Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of time

electroloop · 2021-08-10T21:42:11+00:00

Agreed.

Also never assume a man will change his mind and want anything more than FWB or casual. Men categorize us very quickly and will assign their intent with you within the first few dates.

Aocwannabe · 2021-08-10T22:01:05+00:00

Yeah, wtf happened in our culture where people are terrified to state openly that they want committed relationships?

I know people get skittish but we have been taught to “hustle backwards”. Maybe establish first that you want the same things and then proceed vs “just having fun” and then being disappointed when you are only ever in situationships with men who don’t love or respect you?

And don’t even get me started on the “cool girl” faction with their low self- esteem disguised as “I just want something casual”. No, you don’t because you have cried to me about it many times over.

honeybeeroll · 2021-08-10T21:52:34+00:00

Yes! Just commented w/ a similar message on another post. I think this is why tons of relationships and even marriages fail. People date w/o intent, or look for mainly superficial compatibility, they fuck right away, and just keep dating because of "feelings." Then when the honeymoon phase dies down, and those emotions become less intense, they realize they don't have much else to hang the relationship on, they're actually not compatible. Usually these incompatibilities are present early on, but were ignored cuz the people weren't dating w/ intent - they weren't thinking "what qualities will create a good long term partner, a good husband, a good father?" They just dated to see what would happen.

Resident-Equipment95 · 2021-08-10T23:39:18+00:00

This is so important. I recently entertained a very handsome man who met all my standards and was pursuing me heavily, despite the fact he lives out of state. We met up once, had a nice time, and even kissed, but I regretted it immediately afterwards. I don’t have a future with someone I have to travel to date (or vice versa), and I would rather cut off my left arm than move for a man. So although he was nice, I wasted my time. Moving forward I’m dating only with strong intent.

top_of_the_stairs · 2021-08-10T20:59:31+00:00

Settling only ever brought me pain in the end (and throughout). Don’t be like me - She Who Only Learns Things the Hard Way. Lonely & horny hurts way less than heartbroken & lonely & horny.

Catz10000 · 2021-08-10T22:23:55+00:00

Especially your first paragraph made me think of shark infested waters. If we're already wading into danger, we should be cautious and get out to safety as soon as possible.

Title	Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of time
Author	letsberealforamoment
Upvotes	494
Comments	16
Date	August 10, 2021 8:49 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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