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| 46 | 4th Date Field Report'I asked what his mom is like. I have gotten answers "like a devil and an angel in the same body". Fucking RUN. I'm not even going to touch the triangulating/surrogacy/feeling threatened by other men/weird issues with race/trauma dumping/gaslighting. This isn't one or two red flags, this is a Communist rally. Get the hell out while you still can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 06:29 PM |
| 34 | What are your observations about women cock blocking/“clitoferencing” other women?I call this Caroline Bingley syndrome. Guys can see through this, and no one is more repulsed by desperation than men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 06:04 PM |
| 22 | Is dating bad or are you bad at dating?Amal Clooney was 35 before she met George Clooney and Meghan Markle 36 before she met and started dating Prince Harry. Both are beautiful, smart women who forged successful careers for themselves before meeting their life partners. Getting with the wrong man could have completely derailed Amal's life and career in her 20's and she might never have met George Clooney. You never know what the universe has in store for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:57 PM |
| 18 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?Oh my God, abort mission. This dude is a Grade A asshole. He's spending 80% of his week at your house and not paying a dime?? This is outrageous. My jaw is on the floor from the audacity. I'm truly sorry, OP, but he's playing you for a chump. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:41 PM |
| 119 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?He stays over my house like 5x a week Well that was your first mistake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:33 PM |
| 17 | What do you all think about the Johnny Depp v Amber Heard trialI guess that's why Depp is pushing it, he doesn't care about his image (because he's a man and knows he'll be forgiven) and just wants to hurt her. Gross. This is about control. That's why he keeps dragging her back to court. She'll never be free of him. This psycho will spend the rest of his life trying to destroy her and his deluded fans will cheer him on. I hope the drugs and alcohol kill him quickly because he already looks like a bloated corpse, but unfortunately, evil men like him seem to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 11:37 AM |
| 14 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 59 - 40 Years a NEET: Reflections of a Stay-At-Home SonI agree with Lilith on this one: people like this are beyond saving. It sounds harsh, but this individual adds nothing to society and is simply a drain on other people's time, resources and effort. He's had 40 years to turn his life around and simply refuses. The world would honestly be a better place without him in it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 11:22 AM |
| 141 | women shouldn't make men wait for sex proved with "data and psychology"Finally, for me sex just does not feel good unless there's commitment and emotional connection, period. mAyBe yOu'rE dEmiSexUaL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 04:16 PM |
| 147 | Dealing with being purposefully celibateSome people have mentioned on here too that once you start giving the same love and affection you wanted from a partner, to yourself- sometimes your insatiable need for sex will lower because often, the need for sex is really you just needing some kind of emotional connection or to feel loved. I’ve found this to be true as well. This x1000. When I ended things with my narc ex, the thought of not having sex was unbearable (and I say this as someone who never did hook ups/casual sex) and I would c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 04:12 PM |
| 100 | Wishing a Happy 20th Anniversary to One of the Best FDS-Approved Rom-Coms of All Time: My Big Fat Greek Wedding!This and Legally Blonde are the gold standard of FDS-aligned movies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 08:11 AM |
| 23 | Had a guy lose interest because I told him I do not like to partyI'm confident enough to interact with people in daylight hours without a needing a fuckton of drugs or alcohol in my system. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/22 05:38 AM |
| 5 | all this going on farida.d. author is a reminder men are not our alliesHe was 10 years older than me and about 5'6. This feels relevant: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DTsdKycVZZ4&ab_channel=ChrisFleming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 06:38 AM |
| 299 | PSA: A high value man will not be into BDSM.How a man treats a woman in the bedroom is the clearest indicator of how he views them outside the bedroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 06:33 AM |
| 9 | Playing the cool girl won't get you pickedHow do you tell them this especially when they’re younger and they don’t wanna listen and are heavily influenced by their peers and the media? Depending on their age, could you direct them to FDS style TikToks? I'm not a fan of them being posted here, because, well, I'm a grown adult over the age of 30, but young people will absolutely internalize the messages they're getting on those short videos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 06:15 AM |
| 77 | Reminder: Men will keep you around for however long is convenient for them - even if they’re not that into you. Break up at the first sign of his disinterest because he will NOT do it for you. 3rd slide is a commenter.The only indication of this was years prior, he'd drunkenly panic-admitted that he was worried about "what he's missing out on". On the (very) rare occasions my father gets drunk, he tells my mom and me how much he loves us and how proud he is of his family. In vino veritas, as they say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/22 06:09 AM |
| 15 | Dating “inequality” “data analysis”-🤣Guys, if you're facially malnourished, go yell at your dad for impregnating your mom and not caring about your love life. I just spat water over my keyboard. I freaking love this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/22 06:20 AM |
| 10 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 58 - The Great SlapGate Debate: Is Male Violence Ever The Answer?I'm awful with names and haven't listened to this episode yet but I feel like Lilith (I think it's her) though very funny and insightful often speaks in a LV way. She's mentioned before on previous episodes how she's happy to keep LV men in her orbit if they're doing things for her, which rubs me the wrong way. The reason I love FDS is because it encourages us to act with moral integrity and in accordance with the values we wish to find in a partner. We don't use or manipulate people, we just re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/22 07:34 PM |
| 3 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.His video essay on Riverdale is fantastic, where he calls out the show's racism and the fact that Archie's only function is to exist as a porn category for the creator's creepy fetishes. He's due to drop a video essay on The Vampire Diaries next and I can't wait to see him utterly eviscerate the show after its second season. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 05:31 PM |
| 45 | my bangmaid actually has a mind, a soul, and is a person! who knew?This letter has real "I, a painfully average male, could definitely beat Serena Williams in a tennis match" energy. I hope Alice writes a story about his tiny peen and fragile ego just to really highlight how worthless he truly is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 09:45 AM |
| 30 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.Freeze your eggs and get sterilized if you're in a relationship and plan on having kids. Otherwise, just go straight for the sterilization, stock up on BC (just in case) and don't have sex with a man until he has moved heaven and earth to be with you. If they want to make sex riskier for women, we will simply have to increase the price of access to us until 99.9999% of men won't have a chance to even touch a woman. Unfortunately, this country is full of Serena Joys and Aunt Lydias who will colle… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/22 09:37 AM |
| 35 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.It isn't exactly 'edgy' when every single show is doing it. Even Tolkien isn't safe. The new LOTR series on Amazon Prime has apparently had casting calls for nudity and hired an 'intimacy' coach. Respected Tolkien scholar Tom Shippey (who was consulted on the LOTR movies and talks enthusiastically on the extended DVD extras) has left the project which is an indicator of things to come. The makers of the show have described Galadriel - Galadriel! - as "full of piss and vinegar". Utterly offensive… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 11:55 AM |
| 57 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.This. It's wearying having boobs and butts being constantly shoved in my face when I'm just trying to enjoy a good story? I signed up to watch a TV series not a freaking porno. This obsession with watching other people having sex or simulating having sex is just weird to me. Let people have their fucking privacy. I also can't stop thinking how awkward and uncomfortable it must be for the poor female actresses standing around stark naked in front of an entire camera crew then having to start moan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 10:58 AM |
| 37 | A Porn Producer's Take on Bridgerton and Similar Explicit Shows: They Are No Different From Porn.Friendly Space Ninja on Youtube has done a pretty good video essay outlining how/why the show is trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/22 06:34 AM |
| 37 | Run if he tries to create false intimacy with you.55 comments, only about a third visible. You triggered some scrotes, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 07:32 AM |
| 49 | Netflix has been producing lots of pick-me and lvm propaganda latelyIf you want to see a brilliant Jane Austen adaptation, watch 'Love and Friendship'. It's based on the novel 'Lady Susan' and is laugh out loud funny, but in a way that is authentic to the time period. Kate Beckinsale is magnificent in the lead role and it's so refreshing to have an amoral female main character who doesn't get punished or humiliated horribly at the end. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8MaSK3POHI0&ab_channel=MovieclipsTrailers "What a mistake you made in marrying him. Too old to b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 06:56 AM |
| 14 | "policing of emotions"?Present! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 07:17 AM |
| 8 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsI love The Take. Their recent video calling out Game of Thrones was brilliant. I'm so glad their channel is gaining popularity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 07:04 AM |
| 14 | Hot Take: Marvel/DC Superhero culture is doing to men and boys what Disney did to women and girlsThink about a typical movie or TV show. When something goes wrong, the characters are written so that everyone looks to the male leader for instructions or a plan. How does this reflect real life at all? In real life I can't think of a crisis where women didn't just take care of themselves, but others and children. This is why I love the original Jurassic Park. Dr Ellie Sattler is the one problem solving and getting shit done while Alan Grant is relegated to the babysitter role and is pretty irr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/22 07:00 AM |
| 78 | Reminded me of the podcast episode y’all did on the Pick Me Disney Princesses 🤣This is why I really like The Hunchback of Notre Dame. It teaches girls that you are not obligated to date the ugly socially reclusive dude just because he's romantically interested in you and happens to be 'nice'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 03:58 PM |
| 0 | Upset a bunch of scrotes with my last post. So much so that someone got Reddit to reach out to me for my mental health."Costed" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 03:55 PM |
| 17 | Subtle signs a man is going to be a terrible fatherOooh, this is a good one! Ask him if he would adopt if he 'couldn't find the right woman' to have kids with. lbr, of course he wouldn't because man cannot fathom/comprehend putting in the actual work that goes into raising a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 06:50 PM |
| 73 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?The quiet confidence thing is real. Every man I've ever known who sported a python had this calm, quiet self-assurance about them. Not loud or brash or arrogant or obnoxious. These guys knew they didn't have anything to prove and didn't need to overcompensate with toxic masculine behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 06:49 PM |
| 29 | HVM prefer monogamous relationshipsSometimes this song just randomly pops into my head and I burst out laughing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 06:35 PM |
| 100 | The amount of pickmes on reddit is too highThis is SO convincing, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 05:38 PM |
| 103 | The audacitySomehow, I doubt he touches other men's lower backs when he needs to get past them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 05:34 PM |
| 23 | What’s the FDS-flavoured tea on cold approaches? Advice appreciated.Yes, I don't think a cold approach necessarily has to be salacious. I dress in classic, tailored clothes, and if I'm sitting at an airport alternating between reading my book and people watching, a man might be attracted to the way I present myself (sophisticated, educated, well-traveled, interested in the world around me) and want to get to know me based on those impressions. That being said, I never get approached by creeps in public (when I was a teenager, different story!) and have been told… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 05:29 PM |
| 18 | If you need to ask for it, just leave - You want PROACTIVE, not compliant!This needs to be in the Handbook. Fantastic post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 05:14 AM |
| 5 | FDS subreddit is NOT a landfill for depraved male content.Thank you for this. I want to leave FDS feeling motivated and empowered (not in a LibFem way) not sick, paranoid and despairing. It genuinely harms our wellbeing to be exposed to an onslaught of depraved content. Our space should be wholesome and affirming, not just another sick corner of the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 05:52 PM |
| 24 | A decent strategy guide to land a man /sKeep in regular contact with your hot, ripped Male Best Friend. Be sure to text him frequently in front of your boyfriend and have long phonecalls in the evening or on weekends. Bonus points if he's taller than the guy you're dating. Make sure you're spending plenty of 1-1 time with your male best friend. If your boyfriend gets mad, explain that the guy is like a brother to you and that he's being insecure. Then tell your male best friend all about your relationship problems and go to him for ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/22 05:45 AM |
| 5 | I have the BIGGEST Pick Me, Insecure Roommate.. What to do?You stay the fuck away from her. You already said she "judges" you. This is absolutely the type of girl who will spike your drink and set you up to get date raped by one of her fraternity scrotes to "bring you down a peg" and "teach you a lesson." She's a roommate. There is literally no reason to be socializing with her or having any kind of interaction at all beyond "good morning" or anything that isn't related to your shared living space (chores, etc.) The fact that you know this much detail a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 06:52 AM |
| 49 | Why you should NEVER accept a 50/50 relationship: THIS. Imagine how life is if she just stay single and work on her business alone.Same with my parents. My mom was a SAHM but thank goodness she married a HVM and had access to everything in the joint account. My father also purchased outright a second home in her name only, so she would have her own assets if anything ever happened to him prematurely. THIS is how a man who loves you behaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/22 05:51 PM |
| 174 | My morning tea- How can men be so oblivious?"General anxiety" my ass. He wasn't too anxious to fuck a woman he barely knows and kick her out like a used prostitute. They talk such utter shit. Don't trust anything that comes spewing out of their mouths. Your actions showed who you are, buddy. You're a horrible person. Now leave this poor girl alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:50 PM |
| 14 | How do queens handle a lukewarm man?Thank you. Posts like this are really helpful. We get so many 'red flag' posts, so it's useful to see what actual positive behavior from genuine men looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 62 | This is not the flex she thinks she is. When will we grow out of encouraging women to stay with men who hurt them?Exactly. Would you pat yourself on the back if your alcoholic friend repeatedly tried to give up drinking but you just nodded and said "there there" every time they went back to the bottle? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:30 PM |
| 41 | "I am afraid if I let him pay for dinner & dates OR don't go 50/50 with him OR let him pay for me all the time OR fully provide for me - he will have full control over every aspect of my life because I am financially dependent on him."You're still paid less than male counterparts, still having to pay for sanitary products and expected by society to be paying for a ton of beauty products to look 'acceptable'. You're still having to pay for a cab home instead of walking at night because it's too dangerous. I get irritated when I see the "but women give biiiiirth" argument on FDS. There's a fuck ton of reasons why women are screwed over financially in this world, completely irrelevant to whether a woman has children or not. We'r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 06:01 PM |
| 43 | Half the comments have sense, the other half are… highkey horrifyingI weigh about 98 pounds and my boyfriends wouldn't even try and tickle me. They all treated me like I was made of spun glass because they fucking knew their own strength and wouldn't ever put me in a vulnerable position. Men. Know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/22 05:48 PM |
| 11 | I'm sick of media romanticizing male infidelity, this needs to stop NOWUgh, Poldark. The main character literally rapes his ex fiancee in Season 2, yet we're still supposed to root for him and Demelza? Fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:32 PM |
| 16 | My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him!Do I look like a man with a plan? No. In fact, you don't look like a man at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:19 PM |
| 30 | My pre-FDS self would have gone with this. My current self unmatched him!Scatter my ashes, I'm deceased. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:17 PM |
| 8 | Jesus Christ, is she in the Pick-Me Olympics? Did not see 1 tiktok encouraging men 2 give their woman oral sex. Her feed is just pandering to male pleasure constantly. Women get enough pressure from porn fried society to give head. It’s men who need a reminder to eat a woman out and make her orgasm.I have no sympathy for women like this. These fucking Handmaidens that promote male abuse and throw young girls to the wolves deserve everything they get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 06:15 PM |
| 80 | My 3 Year Old Son's bus driver this morning was disgustingly inappropriate with me . .Not only should you complain, but if there any other moms that use this service, tell ALL of them. This sick creep is relying on your silence. Put him on blast and ensure he can never hold his head up in public again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:49 PM |
| 6 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?I love this analogy! It also demonstrates how you can have two amazing dishes but for whatever reason, they're just not right together. Or some dishes that are cheap garbage pretending to be gourmet, and some is straight up rotten. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:42 PM |
| 46 | Do you believe in the idea of soulmate or soulmates?Mine is my dog! He just gets me. When I had Covid, he literally curled up next to me and wouldn't leave my side all day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/22 05:38 PM |
| 8 | The Hardest HVW Lesson *for me*: No one is going to save you.I say this as someone fortunate enough to have family that will move mountains for me: the exhaustion is real. Having to navigate through life's trials can be so, so tiring and sometimes you just long to rest and let someone else come in and take care of things. It reminds of of that Daenerys quote from A Dance With Dragons: “It is such a long way,” she complained. “I was tired, Jorah. I was weary of war. I wanted to rest, to laugh, to plant trees and see them grow. I am only a young girl.” "It … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:46 PM |
| 28 | Why “safewording” is not as safe as the kink community paints it to be. 💔 ‘consent’ here really doesn’t mean much when it comes to trying to claim it isn’t abuse. There’s an unhealthy power dynamic where the ‘sub’ feels like they cannot deny their ‘dom’ of pleasure through being put through torture.The concept of "safewording" has always been insane to me. If sex involves putting someone in literal physical danger, you're doing it wrong. You don't want to have sex. You want to enact socially mandated torture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:29 PM |
| 62 | for the love of god stop explaining yourselfAlso remember, the reason men hate ghosting so much is because it works in your favor. This. You never have men agonizing months later over a "witty" clapback you gave them. Ghosting them? Will haunt then for YEARS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:21 PM |
| 31 | reminder: power, not empowerment; equity, not equalitypatriarchy engineered the world so that women will think they are in need of male approval at every step. women wear like a second skin their own internalized male gaze. when they look in the mirror critically, they have the eye of the aesthetic surgeon, when they like what they see they remember the appreciative gaze of the lusty boyfriend and when they cover themselves and hie their body, they remember their insistent, harassing boss who pawed at their bottom in the lift. but can't a woman jus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 06:13 PM |
| 207 | Beware of the man with a female friend/female friends"Good friends with his ex" and "female best friend" = RUN. There's always some weird sexual shit involved. The only way to win is not to play. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 05:59 PM |
| 13 | Reddit advising women to "be honest and straightforward, don't play mind games" when the wife caught the husband cheating/or lying.Yet when a woman cheats: "Leave her bro, she's for the streets. You deserve better. Also, that b*tch deserves to get m*rdered." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 08:02 AM |
| 33 | Stay. Away. From. These. Bum. Ass. “Estranged”. Single. Dads. (P.S - baby mama? Baby mama?….You mean the woman whom he impregnated and to whom he had two children? Girllll i-) the tomfooleryIf he's living under the same roof as his "ex", they're 100% still having sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 07:59 AM |
| 32 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?There are literally rural country shows where livestock are groomed, collared and paraded around while judges vote and give prizes for the best specimen. How is this any different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 07:53 AM |
| 22 | Red flag: The man who disagrees with everything you have to sayI did this to my friend's contrarian ex. He was talking utter bullshit about the restaurants in a city I had lived in for a year, making some really backwards generalizations. I calmly told him he was completely wrong as I had lived there and eaten out in a wide range of different restaurants (and not in the tourist areas) and not a single one of them had this particular feature he was describing. I had also traveled extensively around the country to rural areas and his assumption was still comp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 11:21 AM |
| 14 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️When I first joined FDS, I came across the advice that for a truly successful relationship, the man needs to be slightly more in love with the woman than she is with him. At first I thought this too bleak/depressing, but on observation, this really is the case with every HV relationship I've observed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 07:57 AM |
| 19 | Male/Female FriendshipI have one straight male friend and he lives in a different state. We video chat once every few months and our conversations revolve around work, travel plans, books/media we're consuming etc. He doesn't sleep around, and when his last relationship ended, said he needed some space to recover in his own time and didn't trauma dump/use me for emotional labor, but simply reached out when things we're getting back on track in his life. I've met his family who are lovely and he has never turned conve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 07:51 AM |
| 7 | Why does being hyper feminine translate into bimbo for some of tiktok? I don’t understand this trend and the point. I love pink, purple, dresses, typically “girly” things. However, I don’t see how degrading ourselves with a misogynistic term that has no positive meaning would ‘take back our power’.And arguably Bones, but I feel like Booth got just as much screentime as the show went on (even the posters/promotional images have both characters in equal prominence). Emily Deschanel and David Boreanaz felt more like co-leads than a main character-sidekick dynamic (whereas with Sherlock, Sherlock was clearly the main character and focus). This doesn't even mention shows that did have fantastic female co-leads that got booted from their own show (see: Castle and Sleepy Hollow). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 07:13 AM |
| 44 | Ofc he blames it on her and not himselfThis is actually really dangerous. Your body needs "rest days". Muscle tissue needs time to repair itself! Exercising to this point becomes counterproductive as it actually becomes harmful to your body. Athletes have professional trainers who are experts in their field and formulate personalized training plans based on the specific body type/sport of the athlete in question and know to let their athletes rest when needed so they don't permanently fucking maim themselves. I also guarantee she's n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 06:23 AM |
| 9 | 39 Domestic Violence Lethality IndicatorsAnother reason not to date a man with 'depression.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:51 AM |
| 1299 | I don’t even know what to say 🤦🏼♀️Him: "I like where we're at now" = "I like using you for sex and stringing you along for my convenience while getting all the bangmaid perks that require no commitment on my part. I'm audacious enough to do this because I know you're desperately in love with me and won't leave, so I can waste your fertile years until I find someone I deem to be more in my league, at which point I'll drop you without a second thought and marry the new chick in less than 6 months, leaving you broken and reeling wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:46 AM |
| 8 | Scruffy aged man (Simon Baker) has a meeting with an "OLD-er" woman. I don't always scroll through the daily mail but when I do, it's posts like these that make me snort. Media is ready to devalue women and put scruffy men on pedestals. The comments call them out.What he used to look like: https://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Simon_Baker#/media/File:Simon_Baker_2013_4.jpg BUT TELL ME AGAIN THAT IT'S WOMEN WHO 'HIT THE WALL.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 126 | What in the apron strings?!I hope they disown the son and adopt the girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:21 AM |
| 200 | Pickme women in the workplaceIt isn't an advantage. Trust me, these men are laughing at her behind her back and making gross sexualized comments/making bets on who will f*ck her first and basically thinking she's a wh*re. They have no respect for her professionally. The best way to get ahead in the workplace is to treat men with a cool, professional demeanor. Don't go out of your way for them, don't do shit for them, don't express emotion in front of them, don't do overtime for them, don't talk about personal matters with t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 07:01 AM |
| 44 | Nuff saidLiterally came here to say this. It is so, so easy for men to look good if they exerted the bare minimum of effort into their appearance. For any female lurkers here: stop dating ugly, unkempt cavetrolls. Raise the fucking bar. Teach men that a woman won't give him the time of day if he isn't clean, smart, well-dressed and hygienic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 08:05 AM |
| 163 | This comment section on Youtube reminded me of FDS. Keep brunching and treating yourself like the queens you are ladies. 💕It's refreshing to see his anger/frustration being directed towards other men (where the fault actually lies) rather than at the women in his life. I hope other men read his comments and take note. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:58 AM |
| 131 | I love this hot take 😂👏🏼Yes, we need to start normalizing the idea that men who can't afford a wife will have to remain single. A century ago, men knew this and were absolute grafters as a result. They knew they had to step up or remain alone forever. Now women are devoting their precious time, energy, beauty, money and emotions on lazy, unhygienic, ugly pornsick wastes of oxygen who won't even get out of a gaming chair. There's a reason these men shouldn't have access to women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 87 | Any experiences with a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, a man pretending to be a feminist…I wonder how many random guys he approaches in public for 'potential friendship'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.forcing women into a stupid never ending assault course trying to avoid the worst of them Perfectly put. The dating landscape - hell, even stepping outside your front yard and trying to live your life - is like walking into a daily warzone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:25 AM |
| 3 | Being vulnerable to help build intimacy in relationships.People here are talking like sharing trauma is the only way of building intimacy with a man. What the hell? I build intimacy through sharing with partners my favorite childhood vacation spot, the special recipe my Nan taught me, my passion for horse-riding and ice-skating that form some of my happiest memories, my nerdy obsession with broadway musicals... the list goes on. You don't need to divulge the time you were gang-raped or trafficked through 5 different countries to 'build intimacy' with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 07:18 AM |
| 5 | Made a mistake and fell backwards. Devastated and need help with feeling grounded back into the real world. “If he wanted to, he would.” has never hurt so bad.As though his dusty sperm is a selling point, lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 06:09 PM |
| 6 | It took me years to get out of the Pickme mindset.For the life of me, I have no clue why red pillers set up this antagonistic thing from the start. Just... why? Nothing good, kind, positive, hopeful, helpful, or loving ever comes from that. It makes perfect sense when you're trying to break a human, not love them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 07:19 AM |
| 3 | The most effort this dude has put into anything. Block and Toss.Every man I've dated has this handwriting. Every. Single. One. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 09:08 AM |
| 11 | Men when they say "it's so sad when women don't want to date and live a little! Men and women need each other because of their differences!"Really? Because for me, 'living' is having the time to excel in my career, read books, explore new recipes, discover new running trails with my dog, go travelling and have city breaks, decorate my home, get tickets to museums/art galleries/the theater, go on spa breaks, update my wardrobe, listen to audiobooks/podcasts, enrich my relationships with friends and family... What 'living' is not: sitting with some scrote on his grimy couch watching Netflix all day with the possible 'reward' of limp, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 07:56 AM |
| 86 | Scrote whines about having no free time while his wife does all the work. Oh, and he’s cheating on her. 🤡This is what got me. He's describing a literal 9-5 job. An average 40 hour work week. Oh, the hardship. I know a junior doctor who worked 80 hours last week. And he's not complaining about it because a) he's too tired, and b) he doesn't have fucking time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 07:10 AM |
| 22 | I’m begging...please! End the cultural idea that husbands are an extra little kid women have to drag along and care for - if he’s not making your life easier/better, drop him off at this “day care” and never pick him up again.I've seen older men doing this for their wives and it's really cute! And when they're paying, guess who's pulling out the credit card? (Hint: it's not her) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 07:06 AM |
| 31 | Absolutely 100%All women need to have the physical standards of gay men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/22 07:04 AM |
| 10 | Men who glorify villainsThis. The reason I find villains like the Marquise de Merteuil from Dangerous Liaisons or Amy Dunne from Gone Girl compelling is because they are expressing female rage in a world where women are expected to smile and shut up: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2XB_Wp4_2c&ab_channel=VeroniqueLaurent https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0o4heKCLeTs&ab_channel=KristiRushiti Both women realize they are born into a world where they are trapped in certain roles they are expected to perform, and they rebel a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 05:38 PM |
| 8 | I just realized that women are encouraged to apologize for wanting, well anything and I'm done GAF"I'd rather be a bad bitch than the sad sack of shit I was when I was spending all my money and crying all the time over abusive boyfriends." Yes, isn't it funny how a woman putting herself first and being independent and happy is a 'bitch'? Almost like men and pickmes want us to be miserable... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 05:27 PM |
| 20 | Best friend is on her way to being a forever GFIs it patriarchal gaslighting or are all female babies secretly lobotomized at birth? Because we must all be walking around with some kind of brain damage to accept this shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 08:03 AM |
| 55 | It Took One MinuteI was at the gym last week doing a 5k on the treadmill and this middle-aged, overweight dude clambers onto the cross-trainer RIGHT NEXT TO ME. There was literally only one other person in the gym. Plenty of free machines. But no, this mouth breather HAD to get on the machine that was right next to mine. I was tempted to throw him a filthy look, but I remembered FDS: these men WANT our attention. Positive or negative, any interaction with a woman is a win for them. So I completely ignored him. A … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:51 AM |
| 33 | A recent post here got me thinking… who are women you look up to? In media, history, or even fictional characters?Audrey Hepburn. Actively helped with the WW2 resistance as a child and did so much incredible work for charity in her later years. She held her head high through adversity and never let fame go to her head. She seems to be someone who could also grow/learn from her mistakes. She had an affair with the married William Holden when she was younger, but years later, after she was married and he came sniffing around her again on the set of Paris When It Sizzles, she absolutely refused to engage with … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:41 AM |
| 15 | Anyone else feel like there is A LOT missing from this story??He sounds unhinged. Boring. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:26 AM |
| 85 | A reminder that you have more power than you thinkThis is also why every woman has heard some variation of "you deserve better." THEY FUCKING KNOW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:20 AM |
| 214 | You are never safe when online dating EVEN IN PUBLIC. Please be careful. TRIGGER ALERT: Assault and rapeI cannot fathom how they thought this was ok Porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 07:15 AM |
| 9 | Scrote high off confidence from “self-improvement” demands his female friend stop telling his hookups he’s sleeping around. Molly for president 2k24She literally told this dude to stop being nice to women, stop chasing women, stop texting them first, stop being available to them, act more mysterious FDS Rule Number 1: Men lie. I would bet my life savings that what Molly actually did was gently and tactfully told him he was coming across as creepily intense and stalkerish, but phrased it in a way that tried not to offend him (because female socialization). And instead of thinking "hmm, she's right, maybe I should let things develop at a more… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:59 AM |
| 21 | Scrote high off confidence from “self-improvement” demands his female friend stop telling his hookups he’s sleeping around. Molly for president 2k24This x10000000000000. If he can't attract women on his own, it's because he's broken somehow. 'Helping' these men have access to women just provides them with a target for their bitterness, rage and resentment. There are fewer things more dangerous than a 'late bloomer' man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 06:52 AM |
| 16 | Vetting strategy – women's periodsI'm shook right now. Since the pandemic started, my periods went from being every 28 days like clockwork (ever since I was 13) to 30+ day cycles and I have no idea why. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 06:21 AM |
| 286 | The Awakening is Hard.The hardest pill for me to swallow was realizing that the vast majority of men don't love or even like the women they're in relationships with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:21 AM |
| 17 | Suspicious?I never knew this! Thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:50 PM |
| 46 | Nightmare Fuel. My heart is broken for this mother and her daughter.Of course the police did nothing. Of fucking course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:44 PM |
| 48 | Nightmare Fuel. My heart is broken for this mother and her daughter.I'm sure as hell never having kids. Why would I birth a daughter and provide future men with another woman to abuse? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:43 PM |
| 76 | In group outings, what should we look for in how men treat women and other men?Watch how he treats women he doesn't want to fuck. Does he treat them with politeness, courtesy and respect, or are they invisible to him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 06:18 AM |
| 11 | Can we ask HVM to change in smaller ways?This. The only way men gain belly fat is through extremely unhealthy habits (being sedentary, poor diet, alcohol abuse). It is stupidly easy for them to lose weight and gain muscle mass. Look at photos of men from 100 years ago. That is how men are supposed to look. It is not normal for them to atrophy from being in a gaming chair all day. I absolutely refuse to date a man who doesn't take his health seriously. I exercise 5 days a week, cook all my meals from fresh ingredients, don't eat takeout… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 07:20 AM |
| 6 | Big yikesI'm gonna throw this out there... but a HV person would not accept you doing this for them. They would literally rather sacrifice their own lives than see you put yours at risk and compromise your own quality of life. When I think of the few people I love unconditionally, not a single one of them would let me sacrifice a kidney for them. ETA: Unless you're doing it for your children. Obviously that's a different scenario. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:40 AM |
| 12 | If you don't receive romance, act as if you were a man not receiving sex. Meaning dump. Women need romance like men need sex. It's not our want, it's our need.This. 20 is so young. She has plenty of time to find an amazing guy that will be willing to respect her wishes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 06:19 AM |
| 6 | Poor woman terrified of her own husband. 💔Haha. I mean, it's not perfect - I get stressed at work sometimes when we have strict deadlines to meet and my Grandmother passed away just before Christmas, which was of course very sad. But these are NORMAL life stressers that just go with the ups and downs of human experience. And of course, I am endlessly grateful for the MANY positives that make those temporary challenges manageable. Women need to be taught the difference between what are expected/normal hardships and challenges in life we … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 08:16 AM |
| 9 | Is he an asshole or is it Aspergers?Also look at women on the autism spectrum-- we learn to be gentle, engaged, thoughtful and execute social skills. And they do this BY THEMSELVES. Men are coddled, babied, and enabled throughout their entire lives and even with all the understanding and support in the world, they still turn into monsters. I honestly couldn't care less if a man has 'autism' or 'aspergers'. I'm not wasting my time trying to be understanding or enabling them when there's a line of a hundred women before me who proba… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 07:15 AM |
| 29 | What would you tell your 10 year old self if you could?Do you you think a woman would be put at a disadvantage if she has never dated and has no idea what to expect? She’s grown her career and moved country. Has assets but no idea how men act, what she likes, what makes her happy? I went on countless dates in my 20's but only 2 of them turned into (short) relationships. Looking back, it was probably the best of both worlds. I learned some valuable lessons but also never compromised my education, career, money or living status for a man. I really thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 07:06 AM |
| 9 | Poor woman terrified of her own husband. 💔Yet bEinG aLoNe is supposedly the worst thing a woman can ever face. Bullshit. THIS is the worst. She is living through hell on earth. While my single self is in a secure profession with ample opportunities to advance as I don't plan on having kids, living in my own house (decorated to my preferences) with my loving dog, spending time with family and friends, having disposable income to travel and enjoy my hobbies (that I have time for because I'm not cleaning up after a lazy manchild), time for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:55 AM |
| 66 | Reminder to also vet your female roommates!I'm so glad I live alone. So much of my 20's was spent living with roommates whose boyfriends were constantly there. It's so awkward and uncomfortable having strange men in your house. You can't even relax in your own living space. I genuinely don't understand anyone who misses being in their 20's. Being in your 30's and having the financial means to live independently is absolute heaven. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:02 AM |
| 10 | Fantasising about fictional menAnother Faramir fangirl here! I adore the love story between him and Eowyn. It's refreshing to see the man being the gentle, poetic soul and the woman being the stoic one. It really shows the value that Tolkien placed on their relationship that he devoted an entire chapter to it in The Return of the King (while poor Aragorn and Arwen got relegated to the Appendices :-( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:53 PM |
| 31 | FDS Speaks: "[You] have yet to find a man you can fall in love with."They rule themselves out so QUICKLY now. I'll think "hmm... he's alright", then he'll say something problematic within the first 5 minutes and I'm like... NOPE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:40 PM |
| 9 | The Manlet Propaganda of Tall GirlElle McPherson's nickname was literally 'The Body' because her figure was so desirable. Somehow, I don't think the tall, leggy women who look like catwalk models are crying into their pillows at night because a 5'4 dude doesn't want them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 07:32 PM |
| 57 | If you broke just say that. If you’re insecure just say that. If you’re inadequate just say that. Men get on my damn nerves. One minute relationships should be 50/50. The next minute if we are too independent and have our shit together then we’re unqualified. Pick a damn struggle.Sounds exactly like the dumb argument people use on childfree women/men: wHaT iF yOuR sOuLmATe wAnTs kIdS? It's so fucking insulting. You never hear anyone say to a woman who wants children "what if your perfect man doesn't want kids?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 07:18 PM |
| 8 | The new Batman is a Peeping TomIt's like in the first season of You, where Beck is always getting undressed or having sex in front of these huge-ass windows at street level. But at least in that show, Joe is supposed to be a creepy stalker and his actions are framed as horrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 07:02 PM |
| 2 | I was told by a female colleague that at first sight I’m totally unapproachableWomen tell me I'm really sweet and men tell me they're scared of me, so I must be doing something right, lol. I guess it has to show in my face whenever I smell LVM energy, because I weigh about 105 pounds soaking wet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Ted is a softboi narcissist who specializes in lovebombing. Learn to differentiate someone who genuinely likes you and actually sees you for who you are VS. someone who idealizes you and puts you on a pedestal without truly knowing you on the deeper level.Throwing parties in the hopes you'll show up? Damn, these men really be reading The Great Gatsby, thinking it's a dating manual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 07:42 AM |
| 15 | A "good wife" guide from the 1950's and men still expect it in modern time.Do all this and watch him leave you for the woman who doesn't lift a finger for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 07:23 AM |
| 3 | A rant about beauty standards; men have no right to decide what women "should" look like.God yes! He's like... the perfect combination of pretty and completely masculine. Also, he does not seem to age. Unf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:25 PM |
| 53 | UPDATE: Part 1 of my 3 experience implementing the 3 month rule. I HAVE MADE A HUUUUUGE MISTAKE with cohabitation.Oh my God! I always remembered your post and wondered what had happened to you. I'm so sorry this happened, but your insight, maturity, bravery in sharing your story and ability to examine your behaviors through both a critical and compassionate lens is truly inspiring. I really appreciate you taking the time to do this as your story will help many women here. The longer I'm on FDS, the more I'm convinced that if you don't want/plan to have children, you should not move in with a man. Not ever. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/22 06:08 PM |
| 117 | Why are men so fucking weird ?And if they do get visibly irritated, it's because they see their lovely friend getting pawed at by this creep and want to get her the hell away from him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:10 PM |
| 18 | Wholesome❤️I almost downvoted this on instinct. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/22 06:05 PM |
| 18 | NVM is caught watching porn. Fiancée calls the wedding off and he’s worried about not getting the deposit back. Scrotes and pickmes come to his defense 🤡They genuinely think the porn companies are their friend when the entire machine is actively working to deprive them of real-life love, intimacy, connection and healthy partnerships in order to keep them hooked on their product. Hell, it's quite literally breaking their dicks and they STILL defend it. The delusion is staggering. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:45 PM |
| 20 | Don't tell him what red flags are a deal breaker for youPerfect analogy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:16 PM |
| 75 | This is why you never stay with a man who expresses interest in anal. What he really wants is to hurt and humiliate you.Yup, different buzzwords, same message. Please make this a post. It needs to be seen by lurkers on our main page and will hopefully wake some women up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/22 06:04 PM |
| 47 | Imagine being this uselessIt's honestly ridiculous how a woman choosing to be single if she hasn't met the right man means there is something 'wrong' with her, while a woman who coddles a lazy, inept moron who actively loathes her is considered 'acceptable' by society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:57 PM |
| 43 | Imagine being this uselessGod, being with men sounds exhausting. I don't know why women even bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:44 PM |
| 65 | Friends with Men?But it's by nature a "distant" friendship compared to what I have with female friends, because it's more about shared interests, hobbies and values, not emotional or for companionship. Yes. I have one straight male friend and we check in with each other once every 6 months (as opposed to female friends I'll chat with weekly) to catch up on what's going on in our lives. Even when he was going through a breakup, he messaged me to say "I may not be in touch for a while as I'm grieving the relations… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:50 AM |
| 7 | I wasn't asexual, nor aromantic, I was just really put off by LVMTolkien does also explore unhealthy relationships in The Silmarillion. The tale of Aredhel and Eol (coercive control) and Maeglin's (creepy incestuous incel) obsession with Idril are great cautionary tales and the narrative rightfully treats them as disgusting, disturbing and perverse. Tolkien absolutely knew what a healthy, HV relationship looked like and I will always love Lord of the Rings for modelling what healthy masculine behavior looks like. The male characters are strong, noble, courage… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 08:23 AM |
| 56 | The grooming of girls and womenThis is also why I love BBC family shows like Merlin and Robin Hood from the UK. Are they silly and campy? Sure! But they are a form of entertainment that feels oddly catered for the female gaze (lots of good-looking, HV men who frequently take their shirts off) and the women are allowed to be complex characters with their own goals and motivations. Oh, and they can be in a variety of dangerous situations that doesn't involve them getting fucking raped. It says a lot that shows like this are cat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:59 AM |
| 22 | Always keep this in mind, ladies ✨This. I always roll my eyes when I see a "How do I meet a HVM?" post on here and people chime in with "go to clubs! Get a hobby!" Meeting a HVM is about as likely as winning the lottery. It is pure dumb luck and there isn't really anything you can do to 'make' it happen. The best thing to do is live your life. If the right guy comes along, great. If not, you still have a wonderful, fulfilling life that makes you happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 07:44 AM |
| 50 | Why is "do literally anything other than a coffee or walk date" so hard for so many men to handle?This. You should be acting like you've never even HEARD of a coffee date. Every man you've dated in the past has wined and dined you, no exceptions. If a guy tries to lowball you like this, you play Dumb Fox and act all confused. Then unmatch him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:14 AM |
| 20 | Has a man ever left you or started abusing you when something negative happened to your looks?I'm fortunate that I've never had a boyfriend make negative remarks about my appearance, but I'm tearing up reading this thread. I don't understand how men can be so cruel and heartless. They truly don't deserve us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 12:50 PM |
| 67 | Women who implement FDS are "groomed, hot, successful, with standards", says FDS-hating manNotice how the guy that liked our opinions is hot, well put together and seemingly in a successful relationship. Further proof that the men that hate us are lowlife losers that can't meet our standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 07:29 AM |
| 10 | Stick to your boundariesThe irony is, after a few months and half a dozen failed situationships, he'll put OP on a pedestal as 'the one who got away' and deem her worthy of respect/a relationship because she didn't sleep with him. OP needs to make sure this guy is permablocked because he'll absolutely come crawling back because she's 'not like those other sl*ts'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:53 AM |
| 19 | Stick to your boundariessince I do have trust issues with men Do you have trust issues with men or are you just dating untrustworthy men? I convinced myself that I had an anxious attachment style until I realized I exhibited NONE of those needy traits in any of my non-romantic relationships. I was just dating shit emotionally avoidant men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 09:48 AM |
| 180 | scrotey man can masturbste ‘for hours’ but can’t hold an erection with his girlfriend. sex columnist advice ‘oh don’t feel ashamed, just communicaaaaate’"Your girl friend is quite demanding, if she was more sensible and understanding you would both have more fun." Legitimately one the replies in the comment section. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 08:01 AM |
| 18 | What counts as toxic femininity in 2022The thing is, there are actual subreddits that promote amoral behavior for women seeking to take what they can from men to get ahead (one beginning with d comes to mind) and you don't hear a peep about them from the wider Reddit community. But here we have FDS, that basically says "here's how to avoid abusers and only engage with men who are genuinely interested in you as a person" and it's tHe moSt hAtefUl sUb eVer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:51 AM |
| 51 | Please don't approach anybody's grown-ass son...Think of the investors on shark tank. Who has the power? The person pitching or the person being pitched to? This is probably the best analogy I've heard on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 07:26 AM |
| 5 | “The success of single women is the success of all women.“No mouth-breather in the bed next to you keeping you awake by snoring, taking up all the space or demanding sex at an ungodly hour. Luxuriate in the space and quiet! Our Grandmothers would have sold their souls to have the financial freedom to travel on their own dime and explore the world. We owe to them to appreciate every moment. Also - the loneliness of being single is NOTHING compared to the loneliness of being in an unfulfilling relationship. Feeling like the person lying next to you is a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 04:57 PM |
| 16 | Women leaving the dating appsI don't think most of then on the apps would pass the test. That's the whole point! These apps SHOULD be weeding out the trash to save women having to swipe left on 1000's of profiles. Dating apps SHOULD be more selective, not a free for all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 08:35 AM |
| 13 | Women leaving the dating appsI've found British men to be really arrogant - massively overinflated egos when they have very little to offer. I always assumed British guys were polite, but they can be quite predatory in the way they approach women - guys in the States will start conversations in a much more relaxed, easy-going manner that will build up to them asking you on a date/for your number. British guys (especially in groups) are really confrontational in their approach and it can be quite intimidating if you're alone… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 08:34 AM |
| 36 | 🤡I had some disappointing news this week (unable to visit a friend in a different city due to weather grounding flights her end) and another friend of mine immediately booked us dinner at a lovely restaurant to make me feel better. Between hearing my trip got cancelled and her making the reservation took less than 2 minutes. It's... really not hard, guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:52 AM |
| 47 | Only 19 years old 😭 she shouldn’t tolerate thisHe's not dating you because you're 'mature'. He's dating you because you're not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:38 AM |
| 13 | Women leaving the dating appsIn the UK, it's even crazier - it skyrockets to 85% of all OLD users being men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:31 AM |
| 42 | Women leaving the dating appsI wish these apps would require you to upload a <3 month STD result the same way that airlines are requiring you to upload vaccination proof to enter certain countries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 07:29 AM |
| 6 | Beware of the solo male traveller to certain regions of the world.I would add Japanophiles to the list as well. Probably addicted to hentai/a pedo/sees East Asian women as 'submissive'. Hard pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 06:45 AM |
| 243 | Pickmes contributing to the idea that women should be low maintenanceAll the women in my office were talking about how they didn't want anything for Valentine's Day last week. My observation that my last boyfriend booked a table at my favorite Argentine restaurant for dinner a month in advance and turned up on my doorstep with a dozen red roses (literal bare minimum!!) was met with awkward silence, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 07:30 AM |
| 46 | I am just so... disappointedHe has a chance to learn a valuable lesson from this. That porn cost him a loving relationship and a chance at happiness with an incredible woman. Sadly, the "lesson" he'll probably take away from this is "I need to hide it better." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 07:18 AM |
| 34 | I am just so... disappointedYou are ROCK SOLID. Unlike his pathetic, floppy peen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 07:15 AM |
| 24 | Polyamorous PickMe comes *so* close to getting it... but doesn't 🤡It's frustrating though - I grew up in a religious part of the world where pOlYgAmY was common, thought I escaped it coming to the city and then find the woke crowd pushing this shit. Two sides of the same woman-hating coin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 10:58 AM |
| 117 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?Ive also had people in my work environment tell me I needed to get a boyfriend instead of working so hard. Sounds like jealous Pickmes or insecure males who are afraid of competition. You won't be getting that promotion if you're barefoot and pregnant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:40 AM |
| 186 | Men start looking for reasons to hate/intentionally misunderstand you when they realize you’re smarter than they expected?When we met I was “just a waitress” but once I went back to school our entire dynamic shifted. Did you date Ross Gellar??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:38 AM |
| 31 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.Bbbbbbbutttttttt what if you could WIN respect?!? Doesn’t that mean moar?!! In the case of rescue animals, yes. This is the only struggle love I will accept. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:26 AM |
| 70 | From a FB group: male rando on OLD sends woman low-effort opener asking for personal information, woman states boundary, pickmes are upset she didn’t coddle him enough.He said he had these tickets to a gallery and wanted me there with him. Lmaooo he'd obviously just been dumped and was frantically looking for a replacement date. They're so transparent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:24 AM |
| 31 | Remember no man can be "baby trapped" if he doesn't let it happenIt's different for women. Getting sterilized as a woman is an invasive and dangerous procedure, and given the statistical risk rates for women who end up with a male surgeon, AND the time needed off work to recover, so we may very well be taking a hit financially, it's completely understandable a childfree woman would be hesitant to put her body through that. Men however, have no excuse. Snip, snip. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:22 AM |
| 22 | Remember no man can be "baby trapped" if he doesn't let it happenTHIIIIIIIIIIIIIIS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 07:17 AM |
| 3 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpIt's gross that Andrew got to have a 'redemption arc' after being complicit in a woman's murder. In 'Storyteller', he breaks down after murdering Jonathan but no mention of Katrina?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 08:12 PM |
| 5 | Let's leave dating apps behind this month : who's with me!Current OLD stats are crazy. A study in 2021 showed that 76% of users on Tinder were male. As for our sisters in the UK, this skyrockets to 85% of all OLD users being men. I'm not using OLD as I find it a timesink, but I find it interesting that women appear to be leaving the apps in droves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 07:18 PM |
| 7 | Re-watching Buffy Post FDS Levelling UpIt's interesting that the Spike/Buffy romance was written as 'Buffy is in a really low place and that is why she's engaging in very questionable rough sex'. Nowadays it would be written as a 'Buffy is super sexually liberated that's why she's so kinky!' Season 6 was really before its time. It delved deep into issues such as depression and PTSD and exposed the angry male entitlement of 'harmless' nerds. And yes, the narrative makes it clear that Buffy was engaging in rough/violent sex because she… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 06:52 PM |
| 7 | Signs of Cheating: How to spot them?I started to have recurring dreams my ex was cheating. I looked at his phone and, sure enough, saw the messages to his ex. Dumped him that night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 5 | If he can't plan a date, he isn't worth going out with in the first place.Please tell me this comment was a reference to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hn1VxaMEjRU&ab_channel=rootsrockbelgium | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 05:57 PM |
| 13 | Low effort men rantYes!! You've got this. I guarantee in a few weeks' time, this man will be sniffing around someone else and you can laugh at the bullet you dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:36 AM |
| 46 | Low effort men rantStop entertaining this LV bullshit. You are there to work. Shut it down. Now. The fact that these men are using the workplace as a hunting ground tells you everything you need to know. They're LV and probably have a group chat where they're commenting on you sexually and making bets on how long it will take X to 'bang' you. Gossiping with your other co-worker was a bad move as it communicates you're willing to engage with this fuckery. Stop interacting with these men beyond what is professionall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:32 AM |
| 42 | Jordan Peterson + Childless WomenAh yes, women's education and careers are just temporary toys for us to play with until a husband comes along. Fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 07:19 AM |
| 14 | I'd leave. Straight up would not make it down that aisle if my man was dressed like thisWedding aside, it seems really disrespectful to enter a church dressed like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:48 AM |
| 37 | Sex work is EmPoWeRinG but you "have to face the consequences?"Jesus, just say you want a scarlet letter sewn onto their clothing and sit down. We get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:44 AM |
| 79 | Something icky to laugh about tonight. We were talking about planting grass for our cats and ofc he had to make it gross and awkward. My intuition was telling me from the start he was weird, but societal gaslighting told me to give him a chance merely bc he was giving me attention 🤷♀️. Blocked.There is something immensely satisfying in seeing that wall of white space where you didn't respond. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:38 AM |
| 29 | He showed up at my door last nightDo not answer your door at night. Ever. A man who shows up at such a late hour means you no good. He was trying to gain entry into your home and would likely have coerced (read: forced) you into sex. His 'excuse' for showing up was flimsy at best. If you had wanted to the clothes, you would have asked them. And he had your address, so could easily have mailed them to you. I hope you didn't let him in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:35 AM |
| 46 | Ladies please be careful about who you have children with. She is pregnant but he is trying to dictate how she gives birth… also he doesn’t know about the umbilical cord? 🥴"My boyfriend is amazing and supportive." Proceeds to list all the ways he refuses to support one of the most important decisions of her life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 07:28 AM |
| 6 | A teenage boy full of gratitude to his mom & treating her after years of sacrifice is a good thing to see. This is what a (possible) baby HVM looks like. Take note, lurkersI have watched one of my brothers go from having that sort of innocent joy to becoming a horrid, pornsick, fake feminist who hates women and has a hard time enjoying anything nowadays. Men don't realize how much they hurt themselves. They immerse themselves in filth and degradation for so long that they're unable to understand or appreciate anything that is pure and wholesome and brings joy. They view the world through a rotted, distorted lens and assume that everyone is as sick and fucked up as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 07:06 PM |
| 30 | Porn sick scrote almost killed his girlfriend performing kink. THIS IS DANGEROUS!It was the "lol" that killed me. Imagine Cool Girling so hard you literally get strangled to death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 06:27 PM |
| 92 | What’s your take on this advice: telling a new man you’re dating all the ways your ex treated you well and that it ended because on cheating? She says it will let the man know that your standards are high and nothing could make you put up with it.No. This is just a roundabout way of telling a man how to treat you, and we don't do that here. Basically, what this communicates is "don't you dare cheat on me." A HVM will be put off by this weirdly adversarial approach to dating and a LVM will think "well... if the guy cheated, there's clearly something wrong with HER and she didn't satisfy him, therefore she probably deserved it." If he's a real psychopath, he'll think "maybe she didn't tolerate the last guy cheating, but I'll break her down… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 10:32 AM |
| 5 | Just relax and let HIM worry about the date.Yes, HVM will bring that energy into all aspects of their lives. I'll be visiting a city I used to live in in a few day's time and I'm meeting up with a HVM friend while I'm there. He's already planned the day, time and place, based on what he knows I'll enjoy. Literally all I have to do is show up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 07:49 AM |
| 41 | Why we shouldn’t have men as friends….a sequel.Bingo. He's furious because she's denying men a 'service' he believes they're entitled to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:39 AM |
| 132 | 22 year old woman killed in Denmark because of misogyni - the most equal country in the world? Femicide and hatred of women - the state of the union 2022.I've also heard that Scandi scrotes won't take women on proper dates, 50-50 is the default, and they rarely propose, so it's a nation of forever girlfriends. And the weather's terrible there. I'll pass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:35 AM |
| 23 | Learning the full story of how my aunt was burnt from head to toe.I got to 'mid-20s' and literally facepalmed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:28 AM |
| 16 | When you move in with a man that doesn't even respect youI wake up between 5 and 6am, even on weekends and am fast asleep by 9pm every night. I refuse to even consider dating a man who describes himself as a 'night owl.' This also illustrates how important it is for women to be able to live alone and push back against this toxic message that "moving in with a man is such a great milestone!". It's simply another means of having women depleted, exhausted and easier to manipulate/control. I'm starting to think childfree women shouldn't move in with a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/22 06:26 AM |
| 132 | Is anyone else slowly getting there with FDS boundaries?Passive men are such a turnoff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 06:34 PM |
| 11 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menThey've realized that women have clued up to negging, so have changed tactics to continue justifying verbal abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 07:38 AM |
| 18 | Women can be very kind to each other. I'm tired of society acting like were only catty to each otherI notice at work that whenever someone has a baby/gets married/moves to a new house, it's always the women that are organizing the gift baskets, buying the cards and collecting donations from people in the office. Men literally never bother. Makes you wonder how they treat their wives at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 07:16 AM |
| 25 | Juxtaposition, Screencapped by me, Digital, 2022I assume you mean the first one, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 07:02 PM |
| 67 | How to deflect dating questions from friends/family/coworkersOr just respond with: "I'm flattered but I don't see you in that way." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 06:17 AM |
| 74 | Woman finds son watching porn. Asks other women advice for more "ethical" options. 🤦🏼♀️"Reddit, if anyone knows any appropriate ways to groom my own child, please share." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:22 AM |
| 44 | Seen in a medical sub. Thankfully the replies were very supportive; I hope she will be OKBecause society doesn't punish them for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:11 AM |
| 52 | Don’t buy into indulgent couples content - especially around Valentine’s DayAnd after all, it's just like any other day and the possible desperation is a temporary feeling caused by all the romance stuff around you, and it will hopefully pass. I'm busy conducting job interviews on Valentine's Day. It's extra work but I secretly love it because I get to put on my power suit and be a badass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 07:07 PM |
| 10 | Obvious things I never realized until someone else pointed it outI hope you shared that text with his parents and employer. Men need to start getting publicly called out and shamed for this behavior. Social consequences is the only thing that keeps them in check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:34 AM |
| 171 | When your 11 year old son starts watching violent and degrading rape porn all you gotta do is let him know that it's totally not a guidebook nor an okay portrayal of women!Cool, I'm sure he definitely respects women now! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:22 AM |
| 78 | Women and CaregivingCaretaking is also an incredibly physically demanding job. Men are actually better equipped for it because they're physically stronger and can more easily help an infirm parent into a bathtub/bed, etc, so it's even more disgusting that women are expected to do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 05:21 AM |
| 5 | Comments tell her to "commUNIcate", OF is Not BAdA quote from a guy on this post: “Makes me wonder what I’m doing wrong if this is where the bar is at.” He's not wrong. I mean... he's obviously LV but he's not wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 08:01 PM |
| 3 | for all those single dads who think I REALLY, REALLY NEEEEEED to marry again... what possible value would it bring to my life?The only HV widower I know is my grandfather who didn't look at a woman for fifteen years after his wife passed until he met my grandmother. He had accepted he would be single for life (both his wife and firstborn died in childbirth) and had no intention of ever dating/marrying again, but quite unexpectedly fell head over heels for my gran. He took her to Paris for their honeymoon and they were married for 50 years until he passed away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:55 PM |
| 4 | A FDS sister isn’t going to be on a coffee date, tho… 😂Also thinking about all these poor women who will splurge on lingerie, shave their whole body, cook a 3-course meal, please him in every way and in return get no orgasm Meanwhile, my period is literally DUE on Valentine's Day, and I'm looking forward to curling up in bed with my pup and a hot water bottle, sipping hot chocolate in my comfy pjs and having to impress no one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 07:41 PM |
| 18 | Man Triggered By My Post History On This & Similar Subs, Uses Slurs Such As "Whores" & "Faggot," Justifies Male Violence Through Evolutionary Biology, Sees "Legit" Pornography As Acceptable Due To Lack Of Explicit Trafficking (Missing Underlying Problem Of Misogyny & Sexualization Of Women/Children)Just makes me think of this meme: https://knowyourmeme.com/memes/i-aint-reading-all-that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:21 AM |
| 25 | A man will date you for weeks, have you be exclusive with him JUST to have sex and leave as soon as he gets it. This scares the hell out of me about dating, I wonder how one can vet this kind of behavior.Men continuing to prove exactly why we need FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:07 AM |
| 243 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitThis isn't a clown show, this is the entire fucking circus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:07 PM |
| 159 | I know most men can't help being facially hideous at times but it is a waste of testosterone when they're fat or skinnyfat and can't even groom themselvesThe worst is what I've seen recently: men that are literally pear shaped. Wide hips and thighs and a heavy ass. What is making them like this??? Men with this body shape literally didn't exist 30 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 06:53 PM |
| 6 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveAnd if he has a hefty dose of the Madonna-Whore complex, she'll learn the hard way that his 'respect' for her will magically disappear overnight as soon as she has sex with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 08:04 AM |
| 19 | A Dude leads her on for 2.5 months leeching her emotionally daily saying he wants to take things slow. Of course the advice is to *communicate* and talk to him honestly.She's basically a sock. He's emotionally masturbating into her when he feels like talking about himself then discards her once he's jizzed his feefees out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:56 AM |
| 18 | “Relationships are a mirror” - BS 🤡This line of thinking also doesn't explain why in every other personal relationship, I am stable, calm, easy-going, happy, relaxed and fulfilled. It was only with shitty men that I felt continually anxious, off-balance, on edge, and overly emotional. Funny how those feelings completely disappeared once those men were out of my life! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:53 AM |
| 5 | The audacity! Time to abandon or murder your pet, as all good women doOne guy bought his wife a horse of her own cause she loved them so much 🐴 That's lovely! I hope she reads that comment and realizes how fucking insane her boyfriend is and drops him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:36 AM |
| 32 | A Professor Wasted Her Time Interviewing 46 Men About Why They CheatYes, the only appropriate consequence for a cheater is complete social ostracization. Something like that blocking filter on the Black Mirror Christmas episode. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 07:21 AM |
| 4 | Cosby Documentary: "Sex Therapist" Sonalee Rashatwar Claims "Sex Negativity" Caused Cosby's RapesSonalee honey, we're not Sex Negative, we're Rape Negative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:21 PM |
| 21 | What are the telltale signs that he might actually have mental illness and/or personality disorder?Yes, I always remember that famous 60 Minutes interview with the Clintons when that light fell down, even cheating rapist lying fucker Bill Clinton's immediate response was to grab Hillary, put his arms around her, and quickly pull her to safety. If a man sees you at risk/in pain and doesn't react with concern, there is something SERIOUSLY wrong with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 07:14 PM |
| 24 | No words…He's busy planning his next move in his campaign of domestic abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:54 PM |
| 64 | I love herImagine insulting someone whose job literally saves lives. I wonder what contribution he's making to society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 06:05 AM |
| 43 | The Phantom Ex - when avoidant men pine for a past loveThere's also the idealized Female Best Friend who doesn't see him as a romantic partner, but he puts on a pedestal, confides in emotionally (rather than his actual girlfriend) and is always 'holding out for' even though if she ever actually agreed to be in relationship with him and became a full human being with her own unique flaws and needs, he would withdraw and pull the same avoidant shit he's done before with all his other girlfriends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:22 PM |
| 44 | Can someone tell me when will women’s trauma stop being used as entertainment?Yup, Lily James is a Pickme extraordinaire, fucking old married scrote Dominic West. I always couldn't stand her as an actress (she's supremely untalented and grinds my teeth in every role she's in), so when that story broke I felt vindicated, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 57 | Dirty Talk in the Sheets: Yay or Nay?Yet another example of how porn has ruined men/sex. Dirty talk has gone from "You're so beautiful: I can't wait to be inside you" to "I'm going to ruin that p***** you screaming w****." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:05 AM |
| 79 | "sleeping with his best friend is not revenge, they're going to make fun of you"This comment is a great endorsement for never having sex with two men who know each other. If you have sex with more than one man in a social circle, your reputation is done. New post? I've not had many sexual partners, but the men I have been sexually intimate with are literally CONTINENTS apart. There's no way they're gonna be comparing notes, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 06:02 AM |
| 62 | Don’t let family stop you from breaking the pickme cycle!!!What the actual FUCK. I know there's a ton of male depravity posts on this sub, but it's stories like these that make me the saddest. Women have such an overflowing capacity for love and empathy, so watching them turn into Pickme traitors to their sisters (or their own DAUGHTERS) has me seeing red. FDS is absolutely a movement about liberating women, but there are 100% women that don't deserve to be saved. This toxic mom is one of them. Let her rot in her bitterness and misery. I hope you're thr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/22 05:58 AM |
| 27 | I wonder why he wants to date someone 10 years younger than him…YES. Nothing grosses me out more than dirty talk. If he needs to get himself aroused by whispering filth at me, as opposed to just being with me in the moment and truly experiencing passion and connection, then he is low value as far as I am concerned. YES, YES, AND YES. MAKE THIS A POST. I always thought dirty talk was gross and vile. Fortunately, no guy I've been with ever tried that nasty shit on me. I've been told I'm 'beautiful', 'amazing', my skin is so soft... basically, if his words aren… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:29 PM |
| 26 | How heartbreaking, talk about long con on the husband’s part!Yeah, it's depressing how few men you meet that are truly excited about their wives. I've met like, two in the last decade. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/22 07:12 PM |
| 23 | Beware of men who repeatedly turn conversations sexualYes!! They're already crossing verbal boundaries by talking about intimate/sexual topics without your consent. How long will it be before he starts crossing physical boundaries? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/22 07:25 PM |
| 4 | STOP BENDING OVER BACKWARDS FOR ABUSERS WHO BEND YOU FORWARD AND SCREW YOU. She is so fortunate not to end up like Gabby Petito, yet she still wants to be accommodating to her hobosexual ex who ousted her from a van in another state.So he attempted to kill her from exposure by abandoning her the middle of a national park, now he's trying to get her to come meet him alone so he can actually murder her? And she's worried about returning a watch?? Jesus wept. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 07:45 AM |
| 86 | Nothing Good Happens After 10pmSaaaame. People laugh, but in the same breath they're like "your skin is incredible." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:47 AM |
| 26 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeHe has no jawline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:41 AM |
| 40 | Don’t ever let a man make you think you need him for ANYTHING. Women everywhere are raising their standards and LVM are getting desperate. This one in particular is trying to use fear and coercion to find himself a lower income wifeYes, for the love of God, take away their internet. Then they might actually do something useful with their lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:38 AM |
| 42 | He lied to this woman (and pretty much everyone else) for TWO YEARS and, of course, she's the problem.Lmao it's ludicrous. I take off 2 inch heels and people are like omg you're tiny!! If this dude suddenly shrunk 3-4 inches the moment his shoes came off, his girlfriend would have to be legally blind not to notice. What a crock of bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 07:29 AM |
| 29 | Pays 40K for his gambling addiction or his incompetence (dunno which is worse)I can't even feel sympathy for this level of stupidity. A woman moronic enough to throw 40k away like this is beyond saving. Utter clown shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:52 PM |
| 69 | Men’s “goofiness” and “clumsiness” is usually just laziness and lack of considerationI know, right?? It would be like being attracted to a mentally retarded child, my body just recoils in disgust at the very thought. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:31 PM |
| 115 | If you wanna see a man's true character break up with himI've experienced this. In that moment of breaking up, it's like the last shred of his 'human' mask falls off and you're left staring into a pair of cold, reptilian eyes. It's chilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/22 06:26 PM |
| 10 | Being single protects men from drama and politics, ladies. Leave them alone.This needs to be its own post, not buried in a comments section! You're right, they can't tell the difference between money and value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 07:27 PM |
| 45 | No second date, so he wants money"i dOnT uNdersTand wHy womEn ghOst!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:39 PM |
| 181 | The bar is in hell.If I wanted a free meal, I would just go to my parents? No need to dress up and I would actually enjoy their company. You expect a free first date sex? You are looking for a prostitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:35 PM |
| 54 | I walked away when my needs weren't metHe sounds like a community dick. Be glad you didn't touch his diseased penis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 03:33 PM |
| 31 | A forever girlfriend I metHe sounds like a future mass shooter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:50 PM |
| 9 | Romance, erotica novels and every kind of media related to it.If you want the best deconstruction of "woman falling for captor who's obsessed with her" trope, please read The Collector by John Fowles. The kidnapper is this pathetic, boring, socially awkward Nice Guy and Miranda is an incredible human being out of his league in every way imaginable. She is literally disgusted by him and doesn't buy into his sniveling bullshit justification for his actions AT ALL. It's a scary and horrible novel, but my God, is it well written. Heartbreakingly raw and real w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:43 PM |
| 44 | Scrotes don’t know what they wantTale as old as time. I've never done FWB/casual hookups, but a friend of mine dips in and out when she's having a dry spell. And she genuinely isn't hoping for a relationship - she's almost 40 and loves her independence/money/travel/own house and could not give less of a fuck about these dudes. But it's literally CRAZY how the guys will fall over themselves giving her the girlfriend treatment, desperately trying to make her fall in love with them and acting sulky when she reiterates things are j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 35 | Why I’m against strip clubsI don't know who harringtn is, but I hope she joins us here at FDS. What a fierce, articulate queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 07:07 PM |
| 53 | Porn ruins menIs he actually whining about having to be an adult and the fact he can't anally rape his wife in a moving vehicle? These men are literally brain-damaged, I swear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 129 | Did you saw the news that british universities make coursers/workshops for students working in adult industries? link in commentsThis is disgusting. The whole point of allowing women an education was precisely so they will have careers and financial security and won't have to resort to selling their bodies for cash. Utterly appalling that universities are jumping on this clown train. They should be ashamed of themselves. How is this not grooming/trafficking and considered a crime?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/22 07:02 PM |
| 49 | Are men seriously trying to normalize erectile dysfunction now??? 😬😬Anyone over the age of 30 knows these pornsick losers are full of shit. To the Reddit losers out there: WE LITERALLY REMEMBER. Stop trying to gaslight us into believing this shit is normal. Every boyfriend I've been with has had a functioning dick and got hard just from making out. You are the problem. Die mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:35 PM |
| 12 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.These are the kinds of moms who got furious that the schools closed during Covid and wanted teachers to risk their lives/health/families babysitting hundreds of unvaccinated kids instead of blaming their scrote husbands for not stepping up at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:29 PM |
| 2 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!Someone commented the other day about how the advice that is derided for being 'outdated' and 'old fashioned' are ALL things that actually BENEFIT women (waiting for sex, courtship, men paying, formal commitment of engagement/marriage before living together, etc). I literally sat in stunned silence for about 10 minutes. Now modern dating is fucking on the first date, buying your own coffee, no labels, cohabiting without commitment, allowing your partner to watch porn and being pOly. What an abso… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!We treat each man way too seriously, and ourselves not seriously enough. This needs to be on a billboard. The eloquence of the ladies here never ceases to amaze me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Proof that the main beneficiary of casual sex & relationships is men!!!!One of my close friends came out of a horrible relationship last year. All of her 'friends' told her to hook up with other men. I was the only one who told her to take a break from men/dating for at least 6 months to allow herself time to heal. Guess whose advice she took? In all fairness, she told me months later that I was right all along and she's now really pissed at her Pickme friends who gave her that bullshit 'advice'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:12 PM |
| 11 | STRATEGY: How to Emotionally DetachYes! Writing down all the shitty, disrespectful things they did is a great way to stop yourself missing them/being tempted to take them back. If you feel yourself having a moment of weakness, re-read the list and any wistfulness will be replaced with a surge of "FUCK that guy." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 07:06 PM |
| 27 | Rekindle with an old flame? Just do it! All it costs is a cup of coffee.Thought I'd stumbled into the wrong sub for a hot minute. Well played. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 06:55 PM |
| 3 | Is it really worth trying to help PickMes?I've seen women (non-FDS members) posting on this sub for advice before and occasionally I've been on the receiving end of some real nastiness when I give them FDS-aligned advice (that they literally posted on this sub for, so yeah, make it make sense). They've then gone on to bitch about us on other subreddits. It's like these women are on fire and start getting angry at the women offering them a firehose while clinging onto their scrote who's literally holding the can of gasoline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 06:53 PM |
| 61 | Scrote is mad that his date has standardsWatch as he cheats on her to 'settle the score'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 12:20 PM |
| 49 | Men are threatened by EVERYTHING. Why??They mentally never developed past the narcissistic state of childhood where they are the center of the universe. They don't want the toy themselves, but they're terribly angry that someone else gets to have it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:45 AM |
| 54 | I asked my boyfriend what he would do if I decided to keep the baby - was his answer a red flag?Make him pay for the abortion, then dump him. Men who don't want kids and refuse to get snipped/wear a condom are trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:16 AM |
| 20 | PIED confirmedI'm in the same age range and the only time I've ever had a boyfriend go 'soft' on me is when we were both ridiculously, ridiculously drunk on champagne after a New Year's party. I find it utterly hilarious that young, healthy heterosexual dudes in their early 20's are desperately trying to claim that having a broken dick and being unable to get it up in the presence of a beautiful woman is completely normal. Lmao, what a cope. If that was the case, humanity would have died out within a generati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 03:04 PM |
| 147 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!I call these "murder dates". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:59 AM |
| 42 | Work is only okay when I (the man) benefit from seeing woman naked and abused. I’m sorry what???? Sex work is abusive towards women."Whatever reasons they may have for choosing that path is not our place to judge." = "I refuse to think critically where my boner is concerned and feeling empathy towards women who were trafficked/forced into prostitution is 'judging' them. Stop trying to make me feel bad about the fact I jerk off to rape victims on videos posted without their consent." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:14 AM |
| 36 | West Elm Caleb: Women Warn Each Other about LVM on TikTok, Patriarchy Immediately Freaks OutThe comments section is GLORIOUS. Seriously, fuck these Pickme handmaidens. I'm so glad she's getting roasted, she deserves every bit of vitriol thrown her way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 08:00 AM |
| 69 | Men wanting to have sex with you is not the compliment you think it is! Men will have sex with a mcchicken sandwichMind. Blown. I need to sit and process this. This needs to be a whole-ass post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:44 AM |
| 39 | Hmmm, Am I Crazy or Are Women Wising Up?Yes, I was very blessed that I comparatively breezed through the lockdown (my job wasn't affected and friends/family were close by) and I realized a huge part of that was having my own quiet, clean living space, financial security and not being a slave to a scrote and children. Somebody in the "What have you discovered about yourself since being single" post commented on how they could own their own space, and it's so true. I can listen to what podcasts I want while I'm cooking, watch the televi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:32 AM |
| 19 | Mary Berry reveals she two-timed her future husband when they first metI wish all women still dated like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 07:04 AM |
| 17 | Another reason why we don’t do coffee datesI don't even do 'coffee' with my best girlfriend. We always meet for a dinner at a restaurant or cocktails at a nice bar. Why the fuck would I accept anything less from a potential partner? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:59 AM |
| 56 | Scrote is trying to take his date to a storage unit to make her clean it!I dunno, never underestimate how high a Pickme will jump to audition her "wife credentials". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:53 AM |
| 48 | PIED confirmedYes! Young men's biggest fear regarding sex used to be that they would blow their load too soon, leaving the woman disappointed. Now they're all wandering around with limp dicks and erectile dysfunction at 19 and refuse to do the math. Dude. If you're lying in bed with a naked and eager woman next to you and you aren't painfully hard, you are seriously defective. Quit the porn and go to therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 06:48 AM |
| 2 | I Regret my Plastic Surgery: The Impact of the Patriarchy & LVM FathersTHANK YOU. People obsessed with looking younger have no idea of the bullshit that comes along with it. The sheer difference in the way people treated me when they found out my actual age - the respect and deference they suddenly showed - was palpable. People always say to me "wow, you look so much younger!" thinking they're giving me a compliment. It's not. Not only is it infantalizing, it also feeds into that bullshit propaganda that any woman over the age of 30 looks like a withered old crone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:27 PM |
| 33 | Purposefully doing things to drive up his gf’s utility bill…I thought I read it all 🤦🏼♀️ (repost!)And think you're an absolute chump if you actually try to help him. I don't lift a finger for men anymore because they don't appreciate it the way women do. I had a male colleague only this week offer to take on a task on a joint project that would have been very time consuming for me. Past Me would have been all "oh no, I couldn't possibly let you! lEt mE do alL of iT." FDS me thanked him warmly and said "I appreciate it." THAT is how to make male colleagues respect you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 98 | Purposefully doing things to drive up his gf’s utility bill…I thought I read it all 🤦🏼♀️ (repost!)This is why we don't help men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 06:08 AM |
| 9 | I Regret my Plastic Surgery: The Impact of the Patriarchy & LVM FathersIt’s just a bit silly when 20 year olds are getting Botox They don’t even have wrinkles but they’re getting their forehead filled with Botox? I'm in my mid-thirties and now have crow's feet when I smile... and I LOVE them! As someone who has always had a baby face and looked younger than my age, it's been infuriating that people take me less seriously at work because I look like an intern, being referred to as a 'girl' or 'young lady' when I'm a goddamn adult and having issues dating men my own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?Well I learned something today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:52 PM |
| 7 | Strangest icks and dealbreaker?I'd be really interested to see an FDS write up on The Piano, actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:43 PM |
| 12 | You can date a man for ten months, think you're his girlfriend and he will still say you're "casual" and go behind your back and find a whole new girlfriend.This queen must have sensed something was off with him (he was seeing other women) and didn't sleep with him.Or as I call it "People Old Enough To Know Better." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 144 | They always tell on themselves, sometimes sooner than others200,000 years of evolution and we end up with... this. God, what a travesty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:51 PM |
| 22 | This Queen nails itI just want to retire off at a seaside country house in Spain with my dog, records, guitar, piano, sangria and all of my books. Aaaah, all.by.myself. 🥰 It used to be the HVM stories on here that made me wistful but this description just made me sigh with longing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 06:49 PM |
| 3 | I am a 40 years old and haven’t dated for 2 years and for the first time in my life, felt at peace with it.This needs to be a flair! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:15 PM |
| 42 | Liberal Feminism is the PatriarchyI grew up in the 90's and I actually believe society has gotten WORSE for women. 90's media was problematic, but at least Rachel Green and Carrie Bradshaw being successful career women was glamorized and not simply derided as being a 'girlboss'. Prostitutes or strippers that appeared in sitcoms were treated as objects of pity, not something to aspire to. Whenever one of the characters on Friends had a date, it was always a dinner date, that was just the accepted norm. I remember when Titanic was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 15 | He knows he’s hurting her but he enjoys it 🤮It's vile and disgusting. I would never even contemplate it and no man I've ever dated has brought it up. My exes were all LVM but even the men putting on a veneer of decency will never even mention it because they know it's sick and degenerate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 191 | Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized TraumaUgh, I dated one of these too. Seemed so 'together' and 'normal' on the surface. I even remember thinking when we first started dating "why are you still single?" Boy, did I ever find out! Everything is about them and their hurt feelings for any slight, real or perceived. They don't give a fuck about you, because they're too wrapped up in their perpetual victim mentality and you're the hateful monster for not being 'sympathetic' enough when you call him out on some horrible he thing did and make… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:41 PM |
| 10 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.Lesbian couples raise the happiest kids. There's a boy in my neighborhood who's being raised by two moms. He's about 15 now, and most lovely, mature, polite lad you'll ever meet. I've seen him with both male and female friends and he's definitely going to be one of those well-adjusted, socially adept HVM when he's grown up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:34 PM |
| 20 | Why vetting is SO important. I hope this woman gets a divorce and full custody asap.Literally any mainstream media outlet: "For some BIZARRE reason, women in Western countries are choosing not to have children." GEE I WONDER WHY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 06:30 PM |
| 73 | Is He Negging You? 10 Signs He’s Trying To Secretly Destroy Your ConfidenceMost of them aren't even 'intelligent' enough to disguise it as a compliment. They're just straight up insulting women at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 01:14 PM |
| 90 | Weaponised incompetence is a manipulation tactic. It is not a cute “quirk” that men do and it’s also not funny to actively KNOW that they do this and defend it. Pick me’s are just so delusional.The average 5 year old could do a better job ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 01:10 PM |
| 475 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”This is why LVM hate FDS so much. It's not because we're telling lies about them. It's because we're telling the TRUTH. They're furious that a) we're smart enough to catch onto their games and b) we're handing other women their playbook so their manipulation tactics aren't going to work for much longer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 10:20 AM |
| 23 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockAnyway, choosing not to block because it makes you seem bothered = you still basing your decisions on the mental state of a man who you supposedly aren't keeping in your life anymore. Yes!!! It's showing you care more about what he THINKS about you than caring about yourself. Ain't nothing more Pickme than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:52 AM |
| 38 | Let’s talk about choosing not to blockI want to tattoo this on every woman's head. Nothing, I repeat, NOTHING bothers a guy more than your silence. They NEED attention from women and not getting it makes them insane. Men will literally OBSESS over a woman who blocked and deleted them after a date 4 years ago while not even knowing their girlfriend's middle name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 07:50 AM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 45 - Lundy Bancroft Takes The Queens Inside The Minds of Angry & Controlling Men (Part 1)I hope to God Lundy has sons because we need more men like him in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 04:18 PM |
| 171 | When Talk Show Hosts Make Celebrities Uncomfortable (how gross. it's of course mostly women)David Letterman is disgusting. I cannot understanding how this pervy old fuck managed to have a career for so long. Jennifer Aniston literally screamed and recoiled from you, dude. Back. Off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 08:07 AM |
| 387 | We are living in a clown world 🤡It's astonishing how hard society gaslights women out of having basic common sense. Once you're aware of it happening literally everywhere, you can't unsee it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:46 AM |
| 13 | To all the women doing the hard work of healing: give yourselves creditthey don’t understand FDS because they are not ready yet to do the hard work. It takes courage, patience and self-awareness. There are even Pickmes that try posting on this sub that get angry when you won't tell them what they want to hear. I gave FDS advice to one poster who called me 'angry' 'aggressive' and 'patronizing' who is now posting on anti-FDS subs. Another woman recently posted about some MASSIVE red flags her partner exhibited and dozens of members replied with thoughtful, insightfu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:40 AM |
| 25 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each dayIf by "kite" he means "his dick" and by "surfing" he means "in another woman", then yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 63 | When your husband sets a timer for how long you spend together each day"She's young and pretty like I used to be." Yup, definitely a former student of his. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/22 07:29 PM |
| 31 | This is why setting clear boundaries from the beginning is important. He showed his true colors before wasting any time. I had ghosted him many years ago after a few dates and always felt bad cause I thought he seemed nice, so I decided to respond when he reached out again and this happenedThey literally think women go into sleep mode/hibernation until they deign to notice us again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:19 PM |
| 2 | What do members of FDS think of the idea of love at first sight?I think this is true for friendship as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:11 PM |
| 38 | I know there are creative types here. Shall we use this as a writing prompt?Fanfiction is goldmine for this, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 07:03 PM |
| 29 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceIt says that he rode her hard every night to the point it gets so bad she actually considers killing herself. It's only after she has her first 'dragon dream' that she manages to tolerate her situation. It sickens me that people romanticize this relationship. GTFOH with that 'sun and stars' bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:54 PM |
| 86 | A breakdown of Jason Mamoa's red flags now that he and Lisa Bonet announced their divorceNikolaj Coster Waldou literally facepalms when he says it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 06:37 PM |
| 14 | That would be instant ICK for me followed by my departure and blocking everywhere. If he is doing something this gross in front of you, imagine the filthy shit he's doing secretly 🤮In 20 years' time, there will be a post on reddit with "my boyfriend (m21)..." and we'll be "ah! He was born in the Year of the Nest." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 07:08 PM |
| 101 | "I am afraid I will be conned by a psycho man that only reveal his true face after years of marriage"The trouble with really good manipulators is that they will start letting their mask slip once we are HOOKED. That time frame can vary and they wait until we are INVESTED to start revealing themselves. This is why I don't agree with acting aloof/ice queen/standoffish with a man you're dating. If anything, a good vetting strategy can be to act like you're more into the guy than you really are. The commitment-phobes will run. The predators and abusers will take advantage and start to show their tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 06:59 PM |
| 2 | Spoiling men financially is always a mistakeStanding ovation. This post is Handbook-worthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:53 PM |
| 2 | Have your first impressions of men been accurate?When I first met my narc ex, my immediate thought was "he has a weak chin." But then he grew a beard and lovebombed me and it all went downhill from there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:46 PM |
| 18 | Scrote just find the pettiest sh*t he can from his girlfriend and proceed to share it with the whole damn world. It is like he determined to make her hate him.He's gearing himself up to charge his girlfriend for toilet paper. He's just waiting for that reddit validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:35 PM |
| 16 | why YOU have a belly, but influencers DON'T (feel like women need to hear this more often. were expected to have certain kind of body when biologically our bodies are not made to be that way)Yeah, I thought it was bad with the scary skinny Ally McBeal trend I grew up with in the 90's. Jennifer Aniston and Courtney Cox went from slim and healthy to downright skeletal on those mid seasons of Friends. Now women are literally injecting fat into their asses and deforming their labia to have a 'fashionable' body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:32 PM |
| 25 | why YOU have a belly, but influencers DON'T (feel like women need to hear this more often. were expected to have certain kind of body when biologically our bodies are not made to be that way)I'm a size 2 and water retention/food babies are even MORE pronounced when you're naturally small. Also, I don't have any social media so those influencers look bizarre and alien to me. It's deeply disturbing that young girls are lapping that shit up, thinking it's normal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:24 PM |
| 53 | Advice: He seems wonderful but isn’t as financially secure as me'I read a lot of "wants to", "set himself the goal", "believes that" here but very little actual actions or results. If wishes were horses and all that.' This. It's 6 months. He can literally say anything. It sounds a lot like he is telling OP what she wants to hear. This is why we shouldn't tell men our expectations in the early stages of dating. They will morph to what they think you want and mislead you as to their true character. OP needs to focus less on what he says and more on what he's a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:19 PM |
| 40 | Stay Strong and NEVER Lower Your Standards!!I work with one. Dude is happily married and has a baby (of course). He's polite, hardworking, unassuming, friendly and helpful to everyone and I don't know anyone at work who doesn't straight up adore him. Obviously, he's off the market, but it's nice to get a daily reminder that men like him exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 07:07 PM |
| 21 | Have you noticed there are more snoring men than women?I think I've found my soulmate. Yes, yes, YES to every single word you posted. NOTHING gets in the way of my sleep. Being single and getting my 8-9 hours is fucking glorious. No wonder I look ten years younger than my actual age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:59 PM |
| 53 | Are they ridiculous, or do you have a husband that won’t do basic shit!Possums guarding trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/22 06:54 PM |
| 12 | What to do?This is the other thing to remember, OP. You are a mother. Your children are literally absorbing and internalizing the family dynamic they see playing out before them. Are you going to show your children that it's okay to tolerate a husband trash talking his wife to strangers? A husband who is willing to lie to his wife for a YEAR? A husband who prioritizes getting his dick wet over the emotional and mental wellbeing of his wife, the woman he supposedly loves? Take this man off the pedestal you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:47 PM |
| 31 | What to do?Yep, classic sign of a cheater. They will villainise their partner to justify their actions/convince themselves they're not a horrible person for betraying their partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:39 PM |
| 20 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?This shit seriously needs to be taught in schools. The boys can be taken to another classroom and taught about the harms of pornography. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:34 AM |
| 17 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?This is the way to do it. Fake having a change of heart, be understanding of his need for 'time', drive him to the airport. Then take him to the cleaners. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:32 AM |
| 30 | The absolute audacity of some of these men. Could you imagine telling your partner that you are taking a three month break from being a spouse and a parent?Yes, he's got a better job with more money so is now ready to ditch the starter wife and is on the lookout for a wife more 'on his level'. Tale as old as time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 07:30 AM |
| 185 | What to do?OP, please do not feel guilty about going through his phone. Our intuition is there for a reason and yours was screaming at you that something was wrong. And you were right. If your husband had been open, honest, transparent and sincere, you wouldn't have felt the need to go near his devices. First of all, confiding details about your sex life to friends is a massive breach of privacy. This is beyond inappropriate. You're concerned about going through his phone, but he has no issues about blabbi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:59 AM |
| 120 | I can’t stop thinking about this question I saw this question on TikTokIf all women practiced FDS, in 2-3 generations LVM wouldn't exist. We would be sharing a planet with good, kind, strong, nurturing, hard-working community-minded, empathetic men. They'd probably also be hot af so we'd actually enjoy having sex with them, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 05:22 PM |
| 50 | Stay at home dads vs stay at home mumsBeing a SAHM sounds like literal hell on earth. Yet Republicans and the Pope are desperate for me to pop out kids. No fucking thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 04:11 PM |
| 28 | FDS haikus for your entertainment and viewing pleasureChampagne bubble baths "You're going to die alone." Sounds like a sweet deal! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 12:55 PM |
| 9 | How to vet for emotional availability using 'bids'My best friend has depression, but it doesn't stop her from being a loving, affectionate, emotionally expressive partner in her relationship. In fact, her worry is that she leans on her boyfriend too much when she is having an episode (i.e. if she calls him late at night, doesn't feel like going out but wants him to just sit and hold her, etc) Depression isn't an excuse. A partner who cares for you will let you in on their struggles, not pull away/stonewall/disappear/go cold etc. This is why man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 10:19 AM |
| 22 | FDS haikus for your entertainment and viewing pleasureLet's go for a walk? No thanks, better things to do. Go back to your nest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 08:27 AM |
| 8 | Never accommodating disrespect in 2022 💕It's when you sit back and reflect that no one else in your life (family, close friends, colleagues) has ever accused you of being insensitive/cruel/unsupportive, that you realize these guys are full of shit. 100% projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/22 07:15 AM |
| 26 | Bodyshaming and -negging: It has nothing to do with what you look like, but you NEED to leave at the first sign of it.I've never had a romantic partner neg me about my appearance, but I've also only ever dated attractive men. Seems to be a pattern here... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 07:54 PM |
| 16 | Hot Take: Whenever I see stuff like this, I assume the guy has paedophilic tendencies or has watched too much pornI stopped trimming during lockdown and haven't looked back since. It only took a few short months to progress from thinking: "huh, this looks kind of odd" to feeling alluringly sensual, feminine and mysterious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 07:09 PM |
| 9 | Demand more from men! Evolution demands itDING DING DING we have a winner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 06:58 PM |
| 6 | Does anyone else want a long-term partner, but also doesn’t want to live with them?I won't even let my dog sleep on my bed, let alone a whole-ass man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:46 PM |
| 20 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮I know, right? The longer I'm on FDS, the harder it is to tolerate these stupid Pickme antics. I know they should invite my compassion but I'm too busy shaking my head at the idiocy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:40 PM |
| 100 | No one seems to be asking where he got this STD?? And she gets frequent UTIs because of him 🤢🤮They won't leave until they're secured a reliable supply of sex from elsewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:35 PM |
| 6 | A mother is concerned when her daughter comes home from her boyfriend's house with clear slap marks on her cheek. Pornsick Redditors tell her its sexually empowering, and she agrees. This is the state of women in 2022.Seriously, if a man were to EVER dare pull this kind of shit on me during sex, both my parents would straight up unalive him and his body would never be recovered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/22 05:33 PM |
| 33 | Low Energy Men - How men steal women's energyI had a massage at my beautician's over New Year's and it was glorious. Scrotes and their grubby hands can stay far way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 06:13 PM |
| 19 | Only a scrote takes it personallyThe worst men I ever dated were the ones I met in 'real life'. At least with OLD men tend to show their red flags earlier so you can often eliminate them long before meeting in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/22 05:58 PM |
| 11 | The Take's Pick Me Girl - Reflecting Our Insecurities Back to UsI'm SO glad this video called out Game of Thrones for it's 'not like other girls' bullshit. In the books, none of the more 'tomboyish' characters (Arya, Brienne, Asha) shit on other women. In fact, book Brienne is a fascinating character because she's such a girly girl inside despite having a face/body type that makes it difficult to perform femininity in her society. Book Arya befriends the Waif (in the show they hate each other for literally no reason) and book Asha calls out men using the wor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/22 07:11 PM |
| 39 | Nah men, women are visual creatures too.Bridget Jones' Diary is the closest example we got and Renee Zellweger was still conventionally (very) attractive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 2 | After telling him I’ve been in hospital, have covid pleurisy & too unwell to date atm.. I’m done with menPeyronie-curve of a guy I'm SCREAMING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 06:17 PM |
| 8 | OLD gold digger talks money way, way too early, among other red flagsYeah, I'm always baffled by the users on here who are able to do rotational dating. I swipe right on like... 1 man in 100. Do these women all live in large cities with better options or is their vetting less strict? idk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 05:42 PM |
| 13 | what happens to men's physical appearance when they have a guarantee that they will find a partnerSomeone on this sub once said "we are giving birth to our own oppressors" and it chilled me to the bone. I am never, ever having children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:35 PM |
| 35 | Men's ability to make everything about themselves is astounding but also the fact that the same features celebrated on men are shamed on women. Men were telling her she SHOULD get a nose job but saying her hypothetical son is a God. 😐It’s refreshing to see someone WITHOUT plastic surgery. I find this modern day Hollywood trend of tiny non-existent noses really weird? Giselle, Rachel Weisz, Madeleine Stowe, Sarah Michelle Gellar, Jennifer Aniston and Audrey Hepburn all have/had noses that don't fit the 'Hollywood ideal' yet are astoundingly gorgeous. Many of these have been listed/considered the most beautiful woman in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:27 PM |
| 87 | Working on myself just makes me feel more isolatedBut I honestly also grieve the state of men. I SHOULD be able to find a partner much easier, there should be more options. It's crazy that I have to be so defensive around men. They really shouldn't be like this. This needs to be its own post. It should NOT be this hard for women to find a good partner. It's absolutely insane that finding a respectful, kind, emotionally healthy man is on par with winning the lottery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 03:20 PM |
| 29 | FDS wisdom prevents DISASTEROnce again proof that men who have a problem with FDS are EXACTLY the type of men we should be avoiding. The advice given here is literally saving women's lives. For any male lurkers reading this: if you have a problem with this subreddit, then you are part of the problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 02:56 PM |
| 23 | Men's reactions to having their lies exposedIs this why men hate astrology so much? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 08:09 AM |
| 8 | Hmm, it’s almost as if we don’t want men like you 🤔34 comments, only 11 showing. You triggered some scrotes, sis. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/22 07:49 AM |
| 56 | He didn’t really ask, but I’ll answer (scrotes, pay attention!)"I don't understand. She's my favorite porn category, why didn't she jump on my dick?" - Him, probably | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 08:48 AM |
| 4 | Queens, what are your plans for NYE?Hey, it's far better to spend your new year alone than with a LVM! Enjoy the peace and quiet of a clean home and having a warm cozy bed to yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:48 PM |
| 16 | Queens, what are your plans for NYE?Now this is some Queen Sh*t! So many people would have opted to spend time with LV people just to avoid being alone (just look at the earlier post about desperate scrotes using OLD) but the true HV way is to have the courage to remove all low energy people and to spend time with the person you love the most - you. What an amazing way to start 2022! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 03:19 PM |
| 6 | Queens, what are your plans for NYE?I love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 03:15 PM |
| 16 | 8 Signs of a Low Value ManThere are some seriously salty men in the Youtube comments, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 07:48 AM |
| 17 | Criticism & MenThe way women have been told to communicate something negative to men always reminds me of this scene: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mi-YLIwkfJs&ab_channel=FestivalRecords.info | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 07:59 PM |
| 22 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not datesIn the time he took to type all that he could literally have looked up a restaurant and called to make dinner reservations. They're doubling down on this nonsense out of pure stubbornness because it's actually taking more effort for him to be a cheap scrote than to just... plan a date. Imagine taking all that time to match with a woman then spend all your energy arguing with her why she's not worth a proper date. Way to cockblock yourself, my dude, but you do you, I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 07:45 PM |
| 74 | Man tries to challenge my standards when I say walks are not datesGood catch! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 07:36 PM |
| 1 | This sh*t right here!!before calling yourself a coach That's... not how flairs work here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 07:18 PM |
| 4 | This sh*t right here!!I've looked through your post history. I mean this in the kindest possible way, but I strongly suggest that you take a break from dating/trying to meet men. This sub deals in tough love - we don't sugarcoat, we don't coddle and we don't enable self-destructive behaviors, but we DO strongly support women who take accountability and are actively working on overcoming negative patterns of behavior. I felt defensive and called out when I first started reading this sub - but it was the kickstart I ne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 05:04 PM |
| 82 | The Dangers Pick Mes Pose to FDS WomenI have a female colleague like this. She has a LV boyfriend, but thinks she's "won" because she's in a relationship and prides herself on being a 50-50 low maintenance Cool Girl. She bitches about other colleagues and is the only adult woman I work with who tries to form 'cliques'. Everything to her is about getting that sweet, sweet male validation. I can tell that she really doesn't like me (probably because I conduct myself with FDS standards) and would just love the opportunity to knock me d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:48 PM |
| 3 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagYup. My ex had a deadbeat dad who popped up once in a blue moon (he was a community dick that had a whole other family, classy) and was raised by his mom. Guess who hated his mom and idolized his cheating scrote dad? Guess who grew up to treat women the exact same way? I don't know why people are taking this personally and raging at you in the comments, OP. We all know that 99% of men lack introspection and while a woman can come from a broken home and do the inner work to overcome childhood wou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 01:33 PM |
| 0 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorThis was my first introduction to Daniel Gillies! His character was fine af on The Vampire Diaries, too. I could never understand why Elena was waffling back and forth between Stefan and Damon when Elijah was RIGHT THERE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:52 PM |
| 4 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorI've also just remembered in Spiderman 2, after Peter tells MJ they can't be together, instead of remaining alone and pining for him, MJ gets engaged to the astronaut and attempts to move on with her life, while still treating Peter with warmth and kindness. Both MJ and these Sam Rami movies get an unfair amount of hate, imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:40 PM |
| 22 | PickMes be like: “It’s OUR nest!”"Why don't you like my nest?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:20 PM |
| 48 | Forced Female Bonding Over Kids Though Childfree"wHat iF yOuR pErfEct mAn wAnts kIds?" Then he isn't my perfect man, is he? Dumbass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:14 PM |
| 4 | The change in Spiderman films reveals how men have normalized and encouraged pickme and LVM behaviorIt's also telling that men absolutely LOATHE Kirsten Dunst's Mary Jane, and I'm sure it's for all the reasons you listed. They can't stand a beautiful, confident woman who has options refusing to accept second-best. It's interesting how the most recent incarnation of MJ is written and styled to be as nonthreatening to LVM as possible - low maintenance, undemanding, dressed down (yet still conventionally attractive - because girls aren't allowed to put visible effort into being 'hot'), awkward an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 07:04 PM |
| 100 | Having a relationship start from a hook up is not the flex you think it isAfter that there was no dating or courting. It was us hanging out at his place almost everyday and going out every once in a while. Yes, sleeping with a guy early sets the tone. It communicates to him that he doesn't need to impress you because you gave it up pretty much immediately and it required no effort on his part. Why would he then bother to put his best foot forward to court, impress, date, treat and charm you if you've already shown him he can get sex from you without any of those steps… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 03:20 PM |
| 222 | For the angered men lurkingThey also get angry at women for refusing to date them instead of doing some self-reflection and wondering why women are turning away from dating in droves. They get downright offended if you gently point out that for a woman to grace you with her time and company, you might need to - oh I don't know - actually make it an enjoyable experience for her? Congratulations dudes, you've made dating such a hellscape that any sane-minded woman would rather remain single than engage with you. Like, no sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:45 PM |
| 154 | So he’s too “busy” to date, but not too busy to use you for sex? 🤔"He offered to quit having sex" He KNOWS she's in love with him...what a POS. She's dickmatized and he knows it. Sex is the only time he gives her any kind of affection, so of course he knows she won't stop sleeping with him. What a manipulative piece of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 05:18 PM |
| 39 | Be aware of “holiday daters” looking for an entertainment while on vacation.It just shows their entitlement to women's free labor. The fact that they write this so shamelessly and don't even see an issue with it is male entitlement in a nutshell. You want a tour guide, then pay for a fucking tour guide. They're too cheap to even pay for a prostitute when it's NSA sex they're really after. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 07:14 AM |
| 4 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisI have never come across a high value man who plays them. I stand by my opinion. I'll never date a grown man who plays them. Preach that gospel, sis. I literally can't respect a grown ass man sitting in front of a games console like a freaking 12 year old boy, let alone desire them. Gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:41 AM |
| 60 | Reminder: Dont be with a man like thisImagine if the dude had bought his girlfriend a Tiffany's necklace and she had only bought him a book? The comments would crucify her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:36 AM |
| 52 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?My father loves golf, gardening and carpentry, and I'm pretty sure that died with his generation. The only time a boyfriend dumped me was when his ex's own relationship was imploding and he was waiting to swoop in and pick up the pieces. Looking back, you could literally tell how the ex's relationship was going by the way he treated me. Things going well with her and the boyfriend? He was super invested and into me. Things starting to go rocky? Suddenly, he was withdrawn and distant, texting his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 06:07 AM |
| 207 | Just another year end reminder to NEVER EVER build a man. Focus on yourself and only yourself."I will NEVER help a man build himself, EVER." This was a tough lesson, but it sounds like she's learned it. Someone should link her here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 04:42 PM |
| 16 | Stalking storiesSeason three has flashbacks of Joe being bullied at a group home LMAO, of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:59 PM |
| 41 | Stalking storiesYeah, the fan reaction to Beck is insane. As though being flawed, promiscuous and unfaithful is somehow worse than stalking and literally murdering people. Like, Beck is deeply damaged and traumatized and the fact that she evokes anything other than sympathy and concern is, well... concerning. You Season 1 is one of the best things I've seen on television. The Season 2 came along and completely forgot what the mission statement of the show was about. The message of Season 1 was "the predator in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:52 PM |
| 52 | Paying off someone else’s debt?Natalie Lue on Baggage Reclaim said it best: "You see it as showing your love for them. They see it as you having no love for yourself." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:39 PM |
| 91 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?This. Once a guy decides he no longer "respects" you for whatever bullshit, arbitrary reason (as though his 'respect' is such a fucking prize, lol), you will never get him to change his mind. There is nothing you can be, say or do that will make him flip a switch and see your value. And the more you try, the more contempt he will feel for you. Ironically, the best thing you can do is walk away and never look back. Men will always feel a pang of regret for "the one who got away". None of them eve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 02:38 PM |
| 188 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?I knew things were over with my ex the first time he spoke to me in a condescending tone. He had never spoken to me like that before; he had always been respectful, polite and engaged in our discussions. As soon as I heard that dismissive tone come out of his mouth, I was like "Yep. We're done here." It was like my mind and body literally shut down and all I wanted was for him to be out of my house. I will never understand how women tolerate being spoken to like that by their SO for YEARS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:50 AM |
| 98 | Paying off someone else’s debt?Yeah, women do shit like this for a man thinking he'll see how wonderful she is and be forever grateful. Instead, they just see her as having no self-respect and, quite frankly, a bit dumb. Most men like it when a woman is a bit selfish. Due to the way men are raised and socialized, they see a woman putting herself first = high self esteem. Whereas a woman that bends over backwards for everyone is perceived as weak, a doormat and lacking self-worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 11:45 AM |
| 510 | Men will marry women who they don‘t love, find attractive or even hate. How does one even vet for this?Women in other subs are starting to catch on. FDS preaches truth and eventually more and more women will see this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 09:34 AM |
| 6 | AITA cringe age-gap but the comments are telling her to wake up, dump him, grow upMore like 'preyed'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 07:14 AM |
| 26 | On scrutinizing the men in your communityThis is precisely why I don't have a 'group' of friends. All my friends are people I meet on a 1-1 basis that I have met over various stages of my life. I think only about 2 or 3 of my closest friends have actually met each other, lol. HV people - male and female - are rare. The bigger a group is, the higher the chances of LV people slipping through the cracks and poorer behavior being tolerated by the group as a whole. Low value people drag everyone down with them and you are expected to tolera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:59 PM |
| 67 | As I was reading this... I was thinking "He must be significantly older than her." But she handled it perfectly. 💅 👑But - but Reddit told him he was in his pRiMe and a carousel of 18 year old girls would be lining up to jump on his dick! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 05:44 PM |
| 3 | Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM?HOW is your flair still only 'FDS Apprentice'???? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 12:31 PM |
| 8 | Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM?I've used dating apps in the past and the men I've matched with have only ever messaged me in the way you would a platonic friend. No innuendo, no sexual/flirty comments, no stupid winky emojis. It was courteous and friendly, the way you would speak to any new acquaintance. The standards for OLD should be the same as those in real life. You don't make sexualized comments to someone you barely know. This dude is just like every other Tinder fuckboi who thinks alluding to sex every five seconds pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 12:24 PM |
| 12 | Are there red flags in this conversation? Are there signs of a potential LVM here or is this a candidate for HVM?“I’ll give you a real internship and massage ;)” 🤮 This is where I had to stop reading for a minute This is exactly where I stopped reading. Didn't need to go any further, that told me everything about this dude I needed to know. EDIT: I read the rest of the conversation and oh my God I now want to curl up and die of second hand embarrassment. OP's friend is so desperate it's painful. He's spouting utter bullshit and she's just lapping it up. Jesus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 12:18 PM |
| 39 | Where do you find HVM?https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/l622qt/hot_take_there_is_no_way_to_meet_a_high_value_man/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:24 AM |
| 13 | The Porn MachineThis might be your best one yet. The slightly nerdy, unassuming looking skinny guy (always pornsick), the broken women discarded after they've been 'used', the revolting categories... this is chillingly accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:20 AM |
| 19 | The unfair reality of being "submissive"I love that "well used" has now officially entered the FDS lexicon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/21 07:16 AM |
| 224 | It’s just me or you also find man cave a bull$hit ?The number of husbands who had 'offices' to work in during Covid while the wife was relegated to the sitting room with a screaming infant on her lap never fails to make me see red. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 04:42 PM |
| 223 | LVM lining up for cheap, tacky, overpriced jewellery two days before Christmas. The comments are defending them. “bE gRaTeFuL” for the bare minimum? Nah.To quote another (far wittier than I) member of this sub "my vagina made the Windows shutdown noise." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 04:31 PM |
| 3 | 'Body count': Do people count and what even matters?Yes, the only reason he's asking is because he's trying to decide which box he can put you in: the Madonna or the Whore box. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/21 07:23 AM |
| 27 | No more one sided relationships in 2022.I'd also like to add to this: do not do anything for men that aren't either a HV father or partner. I literally don't lift a finger for men anymore. I don't offer to help them, listen to them or try to make their lives easier in any way. The only man I extend effort towards is my father, a wonderful man who goes out of his way to make my life easier and offers to drive me everywhere (he'll literally show up at my front door like a private chauffeur because "you'll be tired after a spa day and wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 08:06 AM |
| 41 | Story TimeNo, OP should keep the gifts as a form of compensation for wasting her time but absolutely should not give him the privilege of her time and company. Why should she waste hours of her time and money getting dressed up for this asshole? This scrote does not deserve the social validation of being seen in public with a beautiful woman on his arm. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/21 07:59 AM |
| 12 | YOU alone get to determine your standards!As much as it pains me to say it, I’ve even been downvoted to oblivion a couple times on FDS about what I consider LV. This was probably lurking scrotes that you triggered. They're honestly so pathetic. Like, go touch some grass instead of stalking subs you hate, you creep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 08:15 AM |
| 2 | This might be a controversial statement but I feel like a lot of western FDS users really don't understand the level of misogyny in the third world and what women HAVE TO DO to survive in our culturesOr criticizing cultures that support 'honor killings' is somehow racist... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 07:58 AM |
| 228 | From the dad of one of my daughter’s friends, out of literally nowhere.I swear to God, porn has literally rotted their brains. Like, what's wrong with "I've really enjoyed talking to you recently. I would love to take you out to dinner sometime, if that's okay with you?" But seriously, OP, please tell ALL your mutual acquaintances about this and show them the messages. Men need to start being publicly shamed and facing consequences for this disgusting behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 07:54 AM |
| 18 | Philanthropist husband leaves his wife, disabled child, and two other children following an affair spurred by ostensible charity-workCharity doesn't have to come from a place of kindness. A lot of wealthy people use charity as a form of reputational rehabilitation. Exhibit A: Johnny Depp, who dressed up as Captain Jack Sparrow to visit sick kids on a children's ward while beating and emotionally terrorizing his wife at home. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 07:07 AM |
| 63 | Men really have no shame - serial philanderer candidly admits his “escapades” during first dateNow I'm thinking of OP as Neo dodging those bullets that are moving towards him in slow motion, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 12:16 PM |
| 48 | Was your dad an HVM?This is why having a HVD won't necessarily protect you from LVM. Because of the healthy family dynamic I grew up in, I assumed most men were decent guys and there were just one or two 'bad ones' out there. It was disturbing to realize the opposite was true and that loving, kind men like my father were actually the rarity. We end up dating in good faith and it's a shocking wake up call when you realize the majority of men aren't doing the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:55 AM |
| 64 | Excerpt from The Second Sex by Simone de Beauvoir (translated)"It is easier to put people in chains than to remove them if the chains bring prestige." Damn. This is exactly what's happening with the current day trend of girls going into sex work/OnlyFans. Women willingly shackling themselves to be degraded objects for the 'prestige' of male attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:47 AM |
| 47 | 50/50 trap, listen to this queen!Having your own place with just you and your pets is the path to true happiness. A clean, spotless house, 8 hours uninterrupted sleep a night and unlimited affection and cuddles. Pure bliss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 07:38 AM |
| 23 | Pay Attention To Where His Eyes LandI passed a cute guy in the supermarket the other day who was looking at me and when we made eye contact he smiled. Not five minutes later I saw him down another aisle with his girlfriend. Utter creeps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 03:54 PM |
| 94 | This is why venting is a must! And also, it’s hard to leave an abusive relationship because we can straight up get murdered. Some men can’t take No. Rip to these poor souls.This is awful, but I sometimes think getting cruelly discarded by these psychos is the lesser of two evils. If they make the decision to leave you on 'their' terms, they're less likely to straight up murder you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:49 PM |
| 89 | My Friend's Husband is About to Ruin Her Entire Career. This is why you should always be financially independentI think a good rule is don't do shit for a man that hasn't done 3 times as much for you already. He has to prove himself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 02:43 PM |
| 9 | single womenYour boyfriend does not need to be brought up in every social interaction you have with another human being. I can almost assure you he’s not bringing you up as much as you’re bringing him up when he goes out with “tHe gUys”. You mentioning him randomly over and over again just shows me that you’re codependent and can’t function like a normal whole human being. Or that you value yourself less than you value him. Which pickmes definitely do. I have a friend like this. She literally has to bring u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/21 07:07 PM |
| 93 | 11 yr olds are getting groomed and traumatized by porn on a mass scale. How is this acceptable??? How has people just accepted the fact that children are introduced to endless videos of women being raped and tortured for male please,and that's the new normal??Men's right to watch women women being raped is more important than a child's right to innocence. Fuck this society. This is where 'sex positivity' has gotten us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 07:28 PM |
| 4 | Men on saying they “want children someday”Joke's on them, because if my staunchly childfree self sees 'wants kids someday' on a profile, it's an immediate swipe left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 07:47 PM |
| 39 | How narcissistic men view marriage. Spoiler: It is to gain credibility from other men, so they can maintain status in the male 'dominance hierarchy'There's a very senior woman in my company who has a reputation of being absolutely vile. I never have to work directly with her, but I know some male colleagues who do that absolutely despise her (she's their superior) and come out of meetings looking like they've been through a few rounds in the boxing ring. But when she sees me in passing, she always smiles and says hi. I'm wondering whether she's really a 'bitch' or if this is just sexist men resenting being told what to do by a woman and sme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 07:13 AM |
| 51 | This is every Tindr conversation I've ever had:Yes! Fleabag's relationship with her sister improves, her business is thriving and it's worth noting that as her life gets (sort of) better she basically cuts out the casual sex entirely. The second season was leagues above the first, imo. This monologue has to be one of my favorite things ever: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dlmCvMRIZqw&ab_channel=29films | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:06 PM |
| 45 | They condition you young.This is why I don't like to see people blaming teachers in these situations. Just go to r / teaching and you will see the absolute crap teachers have to put up with. I can only imagine the tirade of abuse/complaints they must get from entitled parents if their precious Snotley is removed from the classroom. It's easy to blame the teachers when we should be criticizing the parents who failed to raise their kid properly. Teachers aren't parents. They're working professionals just like the rest of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 03:50 PM |
| 2 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?That expression! He has the wisdom of ages in his eyes. No wonder he could sniff out the scrote ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:31 AM |
| 41 | The First Time He Uses Your Trauma/Insecurity Against You Should Be Last TimeYes, I hate this idea that the only way to form an intimate connection with someone is by sharing all the horrible things from your past. Hell no! Intimacy can be built by sharing the positives: your favorite place you vacationed as a child that holds a special place in your heart, that special recipe that you and your gran bonded over, the niche hobby that you have, the country you've always wanted to visit on your bucket list... all of these things are deep, intimate parts of yourself that you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:25 AM |
| 19 | He’s not happy if he doesn’t have a chokehold on your psycheThere's no such thing as women being 'bad in bed' or 'bad at sex'. When men say this, it's usually to shame a woman because she won't do something horrifying and degrading for his pleasure. Men though? Men can absolutely be terrible lovers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:19 AM |
| 151 | They condition you young.These boys shouldn't be allowed inside a classroom. Can't do the work without distracting others? Sit in an isolated booth alone and do the work there. Why does one nasty little boy's 'right' to be in class trump the rights of the 28 other students to get a good education? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:44 AM |
| 89 | Is it just me or do men not know how to talk to women anymore? It seems like every conversation involves some sort of pick up artist technique instead of being genuineI genuinely wonder if they're deliberately sabotaging each other at this point but no, they are really this unhinged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:41 AM |
| 225 | This is every Tindr conversation I've ever had:Fleabag is so, so good. It completely turns the 'casual sex is empowering!' trope on its head. I remember I almost quit watching in disgust after the first few minutes because it looked like Cool Girl bullshit, but as the first season goes on, it becomes evident that Fleabag's hypersexual activity is a result of deep, deep trauma to the point where you realize her fourth wall breaking is quite literally her disassociating. I always remember that episode where, in a rare moment she opens up, she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 06:22 AM |
| 17 | When I’m doubt, DO NOT give men the benefit of the doubt.The "intentions mean more than outcomes" argument every LVM tries to pull is such bullcrap. If I hit someone with my car without intending to, guess what is more important? The fact that I hit someone with my goddamn car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:20 PM |
| 6 | Came across this in OLD today, respectful women must chase the man, ladies we’re doing it wrong 😂Ladies, I swooned. Lazy, passive men are sooooo sexy!! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:17 PM |
| 19 | Defining pickmeism: what it is vs what it isn'tI think there's also a difference between the Pickme who behaves that way out of a result of cultural programming and an intense desire to be loved, so she pours herself into her relationships in a misguided attempt for validation vs. the dangerous Pickme who sees all other women as a threat and will gleefully destroy any of her sisters for so much as a whiff of ballsack. This is the Pickme who will drag you to some strange dude's house while she fucks his roommate, will sleep with your boyfrien… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:13 PM |
| 9 | Reminder: never chase men, this is what they actually think when you initiateThere's no getting around it: if you approach, men's brain's immediately default to Glenn Close's character in Fatal Attraction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:53 PM |
| 16 | What are some early on signs he’s a cheater?He remembers something you both did together which never actually happened. He's confused you with the other woman and is struggling to keep his lies straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 06:23 PM |
| 15 | Sometimes I feel like all hope is lost.They're literally like monkeys at this point, publicly wanking in their cages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:08 PM |
| 13 | Men will try to make their porn-sick ideas seem like a good idea for both of youYes, it's truly frightening how men literally have the power to override a woman's entire personality, making her do and say things she would never have imagined herself doing. They're like parasites, crawling into your brain and rewriting your thoughts, beliefs, feelings and ideas, turning you into a completely different person. I've never encountered the opposite, of a man being changed as a result of the woman he's with. It's truly insane how media pushes this narrative that a woman change a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 05:06 PM |
| 31 | Sometimes I feel like all hope is lost.Sure, let's normalize men having no fucking self-control even more. Jesus Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:53 PM |
| 61 | Sometimes I feel like all hope is lost.Yet scrotes will gleefully justify rape in any historical TV drama because 'wOmen gOt rAped alL tHe tIme hurr durr accuracy" as if it isn't about them wanting to see naked women get brutalized on screen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:50 PM |
| 26 | VET VET VET your male friends to the same standards you would a potential partner!He didn't try to 'choke' you. He tried to strangle you. As women, we need to stop using this cushioning language that softens the horror these men inflict and lets them off the hook. I'm so sorry this happened to you. But I think you responded in the best possible way that ensured your safety. You started screaming, being loud and making a noise. This creep was 100% betting on your female socialization to kick in that would keep you quiet and meek while he did God knows what to you. Screaming sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:47 PM |
| 81 | I gave my ex a list of things I'm allergic to, he told his mother it's my favourite food. I ended up practically dying on the way to the hospital. He thought I'm lying and just being a picky eater.This post makes me sad. Why are they such horrible people? I wouldn't even treat someone I hate with such cruelty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 04:37 PM |
| 4 | Why you should vet harshly. Please learn from my story.Food addiction is a real thing. I know of two people (men of course) who literally ate themselves to death. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 07:16 PM |
| 7 | The insane shit men will lie aboutWhat IS it with the Lord of the Rings lies?? My friend knew a dude that claimed he was the one that really voiced Gollum in the LOTR movies and Andy Serkis was only used for the movements/face acting/CGI visuals. The Two Towers was released in 2002. This guy would have been 5 years old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:50 AM |
| 9 | The insane shit men will lie aboutOnce you're attuned you can also sense that even their charisma is diseased somehow, almost like a cross between rancid and saccharine, like they've left their fake perfect skin on for too long. I dated one of these men and now I can spot these types a mile off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:43 AM |
| 6 | Cut him off. and become a queen. We're all rooting for you. (FDS art by me)I genuinely feel like FDS is my Fairy Godmother sometimes. I know Disney gets villainized a lot on this sub, but I do love movies like Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella that feature HV older women helping out young girls and taking no shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:38 AM |
| 59 | Ask Amy: I think my wife is lazy for not having a career while raising our kidsThat's a lot of words for "I want to cheat without feeling like an asshole." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:34 AM |
| 17 | Pick me! I’m cool! I don’t need a man to put in effort! Pick me!!Insert Amy Dunne Cool Girl monologue here... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/21 08:03 AM |
| 20 | Should I still go out with this man tomorrow?So he couldn't be bothered to confirm a venue until the night before? That's rude as fuck; I wouldn't tolerate this from a friend, let alone a romantic interest. Super disrespectful of your time and too late for him to call and make reservations. Block and delete. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 07:05 PM |
| 138 | My online dating experience was so similar, for a second I thought it's my old tweet! Feel free to add more typesOr the 36 year old guy who is looking for 'something casual' yet 'wants kids someday.' Sir, your sperm quality has already done a cliff dive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:59 PM |
| 5 | Low effort flirting and low effort dates I have been shutting down all weekI rolled my eyes so hard at this part. He sounds like a fucking five year old. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 07:13 AM |
| 5 | The bar is in Hades. When will we stop glorifying terrible men?They all look like mutants from some futuristic dystopian novel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:37 AM |
| 3 | My HVM was actually just a golddiggerI would totally read this novel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/21 06:21 AM |
| 19 | This Christmas don’t be like me - Watch out for holiday lovebombingDamn, this is advice to live by. Pour that love and generosity into yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:10 PM |
| 91 | Inspired by the Anne Boleyn post, what other women in history were done dirty by men?Speaking of wives of Henry VIII, his fifth wife, Catherine Howard is to this day portrayed as a brainless giddy slut when she was quite obviously the victim of child molestation/sexual abuse by older men from a very young age. She grew up in an environment where there was very little adult supervision and was preyed on by utter creeps with no one to look out for her. Any later hypersexual behavior is a common response to sexual abuse/trauma. Also, Thomas Culpepper, whom she (probably) had an aff… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 09:04 PM |
| 41 | This had me howling!! 🎶Leave us alone, please leave us alone 🎶..He's texting around for pussy and these women are like "nah, I'm good, thanks. In bed with a hot chocolate/glass of wine/herbal tea and a book/movie/podcast with my cat/dog/hot water bottle. I'll pass." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 08:49 PM |
| 36 | For the men who complain about dead bedrooms, how does it feel to be the architect of you own misery?But - but - fucking men we're physically attracted to is eUgENicS!!1! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 04:16 PM |
| 9 | This is too funny 🙄They really act like having a job is the most difficult hardship any man has ever had to endure. This is like, peak male privilege. Like... they know we work too, right? And then we get home, do grocery shopping, cook, clean the house, do laundry, admin (appointments, bills), refill the car with gas, walk the dog, take care of kids/study before we can even THINK about taking a shower or crawling into bed. And we still make the time to be loving, supportive partners to ungrateful scrotes. Fuck of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 06:04 AM |
| 19 | Men puts more thought into a high-school sweetheart proposal than the "proposal" to his current wife. Of course the onus gets put on the woman and she gets told to cOmUNicatE.Ah yes, the classic "blame a sick relative for my shitty behavior" excuse... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:54 AM |
| 11 | Male friends are a myth.Surprised I had to scroll down this far to find this comment. This is 100% a revenge narrative. Either she's a an ex whose nudes he wants to share or a female 'friend' that rejected him romantically and he's making up vile shit about her to trash her reputation to 'punish' her. These men are sick in the head. I just cannot comprehend the levels of casual cruelty and horrifying lack of empathy they proudly broadcast without a trace of self-reflection or remorse. If I have a bad breakup with a guy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:41 AM |
| 95 | Currently viral on social media, please do not be a man’s free ATM!! Libfem behaviour is NOT empowering to women, it literally only benefits the man while draining your bank account, health and energy.Yes, feminine energy is all about receiving. It feels gross and wrong when I'm expected to act like a man in the relationship. HE should be courting, pursuing, making plans, giving gifts, etc. Nothing turns me off faster than a guy with 'princess syndrome.' Weak, passive, entitled babies. You want a woman in your life? Then step up and be a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/21 05:27 AM |
| 101 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”Marlon Brando tho. My brain hurts thinking how he went from Streetcar to... that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:54 PM |
| 151 | Two of the biggest lies patriarchy tells us: “men age like fine wine” & “age gap relationships are totally natural”But they're oLd sOuLs!!1! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 04:52 PM |
| 33 | What are the most ridiculous pick-me opinions you had before reaching the age of reason?A boyfriend being friends with his ex showed how mAtUre he was and that I was insecure for feeling uncomfortable about it. And yes, he was cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:13 AM |
| 36 | Things you used to find romantic before FDS?When he 'picks' you over another woman. No, it wasn't because he saw how 'special' you are. He did the math and realized your self-esteem was lower and you'd let him get away with more bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 06:04 AM |
| 15 | Avoidantly attached men like to pretend securely or anxiously attached women are “needy” when avoidants are actually very, VERY needy.God, my ex hit every single of the points on this list. And I was the one with too high expectations and asking for too much because I wanted... normal relationship behavior? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 05:56 AM |
| 196 | Can’t wait to see the male commenters of DM collectively lose their tiny minds.I've also heard 'Daily Fail' and 'Daily Hatemail'. But seriously, this is like a national UK newspaper. We really are in the public eye now. Can't wait for our membership numbers to skyrocket *cackles in witch* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:44 PM |
| 11 | Men don't care about women. They won't even engage with a book/movie/TV show if it was written by or centres a woman. They have class solidarity only with each otherI don't have a problem with Will as a character (he's pretty HV for a 12 year old boy!) but more the detrimental effect it had on Lyra's character, pushing her into the 'chick' role. At the end of Book 2, she's kidnapped and has to be rescued by Will (remember in Book 1, when she was captured and used her wits to plan and coordinate an entire escape operation from Bolvanger?) Will also ends up stealing the limelight in what should have been moments for Lyra to shine. Why is Will the one to have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 04:24 PM |
| 20 | The 30+ playboy life style isn’t what you think it is.I'm in my 30's and have 26 year old's super-swiping me on Bumble. Moving forward, I'm absolutely dating men within 5 years younger than me. I don't think it's a coincidence that the boyfriend who treated me the best was a couple of years younger than me. Also, the most HV couple I know is a guy and his fiancee who is 4 years older than him. He absolutely adores her and proposed just before the 2-year mark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 06:11 AM |
| 21 | Men don't care about women. They won't even engage with a book/movie/TV show if it was written by or centres a woman. They have class solidarity only with each otherI would've been happier with His Dark Materials if Will had never shown up, tbh. There's a reason why The Golden Compass is the best written book in the series. Also - Philip Pullman's Sally Lockhart series is brilliant. A badass female character sleuthing her way through Victorian London. She's a ferociously intelligent, shrewd, self-made businesswoman who solves crime and takes no shit from men. The series acknowledges the challenges she faces navigating a patriarchal world and she isn't gross… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 05:52 AM |
| 2 | FDS-approved TV, movies and books?Merlin is great fun to watch. It's a family show (so a fantasy show with no gratuitous rape or nudity - how refreshing!) and the central couple are HV. Arthur has his boorish moments (mostly towards Merlin) but he treats Gwen like the absolute queen she is. Their problems as a couple are external (difference in social status) and they have a remarkably healthy relationship based on mutual respect and adoration. They have some beautiful romantic moments (the way they look at each other in this sc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 07:23 PM |
| 84 | Reason 20000000000000007 To Align With FDS, Vet RUTHLESSLY, Enforce Boundaries And Say NO To Casual Sex!Like all the best female villains (Amy Dunne is another example) the writer intrinsically understood that she became that way not through being born 'bad', but as a reaction to the society she was born into and the treatment from men. The reason their monologues are so iconic is because they're true - the only thing that separates these characters from us is the ruthless lengths they're willing to go to in order to achieve their ends. Utter brilliance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 06:16 AM |
| 14 | My husband told me to choose between him and my businessOP, please be careful. He's acting right out of the abuser's handbook and may escalate when he realizes you're serious about leaving. Protect your business/finance and please don't see him alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/21 07:32 AM |
| 272 | Disappointed by my date todayDamn, he couldn't even keep the mask on for one date? This shows that he was just after sex and saw the 'intelligent, thoughtful' conversations as a tedious necessity he had to sit through in order to get there. He couldn't even pretend for a single evening that he genuinely wanted to get to know OP as a person before creepily turning the conversation to what he was really after (her body). This might go against FDS guidance but this is why I will next a man if he hasn't asked me out on a date w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 11:16 AM |
| 233 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantNot to mention the EMOTIONAL labor as well. Hosting people is mentally and emotionally exhausting, even moreso if you don't know them well. As an introvert, being around a lot of people in my own space can be very draining, and if someone dropped this on me with no notice, I would absolutely lose my shit. On top of that, she's been doing housework and childcare all day and is probably fucking exhausted. Now she has to dress up and play hostess/Stepford Wife for a bunch of strangers? This man is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 08:24 AM |
| 41 | Holiday Dating Reminders & TipsYou're a placeholder girlfriend. Dump him. He acts weird about introducing you to his family (he doesn't intend you to be a part of it). He's reluctant to spend money on you (he doesn't see you as a long term investment). He doesn't want to bring you to a wedding (he has no plans to marry you). He won't bother making an effort to dress nicely for you (he has no interest in impressing you). Men who are in love with you don't behave like this. You're a convenient warm body that he'll toss aside th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 07:59 AM |
| 12 | Where have all the young male novelists gone? *I wonder why young men aren’t writing (or reading) books anymore*In short, porn has completely fucked up their brains beyond repair and their dopamine receptors are fried. It's shockingly noticeable to observe in teenage boys and young men. They have no attention span, no ability to focus for sustained periods of time, no drive, no ability to put forth consistent effort into anything that doesn't offer an 'immediate' reward and are depressed, lethargic and dead-eyed, completely unable to find engagement and joy in the world around them. Life is full of beauty… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 07:08 PM |
| 32 | Do you think most of us were very naive when we were younger?I'm assuming it's a red flag if the dude idolizes Walter White. Breaking Bad is one of my favorite TV shows, but there's no denying it attracts a ton of scrotey men who missed the memo that Walter is the villain of the show and an awful human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 07:07 PM |
| 29 | Beware of men who claim they’re a “homebody” and love “staying in”.At least he told you up front how boring he was. The worst ones are the men who advertise all this outdoorsy shit on their profiles and as soon your relationship becomes 'official', they will park their ass on your sofa and never leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/21 05:17 PM |
| 8 | Help me find this FDS post/comment?I'm blushing. Glad it was of use to someone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 07:13 PM |
| 14 | From the recent Keanu Reeves feature in Esquire. Men of value are thoughtful and generous. Be like Keanu.Keanu and my father are the only two men in life that have never disappointed me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 07:27 PM |
| 33 | If he wanted to, he would... another postThe first date sets the tone. It establishes the standard of what you expect. If a guy realizes that all it takes to get access to your time and company is a cheap 20 minute coffee date, why would he bother to go the extra mile? I'm constantly bewildered by this idea I hear all the time that a dinner date literally has a woman chained to a table, unable to leave. You haven't signed a contact in blood that stipulates you MUST stay the duration of the date or the guy gets your firstborn. If the da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 07:22 AM |
| 18 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postShe's already told me she wants to marry him. I've tried to drop FDS wisdom on her but she's so desperate to be loved. It's sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:00 PM |
| 32 | I will let you guys tear into this one 🤣 keep in mind that the screenshots are NOT from a dating app so that makes it even worse. This app is solely for writing letters to people in different countries and making friendsI want to unread this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 02:02 PM |
| 132 | This is the kind of stuff that really scares me😞I feel like in the end you never truly get to know the other person. Tw: s3xual abuse/text postYes, I'm always wary of the "I was totally blindsided! There were no signs!" posts. When men get comfortable in a relationship, their true nature starts to reveal itself. Often little offhand comments or 'jokes' that the woman dismisses. The way he behaves in certain situations or around certain people. I was at a friend's birthday dinner last night and she thinks her guy hung the moon because a) he pays for things and b) her previous boyfriends were literal abusers. But I was observing with my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:52 AM |
| 48 | When David Attenborough is asked about how his wife's death affected him, all he could bring up was how his daughter had to move in with him because he can't cook. Timestamp 16:40-17:50. This man is often thought of as a HVM because of his loves for animals. He is not.There's a difference between 'stoic' and straight out saying the 'profound' effect of your wife's death was that there's no one to cook and clean for you?? A woman that you spent half a century of your life with? No mention of her personality, her nature, the values and traits that made her special? He literally described her as an appliance to be replaced. And why isn't his son the one sidelining a successful career and 'running the household'? If the dude can't run a household without support,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/21 07:42 AM |
| 14 | FDS is NOT categorically against OLD.This may sound condescending, but I suspect many of the users here who are telling women not to use OLD skew very young, like early 20's. They lack the necessary life experience to realize that once you reach your late 20's/30's, two things happen: 1) You become insanely busy. Adult life dumps a TON of responsibility and commitments on you that means that you don't have the leisure time you did in your early 20's. I have to schedule social events into my calendar weeks to months in advance, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 06:52 PM |
| 43 | Testing for "sexual compatibility" is a bullshit lie to cross boundaries and get sexI have heard so many stories about women dating a man for months and when they finally have sex, they immediately ghost. This is why we make them pay for everything and demand high-quality dates that will be enjoyable experiences for us, regardless whether or not the relationship works out. If they want to fuck us over, their wallets can take the hit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 06:27 PM |
| 3 | Tips for improving appearance as HVW?The best piece of advice I was ever given was work with your natural beauty - don't fight it. i.e. If you have naturally curly hair, don't spend hours using heat-damaging tools trying to straighten it, but instead use products that will make your curls look their best. Likewise, if your hair is naturally straight, optimize how sleek and shiny your tresses are. If you're dark-haired, instead of going blonde, experiment with different shades of brunette and go with the one most flattering to your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 07:57 PM |
| 85 | Scrote says he’s not into casual sex while his OK Cupid answers communicate otherwise, he says “I made the profile a long time ago when my father was sick and didn’t have time for a relationship” and proceeds to show his clown nose."Assuaged your doubts about my honesty" lmaoooo how they all try and act like Mr Darcy when you call them out on their bullshit. "Verily Milady, I express my sincerest remorse at such subterfuge, but mayeth I stick my dick in you?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/21 06:08 AM |
| 11 | Anyone had a scrote try this on them?He was just playing himself; no wonder it was such a convincing performance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 09:14 AM |
| 20 | Start calling it what it is when you can.One of the worst offenders is "prostitution" = "sex worker". No, you're a prostitute. You're literally selling sexual services for money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:54 AM |
| 116 | [deleted by user]I almost didn't swipe right on my last boyfriend because he was so hot I thought he was "out of my league". Then I laughed at myself for being such an idiot, and we matched and he immediately messaged me first. Throughout the relationship, he acted like I was the hot one and complimented me all the time. None of this negging bullshit you get from insecure uggos. Attractive men having the worst personalities is one of the most blatant lies women have ever been sold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/21 07:43 AM |
| 525 | The comment section is a dumpster fire. How dare she to have standards! Some of them are “I see her future buying dog and cat food”, “the higher they fly, lower they fall”, “phd doesn’t buy you class obviously”, etc.This confirms my theory that short, ugly men are more likely to be redpilled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 02:00 PM |
| 86 | Perspective | For years, I pursued men and got nowhere. Then I learned how to sit in the passenger’s seat.It's infuriating how society has gaslit us into believing "a man wanting to do nice things for you" = "unfeminist". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:54 AM |
| 8 | Reminder: Being The "Cool Girl" who isn't "materialistic" will get you nothing.To be fair, most of the screechers on Reddit are 14 year old boys who are mad that mommy won't increase their allowance because they're forced to clean a dish once a month. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:29 AM |
| 21 | Why women are having children for free?Women have children with their boyfriends because they see it is a 'down payment' on a proposal, which will eventually come. Except... it won't. It's not like putting a sum towards a house where you will get a return on your investment. All you've done is shown the guy he can get a family without any need for commitment or investment on his part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:15 AM |
| 82 | Why LVM don’t care about creating single momsThe loss of tight-knit community structures has really played a role as well. Men used to be publicly shamed for whoring around. They were pressured to present a respectable social face to the world and any nasty, cheating scrotes had to keep their behavior very quiet or face social stigma from their local community. Now their social reputation doesn't suffer at all and this is the result. Women are kept in line by empathy. Men are only kept in line by shame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:09 AM |
| 28 | If he tells you to swallow his cum, tell him to swallow your period blood :)In my last relationship, my boyfriend used to perform oral sex multiple times per session and I went down on him... never. Stick to your standards, sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:03 AM |
| 66 | If he tells you to swallow his cum, tell him to swallow your period blood :)It's important to put yourself in the Madonna or "good girl" category if you want to have fulfilling sex with a man. You don't 'win' even by being the Madonna. It just means he'll disrespect you behind you back instead of to your face. FDS says not to date these men for a reason. They have archaic, fucked up attitudes towards woman and no trying to be the 'good girl' is going to make them a decent person. Once he realizes you're a complex, multi-faceted human being instead of the perfect little … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 06:57 AM |
| 36 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costAnd the fact that marriage/babies will get you a fruit basket at work, while if a single woman completes her second degree, wins a half-marathon or buys a house, it's crickets. It's so frustrating that marriage/babies are the ONLY publicly recognized achievements for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 06:39 AM |
| 88 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costIt's so gross when LV people parade this as a badge of honor. "He cheated on me 4 times and got another woman pregnant, but it really made us stronger as a couple!" I'm pretty sure genuinely healthy couples who struggled through a partner getting a cancer diagnosis and chemo aren't bragging about it for clout points. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 06:29 AM |
| 37 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.Absolutely this. I am not 'demisexual' for wanting to have an emotional connection with someone before letting them inside my body. It just means I'm normal and not a fucking sociopath. We need to start mobilizing and preventing the term 'demisexual' from becoming mainstream and calling it out whenever we see it. Allowing this term to spread normalizes the dangerous idea that casual sex devoid of love and emotion is 'normal' and wanting a connection and intimacy is some weird 'niche'. This shoul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 06:24 AM |
| 21 | Came up on my FB feed. Because there's nothing funnier than hitting women, right?He'd have to be able to lift his knuckles off the ground first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 06:06 AM |
| 101 | LV partners who ask to see us in VERY specific lingerieYeah, lingerie as a gift will never not come across as skeevy and gross to me. However, a man who buys me warm fluffy socks because my feet get cold at night? Be still my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:02 PM |
| 127 | I experienced a switcheroo by a soft boy who ended up extorting my emotional investmentI was dumped over the phone once by a guy I'd been seeing for nearly 9 months. Like dude, you've literally been inside me and you won't even look me in the eye when you break up with me? Fucking coward. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 8 | When it comes to "High Value" communities targeted to women, many are belong in the trashIt doesn't matter how many years you've been with your 'boyfriend'. If you have kids with him and you're not married, you're a single mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 05:08 AM |
| 64 | Husband suggests she stop buying formula rather than get a job and cancel his $80+ a month subscriptions.Stuff like this makes me understand why women used to poison their husbands. He's the definition of a Negative Value Male. A total waste of oxygen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 04:50 AM |
| 19 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.Men consider women sexual resources. That's it. Now that's not fair. They also consider us incubators, maids, chefs, therapists and personal secretaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:09 PM |
| 15 | “Not ready to be serious … but I want to keep seeing you!!” does NOT warrant any responseYeah, this struck me too. Most men know pretty quickly if they see you as a romantic prospect and a HVM will make his intentions known. This reeks of "hmm... I haven't been getting any lately, lemme scroll through the female acquaintances I have and hit one up in the hopes of scoring." It reminds me of that episode of Friends, where Joey feels jealous of Monica and Chandler's relationship that's built on years of friendship, and instead of taking the time to meet someone and slowly build a deep … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 06:01 PM |
| 32 | Am I codependent or do I have a strong intuition?Is this something that will come eventually as in should I give him a chance to explore this more? NO!!!! For the love of God, do not stay with an emotionally unavailable man, waiting for him to magically 'see the light'. It's death by a thousand cuts. He won't change. Read that again. He won't change and your self esteem will be destroyed as you despairingly wonder why you aren't 'good enough.' These men are broken and cannot commit to anyone. Why are you willing to shackle yourself to a lame h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 07:00 PM |
| 80 | Don’t travel for a man. Especially on your own dime. If he was interested he would travel to you or at very minimum pay for your flight and accommodations.Also one thing that stands out to me is that she is more nervous to travel alone than to travel to see and spend time with a male stranger she has never met. THIS^^^^^^ I travel solo a LOT, and have had nothing but wonderful experiences (I have a baby face, so lots of older women want to adopt me, lol). The thought of being miles from home at the mercy of a complete stranger scares the shit out of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:47 PM |
| 62 | Don’t bother manipulating a LVM from doing weaponized incompetence. Just leave him. It will only get worse if you have children with him.Women collectively need to stop fucking these men. If they handle basic tasks with the cognitive ability of a mentally deficient 2 year-old, they sure as hell can't consent to sex. Tell them that having sex with them would basically be assault because they can't give informed consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/21 06:34 PM |
| 10 | Netflix Love Hard movie - typical storyline of giving LVM chances (spoiler alert)It breaks my heart what Nina Dobrev did to her face. She was genuinely one of the prettiest girls I've ever seen. Such a shame that you can be born with basically perfect features and still feel the pressure of Hollywood's ridiculous beauty standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 08:15 PM |
| 26 | Hookup culture is a scamI never did either and for once I am so glad that my social anxiety and introvertedness blocked me from trying. I never had casual sex for exactly the same reasons as you. For me, sex was something I only did in a relationship, because it takes a long time for me to feel open and comfortable with someone. Ironically, now I'm in my 30's, I'm much more confident and comfortable with myself than all the outgoing young women who engaged in hookup culture and are now broken and traumatized from the e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 07:36 PM |
| 227 | Apologizing for or sympathizing with "cancelled" woman-abusers is big time Pick Me behaviour - From Vanity Fair: 'Dakota Johnson Calls Cancel Culture "Such a Downer"Given how her grandmother was treated by LVM Alfred Hitchcock, this is truly a betrayal. I bet Tippi Hedren would have given ANYTHING for a MeToo/TimesUp movement that would have made Hitchcock face consequences for his gross behavior. I hope she never speaks to her granddaughter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 07:52 AM |
| 37 | Pickme Argues with Man to Pay the BillAlso, notice how he 'downgraded' her as a result. At first he was insistent on paying and being a gentleman because "it's nice to show appreciation", but because of her ridiculous Pickme antics, he later jokes and laughs about her paying for him on the next date ("I wouldn't say no to that"). It's amazing in that clip alone how quickly you can see he's relegated her from "potential girlfriend" to "temporary fuckbuddy". A real HVM would have politely declined a second date after her off-putting b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 06:17 PM |
| 41 | Vetting/strategizing is not the same as “playing games”, “shit testing” or manipulation.Even if we were 'playing games', the ultimate goal is to have... gasp... a healthy, mutual, loving relationship. Truly appalling! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 06:02 PM |
| 22 | He (27M) revealed he was a virgin…" I was shocked and ngl a little put off at first but I didn’t want that to stop me since there were no red flags with him." This is the red flag, OP! Steer clear of late 20's virgins/sexually inexperienced men. All their sex 'education' will have come from porn. Also, believe me when I say that he won't be grateful that you 'gave him a chance'. He'll simply use you to gain a bit of sexual experience then will dump you to go play the field and 'make up for lost time'. Also, these types are inwar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/21 08:10 AM |
| 3 | (TW: SEX, VIOLENCE). These are texts men sent to me when I used to engage in BDSM. Even when they hide behind a "nice guy" facade, this is their true nature. Looking back, I I can't believe I ever accepted being treated this way. BDSM is not liberating or empowering, it's ABUSE.These men belong in prison. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:04 PM |
| 14 | Portrait of a shitty lover (or - run screaming in the opposite direction if this is your man in bed)Yeah No9 was the one that really resonated with me. Like, these guys were smart enough not to pull any nasty or degrading stuff during sex and always spent ages on foreplay... but it felt like they were never fully 'there'. I could never quite put my finger on what didn't feel right, but you summarized it perfectly. Even when they're not overtly pornsick, it completely destroys their capacity to be vulnerable, present and truly intimate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:49 PM |
| 18 | Being Friends With Exes Could Mean Someone Is a PsychopathThis 100%. If a woman goes No Contact, then it's harder for him to admit that he's not an asshole. A woman cutting all contact makes him look bad, because people will start to question what he did to make her resort to such extremes. It's never about him wanting to 'stay friends'. It's all about maintaining his image. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:25 PM |
| 78 | Chris Pratt continues to be the worstIf this is what it takes to cancel him, I don't even mind, to be honest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 05:12 PM |
| 5 | are guys allowed to roster date?Just going to leave this here... https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/igufgh/men_and_women_multiple_dating_are_not_the_same/ Also: no man alive who is truly into you would encourage you to be dating other men. Literally none. Drop him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:58 PM |
| 46 | Prime example that having money does not automatically make you a HVM! Beware of ‘godly men’ queens.The way that Amy delivers the word 'bouncier' with such venom in her tone is a total mood. I need to watch this movie again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 07:34 PM |
| 52 | The IckOne shaved his beard off and I couldn't unsee his feminine mouth and weak chin. Another sent me a shirtless pic. Pale, skinny-fat with weak arms and no shoulder definition. It was like the upper body of a 15 year old and this dude was 32. Blech. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 06:57 PM |
| 26 | Please carve my eyes out of my head nowFile a police report. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 06:32 PM |
| 4 | Last Night in Soho - an excellent FDS cautionary taleYes!!! For a horrible moment, I thought the narrative would expect us to sympathize with the Johns, but when they ask Eloise to kill Sandy, she basically tells them to f*ck off. Amazing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 06:05 PM |
| 123 | No one inherently HV or LV. We are what we repeatedly do.At the end of the day, the goal is not to find "the perfect HVM so that I can finally have my happily ever after" - it is about no matter what happens, you choose to prioritize your happiness, every time. This is so important. Finding a HVM isn't the prize. Your happiness is the prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 05:41 PM |
| 70 | Last Night in Soho - an excellent FDS cautionary taleI cannot recommend it enough. I absolutely refuse to watch horror movies that are slasher/gore, but I love a good, stylish, intelligent psychological thriller, and this one really delivers. Probably the best 'horror' movie I've seen since Get Out. Also, watching it on the big screen really adds to the experience. The sound/visuals/editing when Eloise steps back into the first 1960's flashback is just ~chef's kiss~ perfection. And it's a movie with two female leads! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 02:13 PM |
| 13 | Man fell asleep on the first date…That's giving him way too much credit. Chances are, he was tired because he was up all the night before banging some Pickme. A guy that is cheap enough to do a movie date and accept a ride there is a guy who is texting/sleeping with multiple women. A man who treats taking you on a date as a priority does not behave like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 12:24 PM |
| 48 | What a Pick Me's future looks likeShe's actually 24, lbr | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 12:18 PM |
| 9 | "I just don't want to hurt you"Seriously, 90% of men when you call them out on shitty behavior just act like the guy in the hot dog car sketch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 09:26 AM |
| 7 | Rapist redemption on TVTeen shows are really bad for this as well. Both The Vampire Diaries and Gossip Girl have a guy sexually assault someone in the opening episodes who then becomes the Main Love Interest for the show, which inevitably ends up dragging down the more interesting female lead to focus on the man's 'redemption arc.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:51 AM |
| 13 | Men think we are crazy, ugly psychos for having physical standards. Never change your standards and these “short kings” can go cry themselves to sleep. (The last guy seems hopeful though.)It's a cope low value men use because they won't admit it's their vile personality that is making women flee from them in droves. Every lovely short guy I know is in a relationship with a great woman, because, well, of course he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:06 AM |
| 330 | This is what men think of women they hook up with. It is not in our best interests as women to sleep with men casually.there are men who can create whole long relationship (and even marriage) despite not being attracted to you at all This was the part of FDS that was initially the hardest for me to accept. I never engaged in hookup culture, so the 'wait for commitment until sex' resonated with my own values, but the thought that men can buy houses, get married and have children with women they don't love or even like chilled me to the bone. Like what level of sociopathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/21 07:02 AM |
| 2 | Need advice for my sister!He might even be using your sister to help him better court the other woman, in case she takes her time with sleeping with him. That way he can appear as a perfect gentleman who can wait 🤢🤢 Absolute scrotery, a LVM masking as a HVM. There's a lot of LV behavior documented on this sub that riles me up, but this makes me rage like no other. This behavior is utterly disgusting. I wonder if the ladies here have any tips on how to vet for this. As someone who always waits before becoming sexually int… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 07:37 AM |
| 12 | When evaluating a man, don't just look at how you perceive his behaviour. Also look at the factual realities of your life before/after he came into it.One of the best posts I've read on here. So genius, yet so simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 07:06 AM |
| 17 | Do not take me to a horror movie as a date 🚩Repulsion is also fantastic. It perfectly captures the experience of how a woman feels like prey just going about her day to day life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:19 AM |
| 4 | Does he accidentally break/ruin your things? Or is it covert domestic violence?Thinking back over my life, I cannot recall a single instance where a parent or friend broke any of my belongings. Yet every single boyfriend I've had has broken SOMETHING of mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 06:15 AM |
| 24 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 34 - Building Your Girl Gang + Triple Scrote StackGiven how much promo she's been doing for American Crime Story recently, would you guys consider trying to get Monica Lewinsky as a guest on the Podcast? Her journey from textbook Pickme to HVW (activist and anti-bullying campaigner) has really been something to behold. If you listen to any of her interviews/Ted Talks, she's incredibly self-aware and articulate. I'd love to hear her insights on age-gap relationships, workplace romances and the double standards for women's behavior vs men's. It's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 04:06 PM |
| 12 | Your reminder that polyamory is a complete scam for women. This woman is trying to convince herself that she’s okay with hearing her husband have sex with another woman.When the venn diagram for sex pozzi liberalism and Sharia law is a full circle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:54 AM |
| 26 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesYeah, she looks like a literal Victoria's Secret model but you have no sexual attraction to her whatsoever? Really? Fuck off with that "sHe's liKe a sisTer To mE" bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:40 AM |
| 30 | Men Who are Still Friends With their ExesNo "friends with an ex" or "female best friends". I have been screwed over by both of these. Never again. You should be the #1 woman in his life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:17 AM |
| 42 | The self-aware LVMWhen these men say "I tried therapy and it didn't work" what they actually mean is "the therapist tried to make me self-reflect and hold me accountable for my own feelings/behaviors and I can't do that because I lack maturity, self-awareness and empathy." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 07:00 AM |
| 95 | Peer reviewed study: If you give him the power, he will abuse it.Power doesn't corrupt, power reveals. Give a man a modicum of power, and he'll reveal who he was inside all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 06:54 AM |
| 2 | How to slam down a guy expecting wife benefits at girlfriend levelThis. If you only cook for him like, once a year, you can guarantee he'll think it the best goddamn meal of his life. Doing shit for men only makes them take you for granted and feel entitled to more of your labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | A short video on why casual sex doesn’t benefit women.Saaame. I used to feel embarrassed at having had so few sexual partners but now it is a point of pride. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 05:15 PM |
| 5 | I wouldn't touch that guy with a ten foot stick after he pulled this kind of shit. He agrees to pay first date if she pays for the next, she ends up being footed with a bill 4x what he paid.Paying for their fucking safety. This shook me to the core. This is exactly what these women are doing. They're essentially paying a man not to rape/attack/verbally abuse them. To someone they're considering having a romantic relationship with. And this is considered normal and okay?? Fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 11:40 AM |
| 32 | This is what you get if you act „low maintance”. You are worth less than a good PC setupGrowing up poor does not mean one is incapable of treating a partner to something she’d like. Yes, and I know plenty of guys with blue-collar jobs who would die of shame before letting someone else pay for them. It's all about their core character. Stinginess isn't something you can 'grow out' of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/21 07:49 AM |
| 22 | Inspired by a previous post to post more feminist analysis. I (as a radfem) love FDS because the feminism here is in CLASS SOLIDARITY. None of the milquetoast third wave choice feminism bullshit that’s just repackaged patriarchy.I believe many women will cling to Liberal Feminism because what Radical Feminism exposes about men and how powerless women are in society is simply too daunting and horrific for many women to contemplate. Easier to live in denial and cling to the illusion of power than be shaken to the core at the realization that every 'empowered' choice you make has been one you've been manipulated into from a limited range of 'options' that society has 'permitted' you have, with the ever present reminder tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 01:34 PM |
| 26 | How do we identify, manage or avoid men who project their fantasies onto women in their lives? When are they dangerous?I'm so glad you made this into a full post! There's some great ideas here. To add my 2 cents: Is he someone that idealizes the past? Does he reflect back on high-school/his early 20's as the peak of his life? Does he put past girlfriends on a pedestal or have an ex who was 'the one who got away'? All of these indicate someone who is a fantasist, who is unable to view his experiences in an objective manner or learn from them. He will rewrite the past to fit whatever narrative he wants to tell him… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:55 AM |
| 11 | PSA: Beware of “no shave November.”No-one's aghast when their child pops out without glitter eyelids. I just snort-laughed into my coffee. The very first time I met my narc ex, my immediate thought was "he has a weak chin." But then he grew a beard and lovebombed me, so stupid me ended up dating him. Turns out his weak chin was reflective of his weak character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/21 10:43 AM |
| 80 | Oh dear lawd whatI swear the questions on Hinge are deliberately designed to make trash men out themselves. Which unfortunately, on Hinge, is... all of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:51 AM |
| 26 | Why do so many men refuse to go to the doctor for injuries, illnesses, etc? Growing old with someone who doesn’t take their health seriously doesn’t seem like a good choice.*toxic masculinity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:47 AM |
| 4 | When FDS Theory actually makes it in socmed: building a man doesn’t help you cement the relationship you want. Scary how many likes this post got-Men being so open with their blatant assholery is doing women a massive solid as these dudes will shamelessly make these posts with their face right there. Like they're so desperate for male bro points that they will expose their depravity for literally everyone to see, including their girlfriend. Like... congrats on making it easier to dump you, I guess? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 9 | "Men know women better"See what happened when the U.K. trialled a legalised sex work zone lol it got closed down for a long list of legitimate safety concerns such as children witnessing sex acts and rapes outside their road, children being sexually harassed by sex buyers, husbands being harassed by prostitutes outside their home & used needles / condoms everywhere https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/nypost.com/2021/07/03/uks-legal-red-light-district-closed-after-years-of-problems-in-leeds/amp/ This is horrifying. There ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:40 AM |
| 22 | "Men know women better"This is why a man only having a small number of friends is not a red flag to me. The bigger a group of guy friends is, the more likely they are to be LV. My straight HVM friend only has one male friend he's really close to - a genuinely wonderful guy with a lovely family - because good men are rare and HV people are choosy with who they allow into their lives. I'd be more wary of a boyfriend with a large group of guy friends than a boyfriend with only one or two close friends, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:31 AM |
| 15 | The Aftermath of Pickmeisha SyndromeI dropped a toxic friend a couple of years ago. She wasn't nasty or malicious, but kept actively getting into abusive relationships, drinking too much and surrounding herself with drama. I was going through a tough time with an ex and a family bereavement, which is when we became close, but interestingly, when I worked through the pain and leveled up, we had less and less in common. She would vent her problems, I would give advice, then she would just go off and do the same dumb shit all over ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 10:18 AM |
| 11 | Scrote harasses a 21 year old girl and people in the comments are blaming HER for not “shutting him down”…Sadly, this is why Patriarchy isn't going away any time soon. Say what you will about men, they will always band together to form a united front, while with women, there will always be some insecure Pickme ready to gleefully throw her sisters to the wolves for a scrap of male approval. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:45 AM |
| 40 | How do you handle men in your professional life who think they’re in love with you?This needs to be its own post, tbh. These 'fantasist' guys are the most dangerous, because they're the ones to fly into a murderous rage when the bemused woman has no interest in being his fantasy girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:31 AM |
| 6 | Be careful out there ladies: Comments under a tic tok about most dangerous people you’ve met- man kills wife, justifies it claiming infidelity. Men need to hold one another accountable, not justify violence and in this case murder.OP, a lot of these dumbfucks have personal photos in their profile pictures. Can you report them en masse? Either to tik tok, or better still, the FBI? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 07:37 AM |
| 6 | What would you consider going above and beyond?This whole thread is giving me warm and glowy feelings. Such a good reminder never to settle, especially when my family and friends go above and beyond for me on the regular. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 02:56 PM |
| 16 | The Real Reason Men Always Pursue the Women Who Want Relationships as “Hookups” - Summarized Perfectly in this TikTok *chef’s kiss*This. Acting 'cool' or 'uninterested' only attracts emotionally unavailable men who get an ego stroke from playing the game of trying to 'win' you. To these sociopathic fuckboys, you're bigger game than the Pickmes who will put out on the first date and he gets more of a 'high' pulling the long con. If you have to act 'disinterested' or play hard to get to keep a guy's interest, you've already lost because he's inherently LV. HVM are relationship-orientated, and while they will want to take thin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 11:31 AM |
| 42 | Watched a man be who he was when he thought no one was watching IRL. There are far more tricks to hide activity than I ever knew.Further proof that if he wanted to, he would. Can't make dinner reservations at that restaurant you like but can order 5 different prostitutes in a 20 minute window? Okay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 08:27 AM |
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| 73 | We need to STOP platforming this “feminine” mentality — it grooms women into compliant relationships with abusive, dangerous LVM. You do NOT praise the bare minimum, you simply walk away if he cannot “do better”.What in the fresh Pickme hell? I'm pretty sure a 'High Value Queen' isn't wasting her time trying to 'magnetize' men because she has better shit to be focusing her energy on. @ HighValueQueens, please stop stealing FDS terminology to peddle your bullshit LibFem agenda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 07:01 AM |
| 18 | Grown man with a family asks “what am I left with?” if he can’t move across the country for a jobHow dare his wife be an autonomous human being with opinions about how a massive life change will affect her family!!?1 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:53 AM |
| 108 | "men are only loved conditionally"The only women who are loved unconditionally by men are women who stay attractive, thin and fit, sexually available, compliant, and willing to provide free maid and cook services. These women still get cheated on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:44 AM |
| 25 | Men are the emotional sex.And President of the United States! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:40 AM |
| 29 | Let's discuss! When did you first get assigned to sit next to a disruptive boy in class, supposedly to be a good influence on him?Never because my parents, God bless them, sent me to a school where kids were grouped by ability, so the only boys in my classes were the smart, competitive, hard-working ones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:37 AM |
| 82 | This is why you don’t tell men you enjoy cooking 🤦♀️So, this is obviously an immediate block and delete, but the petty part of me would want to reply: Me: "I will get some amazing Jimmy Choo's soon." Him: "Why? You get a raise?" Me: "Lol no. U will buy them for me." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:24 AM |
| 171 | Thanks for keeping us awareNo. He thought you were an easy target, but you proved him wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:18 AM |
| 7 | "We decided" - Was it REALLY a joint decision or did you just go along with what he wanted out of fear of losing him?These men never respect the women that stay with them through their 'bum' phase. They'll just play her for a sucker until they can go after a woman they perceive to be more on their 'level'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:04 AM |
| 42 | The only competitionIt's truly insane how much they hate their own company. If you don't like being with you, why would I??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/21 06:01 AM |
| 15 | Porn is going to have major implications on the future and no one is talking about itI know it seems bleak, but when I think about how powerful/wealthy/influential the tobacco giants used to be, it gives me hope that the porn industry too will one day be overthrown. I literally know one person in my day to day life that smokes now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 08:19 AM |
| 52 | we hold SO Much power over men. even if you are partnered up already or not interested in a relationship at all, you can still empower women (and yourself) by spreading the fds messages.THIS is the uplifting FDS content I come here for! I genuinely look forward to a Friday evening where I can relax after a week at work, cook dinner, run a hot bath and relax with a facemask and a book, content with my pup. Men spend their nights alone staring at screens while they cry and masturbate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:10 AM |
| 115 | Passive men are a huge turn off, and actually dangerous.These types of men are pathetic and weak. One of the women I work with was out with her husband a few weeks ago when a scrote deliberately coughed on her on the subway, then later on yelled out "she's hot!" My colleague assumed he was shouting this at some other woman and only realized after when her husband told her that this comment was actually directed at her. In both incidents, her husband sat by and did nothing. My colleague is 5'2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 06:01 AM |
| 146 | Passive men are a huge turn off, and actually dangerous.You're getting the 'ick', girl. He's not behaving like a man and your libido is drying up as a result. Dump him and tell him it's because he's weak and unmasculine. Also, in the future, keep your dating life out of the workplace: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/plpnw7/keep_your_professional_reputation_inviolate_do/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:55 AM |
| 53 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoI know it seems disheartening, but my father DID marry the woman he loved (he basically knew my mom was 'the woman he wanted to marry' pretty much as soon as they met) and he's worked HARD to be a good husband and father because he knows it was worth it. He's said to me many times "Please don't mourn for me when I pass. I've had a wonderful life." He probably doesn't even remember the names of the women he dated before my mom came along, and in 34 years, I've never heard him talk about an ex-gir… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:45 AM |
| 69 | Men don’t always marry the woman they love the most: a n insight from an OLD convoAnd Henry VIII and Anne Boleyn. Both passionate, charismatic, strong-willed and intellectual equals. He worshiped the ground she walked on for seven years and moved heaven and earth to be with her. Less than four years of marriage and he hated her enough to want her dead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/21 05:38 AM |
| 206 | Porn is going to have major implications on the future and no one is talking about it20 years from now, people will talk about internet pornography the way we talk about tobacco today - with disbelief that it was just widely accepted and consumed because it is so fucking dangerous. The tide is starting to turn against porn and it's about goddamn time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:23 PM |
| 50 | REMINDER: if you post a screenshot/video, you MUST provide insightful/strategic commentary in the comments. Repeated violations will result in a temp ban.Mods, should we pin this post? I've already reported 2 low-level posts that were just screenshots of LVM/scrote comments that clearly demonstrated the members hadn't bothered to read the new rules. Thanks again for everything you're doing to make this sub a safe and informative space. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 06:16 PM |
| 19 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Guinevere (Gwen) from Merlin (her and Arthur also have a HV relationship!) Cordelia Chase on Angel Buffy by the end of Season 7 Donna Noble and Martha Jones on Doctor Who Anne of Cleves on The Tudors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:54 PM |
| 7 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Lois and Clark is soooo underrated! Lois is SUCH a great character, and - other than the keeping his Superman identity secret - Clark is a total HVM. He absolutely adores Lois and will move mountains for her. They also probably have the best on-screen chemistry of any couple I've seen on television, which proves that couples don't have to be messed up and toxic to have 'chemistry'. Healthy relationships can be really, really hot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:45 PM |
| 19 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?Yes!! Season 8 was utterly nonsensical as we spent 7 seasons watching how Daenerys was pretty much the ONLY character on the show who genuinely cared for the poor and made it her mission to end slavery and injustice wherever she she saw it. Freeing the slaves in Yunkai, Meeren and Astapor didn't benefit her in the slightest - in fact, it brought her a whole host of problems - but she did it because it was RIGHT, even putting aside her legacy of conquest to help those in need when she could easil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:38 PM |
| 10 | Who do you think is a High Value Woman TV female character?You need to go and watch Obscuras Lupa's (hilarious) reviews of the show. You will never look at Phoebe and Piper the same way again. I'll agree, however, that Prue Halliwell was an absolute Queen (I have a soft spot for Paige as well). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:20 PM |
| 102 | ladies whats some red flags that tell you a man is low key sexist?Comments negatively on women being scantily dressed. My ex did this shortly before we broke up and I side-eyed him HARD. What the fuck is it any of your business how she dresses? Any guy who does this has a Madonna/Whore complex. It doesn't matter how 'respectful' he is towards you, if he's shitting on other women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:17 PM |
| 31 | 'Among other things, these toxic "nice guy" narratives are exposing the kind of insidious paradigms of "acceptable" masculinity long implanted in our culture by film and TV.'Ugh, what?? I always respected Penn Badgley for going out of his way in every interview to emphasize what a monster Joe is and how much he hates the character. Guess it turns out he's just trash too? Another one bites the dust, I guess. I'm glad I quit watching the show. Season 1 was incredible, but the Season 2 was awful. In Season 1, the message of the show was "sometimes the dangerous man in your life might be the mild-mannered 'nice' guy you keep running into, so stay vigilant" whereas the m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 05:03 AM |
| 77 | Women who pretend to be friendly with a man - and come back to "report" on behaviour - are pickmes. STOP and cut all unnecessary ties.Thank you. High Value People do not associate with trash. They surround themselves with quality individuals, live full, rich lives of purpose and do not take time out of their valuable schedule to sift through garbage. This also includes: Posting messages here to laugh at trash men on OLD Posting screenshots of LVM on Reddit posts Posting conversations you had with your ex where you 'showed' them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:52 AM |
| -7 | Confiding in your boyfriend about how other men sometimes do bad things is apparently "crazy". Men shouldn't "stick their dick in crazy", or do, because that's all women are good for, but don't ever have a relationship with themI thought we were stopping just copy/pasting things scrotey men said as per the new rules on this sub? OP needs to post written content on what we can learn from this behavior. Recent rules from the pinned post state: 'No Low Effort Posts We will no longer be accepting posts or screenshots that do not come with a strategic comment from the OP that we can all learn from.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/21 04:38 AM |
| 12 | A HVM will WANT to plan a wedding with you a LVM will check outThese are the FDS stories I come here for! Congratulations to you both :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/21 07:47 PM |
| 5 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….This comment is so succinct yet so perfect, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:08 PM |
| 73 | The dates where nice, and he was a gentleman. However….Lmao, me and my female bestie will plan sleepovers with a facemask, cocktails and a movie, but no way in HELL would I sleep in the house of someone of the opposite sex. Because it's wildly inappropriate. This guy sounds like a narc and those women are part of his harem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Ground Rules - Take it Or Leave ItI was disgusted at the vitriol that was hurled at the mods WHO DO THIS INCREDIBLE WORK FOR FREE, so I'm am so here for no tolerance approach to those who disagree with what the sub is about. The constant man-hating and f*mcel rhetoric in what is supposed to be a DATING SUB was getting ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 04:38 PM |
| 2 | FDS is BACK!So happy you ladies are back! I love the 'back to basics' approach and the emphasis on quality > quantity when it comes to posting here. I'm ready for the positive energy moving forward and so grateful to everything you Mods are doing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 04:28 PM |
| 41 | Raised on porn - documentaryhttps://exoduscry.com/pcnp/ Link to sign the petition! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/21 06:13 AM |
| 142 | So I just discovered what demisexuality is"Demisexual" is a term our pornsick society is trying to shove down our throats to gaslight women into believing they're somehow 'rare' or 'niche' because they feel uncomfortable at the thought of fucking a complete stranger. No. It is normal to want to establish emotional intimacy and a human connection before having sex with someone. It's not our fault that men have fried their brains from porn consumption from the age of 7 to the point where they're unable to form real human relationships. Tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/21 06:06 AM |
| 0 | Weekly FDS Check-InI'll probably get downvoted for this, but smoking weed recreationally is LV as fuck. A grown ass man should be spending his weeknights getting an early night so he's going to be on top performance when he goes into work in the morning. Also, you say 'dating', so it's not even an official relationship?? After 5 months??? And instead of going to bed with you he chooses to hang out with his equally LV neighbors, smoking weed like a teenager??? Why do you think this man is the best you can do? Pleas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 06:56 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InI went to the gyno the other day and felt a bit nervous because she spoke quite sharply/abruptly to a guy in the waiting room (he was with a partner). However, when it was just to the two of us, she was friendly, informative, reassuring and made me feel so comfortable, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Check-InHe wouldn't be saying this if he thought you were the woman he was going to be spending the rest of his life with. He sees you as a temporary stopgap, which is why he isn't willing to pay more than 'his share'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 06:41 AM |
| 46 | Keeping the first few dates short in length... he is not your friend.It's also a tactic used by lovebombers and redpill men to fast-forward the sense of intimacy so a woman will feel like she knows the guy better than she really does and sleep with him sooner. No random dude you don't know from Adam is entitled to that much of your time. Additionally, if he's willing to spend 8+ hours with a woman he barely knows, it implies he doesn't have that much going on in his life. I used to think it a good thing when my ex was available whatever day I was free to see him.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 06:09 AM |
| 3 | This post will probably be removed.The userbase changed ever since reddit banned GC and some of those other subs. We shouldn't have compromised and let them change this sub into a male depravity sub. This is the truth, right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/21 05:35 AM |
| 36 | Mod appreciation postAgreed. I'm tired of users here trying to dictate the direction of the sub. I've (politely) suggested removing the Male Depravity posts before, but if the Mods feel like they have a place and relevance here, I'm not going to throw my toys out the pram because of it. I can simply choose to focus on the parts of the sub I feel benefit me most. The Mods do incredible work here and their content is saving lives. The most recent Podcast wasn't my favorite (I prefer it when Reaux, Lilith and Savannah … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 05:48 PM |
| 31 | At what age did you realize male validation means absolutely nothing?Damn girl, you came out the womb leveled up, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?Or your toilet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:22 PM |
| 7 | Men just have to ruin their chances, don't they?Came here looking for this comment. Literally no HVM is going to be putting that trash in their bodies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 06:21 PM |
| 40 | As a woman looking to buy a property in the next few years. It’s so important to legally NEVER give a man this much financial/ legal leverage over me. Any advice from you ladies???What in the actual fuck. This is abhorrent. You might as well let a complete stranger walk into your home and steal 50% of everything you own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 02:53 PM |
| 10 | I’d show you the comment I was responding to, but he deleted it. Called out a misogynist and he wrote an essay in response.Seriously, the era of Homer Simpson and Ross Gellar was men being mAnlY? When women were swooning over pretty boy Leonardo di Caprio in Romeo + Juliet and Titanic? Lmao. Now gimme some 80's action hero hunks, then we'll talk. Ar least back then we had Rambo, The Terminator and Die Hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:19 AM |
| 10 | I’d show you the comment I was responding to, but he deleted it. Called out a misogynist and he wrote an essay in response.Grandpa dressed up nicer when going to get news paper then modern males who go on dates. I feel this comment on a soul level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:11 AM |
| 8 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesThis has to be the most disturbing one yet. That sounds like some serial killer shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 06:08 AM |
| 8 | Oh how the turntables...You mean the guy who wrote It, in which the key to defeating the eldritch evil that's been terrorizing the kids is group sex with a twelve year old girl? That Stephen King? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 05:42 AM |
| 197 | No... just no.. we met at a tire shop and "bonded" over coffee loving but I didn't think he would actually commit to asking on a coffee hopping or whatever this is.He was in his native environment, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 09:16 AM |
| 203 | That’s all women are good for, porn genreThis perfectly illustrates how libfems are clowning themselves when they're all "I'll watch porn with him and act like his favorite pornstar! You're a sex-negative prude if you hate porn!" No. This is what porn is to men. An opportunity to hurt, humiliate and degrade women. Any man who watches porn does so because he wants to see women broken and 'punished'. It is an outlet for his hatred and misogyny and I'm sick of society gaslighting us to believe otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 05:43 AM |
| 29 | THANK GOD: Sarah Everard's murderer given a full life sentence and will die in jail. This filth will never be loose on the streets again.Yes, this case horrified me on a whole new level. The Brock Turner case was disgusting, but at least the victim was mercifully unconscious during the ordeal. She has her life and her loving family around her. Her parents didn't have to bury a loved one. But this... I can't begin to imagine what Sarah Everard's last hours must have been like. I hope this sick fuck enjoys prison. I'm sure inmates don't react kindly to former police officers. Let him see what getting raped feels like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 03:25 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inI hate seeing the screenshots of some shitty thing some shitty male said. If we're meant to be cutting these losers off, why post their words to expose more women to them?? It's the opposite of being woman-focused and giving them the attention they crave so much. THANK YOU. Being exposed to this sick and LV content has a negative impact on our mental health and well-being. How exactly is that going to inspire our members to date with a positive and empowered mindset? I asked the Mods on one of o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 05:14 AM |
| 87 | THANK GOD: Sarah Everard's murderer given a full life sentence and will die in jail. This filth will never be loose on the streets again.I agree. I know this was a win for UK women today, but I can't help but feel the severity of the sentence was due to the police/law enforcement covering their own asses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:49 AM |
| 32 | Traits and tenets of high-value womenI would also say a part of self-care is practicing self-compassion. I hold myself to very high standards and often need to remind myself that it's okay to take a break/have a lazy day every now and again. Women are under a lot of pressure to 'perfect', and while we should certainly strive to be the best version of ourselves, it's equally important to be kind to ourselves, the way we would to a friend or loved one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:44 AM |
| 103 | Excuse me?This is abuse/neglect, right?? He's deliberately letting his own child go hungry to satisfy some sick fetish. This woman needs to divorce his ass ASAP and tell everyone what a creep her husband is. Social shame is the only way to make a man suffer consequences and we need to start normalizing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:38 AM |
| 23 | we were having a nice convo and then he hits me with this "date" suggestion. 🤏🏼🤡"Sorry, I don't date teenagers." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:30 PM |
| 21 | Scrote: I have $7.5 M in assets, my wife has cancer, we have three little kids, if I quit my job I might resent the fact that I never got to my arbitrary $10 M target, I'm thinking of leaving her because the stress is too much for me"I have been dealing with this exhausting balance for eighteen months" You know what else is exhausting? HAVING FUCKING CANCER. Literally incapable of empathy. What a fucking sociopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/21 06:21 PM |
| 18 | This just in ladies, lazy proposals are the pinnacle of romance and just the best!Remember the video of that one guy who spent 6 months working with an animation designer so he could give his high school sweetheart a Sleeping Beauty themed proposal in the theater? This is like... the opposite of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:46 PM |
| 5 | Surprise Visit to Her Boyfriend in College - Thousands of TikTok Users Found it Suspicious and Found Both the BF's Reaction as well as the Reactions of Female Friends "Off" - What Do Y'all Think?I just keep hearing the Curb Your Enthusiasm theme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:37 PM |
| 15 | Ensuring you NEVER date or marry a porn-addict is DETRIMENTAL to your health, both mental and physical. This is why FDS considers pornography consumption in men an instant deal-breaker.Men are quite literally strangling women to death and society is still collectively shrugging its shoulders about porn. Porn is built on the backs of millions of raped, broken, traumatized and dead women and our world does not give a single fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:00 PM |
| 11 | 🙄🙄🙄 I just want to say I never like this excuse for a manHope you stood a far distance back, sis. Heard he doesn't wear deodorant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:28 PM |
| 6 | 🙄🙄🙄 I just want to say I never like this excuse for a manWoody Harrelson's performance in True Detective knocked McConaughey's out the park. McConaughey was hamming it up hard whereas Harrelson's character felt like an actual person you would encounter in real life. There was a 1000x more subtlety and nuance to his performance than McConaughey's overacting and stupidly exaggerated mannerisms and delivery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:27 PM |
| 8 | I told her she sounds like a forever girlfriend and asked how after 7 years, they've discussed what he will end their relationship over but not what their future and commitment will look like. Other scrotes trashing her for "making him" give up his dream school."He basically said that he would not want to try long distance." "He said that he supports whatever decision I make." Soooo... which is it? Both these statements can't be true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:58 AM |
| 15 | I did this in high school 🤡 and guess what? It did not turn out well. Never doing it again. If he wanted to, he would.And be expected to plan the date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 06:34 AM |
| 2 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.You can tell the wife is HV and gorgeous as fuck, otherwise jumping on her looks is the FIRST thing this scrote would have done. This woman is obviously the whole package and he's seething that he has nothing negative to say about her, so he falls back on "mY brOtHer pAys fOr dAtes." They sound like a lovely, HV couple. The jealous brother can die mad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:37 AM |
| 12 | This was so wild I couldn’t not share🥲 Thankfully most people were advising OP to ditch him.Ding ding ding. He throws them crumbs of sex/attention to keep them all desperately competing for the coveted position of First Lady of his harem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 07:00 PM |
| 12 | I don’t really have words for this one.There is something seriously wrong with men. They're voluntarily giving themselves brain damage at this point. JFC just remove their internet access already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 06:25 PM |
| 31 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.Even in my Pickme days, I only ever dated handsome, well-dressed men. By far the best dressed guy I ever dated was the Latino dude. A different shirt to every date, always crisp and clean, and he smelled incredible. He also had the best body, Played loads of soccer so his thighs and butt looked like they'd been carved by the gods. American men seriously need to step up their game. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:37 PM |
| 25 | It disgusts me to see how men are dressed in public.Some pedo male lurker must've felt triggered and downvoted you, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/21 04:28 PM |
| 19 | How do you date man while knowing their depravitySomething went very wrong in my brain to make me feel incomplete without a “partner.” Yes, it's called Female Socialization and every woman on the planet suffers from it in varying degrees. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/21 05:56 PM |
| 31 | My gripes with dating menShe played such strong badass women in her movies, good to know she was a queen in real life too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 3 | "Should I really vet for the rest of my life?? That seems excessive and too much work!" Yes, sis, yes you shouldTheir charm is how they get to be promiscuous. This is what is completely lost on incels and red-pilled men. Promiscuous men succeed in getting women into bed because they act really fucking nice to them. They are charming, funny, courteous, appear fascinated in what you have to say and treat you like you're the only woman in the room. They don't neg, show up late to dates and act surly or disinterested or demand that the woman pay for her $4 latte. Women respond to charming fuckbois because the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/21 09:35 AM |
| 13 | When did you realize that FDS was working for you and helping you make better dating decisions?I haven't had a single crush since discovering FDS and I'm LOVING it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/21 06:10 AM |
| 13 | NEVER admit insecuritySay "okay" then put on some porn in front of him featuring tall, ripped beefcakes with massive schlongs. Serious answer: the only pithy phrase you need in this situation is "you're dumped." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:55 PM |
| 58 | UPDATE: My Experience Implementing the 3 Month Rule of FDS. TDLR: For your own protection, wait EVEN LONGER than 3 months, preferably 6+. Men are sheep in wolf's clothing when they are trying to get a 50/50 roommate and after this, I will NEVER cohabitate with a man again until marriage"Him "joking" that I was "so wet he was worried that he would put it in the wrong hole." I stopped sex in that moment and he was upset that I held a consequence which was one of the first SIGNIFICANT RED FLAGS I wrote down Him trying to "tease my asshole" in an attempt to "change my mind" with his finger and me having to tell him that I was uncomfortable with him going near that area after we had consistent sex at 6 months" In other words, he was a sick fuck who was obsessed with anal due to all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 06:55 PM |
| 89 | Weekly FDS Check-inMods, could we consider removing the 'Male Depravity' flair and any posts with this kind of content? They're depressing, disgusting and add nothing to the discussion. Unlike the Stay Woke posts, which often provide sensible and practical advice for women, or the Cultural Misogyny posts that always invite intelligent and insightful discussions, the Male Depravity posts are nothing but an excuse for people to wallow in sick filth that has no business being on the front page of FDS. We know there a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/21 03:25 PM |
| 21 | Vetting for low value behaviour in men doesn't just apply to romantic relationships. It also applies to your friendships and associations.I think someone assumed your post was serious and downvoted you, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:36 PM |
| 70 | "Exclusive" is not a relationship status. You are either in a committed relationship or singleYou're the only person he's having sex with until he can convince another woman to sleep with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 02:32 PM |
| 19 | I know it's usually frowned upon, but I want to try vetting/dating/finding HV people (friends and potential romantic partners) using apps and OLD. Any advice for creating an FDS approved profile? How do I portray that I'm HV and attract healthy individuals?I recently deleted my account on Hinge as I couldn't deal with the uggos that had the audacity to like me. I was so insulted and disgusted as these men wouldn't dare if they saw me on the street. All their openers were very benign and polite, but I hate how OLD forces you to look at those profiles. I eventually found wading through such a volume of LVM depressing and draining and it made me pessimistic about ever finding a decent guy. Deleting the apps has made me feel so much better and optimis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:58 AM |
| 15 | If a man is willing to sleep with me too soon then I stop finding him attractive.Aaaand saved. Magnificent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:30 AM |
| 55 | Don’t be fooled by pickmes who seem to attract a bunch of menThese women attract LVM like a moth to a flame. It's not her beauty men are drawn to. It's her vulnerability. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:26 AM |
| 102 | A Man and Sexual Harassment (?), + I'm not crazy right?This. 100% he sent her a picture of his dick, which is why she was disgusted and blocked. But he 'conveniently' left that detail out so he could play the victim and do the whole "women are so irrational, amirite?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:22 AM |
| 70 | Why are so many men on OLD “just passing through?”Sorry, but your male friend is LV as fuck. He doesn't need to be 'educated' in anything. MEN. KNOW. If he's scurrying from continent to continent spending his time getting his dick sucked by random women rather than taking the time to learn/travel/appreciate the cultural beauty around him, he's trash. He has no respect for women and sees them as sexual objects to service his dick. And don't make the mistake of thinking he 'respects' you because you're 'friends' and you haven't slept with him. Hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/21 07:19 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inYou didn't fuck up anything. His mask just slipped. Now you're seeing who he truly is when he thinks he doesn't need to 'try' anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:35 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-inTry not to feel like you have to take 100% of the mental responsibility here. HVM are intuitive. Hell, even my ex, who was LV in other areas, conducted himself impeccably when it came to all things sexual. These men will allow you to set the pace and observe your comfort level. They will allow you to take the lead when it comes to deepening a kiss, touching him in less chaste areas, pulling at his shirt when you want things to heat up, and will respond in kind. Also, if you take things slow, he'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 11:32 AM |
| 36 | Beyond basic: Examples of HVM doing extraordinary thingsSeems like you want to dampen my happiness or cast doubt on what I shared, not help me or others. Every post we have here celebrating HVM behaviors, there is inevitably someone who comes in with a negative comment. I can't help but wonder if it's a case of sour grapes. Not every woman will be fortunate enough to find a HV partner, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't be happy for those that have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:52 AM |
| 17 | What was your moment of clarity?One of my vetting tactics is if a guy suggests getting the bill when I haven't finished my drink yet. It's so rude and inconsiderate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:27 AM |
| 25 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptThe difference is that if a man is genuinely interested in you, he will drop all other women he's talking to pretty much immediately. This won't even be an issue because you'll be the only woman on his radar. Men get laser focused when they see something they want. https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/igufgh/men_and_women_multiple_dating_are_not_the_same/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:15 AM |
| 14 | BARE MINIMUM: The LEAST You Should AcceptI assume it's triggered lurking scrotes downvoting OP's comment. When I say on this sub I won't date men with mental health issues, the general consensus from women here is "that's cool" or "same, sis." Nobody here standard shames or downvotes me for that sentiment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:11 AM |
| 16 | Oh woe is men!I couldn't even read that article I was so angry. Women have none of this mollycoddling shit. Nobody is looking out for us or holding our hands. If more women are in universities, GOOD. It's because we've put in the work and fucking earned those places. Then Fortune 500 companies will have no choice but to recruit women because there are fewer half-assed men floating around with BAs to prioritize over a female candidate is 100x more capable. I'm sick of men being rewarded with more for doing les… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/21 06:01 AM |
| 58 | Keep your professional reputation inviolate. Do NOT pursue workplace romances.Yes, I very quickly learned that the women who quit - they were the decent ones who wised up to his bullshit and removed themselves from the drama for their own peace of mind. His pickme ex, meanwhile, stuck around for the scraps of his attention, cosying up to me to find out how much of a 'threat' I was, and fueling the drama in her determination to be queen of his harem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 08:16 PM |
| 46 | A man who is into casual sex and hookups won't give a damn about your sexual health. Stay away from community dick.Sadly, a man that is intent on pleasuring you isn't necessarily HV. I had two ex boyfriends who were both incredibly generous lovers, ensured I orgasmed several times before penetration, spent ages on foreplay, loved cuddling, etc. One was only doing it because he was a narc whose ego was stroked at the thought of being the best lover I ever had, while the other only did it because he was concerned about appearing to be a Good Boyfriend. Neither one genuinely cared about my happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:34 PM |
| 50 | Can we talk about Leonardo DiCaprio?Like most Pickmes, she probably gets a sense of pride/validation in being the one woman he 'respects'. It's just another iteration of 'not like other girls.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:27 PM |
| 100 | It’s the little thingsI agree - Mods, is it possible we could devote a section of the Handook to "HVM testimonies"? Showcasing HV behavior is just as valuable as identifying LV behaviors, and so many of our users here post such lovely stories of the wonderful ways their partners treat them. It would be really great to have all these accounts compiled in one place. It really shows newer members here what they should be looking for, and that, yes, it IS possible to be treated this way. And for our more long-standing me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:14 AM |
| 188 | I just found his alphabetized nudes from previous relationships. Mine included.Fake being fine with him until you can get into his phone/devices and delete everything. Sometimes you have to play the long game. Like that woman who found out her bf had pictures/videos of them having sex (I think?) and played dumb for ages, letting him use her computer to work on his dissertation. Just before it was due for submission, she deleted the dissertation and dumped his ass. It was one of the most satisfying FDS stories I've ever read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:08 AM |
| 54 | Following hot girls on instagram - red flag?Literally this. I don't understand why this post made it to the main sub. If you're that much of a rookie, you should be on AskFDS. Dump. Delete. Next. This doesn't even need to be a discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 05:04 AM |
| 7 | "All ages considered!"Successful, decent-looking, well educated men don't post creepy adverts like this because they don't need to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:55 AM |
| 36 | Looks are so importantI'm so done with skinny fat men. Literally all they need to do is 10 sit-ups a day to get nice abs/ 6-pack. It's beyond lazy at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 04:46 AM |
| 22 | Tell all the men you know to get in on this class action to drive the payout down to pennies, then delete and let those who remain initiate messages to bots.They're salty because according to their bros on Reddit, Bumble has 'hotter, better quality women" and they're angry these women aren't messaging them (because they're gross slobs she wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole). Basically, they're pissed they can't harass women out of their league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:51 PM |
| 17 | Low Effort Dates | Online DatingI honestly cannot comprehend that level of laziness and passivity. When I know I'm going to a new city, I am SO excited to google the cultural attractions and restaurants - for me, it's all part of the thrill of anticipation. Part of the fun is being able to explore different options, pick and choose all the fun things I'm going to do, start planning a little itinerary in my head. These LVM are passive bloodsuckers, perfectly content to let life drift by with glazed eyes while they leech the bri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:44 PM |
| 663 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Tell me anything good that ever comes of groups of men roaming around together. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 06:33 PM |
| 15 | Moving in with him = You are his ATM.My ex broke my microwave. We weren't even living together! The cheap fucker denied it and never offered to buy me a new one. Any man that is not biologically related to me or a paid plumber/electrician/tradesman is never going to cross the threshold of my property again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 07:04 PM |
| 13 | Four years for choking her during sex. This is not okay.Please can we stop calling it choking. It is strangulation. It is attempted murder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:54 PM |
| 3 | How do you feel about video games?Your standards are fine. I refuse to date a man who plays video games. I don't know any grown adult in my social circle who plays video games. I consider it a hobby for children and teenagers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:18 PM |
| 43 | Men who have no talking gamePorn and video games have killed their ability for interpersonal communication. It's hard to have social skills when you literally never leave the house. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:15 PM |
| 23 | The amount of hypocrisy I've seen from men is just staggering."I'm not going to stop the hamster wheel. I'm going to blow up the hamster wheel." Daenerys Targaryen, if she was on FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:03 PM |
| 75 | Successful men and their entitlement to women's bodies (#YouToo)I'll be devastated if Keanu ever turns out to be a cheating LVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 05:59 PM |
| 16 | He said he wanted a relationshipIf a man hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend by two months - drop him. Most will have asked you by six weeks. Men who are serious about you will NOT leave you uncertain about the state of the relationship. Pond scum like this man, however, thrive on ambiguity. I'm glad he's blocked, because when things don't work out with this new chick, you can guarantee he'll come circling back for seconds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/21 08:06 AM |
| 103 | Ladies of Reddit, what’s the sexiest thing an overweight gamer in his 30s can do to make you have sex with himI’d rather be a happy bitch than a miserable “nice girl” This should be the FDS tagline. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 08:24 PM |
| 33 | Men who date multiple womenNot to self promote, but OP, I made a post on this a while back that might help you: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/igufgh/men_and_women_multiple_dating_are_not_the_same/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:44 PM |
| 37 | What are some examples of imbalanced relationships that stand/stood out to you in media? I’m currently rewatching Harry Potter for the first time since joining FDS, and I’m finding Hermione’s relationship with Ron… a lot less endearing than I used to 🥴Chuck and Blair have to be the most disgusting pairing I have ever seen. I haven't watched Gossip Girl in years, but just off the top of my head, Chuck: - Slut shames Blair after taking her virginity and blackmailing her. When she is socially ostracized by her classmates after a pregnancy scare, Blair goes to Chuck because she has 'no one' and he claims he doesn't want her anymore because she's used and compares her to his father's horse "rode hard and put away wet." Yes, those exact words. - Pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:30 PM |
| 198 | My mother’s analogy on BDSMA man who hits women is an abuser and everyone agrees with this. A man who hits women because it gives him a boner is apparently a respectful, moral citizen that doesn't deserve to be kInkshaMed. What absolute clownery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 01:08 PM |
| 16 | Wishy washy scrote that earns 6 figures asked me over to his house for "pizza" and I left him on read. He did this for 3 days in a row and he eventually gave up. A reminder for the ladies here not to correlate high earning with high value.But he had a pizza coupon, and wanted to fuck. Why do you have to be such a bitch? ~ every man on Reddit, probably. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/21 12:41 PM |
| 31 | If a man has a female best friend it is a red flagThis is sad but true. HVM don't have a 'female best friend'. Their best friend is their romantic partner. She is the woman they will choose to form a close emotional connection with, the woman they will confide in, the woman they want to spend time with. When HVM fall in love, YOU are the woman they want to be around. They might have female friends or acquaintances, but often these will be the partners of male friends that he sees at group outings. They will have no interest in seeking out other… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 06:46 PM |
| 16 | The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has goneThey can jump from pickme to pickme having kids and faking commitment without any legal repercussions. At least in the past to access us they had to sacrifice something The erosion of community has played a big role in this as well. At least in the past, if a man knocked up an unmarried woman or left his wife to run off with a young girl, he would face social stigma and his reputation would suffer. The lack of social consequences for poor male behavior means they have continued to push the bound… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:11 AM |
| 46 | The controversy on engagement rings shows how far liberal feminism has goneI will never forget the moment it dawned on me that men routinely marry women who they don’t even love. This was the thing that shocked me the most when I first joined FDS. Before, I had naively assumed that whatever happened down the line, that the guy had at least once loved the woman he married. The fact that men will routinely marry a woman they don't love because of the social/material benefits of marriage chills me to the bone. I can't even begin to comprehend the level of sociopathy it ta… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 08:04 AM |
| 28 | I used to date ugly men because I was tired of being called Shallow for only dating attractive men, but I don’t care anymore.Yes, I have a male colleague who is legitimately pear-shaped. It's horrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:45 AM |
| 33 | I used to date ugly men because I was tired of being called Shallow for only dating attractive men, but I don’t care anymore."Any man who must say "I am the king" is no true king." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:40 AM |
| 108 | Another Scrote Sticker ChartMy father is in his seventies and his hobby is building furniture that he paints and then sells. He comes home with wood/metal for his next project and hands the cash from his sales to my mom. Men like my father are a dying breed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 07:36 AM |
| 6 | Pickme’s sacrifice living situation for LVMAre you on the FDS Discord? Maybe there are other FDS ladies in your area looking for a living situation that might be interested in moving in if there's a way you can communicate with them safely and verify their identity? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 04:53 PM |
| 50 | “If they have no bread, then Let Them Eat Dick”It's lurking scrotes downvoting you, sis. It happens all the time here. They're pathetic creeps that have nothing better to do with their time. No one here would be sick enough to downvote you for sharing something so painful and traumatic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 06:27 AM |
| 38 | Stop internalizing men’s cruelty/inability to treat you wellOne of my most satisfying moments was telling my narc ex calmly "you're someone else's problem now." No tears, no drama. Just made it clear I'd seen through him and I was DONE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 361 | This is really sad and honestly terrifyingI guarantee it's less about her weight/body and more about the fact that now she's birthed a child, he's mentally shifted her to the "mother" category and can't bring himself to have porn-style sex with her the way he did before she fell pregnant. Classic Madonna/Whore scrote. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 01:26 PM |
| 31 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?All this and he'll still cheat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 07:29 AM |
| 415 | Some women get so desperate for the ring they end up accepting any situation just for the sake of being married. Better be single than with scrotes like this...And Scrotes and Pickmes screech that we're crazy for refusing to date men who insist on 50-50. No. We're not. Because this is the end result, right here. This is the 'relationship' you're signing up for. A man who will never surprise you with flowers. A man who will never take you out to dinner as a treat. A man who will never buy you a lovely gift 'just because'. A man who will never book a vacation for the two of you. She's learnt the hard way. 50-50 kills romance. This isn't a romantic relati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 07:22 AM |
| 141 | How to tell that he’s pornsickMy friend is currently experiencing this with her boyfriend and refuses to see it for what it is. I'm like "sis... it's been over 45 minutes, you're sore and he hasn't cum yet? Doesn't that seem strange to you??" She's also all "he likes to do it in every position, tee hee." So basically, he flips her round and contorts her like a pretzel as he reenacts every porn scenario he's watched. And yes, there is an 8 year age gap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 07:26 AM |
| 92 | It was too good to be true."Inclusion." That's an... interesting way to describe child porn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:13 PM |
| 64 | It feels like a huge amount of people operate this way, men and women, and I despise it so much, extremely LV behavior imoThey will literally never initiate a breakup. They will just continue half-heartedly fucking you and apathetically hang around in the relationship until you dump their cowardly asses. I'm so sick of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 03:03 PM |
| 4 | Thanks to FDS men's language classes, I now know that what this means is "we want to be useless and play video games our entire lives so we're victimising ourselves."Is it crack? Is it crack this dude is smoking? Is he forgetting ALL the women who unconditionally love and support their overweight, unemployed gamer boyfriends by bringing them snacks, buying them PS5's and acting like Mommy 2.0 they get to fuck without even bothering to wipe their own ass? Tell me how many women would be loved for being overweight, hairy, lazy, unemployed with poor hygiene who contributed nothing around the house and had a whiny, negative, entitled personality to boot? Where a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 02:57 PM |
| 51 | Research proves men are not the heroes they claim!Ooh I like this! The capital city can be either Dinesberg or Atwoodville. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:32 AM |
| 6 | BruhJust when you're starting to feel wistful about being single, read this post and remind yourself that not living with a man is utter, utter bliss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 05:26 AM |
| 30 | FDS recommends being upfront about marriage/serious relationship goals to potential partners but FDS-Approved books say to never mention it?I don't think telling a guy upfront that you only date with serious intention is a bad thing. If your vetting is top-notch, even if a LVM says "oh, me too", he'll still manage to slip up somewhere along the way (trying to go 50-50, pushing for sex early on, not planning thoughtful dates in advance) before you have committed to or slept with him. Most will lose patience by 4 months and discard themselves for you. I don't think lying to a HVM about your dating intentions is a good way to start a r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 02:34 PM |
| 29 | Why are the comments saying this is cute?!I've had my Pickme moments in the past, but Jesus, at least the dudes I dated had the sense to be nothing but adoring in my presence, whatever fuckery they might have been doing behind my back. If a man ever spoke to me like that, they'd never recover his body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 10:10 AM |
| 26 | Can men who engage in hook up culture/casual sex, turn around and happily commit to long term monogamous relationships without cheating/hall passes/porn addiction etc.I have a co-worker who was sleazy fuckboi supreme (to the point of sleeping with multiple women in the office and causing drama) who has now 'settled down' at 42 and constantly goes on about being a husband and father like he's dad of the year. Last office Christmas party, he tried to have sex with a 22 year old. They don't change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 09:57 AM |
| 21 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 24 - Pre-Sex Sexual Compatibility Tests + Birthday SadBoyI think 'post-nut clarity' is a thing, but only with pornsick men. Due to all the depraved content they're viewing online, they come to associate orgasm with disgust and revulsion and then extend that to real-life sexual situations where they feel contempt for the woman they've just slept with. Healthy men who have a healthy attitude to sex are only going to feel closer to their partner after sex, because they do not associate their orgasm with feeling dirty and ashamed. These are the men that l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 11:49 AM |
| 39 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceI absolutely do not believe in growing attraction Growing attraction only works when you find the guy objectively attractive when you first meet, but don't have a crush on him yet. When I first met my last ex, I thought he was incredibly handsome, but I didn't have butterflies or anything, it was more like admiring a classical painting. It was only on date 3 that the butterflies started and I began to imagine him touching and kissing me. Then it was off to the races. I have never thought "huh, t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:27 AM |
| 18 | You should NEVER give ugly men a chanceYes, 100%. For these men, ugliness is a choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:20 AM |
| 14 | WTF is wrong with people? A kink party as a second date?! This is peak Pickmeisha fuckery. ( she posts a bunch of pics of herself in extremely sexual lingerie and then freaks out because he didn’t even bother to tell her the theme is white). Just why?!? What’s in it for her? Make it make sense...Okay, that's enough internet for today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:51 AM |
| 6 | Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process.So many LVM are music snobs. They take it so seriously, and I'm like tf dude, it's just a band, chill. Meanwhile, I'll say that one of my favorite songs is Madonna's 'Material Girl' and watch the LVMs sweat. The lyrics and the video are perfectly FDS: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6p-lDYPR2P8&ab_channel=Madonna | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 11:45 AM |
| 2 | I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮The sunken place. She's screaming in the void. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:52 AM |
| 1 | I can’t believe what I just found on Facebook! Most of the comments seem to agree with her. 🤡🤮This is how women turn into Betty Broderick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:45 AM |
| 77 | Had to share this 😩Gotta love the scrote who described a restaurant first date as a 'red flag'. Meanwhile, women here are sharing real red flags that could indicate our actual lives are at risk and this pissbaby is shitting his pants at the horrifying thought of... a fancy restaurant. Men truly live in lala land. Ignorant fools. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:26 AM |
| 6 | Exercise: Learn to take yourself out on a dateI love this post, OP! I've gotten into the habit on Friday nights of cooking myself a delicious dinner from scratch (ingredients pre-purchased) and unwinding with a facemask, a glass of wine, hot bath and a movie. I told myself I would take myself out on a date once a month when the Covid risk had reduced, and last week, I took myself out to lunch and the cinema. This post is an excellent reminder to plan myself something for next month! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 08:20 AM |
| 3 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyFor real, I remember watching The Hobbit movies thinking "where did Orlando's cheekbones go?" I remember in LotR you could have got a papercut from his sharp jawline. By the time The Hobbit rolled round, you could see his face was already beginning to get that 'doughy' look. They tried to hide it with makeup and giving him really distracting contacts, but it's hilariously obvious. ETA: They should've cast the actor that played Bard as Legolas because he looked more like Orlando Bloom than Orland… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 07:16 AM |
| 12 | The eternal Hollywood fuckboyAnd just look at Orlando Bloom in the Hobbit movies vs the dreamboat he was in LotR. Dude hit the wall HARD while Cate Blanchett must be an IRL elf or something because that stunning woman hadn't aged a day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:51 AM |
| 42 | What changed when you started giving back the same energy you got?I was doing nice things for myself and involving him. I keep saying this to users here, because the comments have been gold recently, but this needs to be a whole ass post: "Are you dating him or dating yourself and involving him?" and strategies to know the difference. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:44 AM |
| 140 | Lurking Redpill forums is actually very beneficial for womenIf I was on a date with a dude who claimed his mother had cancer, I'd immediately assume he was a sociopath because who the fuck is actively dating/focusing on getting laid when a loved one is dying? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:36 AM |
| 4 | Living large and proud to show the world his mad skills as a home decoratorThe fact that he posted this without a trace of irony... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 59 | Women being punished for what they do to their bodies, vs men being punished for what they do to women’s bodies 🤦♀️I was sobbing when I read the victim's statement. I wish both that rapist and rape-apologist judge a lifetime of misery. I hope they never know a second of peace and happiness again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:49 AM |
| 103 | The “sex work is work” mantra is kind of condescending coming from women who thought women being dependent on sexual service to one man for our livelihood was oppressiveI could talk for days about how GoT is peak 'feminism written by misogynists.' | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:39 AM |
| 88 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problemsBecause they know men won't tolerate the abuse they dole out on women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:34 AM |
| 60 | Attention Male Lurkers: You need to SHUT THE FUCK up about your online dating problemsLmao, at first I read this as 'Epstein's wife' and was like girl... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 05:33 AM |
| 8 | Can somebody please save her from a life of misery with an old lvmI think girls who grow up with parents who modeled a healthy relationship are far less likely to gravitate towards dysfunctional guys like this. I agree, but it's also important to remember the opposite as well - these predators will gravitate towards a girl who has no parental support. I grew up in a healthy, functional home where my parents were happily married, and let me tell you, when I was 18, no 34 year old went anywhere near me. And if one had tried, my father would have killed him. Thes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:04 PM |
| 6 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.https://www.change.org/p/university-of-leicester-revoke-the-university-of-leicester-student-sex-work-policy-and-toolkits Thank you so much for sharing this petition. Could you make this its own post so FDSers (particularly those users based in the UK) can sign? This is literally sex trafficking. It's absolutely horrifying and disgusting that a university is actively promoting material to pimp out young women who have their whole lives ahead of them. Sick, sick, sick. The university should be fuc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 03:34 PM |
| 39 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.It really exposes the lie of libfem 'empowerment'. Throw away your education, career, reputation and self-worth to degrade and objectify yourself for pornsick creeps and then still get tossed aside like trash once you've outlived your usefulness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:06 AM |
| 34 | Small wins!! OF to ban porn.What the HELL? Universities are pushing sw??? Institutions that are all about allowing women to gain an education and opening the doors for them to pursue respectable careers? Is this a fucking joke? Let me guess: all the support material is for female sex workers, because let's be honest, men know that shit isn't 'empowering' in the slightest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 08:01 AM |
| 148 | “I know it’s weird but”If you have to start a sentence with "I'm not a creep or a pervert"... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 07:56 AM |
| 92 | Dating coworkers in an FDS-friendly wayDon't. No man is worth potentially fucking up your career for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 11:06 AM |
| 6 | Is she high maintenance tho?I know it's not 'strictly' FDS, but I'd love to see you make a post on this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:52 AM |
| 19 | Is she high maintenance tho?Yeah, even the LVM in my division will always ask what people want if they go for a coffee run. You offer to pay them back and they just laugh and say "don't worry about it." If a BOYFRIEND won't even do this for you, he's saying he literally could not give less of a shit about you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:40 AM |
| 110 | "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft has a whole section describing the abuse tactics of softbois (Mr. Sensitive in the book)Oh God, I think we've ALL dated this man. A lesson I'm taking forward in the future - if a boyfriend is making you feel like a bad/terrible person, RUN. If you were really the awful person he makes you out to be, he would simply end the relationship, not stick around to emotionally abuse/gaslight you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 10:34 AM |
| 29 | I have never met a HVM in the context of dating… how common is this?Every HVM I've met was in a relationship already. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:34 AM |
| 6 | Breaking news! Poor man had to sit hungry because his wife didn’t make his plate, even though his arms work and he is perfectly capable of standing :( so sad. Thoughts and prayers. /sHis next tweet will be him crying because his wife doesn't want to fuck him. GEE I WONDER WHY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 08:13 AM |
| 41 | She was clearly one of usHer character's probably about 90 but she only looks around 60 because she's not having to deal with any male bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 07:58 AM |
| 10 | Explaining having few friends to a partnerDefense Against the Dark Narcs 101 Your flair deserves to be upgraded for this comment alone, lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:06 AM |
| 6 | It’s really nice over here! Ladies, why aren’t you all members of the FDS website? It’s a great platform, is easy to use and is just for us! Come on over!!Also, us being on Reddit makes the scrotes rage and I'm all here for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:03 AM |
| 9 | How do you know if he’s a HVM or a LVM that’s really good at love-bombing/future-faking?His eyes. Even if he's smiling all the time, does his smile reach his eyes or do they remain cold and emotionless? I recently quite randomly uncovered a photo of my narc ex (it fell out of a book I hadn't opened in 5+ years). It was me, the ex and a couple of our friends. We were goofing around in a photo booth, and while my friends and I were laughing and pulling silly faces, my narc ex was staring straight at the camera. His eyes were the coldest, most dead thing I've ever seen. I literally go… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 11:00 AM |
| 6 | LVM Lie: He treats you badly because he's out of your leagueTotally off-topic but I love how you break your posts down into bite-size chunks. I hate reading really long and dense paragraphs off a screen, but I always manage to fully take in your posts because they're laid out in such an easy to read way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Pick-me glorifies female oppression & slavery in the third world under the guise of protection of women.Users here have exposed from the poster's history that this is a man, but it doesn't change the fact that there Pickmes out there who really are this stupid. These are the kind of women who leave their countries in the West to become ISIS brides. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:40 AM |
| 11 | Sex work is not empowering. It’s exploitation and the men know it. Sorted comments via controversial and got all of these replies.So they agree a woman participating in sex work is degrading and disrespectful? Cool. I assume in that case they also: Don't consume porn Don't subscribe to any OF accounts Don't follow women on Instagram Don't have casual encounters or ONS Don't want sex unless it is gentle, soft, consensual, affectionate and in the context of a mutual loving relationship Oh wait, they do all of those things as well? Okay, turns out they're just misogynist hypocrites with a raging Madonna/Whore complex who NO '… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:40 AM |
| 9 | Vet🙌🏻themHe rarely takes time off with her. He only sees her once a week. He never takes her out and instead they end up staying in and getting pizza from Dominos. She's 100% the sidechick and "Matt" is the girlfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 97 | Guys that date women similar to their female relativesSee also: Florence Pugh who's dating an ugly old scrote who looks exactly like her father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:42 AM |
| 22 | I’m so tired of hearing that women are “lucky” because we get free drinks at bars or get into nightclubs for free.I wouldn't be seen dead in a club. Now give me free gas to fill up my car then we'll talk about privilege. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 05:40 AM |
| 70 | TW: rape - OP doesn't KNOW WHAT TO DO and feels KINDA uncomfortable when her bf openly talks about her being his slave!! RUN!!!! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!!!! I can't believe my eyes reading this post!!!It never fails to astound me how fully women are gaslit out of having ANY sense of self-preservation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 09:57 AM |
| 9 | Saw This Story. First red flag was coffee date and the rest are in the post. Glad someone was looking out for her!I once had an ex get on the same subway car as me and I was sitting next to these two guys and gasped “omg my ex just got on!” Immediate response was “you can do SO much better, ew.” Gay men can be very discerning. One of my gay best friends immediately hated my narc ex on sight while everyone else in my social circle thought he hung the moon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:16 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-inBeing frustrated at his dating style is more than enough reason to cut him off. We need to stop with this mindset of believing we're only "allowed" to end things if a guy is abusive or showing a dozen red flags. Ultimately, if guy is causing you more hassle/stress than joy, then it's perfectly acceptable to end things. I always think back to that Handbook post: "Dating should be a stress-free experience for you, as a High Value Woman." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 06:03 AM |
| 50 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.I'm privileged that I can look away from this when it gets too much. These women LIVE IT. My heart breaks for them, and I just feel helpless. I went for a run before work this morning and I teared up thinking that these women are never going to be able to do something I take for granted each morning. They will never have the freedom to independently leave their homes. Never have the freedom to appreciate the solitary beauty of nature. Never have the freedom to feel the sunlight on their skin. Fu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 04:16 PM |
| 56 | LVM and pickmes shame women into submission by telling them to stop "trying to be men"Pickmes: Stop trying to be men! Also Pickmes: Ask men out, plan dates, buy their boyfriend presents and propose to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:44 AM |
| 22 | I am so glad I was banned from this sub-reddit so I don’t have to see clownery like this anymore!They're not risking their relationship though, as they know the woman doesn't value herself/have the self worth to leave. They 100% know that they can have their cake and eat it too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:00 AM |
| 74 | More reasons not to entertain pickmes - these girls know what they're doing to other women.You cannot help Pickmes. It is a waste of your precious time and energy. You cannot control the people around you, you can only control your own actions and behavior. These Pickmes have to want to change for themselves. Nobody ever said to me "Hey Daisy, you know you're acting like a total fool over a guy that is obviously a complete narc." I figured that shit out for myself, found Baggage Reclaim, did some serious self-work, then stumbled on FDS which reinforced what I had felt deep down my ent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 04:24 PM |
| 16 | What is it about video games that I, and many others, find so repulsive?100% agree. There is something so childish and juvenile about a grown-ass man sitting on his ass and playing video games. Nothing makes my libido retreat faster than a man who behaves like a 13 year old boy. I respect men with outdoor hobbies, men who are into woodwork and gardening and pentathlons, men who enjoy visiting museums and experiencing art and culture. Men who want to actually get out and enrich their lives on the weekends, not be sat indoors staring at a screen. I've never dated a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 07:08 AM |
| 63 | This was shared by a pickme who is currently the target of a NVM I and my friend group recently cut off due to his gf finally breaking up with him and sharing all the messed up stuff he did to her. This type of thinking will lead u right into the arms of an abuser. Save your best for yourself.You need to stay away from this woman. She's the kind of Pickme that is dangerous to women. Someone like this will gleefully destroy you and happily ruin your life all for a crumb of male validation. These are the women that will defend rape and pedophilia. At some point, we have to stop trying to protect these women and recognize them as a threat to our collective safety. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:32 PM |
| 4 | Broke up with my bfThe first thing I recommend doing is writing out a list of all the things you were unhappy/dissatisfied with in the relationship and all the things he did/was that you disliked. When you have weak moments (and you WILL have them) consult your list and you'll start to feel anger at the way he treated you. Some anger in the early stages of a breakup is helpful. It will prevent you reaching out to him and it is your body's way of processing the grief. Don't bottle up your emotions and force yoursel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 04:24 PM |
| 2 | "The Worst Thing About Male Violence is That it Makes Men Look Bad"They react so strongly to women's anger because they don't see us as human. We are objects or appliances to them. Imagine if your computer refused to perform the function you believe it is 'supposed' to do and then it had the audacity to get angry at you about it? This is quite literally how they see us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 08:45 AM |
| 10 | IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTICE: The Plymouth Shooter has complained about FDS. DO NOT DISCUSS FDS WITH MEN. These are males with murderous intentions who desire revenge on women.Yes, imagine criticizing FDS, knowing that you're on the same team as a man who murders children and... being okay with that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 14 | Story Time: The importance of looking someone up on social mediaYeah, this is the sad truth. I went to the cinema alone in my city yesterday and there were two really cute guys sitting close by me. They were well-dressed and handsome, and conversing in low voices (not trying to dominate the space). We made eye contact and smiled, and I caught one of them looking at me several times (clearly finding me attractive). I would have been more than happy if they approached, but they were probably decent guys who figured approaching a lone petite woman when there's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:54 PM |
| 113 | “Pointing out toxic behavior is toxic 🤡”So, we shouldn't judge men who enjoy beating the shit out of women, but we absolutely should judge and shame a woman who likes a man to pay for dates? Okay, got it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:40 PM |
| 156 | “FdS IS JuST As BaD As InCeLs” when was the last time an FDS’er, or any woman, went and killed innocent people because they couldn’t get a man?I... actually don't hate the wording of this article? It describes him as a 'gun-obsessed misogynist', refers to him several times as 'ranting' (clearly implying he's irrational/unhinged) and describes inceldom as a 'hateful and sexist movement'. Now some of this might be just to generate clicks, but it's oddly refreshing to have an article tell it how it is and not sugarcoat the issue. It's not perfect, but at least it's a start. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:39 PM |
| 81 | Misogyny and inceldom have just caused the WORST mass shooting in decades in the UKI just looked at his picture. He looks exactly as I imagined him to look. But of course, being a white man, it will be labeled an 'isolated incident' and 'he suffered from depression" because apparently we're not allowed to call it terrorism when it's women being targeted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 12:28 PM |
| 28 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMLol sis, don't worry, Rhett was one of my teenage fictional crushes, lmao. I totally bought into the whole "they're so compatible because he understands her better than anyone and calls her out on her bullshit" nonsense. Um, no. He was verbally abusive and actually judges the hell out of Scarlett when he's objectively a far worse person than she is. He supposedly 'loves' her, yet is constantly mocking and criticizing her choices. He blames her for not being emotionally open with him, despite the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:29 AM |
| 40 | Gone with the Wind - both Rhett and Ashley are LVMAshley's an interesting example, because I've met so many Ashley's in real life: men who think they're Good Guys because they're not out there actively being an asshole or abusing women. However, it's their very passivity that makes them part of the problem. They are hapless victims of circumstance who will never be proactive in making positive change, not even for the sake of their wife and children. Ashley would have quite happily let his family perish in virtuous poverty had Scarlett not been… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 06:15 AM |
| 15 | Silly questionWhen men stop raping and murdering women then maybe we'll talk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:46 AM |
| 30 | Pickmes play a big part in why things are changing for the worseI'm in my 30's and don't have social media, so when I see an Instagram image of a woman in a news article etc, they look really creepy to me. Like, real Uncanny Valley. It's bizarre to me that this is perceived as the 'norm' now, when I grew up in an era where natural beauties like Gwyneth Paltrow and Winona Ryder were celebrated as the ideal. It was tough enough then if you weren't a 5'10 twig. I can't imagine what it must feel like for young girls now. I started getting lash lifts a few months… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/21 05:30 AM |
| 7 | Pickmes move like they are the exception and not the ruleThis needs to be its own post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 07:00 AM |
| 131 | Men admit to being sexually attracted to their 15 year old daughter’s UNDERAGE friends and gets THOUSANDS of upvotes. Honestly I think 99% of men are closet pedophiles and this is what most women with daughters will have to deal with.Peddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 08:26 PM |
| 148 | “…he’s choked me unconscious before. I didn’t really mind…” UM WHAT."Kink is just a harmless fantasy!" Fuck off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:38 AM |
| 9 | Responses to “what are you looking for in a partner?” (OLD report)"A woman who doesn't take herself too seriously." i.e. A woman who has actual expectations and standards in a relationship and doesn't tolerate negging or insults disguised as 'jokes'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:37 AM |
| 54 | Man leaves girl for someone else but tells her she still owes him her virginityHas someone rescue-missioned this girl?? This guy legitimately sounds like a pimp. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:17 AM |
| 41 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeExactly. Don't ever tell me men are bad at communication. They know exactly what words to use to keep a woman hanging around while simultaneously letting themselves off the hook if she calls out his bad behavior down the line. If they were truly honest, they would say: "I'm sorry, you seem a lovely person, but I don't want a relationship with you" and end things then and there. But instead, they keep their wording deliberately vague in order to keep the woman around for the sexual benefits until… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:11 AM |
| 22 | let’s talk about itYes, because God forbid they take a look at themselves in the mirror and think "Why am I sort of person that wants to see a woman beaten, humiliated and in pain? What kind of man am I if I find brutalizing someone I'm supposed to love physically arousing?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:04 AM |
| 133 | Today's crack-me-up - turns out even basic preferences like earning average pay and not being obese is statistically too much to ask (in the US). Stay strong, american queens!Literally this. If the percentage of educated, employed, healthy-range BMI single women was >1%, women would be mortified and see it as a sign we need to level up and collectively improve ourselves. Men? "woMen's sTandArds aRe tOo hiGh." They're literally allergic to any form of accountability, my God. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:56 AM |
| 11 | Men are **farrrrr** more sensitive than womenMy favorite thing to say to a man: "Why are you being so dramatic?" Watch their faces turn purple as they try not to explode. Works particularly well if done in front of other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 06:50 AM |
| 26 | I am SO tired of the misogyny, negging, persistent pushy rape culture and cringey male princess demands peddled by so called ‘pick up artist guru’s’ online. Notice the tone of his language wreaks of perceived entitlement to womens attention.Remember, it's necessary to have a frame where you are the prize and that you can take or leave the job you are interviewing for. Therefore, act indifferent when they ask you what attracted you to this particular role/company. Show interest and then disinterest during the interview. This will leave the interviewer in the dark and force them to invest in you. Be challenging ("you only turned over x amount last quarter?") - you don't want to make it too easy for the interviewer or suggest that you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:09 PM |
| 17 | Gave me a good giggleThe ultimate revenge fantasy for a woman is that she runs into her shitty ex with her new, hot, ripped man while looking utterly fabulous and maybe 2 pounds lighter. Men's ultimate revenge fantasy is literally raping and murdering us. Men and women are not the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 08:00 AM |
| 4 | PSA: A Guy Being Charismatic/ Popular Does NOT Mean He’s Emotionally IntelligentEverything you described about the first guy, your ex-boss, reminds me so much of the super charismatic, charming ex I dated for a over a year... who ultimately turned out to be cheating on me literally the whole time We must've dated the same guy. Popular, charismatic, charming, confident, dazzled everyone around him, yet utterly hollow and dead inside. Lied about literally everything and when I dumped his cheating ass and went no contact, spent the next 6 months calling/messaging/doing me favo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 07:55 AM |
| 26 | Woman Refuses To Coddle Man-child on a Date, Comments Are Full Of Man Babies Saying She Has No Empathy for Mental HealthToo anxious to ask the waiter to correct an order but not too anxious to guilt trip and triangulate his date? Yeah, I'm not buying it. This has 'manipulation' written all over it. Dating this guy would be a nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:55 AM |
| 32 | The F*ck boy hotline. See? Men know what they’re doing.The check shirt and baseball cap on backwards is just... perfection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/21 07:45 AM |
| 22 | Daily dose of scrotityBecause that would require them giving blowjobs and anal which they hate... oh wait... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:38 AM |
| 17 | Daily dose of scrotitySame, sis. And I'm someone I would describe as having a high sex drive when I'm in a relationship with a guy I'm crazy attracted to. But I have, you know, actual standards, so I happily go through years of celibacy when the alternative is allowing some scrote to touch me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:35 AM |
| 15 | 🤡🤡🤡His head goes straight into his body, just like bungle from rainbow. I just googled this and am now typing with tears of laughter streaming down my face. God, I love this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 07:03 AM |
| 9 | Women are crazy because they’re people?I for one would love to live in this alternate universe where women are never told their standards are too high. How do I get there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 12:04 PM |
| 68 | Just some scrotes and pickmes raging against FDS on another extremely misogynistic and sexist sub that still exists (hopefully they are next)!They realize they're just proving our point... right? I mean, it's not some successful 35 year old CEO with a hot model boyfriend ripping us to shreds, but some sad pickme who's fucking a predatory grandfather. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 10:22 AM |
| 6 | He really thought he did somethingHe probably blames his lack of romantic success on the fact that he's 5'9 or something when in reality his vile hatred of women is literally radiating off him in waves. Yes, you moron, shockingly women don't want to date men that openly despise them. What bitches! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 10:11 AM |
| 19 | Red flag I recently picked up and wanted to shareIsn't it lovely that he's happy to pay for dinner with no expectations of sex afterwards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:31 AM |
| 25 | This is enough internet for me today I’m done. Porn addicted scrotes are out here getting used items mailed to them from cam girls and giving themselves yeast infections and lord knows what other diseases. (warning extremely nsfw language)Men like this will never reproduce, thankfully. No man who has ever actually touched a woman would be resorting to... well, this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:27 AM |
| 13 | Men will develop entire complexes over women who rejected them in high school. Then use that as motive to abuse women for the rest of their lives.Yes, this is why I will never date a 'late bloomer' man again. They're dangerous. Even the seemingly 'nice' ones all have this underlying hatred and resentment towards women. Say no to them or criticize them in any way and it's amazing how quickly the 'polite' mask slips and their contempt comes out. Not to mention, because they weren't getting any in high school, all their sexual education has come from porn so they're rubbish in bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:23 AM |
| 46 | Gamer husband, I can't believe what I read.Men are the logical sex! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:09 AM |
| 396 | Saw this little gem on Instagram today....Also men: "i dOn'T undErStaNd wHy woMen gHosT." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:07 AM |
| 33 | Men on Reddit hate FDS because they know they’re LVMAaand there it is. A HVM would admire you for having high standards and take it as a huge compliment that he 'made the cut'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/21 08:04 AM |
| 20 | LOL. This one clearly has never been with an actual woman, to the point that he's convinced himself he needs to "pick out the red flags" to spot FDS members. What besides "trying to manipulate women into sex" would he be avoiding, with these "red flags"?They want to be the choosers so badly, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 11:44 AM |
| 10 | Thank you!!If you're still in touch with those mutual friends, please tell all of them and put him on blast. These men need to be publicly exposed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 08:11 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-inUgh, I feel this so hard. I'd love to try multi-dating, but these days it takes literally MONTHS to find even ONE guy worth leaving the house for, let alone a whole scrotation. I'm deleting likes on Hinge left, right and center at the moment because either their profiles are garbage/have red flags or they are simply 'liking' my pictures without sending a decent opening message. For ladies out there with a scrotation... where are you finding these men worth going out on dates with?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 01:11 PM |
| 18 | NVM/LVM & Social FunctionsI wish I had known this four years ago, when I was at a party with my ex and he spent the whole evening talking to his ex. Because I was the cOoL gIRlfrIenD and mAtUrE, I simply sat there with a stupid dumb smile on my clown face instead of getting up and walking the fuck out. Guess who he was cheating on me with? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/21 06:16 AM |
| 87 | What do you guys think of Botox?I was told (by a teenage boy no less, lmao) that I look 24 when I'm actually 10 years older. Fuck Botox, my secret to staying young is never having a relationship that's lasted beyond 6 months and not having kids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 10:17 AM |
| 11 | Anyone else not dating becauseMine is "would I skip my Friday night ritual of a facemask, a glass of wine in the bath while listening to the FDS podcast and doing my nails for this?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 08:11 AM |
| 6 | Withholding as a Form of AbuseYes, it can take a while to spot the pattern. It was only after the third time of "hang on - why the fuck am I apologizing for expressing a concern about something HE did that hurt me?" that I woke the fuck up and realized I was with a gaslighting, emotionally avoidant abuser who was incapable of empathy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 07:12 AM |
| 2 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 21 - Our Best Flirting Strategies! + Pencil D*ck & SpoonsSavannah's laugh is rapidly becoming one of my favorite things about this podcast. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/21 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Team Edward or Team Jacob: How Love Triangles Primed a Generation of Women for LVM (intro)The first two seasons of The Vampire Diaries are amazing. The first couple of episodes are a bit of a slog to get through, but then it gets. So. Good. Watching Season 2 for the first time was genuinely one of my favorite binge-watching experiences, as it's a roller-coaster from start to finish. Season 3 is where the cracks begin to show and from 4 onwards it's straight up trash, and not in a 'so bad it's good' way. But for the love of God, if you like Elena as a character, please stop watching b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!My Pickme colleague is in this exact situation. She's been in a 50-50 relationship with her boyfriend for 6 1/2 years and is heavily pregnant. I just know that she was expecting it to trigger a proposal... which hasn't come yet. Getting pregnant won't make a non-committal man propose. It will just make you a single parent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/21 07:33 AM |
| 11 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneGuy could come to the date with an axe Sis, I'm screaming. "He was just chopping wood, it's nbd!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:56 AM |
| 5 | Times I should have left my fianceAll that needs to be said, really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:41 AM |
| 45 | Things that are definitely NOT queen energy and why FDS must remain blunt and focused on priorities / real life strategies rather than blind following ideologies and people pleasing everyoneI'd like to comment on another pet peeve I've noticed lately creeping into the sub: the women posting on here who dump their boyfriend/divorce their husband after discovering he was cheating/a porn addict/gambling etc. and then go on to say "there were no signs!", "He was literally perfect!", "There were no red flags!" Cue a chorus of women chiming in with "you can't trust anyone!", "I'm too scared to date again", "All HVM are secretly psychopaths that will flip on a dime". Bull. Shit. Every sin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:32 AM |
| 13 | Men on Reddit are Porn SickHas somebody rescue-missioned this girl yet?? That fact that she didn't reply to his disgusting message gives me hope that she might yet be saved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 06:02 AM |
| 14 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.Those guys are pornsick. I've never had a boyfriend randomly grab my boob out of nowhere, what the actual fuck. Only porn addicts think a woman is totally down for sex at completely inappropriate times in a random location. No, you creep, she won't be instantly horny and dtf with a random grab at her crotch. They're completely deluded and removed from reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:57 AM |
| 14 | A majority of the time, sex is NOT a mutual benefit.This is why I'm currently using Hinge, as it's the one app where I literally don't have to swipe or make any kind of 'first move'. I simply sit back, let the likes come through and delete every single one that doesn't have an interesting opening comment along with an engaging (and free of red flags) profile. Only then do I deign to give the guy my attention. Yes, there are a few morons that will just try to like my pictures (instant discard), but a surprising number of guys are willing to make t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 05:50 AM |
| 2 | What tell-tale signs or How to vet for a guy that won't cheat after x amount of years?I agree that you need to protect yourself, but I want to be with a man who refuses to cheat because it's fundamentally against his moral character, not simply because he fears the social/financial consequences. If the only thing keeping a man faithful to me is the fear of losing his money, I'd rather he'd cheat and fuck off out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 11:14 AM |
| 5 | Have to come to this realisation that male friendships are pointless.This. If you asked my dad if he was friends with any woman outside of female relatives, he'd look at you like you had two heads. My mom is his best friend and he has no intention of changing that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:31 AM |
| 13 | Have to come to this realisation that male friendships are pointless.The only male friends I have are gay. Even gay men need vetting because they are still men at the end of the day, but the gay men in my life are some of the best people I know. Same. Two of my close friends are gay men I have known for years. What is really noticeable is just how much they LISTEN when I talk about feminism/women's issues. They don't try to force their opinions on me, and often will tell me I've made them reconsider a lot of things. One of them had bought into the lib-fem 50-50 d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:28 AM |
| 13 | This is What LVM consider “great dating” and gaslight us into believing is acceptable. Hope the PickMe Woman Who Settled for these Low Effort Dates Wakes Up...They're so boring, Jesus fucking Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 07:10 AM |
| 97 | Guy I was dating left me at 4 am alone in the middle of the city to go rescue his ex. WTF?Ding ding ding. He did the math and figured he would have a better chance of getting sex from the drunken ex than OP. These predators are genuinely sick in the head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.Thank you. For a moment I wondered what sub I was on. This guy was a former (and probably current) bully who was trying to rub his success in OP's face to 'prove' to her what she missed out on, and when that didn't work, he tried to triangulate her against the gf. Is this stuff that FDS just brushes off now? If anything, OP treated the guy with more dignity than he deserved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 10:04 AM |
| 6 | Once a liar always a liar?A guy still being in contact with an ex is an immediate dumpable offence for me now. Nothing good ever comes of it. I'm not in touch with a single man I've ever been in a relationship with. A boyfriend can at least offer me the same courtesy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:59 AM |
| 7 | Well, bye!The skinny legs with no muscle tone... perfect, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:52 AM |
| 24 | Thank you to all of you for helping me to escape my “relationship” before it was too late!"He is upset as he’s realised his work mule has escaped from the stables and now he has to make an effort and spend money to find new victims and go back out on the dating scene." This is perfectly put. Don't ever believe a LVM is sad about losing you when you dump him. He's upset that he's losing his access to free sex/maid services and now has to put in time/effort to find a new victim to manipulate into taking your vacant post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:48 AM |
| 8 | I am enraged.This might be extreme, but you should tell everyone you know about what is going on in your house. Neighbors, family friends, relatives. Publicly shame your brother and your parents, and put them on blast. If you want to be really extreme, ask a neighbor or friend if you can stay with them and tell your parents exactly why. Get other parents involved and show your family that everyone knows the filth they are allowing their child to live in. If that fails, go nuclear and call CPS. Make it clear … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 06:44 AM |
| 11 | Living rent free in his head: A guy I criticized YEARS ago turned his life around because of a comment I made.I don't think you were 'unnecessarily mean' at all. You refused to blow smoke up a guy's ass and it's telling about our society that that is enough for people to perceive you as being 'bitchy', even on a sub like this. You literally just behaved neutrally towards this guy and people in the comments are attacking you for being mean. I'm genuinely surprised to see this kind of response on FDS. In fact, given that the guy was a known bully, you would have been forgiven for being even harsher on thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 01:27 PM |
| 16 | On a dating break, starting to notice I'm getting way more rest now! 😴🥰Sis... doing this with a man who isn't even your boyfriend... just no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:50 AM |
| 14 | I’d like to hear your opinions here.One way to avoid this problem is to never date men that have less money than you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:46 AM |
| 149 | I effed upI intially did ignore one red flag about him pestering me for nudes but it was something he changed. And there it is. There is the giant, waving red flag that you ignored. No HVM will ask you for nudes. Not a single one. Hell, even the LVM I dated never dared asked. Because they know it's disrespectful. Not only that, but he was 'pestering', which shows that he knew you were uncomfortable with this but still continued to override your boundaries. So we have here a man who was willing to put your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 06:10 AM |
| 125 | 💩This is the final destination of being a pickme. You will end up excusing and justifying literal child abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 04:07 PM |
| 19 | How does he talk to the one who loves him unconditionally? You know, his dog?Not sure if this is workable OP, but if your living situation allows it, could you take the dog off him? Don't mention the abuse, just phrase it in a "I've wanted xyz type of dog for years and your dog is exactly what I've had in mind. Her size/personality/habits are exactly the kind of thing I'm looking for. I don't suppose you'd ever consider re-homing her, would you? I've looked into shelters, but nothing I've found seems quite right. It's obvious you've done a really good job with her, so I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 05:41 AM |
| 9 | You are allowed to eat.On the other end of the spectrum, look out for men who don't consider your eating/dietary needs on a date. I'm only 105 pounds and if I don't eat every 3-4 hours my blood sugar drops like crazy and I get dizzy and light-headed. Any man that doesn't take that into consideration when we're going out is immediately dropped. No way in hell am I going out on a date that doesn't involve food. Not for any man am I going to be walking around feeling faint and miserable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 04:25 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-I’mWhen she comes to you crying because she's caught chlamydia or herpes, you can respond with "what did you think would happen?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/21 05:09 AM |
| 54 | Acts of kindness on Reddit: When trying to have another girls back, it’s disappointing when they turn on you.Some women just can't be helped. Their heads are buried too deep in the pickmeisha sand to the point where they will happily throw you under the bus for the sake of some scrote. I know you were trying to help, but this is why you should only engage with positive and healthy people, both online and off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:32 PM |
| 24 | I had some scrotes ask why women ghost on dates and rather than listen to the why I was told I shouldn’t date.These men don't deserve our help. They know what good behavior is. They will just use any excuse in the book to avoid treating women with any basic human decency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:27 PM |
| 26 | 99.9% of OLD profiles are like this.Those are literally the hobbies a 13 year old boy would list, not a grown man in his forties. The thought that a woman willingly had sex with this creature enough times to produce children makes me want to die. We need to do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:22 PM |
| 114 | They even use our sexual boundaries against us to get off"Please be respectful to me after this happens." Oh honey, a man who even WANTS to do this to you is a man that has no respect for you or any woman. Please for the love of God tell me the comments were telling her to dump this gaslighting pos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 02:57 PM |
| 88 | Unpopular Opinion: Why you should date in your own leagueI don't really understand this post. Why are you describing a guy as 'out of someone's league' if he's out there targeting and manipulating women to use for sex? That guy isn't out of anyone's league. He's bottom-tier trash, regardless of his looks or salary. This is the line of thinking that convinces women to date ugly/unattractive/broke/poor men believing that they will get treated better, which, as many women here can attest to, backfires on them spectacularly. It also leans into the line of… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:23 PM |
| 25 | Difference between a great man and a garbageIt's worse than that. My colleague is in her third trimester of pregnancy and was out with her boyfriend over the weekend. They were walking through a field when this pack of horses were highly agitated and aggressively started backing her into the corner of the field. One even tried to charge at her. And her scrote of a boyfriend fucking RAN, leaving his heavily pregnant partner and unborn child to fend for themselves. She got away unharmed, but no thanks to him. The saddest thing about it all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/21 06:03 PM |
| 16 | We need to start talking about pick me teachers who use girls to keep the bad boys in class behaved. Because I definitely experienced this and it was terrible.This post is disturbing. I went to a Catholic school as a kid (pre-internet) and I remember our friendship group being girls and boys equally. My memories of of recess are running around playing cops and robbers together. You know... being KIDS. The worst thing I ever remember happening was a boy using the 'f' word. Porn has fucked up an entire generation of boys and it's horrifying what little girls are being exposed to at such a young age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 06:04 AM |
| 25 | "Women aren't funny"I remember one poster here describing a guy she dated as a 'centaur' because his eyes were really far apart on the sides of his face like a horse. I had to get up and walk away from my computer I was laughing so hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/21 05:39 AM |
| 434 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"I once roomed with one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen. She was Scandinavian, tall and slender, natural silver-blonde hair (think Season 1 Daenerys Targaryen), dark blue eyes and the most perfectly proportioned features. 25 years old, had a glamorous job in fashion in the city, and had the loveliest warm and charming personality. Her scrote of a boyfriend still cheated on her. It was a real eye-opener when she came to my room sobbing, and I realized then that men ain't shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 03:20 PM |
| 18 | If he’s not escalating the romantic relationship, MOVE ON! 💕Also, if he hasn't said "I love you" by the 6 month mark, he's wasting your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 06:45 AM |
| 2 | Schrodinger’s Scrote: Is Jon Snow LV or HV?Thank you so much! Your recent posts have been the ones I've been looking forward to most on FDS :-) I also remember reading a horrifying but utterly brilliant theory that Lyanna's death was actually caused by Rhaegar stabbing her to death in a botched attempt to make her his Nissa Nissa and bring about the new Lightbringer. When it failed, he then rode off to the Trident, leaving her to slowly bleed to death. I don't think the timeline supports it, but it would be such a gruesome and horribly G… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 06:56 PM |
| 8 | Schrodinger’s Scrote: Is Jon Snow LV or HV?OP, you need to do a whole goddamn post on how LV Rhaegar is. I am fully convinced that Rhaegar was a psychopath as he ticks SO many boxes: Grandiose sense of self-importance - reads a prophecy about a savior who will save the world and immediately thinks it's about him. Lack of empathy/remorse - Abandons his loving wife and his newborn baby to run off and fuck a 15 year old. He also publicly insults her while she's heavily pregnant when he crowns Lyanna Stark the Queen of Love and Beauty at the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 04:14 PM |
| 30 | Reminder: FDS is not heavily focused on how to improve your appearanceHonestly, the only time I ever see the topic of makeup come up on the sub is from dissenters who are telling members they are Bad Feminists if they choose to wear it. Literally nowhere does this sub say you have to wear makeup to be a HVW. It's constantly being used a strawman argument when FDS has always said "practice the self-care and self-maintenance that works best for you." I genuinely don't know where this "FDS insists you have to wear makeup!" myth is coming from, and I'm getting tired o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/21 03:28 PM |
| -12 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaI put on a cute dress and do my hair and makeup when I'm going to my best friend's house for dinner. Am I doing it for the patriarchy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:46 PM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 19 - Overcoming A Defeatist Mindset: Femcels, WGTOWs, & Radfems + Explosive DiarrheaIf you listen to one of the previous episodes, Savannah goes into quite a lot of detail that OLD is absolutely fine as a method of dating (she describes it as 'a tool in your arsenal') and the girls chip in with quite a few of their experiences. Personally, all my worst dating horror stories were men I actually met in 'real life' while the online guys I met up with were generally polite, friendly and respectful. I find I tend to vet harder with OLD, and I like the fact that I never have to see t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:41 PM |
| 8 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What we can Learn from Them: Part 6You know that Turin was a NVM supreme when marrying his BIOLOGICAL SISTER was one of the less shitty things he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:20 PM |
| 1 | The uglies always have the most to say 🤡Is that Savannah's real face in that picture?? Because damn, girl is smokin'. I also read the Tweet in her voice and it was literally the best thing ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 06:13 PM |
| 1 | What do you ladies think about gaming? (Video gaming, phone gaming, computer gaming, etc)A grown-ass man has no business playing video games. I said what I said. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:37 PM |
| 35 | Reigning in the extreme pick me horror tales - this is not a place to just vent, get sympathy points for tolerating extreme clownery, remain clueless and go back back to being a complete pushover.Thank you for posting this. What bothers me most about these posts is they they are creating an unhealthy climate of fear around dating for women on here. These stories create a false reality that you will be dating a wonderful, loving, empathetic HV man who after 5 years will just completely flip out of nowhere. No. There are always red flags. Always. FDS is about empowering women to make smart dating choices, not terrifying or disheartening women into not dating at all due to the fear that the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:09 PM |
| 12 | Meetup Groups and HobbiesThank you so much for posting this. I always roll my eyes when I see people on here going "Go to Meet Ups if you want to meet men in real life!" Um, no. They're all socially awkward rejects that don't have the confidence to ask a woman out directly, so they'll lurk around these activities trying to force an interaction. They'll creepily eye up all the women, choosing their next prey. If you want to meet men and actively date, you can use OLD (albeit, be selective, be safe and vet ruthlessly). Ot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 05:27 AM |
| 10 | Sucking the labour of women for 40 years!!!!My ovaries turned to ash reading that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:39 PM |
| 2 | If you have to make him sign a contract to ‘keep him’ - he was never yoursYES!! Mods, please make "male gold-digger" a flair. It comes up SO often on this sub, and women deserve to be shown that men calling us gold-diggers is pure projection, while salty male lurkers can seethe as we expose what parasites they are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:31 PM |
| 1 | “You’re a woman though”I choose to believe that the moment she stopped filming, he got hit by a bus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 05:26 PM |
| 2 | For episode 20 of the podcast, we will be doing an extra-special (and extra long) listener feedback episode! Comment below with your questions/feedback for a chance to be discussed on the podcast!I not only saved this post, I photographed it and am going to repeat it to myself every night like Arya Stark's kill list. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 11:57 AM |
| 14 | My best friend told me she's jealous of my "glamorous life". I realized it's all because of our mate choices due to this subreddit.The fact is that women will be lining up to date a HVM, so if he's dating you, there was something more than your looks that drew him in. Unlike a LVM who will take whatever he can get, a HVM will have lots of pretty girls to choose from, so looks aren't his main priority. Something else about you will have grabbed his attention. A HVM will be looking for the 'whole package', not just an attractive woman on his arm to boost his social standing. I'd love there to be a discussion thread on this to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/21 05:39 PM |
| 10 | The Manic Pixie Dream Girl, the Bechdel Test, and other LV Hollywood tropesThe only show I watched growing up was Doctor Who because I liked the strong female characters who travelled with the Doctor since their relationship wasn't romantic in most cases (in the newer series). Yikes, don't watch the Steven Moffat era then. Moffat's female characters' only personality traits are "hot", "feisty" and "flirts with the doctor". Some real-life quotes from this flaming human garbage can: (On the casting of Amy Pond): “And I thought, ‘well she’s really good. It’s just a shame … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:25 PM |
| 21 | The Manic Pixie Dream Girl, the Bechdel Test, and other LV Hollywood tropesIt's especially stupid because in the next movie she's all teary-eyed and shocked that he's killed "younglings." Like bitch, he already slaughtered a bunch of kids before you married him and you straight up didn't give a shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 03:16 PM |
| 7 | Oh honey no, HE'S the a**hole...!!!!! Instant dumping offenceAnd describing freaking APPENDICITIS as "a wee bit poorly". Why the fuck do women put up with this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:58 PM |
| 14 | It’s Important To Have GoalsI feel like media always portrays these situations as “what a lonely life!” when in reality she probably has friends, family etc. Yes, notice how they felt the need to shoehorn in "cats" before "91 million fortune". No way they would do this with a male celebrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:36 PM |
| 36 | It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.I agree that politically, I try to vote for candidates who are compassionate toward the poor and want to implement policies to reduce poverty. Yet how many of these men that whine about gold-diggers and hypergamy probably vote Republican? These women they bitch about are probably out there volunteering, donating to charitable causes and voting for policies and law-makers that support those less well-off than they are. Yet because we refuse to fuck broke men, we're classist? Give me a break. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:28 PM |
| 27 | Rejected a man due to his height - family are giving me second thoughts +gaslighting me!I know it's a preference thing, but I personally love shorter men or men with soft hands. I don't know lol it's just my preference. Exactly. The poster here has just proven there are women out there who will find this guy attractive, especially if he really is nice and polite. OP's parents have absolutely no business forcing her to fuck a guy she isn't attracted to. I feel your pain, OP. I simply cannot feel sexual attraction towards short guys. I love standing on my toes to kiss a guy. I love h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:24 PM |
| 7 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...You don't walk away. You send HIM home. Any guy worth his salt will have NO issues pleasuring you, then seeing you smile, blissed out and contented, whispering in his ear "I can't wait to see you again." THIS is how you build sexual tension, ladies. A HVM will walk away feeling like an absolute King, wild with desire to see you again and make it even better next time. A LVM will snivel, whine, coerce and bitch, because he's a porndead zombie who doesn't understand the concept of delayed gratific… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 02:03 PM |
| 43 | Don't make concessions or sacrifices in a relationship. It gets you nothing. Be SELFISH!It's not even a case of having to be selfish. It's literally just about having self-respect, boundaries and not pushing down your mental and emotional needs to accommodate some scrote. It's just that society has conditioned women to equate "not accepting disrespect and abuse" as "selfish". If a woman is happy and glowing, she must be a horrible person. A woman must be hurting and suffering and a literal slave with no wants and needs of her own, otherwise she's selfish and inconsiderate. Look at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 08:05 AM |
| 4 | The Four Tolkien LVM And What We Can Learn from Them: Part 5I always wondered why the tale of Turin left me cold when every other Silmarillion fan seems to rave about it. Even my 13 year old self knew Turin wasn't shit, while Beren and Tuor were the true heroes (also telling how these two were the ones that ended up with HV elf women). I'd say an additional lesson is not to be overwhelmed by men or put them on a pedestal just because they're handsome and have a charming exterior. Turin was apparently one of the most beautiful (human) men in the Tolkien c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 01:02 PM |
| 3 | Traveling with your partner will separate the HVMs from the LVMsThank you so much for this. These posts are always a reminder of never to settle and that there are genuinely decent, kind men to whom behaving in this way is just second nature. How did you guys meet? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:49 AM |
| 28 | 33 women by 21. These are the men who will dunk on promiscuous women for a body count they were traumatized into and the sexual encounters they did not enjoy but endure. His poor gf, you can't turn a hoe into a husband (he's also active on cheater/porn subreddits lol)It disgusts me that men like this are still able to get a girlfriend. He should be paraded around the town with a scarlet letter so that everyone knows to avoid his dirty dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:37 AM |
| 2 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youI wouldn't call it abusive in this case. The boyfriend is just your typical garden-variety LVM who does the bare minimum. It's definitely a case of him using her as a placeholder until he meets his dreamgirl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 07:10 AM |
| 57 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youThis is exactly her mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:38 PM |
| 166 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youShe's drunk too much of the Pickmeisha koolaid. I respect her as a colleague, as she's legitimately very good at her job, but she comes out with some real Cool Girl shit sometimes. It sucks that her career is going to take a hit as a result of carrying this LVM's kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 03:36 PM |
| 5 | I will NEVER understand how any woman puts up with this behavior 🤢🤮It's no coincidence that this disturbing 'trend' has coincided with the rise of porn addiction and online radicalization of men into violent misogynists. These men hate women and are trying to make the act of sex as degrading and humiliating as possible for her as a means of 'punishing' her. This isn't a man who loves you. This is a man who hates you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 02:55 PM |
| 58 | Don’t.do.this ladiesOnce a guy has decided (for whatever reason) that he doesn't want a relationship with you, nothing will change his mind. Nothing. You just cut your losses and move on. Unfortunately, society had brainwashed women into believing they 'did' something to push the guy away, while movies and TV bombard us with pairings who 'make their way back to each other', so she's well and truly brainwashed. Until she stops internalizing his rejection and learns to respect herself, this woman will keep circling t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 06:35 AM |
| 7 | “Why are you still single?” And other questions I hate answeringThis is the only correct answer. It's the height of social rudeness to ask someone that question. I would never go up to a person and say "Why are you married?" Your relationship status is nobody's business but your own. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 05:08 AM |
| 2 | The Four Tolkien LVM and What We Can Learn from Them: Part 4There's also a hilarious moment where Turin's cousin Tuor meets two elves on his way into Gondolin, and conducts himself with humility, grace and respect (be mindful that Tuor had his own experience of hardship, spending a number of years in captivity, where, notably, he escapes rather than waits to be rescued). These same two elves then later meet Turin (who acts like an arrogant, entitled douche) and go out of their way to comment on how much of an asshole Turin is compared to his cousin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 05:37 PM |
| 15 | If he wants you he’ll be the one to chaseI'm glad you've found this community, but your story is not what we condone here on FDS. We don't build men here or tell them how to be good boyfriends. Take it from someone who's done this rodeo: once your dude levels up, he'll ditch you for a woman he perceives to be more in his 'league'. He won't be grateful for you giving him a chance, he'll simply lose all respect for a woman who valued herself so little that she accepted a crappy version of him and he'll see it as a reflection of your lack… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InIt depends on where you live, but I go to a very small gym in my local community. This means that I'm on first name terms with all the staff who work there and make it a point to chat with them whenever I'm going in or out. So if a scrote did ever try something, I'd fully have the staff on my side. The other advantage of going to a small gym is that, ironically, you're less likely to be harassed as these scrotes don't have the anonymity that a larger chain offers. As there are fewer people, ther… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 10:56 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-InHe's 10 years younger and attractive to the point that I almost didn't bother talking to him. Never underestimate your own attractiveness! I almost didn't swipe right on my last boyfriend because looks-wise I thought he was out of my league. Turns out he thought I was the hot one in the relationship, lol. How did the date go? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 10:33 AM |
| 19 | Hating cats... a red flag or the biggest red flag?Over the course of 11 years, my naïve self had various animals with the smaller ones (like guinea pigs and chinchillas) dying randomly and without warning despite excellent care. This is genuinely chilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 06:32 AM |
| 18 | Almost allowed others to convince me to approach him but I found FDSHe hugs you everyday, is making frequent eye contact and is overtly flirting with you? Yeah, this guy isn't shy. You've been dazzled by a charming fuckboy. And a good one, by the sounds of it, given that he makes all the right noises to present himself as this great guy. Let me guess: all your other colleagues think he's absolutely wonderful too? OP, I guarantee you this: he is already fucking at least one other woman in the office. Ask me how I know. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:56 PM |
| 6 | Almost allowed others to convince me to approach him but I found FDSDuring a global pandemic!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:50 PM |
| 14 | Apparently Reddit does not think that ADVOCATING CHILD MURDER violates their Terms of Service. This is from our "satire" sub (basically just a bunch of incels pretending to be us and saying outrageous shit to try and get us banned)Dear male lurkers, If you ever reach the level of pathetic that would lead you to LARP as people you supposedly 'hate' online, please consider doing one of the following more productive activities instead: Read a book Gardening Watch a documentary Listen to a podcast Call a friend (a REAL friend, not an online one) Spend time with a family member Volunteer Listen to music Write/draw/do something creative Cook or bake Go to work Clean the house Learn a new language Ride a bike Go for a walk among… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 6 | I have no words for this...As if this 300lb loser has had sex with a woman ever. He's trying to score bro points online ("wanting to punch a naked and vulnerable woman half my size is cool, amirite boys?") because if a woman so much as breathed in his direction, he'd dissolve in a puddle of tears and premature ejaculate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 03:24 PM |
| 12 | Being skeptical of the advice you get from older women about datingThere’s a photo on another sub of thousands of bareheaded women protesting mandatory hijab in Iran. During my lifetime. They protested like we protest and they lost and now they and their daughters live with these restrictions woven into the intimate fabric of their lives. This needs to be its own post. Women in the West have become very complacent. It truly doesn't occur to them that our rights could be taken away from us at ANY moment. They live in a libfem dreamland and refuse to recognize th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 06:43 PM |
| 2 | They settle down when they get old. #geriatricI remember when they first got together, people were saying she wasn't attractive enough for him. Fucking lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 06:05 PM |
| 6 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 16 - Walk Dates are For Dogs - (feat. Viral Tik Tok Star @Kokobeaute)I see we have the same routine! I also light some candles and sip a glass of white wine while I listen to the queens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 05:32 PM |
| 0 | They've almost got itSo basically, Serena Joy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 05:57 PM |
| 7 | Romance Books for FDS?If you like 'slice of life', read the Anne of Green Gables series by L.M Montgomery. Hilarious and heartwarming, you will adore all of the characters and Gilbert Blythe is the definition of a HVM. From Anne of Avonlea: 'Gilbert was as yet little more than a boy; but a boy has his dreams as have others, and in Gilbert’s future there was always a girl with big, limpid gray eyes, and a face as fine and delicate as a flower. He had made up his mind, also, that his future must be worthy of its goddes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/21 06:51 PM |
| 12 | HVM will respect your time; LVM have no worries making you wait around for them because they have no respect for you.This also applies to friends as well. I have no patience for flaky people or those who are inconsiderate of my time. Poor time management is a low value trait in anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 04:21 PM |
| 5 | More young men are living at home, not participating in the workforce, and playing more video games. What a surprise! /sThis is so me. I have to tell myself it's okay to relax sometimes and really force myself not to feel guilty if I have a 'lazy' afternoon (even when I've done all my chores/errands/meal prepping for the week ahead!). I just can't understand the mindset of lazy people. I have zero respect for a man that has no drive, ambition or motivation. The thought of feeling sexual attraction to anyone so pathetic and useless makes me laugh out loud. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:29 AM |
| 7 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common argument (Part. 4)Yes, there is just something fundamentally wrong about a man demanding that you pay on dates or go 50-50. It's a dynamic that screams friends, not lovers. It immediately makes me feel like I'm out with a roommate, not a romantic partner. It immediately kills the mood and ends any sense that I'm being 'courted'. It's ironic because men complain about the 'friendzone' all the time, when they're the ones putting themselves in it! If you want me as a romantic partner, don't treat me like one of your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 08:04 AM |
| 3 | Please take the time to figure out what your inner 'romantic narrative' is.That's interesting, because I feel like Ross/Rachel has had a lot of backlash over recent years (and rightly so!) while the problematic elements of Chandler/Monica are never explored (in fact, they're often held up as relationship goals). The sad reality is, that if you started sleeping with one of your male friends, rather than him falling madly in love with you, he would probably just enjoy a FWB arrangement, while you would catch one-sided feelings. Chandler would not just get over his commit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:39 AM |
| 12 | It's time for the Saturday Strategy Spotlight! I hope you enjoy this week's picks!I've just posted in myousername's recent post about quality control on this sub, and it's telling that there are three strategy posts here that I've missed this week. The reason that Saturday Strategy Spotlight exists is because there are simply too many memes/TikTok posts, and amazing content like this is falling through the cracks. Phoenix, is there something Mods can do to address this? It's amazing that you're using Saturdays to bring attention to high quality posts, but the fact that they'r… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:27 AM |
| 23 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.I'm so glad the sub is getting back on track! I would also like to tentatively suggest some ideas for quality control when it comes to posts here. The sub has grown massively, which means that there are a LOT of posts here, but very few are actually 'Strategy'/'Field Report' posts, which was what initially drew me to the sub. I would love a 'back to basics' approach to ensure that we get the well-written, thoughtful, detailed strategy posts being the norm, rather than the exception. One user has… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 07:15 AM |
| 40 | “Porn is healthy.”My heart breaks for Gen Z girls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 06:26 AM |
| 3 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 15 - A Furfillion Red Flags + Film Director Elle Kamihira on Jennifer's Law"Die mad - preferably on rapist island." This has to be my favorite outro yet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:59 PM |
| 8 | Am I the only one who thinks that doesn't sound healthy? ...maybe I'm misunderstanding it?Anxiety is relationships is common only because LVM are common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 12:44 PM |
| 10 | Dick is in abundance and low in value. Getting “flewed out” is not the move.This tangent this thread has taken is killing me, lol. Like peen is so LV we forget about it in the literal post and start talking about chicken instead, lmaooo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 12:40 PM |
| 21 | “But ugly guys will treat you better and they won’t cheat on you!” No. Countering scrote propaganda:Lol, same sis. All the guys I've had relationships with were hot (and tall). And guess what? They all frequently told me I was beautiful and not one of them ever made any bullshit negative comments. Hot guys are super-complimentary in my experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:21 AM |
| 40 | This popped up in my memories. This is HV.You can always tell it's a green flag/HV post when the man and woman are dressed equally well. The biggest tell with Pickme/LVM posts is that the woman is dressed to the nines and the guy just hasn't bothered. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 05:04 AM |
| 4 | When friends and relatives start listing things I need to change in order to be "successful" on a dating marketThey hate bold lipstick because they hate confident women. It takes a lot of confidence to rock a bold lip, especially red. I notice that when I wear red clothing out and about, men stare, but will never comment. Something about the confidence unnerves them and puts them on edge. Get tons of compliments from women though. Can highly recommend. ETA: HV men will actually be turned on by your confidence and compliment you. I think they get a masculine thrill to feel like they're out with a glamorou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 04:55 AM |
| 19 | Update: reining in the subI agree with this. I've had to start scrolling past the 'male depravity' posts, because they just leave me feeling sick, furious and exhausted. I don't know how those types of post benefit us. We all know there are bad men out there. Posting this kind of content just feels like a futile exercise in masochism. There is a world of difference between an actual informative post that says "here are these useful red flags to look out for" vs something like the slug story, which is just reveling in how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 04:41 AM |
| 10 | The Four Tolkien LVM Characters and What We Can Learn from Them, Part 1Faramir is my ultimate Tolkien dreamboat, strength and gentleness combined. This is an amazing post, OP! Not to mention that after the kinslaying, Feanor not only steals the boats, but then deliberately burns them and leaves behind two thirds of the Noldorin host out of pure spite. He had a golden opportunity to demonstrate his strength as a leader: showing that he could put aside petty rivalries for a greater goal, but like a typical scrote, he self-sabotages because he can't get over his petty… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 05:09 PM |
| 3 | This should be engraved in the stoneAnd they'll also remind you of it 6 months later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 19 | A friend sent me a 🍤-pic out of nowhere and I feel betrayedWhat? You mean when you're struggling with a math problem or feeling emotionally overwhelmed, you don't just randomly get your boobs out?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:35 PM |
| 17 | Apparently single women can’t have nice things aka my attempt to buy a houseYes!! If a man wants the privilege of living with me, he can pony up a ring and we can move into HIS house that he has paid off, while I rent out my own place and pocket the income. This is literally the only way I will tolerate a man under the same roof as me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:09 PM |
| 171 | REMINDER: FDS is NOT WGTOW/OVARIT/FEMCEL etc, We're a Dating Strategy....So You Should, Ya'Know, DATE.This post confused me slightly. I was under the impression that most women on this sub are aware that there is a space between "actively dating" and "WGTOW", which is "open to meeting a HVM but content to be single until that happens". I thought that's where most of us were at? That's certainly my mindset. However, I do appreciate Jammies' comments that beauty shaming posts and posts that call women who use OLD 'pickmes' leave a bad taste in my mouth. It's needlessly hateful and negative in a su… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 04:29 PM |
| 8 | Sat folding my underwear & getting upset.One thing I loved about Buffy was the super-comfy pajamas they always had her wearing. In a show about vampires and demons, it was such a cute touch of realism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18duK2drfIk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 06:07 PM |
| 9 | Personal growth and new age concepts that are scams:This sounds like the ex who told me that me calling him out on feeling disrespected by something he did was a sign of MY low self esteem. I'm so glad that asshole is out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 05:37 PM |
| 11 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??She'd do less damage to herself if she walked directly into oncoming traffic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 12 | Nearly spit out my coffee reading this 😂This entire comment section has had me in tears, omg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 04:16 PM |
| 199 | Billie Elish bf is 10 years older than her.I think it was someone from FDS that said "He's not with you because you're mature. He's with you because you're not." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 10 | We don’t want love as much as we think we doFor what it's worth, your female friends - unless they all got VERY lucky - don't have this either. Many of them will just have company and a warm body and a whole lot of negatives. As for cuddles, I cannot recommend getting a dog or a cat strongly enough. They are little cuddly floofs of pure joy that will adore you with all their hearts and offer you the purest, most unconditional love there is. Your heart will literally swell 10 sizes. When they come charging to the front door, crazy with exc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 06:00 PM |
| 7 | We don’t want love as much as we think we doI think it's not entirely due to choice either. Don't get me wrong, some of those women are Pickmes and will happily toss aside their female friends once they 'snag' a man, but many of these poor wives and mothers get all the domestic labor and childcare dumped on them without any support from their partners, so THEIR friendships end up being the ones suffering, while the husband gets to continue to have his 'bros'. We talk a lot on this sub about how women get a lot of responsibilities added to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:47 PM |
| 2 | We talk a lot here about the dangers of porn addiction, and I found a little guide to check and share with men if neededThey're alcoholics denying they have a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:36 PM |
| 11 | Queens, guess what? We are the society.Women in East Asia are waking up and refusing to have anything to do with these useless scrotes, and men in countries like China and South Korea are SHOOK. Women in the West need to start catching up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:34 PM |
| 3 | Sadly trueThey stand with the rape victim, providing the perpetrator was a man of color. If it's one of their white male friends, it's all "hE wOuLD neVer!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:29 PM |
| 33 | A scrote blocked the sidewalk with his car in order to flirt.I take my phone everywhere with me now. I live in a very middle class, leafy suburb with a lot of families so nobody bothers me, but if somebody were to try something, I would immediately get my phone out and start filming them/photographing their license plate. I'm constantly ready to put a man on blast if he harasses me. I think men must sense I'm ready to take action because I was out running the other day when a couple of teenage scrotes were loitering in the street smoking pot. They both lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:25 PM |
| 29 | Be wary of guys who brag about being richWhy are women always so much more interesting than men? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:05 PM |
| 6 | Gillian Anderson in "The Fall"Stella Gibson is such a mood. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:52 PM |
| 3 | Pregnant feminist who makes way less than bf will "pay for herself" in the name of equalityContrast your lovely and supportive husband with my colleague who is pregnant and suffering near-constant nausea, yet is still dragging herself into work. Instead of her boyfriend stepping up and doing the cooking at home, they're just ordering meals which she is of course is going 50-50 on. A clear chance for her boyfriend to step up and he just... didn't. Notice as well that he's still her 'boyfriend' while you are married. If he wanted to, he would! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 09:08 AM |
| 4 | So many stories like this are popping up. I'm glad she's divorcing him.I guarantee he was doing this for 'revenge' because he resented having to cook all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 08:27 AM |
| 6 | What the hell is with all of these men who don't respect a woman's dietary restrictions???Heterosexuality is literally a curse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:28 AM |
| 26 | Misogyny in leftist spheres. A Young Turks video becomes a witch hunt over a woman's TikTok video about dating standards. As a leftist and feminist this seriously annoys me.This is why I no longer politically align myself with the left. It's the same old misogynistic bullshit, just dressed up in a progressive package. Both conservatives and liberals try to control women: the former through enforcing 'traditional' values and keeping up barefoot and pregnant, the latter through bullying and shaming women into being low maintenance, pretty porn dolls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:22 AM |
| 86 | I Like How She Handled This 😂Any man who gets up to shower immediately after sex is LV. You've just shared an intimate and beautiful experience with someone you 'love', scrote. Cuddle her. Talk to her. Kiss her softly. Stroke her hair. Ask if she's okay/happy/needs a drink of water. Like, how is it so hard to be a decent human being?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 07:10 AM |
| 10 | Knock it tf off, pickmeisha 🤡Those things aren't mutually exclusive though...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:49 AM |
| 27 | This is FDS Queen mood for life right here.You're never gonna have the opportunity to sleep in that nest if you don't get picked tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:10 AM |
| 3 | Oh, honey... 😣This is a perfect way of putting it "buying his interest to secure the relationship." Ultimately, she's doing this because she doesn't think that she, on her own, is enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:08 AM |
| 3 | 166,619 Queens and counting.. 🤍✨I wish there was a special FDS tattoo we could all get, so we could identify each other in the wild. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:06 AM |
| 7 | "HURR DURR I FEEL CONFIDENT IN MY APPERANCE I ACCEPT MYSELF" a tale of mediocre life copingHappy to say I've never let an uggo inside me. There may be other things about the relationships I regretted, but at least I never look back on the sex and shudder with revulsion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:45 AM |
| 14 | On flaky “friends” and why I understand when women overinvest in their romantic relationships. I think we can have pickme tendencies without being a full blown pickme.And I have experienced it frequently enough that people who claim constant busyness disregard that I am busy, too. On a subtle level they seem to think that their time is more important than mine. THIS. Like, congratulations? Everyone over the age of 25 is fucking busy. It doesn't make you special or important. It's called being an adult. If I reach out to a friend - guess what - I'm busy too, but I'm making time for you, because I value our friendship. Also, in my experience, genuinely busy peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 11:25 AM |
| 5 | PLEASE be careful and delete or password protect any explicit photos or videos on your devicesOh, look. The dead-eyed, thousand yard porn stare. Quelle surprise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:42 AM |
| 22 | Oh, honey... 😣Her male friend sounds HV. Men who are well-raised and taught to respect women would absolutely feel uncomfortable with their girlfriend buying them loads of expensive gifts. They want to be the ones spoiling their partner and taking on the masculine role in the relationship. All men would see this as a sign of low esteem - the only difference is that a HVM would respectfully end the relationship, while a LVM will just take and take. There is no way this arrangement will benefit her. Natalie Lue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:31 AM |
| 43 | Friends I “lost in the divorce”I lost my whole friend group when I separated with my kid's dad, which was devastating since we all graduated together and were friends beforehand This why I get annoyed when FDS says "don't online date! The best way to meet a man is through mutual friends and acquaintances!" No, no, and no. I tried that before and guess which one of us ended up leaving the company and never speaking to those mutual 'friends' again? I had to basically rebuild my life while his remained unscathed. Never again. If… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 10:17 AM |
| 57 | Remember, men have no problem using you for relationship benefits until they find someone betterPorn has fucked up their dopamine receptors. They expect a woman to give them a constant 'high' and will discard her if she doesn't (which is... you know... every woman, because we're living, breathing individuals with our own inner lives, not a line of coke, ffs). They're completely incapable of delayed gratification: the subtle thrill of eye contact, the light brush of a hand or stimulating conversation over a shared passion. Most of them will never feel that masculine sense of pride over smal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:32 AM |
| 80 | Marriage Benefits Men!This is so true. Buying my own home was the most freeing thing I've ever done. It was like a kindly goddess had put a hand on my shoulder and whispered in my ear "of course you have permission to do this. You don't need to be in a relationship to buy a house." And guess what? The world didn't end, nobody did the collective gasp of "bUt yOu'Re siNgle?"Now I'm sitting on a fat asset that is quiet, calm sanctuary, beautifully decorated how I WANT it and nobody to clean up after except my pup. Singl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:16 AM |
| 25 | hope everyone has a good Friday ❤️If society is so desperate for us to stay looking young and beautiful, there is literally only one thing they should be telling us: DUMP HIM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:09 AM |
| 14 | Even women who want to uplift men and boys gets called a sl*t. Don't be a pickme y'all. 🤡"Y'all are handsome in your own way" You sit on a throne of lies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:47 PM |
| 11 | Are there men who don't look at porn?It's by no means guaranteed, but try dating men with a lot of outdoor hobbies. My father is a wonderful man. A provider, sensitive, softly spoken, adores my mom. He enjoys golf, gardening, restoring antique furniture and trading it. He has a workshop in his garage and can be out there for hours without any devices (he's 70). He has a mobile phone but with no internet and it's always left in the house when he's working on his outdoor projects. He loves taking country walks with my mom and it's so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:38 PM |
| 9 | Are there men who don't look at porn?My boyfriend grew up shy and didn’t have success with girls until after he turned 20. Contrary to popular belief, that didn’t make him bitter, angry at Becky who rejected him in 8th grade or aggressively consuming porn. He sees women as living beings, not as eyecandy to satisfy his needs. I think 20 is still an acceptable age to have limited experience. But if he's bypassed 25 and STILL has never had any romantic/sexual experience, that's a red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:43 PM |
| 43 | We talk a lot here about the dangers of porn addiction, and I found a little guide to check and share with men if neededThis needs to be on every billboard, every street corner, every public restroom, every office, every gym, and every hotel room in the land. Oh, and for the sick fucks that will STILL try and visit these disgusting sites, this should pop up and stay on screen for ten seconds before any video starts to play, with no way of skipping it or using an adblocker to avoid seeing it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 02:36 PM |
| 17 | He called me a princessAll my friends and coworkers would have put their hands on the holy bible and sworn that my ex was the most wonderful man who ever existed. Spoiler: he was a narcissist. By far the best boyfriend I ever had was one I met through OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:24 PM |
| 4 | ghosted a man who didn't properly plan a 1st date"day the date was supposed to be the guy texts me and asks if we are still meeting up and I already forgot he existed lol." This is some queen energy right here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:18 PM |
| 9 | I'm done with men and have never even dated oneI'm the same age as you, and like you, I only dated a few guys in my 20's (no long-term relationships). As a result, I traveled the world, made lifelong friends, tried new cuisines, went on incredible vacations and built remarkable memories, all due to not being shackled to a LVM. Now in my mid-30's, I'm working in my dream job, own my own home, have the most loyal (canine) companion a girl could ever wish for and family and friends I treasure, along with disposable income for the gym, spa days,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:06 PM |
| 3 | Husband eats all of the food in the house leaving his wife and children hungry. Gets mad at wife for not giving him more food when she replaces what he ate that night.This. I'm surprised no one has pointed out this is abuse. Like all abusers, he's picked his victims VERY carefully, knowing that he won't face any consequences. It's dangerous to simply say 'it's gluttony/he doesn't have any self-control'. If that was the case, he would be doing this in the office and at social functions, which is clearly not the case as he's presumably still employed. He knows exactly what he's doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 05:09 PM |
| 9 | Why you should NEVER go 50/50 on a date: Breaking down the most common arguments (Part. 3)I think this may be my favorite FDS post yet. Bloody magnificent. The whole series has been great, but you've really outdone yourself here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:57 PM |
| 26 | Weekly FDS Check-inYou communicate that by not having sex with him. Men aren't stupid. Trust me, they are very astute at discerning which women will 'give it up' immediately and which women they have to 'work for'. Also, if you straight up tell him "I'm not going to have sex until we're exclusive", if he's a LVM, he'll simply tell you what you want to hear in order to get sex. FDS advises against telling men how to treat us for this very reason. Your actions are demonstrating that you are not a person who has sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:36 PM |
| 1 | "They're like brother and sister"I wish I could go back in time and explain this to my past self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 06:04 PM |
| 34 | I'm out of words. I was skeptical about "They won't even like you yet they will stay with you for s#x", but this has over thousand upvotes and no one judged him for this.It also means that you feel less 'cheated' if he does turn out to be a LVM. If you've objectively benefited from being taken out on lovely dates, given thoughtful gifts/flowers, tried new restaurants and visited new places with entertaining company while not exerting any mental labor or spending a dime, how angry can you really feel? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Call me radical but this is one of the reasons why hookups should stop being popular and glorifiedI was thinking more Buffalo Bill. "It puts the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:40 PM |
| 4 | Why do people measure the success and happiness of a women based on her relationship status? (Long story)OP, you'd better ditch those friends asap, because those same guys who were laughing at you are going to be the ones hitting up your phone when they're stuck in their bored, unfulfilling marriages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:35 PM |
| 5 | Always, ALWAYS check his phonePlease keep us updated on how you're doing, OP. I'm worried about you. I hope you have love and supportive people around you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Always, ALWAYS check his phoneI'm starting to fear this too. That using FDS principles will simply weed out the obvious LVM and the ones that pass our vetting are actually the highly intelligent sociopaths. How the fuck are you supposed to vet for something like this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Wanting a man who is financially stable is not asking for too much. There is no honour in dating a man who is broke.Things were worse for women in so many ways 50-100 years ago, but one thing society got right was teaching men that if they couldn't provide for a woman then they didn't deserve one. If a man wanted a wife, he had to step the fuck up and prove to her family that he could provide a certain quality of life. Making women easily accessible to men has been a sociological disaster. It has turned men into lazy, helpless, entitled manbabies that can't even wipe their own asses. They will sit around in t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 11:47 AM |
| 21 | Why We Need A Sexual Double Standard (Against Men)I agree with this. Any man who is into double digits is not a man who is discerning or selective about his sexual partners. It shows me that he does not see sex as a special or valued experience to be shared with only the most intimate of partners. Any man who views sex as a recreational sport rather than an act of love is someone who is fundamentally incompatible with me. Our values simply do not align. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 11:31 AM |
| 4 | Never try to change a man.Or you could just be with a man who respects you and treats you right the first time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 06:27 AM |
| 6 | This is just so sad. Them LVM got her manipulated that one night stands are really going to have any benefit to her."So, my old oven mitt wore out and I'm not ready to buy a new one yet (that is my prerogative). For those of you women who stick your bare hand into the oven, how do you do it repeatedly without getting burnt/hurting yourself?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 11:52 AM |
| 4 | The delusion, the audacity 🤡😂He's one of those guys that has never actually approached a woman and is still furious that the hot cheerleader didn't pick up on his creepy obsessive staring and magically jump on his dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:55 AM |
| 27 | Shitty dudes will even neg your family membersTell me you want to fuck your sister-in-law without telling me you want to fuck your sister-in-law. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 06:14 AM |
| 39 | Any man who dismisses your physical discomfort is trash.Yep, and if they expect you to go on a 'date' for several hours with no thought as to when you're going to eat and drink or have access to a restroom. They also don't care about your safety as no man of quality would ever expect a woman to meet a complete stranger in a remote outdoor location. This is why men who suggest 'walk dates' need to be instantly blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:37 AM |
| 2 | Why there's no such thing as a green flag to confirm a guy as high valueThis is a fucking brilliant analogy. Spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 08:32 AM |
| 50 | Foolproof vetting strategy: take him to the gymI love Lilith's posts because now I can read them in her voice! The leg day thing is so true. I once dated a Spanish guy who played a lot of soccer and his thighs and backside looked like they had been carved by the gods. Men with skinny legs are a no from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 07:03 AM |
| 7 | It makes me genuinely sad when I think about the crumbs I used to settle for.It's truly depressing how little women value themselves. I overheard some female colleagues the other day being all "I'm so much sometimes. I honestly don't know why my husband puts up with me." My jaw dropped. These two women are beautiful, accomplished, intelligent, kind, funny and driven individuals that any man should be crawling over broken glass to have a chance with. It makes me so, so angry that society does this to us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:41 AM |
| 9 | Horror movies about the risks of letting LVMs into your lifeRepulsion haunted for me for days after I watched it. It perfectly captures the experience of being a woman and feeling like prey just for going about your day to day life. It also perfectly encapsulates how the rapist in your life is going to be someone you know, whether your landlord or the seemingly nice guy who asks you out on a date and is just a little too pushy about getting an invite into your home... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 08:38 AM |
| 34 | Is Internet Misogyny Seeping Over IRL?I've heard the word 'simp' being used by males a few times recently. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:25 AM |
| 11 | Not all men?Not all men... but probably you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 07:20 AM |
| 58 | The guys who get the most mad about "generalizing men" are the ones where the generalization 100% applies to them 😂I was catching up with a male friend the other night (gay) and he said nothing pisses him off more during conversations about physical/emotional abuse than men doing the "But men can be abused toooo". He was like "Sit down, and shut the fuck up. Men are the abusive ones in relationships, period. In any cases of sexual abuse, it's always men. Men abuse women. Don't even try to turn it around." My heart grew like 10 sizes, lol. He gets it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 07:11 AM |
| 62 | Emotional abuse can be as destructive as physical abuse & everyone needs to know this."I'm a good person," sobbed my ex while he was DARVO-ing and gaslighting the shit out of me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 06:54 AM |
| 6 | Porn is blatant abuseThis. If a man EVER dared to try and pull any violent/rough/degrading shit on me I would knee him in the balls and call the cops. Not that law enforcement would help, but it would scare the shit out of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 18 | Don't waste any of your time on people who watch porn.This comment just made me recoil in horror. What the fuck is wrong with them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:00 PM |
| 10 | Cheaters, STI’s and how dating apps aid low value men to sling their dick around. I think it’s time HVW boycotted them.Thank you for pointing this out. I'm glad someone finally said it. Ending things with my narc ex completely messed up my professional and social circle. I lost friends, my job was awkward as hell and he used the fact that we still moved in the same circles to try and triangulate me with exes, hit on mutual friends in front of me and keep constant tabs on my personal life. It took nearly two years to get over him because of his bullshit. The ex I met after him? We met online, so had no profession… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:22 PM |
| 4 | How to Spot a PAAlso, because after he masturbates to porn, the first thing he does is go to 'clean up', so of course he continues this ingrained behavior even after sex with a living, breathing woman. I feel so stupid for not making the connection at the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 07:43 PM |
| 9 | How to Spot a PADoesn't make eye contact during sex and feels 'distant' in general. It feels like there is no real connection or intimacy. Is weirdly silent during sex (used to masturbating furiously in silence). Will get up to shower immediately after sex instead of kissing/cuddling/talking in bed and appreciating the warm afterglow (this never happens in porn, so why would he bother to do any of that?) You'll be having 'normal' sex, then he pulls a random 'move' out of nowhere that he obviously picked up from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:43 PM |
| 3 | Can we talk about the hypocrisy?Cheating is LV behavior. We don't condone that here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 06:14 PM |
| 14 | Underneath the mask is another mask, and under that is an abuser 😩I have so much respect for Nina Dobrev from walking away from Ian's LV ass. Their age-gap relationship skeeved me out and he always came across as arrogant and fame-thirsty while Nina always seemed so down to earth. He just further proved his LVM credentials when he then started dating Nikki Reed, who was close friends with Nina (and gives off major Pickme vibes herself) and now it turns out she was playing Barb the Builder after he bankrupted himself (also notice how he blames 'greed and fraud'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 8 | When their lame man-brags are deeply unimpressiveThe irony of this bird flaunting his vast, patterned plumage to impress the female while the human men walking past are all poorly dressed with soft paunchy bellies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:53 PM |
| 112 | If your spouse watches you suffer, then they don't care about you.A less extreme example but I knew things were over between me and my ex when he watched me struggle up the stairs with a heavy bag of shopping and didn't lift a finger to help me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Takeshi Kaneshiro: Example of aging well take note scrotes! Not bald/balding and fatFor the record, he's only 4 years younger than Matthew Perry who currently looks like a bloated corpse on the Friends reunion trailer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:54 PM |
| 11 | Don't be Barb the builderI thought niceness was an honorable quality It is. For female friends and pets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:30 PM |
| 4 | Bumble Encourages Women to Talk to Men who Commit Microaggressions And Explain to Him Why They Are Inappropriate : Further Reason to Stop Using OLDIf women are leaving the app in droves, it's because the behavior of men has become so abhorrent that women are realizing that being single is better than dealing with the constant barrage of sexual harassment and abuse by complete strangers. But instead of Bumble telling its male userbase to... I dunno... treat women like human beings instead of pocket pussies, they choose to blame women for being tOo eMOtioNal and tell us we're the problem for being justifiably disgusted by disgusting behavior… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 01:21 PM |
| 30 | I was just thinking about this. After writing it down and reading it, it hit me like a ton of bricks. That industry literally profits off of p*dos.I would argue that the fact he even felt the need to tell you his preferences makes him LV. I'm in my 30's and have never had a single boyfriend comment on my personal grooming choices. They just enjoyed going down there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 07:11 AM |
| 17 | Nah you can be mean to men and still find a HVM who gets why you're mean lolI have a friend who teaches high school. She said the best way to handle a class of boys is to be mean to them. If one boy is acting up, instead of getting angry, just come out with a scathing and witty comment that crushes his ego and makes him look like a fool in front of the other boys he's trying to impress. She says the moment you do that, you get instant respect from the class (and, shockingly, the boy you've just insulted). My friend is tiny (she's like 4'11) but can manage a class of row… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:48 AM |
| 16 | The Faux PatriarchYour father sounds wonderful. I'm sorry for your loss. 'Quiet leadership' is the perfect way to describe it. My father is a gentle, softly spoken man. I don't ever remember him raising his voice in anger. He worked a high-paying job to support my mom, took us on lovely vacations and day trips to museums, etc, paid for extracurriculars and bought my mom a house in her own name. He also has a lot of outdoor hobbies like gardening, building and woodwork projects and golf. Any maintenance issues wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:27 AM |
| 16 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.It was probably the constant stress and emotional exhaustion of being with such a shitbag that left her vulnerable to her cancer developing so aggressively. NVM fucking up your health with chronic stress and autoimmune disorders is a real thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:24 PM |
| 45 | A question?They've been using such dark and depraved porn, probably where the woman is being used, degraded and abused, that they get post orgasm disgust with what they've done. This is the real answer. It is not normal to feel disgust or self-loathing after orgasm. The only men that will feel this way are LVM who watch degrading porn to the point where they've conditioned themselves to associate the moment after climax with shame and revulsion. Deep down, they know what they're watching is fucked-up and w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 03:19 PM |
| 32 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallTimothee Chamalet is beautiful to watch on film. Pictures don't do him justice, but in motion his face looks like something out of a Renaissance painting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 06:07 PM |
| 8 | Unfriendly ReminderYes, what they're essentially saying is "If it was sex you didn't want or enjoy, then you're allowed an abortion. However, if you consented to - and worse - enjoyed the sex, then you're a filthy, knocked-up slut who deserves to be punished." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 05:54 PM |
| 62 | A lot to unpack here....why on earth do some women deal with this absolute bullshit??He'll happily pay to see other women naked while insisting his girlfriend goes 50-50 on 'dates'. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 05:48 PM |
| 7 | This conversation from Buffy that aired in 1998There's a pattern to Joss Whedon's shows. The 'hot', pretty popular characters are put through emotional hell and torn to shreds by the narrative and the characters for being awful people (see: Xander telling Buffy she's a bad girlfriend because she's angry her boyfriend Riley cheated on her, or the time her friends all line up to tell her she's an terrible person for leaving town after she's emotionally distraught from having to kill her one true love to save the world) meanwhile the 'nerdy' fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 06:29 PM |
| 59 | Message to female lurkersYou also get over a breakup 10,000x faster when there's nothing you're stewing in resentment over. Can absolutely recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:47 PM |
| 23 | I'm sure we have all experienced this especially coercing you into sex because they're upset you don't like themThen the classic case of, “comfort me over the consequences of MY actions.” Ugh, my ex. Zero accountability. None. The only time he turned on the waterworks was when I called him out for his shitty behavior then he had the nerve to tell ME I wasn't being sympathetic enough! What an emotionally manipulative asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:45 PM |
| 127 | you could try, I don’t know, being her friend? what is wrong with men that being friends with a girl doesn’t even occur to them and they need to ask the internet?Fellas, is it gay to like and respect a woman as a person and enjoy her company? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:40 PM |
| 13 | GOALS 😩❤️From my experience, it's not the young Gen Z women that are big drinkers but the Boomer/Gen X Moms married to LVM that are self-medicating on booze. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:05 PM |
| 128 | The very famous "sexual compatibility" NVM absolutely MUST check before committing and why it's a bunch of bullSex is a form of physical communication. If a man can’t pick up on non-verbal cues enough to realize that he is talking too much or that you need to move out of the sun, or that you are not comfortable with how he talks to the waitress he is going to be awful in bed. Those small things on a date are so telling. Does he notice that you've finished your drink and gets you another glass of water? Even if he's having a great time, can he tell you're getting tired so knows to end the date? Is he care… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:01 PM |
| 5 | "A Victorian magazine asked spinsters why they were single and some of the answers were brutal."Yeah, I mean, damn, at least they wore suits and shit back in the day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:54 PM |
| 163 | I tried to highlight the worst parts, but it's all so bad... 😬He'll resent you for being out of his league and will take it out on you by cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:16 PM |
| 181 | I’m so disgusted and sad for his wifeThis isn't to minimize chronic illness because I cannot imagine what the wife must be going through, but I wonder if her quality of life would improve somewhat if this man were out of it. I cannot believe she doesn't know about his cheating, selfishness and the fact that he's clearly emotionally checked out of the relationship. My heart breaks for that poor woman. You know if the situations were reversed, she would be moving heaven and earth to make this undeserving asshole happy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:15 PM |
| 4 | Angry scrote texts me from another phone number after I blocked and deleted him because we’re not a match...This is why we don't date below our league. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:48 AM |
| 9 | STOP normalizing polyamory while we still live in a patriarchy. Tired of these “wax poetical” think pieces about the obvious.😴🤮This is the only poly relationship I'd accept, tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:22 AM |
| 19 | This is straight up abuse. If you don’t like that she’s a makeup artist on TikTok, you can just break up with her, you don’t have to call her ugly and attention seeking in the process. Guys can never just leave with dignity, they have to make a whole ass mess out of itPretty much every one of her videos has some dude going “and this is why men have trust issues”. This makes me see red. Women meanwhile are out there with legitimate trust issues from being love-bombed, future-faked, cheated on, gaslit, triangulated and abused while manbabies like this are whining about makeup? Fuck off. Also: Hi, fellow Daisy! :-) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:09 AM |
| 26 | This is straight up abuse. If you don’t like that she’s a makeup artist on TikTok, you can just break up with her, you don’t have to call her ugly and attention seeking in the process. Guys can never just leave with dignity, they have to make a whole ass mess out of itCan confirm: I've only ever been sexually intimate with objectively hot men and not one of them ever made a negative remark about my appearance. They're always super-complimentary in my experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 06:05 AM |
| 35 | Ready to commit and then they bail (AKA THE REASON TO DATE MULTIPLE MEN AT ONCE AND PROPERLY VET)I love these field report/strategy posts. Now we seem to be coming out of the worst of the pandemic I'm hoping we'll see more of this kind of content in the sub. It's so helpful. Thank you for posting this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 05:38 AM |
| 17 | Overweight men have shorter penises. (and my thoughts on obesity and body positivity)I've never had sex with an overweight man. Thanks to your post, now I never will. Reading this made me want to hurl, omg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 04:05 PM |
| 9 | Woman spends THREE YEARS as a FWB, later feels resentful about it. 😔Ladies—we can and must demand more.No LVM exists in a vaccuum- he exists within aN LV ecosystem This is so, so true and deserves to be its own post. My NVM ex had a harem of enablers, from LV male friends with problematic values to groupies from his band he was 'just friends' with, and most notably an ex who was one of those 'wild' hipster girls with an absent father, zero self-esteem and a host of eating disorders who hopped from dick to dick when my ex was pretending to be my faithful boyfriend. They all depend on one another i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:25 PM |
| 9 | On-Screen Violence Towards Women is Not "Realism"This is why I respect the fuck out of Jessica Jones. The first season shows the horrific reality of rape without showing us a single rape scene. We see it all from the woman's point of view long after the event occurred: Jessica's PTSD, her flashbacks (that show Kilgrave's emotional abuse, nothing sexual), how it has affected her relationships with those around her and the emotional scars she bears. Kilgrave is never romanticized, the narrative clearly portrays him as a sick fuck and refuses to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:41 AM |
| 70 | Men still harass us no matter what we wear cause it doesn't change what they know we have underneathIt's really telling how men and women reacted to the requirement to wear masks during this pandemic. Women complied without issue, thinking "bonus - protecting public health AND less street harassment!" while lots of men just flat-refused, gave no fucks about a global virus that was literally killing people in the HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS and were all "bUt muh bOdiLy aUtoNomy!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 06:59 AM |
| 29 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 10 - Boomers, Coomers, & Consumers: What Went Wrong with Male SocializationI think what we need to realize is that men are deliberately CHOOSING not to level up purely out of spite. They're quite literally punishing women for daring to leave the kitchen, get an education, a career, a bank account and financial independence. God forbid we choose not to have children. They're deliberately choosing to be as lazy and repulsive and useless as possible as a direct pushback against feminism. They deliberately try to make women's lives as difficult as possible by playing the m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/21 06:20 PM |
| 37 | Nobody in the comments section pointed out the obvious, which is that he wants to f*ck this woman if he hasn't alreadyAnd this is why we don't date 50-50 men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 05:20 AM |
| 6 | On the myth that your 20s are when you have the most options with HVM.Dating men 2-5 years younger than me has been a revelation. They treat you SO much better because they know you won't tolerate bullshit. FWIW, one of the few HV couples I know in my age group, the guy is four years younger than his female partner. He's intelligent, humble, compassionate, hard-working, handsome, respectful and worships the ground she walks on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:31 PM |
| 26 | Sex Work Twitter makes me feel LESS compassion towards voluntary sex workers 🙄The only difference between the Madonna and the Whore is that the Madonna gets disrespected behind her back while the Whore gets disrespected to her face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 06:04 PM |
| 9 | They never say *why* they hate FDS...Or "I went on a date with an absolutely gorgeous woman who I really clicked with but didn't give her a ride home at night when she asked because I thought she mIgHt bE uSiNg me fOr gAs moNey. Why did she stop speaking to me?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:21 AM |
| 14 | Dear Scrotes: HVM does not mean a rich chad.I read this as slam poetry and chortled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 06:03 AM |
| 6 | Pickme Poodle 🐩🥴 goes on walkies!! 🐶😩💦If he doesn't care about seeing your face properly on a first date, he sure as shit isn't going to be looking into your eyes when having sex with you. These men tell on themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 05:53 AM |
| 21 | i loveee this woman’s energy! she posts great FDS worthy dating advice!Complimenting random women while completely ignoring their boyfriend's existence needs to be a new FDS trend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 07:22 AM |
| 24 | Remove yourself from the concept of menWe need to start treating men like the Silence from Doctor Who - the second we stop looking at them, we quite literally forget they exist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:51 AM |
| 13 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieWait, you mean he gives you physically and emotionally satisfying sexual encounters that bring him so much joy and fulfillment that he cries with happiness? What a siMp, amirite, boys? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:29 PM |
| 35 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 9 - We Like Big Dicks and We REFUSE to LieNow these are the kind of 'problems' I want women posting on the relationship subreddits, lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 08:24 PM |
| 23 | TW: THIS IS WHAT BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A SCROTE LOOKS LIKEJust listen to how mature, collected, intelligent and articulate she is, yet I bet that sick fucker made her feel like the irrational, crazy one in the relationship. This young woman has her whole life ahead of her. I wish her nothing but joy and success. I hope her boyfriend is enjoying jail. I'll bet he's finding abuse isn't so fun when he isn't the one dishing it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:45 PM |
| 60 | TikTok is grooming teenage girls to be okay with sexual violenceI've said it before and I'll say it again - men have turned sex from an act of love into an act of torture. My heart breaks for young girls growing up thinking this is normal. In my formative years, being 'kinky' was tickling someone with a feather or using a pair of fluffy handcuffs (think that episode of Friends where Rachel's boss handcuffs Chandler to her office chair). What I'm reading and hearing about now sounds like some horrific dystopian nightmare. If a man tried any of this shit on me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:13 PM |
| 34 | Why... are men ??? 🤢😳My ex tried to fuck me after a family funeral. They really are that sick and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 04:21 PM |
| 9 | I absolutely can not stand this trend of woman thanking their male partners for "putting up with them" on social media.It's a blessing that he pulled this stunt right when this position was opening up. I'd bet my bank account he was jealous of your success and pulled this stunt deliberately to destabilize you. Good on you for not falling for his bullshit! Now he can cry miserable and alone while you pamper yourself with that 6 figure salary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 05:40 PM |
| 8 | I am a pickmeisha through and through. Tried convincing myself I am not like that...but after today, I’m realizing I totally am. Ugh 😭One thing I've noticed since being on FDS for over a year now... I rarely daydream. I pretty much never fantasize when it comes to men anymore and I'm a person who used to live in my head a LOT. Partly it's because this subreddit has rendered 99% of men unattractive to me, possibly it might be the pandemic, but I honestly haven't had a crush in over a year now. And I used to get excited about the most mundane of interactions to the point where I would DREAM about crushes and invent entire elabor… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 03:15 PM |
| 7 | Men Don’t Think Women Have a Right to Dignity/ Respect/ EgoThere’s a reason I haven’t married one of these scrotes yet. Not one of them are cutting me a better deal that beats the peace & freedom of staying single & childfree. This is why having financial freedom, our own education and career and independence is SO important. I have my house that is beautifully decorated the way I want. I'm excelling in my career. I work out 6 days a week and weigh the same as I did at 22 (105 pounds). I sleep 8-9 hours every night and my skin is glowing. I have disposa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 10:01 AM |
| 37 | I have never had a man treat me with kindness or respect after I did these things.Apply this strategy at work as well and reap the benefits. I never say 'sorry' to a man at work for anything. If there's an issue/misunderstanding with a female colleague, we'll both apologize and maintain a mutual respect for one another. I refuse do the same for a male colleague because they'll perceive it as 'weakness' and proceed to walk all over you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Certain fan communities show how toxic relationships have been normalized amongst young womenChuck/Blair to this day is the most disturbing/disgusting relationship I have seen portrayed in a TV show. By the end of the pilot he's already tried to rape two girls, one of whom is a fourteen-year old. But of course let's make him the romantic lead on a teen show! Although Damon/Elena in The Vampire Diaries is a pretty strong contender. Stefan respects Elena's choices and her autonomy, is kind and supportive to her friends, looks out for her brother and protects her without being controlling,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 07:04 PM |
| 2 | w0MeN aREn'T viSUaLThe treatment of Morgana's character was an absolute mess but I loved the fact that Gwen survived as Queen of Camelot at the very end. My personal headcanon is that she is the one who ushers in the Golden Age of Camelot while fucking the hot Sir Leon on the side. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:44 PM |
| 11 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 8 - Disney Presents: The Princess and The BumThe only difference between the Beast and Gaston is that Gaston is an overt asshole, while the Beast is a self-proclaimed, misunderstood Nice Guy. Like, you just know if Belle hadn't fallen for him, he would have gone from gallant dance partner to "I gave you a library, you f***ing ungrateful sl*t!" in five seconds flat. Great episode; I listened in the bath with a face mask and a glass of wine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 06:42 PM |
| 7 | w0MeN aREn'T viSUaLThis is 100% of the reason why I watched Merlin. Hottest. Round Table. Ever. https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p00qd370/p00qd2zb EDIT: Also, Arthur takes his shirt off like, every two episodes, so there's that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:50 PM |
| 8 | w0MeN aREn'T viSUaLHe needs his own FDS flair at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:44 PM |
| 9 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.He was gonna start small to see what he could get away with. Classic boundary pusher. He was hoping she'd think "oh, it's just a sandwich, NBD" and gradually build up to making her pay for dinner then eventually subsidizing his entire life. I'm SO glad she saw through his manipulative bullshit and walked away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:41 PM |
| 24 | Keep it up sisters! Toss the trash in the can and slam the lid.Reading the comments, the guy's take is that he was into her but she wasn't putting much effort or energy into anything, so he asked her to pay for the sandwich to test her interest. This mindset makes me furious. Her being on the date and spending time with you is the sign she's interested, you fucking dipshit. Of course LVM think like this, because they will happily go on dates and spend time with a woman they have no genuine interest in, so they assume a woman will also waste someone's time l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:30 PM |
| 8 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsThis is how it works in the animal kingdom, which is why only the most superior males get to reproduce. There are no other species that have a neck-beard equivalent because natural selection has quite rightly stamped them out. Passing on your genes is a privilege, not a right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:18 PM |
| 36 | I love pick mes that are so ignorant to history and to why some things exist... 🙄"My ring is now symbolically linked to his body/digestion." Sis, I'm WHEEZING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:07 PM |
| 93 | “Does my emotional support woman have to just put up with my shit or INSPIRE me to wipe my own ass? WheRe IS ThE LiNE?!” - The ruminations of an uninspired scrote:They don't see us as people. We're literally just supporting characters in the movie of their life. This is how a 5 year old child views the world before learning that other people are their own independent entities with their own thoughts/feelings/inner life. LVM are developmentally stunted children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 02:01 PM |
| 108 | A little reminder before we select how to spend our precious time this lovely weekendIt's literally the perfect FDS movie. It hits every beat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 01:52 PM |
| 10 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outNo, I don't, but it's kind of a moot point because: a) A HVM who wasn't interested would politely decline b) A HVM who was genuinely interested would have asked her out first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 04:59 AM |
| 196 | FROM THE HORSE'S MOUTH: Why we don't ask men outIt's funny how they'll then complain how they've been OLD for a year or so. Scrote, you deserve it. Stay in the talking stage behind your electronics or getting straight up rejected and collecting dust lmao It's funny you mention this because literally a couple of days ago this same colleague was talking about his experiences with OLD and how he hates "all the tedious small talk." Yet when a woman practically gift-wraps herself for him and moves straight to an in-person date, he's not interested… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 08:08 PM |
| 9 | Every “girls should make the first move!!” Post in a nutshell 🌰 🥜They know they're supposed to do the asking. They. KNOW. They also know they cant expect you to do it, so if they don't ask they don't get you. They did the math, and didn't ask you. You weren't worth it to them, if they didn't ask you. This is the real reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 05:53 PM |
| 13 | There is nothing out there like FDS for recovery and self-preservationit’s truly scary how brainwashed women are, beginning from childhood and continuing right through to adulthood. Finding FDS is having the blinders ripped away from your face and realizing there is so much more out there than what you were conditioned to believe and accept. I was standard-shamed at work the other day because I - gasp - expressed a preference for being taken out on high-quality dates and not dating broke men. I just smiled internally, because the people ripping into me were a dude… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 06:18 PM |
| 11 | How is this even a question??!!Some scrote is getting super triggered in this post and frantically downvoting all the comments, lmaooo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:19 PM |
| 10 | How is this even a question??!!Can you make this into its own post? This is a really perceptive observation and warrants further discussion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:14 PM |
| 27 | How is this even a question??!!I bet he also has no problem using her electricity and water when he stays over without paying a dime. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 04:07 PM |
| 10 | Why 50/50 is NOT FAIRDing ding ding we have a winner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Watch until the end!I should have known it was a hoax when he said "women" and not "females". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 05:51 PM |
| 21 | Hard factsAt least Tolkien appeared to be a HVM for his time (fought bravely in WW1, loved his wife Edith with all his heart until the day she died). The Silmarillion has some great strong female characters and the men in LOTR are all HVM that display courage, compassion, love, loyalty, honor and dignity. I actually love Eowyn and Faramir's love story, partly because it's refreshing to see the man portrayed as the sensitive poetic soul while the woman is the one who is stoic and aloof. Also, Eowyn says sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 06:57 AM |
| 245 | PSA: Men are learning about FDS but like most things they don't get it all. Stay on Scrote Watch!"NVM1: Yea but like I kind love it because I've been reading threads and like tweaking my tinder bio. I've gotten way more matches, I'm serious!" Let's hope he starts paying for our dates to really show us! What a tool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:42 PM |
| 38 | OnlyFans is an experiment in mass grooming teens into a Sex Work Pyramid Scheme, for which most of them will NEVER see more than $180This is spot on. I grew up in the 90's and I agree that while feminism wasn't perfect (the scary-skinny heroin-chic look was 'in', shows such as Friends and SatC popularized ONS and casual dating, sitcoms were beginning to normalize the useless couch-creature husband), sex work was NEVER glamorized or made to seem desirable. A hooker was just a hooker. Then somewhere in the 2010's this word 'empowering' was suddenly showing up everywhere and conned young girls into doing the most humiliating and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 06:20 AM |
| 12 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormats"hE wAs just aCting as a sPeRm dOnor, iT was tOtaLly pLaTonic." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:08 PM |
| 15 | Liberal feminism has turned women into doormatsLobotomized them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/21 07:04 PM |
| 27 | I love this and him.Right?? It hurts my soul how beautiful gay men are compared to their straight counterparts. Women aren't visual? Fuck off, this man is an absolute painting. I could stare at him for hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:59 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat/ Check-InAny ideas for stopping ogling creepers? Get your phone out and start filming them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 05:20 AM |
| 5 | Men Pushing Pregnancy During DatingRight?! What the hell does 'talking' mean? I'm only in my early thirties, but I swear to God this sub sometimes makes me feel like a dinosaur. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 06:46 PM |
| 11 | I'm a porn addict, my wife forced herself to watch with me instead of asserting healthy boundaries. Now we are divorcing, she resents me. It couldn't have been the porn. Anyone? 🤡Like "We didn't say thank you as often and kept score over domestic duties" means she wasn't impressed when he did the bare minimum and was upset that she had to work and then do everything at home "We didn't say thank you as often" = "She didn't thank me that one time I washed 3 dishes in 2017." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 06:21 PM |
| 7 | FDS PODCAST UPDATE: we're going to start doing interviews!Monica Lewinsky. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 07:58 PM |
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