| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 6 | FDS approved TV-shows?Not a show and I don’t like ScarJo, but the new Black Widow movie was refreshing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:13 AM |
| 12 | FDS approved TV-shows?I recommend it for a good laugh. Her “pick me, choose me, love me” monologue is straight out of an FDS Humor flair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:12 AM |
| 117 | WOC, what modified/additional rules do you have to avoid men with race/culture fetishes?🚩”What are you mixed with”. These guys often have a fetish for interracial relationships and mixed babies. PASS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/21 06:30 AM |
| 20 | What do good sex and a good sense of humor have in common?This is amazing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:21 AM |
| 42 | It's a lonely fightthe heart of scrote city! I laughed 😂. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/21 08:12 AM |
| 172 | “…he’s choked me unconscious before. I didn’t really mind…” UM WHAT.After HE chokes her and ignores her fighting him to get off, she consoles him and asks him what’s wrong. I have no words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/21 07:40 AM |
| 71 | let’s talk about itWomen who “enjoy” BDSM are pickmes and/or recovering from trauma. There is nothing empowering about being degraded. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:44 PM |
| 49 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeThis is so important. I recently entertained a very handsome man who met all my standards and was pursuing me heavily, despite the fact he lives out of state. We met up once, had a nice time, and even kissed, but I regretted it immediately afterwards. I don’t have a future with someone I have to travel to date (or vice versa), and I would rather cut off my left arm than move for a man. So although he was nice, I wasted my time. Moving forward I’m dating only with strong intent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 11:39 PM |
| 101 | “And she’s only fourteen!” Gross commentary at the OlympicsI agree, it’s a weird fetishization you don’t see with young male athletes. Are there any under 18? I wouldn’t know because they don’t point it out EVERY 5 seconds! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/21 04:36 AM |
| 12 | FDS is not about finding a HVM, it's about finding peaceI think that dating comes in during that last step: surrounding yourself with HV people. But by that point you realize that we don't need to date. Our worth does not rely on it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 06:24 AM |
| 117 | I’m really effing tired of the ‘give a short man a chance’ propaganda.Height is attractive on both men and women. LVMs get insecure when a woman is taller than them so they refuse to admit it, but it's true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 07:06 AM |
| 288 | CALL 👏 PORN ADDICTS 👏 OUT👏 I was so happily surprised to see this on Zara Larson’s Instagram storyYES! Sad it's so rare to see people speaking out against porn, but glad she is. Brava! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 02:21 AM |
| 23 | He's finally gone -- Thank you FDSSo proud of you!! Don't let the loneliness deter you; it's a side effect of leveling up. Focus on yourself, your hobbies, and your girlfriends. You got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 12:20 AM |
| 406 | Sex should never put you in hospitalthe simp comment made me cringe. She’s internalized LVM logic and it’s made her self worth so low that when a man is violent and hurts her it’s “hot” and when a man is kind to her he’s a “simp”. I hope she leaves this dirtbag and stays single for a while. It takes a long time to unlearn this type of thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 09:17 PM |
| 23 | "I don't want a regular girl. I need a super hot one"😒this AND let’s be mindful women of color are often naturally curvier and hyper sexualized because of it. We could be wearing the dress in the second photo and scrotes would “pornify” it because it’s tighter fitting on a curvier body. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/21 03:02 PM |
| 20 | Love and Dating after FDSThis is a nuanced question: what’s the difference between immature butterflies and feeling excited about dating someone? I agree that “butterflies” and romanticizing someone you barely know is dangerous and goes against FDS. It means you’re projecting your hopes onto a stranger and irrationally giving him benefit of the doubt. However, once you are 3+ months into a relationship, you hopefully have vetted him very well (and will continue to do so), and know him well enough to sincerely value his … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/21 05:48 AM |
| 41 | To the ladies who say FDS is "hot girl strategy"I’ll add: beauty standards and “attractiveness” are rooted in eurocentrism (racism), colorism, ableism, and fatphobia. Don’t allow yourself to be judged on one of these hateful spectrums. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 04:15 PM |
| 736 | Absolutely not. Negging gone wild.I don’t like the take here. Her dysmorphia was not the issue, he was. We’ve normalized negging and LVM behavior so much that she feels the need to justify feeling upset and leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/21 02:17 AM |
| 4 | Today in “romanticizing abuse”This made me laugh. How ridiculous 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/21 08:44 PM |
| 117 | Man Boy Wants a Mommy GFThis is a lesbian couple but still a perfect example of how women are expected to “mommy” and overextend ourselves in relationships, even with other women. HVW don’t mommy, we leave ✌🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:10 AM |
| 18 | Sometimes it just makes me want to cry.OLD is beyond hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/21 06:03 AM |
| 151 | If a guy has a high "body count" he is probably a rapist.My NVX had a crazy high sex drive, body count, the works 🤡 he once admitted he fantasized about “jackhammering me hard” in a “non-rapey way”. He thought he deserved applause for “communicating”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 01:16 AM |
| 43 | Have you noticed how much better the quality of your sleep is after cutting all contact with a LVM or simply sleeping by yourself?I sleep with my goldendoodle puppy 😌 better than sharing a bed with any man. highly recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:07 PM |
| 99 | How a man gets angry is very revealingMy philosophy is this: if I can maintain composure in a stressful situation then so should he. There’s no special “man card” that lets him lose his temper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:06 AM |
| 126 | “Not all men”All jokes contain truth; men joke about abusing women because they all do. Whether physically, emotionally, or sexually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 04:33 PM |
| 202 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeI once tried Hinge and wrote about my love for science in my bio with the hopes of scaring off LVM and finding a HVM. The result? Immediately matched with a NVM who swiped just to say “nobody cares”. These apps don’t want women with genuine interests and lives; they exist to sell pickme sex-dolls to LVM. Don’t let yourself be one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 02:29 PM |
| 6 | “If He Wanted To He Would” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Centers Male Desire: Empowering Alternatives To These PhrasesThis deserves 1k upvotes! Pure gold. Thank you for writing ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 02:32 AM |
| 84 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️I drove an hour to his house for a “first date”, was greeted by his mom, and watched Disney+ in his living room for an hour. His mom “checked in on us” 🤡. After all that, I couldn’t wait to hang out (read: be validated by his attention) again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:55 AM |
| 27 | What’s the most embarrassing pick-me thing you’ve ever done?!??? 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏾♀️🙋🏽♀️🙋🏿♀️🙋🏼♀️delete the not all men disclaimer sis! The HV ones know who they are and know why we say it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:51 AM |
| 21 | One day you wake up and realize that you really did just concoct a man out of thin air. A complete fabrication and fantasy, wholly removed from the person that was before you. Rather than this loving, trustworthy, supportive partner, I had someone who would deliberately ignore me as"punishment"We’ve been socialized to romanticize men. We’re raised on stories of girls who dream for a prince and poof he appears! We’re praised for “seeing the best” in men who struggle. For being “ride or die”. We’re applauded for dating the janitor while we make 6 figures. Fuck that. I’m done fantasizing about mediocrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:41 AM |
| 4 | What's a Queen without her King, well thats simple. She's the divine ruler of her kingdom which thrives under her tutelage.Our world would be so much better off if all the “kings” just disappeared 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:35 AM |
| 23 | Yeah I'm good luv xxnot to mention sexualized animals?? Lola Bunny, anyone?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:34 AM |
| 59 | Love seeing women waking upHVM who want to put in effort can only do 30% of the work at most. The stress of childbirth, breastfeeding, etc means women will always do more than 50% of the work. Stay at home dads come the closest to 50/50, but they are few and far between. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:32 AM |
| 73 | Why is waiting 3ish months to have sex seen as such a deranged/controversial thing?If a man won’t respect my boundaries he has no place in my life Correct. Low self-worth will try to convince you of the opposite: that if a man won’t respect your boundaries, then your boundaries have no place in your life. Scrotes feed off this narrative. Keep shutting it down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:26 AM |
| 33 | Remove yourself from the concept of menI LOVE this. Any tips for re-conditioning?? I’ll start by gendering every profession when it’s a man. “Male chef” and “male doctor”, as opposed to women who are just chefs and doctors ofc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 06:10 AM |
| 314 | Why... are men ??? 🤢😳My LVX was like this. I broke down crying once out of stress and he “comforted” me for about 10 minutes before trying to take my pants off. Will never cry in front of a man again 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 01:16 PM |
| 8 | I truly hate this YOLO attitude. As if women should be celebrating being in debt and having sex with toxic men. Just no. Invest your money in stocks, a vibrator and a hobby. You’ll be much happier.Who wrote this?? A scrote who works for Sallie Mae, sponsored by Starbucks?? 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:19 AM |
| 27 | True closure comes from within!I’m starting to realize this applies to friendships too. Women don’t get a free pass to disrespect you because you’re “friends” or they’re “joking”. We need to have high standards in all relationships: romantic and platonic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/21 05:10 AM |
| 109 | Things That Perturb LVM 🤡didn’t you know pubic hair only existed in the 70s?? /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 05:02 AM |
| 20 | Female friendships and misogynistic propaganda (Part 2)I don’t agree with this at all. Sharing experiences about an LVM with close friends can be therapeutic and healing, but past that, there’s no reason to spend energy talking about others, especially other women. Focus conversation on each other and your mutual interests! Gossip is shallow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 05:32 PM |
| 9 | Nothing but factsi appreciate this quantum mechanics metaphor. Take my upvote 🙏🏽 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/05/21 09:24 PM |
| 81 | The silver lining of bad relationshipsSad but true. As women we’re taught to see the best in everyone (read: men) and often it takes going through an awful situation to realize how terrible men really are. I wish this wasn’t the truth. Hopefully we can raise our daughters to know better earlier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:43 PM |
| 367 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsDo men feel bad about rejecting women who don’t meet their standards? Nope. They laugh about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:39 PM |
| 57 | The bar is in hell. I don’t know who’s worse: OP or the commenters!“I’m married to a 35(f)” ... beyond dehumanizing. How is her age even relevant to the post?? Just say you see women as objects and go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/21 03:36 PM |
| 28 | Seeing former friends/lvexes Get Married is a bag of mixed emotions but mostly a big Relief.Kudos to your growth and maturity through this mess of a situation! FDS has taught me that feelings of loneliness and jealousy will come and go, but it’s 100% worth it in the end for a high value life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 09:46 PM |
| 11 | Do not hide 'your smarts'!I attend a prestigious college and when men ask where I go to school I can weed them out in 0.05 seconds based on their reaction 😂 I’ve had grown men try to neg me by calling me a “nerd”. The insecurity is absurd! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 08:10 PM |
| 276 | I love tiktokHeight is attractive on men and women. The men who get mad about women’s height standards are the same ones who “would never date a taller woman”. They’re just insecure about their own shortness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:56 PM |
| 75 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withI felt this so heavy my first year of college, after 3 male “friends” all asked me out in the span of 2 weeks. Apparently I was supposed to be “flattered” but I just broke down in tears: it’s dehumanizing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:54 PM |
| 290 | I'm sick of men always trying to shoot their shot with EVERY woman they interact withat least one thing: we’re all out of his league ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:51 PM |
| 228 | All men are 100% lying when they say they don't notice if a woman pays them attentionThey both "don't notice" and simultaneously brag how women are "all over them". Makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/21 09:43 PM |
| 139 | If a man is equal to you, then he's not good enough for you.Not to mention the most “successful” men often have the WORST personalities, since they’re convinced they are the prize because of their degree/salary. Women are taught we have to be successful AND good people. So even if he’s “more successful”, he’s still not good enough for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/21 12:03 AM |
| 233 | Truth bomb"women can't handle the truth" = "women won't stay with me after finding out I cheat/ watch p*rn / don't brush my teeth". pLEase. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:28 PM |
| 125 | I'm seeing a lot of comments like "I hate that FDS thinks they're feminist"2 words, 6 letters, rhymes with lick me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 05:42 AM |
| 55 | Help me name my Venus fly trap something empowering and kickass.Miss Andry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 03:26 PM |
| 10 | ✩ FDS FOR TEENS ✩ PART 1: LITTERALLY ANYTHING ELSE > MENThis. I’ve always had a weird feeling about my straight male friends and after finding FDS i’ve begun to cut them off completely and i’m honestly not missing them at all. I think some part of me loved the idea of “texting a guy” so ultimately it was pickme behavior. Recommend cutting off all straight men 100%. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 02:56 PM |
| 12 | After 6 solid years of relationships, I've finally gotten to a place where I feel like myself againThis !! Whenever I see an attractive man and feel myself falling back into the “will he like me” pickme mindset, I ask myself: what can he offer me? Can he even keep up with me?? The answer is always no so I keep it moving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/21 04:18 AM |
| 37 | Oh dear god...He wasn’t worth you. 100% chance he’s treating this new woman awfully behind closed doors. LVM don’t change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 03:42 AM |
| 9 | To the black queens in here: please understand that divesting is imperative for our safety and to better our chances of meeting HVM. Most black men are LVM.need this post !! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/21 02:09 PM |
| 10 | My mom is a high-standard QUEEN 👑Here’s a few examples: she always takes her time getting ready, and never allows herself to be rushed. She is very assertive at restaurants and stores; she is not afraid to ask lots of questions about a dish or item. She always stands up for the “the little guy” and will point out if someone is cut in line or overlooked. She wears minimal makeup but takes pride in her appearance and she doesn’t try to conform to beauty trends to impress anyone. She dresses up for date nights and has a signature … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:50 PM |
| 45 | Just a friendly PSA- You are not his therapist and not required to beThis. And this applies to male “friends” too. They are 99% of the time using us as free therapists and giving nothing in return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/21 02:34 AM |
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