like walk dates but maybe it’s because I don’t see men as walking ATMs.” Right because the bare minimum of paying for a first date that you asked her out on is seeing someone as a walking ATM. 🙄 These people really don’t understand how attractive it is when a man shows he’s a provider and generous and that he thinks about her safety. That feeds into the chemistry too. But no they prefer … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 12:52 AM |
| 99 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!Exactly! The tweet author did clarify that she was referring to first dates later on in the thread. As you said these dates are actually not only just cheap but also potentially dangerous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 12:44 AM |
| 64 | Woman Says Walk/Hike First Dates Are Not Cool; Pickmeisha Women Jump In Defensively Praising Walk Dates. Ladies, Do Not Settle for Low Effort Dates. This Pickmeisha Culture is Toxic, Don’t Fall For the Brainwashing!It’s so sad that the majority of the replies to this tweet were defending walk dates and hike dates. This gives younger impressionable women the idea that women are asking for too much if they simply want to be taken out as they should be and avoid low effort and potentially even dangerous first dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 12:42 AM |
| 34 | The Five Love Languages and Books of this NatureThe love language thing is definitely BS in the way it is used by men to exploit women for sex. Also I don’t think there is one way we should settle for communicating and receiving love — even though I probably value words of affirmation a lot, I want all five and then some! 🤣Once women wake up they realize a lot of these male dating coaches are complete misogynistic frauds (e.g. we had a thread exposing Matthew Hussey as a fraud a cheater apologist a couple months ago). These coaches teach us h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 09:07 PM |
| 94 | “Boost your confidence by humiliating yourself and subjecting yourself to constant male rejection.”Oh no. 🤦♀️ She is giving random male strangers many of whom are probably LVM unnecessary ego boosts that they don’t need because pickme society already caters to them. And what is she getting out of it? If they say yes, a man who thinks he doesn’t have to put any effort in pursuing her. If they say no, let’s not pretend she doesn’t feel awful afterwards (because if she needs a masochistic exercise like this to boost her confidence, clearly there are some self-esteem issues already there) and wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 02:04 AM |
| 16 | FDS Weekly Chat / Check-InI just want to validate your feelings and let you know that emotions aren’t right or wrong and you’re not a bad person for feeling this way. So long as you’re not acting out on your jealousy and lashing out at her I don’t think it’s wrong to acknowledge to yourself that you have some resentment. It is very difficult to witness other people enjoying healthy love lives and to be mistreated/manipulated your whole life — and some people are even abused their whole lives and it is not fair. You feel … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 08:02 PM |
| 32 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementSame!! Like another commenter I live in a beautiful apartment by myself and I feel so at peace living on my own. Even if I have a HVM husband in the future I often fantasize about ways I will still live in my apartment on my own that’s how much I love it. 🤣 I’ve never had roommates either. Solitude is bliss and company is overwhelming. I don’t get why society always pushes the idea of cohabiting so early even before marriage. It sounds nauseating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:38 PM |
| 23 | The guy is 55!!! 🤢Yuck. Reminds me of an older male co-worker from years ago who would hit on the single ladies at the workplace and would complain about his marriage. Me and another female coworker did exchange stories about how he seemed strange. I was 21 back then and saw him as a mentor and friend at first albeit a little “off” but then it became super creepy. When I studied abroad in London he texted me unprompted (I never reached out to him) saying he “can’t stop thinking about me.” I was horrified. His wif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenGreat post. As someone who has experience with being in the public eye in a different capacity and definitely only a small percentage obviously of what Britney has gone through, I can’t imagine being raised in the spotlight so young and scrutinized every single day to that extent (I do know what it’s like to be scrutinized on a daily basis, and since my experience is only like 10% of what a celeb goes through and I find myself reacting to harassment even at that level, imagine what they go throu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 03:02 AM |
| 71 | Britney Spears is a QUEEN who is STANDING UP for what's RIGHT!Apparently they forced her to get an IUD against her will and disallowed her from removing it to prevent her from having more children when she wanted more. So horrific and violating. 🤢 Source: https://www.billboard.com/articles/news/9591610/britney-spears-planned-parenthood-statement | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 02:18 AM |
| 1 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Thank you for the gold!! 🥰 That is so sweet of you and I appreciate it! And I definitely live by my username! 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 05:01 AM |
| 8 | Sharing my story: "jUsT cOmMuNiCatE bEtTeR" can be the gateway to abuseThat is so horrifying and cruel. I am so sorry you went through this! It is beyond atrocious that he would invite your rapist to your wedding knowing full well what he was doing. Beyond disgusting. So glad you are free and thriving now both emotionally and financially! ❤️ Like you I’ve also experienced an ex who was horribly cruel regarding a past assault and retraumatized me purposely with the info I gave him and also blamed me for not reporting it to the police (knowing damn well the many barr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Don’t ever let scrotes’ cheating make you question your value, they know what they’re doing. Don’t fall into their trap!Thank you for sharing. I agree with you, many scrotes who know you are out of their league sometimes even fabricate options that don’t exist in an attempt to make you jealous/neg/triangulate you. They exaggerate their “conquests” to make themselves seem desirable. 🤣 Meanwhile the desirable women they’re negging don’t need to pull this crap to feel better about themselves. 🤷♀️ It is pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 5 | HVM will respect your time; LVM have no worries making you wait around for them because they have no respect for you.Good for you!! You did an amazing job enforcing boundaries and not putting up with his BS. 👏 ❤️Also I like that you read people’s energy and you may not need this advice at all but I wanted to caution everyone reading this based on my own experiences as a spiritual person that sometimes predators will use that against you to manipulate. For example there was this sociopath I was speaking with last year who basically “morphed” into everything I was seeking spiritually — he even developed a sudden… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 12:02 AM |
| 18 | Let’s Talk About LVM Exes and When They Come Back After A BreakupSometimes they come back because they didn’t get to hurt you enough the first time. I had a sadistic psychopathic dating partner from five years ago try to reel me back two times. The first time I was in another relationship and didn’t respond. I guess he was pissed I was indifferent to him because he expected me to pine after him. So he came back again when I was vulnerable a few years later to punish and triangulate me since I was way out of his league in every single way. Note: when he came b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:40 PM |
| 5 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Sounds like a pickme woman who has settled for less and doesn’t want to face reality. 🤷♀️ A true friend would also never say such a thing in response to something like a gross manipulation tactic being exposed, she would be happy you were warning her. There are many pickme women who get defensive about their devotion to going 50/50, dating shitty men and get defensive when they hear the research that single childless women are just as happy (some studies even show happier) than married ones bec… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 11:24 PM |
| 8 | LVM has no emotion or respect.❤️♥️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 01:08 AM |
| 47 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮This is a VERY disturbing excerpt from one of the articles on their website...they have all kinds of rape-y vibes. “Persistence is attractive because: It takes away the woman’s guilt about hooking up – she initially resisted, but you convinced her. This is a good way to counter anti-slut defense-related resistance. It shows you’re a man who knows what he wants and is confident enough to go for it. It displays dominance, which is also attractive. You most likely won’t face too much resistance — t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:53 AM |
| 7 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮It’s interesting because I clicked on the original site provided under this screenshot, saw a video of the man who wrote these crazy articles and...yeah he definitely needs these manipulation tactics because WOW. I don’t know where he gets his audacity from. Also the first article is about a threesome he supposedly had with his girlfriend and her friend — I think it’s pure fantasy fiction. 🤢🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 12:37 AM |
| 175 | Celibacy > LVMs, by farIt’s a no brainer in an LVM-filled dating pool especially. And even while women have countless sexual offers, they still know that toys offer far more: Multiple and guaranteed orgasms, no risk of the STIs that LVM likely rarely get tested for, no risk of a life threatening pregnancy, not having to do emotional labor just to be mistreated by an LVM, and you can even fantasize about an HVM with the perfect body while using them which trains your brain to only accept and get off to the best. 🤷♀️ 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:59 PM |
| 76 | LVM has no emotion or respect.Ewww gross! I am so sorry for your loss and sorry you experienced that on a rough day. 🤯🥺 This goes beyond disrespectful and is just downright depraved and callous, possibly even sadistic. 🤢 People like this need to be banned from talking to and being within ten feet of any women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:29 PM |
| 51 | Stop worrying about the existence of HVM: Some strategiesGreat tips, thank you! The “we decide what genes get passed on” is a great reminder especially. I love the harmless “crush” one as well — it really does uplift your mood. I love kpop boybands too. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 1 | 'Spiritual'/hippie menLol I had a man approach me on the sidewalk to hit on me and then he assumed, “You must have done some meditation and yoga because you seemed so happy and smiling as you walked.” I didn’t offer any information to him about that in response because I knew exactly what he was up to and cut the convo short. He kept trying to fish for information about me and it was gross, he even tried to interrogate me right after about other stuff. Um no I appear happy because I haven’t dated an LVM in six months… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffSo true! They are not being annoying at all — if anything they’re just having a normal reaction to BS and most of the time it’s a watered down reaction of how they truly feel because society has convinced women their standards (aka wanting basic decency and respect) of the bare minimum are too much. There are so many empathic conscientious women in relationships who walk on eggshells around their male partners being careful not to say the wrong thing. Meanwhile these abusive men feel entitled to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:23 PM |
| 2 | At first it looks like a good answer, but then you realize the first part is about him, the second part is about you helping HIM achieve HIS goals (!), and the third part is a hastily assembled mishmash of Good Qualities he put in at the last minuteYep a lot of OLD profiles are about how men expect to be supported and served. You’ll get ones that claim they’ll spoil the women they date too but you have to actually see it through action to believe it. In a smaller example...Had a guy who asked me out to dinner at a restaurant I had mentioned liking before we barely even had any convo. I declined because we hadn’t even spoken enough for me to feel ok with meeting with him, and it was a restaurant I had already been to (and with a different m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:15 PM |
| 12 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮In the past, I have actually automatically blocked when men claim “I don’t use this app a lot want to (exchange numbers, add Snapchat etc).” Like...you’re so fucking lazy you can’t even bothered to attempt a real convo with me on HERE but you want to attempt one after I give you private info? Umm no. It’s sooo lazy. Also if you give your social media or phone number they can continue stalking you. At least on an app you have the power to block them as soon as they say something scrote-y. That’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:44 PM |
| 6 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himI really hope that’s the case, that she is using HIM to empower herself and her image and will discard him because she already knows what a scrote he is. That would actually be awesome!! 🤣❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:32 PM |
| 63 | after his creepy OLD videos, she's back with himI am so happy someone on FDS is posting about this! Every time I see a tweet about them and how romantic it is ...I am like...scrotes recycle their exes all the time it is not romantic it is exploitative especially since Jennifer was just recently put in such a vulnerable position by her ex. We need to stop romanticizing these narratives. Scrotes don’t suddenly mature and they don’t come back for good reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:30 PM |
| 12 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffAbsolutely they should be included in classes!! I agree, he has no empathy for women’s experiences and dismisses/minimizes them which is a huge red flag. It made me so uncomfortable too!! 🤢 I wish more comments called out this behavior but on TikTok a large majority are laughing off his behavior as “typical male” behavior. And you can tell he’s gaslighted her into believing this is acceptable behavior too because she writes as a caption “he’s already done with my shit.” Like...what shit? You bei… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:26 PM |
| 9 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffExactly! ❤️💯🙌🏼 It is unacceptable and sadly videos like this normalize this behavior to impressionable young women teaching them that this type of behavior is “typical” somehow when it is verbally abusive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 12 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffYes!! I had similar thoughts too — how he arrogantly assumes he can handle it and even when she’s not even on the highest level begins cursing her out and calling her a dick. Total lack of empathy. There really is no excuse for that. It seems from her other TikTok videos like she also had a previous relationship with a narcissist (who she refers to as baby daddy) so I wouldn’t be surprised if he targeted her while she was in a vulnerable place, she was already desensitized to being abused and be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:17 PM |
| 22 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffRight it just reminds me too much of how abusers act. Like if he has the audacity to talk like that to her in front of the camera I can only imagine how he talks to her off of it. And he has that kind of “dead inside Idgaf about my wife” energy to him that gives me the creeps. His wife claims he’s “pretty amazing” but idk. 😳 My personal preference is not being told to stfu multiple times and be called a dick especially if I birthed your children... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:11 PM |
| 31 | Daily reminders ❤FACTS!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏👏👏👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:06 PM |
| 42 | Husband Tries Menstrual Cramps + Labor Simulator and Tells Wife “STFU” Several Times - Wife Laughs It OffI personally found this really disrespectful. Even before she started the simulator he began saying FFS and stfu multiple times. She laughs it off in an exaggerated way and says later in the comments that it’s “all in good fun” and other commenters call anyone who says it’s disrespectful “too sensitive.” To me it’s never “just a joke” and it sounds like he doesn’t have a problem disrespecting her. He even says “that’s what it feels like? No wonder you’re such a dick” like wtf...I have a feeling … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 06:50 PM |
| 35 | “Build with him”Truth! And I think I am one of the few women who don’t like beards on men at all. 🤣 I love clean shaven men. There are very few men in my experience who can pull off a beard but having a horrible personality along with it definitely doesn’t help in any case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 125 | “Build with him”You hit the nail on the head and I agree. These gross scrotes get a HUGE ego boost when an attractive woman out of their league gives them any kind of attention. 🤢 Then they attempt to neg and triangulate the woman tolerating them because they think they have “options” now. Laughable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:23 PM |
| 222 | “Build with him”What disgusting freaks both of them to say such a thing. 🤮 No doubt both of their partners settled for THESE weird dudes both physically and emotionally. And this is how they are repaid. Publicly trying to humiliate the women unfortunate to be with their less than mediocre asses. GROSS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:20 PM |
| 21 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??Facts. She got her PhD in a field that already underrepresents women and is sacrificing a well paying job...for a man? 🤢 None of her reasons make any sense either. Her boyfriend (not even husband?!) is clearly LVM too because no HVM would want his partner to do such a thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 11:20 PM |
| 18 | Don’t think your boyfriend is HV just because he has green flagsThank you for sharing this! ❤️ I am glad you found out and freed yourself before it went further. The best manipulators are the ones who can keep their red flags hidden for so long as it suits their agendas. I remember there was another post on here about a woman finding out the truth years into a marriage with a seeming HVM who turned out to be a serial cheater. So you are right to say the mask can drop any time and we should always keep vetting. I honestly don’t trust anyone these days — frien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In Society🙌🏼❤️ Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:30 PM |
| 3 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyI LOVE this response! 😉😏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyLmao! 🤣 Exactly. Because even they know that there are many LVM out there. You would think they would stop asking this question. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:26 PM |
| 7 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyTHIS! ❤️🤣 I love this and it’s so true. They can’t wrap their heads around the fact that a majority of men in the dating world would detract from our fulfillment rather than add to it. Like just because a woman benefits THEIR life (which according to research it does - married men fare better than married women I assume because of the vast amount of LVM out there + women are expected to take on more of the labor) doesn’t mean a man benefits ours. 🤷♀️ They need us more than we need them. Such pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 05:24 PM |
| 83 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyWell said! 🙌🏼💯 Meanwhile Brad has turned out to have LVM qualities himself and people are still pushing for them to reunite. Same with other LVM and other HVW celebs. Society is invested in women settling for less. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:30 PM |
| 60 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietySame!! “Finally single” is exactly it and it is a relief indeed. It’s almost like they assume women who are currently single have always been single (even if they have — I envy those women because they didn’t have to meet all these weird scrotes/LVM and have relationships with them). Like no, I’ve had multiple long-term relationships and hundreds of dating opportunities to not be single but none of them lived up to the peace and freedom that is singledom. 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:24 PM |
| 70 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyLove that it places the onus on them to explain. As it should be because it’s an unnecessary question in the first place! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 57 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyFacts! Being single is the best skincare regimen there is. 😉❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:21 PM |
| 30 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In Society🤣 Perfect! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:00 PM |
| 30 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In Society🤣 Love it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:59 PM |
| 25 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In Society🙌🏼 Very true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:56 PM |
| 27 | Asking Women Why/How They’re “Still” Single Is A Shaming and Control Tactic in the Dating World...And In SocietyThat’s a great response! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:53 PM |
| 44 | Knock it tf off, pickmeisha 🤡🤣💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:51 PM |
| 37 | “Hey” “Random thing made me think about you today” “Long time huh” “Thought it would be fun to hear how each other are doing” “Miss you”🤣❤️ Relatable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:51 PM |
| 1 | Jeffrey Toobin Is Back on CNN Joking Around After Being Caught Masturbating on Zoom Call: Tell Me Again About Consequences for Men? 🧐Hi! I was trying to post the link instead rather than the video because I assumed that’s why it was removed. I am not seeing duplicate stories on this - does this post break a rule if it only uses the link? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 03:11 PM |
| 4 | Jeffrey Toobin Is Back on CNN Joking Around After Being Caught Masturbating on Zoom Call: Tell Me Again About Consequences for Men? 🧐🤢 It’s also gross how people on platforms like Twitter, TikTok and also Reddit are also laughing it off with him talking about how “why did they put him on the spot like that” and “not a big deal he just jerked off so what” 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:38 PM |
| 14 | Jeffrey Toobin Is Back on CNN Joking Around After Being Caught Masturbating on Zoom Call: Tell Me Again About Consequences for Men? 🧐Exactly. 🤢 Apparently he also had an extramarital affair with the younger daughter of one of his colleagues too and got her pregnant. His behavior is predatory but now he’s back joking around about how “he’s a better person off and on camera.” 🤮 Crazy people online have also been praising him as “brave” for addressing it. Umm...no? The victims who were exposed to his predatory behavior are brave — not him. Source: https://nypost.com/2020/10/20/accused-zoom-masturbator-jeffrey-toobin-has-sordid-s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:22 PM |
| 149 | DAE have the hardest time genuinely connecting with men? 👥🧔🏽⚡️I agree and you are certainly not alone! I find that I am often more clever, witty and funny than the men I’ve dated. If I remember correctly, there was a study that said men tend to like women who laugh at their jokes rather than women who make them laugh whereas I think for women it was the normal desire to find someone who makes them laugh. I always found that so creepy and egotistical. Especially since the women on FDS could blow these LVM out of the water with their wit. I’ve laughed more r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 02:15 AM |
| 6 | Just because I’m nice to you scrotes, doesn’t mean I want to sleep with you.This gets really frustrating when it’s someone you have weekly encounters with too. For example, and this is just one example out of many…I’ve been polite to male local coffee shop baristas who have seen that as evidence that I am somehow reciprocating their interest. Which has led to them trying to do unnecessarily prolonged convos with me after I’ve already ordered, attempts at sustained eye contact and calling me by the fake nickname I use because I know they won’t be able to spell my real na… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:19 AM |
| 11 | F*ck the culture of shame for being unmarried.I find that the ones who nitpick your relationship status and look down on single people tend to be the ones in the most unhappy relationships themselves. How interesting. Misery loves company…and projection too. 😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 08:13 PM |
| 48 | "They're like brother and sister"THIS! 🤣💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 09:21 PM |
| 7 | Beware of the non-apology apology!!! Anyone ever had a LVM say "I'm sorry you got hurt" rather than "I'm sorry that I was a piece of shit asshole who did not respect/consider your feelings?" One is not even attempting to accept blame!! BEWARE!!I am so glad you walked away. Being in a relationship with a narcissistic alcoholic is the worst because they always try to gaslight you into believing it was the alcohol. But the fact of the matter is, many people get happier when drunk and don’t say mean things. Personally I’ve never said anything mean while having drinks — if anything, I’ve only gotten less inhibited and danced/talked more/been more cheerful. The “mean when drunk” trope keeps a lot of women in abusive relationships thinking t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 06:27 AM |
| 10 | Being an OF model/stripper/camgirl/sex worker is not empowering, here's what is empowering❤️😄 Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:14 PM |
| 94 | Being an OF model/stripper/camgirl/sex worker is not empowering, here's what is empoweringFacts! I live in a high rise luxury apartment on the penthouse floor with city and water views and floor to ceiling windows in each room. I have done this all from my own work and labor and I am completely self made. It can be done without ever selling your body! ❤️💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 10:00 PM |
| 10 | 10 Top Reasons why FDS is toxicBrilliant! ❤️ Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:50 PM |
| 5 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesGreat analogy. He isn’t qualified to work here! 😉 I also like the idea of “he can’t afford me,” because low value men can’t afford high value women in any sense - not in courting her/taking her out, not in returning the empathy and emotional intelligence she herself provides and desires in return from a partner, not in actually being interesting or remarkable enough to capture her attention long-term without using manipulation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 2 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These Phrases❤️😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:58 PM |
| 1 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesLove it! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesAbsolutely. I love that. “Ick! Why is he such a weirdo?” is what we should be coming to our minds when we encounter such low value behavior rather than, “I guess he’s just not into me.” Many of us have also had low value men who chased and pursued us relentlessly but their low value behavior gave them away as people who aren’t worthy of our time or energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:57 PM |
| 2 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesLove it! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:54 PM |
| 2 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesExactly! Well said. ❤️💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 1 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These Phrases❤️🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 1 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These Phrases🙏🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:54 PM |
| 6 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These Phrases❤️😄 Thank you for your support and for sharing that you take these phrases with a grain of salt! I couldn’t agree more!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 01:08 AM |
| 18 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesHAHAHA!! Exactly!!! Thank you for that laugh. ❤️🤣 Honestly as funny as it is it’s sadly probably true that someone would say that. It reminds me of people telling someone who freed themselves from their abuser, “I am so sorry things didn’t work out!” Like...it did work out. When a victim gets free from an LVM and/or abuser it’s always a win for her. Always! The LVM we encounter are harmful to our health, some actually ARE Ted Bundy level creepy/dangerous yet pickme society still acts like being … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:57 AM |
| 14 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesSo true! When someone does not see your value it does not negate it. And I find that LVM are often threatened by the power a high value woman holds and are very well aware of it but they know they’re not enough for it. Which is why they pull all these weird stunts to bring her down to make her feel less than when they are the ones who are lacking. And thank you for the award!! ❤️😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 12:53 AM |
| 9 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These Phrases❤️😄🙌🏼 Thanks for the support! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:26 PM |
| 42 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesThat’s a great alternative! ❤️🙌🏼 I agree — even if said with good intentions, language matters. Women are already abused by language wielded against them to make them feel like they’re not enough deeply embedded within our culture and societies. We need other alternatives that center female desire, wants and needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:22 PM |
| 24 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesI think that’s why we need alternatives for sure. ❤️🙏We already grow up in a society where we internalize “you are not enough.” Women need phrases that wake them up to the gross nature of LVM and their own high value/what they as high value women desire —not phrases made up by other LVM men that have that kind of impact. You could be the most incredible woman in the world and an LVM would still try to bring you down because it’s him that’s not enough and he knows it (many LVM abuse, neg and mist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:19 PM |
| 2 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!It’s up now! 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:13 PM |
| 61 | Red Flag: Asking for ALL of your socialsYou are completely on point and it is creepy. The men who’ve always pushed to have my number right away always turned out to be LVM. They know they’re LVM and can’t keep up the act of being normal for long which is why they want your personal info within the first few minutes of saying hello. So that way you feel obligated to keep contacting them or at least they feel they have a way of hitting you up at their convenience rather than making the effort to win you over. Personally I find talking t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 11:10 PM |
| 3 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Facts! ❤️🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:54 PM |
| 10 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Exactly! Well said re: narcissistic men. I am so glad it helped. I really do think we need alternative phrases for those of us who feel more empowered by things that focus on the LVM nature. I’ve submitted a separate post on that, so hopefully that will help others. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:54 PM |
| 3 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!❤️🙌🏼 Exactly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:51 PM |
| 5 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!❤️😄 I’ll submit a post on it tonight! I’ve commented about this same thing on an older thread in the past. It seems there are people who resonate with the problematic nature of these phrases. They’ve always irked me for this reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:51 PM |
| 7 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!I’ll try to repost it as a separate post later tonight! I’ve written something similar on an older thread so maybe it’s time it be posted on its own since it resonates with so many! ❤️😄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 08:52 PM |
| 79 | Men 👏 Dont 👏 change 👏 EVEN FOR THEIR DREAM GIRL. FDS works ladies. Left my NVM fiancée 4 years ago and he immediately started dating the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. My heart was broken then, but this is them now!!Agreed!! I understand that people mean it in a way that encourages women to stop wasting time but to me it’s just another phrase that unintentionally places the onus back on the woman for not being “the right one” and promotes the myth that men will permanently and abruptly change long lasting NVM behaviors and traits for someone else. It also omits narcissists who DO perform love bombing behaviors in the beginning to get you and then devalue. “He wanted to, he did, but now he’s revealed himself… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 05:26 PM |
| 7 | Avoid joining an activity if your sole purpose for joining is to meet menI met so many awful LVM on Meetup including a guy who forced an unexpected nonconsensual kiss on me as well as so many sociopathic pickme women. Haven’t been to one in years. I also live in a major city so maybe Meetup here is more for people who don’t have friends for a reason. 🤣 If you’re an empathic and friendly woman beware you won’t meet many like yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 12:07 AM |
| 39 | Aziz Ansari steps out of the spotlight with Season 3 of 'Master of None' (NVM gets benched for being a rapist)I was absolutely infuriated to see many so called feminists defend Aziz and what he did as a “bad date.” It was clear to me that many of them did not even bother to read the article which clearly stated he forced himself on the woman after she kept expressing discomfort and he was basically chasing her around the house. Either they didn’t read it or they’ve normalized and internalized rape culture in dating so much that to them it felt like a “bad date” instead of assault. So gross. So many were… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 08:21 AM |
| 67 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouLol! Exactly. They are threatened by your intelligence so they have to mock it in some way because it makes them feel inferior. Their inability to keep up is not our problem! 🤷♀️🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:15 AM |
| 34 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouI am sorry you went through that, I know how absolutely distressing that is in the context of a relationship. It is normal to expect our partners to be happy for us and it is absolutely infuriating and stressful when these people reveal their true jealous colors. Glad you are free of him and congrats on the career and investing success! So glad you blocked the OLD scrote too! There’s a lot of pathologically envious weirdos on there for sure and plenty of misogynists who despise successful women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:13 AM |
| 24 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouYour emotions are perfectly valid and a legitimate response to his outrageous behavior. These types are infuriating and to deal with it in the workplace is overwhelming. I totally feel you and I think it’s valid to feel angry and upset that this happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:09 AM |
| 69 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouUgh he sounds like a jealous scrote threatened by you! Love that the bartender had your back!! As a graduate of two Ivy Leagues I completely feel you and agree 💯— I’ve had some really pathologically envious/threatened losers try to put me down in that area as well. And I am not someone who judges people by school either so it is weird to me that people get all up in arms about what other people have accomplished. You are absolutely right that they weed themselves out as soon as they find out. Yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:01 AM |
| 26 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouUgh sorry you went through that. He sounds envious and threatened by you. Glad you stood up for yourself! 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:57 PM |
| 81 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouWow what a jealous loser! I notice these types are contemptuous and do the eye rolling too. So creepy. Normal people would just be excited and express interest in something you’re excited about. So glad you blocked him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:56 PM |
| 59 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouThank you! ❤️😃 And I agree completely. I recently blocked a scrote like this with absolutely no explanation (he already knew this was a turn off of mine) and it was hella satisfying! They love it when you exhaust yourself explaining basic human decency to them. Block without a word and it actually destroys them more. 😆🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:05 PM |
| 96 | Watch Out for Negs and Men Who Are Jealous Of YouCongrats on your investing success and new car!! And wow that doesn’t surprise me, success has a way of weeding out the jealous LVMs! Smh. 🙃 Have met similar pathologically envious losers in the past. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 11:02 PM |
| 8 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingAgreed! The people I know who have gone through the most adversity and are deeply emotionally resilient are the ones who can acknowledge, validate and honor all their emotions and express them in safe, healthy ways. It’s actually the ones who discourage and shame that emotional expression that tend to lack resilience and are intolerant of other’s emotions because they haven’t confronted their own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 03:34 PM |
| 6 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingThank you! ❤️ Facts! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:18 AM |
| 10 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingI am so sorry you experienced that and glad you avoided this horrible invalidating man! ❤️ Sounds like a selfish scrote who wouldn’t be able to last a day in a woman’s shoes. Most low value men wouldn’t but they love to police and shame a woman for having valid emotions to outrageous behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:33 AM |
| 22 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingI am so sorry you went through that! ❤️ That’s a horrible invalidating thing to say to someone especially in the case of sexual assault. Frankly this type of invalidation is retraumatizing and people need to realize that. You are absolutely right. Pickmeism and internalized misogyny kills sisterhood and no mistreatment should be minimized. I’ve had a horrible experience with some female police officers after trying to report being physically pushed and threatened to be killed by an unhinged man … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 18 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingYes!! So invalidating. It’s akin to saying, “I just punched you in the face but I can’t make you feel injured, you’re just choosing to feel injured. You just need thicker skin/higher self esteem/a better pain threshold/yadda yadda.” 😳 People really do spew this nonsense all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:13 AM |
| 14 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingTHIS! 💯👏 You hit the nail on the head. And so true that some of these shamers wouldn’t last a day in the lives of someone they’re shaming. It’s interesting to me that the most grounded and actually most rational individuals I’ve experienced are the ones who’ve often gone through the most adversity. Because the ones who haven’t don’t know anything about it but feel entitled to judge others will rage at the drop of a hat when their entitlement is threatened and can’t even handle not being catered … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 12:10 AM |
| 21 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingVery true. A lot of us grow up severely invalidated as children and then are treated as abnormal as adults when we dare to speak out. It’s appalling. Emotional validation in childhood promotes a healthy connection to our emotions and an ability to express them is a good thing to have in adulthood. Expressing our emotions in a healthy safe manner should be encouraged by other adults in adulthood too yet I see way too many incidences of adults trying to police/shame/judge others for their emotions… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:29 PM |
| 13 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingTruth! 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:27 PM |
| 4 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further Gaslighting❤️🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:27 PM |
| 19 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingYou are right on point. It seems like the ones who have empathy and regular valid outrage to an immense amount of bullshit are demonized as hypersensitive or somehow out of the norm. It’s sickening how people consider insensitive, callous and invalidating behavior and beliefs as the “norm.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:27 PM |
| 27 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingAbsolutely! That’s a horrific and invalidating thing to say to any survivor. ❤️ And research actually shows the opposite for the recovery of trauma. Things like premature forced forgiveness (which no survivor has any obligation to do) and denial of emotions can be a form of avoidance and can actually strengthen posttraumatic symptoms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 10:25 PM |
| 33 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingAbsolutely. The last thing a woman who is finally feeling brave enough to share even a little bit of her story (often what she perceives the most “non-offensive” part) is further minimization, gaslighting and invalidation. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:45 PM |
| 26 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingAbsolutely. And unfortunately many women endure complex trauma at the hands of these predatory people multiple times. So the effects of psychological abuse, especially chronic psychological abuse, should never be underestimated, minimized or negated. ❤️ It is absolutely valid and the pain and long-lasting effects are real. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:43 PM |
| 53 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingAbsolutely agreed - toxic positivity is a tool of the oppressor and narcissists love using it. I LOVE that. ❤️ Thanks for sharing that quote. I always wonder when victim-shaming people make comments that shame and judge others, what is their motive? What do they get out of silencing someone who is finally feeling brave enough to speak and own their story? It is indeed for their own comfort. And it’s very selfish. Very much like telling someone, “So what, you got struck with a baseball bat and ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:42 PM |
| 12 | Women, Especially Trauma Survivors, Don’t Need Further GaslightingThank you so much for the award and support! ❤️🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 09:39 PM |
| 36 | How is this even a question??!!Oh I am not shifting the blame. He is definitely at fault for being cheap and low value as I mentioned in my original comment. However, her pickme behavior should also be called out. There are actually a lot of threads on pickme women friends here. So we are allowed to dismantle and challenge these tendencies in female friends as well as single shaming because these tendencies only feed into the system, perpetuate the toxicity and also harm other women (especially the pickme women friends who fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 26 | How is this even a question??!!Great comment on the cool girl low maintenance phenomenon that hurts us all! I think you are 💯 on the mark on how the trajectory is going to go. If it starts out cheap it will only get worse from there. She’s a former friend, we don’t speak anymore because of the way she began acting all condescending and strange toward me as soon as she got a bf. 😅🤯 I hope for her sake she wakes up early and recognizes her own pickme behaviors someday and treats future female friends with more respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:08 PM |
| 27 | How is this even a question??!!So true. 💯 Have met several pickme women like this. It’s appalling to experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 02:05 PM |
| 62 | How is this even a question??!!I would normally feel badly for her so I completely agree with you! I think the reason I don’t feel as badly for her in this situation is because she also began acting super catty, arrogant and condescending to me during that time and made me feel awful about being single which is why I never pursued the friendship further. She only reached out to me months after disappearing from our friendship to brag about how she was looking for apartments with her bf in my area and was in my building (thoug… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 01:57 PM |
| 150 | How is this even a question??!!I had a former friend who started going out with this guy from Tinder. He was a successful businessman who lived in a good part of the city. They met up for coffee on the first date. 🚩 She told me (and this was after they’d been dating for months) that they don’t go out or anything for meals although they did occasionally buy groceries and cook together. Even during that time she said their relationship was considered “casual” so they were hooking up without any official relationship or what it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:29 PM |
| 3 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardAbsolutely! ❤️ And I am sorry you went through that too. It’s awful to feel abandoned by a friend when you really need them, especially when you’ve been there for them constantly whenever they needed it. This was all in high school. When she got a boyfriend she would spend that time with him 24/7 and would even have him pick her up when we would on the rare occasion go to an event (which she would cut short just to see him - we rarely saw each other in person after she got a bf, really odd pickm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 11:46 AM |
| 6 | Tiny quick vetting method: MEN AND CATSYep. A sociopath I knew had two very cute cats but treated them very weirdly, always liked scaring them and sometimes bit their ears (it was weird and aggressive) and was super affectionate toward them sporadically while pointedly being cold toward people. He also kicked the cat out of a room when the cat snuck in to snuggle with me — was jealous/resentful the cat liked me more than him and claimed they never do that with him. Super creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:02 AM |
| 4 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardOof! I experienced this with a friend of a friend I met at a Halloween event. I was dressed nicely as Little Red Riding Hood and the mutual friend was a complete female sociopath. No expression when my friend told her about my career — seemed resentful of my success. Total pickme too — anytime a guy approached me and checked me out she would start talking to him. She even asked me what type of guy I liked, she told me she liked the opposite physically but then actively went after every guy in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 6 | Why I am now avoiding pickmes at all costs from today forwardI’ve been through the exact experience even at the same age (although she was not in an abusive relationship). When I told her it was weird she was ignoring me when I was going through so much when I’d always been there for her with her bf problems, she even told me weird abusive things like “Must be so easy for you, being spoiled and judging others” (wtf? I was an abused and bullied child and had just gone through the most traumatic experience of my life with a narcissist). She equated me worki… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 11:41 PM |
| 4 | C-PTSD therapyJust an FYI that I’ve heard from other women in survivor communities that Ross preys on younger women/clients/fellow collaborators of his. I stopped reading his work after I found out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 11:27 PM |
| 8 | How to reject men without fear of violence?I’ve experienced a lot of street harassment, catcalling, following starting from the age of 14 and still do to this day (it’s gotten worse these past few months). I can tell you there is no “right” way to respond except to respond the way you feel in the moment is safest for you. I’ve done it all: silently ignore, appease the predator, confront or seek help (I actually confronted a guy who was following me for 20 blocks straight but all he did was grin and continue until I found another man to w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Let The Lessons The Stories About Past Inform UsThank you! I am sorry you went through this as well! ❤️ I know how impactful it can be, so thank you for writing this thread. I actually ended up doing a thesis for one of my graduate degrees centered on bullying, researching and interviewing bully victims. One of the bully victims talked about how she was targeted (like me she was also of a different race than her bullies) and she later became a runway model and her past bullies reached out to her (I had a few reach out on FB as well, yuck). Sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 02:47 PM |
| 9 | Let The Lessons The Stories About Past Inform UsI am so sorry for the loss of your friend. ❤️ Thank you for sharing. I am glad you chose yourself! I can relate as I was bullied horrifically in middle school. Part of it was racialized bullying and what I suspect was jealousy on part of the other girls as I looked different from the rest of them. I had (and still do to this day) long black thick hair, beautiful skin, cute prominent dimples/cheekbones and my teacher affectionately called me “beauty queen” and commented in appreciation on what a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 08:10 PM |
| 3 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?Makes total sense. I definitely don’t miss those days. We waste so much time and energy with these low value men when high value men would never make us worry in the first place. Being single is truly a luxury compared to being with these scrotes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:21 PM |
| 3 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsLol exactly! I had a guy who I didn’t date but in the early stages of talking we were talking about the topic of female friendships and he was like “If a girl thinks she’s the only woman I’ll have an emotional connection with...it’s never gonna happen.” Ok bye loser LOL. He’s also the one who would “rescue” his female friends in college whenever they’re drunk, hold their hair back and “help them” to bed when they were throwing up. It all seemed shady AF especially when there are girlfriends and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?Lmao! 🤣 So true! And even in cases where her man is handsome I am not the one looking at him. They are usually looking at us — so...random women on the street aren’t the ones pickme should be having a problem with. If their man is ogling at other women that’s an indication he’s disrespectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 02:12 PM |
| 50 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMI’ve gone back to the fitness and weight level I was in my early twenties — even better actually because now I am way more toned and have more muscle from exercising every day! I feel way more athletic. My skin has healed tremendously and has a dewy glow now. I honestly look more youthful than I did when I was actually younger in the last half of the relationship with a scrote! It’s crazy. My cheekbones and dimples are wonderfully prominent again — my face is back to “normal” rather than puffy f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:49 PM |
| 11 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?“Yes! The pulling of their man, like I don’t want your trash collection. I hate when people do this or when a man sees you and suddenly grabs up his pick me and starts PDA. What the fuck is that about!?” OMG!! This too. I’ve seen this many times. It’s when they only see you that they start this shit. Suddenly the man grabs his pickme woman closer or the pickme woman grabs him closer for some pda or other territorial weird type crap. Like...no one wants them. 🤣😭 Not sure what it’s meant to achiev… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 11:40 PM |
| 40 | Has anyone else felt better about their body/personal ownership during the pandemic?Absolutely. During the pandemic I’ve been exercising every day in nature with meals that nourish my body and I’ve never felt so fit and healthy. And the best part is, it’s all for me. Not for some scrote. And it’s felt really good to “level up” mind and body wise while not talking to a man. It’s like a cleansing/rebirth/purge! I do still struggle with body dysmorphia sometimes but it’s getting better. On the other hand I’ve noticed increased street harassment, following and catcalling. I’ve alwa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 04:32 PM |
| 15 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]Wow! It’s kind of bizarre how many stories I hear of friends and family members missing the absolute mark of who to recommend to high value women they know. Reminds me that society as a whole hasn’t learned to recognize low value men for what they are and just sees them as “normal.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 12:17 PM |
| 37 | Pay extra attention to how he talks about his ex! [from Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft]I am so sorry you went through that horrific experience! 🤯🤬 He is the stupid and narcissistic one. He really told on himself through his victim blaming. Glad you escaped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 09:39 PM |
| 12 | This is a thing on IG/TikTok now. I hope she gets picked!Eww. These videos make me grateful I only had “lazier” pickme tendencies when I was younger LOL. Never did I go out of my way to clean someone’s place, spoil them or treat them aside from the occasional holiday or bday gift. My parents taught me that a man should be the one treating me and thank goodness that point did stick with me even throughout my much younger years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 09:29 PM |
| 11 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsRight?! So grateful I only went on two dates with him (he only revealed stuff about the female friend on the second - no mention of her on the first). Still, should’ve trusted my instincts on the first date too. He told me about a girl he dated who got mad at him for “no reason” on the second date and how it was his weirdest date ...now I know for sure there was a reason. He probably disclosed strange things to her too and she realized what an ass he was. These types always tell on themselves! 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 08:30 PM |
| 16 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsI am so glad you found validation regarding the guy’s roommate and realized it wasn’t acceptable!! ❤️ I find in these situations it’s rarely insecurity. Many women are actually very intuitive and discerning. They’ve just learned to silence their inner voice after years of societal gaslighting as well as gaslighting in relationships! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:58 PM |
| 21 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsYes! Often we don’t even know if those outliers even exist because the person may be gaslighting us like, “No one else ever had a problem with this except YOU.” I guarantee that if they dated other humans with thoughts and feelings there are other people who had issues with it. Either those people never brought it up due to pickme coolgirlism or they did and the scrotes use the same gaslighting phrase for everyone when they bring it up. If there’s any physical attraction in the friendship it’s n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:42 PM |
| 52 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsTotally feel you. 💯 Sorry you encountered this and you are definitely not jealous or crazy!! I’ve never ever encountered a guy having a female friendship where there wasn’t something shady going on. My instincts always turned out to be true and I’ve been in a lot of dating scenarios and relationships. I even went on a date last year with a 30 yr old guy who approached me in a public setting (we did not meet on OLD but he still turned out to be a major creep). On the date he told me he and his fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 02:58 PM |
| 184 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsI thank God every day I found FDS to validate some of the nonsense I’ve encountered when it comes to female friends. Jesus. I hate that’s it’s become so normalized that women expressing valid discomfort at legitimately outrageous and violating situations is minimized as “insecurity.” No, it’s instinct and common sense and society is gaslighting you. How about you sleep in the same bed as a male friend and see how he likes it? Wonder how Reddit users would respond if it was a male talking about t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:48 PM |
| 24 | As seen on a law school subreddit: "Accepted at every school I applied but waitlisted at the school in the same city as my husband. It’s an easy decision"Oh. Hell. No. Choosing a man over the schools of your dreams? Schools you worked your butt off to get into? A man who may not do the same for you or worse do something to betray you once you make the sacrifice? Ha...no. This sets a bad example and I hope no woman reading her post takes it as incentive for more pickme behavior. Love like that comes all the time because scrote loving sacrificial love is a-plenty in the Pick-Me-Sphere. This is your husband not your boyfriend, you don’t need to prov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:30 PM |
| 13 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.These pickme women really live in hell but try to pass it off as superiority because they are partnered and feel like “at least” a man “chose” them. But when their partner is an LVM...it’s always a losing game. And men do not really “choose” anyone but themselves at the end of the day. Women should start doing the same. 🙌🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 12:02 PM |
| 10 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.I would not doubt it for one second. It would explain her trying to compete in the Pickmeisha Olympics especially the last line. Either he’s been trying to deliberately trying to make her jealous by mentioning all these past women and/or feeding her sob stories and she fell for it or like a raccoon protecting her trash she’s trying to be territorial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 11:59 AM |
| 30 | What are your experiences dating neurodivergent men?I am not autistic but I had a similar experience with an autistic boyfriend (who had Asperger’s) in the past when I was very young. He said very cruel things and was very demanding/forceful about sex and even bemoaned how he just “knew” I would have sex with someone else in the future. He was also sexually coercive and would throw rage fits as well like described in OP’s post including if he perceived I had “corrected” him somehow. Interestingly, the handful of times I did stand up to him by sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 04:29 AM |
| 42 | VaginismusThank you for sharing. This is a really important topic that often doesn’t get discussed enough. I had the same type of experience in my early twenties. I do come from a religious household so I attribute it to the cultural upbringing/shame and stigma surrounding sex my parents unfortunately exposed me to. It’s improved over the years (not sure how or why — probably just my anxiety abated more with practice and time) and now I can have penetrative sex but like you it has protected me from a lot … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 03:10 AM |
| 84 | Lord if this ain't some anti-women shit.“Even though we have our problems.” 🤡 This is like reading every Facebook anniversary post of a pickme woman ever. She ALWAYS mentions “even though we’ve had our problems/issues” because she thinks it’s a minor thing. It’s likely some huge barrier like abuse or scrote behavior but she covers it with “we get through it through lOvE” We need a thread translating common pickme lines. 😂 The fact that she felt the need to make this post says it all. Clearly her man is a scrote no one wanted. Most wom… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 11:48 PM |
| 9 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'❤️🙌🏼 I want society to normalize taking breaks from therapy. The fact that “traditional” therapy is once a week and feels obligatory to the client to never end feels weird to me. I think this especially places a disadvantage to women of color because therapists are trained within frameworks that are very much historically rooted in patriarchal white supremacy and multicultural competence is very much “new” in this field. So a group of individuals went to school to get credentials and some traini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 10:55 PM |
| 9 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'I am so glad it helped and that you will be seeking someone more suitable for your needs and validating to you! ❤️ Her lesson on independence sounds like irrelevant nonsense and I am sure you will find someone who has more FDS aligned principles! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 09:14 PM |
| 29 | Conflicting beliefs with my therapist about 'all men'I don’t believe you need to give anyone a chance. And sounds like since she hasn’t experienced the modern dating culture she doesn’t know the extent of horror it consists of. My much older therapist (in her 60s I believe) also has these contradictory viewpoints which is why I’ve taken a break from therapy although I am thinking of ending it altogether. One of the most horrifying experiences I had was meeting one misogynistic narcissist after another back to back and experiencing a complete emoti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:40 PM |
| 39 | The Benefits of Living Alone vs living with a LVMThis. I live in my dream apartment with penthouse views and I would never sacrifice that to cohabitate with a scrote. I’ve never understood the obsession pickme women have with living with a man as if it’s some great accomplishment. An ex pickme friend texted me after months of disappearing from our friendship to brag about how she moved in with her boyfriend who courted her by taking out to coffee dates and rarely taking her out to dinner. It sounds suffocating to me unless he’s an HVM and even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 08:34 PM |
| 8 | Men are such crybabies“I can’t say anything right or do anything to make it better, everything I say just makes it worse” — LVM narcissistic scrote in the throes of gaslighting who has never tried to make anything better and actively says sadistic cruel shit to escalate things and make it worse 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 02:11 AM |
| 35 | Fat lvm hitting on fit womenYou aren’t superficial at all. Women have been brainwashed by the media to accept men they are not physically attracted to as mates because of HiS pErSonAlITY which conveniently he also lacks. 😂 Men get to choose women who they prefer and are attracted to all the time. In fact many men prioritize looks but women are suddenly shallow if they take looks into account? No way. It’s time to stop this nonsense. I had an overweight and not so nice looking man approach me once on the street (I am slim a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 12:51 AM |
| 6 | Are there any specific and subtle questions you can ask male acquaintances to vet them?Always have some doubt for sure! I think when it’s a friend or acquaintance it can be harder to confirm their long term tendencies because in an intimate relationship you really see the worst and true sides of them come out whereas with a friendship you see surface level things they want you to see that are tailor made to make them look good and it can take years before they reveal themselves to you. LVM look at friendships in the way of, “Hmm let’s not discard these immediately because they pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 12:40 AM |
| 28 | How were periods talked about when you were growing up?I feel you. I come from a culture where there’s a lot of shame and modesty policing regarding women’s bodies, sexuality as well as rape culture (which is probably why as an adult I go out of my way to embrace my body and wear what I want and am pretty “shameless” and open when it comes to discussing women’s sexuality and sexual health — if I ever have a daughter, she’s going to get everything I never received in childhood including that openness and knowledge). My mother never even told me about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 12:14 AM |
| 10 | Are there any specific and subtle questions you can ask male acquaintances to vet them?So this is the first time he’s ever reacted to an incident like this — he has reacted “normally” before to similar incidents. He has talked very vocally about how he would never do such a thing in the past like these other creepy men and whenever I’ve mentioned men following me in the past he would call them creeps. The sudden change seems to just be a glimpse into his true callous lack of empathy. Knowing him as a person I don’t get the feeling he does these things like following (he probably d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 11:49 PM |
| 58 | Are there any specific and subtle questions you can ask male acquaintances to vet them?Sometimes you won’t know they are LVM until later down the road. I actually made a full post on this but Reddit deleted it for some weird reason so I’ll repost it here in case my experience helps anyone! Beware of LVM male friends and acquaintances. They sap your energy and retraumatize you too. Especially the ones who pretend to be “woke” and “on your side” and care about women but actually couldn’t give less of a rat’s ass. Learn from my mistakes... I won’t go too much into detail here because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 09:18 PM |
| 5 | Weird Red Flags?Major red flag! Glad you saw his true colors. Also it’s like a woman gets a sense of whether she’d have a good date with you even over text. So if she isn’t impressed over by text which is the bare minimum she has no obligation to go further. Pestering you further without making steps to actually add value is just pure entitlement and asking for unpaid labor. My go to analyses are: 1) Is he being responsive and reciprocal to what I say? Or is he being self-absorbed and centering himself? 2) When… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Weird Red Flags?I think it’s more about them identifying with the character and just being a man specifically being obsessed with the movie. No shade to you if you liked it! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 03:24 PM |
| 23 | Guess what, my lovelies. I still like good abs... And I can not lie...Absolutely. 💯 The unattractive guy will act like he’s the prize the second you are “kind” and charitable enough to even give him an opportunity. He may even escalate into cruelty and verbal abuse as well as weird creepy love triangles with options that may not even exist. It’s gross. Our society has taught men a level of entitlement and audacity that is unfathomable. Many women go throughout their lives leveling up in every way - education, fitness, being cultured, being mentally healthy, going … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:19 AM |
| 124 | Men Pushing Pregnancy During DatingBingo. Had a LVM scrote male acquaintance (who I never dated) in the past comment casually, “Kids are ok. I’d just get someone else to take care of them.” Basically saying whatever woman he’s with would do the work. They don’t actually care about kids, it’s a pure ego thing for them to pass on their useless “legacy” or whatever the heck they think kids will accomplish. In this scenario it’s definitely a trap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 05:07 AM |
| 4 | Weird Red Flags?Wow! I am not a gamer but I’ve met a scrote sociopath who was addicted to world of Warcraft and my god he was obsessed with it — hours and hours every day. Thankfully I only dated him briefly but he also used Discord to create love triangles with women from WoW too and make another girl he was manipulating jealous (she and I connected and talked about his sociopathic ways). These gamer guys are creeps. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:25 AM |
| 9 | Weird Red Flags?Omg!! Yes the first one is something I dealt with recently and never responded. It’s pure entitlement especially when you’re a stranger. No one needs a “reminder” that you exist sir. If a woman likes you she’ll respond in her own time but otherwise you’re a stranger to her and she doesn’t owe you a response. It’s creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:21 AM |
| 4 | Weird Red Flags?One of the cruelest most sadistic men I’ve ever met always used “^ _ ^ and “<3” as well. I think you’re definitely onto something regarding using emojis to seem non threatening! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:16 AM |
| 20 | Weird Red Flags?Wow thanks for mentioning the counting part. I recently had a self-absorbed guy respond to me getting two Master’s degrees at Ivy Leagues (he asked about it - I wasn’t going out of my way to tell him) with “That’s a lot, sounds like fun though” (such a lackluster response and absolutely NO questions either) followed by, “I’ve spent the last eight years traveling” and started listing the countries he visited. I told him I had studied abroad in many of the same places. Instead of being like “oh co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 04:09 AM |
| 22 | Weird Red Flags?Any man I’ve met who has loved the movie The Joker has always turned out to also be a terrible person in my experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:38 AM |
| 39 | Weird Red Flags?Truth! Dead eyes too for sure as another commenter mentioned. Another OLD red flag for me is when he can’t go a freaking day or two without me responding and pesters me. Like in the past a guy has been completely lackluster and so I drifted off and he asked me how my weekend was going and if I was doing anything fun. I never responded and he was like “Guess no” as if me having a fun weekend would involve me responding to him right away when actually it’s the opposite. I am having fun and doing s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:35 AM |
| 13 | Where to meet HVW? What are their green flags?I’ve met some amazing HVW women through my academic classes this semester. They make me laugh every day and NONE of them even talk about the men in their lives — I don’t even know if those men exist because they don’t even mention them! They are ballers, successful, aware of narcissists/psychopaths and many of them have complimented me on my projects in class where I presented on the neurobiological underpinnings of psychopathy for example. They GET it. Many of these classes centered on neurosci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...Right?! Free of the horrors and awful memories of being in relationships with scrotes and LVM. She may feel like she’s missing out but all she’s missing out on is complex trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 02:39 AM |
| 78 | What are ways that emotionally immature men are "too sensitive" that society ignores?Great thread and list. I am sure someone has already added this but stonewalling is a big one. They are fucking babies who wouldn’t be able to handle a day in the life of a woman and what she goes through. I’ve had to be in fight or flight mode in so many ways these past couple years and gone through so much but a man will still play the victim because “You didn’t have sex with me! MUh pEnIs” (I even had a man storm out once because I wouldn’t show him my boobs and he complained of blue balls 🤢)… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 19 | Please comment to share your therapy stories! Particularly couples counseling (fails and wins)In terms of individual counseling, I spent a long time with a therapist who helped me leave my emotional abuser years ago by asking me the simple question, “What’s it going to take for you to leave?” I think at that point I just needed that final nudge and she did it. I think because of that I felt obligated to stay with her but throughout the years it hasn’t been helpful. Mainly because her specialty is childhood trauma and Internal Family Systems Therapy which is about addressing Inner Parts. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:57 PM |
| 12 | You should WANT to do things for the guy on a date 💸I basically said, “Umm exactly. Of course it didn’t” and sassily asked why he was telling me that story. 🤣 Especially since he paid for all the dates with me knowing I was the type that likes to be treated/spoiled so if it was to test me to see whether I’d be like “omg! Let me treat you too” it was a test that failed miserably. 😏🥳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 09:13 PM |
| 13 | Are there any women in this sub that have completely sworn off men, dating, romance?!? 👩❤️👨Omg this!! I’ve had women glare at me too for simply existing on the street and also stare at her man to check out if he’s staring at me. And I’ve also had men with their girlfriends do prolonged staring at me while she’s literally next to him which I find inappropriate AF. Now that we have woken up we definitely realize even moreso that protecting a musty ass man isn’t worth it. HVM don’t need to be “trained” (hopefully) not to ogle at strangers they fancy at first sight. Edit: also forgot to m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 05:06 PM |
| 5 | Romantic NecrophiliaI once went to a meditation workshop and there was a couple there who gave me huge red flags. It was a white guy (probably 35 LOL) with an East Asian wife he had met while teaching abroad and while she didn’t speak much English she did tell me something along the lines of how “it gets depressing being holed up in our tiny apartment but we are happy so it’s ok” but she said it in such a miserable tone. I instinctively got the sense he didn’t see her as a real multifaceted person with wants and ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 04:53 PM |
| 19 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)This is my EXACT dream! Honestly it’s even my dream when if I get married too. 🤣 Last week I was thinking just this...”If I ever get married to an HVM...I can still live alone in my apartment right?” 😂 The idea of living with someone 24/7 even an HVM kind of freaks me out. I love having my own space and alone time. I wish society would realize some single women really do love being alone and free, and would only “sacrifice” any of that for an HVM if they wanted to but even so it would still be a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:37 PM |
| 32 | Epiphany: Imagine if dating made your life easier (like it does for men)Great post and very well said. Meanwhile women are left with lifelong excruciating trauma just from dating these scrotes while giving them endless empathy and support that they themselves don’t receive in the relationship. I am glad that my parents actually raised me with an FDS mentality when it came to money and men providing because even before I found FDS I very rarely tolerated a man who didn’t treat or spoil me. If they were going to be douchebags and waste my time anyway, they were going … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:29 PM |
| 57 | You should WANT to do things for the guy on a date 💸Lmfao! Exactly this! 🤣 I had a LVM guy (who actually took me out to a very fancy rooftop restaurant but otherwise his character was awful as I found out later on) on a date tell me about how a girl at a bar once told him he was cute and bought his drink which he thought was so “cool.” But he finished the story with, “But it never went anywhere,” and I was not surprised at all. These weirdos really are both entitled and deluded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 02:23 PM |
| 63 | When Simple Things Are Ruined By MenI am sorry that happened to you! That sounds very violating. I know how uncomfortable and traumatic that can feel. In the past few months the catcalling and street harassment has escalated for me big time and is occurring on a daily basis. I was followed today too for twenty blocks (made four right turns just to confirm and noticed a guy who saw me and began walking with me out of nowhere was STILL behind me even after those turns) and the guy only stopped following me not when I confronted him/… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:27 AM |
| 76 | This is the type of obtuse mentality that I'm referring to when I say "men are committed to misunderstanding us"“We get too much attention from men.” This. If they actually read FDS posts they would see that but they prefer to think otherwise. 😂 We literally have models, successful entrepreneurs, changemakers etc. represented here who’ve been through the wringer with multiple misogynistic men. It’s BECAUSE FDS women are badass and desirable that we encounter so many options and experience a lot of the garbage that’s out there. I don’t care if it sounds arrogant, it’s the damn truth. We are the prize and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 10:29 PM |
| 49 | Truth bombAnd it’s not even the truth usually — it’s usually a distortion given to the victim to emotionally suckerpunch her so she believes his gaslighting. And low value narcissistic and/or psychopathic men choose how to tell this distorted “truth” and how to deliver it - often in the most callous, cruel manner designed to browbeat their victims into submission. No normal, healthy and empathic person can take such cruelty without protesting its brutal injustice. Most of the time it is not even the truth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 09:02 PM |
| 11 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youLol! They are truly delusional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:14 AM |
| 23 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youThanks so much for bringing this up. I have definitely found this is a manipulation tactic of LVM especially those who are on the psychopathic or narcissistic end. You are so on point. I even had one try to assess how “hurt” I was a year after by texting me after we lost contact and I had completely moved on. I was in a different relationship with another man at the time when he came back and said “how are you?” And never responded. So he followed it up with, “I am sorry if I hurt you.” Which I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:13 AM |
| 22 | Men claim you have stronger feelings towards them to manipulate youWow did we date the same man?! 😳 They all seem to use the same verbiage like “intense” to gaslight us too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 02:10 AM |
| 84 | Patron Saint of the PickmeishasThe hatred Shannan received was mindblowingly cruel and evidence of the misogyny in our culture. So many women as well as men scrutinized everything she did to justify her murder - they didn’t even care that this monster was capable of killing her and his kids. It’s sickening how they bullied her after her murder, and continue to do so. I think many of those same misogynistic pickme women were jealous of Shannan - her beauty and her light - because the amount of hatred she received seemed overwh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/21 12:14 AM |
| 56 | 'When a man in our culture days no, it's the end of the discussion. When a woman in our culture says no, it's the beginning of a negotiation.' Just bought the gift of fear and was giving praises just 3 pages in.Such a great book. Every woman needs this on her bookshelf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:54 PM |
| 152 | Today, I broke up with my boyfriend.Unfair and unreasonable? Oh hell naw! What’s unfair and unreasonable is that he’s being abusive, neglectful, misogynistic, disrespectful, and on top of that making you drive while sick and pay for the both of you especially when he’s older than you. AND openly flirting with others. Nope nope nope! So glad you kicked him to the curb. Congrats! He’s just trying to gaslight and guilt trip you into staying. It would only get worse from here, so glad you escaped and gave yourself the gift of healing,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 11:52 PM |
| 16 | Are there any successful women here with tattoos?I have two tattoos and I am a graduate of two Ivy Leagues & own my own successful business/live in an amazing home. Don’t limit yourself! Rock your tattoos and don’t buy into the stereotypes. I am so sorry you’re going through this shaming. There are plenty of awesome women with tattoos who are killing it in life and career. It sounds like they are meaningful for you and I say keep them and eff what anyone else thinks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 07:33 PM |
| 19 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”Wow, isn’t that just the weirdest? You would expect them to be happy their pets take a liking to you. I think these types of men use pets as a prop and a tool, nothing more. They may show affection to them but only for the purpose of appearing like a good person or for manipulating other ppl — otherwise in my case the guy seemed to neglect and aggressively play with the cats and also enjoyed scaring them — it’s terrifying to think about knowing what I know about him in hindsight. It’s similar to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 05:48 AM |
| 181 | Jealous of a cat “woke up to him smiling at me smugly from atop my gfs tits”I have learned not to trust men who do not like cats. Lol. It’s because they don’t like beings that they can’t control. Cats are perceived to be more high maintenance because they have standards for who they are loyal to unlike dogs - you have to kind of win them over usually. I once dated a guy very briefly who had two cats. But I believe that he treated them badly - I’m not sure because I didn’t know him that long. I just remember I woke up in bed and his cat who I just recently met had snuck … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 10:07 PM |
| 19 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentRight?! I think most of his advice serves men. Because at the end of the day he’s advising women how to make things more easy and more comfortable for men and “not freak” them out which he also has a lot of videos on. If there’s one thing I have learned it is that low value men will find an excuse to be “freaked out” by anything including a woman’s basic needs, desires and boundaries. If anything, it is a testament to women that they have the willpower to remain calm even when encountering these… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 06:17 PM |
| 11 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent Content🤣😭 Been waiting to use that one for months! 🥁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 06:14 PM |
| 14 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentAwesome, thanks!! It really shows his true colors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:20 AM |
| 34 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentOh wait it was worse. The woman found out he was married and wrote the wife the letter. This was his weird response: https://youtu.be/tiYv7M-pJ3g | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:11 AM |
| 119 | Matthew Hussey: Credit Card Scammer Accused of Skimming Thousands from Clients and Cheater who got his start in Redpill Adjacent ContentI’ve always found him suspicious. Especially since he once did a phone call with a woman who told him she found out a guy she was dating was married and wrote his wife a letter exposing him...and hearing the story hussey got SO enraged and furious at the woman. Began judging her asking why she would do that — reveal a cheating scrote. (Here is the video in case anyone wants to see how much LVM energy he has in basically protecting a fellow cheater: https://youtu.be/tiYv7M-pJ3g) Apparently it got… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 03:09 AM |
| 2 | What we can learn from men's reaction to Derrick Jaxn's scandalI was thinking the same thing when I saw those LVM men laughing all over social media and mocking women for how “see that’s what you get for following Derrick’s advice.” Except it wasn’t his advice that was the problem — most of it was actually sound as you pointed out. These men are just feeling smug because they think it’s proof that women’s standards are too high and Derrick’s advice has no foundation now. But it says a lot about the LVM that that’s their first reaction to this news. Instead … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 12:14 AM |
| 9 | How to be a true friend to your pickmeisha pals.I am so sorry that happened to you. That is an appalling and callous thing to say. You’re absolutely right. Many pickme women especially the ones who are also narcissistic have victim shaming attitudes and will even go to great lengths to defend predators and abusers. That’s when it is dangerous and we have every right not to try to help or “fix” them — they can’t be trusted and they enable those who harm us and other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 11:58 PM |
| 13 | “When women earn more than their male partners, domestic violence risk goes up 35 per cent”Makes perfect sense. My narcissistic ex from years ago started putting me down the most when I started making a lot of money. I am even more abundant years later after I left him than when we were first together. Since he stalked and harassed me after I left I’m sure he still sees me glowing up and cries himself to sleep. 😂 I get more and more successful with each passing year of freedom. Never let a man hold you back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:53 PM |
| 9 | If you are just wishing he would hit you, so you can have a legitimate reason to leave, leave anyway.Great point. Although I am very grateful I’ve never been severely physically abused, there are times I wish people could see the scars the mental abuse left. I was recently torn down and gaslit by a manipulator who was horrific and played awful mind games. But I can’t explain to people how it still affects me every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:50 PM |
| 2 | He blocked me immediately after reading this, he was an absolute nightmare when he’d get drunk. I feel so great that I was able to put him in his place. Thank you FDSI’m glad you got to say your piece! In my experience these types of manipulators are not just mean when they’re drunk. They’re mean and cruel people in general but they use drinking as an excuse to abuse others. They are cowards. Glad you’re free of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:40 PM |
| 1 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstI am so sorry you went through this vicious bullying at your workplace and that they targeted you! Your family member is right. I believe this behavior is motivated by jealousy. Did your new boss know the reasons for your transfer? If so it makes sense she would set up that whole “I am remarried” ploy to try to make herself seem superior (how pathetic of her to do). Sounds like these women are choosing to settle down with LVM husbands that probably don’t even physically excite them let alone emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:33 PM |
| 10 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstOmg!! I am so glad you exited that friendship. She sounds very toxic. That is so bizarre that she has a pitying attitude toward single women and horrifying she extended such damaging advice to you. The only thing she should be pitying is herself. It’s so bizarre but I absolutely know the type of pitying smugness you’re talking about. In the minds of pickme women their greatest goal in life is to have a man — any man. Any scrote will do for them. So if they cling to a low value man they consider … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 11:14 AM |
| 15 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstHaha and she would deserve someone saying that to her for sure. While I would love to, for a group project where it counts for a quarter of my grade I’d rather not even bother. I am a straight A student with a 4.0 and these narcissistic types are retaliatory weirdos so I don’t risk that stuff in academic settings either — my main goal was to get the project done since I’ll never see her again after this. I simply gave her a smug smile and didn’t give her the satisfaction of thinking she even aff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:16 AM |
| 14 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstWow! She sounds ridiculous and yep obsessed with her ex. I hate the smug sense of superiority I get from these pickmes. It’s so unwarranted. All happy single women have to do is exist and they start projecting their own issues onto us. If she was truly happy she wouldn’t feel the need to do that. I find that the genuinely happy coupled women I know rarely put down single women — they’re actually usually more quiet about things like relationship status and/or don’t define themselves solely by the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:49 AM |
| 31 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstSorry you are going through this! It’s like they can’t imagine that enjoying life does not have to entail being with a man. Sad to be them. Interesting that your colleagues say the the whole “marriage is a trap” thing but then want us to partake in it. Misery sure does love company. 😂 Sounds like her judgment is jealousy that you have freedom and less stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:41 AM |
| 10 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstI am so sorry. That must be so frustrating and saddening to deal with your friend acting all suspicious of you because her husband is a lying cheating scrote! 🤯 her unsolicited dating advice toward you is likely due to “Misery loves company, won’t you join me?” I am sure it is also painful to witness a friend sacrifice so much for a cheating scrote (I have witnessed a family member or two being in abusive relationships in the past and it was sad to see one choose to defend something terrible her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:19 AM |
| 18 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstI am sorry you’ve experienced this! They can’t relate because they don’t have standards and the only way they can imagine others achieving worth is through having a man. How sad and pathetic for them. Pickme values and put downs are so toxic. I had to take a break from female friendships for a while because I kept encountering these types of women. However recently I’ve also encountered empowered women in my classes who talk about toxic relationships and aren’t afraid to be single as well as cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 08:15 AM |
| 11 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstIt was part of a mandatory group project. University. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:57 AM |
| 43 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstThank you! ❤️ I agree - I think it is petty jealousy and it was gross to witness. I am just honestly offended she would be so condescending for no reason when I was trying to be friendly and relate to something she said since she mentioned my city. It was rude and uncalled for and sadly reminds me of catty women I’ve encountered in the past who’ve been jealous of my success. They thought they could pick on my relationship status since there was nothing else to pick at. It makes me sick that they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 38 | Pickme Narcissistic Women Who Look Down At Single Women Are the WorstTruth. It’s pathetic and sickening how low they will stoop to take you down a peg or two. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:20 AM |
| 150 | YT rELaTioNshiP gURu Derrick Jaxn has a mental breakdown and reacts to his confession video in the third person 👁👄👁He tries to convince us so hard that doing the bare minimum of taking accountability makes him a better man than most scrotes. 🤣 And also paints his wife as “her own person” knowing damn well he has coerced her into many things and taken away her agency by cheating on her multiple times like the psychopath he is. Recently he was also exposed being outside the houses of his mistresses making those videos after that one he made with his wife confessing and talking about being closer to God. He’s S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 01:00 AM |
| 30 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalHe even emphasized in that third person response video, “My wife has her own mind she’s her own person” (which makes me think the opposite is true: he has conditioned and abused her to walk on eggshells) along with “At least derrick jaxn took accountability” right before promoting his new book on how he and his wife moved through infidelity ☠️ like... bruh you guys are still living through all this when did you have time to write and promote a book?! The extent to which he tries to convince his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:16 AM |
| 48 | Great take on Derrick Jaxn cheating scandalOn her Instagram she has very unsettling posts about being traumatized and constantly comparing herself to other women. She has had severe traumas before Derrick came into the picture ten years ago and I believe he targeted her due to her vulnerabilities as well as her strengths. He used her spirituality against her (he doesn’t believe any of that religious stuff I’ll bet — just uses it as a prop to keep his wife hoping he’s going to be “saved” and redeemed). I believe Derrick coerced her into s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Yes!! Well said! It still benefits men and is so condescending to women (who tend to be way out of the league of these LVM — often the LVM has to chase us down to even get us invested in the first place. If anything we aren’t into them until they pretend to be the perfect partner initially or at the very least pretend to be a healthy candidate for dating). I think the most essential message we can take away from any dating book is: stop wasting your time on manipulators and users. But I suppose … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.This. Some deeply manipulative narcissists will go out of their way to flaunt their new victims to their old ones to inflict maximum pain. It’s a sadistic way to maintain control and it’s also pretty absurd/transparent once you begin to see through it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:40 AM |
| 2 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Exactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Thank you for sharing this. They could have the most beautiful and intelligent woman on their arm and treat them like shit. And a lot of us also know that we were out of the league of these sociopathic LVMs in so many ways and were still mistreated. So it really has very little to do with the woman IMO in these cases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:37 AM |
| 5 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Hear hear!! I actually despise that book and the author gives me the creeps. I can’t explain it but it’s an instinct I have. LOL. He even had a little snippet in there of watching a woman he ghosted completely move onto a different partner and running into her while she looked beautiful and radiant and being loved on by her HVM...but reframed it as, “But see...me and my wife are a better match. It’s good she moved on and realized I wasn’t into her!” Lowkey I got vibes that were like, “How dare s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:34 AM |
| 4 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.Brilliant. Thank you for posting this. While I understand that the phrase “If he wanted to he would” is a helpful way to jolt women out of their fixation on a man who will not provide what they’re seeking, I also think sometimes it can come across unintentionally as, “You just weren’t the right one he’ll do it with another one.” I know that’s not the intention but it has always rubbed me the wrong way. Your post says it perfectly. If someone is an empathy deficient manipulator he’s not going to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:55 AM |
| 12 | I went on a walk today and a man spit in my faceI am so so sorry that happened to you!! Please file a report if you can. You did not deserve this horrific treatment. Disgusting and illegal especially during a pandemic. These hateful scrotes are vile. I was harassed by a man on a bike last summer who kept calling to me. I stopped because silly me thought he might be wanting directions since he was on the younger side. He called me beautiful and when I said thank you and kept walking, he began verbally abusing me and degrading me. I made sure t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 01:10 AM |
| 108 | Caught a man filming me yesterdaySo sorry that happened to you. Yes, it happened to me a couple weeks ago. A guy saw me sitting on a park bench and started coming toward me after creepily staring at me. I got up and left, walked far away and sat on a different bench. He followed me there too and started taking pictures of my legs. Instinctively, I began photographing him taking pics of me and used it to document the harassment and later expose him. It happens more often than we think. I know it feels very violating. Sending you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 12:55 AM |
| 6 | Woody Allen is the REAL victim according to Dr Todd Grande and his many fan....Ah no this was a great thread, thanks for reposting! I’ll repost what I wrote on the original: I am so glad you posted this. Dr. Todd Grande has been on my “suspicious” radar for a looong time. In his videos he tries to “humanize” narcissists and psychopaths and tries to say that since he is “scientifically informed” he is right. Except there is just as much if not overwhelmingly more scientific evidence supporting the fact that malignant narcissists and psychopaths are destructive to our societ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/21 09:47 PM |
| 8 | Despite of behaving like a pedo in his art, interviews and real life for years and years, men will always conclude he's innocent it seemsAbsolutely. I can imagine him pulling out some research articles during a session and being like, “Well you said you were abused but this peer reviewed article says otherwise...” Like Todd ... man shut your mouth. 🤣 I know over 100+ research articles peer reviewed too I could point to in order to dispute every single one of his half assed claims about predators and narcissists. But the point is when someone tries to overintellectualize the lived experiences of abuse victims it shows their bias. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 11:24 PM |
| 35 | Despite of behaving like a pedo in his art, interviews and real life for years and years, men will always conclude he's innocent it seemsI am so glad you posted this. Dr. Todd Grande has been on my “suspicious” radar for a looong time. In his videos he tries to “humanize” narcissists and psychopaths and tries to say that since he is “scientifically informed” he is right. Except there is just as much if not overwhelmingly more scientific evidence supporting the fact that malignant narcissists and psychopaths are destructive to our society. Tired of his fan club swooning over his “scientific analysis” which is just BS for “I am whi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 09:56 PM |
| 2 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseThat’s a good point! If he can’t be found it may be a fake identity or he may be hiding something. You’re right! Interestingly, Tinder has recently set up “Verification” for your pictures (you take a live time selfie for Tinder to verify that the pics on your profile are of you) but that doesn’t necessarily mean the Facebook profile the profile is linked to is actually real. It just means he’s not catfishing physically — but he can hide all sorts of things otherwise. They need more measures to k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:20 PM |
| 3 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t Disclosewho are HVW* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:13 PM |
| 4 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseFor some reason through the Reddit app I wasn’t able to put pictures of the (censored) photos of the screenshot I had so this is the closest I could get to describing him so y’all could enjoy his ridiculousness! 🤣😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 01:07 PM |
| 6 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseUgh!! They have no boundaries and yes some of them are actual predators. I’ve experienced stalking/harassment/being followed (both from strangers and ppl I’ve dated). So women are not being too vigilant when they are careful about these things — their intuition is completely on point. I resonate with your OLD intrusive questions experience too. I have found that the ones who ask “what are you looking for” within minutes of matching either want to know if they can use you for a hookup which is wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:53 PM |
| 8 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t Disclose💯 OLD is like Dante’s undiscovered tenth circle of hell. 😂 You’re right, we should never internalize the actions of these scrotes. Many predatory men gravitate toward OLD. They know it’s an endless supply of victims. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:49 PM |
| 3 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseAbsolutely. It could be any one of those things. It made me feel very uneasy. I am not someone who spooks that easily (sadly desensitized by chronic harassment/stalking/catcalling/manipulators) but this did spook me and his profile pic gave me Armie Hammer vibes too (I didn’t look at it that closely when we initially matched, observed it more was when I was reporting him). Something about the coldness of his eyes. Shudder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:42 PM |
| 3 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t Discloseabout the lived experiences of women* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:38 PM |
| 9 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseSo glad you declined!! 🙏 Him being offended says it all. Only within minutes of speaking with you he thought it was appropriate to invite you to his ranch rather than a safe meeting location...sounds very predatory. Even in the case that he was just being dense, it is outrageous that they don’t get why that would be a safety concern for women — so there’s a lot of misogyny and ignorance about the lived experiences to unpack there. So often women are socialized to be polite and kind to potential … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:38 PM |
| 5 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseThat is terrifying! 😱 Thank you for sharing that, I will look it up. There are definitely some dangerous predators out there. And some men (the low value ones) wonder why are women so hypervigilant. Hypervigilance has become our natural state and a protective measure after years of catcalling, harassment, emotional abuse, rape culture etc. they really do not understand what it is like to be a woman. Something like a walk outside which is simple for them to do could mean a whole host of safety is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:32 PM |
| 7 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseAbsolutely, I haven’t used OLD to actually go on dates in a while. Just have convos once in a while which I also took a break from until yesterday. I completely agree it’s a waste of time and dangerous. Where I live it’s a popular way of meeting people but it’s simply not worth all the trauma. It also tends to be these sites that psychopaths and narcissists flock to. Funnily enough this is one of the rare times I matched with an older scrote — I have usually stayed away from anyone in the age ra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 12:24 PM |
| 38 | OLD is Rarely Worth It: Misogynist Online Wanted to Know Where I Lived, Insulted Me When I Didn’t DiscloseOh yes! I reported him for soliciting personal info and included all the screenshots in my report. I’ve also passed on his picture and profile to some trusted people just in case. It’s sickening how many risks women face simply through online interactions alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:49 AM |
| 3 | Block and Delete Him, Sis. Otherwise he will suck you back in or try to gaslight you.I love this. 😂 Karma at its finest. Well done! These monsters deliberately harm innocent people. Not gonna lie, when it comes to predators it is good to see them get their feelings hurt. I sometimes regret not being more “mean” and saying how I truly honestly felt brutally to those who went out of their way to be cruel for no good reason. We are socialized to protect even the most evil of human beings and their feelings...while they maim us and cause long lasting damage. It’s a double standard. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:39 AM |
| 7 | Block and Delete Him, Sis. Otherwise he will suck you back in or try to gaslight you.Had a similar textual experience to yours (the suddenly becoming a wordsmith when gaslighting) and I think it reveals that they know exactly what they’re doing and how they’re manipulating you. It shows they have the capacity to put in effort to do the right thing but choose not to and instead put all their efforts into gaslighting and diverting blame instead. The problem was never us communicating enough but the fact that they are devoted to misunderstanding us for their own agendas. They know … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:30 AM |
| 40 | Vet vet vet to prevent this!I no longer believe they are clueless. Some are straight up sociopathic and intentionally cruel. I can’t imagine anyone with empathy not thinking this stuff through. Many empathic women do it all the time; they overthink what they say and do in an effort to consider the feelings of others. Sociopaths don’t because the point is to humiliate, to stroke their own ego, to play mind games, to feel like they’re the ones doing the rejecting, to get off on the cruelty and then to use the pity ploy to ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 12:36 AM |
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