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Exactly! We're not rehabilitation centers or therapists to our PARTNERS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/22 03:59 PM
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Age of exposure absolutely makes a difference in the breadth and depth of addiction and brain damage. Neuroscience supports this through brain development research. And as the mother of two teen boys, while I have explained the detrimental effects of p0rn, rap*, etc, I cannot fight a society where this is normalized. It's a struggle. Better to cut the problem off at the source. However, I can't be with them 24/7 or help them constantly fight temptation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/22 04:22 PM
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Exactly. And men lie. If they were honest, they wouldn't get laid which is their primary objective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/22 07:27 PM
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Margaret Atwood I think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/22 04:32 AM
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He's bad at seeing women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/22 04:46 AM
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I'm older and still subscribe to what I was told about the internet: if the information was on a billboard near your house, would you be OK with the information being shared on it? For me, that includes email and texts. Not victim blaming. You simply can't trust scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 01:09 AM
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This could be me except I had kids and should have left my ex sooner. Trying to break the cycle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/22 12:57 AM
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Disturbing. Fantasy often leads to action. See: p0rn, serial killers, serial rapists...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 11:58 PM
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They also don't look like Tony Stark or have his brains either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 10:46 PM
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Toxic masculinity is created by men and affects everyone. Think about a typical movie or TV show. When something goes wrong, the characters are written so that everyone looks to the male leader for instructions or a plan. How does this reflect real life at all? In real life I can't think of a crisis where women didn't just take care of themselves, but others and children. I take media with a grain of salt and critical thinking. It doesn't represent real life. But your typical scrote can't handle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/22 08:09 PM
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Green flags don't mean he was HV. Green flags mean keep vetting because all he has shown is that he's doing more than the minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 10:37 PM
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Hypocrisy. Also, it is a misapplication of assortive mating. Assortive mating is a sociological concept that attempts to explain mate selection. Both parties bring desirable traits to the table in theory. People tend to end up with partners of similar attractiveness, education, socioeconomic status, etc. If there is a huge disparity (like Anna Nicole Smith and her 91-year-old billionaire husband, for example), obviously, his extreme wealth offset her looks and youth. Scrotes, especially overly c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 03:10 PM
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Never dated in university. My nickname working in prison was "the scary little bitch." If scaring men is the only thing that gets grudging respect for your boundaries, then great! You're doing something right in your life. The patriarchy teaches us to be less than and like we're worthless. A HVW is worth more than a million scrotes. And there's more of us to. Let's respect biology and only be with fellow HV people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/22 02:06 AM
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They're BOTH LV. It's not just him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/22 02:44 PM
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Right?! It's a concrete sign of their lack of empathy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 05:35 PM
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I think people forget that this erasure of self is what makes it so hard to leave an abusive relationship. Dissociation and love that you have for a scrote plus society messaging women to stand by their man no matter what leads to wasted years for women. Unfortunately, I am watching too many pickmes doing this and wasting their time/lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 05:34 PM
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My apologies! I thought he was a romantic interest. Then, I absolutely understand your actions. And I am sad because friends make an effort if they care about you. I am on the fence about whether men and women can be friends. Men don't value women the same way they value their bros.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:48 PM
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Don't forget: he eXpeCTs sex!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:32 PM
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Good for you for blocking and deleting...eventually. With all due respect, you put too much work into contacting him and trying to accommodate him. One chance should have given you the hint that he wasn't as interested as you were. The egg does not chase at all. The planning reminder...I understand. But after hanging with his boys was more important is when I would have dropped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:30 PM
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Absolutely! Any attention is what they want. Children are smarter than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:49 PM
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I have made some attempts at this. Please check my comment history and ask questions if you have any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:41 PM
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I had a similar experience, and I am so sorry it happened to you. My pickme egg donor saw her partner trying to see me naked at 15/16, and even when I tried talking to her about it, she triangulated my brothers into not believing me. Even now, decades later, when the scrote is now dead, and she's dying. Being picked is the only goal for LV women. At any cost, even familial relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:00 AM
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Thank you! I commented something similar on another post about ugly scrotes. This is great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:45 AM
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I analyze people's behavior and body language. Yes, it is police work. Try Google for lots of information. It's very interesting work. John Douglas, formerly of the FBI in the US, is one of the people who inspired me to learn behavioral science.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 02:40 AM
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You never will either. HVM wouldn't ask ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:12 AM
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A person's life gets written on their face. A truly ugly person reflects a warning. If you know/learn what to look for, you see so easily. Nature definitely warns us. Source: am a profiler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 12:05 AM
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As the kids would say, "That's cap." (Lying)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:53 PM
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Uncomfortable stuff needs to be addressed. If you don't vet, this is what you're stuck with. If you think being partnered is better than being alone, this is what you could be choosing over peaceful solitude and lack of heartache. I saw so many pickmes stand by their men in prison after convictions for rpe, incest, and pedophilia. Only to be dropped as these men went in and out through the system for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 03:47 PM
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I'm not sure that he's oblivious. I think it's more that LVM are used to being catered to. He had sex, what else is he supposed to do? He made it clear he had an early morning also. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/22 03:06 PM
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💯 Take my reward 🏅🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 08:49 PM
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Thank you for articulating this part. Didn't have the words to put it so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 04:11 PM
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So his unborn baby is already part of his past!? Way to keep anyone from questioning your questionable life choices, buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 03:25 PM
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And if she's called out, her tears will start flowing. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/22 02:22 PM
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Thank you for this. As a forensic psychologist who works in prison, there is always so much to unpack with dangerous assholes. Lack of empathy makes a killer regardless of intentions. And absolutely: sex is SUPPOSED TO BE RELATIONAL. Women are not dolls or puppets. Sick fucks are coddled by society, and violence against women and children is condoned and perpetuates abuse cycles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/22 11:25 PM
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Here's my anecdotal story: My current partner (HV so far) of 4 years divorced his wife of 10 years, a decade ago, because she was cheating on him. And she's the one who filed after kicking him out. He was in denial about the cheating even though men were calling the house at 6 AM while she was living on campus doing a chemical engineering degree - even though they had 2 young children. He did everything he could to protect his children from her animosity. She saw them for a few hours every month…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 11:56 PM
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Dated a guy like this. It was exhausting. I think it was a subtle way to teach me not to bother with the hassle of having a conversation. So distancing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/22 09:09 PM
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Thank you for this. I have two teen boys I am trying to raise HV. Ultimately, though, I am not responsible for their behavior. They know I would not condone any of this behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 08:11 PM
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Thank you. The biggest mistake I see women make is assuming dangerous men "give off a vibe" or "look suspicious." Psychopaths have a flat, predatory gaze, but they can also be charming. Violent men and rapists come from all walks of life. Appearance is deceptive. Evaluate people by their actions. Source: forensic psychologist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/22 03:15 PM
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I used to like Esther Perel until I read about her pickme ways. She supports cheating and has dated married men. Very LV behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 08:54 PM
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You're not wrong. Source: forensic psychologist. It just gets worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:59 PM
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Many possessors of child p*rn aren't convicted. Many pedophiles don't do jail time anymore because of crowded prisons. It's disgraceful and disgusting, but law enforcement and law makers are themselves porn addicts so depravity is normalized. Look at how the world has ignored Epstein and Maxwell's trafficking for so long. Where are the consequences for their clients?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 05:55 PM
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Explains so much. Men have no idea how to be HV men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 05:18 PM
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When I was studying brain development and learning about stimulus/response, the teacher said this. So, if you express hurt feelings to a scrote (stimulus), he has to choose a response. The easy, knee jerk response without thought is to think the other person is crazy. To not see your response to them is also a stimulus. Everything in the immediate environment is also a stimulus. So, what you choose to respond to is largely subconscious. And that reveals your mental state and thinking. A scrote w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:46 PM
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What a wonderful compliment. I hope you forgive yourself and get great healing. Good luck on your journey, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:38 PM
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So on point. 🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:37 PM
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Pedophiles don't see anything wrong with their actions. Also, society normalizes fetishes so that they feel their "legitimate" interests are fair game, and we shouldn't kink shame. Fuck them and that lack of logic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:35 PM
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I AM called names for supervising my kids' online access. Other parents feel judged. Idgaf. I have seen firsthand through work the damage porn does. It's how serial killers and serial rapists start ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:10 PM
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So well said. Thank you for this. As a forensic psychologist, I have seen too many victims take too many risks. Not victim blaming at all, but socialization makes women uncomfortable with enforcing boundaries and hurting others' feelings at the cost of their safety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:07 PM
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Some people don't understand consequences UNTIL something happens to them. It's why people have to touch wet paint, the "panini" is just a flu, and abortions are bad until a politician's mistress needs one...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:00 PM
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Psychologist here. I learned in school that everyone justifies their actions after the fact. However, I have noticed LV and ZV men have no honor, no accountability, and no insight into their actions and the consequences of said actions. Labeling someone has crazy removes all accountability for their actions/responses. To me this is indicative of immaturity. And it also shows accusations aren't thought through and are just knee jerk. Just my pre coffee thoughts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:57 PM
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I think men lie. And your question is interesting. However, "body count" to me means dead bodies. LV and ZV men perceive women as just that, or worse, holes. It ain't anyone's business how many people anyone has been with imo. If you are emotionally available, and are regularly checked for sexual health (STIs, etc), then proceed as a consenting adult. And scrotes can't even meet this bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:52 PM
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We are not rehabilitation centers for men. We do all of the emotional labor as it is. We have to hold their hands in impressing us too?! In teaching basic coMuNicatIoN? Arrgh. If he can't do the minimum, he's not HV. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:46 PM
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And they conveniently forget that the creation/production of child p*rn harms and exploits actual children. But scrotes don't care or think about anything other than their sick twisted dick desires.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 02:41 PM
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You're right; you've survived this far. You're so strong and brave. Thank you for being inspirational! Keep leveling up, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 12:20 PM
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If you vet, and get to know him, he will tell on himself. Just pay attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 10:27 PM
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Get yourself a wife appliance! They're all the rage! Will make your life easier!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 04:33 PM
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Leveling up is hard. Being HV is lonely. That said, it sounds like you're doing well. Congratulations, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:29 PM
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Right. Pedophiles aren't necessarily sleazy. All predators know how to be charming. Hell, psychopaths are extremely likable. People argue there aren't signs to spot danger. I disagree. They're always there. Women need education and to stop second-guessing their intuition. The only difference between a profiler and another woman is I can articulate what creeps me out about someone. Due to cultural gaslighting and an abusive FOO, I did not apply my training personally ever because I was told it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 09:27 PM
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Damned if we do, damned if we don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:26 PM
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Pick mes don't give a shit about their kids when male attention is at stake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:20 PM
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Forensic psychologist who specializes in counseling pedophiles and rapists. Yup. I was victimized by my stepdad. My stepdaughter was victimized by her stepdad. And when I pointed out my training, my experience, and my vibes around the guy, I was dismissed by everyone except my partner. But it was too late. His LV ex was more focused on destroying the relationships between her kids and I instead of parenting and doing her due diligence. She also left my partner/her ex-husband because he was "too …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 05:19 PM
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It reminds me of the recent post in another sub where the mom was asking if she was wrong for giving her ex 100% custody of their kids like he asked because he was alienating them from her. The youngest daughter even asked why her mom kidnapped the kids when it was THE MOM'S week for custody. The ex hadn't parented (of course), and the new GF couldn't keep up with the attitudes of the teenagers and their schooling, etc. The kids were begging to go back to their mother even though her mental heal…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:56 PM
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Trauma bonding really primes us to give everything we need and want, doesn't it? Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:42 PM
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And you just know that when all of the abuse is over, the daughter is going to run straight back to her mother for help and blaming OP for the entire debacle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:41 PM
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Can't even spell right. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:39 PM
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Yeah, no. We're all interchangeable to LV scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 03:19 AM
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Victim blaming is a sport.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/22 09:39 PM
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This is so true. It takes courage and guts to admit a relationship; any relationship, isn't working. A loving woman bonds with others. So many people (NV/LV) just can not reciprocate. So many loving women put aside their own happiness for those they love. An HV woman loves herself, too. Loves herself enough to have boundaries to protect her relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 07:50 AM
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Thank you! Yes. I have had therapy and I am also a therapist. No one is safe from being devalued. I have learned that no matter how strong your intellect is, your heart can steer you wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 10:15 PM
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💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:21 PM
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Actual psychologist and profiler here. So many people (men) just want to regurgitate (usually incorrectly) what they think they know. People who went to learn shut up and listen. And observe. And ask questions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 09:20 PM
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What do you want to bet that it's an age gap situation too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:52 PM
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The abuse I endured from my family absolutely put me in the position of choosing abusers and rapists as partners because I definitely was taught abuse is love, and red flags just meant I had to try harder. I have stood over many crime scenes where women paid too high a price for not escaping. Thank you for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 07:46 PM
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"Yet to find a man I can fall in love with." Beautifully said and sums up FDS for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/22 12:33 PM
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High value =/= getting laid. His value system is off. Porn and depravity has made him depersonalize living people. It's all about his ego and dick. Modern dating is reduced to this. And as a "target", men will pursue all women eventually. Yet, we're called incels instead of men realizing we just want to be left alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/22 01:50 PM
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Men can't even tell when we are or aren't! Ugh. And who cares about a scrote's opinion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 05:38 PM
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He recanted everything on his deathbed, and admitted he was full of shit as a cocaine addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:40 AM
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💯🎖🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 01:18 AM
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Yeah, wtf do scrotes think a trophy wife is? If it's real, and she's happy, great, but I see several red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 11:05 PM
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Even if a woman is interested in stereotypically males interests, they question, demean, and gatekeep. Scrotes ruin everything and ensure they dominate every space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:20 PM
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Came here to say this. It's just another way for them to use women as tools, and depersonalize us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:17 PM
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No paSsIon. Meaning mommy bangmaid is sick of his shit and just sees him as another child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 07:51 PM
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I'm sure they get off on mansplaining, especially to vulnerable people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 07:49 PM
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Same! I feel this so hard. When I was younger, I was a model. Now that I'm older and definitely heavier than when I was even pregnant, I still have more attention than I want. I have had multiple marriage proposals - more than when I was younger. It seems correlated to my confidence and sense of self. And yet, I would not trade my peace or space for anything. Scrotes project so hard about loneliness since they cannot bond. Where is the prize if I'm a nurse or a purse at my age? I can retire and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 07:47 PM
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See, I don't know what the future will hold. You're probably right, but odds are if she leaves him, he'll be in love with idea of "the one who got away".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:26 AM
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Because you're not doing so much unnecessary emotional labor. Same, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 12:57 AM
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She should open up her bed until his dick gets bigger. /s Seriously, she should file for divorce since he doesn't love her. Unfortunately, she's not going to leave him because she thinks she loves his LV ass. How do I know he doesn't love her? He doesn't care about her feelings, just his dick. He married a mommy bangmaid. He's just replacing the bangmaid part while keeping the rest of his life the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 12:56 AM
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Psychologists are some of the most messed up people. Source: my job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 09:30 PM
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Their scrote feelings are the only evidence they need.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:28 PM
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The Way We Never Were by Stephanie Coontz deconstructs some of the myths people have about the post-war era in America. It was a good read by a great historian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:23 PM
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SO close. "The bigger problem is that your boyfriend doesn't care about your feelings. Then proceeds to make excuses as to why the writer should accept mistreatment. If you're not over your ex, don't date. Man or woman. This isn't HV behavior. Doesn't matter how long you were together. This is not the way to treat another human being. Specifically to the scrote described: women are not rehabilitation centers. Get therapy from a therapist, don't make some poor soul your mommy bangmaid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:19 PM
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Most creative excuse for porn use I ever heard before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 04:42 PM
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Just basic self-defense when I was a civilian. When I worked for law enforcement, there was different training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 12:09 PM
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"While only I benefit!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:12 PM
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Vetting works because it establishes your boundaries. Abusers constantly test boundaries to ensure compliance and to get away with whatever they want. A similar phenomenon has been demonstrated with scam artists. While I think Dr. Phil is largely an idiot; he addresses this and does point out correctly that misspelled documents and texts let scammers know the recipient will tolerate low standards. And they pour effort into those people. When I took self-defense classes, they talked about making …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 09:08 PM
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He talked about that. He also briefly mentioned his service in the war. I'm happy he eventually got to be in space. RIP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 04:03 PM
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Met James Doohan in real life decades ago. Such a down to earth sweetheart.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:40 PM
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That was the first thing I brought up! But he didn't eat bananas. It was so bizarre. Even after showing him the ripening pepper, he sent me a list of Google links about how I was right. I think it was his insecurity about not getting an education. He was from a small rural town where he didn't learn much so he was intimidated by my degrees. He wasn't stupid, just incredibly ignorant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 02:42 AM
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There's a meme that basically asks who profits from you feeling bad about yourself and your body. As Scotty said on Star Trek, "Every woman is uniquely beautiful. You just have to know where to look." Hope those two thoughts help.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 04:25 PM
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As a forensic psychologist, I feel like I should add that some warning factors are porn addiction, violent sex, lack of empathy, glibness, charisma, and cruelty. Predators test boundaries constantly and in subtle ways. The diagnosed psychopaths in prison fool experienced psychologists and guards. They were always charming and easy to talk to. That's how they draw you in: you catch more flies with honey, right? Many people WORKING IN PRISON FOR YEARS would swear up and down that some inmates were…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:50 PM
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Projection. No one accuses anyone unless they have done it/thought about doing it themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 02:02 PM
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Story time: I dated a guy who was right leaning, but I figured I'd give him a chance. He claimed that conservatives are better with money. Even when presented with evidence (left leaning governments are actually more fiscally responsible, but will run deficits to fund social programs), he refused to acknowledge my points. This guy argued about EVERYTHING, including that fruits/vegetables don't ripen off the vine even when I pointed out a yellow/green pepper at our dinner. I notice a correlation …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 01:59 PM
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This is why HVM are rare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/22 12:58 AM
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And it's usually some idealized version of a woman he used to know...not the actual lady herself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:42 PM
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Ugh. That is what I do. I wish more people wouldn't take it as a given. But what do I know? I'm a forensic psychologist who studied pedophiles and rapists and porn use. It's not like ALL serial killers start with porn and escalate to violence and murder. Oh, wait...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:39 PM
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SO ACCURATE. Story time: My LV stepfather is brown like my mother - and his first wife. Yet his second wife (white) was treated like a queen up until he decided to leave her. He cooked, cleaned, and did most of the childcare. When he left her for my mother (who declined to be wife #3), he gave his second wife their two houses and cars and left with only the clothes on his back. Refused to cook or clean for my mother, saying it was my brothers' and my house. He was salty because our deceased fath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 11:31 PM
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All I could think when I read that was cheaper than a divorce. And she's not wasting her time or DNA on him either. What a bargain!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:21 PM
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True. They don't read to learn. Men aren't getting post secondary education either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:15 PM
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I personally think it's cultural conditioning to desensitize women to danger so scrotes can use us as they see fit. And pickmes usually fall for this type of "romance". Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:07 PM
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Dopamine addiction is a hell of a drug. Choking and depersonalization of women are definitely part of the path to serial killing. Source: am a forensic psychologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:05 PM
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Prolapse and incontinence. What cool girl wouldn't want that? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 03:03 PM
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My LVX husband chose divorce over going to counseling for his anger issues after punching me in the face. Scrotes never think they're in the wrong. Also, as a therapist, if someone doesn't chose change and counseling, it ain't going to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 02:50 PM
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The most dangerous time for a woman is when she leaves. Thank you. This is handbook stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/22 12:06 AM
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He's testing to see where her boundaries are. She should run and not be apologetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:11 PM
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Most men are capable, sure. Do they put forth the time and effort? Absolutely not. Anyway...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 09:06 PM
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These comments are all gold. My two cents: When reading this, my first thought was that he's an idiot who doesn't know what love actually is. What I was taught in relationship counseling school is that love evolves over time. We meet someone and bond. Passionate, romantic lust evolves into companionable, secure love over a lifetime. The passion ebbs and wanes over time, but the security is always there. He obviously doesn't appreciate that he has his dream girl right next to him. What a loser sc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 03:41 PM
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I mean, did they ask women or men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 10:53 PM
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I have heard men brag about joining female only groups on Facebook. Even breastfeeding/birthing ones. We can't have anything nice without them wanting it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:20 PM
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The litmus test for me would be to ask why he had a room free. Did any young men get the same offer? FDSers can guess the answers. Your instincts are spot on. Don't ever ignore them. The only person 100% invested in your safety is you. It's your life. You owe nothing to anyone. Great job overcoming societal messages about catering to a scrote's feelings. Keep leveling up, Queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 04:47 PM
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FDS is the only place on Reddit where I feel safe enough to articulate my actual opinions and advice. The few others I look at are for entertainment. I usually disagree with the advice given. Side note: how do men even give advice on relationships when they can't keep a woman happy or have never dated?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 01:35 PM
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And things aren't getting better or improving. This cultural narrative of stand by your man no matter what wastes years of life. She's young, but how many women waste YEARS with nothing but trauma and resentment only and that's if they're lucky...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:38 PM
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The bar is in hell. Along with most young women's self esteem, apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/22 11:36 PM
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Bluntly, you're not obligated to her for anything. Or him. Not retaliating shows your HV self. Gray rock him when he mentions her. It's a non issue, so put them in their place. And another queen mentioned this but: explain to your kids about safe adults not asking them to keep secrets. Everyone is entitled to privacy, not secrecy. An age appropriate way might be to mention getting someone into trouble vs. getting someone OUT of trouble. Keeping secrets from their mother is not going to get them …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 03:38 PM
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Men have the choice to take an informed risk. Stealthing is a violation of an agreed upon risk mitigator. But scrotes don't often have the brain cells to see it that way until post nut clarity hits them. There was a time when all sex almost guaranteed a pregnancy. People were more careful about their choices then. The truth is, there's always a chance still. Only not having sex guarantees zero pregnancy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:43 PM
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This just proves to me that you can't trust anyone and need to constantly vet. My own mother wished I were the one dying of the cancer she has, that I recovered from. LV is LV and doesn't respect any bonds.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:38 PM
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Couple of thoughts: 1) If he wanted to, he would. As indicated by he knew how to act to attract her and get her into bed. 2) Negging BS and turning her desire to date is a red flag 🚩 3) He only saw her as a toy. Lots of information in this short blurb. Vet, vet, vet. Between this and the casual sex/pregnancy story, (no moral judgment, just observation), what incentives do women have for casual sex? Why devalue your body when there are tons of scrotes who will do it for you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 01:36 PM
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I think I love you. Also, babe, I already do that! 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 09:05 PM
95

Exactly! You've seen them low and are aware of their BS. Which is why they move on to a new victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:22 PM
87

Yes! I have heard this, ESPECIALLY before they know I'm a therapist. Pay me my hourly fee then, scrote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:21 PM
447

We're not rehabilitation centers. If he's not healthy enough to date, he shouldn't be dating. See also: If he's not able to get help for his issues on his own, what is he paying you to do it for him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 06:33 PM
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I confess I have barely paid attention to his crap because of his misogyny. But this man is considered brilliant to mouth breathers because he suggested the radical idea of...Men should clean their rooms! And dress properly for the occasion! And acquire skills!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:33 AM
240

Jordan Peterson is only lauded by stupid people and incels. I use him as an example of an LV psychologist in my field constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:29 AM
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40% of law enforcement admits to abusing women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:16 PM
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This is so deceptive. Of course the OP scrote knows what he should do. He's just making excuses as to why he won't. I personally believe if all men truly wanted the world to be a better place, it would be. They do what they want when they want - ALL of them. All of them benefit. People know right from wrong very early on. People also don't have the stones to do the right thing consistently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 08:50 PM
43

Why are we normalizing attempted murder and serial killing?! And teaching young girls to be okay with their own MURDERS?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 03:02 PM
49

With pornsickness? Absolutely. Source: am a forensic psychologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 11:02 PM
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I agree with all of this so much! The people telling you he will be successful...I have so many questions. Why did it take him so long? Also, don't be a Barb the builder. How do you know that you wouldn't be dumped after helping him build up to the potential? How do you know he wouldn't take you for granted for taking care of everything? He's not making sacrifices for you here. Don't do wife shit when you're not a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/22 03:53 PM
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Hugs, fellow stranger! My dad died when I was young. And I guess I wouldn't change anything. My brother is not bonded to anyone except his dog and our mother. And her abusive childhood doesn't let her off the hook imo. I am so glad your mom changed. No one owes anyone anything. Intellectually I know that completely. Emotionally, I still have guilt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 06:39 PM
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Thank you! I wish all mothers would be proactive about it. We could save generations from scrotacity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:01 PM
13

Thank you. It's like drip torture waiting to hear she's gone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 02:01 PM
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I talk about all of this (rape, trafficking, etc) with my tween boys as well as what dopamine addiction does to the brain. All computer access is in public areas of the house as well. I know I can't stop them ultimately if they choose, but I will absolutely make them aware of what the choice would be about. ETA: Society is so pornsick and normalizing of depravity that kids as young as 7 watch porn regularly. Parents do not monitor what their kids are doing online. Why won't SOMEONE think of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:51 AM
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I agree with you but...my LVX had a spotless place when we started dating. When we lived together and had kids he did less than the minimum. As soon as the kids and I left, his place was back to spotless. I have no idea why, but it's probably one of the reasons we divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 04:04 AM
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Story time: My mother has terminal cancer. She broke no contact to demand my single brother and I accompany her to the official appointment where she was told her prognosis. Our other brother is provinces away and has 2 kids. During our year of no contact, I battled an earlier stage of the exact same cancer. She dismissed me when I told her, and accused me of making it up. Wasn't with me for any surgeries or treatment. I caved and stayed with her at her home with my 2 kids to keep an eye on her …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/22 03:37 AM
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What woman HASN'T had to literally fight off a scrote at some point in her life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:17 PM
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As if they're somehow safer getting approval from their oppressors. All they accomplish is signing up to be the first target when the shit hits the fan/mask drops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 08:08 PM
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That's the closest most of them will get to a woman. Especially the type they think they're owed. But then he would absolutely shame her for her past anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:57 AM
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Don't forget Jordan Peterson.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 04:54 AM
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Dismissive of women, men don't owe women anything. FDS: Women don't owe men anything either, then. Men: You can't do that! Misandry! Wah wah wah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/22 03:11 AM
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Maybe it was sibling rivalry, but I swore I would NEVER let a man not do his fair share. On the spot I promised myself any male children I had would be the opposite of useless and worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 09:22 PM
155

Over qualified.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:20 PM
141

Depending on my audience, this is what I do too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:19 PM
189

Men think potato is a reasonable shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 04:53 PM
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Story time: I am early 40s, Gen X whilst my brothers are millennials. They never lifted a finger around our boomer mother's house, and while I felt bad for her, I eventually stopped doing chores in the name of equality. Had many conversations with my mother about it, but she didn't want her man babies to be stressed out. I was the only one to seek independence and moved out when I was done university. This was almost unheard of in my culture, but I was tired of her abuse and nagging. When my bro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:43 PM
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Thank you for your post. Forgive yourself for how you coped with your home life. Just focus on leveling up. Good luck, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:27 PM
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A cop's word is worth less than shit. 40% of them ADMIT to being abusive to their partners. So many of them abuse their power to stalk, harass, and threaten current and old partners. Cops aren't there to solve crimes. They exist to preserve the status quo. The patriarchy saying divorce is wrong is self serving. Source: I work in law enforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 03:25 PM
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My partner has been there through my recovery from cancer. He did everything: took care of my kids, all the chores/emotional labor, held my hair back when chemo made me throw up. HVM do exist. If he wants to, he will. To celebrate after my last surgery, he took me to Mexico before Christmas. My mother has terminal cancer, and when we were still in contact with her, he drove her to chemotherapy and doctor's appointments even though he does not like her for how she has treated me. This man is comp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 01:59 PM
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Thank you. Yes. Will edit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/22 01:32 AM
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Kinkshaming is my kink. Also, serial killers start with violent fantasies. Harming someone is illegal. Threatening harm is illegal. Restraining someone is illegal. I think people (women) forget what it is they're consenting to. No is a complete sentence. And trusting someone you don't know (always be vetting) is a guarantee your boundaries will be violated. Then you won't torture yourself wondering where you should have drawn the line. Explicit consent for all parties should be a thing. If these…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/22 11:05 PM
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Ugh. As a profiler and forensic psychologist, men are always threatened by me. I also have a high profile portfolio of agencies for whom I have done consulting. Scrotes either completely reject my lived experience or claim they know more than me. Other scrotes, including several exes, just dismiss psychology as a discipline or say it's all obvious. HV people ask me intelligent, thoughtful questions instead of assuming I'm "analyzing" them. Bruh, you couldn't afford my hourly rate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 03:55 PM
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For us older ladies, an older man who hasn't realized his potential is also a lesson. What choices did he make? Who wants to be with someone your age who is starting over? Or never started? It's not potential if his divorce isn't finalized. It's not potential when he's working on seeing his kids. It's definitely not potential when "someday" peppers his language.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 02:27 PM
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This story did not go where I thought it was going...awesome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:40 PM
792

They blow their chances then wonder why no one wants them when they're older. Literally fucking around and finding out. These were all heartbreaking. Being alone is better than sharing some scrote's version of hell. I am approached all of the time by kids decades younger than me...my peace is not worth sharing myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:39 PM
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Yeah, it seems like negging. I'm sorry you're going through this. No scrote is worth changing for. Keep leveling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 01:55 PM
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Nice is different than actually being kind. "Nice" is performative submissive bs. True kindness (an HV trait imo) comes from the gut.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:42 PM
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I don't know why, but the caravan in my country where truckers are literally shitting in the streets of the capital comes to mind. The media isn't reporting this. These men are white supremacists waving Nazi flags and demanding food from soup kitchens because they won't wear masks or get vaccinated (follow basic rules). They're saying they won't leave until the democratically elected government is ousted. The media isn't really reporting this for what it is: entitled man babies screaming for spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:39 PM
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OMG, this is one of those things that you always know, but can't quite put your finger on it. Yes! This is absolutely 💯 true. Fuckboys and scrotes have nothing to offer. They use OLD as their own personal Rolodex (sorry, I'm old) to quickly flip through possibilities. This is why new profiles are quickly inundated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:35 PM
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In another country, with universal health care, and WOC. My pain isn't taken seriously by any physician, male or female. I have learned to advocate for myself. Pro tip: if they won't help you, have them note it in your file and why. And make sure you watch them write stuff down. Just by asking this has usually led to the doctor "reconsidering" my options.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:30 PM
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Poke them in their scrote eyes. Little trick I picked up working in prison from the female guards. If you're in danger, NOTHING is off limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 11:26 PM
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You're right! Body language NEVER lies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:21 PM
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You articulated exactly the sinking feeling I had in my gut when I saw. HVW do not settle. I have lost respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:11 PM
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I'm probably old and confused...his entire profile seems to be a neg. So pickmes are supposed to fall over themselves for him? And he admits that men aren't all that? So close to the point, and yet so far...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:42 AM
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And we're labeled humorless. Yet when media portrays men as incompetent, it's not funny, men's rights, blah, blah, blah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:41 PM
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Porn is how depraved empathy less serial killers get started. Porn erases intimacy. Stfu scrotes. You all get to 30 and then realize "hurdurrr women are actually people". If you ever get that far.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:39 PM
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Fellow therapist here. Can confirm everything you've said. I have been told the exact same things in past abusive relationships. I started asking for my hourly fee to deal with their shit. Mental illness is not a justification for not dealing with life. If you're too broken to be in a relationship then don't be in a relationship. WOMEN ARE NOT REHABILITATION CENTERS FOR MEN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 04:35 PM
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Prison and rapists. It's already happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 08:01 PM
22

This reminds me of Twilight. I couldn't even watch or read because the abusive behavior was so romanticized.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 03:04 AM
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It's true. From birth we've been brainwashed to manage male feelings - no matter how damaging to those around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/22 12:42 AM
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Do pickmes really call themselves "females"? Seems kind of sus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 08:56 PM
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Anything that you have thought of, he could have thought of and executed. As you said, if he wanted to, he would. I wouldn't waste my time giving him a second thought. If they can't be bothered to communicate, cut them out of the rotation. HVM are rare, but they're out there. Age isn't an excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:31 PM
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Thank you! This is absolutely a conversation we need to have as a society. Most normal people wouldn't habituate to sheep fucking if they never thought of it and weren't exposed to it. Men will absolutely eventually stick their dicks in anything, but little boys should not be taught depravity is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 07:16 PM
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Yes! But normalizing sick behavior just helps the sickness multiply.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 04:51 PM
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Aw, hugs and sympathy. Sounds like my past therapists. I am also chronically ill with an abusive, narcissistic mother. Have CPTSD from working in prison with rapists in addition to my own past trauma. Going to therapy with an abuser just teaches them how to abuse you better. Unfortunately, FDS is too radical for even most libfems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 02:50 AM
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If the therapist is male, he will 100% serve the patriarchy and gaslight you into doubting your standards. Source: am a therapist, cannot think of one HV colleague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:58 PM
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Also, much research is from a male perspective or point of view. It isn't inclusive and therefore not replicable except for cis het white men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 07:21 PM
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Been there, done that. FDS' radical feminism has shown me that doing any emotional labor for men is submitting to the patriarchy. I am too old and tired to deal with male shit. Finding an HV partner is hard enough; finding an HV friend is almost impossible. True friendship requires honesty and mutual respect. A man who wants you but doesn't make a move on you is inherently dishonest and therefore LV. I'm not saying I haven't made this mistake; I think most women do. However, men who aren't willi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 06:35 PM
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I have never personally thought I was the nurturing type. I also never thought I would be able to have kids. I like MY kids. I find other children kind of boring. It was agony playing with kids, even mine, when they were younger. I hated babysitting. And yet, I will teach and hang out with children with no problem if we're both engaged in something. Does that make me a bad person/woman? Idgaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 05:36 PM
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Ugh. This is exactly what I first thought when I read this. Also, why does nanny = maid for this scrote? Wtf does he think she does all day? Obviously he has no idea about kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:20 PM
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Focus on building your life and career and figuring out what YOU want. Whatever is meant to be, will be. Also, please read the handbook. It's better to be alone than with an LV or NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:13 PM
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There's a HUGE famous case in my country about a farmer who killed his special needs daughter. He has been up for parole several times and I think he is out. He didn't value his daughter's life because it wasn't typical and he thought he was putting her out of her misery. They have no empathy and no thoughts beyond what their lived experience is. It's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/22 07:11 PM
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I don't think you wasted time. You gathered evidence, vetted, and made a decision. I think the uncertainty comes from socialization where you're expected to manage his feelings. Don't. Manage yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:53 AM
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Same with my culture! My mother was so jealous that her brother had an egalitarian relationship with his wife. And that my ex husband did most of the cooking and cleaning. She never had a partner who shared household responsibilities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/22 12:12 AM
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Like Lundy Bancroft says: during an out of control temper tantrum how many of HIS possessions gets broken? Spoiler alert: none.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 07:01 PM
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Was going to say this. Due to mass female infanticide, what women are there to marry? Delusional scrotes don't have options really. The marriageable women have their pick of the best men. If they even want to get married. Same with China.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:59 PM
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Hard but not impossible. Kids need defined boundaries and mine respect me for it even though I am not budging an inch on my principles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:56 PM
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100% can confirm. Boys will be boys, etc. My sons see their LV father having temper tantrums and bad behavior being excused everywhere. It's a hard battle to fight against, but I have told them I will fight the entire damned world to raise them HV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:55 PM
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No judgment here. My brothers were raised that way. When mine were little, I always assigned them things to do. I have always given them the message that wherever they're living, they are part of the team that manages the household. I have also educated them about emotional labor and the mental load. Most of the males around me were LV, and I was determined to break the cycle with my kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:52 PM
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My boys have trouble dealing with their big emotions because they have had very few HVM to emulate, unfortunately. We've been working on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/22 06:50 PM
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This is excellent! The only way out of trauma is through processing the feelings. Well done, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 11:18 PM
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I see your bet and I raise you he'll do both.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:53 PM
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I think around the same time their parents check out. Pickme mother + scrote father = scrote sons. I work very hard to teach my sons HV behavior and it ain't easy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 06:13 PM
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That is serious Queen stuff! So happy for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:35 PM
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I honestly (as a woman and a counselor) am seeing that men do not have empathy beyond their own skulls. That's why women are appliances to so many. Thank you for your excellent point!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:30 PM
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Right?! It's an action and a choice...that they can change at any time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:11 PM
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Just installed my 75 inch one I got on sale for $500. Except no man is worth disturbing my peace. My remote!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 05:06 PM
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Spoiler alert: He'll still cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 06:03 AM
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I feel like an HVM would understand women's oppression and support equity. HVM wouldn't have double standards (especially for family!) Also, the forever gf is troublesome. I think vetting constantly applies to all men in our lives. Perhaps your brother started with HV tendencies towards his current partner, but time has revealed the truth. It's disappointing when men in our lives turn out to be LV. He is not on your side, therefore he is openly working for the patriarchy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 04:55 PM
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And yet FDSers are insulted and maligned for having standards. Misogyny at its finest and most obvious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 05:00 PM
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Wow it was over 20 years ago. I don't even remember which paper, but the thing that stuck with me was that he was such a misogynist. He would snap at his mother to make him sandwiches and throw them at her when they weren't to his liking. He confirmed her saying that. And he was in high school when he started doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 01:55 PM
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You can treat people badly and still grieve their deaths. Sure kids can be dicks. But if I ever expected my mother to wait on me hand and foot...scrotes can be sad when their appliances die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 01:53 PM
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Gates grew up privileged middle class. He was SO rude to his mother. I remember being young and reading an interview by his mother in the newspaper ( long time ago) when he was starting to be REALLY big. He was nerdy but condescending to people. I was surprised when he got married. I was not surprised when he got divorced. He's slightly better than Musk because of his philanthropy, but LV is still LV. Billionaires could be Batman and they choose to be the Joker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 01:12 AM
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Socialization and swift punishment if we do not comply and fall back into line.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:11 AM
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My ex is working on his divorce. His ex wife kicked him out but then decided to drag it out. His students pondered to his ego. His kids are all adults and severely messed up. They wouldn't be if he had been around as much as he said. Also, the last straw for me was when he admitted he knew his stbx had deep depression. So he avoided her, their house was a level 1 hoard, the wife couldn't work because of her depression, and she cooked mostly junk because it was easier. HE WAS NEVER AROUND. I appl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 12:09 AM
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Yes. Even with cognitive behavioral training and being a therapist myself (and aware of trauma bonds), applying it to my personal life when I hadn't yet processed my own trauma was almost impossible. It's easier to counsel from a distance. Therapists aren't immune to trauma. Personal note, I find male therapists are the ones who can't conceive of trauma bonds. Men are often scrotes, even therapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 11:56 PM
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I don't think that's fair. Being the victim of emotional abuse grinds a person down. And when I was young, I was shy. Put up with a lot I wouldn't now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:08 PM
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Oh geez. Yes, I didn't even think about all of the inappropriateness that I personally experienced going through school. From an advisor who called me beautiful to every single scrote professor who ogled me and asked me to grab a coffee or meal with them... The same two men I'm talking about were both SHOCKED when their university aged daughters were hit on by professors. The first because he didn't think he was inappropriate, and the second because it would never occur to him in a million years…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 03:07 PM
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Story time: My LV ex was a professor. He was a sessional and wasn't rehired because of a series of complaints against him. One of the reasons was that he was overly familiar with everyone. In a seminar about sexual harassment he speculated whether women wear underwear under yoga pants. Dude, wtf?! He would demonstrate self defense moves on female coworkers (with their consent, of course 🙄) Dude, you're at work! He could never see why he was unprofessional. He went to former students' weddings - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:59 PM
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This should be in the handbook! Excellent! 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/22 01:45 PM
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I am ending up saying everyday that this is what serial killers and people incapable of empathy do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 07:05 PM
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Same and thank you! I have suffered for YEARS, even having miscarriages because of not being diagnosed/told about my cysts/fibroids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/22 06:57 PM
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I think chemistry at first sight is a thing. When I met my HV partner, we were both with other people. But there was something undefinable that passed between us. When we reencountered each other, it was still there and made for a very strong friendship. And when we each became single, we didn't immediately gravitate towards each other. We gradually just came together. And by that time, we knew each other's values and history and had a sense of compatibility. I have never had lust at first sight…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 08:03 PM
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You're right to agree to disagree. Just because someone doesn't know what to look for doesn't mean there aren't always clues. I am sorry I am not understanding your meaning. Hence my recommendation to be aware and educate yourself beforehand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:37 PM
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This guy seems to have met the bare minimum standards to remain in your company. However, don't limit yourself to just him. Keep vetting. Where you meet doesn't matter: it's about whether he is HVM AND compatible with you. But, and there's always a but, keep your eyes and options open. Do not commit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:25 PM
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I never said people can 100% gird themselves about anything. I said be aware. I also said trained professionals have been fooled. There are always tells. In hindsight, you know now to look for the signs your psychopath had. Most people live in this world projecting their experience onto their perception of how things are. All I have said is that this is a dangerous and naive way to live life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:06 PM
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Can relate. Years of abuse from my narc mom and her enabling partners. I truly believe she wore down my dad so he died early. My stepdad also passed of cancer a couple of years ago after a 2 year battle. She would not let him be alone with anyone to say goodbye. She had to control every interaction. Punched me in the face in front of him on his deathbed because I saw him early one morning without her. When I was diagnosed with cancer, she talked about needing to buy a new couch to change her liv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:31 PM
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Let's start a relationship by introducing you to the grind right away. Let's suck all romance out already. I need to see if you pass the audition to be my mommy/security blanket. 🤢🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 03:24 PM
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That's what growth is! You must be so proud of yourself! FWIW, I am so happy for you! Life is a learning process is my thought. Hugs, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:33 PM
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Addicts get lower and lower payback from the addiction of their choice. Habituation generally works the way you described. My understanding of the literature is the same - however, there has been no control group that has had no porn exposure. Not even isolated societies like the Amish or Mennonites. Sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:32 PM
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Someone said that HV men make the choice on their own. All we can do is educate our sons about the exploitation and abuse and rape and trafficking. I have overheard my boys sharing what I've taught them with their friends. There is hope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 07:12 AM
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This is a wonderful comment. I feel like you should expand it into a post. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:42 AM
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I just don't know how to make that FDS aligned or relevant? Ideas, ladies?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 06:39 AM
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Aww, thank you for the compliment! Any ex FBI or especially CIA books about situational awareness. Joe Navarro, for example. I think Jason Hanson (?) is ex CIA. Dr. Ramani on YouTube about narcissists. There are lots of different body language experts, but mileage varies. YouTube is a source, but books written by the pioneers like "Reading People" are the best ones in my opinion. Randomly going through Google scholar for scientific articles (especially meta studies! Sorry, geeking out here) is m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:35 AM
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This is beautifully written! Choosing to be HV is a choice. Many people are traumatized and CHOOSE to heal. There's a theory that the brain rewards even maladaptive behaviors with dopamine which causes an addiction. Jerking off is A cope, but not the only one. It's lazy and too easy. And then pornsickness escalates into depravity and compassion/empathy go way down. If you're living in the digital world only, your physical being will deteriorate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:27 AM
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I think the major problem is that most women grew up surrounded by LVMs that that's their "normal", hence they can't see the red flags right in front of them because they are disensitized, they don't have a frame of reference to compare. This 💯!! I think you absolutely nailed it. And trauma bonding makes women feel like they aren't doing enough, so they step up without realizing they're hooked into a game. Someone secure in herself, who is HV, doesn't feel the urge to please anyone but herself. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 05:21 AM
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Thanks for the clarification. I was talking about criminal psychopaths. Like any other skill, it's easier with experience. But even experienced professionals (who have normal affect) can be fooled. The signs are always there, especially if you know what to look for. The problem is that psychopaths are exactly the type to take any advantage presented. Especially since familiarity breeds like. The more exposure you have to someone, the more likely you will end up liking them. It's default by human…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:56 AM
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While I sometimes find Psychology Today helpful, I do not find it feminist or accurate. The emotionless stare and inappropriate affect are their markers. In practical terms: they will flatter you. They will not differentiate between emotionally loaded terms and neutral words. Ask them to describe love. They flounder. There's always something missing that one can spot with practice. However, the terms psychopath/sociopath (no difference really) are thrown around too much. 4% of the population wou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:33 AM
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While I would tend to agree, this isn't enforceable. Much like age gap relationships between technical adults. Ooh triggered scrotes are trying to message me or send Reddit cares messages. Lol. Come at me, fuckers. I have gone toe to toe with the worst. And I always win. Die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 02:17 AM
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Another reason 50/50 doesn't exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:56 AM
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Psychologist here. You Queens aren't wrong with everything you've written so far. However: there are no studies on the effects of porn because THERE AREN'T ENOUGH NON PORN USERS TO FORM A CONTROL GROUP. Unfortunately, boys are exposed far too young. I have talked about how dopamine addiction drives the urge for constant new stimulus which leads to increasingly depraved searches which leads to depersonalization of women, etc. Even my preteen boys were exposed because of curious peers. Or older bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:52 AM
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Scrotes have no empathy for anyone else's lived experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:39 AM
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Drama is addictive. The cycle of abuse with its predictable highs and lows is just a form of conditioning. Once you recognize THAT, and truly internalize HV principles, healing starts. I am guessing you haven't truly internalized being HV. No shame, no judgment here. It is much easier to intellectually commit to something/someone than to be vulnerable with your true emotions. As a former people pleaser, I also found it SO hard to accept help or to be spoiled. I was so scared I would devolve into…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:25 AM
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Thank you! If people comment, I can try to answer questions. I could only choose one flair, but I am trained in giving advice and starting discussions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:56 PM
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Thank you! Information can be found everywhere - evaluating its accuracy is a different issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:55 PM
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Thank you! Psychopaths have tells. The flat, emotionless stare. Glibness, flattery. Inappropriate emotional reactions. I could go on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 11:53 PM
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My friends and I have a rule: only one person can freak out at a time. We take turns and it's an equitable division of emotional labor. This meme is just awful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:17 PM
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Love this! I also would like to add, "Is this behavior/relationship acceptable to YOU? Is this what you signed up for? Can you handle x more years of this? Only you know the answer to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:15 PM
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See what I wrote above. Please let me know if anything is unclear. On phone, on break, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:57 PM
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No. Center of body mass applies to everyone. Unless extremely differently abled, people will orient themselves to what they're focused on, consciously or otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:54 PM
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Establishing a baseline of behavior is SO important because context can explain a situation. This is why FDS advice to constantly vet is remarkable in its effectiveness and simplicity. Some basics: Lying, even habitually, isn't natural to people. They will self sooth. Watch to make sure actions match words. For example, someone says something and then covers their mouth. Or starts stroking their arms. This is pacifying behavior to soothe for the lying. If someone can't sustain eye contact/stares…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:53 PM
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You're not overthinking! When one deconstructs behavior, you start thinking about everything you do. Yes, this works for friends too. With friends it's even better because you know their baseline behavior. If they stand farther or closer than usual, that's a clue something is off. If they're oriented away, they want to go somewhere else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 05:35 PM
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Having standards saves so much time and heartache!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 04:36 PM
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I just wanted to add too: we are ALL profilers. Women being out in the world have to be aware of danger. Gut instincts and first impressions are just your brain processing your environment really quickly. The difference is that my training allows me to break down and note specific triggers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:58 PM
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Sorry for not elaborating! I am used to playing cards close to the vest. I also didn't want to tip off lurkers, but changing body language requires a lot of concentration anyway. Yes, Queens, people turn toward what they're interested in. If someone is talking to you but aimed for an exit, they're not paying attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 10:55 PM
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I am a profiler, so yes although I used to stupidly not apply my skills to my personal life. My ex LVH hit on me, a lower tier coworker (part time job), at work! Super inappropriate and very excellent at stomping on any and all boundaries. All of my exes were good at acting inappropriately in specific contexts, in hindsight. Practical advice: the feet and torso don't lie.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 09:18 PM
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I mean...the only positive thing I can say is that he's confident? The scrotacity! Sadly, I think this is for real. Every LVM looks like a version of Homer Simpson and thinks they deserve a Marge, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 05:44 AM
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Queen, my only problem with your post is that you ARE the table. Women choose. Not NV and LVM. Depending on his other factors, he's told on himself. I would block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:26 AM
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Nah. Pickmes gotta get picked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:10 AM
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When I have some time, I will absolutely do a post on this! Thank you for the idea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:05 AM
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I don't think so. My personal and professional opinion is that it's dopamine addiction. Increasingly intense stimuli are required to get an ever decreasing shot of dopamine in the brain. Therefore boys start with seeing pictures of naked ladies to watching videos, to couples engaged in sex, then on and on to Increasingly shocking and depraved imagery to get their hit of novelty. Also, any personality traits can be enhanced or minimized with validation or disapproval. Internal motivation can also…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/22 12:03 AM
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Thank you, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 09:32 PM
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I have turned off PMs due to scrotes. Perhaps we could start a thread or a post about warning signs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 08:48 PM
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Yeah. The mask can slip at any time, but 6 months to a year is where the really determined new abusers seem to falter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:28 PM
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Also, doing manual labor doesn't potentially ruin any future employment due to exposure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:25 PM
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Porn and rape/murder fantasies are what serial killers do. Period. I keep mentioning this and triggered scrotes have the Reddit Cares message sent to me. I don't care. You are a depraved person if you cannot have empathy for other human beings. If you degrade women. If you see us as other and just holes for your use. Get help you sick fuckers. Source: forensic psychologist who worked with pedophiles and rapists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:20 PM
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Men fuck everything. Food. Sheep. There are surprisingly many anti sheep fucking laws in the world. Of course they feel entitled to us: we are not people to LV and NVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 06:25 AM
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I keep saying it: so many things can go wrong when you're choking someone. Serial killers and extremely depraved people who can't bond or have compassion get off on hurting people. Dehumanizing them. This is not BDSM. This is depravity and acting. Murder is not hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 05:03 PM
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Right?! How many (especially on OLD) are thinking about STARTING a family. Fuck right off, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:05 PM
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We can't win either way. They don't respect us if we do everything. Then they feel entitled to cheat. They don't respect us if we have standards. Then they feel less than manly and are driven to cheat. And the few that don't cheat absolutely grind you down in a million different ways. No man ever can carry a baby 100%. Already biologically we automatically do more. This is why WE choose, lurkers. This is why we're more valuable. This is why we vet before wasting our precious selves and resources…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 09:03 PM
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This is so on point, it should be in the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 03:05 PM
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You ladies have opened my eyes! I will make sure this gets fixed without unnecessary surgery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:45 AM
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A growth mindset leads to abundance instead of conformation of scarcity. Forgive yourself and keep leveling up. Make 2022 the year of plenty of HV experience!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 01:24 AM
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I'm in Canada, but hopefully this helps some fellow queens! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 12:10 AM
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I have IBS and an allergy to vinegar, of all things. I remember telling my LVM ex husband that I would feel truly loved and seen if we were somewhere and my partner could bring me a plate of food I could actually eat. After 15 years, he still never learned. The first time my current HVM came with me to a family gathering, he brought me a plate of my favorite foods without being asked. He told me he just went to the buffet (large family gathering) and asked people what I liked and what was in the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 10:42 PM
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As a woman currently in agony because of endometriosis, yes. My male gynecologist (been to 3 prior) has tested me for STIs and bacterial vaginosis without telling me what he was doing. I only found out when my records were automatically sent to me. It seems like my only options are a hysterectomy or dealing with this. My 2 prior female gynecologists didn't tell me about my ovarian cysts or fibroids. Women are just expected to suffer in silence and ignorance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/22 10:35 PM
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Congratulations! That sounds amazing. You go, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:13 PM
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Thank you! The first mindset shift was vowing to NEVER waste my precious life energy on LV people. Our time is so short. Treasure yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:12 PM
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Thank you! Hard battle. So very tired. But having high standards and only HV people around me was so reassuring and helpful. It really makes a difference.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:11 PM
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Thanks! I truly believe it's the only way to rid the world (eventually) of LVM. I always tell them that it's my job to make sure they're not assholes. And if they exhibit (random LV behavior), I will come at them because that's not how they're being raised.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:10 PM
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Ugh how many times have I heard that from LVM. Your family dude, so it's on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 10:08 PM
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Hetero women have fewer orgasms and more sickness when they marry. Married men are statistically healthiest. Married women have the worst outcomes healthwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:47 PM
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Statistically, men leave when women get ill. Too lazy right now to cite sources, but it's come up on FDS before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:45 PM
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Thank you! And thanks for the award, Queen that gifted it! I DO believe the audacity, but I am older. I love hearing younger Queens take charge. I made all of the typical pickme mistakes: age gap relationship, fail to run everytime a red flag was revealed, spawned with a fuckwit, tolerated verbal/physical/emotional and finally physical abuse. I have forgiven myself because I had an LV father and a narcissistic bipolar immature responsibility shirking mother. Bought my boys and I a new condo that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:20 AM
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I saw a meme this Christmas that basically said a magical Christmas is due to your mom's love for her family. It hit me like a slap in the face. My NVM ex still expects me to buy presents for our children (and his grown son and his family!) and slap his name on gifts for which he would be as surprised as the kids at the contents. I fought cancer last year. I did fuck all for him. I got gifts for the kids from ME. With my money. Wrapped them. Had a lovely Christmas morning with them. And when I d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 05:02 AM
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For me it's wasting time. Arguing with strangers. Ranting about anything. I know LVM dads who do this. You have time to chat or argue with strangers on the internet, but your kids are failing school? Instant turn off for me. This behavior tells me they're emotionally unavailable and dissociate from their own lives. Not qualities that lead to equitable partnerships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 04:51 AM
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Women are not rehabilitation centers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 11:15 PM
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I have turned off DMs, but I can reply in this thread.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:18 PM
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This will probably read as a double standard, but men are usually LV and don't do the work of determining why their relationship fell apart. I wouldn't trust a man in a similar situation because they are usually monkey branching or looking to get their dicks wet. I am sorry for what happened to you. Women in your situation are not to be blamed. But to reiterate, men aren't that deep with reasoning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:07 PM
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When a person wraps their hands around anyone's throat for any reason, the chances of the victim ending up dead are exponentially increased. In play, in sex, whatever, it's dangerous and things can go wrong. That's WHY serial killers like killing this way. It's up close and personal. Anyone who deludes themselves into thinking "but I'm doing it saFeLy" is wrong. Source: am a forensic psychologist and profiler who has heard this first hand from killers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 06:02 PM
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Same thing with the Remington Steele series. She was a successful PI, but needed a man as a front. He was charming and useless. I used to excuse it as an artifact of the late 80s/early 90s, but nothing has changed due to liberal feminism making excuses for men and coddling them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:56 PM
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Yes! It's all a performance that men want and pickmes oblige by performing. Any normal human wants connection and intimacy which you don't get with acting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:50 PM
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Eye contact is intimate which is why men chase after it so much. We do not owe scrotes anything ever. Masking has also reset me. I am not a performer for anyone. I have the right to go about my business uninterrupted like everyone else and I will defend that right aggressively.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 05:49 PM
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Lots of love, and I am so sorry you're suffering. But the main thing I thought about when reading your story is why are you living your life for him? When are you going to start living for you? Focusing on him is your excuse for not doing what you need to do to level up. Love yourself more than you loved him. Good luck. And for practical advice, try giving yourself aversion therapy. Put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it every time you start thinking about him. Associate him with pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 07:03 PM
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Their worst fear is being alone with no attention. They can't imagine us enjoying our peace. They do not have the same values and cannot understand what true leveling up is about. The other thing fellow queens have said, I will remind everyone of here: LVM expect to get laid for free. They won't pay sex workers for the time to attend to their kinks. They resent even the cost of dinner. Yet we're gold diggers. They want our bodies, our attention, our emotional labor, the use of our wombs, etc and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 07:36 PM
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Brilliant!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 06:19 PM
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Yes! I agree with this. As an aside, as a forensic psychologist I STILL think of only disasters having "bodycounts". Stacks of dead bodies and tragedy. Let's bring back the true meaning of this word. Scrotes will use anything and everything against you. An HVM will know that your past forms who you are and that every person is entitled to privacy. Nothing good ever comes from a conversation about past sexual history. No one's business except the person in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:25 PM
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Kink shaming is my kink. There's intimacy in gentleness and kindness. Serial killers fantasize about hurting people. I would rather be on the tame side of the spectrum instead of having to arrange the 39 things a scrote has conditioned himself to require to get off. My orgasms are important too, and any man who can't take the time to discover what I like isn't worthy of getting his dick near me. That said, while I have always been vanilla, like everyone else here, it took too many years to devel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:55 PM
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This I'd so well articulated! I agree wholeheartedly. That said, I think it reflects who is doing most of the child rearing. Pornsick men just want to get their dicks wet because women aren't people to them. I personally know so many me who started dating as soon as their partners ended the relationship. And how many are on OLD while still married. They have too much time on their hands from not raising their OWN children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:49 PM
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Her family's wealth isn't HER wealth. If they cut her off she wouldn't be subsidized. And given his bending of the narrative, I wonder if he's fully aware of her finances and i'm wondering exactly what "subsidized" means here. If he wanted to, he would basically sums up my read of this. He doesn't have feelings for her. This guy is a gold digger. Like most scrotes. As for the advice given, yes, they don't share the same values. However, the media is often scrote leaning so I take it with a grain…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 04:46 PM
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Ugh, I'm so sorry you went through that. I also did and I'm a little tipsy so forgive any confusion: it's a trauma response in women where we're socialized to not give a shit about ourselves or our needs. Men have no empathy because yes, they have the emotional range of a teaspoon. If men cared, they wouldn't rape or apologize for rapists, do emotional and household labor, and stop the games. I have many male friends who claim they're empaths while their children are screwed up and they feel the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:58 PM
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Mine was an alcoholic too, but leveled up eventually. I feel like he was still LVM overall because eof the trauma he out his family through. Died young of health problems.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:46 PM
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Psychologist here: the thing that strikes me about all of these stories is that memories are formed by experiences. It isn't about the stuff; we literally have the popular saying it's the thought that counts. We remember bad horrible gifts because that's the experience: so different from the kindness and thoughtfulness that were expected. So different from the energy we put into our relationships. We expect our SO to make a special occasion SPECIAL. And it hurts so bad when we're let down. I hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 09:42 PM
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The above are brilliant and well articulated, but I would like to add: No HVM I have ever known has treated ANYONE as interchangeable. Women, pets, kids are all unique individuals and treated as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 04:35 PM
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Thank you for your story. Too many of us never learned to keep vetting. Unfortunately, there are too many stories like yours. Stay strong, Queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:15 PM
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If he wanted to, he would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 08:18 PM
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Everyone who doesn't understand the FDS mindset is about having standards and living your best life FOR YOURSELF.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 05:16 PM
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Age gap✅ Debt✅ Long distance ✅ Oh wait...I meant these: 🚩🚩🚩🚩 Sweetie, please read the handbook. Cours vite. Laissez cet idiot seul.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 05:59 PM
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I want to add police and security guards - all law enforcement personnel, really. Women and weakness are seen as inferior. Not to mention that men steeped in bro culture voluntarily admit to abusing women. It's a joke to them. We are subhuman to them. They bond over traumatizing anyone different than them. Source: work in/with law enforcement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 08:31 PM
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1000% yes! As a relationship counselor I always would tell women: if he's not impressing you in the beginning, in X years he'll be sitting and burping (and worse) on your couch demanding you bring him food and beverages. To what end? What's the point of a relationship? To have X + 1 kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 01:38 AM
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Serial killers use porn to enhance their fantasy lives. Porn absolutely depersonalizes women to men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:26 PM
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My ex husband kept his apartment very clean when we were dating. When we moved ed in together and had kids, he only kept the kitchen clean and would do the bathrooms when asked. Now that he's living alone again, his place is spotless. Cleanliness does not indicate HVM status necessarily. If he wanted to, he would. Obviously our children and I did not warrant any effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:23 PM
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Sit with it. Relish your humanity. Trust that better things are waiting for you. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:09 PM
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Was watching an old Dr Phil episode today with 2 young men who each claimed they were set up by police into arranging security with minors. Men will stick their dicks in anything when they're bored. They're all potential rapists whining about their penises. Normalizing language just proliferates rape culture. Minors cannot consent. Big age gaps are predatory. Women are not holes. Society absolutely promotes the male gaze as misogyny and devalues women as less than human. Die mad, scrotes. The wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 11:06 PM
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Lol! This made me laugh. How can they ban you from dating? Don't know why I took this literally...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:36 PM
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My mother enabled my alcoholic father who abused all of us. She left him, but then allowed him back without telling all of us kids (I was kept in the dark when they reconciled a year later without being told he was in treatment). It scarred all of us kids to the point where my brothers have dysfunctional or no relationships. She deluded herself into thinking we didn't remember 30 years later and was surprised when I told her I remember as if it were yesterday. She's a narcissist and bipolar so s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:11 PM
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Yes! Vows should mean something, otherwise the relationship is pointless. Yes, most therapists are mouthpieces for the patriarchy. Women are devalued and unappreciated on every level of their lives: personal, professional, etc. The personal is political. Anyone who is using someone doesn't love the other person and is inherently being deceitful because they aren't being honest about what relationship the other person is signing up for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:57 PM
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I agree with all of the above, but I learned that LV people aren't happy unto themselves. They are incomplete as people therefore use others to fill holes or deficiencies within themselves. HV people are complete and are able to be partners. They add to relationships so the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. Also, I believe that people don't understand that wanting to be with someone is more valuable than having to settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:52 PM
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My ex husband said years after we separated that he divided women into fuckable and unfuckable categories when he saw a woman for the first time. 🤢 I unfortunately know many men for whom we are categorized as holes or merely functional to them, not as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 11:43 PM
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Men support men. Period. Also 40% of law enforcement officers ADMIT to being abusers. We women are not human beings to these types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 03:46 PM
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It sounds like crap. Or a tarot deck. People don't do things without incentives so it's probably PUA stuff. All they care about is getting off. Not about fulfilling relationships or bettering themselves as humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 05:09 AM
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Yes. Can't think of the author off the top of my head. These 'classics' are very educational. I am surprised womankind just don't randomly erupt in violence at our oppression. The condescension is what gets to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:08 AM
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I'm literally reading The Peter Pan Syndrome book. The male author talks about Wendys and Tinkerbells. Wendys are joyless, humorless, mothering types. We should be free spirits like Tinkerbells and then ALL the men will want us 🙄🙄🙄 No nagging, just fulfill his needs, and be ride or die. Don't plan for the future cause there won't be one to worry about. Even in the 80s women were being setup. They know what they're doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:03 AM
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Another example of a scrote using (yet rejecting!?) women's emotional labor. It's so true that men don't respect women and therefore NEVER ask us for advice/take us seriously. I swear it's been today's theme.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 03:58 AM
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This is my experience as well. They ALWAYS show who they are. The mask ALWAYS slips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:18 PM
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Truth! I do not know one woman who regrets relationships that didn't work out. Most women have reasoned that there was a reason things don't work out. Scrotes will have entire marriages with women they're not in love with while pining for some girl who smiled at him in grade 3. Even Pickmeishas don't mourn one guy for their entire lives (at least in my experience).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 03:03 PM
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There's that for sure. But my experiences with OLD seem to indicate that scrotes want prostitutes without paying for it. Drinks are much cheaper, I think. They don't want commitment, or to do the emotional labor of creating and building a connection. But they also don't want to pay a sex worker because that is still stigmatized. It's easier for them to live in the gray area of coercive consent. Studies show most men would rape if they could, especially if the language is softened to something le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 08:54 PM
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Same! My ex husband never had ambition and never applied to further himself. And when I cajoled and helped him with interviews and applications, I never was thanked for it. He eventually started getting better and better jobs, but even with less experience than his female coworkers (and doing the exact same job! Think coteaching), he had better titles just for having a penis. Unfair. Now, near the end of his career, his plan is to retire and not pay child support because his pension isn't great …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/21 01:18 PM
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If pickmes didn't validate this behavior, men would have no incentive to continue it. Just my two cents as a behavioral analyst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:25 AM
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First thing to go through my head was, would he ask his mother or daughter? No? Scrotes know when they're misbehaving. If he respected your opinion, he would have just taken it at face value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:23 AM
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I have two preteen sons and I show them posts like that and talk to them about how wherever they live, they are part of the team that keeps the household going and should do their fair share. It's lazy parenting otherwise. No excuses. I have had my share of trauma and parentification, and parenting is hands on and HARD. I left their dad partly because I was tired of doing all of the emotional labor and mental load for a man 2 decades my senior. Figured might as well raise my sons to not be like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 02:31 PM
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I agree with you generally, but his threat about losing interest came off as rude to me. The scrodacity to demand her attention on his terms!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:29 AM
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Thank you for the inspiration! Forgiveness, on mobile, etc. I have an amazing BS detector. I am very loving. (And loved!) I have a great education and the drive to never stop learning. I am honest and yet tactful. I do not tolerate boundary stomping. I am trustworthy. I am competent. There's lots more but these are most important to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 07:41 PM
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Been off OLD for a few years now. But I have to say, the most memorable and fun dates were the ones where we went out for a meal and got to know each other. Otherwise, I feel like all of the coffee date guys were so generic and interchangeable. Nothing redeeming at all, definite LVM. Obviously this was pre FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:33 PM
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When men love something or someone, they show it. They take care, they remember things that are important. So many men are excused from basic decency and thoughtfulness. Yes, they take and not give. HVM are few and far between. For the lurkers, FDS asks for no pornsickness, true equality (when y'all can give birth maybe you'll know what I'm talking about), and kindness. So many men fail these basic requirements. The capacity to love someone outside of yourself, to see your partner as a human wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:38 PM
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I have. It's so offensive. Like, look at me dude. I don't need or want you. And I get this from men around my own age. I am the fucking table. Scrotes are the ones who can't be alone or take care of themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 03:31 PM
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Snap, I feel called out. This describes my NVX husband word for word. Even though he was 25+ years older than me. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:45 AM
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A ring is a symbol of your commitment to (presumably) your beloved, and your desire to indicate building for the future together. It's very telling that men give crap symbols and are pressuring women to accept low effort. As one comment said, men will marry women they don't love or value just because it's time. Wasting time. What is even the point of marriage anymore. Too many men commit with babies instead of a committed future with one woman they love and want to spend their lives with. Porn r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:11 AM
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Wtf is the point? She's his mom. And the neighbor's apparently. I can't count the red flags in every sentence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:04 AM
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Proof she's his bangmaid mommy. Ffs, I don't even do this with my kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 12:02 AM
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Age gap ✅ Lies ✅ Tries to look like a hero to friends/family ✅ 50/50 ✅ No work ethic ✅ Probably NOT 50/50 on chores because "he's in school" ✅ This is why we vet constantly ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 10:08 PM
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Should have been my title lol. Not a frequent poster.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/21 12:04 AM
71

EXACTLY! A scrote like this couldn't even give a woman an orgasm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:46 PM
112

Yeah, Pickmeishas do so much to show their love while the men are off looking at other women and showing zero gratitude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 09:34 PM
180

I read a comment before about where my partner directs his sexual energy and I 100% agreed with it. Relationships are hard enough without bringing other people into it virtually. Not saying men can't appreciate beauty, but that's a VERY different thing than drooling over another woman's naked body. To me, intimacy is private and special because it's exclusive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:48 PM
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The truth of this is blinding.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 07:16 PM
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I took it as more the Pickmeishas don't/won't listen to good advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 05:54 PM
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Not only is this so true, I think it underscores that once entrenched in their opinion of women, they will not recover suddenly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 12:54 AM
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Men don't care about us and we are meaningless to them except for what they can get from us. They will steal pleasure from us for their own ends and never take accountability for their actions. They have absolutely no incentive. Misogyny rules the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:29 PM
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And the continuing choice to keep lying. No integrity. This is not salvageable. Story time: My dad died young of a stroke partly due to smoking. My ex husband lied for 2 years about being a smoker. And not being divorced. Actively lied. There's no recovering trust.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:05 PM
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Can confirm. Also PT is not based on peer review, just popular scrote opinions largely. I know men who are envious of my career who read this religiously. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 03:03 PM
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The thing that struck me the most was "she's sexy and desirable when you get married"...How many men are already marrying above their league on their wedding days? Men don't age or become unattractive? Women don't lose desire when their already receding hairline beer gut beginning scrote reaches his maximum "potential"? Apparently we don't have eyes. Idiot male psychologists. Men see us as interchangeable. Women settle because they fall for a particular scrote. Well, Pickmeishas do anyway. And d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 02:48 AM
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TW: marital rape. Did this. My now ex husband sexually harassed me until I dated him. Of course it wasn't going to work out. After 10 years of LV behavior, including rape and every kind of abuse (he has parasomnia), I left. My kids are still traumatized by his behavior. Our coworkers were pulling for us because he was "nice". They had no idea he was a sex pest or whiner. The professional front he had at work absolutely does not correlate with his behavior at home. The work ethic he had in busine…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:47 PM
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I think when you love yourself, and are gentle with yourself, you tolerate nothing less than mutual respect. Thank you for your eloquence and vulnerability. I read about what sex is turning into, and maybe I'm just old, but I wonder what happened to lovemaking. Congratulations on leveling up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:40 PM
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These are all great. Saving this post. Adding: Women are not rehabilitation centres for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 02:16 AM
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I have cognitive difficulties due to being rear ended twice and several concussions when I was younger. Because I am already smarter than most scrotes, doctors don't think I have a problem. In litigation the insurance companies just tell me I need counseling. Because that's totally going to fix my neck and back pain. We're gaslit everywhere we go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:09 PM
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10 bucks says that the LV critics who don't bother doing anything but incorrectly stereotyping FDS don't bitch about THIS post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 03:04 PM
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Dating a loser is not winning anything. It is choosing to become a loser oneself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 04:01 AM
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The thing that struck me about this story was how he literally ended up not lifting a finger for his own kids. Had his wife lived, they probably would have ultimately divorced since he was so LV. She met the kids within days of meeting him and didn't see any red flags. Younger ladies and lurkers: experience gives you the ability to see through bullshit. Any sign of a red flag should make you run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 01:18 AM
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I think it IS a red flag AND negging. Which are LV traits. If you let THEM talk instead of showing your cards, they can't mirror, manipulate you, or attempt to trauma bond. Your story is powerful. Be careful whom you share it with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:59 PM
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I think the most important thing to constantly ask yourself is if the relationship is acceptable to you and if it's what you want. Marriage isn't a need. Nor is sex. Love and trust are intertwined. And I think you are asking good questions. But one must ALWAYS vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:57 PM
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The police are obviously covering for their colleague.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:41 PM
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When scrotes would tell me this bs in prison, I would ask, well how many bad things before we can count you as a bad person? Bad people do bad things. Period. If there's no accountability and remorse, they're bad people. Nice is NOT a personality trait. Pedo. philes in prison are nice. R@pists in prison are nice. But not one of them will admit to being what they are. Edit: auto mod said my comments were too violent. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:38 PM
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Living this right now. Been to a gyno. Have bc. Doesn't help. 5 days of agony every month. Not religious either, but the pain makes me pray for relief every time. The only thing that works is heat and a clotting drug. As a WOC, doctors don't care about my pain. My sons step up their chores, and are constantly asking about my comfort. My HVM always makes sure I don't run out of pads. He cleaned up the bloody bed (ugh right through to the mattress with several protectors and towels this morning) w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:36 PM
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At least it will coincide with when he's ready to settle down and start a family. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:21 PM
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I don't think anyone is owed any explanation for what's happening in your life. We all go through stages where we reevaluate friendships, jobs, etc. The pandemic has definitely revealed LV traits in people to me. I think a simple I'm leveling up my life statement and watching to see how he reacts would be sufficient and revealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/21 04:19 PM
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As a former therapist who worked with rapists and violent men, I have to say this isn't exactly true because I never knew when clients could attack me. And as a woman, every man is Schrodinger's rapist. So I am wary of all people (especially men) and I am a profiler. I know exactly what violence looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 11:07 PM
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I am a forensic psychologist who specialized working with pedophiles and rapists. Since society is normalizing both, I fear that women are fighting a losing battle for any kind of decency or morality in the world.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:08 PM
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Thank you. This is an important post.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 07:53 PM
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Oh I know what it is. I refuse to legitimize bad behavior by putting a label on it so they can make excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:52 AM
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You can't change the mind of someone who is determined to never make an effort. "I tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas!" These assholes have no empathy for anyone but themselves. They think they're so special that the universe owes them something. No one is ever owed anything in this life, entitled scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:08 AM
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WOMEN. ARE. NOT. REHABILITATION. CENTRES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:05 AM
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Exactly. Your time is too valuable to be wasted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 12:04 AM
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I'm not sure. The entitlement to our emotional support is beyond stupidity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 11:10 PM
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Men act like serial killers by choking and hitting women during sex to get off. Women: That's not OK. Violence is not BDSM. Men: Muh penis! KInK shaming, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:38 PM
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I wish I could upvote this more and that men would be able to comprehend this. We are not rehabilitation centres for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:33 PM
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Yeah. I commented on this and people linked articles on how choking deaths can occur after a few days due to unseen internal damage. Statistically, she will end up murdered. Pickmes think they're the exception to the serial killer victimology. And when she leaves, she's at the highest risk. Also, my petty ass is going to point out she didn't even enjoy the violent sex. Totally worth risking her life for on all levels. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 04:15 PM
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Excellent synopsis, but you forgot the adjective "entitled".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 01:28 AM
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I love these examples because HV behavior gives plentiful opportunities in HV people. LVM just don't make any effort and expect us to lower our standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:25 PM
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Especially your first paragraph made me think of shark infested waters. If we're already wading into danger, we should be cautious and get out to safety as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:23 PM
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I hope she finds FDS. Even if he's magically ready at 30, she'll have been his bangmaid forever girlfriend for 5+ years. All years where she could find a HVM and not waste years of fertility with his increasingly dust-gathering sperm. Also, him finding her desire for a big house struck me as a fear he won't be able to provide a middle class lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:21 PM
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Look at all of the subs promoting age gap relationships. And the posts I've seen about younger men and older women are usually posted by the younger men. They indulge their depraved pornsick fantasies. Most posts I see on Reddit by women mention how women see younger men as babies. And not just in FDS. Because we're used to being victimized. As a whole and individually. It is hard for any particular woman to wrong another person, especially deliberately, because we know what it's like to be on t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 10:16 PM
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Oh geez. If I ever date again I am TOTALLY saying I need to see if we're "emotionally compatible" lol. I mean, that's what the handbook advises, but it sounds SO much better to flip the script. Win-win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:24 PM
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Right?! Men are men, no matter what part of the internet they're squatting in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:16 PM
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Yes! That's what angered me. A painting is an object. It is designed and meant to be looked at and admired. How telling that LVM see us the same way: objects designed for their pleasure. And interchangeable as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 08:15 PM
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I wonder if they figure they'll shoot their shot knowing that the date was not good. Their thinking is entitled and they figure they can probably get their dicks wet at the very least. It's gross, entitled scrote behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 06:45 PM
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Yeah. I read it and my first thought was, "Differentiate yourself by showing you can't do the BARE minimum." They also overvalued their desirability. Lurkers, dick is abundant and low value. Men fuck sheep and dolls. Die mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 05:57 PM
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That was a rollercoaster ride that kept getting better and better. What a great story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:20 PM
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My mom told me that women used to be "prepped" before giving birth. So, your body goes through the most traumatic thing ever AND you had to deal with itching as it grew back!? Thank God 30 years later when I had my first kid it wasn't a thing. And he crowned for quite awhile. They could totally make out his full head of hair in the jungle down there lol 😆 😂 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:34 PM
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Charisma is literally just paying attention to people. Bill Clinton is famous for it. Whatever else you think he did, he cheated on his wife and showed his morals and character. When women do the emotional labor of "seeing people" and making them feel heard, we are definitely not labeled as charismatic. It's expected of us. Think about how many women the media applies that label to. We're not charming or charismatic. It's just our looks that we are judged on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:26 PM
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Actually, I think you're on to something! For example, microdosing LSD and mushrooms helps people deal with trauma and PTSD. Drugs aren't inherently good or bad. No object is. It's what people do with them I.e. being so addicted they can't focus on anything else. Freud (may he burn in hell for many reasons) thought cocaine was non addictive and helpful for coping with trauma. He used it to cope with life. Heroin was used to treat injured soldiers and help them deal with pain. Opioids were though…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 03:12 PM
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I am sorry you experienced that. Good for you for standing up for yourself. And thank you so much for enforcing boundaries. The only way scrotes will learn to be pleasant is to normalize basic courtesy and decency instead of letting them get away with their assholery. Every. Single. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 12:27 AM
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I honestly missed the part about him not being a man. My first thought was what woman has ZERO personal touches in her home? So, the signs are always there to see. Guys have such bland taste.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:14 PM
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Yes! A lot of cultures pressure us to fix broken boys. We are not rehabilitation centres for men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:46 PM
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Honestly, that was my first thought. This is not the flex she thinks it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:44 PM
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Only a scrote projects being an incel as the worst thing that can happen to a person. We have high standards. We choose to be single unless we meet an HVM, but them we are still constantly vetting. Obviously scrotes have no idea how cheap batteries are. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:39 PM
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Yes. But scrotes lust after children, so one can only assume they're matching energies and wits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 08:35 PM
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40% of US law enforcement officers admit to it when asked for studies. Of course that means that the truly depraved ones wouldn't admit to anything. They feel safe enough to admit they're sociopathic "alpha" males.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:44 PM
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Let's call it pedophile adjacent then. As someone pointed out above, a switch doesn't magically flip for legal age. They're attracted to the power dynamic and youth. Still a huge problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 02:38 PM
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TW: It's common for men to rape women with beer bottles. Source: forensic psychologist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 12:24 AM
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Yes. I am reminded of Margaret Atwood: Men are afraid of being laughed at. Women are afraid of being killed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 11:18 PM
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Poly yet wants no drama? Nope! I bet he loves to triangulate. Also, the only quantifiable things about him are his vaccinated status and Uber rating? This proves LVM are dime a dozen. OLD simply isn't worth the effort to find a HVM. I find it interesting that he has absolutely no unique characteristics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/21 03:21 AM
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🤣🤣🤣🤣 The truth is hilarious! Die mad, scrotes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:50 AM
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It instantly reminded me of how men say our standards are too high. Basic hygiene is a thing, scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:50 PM
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Also, a lot of these relationship "experts" have been divorced at least once. So...food for thought. Men cannot relate to our experiences, but my theory is that scrotes learn how to appeal to Pickmeishas VERY quickly. Also, men feel like they have the right to proclaim their 2 cents on every topic - especially relationships - when they barely devote any time to anything besides the accumulation of sex partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 08:51 PM
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Congratulations! HE should be supporting you going through such a difficult time. You don't need the stress in your life from carrying the relationship. If he loved you, he would step up. Sorry about your dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:21 PM
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Came here to say this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:18 PM
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Her comment about righting his past made me see red. Why do Pickmeishas think they're rehab centers for LVM?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:17 PM
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And especially male therapists cannot relate to female experiences. Fellow therapist in same boat. Good luck though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 03:12 PM
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For more reading, Chump Lady writes a lot about this. Don't untangle the skein of fuckedupedness. Who cares why they acted like that. If it's not acceptable to you, if it's not the relationship you want to be in, LEAVE!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:24 PM
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Forensic psychologist here. In treatment (in prison where it's already too late for victims), stopping that line of thought period is the only thing to stop triggers for indulging their sick behaviors. But men who already cross the line don't have empathy for anyone, and only care about themselves. Come at me you lurking pervs. As we say often in FDS, muh penis, and the other million excuses scrotes use to justify their depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:09 PM
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Forensic psychologist. Can confirm 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 04:04 PM
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The part that got to me was where she says FDS is transactional around sex. My first thought was so prostitute yourself for free then? SMH. So young and she doesn't understand the nature of men. Or her own value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 03:42 PM
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Not harsh. Coercive sex is rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 07:12 PM
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If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. Never heard that before and needed to. 💯 thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:22 PM
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I find the women on there LV. They don't return messages or carry conversations. I hate the lack of energy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:16 PM
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So true! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:14 PM
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I sadly dated an LVM who is raising two boys who aren't his own. As far as I can figure, he just does it because everyone helps him out because he's an "amazing" single dad. They live in squalor and eat take out almost every meal. The kids play video games all day. He would take time off work to pursue his flavor of the month. And of course, he gets breaks on renting his mother's basement and on everything from activities to clothes because he is a single dad. Not that single mothers are appreci…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:14 PM
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Absolutely! Especially to give them the lives they deserve. My ex husband is much older and when he stops working, it has been made clear there will be no more child support. My two boys are my problem, even though I am on disability. I am saving as much as I can to give them a great life. They are thriving and I am making sure they are taking notes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:09 PM
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Imo, men need to center themselves everywhere. Scrotes gotta scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:05 PM
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Oh yeah. Porn absolutely normalizes depravity. I read a study about how men will watch child porn because they are desensitized to everything else. That makes these men pedophiles in my kind because they have the taste. Look at how serial killers and peeping toms escalate. And to the "non offending" pedophiles who lurk this sub: it's still wrong. Die mad pervs. Porn dehumanizes its victims. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 07:03 PM
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Nice is not a personality trait. Kind is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 03:54 AM
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It used to be widely known that serial killers used porn on their way to escalation of their fantasies and serial rape and murder. The fact that it's normalized horrifies me, and probably accounts for why more and more sexual crimes are being prosecuted just by sheer escalation of the numbers. Source: forensic psychologist specializing in pedophilia and psychopathy in prison although I mostly consult on murder and rape cases now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 08:12 PM
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Ugh. I just had this realization too. And it's hard to bond with these types of women who are used to being out down with not like other women garbage either. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 05:16 PM
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Yeah. He was on dating apps. I wonder who dumped whom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 10:47 PM
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I saved this. Thank you for this truth. LVM are just about what they can get, not give.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:33 PM
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I guess it makes it more familiar for the pickmeshas they groom from high school? 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:26 AM
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Yeah...several lurker pedophiles who insist they're non offending say that I don't understand...it's socialization, biology, etc. Fuck that. It's illegal and wrong. Porn encourages escalation of inappropriate behavior and fantasies. Indulging said fantasies doesn't help address the underlying impulse. But what do I know after decades of working with pedophiles in and out of prison? I'm not a male scrote. Die mad, lurkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:06 AM
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I used to like him. And Dan Savage. Truth is men will always support other men, even lvm scrotes. Women support other women, and rarely, at that. Chump Lady has it right all the way: values and bonding. Scrotes are incapable of either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 06:39 PM
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Then I shouldn't mention the babies UNDER 1...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 09:05 PM
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Her update - she left. Although this entire thing has me wanting to leave the planet. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:49 PM
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So true unfortunately. I am so sorry that happened to you. Report him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 07:34 PM
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Unfortunately the field of psychology is misogynist. Men do not understand women's lived experiences and most male therapists have as much empathy as the average man. Which is to say, zero. Freud recanted everything on his deathbed, but unfortunately, as scrotes are wont to do, deep analysis and actual research seem to be beyond their capabilities. Source: am a forensic psychologist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 05:08 PM
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I'm always reminded that serial killers escalate from porn and are sexually aroused by hurting women. Does any more really need to be said?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:14 PM
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As usual, scrote interpreted the data for his own agenda. We all focus on different things. Men's eye movements and arousal are correlated. It's my understanding that female eye movements and arousal are ambiguous regarding correlation. In English: boobies, etc make men aroused. Looking at genitals doesn't necessarily arouse a woman. Our sensuality is more complex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 02:19 AM
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I also want to add that men probably saw the wall of text and didn't read the entire thing and/or think critically about it. Which is it? That they're mindless or that they are capable of controlling themselves?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:51 PM
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I invite you to look at my previous comment. Physical response to erotic stimulus is meaningless. Unless scrotes are unevolved mindless monsters...and I am leaning towards that theory anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:48 PM
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As a former researcher who worked with pedophiles (and yes there are distinctions, but that's largely academic), I can say that women are physically aroused by ANY sexual content. Does that mean we want to fuck animals? No. It's thought to be more of a protective thing against rape. All women are people, but obviously scrotes don't see us this way. This post is making me see red. Men will attempt to fuck anything anytime. It's feminists who say we're all more than our biology. Puts girls in a bo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 02:47 PM
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Thank you for your work and your eloquent statement!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 01:53 AM
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Online dating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:02 AM
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Mostly whining about dead bedrooms and they can't leave their wives because they wouldn't see their kids. But they can't talk to their wives either. Easier to cruise online. Sigh. I told every single one I talked to if they spent the time online putting work into their marriages, things would improve. For all the good wasting my breath did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 12:01 AM
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You're welcome. Forensic literally means pertaining to crime. Investigating is cool, but it all comes at a cost. Male depravity is terrifying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:58 PM
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Oh yes! One guy wanted to smell my asshole to get the experience of my essence. Sigh. I was trying to write a research paper. And studies show that an abundance mentality, while great for attitude, may be responsible for why men can't commit. Fear of missing out on the perfect partner is an ever present fear for them. All studies about choice show that fewer high quality options make for higher satisfaction. That's why FDSers have such trouble finding HVM and why men are ok with literally screwi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:57 PM
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Oh yes. Porn caters and normalizes every sort of depravity one can think of. (The famous Rule 34 of the internet.) Serial killers escalate by indulging sick fantasies. If you don't give something mental space, it won't become an obsession. Classical conditioning 101. And then scrotes have all kinds of excuses for treating women badly: the wall, BDSM, etc. Pornsickness should be in the DSM. To me sex positivity is celebrating consensual sensuality amongst ADULTS. Not depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:37 PM
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Experience. However you can obtain it. Volunteer with police. See about job postings in prison. And thank you. For doing the difficult work of reporting and seeing it through. And healing. Part of my healing from sexual assault was to face perpetrators head on to understand why. But, I caution you, it was also a punishment for myself. Examine your motivation for everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:33 PM
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I hope you find some peace. While you are one of my sisters, FDS has changed my thinking about sex work. It's not empowering except that you get to keep some more of your earnings, but you're still being exploited by the site. You can't put it on a resume. It changes how people look at you and treat you. I worked undercover at a lingerie bar when I was young. Men are gross and exploitative. The women are ruined from even trying to seek HVM because it skews their view of the world because of LVM …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:37 PM
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You started a discussion with many awesome contributions! Thank you for that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:09 PM
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That thing girls do where they end their sentences on a high pitch like they're always asking a question. Arrgh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:07 PM
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It's a hazy dream I have to write something about my experiences. Maybe if I do retire...at least I could help that way. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:06 PM
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Even convinced and in prison all of the rapists claim to be innocent victims of female revenge. One of the first things I learned was not to validate that thought. Where there is smoke, there's fire. If they were in a position to even be accused, they are guilty. BLOCK AND DELETE, Queen. I just want to point out that most women have been assaulted. And no man ever admits to being an assaulter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:00 PM
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Yes! Especially verbally and in mixed company, women tend to do this which makes them sound so unconfident and unsure. Don't even get me started on vocal fry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:57 PM
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Oh. I don't think so. Society normalizes this. It rings true because scrotes are so porn addled they go for younger and younger girls. Look at all of the child porn busts lately...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:50 PM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:47 PM
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Yes! This resonates, thanks! It's why I will wear a mask until I cannot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:45 PM
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Yeah, I read another one about a guy who had tantrums and got so angry his wife didn't want to play with him anymore because it's just a game. She would just keep trying. BUT. IT'S. JUST. A. GAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:44 PM
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You're so kind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:39 PM
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Ouch. I'm grateful for the support and awards, but what I wrote is real and came from my heart at 2 AM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:39 PM
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Thank you. You're an inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:37 PM
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See, here's the thing about OLD. We assume the dating apps are to match us with similar minded people. But when I think hard about how a business works, successful matches would destroy the business of getting people together. So I know since the gender ratio is skewed, there are so many bots to keep pornsick scrotes busy and occupied. And the men figure it out rather quickly because the bots don't give them the perfomative emotional labor they're so used to getting from women. And a lot of scam…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:34 PM
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BIPOC are always perceived as older than they are. The rot runs right through our culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:25 PM
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They think it's legal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:24 PM
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There are books out there. I love the reading list for this sub. Just finished rereading Robin Norwood Women Who Love Too Much. Damn that resonates with me. We are so conditioned to to slaves to everyone else at all costs by our society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:23 PM
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Age of consent, I tried to explain is actually more nuanced. In a lot of places it depends on the age of the other person and is usually about marriage without parental consent and medical stuff. I know so many cases where 18 year olds are in jail for being with 16 year olds. And in relationships, girls are stupid enough to send naked pictures to their boyfriends. The mods don't believe me about actual person I work with who were imprisoned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:21 PM
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It's ALL hard. I did do relationship counseling. It teaches men how to manipulate women further, especially if they have sociopathic tendencies already. Women care so we burn out in this profession no matter what. It reminds me of a joke about 2 psychologists: an older man and a younger who worked side by side. The younger man asks the older one why he's never stressed at the end of the day. The older guy says that he just never listens to his clients. Sadly, this is true...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:18 PM
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My children are my joy. Unexpected blessings who are smart and loving and caring. And I read. Baths. I should do more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:12 PM
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Exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:11 PM
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I'm older (41) and am definitely East Indian in appearance. My interest in men is practically zero due to past traumas, plus my work as a profiler and forensic psychologist specializing with pedophiles. However, in my experience, while white men tend to fetishize all Asians, they are the least scrotey in my opinion. The guys I dated from my culture were LVM who were mama's boys, and lazy AF. HVM are rare in every culture and ethnicity. My current partner seems to be HVM, but of course he's not p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:07 AM
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There's one I just read elsewhere about a 17 year old girl raped by her 25 year old boyfriend. She told him no repeatedly. She had an orgasm and thought it therefore wasn't rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:53 AM
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Update: Got banned from the sub so I must be doing something right. Sigh. Edit: I always say my piece: this is what I sent them. As the OP never revealed her location, we don't actually know if her relationship was legally consensual. By banning me, you are potentially tacitly endorsing statutory rape. But sure, I am the problem. Not the pederasts who support this nonsense. Age gap relationships can be great: as I said I am currently in one M60, and divorcing my ex M67. I am not surprised that a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:38 AM
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Merci beaucoup! J'apprecis votre support. Vous êtes vraiement gentille et sympa.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:37 AM
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But it's only the HV people who even are able to follow the logic. I am more than happy to inform. As I said, a note or email or push to remind me. I believe education and truth and compassion are the best ways to live and spread messages.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:35 AM
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I am considering starting mobile counseling and have been transitioning to consulting because I am tired of scrotes. I suffer from post concussion syndrome. Two car accidents where I was rear ended, plus a couple of attacks in prison. Too many concussions. My short term memory sucks. But, if anyone is interested, maybe I could do some writing for the website if given a topic? Mods? I need nudging and reminders. And thank you for your lovely compliments. Oh you guys make me so grateful for the su…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:27 AM
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That's amazing! I hope to one day. The sex tourism is one battle I haven't fought yet, outside of my own country.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:07 AM
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Thanks! Speak French because I'm Canadian and proud of it! That's so kind. I live in a beautiful country that will be 70% vaccinated by the end of August and I LOVE beaches. Definitely traveling this summer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 08:06 AM
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Thank you for the laugh! I'm glad I got so mad that I got around the pedophile word ban lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:47 AM
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The best way to save ALL children is to spend time with them and make them feel loved and valued. Any kid. I am the neighborhood mom who has been answering every question honestly. And disciplined when necessary. I am such a bitch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:46 AM
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Thank you! I make every fucking rapist who walks into my office cry. I don't consider my job done if I don't. Of course my male coworkers who do way less than me and don't give a shit give me flak. But my prison nickname for inmates AND guards is "Scary Little Bitch". You can be a rad female AND not give a goddamn inch and by now, I think they're all too scared of me to consider I might be unprofessional. I told my male coworkers that making pedophiles cry is cathartic. And it is. I just don't s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:39 AM
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That's a great observation. They almost pre-build alibis. And a lot of people support them and not victims because no one can imagine such cruelty coming from such a NICE guy. Ted Bundy, etc...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:35 AM
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Everything LVM potentially leads to child abusers. The typical redditor fits these categories: can't have relationships with peers, pornsick, out of shape and unattractive, limpdick, exploitative and predatory. Bully who is really a coward. No attachments to anyone really, rude, condescending, semi educated therefore easy prey for conspiracy theories because they know JUST enough to understand the big complicated words and to uncritically think it sounds good and must be plausible. Attention spa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:26 AM
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That's where I am. Thank you. I am in a relationship with someone who's HVM so far. We have a 19 year gap, but I am a grown ass divorced woman who doesn't take shit from ANYBODY. I am no contact with my pickme mother because she lied to my face, and disrespected me in front of my children, and was talking shit about vaccinations even though we knew very well she'd get one. When my brother got Covid last week (after I got fully vaccinated - only because of the cancer which no one in my family is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:20 AM
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I don't know. Some activism of some sort? God, I want to squash all of the scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:05 AM
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I don't know how we can speak out more. How we can drown them out and stop the depravity. I just don't know what to do anymore. The normalization of exploitation is just terrible and pervasive and ongoing. I am running out of energy. Is there anything we as a group can do? Besides focusing on leveling up? Maslow's hierarchy is the standard I have tried to live by. Helping voiceless others is how I deal with my trauma. But damn I am tired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 07:04 AM
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FDS kind of showed me the importance of spreading the word wherever it needs to be. Even online, although like I said, showing compassion and decency on the internet will get you hate. Which is why I rarely engage. But...that girl...I was almost her once...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:50 AM
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One of the female mods PMd me in support. At least it's something. So gross. I really hope OP reads ALL of it. The ad hominem attacks against me were hilarious. I AM an authority. I backed up my statements. Emotional dipshits. I wonder if it's a day ending in Y.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:45 AM
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Oh God. A case about a policeman in South America who committed female infanticide just popped up in my inbox. Long, hard night. Of course it's a cop. We need more help. We need more young women to step up and help. I am drowning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:39 AM
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So...I think I got the last word. They either didn't bother to Google pederasty, or they didn't care. Scrotes are gross. But thank you for the support. I am going to bed, but I could seriously use some strength and support from fellow queens. You're all an inspiration. I am touched at the comments and rewards so far. Ironically, my trauma led me to an age gap relationship, which I don't support (FDS makes so much sense!) and more abuse, etc. Unfortunately so common. I hope the poster saw what I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:33 AM
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Men are gross. Like most of us, my mom is a pick me and my dad started LVM but died HVM. They couldn't even be bothered to Google pederasty. Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:30 AM
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Thank you! I almost feel like we should all downvote them to protest. And the sick thing is, they don't seem to care about being called pederasts. And of course, I am a man hater. I said I just value HVM. Who don't rape or exploit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:26 AM
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No, she was 16/17 when they started. I started telling the scrotes that they are pederasts. That's men who are attracted to 15-17 year olds. Still a category of pedophile. And that they're being too emotional to talk to. Edit: I LOVE your historical shoutout! Yes, scrotes have done horrible things to women for centuries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:20 AM
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Thank you! And feel free to ask anything. I legit am crying at your kind words. I know scrotes will scrote, but God I am tired. I am considering retirement to focus on raising my boys to be HVM. The scrotes are still defending their depravity. I know I shouldn't look, but as a WOC, sometimes I just can't let them have the last word, you know? I rarely comment on social media exactly because we don't have any safe spaces. Except this one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:03 AM
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Thank you for this! You have eloquently put into words things that I tried to tell clients when I was a mental health professional.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 10:35 PM
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This resonated so strongly for me ! Thank you! As a WOC, the BLM comparison really made it hit home. This is exactly how I feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 10:44 PM
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Oh hell yes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 09:17 PM
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Same. Thank you so much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:28 PM
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The last line seems to me to be specifically taking aim at pickmeishas!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:23 PM
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He sounds like a toddler except when my boys were little, I definitely taught them (and am continuing to teach) life skills and contributing to the household. This guy is completely useless. And heaven help her if they spawn together...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:27 PM
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Exactly! Jfc, this is why we vet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 03:26 PM
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They really do center themselves in everything...including our opinions. What an ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:57 PM
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This is beautiful. Thank you. Needed this reminder today.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:27 AM
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I legit stopped reading after I'll annoy you. Yeah, no one is perfect, but a generic mass produced piece of crap to express his emotion for you?! Very telling. Any guy who gave me this would be laughed at and as I walked away I would be saying obviously it represents his feelings for me: fake and cheap and generic. I don't need a basic boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:32 PM
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This is my actual nightmare. I tried to elevate my ex husband. What's the saying? About putting lipstick on a pig? Can't change a loser. Thanks to FDS, if I never meet an equal partner in life to elevate ME, I will happily stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 06:29 PM
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Focus on looking forward, not backwards, even if it's hard. You have to believe better things are yet to come and don't settle or chase.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:15 AM
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You know, I used to think I'd seen and heard everything. I'm a forensic psychologist plus I've dealt with my share of scrotes. But you queens are right: men just keeping lowering the bar further and further into hell. I can't say that this shocked me any further than a raised eyebrow. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:46 PM
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Thank you for this. I feel it needs to be said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 11:43 PM
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Came here to say this. He doesn't care about her character or dreams. She's just an appliance. I wish I had the entitlement of a mediocre man sometimes. Geez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:44 AM
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