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| 51 | ⚠️ Angry woman incoming.I'm sorry you let yourself down, but you're not alone in this. Pretty much every woman on this sub has let herself down at some point, often much more than once. Beating yourself up about it a lot won't do you any good though. Learning from your mistakes and working on yourself to ensure you don't repeat them is the best thing you can do for yourself. That I have to be on guard when dating. That I have to look out for signs and everything. It's so fucked up that this even is a thing?! I really f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:59 PM |
| 11 | How do you handle exes who, whilst not harassing you directly and having no contact with you, are still acting in strange ways around friends you have in common? Crying to/in front of them, tirades about missing you, asking them to deliver messages, etc?Yikes, what a nutcase. You don't have to care about what he's doing though. I am shocked your mutual friends continue to see him when he's behaving like this, tbh. It's their choice to listen to his attempts to manipulate them to manipulate you, not your choice. I would recommend you tell your friends you have been and will continue to be no contact with him, and if they hang out w/ him, that's they're choice, which you'll respect, but you would rather they not tell you about him at all. Sounds … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 04:52 PM |
| 7 | Words and ActionsWhy does he want her to meet your family though? How are we not all in universal agreement that that's a HUGE step?? Like...?? I'm so confused lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/21 03:35 AM |
| 12 | women - vet, vet, vet! because you don't want to be married and with children to a man that thinks like this! motherhood penalty & fatherhood bonus exist! inquire about their thoughts on the labour force and what they think are the sources of wage inequality!"who view work as an aberration" well said. This guy talks like he wouldn't have to have a job if he wasn't married with kids. Like, my guy, it's been the way of things since the dawn of mankind that if you want to eat, you must work lol. My dad got laid off and ended up as a SAHD when I was about 8 (he tried to return to the work force but it didn't work out). I wouldn't say it made him any less of a man. Providing is important to real men (scrotes as we know, claim it is but don't mean it), an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:30 PM |
| 30 | Words and ActionsHe introduced her to FAMILY, but didn't want anything serious? Wtf? Why would you introduce someone to your family if you don't plan on keeping that person in your life a long time? I wonder actually if scrotes say stuff like "I'm not looking for a serious relationship" as insurance, a way to leave the door open. He can treat her like a girlfriend in case he really likes her, but if he gets bored of her, or gets cold feet, or thinks he can do better, he has the insurance to dump her at any time … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 08:01 PM |
| 83 | When we say some men are delusional, this what they mean. Your wife is not yet born is creepy! Calling women pretty young things is gross and dehumanizing.And I thought that SNL "meet your 2nd wife" skit where one future 2nd wife wasn't even born yet was comedic exaggeration...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/21 12:42 AM |
| 2 | FDS Success - Thank you!That's so sweet! Very happy for you 🥰. I hope things work out long term w/ him but even if not, you should look at this as a totally positive experience - it shows you caring men exist, and you showed yourself that you can stick to your boundaries and only accept someone who treats you right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Why is it that the men you hoped to never hear from again keep popping up like Lestat from the swamp?Scrotes sense a disturbance in the force when you're so over them, living your best life and/or have met a great new guy. I learned that I was often wrong when I thought a guy was never gonna contact me again lol so I just started blocking always. Recommend you do the same and hope these guys aren't like reappearing irl 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:30 AM |
| 10 | Incredible Story. Friend’s Relationship Not What It SeemsI would distance myself from anyone who is passive aggressive about my own success and tries to minimize it and tear me down cuz they're not happy with their own life. She has chosen to make a series of poor choices for a decade, and instead of getting her own life together, or trying to leave her deadbeat husband who sounds like more of a drain than a help, she's choosing to stick with him and belittle other people. That's not someone who deserves a space in your life. I wouldn't feel very ende… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/21 01:18 AM |
| 11 | Does it ever just make you sad how much women will put up with?I would say probably 98% of women are embarassed and angry at themselves for the loser(s) they once dated. I know I sure am. But. It is what it is. And it doesn't have to be that way anymore. Everyday we make choices about how we want our lives to be, and we have FULL control of never letting crap into our lives again It does make me sad how much women put up with because I see so many women letting life happen to them, instead of actively living life. It's like they are not in the driver's seat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/21 10:14 PM |
| 73 | Twitter finds an FDS post and scrotes are madHow much you want to bet these are the same dudes who cry about how men's mental health is ignored (which is such a lie, mental health is a NONSTOP topic in America at least. And also men have no one to blame but themselves for creating a culture of masculinity that thinks its weak for men to cry/have emotions other than anger, and responds best to aggression and insults not compassion. So cry me a f*cking river 🙄). But when a woman tells you to go to therapy, she's the psychopathic bitch? FOH l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:53 PM |
| 3 | Watch how LVM react to you caring for childrenWhy Does He Do That talks about guys like this - they want all the fun parts of having kids and want the ego boost of family, neighbors, friends, and strangers thinking they're "father of the year." But behind closed doors they're a lazy or even abusive piece of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 10:20 PM |
| 4 | It's perfectly ok to be be single!No longer dating, or desiring to get married, after only 2 years of active dating (in my whole life) was the best decision I have ever made. I understand the single life is not for everyone, but many women don't even consider it, and would benefit from considering it. And would actually benefit from choosing this life style. Many women who are dating are not mentally, emotionally, or financially stable enough to date - they are lonely, have low self esteem, place their self worth on whether or n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Is there a benefit to not adding men on social media, to "keep the mystery" and require them to invest time and effort into getting to know you? What are your thoughts?I personally do not let random men I've only met like once follow me, cuz it's obvious they're only doing it cuz they think I'm hot. These straight up orbiters and lurkers gross me out. It even grosses me out when my friends have orbiters. These guys aren't interested in dating you. They're following you cuz they think you're hot, cuz maybe they want to get an ego boost/have a little fun flirting w/ you over DM eventually, or maybe cuz they'll see if you're DTF at some point. Granted they're fol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:42 PM |
| 13 | Dude makes 6x more and refuses to adjust the 50/50 budgetWhy are these posts ALWAYS worse than they first appear 😭 what a sack of fucking shit. I hope she has family she can move back in w/ so she can get tf out of this relationship. 6 years with this loser she's totally let this relationship warp her mind :(. Because she's old enough to know you should not move in w/ anyone - boyfriend, friend, relative - if you are not financially independent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:26 PM |
| 44 | HVM that make less than youI have a friend in a similar situation to you. And I'll say it depends on your income for your age, your personal preference, and his attitude and ambition. My friend has had a very high paying job since she was in her late 20s, she makes way more than most people her age. It is hard to find anyone her age who makes. as much as she does. So of course her husband makes significantly less than her and always has. However. He is hard working, kind, ADORES her, and has eyes for NO ONE but her. Serio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:21 PM |
| 54 | Pickme’s sacrifice living situation for LVMAsking to check w/ you on overnight guests is very reasonable, the fact that the day she moved in she already broke this rule is like... fr bruh lol. Disrespectful to you and the other tenant. I wouldn't want strange men in my home either. Being a landlord of a property you don't even live in is tough since a lot of tenants are absolute assholes. Whole different story when you live there too. If you want to keep doing it after these two are out, I'd suggest you rent only to older women who aren'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/21 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeAnd people wonder why women's no dating/sex/marriage movements are gaining such momentum 🙄 these men are literally out here broadcasting to the world that will go so far as to marry women they don't even like that much, how can we trust any of them? Waking up and looking for red flags is a HUGE part of avoiding such men, but there are still the ones that get though that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:02 PM |
| 27 | “‘I don’t want to do this’: Forced into marriage, Ruqia Haidari was dead two months later”I'm glad he's locked up but this f*cking animal shouldve gotten life. And you see his "defense"? He "reached a breaking point" after "a long period of rejection, emotional heartache and confusion." Incel rhetoric off the internet, in real life, gets women killed. My ass he "reached a breaking point." This wasn't a crime of passion. He killed her because he felt entitled to. He felt I paid for her so she is required to "be a good wife." He was well aware she didn't want to marry him, and even if … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 10:07 PM |
| 6 | My husband is worried about the stray cats I feedThat's wonderful 💞 happy you two have each other! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:54 PM |
| 80 | Always Date with Intent. Anything less is a waste of timeYes! Just commented w/ a similar message on another post. I think this is why tons of relationships and even marriages fail. People date w/o intent, or look for mainly superficial compatibility, they fuck right away, and just keep dating because of "feelings." Then when the honeymoon phase dies down, and those emotions become less intense, they realize they don't have much else to hang the relationship on, they're actually not compatible. Usually these incompatibilities are present early on, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:52 PM |
| 44 | Scrote keeps gf as bangmaid, grossed out by her wanting future with him?Totally see what you're saying. On the one hand he obviously knows there's no future with her, and he already feels they can't handle long distance (which they won't, he's already not that into her), so like...why not just let her go bruh. And on the other hand, she should see the same and be letting him go. He has actually been honest about it. I wonder if her whole "don't worry about it, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it" attitude is she's telling herself that more than him. Either sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/21 09:48 PM |
| 6 | I am becoming the partner I needCongratulations!! And same! I'm a little older than you and wasted my 20s not traveling and doing a lot of things, cuz my friends couldn't afford it, had other obligations, and cuz I didn't have a bf. I kept thinking someday I would have one and he'd take my places. I stopped dating a year and a half ago and this year once it became more safe to travel I said fuck it. I'm taking ME places, by myself, because I'll be a dusty old skeleton if I wait for someone to take me somewhere. I've enjoyed it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:42 PM |
| 20 | I don't think men are capable of seeing us as humans, everBest thing I have gotten from FDS is that the best dating strategy is to not date at all. I have FDS aligned friends who helped open my eyes to male depravity, but nothing did the trick like FDS and the horror and success stories I've read here. I know literally one man who doesnt look at anyone but his wife, or use porn. Anything else but that is unacceptable to me, and probably like 0.5% of the male population is like that, so the odds are I'll be alone. FDS helped me see that. FDS helped me a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:26 PM |
| 5 | Here’s how our ‘critics’ analyse dating and offer advice to fellow blind mice lmao. Low value men who have ZERO stake in the dating field and resort to sterile mathematical calculations as to work out why their last 27 dates didn’t call back....oh I’m sorry- I mean ‘used them for a meal’ ofc 🙄The mental gymnastics needed to create that post than for scrotes to just admit that their unkempt, unambitious, rude, and likely porn addicted asses are the problem... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 11:02 PM |
| 3 | Women are not a rescue plan for men.I wonder too, looking at men like my dad and my friend's dads. My best guesses are 1) the internet allowed losers and incels to gather together into echo chambers where they reaffirm each other's shitty lifestyles and blame society/everyone else but themselves, thus cementing this as a valid lifestyle 2) these losers were created cuz many millennials and gen z were raised with much less strictness and responsibility compared to their gen x or baby boomer parents (if I hear one more time from my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/21 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Part of vetting is seeing if he can grocery shop and cook without being spoon fed like a toddler.Girl....you should be embarassed to make this and your man should be embarassed to need this. My mother would NEVER and my dad would be like "what am I, an idiot!?" if someone thought he needed this. Why do women put themselves into relationships like this 😩. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 8 | Women are not a rescue plan for men.Very well said on your part. I see what women in South Korea are doing for example and I love it. If men are not meeting your standards, that doesn't mean you accept that and engage with them, it means you just simply live your life w/o dating, sex, or marriage. Nbd honestly, there's tons to do in life w/o that. God even my ninety nine year old grandmother has said "men expect the women nowadays to take care of them." I have not ever really talked to her about how much dating sucks and yet she s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Today I was told to be less professional at work...That's fucking gross!! Don't feel stupid for your reaction - he was so WILDLY unprofessional out of the blue it caught you off guard. It would catch most people off guard and I probably would've done the same. I agree with other comments here that this jackass wanted you to flirt with him. If he felt weird being called by his last name he would've simply said "my first name is fine" and not said all the other creepy crap And you're right to maintain professionalism. I'm sorry creeps took your fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 9 | Older Singles Have Found a New Way to Partner Up: Living ApartMy grandma's friend did this. She was widowed for quite some time, then began seeing this guy, who asked her many times to move in w/ him. And she was like hell no, I want to live in MY house, and also what happens if you die (he was older than her and they date from their 70s to 80s I think), the house goes to me instead of your kids? That won't be pretty. So eventually he realized she wasn't going to move in w/ him, no matter how nicely he asked, and so he bought a house across the street haha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:37 PM |
| 6 | Wife and mother is "starting to feel taken advantage of" by "exceptionally smart" husbandMy incredibly intelligent husbandoat all of my money playing the stock market and is now a stock market/gambling addict. Who also let our car get repossessed and won't get a job. I hope she thinks of her child first and does everything to protect that baby. The first step of which taking all her money and putting into an account in her name only. And then divorce his ass. Or at least move out and get tf away from him. Being a single mother is better than being a single mother married to a leech … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:24 PM |
| 4 | It's better to be single & work on yourself than strain yourself with a LV entanglement (My Story)Congratulations!!! And wow, good luck with the house! That's super impressive at 23! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/21 09:18 PM |
| 16 | Lol, do we have a Self Aware Wolves flair?He's only just noticed this in the last few years 🤣? Damn dudes really are fucking dense lol. Pretty sure 9/10 women learned to be wary of single men when we were teenagers or younger. Blame the rest of your sex for hitting on us anytime, anywhere, even when we clearly want to be left the fuck alone AND EVEN TELL U SO (yes I'm talking about you, weirdo on the beach who came back to get that second L from me a half hour after I said "I'm not interested") | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:32 AM |
| 6 | As she should !YOOOOOOOO what the fuck!?!? I cannot STAND men like this, who treat women in the same rough and disrespectful way they talk to their friends. Like u know this is the kind of guy who calls his male friends f*ggot as a joke. She's your gf, not your stupid fucking friend. I hope she dumped him cuz he's waaaay too immature to have a gf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:25 AM |
| 26 | Being alone is better than being in a relationship with a LVM that drains you - there is so much freedom and peace in learning to be comfortable outside a relationship.TRUTH. In the last year and a half I've come to realize how good I have it not being tied down to a bf, forget about a husband or kids. I've lived totally alone for the first time and realized what a joy it is. I wish I knew how good I had it years ago, instead of letting myself feel bad about not having a bf and fucking my life up with dating. But better late than never to realize how wonderful it is to be a hermit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:15 AM |
| 40 | My best friend's BF dumped her on the day she got a PROMOTION!My friend is likely getting a divorce and one of the things that has pushed her over the edge is how her husband doesn't care about her successful new business and even seems annoyed about it. She knows its because he's so fucking insecure he doesn't want her to be independent and not need him financially. Same from this cowardly little shit. He didn't like that she's doing better than him so he dumped her. Asshole. I'm sorry for your friend but she's better off w/o this ugly loser. I'm sure in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:12 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inI have so much respect for you to handle it like that. You should be very proud of yourself, like the amount of hard work it took you to get over what he did to you and then breeze on by him like he didn't exist /chefs kiss. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:06 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inSo looks like my friend is going to be getting divorced....im so disappointed in and angry at her husband. They have had cycles of problems since they have been together, but they always "got through it." Well, they didn't, they really just ended up shelving it for later, because they'd have fights about the same stuff again some time later. It seemed like they were getting better though, that they were approaching some understanding. But apparently it's just been getting worse. They have some m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 05:02 AM |
| 12 | Traveling with your partner will separate the HVMs from the LVMsAwww he sounds great, glad you guys have each other! You're so right about traveling being a good indicator. My friend has gone on a few short trips with her bf go nearly a year and she can get kinda hotheaded at times, and she's like he's always very calm so if he can handle me that's a big plus lol. Hope there's a lot more fun trips in your future! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 11:35 PM |
| 19 | Since finding this subreddit, I have realized that I need therapy. Nothing could have prepared me for how painful it is, but I know that in the long run it is saving me from a life of choosing an abusive LVM.You are on the right track!! Seeing that you are part of the problem and actively seeking help is a HUGE step. Speaking from experience lol. I had a sad conversation about a mutual acquaintance today, a woman who wants to deny reality and not admit she's been quite frankly self harming with men for years. She even admitted she cannot be alone and instead of realizing that isn't normal and that she needs therapy, she keeps clinging to guys who tell her they don't even want her. She won't even par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 11:21 PM |
| 194 | I salute this woman who built a fence. Good job lady.He may have well just said "Cher you're triggering my insecurities about my manhood waaaah!!" My dad would be impressed and floored if I built a fence. He'd offer to do it for me in the first place because he's actually a man and so would choose death over incompetence/not knowing how to do something, and is always jumping to help people, especially women. It's even worse because this woman was his friend not his gf or wife. Hope she drops him. What kind of self absorbed prick reacts to a messag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/21 02:58 PM |
| 2 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementIt's definitely possible! I think it's more common with 50+. My grandma's friend lost her husband when she was only in her 50s or 60s, then had a boyfriend for many years some time later. He kept asking her to move into his house and she was like hell no lol. She liked living in her house, plus it was impractical - he was older than her, so what happened if he died, he would have to change his will to leave the house to her instead of his kids? It would make things too messy. So eventually I gue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/21 12:40 AM |
| 20 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementI’m so entrenched in my love of privacy living by myself I just discovered this within the last year and wish I'd realized long ago that I was always lucky to be single. Wasted years of my life chasing men and letting that depress me. Living with a best friend, and now on my own has been so nice. I don't want to get married or even date anymore cuz why the hell would I want to have to think about some freaking guy and what he wants? I love having my own space that is totally mine. I'm atrocious … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 09:12 PM |
| 11 | Your Friends Are Not Free TherapistsWell said. I used to dump on people too much and I hate that I was like that. I'm lucky I didn't push more people away. Now I'm all about taking pride in solving my own problems. It's okay to ask for help, but when it comes to dumping on our friends with our dating problems...we're just looking for someone to lie to us, to tell us this guy is going to suddenly treat us right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 08:46 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-inI know it's coming from a good place but why do people equate getting married with someone taking care of you?? I'm a fucking adult, I don't need someone feeling bad for me because I don't have a man to take care of me. I take care of me. If you have a man should he take care of you? Yes. If you don't have a man, does that mean you don't have anyone to take care of you? No. I take care of myself and my family and friends support me. The irony is this was said by a relative who destroyed her body… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:40 PM |
| 16 | If you're still using dating apps, you're a pickmeAGREE! Like could you technically meet a good guy on an app? Sure. Is it worth the ENDLESS litany of scrotes you have to talk to and go on dates with? No, not for 99% of women. It really screwed with my self esteem. And just made me so frustrated. It was a big factor to my stopping dating. The idea of having to have yet another one of those ~get to know you~ app convos or dates makes me want to hurl myself through a f*cking window lol. I only know 2 decent men who used dating apps - my brother w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 07:15 PM |
| 55 | Things don’t change even if he marries you. He would get you pregnant and still force you to abortHe doesn't even remember he talked her into/attempted to talk her into getting an abortion... TWICE!? AND DIDN'T EVEN GO WITH HER to the operation!? he's a vile fucking piece of shit. I'll bet he knew she wanted the baby, but he was too selfish and lazy to care for him, he manipulated her into getting an abortion. I wish she had stood up for herself before :( I hope she sees the light soon and realizes she feels resentment for a reason, and she should kick his ass to the curb | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:53 PM |
| 18 | Another post to say "thank you" and to say to the newcomers, Give it time!! Also this might be some helpful advice for recovering kinkme's.Congrats!! Also "there is a chatter that isn't there" - I feel similar. FDS helped me realize i actually don't even wanna date lol so this chatter and shrill buzz that was in my life for the years I was dating is gone. Very grateful for this sub. Thanks for sharing your story of progress! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:48 PM |
| 45 | TIL: The Left Hates Women Having Reproductive Choice with Their Whole Being. Their new tactic is to smear Sexual Selection as “TERF and Nazi propaganda” with doctored screenshots. Did You Know Not Having Sex With Men You Don’t Want To is Eugenics?Dude. I literally see the left getting all pissed when red states pass laws that limit abortion access based upon testing for genetic diseases during pregnancy. Once again, the left pretends to be women's friends, and then says stuff like this, going against their own beliefs just to trash their "enemies." What does anyone gain by attacking women like this? Calling OP a nazi and a TERF is clearly just bullying to shut her up. These people on Twitter know how loaded those words are and how people… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 06:45 PM |
| 85 | Don't be a weekday chick!Great post. It's also interesting because I know a woman who is ignored Monday through Thursday and goes running to the man when he hits her with that wyd on Friday. So actually she's a weekend only girl. But this guy's a fucking bum who has no hobbies so maybe that's the difference 🤔. She spends the whole weekend with him in his dad's basement like, watching YouTube cuz he's too cheap for Netflix, and buying her own take out dinner 🙃. She's mid 30s and he's mid 20s, and he's been telling her fo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | A treatise in favor of casual snoopingAs a friend of mine once said, if you're sucking his dick and letting him fuck you, he has no right to privacy lol. Of course if you go through his stuff constantly and he's not hiding anything, thats probably a you problem with trust. But casual snooping, especially early on, or here and there throughout to make sure he's not lying to you, is fine. If that's what you're doing and he gets pissed, ask yourself why would he get pissed if he has nothing to hide? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:52 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Check-inThanks to everyone on this sub for the positive changes in my life within the last year or so. This sub really helped me with losing my desire for dating and marriage, and my life has been so much better since. Why the fuck did I keep dating, keep doing that shit that turned me into someone who ruined her own damn life? I hate that I was so stupid as to be my own worst enemy and used dating as a coping mechanism, and that's why I wouldn't give up scrotes riddled with red flags. But at least that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:46 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-inYay, very happy for you! Thanks for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:29 PM |
| 2 | SHIT LIST 💩 a "get the fuck over him" strategy for breakups.Great list! Bookmarking in the event I ever date again . Shit lists should be kept for guys in your scrotation to help keep you grounded by smashing any of those false warm & fuzzy feelings. I won't say "hopefully the list is empty." What I will say is I hope any shit list a woman keeps for a man is always brutally honest. Life is always better when we are brutally honest about our relationships with others and ourselves! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:26 PM |
| 3 | The difference between a real HVM and a fake one- how they treat you at the end.Well said. When I broke up with this asshole I briefly dated, who claimed to love me so much and acted like a ~feminist ally~, he was a total little bitch about it. He tried to guilt trip me, sent me paragraphs for a couple days after still trying to guilt trip me until i blocked him, then still tried the guilt trip when he returned my stuff, and then STILL tried it one final time when I removed him as a friend on the last social media we were still friends on. Btw this was after I told him I wa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:21 PM |
| 3 | The bigger a dude, the nicer he tends to be. I don't even care about height from an aesthetics standpoint, but I don't date short men because they usually have a Napoleon complex and terrible personality.An empathetic woman who genuinely does not care about these things, to begin with, might fall into the trap of assuming women and men are socialized the same and the latest trend of feminism that wants to frame everything as "x harms men too!" just makes things worse. Exactly. The most important thing I ever learned was that I believed men think like me and my female friends. They do not, and believing they do and dating like that will cause serious harm to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:07 PM |
| 3 | How FDS helped me recover from an abusive relationshipI am so sorry he abused you for all those years. What a fucking monster. And I'm sorry that you didn't have a helpful support system at the time. If you had REAL friends, they would've been horrified hearing this controlling behavior and encouraged you to leave. I hope you have some solid, true friends now! And I'm glad you have FDS. I see stories like yours daily on this sub and that's why the other subs that say we're nasty gold diggers make me laugh. This sub has helped thousands of women imp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 07:00 PM |
| 3 | Are you doing the Pickme Backslide?You know what you need to do. And no one can do it but you. You're not the only one in this boat, if it helps. A friend of mine would keep turning back to her ex, the only long term relationship she'd ever had, when things went bad in her own life. She broke up w/ him, asked to get back together later, broke up w/ him again, and then like 3 years later tried to get back together w/ him a 3rd time. Thankfully he said no, but they should've blocked each other. Instead they kept talking, my friend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 06:48 PM |
| 9 | So guys do expect you to be a live in maid just because they earn more than you do. Nevermind the fact that if he lived alone he would still have to do them.I don't feel much sympathy for people like this because bitch you knew she had loans before you married her??? If he's so pissed off he has to support her while she pays off her student loans, and feels superior to her that he worked 2 jobs and got scholarships, then why did he marry her lol. Finances are super important and a legit reason to not stay w/ someone. If he didn't like that she has all this debt, then why is he with her? Assuming he's telling the truth (which, debatable lol), as anot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 06:31 PM |
| 20 | For Any Lurking Skeptics - when you don't vet, you end up with an STD. Do not assume men care about your safety. PROTECT YOURSELF!Some quotes I'd like to highlight What she told Evans was almost oversharing, but, she says, she felt it was the right thing to do. She told him she'd recently broken up with a long-time boyfriend, her fifth sexual partner, and hadn't slept with anyone in a few months. With the exception of one irregular Pap smear in 2002, she had a clean bill of health and had never tested positive for STDs. Ask yourself, what benefit can I gain by telling my entire sexual history to a man I have only known mer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/21 06:10 PM |
| 1 | I survived a weekend of low value temptation, thank you ladies.That's great! Looks like you've developed good coping mechanisms for when you start feeling lonely, etc. The weekend you chose to have was infinitely better than the weekend you would've had if you chose to ditch your progress. You're doing all the right things 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:33 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-In 17 May 2021Some dude catcalled at me from a car today so I told him fuck off, and ladiez u kno what his response was...."i have more money than you!!" Well that's a new one 😂. I wonder, are men changing it up and trying to come at you with responses that are more bizarre than insulting?? And also embarrassing too, like dude, I just embarassed u in front of the whole neighborhood, and you've chosen to make it 10x worse by loudly trying to console your wounded ego 😂? I CANNOT with these absolute fuckin CLOWN… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:21 PM |
| 27 | Had a funeral for a close relative a few years ago and it helped me get some closure. They don’t like expensive weddings and now they don’t think people should have funerals either if they want one? Fuck outta hear with your cheap assPrint invitations from your home printer 💀 Is this guy 15??? This is embarrassing lmfao. Dude doesn't know the difference between inexpensive and tacky/cheap. Also this really gives me like, total lack of empathy vibes. To not even understand that people are usually pretty ecstatic about getting married to the love of their life, so they want to celebrate. Or how it's a universally accepted cultural phenomena to honor the dead through a ceremony of mourning and life celebration, and that it is c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 09:07 PM |
| 34 | And this is why you demand more for yourself and set clear boundaries and expectationsFriend of mine, her now husband, when they began dating about 4 years before they got married, he was mr I don't believe in labels after a couple months. So she was like okay well I like you, but I want a boyfriend, so bye. And he was like OMG NO I take it back ill commit to you! Then he was Mr idk if I believe in the institution of marriage. So as she approached 30, she told him she was getting married at 30, and it was up to him if he was going to be the one she married lol. Over time he chang… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:59 PM |
| 17 | I still have a “pick me” mindset.You're on the right path. Moments of doubt are normal and the important thing is they don't last long and you get over them quickly. You don't sound to me like a pickme :). Sounds like these guys felt off to you, and so you didn't bother, which is the right thing to do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:48 PM |
| 8 | Y'all I'm so HEATED when it comes to how my friends male partners treat them.Seriously. Having goals other than family and motherhood is important. Even if family is one of your top goals...you have to look for husband material in order to reach that family goal. Not date guys who live in their dad's basement and don't even want to be your boyfriend. It just scares me that she doesn't even realize she clearly needs therapy, because she's chasing after abusive guys to fill some need :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:26 AM |
| 8 | Meme I found posted on a Facebook page. The joke flew over a bunch of men's heads, and a lot were commenting dumbass stuff like the guy in the second slide [translation in comments]Racism on top of misogyny, wonderful 🤢. What disgusting guys | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:05 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-In 17 May 2021Girl same!!! I found a couple of those guys attractive, but overall...meh. A guy is definitely a million times more attractive if I know and like all those things you mentioned too. He has to look the part physically obviously, but if he's got a nice body and shit personality/morals/whatever, the body doesn't even do it for me anymore. If he was maybe an 8/10 physically, personality, mannerisms, etc can bump that attractiveness up to a 10 (still has to be my body type tho...like for me, no matte… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 06:03 PM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Check-In 17 May 2021This is so sweet! You're making me miss one of my besties who I lived with last year. We spent sooo much time together cuz of covid and never got tired of each other haha. I'm glad your break up made space in your life for this new wonderful relationship. That's so cool. Be proud of yourself for not holding onto someone out of fear, loneliness, etc! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-In 17 May 2021I saw a girl asking for advice about how her boyfriend is very close friends with a guy she had to cut off. She cut this guy off because he has catfished people by pretending to be her (using photos of women who look like her, even claiming he is her nationality!!) 🚩 . He is in his 30s and regularly pretends to be a teenage girl when participating in online fandoms with mostly teenage girls (like Steven Universe stuff) 🚩. The girl and her bf have talked about getting married, and the bf wants th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:52 PM |
| 7 | Why are relationship-seeking attractive men on OLD single? What’s the catch?What I came here to say lol. My brother and his wife are then only proven OLD success I know, but they met in 2015, when the OLD culture was somewhat different (I think not as much hooking up). And they met on coffee meets bagel, which was not conducive for hook up culture, since you were limited to a small # of profiles per day. Otherwise those apps are a waste of time for anything other than hooking up and getting ghosted lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:46 PM |
| 56 | Y'all I'm so HEATED when it comes to how my friends male partners treat them.and she said she can't be alone When will woman realize that they can give themselves the love and intimacy they crave so badly from shitty scrotes. This hits hard because I was like this for a while, and I didn't realize the 2nd part until I hit rock fucking bottom. An old coworker of mine has been ruining her life with bad men for several years because of this, she can't be alone. She is 35 and wants kids but for a couple yrs has been dating some millennial who lives in his dad's basement, is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:30 PM |
| 1 | world travel vs stabilityI hear you about fear of getting the support you need. I see with my friends, even the best of men, who truly love their wives, my friends have had to set hard boundaries and make the husbands step up with the baby. It wasn't quick and easy either, because the husbands didn't really understand what the wives were going through at first - how much work they did, how the husband got his alone time and time to relax because the wife never did. The husbands shaped up eventually, and the problems did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 05:13 PM |
| 1 | world travel vs stabilityI used to want to be married and have kids, then I started dating lmao. Questioned it for about a year and then quarantine made me realize how much I love being alone and not having to deal with anyone else's problems. I can't even imagine a man that would be safe to marry, forget about one it would be safe to get pregnant with! (or adopt a child w/) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:46 PM |
| 1 | world travel vs stabilityThat's horrific! I have worked around special needs kids very little, and they did not have severe disabilities, and yet I saw how much extra care those kids need compared to mainstream kids. It's scary and stressful even for spouses with a strong bond, but for your husband to walk out on you? Horrific and unforgivable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/21 02:44 PM |
| 54 | world travel vs stabilitySeriously! I also learned recently watching a history/anthropology show that pregnancy scars on your pelvis. I don't even ask for it and constantly I am given more and more reasons why my intense desire to never be pregnant is a good thing for me. That plus being pregnant requires a man who actually loves you, treats you right, and would be a good father which lmfao, where does that even exist, w/ the millennial and gen x men who are pornsick and don't want to commit until 40??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:50 AM |
| 5 | Russell Wilson😍Those biceps 😍 plus the fact that he seems a wonderful husband to Ciara 💕!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:32 AM |
| 9 | Men still harass us no matter what we wear cause it doesn't change what they know we have underneathI really feel this, on the mask keeping my identity hidden from men. Whenever I've gotten sexually harassed while wearing a mask, I'm like well at least they can't see my face. It's not comfortable to wear when it's warm but idk I might still even once the mask mandates are lifted, just to keep anon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:25 AM |
| 134 | world travel vs stabilityWould anyone in these birthrate studies like to factor in the deadly potential of pregnancy and childbirth into the falling birth rate?? Like sorry, I'd like to not very possibly die just to produce a future taxpayer 🙄. Grosses me out how governments' concerns over falling birth rates are that they won't have a large enough working class to tax. Oh my the horror, that's definitely why I should risk my life, risk potential life-long lasting damage to my body, and irreparably change my life foreve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 10:04 AM |
| 28 | "My ex is crazy" is still a red flag, even if he's telling the truthYup, either he's a poor judge of character and willingly dated/kept dating someone crazy, OR, on the rare chance he truly got screwed by a legit crazy ex through no fault of his own, she would now be your problem too if you dated him. Sane goes for people with batshit family or friends. Don't date people who are within a social circle of or orbited by crazies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 09:54 AM |
| 14 | Imagine wanting to take multiple girls for coffee and not even being able to pay for it and then complaining about women using men in the comments. What a scrote. The pickmeishas in the comments are even wose"women don't care about men's feelings as much as they are trying to avoid the "consequences" of saying no: violence, shame, mockery, ridicule, gaslighting, possible job loss." Well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 03:40 PM |
| 8 | Men on unemployment think that this applies to them - at least it was an unemployed man who posted this. It doesn't matter how many hours some scrote works, a strong woman will NOT settle for this!!And how many men who liked this post recognize the reason they come home and can turn their brain off, the reason they get a break from work, the reason they can go to sleep in a clean bed after a day at work, is because of all those hours their gf/wife put into taking care of them and the house? How many men who liked this post recognize all the work their stay at home gf/wife does? Do they recognize the work it takes to keep an entire house clean and raise children? Do they recognize that she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:56 AM |
| 4 | Women posting their W's -"We are Childfree". We do not need to conform to society standards of what they think we should do or be. We can be whatever we want.Thanks so much for sharing this!! I think often about how I can live in a time and a place where I won't be forced to get married and have children. How often has having a choice been a common reality for women throughout human history?? Like pretty much never before right? I know many women still face a lot of social pressure/people thinking they're weird, so it's nice to see a whole website dedicated to positive stories! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:50 AM |
| 9 | Thank you to this sub for reinforcing what I've been doing against my friends advice!You're doing all the right things! I wish I was you in my mid 20s. I started beating up on myself, thinking I was a freak because I'd never had a bf or even dated anyone. I didn't even have bad friends! I had amazing friends and maybe if I'd shared my thoughts plainly with them, they would've told me I was being ridiculous and to not worry about it. I held onto guys and pushed away some friends and really really screwed my life up because I thought I had to hold onto crap. I wish I'd never dated… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:34 AM |
| 2 | Thoughts on changing your name when you get married?This is one of those things where you just have to go with your gut. I don't want to get married anymore, but when I did, I had no intention of changing my name simply because my mom didn't. No deeper reason other than she didn't, so I didn't want to. Maybe I felt like it was a tradition? Anyway, my mom did not keep her maiden name cuz she thinks taking the husband's name is misogynistic. She doesn't. She kept it 100% because it's the practical thing to do lol. She didn't want the headache of na… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 07:23 AM |
| 97 | Imagine wanting to take multiple girls for coffee and not even being able to pay for it and then complaining about women using men in the comments. What a scrote. The pickmeishas in the comments are even wose"I don't feel like I owe someone I'm seeing anything" Sad that she thinks this way :/. First of all, the context was grabbing a cup of coffee, that's insane to feel indebted to someone cuz they spent 5 bucks on you. Whether a man chooses to spend $5 it $500 on you, you don't owe him shit. In the business world, a client could take up HOURS of your time and eventually decide not to sign a contract w/ you, and instead choose a competitor. Nobody thinks the prospect should owe anything to the compa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/21 06:20 AM |
| 3 | And the decor in that house is just fabulousI loved this movie too!! Becoming Madame is #goals for me too haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/21 09:01 PM |
| 2 | I’m 35, I love being single, and I honestly can’t see myself being in a relationship with a man ever again. For me, it’s not worth the troubleEwwwww talk about a timely and sharp reminder that men truly ain't shit and you really aren't missing out by not having one lol. I am very happy for the successful, loving couples I know, but I'm grateful I can feel happy for them w/o wanting that for myself. What I would've given years ago to realize how dumb it is to want things that rely on another person lol. Everything I want now I can simply get through hard work 💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:35 PM |
| 3 | I’m 35, I love being single, and I honestly can’t see myself being in a relationship with a man ever again. For me, it’s not worth the troubleAw thank you, I can't imagine being someone somebody admires so I appreciate your comment :). I am 29 and I started feeling like this a year ago. And how it happened well, it's not really an uplifting story lol. A few years ago I made myself feel like such a freak for never having dated and I was so desperate to get married I acted crazy. I really royally f'd up my life and drove away some very close friends because of my poor decisions with dating. I was behaving from a place of very low self w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 08:29 PM |
| 10 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...EXACTLY. so well said. This is exactly what I let happen to me. I was the same age as the OP when this started and I feel worried for her. Every person should have a life of their own they love so much that they are super picky about who they let in. Like your life should be a white carpet and you should assume every man has the dirtiest fuckin shoes you've ever seen lol. If he doesn't show you time and time again his shoes are spotless, that he doesn't want to ruin that white carpet of your lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:23 AM |
| 11 | Seriously, what IS IT with the 20 something girls?! No need for “freaking out” or being scared and “terrified” you'll “never find love”. Those types of posts make me fear for the next generations...Oh fuck no someone help her please, she is the EXACT age where I began to think the EXACT same things (especially the: what's wrong with me?). It was 2 years of what I think must have been depression. I hurt myself and deeply hurt others I claimed to care about, because I thought I had to cling to some fucking loser guy. While I have felt much better for the past year (I stopped dating), I'm never going to be the same lighthearted, silly person I was, and I'm never going to be able to apologize … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:18 AM |
| 181 | I’m 35, I love being single, and I honestly can’t see myself being in a relationship with a man ever again. For me, it’s not worth the troubleSame! I stopped dating about a year ago. I don't miss it at all. As another member of this sub said, I don't have time to live my own life AND run a surveillance state on a man to make sure he's not cheating/watching porn/doing other f'd up shit. I don't want to have to answer to anyone else but myself. I can't even picture a man who'd be worth fitting into my life. I used to be so romantic and want a relationship soooo badly, so it's amazing now how I just feel nothing for it. i am actually kin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:45 PM |
| 124 | Never date men who use their shyness/ reserved personality as an excuse to be low effortThey were also capable of functioning in every other area in their lives before you too. WELL SAID! I think you can condense it even more by saying: if he's too afraid to ask you out, something that is EASY in the grand scheme of life what else is he going to be too much of a coward to do? God forbid you get into an accident, is he going to be able to deal with the hospitals and doctors? Take care of your family solo while you recover? Will he have the balls to ask for a raise/seek a better job … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/21 09:19 PM |
| 25 | The erosion of “normal” as a social conceptYou can’t expect “common sense” because that means something different to each person. The reddit relationship subs in a nutshell. And the thing is, I'm sure the men and women spewing this "advice" know just what common sense and appropriate behavior is at work, or with their boss at the very least. Yes plenty of men do inappropriate shit at work. but I guarentee you none of these people would take this bs "common sense means something different to everyone / I have no social skills or sense of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 08:05 PM |
| 1 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceThank you , he is always there for me and my family so I am lucky 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/21 07:58 PM |
| 8 | Girlfriends/Wives are not on the list of in-network therapistsWell said, and appreciate your perspective from a country where mental health services are easily available to everyone. It seems men either: 1) dump all their problems on someone else, usually a wife or gf, to solve 2) are unsure of how to deal with something difficult so just ignore/never talk about it 3) bottle up their issues like crazy because they have SERIOUS problems expressing themselves. I had an ex like this and while I didn't feel he was asking/assuming I'd solve his issues for him, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:53 PM |
| 8 | Girlfriends/Wives are not on the list of in-network therapistsI like your style on this, it's ladylike but also keeps firm boundaries. Also I can imagine that a certain type of man hears this, and it sends the gears in his brain into overdrive like "wait did she just compliment me or insult me?" 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Girlfriends/Wives are not on the list of in-network therapistsLMAO that's a great quote 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:26 PM |
| 4 | Girlfriends/Wives are not on the list of in-network therapistsAbsolutely. And if he hasn't changed himself by now, and is dumping all his neuroses on you, what's that say about him? That he completely lacks the introspection to see his problems, the drive and discipline to change himself for no other reason than he wants to be healthy for himself, AND that he thinks his problems are a woman's job to handle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:23 PM |
| 5 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.Absolutely, putting your foot down won't work when the other person doesn't respect you, is super entitled, or just determined to be lazy or whatever. That's why I strongly feel there's no hope for OP's husband. And that is insane about your friend!!! Reminds me, I read a comment on here from a woman who lived with male roommates, and they had some shared cookware. She got sick because they never cleaned the cookware properly. I think guys like that feel entitled to their lazy lifestyle, as you … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:21 PM |
| 5 | Let's talk about strategic incompetence"the very thought of being incompetent is worse than death" GIRL do we have the same dad 😂!? Here's 2 recent incidents lol: - I was bicycle shopping a few weeks ago and asked my dad if he WOULD build the bike for me (I knew he would but I didn't want to buy it w/o asking). Not if he COULD build it. And yet his response was "the day I can't put together a bicycle is the day you put me in a home" 😂 like dad I didn't say you were incapable, I just asked if you would do it for me lol - We gave away … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/21 04:15 PM |
| 5 | I’m in need of some tough loveYou made the right choice. Now just to get your emotions on board with your logic. some things to try: Nuke ALL traces of this scrote from your life if you haven't already. Delete his #, texts, social media, etc. If he bought you anything, either toss it, donate it, or if it's something really nice you don't want to part with, put it away. Maybe in a few months it will hold no emotions for you anymore, and you can keep it/use it, and if not, you can get rid of it. Write a list of all the reasons… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 09:00 PM |
| 17 | Oh hey, another shining example of how a LVM will destroy your life and sanity and how engrained gender roles make women think this is somehow okay.She is carrying that ENTIRE family. And they don't even share finances!? He spends all his money on himself!? Are you kidding me? That's disgusting. Absolutely disgusting. I hope she starts standing up for herself TODAY. I think a divorce would be perfect lol, but maybe that would be too stressful for her and she can at least put her foot down on "you're watching the kids for X hours right now. I'm going out, bye" "you're on your own tonight for dinner" "I'm not doing your laundry anymore." And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 08:14 PM |
| 41 | Let's talk about strategic incompetenceThe funny thing is the culture at large (American culture anyway) is very aware that men do this. And yet they still get away with it? For example anyone remember everyone loves raymond? moronic, mama's boy, supposed bumbling idiot extraordinaire? There's an episode about this very thing, where his wife discovers he's been doing an intentionally shitty job at household chores all these years just so he wouldn't be asked to do them again. So yeah. Some obvious ways to avoid the bumbler (not a foo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:56 PM |
| 62 | Don't romanticize the idea of someone who you're unsure about.Great advice. What I recommend, which I picked up from friends, is giving someone a silly nickname or codename. Often one that's mildly insulting lol. My friends and I actually did this in hs to talk shit about teachers lol, but later on in life I met one of my now best friends, who has done this w/ every guy she's dated. Many, because they were not serious bfs, I never even learned their real names, which is why we jokingly call her penchant for nicknames the witness protection program lol. For… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/21 07:00 PM |
| 1 | He blocked me immediately after reading this, he was an absolute nightmare when he’d get drunk. I feel so great that I was able to put him in his place. Thank you FDSSo he creates another instagram to get around your block of his account, to reach out to you for the first time in years (for what!?), and then block you when you tell him the truth. Lol. I cannot with these guys. Good for you. I know we advocate to not respond here, but every once in a while, sending a response and then immediately blocking after is what we need. Sometimes it's what these guys need lol, shamed into finally leaving us tf alone. Its important to know yourself and who you're deali… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 08:53 PM |
| 14 | To the LV Male Lurkers: II IS GOING TO GET WORSEI was just reflecting today on how fortunate I am to be born in a time and place where my life is 100% my own. I have my own money, my own property. I was guarenteed a right to education by law. I can have whatever job I want. I have the choice to not date, to not marry, to not have children, and this is not such a strange or bizarre decision that I would be ostracized from my family or society. I steer myself through the sea of life, no one else. This has almost never been the case for women th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Minnesota Supreme Court rules that man cannot be charged with felony r*pe because victim was “voluntarily intoxicated”So if someone was mugged when drunk, who's to say that drunk person didn't willingly give their money and credit cards to someone else? If choosing to drink and therefore ending up drunk means I automatically consented to sex, why doesn't it mean drunk people automatically consent to any action someone commits against them when drunk?? Pretty sure someone who signed a contracted while blasted would have a judge rule in their favor to declare that contract null and void. But raped while drunk? No… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 09:07 PM |
| 43 | Gaslighting me by telling me not being comfortable with sex talk with a stranger is “unhealthy” 🤢 Analysis in the commentsI was going to say, the fact that he described his perfect day as ending with sex was already an automatic unmatch lol. I cannot stand men like this, men who have no sense of propriety when talking to women. They actually talk to us like we're one of the bros in a way. He's obviously looking to get laid, but like I've dated guys who were only looking for that too and they at least had basic manners/knew to be charming and not crass. And the fact that this dude got sooooo bothered by your answer?… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Suze Orman Uses Basic Math to Show Why 50/50 is Unfair, and How to Fairly Share ExpensesUgh sorry about that awful ex of yours, glad you are seeing someone good now! And seriously idk where the media perception comes from that they think FDS says a man has to be rich to be high value? Like that's Anna School of Affluence lol, who I like but she literally has videos about how to bag a rich dude. We have no content like that. Many times I've seen women post about a guy whom they briefly dated, who spent a lot of money on them, and he quickly turned out to be an LVM. It is as you said… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 07:51 PM |
| 1 | Let's discuss: my walmart is locking up condoms and pregnancy tests! This upsets me, these items need to be easily accessible. They literally page an employee to family planning for the whole store to hear and make you checkout asap.I'm from NYC and I have seen some drug stores lock up condoms. Depends on the area and the store's choice as well I guess. Because locking up DEODERANT is common here too 🙄. I agree there shouldn't be additional barriers to these things either, especially the pregnancy tests. I'm sure there's other customer friendly ways to combat theft. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 10:17 PM |
| 45 | Is there a way to stop our (future) sons to become porn addicts.Don't give your children, male or female, unsupervised internet access or smartphones until maybe high school. Any social media they have, you should be friends with them on it and be able to see what they're doing. Pay VERY close attention to who they're becoming friends with, meet those kids parents, and unless you REALLY know the friend's family, only let kids come to your house, not the other way around. If this sounds extreme, consider 1) any small child could grab a phone and Google porn i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:49 PM |
| 48 | I'm surprised when my HV husband doesn't respond the way I expectVery glad to hear you are healing and that you have a great husband! Imo FDS is really about discovering that you can and should expect to be treated even better than you expect when in a romantic relationship with a man. It does not mean you're difficult, it does not mean you are asking too much, it simply means you know what respect and love look like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 21 | "He Might Not Be A Good Partner To You, Doesn't Make Him A Bad Person"If "not a good partner" means he was a fucking asshole, then he's a bad person, no debate. If "not a good partner" means he just wasn't the right fit for you, he wasn't good for you, because of differences in personality, religion, life goals, etc, then no, doesn't make him a bad person. If I told my friends a mutual male friend treated me shady during our relationship and that's why I broke up w/ him, and they were still friends, I dunno, I can't lie, it would bother me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:24 PM |
| 93 | Suze Orman Uses Basic Math to Show Why 50/50 is Unfair, and How to Fairly Share ExpensesOther important notes: have your own money!! While Suze Orman doesn't have joint accounts w/ her partner of 20+ years, she isn't against them; she notes in the video you may have a joint account, but you HAVE to have your OWN accounts. 50/50 is Unfair because it's not proportional to income - instead, contribute to shared expenses w/ the same percentage. If your shared expenses are 30% of your shared income, then each person contributes 30% of their income to those shared expenses. Different dol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/21 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄I learned it from one of my besties lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 1 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄Haha I learned it from one of my best friends 😂! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 04:04 AM |
| 7 | What's your opinion on "small violent" acts?There's a good section in Bancroft's book where he covers different types of physical violence all the way down to a male domestic partner poking a woman, and how that can be abusive because of the aggression behind it. Any act, no matter how small, if it's intimidating you, making you scared, making you afraid of him, it's a red flag. Best thing a woman can do for all aspects of life but especially a relationship is establish hard boundaries and standards, have the self discipline to stick to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 05:06 PM |
| 22 | Mind of a LVM - Ex Goes Off About Gifts 🙄TL;DR the entirety of this wild dick flute solo, but I didn't have to because - if it's SOOOOO easy and takes SOOOOOO little effort to buy gifts.....then why doesn't he just do it 😂? TF with it with these guys, if they feel SO STRONGLY against the commercialization of holidays and birthdays.... then why are they with someone who values celebrating those things 😂? Also, do they turn down gifts they receive on those dates? Guarenteed she's bought him a nice gift for every holiday lol. (and yes, I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:59 PM |
| 46 | If you removed the context from this post, you'd think it was a mother writing about her toddler son. Why do pickmeishas coddle these manchildren like this? Sis let him cook for himself!I hate to say this because of the struggles people with autism face, but after spending a year on reddit relationship subs, my first thought was to question if he's lying about having autism. I've met and heard about way too many dudes whose culinary tastes do not extend beyond chef boyardee and French fries, and way too many dudes who co-opt therapy language or claim to have a disability to excuse their behavior, to accept this right off the bat. Let's give him the benefit of the doubt thought … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/21 04:43 PM |
| 3 | Got into a fully funded Ivy League program for PhDCongratulations!! I hope you are taking time to celebrate not just your acceptance into this program, but all the personal progress you've made in the last year 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:40 PM |
| 10 | “Flowers are impractical and expensive”, my ex said. He was not a flower guy and I thought I could accept itFlowers are so wonderful 🥰 it's truly unfair that trees and flowers aren't in bloom all year!! That arrangement you made is so simple but beautiful! what a POS your ex was. He made 6 figures and never bought you gifts? That's so gross. I don't even know you and I'm just mad about how much this man disrespected you. You're strong for finally detaching yourself from someone you were with for ten years, I can't imagine how hard that was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 08:35 PM |
| 61 | The man who shot and killed 8 people, 6 of them Asian women, in Atlanta massage parlors yesterday is now blaming his sex/porn addiction.Saw this earlier today and it's just unbelievable how the media is like, just going along w/ this claim? The insane spike in anti Asian hate crimes in the US has gone mostly ignored, and now this is like spitting in the face of the people who were murdered. Those people died because this piece of fucking shit wanted to kill Asian women, so he targeted business that he knew would employ Asian women. As other comments have said, I'm sure there's a disgusting sexual fetish that motivated this as we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/21 12:34 AM |
| 25 | im starting to think its not ok when guys approach women in public without making conversation 1stLike I personally believe unless you meet a girl in a way where you can strike a conversation naturally (and with NO pressure) to feel them out 1st, then you shouldn't be asking them out. I think that's pretty normal. Nobody wants to be bothered while they're running errands or commuting or when they're in a bad mood. A concept that seems foreign to some men lol. I mean you'd basically be giving your number/social media to a total stranger like what?? Who would do that? Maybe some guys who do th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 04:28 PM |
| 26 | A testament that FDS does change how a woman approaches dating (VERY LONG DATE STORY -- hopefully inspirational).He asked after one date if you were dating, what a nutcase!! he DEFINITELY isn't over his ex, or at the very least, is likely feeling lonely and looking for company ASAP. For example, FWB involves a level of physical and emotional bonding. Thus, leading to a level of attachment that I do not want. The more I think about it, I find it rather calculating and manipulative. It's important to keep in mind that a lot of men do not think of sex as leading to emotional bonding. They look at it as just s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/21 12:13 AM |
| 6 | Woman makes a whole presentation to convince a guy to promote her to girlfriend..and this is how low he thinks of her. I'm in utter disbelief.Yeah, you can see this all stems from he's terrified of commitment. More evidence that guys who chase pussy have issues and/or nothing else going on in their life. This dude is so selfish. A responsible guy who's not a POS would end things w/ this girl cuz he knows he can't return her feelings. Because look, there's nothing wrong with hooking up in and of itself. In this particular case it's immoral because it has been this guy's intent since day 1 to hide the truth from and manipulate this girl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 06:49 PM |
| 19 | Chinese dad hand-makes toys for daughter. He plays with her, and even involves her in the designing and construction process. She refers to him as her "superhero." This is the type of man that men should strive to be.Love this! Same energy as the dad who hand made tons and tons of beautiful, intricate outfits for his little daughter. So wonderful to see fathers this dedicated to their children. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:12 AM |
| 32 | I think they’re onto somethingOmg I learned this recently about male angler fish and it was a HORRIFIC discovery. As if that fish needed to be any more creepy. Unfortunately the many different women who post daily in the relationship subs about their bfs/husbands who contribute nothing to the household (and often are unemployed!!) have much in common with this fish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:10 AM |
| 2 | An infuriating example why we dress to impress only ourselves and NOT LVM/NVM!!LMFAO the title, what a baby. I hope this guy is just a troll but men can really be this shallow and petty. Can you fucking imagine dating a guy for 6 months only for him to 1) be so obtuse he doesn't notice her roots 2) throw a temper tantrum over the fact that she's not a natural red head 😂😭. Like. Dude. Yes, everyone has their preferences, and if you aren't sexually attracted to someone, don't force yourself to date them. But she was hot enough for him to date and fuck. Now all of a sudden sh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 03:06 AM |
| 75 | Vice claims that the #1 way to prevent men from going on mass killing sprees is decriminalizing sex work so that incels can direct all of their gender-based violence onto trafficked, marginalized women. Same author who wrote the smear campaign against FDS 🤡So sick of these usually people that try to make themselves into an oppressed minority when they totally aren't. Incels are one ex, and the people who claim they're "oppressed" cuz they "identify" as "kinky" are another. Also @ this articles note that men aren't guarenteed a career or property ownership anymore - I'm sorry, but who the fuck is!? Who the fuck ever was? And say that was the case, that they were once guarenteed these things, by the author's own logic, doesn't that mean these men ar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:09 AM |
| 133 | Woman makes a whole presentation to convince a guy to promote her to girlfriend..and this is how low he thinks of her. I'm in utter disbelief.This dude is such a red piller he calls her a plate. He consciously employs manipulation tactics to keep getting sex from her while being dishonest about his intentions. And yet HE'S the one worried she is trying to manipulate HIM into a relationship!? Never before have I seen such projection lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 12:49 AM |
| 24 | MeNs InFiDeLiTy Is DiFfErEnTDude even Joe Rogan recognizes that if a man prioritizes getting as much p*ssy as possible, especially to the point where he cheats or won't settle down and have a real relationship, then he is caving into some ancient biological urge that has no place in modern society, and he needs to get over it. We are not animals, we are humans, with incredibly complex and intelligent minds with concepts of right and wrong. Everyone knows cheating is wrong. Even the OP. But they just want ways to excuse it.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:10 PM |
| 4 | 5 lies about FDS in Vice's latest hit pieceLmao what IS this bs from vice. Even if I never heard of FDS I wouldn't trust shit from a publication that recently stated "sex work is a cornerstone of society." The "uses biological determinism language" bs really gets me. What are the examples of this? Also, tf is this argument even? I firmly believe that kind of language is used for no reason other than to paint the people it's used against as anti trans. I don't believe that was the authors conscious intent, however, I believe she has so th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 07:04 PM |
| 2 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢Yup. And even if I never heard of FDS, I am not taking advice on dating or relations between men and women from a magazine that thinks the inherently exploitative industry of prostitution is a cornerstone of society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 06:44 PM |
| 7 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢Lmao right? I wish it was satire. For a magazine that's so anti capitalist, so they not see the irony of promoting women selling their bodies for profit simply because the demand for sex w/ female bodies exists | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 07:46 PM |
| 14 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢Seriously. Unfortunately I don't think prostitution will ever be eradicated, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't strive for such a thing. It also doesn't mean we should give up and decide as a society that prostitution is a positive thing. Making prostitution and other sex work legitimate helps only the pimps/johns/corporations like pornhub and onlyfans. Does nothing to help women long term. Yes I recognize it can give women desperately needed money or financial independence but keyword there is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:50 PM |
| 30 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢A friend of mine said recently she heard that Hugh Heffner supposedly funded 3rd wave feminism. I couldn't find any sources confirming that but honestly I wouldn't be surprised, I'm sure he was well aware a movement telling women to sell their bodies for the pleasure of men cuz its "empowering" was in his best interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 09:36 PM |
| 156 | According to Vice: Women's Sexual Appeal to Men "Cornerstone of Civilization" 🤢*Society, oops, sorry about the typo A Vice headline I saw on a female photographer's insta story. I immediately unfollowed her. I love her work but I am not going to support anyone who thinks that a monetary value being assigned to women based upon how fuckable men find them is a "cornerstone of society" Just that one sentence hurt and depressed me, like seriously. Men's desire to pay for access to my body in the most intimate way possible is a cornerstone of society? Women as fleshlights for h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:38 PM |
| 74 | Article on Vice about FDS is laughably inaccurateI unfollowed a female photographer, whose work I really like, on insta very recently because she posted on her story a Vice article that said "sex work is the cornerstone of civilization." I was so disgusted, this is a female photographer whose subjects and customers are almost exclusively women. And she agreed with something that says a cornerstone of civilization is women's monetary value being determined by how fuckable men find them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:31 PM |
| 14 | Her husband is having an “emotional affair” with a younger woman. 🙄 This is why I’m scared to get married and have kids with a man.Same. I used to want to get married but for a while now I'm like hell no. I can't fathom trusting a man enough to legally tie myself to him. Can't even imagine trusting a man enough to have sex w/ him, forget about marriage. I know I'd always be afraid that the other shoe will drop eventually, even if it's 10 yrs later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:25 PM |
| 2 | It's always been there, but the culture developing around rape is terrifyingThanks for linking the right one, super interesting. I quit dating almost a year ago, and it was mainly because I realized I don't want kids, but I can always change my mind because I don't need a man to become a mother. I'm thinking maybe adoption, but it's good to know about groundbreaking science like this too. I don't want to risk HAVING to be with a man if children is what I want out of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:47 PM |
| 3 | It's always been there, but the culture developing around rape is terrifyingI took a look at that bone marrow article you linked. I just want to know why you women are in such a rush to get rid of us. Sounds like the author has never spoken to a woman in his life 🙄. What a jackass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Great thread. I get it’s a joke but it erases the violence and often horrifying nature that has come with being a housewifeMy grandma is the youngest of 8 and was born in rural Europe in 1922; once I was asking her about her other siblings, so she was listing them, and she noted "then it was ww1, so there were no children for those years." And then she said "it was very hard on the women, having children all the time." My grandma has very rarely said anything like that and would downplay it if I tried to talk to her about the concept of patriarchy and how God awful men can be lol. BUT that made me realize she is WEL… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Question about men on reddit, are they particularly low value, porn sick and sexist or they represents the general male population in the west?Since day 1 reddit has had a reputation for being the asshole of the internet, perhaps with only 4chan being worse. This place is the home of the incel movement, so the men on this website are a particular brand of vile loser. I do not think they represent most men HOWEVER manosphere bs and reddit ideology seems to be more common in the real world these days. As an ex I believe someone posted to this sub a while back about a teacher in England who was finding male teenage students across the cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:03 PM |
| 3 | 👑 Listening to this on repeat! It’s valid for me to happiest single. Marriage and babies don’t have to be my life goals 👑"you were not put on this planet to find someone" well said, I really like this. Thanks in large part to FDS, I realized almost a year ago I don't want to be married, don't want kids, don't even want a bf. One of the best things that ever happened to me. Maybe I'll be a single parent by choice, adopting adopt a school aged kid when I'm closer to 40 and if I can figure out the logistics of homeschooling + working full time, but who knows. It just feels good to know the option is there. Since I re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 06:37 PM |
| 1 | That update tho 🙌NEVER accept anyone who tried to make you part with your stuffed animals!!! Or any cute collectibles. Outrageous. I hope she went through w/ notifying him that he'd been fired as a bf! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 06:23 PM |
| 2 | My current bf surprised me by taking a 6 month long course in photography and editing on top of working 90 hour weeks!That's really nice! Haply for you both, hope your relationship continues to go well!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 06:05 PM |
| 23 | What do you ladies think?This is true no matter what economic system you have. When the Soviet Union was born, society didn't achieve true gender equality overnight. It never did and Russia is still a bad place for women (worse than America for ex). When I was studying stuff about post ww2 Russia, this one piece I read mentioned how women still did all domestic labor, childcare, plus many people had farm animals which the woman took care of. The USSR had Women's Day, and this essay noted the irony of how a man would inv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:57 PM |
| 7 | Beware of misogynistic women, too!Proof that the internet will take the most positive of things and say it's evil lol. The OP is literally telling people to celebrate life and the hard work we put into it MORE. That's a great message. The fact that this woman twisted it around to say it's a negative message for women AND claimed it was a pro capitalist statement too? Yeah, she's clearly very happy w/ her life to say something that wildly off base lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:41 PM |
| 19 | Another reminder that hits close to home.Wish someone had slapped me with this 3 years ago /sigh. Better late than never I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:37 PM |
| 35 | I guarantee the girlfriend is leagues more attractive than him. Remember, a lot of men see us as objects. A lot of men only see value in your appearance and they compare you to retouched images of models.Great comment, it's this exactly. Also as another comment pointed out, he didn't even say he wants to be w/ her, he said "someone like her." He is not that into her. He likes her because she is too easy going and maybe doesn't have boundaries (no fights in a year and a half is a red flag), cuz she's "open minded" (which I am SURE he means only sexually, like she's willing to try whatever he sees in porn), and cuz she tells him how much she loves him all the time. He never even said he loves her!… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:36 PM |
| 43 | Unisex Facilities put women and girls at risk of assault. 90% of complaints regarding changing room sexual assaults, voyeurism and harassment are about incidents in unisex facilities.I have seen women on here talk about the voyeurism that happens in unisex bathrooms OR one story where this woman worked a graveyard shift w/ one other guy who used the women's restroom and purposefully trashed it. Other employees were getting angry at her when it was him. So I used to have no problem with single stall unisex bathrooms, and always thought it was kinda funny that my mom is like "no, I don't want to use a bathroom a man has used." But after hearing these stories, I get my mom's pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 47 | The right way to do the tell me you have a husband trendYes, "my husband is a normal human who isn't content to live in a pigsty and cleaned after I cooked" is definitely a better response to this challenge than "my husband is a filthy man child teehee" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 07:55 PM |
| 66 | Chinese dad makes beautiful dresses for daughter; the dad is adorable, the daughter is adorable, and the dresses are adorable! From the South China Morning Post YouTube channelWOW he's so talented! And self taught? Crazy. I also love how it was a sewing machine passed to him by his mom, nice that he is keeping her love of sewing alive. Glad she has such a caring dad! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 07:54 PM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?Absolutely, it's better to have more responsibilities on your own shoulders than live w/ someone who shirks their share of responsibilities, and so you get stuck doing them instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 07:50 PM |
| 7 | Does anyone else find it so hard and cringey when reading other dating subs?A BLENDER WTF....i didn't want to know and yet I couldn't look away from your comment explaining it lol. I mean at least they were drunk. Adult men stick their junk on shit as a prank when they're sober | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 08:12 AM |
| 2 | WHY ARE YOUTUBE ADS SO DISGUSTING NOWOh yes I got it that the ad was separate, but the fact that YouTube let such a thing run at all! And that it showed up on a religious video makes me sick 🤢. Obviously the gross company that is running this ad did their ad targeting wrong, but YouTube shouldn't even allow an ad like this to appear before / during / after a religious video. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:44 AM |
| 10 | If you’re going to do OLD, I recommend OkCupidMet my piece of shit ex on OKC too lol. I thought his app would be better because of all the questions but, it's mostly the same demographic as on the other ones 🤷🏼♀️. Only demographic difference was last time I used it 2 yrs ago, it was FILLED with ugly hipsters who were so identical I swear there was a factory churning them out somewhere lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:41 AM |
| 5 | WHY ARE YOUTUBE ADS SO DISGUSTING NOWI want to vomit that is gross. So sorry you had to see that. That's literally porn in a commercial in a Christian video. Like, horribly offensive AND gross. No wonder some many young people are screwed up in the head, they don't even have to actively look for porn to be hit with it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:34 AM |
| 8 | What are your thoughts on being married to a man who works seasonally and is away several months a year?Him having a whole secret family (or two) was my first thought lol. Dudes have the audacity to have a secret family in the same city, if he was months away at the time, forget it. My old manager's husband worked for the fire department, so he wouldn't be home for a couple days at a time. He would also constantly hang out at the fire house w/ the boys, regularly past midnight and not tell her where he was. I wondered if he was cheating on her. And then a year into their marriage he did cheat on h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:30 AM |
| 53 | Does anyone else find it so hard and cringey when reading other dating subs?Most males won't say no to reliable sex, even if they don't actually like you. Some don't even care if they are that physically attracted, it's sex right!! I honestly think this is the most important thing for women to learn about men. That and for most men, sex does not automatically equal emotional intimacy or a desire to date you. If you do not realize that this is how most men think, you will not conduct yourself properly and you will get hurt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:11 AM |
| 48 | I'm absolutely disgustedWTF!? that teacher should be FIRED IMMEDIATELY what the literal actual hell is this!? Anyone notice the last task on the assignment, girls can't show intellectual superiority to men if it will offend them?? Tf?? Insane. HOW would someone think it's okay to give students this assignment. Really wish this person would be fired. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/21 02:04 AM |
| 6 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.This poor woman :(. He said therapy is working but slowly, I feel so, so, so bad for her, like what the fuck happened during her birth that she cannot walk for more than half an hour two years later? Like was any physical therapy or anything done after? This is so horrible I can't believe more malpractice, besides the epidural screw up, didn't happen. This is why I don't EVER want to be pregnant, it is so fucking scary, it can ruin your life. What a bastard. I wish she had stood up for herself a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 08:02 PM |
| 39 | I’m waiting until someone tells her that if a man is willing to rape a woman he wouldn’t care what her underwear says....and that rapists know exactly what they’re doing. Also yes that is a woman victim blaming in the comments.This is so cringe :/. Ages ago someone posted on here that China was selling anti pervert, pocket sized flamethrowers. The onus should be on men to stop sexually assaulting women, but if women have to protect themselves, give me that damn flamethrower instead of these stupid ass undies. At least the flamethrower is multi use - fend off muggers, make yourself smores, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 07:56 PM |
| 7 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.To be that old, especially on the later half, and not "know" what you're looking for 💀. But they want kids? Major cognitive dissonance here lol. I went on a few dates w/ this guy once who was close to 40; I met him on OLD, and while he said he was looking for something serious, I shouldve realized a dude who is almost 40 and never been married, there's a problem with him, or he actually doesn't want to be be married. I am sure men who are around that age and divorced, and are honest about why th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 09:19 PM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat / Check-inFantastic insight. What you said about "some men decide chasing women is all they're going to do." I had this great cab driver once and we got on the subject of cheaters. I was like besides it being gross and wrong, who has the time!? And he said some men, chasing women is like a sport to them, or a hobby, it's all they do. You want to stay away from such men not only because they're likely to view you as disposable and get bored of you, but because any man whose primary hobby is chasing ass is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:57 AM |
| 1 | Just because you’re a rare case does not mean you should encourage others to give it up on the first date. Please- vet your partners before giving them any!😩😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 08:45 AM |
| 32 | PUA dissection, have you ladies noticed the same thing?TRUTH. any man who is so occupied with thinking about how much pussy he can get and how much he's missing out on if he's in a relationship, has got NOTHING going on in his life. These "reformed" guys who want a tradwife type don't care about marriage or being in love. They're now getting up there age-wise, therefore feeling lonely, and realizing the vapid life they lived for the last how ever many years was meaningless and super unfulfilling for their mind and soul. Like wow, what an absolute SH… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:47 AM |
| 15 | I have no words.This is awful.....i hope this was the wake up call for her and she dumps his gross ass. You're getting MARRIED, it's a cause for celebration, not a cause to go 50/50 on a shitty SECOND HAND ring. That's so sad. I'm so hurt constantly seeing women's dating lives get so bad it makes their whole life hit absolute rock bottom before they realize the way they've handled dating and not having any boundaries has brought them nothing but heartache. An old coworker of mine is really going through it righ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:32 AM |
| 65 | "A high value man won't wait 3 months for sex"An example of your point: I was watching TMZ and they were talking about some male celebrity, idk who, and deciding if he was hot or not. ladies on the cast were like "well he is good looking, but what's his personality like?" and one guy laughed like "personality!? We're talking about hot or not and women come in and ask about personality?" Like yes because if someone is ugly on the inside, that makes them ugly on the outside, duh??? But most men don't think like that. Cuz to them hot is would … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:21 AM |
| 3 | Just because you’re a rare case does not mean you should encourage others to give it up on the first date. Please- vet your partners before giving them any!WOW cannot believe that guy said his gf could "keep up with him." She made 3x what he did! Sounds like he was a speck in her rear view, I hope she kept on driving until he was out of her view and life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:08 AM |
| 520 | Boomers Mad Millennial & Gen Z Women Aren't pushing out enough babies for them to leech off of to their graves. Maybe if they didn't spend the last 40 years demonizing mothers, providing absolutely no support, and raising garbage sons, we'd think about it.They predicted people would chose to have a baby during the middle of an economic and health crises??? Seriously? How do I get paid to be that f*cking stupid and yet call myself an expert lol. These kinds of articles irritate me because like what, our generation is supposed to churn out kids just because the baby boom happened 60 years ago? encouraging people to have children to support the nation reminds me of pro-fertility nazi propaganda. No thanks. I don't exist simply so the US gov can take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 03:05 AM |
| 6 | Just because you’re a rare case does not mean you should encourage others to give it up on the first date. Please- vet your partners before giving them any!Very true! Thankfully for my married friend the marriage wasn't a disaster, but did you see that post here the other day, the guy who wrote into an advice column complaining that his super hot wife "wasn't smart" and he was bored of her, what should he do? And the columnist was like what do you want me to tell you, you should've thought about shared interests and long term compatibility and not just sex before you married her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:46 AM |
| 3 | Finally escaped 3yr relationship as a Cluster-B abuse survivorI'm so sorry he abused you. You are REALLY strong for getting out of that. I hear you on what about next time, how do you know you won't make the same mistakes with a new face? You know you won't because you have already taken steps to begin your healing process, and you will recover. Also remember that abuse literally distorts a victim's reality. Whatever decisions you made were because he messed with your head. It isn't always going to be like that forever. Because you will heal. And because y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 08:16 PM |
| 23 | Just because you’re a rare case does not mean you should encourage others to give it up on the first date. Please- vet your partners before giving them any!Even the women I know who slept with their men early - men they're very happy with and In one case, married to for a few years now - don't recommend it as the way every woman should handle it. They had some problems navigating the intensity of the relationship in the beginning because of it I think. Each of us has to operate on the truth that for most men, it is true that they will only think of you in a casual way if you hook up early. Yes, there are exceptions of course!! I know such couples. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 07:24 PM |
| 7 | Just had this DM'd to me. LVM can be found with degrees too.Clearly written by someone who has spent no time on this sub because EVERYDAY many women here talk about how ugly their ex was - and this includes unhygienic men, overweight men, etc - and how usually they dated such a man because they thought they had to accept and/or fix him. I think maybe once in the last year on this sub I saw a woman say she realized she had trouble getting over a really bad ex in part because he was very attractive. Usually most women on this sub realize they stayed with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 07:15 PM |
| 4 | One for the ages (2 parts).One of the reasons I decided I don't want kids was the logistical challenge. How will I watch my kids and homeschool (a must for me) and all if I have to work? Sometimes I think well maybe a long time from now I could adopt, but that doesn't fix the logistical challenges. This absolutely would though. It's such a nice idea! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:41 AM |
| 5 | Thank you FDSHappy for you 🥰 I owe a lot to the wonderful community here too, it is great to have a positive place I can visit daily to reinforce healthy boundaries and standards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:37 AM |
| 4 | Instead of marriage, and romance. I kind of just want a sisterhood for life.I've been joking the only reason I'll date ever again is if the guy can give me a chateaux in the Swiss alps AND a villa on a Mediterranean island 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:35 AM |
| 2 | Instead of marriage, and romance. I kind of just want a sisterhood for life.Just as good lol, short trip to the Mediterranean compared to where I am now and I have wanted to visit Spain for ages 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:34 AM |
| 2 | Say no to hookup.I talked in my comment extensively about my own personal experience, and why I personally think I was a pickme. I asked if the person I was responding to wondered about how much of a woman's decisions are the result of patriarchal brainwashing vs one's own agency. And the only statements I made about women overall is that I commonly see women are ignorant of how men really are and that contributes in part to making decisions w/ men that benefit them, not us. At no point did I imply the woman in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Advice for a man who married a gorgeous woman with whom he has nothing in common. I loved her response.I'm crying, her response was #savage, especially the "maybe you're not as smart as you think you are, because youre now starring in your own reality series" 😂. I can't stand men like this, who let their dick run their life 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Say no to hookup.I really feel your comment here. Like especially the part about being lucky I never got taken advantage of or attacked. To me it sounds like you are wondering how much of this is brainwashing by misogynistic society vs bad decisions on the part of our own agency? I think that really depends upon each woman's life and background. For ex i used to be such a pickme but did not grow up in a household where I was told from day 1 that my value depended upon men's interest in me. I did not grow up in a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:43 PM |
| 10 | Instead of marriage, and romance. I kind of just want a sisterhood for life.Girl living on the Mediterranean is my dream, and Spain though 😭!! How do we make this happen 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Why do they call FDS female incels?I think these dudes have no idea how to present themselves to society as a whole - not well groomed, no idea how to dress, really out of shape, no idea how to take a nice photo of themselves, etc. I am sure their bios on dating apps are probably downright fuckin weird, if not scary, and even most pickmes swipe left. I'm sure their bios are also like 100% anime and video games lol. I am positive they also have no idea how to talk to women. I got lucky on apps because I swiped right like never and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 07:10 PM |
| 3 | That’s her 2nd one??She needs FDS ASAPI am so tired of women doing mental gymnastics to make themselves believe that the man they see be a lazy fucking deadbeat every single day, who they described to the entire internet as being a lazy fucking deadbeat every single day, is someone that is not only boyfriend but father material. Yes, for many of us our upbringing, past bad relationships, and/or society has brainwashed us. But there comes a limit. We all have our own agency. This woman has a child to think about, and yet she's wonder… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 06:18 AM |
| 20 | Men are surprised that I have hobbiesI was going to say, unfortunately many women when growing up were not encouraged to have interests outside of clothes, make up, pleasing men, and being a mom. These moronic men on OPs session probably have only dealt with such types of women. OR have had brilliant women like OP in their lives but just ignored/tuned out their interests cuz that's a thing they do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:53 AM |
| 49 | Is dick worth it?Same girl. I have barely had sex but considering that seemingly 99% of women complain about shitty sex lives, I'm not looking to explore anymore lol. In the last year I've also come to realize I don't want the responsibility of a relationship either - like I do not want to care about what some dude likes, where he wants to live, where the job opportunities are for him, where he wants to go on vacation. I do not want to have to think about anyone else except maybe my family when making decisions … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:43 AM |
| 88 | This is why it’s so important to have financial independence and a career as a woman, so if your partner runs out on you one day, you won’t be blindsided like this poor mother of 3 young kidsI think it because with households like this 1) the dad is probably the fun parent because mom handles the daily grind while dad is literally not home for 1 to 2 days. He likely doesn't get involved in discipline. I'm sure he mainly only does the fun shit because God forbid he wash a dish and be an active parent in his kids lives 2) kids in households like this do not have their father physically and/or mentally present, and I think they're aware he's not there for them like mom is, so they try … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:39 AM |
| 22 | This is why it’s so important to have financial independence and a career as a woman, so if your partner runs out on you one day, you won’t be blindsided like this poor mother of 3 young kidsWhat a sack of fucking shit. What a scumbag, and absolute vile scumbag. To say he never wanted kids and to blame it all on her because he knows she had low self esteem/always felt his vile ass was better than her. Uggggh I'm so angry. And of course this POS is a firefighter. My former manager was dating a firefighter who was an absolute man child, had no basic life skills cuz mommy always did everything for him, and used to hang out w/ the boys at the firehouse ALL night, multiple nights a week,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:34 AM |
| 25 | If You Don’t Stand Up For Yourself, Men Will Run All Over YouGreat post, never compromise on those things for ANYONE at any point in your life. Whether it's a boyfriend, a boss, a friend, whoever, if you bend those 4 things for others, it will hurt you, and the people you bent them for will keep asking you to bend them further. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:27 AM |
| 20 | Why do they call FDS female incels?I don't understand these men on the internet that whine that it's hard for men to get dates. It's not. I've seen screenshots of men on dating apps inviting women over to their apartments to smoke weed, as the first meeting, and the woman accepted. Sex was obviously implied. There's plenty women out there who have the bar set in hell, unfortunately, and who will date and sleep with almost anyone. Like, it's BEEN the era of Netflix and chill for years. And even w/o that, all a man has to do is hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺Uggggh that's awful, I'm sorry you had the misfortune to be around those psychopaths :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 05:07 AM |
| 2 | For American FDS'ers : This Won't Even Hurt His Career.Glad to hear someone else say this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:42 AM |
| 3 | For American FDS'ers : This Won't Even Hurt His Career.His top aid was recently recorded admitting his office covered up covid nursing home deaths to avoid bad press, and yet he's still in office. Sexual harassment allegations are nbd in comparison. He's never going to even be investigated for either unfortunately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:41 AM |
| 3 | Gotta put all the spoons in thereLmfao about to put every spoon I own into my tea from now on 🤣. This is the complete opposite of this meme about pickmes i saw once https://me.me/i/me-i-am-never-talking-to-him-again-this-is-21035146 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:33 AM |
| 3 | Pro-Kink Author gets ripped to shreds in the comment section of her article; blocks FDS for asking why The Cut didn’t interview straight men who were into “Dominating” women on the podcast about her book.She suggested kinkiness is like queerness, are you fucking serious.....that is SO gross and offensive to gay people, wtf. I'm not surprised because over the last 5 to 10 yrs, people who are not oppressed have absolutely gotten into kink and tried to make it a marginalized minority, but it's still shocking to see these people make such bold, offensive claims. Literally cannot believe she was paid to word vomit libfem buzzwords onto a page 🙄 I'm in the wrong business apparently lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:24 AM |
| 3 | I can receive a notification, see a part of the comment, and not even a MINUTE later:Yes thank you mods!! I NEVER see men or even pickme comments here, you mods have set up a great system! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Jane Austen knew this stuff long before Sherry Argov didThe 2005 P&P movie was just on TV the other day, absolutely one of my all time favorite movies, LOVE lizzie! I haven't read the book because I just....cant get into Austen's style lol but her themes and characters are great. Makes me grateful to be born where and when I was. I cannot imagine living in a time or place where the only thing a woman can do to support herself is get married. Lizzie must've been scared for her family, and after what happened to her older friend who married Mr Collins,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:16 AM |
| 120 | Had to share because it made me crack up! Can’t even offer to but me a whole meal!Chili's tho 💀 Please block this guy if you haven't already! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 02:00 AM |
| 3 | I took it all.Gotta love how he was being cordial with you until you asked him if you could take your one (1) item. And then he went off. Good for you even taking the lightbulbs lmao. You bought it, it's yours, you had a right to it. I wouldn't call you petty. He was absolutely petty though!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:56 AM |
| 204 | Imagine trying to find a gynecologist in network and these are the only options 😭😭🥺Both these quotes are gross but the second one is fucking terrifying. "I am granted access to her whole identity" A woman's whole identity is her vagina?? Is he serious? He just reduced an individual woman's entire humanity to her genetalia. We're literally nothing more than a pussy to most men, shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 01:38 AM |
| 39 | Agree to disagree! The false narrative LVM tell themselves everyday!Lmfao as if. ANY man who thinks he's ugly has low self esteem, probably has a victim complex, and is resentful towards women. I say he's resentful because a man who talks like this is placing his self worth on his success in dating; if he can't get women but wants to, he will blame them, in addition to hating himself. Case and point, incels lol. Any person, male or female, who talks like this clearly has low self esteem, and a lot of other issues, and isn't in any shape to date. This isn't even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Know your worth - "The longer you're on the market, the more people wonder what's wrong with you" "Some properties stay on the market because they're too expensive 🤷🏼♀️"I'm glad my words were helpful 🥰! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 09:11 PM |
| 6 | Know your worth - "The longer you're on the market, the more people wonder what's wrong with you" "Some properties stay on the market because they're too expensive 🤷🏼♀️"Your self esteem and self worth should be so simple because you set it but it took me a long time to even get into position to make that change. Once you make the change though I think it's there for life. I actually wasn't having a great night last night so I was surprised to see that what I had to say when tipsy and feeling bold resonated with people so much haha , thanks for your comment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 08:36 PM |
| 54 | Why do some men feel entitled to aim way out of their league?Lmfaoooo love your mom's reaction. Men shot their shot no matter what. What do they have to lose? Either you say no, or you say yes and then they have a chance getting laid. That's why vet hard and continuously. To make sure you're his dream girl and that he's crazy about you. To make sure he's not dating you simply cuz you were the one yes out of 50 "no"s that he got. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:40 AM |
| 44 | I am done dressing for men, or anyone else. Is misogyny so internalized that people both men and women are now revolted by things (for example fashion styles) that remind them of femininity?Wear what feels right to you! Life is too short to dress in ways you don't like. I dress super girly myself I ADORE pink and florals!! And I H A T E business attire lol. Attitude and the way you carry yourself is important. Cultivate a resting bitch face and a fuck you attitude and nobody will second guess what youre wearing. Sometimes these things also depend upon your field. I haven't been to the office in months cuz of covid but I used to wear miniskirts to work and I worked in a small office… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:38 AM |
| 42 | Am I Being UnreasonableNo way!! That's messed up! Someone's religion doesn't excuse them from cheating or doing illegal stuff! I'm not from Germany so I am not sure to whom you can report it but I share your outrage at seeing such shit and would want to report it myself. I feel very badly for his wife. Women in these very strict religious communities get the short end of the stick more than anyone. They are brainwashed into living only to marry men as virgins, meanwhile they have no idea that the men in their communit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 03:29 AM |
| 12 | Are we reaching peak porn sickness?So true about imagination. I was telling my dad once how porn addiction is so common now that men in their 20s have ED and he was like wtf, I'll bet if you asked most young men to write an erotic story, they couldn't, because they have no imagination. And he mentioned that saying that the biggest sex organ is the brain. How can you engage in intimacy if your go to images of intimacy are porn, which is often degrading and violent? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:38 PM |
| 3 | My homies said about porn … a fact-check with papersI would bet money that the true % of porn addicted men is massively higher than 10%, , and that among teens to men in their late 20s/early 30s it is probably like 50% addicted. I wish the data existed to back that up tho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on being friends/hanging out with men who see you as more than a friend?Absolutely not. If a man has feelings towards you OR is sexually attracted to you, he cannot genuinely be friends with you. He will either try to date you, try to have sex with you, or just act weird. If you encounter such a guy you should distance yourself or cut contact. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:31 PM |
| 6 | The audacity 🙄I can't even watch this show anymore because for the last several seasons it is like TLC only wants to have on the show disgusting American men who are preying on young women from impoverished countries, who are only dating these men because they are naive and/or these men have American citizenship. These men often have a racist fetish (and there's been several American women in this category as well). Even though I think plenty of it is scripted, plenty isn't and it's just depressing how this s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 09:18 PM |
| 8 | Older women aren't taking men's BS after divorce and widowhood. It's so affirming to see older women enjoying lives that aren't centered around men. I think we're going to see a lot more of this as these next generations reach retirement ageMy grandma's friend lost her husband and some years later, dated a guy for quite some time, until they both passed in their 80s. He asked her many times to move in with him, and she was like hell no, I have my own house that I am keeping. So what did he do? He sold his home and bought a house across the street from her to be closer to her. If he wanted to, he would. He really wanted to be with her, and so he did so on her terms. Imo it's an excellent approach to dating. I'm super picky about my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 08:44 PM |
| 12 | I DID IT!!!!!! I STOOD UP TO MY P*RN ADDICTED LVM CHEATING ABUSIVE BOYFRIEND!!!!!!I am so sorry!! This man is an unforgivable monster for what he's done to you and your poor little cat. Please stop at nothing to create an exit plan ASAP. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 07:33 PM |
| 15 | Plot Twist: Scrotes are the biggest gold diggers around.Girl why are these stories so common!!! Recently a woman posted to this sub about her wonderful boyfriend, how he was very generous with his time and money from day 1, and how that translated to generosity all around. he is well to do, and I said thats a good sign he spends on you, it would be odious if a well to do man didn't spend good money on you, and I mentioned these exact situations!! With a dude that makes waaaay more than the woman but insisted on 50/50!! Tf is that!? The woman struggli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 06:00 PM |
| 5 | Mothers have higher expectations from kids? Probably not discussion - but I'm torn and I trust you ladies.I'm sorry youre going through such a tough period right now :(. I think your daughter is used to you being superwoman and she is not used to having too much asked of her. She reminds me of my friends younger brother, he's close to your daughters age. My friends father died when her brother was only 12, so their mom had to do the superwoman thing too. His parents were easier on him than his sister before his father died, and then his mom really went super easy on him, didn't even put a healthy am… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:29 PM |
| 11 | Why are men such assholes about women's muscles???it's worth mentioning that the men who make negative comments about my body are almost always either skinny, overweight, and/or ugly themselves. Surprise surprise, they're jealous, intimidated, and projecting their insecurities on you! Handle these men however is best for you but I'd be so tempted to humiliate them in ways the other comments have suggested lol. Men like this behave like this towards women especially because they are certain we'll be too polite to say anything. Anyway, I hope you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 05:12 PM |
| 10 | I just get more and more flabbergasted with what women put themselves through to be in a relationship. I just think it's just so sad they don't have self-respect enough to drop a guy like this."I don't want to shame him" since when is telling someone they're gross for not having basic hygenie shaming!? The bar is in hell! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:45 AM |
| 19 | FDSers in NYC, what’s it like?Native new yorker, late 20s, and dating in this city is no better than anywhere else. I gave up about a year ago. I've seen women talk here about what kinds of activities to do, events to go to to meet HVM, and you'd think nyc would be the place for that once we have innumerable social events again. However, the truth is going to tons of social events doesn't guarentee you'll meet a HVM. Anyone who's met one has just gotten lucky enough to be in the right place at the right time. I haven't gone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:42 AM |
| 23 | Why I left my Fiancé. - Woman shares inspiring story of how she trusted her intuition, decided to she deserved better, and left her fiance (a man she had dated for nine years).Thanks for posting this and thanks to others for sharing how ugly her ex was lol. Seriously, she was crying over that loser? I say this but many of us have been there, rock bottom self esteem making us cling to a guy simply because he's there. She says that she knows he loves her and I hope she soon realizes that someone who has a porn addiction and who is "too tired from work" to speak to his own fucking fiance doesn't love you at all. Like wtf my parents have been together 40+ years and spend … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 01:24 AM |
| 7 | FDS thoughts on virginityI think it's definitely a lot more common than you think! One of my best friends is like that too. One of my other besties, she's late 20s and never gone all the way, so idk if she only wants one partner, but she is certainly in no rush. There's nothing to be gained from having a lot of sexual partners except STDs and probably disappointment since most men suck at sex :p | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:50 PM |
| 24 | Another post that demonstrates why it’s good to weary of so-called male ‘friends’. It always come back to sex and whether they see you as bangable or not.This is so gross and horrible. You CANNOT be friends w/ men who are attracted to you, I can't believe there weren't any signs that this was coming. We have to look out for red flags if guys we're interested in, but also guys who are just friends. My friends and I have normal, close male friends, however, considering how common scrotes like this are though, I do not blame women for choosing to not have friendships with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:45 PM |
| 68 | I live in the Houston area and this disaster we're having right now has made me finally realize that I truly have a HVM in my life.So happy for you!!! And your story is a perfect example of why a man MUST be generous. He was generous with his money, his time, and then when the time came he was generous in the bedroom too. Sounds like he has continued to be generous. Especially considering he's very well to do, it would be so odious if he wasn't generous with his money, like the relationship sub stories you see where some dude makes 3x what his gf does, yet insists on a 50/50 split when the gf is struggling to pay bills. Hap… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:39 PM |
| 15 | FDS thoughts on virginityI don't know that most people have their first time in their teens and 20s, a few people I know are in their late 20s and still haven't had sex. I wish I was still one of them, my first time was like 10 seconds of sex in my mid 20s for some fucking scrote. It wasn't a bad experience or anything at the time, I wasn't pressured into it, and i didn't feel behind the curve for not having it. however I felt behind the curve for never having a bf until my mid 20s and that's what made me a major pickme… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:31 PM |
| 15 | Sex questions, gaslighting, and more. Welcome to online dating.Gross!! How much you want to bet he was asking if you get sexual when you drink because he was figuring if getting you drunk on date 1 would lead to getting him laid. Good for standing up for yourself, but in the future, to save yourself the stress and shock at responses like the type he gave you, just block a guy the second he asks you some inappropriate shit. Especially a guy like this who you haven't even met yet, absolutely not even worth continuing the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 07:18 PM |
| 1 | While viewing porn, man sees his wife’s photo - decide he’s been cheated on 🙄"I was unsure of how to approach this" meaning he was unsure how to make her feel guilty for posting nudes to a sub that he frequents for the sole purpose of getting off to other women, without having her call him out for his shitty behavior. If his looking at naked pics of other women doesn't mean anything or affect the relationship, then her posting those same kinda of pics shouldn't mean anything, they're just nudes 🤷🏼♀️ /s I agree w/ the other comments here that she's probably doing this as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:51 PM |
| 5 | Why are they so lazy??Men like this are THE MOST contemptible. FIRST of all, they have no masculine pride, the belief that it is manly and desirable to take initiative in life and care/provide for women and a family. Most men are garbage, but the few decent men out there have this pride (from what I see in my own life) and it's very attractive. SECOND of all, dudes who post this kinda self pitying garbage are just announcing to the whole world how unattractive both physically and personality-wise they are, and how je… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:43 PM |
| 9 | A message for the female lurkersThanks for sharing your story, so glad to hear you chose yourself over your shit ex! This sub helped me set the bar even in small ways. I had been seeing this guy for a few weeks when I found FDS. Quarantine had only been going on for 2 weeks, and I saw women talking about the things guys were doing for them in quarantine - lots of phone calls, ordering food for the woman on a virtual date, etc. This guy texted me daily but didn't ask to video chat until 2 weeks into quarantine. And then he didn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:19 PM |
| 18 | REPOST: Marriage is a scam for women in the USIt's absolutely a scam in 99% of cases. If you're not careful, you could end up on breaking moms. Even if you are careful, it doesn't guarentee you wont have a horrible experience with a man; it doesn't guarentee he won't change on you after he's your boyfriend/fiancee/husband/you get pregnant/you have a baby. I don't know. My parents have been together 40+ years and have a good relationship, housework and childcare were never vastly unevenly split (childcare innately is always going to be at le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 10:07 PM |
| 4 | Field ReportThanks for making this post, I don't feel we hear from older women a lot in this sub, so your perspective is valuable and appreciated! About the swipes, my understanding is these swipe limits are very high, and no reasonable person would meet them. Cuz notice how woman don't complain about them, because we don't swip right on every single person, the way men do. My friend once saw a guy on the subway swipe through his daily allotment of swipes in 5 mins. He wasn't reading or even looking at the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:35 AM |
| 3 | The book Consent looks great! Anyone read it? Vanessa Springora: “Why not ensnare the hunter in his own trap?Look up Lorie Maddox. She was 14 when she met Bowie through a friend that was also a teenager who he was having sex w/ I believe. Bowie had a threesome with Maddox and another underage girl shortly after he met Maddox 🤢. And he continued to groom and rape Maddox for years. Mick Jagger also did the same with her. Maddox was literally on VH1 years ago talking about how she and the other teenage girls they preyed upon were "the muses" and it made me so, so sad that everyone was praising sexual pred… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:17 AM |
| 77 | "His teeth are gross but I love him." 🤢🤮Seriously. This guy is NOTHING but problems, she even says "we don't understand each other at all." she says she saw problems but brushed them off, and yet accepted his proposal anyway? Girl literally WHY tf are you with him!? WHY are you dating someone who's not even a functioning adult??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 12:12 AM |
| 13 | Cell Phone Tango part 6!I do not have the time to run my own life and a surveillance state attempting to vet some dude. Hard same girl. There is no man on this planet worth the time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:56 PM |
| 36 | Does anyone else find most men on OLD unattractive?It's not just you, most guys on OLD are either whatever looking or downright ugly. I haven't used it in over a year and never will again, but it was rare to find a really attractive guy. Even more rare to find an attractive guy who didn't have a stupid fuckin profile. I RARELY see really hot guys IRL either. Honestly I didn't find myself very attracted to a guy w/ a desire to date him until I was 22. I live in a gigantic, very ethnically diverse city, so there's every kind of guy here. Just most… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 11:37 PM |
| 12 | Something feels off? Follow your instincts!THREE women!? For TWO years!? Oh my gosh. What a psychopath. And a total loser, a man who is juggling three secret relationships clearly has nothing else going on in his life The worst I'd heard before this was someone my mom knows, her stepdaughter found out her husband, who she'd w/ for 9 yrs, was having an affair with a woman in another state and another country. For like the entire 9 years. He showed them fake divorce papers and tried to get them to have a kid w/ him 💀. Oh and his wife just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:40 PM |
| 6 | How lvms are created :(I'm really sorry. My friends younger brother is the same :/. They coddled him since day 1, and it just got worse after my friends dad passed away when the brother was still p young. His mom always let his grades slide at school and never made him do anything around the house. My friend cooks for her mother, so she ends up cooking for him too, and he complains about what she makes. I told her she should tell him to fuck off and make his own food, but she knows he, like your brother, will just not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 08:36 PM |
| 6 | Drowning in red flagsHe already told on himself by being bitter and sarcastic but when I got to the "dom sub" part 💀. We all know there is NO such thing as a nice guy who just can't get a date. We all know the victim complex of nice guys is not justified. And here they go, these types of guys admitting in full display what disgusting people they are, and yet somehow failing to see that's WHY they can't get a date 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:17 PM |
| 107 | What it would look like if scrotes were allowed on FDS... I have had most honest and benefitting conversations about dating, sex, feminism and women's issues only in absence of men (link to article in comment)I saw this and immediately knew the article it was from! I read it like 7 years ago and still think about it from time to time. It is so heartbreaking, what those women in Afghanistan are forced to endure, how few rights they have. Like, automatically assuming just because you're writing romantic poetry, you have a boyfriend and can be killed for that, to have your poetry destroyed, and then committing suicide because that one artistic outlet was the only light in your suffocating life where you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 09:03 PM |
| 37 | if a man uses the term “simp”, cut him off. men lose it when they see a woman genuinely being loved.TROGLODYTE lmfao but actually 🤣 What happened to dudes getting bullied for being virgins and nerds? Like okay I know on one hand bullying is stupid and mean but also......imo it's what was keeping these guys in line. Once the internet/reddit came along, gave them space to come together and create the incel group, that was the end of it. They all think their behavior is acceptable because tons and tons of dudes will rush to validate/agree with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:23 PM |
| 10 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!I “communicated” constantly that I need affirmation, reassurance, affection. You should never need to communicate this to a bf/husband. OR to friends, siblings, parents. It's basic f*cking human empathy 101 to show these things to someone you claim to care about. If you ever catch yourself explaining this again, leave the first time and save yourself the trouble. I hope you never do find yourself with such a man again though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 18 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!Saving money and wanting to retire early sounds like an excuse to not spend a measly $20 bucks on flowers for you. 20 bucks was more important to this guy than seeing you smile. Like, he literally lost you over 20 bucks. What an absolute dumbass. If he loved you, he would. Don't lose your resolve to make this your last vday with him. You deserve someone who doesn't think what you want is silly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:18 PM |
| 15 | The moment when a ZVM realizes he’s Zero Value 🤦♀️😂He thought he was better than others because he.....plays new video games instead of re-watching the same TV show? W O W. nothing but audacity indeed. And figures it wasn't his fiancee leaving that made him think "maybe I should reexamine my life," no, it was his roommate. Lol. I'm not surprised tho, my ex was like that, like he cared soooo much about me but when I explained I was leaving him cuz of xyz, he doubled down on his victim complex instead of comparing what I said to his actions and se… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 05:10 PM |
| 164 | if a man uses the term “simp”, cut him off. men lose it when they see a woman genuinely being loved.I'm always stunned at how willing these kinds of guys are to announce to the entire world that they cannot get laid and are ragingly jealous of men who can 😂. Congratulations, you played yourself lol What is even the original meaning of simp? Isn't it like those loser guys who have no friends and send lots of money/gifts to OF girls/cam girls/e-girls/discord girls/etc and think those girls are their gf? How did it come to mean normal, actually nice guys like Russell? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:21 PM |
| 156 | Your Future in an Age Gap RelationshipOn one hand I feel bad for her but on the other I'm like....what a waste, what a stupid, unnecessary way that she CHOSE to waste her life. She hasn't been happy with this marriage for a loooooong time it sounds like, and yet she's staying AND lying to herself that the problem is he's getting older. Girl come on, she knows he's just a disgusting scrote. My dad is almost this man's age and doesn't have disgusting dental hygenie and also doesn't look like an old man. My grandma doesn't have these p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:16 PM |
| 3 | He forced her to buy him a PS5 for Christmas, but claims that SHE'S the materialistic one! Nah, sis. If you see this... take your PS5 and leave him!Even the way he replied to the valid criticisms of mcdonalds as his go to date idea, like he said "I'd say it's exquisite" ??? Wow u love mcdonalds ur so edgy....Like look I love mcdonalds lol, but I know it's not date appropriate!! No fast food restaurant is appropriate as a regular date spot, unless you're in high school! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 04:10 PM |
| 3 | Every year, on Valentine's Day, I buy my best friend a small bouquet/pot of preserved flowers so she's constantly reminded that she's an eternal queen, and that our friendship is the strongest love we can each receive for our lives. ❤️That is beautiful!! How cute! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:53 PM |
| 29 | A journey to admit that your life won’t be the same after adopting FDS principlesI owe finally getting over a couple years of depression, that was due in part to dating, to the FDS community. Hanging out here a lot for the last year, I realized I don't even want to date. I feel like I have so much time now, when before I felt all this pressure and time slipping away cuz I was so worried about finding a husband. Now i don't care if "the one" exists for me, i don't care if I've missed out cuz I've never been in love and doubt I ever will be. Now I'm just concerned with what I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:51 PM |
| 17 | FDS WORKSCongrats on a achieving so much on your personal journey 🥰. Don't let ANY man, or anyone, threaten what you have achieved. Pay close attention to his actions always, how they make you feel, explore those feelings, and don't shy away from the truth they tell you. Sounds like you know just who you are now and that you are going to do fine at keeping your FDS boundaries with him :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:36 PM |
| 18 | The misogyny of the Cooling off policy re: DivorceReminds me of a client at my old job. She was the business owner married to a man who my coworkers knew was a hoe, and so I assume everyone else in the very small industry knew he was a hoe as well. He used to send his female account rep chocolate covered strawberries every holiday season. Yup lol. I HATED how the account rep and my male boss made a big joke out of it. This married man was openly flirting with his much younger business associate (whom he knew had a bf too), and it was just a big… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:30 PM |
| 33 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.Absolutely run away screaming from any guy who calls himself a gamer. Wish this world was still a place where guys like this got bullied for being nerds 🙄 instead they all banded together on reddit and elsewhere and now think their lifestyle is totally normal and acceptable. If he's not a gamer but just plays them, then it's a your mileage may vary thing. If he does it for an hour or two daily, is normal about it (like he doesn't expect you to serve him dinner while he's doing it), and you need … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 05:03 PM |
| 3 | The irony and hypocrisy of men who lift.Seriously 🙄. When I was interested in dating, a good natured gym bro was kinda my type (like okay it's a weird example but Craig from Dream Daddy is exactly the type I mean lol), but they're super rare. Most of these guys who lift, lifting is their entire personality, super vain, dumb as rocks, don't respect women at all, and care a suspicious amount about male approval of their their bodies/other men's bodies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:50 AM |
| 76 | He forced her to buy him a PS5 for Christmas, but claims that SHE'S the materialistic one! Nah, sis. If you see this... take your PS5 and leave him!That was A LOT of words from him to say hes a 26 yo man who has a 16 yo old boy's idea of what a relationship should be: mcdonalds take out, movie at home, and she buys me video games. This kind of relationship wasn't even acceptable in college when she met him. I'm sure she'll dump his lazy ass soon, good for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:42 AM |
| 10 | Comments full of women saying "just communicate" and "that's toxic"I mean, we all know it's best to "block and delete" and just ghost a guy like this as soon as possible, BUT....still pretty funny lol. if a woman wants to blow up a shitty man's spot, go right ahead. Just as long as you don't make a habit of often putting a lot of effort into owning men all the time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:32 AM |
| 7 | Is anyone else annoyed by Justin Bieber's new song Lonely?I had to endure hearing this while at a salon today and #same. I'm sure he mostly made it because it's ~#relatable~ but really, how trite coming from someone like him 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:30 AM |
| 15 | Do you trust men who "learn" from their partners? Or is it another case of them putting all the emotional labor on women?I think it's normal to keep learning things from all the relationships in your life. People are going to introduce you to things, and I wouldn't necessarily hold it against a guy if he didn't know certain things. First of all, if you're going to date men, you have to assume they are not going to immediately understand your experience of being a woman, and you will probably find yourself explaining certain discriminations etc that you face. I understand your concern is that is the man receptive a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:19 AM |
| 46 | Maybe women and males are just too different from each other?In the last few months I've also come to feel men and I are too incompatible for me to form a truly loving romantic relationship w/ one. It's not a matter of believing if HVM exist or not, of course they do, I have some in my life, the problem is I just don't get men. For ex, I've had happily married women whose husbands I approve of tell me the "you're in emotional distress? Best I can do is dick" memes are so true, and while those women found it funny, it really upset me. I would feel so hurt … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:42 PM |
| 74 | Found this on whisper... lots of pickmes in the replies 🤢Has it not occurred to any of these pickmes that a man could and should do both lol??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 11:32 PM |
| 4 | What are you ladies opinion on this? Do men deserve a material gift? I think that Valentines day is for us Women and my presence is the present! I don't like the idea of going big... My Lv ex wanted us to be set on a (equal) spending limit for both of us. Never againAssuming youre dating a decent man and note a scrote, yeah, of course get him a gift. I don't think v-day requires a giant celebration-- your man buys you a card, flowers, chocolates, and makes dinner reservations. I would buy him a card and sweets in return. Like for ex my mom gets my dad a card and these giant cupcakes from a more expensive than usual bakery. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:14 AM |
| 2 | Lmao sometimes I get notifications of what non vetted users comment on a post of mine before they get deleted. Stay mad out there.Same girl. When the general public talks about hate speech idk how the manosphere gets left out of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:00 AM |
| 3 | Men give women shit for any kind of plastic surgery/improving their appearance meanwhile they're out here giving themselves entire jawlines lol. Do what you want with your body *for you*I read an article a few years ago by a woman who was researching this phenomenon of how plastic surgery is labeled as "body positive," women praise it highly, and yet thess same women who have obviously had work done do not want to admit to it. her research involved spending a lot of time on Instagram looking at women who are obviously pumped full of botox and silicone, and said to her husband she was thinking about getting some work done. And he was like wtf!? Why!? Where is this coming from? A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:47 PM |
| 2 | And this is why you never buy a house without getting married first!This is sad, she gave up on marriage for him, sold her home for him, and now he doesn't even want her to be entitled to the house she's been paying towards...what else will this man have to do for this woman to see he doesn't give a shit for her? At least her name is on the deed so she can recoup her investment, but that will require a lawyer and court battle probably to force him to sell the house, so tons of time and money. We have to wake up as women. Don't keep investing time and money into … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 08:39 PM |
| 3 | Sexual harasser bossThat's horrific. I am so sorry he said this to you. I don't know where you live, but for ex in the US, in some states you can audio record people w/o knowledge and it can be used as evidence. If where you live has a law like that, use it and keep a recorder on at all times at work. Even if it's just to prove to yourself or privately that this happened to you. If you want to report it, in the US the ACLU might be able to help you if you wanted to report it, so maybe there's an institution like th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Ah yes, because unsolicited touching gets us ready to be raped 🤮....was this written by an alien? Any woman would be immediately feel violated, frightened, and/or angered by a guy she doesnt even know constantly trying to touch her. Personal space hello!! No one but an incel would read this and think it would work, because any man who's successful w/ women (suave LVM included) would know this would put off a woman who's not attracted to him. He would know a touch or two is okay, and he'd know when it's appropriate and how to do it. He would know it wouldn't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:59 PM |
| 3 | Thank you FDS Mods for this space.Yes, thank you mods!! I never even see any of those comments by the male lurkers, you guys are great! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:50 PM |
| 2 | Tell me why Valentine's Day is worth celebrating.You said yourself you struggle with people telling you that you have value due to an abusive part. I hope you are working with a therapist or whatever works for you to overcome this. You should NEVER feel like this. You DO have value. You are worthy of love and respect. The people who abused you, the loser exes who couldn't put any effort in your relationships - those people devalued themselves, not you. When someone does horrible, disrespectful things consistently, it's like they are harming th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:49 PM |
| 19 | Lmao sometimes I get notifications of what non vetted users comment on a post of mine before they get deleted. Stay mad out there.Reddit is ground zero for incels and manosphere shit, so we're targeted more here than we would be on other social media sites (imo). Plus most people just hear what others say about us and don't actually look at this sub. Because even a cursory glance would show someone our posts are mostly women saying this sub has taught them to have self respect, or screenshots of men being awful. That kinda content is only hateful if you're a manipulative scrote who knows your only chance at getting laid is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 05:31 PM |
| 2 | It is essential that we understand why men think the way they do: men and women are raised with completely different mindsets. This passage from WDHDT opened my mind a lot to the societal conditioning of men's mindsetsI had to hear it from everyone how I was "turning my son gay" That's absolutely awful and is completely nonsensical when considering that for the last few decades, the most famous and high profile chefs are male. Most head chefs in American restaurants for ex too are (white) males as well. I'd like to see the men who say you're turning your son "gay" say to Gordon Ramsey's face that he's "gay" for being a chef 🙄. You know the "fellas is it gay to" meme? "fellas is it gay to learn to cook and thu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 10:40 PM |
| 3 | Misuse & appropriation of feminist language/concepts by men on RedditIt sounds like the public has replaced the therapist in institutionalizing the abusive attitudes. Totally spot on. Society doesn't have a record of being on the woman's side during abuse cases anyway. but now there's the addition of the abuse victim being gaslit with "science" the entire time because everyone knows psychology 101 and thinks they're a trained psychiatrist | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 10:34 PM |
| 7 | I don’t think I’ll romantically love or trust another man again .I just can’t imagine ever thinking, “yeah, this guy is totally worth the energy of constant vetting.” They’re just not. This is it exactly!! Personally I have several HVM in my life through friends or family, so they're clearly out there, but not for me. Vetting just sounds awful lol, like personally I hate working hard any I have very little patience. If life served me a HVM on a silver platter than maaaaaybe but also...the idea of me being emotionally or physically intimate with a guy again ju… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 07:05 PM |
| 4 | It is essential that we understand why men think the way they do: men and women are raised with completely different mindsets. This passage from WDHDT opened my mind a lot to the societal conditioning of men's mindsetsIt's funny what you said about kitchen toys - I don't think my friends son has any, he's about 3, but he wants to cook, because he sees his parents do it. Kids mimic what they see. Kids also want some responsibility to feel important - you know how kids are really into "I can do it myself!" You actually have to actively stamp that out as a parent to get a boy who grows into a lazy and entitled man who believes he should have a woman do everything for him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:36 PM |
| 8 | This is how we arrived hereI was thinking the same. The only one I that looks to definitely be from a porn magazine was 3 because of the way its written, sounds like someone writing an article. But otherwise....this is very disturbing to know the other ones are from porn and not all from rapists :| | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:27 PM |
| 9 | ...or will he?Imagine being 35 and 1) talking like a 20 yo edgelord 2) taking selfies like a boomer. Actually, I don't even want to insult boomers like that, my dad is in his 60s and takes good selfies and has a bit of a photography hobby. This dude is like every middle aged LVM stereotype rolled up in one lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:21 PM |
| 2 | EmpoweredSo glad to hear you are feeling this way 😊❤️. It is NEVER too late to live YOUR life that is solely FOR YOU. You're never too old to chase your dreams. It's not dating related but today I was reading about this physicist (Yuri something or other) that is funding the development of an interstellar space craft the size of an iPhone. This physicist is 60, and doesn't expect the mission to be possible for another 16 years, then it'll take at least 20 yrs for the space "ships" to reach their destinat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 07:17 PM |
| 28 | Online Dating Field Report: TLDR; no, don’t botherAgree whole heartedly with all your points here, but ESPECIALLY 8, 9, and 10. I'm curious if you found OLD to lower your standards at all? As in, for ex, my experience (pre FDS), I would get so frustrated with swiping left on 98 out 100 profiles, so done w/ guys who matched but never messaged, and especially done w/ guys who couldn't hold a fucking conversation, that when I came across one who could hold a convo i was like oh WOW, hope he asks me out soon (he usually would). Every man I had a da… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:59 PM |
| 126 | I don’t think I’ll romantically love or trust another man again .I honestly have never felt more free since I’ve come to these realizations Girl same!!! I wish I hadn't needed to ruin my life in order to realize this fact, but that is what it took for me to stop wanting to date and to feel this freedom. I have been feeling like this almost a year and I have never felt like I've had so much time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 15 | Men don’t degrade women they love #BringBackKinkShaming2021I wish he'd just be honest with her instead of asking reddit for help. Too often on these relationship subs you see someone like "so I have this problem and actually never talked to my SO about it, what should I do?" I mean 9 times our of 10 they should just leave, but still. Sad how he's asking to become comfortable with degrading his wife. Also sad he didn't feel this way before the baby :/. But you're right, I'm sure this kink is or was rooted in self esteem issues, and she's also probably so… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:06 PM |
| 152 | Misuse & appropriation of feminist language/concepts by men on RedditLundy Bancroft talks about how typical therapy doesn't work for abusive men because they'll weaponize therapy language to justify their own behavior, similar to how you described. "I have 'trauma' about my mom so when I beat my wife I'm really beating my mom" (im paraphrasing a real case from Bancroft's book there), or calling their female partners manipulative. In a similar vein, you've got those guys who do that virtue signaling shit about how woke and feminist they are, but theyre your typica… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 05:02 PM |
| 12 | Okay, which one of you did this?? You need another 👑LMFAO spam dunked 😂. What kind of loser puts THAT much of his identity in where he went to college 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:54 PM |
| 3 | And there it isI actually was going to mention in my last comment my grandmother's friend who did just that, the living separately. She had this "gentleman friend" (seems weird to call someone a boyfriend when the parties involved are in their 70s and 80s lol) long after her husband died and her children were long grown. They never got married, but he kept asking her to move in with him. And she was like hell no, I have my own house that I want to stay in. So eventually he bought a house across the street from… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 04:50 PM |
| 12 | TIL: FRANCE HAS NO MINIMUM AGE OF CONSENT and REFUSES to pass bill to set it at 15!!! Outrage after 20 FireFighters Rape and exploit 13YO Girl with seizures for TWO YEARS and get a slap on the wrist!!What the fuck. And I thought firefighters where I live were riddled with LVM. This is absolutely disgusting. How the FUCK is there no age of consent!? How could a judge or jury, however it works in France, look at a case of multiple adult men assaulting a 13 yo girl and think they shouldnt be locked up forever??? Pedophiles don't stop being pedophiles. This men will assault girls again. Fucking sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 12:14 AM |
| 19 | And there it isAgreed. Marriage is a detriment to women only and a benefit to men only when you're married to a scrote. But then again, so is dating and living w/ such a scrote. If you're married to a good man, you now have many protections. Imo if you don't want to get married for whatever reasons - which is totally fine! - then I think you have to be extra careful about living with that man. And maybe considering not permanently living w/ him at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 12:11 AM |
| 2 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I had the same problem with dating for self worth. I never had a boyfriend so in my mid 20s I started feeling like something was wrong w/ me cuz of this. Having several friends who hadn't had one either didn't matter, I was past logic apparently. So that was the start of going downhill/dating for validation. What I would give to go back and smack some sense into myself /sigh. At least we got it right sooner rather than later and have stopped ourselves! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 12:01 AM |
| 8 | Cosmopolitan. Why, WHY did I regarded it like the bible once?? SMH. 'WomYN HYperGAMouS BAD, man naturally born one uppers GOOD.Only men who have fuckin nothing else of substance in their lives think like this. I've heard other men say this as well, as this is obvious to anyone who uses their brain and desires a fulfilling life. What a disgusting way to live. What a waste of human life, seriously, to spend your life caring that fucking much about how many women you've banged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 30 | Get more in a divorce? This is why men murder women!"I got myself into debt so obviously I looked to save by cutting the money I spend on my child. My ex said no, what a bitch for not helping ME out of MY own mess, am I right fellas???" Also: an ex wife sticking to what the court ordered for child support is a good reason to " snap," but when a man abuses a woman for years and she finally snaps and either kills or attacks him, that's not justifiable/expected? Women like Lorena Bobbitt have to run the effing gauntlet just to not go to prison meanw… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 18 | Yo, I think we should stop thinking speaking, breathing and having sex.You are 200% right that the only way for a straight woman to go about men is to not want anything to do with men (romantically, at the very least). Pursue your career, your talents, adopt or do IVF if you want a family. If the right man is out there, he will see you and he'll prove himself if you make him. But he may not be out there, and even if he is, there is no reason to put your life on hold for him. Live it. You don't know how long its going to last, so fucking do what YOU want. I lost all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 10:51 PM |
| 35 | Encountering men who overshare: RUN, SIS.Even if it wasn't an abuse tactic (which is probably was), its totally inappropriate, a total lack of social skills!! You should've asked your friends if their traumas are the first thing they'd tell a person they've just been introduced to. No? Then why tf would some guy doing it be appropriate? It's like we just throw basic standards we have for friends and other human beings out the window when it comes to dating...I did it too in my pickme past, shit still baffles me. You weren't harsh at al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 01:05 AM |
| 39 | Oh.....oh no.......I hope she very quickly becomes resentful enough to have hard boundaries and tell this asshole to go fuck himself. He makes TWICE as much as she does, he should be embarassed to ask her to pay for half the rent AND THEN the whole electricity bill? And she just...agreed. Where's the "oh no baby what is you doing?" meme cuz seriously girl, going into debt for a guy??? Really hope she dumps him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/21 12:55 AM |
| 9 | Online DatingI'm definitely sure it does lol. Or at the very least, the busty anime character who looks like she's 15 is definitely common and is such a red flag | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 10:04 PM |
| 8 | Women Are Honestly Not That ComplicatedFor scrotes you might as well be asking for the moon with that list lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:06 PM |
| 21 | Single LVM expects to be married by doing the bare minimum. The audacity.Lmao I love that everyone called this incel out. All he did was list the basic life milestones of going to college and getting a job and laments that these things haven't scored him pussy a wife. Why would they when that is the bare minimum expected of both men AND women?? The thing I can't stand most about these incels is the lack of critical introspection. I guess they cannot self analyze and criticize because they are SO entitled and self centered, they believe they're above critique 🙄 I also… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 09:03 PM |
| 6 | I feel so badly for this womanI hope she lets HERSELF go, fuck what he wants. HOWEVER, I'm reading this though like okay, she was clear on these things and yet......she married a man who didn't know how to do shit? He doesnt know how to pay bills? he's AFRAID of laundry!? This is NOT a man who changed up after living together/marriage/kids. This is a man who lived at home and had mommy do everything for him until he got married. This is a perfect example of how you need to pay attention to nothing a man says but everything h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:54 PM |
| 6 | The number of comments saying that the man acted this way “because he really likes her”. 🙄 this is not about affection - what you’re seeing here is the very early stages of controlling and abusive behaviour.Damn dudes really have nothing but audacity huh 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:34 PM |
| 51 | I am so glad that more and more women are realising that casual sex is a complete scam for women.I also notice too how there is ZERO nuance in this discussion. If you say you are anti porn or anti sex work, nobody asks you why. Everyone just screams at you that your view means you're anti sex, anti woman, etc. Even if you explain yourself, nobody responds to your points in a coherent manner. They just scream back, name call, try to get you canceled, and if they try to site some evidence it's not even decent (one woman enjoys being a prostitute and suddenly the trafficking the prostituon ind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 08:31 PM |
| 9 | Online DatingIt would be a very concierge service, but an app that pre qualifies its members by googling them, checking court dockets/arrests records for their name, checking if marriage licenses exist, checking for proof of employment, checking social media, perhaps doing a full blown background check. And then refusing anyone: with an extensive or violent criminal record, with ANY signs of DV (even if he got booked but not charged for ex), who clearly has a gf/bf/is married, who is unemployed, whose social… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 07:55 PM |
| 26 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?You should not trust anyone until they have proven themselves trustworthy. Waiting until someone proves themselves to be trustworthy is not at odds with practicing religion. Not trusting someone does not mean that you don't treat them w/o dignity and respect that is every humans God given right. It simply means you don't trust them with certain things because you don't know their intentions or character. Idk what religion you are but i can't think of one out there that says you should just blind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:25 PM |
| 39 | I found this thing called MDS.Dying your hair or tattoos or being a bigger woman is a sign of mental illness 😂? All the girls at FDS are chubby? The fact that the gist is "lie and hide the evidence" and the "a woman will never love you" thing is so telling that it's a self hating incel who's never spoken to a woman wrote this post lol. What a fucking loser 🙄. Unless he's a true sociopath, scumbags like this can only lie and hide themselves for so long. If they ever even land a date that is lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 10:14 PM |
| 3 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meNot someone I personally know, but for years I've followed this comedian on social media who was formerly in the military, navy or marines, as I think his wife was. He's been married like 10+ years, they are hs sweethearts, and his family features prominently on his social media. He said he joined the military as he grew up in a shit neighborhood, I think it was like a he didn't see a way out kinda thing. Bit of a stretch since I don't even know this guy and people only put on social media what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:52 PM |
| 8 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meAgreed. A childhood friend of mine was in the army - he's a great guy, out of it now and an ambitious person, but he's absolutely not marriage material and he knows it lol. he also is very candid about how fucked up the army is. He was stationed for a few years at Fort Bragg and shared tons of crazy drunken stories, so it's like these guys would just drink and play video games in their spare time. Def not high value. There seemed to be true friendships among privates but even his friends said th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:23 PM |
| 7 | Advice neededPlease strongly recommend that your friend read Lundy Bandcroft's "Why Does He Do That?" it's all about abusive men, their tactics, motivations, and importantly for your friend, how to avoid being abused again. This guy is a total piece dick 1) I won't judge you for being divorced sounds like a neg 2) saying marriage is a gamble and the idea that he won’t know what actually happened in the marriage is a gamble in itself - he's giving her ex husband the benefit of the doubt 3) “I didn’t want to k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 13 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meHaha no worries I wouldn't expect the sociopathic army love from a woman 😂. I am glad my comment helped you!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:34 PM |
| 7 | men having high body counts and wanting a romantic relationship?You're on the right track. I'd just recommend you read the handbook and hang out on this sub more, really internalizing it, before you date. Never tell guys you're a virgin, immediately stop talking to any guy who gets sexual right away or early at all, don't sleep with any guy before commitment (which should happen at 2 or 3 months or so), and even then wait (like don't sleep w/ him the day after he asks you to be his bf). Tbh I'd recommend waiting until engagement or even marriage (if that's y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 8 | HVM that aren't your physical type?Nope. They may be HVM but not HVM for you. I've been there and tried it - a guy who you match up with on a lot of important values/moral things, but who isn't 100% your physical type. I wasn't ever really into him because of that, which was kind of a good thing, because there were some other little things I didn't like that I would've probably ignored if I found him really hot (this is pre FDS). So those things stood out to me more and I ended it. Either a man is everything you want, or he's not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:19 PM |
| 68 | Absolute pickme GARBAGE on The Guardian todayHow the fuck do you go from "we survived a horrible accident" and "we survived civil war" to "my husband is a fucking alcoholic who finally killed someone cuz of it", "my husband was a fucking gambling addict who put our lives at risk", and "my husband stuck his dick in someone else" How are those last three AT ALL in the same category as the first!? The drunk driving one seriously....my friend's mom was killed by a reckless driver when she was crossing the street, going to work, while my friend… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:11 PM |
| 30 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meYou are NOT an asshole. You did the right thing. You never know what will happen if you tell a woman her man is cheating on her. You could open yourself up to harassment from her if she reacts badly. Thankfully this woman knew something was up already and was grateful. You are both victims and you gave her the push she needed to break up with this absolute loser. This guy is a total nutcase and it sounds like he lovebombed you hard. Be careful of any guy who says he loves you before at least a f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:57 PM |
| 5 | Why We Support Investment: The Fallacy of Focusing on Financial InvestmentYes absolutely! 100% agree, you gave great examples to make your point too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:11 PM |
| 6 | China faces a looming population crisis as women stick by their standardsI believe someone shared a short documentary "leftover women" that premiered last year from the NY times. The woman it focused on was in her 30s, a lawyer, fluent in at least 3 languages. She said she had "high standards" - that he just be well educated and respect women. The matchmaker had the audacity to say she "wasn't a beauty" and that she shouldn't think she's in a good position to get married. There are 30 MILLION more men than women in China, and yet instead of men falling over themselve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:02 AM |
| 2 | I don’t know if this was posted yet but this is an example of why people need to listen to and believe women when they say they were violated !!I had no idea any of this was going on with her...this video is also so fucked up, she clearly looks extremely tired and dead and the video is just like "she has a new tattoo!" One of the YT comments says Amanda reminds her of themselves when they were in antipsychotics, the same dead sort of look that the drugs cause. It's worrisome she's engaged to this guy so quickly :(. I used to watch what I like about you a bit when I was in my early years of hs, it was such a cute and silly show. I didn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:41 AM |
| 3 | What in the pickmeisha hell is this clownery? The only thing I’m growing are my plants 🌱🪴I told my friend I had a stupid moment at a restaurant recently where I thought my waiter might be cute despite not being able to see half his face w/ the mask lol. She was like hey maybe he is cute! And I was like lol girl I was just being silly. and besides, I am way too old (nearly 30) and too far in my career to date a waiter. And she said you don't know, he could be ambitious about moving up and having his own restaurant or something. I ignored that text but my attitude was I'm not 22 anymo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:32 AM |
| 5 | ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET ITHard same girl. Years ago a friend told me dating is a game and you just have to play it. She is happily married to a man I think is great, but when she told me this it just depressed me. What's the point of playing this stupid effing game and being hyper vigilant when there is no guarentee doing so will even find me a HVM? Even if you've truly mastered treating the guy in your life as the lowest of your priorities, as humans we get attached to people over time, and if he pulls some bs at 6 mont… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:20 AM |
| 4 | When we say we hate men, it's shit like this. We have no choice but to feel like we have to be cautious all our lives, and sometimes that still isn't good enough.I did not watch the video because I just didn't think I could handle it, and since I'm crying reading the comments, guess I was right. This psychotic murderous male entitlement shit needs to stop. From throwing acid in a woman's face because she refused a marriage proposal to murdering a woman in a super gruesome way because she kissed another guy, men are fucking insane. EDIT: and for other men to celebrate her death and send pics of her corpse with disgusting messages to her mother. The more s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:59 AM |
| 3 | Men thinking we don’t like s*x because we didn’t had “good one yet”There is DEFINITELY projection. Like you I never had an amazing sexual experience. Either I liked the guy but he sucked; or he was mediocre but I moved too fast/wasn't comfortable enough with him for it to be really great. It ranged from not good to nice. And by nice I do not mean I got off, but that the guy and I really liked each other so it was just a nice experience at the time. It's pretty gross and sad that these men think it's all about what their d*ck can do. Clearly these are men who've… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:51 AM |
| 5 | Men thinking we don’t like s*x because we didn’t had “good one yet”As a fellow cat owner who also puts blankies on her sleeping cat...this act is indeed peak dopamine hit!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:43 AM |
| 5 | How many of you have found a HVM husband that really doesnt watch porn?My friend is confident her husband doesn't watch it, and knowing him, how little he uses the internet, how much time the 2 of them spend together, how he doesn't even use technology at work, and that she has long had access to his phone, his email, and his social media, I believe it. I don't even think he had an Instagram until she helped him make one lol. I think this very much has to do with his age (early 40s) and his culturally conservative background. He just didn't grow up with this stuff … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:33 AM |
| 5 | The Risks Associated with Dating in the Modern EraGetting comfortable with being single is the strategy. Seriously. This was the single greatest thing FDS has helped me achieve. I achieved it and beyond, because if i never go on another date the rest of my life, it'll be too soon lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Men casually admitting that they are willing to lie about their intentions just to get sex. Nothing surprising...Coerced sex is rape like in reality at least but the law doesn't always see it that way. unfortunately the law in many countries only defines rape by force. Some countries in Europe for example have updated their laws to include rape by coercion. I am not sure how coercion is defined by those laws (ex do they cover a man pestering a woman for hours until she says yes, or using sleep deprivation until she says yes) but it's a step in the right direction all countries need to take. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:02 AM |
| 3 | I am so beyond done being the mommy-maid-therapist figure and I honestly think I will remain single for the rest of my life. Love is simply not enough.Good for you. I'm sorry he's been such a drain on you, but you're doing the right thing kicking his ass out now. Don't do a damn thing for him while you still have to live with him. The cleaning you may get stuck with since you don't want to live in filth. But cooking? Cook for yourself. Dishes? Wash your own, and hide them in your room so he can't use them. Whatever you have to do to just take care of YOU | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 01:55 AM |
| 9 | This is enough to make me never want to date again 😨"if you're mad at your girl, commit premeditated murder against her" I hope tik tok has removed this, what the fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:28 PM |
| 1 | Same, tbh.LMFAO I love this energy. She could have a female only private account though! I adore lingerie, so I take sexy pics sometimes, so that insta account I use is known only to close female friends. The boudoir community on Instagram for ex is actually a suuuuuuper friendly women-centric place to be, a space that is focused in benefitting women, and doesn't seem to be infiltrated by men much. Still possible I'm sure but it doesn't seem rampant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:24 PM |
| 23 | You can feel as fake-empowered about hookups as you want. It doesn't change the fact that this is how men think.I think the core reason many of us were pickmes is because we were ignorant of the ugly ways men think about women and behave. I am curious if we presented a 100 slide PowerPoint filled with screenshots of tweets like this, and content from men on PUA, red pill, or simply just random men on Twitter who speak honestly about how they think of women, would it actually get a pickme or liberal feminist's to rethink their ideas on dating, sex, and men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 11:05 PM |
| 52 | Why We Support Investment: The Fallacy of Focusing on Financial InvestmentGreat post! And tbh any woman who argues that it's not problem if a man always takes the cheapest financial route possible with a woman is just very ignorant or in denial of the fact that if a man doesn't spend money on you / if he is always is looking for the cheapest financial investment with you, it is because he's not serious about you. If he wanted you, he'd invest in you, with both money, time, emotion, etc. If he spends a lot of money on you it's not an automatic green flag, your first sc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:48 PM |
| 60 | These are the men who want you to be honoured they let you be in their presence.NOOOOOO wow....my ex was an anime and video game nerd, and he had tons of shirts with video game or nerdy references. Which wasn't good, but didn't think it was that big of a deal cuz I was stupidly like "well he's not gonna dress like that forever... Right?" Wrong! But to wear the fucking headband in public 😭😭😭 congratulations you cockblocked yourself, you weeb lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:38 PM |
| 15 | The downvotes have begun.Agreed. While talking to him may be worth a shot and he may shape up, there is the risk that next time there's a crisis for her or for them both, he'll do the same thing. I think it's really up to her to be honest with herself about the relationship and how she feels about him, if this is something worth talking to him about or if she should just leave now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:34 PM |
| 10 | These are the men who want you to be honoured they let you be in their presence.Girl my brother does the same shit with the sink! We used to be like tf was there a monsoon in there? And rarely would he remember to wipe the sink down. Don't know if he got any better since he got married, maybe he actually cleans up after himself now 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:25 PM |
| 91 | These are the men who want you to be honoured they let you be in their presence."watched anime on da regular. Ran into him 10 years later asked him why he's still single & he said its cuz he watches anime" She saw that red flag and ran! I was also SCREAMING at the one about the lazy eye 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:19 PM |
| 40 | I gave this man my number 2 days ago. I ended up blocking him bc he was doing too much. He told me I’m “not engaging” with him. But who has time to text back and forth all day? I have a life lol. So this is his message after he realized I blocked him on WhatsApp. He’s 45.What a psycho!!! Yeah but we're the irrational sex 🙄. I don't see women harassing men like this or throwing acid in men's faces when men reject them. NVM go psycho though when women tell them no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:08 PM |
| 71 | The downvotes have begun.Yeah, this doesn't seem malicious on the BF's part (of course we don't know about how he behaves otherwise). It is undoubtedly selfish though. Even if it's not malicious selfish, he is creating an undue burden on her when she needs someone to lean on right now. She should absolutely not be worrying about his recovery! This is actually a situation where communication could work, and by communication I mean she tells him ONCE that he's stressing her tf out, and while she needs and wants him here, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 45 | Another thing to vet for?Just when I think this sub couldn't get any worse....would you accept anyone else farting in your presence instead of excusing themselves? No. Why accept a man doing it EVERY NIGHT in your bedroom, this is insane 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Wow, he seems like such a great guy. He’s so different than anyone I’ve dated before. We never fight. He’s been committed since day one. I can tell he really cares about me. Blah, blah, NO!Yeah of course! Whatever helps us label and spot these guys better 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Man’s idea of clean is actually super messy. Avoid men who cannot take care of their living space, even when nobody else will see it. His home should be kept tidy regardless of whether a guest is coming over.The fact that he cleans for hours every time means he let's his place gets so disgusting it needs to be deep cleaned. Which makes no sense because wtf is he doing that he's so messy???? Men usually have short hair and therefore shouldn't have the insane hair mess us women have where we need to swiffer/sweep daily. Unless he has a pet that sheds like crazy, his place shouldn't be getting so super dirty. Only explanation is he's an absolute slob and rarely cleans. And when he does he doesn't even … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:48 AM |
| 6 | As the weather gets colder, walk dates are no more. They have been replaced by requests to meet at a stranger’s house for the first time.My dad used to bike across half my borough, or God forbid take horrific public transportation (like he'd wait 3 hrs for a bus sometimes l o l) to see my mom for 10 years before they got married (they met as college freshmen). He never asked her to travel alone to meet him cuz my dad just doesn't think women should do that. But these mfs can't go sit at a restaurant for an hour and be a little cold??? Clearly shows they're actually not even that interested in getting laid, forget a relationship. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:22 AM |
| 18 | Wow, he seems like such a great guy. He’s so different than anyone I’ve dated before. We never fight. He’s been committed since day one. I can tell he really cares about me. Blah, blah, NO!Awesome post. This should be in the handbook. This is the more subtle kind of LVM, along with the "dating a woman because she's there" that can be a lot harder to spot. He doesn't do anything wrong exactly, but he doesn't actually love the woman, he's not enthusiastic about the woman. This takes some detective work and requires you to be especially conscious of the ugly or nasty ways men think about women sometimes (often, for many men) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:00 AM |
| 12 | "Just Ask"It's incredible how all of a sudden when dick and romance is involved, women throw all standards out the window (guilty myself of having done this and ugh it's just so stupid). If you had to tell your friend to buy you a bday present, remind your friend to talk to you, remind your friend to listen to you, remind your friend to ask about how you're feeling, remind your friend to basically be a friend ALL the time, she wouldn't be a very good friend right? And you'd probably stop talking to her. S… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:50 AM |
| 19 | Cat Lady is not an insult"I was against the pet but now I would die for the pet" stories are the most heartwarming 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:43 AM |
| 3 | I’m genuinely curious about this random guy on OLD. Ok, I’m the independent woman. But you sound like you’re planning not to add any value to my life. Then why do I even need to date you? I don’t need you!One of the top reasons why I got off OLD. Profiles like this definitely killed my brain cells. I cannot imagine how stupid guys like this are irl if they have idiotic, "funny" profiles like this. The sentence doesn't even make sense cuz Glen Coco is a guy!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:42 AM |
| 158 | The last thing he did. Rest his soul.LMFAO excellent reference. But yeah seriously RIP this fucking scrote. What a POS! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:25 AM |
| 17 | Cat Lady is not an insultAw that was super sweet of your husband! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:23 AM |
| 6 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManYou're right it's a problem for the majority of us. My friend's who never had a lot of patience, were knowledgeable about men before they began dating, or who just less romantic people never had the problems I had. I have always had very strong relationships with other women, two of my best friends I've know for 20+ years, since kindergarten. But I think I probably absorbed a lot of the "seek make validation" and "romance is the best" messages out there, and that's what led to being romantic and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 06:05 PM |
| 26 | It’s a beautiful ring but it took 20 years and a 10 year old child? That’s sadSeriously. Did he buy this for someone else 💀? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Opinion on marriage and our surname (last name)I don't want to get married anymore but when I did I had no intention of changing my name. My mom didn't, I wasn't going to either. Also because it's my name, I don't want to be called something else haha. I don't have a problem with a wife taking her husband's name because she wants to. I don't think it's an inherently harmful tradition. HOWEVER if a man is really insistent on it tho, that's weird and would be a red flag. I am shocked by stories where men are bothered by this!! AND women should… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:28 AM |
| 2 | LVM exes and social media gamesI cannot speak expertly to narc behavior, but I do know for a fact that an ex bf hanging around on social media, 9 times out of 10, wants to get back with you, wants something from you (sex, attention, ego boost), or is still sexually attracted to you and wants to check you out. Tbh even with an ex where things ended amicably I would delete him from social media because you never know how men who are sexually attracted to you will behave. Definitely block him as soon as you can. What a creep, gl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 12:15 AM |
| 2 | The bar is in hellThis is so, so sad that this is the first NORMAL guy she's talked to. I can't imagine that :(. I hope she maintains a healthy sense of paranoia and vets him but it's so sad. So many of these dudes are porn addicts and yet it's still not enough, they have no fucking manners and have to ask for nudes immediately?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:12 PM |
| 17 | Ladies, I am literally CRYING at this exchange 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣What the fuck to literally all of this....also why people feel so passionately about defending a random stranger who is clearly an asshole is beyond me. Don't these losers have anything better to do than make excuses for this horrible man? The fact that he is cutting her a lot is so fucked up, that is NOT supposed to happen often. Only time I've ever gotten a micro tear, i had to simply be super unlucky, because the guy was gentle, his nails were trim and smooth, and I didn't even feel hurt. My … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 06:06 PM |
| 27 | Reminder that most men are LVM - Prostitution StatisticsThe 90% in Thailand vs the 16% in the US makes me want to throw up. I was aware Thailand is a sex torusim destination but seeing the massive discrepancy between a very rich nation like the US and a much poorer one like Thailand, how the women of this poorer nation are used by men coming in from all over...It makes me even angrier, what libfems are doing. They're so sheltered and don't even fucking know it. How could they look at numbers like that and still say sex work is empowering. There it is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:46 PM |
| 22 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManGirl I've said I won't ever go on another date unless life serves a HVM to me on a silver platter. Your comment reminds me of a meme I saw a few years ago: it was like "me at 22: if I want to meet someone I have to go out!" "now me at 29: it's it's meant to be, he'll break into my house and find me" I am 28 and realized this, it's so true lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:14 PM |
| 23 | Hot Take: There is no 'way' to meet a High Value ManYou got it exactly right. Weeding out LVM and never ending up in a relationship that is shit for you starts with you truly accepting and being okay w/ the fact that you may never meet a HVM. You can't weed out the crap if you don't believe that, you'll hold onto it instead. It's true your chances of meeting a HVM if you never leave your house are 0, but you are not guaranteed to meet a HVM just cuz you're being social, and it's going to burn you out after a while. You'll get disappointed when it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Avoiding men is an option.Girl same!! Ugh your comment seriously summed up so well how I've been feeling for months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Let's break this cycle.Wow........eldest daughter's of LVMs and pickmes really have it bad :|. Where tf do these men come from? My father would be EMBARASSED to not be able to feed himself or us when we were little. Like seriously, u know how many times I've heard him talk about how he was 6 years old, cooking minute steaks for himself after school because both his parents were at work?? I was just talking w/ my dad about a coworker of his from a long time ago. She really wanted to have a baby but was afraid to, becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 07:00 AM |
| 7 | “Men fake entire relationships”Wow lmao, yet another example of never have sympathy for them!! Last year I had gone on a few dates w/ this guy before lockdown hit. I wasn't 100% feeling it before lockdown, and then lockdown made me realize i really wasn't. I wasn't feeling him or dying period. I felt soooo bad and put off ending it for like a month cuz he was such a "sweet guy" and hadn't done anything bad, he just wasn't really for me. Well he took the "break up" well, and I asked to be friends because he was fun and all. We… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:49 AM |
| 1 | Realization: which future makes you excited?Wonderful post!! I never really thought about if I wanted a husband and kids and ruined my life pursuing that. And then after I f'd things up I realized oh, I don't even want those things. I want a house on the beach down south with a garden full of flowers, and a 2nd cat. A tropical island in the sea is the most romantic thing in life to me (not romantic like dating romance), but only recently did it occur to me, why don't I move to like Hawaii eventually instead of down south?? I can live that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:39 AM |
| 7 | relatableLMFAO hard same bruh 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:32 AM |
| 4 | Is anyone else childfree because of misogyny & hatred towards mothers?Same girl. Nothing guarentees a man won't cheat on you, nothing guarentees a man wont change into someone you can't love anymore. There's no way to make sure my body won't be horribly, permanently fucked up post pregnancy. I could die during childbirth. What's the point of getting married then, or God forbid going through pregnancy and having kids with someone who can't guarentee they'll always be there? Despite my parents being together for 40+ years and actually sharing a pretty even load of d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:30 AM |
| 6 | What sexual stuff can I do before getting into a relationship? Receiving oral sex and making out?A relationship only happens when he asks you to be his girlfriend, and you say yes because you see you two being compatible long term. You should read the handbook, it provides all this info and gives great explanations as to why FDS tactics result in dating success for women. Imo, the key is accepting and internalizing the reality that men will date and even marry any a woman simply because she is there and willing to fuck him. Even if she's not his type, even if he actually doesn't like her, i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:14 AM |
| 5 | I’m tired of porn affecting my relationships, and I broke up with my boyfriend last night. How can I obtain a porn-free man if it’s so normalized, I’m 23 years old.Stick to your boundaries no matter how hard it is. Never forget how horrible it was to be with a porn addict. That pain will keep you aware I'd the truth, the truth that it is better to be single than w/ a LVM porn addicted loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 06:03 AM |
| 39 | Dude said I needed to be “vetted” before he could buy me dinner because he’d “been used by women in the past”......For the record, I make ~6X his salary. Anyway, I’ve moved on, and now he’s back begging for sex. Love to see it!"used by women in the past" because when you play the game that is dating, which has no guarenteed of "winning," and when you don't "win," (get another date, get laid) that's being used?? Do sales people say they're used when they pursue an account for 30 days but don't get a signed contract?? Unless a woman stole mad money from a guy or only dated him for the materials things he could buy her (a true gold digger), none of these fucking men were "used" 🙄. They're just livid they paid for a spagh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:52 AM |
| 23 | What sexual stuff can I do before getting into a relationship? Receiving oral sex and making out?By no sex the handbook doesn't just mean go all the way, it means all of this. Don't do a heavy make out session, don't do oral. Believe me, if you kiss a guy on the first date and you make out heavily like that on the second, men think you are easy and that you're looking for sex quickly. When you don't go all the way fairly soon, you get ghosted. It had to happen to me several times before I realized what I was doing wrong. It doesn't matter that it's wrong for men to assume just because you m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 05:37 AM |
| 7 | The Post-Breakup Revenge Glo Up: Opinions?Just give yourself time. It's definitely a sliding spectrum. It's okay you feel this way right now, your break up sounds quite recent, this is a normal reaction, and tbh it's not a bad one. I quit smoking when I was dating my ex - I was a casual smoker so I had always planned to stop eventually since I wanted kids back then, and he was worried for my health, so I was like eh, no time like the present. When I dumped him I was like hm, guess I could smoke now, but found I didn't want to. I really … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 02:06 AM |
| 6 | It’s NEVER your job to save him from himselfRight?? Who approaches someone they haven't spoken to in years like that?. Fuckboys with no shame that's who | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 01:53 AM |
| 9 | FDS has helped me value myself.I am so, so sorry he abused you for years. I'm so glad you're out now! It's only success from here on out :). If it wasn't recommended to you, please read Lundy Bandcroft's "why does he do that? " It is about abusive men, their tactics, motives, and the warning signs. It should be mandatory reading for every woman tbh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:28 PM |
| 10 | It’s NEVER your job to save him from himself"lol, no" and then blocked. Excellent 🤣. What a fucking jackass. I hope the fiancé has wised up and if not, if you are able to get in touch with her, I hope she leaves his ass. What a piece of shit. I agree with the other comments here, I really believe he had no intention of leaving her, as to him she's a mommy bang maid, and scrotes will never give that up. he was just bored of/irritated with her lately, and wanted something fun. I would bet that it was promoted by her being so tired of his ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 11:24 PM |
| 5 | This lady is my inspiration - Heather "The Heat" Hardy. She was an abuse victim and is currently a single mother. While going through her divorce when she was 28 she decided to start boxing, a complete beginner. Now, she is a world champion, boxing and MMA.AWESOME. Women in sports like this is especially cool to me. Thanks for sharing!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 04:31 PM |
| 9 | Hilarious and true!!!The "fucking assholes" at the end 😂. I also love her eye make up 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:45 PM |
| 28 | I was blocked for this? They just can’t stand that a woman doesn’t want to sleep around. Can’t let those FDS ideas get out!! 🙄I think many subs are set to auto ban you if you link to this sub. You can give FDS advice but never use the name. Or just PM women is safer and maybe more likely to get an honest response since they don't have to worry about others reading their comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:40 PM |
| 11 | Call 1-800- unpicked todayThe music in the background 🤣 love this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 10 | "Jokes"he's always told these types of (sex) jokes i know he watches porn with young women in it Oh for fucks sake!!! I want to feel bad for her but she fucking CHOSE to date a guy who watches barely legal porn, who has probably watched porn of underage girls (knowingly or not), and who makes gross sexual jokes. Even if he didn't make these jokes around her daughter before, the fact that he made them is an automatic sign to throw the whole man away. HV or even decent men know you do not make those kind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:47 AM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on Jesse, 24 from 90 days fiance?Even with the fact that much of their relationship drama was clearly manufactured for ratings (as evidenced imo but Darcey appearing multiple times on that show, clearly angling for her own show which she eventually got), he was a total egotistical nutcase. Soooooo self obsessed and image obsessed. He's not even attractive 🙄. A lesson to never date a man's who's entire career hinges upon his appearance! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 08:36 AM |
| 11 | Has anyone had success finding HVM during g pandemic?My friend did find someone seemingly decent after about 4 months on hinge last year. He is better than anyone she has ever dated by far, but I don't really know about him myself; I've met him a few times and he's insanely quiet so I don't really have a handle on him. But my friend seems to be happy with him, and she tells me everything, so if there were major red flags, I'd hear about them. She did not find him w/o immense struggle though. I think she took breaks from the app during that 4 month… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:34 AM |
| 11 | My sister sent this to me saying "Your life motto", She's definitely not wrong.Love it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Moonstruck (10/11) Movie CLIP - Have I Been a Good Wife? (1987) HD .. i know its movie. if your not careful this if the type of man you build life with. i hate this movie for this scene alone. its so sad.I like your take on this movie. Is the way Cher's character handles her romantic life and falls in love something we should model our own romantic lives after? No, as there was no vetting involved/she didn't know this guy well. Should we forgive cheating? No. But was this movie made for the purpose of giving advice on how a woman should manage her love life? No. But is it an excellent movie? Absolutely! There are some movies I do not enjoy because there's too much pickme or manipulative stuff in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:18 AM |
| 6 | Baffling LVM experience I just needed to shareGood for you! It's incredible to me how these dudes are actively rude and actively trying to push women away, and yet they still get laid?? Unfortunately the only way they'll change is if the majority of women stop being pickmes. Here's to keeping our standards high! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:00 AM |
| 4 | It seems like a “duh”, but it’s big for me.No not rambling at all, that's very interesting and useful what you did! I have issues separating my emotions from my thoughts as well. I see meditation come up a lot with people who learned to think more clearly and slow down their thoughts. I will finally have to start it. Glad things are looking sunny for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 11:41 PM |
| 20 | She’s sixteen...This is fucking scary, the fact that this garbage is all over social media, poisoning children's minds makes me sick. It's like kids these days are being raised by social media. It's scary that parents seem to have no idea what their kids are engaging w/ online. I think older parents don't even know what's out there and gen x and millennial parents haven't realized how much the internet had changed for the worse over the years. Any other millennials here remember all the TV specials and shit abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 03:06 PM |
| 11 | It seems like a “duh”, but it’s big for me.Good for you on ignoring that pickme voice. I am sure if you have to cut off a guy again who reveals himself to be a douche or simply a bad match, that pickme voice will be quieter since you've done it once before now and have seen the benefits of sticking to your boundaries. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:43 PM |
| 16 | You ever feel disgusted at the absolute scum you allowed to touch your body?Yup. If I never let another man even hold my hand again, it'll be too soon lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:40 PM |
| 17 | Reminder that men who provide are useless if they have the enotional intelligence of an angry waspYour dad sounds super overbearing with this like, addiction to being irritating (provoking you and his wife for fun for ex). And the antibiotics thing....covid is a virus???? Does he not know wtf a virus is!?? It sounds like you would 100% benefit from moving out. Even people whose relationship with their parents isn't frustrating benefit from moving out. Your dad may still try to be on your case with calling you, but quite often distance helps to reduce that kind of stuff (out of sight out of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:38 PM |
| 12 | Ex bf's brother told me to date tall guys lolThere are LVM no matter how tall or short they are. All depends on how they're raised and therefore what kinda person they are. Short men often have a napoleon complex, are secretly (or not) very self conscious about you being taller than them (this was totally my ex). HOWEVER, tall men (6 ft+) often think they're God's gift to women, and don't value/respect you much. They see you as easily replaceable, because they're used to pickmes fawning all over them. Close friend of mine, her ex was exact… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:27 PM |
| 10 | Are there even any HVM from my eraOnly HVM I know my age is my friends husband (he's 30). My brother is alright, he's in his early 30s, he seems to treat his wife very well, he waited 4 years for her to be ready to get married when I think he knew by year 2 already. But he acts very entitled towards my family (his wife has spent very, very little time around us so I don't think she's seen it). Personally I wouldn't call that HV and if I met a guy who acted like my brother does w/ our fam sometimes, I'd dump him. But the fact tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 10:19 PM |
| 35 | This is the only way a walking date would work.Cute!! And respectful. I'm super close to my grandma so if any guy was ever dismissive of her I'd tell him don't let the door hit his ass on the way out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 10:04 PM |
| 61 | How the Hot Girl with boundaries suddenly becomes invisible ✌️ You become unattractive as soon as they realize they can’t control you with their cheap ‘validation’ and no longer have a reason to lead you on. You are more than enough on your own.I was the same way. You can be insecure or have low self esteem as a person but also know you're hot. This line of thinking seems to believe that being physically attractive is the ONLY thing that makes up one's self esteem. It's just one piece of the pie. I think what these scrotes really mean by "a girl who doesn't know she's beautiful" is "a girl who doesn't know she deserves better." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 09:58 PM |
| 29 | "He's leaving her anyway, I don't mind. Should I give it a try and ignore that I'm an active participant in cheating?""My conscience and intuition is nagging me and I want it to stop." LMFAO literally! "He is flirting w/ me while he has a girlfriend, and he jumps from relationship to relationship, please help me ignore these red flags, thanks!" What I see here is she is just really attracted to or into him, and she wants it to happen, even though it's not going to end well for her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:30 PM |
| 18 | What do you think about guys who watch anime?It depends how much he watches and what. Any guy who's main interest is anime, or who doesn't gave any adult interests (so anything besides TV, video games, and anime) - RUN, no questions asked. This is a man who chooses to only have hobbies that don't challenge or educate himself. No coincidence that incels often are into these and these things only. Also any guy who is really into anime often has a fetish for Japanese or East Asian women. If any anime he watches makes you uncomfortable, or the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:20 PM |
| 113 | The kinksters always shame "prudes" for being vanilla and boring yet the kinksters are almost always basic afI got on this topic w/ my dad, how studies show excessive porn use destroys reduces matter and all, and he mentioned that "your biggest sex organ is the brain" thing. He said these people probably could not even write an erotic story because they have no imagination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:05 AM |
| 5 | Childish mutant spends nearly $10k on video games as his wife wears literal rags. But not to worry! He’s a “good husband and father, otherwise” 😅 Anyways, wifey just needs to know how to raise this minor topic while respecting hubby’s “financial autonomy” 🥺Thanks for sharing this study! I recognize the enzyme theory is a "more research require" type thing, but I figured it carries some weight. Checking out this Harvard study tho 👀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:03 AM |
| 43 | Dating inexperienceI put a lot of pressure on myself but I think it is a “red flag” that I never had a bf which has led me to make bad decisions with men that I am still ashamed of I am the same age as you, and went through something incredibly similar 3 years ago. Your "feeling lonely and what is wrong with me" hit home too, I used to feel exactly like that, and I made decisions I'm forever going to be ashamed of, all because of this stupid pressure I put on myself. First let me say there is NOTHING wrong with yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:51 AM |
| 267 | The kinksters always shame "prudes" for being vanilla and boring yet the kinksters are almost always basic afMy friend said the same thing recently! That these ~kinky~ people are in fact incredibly sexually boring (and boring as people) cuz what they're into is so predictable and scripted. Hmmm I wonder why, it couldn't because they're getting all their ideas about sex from porn, now could it 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:35 AM |
| 4 | The line of “I’m allowed to be attracted to other people!” that lvm/nvm use to excuse shitty behavior while in a relationship.I've seen the horror stories on here, men hiding behind religion to do horrible shit. One of the friends I mentioned has Mormon neighbors and it's disgusting. The girls are never encouraged to think for themselves; it never occurs them to question anything, to question why their community pushes them to get married at like 18 w/ no education. Meanwhile the guys their age are watching porn and having all the sex they want. These girls marry them believing the men have been as good as they are whe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:31 AM |
| 3 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Great way to describe it. Someone else said here said his body language just screams "I'm uncomfortable and this story reflects badly on me so I'm going to fade into the background" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Childish mutant spends nearly $10k on video games as his wife wears literal rags. But not to worry! He’s a “good husband and father, otherwise” 😅 Anyways, wifey just needs to know how to raise this minor topic while respecting hubby’s “financial autonomy” 🥺Never leaving the house to do basic things like grocery shopping, and only ever making your wife do it isn't a common sense precaution though? Wearing mask, gloves and/or frequent hand washing is a common sense practice. Which is what my father does. I didn't say it was admirable, I simply said he hasn't gotten sick, probably because he's been careful. Limiting going out is common sense but in this particular case, as this guy has exhibited extreme selfishness, I honestly see him using asthma as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:25 AM |
| 108 | Just a porn addict complaining about how much of a victim he is because he— *checks notes* sexually assaulted a family member.. 😐Way to make sexual assault all about you and your ~struggle~ asshole. Who is he, Kevin Spacey? And yes, actually, I would say "just quit it" to someone who has an addiction, and if they can't, I would expect them to recognize they have a serious problem, and admit themselves into addiction therapy. "quitting is hard :(" is not an excuse to not do nothing. You'd think your addiction fucking you in the head so badly that you sexually assault a family member would get you to check yourself in somew… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 07:30 PM |
| 11 | The line of “I’m allowed to be attracted to other people!” that lvm/nvm use to excuse shitty behavior while in a relationship.It's insane that these dudes aren't embarassed to follow mad insta hoes and all. My friend's husbands would be, and I think they also find the existence of such accounts inappropriate, so they dont. Both are Christian and range from somewhat to very socially conservative Like...they just have morals lol, to put it bluntly. Women who see no problem with this have swallowed sex positivity whole w/o even looking at what they were letting into their lives. Men who have no problem w/ them are simply.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 15 | Looking out for number 1: an introThanks for sharing your story. It's telling how even when we have a good guy who wants the best for us we can still have codependency problems. Codependency may not be the right term here? but this thing where we define ourselves through our relationship to others. Even if these relationships w/ others are positive, it still is unhealthy to not have a strong sense of self. And we see just how damaging it can be to define ourselves by others when we're surrounded by unhealthy relationships. Knowi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 06:40 PM |
| 75 | Childish mutant spends nearly $10k on video games as his wife wears literal rags. But not to worry! He’s a “good husband and father, otherwise” 😅 Anyways, wifey just needs to know how to raise this minor topic while respecting hubby’s “financial autonomy” 🥺He spent TWO THOUSAND on micro transactions while she was fucking pregnant.....and she stayed with him 🤦🏼♀️. Yet again proof these crazy incidents don't come out of no where. He did this before and it got worse. 5K worse. His behavior is WILDLY irresponsible and selfish. And she's choosing to entertain it. She's choosing to buy her children second hand things and give them a lower quality of life, while knowing her husband chooses himself over them every damn day. She's choosing to be with a ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 06:28 PM |
| 7 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Yeah fr seeing your wife in the middle of a panic attack and asking her to do a video for you? You can't argue that's not cruel. He seemed cold to me on camera but I think that's up for debate, could be due to he's a quiet guy in all their videos, he's uncomfortable w/ being affectionate on camera, was uncomfortable that she chose to speak about a "private matter" on camera. But you can't debate his initial reaction to the incident. Can't believe she just dropped everything to do this video for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:35 PM |
| 29 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Your comment reminds me of in their how we met video, she described her first impression of jun as like the too cool for school character type from a manga. like she specifically said he was like a manga character. I thought that was a very weird thing to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:18 PM |
| 20 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Great points to bring up, I think that's definitely at play. I too was getting this vibe like she was looking for reassurance that he didn't know how to give, or didn't understand the need for in that moment. I don't want to blame him for a larger societal problem, but at the very least, if you walk into a room and see your wife crying, and your first reaction is "hey you need to film something for me," that's sad and messed up :/. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 03:09 PM |
| 13 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Yeah my red flag number 5 I recognize is probably very subjective on my part. Like a red flag for me but not everyone maybe. I do not want to be dismissive of his nervousness about not being a native speaker, or how he could be uncomfortable with being supportive on a private matter on camera. But you point out she says she does all the work and someone else said they get a vibe like she's looking for support from him while she's talking, which I felt that too, but maybe I'm projecting (i'd expe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:55 PM |
| 25 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)That'd weird and similar to a vibe I got from an old video, where they talked about this incident that happened in the US, and Rachel seemed to be leaning towards supporting the view of many in the US (which was opposite the Japanese view). but then her final thoughts were "I live in Japan and am married to a Japanese man, so I go with the Japanese opinion on this" Like youuuu realize you don't have to?? I'm not sure if he's controlling, or if she is the driver by being the type that is always w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:45 PM |
| 27 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)Yeah, I'm not sure what other explanation there is for how you walk into a room, see your wife CRYING, and asking her to do a video RIGHT NOW for your channel, like? I'm sure he thought giving her the gift would cheer her up, but how could he not see she shouldnt be on camera? I do recognize that she agreed to do the video and probably was all "it's fine, I'm fine, I've pulled myself together, I'll do it, I want to do it!!" but his behavior doesn't sit right with me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 09:11 AM |
| 86 | Red flags & LVM husband, or is it just me? (start watching at 14:30)My issue w/ all this is the following. Please watch the video first so I don't influence you! Maybe I've become too cynical, or maybe FDS has really made me as sharp as I shouldve been all along. I welcome your thoughts! 1st 🚩wife was having a panic attack when her husband came into the room, saw her crying......and told her he wanted to film her right now reacting to a dish he cooked for his cooking channel. There was no mention of him dropping everything to ask if she was okay 2nd 🚩 the wife h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 08:48 AM |
| 150 | Say no to easy men 👀Great post. I'll add the words of Meghan thee stallion: "he be eating everybody pussy, I can't kiss him!" Don't give the time of day to these "promiscuous harlots"! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 08:14 AM |
| 24 | The hardest thing about FDS is watching you’re girl friends struggle when you have the answersAfter spending like a year in this community, knowing my own experiences and my friends', I think unless an FDS is drilled into to a womans brain when she's a teenager or younger, and drilled so constantly that it drowns out the pickme advice rampant on social media, the only way we can change is by making mistakes with men that end up really hurting us :/. I think at its core, FDS, and ANY boundary setting methods, relies on high self esteem and the acceptance that if you accept less than what … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:41 AM |
| 16 | From avoidant men to desperate men... just trying to find that middle ground?More time and a shitload of luck are the main parts of it lol. Since you're using OLD, think about the chats you had with these desperate guys and see if there's any patterns maybe? Although we do have to accept that if we are going to date, there will still be a percentage of bad dates and crazies that get past initial screening, even with FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:07 AM |
| 3 | Poor ring is so teeny tiny, it’s almost invisible. But I guess she has to love it or be rendered a scheming gold-digger, amirite?!?! 🤪💍WTF and she believed him?? This girl has been brainwashed by this guy for years. It's sad :/. I'd say I hope she wakes up but she'll marry him and continue to be lied to and disrespected for years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 08:38 PM |
| 19 | What is with men not being able to hold a conversation?Girl I forgot to mention in my comment that yesterday I was looking at comments on a video of a male/female romance from this video game I'm interested in. and this freaking scrote in the comments said he had a better relationship with the female love interest than with women in real life. He admitted to the entire world he has a better relationship with a fictional character who is programmed to respond well when he picks the right dialogue option. A dialogue that someone else thought out for h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 07:46 AM |
| 3 | Men disappoint me in every area of lifeLmfaooo how'd I know he didn't actually have their approval. That is AWESOME though, I really hope he does get sued and they warn others in the industry about him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 05:37 AM |
| 33 | This shit just wreaks of self hatred.I know, right? A while back my friend was briefly seeing a guy w/ a "crazy" ex wife, who, when they were married, played favorites with her own kids, and was especially cold with his daughter. Who now has a bad relationship w/ her father, because her own father invited this LVW into their home, and let her treat his own daughter poorly. He revealed this all like right in the beginning, another huge red flag, who talks about exes so soon?? I was very glad to hear she quickly stopped seeing him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 04:17 AM |
| 60 | What is with men not being able to hold a conversation?This was my biggest complaint when I used OLD and why 99% of matches never went anywhere. The dudes couldn't hold a conversation over text which actually should be easier than in person because you can think about what you want to say. I see loads of people (probably mostly men) on dating subs whine about not being good at talking to people and im like quit whining and grow up - and I say this as a formerly very shy person. I believe most of these dudes grow up with no manners taught or expected… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:01 AM |
| 30 | This shit just wreaks of self hatred.but I also look at the guy and tell them they need to vet better. It's scary how much they don't vet. They literally will stick their penis in anything. SERIOUSLY! Know how many men I've seen on reddit acknowledge this fact? ONE. And that was like a year ago lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:48 AM |
| 39 | This shit just wreaks of self hatred.Yup. Bruh if I was this girls friend I'd be thinking 1) this guy might be lying 2) if he's being truthful then he's a straight dumbass and 3) if he's telling the truth, then what kind of people does he hang around that he encountered and dated 2 women who were supposedly evil harpies who lied about being sex workers while dating him?? I think women are way too ready to believe these sob stories - like come on, no good or smart person is that unlucky. Only time that real unluckiness happens is if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:45 AM |
| 40 | I've decided to not date or sleep with men for an entire year.I'd rather just avoid it all together, because 10/10 they will disappoint me, SAME I'm about 8 months into not bothering w/ men anymore and I can tell you that you'll likely have such a great time you won't be interested in dating in 2022 either lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:21 AM |
| 263 | Video games are more important to him than helping his wife with their babyI hope people told her to pack in secret and run away with her kids to a dv shelter right after he's out of the house. Even if she has no money to her name only, just leave, this guy's a fucking animal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:14 AM |
| 144 | This shit just wreaks of self hatred.If your SO's dating history is that bad, like "I didn't know she had a sugar daddy or was an escort" bad wouldn't you seriously judge this person's judgment? He could very well be lying about how bad his exes were and also minimizing his negative role in the relationship, but even if he's not, again, 2 exes in a row who are "secret, lying sex workers," that's too much to chalk up to bad luck. Like is ur man really worth it girl... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:11 AM |
| 33 | Of course this econ page I follow posted this. Confirming that you can’t make much money selling nudes or doing OnlyFans, mostly during this pandemic.I wish the internet was full of women like you. Idk what the most common female age group on onlyfans is, but it seems lots of very young women (like 18 to early 20s) (I am late 20s) have one, as they started hearing libfem crap at a much younger age, and have been influenced by social media since they were very small (in comparison to millennials or anyone else really). Social media was already significantly more malicious by the time these women were in middle school/hs than when I was that ag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 10:39 PM |
| 11 | Get off of OLD!I agree whole heartedly with your statement, because for me personally it just pissed me off, because it's like looking for something shiny in a pile of garbage, w/ a 99% chance that when you look more closely at that shiny piece, it's also garbage However I think for the benefit of FDS, there should be a little nuanced discussion about OLD. Some women on here it seems to work for them, and I think as a whole, OLD use should be discouraged unless you have proven that you have the right mindset t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 29 | Man in YT comment section explains why he won't reject a woman who makes the first move even if he's not attracted to herHolyyyyy shit GO TO THERAPY, you fucking creep!! If anyone, man or woman, is THAT depressed when they are single and not in a relationship, that is unnatural and unhealthy, and it's their individual responsibility to recognize that. You do not go out and date literally anyone just to not be alone, honestly it's a form of self harm. And harmful to others! I did this and so did my last ex, and it was painful for us both and I pushed close friends away. I just got worse after that relationship, unt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:36 PM |
| 33 | Men disappoint me in every area of lifeWhat a fucking loser. I'm sorry he harassed you. I'm glad you told the theater company though. Who knows if he really even had an agreement with them, but if he did I hope they pull it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 06:24 PM |
| 2 | FDS incarnate: the story of my momThank you so much for sharing, I'm glad you have such wonderful parents! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:32 AM |
| 7 | Living alone as an FDS womanWhat a fucking creep 🤢. So glad you scared him off but I'm sorry you had to go through this. Friendly male neighbors who help are genuinely not creepy. And women know the difference in their gut immediately. I live alone at my grandma's house now, and this married couple has lived next door to her for like 35 years. So I've know the husband all my life, have seen him outside often as I visited her daily, and your post makes me realize I've only seen him up close a few times. Usually he's saying … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 11:11 PM |
| 8 | Pharmacy Tech calls out men's Erectile Dysfunction shockI never knew ED was such a rampant problem among men, especially young men, until I came to this sub. I haven't been w/ a lot of guys, but none ever had any issues. What do these dudes expect, to be given viagra at like 21 so they can keep watching hours of porn a day but still get it up in bed? Who knows if viagra would even help, like if you've ever heard the term the biggest sex organ is the brain, viagra isn't going to help them be turned on by a normal woman when what he's used to is increa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:54 PM |
| 3 | even though i didn’t buy my ring myself, i still think this counts... my dad gave me this ring at my cotillion and told me to never let a man give me anything less than this. to always remember my worth.Gorgeous ring, your dad is so sweet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 3 | The "Unconditional Love" mindset is toxic and you should refrain from itThis used to sound bad to me, that there's no unconditional love, and it's because I never thought of things like "not cheating" "respect me" "respects themselves" for ex as conditions. Even in my pickme days I wouldn't have forgiven cheating but I never thought about what this meant for "unconditional love" until it happened to come up in convo with a friend. But it's true, these are good conditions to have, any reasonable person would respect these conditions and understand that if theyre viol… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:37 PM |
| 6 | "How are you still single?" is not a complimentI've gotten this one several times and I fucking hate it. If I got this "compliment" now I think I wouldnt hate it so much because the truth is i want to be single, and that would be my answer. In the past I really wanted to find somebody, but I never went on a real date until my later 20s, and I made myself very self conscious about that. Me, not anyone else, not guys, because i didn't even talk to guys then. Then I started talking to them, and I was just finding scrotes because I didn't vet pr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:11 PM |
| 12 | Vile monster confesses to SHOOTING his wife’s beloved pet cat. Wife makes excuses for her deranged spouse, and basically ends the post with “Gosh, men are so dang silly, aren’t they??” Sigh. R.I.P. to the poor kitty, honestly.WHY did I have 2 kids with this guy? Woman, if you have to ask yourself....seriously, how the fuck can she trust this man? He is clearly violent, irresponsible, and not of sound judgment, as evidenced by not just this one incident, BUT ALSO by the fact that she said this is the worst of things that he's done. Meaning there's a trail of irresponsibility and I'm willing to bet violence too behind him. This is really someone she wants raising her children?? Someone who would've been arrested for an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:49 PM |
| 26 | This was a reply to a woman asking for help bc her boyfriend ogles half naked Instagram photos of a woman in her friend group and even subscribed to her OF where she posts sex videosLiberal feminism has truly come full circle 🙄. They're so "woke" they're asleep | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:45 PM |
| 27 | This was a reply to a woman asking for help bc her boyfriend ogles half naked Instagram photos of a woman in her friend group and even subscribed to her OF where she posts sex videosI wake up and this is the first thing on my mind almost daily ensuring I start my day off feeling shit about myself. This is awful. Absolutely awful. I hope she realizes a partner who loves and respects yly would N E V E R make you feel like shit about yourself. I hope she dumps his ass Yeah, and Santa is real 🙄 lmfaooo actually 😂. My gut feeling is that only brainwashed pickmes would think up such stupidity like "he's supporting his friend by subscribing to her OF," in order to try and convince… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 09:29 PM |
| 2 | A Short Addendum to the Question of TherapyYour username says it all! Same about being celibate until I'm ready to try again. Among the best therapy there is for me personally. And tbh I'm so comfortable I might never be ready lol. Only today did I wish for a moment i had a bf to call immediately and talk about some upsetting news, but then I was like uh duh I have plenty of friends to talk to about this. And since the news is about my grandma and I have friends I have known since kingergarten, they'd understand way better what I'm feeli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:59 PM |
| 2 | A Short Addendum to the Question of TherapyFr about therapy, meditation, etc, being the "props" I saw someone on reddit say once they can't point to a single or even multiple therapy sessions that they felt "fixed" them or were a "breakthrough," but that going to therapy over many years gave them a lot of tools to manage their mind and life better. "I don't believe in therapy" is such bs, so what's wrong with self help, meditation, learning on your own about how to handle anxiety, depression, whatever youve got? Because therapy alone isn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 10:55 PM |
| 11 | WE HAVE TO DO BETTER.Seriously. MAYBE he really didn't play this much before they got married, but chances are he did, and even if he didn't, guys like this ALWAYS show red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:19 PM |
| 7 | A Short Addendum to the Question of TherapyWonderful post! I found talking to a therapist really wasn't for me because when I got into how I ruined my life, I didn't like how my first ever therapist handled it, so i didn't tell the next one about it (I do have a close friend who knows all about it though, I think that's key). I didn't stick w/ the second therapist for long, but she was the sweetest lady and recommended a self help anxiety workbook that is available online for 6 bucks and contains lots of exercises to help manage anxiety.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:12 PM |
| 3 | Scrote threw out her skincare. She works 12 hour shifts, pays the bills, and pays for his "hobbies" . And what does he offer? Nada. He threw out her safe space 😤WTF!! even worse than I thought! She walks in on him rehoming them!? So not only did he hurt her, but the poor family who thought they were adopting their new little buddies. What a fucking scrote. I am not a therapist but caring for a pet, caring for another living creature, like even having a garden, actually seems like a healthy way to deal with trauma to me (as long as this doesn't turn into "always looking for a broken man or person to fix" syndrome). It gives you something wholesome to foc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 11:00 PM |
| 2 | OMG. I saw a post on here about our opinion on male gynaecologists.. listen to thisWhat the FUCK, is she suing!? He should be in prison! I also don't understand why the fuck he was allowed to be involved in her birth after he already proved he was biased and unfit to work on her? He was reported to someone, wouldn't that someone be worried about a lawsuit and be like yeah stay tf away from her. Unless he was the only gyno available for the C section, but honestly I would've been like yeah I'm not even delivering at this hospital, because I don't want him anywhere near me, even… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:39 AM |
| 17 | The Qanon ‘shaman’ with horns and bearskin recently arrested for storming the Capitol is a stay at home dad who is addicted to drugs and judging by the telltale bald head, a porn addict as well. The jokes write themselves ladies"the highly respected job of OUT OF WORK ACTOR" he makes tobias from arrested development look competent and successful by comparison lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:27 AM |
| 16 | Sister finds child porn on brother’s computer. REDDIT: bUt WhY WeRe yOu SnOOPinG ThOugh?And the story just got worse. What the fuck. I hope people advised her to tell her brothers schools? Because also cartoon porn and henati is fucking terrible too!! This garbage fucks with adult brains, these boys are going to be so screwed up in the head! And where the hell did they even hear about this shit and start searching for it? Probably cretins at school. Everyday I see more and more why my friends have chosen to homeschool their kids, especially boys. And why do such young kids have unl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:23 AM |
| 36 | Scrote threw out her skincare. She works 12 hour shifts, pays the bills, and pays for his "hobbies" . And what does he offer? Nada. He threw out her safe space 😤Even w/o covid, who the fuck WOULDN'T wash their face after a 12 hour shift!? Or after getting home from work period?? Oh, right, this unemployed scrote who probably plays video games all day and doesn't shower | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:18 AM |
| 23 | Scrote threw out her skincare. She works 12 hour shifts, pays the bills, and pays for his "hobbies" . And what does he offer? Nada. He threw out her safe space 😤The link isn't working for me but "man tries to get rid of gf's kitten" is enough, that's fucking disgusting. I've had cats my whole life and I would go fucking ballistic on this guy if he ws my bf. And then I'd tell my parents so my dad could show up and further kick this guys ass (swear my parents think of my cat as their grand-cat lol). This is still not as bad as the woman who posted that her bf accidentally stepped on her cat when she was on a business trip, said the vet wasn't able to save… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 06:16 AM |
| 10 | I'm a day dreamer. And lately I've noticed that in all my day dreams im single 🤷Back when I was interested in having a husband and family, even when I was briefly serious with a guy, I could never actually picture myself living with him, or with any man, or being a mom. I daydreamed about being in a loving relationship sometimes but never really about the wedding, or a family, or kids. The things I have daydreamed about most since I was a kid are the stories I want to write or am writing. And now I daydream about having a house on the beach with a garden because I think it'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:48 AM |
| 22 | My girlfriend always made me feel so secure when I was the one fucking other people and refusing to get married. What happened???Dude I thought the same! It doesn't add up at all. If they're bogus charges, then you don't pay them lol, so why would he gave no money? This reminds me of when my friend, who is now engaged to a decent man, was seeing her ex, a guy she knew for 20 years, who had a prior drug problem, but was supposedly clean for a long time now. Well. He told her he was going to propose, but just needed to save up for the ring. She knew what his weekly paycheck was and how much the ring cost, so she knew he sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/21 05:40 AM |
| 4 | Valentine’s Day is coming up!Going to have a relaxing time at home 😊 Last valentines day I went to a singles event cuz some people I knew were going. And also because I'd been slow faded/insulted by a scrote immediately after I turned down sex after w/ him after only a couple weeks of seeing him. So I was like fuck him I'm going to enjoy myself. It was actually a really fun night lol. I didn't see anyone I was attracted to, I was talking to this girl for a while, but once she started talking to a guy, I introduced myself to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:35 AM |
| 26 | She's strong on her boundaries, but asking reddit for advice is asking for pornsick losers to chastise her for having themWell said. OP knows what she has to do but she doesn't want to do it...it's not fun to admit you got played, that you let a guy sleep w/ you because you believed he was a good person and really cared for you. But it is always better to be brutally honest and cut your losses now instead of dragging out something you know is wrong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 07:16 AM |
| 13 | Tell me again how porn doesn't cause brain damage and isn't intrinsically linked to paedophilia. 🤢God how I wish thought crime was a thing. How much you want to be he likes porn of very young looking women or godforbid trafficked underage girls? Does he even realize how fucking sick he is? He needs to detox from porn. Both him and his wife should be reported to CPS and be taken away from their child. he tells her he dreamt of having sex with his baby daughter and she's "understanding"??? Neither of them give a crap about their child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:38 AM |
| 127 | Kill the narrative that women are weak, or waiting to be saved. Don't take our kindness for weakness. Also, their eyes... wowThis is awesome, there doesn't seem to be a huge number of anti poaching teams out there, to see an all female is really cool. Lot of respect for these women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:18 AM |
| 34 | There is no such thing as female privilege.Seriously, I've only ever seen men talk about female privilege on reddit and in the context of "it's easier for girls to get dates B(!!" FAILING to think to the next logical step, which is, if it's easier for women to get dates than men....that must mean men are asking women out left and right and don't have any standards. Lol. I've seen exactly ONE man on reddit recognize that for most men, their only standard is "she's a woman." Scrotes are just ridiculously self centered and there isn't anyth… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 09:04 PM |
| 5 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedGirl I feel you!! I made myself depressed for a couple years over this shit. Having a shitty job was also a factor in that, but most of it was feeling like something was wrong with me because I'd barely dated, and then fucking up my life and pushing away friends over some freaking scrote. It wasn't until quarantine started that all of this was finally fixed. That's when I got a new job, when I literally couldn't date, and when I found FDS. I have FDS aligned friends irl but nothing like checking… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:50 PM |
| 6 | When you’re such a pickme you cook for his female roommates and question how to resolve this"looking for advice on how to approach this" girl you are twenty NINE (which, good lord, I'm going to be in a few months wtf!!), WHY are you doing this for him, WHY do you have no idea how to say no? Apparently Nancy Regan's "just say no" slogan really is that revolutionary for people. This situation is not one where the intent to take advantage of is murky. He's asking her to cook for his roommates!? Like what!? If you really cannot say no to something this clearly burdensome and something that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:03 PM |
| 5 | This is why I never make friends in the workplace. Especially not with dudes. Corporate America is crawling with “NiCE GuyS”Yikes, this is sad :/. I am thankful that I haven't had a terribly misogynistic work experience. Worst was when I was at a very small company, the company owner was condescending towards me sometimes cuz I was the same age as his daughter. He did have my back when I was sexually harassed by a client though (it was upsetting but on a scale of 1 to 10 it was like a 3 compared to the stores I see here). Overall though my boss was an AWFUL boss to all genders, complete shit at managing a company, ch… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 06:25 PM |
| 5 | For the ladies who are not necessarily marriage mindedSame girl. In a few months it'll be a year since I've dated and I'm going to celebrate. I put so much pressure on myself to get married and have kids and fucked my life up in that pursuit, only to realize I don't even want it. maybe I'd be open to marriage, but like you said, he's got to really be worthy and absolutely unbelievable for me to even give him the time of day. And if not, staying single is a good way to be! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:46 AM |
| 3 | Ask Polly, I wish pick-mes like you would come with a sign on them 🙄Heather then goes on to say that she shouldn’t look to her husband for compliments about her looks and that she herself doesn’t rely on a man for that because it’s ridiculous to look for honest compliments on your appearance from your partner somehow??? WTF if your own husband or boyfriend, WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU, doesn't call you beautiful and sexy, THEN WHO SHOULD!??? wtf!? That's just horrible, I can't imagine having a boyfriend who insulted my body FOR YEARS :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:38 AM |
| 5 | Sis, No! You obviously didnt want to.This is horrible, why the fuck would she do this? I can't fathom having such low self esteem and I have been at my personal rock bottom. Wtf. And what an unempathetic piece of shit, I'm quite sure it never occurred to his careless, oblivious ass that her personal possessions meant something to her. Women really have to receive the message young that dating without boundaries, changing yourself for another, and assuming men think and act just like us is dangerous, it can really destroy you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:30 AM |
| 60 | Pick Meisha mad that a man who wasn’t even willing to commit “cheated” on her after she bought him Husband level Christmas gifts. Thoughts?Yeah what does that even mean?? She calls him a cheater but was he even her boyfriend? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:17 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeisha horror tale. Hapless scrote nearly destroys mind/body of once-vibrant girl. She has an STD (prob bc of him)+ is at risk for cervical cancer. Jobless bum doesn’t care. Friends beg her to leave b4 this kills her. They “just can’t see the good”. And she’s STILL f*cking him. Mother help her!What the hell has happened to this girl that she thinks this is acceptable? Thank God for her friends but like where are her parents?? Where is her own sense of self preservation? She must be so depressed and have such low self esteem. I've been depressed with rock bottom low self esteem and yet I can't even imagine the state she must be in :( Forget about ignoring her, he stole from her and gave her chlamydia!! Like this means she never asked him to get tested or see his recent results before t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:41 AM |
| 6 | I deserve more.Be proud of yourself for moving on. Anytime you have doubts, read that "I deserve..." paragraph back to yourself. from what you wrote it doesn't sound like he treated you well AT ALL. You absolutely do deserve better, and you'll find it ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:29 AM |
| 6 | How about no.What.....the fuck?? Candy crush isn't even HARD lmao that game knows when you're stuck on a level I swear, everytime I leave it and come back, I beat the level asap. The fuck is wrong with these freaks!? Wrangle these people up and keep them in a bunker and away from the internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:21 AM |
| 22 | Is anyone else afraid to have a son / what your son might turn out like after seeing how 98% of men are, and how so many turn out to be no matter what their mother does from them? Stories like this it’s almost always the male child doing some entitled shit to their mother...While we don't know exactly how this woman raised her son, even if she was stern with him/made him be responsible, nearly all parents are a little bit more lenient w/ boys, and they end up at the very least, a little entitled. My parents were as strict with my brother as they were me, but I saw him developing this entitled streak when he graduated college a decade ago already. My parents ignored it and when he'd start shit with me, told me I was the difficult one. And lo and behold, finally 2 ye… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 05:12 AM |
| 2 | Do you mostly date men who you are viscerally and immediately sexually attracted to on a gut level or do you date a wide range of men and “give guys a chance”?For real. We only dated for a couple months and I don't regret it, as it was like the only dating lesson I learned w/o me getting badly hurt (emotionally). It did teach me to trust my gut more. And that's why I check FDS all the time, so if I ever feel like dating again, I will have learned not to give any guy the benefit of doubt! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:34 PM |
| 8 | Prenup StrategyFor women who live in a country or state with community property laws (in the US: Louisiana, Arizona, California, Texas, Washington, Idaho, Nevada, New Mexico, and wisconsin), you should think about creating a prenup to protect yourself. Under community property: earnings, all property bought with those earnings, and all debts accrued during the marriage are owned 50/50 by both parties. If you get divorced, it's really going to be ugly. That debt shit especially scares me!! This is why you shoul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Do you mostly date men who you are viscerally and immediately sexually attracted to on a gut level or do you date a wide range of men and “give guys a chance”?I voted for the butterflies one, because the last guy I dated I did think was cute, but I was not 100% sexually attracted to him. I gave it a brief shot because he and I matched up on some very important moral points, but I could never really get into him. Part of it was the sexual attraction, and the rest was he was low effort in some ways. This was when quarantine started and I just discovered FDS, and ladies here talking about the efforts their guys were making during quarantine helped me put… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:11 PM |
| 3 | I told my Italian mother about FDS - her advice:Thanks so much for sharing her story! Nice to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:04 PM |
| 11 | The usefulness of Cats Vs MenWOW I honestly cannot imagine a more useless kind of man 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:00 PM |
| 6 | Men negging through the use of racial preferencesI'm floored he said this shit to you, he is SO disgusting and racist. to just objectify you and women like that, wtf. I'm sorry you've had to deal with him in any capacity though I'm glad you don't live near him anymore. What a creep!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:56 PM |
| 11 | Four Questions to Level Up & Break Out of Pickme ConditioningThanks for sharing! Also because I'm a huge procrastinator so the first part of this is helpful too lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:44 PM |
| 14 | Why is this so accurate? Have men always been like this?I have heard some women here say they just respond that they'll know when they see it. I am not sure if the handbook offers tips on this directly but I would recommend you ask this like here or on askFDS so some ladies who have skillfully answered this can chime in! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 05:39 PM |
| 37 | Would have laughed at this video before. All I can think about now is “after 8 years???? That’s the proposal???”Yup. I think the joke here was you see him saying all these red flags, but in the forever girlfriends desperate for a ring mind, she hears the red flags as the "blah blah blah" in the subtitles, and she only pays attention to what she wants to hear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 03:04 AM |
| 9 | I don’t understand the obsession with wanting to live with menI realized last year I actually don't want marriage or children, ans that I greatly enjoy living alone. I spent 6 months of quarantine w/ one of my besties, and when she got her own place, I discovered I wasn't bored or lonely living by myself like I feared. Recently I spoke to an older coworker about it ; I assumed she was married since she has kids, but she lives alone and she said to me that she's hardly ever upset about it; work keeps her busy and she's half introvert, so she enjoys her quie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 03:01 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?She let's him come over to her nice apartment, where I'm sure they're having sex, and he's annoyed he's had to pay $80 bucks a night for several nights of parking? He's annoyed he has to order take out for them? Most of that $500 is coming from the parking, which is his choice! I doubt he lives in NJ or Staten Island because if he did, he absolutely would've mentioned the cost of tolls in this, so he's choosing to drive (as opposed to needing to drive) rather than take the subway. Perhaps he liv… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:40 AM |
| 70 | Why is this so accurate? Have men always been like this?The handbook says to not divulge what you're looking for/never ask what you are, because well, if he really wanted to be your boyfriend you wouldn't have to ask. When you tell a guy what you're looking for (even something simple as "I'm looking for an LTR") you're just giving them the script to play you with. If you find yourself wondering what you are, if you really want to ask him, walk away because he's not serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 02:29 AM |
| 4 | I’m genuinely confused. This thread was about making female friends. Is this supposed to be funny?You're right, the dark side of the moon or Mars is a better choice. I just read today Elon musk hopes to be buried on Mars, so here's hoping male reddit follows him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:26 AM |
| 1 | The divorce forums are sobering...I did not say never anywhere. I also followed up my first paragraph by saying that if you date men and marry a man, be prepared for the worst to happen/expect to get divorced eventually. A man could change after 5, 10, 20 years, even if he seems really good now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:24 AM |
| 4 | I feel so bad for her... his penis is more important than her boundaries.This is awful. Their relationship has been fucked up the entire time they've been together. And them she moved in with him anyway and he only got more abusive. He doesn't take no for an answer!? Girl he's a rapist!! I hope the comments were a wake up call for her. I would not be surprised if she never dated anyone but him, or never dated a decent guy, and so she thinks this is all normal, yet is very unhappy but can't accept why because she's not in tune w/ how fucked up this is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:31 PM |
| 12 | I’m genuinely confused. This thread was about making female friends. Is this supposed to be funny?Men on this website are an exceptional breed of vile and I advocate for shipping them all off to Siberia | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:25 PM |
| 14 | There’s literally scientific evidence behind why men are more disgusting than womenI was going to comment on that! Like wtf!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 05:23 PM |
| 10 | This year I started dating a work friend who lives a few hours away. Things are going so well and I never would have spotted his HV green flags and gone for it (despite the distance) without FDS. Going down to visit this weekend and just found out he’s planned another sweet, thoughtful itinerary.Cute! I hope he keeps it up - enjoy your visit with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 04:19 AM |
| 20 | In my life, maybe two men have taken nice photos of me. The rest seem to be on some passive aggressive mission to make us feel awful about themselves.I was at a friend's bday once, and we asked one of her male friends there to take a pic of us and the birthday girl. He took several pics and his thumb was in ALL of them. Only one was salvageable, I was able to crop his thumb out, but the fact that he partially covered the flash did give the pic an interesting filter like quality lol. I was like bro seriously!? I don't understand this, my dad is a perfectionist with photos and actually is very good at getting everyone at their best, because he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 04:12 AM |
| 14 | The divorce forums are sobering...I know a few men in my life who aren't cheaters (like, my friends' fathers, my friends husband), but it seems they're in the minority. I think most men will cheat if given the opportunity, because they don't respect their gf/wife and are not scared of the consequences. So there's that, but also, if you date men, if you marry a man, I think you need to be prepared for that worst to happen. Have mostly your own friends, have a good relationship with your family, have all your own money, make sure … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Being low maintenance just doesn't work.He's 32 and acting like this? She's 29 and entertaining him?? Girl, I fucking can't 😭. This guy is such a loser and she needs to dump his ass like a bad stock. Cuz that's what he is, a bad investment that's just stealing her money! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:52 PM |
| 1 | I didn’t want to post a picture of my house but my new living room resembles this! 2020 was actually one of the best years of my life AFTER leaving the scrote. As soon as I left my life really changed. It was like magic, and I’m not even joking.Congratulations!! 2020 was one of my best years too actually! I finally got out of a years long depression, stopped caring about dating, got a job that's finally a good fit, got a raise so I'm finally making the salary I want, and got a kitten!! Your house must be GORGEOUS btw if that's what your living room looks like!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:46 PM |
| 6 | Broke up due to cultural differencesYes, I was going to say, it is very typical for men who come from a very close knit ethnic, religious, or both community to date girls outside of that community when they're very young for fun, because they know they can never marry her. In my early 20s I had a super casual thing with an Afhgani Muslim dude, and he'd told me it had so happened he'd only ever dated white girls (I'm white). Perhaps white girls really were his type, or more likely, he was dating them because he knew he could never … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Why LVM don’t do house projectsMy dad is very much like yours. Not laying concrete haha but taking care of the cars, the house, the garden, everything, and handling the contractors ifs something he cant do. I think men like our dads take pride in doing things themselves; they WANT to be useful, and would be embarassed if they never lifted a finger. My parents watch a lot of hgtv and my dad is always so offended by how the husband in the relationship wants a house where he doesn't have to do any work on the house or yard. If I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:11 PM |
| 8 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection"It depends I think. The former SB who posted here recently was taken on trips often. I assume she got cash as well but there was a TON of the material things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:02 PM |
| 6 | This would be a deal breaker for me. If he can’t do something so small, he won’t be able to do bigger more important things. Throw him out along with the oatmeal. No more settling for less than what we deserve! Kick him out 2021! ✊I know these are just skits this woman does, but stuff like this is really important actually. It is NOT petty for a "little thing" like this to bother you and to be a dealbreaker. Because actually its not a little thing, this is something that you'll have to put up with several times a week, it's a domestic labor issue that will create more work and more aggravation for you. I stopped caring about dating months ago and honestly this is one of the reasons - I am very particular about my space, a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 07:01 PM |
| 6 | When you’re out of a lvm/nvm’s league, he will do anything to keep your self esteem low so you won’t know you can do better.I'm so sorry he treated you like this. You should be very proud of pulling yourself away from him. It's not easy at all when your self esteem is shit, as you know. Have you read Lundy Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That? It should be required reading for every woman, it examines the motivations and tactics of abusive men, so it talks about the kinds of things your ex did. What strikes me as insane about stuff like redpill and PUA is that these dudes talk about abusive tactics in public. An abusers g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Ring Pics: Married Edition. Also one of my Christmas gifts (and different lighting for the ring)Gorgeous!! I never heard of that stone, it sounds so cool. Congrats, wish you both many happy years ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:30 PM |
| 18 | "I was a starter wife."- Justine Musk"he didn't understand why I grieved openly, which he regarded as "emotionally manipulative." I buried my feelings instead" "Nevada's death sent me on a years-long inward spiral of depression and distraction that would be continuing today if one of our nannies hadn't noticed me struggling." I started crying at this. How fucking awful to lose your baby to SIDS, but then for his father, your husband, to not even comfort you? To tell you your grief is "emotionally manipulative"!? For your nanny, not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:22 PM |
| 29 | Woman takes care of her child basically by herself while gamer/unemployed husband games all day. Asks for advice and gets told his video game habits are normal! This is not normal!"he will choose games over everything, including family time" "he's a good dad!" I'm so tired of women like this. They know his behavior is wrong. There's fucking children involved. And still they're the "don't touch my garbage!" possum meme EDIT: yes I am also SO tired of man children like this. But they wouldn't be husbands and God forbid fathers if no one married their useless, immature, repulsive asses | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:03 PM |
| 34 | Hypersexualization of women in anime and why I won't deal with men who watch itSeriously. I commented something similar on this sub a while back and a male lurker was so offended that I said hentai is like the most disgusting thing in the world, he got all butthurt in my dms and said something like I was "lame" for thinking it's gross 😂. Like yeah, I'm the lame one, not the guy who's into cartoon titties and has most certainly never seen a boob in real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 06:01 PM |
| 37 | They insist on only sex until they money is in the picture, then they want a "connection""mentoring" 💀 I saw a comment here once about how these "sugar daddies" (I have to put it in quotes to stop myself from vomiting lol) usually pay in gifts/services (like a vacation) and not actual money because you can't use those things to improve your life otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:49 PM |
| 117 | “You have to have a house and a job to have a relationship? I’m the stay-at-home dad type though.” This one made me holler 😂😂😂"for what I could provide you" HE LITERALLY CANNOT PROVIDE ANYTHING LMFAO he can't even take care of his own kid!! He cannot even give her a place to live!! And dude, my ass w/ the "i guess I'll stay at a motel because I don't like staying at my parents" a guy who's using a dating app to couch surf is not paying for motel if he has a free place to stay at his parents, he did that to try to make her feel bad and have him over. What a fucking psycho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?WOW that is...really scary that that it is so common... If I didn't want kids before I certainly wouldn't want them now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 06:44 PM |
| 4 | Saw this wholesome video yesterday of an elderly woman and thought of you guys.She is so cute oh my gosh. She has a better body than me 😂 It's like, inspiring she's taken such amazing care of herself, physically and mentally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:21 AM |
| 37 | Low value men whine about women not playing the role of a therapist, calling us unempathetic for not letting them cross our boundaries in that regard. I explained to the idiots on how the healthy relationship works. :/Is that comic supposed to be insulting? Leaving a guy who says garbage like that is EXACTLY the right move lmfao. Because it means he's been a shitty person and driven everyone out of his life but takes no responsibility, made poor decisions in choosing friends, has a victim complex, and has low self esteem. My last ex didn't say this phrase ever, but he sure had the victim complex thing going on and it was the stupidest decision of my life not to leave as soon as I noticed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:01 AM |
| 22 | Azimuth Check in dating scenarioI think if you want to continue dating him, you will have to accept this scenario is something that will happen on a regular basis. It's honestly up to you if it's something you are comfortable with or not. Just listen to how this makes you feel. If it makes you feel ignored, slighted, worried, then he's not the guy for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 01:55 AM |
| 20 | Angry scrote doesn't think he should pay for date he asked her out onSame, I take it these dudes have never had the "no, let me pay!" fight over the bill with friends, or take any pleasuring in treating their friends and family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 28 | Ladies, what are some of the things women should know about pregnancy and giving birth, but that society keeps quiet on?Do kegels, is the advice from a friend of mine who has 2 kids. Thanks to this thread I now know that birthing in your back makes 0 sense and that's why we have to push for so long. but my friend only pushed for about 20 mins each time and thinks it's because she's been doing kegels for ages. She came out okay after both births, the worst thing she got was her stomach has some loose skin. Unconsensual episiotomies are still a thing, however I think it also depends where you live. My friend and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:44 PM |
| 72 | Angry scrote doesn't think he should pay for date he asked her out onGood for her. These dudes have no fucking manners. They're also beyond stupid - even the dudes I've dated who just wanted to get laid knew enough to pay for me because it makes a good impression. Also when you invite someone out who's not a friend you've had for a million years you pay! Like DUH, you invited someone out. If you didn't plan on paying for them, then you are basically handing them a bill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:24 PM |
| 7 | About to go no contact with my narcissistic and emotionally/financially abusive dad.Remove your dad's name off all accounts if possible. Make sure you have accounts where he cannot get access to the money in them. Talk to a domestic violence shelter about what gov assistance programs you can use to help you. I recommend both you and your mom read Lundy Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That? It's all about abusive men, their motivations, goals, and the tactics they use to achieve their goals. Your father abused you and your mother as a way of control. He made your self esteem low beca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:15 PM |
| 11 | I'm curious if anyone else feels like this is a block and move on situationDating for a year and a friend he talks to daily don't know you exists? That alone is a huge red flag. But if she had any doubts, the fact that he told her he "doesn't want to hear crap from her about his female friends" lmfao drop his ass girl. She didn't put her age but ill bet she's at least 10 years younger than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 2 | I did a bit of googling on attractive men vs unattractive men as romantic partners and lol at the search resultsWhere tf did this don't date attractive men bs come from!? Isn't the point of relationships to be very sexually attracted to the other person 😂? Something important though is date a man who you think is hot, but isn't prettier/hotter than you. Like one of my friends says "if he looks like he's got a more involved skincare routine than me, it's a no from me dog" If a dude is much more attractive than you, it's 1) going to make you feel bad about yourself 2) he's going to get a lot of attention fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Dad’s an HVM ❤️I'm glad the father did this. I mean at that age he could forbid her from seeing this fucking loser, but I hope he continues to do what he did her, showing her what a fucking loser this guy is and encouraging her to listen to her feelings, listen to how upset he makes her. Like I hope the dad doesn't give up because she got upset or because the wife is being lazy and content to let her daughter date this fucking loser. Why would you even want this guy as a house guest!? He's a spoiled brat. I ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Talking of low bars, you might want to look in the mirror sisEven if you choose to be a SAHM and choose to be responsible for all domestic duties, that DOES NOT mean you should be cleaning up after adults like they're children. The baseline for adults is "clean up after yourself" as in, put your clothes in the fucking hamper. Like if your wife is doing the laundry and vaccuming your bedroom, you can't put your clothes in a hamper??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:18 PM |
| 36 | LVM coerces woman into sex while sick and then calls her a disgusting pig when she voms on him. Because she was SICK.I think it's a combo of most women are afraid of confrontation and don't have a backbone + they are in an abusive relationship. Something has to be VERY wrong in your life for you to go to reddit to ask strangers what to do about something like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 07:13 PM |
| 13 | An oldie but a goodie. 31 year old man tries hit on a group of teenagers. Gets called a predator and argues with them instead of just leaving. Proceeds to get bullied by same group of teenagers 😂How many times did he call them "women" lol. Yes, they are women, but your average person would call 19 year old females girls because they fucking are. Theyre all in college and probably still live at home because they don't even have full time jobs. Guarenteed if this was any other situation, he would've called them girls. What a fucking creep. And who the hell is his friend, going along and embarassing himself by being an acesseoy?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 05:53 AM |
| 13 | Misogynistic scrote wants neurosurgeon wife to do all the housework. Tired wife hires a maid with her own money. Scrote calls it financial abuses. You cannot make this shit up 🤦🏻♀️Can u imagine working a 117 hour work week and then being expected to clean when you get home. Is this guy out of his fucking mind!? Oh, no, wait, hes not crazy, he just has a pickme mother who I'm sure coddled the shit out of him, did all his laundry/cooking/and cleaning. AND he's also clearly insecure about how she makes so much more than him, and about how she's a billion more times brilliant than he could ever be. Imagine being RICH like these people and still insisting your wife clean the h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:50 PM |
| 14 | Just broke up with an otherwise HVM due to porn use...Fuck him, he was doing this EVERY night and beating it until his dick was almost bleeding!?. That's an addiction!!! Did he leave this convenient fact out when speaking to that "therapist"? I wouldn't be surprised either way, and if he didn't, I wouldn't be surprised if the therapist still saw no problem with it. He was an absolute loser masquerading as a "good guy." You should be proud for getting past the ridiculous, gaslighting hurdle of "the porn isn't the problem, it's my iNsECuRitTy" Any ma… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:43 PM |
| 14 | I found a child porn sub and reported to the FBIWhy the fuck does a video like that even exist!! That is HORRIBLE, why would anyone want to see that!? Like, who is that woman and is she safe now?? The fuck!? If you say women shouldn't propose to men on this site, and you get down voted into oblivion. attempted murder meanwhile gets upvoted!? Not a single mod noticed? Horrifying. Absolutely horrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:34 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020Glad I could help! Hm, that's quite the situation with your friend. Normally I say don't date a coworker unless it's a job that's easily replaceable. But as he's left the company, that problem is out of the equation. But you're saying he's unofficially sort of a mentor to her, and so your concern is there may be a power imbalance there? It could be. Even not counting how women are more biologically and socially vulnerable, most relationship aren't totally even, so sometimes that's not a problem … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 10:29 PM |
| 13 | Disgusting invasion of privacy - let's date!My mom has said she hates giving her # out at places and always tries to do it quietly. She never mentioned worrying about creeps writing it down, but I shouldve guessed that. Instead I thought she was being a bit paranoid. But then once on this sub a women said she gave her phone # to a cashier for something, and later that day got a text from a guy who was behind her in line when she gave the cashier her #. And now this!! Literally wtf is wrong with these psychos. I assume he has no success in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:57 AM |
| 6 | I’vE cHaSeD a LoT oF tAiL 🤮🤮🤮"cheesy quote" bruh that shit is disrespectful af!!! Are they like 18 or something? Please tell me anyone older than that cannot be this immature... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:52 AM |
| 2 | HVM on Christmas vs. LVM on ChristmasThanks for sharing! Glad you have a man who really cares about all the things that make you, you. Your post and all the comments are making me smile 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 07:43 AM |
| 8 | New Hospital Rules/Regulations have me Thinking that no matter how HV my Husband is, I’d rather have my Mom in the Delivery Room with me.Agreed, you need to have with you someone who is truly dedicated to how YOU want your birth to go, and who will be a pushy mf if the doctors start doing shit you don't want. That should be your husband, however, you could have a situation where the man is HV for you, but just couldn't handle this. My mom takes nobody's bullshit so I know she'd make a scene if they did something I didn't like. However I talked with her once about episiotomies, and when she had me, it was common to do that, becaus… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:56 PM |
| 14 | New Hospital Rules/Regulations have me Thinking that no matter how HV my Husband is, I’d rather have my Mom in the Delivery Room with me.Doulas are slowly gaining popularity, I read an article a while back about an org that I believe did pro bono doula work for single moms, and the article focused on a single black mother who miscarried or lost a baby in the past due to the kind of shitty hospital behaviors you described (and this is more likely to happen to black moms in the US than moms of other demographics). When she became pregnant again, she had a doula, and this doula was really her advocate almost like a lawyer. Women who… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:42 PM |
| 8 | In South Korea, secret cameras ('molka') are being installed in hotel rooms to film people during intimate moments. This is then sold online as an alternative to pornography, which has led to an increase in molka related suicides.Thanks so much for sharing, bookmarked the article and downloaded the app! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:36 PM |
| 10 | I really hope his gf leaves him over this. How is she not supposed to take that personally? Of course he won't answer the question.A friend of mine said this to me ages ago, that when men meet your mom, this is EXACTLY what they think. I believed her of course cuz she knows what's up with men, but I never saw it in action. I hope she leaves him. What a jackass. If it wasn't an issue, why won't you answer the question 😂 oh right cuz "our situation is nothing like theirs, except I obviously think the same exact thing as he does about your mom indicating how hot you'll be in the future and if I want to stay with you based on t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 11 | A Boxing Day sermonLOVE this series of tweets. What I especially love about FDS is it doesn't have women who are like "men suck, down the the patriarchy!" seeing themselves as victims, and yet choose to make bad decisions with men time and time again. I understand social conditioning and all often leads women to make bad decisions with dating, but you can't excuse that forever... Everyone on this planet needs to be brutally honest with themselves and do critical self reflection, and admit when they/their own decis… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Andrew Schulz’ incel fans taunt his ex-gf relentlessly over his “success” with a new Netflix show, trying to make her feel bad and ungrateful for leaving him. She reveals she left because of his insane abuse.That is so awful that random assholes on the internet won't leave her alone 6 years later!! This poor woman. What a fucking psycho he is. The toothbrush thing is just horrific. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 04:00 AM |
| 2 | Got the proposal just shy of our 1 year anniversary! Cheers to never settling 🥂LOVE your ring! Glad you have a wonderful relationship 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 3 | I bought myself a diamond ring. Marrying myself this year!Always a good investment!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/20 03:44 AM |
| 2 | Let’s talk about sex.Thanks for your reply 😊. I am glad you've gotten past this as well! I did enjoy guys going down on me and all, like I never felt I didn't want him to do it because "it's too much work" but I'd get in my own head because I would be worried I was taking too long, I'd be worried I wouldn't orgasm. And then I never would. I know it's because I never felt 100% secure with all but one of these guys (cuz I was stupidly doing this with guys I barely knew), they didn't focus on me, or they weren't that t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 05:55 PM |
| 28 | Let’s talk about sex.I tend to struggle a little with my headspace because I think I take too long or I should service him, but he is slowly making me realize no, that’s not it. This has totally been my problem in the past, so it's nice to know that if I'm ever interested in dating again, it is something I can get over with the help of the right guy Glad you have someone who makes you happy ❤️! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 08:16 AM |
| 10 | Video games are very much a red flagRun away screaming from a guy who says he's a gamer, or a guy who plays a lot of online co-op stuff. This is my theory, and I'm curious what you ladies think, that the guys who are most addicted play that kind of shit. Playing video games in and of itself isn't bad as long as it's a reasonable hobby, like a few hours a week maybe. My brother and I have loved video games since we were kids, and he said to me years ago that he just doesn't have the time anymore for these real big commitment type g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 08:02 AM |
| 12 | "I get to dictate how my wife lives her life because her looking after our child is a turn off and I don't respect mothers"Wtf is going on here, why tf are people having kids with someone they're not married to, and when they've never discussed the logistics of raising children 😑...The way he worded how the pregnancy happened is so sus. I assume it means she got accidentally pregnant because he pressured her into no protection or both their dumb asses decided not to use it. Also anyone else find it a red flag that she didn't know at first how much his new salary would be? Why would you wait to tell your serious bf/g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:48 AM |
| 25 | David Bowie's ex-wife has spoken out about their marriageWhen Bowie died is when I heard about Lori Maddox, the 14 year old he preyed upon, gave drugs to, and talked into a threesome with her friend of the same age. And that was just the first night he slept with her. Their relationship continued for a while I believe. Mick Jagger also preyed upon Maddox. I was reading this article, waiting for the end when Maddox would tell the interviewer in retrospect how disgusting these guys were and....it never came. She was on VH1 or something talking about how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 03:59 AM |
| 15 | David Bowie's ex-wife has spoken out about their marriageWow fr...not that I'm a huge Beatles fan but he always seemed to be the only one with a brain. I'm reading about it now, and he cheated on both his wives 🙄. His first wife also talks about his anger at the rest of the band negatively affecting their marriage because he bottled up that anger. Men's refusal to effectively handle their emotions strikes again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 03:55 AM |
| 12 | Do you need more proof that porn makes men sick? Only pornsick men worry about their dick size this much. (Red flags galore)Go to therapy, you absolute nutcase, wtf. He's insecure about how overweight he is, how tall she is, and the fact that she's bi, and then his dick size. Even though he doesn't once say she has insulted him or given any indication that she's dissatisfied with his body. Literally all in his head. And I mean I get it, I've talked myself into having self esteem issues, but like dude youre 35....Anyone who is this self conscious about their body, should NOT be dating. Also shows how out of touch he i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 03:42 AM |
| 40 | Just because he respects or has a good relationship with some women in his life does not mean he’s a hvm.Even Lundy Bandcroft points out he worked with men who had good relationships with their mothers and treated other women well, but were domestic abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 03:30 AM |
| 87 | Let men do lots of things for you and don't feel bad about itNo matter how much these women give, they will never be able to make up for the lack doing on the man's part and how's affecting his own life and self-esteem. This is why no matter how much porn, videogames and food they'll have delivered/cooked for them, they will never truly feel like men, because they live in passive mode and that lifestyle is only meant for children. Wow you REALLY hit the nail on the head about why modern men, and why many western people tbh, are unhappy. All they do is see… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 03:28 AM |
| 6 | FB scrotes are mad because they can't handle scientific fact 😂😂😂Lmfao bruh if speem banks have a cut off, if something is being done to enhance profit, you better believe it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 10:00 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020Stay away from such a guy. A 19 to 21 yr old woman is still in college and hadn't started her career, or is just barely starting her career, and has very little life experience. There will be a great power imbalance between her and the guy when it comes to finances, career stability, life experience, relationship experience, pretty much everything The thing with age gaps is what you really want to look out for is that power imbalance. Age gaps get less important once you're over 25 or 30 because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020I am sorry you are going through this. The video game addiction might be something he can work through, but gaslighting and especially negging....if I was you, I'd be resentful as well looking back on the whole past AND looking at what is happening now. I really cannot look at gaslighting and especially negging as anything other than a lack of disrespect, and also immaturity for the negging. For me these things would be unacceptable in a partner, because they are disrespectful, and because they … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:45 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 20 2020Why are men who aren't even total LVM so gift challenged? Friend of mine said he was just going to cook dinner for his parents as a gift - he is a good cook but I was like dude, you can't just do dinner. At least get your dad a nice bottle of scotch, and your mom some wine or tea. I've never even met his parents but I could figure they'd like that and lo and behold, he was like yeah, you're right. He then proceeded to tell me he's a crappy gift wrapper!? I said to him you build computers, how is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 09:35 PM |
| 2 | Not all women agree with Female Dating Strategy, and that's okay. There are plenty of women alive today whose mothers and grandmothers were anti-suffragette, and nowadays we still get to enjoy the right to vote. Future women will benefit from FDS, whether you like it or not.I can't even remember how I found this sub, but I'm so glad I did. It was definitely a major factor in helping me get over what was probably depression. That depression was caused in part by how I'd made myself feel so worthless for not having a relationship. I became a horrible pickme and royally fucked up my life. I'd always gotten FDS aligned advice from my friends, but it did not really sink in until I found this sub, probably because I check it almost daily AND because of the tough love her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 07:50 PM |
| 11 | TLDR; suspected pickme who formerly was "okay" with not "doing" dates, holidays, is sick of lack of gifts for her and her children from lvm husband. Lvm (OP) doesn't want to buy Christmas presents for his wife or kids and stands firm on it, says she should buy the giftsAgree. I respect people not celebrating Xmas for moral reasons, like you're really opposed to the commercialization for etc, and live the rest of your life like they. But this isn't that. They just "decided" not to "do" holidays. Lol I'm so sure. More like he probably never made any effort on the holidays, and also probably stopped taking her out once he, at 22, knocked her up at 18 (gross). If your partner is asking you to do something, and that something doesn't compromise your dignity, religi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 44 | The name alone is all the clue you needed...Shit. Now I'm thinking maybe their recent clean up wasn't only a PR stunt to get back into Mastercard, Paypal, and others' good graces. It was definitely a protection not to get sued by anyone who hadn't collected evidence. Now they can say they never existed/posted those things. Ugh I feel so dumb for not realizing this before! I was too excited about them being bullied into "taking action" I didn't see how the action benefited them just as much, if not more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 12:27 AM |
| 32 | My neighbor had sex with a guy she was interested in really soon, they had a condom slip incident, and he immediately changed. This is why we vet!!That in and of itself isn't a big deal and he should be the one who's embarassed, he bought the wrong size. But if it happens w/ someone you barely know, yikes. I have been in her shoes liking a guy way too much too fast, and knowing the truth that he's ghosting/fading, but not accepting it and looking a total fool. So on one hand I feel bad for her but on the other I am like 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ forget him please! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:46 AM |
| 9 | I have no words... Hope she will leave and get him arrested."he knows his rights" more like he knows he can easily he can manipulate her. The relationship sub is typically awful but in a way im kind of glad its there for people like this experiencing severe outright abuse, because the sub tends to tell them to get the hell away from these abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 03:37 AM |
| 6 | Thankfully all the comments said he was in fact the a**holeWhy TF would you make your own spouse self conscious about their smile that is the result of a medical disorder (the TMJ). glad his father was #savage, and hope his fiance stays away. but really what does his mother gain from coddling him?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:47 AM |
| 5 | B I G FACTSSo well said! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 11 | Not funny in any way, shape or form.You're totally right, thanks for bringing this up. I'm sorry to hear your support group was like that, and I hope you've found true support since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 15 | B I G FACTSI know :(. I worked there for a few years and used to say she deserves better, but honestly, she's had so many opportunities to get rid of him, she had gotten a new place and was looking forward to her new life w/o him when I left. And then I learned a year after that she was back with him. She was literally out the door, separated, and she chose to go back. She had low self esteem about how she looked, but I think the biggest factor was she was afraid at her age she'd never have kids if she did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 10:30 PM |
| 92 | What women want...Dude....how old is this guy saying this is what men can offer? He looks at least over 30. I ask because I cannot believe a guy older than 20 would say this is what men can offer....I see women say they "honestly just want a guy who feeds me tacos and cuddles" which is also so fucking embarrassing if you're above 20.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 09:40 PM |
| 23 | Online dating in a nutshell; heads men win, tails women losetheir heads are filled with porn, video games, and insecurities. The most succicient summary of an LVM lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:33 PM |
| 90 | Not funny in any way, shape or form.This post was alarming to begin with but then I saw she was 6 months pregnant. fucking scary. "no one else is going to have a magic spell for you." Seriously 🙄 this is how I feel about most of the posts on these subs. I think women post to these subs because: 1) they have no support system to help them 2) they do have a support system, but are embarassed/reluctant to tell them about their relationship problems because they know deep down their man ain't shit and they should leave, but are hoping… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:20 PM |
| 16 | A man taking responsibility, we love to see it!Yeah, i would like the see an update a year from now. Sounds like this is the first time she told him, so maybe it'll work out. But it is typical to get stuck in the cycle of a low effort relationship, where a woman tells a man time and time again what's wrong, expecting a different outcome from him even though the last ten times he only kept up the better behavior for a short while. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:12 PM |
| 52 | B I G FACTSWell said. Men should think about these thing as well and yet they do even less than women. A lot of these couples don't last either because the man never had any intention of staying, one or both of the people weren't ready, or one of them was weak. My old coworker, I never liked her boyfriend, I always thought he was immature and disrespectful (ex: he lived at her place and would stay out until late at night w/o telling her where he was). A year into their marriage she wanted to buy a house an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:07 PM |
| 5 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.I know right, he wants to mooch off someone else and only pursue things that contribute to his happiness and not to collective wellbeing. Isn't he exactly the kind of person a communist regime would dispose of lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 08:25 AM |
| 12 | So this woman I follow blurs her mans face. I thought they were married... turns out they aren’t so now that changes my perception of why she feels the need to do this. She says she does this because “people are weird”. What are your thoughts?Yeah, my first thought was if they're not married, then he certainly is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:47 AM |
| 9 | Vacation expensesI saw in a comment you said you've only been dating 4 months. He's asking to go on a trip that is 25% to nearly 100% as long as your relationship is. I suggest you do not go away for that long with someone you've only known 4 months. Planning this far in advance, for when the pandemic is under control (idk where you live but globally that's not going to be anytime soon) also requires deposits and well , frankly, I don't think it's a good idea to put any money down for a future trip w/ someone yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 07:43 AM |
| 8 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAYikes....this is a really scathing analysis and I'm inclined to agree. Tons of people on that post and a few here even said "you wouldn't be pissed if your spouse asked a guest to stay longer w/o asking you first?" And I'm like yeah, I'd be upset, but not crazy passive aggressive being rude to my spouse who just went through a traumatic birth. That's why I'm like there's got to be a deeper issue here. I was shocked a few women here even were defending his behavior. Like i don't care what the gen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:17 AM |
| 72 | Never move in with a guy before marriage! Poor girl has to keep living together with her ex because she doesn't have a place to go, and the LVM ex asks rent from her although his financial status is better...Yeah, i have to agree - breaking up is a financial win for him technically as their dynamic has changed, and it's 50/50 now. I understand that since they're no longer dating, well, he's not going to cover the rent. However, I agree the point of the title/post. NEVER move in with a bf unless you have the financial means to move out ASAP, or family/friends to stay w/. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:11 AM |
| 5 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAThat's really wonderful! That's really the best thing. Babies aren't meant to be raised solo, or even in pairs. My parents were lucky they were able to live near my grandparents, who were healthy enough to care for us and drive us places too. My parents didn't have anyone helping them at night though, but they never had to worry about daytime care at least. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 06:05 AM |
| 45 | Lazy scrote who doesn’t want to work wants Reddit to help him convince his wife why it’s okay not to work.If he was so anti capitalist, why is he comfortable with his wife working, why is he comfortable living in a capitalist society, in housing provided to him by a capitalist entity!? THE MENTAL GYMNASTICS 😂😂 Bruh fuck outta here, you're not anti capitalist, you're pro sugar mama lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 26 | shame on the parents SMHWtf, this is awful. My friend has a spoiled, entitled younger brother, but their mom doesn't side with him and she recognizes her babying of him contributed to his shitty behavior now. However their mom does keep enabling him. My friend cooks for him because if she doesn't, he won't do it, and so her mom will, and my friend doesn't want my mom to do extra work. And he certainly can cook, he did when he lived at school, he's not even a bad cook. But he knows mom will pick up his slack at home. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:48 PM |
| 114 | Found this way before I knew what LVM means"I can tell these girls like me but [...] they do not show their feelings" then how does he know they like him? It's never occurred to this guy he's too aggressive, that these women didnt want to talk to him but unfortunately were too polite for their own good and didn't tell him off (or maybe were scared too cuz toy never know w/ men), and just have him their #s to get rid of him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:40 PM |
| 4 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAYeah man, I'm alarmed at how no one at AITA finds this guy's reaction over the top unreasonably mean... then again, this IS reddit lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:22 PM |
| 20 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI know :(. I hope she saw my dm but I also hope she logged out of her account right after posting and didn't read any of these. I want to give her a hug and say the small mistake of asking your mom to stay longer, w/o consulting your husband first, does not warrant the husband to be so mad at you he doesn't even want to treat you nicely :(. I said he's mad that he's gotta take care of his kid at all cuz I can't believe he's this mad about the MIL staying longer to help them both w/o his permissi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:19 PM |
| 3 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI think that's so horrible those women are proudly saying how little help they had....why do they want others to suffer the same?? No woman should have to go through post pregnancy recovery w/o a ton of help :(. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:15 PM |
| 34 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAFDS is meant to be a strategy guide to maximize female benefit for straight women in dating and relationships. Some women want a relationship that will have children. The guide saying don't have children with an LVM pretty much covers the goal of this sub, which is to again, maximize female benefit in dating and relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAIt seems they agreed with her being there in the first place. She invited her to stay longer w/o asking him. I still do not think asking her to extend her stay (which helps them both in childcare, I might add) is such a horrible thing that it's appropriate to react by being so passive aggressive with your spouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 11 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAHe doesn't even take care of the baby all by himself! Mom and MIL take care of baby when he's at work, that's their work, and MIL takes care of the baby during some of the night! He has one solo shift after work and LIVE IN HELP. How many parents would kill for someone else to take care of the baby in the middle of the night? My friend had some problems w/ her husband after her first baby, where he was like why isn't the house clean anymore. And she was like because I have a fucking newborn to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 08:03 PM |
| 15 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TASomeone else here pointed this out and I was like man just because your own husband ain't shit doesn't mean you have to hate on this woman and drag her expectations of her spouse down to your own level. Someone else on this sub is telling me OP is asking to be pampered on his parenting time and that's wrong of her....because expecting him to show affection and asking for a foot rub is pampering? And if it is, what, a new mom shouldn't be pampered a little? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:24 PM |
| 2 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TABeing upset that your husband is suddenly showing you 0 affection is not asking to be pampered. Asking for a foot rub while you're recovering from a traumatic birth is not asking to be pampered. That's a simple thing to do for someone. And even if it is asking to be pampered. Do you think a woman who had a traumatic birth doesn't deserve a little pampering? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 07:19 PM |
| 5 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAHe's going to be resentful and/or angry that he's got to take care of the kid when he gets home from work? Welcome to parenthood. Don't have kids if you don't want to take care of them. He's also got a MIL to help out, plus help with the night shift, which I'm sure my parents would have been extremely grateful for. I think having to take care of the baby when you come home from work - which millions of parents do btw, and don't get passive aggressive with their spouses over - is a fair trade for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:55 PM |
| 32 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TADude you're kidding 😭😭😭😭 only a man or a horribly insensitive queen of the pickmes would say something like that. I really wish this mom had never made this post, I hope she logged out of her account and doesn't read the comments. I just want to give her a hug and tell her that I'm sorry her husband can't even be bothered to be nice to her, and that she's right, his reaction is not appropriate. A little upset at not being asked or having to share space with MIL I understand. But not to the point… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:50 PM |
| 16 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAMy feelings exactly bruh 😩. Like look, maybe his MIL is annoying or he hates sharing space and he's not crazy about her being there. I could understand if he felt that way and was sort of annoyed. But to be THIS passive aggressive and not even be nice to his wife?? She did not do anything to harm him. Why is he being so mean to her?? My only guess is there's a larger problem here, that he doesn't respect her obviously, and he's pissed he has to take care of the baby at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:46 PM |
| 14 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI think she was a bit dismissive of him for not asking, but the fact that he is reacting like this? You'd expect a spouse to maybe be upset or annoyed at not being asked if it's okay for the MIL to stay, but not "im so angry at you for the crime of wanting help with the baby, that I'm not even going to be nice to you, woman who just carried my child for 9 months and had a traumatic birth" Like wtf crawled up his ass and died that he's THIS angry? I don't know that therapy would even work here. H… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:42 PM |
| 10 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TASame girl lol. I stopped wanting kids and it was huge weight off my shoulders. I feel like I have so much time now. Because I can change my mind anytime cuz of things like adoption. Not that adoption is easy but hey, it's an option, and it doesn't require risking your wellbeing for a man who might decide to betray you down the line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:37 PM |
| 8 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI think so too it's a symptom of a larger problem. However my point was I strongly disagree w/ what you said that they're both assholes. The way he's treating her is no where near on the same level as perhaps being a bit dismissive of him by not asking him if it's okay that her mom stays longer to help them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:35 PM |
| 25 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TA"Walgreens’ Christmas Scented Bath Collection (Peony & Chai)." Girl 💀💀💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:33 PM |
| 62 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TARight!? I couldn't believe the other women, like YOU gave birth, you know how horrible it is! Like I'm sorry your aint shit husband didn't help you and you didn't have a mother who could live and help you for a while, but don't take it out on this poor lady and call her selfish. I don't understand how no one is reading that post and going "wtf is this guy's problem? Why is he treating you so poorly? I don't even understand what he has to be mad about!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:32 PM |
| 39 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TASame mood here girl. Learning that I'm better off single was the best thing to ever happen to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:30 PM |
| 32 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAEverything about your comment 🙌, especially the ingrate junkyard dog. He has live in help in the form of the MIL, what the literal actual fuck is he mad about? I don't know, and neither does his wife, because he won't say. So I can only assume he's pissed at the MIL being in his space (even though she is actively helping him) and at the fact that he has to take care of his own child. I messaged this mom separately and I hope she saw it and wasn't bombarded with hate mail :(. I wish she never mad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:27 PM |
| 47 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI see women here say all the time funny how no one ever tells the men in these AITA posts to "communicate." And I saw it with my own eyes here. I didn't see a single person say "what is this guy's fucking problem? Why isn't he communicating with you instead of being passive aggressive?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:23 PM |
| 78 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAI ended my waffling on kids this year and decided not to have them, and one of the factors was this very thing. Kids, and marriage even, aren't so important to me that I'm willing to take on the risk of being betrayed like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:21 PM |
| 23 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAThe MIL takes care of the baby, which helps them both. Yeah, the wife probably should have asked him but why is he SO mad that someone who is helping him too is staying there? So mad to be passive aggressive to his own wife about it? That's way worse way than not asking your spouse if your own mom can stay longer to help you both with the baby. Wife was a little wrong maybe, but not so wrong as to deserve this reaction. The way the husband is reacting is no way to treat a spouse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 06:05 PM |
| 178 | Husband resentful he has to care for his own child, uses abusive tactics to punish wife. But guess who's TAThis is what I commented and I got down voted lol. I realized after posting that the MIL staying isn't the only or even the real issue, he's actually pissed that he has to care for his kid. Both my parents worked and came home from work and took care of us, and my father never fucking treated my mother like this. And if he did she would've kicked his ass to the curb cuz how DARE a spouse react like to this to a woman who just gave birth! MY COMMENT: NTA. Your spouse is giving you the silent trea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 04:49 PM |
| 47 | Thanks for the warningBlock any man who's ever had your # who you're no longer interested in. Even if he stopped talking to you. They LVM always come back. And if you didn't talk to a guy long enough to determine if he's an LVM or not, assume the former, block, and save yourself getting pissed off about it. These men are thirsty af and have no shame, they'll reach out three years later to someone they exchanged five messages w/ and don't even remember what she looks like | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 04:41 PM |
| 1 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVMOhhh wow, you were absolutely spot on 👍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 05:45 AM |
| 2 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVMI have seen women say that on here but I actually don't know is it from a book or something? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 02:50 AM |
| 10 | "Porn actor, producer admit sex trafficking charges tied to San Diego website"... This is what men watch.Didn't day what kind of sentencing they may be facing - should be life in prison. These people are fucking con artists and sex traffickers, and people like this do not change. This isn't someone who did shady shit because they were starving, this is someone who created a MLM type scheme and chose to exploit anf threaten women. What about those women who lied pretending to be modeling references? I hope they're being found and faced with prison sentenced as well. Although I REALLY hope they find … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 11:06 PM |
| 27 | Does she think she’s special or smarter than any of us for letting her man openly fantasize and ogle over other women?What is with women, especiay young women, being so invested in defending this?? Can't they lie to themselves without broadcasting it all over social media? Any man who respects himself knows that following a lot of sexy instagram accounts makes him look like a loser. This is true whether or not he has a gf or wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:59 PM |
| 3 | SO sick of seeing this bullshit at this time of year. It takes a couple of YouTube tutorials to teach yourself and actually put in some effort for your loved ones.What the literal actual fuck about your coworkers. If you live in a one party recording state in the US if advise you to just record everything they say and bring it to the ACLU to make a case. Either that or give no notice when you get a new job lol. what a bunch of jackasses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:57 PM |
| 3 | SO sick of seeing this bullshit at this time of year. It takes a couple of YouTube tutorials to teach yourself and actually put in some effort for your loved ones.For my one year, my dad made his own wrapping paper for my presents, out of a spongebob print lol. Cuz he knows I love that m stupid ass show lmao. The presents he got me were a pair of very nice headphones after he declared the headphones I'd bought from ebay to be subpar (they were lol); and a toll pass holder, because he'd heard me complain about how if I left the told pass on my dashboard, it would go sliding across the car to where I couldn't reach it while driving. Only one year did he not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 6 | This is so fucking embarrassing watching things like this makes me want to off myselfIs he a fucking toddler??? Please tell me all me who are doing this are aged 20 and under. I have seen this shit mentioned a very times in this sub and it still baffles me everytime bc its the stupidest shit I've ever seen. I could see living w/ a guy and watching him play through a video game (that I'm interested in but don't really want to play) a couple hours a week would be just like watching TV together. But to specifically ask ur gf to watch you play and comment on the game itself....that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 4 | A lesson from my 90yo Grandmother’s boyfriend.Thanks for sharing, glad your nana has such a great bf and that he's recovering!! Great example of what we say here, if he wanted to, he would! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:37 PM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I mentioned to my mom a couple months ago I don't want kids or marriage and she was shocked but not dismissive which I appreciated. Just told my dad and he didn't react so well lol. He said it was "depressing" and I was like lol not for me, I enjoy being alone. He said it was depressing for him and I told him he could keep that opinion to himself. We generally get along very well, I think he just doesn't understand how much I enjoy being alone. He (and my mom) also has no idea what modern dating… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 12:11 PM |
| 93 | obese entitled scrote thinks he deserves better than his gf despite being a LVM"is he even nice to you?" This dude doesn't like a fucking thing about her. My God. She must know this. She listed it all 1) he makes nasty comments about her weight 2) he doesn't like her clothes 3) he doesn't like her make up 4) he doesn't think she "makes the best of her looks" 5) he watches porn of skinny women and she knows he prefers them. And that "were hippos" shit. What the fuck. How do you stay w/ someone who insults you in front of strangers in public like that? It's like she has all … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:28 AM |
| 1 | Men who cry wolf really irritate me - if you want therapy seek it but don’t compare it to “therapy is for women”."therapy is for women, and I'm not going to perpetuate that garbage....by not going to therapy" I can't bruh lol. Also miss me with that "bullied into tougher skins than they were given" Oh boo fucking hoo, like he's the only person to ever have a hard life? We all have to develop thick skin, fucking cry baby. And also, judging by the way he writes, sounds like he's American, or at least western, so his life from birth has been unimaginably easy compared to people living in much poorer or politi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:22 AM |
| 14 | How dare a mother try to protect her daughter! Read the comments for some more 🤮"Maybe sis sees something she doesnt" I was thinking if I was in OP's shoes my first reaction would be to be upset because I would think "holy shit, does she think my bf is a pedo? Is she seeing something I'm not?" It's also like, OP immediately made this personal "if he's deemed unsafe then I guess I am too, right!?" Makes me wonder if she knows deep down her bf ain't shit and that's why she's reacting this way. If I was her I would probably be a little hurt and also worried about my own judgem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:10 AM |
| 3 | Just think of the relief the ex wife must feel. How utterly embarrassing for everyone involved.HE'S. FORTY TWO!? okay I saw a meme about this on insta and assumed it was a guy in his 20s. NOPE. 42. wouldn't you be embarassed to admit you owned $25K of physical porn!?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 07:00 AM |
| 8 | Imagine being this Pornsick 🤢🤢Girl this is what I was just going to say!! I just bought AC: Origins finally and this dude has more GB of porn saved than Ubisoft needed to recreate Ancient Egypt. Like wtf 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:48 AM |
| 7 | I'm juat gonna leave this hereWtf kinds PUA bs is this? These guys really think they're going to score by insulting someone? These dudes must have no fucking game lol. Nearly all the men I've gone on a date w/ have been LVM, but even they knew how to be very charming. Like. It is not hard to respond to this in a way where if she's legit rescheduling, the man keeps himself available, and if she's "rescheduling" cuz she doesn't want to do the date, then okay, she doesn't respond and no lasting harm done to him. Like??? Why tf … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:26 AM |
| 17 | Two kids, I’m guessing around almost 20 years together, and he’s *still* like this.You're so right. Reading this was so sad. Her kids don't respect her at all, and they get that from their dad. They also see how she doesn't put up any boundaries either and jumps to do everything for everyone else. Like is her 15 year old not old enough to drop their own work off at the post office themself?? Why is she running their errands? Why is she buying gifts for her husband's family?? She has no boundaries, and tbh I bet if she tried to enforce them, her kids and husband would throw suc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:10 AM |
| 11 | Anti-exploitation bill! Finally...Everytime I see these young girls with onlyfans, I ask myself this stuff. Like, have they not once thought about how this will affect their future? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 06:04 AM |
| 1 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.I know, finding a guy who is decent enough just to agree to a first date has been so rare in my life. I've gone on dates w/ less than 15 guys i think lol. I'm not mad about that but it's insane. I live in a huge city and am pretty social too. I used to be a massive people pleaser too, and a real desperate pick me, and I have a lot of shame about the way I behaved and the people I hurt by being a pickme. I don't know that that's ever going to go away, but, I think we have to look at it like we le… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 03:39 AM |
| 11 | It’s a no from meI wish young women could learn as well but unfortunately for most women, I think the only way to learn is the hard way :/. Being a doormat and a pickme is too ingrained | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:14 AM |
| 18 | Even when in a happy relationship they want to ruin things. This is disgusting, can't help but feel sorry for her.I HATE people like this. How fucking vapid can you be!? He doesn't miss being alone, he misses what he thinks was his opportunity to have sex w/ tons of women. When in reality it he did get divorced, he'd barely get laid. I'll bet he doesn't divorce her but just cheats on her w/ a woman with unfortunately poor self esteem who falls for his bullshit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:12 AM |
| 8 | 🤡 They just never stop, do they? Between the audacity to ruin a girl’s future and the pick me behaviour, idk what’s worse tbh.Addiction is not a fucking disease. Sickle cell anemia is a disease, Chrones disease is a disease, things you cannot control. His decision to start taking heroin isn't a disease. I am so angry reading the excuses she writes for this absolute fuck up. He made the choice to take heroin, he made the choice to steal from his own damn parents. I have no fucking idea where I could even BUY heroine. Nor do I have the money to go and buy it everyday, nor am I so morally depraved to steal from my own par… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 06:03 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I am not sure if this resonates with you, but my friend's ex was a guy who didn't "get along" with men. He turned out to be one of those neoliberal bastards who hid his raging misogyny under "woke" language. He didn't have male friends because he had a boat load of self esteem issues and felt inadequate around other men. I am not saying this is your guy. I just wanted to provide my friends story in case it resonates with yours and helps you better understand your gut feeling as to why you don't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:50 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I love your mean response 😂. From what I've seen and what happily married women tell me, being mean to guys is kind of effective lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:41 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Glad it's going well!! Best of luck 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:39 AM |
| 12 | I'll spare you the details of the update... Sister needs a major reality check💔CONSIDERING......girl 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:38 AM |
| 1 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.I feel you on being asexual lol, earlier this year I just lost all desire to date. Can't pinpoint to a specific thing but I guess it was just after dealing w/ guys a few years I had it. If marriage and family were important to me maybe I would be out there but the reward doesn't out weigh the risk for me. I know FDS makes things easier, but vetting is still work, and I don't want to do it because why bother 🤷🏼♀️. Someone on here a while back said us ladies should make a "voluntarily celibate" p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 04:36 AM |
| 13 | B-but, Sex Work Is Empowering! [Journalist doxxes nurse trying to make ends meet with an OnlyFans]Sounds about right. There are unfortunately thousands and thousands of young women with OFs who have regular jobs, or whose families don't know they have it. Why go after this poor woman? Like seriously, what the fuck was the point of this article? NYP has always been basically people magazine levels of trash but this is disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 01:16 AM |
| 29 | This touched my soul. I'm hoping you ladies love it, too: "Ask Polly: Why Don’t the Men I Date Ever Truly Love Me?"Holy shit, go Polly. This was so spot on for Sparkless and for so many women out there. I've definitely been here, like....molding myself and worrying more if I'm keeping myself in someone else's good graces, than if that other person should even be in my life. Being a people pleaser gets you no where. Especially with men. They may like a people pleaser of a woman but they will not respect her, and I think they also believe such a woman is replaceable. Hence cheating or "I don't love you, bye." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:59 PM |
| 20 | Husband tries to convince wife to let him buy a sex doll. Wife’s self esteem is low due to people in his social circle criticizing her appearance. A lot to unpack here. I think we have a rescue mission.This poor woman's self esteem has been rock bottom for a long time :(. I am positive she married him because she was convinced she'd never have anyone else, and this disgusting creep married her simply because she was there and willing. If she's the most beautiful woman in the world then why does he want to f*ck a doll!? that also looks nothing like her??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:45 PM |
| 34 | Consider these two stories.Oh my gosh your bf is so cute! Glad you have someone who is very caring! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:37 PM |
| 61 | Men never 'lose control', they act in ways they deem justified.Read this book earlier this year and it was incredible. Scary and eye opening how abusers know exactly what they're doing. I'm so sick of all these bullshit pretend psychologists on this website who are like "just communicate!" They have 0 experience with relationships and abusers, get all their advice from people as ignorant as them, and pass on this "advice," and are so righteous about how right they must be. Everyone on the relationship subs needs to read a fcking book for once, this book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.I think men of like my dad's and my friends dad's generation (in their 50s and 60s) would be incensed by shit like this and would have been years ago. But it's like men get more and more immature, rude, and brain dead every year. There are tons who absolutely talk to each other like this and think it's acceptable and funny. Once on OLD, a dude messaged me saying a video game I listed in my profile was "gay" and then proceeded to ask if I wanted to come over and smoke weed. Sounded to me like how… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:42 PM |
| 1 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.The internet's anonymity and ability for anyone to indulge in anything, and find others who enjoy the same, has absolutely brought out the worst in humanity, and the best example of this is the prevalence of porn. Over exposure to it, things need to be more extreme for men to get off, lots of people are into the same disgusting shit, and this liberal bullshit of the only measure morality is how happy something makes an individual, set the stage for something like pedophiles rebranding as "minor … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 9 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.I'm so sorry for you loss. I can't fucking believe he sent this to you. Even if your dad hadn't passed, what is with these men who talk to women in this manner, as though the woman is one of his bros?? It's so immature. And then so disrespectful of your circumstances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:40 AM |
| 4 | HVM or nah?"Anything that seems to force him to look inwards and emotionally check in with himself seems to irritate him." Think about what being w/ a man who lacks insight into himself and finds it irritating to engage with himself will be like. Do you want to date someone who isn't willing to do these things? Also on this :" He doesn't really give me many compliments" I feel you on this. 6 months in is when you should be receiving a ton of compliments. I was briefly seeing a guy months ago who seemed com… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 05:37 AM |
| 23 | I'm done 🙅🏻♀️💢💔My old coworker's husband did this. Well, me and my coworkers suspected that's why - they were buying a house and trying to get pregnant in the same year, and I guess that was too much for the poor man child (he was over 30 btw). He hid it for months and then didn't even tell her, he just said he did something bad and ran away from home. His parents pretty much had to kidnap him, bring him back home, and make him spit out the truth. She was all ready to leave up to 6 months later, then I heard f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:20 AM |
| 16 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationThat's fucking disgusting 🤢. How sick are you that you get off to women being unwilling, afraid, not enjoying it...I'd say I hope he gets some awful atd like syphilis and his dick falls off, but that would require him to have sex w/ other people and I wish that on no one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:43 PM |
| 9 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationYou're so right. Or I've met dudes who are just downright ignorant and are shocked when they learn about how rampant trafficking is in the porn industry, mentioning eastern Europe specifically. I have heard women here talk about eastern European women going to Western Europe, becoming prostitutes, and selling themselves for a lot less than the women who are from there. Another comment I saw here once said men don't leave that degrading view of women in the red light district, or they don't leave… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 07:40 PM |
| 286 | I’m really enjoying looking at some men’s reactions to this Pornhub situationYou'd think if you consumed that much porn that you had go to videos and all, and they got removed, it might FINALLY open your eyes like "wait. Was that stuff I was watching one of those videos of trafficked women or girls??" But no. I would say the guys who are reacting like this are doing so to avoid recognizing the part they played in funding sex trafficking, but they don't care about that 🤷🏼♀️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/20 12:55 AM |
| 2 | A 🚩 I rarely see discussed: complaining about their health while making poor health choicesMy dad takes care of himself and is fairly healthy but UGH even he is like this with larger health issues!! he has had arthritis in his knee for years, and years ago some dr told him he has no cartridge left, he needs a knee replacement, which he didn't want. He never got a 2nd opinion, never asked a doctor about the arthritis treatment that has helped my aunt (they take fat from another part of your body and inject it into your knee, but you need at least a little cartilidge for it to work). I'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:24 PM |
| 5 | Having difficulties breaking up a friendship with a male gamerThe gaming community is HUGE. Clearly this is an important interest of yours, but being anti porn is also important to you. You can find friends who both like video games and are anti porn. Just this post alone is full of women who are like that! What games do you play? I'm only now getting into current gen stuff because I finally replaced my 8 year old laptop lol. Mass effect, dragon age, animal crossing, the old assassins creed games, and zelda are some of my favorite series. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 09:01 PM |
| 6 | This man got a whole wife and family to support him, yet he wants to "clear up" things w/ his ex so that he can die in peace. They absolutely know that they are guilty of the way they treat you....don't let them feel the other way.One of my friends hasn't dated in over 10 years and isn't interested in women/relationships anymore, and it's definitely cuz his last relationship was super turbulent and he got cheated on. To still feel the effects of what was a stupid young people making stupid young people mistakes type of relationship from 10+ yrs ago, i don't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:55 PM |
| 8 | Man tells girlfriend to run $400 worth of errands then refuses to pay her. She doesn't want advice on the boyfriend.The fact that she is uncomfortable returning one item to a store, tell you all you need to know. Why in the world should you be uncomfortable returning an item? That just screams awkward doormat who doesn't want to make waves, even when she should, and someone like that should NOT be dating. Because then she'll get treated like a personal assistant and not even dream of breaking up with her shitty bf. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:41 PM |
| 9 | Sisters, reminder to be extremely careful about whomever you're exposing your vulnerabilities to. This leaves me speechless.I learned about her a few months ago I think from this sub? I saw a screenshot where someone on tumblr sent anon hate mail that said they hoped the received got the "junko Futura treatment." Learning about that depraved torture of that poor girl and then seeing that someone flung that into anon hate mail, I was so sick. Men really will take every opportunity to be animals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:36 PM |
| 5 | Men need to stop complaining that they do not receive compliments from women.I don't know a single man irl like this. PROBABLY because the dudes i know are all well adjusted and like themselves, and therefore have no problem getting dates, if they want. And the ones who don't want to are happy being single. Reddit is just full of loser guys who have 0 social skills, hate themselves, and blame women, not their shit personality, for the fact that they can't get a date. If they weren't maladjusted losers, they would give af if random women complimented them. ANY person who … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:30 PM |
| 13 | One of the creepiest posts ever submitted on 2XC. My response in second. No, we don’t like it when a male stranger compliments our body in line at the grocery store. ffs.So 2X is basically ff.net for men who fetishize being a woman? Or who fantasize about how their stupid, fake comments to women on the street are supposedly life changing lol? The only actual compliment I ever got was a few years ago, from this old cashier at a diner. As he was ringing me and my mom up he says to my mom "you have a very beautiful daughter, she looks just like you." I liked that cuz it was super matter of fact, not creepy, genuine (he wasn't trying to get anything from me), and co… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 10 | One of the creepiest posts ever submitted on 2XC. My response in second. No, we don’t like it when a male stranger compliments our body in line at the grocery store. ffs.GIRL IM DEAD 💀💀💀 (seriously I laughed so loud I upset my cat) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:17 PM |
| 6 | I'm sick of LVM chasing me and and not finding any HVMStop using dating apps. They clearly are frustrating you and making you feel bad, as they do most women. You need to stop getting so attached right away too - a guy you went in one date with can't be perfect. It was date 1, everyone seems great when we don't know them. Dating apps are so bad they frustrate us and make us desperate, and so we start putting guys we don't even know on a pedestal. You mentioned you're surrounded by LVM in your life. Break out of your social circle. Events focused on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:16 PM |
| 55 | He needs to subvocalize. All this hollering will come to naught.Highly successful woman manages to find a very affordable home during an economic crisis, and some fucking scrote feels the need to butt in and say she has no wife skills? First of all, how do you even know, second of all, this woman has a PhD and a house. What's harder, knowing how to cook or clean, or getting a fcking PhD and approved for a mortgage? What a dick, seriously, literally no one asked him 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 08:04 PM |
| 3 | Wait...isn’t Torey Lanez the guy that shot Megan? (I don’t even follow pop culture that closely) Why do I feel “crazy” right now?Dude I wondered how the hell it was her feet. I was like was his aim that bad? how do you hit something as small as someone's feet? Maybe he was aiming for her legs or actually her feet for this very reason. I wouldn't put it past someone who decides an appropriate reaction to someone removing herself from an argument is to shoot her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 01:00 AM |
| 5 | And I always am.Dudes who are really obsessed with this, they're mad insecure. They feel their humor is the only thing they got going for them. You ever see these 2 tweets?: "how do ugly guys get such fine women???" "the more she laughs, the more time she spends with her eyes closed....its science" So yeah, these guys think they're going to win you over with the one thing they believe is superior about themselves, although I can't imagine and dude like this is actually all that funny lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:50 AM |
| 3 | Checked up on an old coworker on SM. Y'all... she got back together with an ex, had his baby, and then posted this.Dude I keep joking about moving to an idyllic alpine valley to live like Heidi and befriend those cute Swiss brown cows 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:40 AM |
| 11 | They’re Not Dating “Horror Stories” Anymore, They’re Just How It F*cking IsSERIOUSLY. I really ruined my life by letting myself have low self esteem, seeking out a bf to raise that self esteem, putting so much pressure on myself to get married and have a family. Only to realize a couple years later I don't even want any of that. So stupid. But I try to remind myself it's better I learned this all when I did, and not a second later!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:38 AM |
| 8 | Imagine having the audacity to LIE to a woman about your brain cancer before you propose to her and act like a victim when she leaves you. For fuck’s sake she even wants to apologise now. And scrotes in the comments really acting like they wouldn’t leave their wives the second their wives got sick.This dude tried to trap her into marriage with his terminally ill self. If the genders were reversed, reddit would be hating on the female OP. Abandoned him in his time of need? He hid BRAIN CANCER from her. That's okay? Hiding something that huge from your partner that wil not only affect your life, but theirs too, is okay? She didn't leave cuz he was sick she left cuz he lied to her! And even if she had left cuz he was terminally ill...they weren't engaged or married. A person, male or female,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:30 AM |
| 3 | Some green flags that I have noticed with my current dating partner.Thanks for posting this! Happy for you two ❤️!Nice to see someone 9 months in, a very significant period of time; we get a few too many "so I was seeing this guy for a month and thought he could be a HVM but he wasn't" stories here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:21 AM |
| 6 | Anyone else at a point where you just can't trust what they sayGreat motto! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:17 AM |
| 3 | Am I bugging or is this a real thing? The first thing I thought was “sounds rapey to me” I’ve had this happen to me, but idk how the person could really be sleeping. A lot of folks in the comments agree that it’s a thing.The fact that she said 2 mins of PIV wad. "nice" says everything you need to know about how unhealthy their relationship is and how she is NOT equipped to date. Also agree with others here that this dude is a fucking psycho who learned about that condition online (new redpill tactic or something?) and used it retroactively as an excuse to manipulate her. Anyone with a condition like that (if this is even a real condition), even one of those crazy aggressive sleepwalkers for ex, would alert someo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 12:12 AM |
| 10 | Pornhub removes all unverified content, following reports of exploitationA step in the right direction. Credit to the trafficking hub petitions and other protests that pushed the payment companies to cut ties. I hope they don't reverse cutting those ties now that porn hub has made this "verified accounts" bs, and I say bs because as another comment said, pedophiles are in that group. Also they will be reviewing this unverified content starting next year and letting some of it return - remains to be seen what they let return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:55 PM |
| 13 | Pornhub removes all unverified content, following reports of exploitationSwimming!? I've heard it all lmao. "I'll take you on a date to the beach" would be fine like, 10 dates in minimum maybe? If you're someone like me who love to swim and loves the beach, not someone who doesn't know how to swim. what a jackass 🙄. That's DEFINITELY some PUA bs to try and see you w/o your make up. Because men are apparently so stupid they don't realize we are not drag queens and do not aim to use make up to create an entirely different persona/look, we are still us 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:51 PM |
| 3 | i did it! i finally left him!!!Congratulations! You should also be proud of the good headspace you are in post break up. I'm sorry you and most of us here had to learn the hard way it's better to be alone, but it's a valuable lesson that will only enrich your life from here on out. Good luck ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:42 PM |
| 9 | A sad truth that as women’s in a man’s world. If you are a victim of violence through the hands of a partner the public will bash you not the aggressor. Story of Elizabeth Rioux...she’s an entrepreneur. She got bashed by well known journalists and media for exposing her ex.Reminds me of what happened to Meghan thee Stallion. It wasn't domestic abuse, but it was also a situation where a woman tries to be professional, keep shit quiet, not let the whole world know about her pain, but the man who caused her pain launches a smear campaign against her. Disgusting. Like haven't you done enough? Assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 30 | They’re Not Dating “Horror Stories” Anymore, They’re Just How It F*cking Is"We can simply quit. I did, two years ago. And I haven’t had a horror story since. Did I meet a partner in those two years? No, but I didn’t meet one in the ten years I online dated either. The difference now is that I don’t hate my life. Imagine that." I'm going to get a cake and a shit load of Malibu to celebrate my 1 year of no dating anniversary next year 🎉. Who knew not giving a shit could feel so good lol. Thanks in large part to FDS for helping me realize that being single is actually wha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:33 PM |
| 30 | So many d***s on AITA today (they're OPs or dudes mentioned in the post). Have arranged from least terrible to the worst of the worst. Six posts and I had to take a break. Why are these men even in relationships??? Break-down of each in comments.These are all horrific but the below stood out in particular 2 was so sad..."just states blankly until I finish talking" I want to punch this fucking asshole right in his stupid fucking face. She's basically a single parent dealing w/ TWO special needs children, plus the hurt and aggravation of a husband who doesn't give a shit about her OR his own children. 5 It's honestly scary how that girl reacted to her pregnancy. She is not okay on many levels, having unprotected sex with a coworker is sel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:25 PM |
| 5 | Excuse me whatIt's why I don't get why women especially think FDS is evil or something. It simply advises you to have strong boundaries and don't go all in on a guy unless he's consistently proven he has intentions that match up with what you want. I think some women don't want to admit the ugly truth that people use each other, men use women, once you being dating into a previously existing relationship men are suddenly not so nice, and we have to behave with that in mind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 11:07 PM |
| 5 | Excuse me whatI learned the hard way too, I think most women here have. I hope women and men both raise their standards and stop sleeping with people we barely know. I think women are going to have to be the first ones to set that standard though, like for ex what's happening in South Korea rn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 01:16 AM |
| 49 | I hate how common this is on this sub :/ guy thinks two minutes of rubbing is enough to lead to penetrative sex. It sounds like a horror show; she's told him MULTIPLE times to do more and he just "shuts down" on her. So f***ing manipulative 😡Why the fuck are all these women so worried about hurting their dudes feelings in the bedroom?? That's horrible, I've had hook ups pay more attention to my needs that her bf does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 02:03 AM |
| 94 | Excuse me whatObviously this dude has never actually charmed and lied his way to get sex, because if he did, he'd know that men don't "pump and dump" because of something the woman did. They do so because from day 1 their intention was to get laid and they never wanted a relationship. Even if a man is not a fuckboy/intentionally malicious, most men do not see sex as something that must lead to commitment (or that requires commitment). Just because he sleeps with you doesn't mean he wants to date you. He may n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:54 AM |
| 70 | What do men have against lotion???"it's gay" to wear lotion.....are these the same guys who think it's "gay" to wipe their ass?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:43 AM |
| 3 | How does dating multiple people work?I live in a huge city also, I was extremely social before covid, and I have met guys organically literally only five times in 6 years!! That's my entire dating period, I didn't start before then cuz I never met anyone I was interested in, not at my uni either. The other ~10 guys I've gone on dates w/ i met on OLD. I never dated any of them long, my ex (who came from OLD) included thank God, cuz they were either NVM or not my type. But yeah. 15ish guys in 6 years lol. I'm not mad at all but isn't… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:33 AM |
| 2 | Breaking things = domestic abuse. It’s physical intimidation that counts as DV.I agree the odd door slam when someone is angry is very different from a pattern of violence. Abuse is about tactics designed to instill fear and achieve the abuser's ultimate goal of controlling their victim. Abusers claim to "lose control" but they are well aware of what they're doing and it is intentional (only breaking their victim's stuff, for ex) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 9 | Breaking things = domestic abuse. It’s physical intimidation that counts as DV.This kind of behavior is classified as domestic violence when its goal is to scare and intimidate you so the abuser can control you. Men and women can be domestic abusers. Women, children, and men can be victims. Women abusing men is rare however, as we know. Because men typically aren't afraid of women, because they're usually stronger than us and can defend themselves. Lundy Bandcroft talks about how his clients would be like "well my girlfriend slapped me so I punched her in the head to teach… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 09:16 PM |
| 3 | How does dating multiple people work?I have 0 desire to date anymore but when I did I was like where the hell are women finding more than 1 guy at the same time who's date worthy?? Perhaps if I'd been able to stomach OLD more, but 99% is trash there, there's no point going on multiple dates when they came form a source w/ high probability for hook ups only | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 08:53 PM |
| 8 | Most legit ‘Real Housewife’ tweet everWhy someone would ask a stranger on the internet "why didn't you take your husband's name" just boggles my mind. Why would you even ask a friend or relative this? If she didn't change her name, it's because she didn't want to, like...duh lol. This is so bizarre to me that people find this strange enough to ask?? I dont see a problem if a woman takes her husbands name, if that's what she truly wants and the husband is a good guy (if he sucks it's like why are you associating yourself with this di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:51 PM |
| 6 | I FINALLY BROKE UP WITH MY EX!!!!"Idk if i will ever find "the one", but at this point in my life it doesnt matter. I got me and thats all i need." Absolutely the best attitude to have. It takes a lot to reach this point; whatever mistakes you've made, we've all screwed up, but we don't all learn and do better. So you should be very proud to have reached this point!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:40 PM |
| 67 | Mastercard severs ties with Pornhub and Visa suspends payment processingI absolutely am hoping for a class action lawsuit against them. From understaffing their "moderators" to the women who had to fight to get their rapes removed, there's plenty of evidence to show they never gave a shit about this and have been skating by on Section 230. If Facebook came under fire for fake election posts, etc, there's a case against this disgusting website. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:57 PM |
| 11 | I’m so happy I found this sub!With guy 3, you could try meeting him in person and see how you feel about being taller than him, and how he feels about you being taller. Be warned pretty much every guy lies about his height on OLD, 5' 9" is a popular one for the 5' 7" crowd lol. If it doesn't do it for you that you're taller than him, then don't force yourself, no matter how nice he is otherwise. If he gives you any indication that he doesn't like how tall you are, then drop him asap. As a tall woman I'm sure you know what th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:45 PM |
| 6 | How does dating multiple people work?The advice on this post is great, so won't say more of the same, but I will add - you said you feel guilty at the idea of kissing another guy. Please examine why you feel guilty. Is it because you're afraid to hurt the guy youre seeing that you like best? If so, stop caring about him like that, you don't even know him,. He likely isn't worrying about you like that. If it's because you feel weird kissing multiple guys around the same time, I totally get that, so my advice would be to hold back on… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 05:23 PM |
| 9 | NVM digs through wife's computer, gets upset that she existed before himI could get the husband being sad or upset if he was a very traditional, conservative guy, but he fucking asked her to make a sex tape. That tells you all you need to know about him. he has no fucking right to react this way. Especially when she made a sex tape with someone who she said used her sexually!! If someone told me that story I'd feel horrible for them, like this guy used you for sex and then coerced you into making porn with him to memorialize his using you?? How awful. But no, all th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:26 AM |
| 4 | Green Flag - He invests in your endeavors and pays close attention to your wants and needsThis is so nice. It's also too much work to be love bombing imo, so definite green flag. His gf must talk about wanting to work with this marketing person, so he had to find her, get a quote, and that's a looooot of money. Thanks for sharing, I'm imaging how he must be so excited to give this to her and how surprised and happy she'll be getting this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:08 AM |
| 5 | LVM I matched with preFDS. Texted randomly every few months (🚩). I forgot to block him after our last interaction (I had started leaving him on read). Typical LVM reaction to being blocked — reached out through a diff phone number & then through social. Now I get to block him 3 times 💕🥰I cannot believe that meme he sent you. I'm floored a man would talk to a woman like that. I'd be shocked if he was a teenager, but I saw in another comment you said he's over 30!? How pathetic. I hope he doesn't find another way to contact you. If he does I'm sure you'll whack a mole this mf back to the hole he crawled out of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 07:03 AM |
| 10 | Is it just me or would anyone else break up with this guy?This is exactly how I felt it should be handled as well. Maybe the gf is being a little annoying/pushy w/ the friendship, but the friend's reaction is uncalled for (how do you go from "how are you?" to "omg she knows all my martial problems!!"), and the boyfriends reaction isn't right either. It's concerning that he doesn't seem to recognize that his friend's reaction is bizarre. Something weird is going on, even if it's simply that the friend is disrespectful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:58 AM |
| 3 | My latest match on hinge.. I have no words. I have never encountered something like thisHe sounds like the shitty sales email I get all day that are paragraphs long, telling me how AMAZING their product is, w/o knowing a thing about me, my needs, my industry, or asking once what they can do for me. Total used car salesman and shitty salesperson vibes indeed lol. I'm flabbergasted girl, I can't imagine how you felt. I hope you reported his stupid fuckin ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:49 AM |
| 12 | Straight men shouldn't be OBGYNs- what are your thoughts?I personally would never go to one. I prefer all my doctors to be female simply because that means there is almost no risk they will be creepy with me. I have had several male doctors who were all fine thankfully, I loved my podiatrist and was so sad when he passed this year, but mostly I'd not take the risk w/ a make doctor. Plus with an obgyn, like that is so specific to the female body, a male doctor obviously cannot understand the experience. I want someone who's got the same hardware lol My… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:39 AM |
| 27 | Being a good husband is now called "simping"He's a simp for wanting to spend more time w/ his family?? First of all, clearly he had a family so he could be with them, second of all, dude was co-ceo for 11 years at one of Europe's largest e-commerce fashion companies. I'm sure THE SECOND he re-enters the job market, he'll have no trouble getting a new job. I'm sure he personally see this as not losing much but gaining a lot, as his career isn't going to disappear, but his kids won't be young forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:30 AM |
| 20 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Ladies I got my 2nd piece of targeted hate mail and oh man I'm so annoyed I reported and blocked before I could take a screenshot for the FDSsuperfans sub. Because it was INCREDIBLE. some fucking guy decided to come into my inbox and DEFEND hentai 😂. apparently I posted a comment at some point saying it's disgusting. I don't remember posting that comment, but I don't doubt I did post it, and I know I must've posted it to FDS, so this was a scrote clearing coming here looking for women to harass.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 06:07 AM |
| 10 | The absolute state of r/twoxchromosonesOh my gosh you can't even like....use your throat muscles that way?? Clearly written by someone who's never sucked a dick aka a straight scrote lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:36 AM |
| 39 | Men who are “jealous” of abusers give me the creepsFor me, this creeps me out because they have zero understanding of how abusers work, and are jealous of these disgusting people. Kinda sounds like if they were charming like abusers are, they'd use this charm to manipulate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:26 AM |
| 6 | "I'm a broke loser so I stole these flowers for you." 🤮Wow is this who used to steal all my grandmother's hydrangea blooms so we couldn't bring any to my grandpa's grave on his death anniversary 🙄. I hate shit like this. Since when is illegal shit cute?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:24 AM |
| 43 | FDS made me quit my Dollar Shave Club subscription! Here’s why you should cancel yours, too! — #DSCHatesWomenWtf!! Why even bother 🙄. If anything, FDS would boost their business, as we remind women that basic hygenie and good grooming are non negotiable standards for men (and all people tbh). Buy your razors on eBay girl - I used dollar shave club in the past but found getting blades in bulk on ebay for my Schick quattro was cheaper lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:17 AM |
| 13 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Did anyone else get a message in recent weeks with a link to some game called "life on easy mode," and a description of how when you're a woman life is supposedly so much easier 😂. I was tempted to slam dunk this mf but I was like nah, don't feed the trolls, and laughed and deleted it before I could take a screenshot, unfortunately The fact that someone took the time to MAKE THAT GAME and PUT THAT MESSAGE TOGETHER LOL, and then what, did he go through all the members of this sub and message them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:47 PM |
| 27 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020"If he wanted to, he would." If he was really into you, how could he go several days w/o contacting you? He couldn't. This hot and cold stuff means someone isn't that into you. If a guy isn't giving you what you want, then you need to leave. You can't make him give you what you want. You need to read the handbook. Your question about bringing up a relationship with him indicates you haven't. Don't ever have the "so what are we?" convo because 1) that's chasing, and it does not work out for women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:35 PM |
| 1 | My ex-husband used to say "Well, I work" as a reason for him not doing more. But dude, I work tooooo. So, everything defaults to me because I have a vagina?I am glad there's some good elements to your work place! But that sense of being watched really creates a lot of stress that I'm sure you had a similar experience, where you didn't realize how much stress until you were out of it. I thought I might go crazy living alone with too! Until 3 months ago I was living w/ one of my best friends, so when she moved out I was like oh man how is living alone going to be. But I really like it lol. I did get a cat 3 months go so I think she prevented any "I'l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 11:26 PM |
| 2 | My ex-husband used to say "Well, I work" as a reason for him not doing more. But dude, I work tooooo. So, everything defaults to me because I have a vagina?Same about wanting to WFH permanently! I will be asking about a hybrid approach, cuz I do like to go in a couple times a week. I have doctors and salons near my office, and meeting up with friends for dinner or drinks is very easy, we all work close to each other. I hope my hybrid suggestion goes well haha, especially as I changed positions and my boss and several others team members were WFH even before the pandemic. I'm sorry you have such an annoying workplace :/. Reminds me of the last place… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:27 AM |
| 3 | If human males were no longer the only option? I'd do it. #hotaliensAw really? He was one of my favorites haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 01:18 AM |
| 14 | If human males were no longer the only option? I'd do it. #hotaliensLike u think I'd ever go back to dating human men if Thane or Garrus showed up to earth? I don't think so (unless it's James Vega 😂) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:53 PM |
| 7 | She did the right thing and she's doubting herselfSeriously good for her, hope she doesn't let anyone change her mind. It would never in a billion years cross my mind to hang out one on one w/ a friend's husband or bf. Besides feeling weird bc the entire reason I have a relationship w/ that friend or husband is bc they're with my friend, it would be totally inappropriate. Everyone knows this, redditors just love to be obtuse to excuse shitty behavior | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 18 | If human males were no longer the only option? I'd do it. #hotaliensI am now immediately thinking of those posts about how Bioware wants us to be ready to fuq aliens 😂: https://fail-slo7h.tumblr.com/post/60919649118/ladyzolstice-sonataoceanwaves | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:47 PM |
| 7 | See ladies... we are called Gold Diggers but when it’s about a man and his kids, we are unfair.Are you fucking kidding me? He didn't put a dime into this house but he expects it to go to his children? Hell no. I hope she's rethinking this marriage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:41 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020We absolutely do pay the price for that crap. Glad he took it well, I don't think it's an automatic red flag that he asked, however keeping your guard up and eyes open is always crucial. Best of luck ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 08:44 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020It is transformative! I like your curator analogy, ones life should be as gorgeous as a museum! If you play animal crossing, we should all make choices that will make our lives as pretty and calm as the butterfly exhibit haha. I have good friends in my life who have been giving me FDS advice all along, and I didn't ignore them, but it didn't sink it. Until I was checking this sub out almost daily for most of this year. That really drilled it into my head. I think the bluntness and tough love her… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:56 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Haven't used tinder in years but honestly, the fact that no one could message you unless you matched was the biggest thing it had going for it lol. I didn't get any sexually explicit messages when I used OLD, but on OKC I got one rude one, and some guy who had the nerve to neg me with "aren't you too good looking for this dodgy app?" And he was English to boot, which really pissed me off even more lol. No message on OLD ever made me angrier lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:38 AM |
| 10 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I think it's too soon. I had a guy do this exact same thing, 3rd date was partly a holiday thing with his friends. He was lonely with a lot of self esteem and emotional issues, and I think he was overly excited about dating me, so he wanted to tell everyone about me, even though it was waaaay too early and we barely knew each other (to be fair, I had the same issues as he did). I would recommend you inspect this guy for a few more weeks before deciding if meeting his friends is worth your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:34 AM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Girrrrrl the "I kind of never wanted to date again" started happening with me months ago and it's great!! I had a lot of emotional problems the last few years, and half of it came from dating, other half was from work. I got a better job and stopped dating, and I'm much more stable. Even with FDS dating strategies, dating isn't going to be completely stress free, so why open the door up to that bs, is my thought lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:30 AM |
| 4 | Porn is ruining sex for women. So many men can't f*** properly 🤢. What's the point of being with a man that can't even please you in bed !?!I have never done nor have had any desire to try that but I've known FOR YEARS you need lube plus + you know, that's what plugs are for. Like what the fuck. There's NO way she wasn't in extreme pain. Really sad to see this list. I stupidly went home with a few LVM I didn't know that well, and this sub has made me realizing how lucky I was that I didn't have a guy try anything like this or worse on me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 01:51 AM |
| 4 | Using FDS In Early 20sBenefits of growing up by yourself rather than in a relationship : typically people as young as you are still figuring out what they want in life and who they are. When young people are in a serious relationship, sometimes that self definition is not explored or repressed for fear that it will take you down a path your partner can't follow. Sometimes being in a serious relationship when young holds people back. It depends what you want. I'll give you two opposing examples to illustrate. One of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 3 | How did I let him treat me like this for so long?Almost all of us here have been pickmes and have let men treat us poorly. All we can do is recognize what we did wrong + what the red flags are, promise ourselves never again, and actively work towards that promise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 8 | Dealing with a cyberstalker?When you get a new Google account/email and a new phone #, give it out to friends and family one by one, and make it clear that if this psycho contacts them for some reason, do not give your info to him. I recommend going one by one just in case someone purposefully or accidentally is feeding him info, you can find the "mole." I've seen where people changed their numbers and email only to continue being harassed, and they sound someone either intentionally gave their info to their stalker, or fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 08:50 PM |
| 2 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekYou're totally right. And unfortunately it works, if the relationship subs are anything to go by. I am hoping though with subs like this and resources on emotional and psychological abuse out there, this begins to work less, and women in such relationships finally leave. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:39 PM |
| 2 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekWTF thats awful!! Ugh I'm sorry you have to live with such creeps. And you're right!! These self proclaimed "nice" guys either are pissed they didn't get sex after a normal date/showing basic human decency, and/or place woman they barely know on a pedestal so she (rightly) runs off. Like sorry it's not women's fault you have no manners and know how to treat them like normal human beings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekNever give men benefit of the doubt. Especially these days as they're very well informed about "mental health" and libfem ideology and borrow all these terms to cover up their misogyny. This is awful calculating besides. The special needs people I've met who've been "rude," men and women, they were just SUPER blunt, they didn't appear to have ulterior motives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next week😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekYes, as someone else in this thread said, the low hanging fruit that is manipulation. But shit, even when my self esteem was rock bottom I never spoke to guys who basically called me ugly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/20 03:32 PM |
| 21 | Women, and toxic passivityI like this term "toxic passivity" it captures women's cultural problems very well. I have seen myself, some women in my own life, and practically every woman who posts to the relationship subs, talk like they have no power over their own life. Like they are the victim of the decisions of others around them. Like they can't make their own decisions, choose their own path. They just choose whatever scrote approaches them (or is simply present around them) and follow what he does, even if they're … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:51 PM |
| 10 | Blocked my NVM of 6 years after he did this on my birthday yesterday.I'm so sorry. He's an abusive parasite. Please do not be too hard on yourself. Your focus should be healing now. You can't heal if you're holding onto "feeling stupid." Maybe you made some mistakes, but he actively chose time and time again to be abusive, to use you/your money, and to say something so horrible to you. Focus now on making choices for that put your health and happiness first ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:38 PM |
| 59 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next weekYeah, i learned from this sub the term negging and how that's an actual f-ing tactic. Unbelievable. One has to assume, since men do this, it works on SOME women, maybe like 0.1% of the women they message. But you're right, what universe do these idiots live in where they think this will get them MORE dates, or more sex, by being rude instead of charming? clearly men are getting too much advice about women from other men. I understand these guys sharing these nasty hot and cold tactics to string … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 9 | How does a HVW act when running into a LVM ex?If things ended amicably, I'd give a civil hello but excuse myself right away. No reason to linger. If things ended bad, I'd just ignore him. If a bad ex tries to talk to you, just be like "I don't have time to talk to you / I'm in the middle of something / I'm with company rn / I need to leave, bye." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:01 PM |
| 281 | Saw this on twitter - Hinge date puts woman's pictures through an analyzer online to "check if she is actually attractive," tells her her "forehead is too big," then tries to secure a hang out next week"and I'm not just confused" what a jackass 🙄. Like anyone would believe someone doesn't trust their own opinion as to what they find physically attractive. This sounds to me like some PUA tactic. And dudes wonder why they can't get dates lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:54 PM |
| 99 | This is a fresh look compared to the horrendous bios written by LVM’s.Agreed. A long time ago I put that I was only "looking for something serious, no casual" in my profile, like I made it a big point I think. these dudes don't care. First of all, because they don't read it lol, and second of all, I think they know why you put that in your profile. They know you're tired of the bullshit, you're frustrated, and getting worn down, might end up desperate soon. When you publicly admit you've been bombarded with this type of shit, it tells everyone that you will find t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 1 | I know we aren’t supposed to feed the trolls, but they make it so easy sometimes"waifu-free month" LMFAO GIRL 🤣 you are sooooo right. Like do these guys really think a fascism government would condone their lifestyle lol. Also fascism typically has gone hand in hand w/ traditional gender roles, so they'd be expected to get jobs and work hard if they wanted a woman lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:54 AM |
| 8 | When you give all that wife energyUgh seriously, I saw the "we have 2 kids" shit and I was like 🤦🏼♀️. What a mystery why he's not getting married to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:52 AM |
| 2 | Bodyhair, shaving and HVM behaviour on that matterVery glad to hear you made a choice for you and had a bf be very supportive and help you a achieve your goal!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:28 AM |
| 5 | A lot of TV completely unwatchable after FDSUgh I feel you. Sitcoms have always been the literal worst. I mean, it's pop culture right, and pop culture just absorbs the worst of society, so pickme culture, "women and their wild hormones, am I right?", and all that other crap has been typical of sitcoms for ages. Only TV I watch is The Mandalorian, Archer, and Arrested Development lol. I've recently added The Flight Attendant to that list. The main character is well written in that she is very much her own person, a real person, albeit a v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 06:23 AM |
| 3 | Sister let her bum druggie bf scream and insult me unprompted and she’s defending it. Am I over dramatic in wanting to totally disown her?I am so sorry they are treating you like this. The fact that he's a f*cking drug dealer alone would've been enough to cut them both out of your life. But this was absolutely inexcusable. You are right to choose your own health over continuing a relationship with them. I hope you find peace in your new place and that you can make some loyal friends. You should be proud of overcoming your depression and how much you've progressed. Don't let anyone try to drag you down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Is stinginess related to job?One I'd my friends, her ex was white & raised by a single mother and he was super stingy. Not just with money, but with helping too. They were LDR for several months and the one time he came for a visit, he like, literally did nothing. She cooked for him all the time and he stirred a pot once and was like haha I helped see! (she didn't even ask him to help, but clearly he knew he should, yet wasn't really going to do it anyway). I don't think he ever paid for anything either. He was a total libf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:18 PM |
| 5 | Is stinginess related to job?You're right it's the westernized thing. Because even not that long ago, a man providing for his family and not expecting 50/50 was the norm in the US, no matter what your ethnicity was. I always knew liberal guys weren't for me, but I finally learned that socially conservative/more traditional Christian or Jewish white guys are actually probably the best fit for me. Like guys that come with that old school masculine pride in caring for women and family, but none of the old school misogyny, or i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 06:08 PM |
| 4 | Uncertain about the future with the FDS guidelinesI look at my future and feel I have a lot of time now. The last few months are the first time in 2 years I started to feel not negative about my life. Positive sometimes even. Losing all interest in dating was a major contributor to that. I am no longer placing pressure on myself to find a man so I can have a family. I don't want any of those things anymore, and it has been very freeing to see no limits on my future. Going to med school is amazing! Focus on the things you're doing to make your l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:21 AM |
| 15 | Is stinginess related to job?Racial/cultural backgrounds affecting dating is huge and something I don't see talked about too much on here. It's something that's important to pay attention to because it may mean some guys are incompatible for you. About white guys being stingy, my friend noted a lot of white dudes grow up in these very 50/50 households, with white women who are very into liberal feminism and 50/50. Of course when men don't want to spend money on you, it's usually because they don't think you're worth it, but… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:11 AM |
| 6 | My ex-husband used to say "Well, I work" as a reason for him not doing more. But dude, I work tooooo. So, everything defaults to me because I have a vagina?Covid of course has been terrible in many ways, but one good thing was it showed many businesses who were skeptical or anti work from home that the business actually won't fall apart if you don't have managers looming over people all day (people are in fact working more l o l). My life improved so much once WFH started because I have so much time now. I was failing to do basic life things when I had to work in an office 9 to 5. I was always tired, didn't want to cook cuz I was tired, a struggle … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 04:00 AM |
| 31 | Man expects wife to pay for HIS family's christmas presents, saying that she should "pitch in" because she makes more money ~ she's "negative" and "bitter" for refusing.Wow a police officer whos an NVM!? I can't believe it!!! /s Reminds me of my old coworkers NVM fireman husband. He was a total mama's boy, used to having everything taken care of for him. So she typically ended up buying gifts for his family. I remember one holiday season, all she did was ask him to wrap the gifts while he was off duty and she was at work. She texted him to see how it was going, and instead of being home wrapping gifts, he had fucked off to the firehouse to go hang out w/ his fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:47 AM |
| 10 | Expose on Pornhub Front Page of NYTThank you so much for posting this. I hope that all porn sites would be banned worldwide, but as that isn't going to happen, I hope to God victims come together to form a class action lawsuit because honestly, the only thing that will get pornhub to stop is if promoting rape and pedophilia is no longer profitable for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:32 AM |
| 21 | Spend money on your car, not men. Your life may depend on it....Get one of those combo knife/seat belt cutter/window breakers. Keep that within an arms reach of the drivers seat, God forbid you ever need it. Some credit card companies offer roadside assistance. Citibank for ex still does. AAA is of course better but if you don't have them, these credit card roadside assistance, they'll come tow you, bring you gas, etc. Jumping your car yourself: there are USB power banks that also double as a jump. Keep one in your car and keep it fully charged cuz jumping y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 03:11 AM |
| 10 | El cheapo LVM hand-makes crappy cheap gifts for partner but expects a PS5An origami star and a laminated tree, IS HE IN KINDERGARTEN!?? also notice how the first year she claims she didn't expect anything, yet she spent $50 bucks on him? Why are you spending money on someone if you don't even expect them to match your effort? He had the audacity to tell her her list was too expensive because she's taken shit 2 years in a row from him, so he knows she'll take shit again and not leave. I hope she proves him wrong and dumps him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 02:34 AM |
| 24 | why we don't do hookups.. straight from the horse's mouthGirl just wanted to say I have felt the EXACT same way for months. This break may very well be permanent and that is fine w/ me!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/20 02:28 AM |
| 4 | 14-16 was when I got catcalled the mostDude I think about this a lot!! Like from 12 to 17 or so how much I got harassed. Sometimes I think maybe I just wasn't used to it back then? Or maybe I was in more situations where I'd get catcalled. There was a housing boom in my neighborhood when I was a teenager, so perverted construction crews everywhere, and I remember like an entire fucking construction crew HOLLERING at me and my friend when we were like 14/15 and I just started screaming at them. Or when I was 16 some guy made a vulgar … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Does the number/sex of siblings a man has make a difference?Cultural background and family dynamic (which is in large part shaped by the former) is what it comes down to from what I've seen. In some families, the oldest son, or any son, is a godsend and can do no wrong. My friends friend is so awesome but she's married to a somewhat useless dolt whose family has always placed him on a pedestal, no woman is good enough. Her in laws have NEVER fully accepted her, despite her being super nice, helpful, and even learning their language. I don't know where he… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:39 PM |
| 24 | The Holidays are Coming: You dont need to buy him a Gift or show up with himI read this post more like if you haven't known your man long, or don't have solid proof that you've vetted him enough to safely do holiday stuff w/o putting yourself into forever gf territory, do not do these things. Like here's an example from my own life when doing holiday stuff w/ a man is fine: friend of mine bought her now husband an expensive sneaker collection for xmas about a year into their relationship. She only did this because she could well afford it w/ her own money, and she knew … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 39 | NEVER lower your standards!I'm so sorry this asshole has been in your life! I hope the legal action scares him off. What a nutcase. The only bitter old maids are the women who settled for LVM. We'll be old, but we'll be rich and chill because we don't have shitty men sucking us dry financially or emotionally ✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:32 AM |
| 5 | Just don’t ask me out and act like you are interested in me when you knew you might disappear after a few dates. Please do not make me confused. I am sad.He is not as confused as you are. He is simply not interested because all he wanted was sex. You need to read the handbook. Pay attention to his actions, not his words. His actions are: he tried to have sex with you before commitment was established, and then when you said no to sex, he got super distant. His behavior says he was looking only to hook up, and because you didn't want sex this early (which is a good thing), he's no longer interested in you. I am sorry, I've been in this position be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 05:26 AM |
| 12 | After 2.5 years I broke up with my bf. He felt like home to me but that doesn't mean he was.Reason #23568 why I never want to get married | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 03:19 AM |
| 8 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020I'm so sorry that happened to you :(. I'm sure you felt upset and shocked, so I get your response just being "yeah." You can never know how men will react either. If you said "no" maybe they could've insulted you further. I get this is a defense tactic in a way Those guys did it because they knew you didn't like it but wanted to free themselves of any guilt they were feeling. If you clearly enjoyed it they wouldn't have asked. If they cared about you, they would have asked. And if you said yes, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 12:02 AM |
| 38 | After 2.5 years I broke up with my bf. He felt like home to me but that doesn't mean he was."whoever he is with" yikes...cant he see how wrong it is to marry someone just because she's there?? But I guess A LOT of men are like that. And then they're out the door if they meet a woman who's the kinda woman they always really wanted. Willing to date someone for SEVEN years before getting married is not compromising, that's throwing your life away. You can't really ask someone to compromise on a marriage time-line when the gap is as big as you guys had. It just means you're not even on the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:50 PM |
| 42 | A tale from the vault: The one time my narc ex ate poisonous berries right after I told him they were poisonous and he blamed me when he got raging diarrhea 🤦♀️WOW, he got his lol. I'm sorry he put you through abuse, very glad he's an ex! Your story reminds me of something from Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That?, "the abusive man in arguments" section. In the example story, the abuser was stewing for 2 weeks over a dinner in which the guests were very interested in/excited about the gf's journalism classes, asking her a lot of questions. Making her the center of attention, which we know pisses off abusers and narcs soooo much. The abuser also recognizes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:40 PM |
| 76 | After 2.5 years I broke up with my bf. He felt like home to me but that doesn't mean he was."I feel like if a guy knows, then he knows." You're right. He said you only gave him a week to think about this but he's had 2.5 years to think about when he wants to get married. That's messed up that he said he should've met you when he was 30, not 25. He already admitted with that that marrying you wasn't seriously in his plans. He's more focused on his own plane that relationship ones. And you're right about " if he really knew, he wouldn't have just let me walk away so easy" My friend and h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:16 PM |
| 13 | “YouTuber kills pregnant girlfriend on live-stream as viewers pay him to abuse her.” - Summary in comments.Absolutely awful, that's so gross 🤢. He's just going to abuse more underage girls!! It's like women can't women, neoliberal politics don't care about these kinds of things and neither do conservative politics | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:04 PM |
| 17 | “YouTuber kills pregnant girlfriend on live-stream as viewers pay him to abuse her.” - Summary in comments.Thanks for sharing, I wasn't aware of these DV being decriminalization there, how awful. I can't imagine how scary it must be to be trapped in an abusive relationship, only for the nation to take away what protections/ability to prosecute you had, because abusers are a more important political tool than your safety and life? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 11:03 PM |
| 20 | People who say their partner is HV before 6 month in, and people in here supporting it?That's awful, I'm sorry he put you through that. This shit is exactly why I never want to get married, I have seen in my own life it can work out well, but even so I don't feel it's worth the risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:16 PM |
| 245 | “YouTuber kills pregnant girlfriend on live-stream as viewers pay him to abuse her.” - Summary in comments.How is he only facing 2 years. This is premeditated murder of two people. This is fucking sick. He stood there and watched her die. Someone like that should be locked up for life, he's a sociopath. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Do not date a man who refuses to eat food from your cultureChef boyardee AND taco bell 😂. Frozen meals are still pretty bad, especially hungry man because they're LOADED with salt, but at least they're made for adults! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 05:01 PM |
| 19 | Scarcity vs. Abundance Mindset: What's your approach?This is probably not the answer you want to hear, but you only get comfortable with the abundance theory when you truly prefer to be single rather than compromise for the wrong man. I think you know currently you're dating the wrong man. Major fundamental differences like religion mean you are never a right fit for each other romantically (you can totally be friends w/ people who have drastically different world views). You know he's not right, but you're afraid to let him go because what if you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 08:25 PM |
| 11 | Do not date a man who refuses to eat food from your cultureGirl if your first paragraph isn't my old coworkers man child husband...She said he lived on chef boyardee. This man was over 30 🙃. He also had never lived alone and couldn't clean up after himself, because he was used to his very overbearing mother doing everything for him. And guess who turned out to be a weak man who cheated on his wife when the completely normals life tasks of planning to have a baby and buying a house became "too much" for him to handle? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:58 PM |
| 31 | Men having a type and women having a type. How men fake interest and clown women. Ways to avoid this happening to you.Don't use dating apps and get a hold of his social media immediately. It was clear early on my last ex was too much of an anime/video game nerd and into Japanese and Asian culture to be a good person, but I was a loser pick me and ignored the red flags. When I checked his social media (stupidly only after I thought there might be a problem, not right when I met him) I saw he was following a ton of east asian girls (I'm not east asian). A few were insta models, most were normal girls, maybe actua… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:53 PM |
| 30 | Why has watching porn when you're in a relationship been normalized? (Also: "sex positive, monogamous" -_-)"examine yourself" not the guy that likes ANIME porn!??? Porn is bad enough but hentai is a whole different level of depravity. What tf happened to shaming people like this?? The only people we shame now, in America at least, are people with moral/religious boundaries and sexual boundaries. More often than not those people are women. Everyone else we have to "respect" their choices, no matter how disgusting or immoral. Why is it the mainstream thought to be so invested in protecting sexually and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:35 PM |
| 42 | My friend she wouldn’t mind being casually proposed to while doing dishes or taking out garbage - I hope I never get to this pointI'm sorry for your friend :(. She sounds really defeated. It's possible to come back from feeling so low, but you have to admit you're low first and be willing to change, which means willing to dump the anchors weighing you down, like that loser bf. "a place with a happy memory" seriously, it's not hard if you actually CARE about the other person lol. My brother proposed to his wife on a beach in California when they were on vacation there, to a spot I think they'd been a couple times previously… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:28 PM |
| 72 | Straight for a man's thoughts.Funny how the entirety of male reddit (and many men otherwise) thinks this, BUT NOT ONCE does it occur to them to think "if it's so easy for girls to get guys, then what does that say about men's standards?" Only ONCE did I speak to a man on reddit who recognized that the only standard most men have is "she's a woman," and they'll date any woman, usually because he wants a sustainable source of sex, but also maybe he's lonely, or cuz he likes the idea of having a gf and the status it brings him,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 05:18 PM |
| 3 | X post from r/witchesvspatriarchyI don't think it was any trying to "prove" I wasn't racist, I grew up hearing my parents and other white people do it, and really think it is the whole white default thing. I would point out white people's ethnicity sometimes too, but in hearing people of color talk about how this issue made them feel, I realized I should just stop overall. I think if your friends are doing something that makes you uncomfortable, you are within your rights to tell them so. We all would hope that our own friends … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 04:42 PM |
| 8 | X post from r/witchesvspatriarchyI'm white so take my interpretation w/ a grain of salt, but my thoughts on this particular instance: 1) its definitely the conscious or unconscious noticing of POC as "other" thing that you said. I've been guilty of this and I try to watch my own behavior and not do it. 2) I see white people have this stereotype of black people being inherently funny. The funny black sidekick trope in movies for ex. People on the internet saying "y'all" when they're trying to be funny. Honestly I see the flavor … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 12:04 AM |
| 2 | LVM movie red flags! 🚩Add the joker to this list!!! Like how infantile can one be 😂 And please let's NOT even say this stuff is good, it's basic as hell, especially catcher in the rye 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:48 PM |
| 2 | "My incel friend told my wife he'd r*pe her if he could and I did nothing. Now she's upset for some reason! What have I done wrong?"He's twenty effing six and 1) thinks it's appropriate to have LOSERS for friends 2) recognizes his wife was uncomfortable all those other times but DIDN'T CARE 3) didn't care that his wife was in fucking tears. Like, isn't that last one the moment to realize you massively fucked up!? To grovel and apologize? Even if he did, she shouldn't take him back because the disrespect is too far gone, but you'd think he'd realize what a mistake he'd made. I'll bet he hasn't even talked to his parents, cuz … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/20 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Just sharing this set of reminders. :)Thanks for sharing, I think some women are being a little overly critical of this....I didn't get the impression this post was made for women who have suffered serious trauma/abusive relationships from men, or women who are struggling to change pick me ways. These look like reminders for a woman who is well into her journey of becoming a healthy and complete person who is stable enough to date, and this is like flash cards. The suck it up thing is helpful for people like me. I have no desire to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 11:00 PM |
| 6 | In a fb group, someone told a story about being ghosted on the way to meet up for a date. The comments were full of women telling similar stories. These women give so much time and so many second chances, for what? Disappointment.https://www.google.com/amp/s/mashable.com/article/online-dating-blocked-stood-up.amp | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:36 PM |
| 4 | How was your experience dating/marrying Engineers?My brother is a biomedical engineer, just got married. Seems to treat his wife very well, he spends a lot of time with her family, he seems to do a lot for her. My brother is extremely social and outgoing, but he even said to me years ago in college that he had plenty of classmates that could not do anything of it wasn't math/science. Like terrible written communication skills and super awkward. Cannot imagine those guys turned out to be HVM. I don't think you can blanket any one career as one w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:34 PM |
| 18 | Success storiesDefinitely look at the FDS success flair. For me personally, this sub helped me not give a shit about dating anymore, which was a very good step for me. I was waffling on kids for about a year before I found FDS, and checking this sub almost daily for months helped me realize I actually don't want kids, marriage, or even a boyfriend, and I am A LOT happier now without this pressure of having to find someone in order to get what I want out of life. This sub makes me want to be totally self suffic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 08:06 PM |
| 40 | In a fb group, someone told a story about being ghosted on the way to meet up for a date. The comments were full of women telling similar stories. These women give so much time and so many second chances, for what? Disappointment.He stood her up TWO mins before the date, knowing she drove 45 mins to get there, ghosted her, and then they reconnect for a booty call and she MARRIES him!? What are standards lmao. About this phenomenon of guys ghosting girls right before the date - I read an article about this a while back, the author called it cloaking. She met this guy on OLD, he asks her out, they talk until the morning of the date, and when she gets to the restaurant, she sees he blocked her on whatsapp, imessage, and unm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 8 | How much things have changedGreat for you on reaching this point! This is a good sign that he has pride taking care of his house. Definitely just check your own behavior - don't offer to clean up after him in the first place. I know, it's the being a helpful houseguest thing to do, but you're his gf, not a guest really, and we have to kinda treat a guy like a roommate when it comes to chores in order to set a good precedent. Best of luck with him, it sounds like it will be a good experience no matter what and you've learne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:32 PM |
| 6 | The "phone thing"I agree with your standpoint. Especially if you're going to get married to this person. I understanding not wanting to let a bf or gf of only a few months have unrestricted access to your phone (although hiding phone/internet activity would be a major red flag), but like if you want to get married, you cannot be keeping major secrets from each other. Except a woman having her secret bank account. Otherwise like if you have shit you have to hide...that's a major problem. I could only see a woman … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 07:18 PM |
| 26 | I was scrolling through a post discussing school stress management and happened along this little number. Absolutely appalling. I wouldn’t be surprised if this is how most men view their wives and children.If his life is so awful now why doesn't he divorce her? Oh, that's right, because she cooks all his meals, does his laundry, and cleans the whole house, because he mentioned doing NONE of those things when he gets home. He just neglects his fucking child by sleeping when he gets home. She'll file for divorce one day and he'll FREAK. What a disgusting piece of shit. If you hate your life that much do everyone a favor and fuck right off. I doubt anyone would miss such a miserable sack of shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 06:22 AM |
| 43 | What... the FuCK? 🤡😳Dude, why is she having painful sex with him!?!? She said due to her vaginismus, if they haven't had sex in a while, she feels like her vagina is tearing AND HE ENJOYS IT. what the fuck!? There are things you can do to treat vaginismus, having painful sex is not fucking one of them. I can't believe that their sex life is great, like you can't tell me he's putting in a lot of effort to get her off everytime if he said point blank he'd prefer to jack himself off than have sex with a woman. What a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:41 AM |
| 36 | This is why we dont have sex with men who didnt commitAbsolutely. He's def going to ghost her. My friend said something to me once that guys don't really want to hurt girls, so they ghost, but I think a more accurate way to put it is guys don't want to deal with the consequences of hurting women. They have to know ghosting hurts, but they don't have to read that sad text from a girl, so it's easy to feel very little guilt, or no guilt at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 6 | Therapists are frustratingIf she does this again, tell her she is completely ignoring the topic at hand, which is the abusive men in your life and what they have done to you, and your efforts to deal with that trauma, not all the world's men. You're perfectly within your rights to say to her she's not getting paid to talk about "all men," she's getting paid to help you deal with what particular abusive men have done to you. I'm serious. if she wants to advocate for men, she can go do effing PR for men's rights activists.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:30 AM |
| 22 | Don’t forget the sh*t men say about us behind closed doors. Except...this is from Facebook. A public forum where men have their families added for all to see their commentary.It's illegal in football to tackle the kicker. Men just magically forgetting the rules of football to hope a women gets hurt. Football fans welcome convicted dog fighting felon Michal Vick, and various domestic abusers back on the field with open arms, but get upset at a woman doing a publicity thing to get her organization noticed? Lol okay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 01:08 AM |
| 4 | Appropriate age gaps?You need to make sure you're both in the right stage in life. We talk a lot here about huge age gaps being a red flag cuz the guy is likely looking to date someone he can manipulate, or hes a loser and can't get anyone his age. That could happen w/ 15, 10, or 5 years older. If you're not in the same stage of life, and there is a major power imbalance with career, money, or life experience, either you'll get taken advantage of or he'll be resentful you're more successful than him. You know what f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:46 PM |
| 62 | Magazine for TEEN GIRLS writes a sex article encouraging teens to send sexts, be handcuffed or blindfolded, not believe in cuddling, be spanked and have their hair pulled.The same magazine that published a "guide to anal sex" back in 2017 🙃. Because teenagers are old enough to take on the physical and emotional responsibilities of sex right??? They also use misogynyistic "gender neutral language" such as "vagina havers" It's a disgusting, women hating magazine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:36 PM |
| 2 | He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd dateYou should be proud of yourself! This is the type of situations I historically clam up in, or am shocked so I'm like "uh okay sure" I admire you for standing your ground and making his lazy ass pick up the check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 11:25 PM |
| 5 | A Pyrrhic Victory is Still A Victory Right?! A tale of woe from a reformed(?) Pickmeisha...All you can do is measure your current self against your past self. You HAVE made progress. You said past you would've recognized you were being treated wrong, but stayed. This time, you left shortly after you realized you were being treated badly. That's progress! Nobody here is perfect. We are all a work in progress. You have not regressed, you have gotten better, as evidenced by your choice to prioritize yourself. I feel you on being upset that you gave this guy you're time at all, but you ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:46 PM |
| 10 | He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd dateWow, can't believe how fucking petty he got after the ice cream 🙄. If this unfortunately happens to you again, don't be afraid to just be like "well I have to go, bye" You held your own when the check came, I'm sure you could hold your own that you need to leave and just go, instead of looking for an excuse to leave. I've had this switch up happen too. They're looking to get laid, so they don't want to invest much. They're shooting their shot w/ many women and therefore don't have the money to p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:37 PM |
| 3 | Literal teenager has more common sense wisdom when it comes to dating than 90% of men today. Emotional intelligence is not that hard just admit you don't want to do the work. How about you start with googling the word 'empathy'Not sure if meetup.com operates where you are, but they always had TONS of stuff in my city. Pre covid anyway l o l but! Even post covid they do still have events going on, obviously it's not as many but they've got groups for everything | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 4 | Literal teenager has more common sense wisdom when it comes to dating than 90% of men today. Emotional intelligence is not that hard just admit you don't want to do the work. How about you start with googling the word 'empathy'Girl tell me about it, only bf I ever had was a weeb 🙃. The only dudes I know who have a healthy interest in video games and anime, they have many other ADULT interests. It's like one piece of the pie. Even if it's a fairly large piece, they have lives outside of it, you know, like normal people. Tbh any hobby where that's your entire personality is bad and irritating, but the dudes who are into video games and anime exclusively are the WORST, for reasons we know too well l o l 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 07:57 PM |
| 20 | No way this wasn’t done on purpose so she’d never ask him again...Same girl, I don't want kids now, but if I ever do, I'll figure out adoption. I'm not waiting on a effing man to give me a kid. I hope you reach your goal for adoption ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 03:42 AM |
| 169 | Literal teenager has more common sense wisdom when it comes to dating than 90% of men today. Emotional intelligence is not that hard just admit you don't want to do the work. How about you start with googling the word 'empathy'A teenager making this post as a clap back to loser male stories on the dating sub that's like "my only interests are anime and video games and I never leave my house, but I don't have a girlfriend and I'm soooooo lonely 😭" Like....what do you expect anyone to tell you? To keep staying home and spending time in male dominated hobbies to meet a woman who likes you? I fucking can't with the entitlement, like I never expected to magically have a bf despite leaving never leaving my house, back when … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 03:40 AM |
| 33 | Makes me wonder what age these "women" are."but 90% of men my age who have these kinds of interests, that’s like.....it." Exactly!!! My friend phrased it as "no adult interests." This includes if he's only into like TV too. Only guy I ever dated was like this. I didn't realize at first because he was a programmer and worked in an auxiliary industry to video games, but the red flags on this topic were there (among many others) , but I was a major pick me and wearing rose colored glasses. I love video games, so does my brother, and so does… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 02:11 AM |
| 73 | Feminine "hygiene"SAME girl, I had no idea until I was college aged that being fully shaved was a thing women even did. Thankfully I happened to just heard about it, not learn from porn or a man stupid enough to make any negative comments about my cooch. Worst I ever got was the first guy I ever hooked up w/ asked me why I didn't shave, and I was like but I do??? And he was like no, everything. So I said oh, because I don't like the way it looks. And then I told him I thought it was weird he was into that lol. I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 01:54 AM |
| 21 | Poor man. Can‘t get that girl on the street that is so pretty is hurts. He‘ll never be good enough for 11/10 supermodel.You go to therapy, because you have ridiculously low self esteem 🙄. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to know when the way other people look, or other people's success in life, makes you feel bad, that's a you problem, and you need to get it taken care of immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 29 | Be careful out here ladiesPretty sure he made this up for likes because we all know manipulation and stalking are funny things to laugh at. It's not like abusive men find any way they can to worm back into a woman's life and regularly murder exes when they show up to their home, work, kids school, etc 🙄 /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/20 01:34 AM |
| 3 | A HVM will NEVER threaten your childPlease read Lundy Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That? It's a book about abusive men and their tactics. It will help you get away from this situation and prevent from being w/ another abuser Threatening children (even if the child is his own) is a typical abusive tactic. Remember an abusers aim is control of your life to his benefit, and he will harm your child to do that . If you ever have to speak to this man again, check that you're a one party state and record all conversations with him. Conside… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 09:03 PM |
| 6 | Scrote from ELEVEN years ago just rang my bell unannounced to "reconnect" 🤮Great to know, thanks very much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:51 PM |
| 15 | A Taste of his Own Medicine!This was hysterical 😂. I know at FDS we advocate to block a guy as soon as he showed himself to be shit buuut kinda sounds like you entertained yourself without getting burned and that you don't plan on making a habit out of this. What a nutcase that guy was though, holy shit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:33 PM |
| 12 | Scrote from ELEVEN years ago just rang my bell unannounced to "reconnect" 🤮What a psycho, so sorry he showed up 😭. Unfortunately you have to manually request removal of your personal info on all these sites...idk if you vna even get them all because they spring up like mushrooms. So it will always be an ongoing battle. But it may be worth it to Google yourself once a week, see what sites come up in the first couple pages of Google, and request your info (AND all your relatives info!) be removed. I started doing this recently and am trying to keep up with it. Another th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 9 | 🥰💞I joke about the only kind of man worth my time is one who can put me up in a Swiss chateaux lol, as I'd kinda low-key love to live in some idyllic alpine valley . A meme page I follow recently posted a "be your own rich husband" meme and I reposted it like I'll get my OWN Swiss chateaux even if it takes me until I'm 90 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 20 | they don't even hide it (a collection)The dude with the Asian fetish was so sickening 🤢. That's fucking disgusting. Can't believe the "it's not my fault if I INTENTIONALLY manipulate or mislead you" How the fuck can you absolve yourself of responsibility for choosing to have shitty intentions and intentionally mislead!? If you're going to be a shitty person, at least own it. This is a good time though to talk about how even if a dude isn't going to be as self aware as the above, or openly admit he does these things, most of them ope… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:47 PM |
| 2 | Lovebombing, money laundering, gaslighting, obsessiveness, and classic narcissism. These LV men will rob you blind and literally destroy your life if you let them."no nervous attachment" ugh fr!! If only I could've realize years ago the key to dating for a woman is to not really care much about the guy. At least in the beginning...or for like the first 6 months maybe 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Pick me calls not wanting to have sex with your partner “abuse” 🤮Yes, you're correct it is coupled with other behaviors. I did specify in withholding it intentionally on a regular basis as a form of control, to distinguish from someones right to bodily autonomy and simply not wanting to have sex. That is of course an inalienable right no matter what someone's gender is or what the situation is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:35 AM |
| 2 | Lovebombing, money laundering, gaslighting, obsessiveness, and classic narcissism. These LV men will rob you blind and literally destroy your life if you let them.Wtf!! That's soooo obnoxious 🙄! What an asshole, you're better off as you know haha. I found FDS earlier this year and stopped dating about 2 months later. The most important thing this sub has drilled into me is I guess it's not worth it to put up with or get upset over shit you don't want to accept. Like its okay to be mad and/or sad for a bit, but move move on, don't dwell. That was advice people had tried to give me in the past but I don't think I was in a space where I could make myself be … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 12:32 AM |
| 8 | Pick me calls not wanting to have sex with your partner “abuse” 🤮This person is definitely a man and just looking for a fight 🙄. He didn't listen to a thing you said. Not having sex because you're angry, upset, or just tired today is not abuse - intentionally withholding sex ona. Regular basis like how some abusive men do as a form of control/way to destroy the woman's self esteem (see Bandcroft's why does he do that?) is abuse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:57 PM |
| 14 | Lovebombing, money laundering, gaslighting, obsessiveness, and classic narcissism. These LV men will rob you blind and literally destroy your life if you let them.I hope she learns to get angry :(. I noticed a change about a year ago where a guy ghosted me after a few dates, and I was very upset for like a day or so, but for the first time I got angry that someone would have the audacity to do that to me. I got over it waaaay faster than I'd ever gotten over a ghosting, cuz in the past I had very low self esteem and always saw a ghosting as "i'm not worth dating." It looks like that's where she's at now :(. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:50 PM |
| 6 | Lovebombing, money laundering, gaslighting, obsessiveness, and classic narcissism. These LV men will rob you blind and literally destroy your life if you let them.Same girl 😩 at least we have FDS now, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:44 PM |
| 7 | Okay do these posts piss anyone else off? The same couple of incidents are reposted to make it seem like it happens all the time, and everyone in the comments are more pissed off than if an actual rape occurred.I'm so sorry they did this to you. It was NOT your fault. Rape is ALWAYS the rapists fault. It is a choice a persona makes to force themself on someone else. I hope you can get access to a therapist or just someone trusted to talk to IRL soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:37 PM |
| 3 | A LVM and a pick me on a walk date😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:33 PM |
| 3 | SOS - Rescue Mission NeededSo and engagement and marriage has always been important to her but not him. She gave up her dream of an engagement for him. Then he humiliated her by bailing on the marriage and sent her into a depressive episode that I'll bet he never even noticed her going through and she never spoke to him about. So then she says "okay I'll never bring up getting married but I won't be your forever gf" What does she expect to happen then??? I feel really bad for her, but at the same time she is letting this … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 04:28 PM |
| 10 | Dating a divorced man with children?Aw don't feel like a dummy, this was literally your first time dealing with a divorced father. Dating has a learning curve, especially with a situation like this. And you came to the right place for guidance! Dating a divorced father has potential to be VERY messy, I have a different friend who had some NIGHTMARE relationships with divorced fathers, so I would not blame anyone who doesn't want to get involved at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:56 AM |
| 18 | Dating a divorced man with children?This type of relationship comes with a lot of additional things you need to vet than if was never married, not a father, and closer in age Before I get into it, I am writing all these things based on the experience of a close friend and her husband. Theirs was a similar situation although they were both 5 to 7 years younger than you guys. I have always liked her husband, he does a lot for her, a lot for his kids, a lot for their kids, and gets along very well w/ his ex wife. My friend also get a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:37 AM |
| 4 | Never date the Devil’s Advocate. You may just end up in a psych ward."for fun?" how much you want to bet she never thought of his devils advocate bs as fun, but tiresome? Because literally nobody enjoys devils advocate but the devils advocate themself 🙄. Anyone who proclaims themself as such could be reclassified as an edgelord. And why the fuck would you make jokes to someone with c-ptsd about how they're trapped? Make jokes about taking further control (ability to get their mail) from them? Yeah he "loves" her alright 🙄 he doesn't understand a thing about her. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:01 AM |
| 6 | Most men are vultures waiting for vulnurable women to abuseDude. This is SCARY. Thank God she kicked his ass out but also GIRL NO block his whole ass family!! Why isn't she talking to her own friends and family!? I am sure we have all been there where a bf, friends, whoever, is just berating us with a warped perspective, and we start to believe it/doubt ourselves. That's the point where you need to be like I have to talk to someone I trust, if I talk it out I'll see what's true. Like on one hand it's good many of these women come to reddit, because when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:51 AM |
| 8 | Latest narrative from Pickmeville 🤡I figured this woman was just being funny with this tweet (cuz so many people have sex on the 1st or 2nd date anyway before covid) but maybe she's like one of these coworkers....wtf is wrong with people!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:47 AM |
| 26 | Why are men like this? This is why I avoid catching feelings at all costs.Lmao this is why I don't even date. I don't have time to waste w/ someone who is putting on an act that is going to drop off after X number of days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:37 AM |
| 33 | Y’ALL! I was dating a guy who treated me the best I’d ever been treated. He then told me he’s on the sex offender registry! Worst part is below...Great point. They're so nuts about making sure you're a real person with your fb or phone #, they can't ask for your # to do a background check? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:35 AM |
| 4 | Men are selfishThanks, I've been following that sub for months actually! Unfortunately not too much activity, hopefully because those ladies are too busy doing their own thing haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:47 PM |
| 3 | I feel sickThis is true even with less serious things. Years ago i used to work w/ a woman who's bf of 2 yrs moved in w/ her shortly after she got her one place (both lived w/ parents). He had a volunteer job that was located very close, and he'd hang out there alllll the time. She said it would be like 1am and she hadn't even gotten a text from him as to where he was. He also didn't clean up after himself that great - basically his vibe was "nice" guy who had been coddled insanely by his mother, so he did… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Great idea. My grandma's friend, the bf she had when she was older, after her husband passed, they were together over 10 years and never lived together. He kept trying to get him to move in w/ her, she said no way am I giving up my house, so he bought a house across the st from her haha. My cousin, she got married several years ago and her and her husband had not permanently lived together before then. Not sure how many years they were dating, but it was a little bit of an LDR (a hour or two of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:48 AM |
| 4 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits continues their Pro-Pedophile agenda by smearing FDSers concerned about protecting gay youth from predatory adult men as “hateful”. Makes extremely homophobic claims that FDSers are “Political Lesbians”.Thanks very much for linking this, I didn't know about the other laws but they're all downright scary. No wonder people are leaving Cali in droves. I have relatives that live in a state next door and they said you literally cannot buy a house right now, cuz people from Cali are snatching up houses 2 days after they enter the market. Who wants to live in a state where an adult could sexually assault your child and may not even get labeled as a sex offender for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:17 AM |
| 6 | r/AgainstHateSubreddits continues their Pro-Pedophile agenda by smearing FDSers concerned about protecting gay youth from predatory adult men as “hateful”. Makes extremely homophobic claims that FDSers are “Political Lesbians”.Dude I just learned about that Cali law today and I am flabbergasted. HOW could you POSSIBLY look at that original law and decide the solution is to make LESS CONSEQUENCES for pedophiles!? The problem w/ the original law was PIV w/ a minor did not automatically make the adult male a sex offender, which it should! Why would you make it so that ANY sex w/ a minor leaves it up for debate if the adult is a sex offender!? This was not a law that was passed to protect consensual relationships among ga… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 09:05 AM |
| 4 | How to deal with LV toxic people (both scrotes & pickmes)." I think in the past people had more shame and would make more effort to have social graces, etiquette." You hit the nail on the head. Much of the problems we have in the west, especially America (rampant porn use, "sex work" being ~empowering~, men believing Tia totally acceptable to do nothing but play video games) is cuz people/society as a whole have noooooo effing shame anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:49 AM |
| 11 | Boyfriends/Husbands who destroy their partners things: a FDS investigation.An old example but: in Bandcroft's book, (part 1, section 3), he talks about how one of his clients said his wife "really hurt him" by taking their son and staying elsewhere for the weekend, ans that he wanted to hurt her too, "and go after something that was really important to her." So he destroyed a college paper he knew she'd worked hard on all week (I imagine this was the 80s/early 90s and before you could simply save a word doc), plus a bunch of pics of their family. And left it on the bed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 08:29 AM |
| 3 | In your opinion, how long into an official relationship is it acceptable/ expected for someone to say ‘I love you’?Ugh had a similar experience girl 😂😭. He was a clown and unfortunately so was I 🤡. Thank God I'm not that stupid anymore and thanks to FDS for helping create a permanent mindset shift! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:52 AM |
| 21 | Am I the only one who is heterosexual and would - in theory - love having a loving partner and a family, but after seeing all the degeneracy of men, has just given up on it completely and deemed men in general to be undateabl/unwantable?Girl I comment this here all the time. I just did like 5 mins ago lol. Even one of my friends, who is happily married and I honestly have always liked her husband, said that men are raised to be a little bit sociopathic, and while they can be wonderful, at the end of the day they're just animals. So what's the fucking point then? What's the point of legally tying yourself - or tying yourself at all - to someone like that? You don't know that he's going to be there for you when times are tough an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:39 AM |
| 133 | Men are selfishA friend of mine pointed out to me quite some time ago that men are raised to be and society encourages men to be a little bit sociopathic. She also said that men can really be wonderful but at the end of the day, they're animals and have to be handled a certain way. I was shocked to hear her say this stuff, but considering she's happily married and knows way more about men that me, I figured I should take her word for it. Then I started hanging out here and I see what she said in action every s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 07:20 AM |
| 26 | I feel sickYou are not overreacting. A man w/ the most basic level of decency would NEVER have done what he did the first time. And you should expect way more than just basic decency from a boyfriend. Even though you talked to him about it the first time, it changed nothing because from his POV, that fact that you stuck around after he did something so horribly nasty and disrespectful, that means he can be abusive to you. That's why we say leave at the first sign of a red flag. But you should be proud of s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:48 PM |
| 11 | When you notice changes in your own behavior...Yikes! The audacity! I think you handled this perfectly. I admire your self control and how you kept your emotions in check. Sounds like you're going to be super successful dating this time around! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:43 PM |
| 52 | Ex-boyfriend calls to “catch up”. Why?He called you because he is hoping to use you for something. He called today because maybe his current girl dumped him today, maybe he got tired of her and dumped/ghosted her today, or maybe because it was simply on his "be a douche" to do list. That's all you need to know. You will learn nothing of interest or nothing new if you call him. His phone call doesn't change that he treated you poorly then and treated you poorly now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:40 PM |
| 1 | Coming from r/rheumatoid - Issues W SOI'm so sorry he is treating you this way :(. I cannot imagine dealing with multiple disabilities only for a boyfriend to be mean to you. How DARE he tell you you're not attractive!? I can't imagine looking at someone you've been together with for 10 years and thinking "you're not attractive to me anymore" instead of "how can I help you?" like that shit breaks my heart. I understand people becoming fatigued as a caregiver, but this is NOT it. It sounds like he doesn't have to do anything to take … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:32 PM |
| 142 | Beware of men who want open relationships but later decide to change their minds when they see that their partner have way more options than themI remember this post 💀 The EPITOME of irony, it was delicious lmao. Tf did he think would happen??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:21 PM |
| 21 | Imagine this level of gaslighting, diverting and blameshifting.Seriously!! I read this and thought "sounds like a you problem" He totally made this a "him" problem. Instead of being like "this is what women deal with? That's horrible, I had no idea" he was like "your lived experience hurts my feewings :'(" Ive been self absorbed enough to do this type of shameful shit before to others, like choosing my problems over theirs, and was lucky enough to have people in my life who called me out on it. I'm sure the people in the comments didn't do him the same favo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 09:20 PM |
| 4 | The beautiful, wonderful irony that a sub about dating strategy helped me realize I SHOULDNT be dating right nowSame girl. Last date I went on was 8 months ago. Looking forward to making it a year like I look forward to my quit smoking anniversaries. If I never go on another date the rest of my life it'll be too soon lol. Quarantine showed me how much I enjoy being a hermit and how much I actually don't want to share anything - my space, my feelings, my life, and God forbid my little cat - with a guy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:40 PM |
| 4 | I politely declined a mans advances and ended up getting followed.I am so sorry this fucking psycho chased you!!! And for then that jackass you were seeing to send you some "damn that's crazy NOW ABOUT ME" bs that's so awful, like the icing on this shit cake. I am so glad you are okay. I hope you have filed a police report as well. One idea is besides keeping your gun on you at all times get a dash cam if you don't have, one with front and rear cameras. You never need to worry about evidence then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:34 PM |
| 3 | Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries?Don't ever let anyone mess with your money or try to legally tie you to them. You were perfectly diplomatic. He wasn't and neither was your friend (honestly not her biz how you handle your money or raise your kid and I hope she takes the convo you said you had w/ her to heart). You said no, he kept pushing. There is literally NO reason to legally entangle yourself further than absolutely necessary w/ an ex, especially one who treated you so horribly ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:26 PM |
| 17 | Empowerment is thrown around too much for the wrong reasons.Thank youuuu ugh I've come to hate that word. Notice how so much of it deals with appearance?? "I don't fit into what men think are attractive, but here I am wearing a miniskirt, I'm so empowering!" Literally how (and disclaimer: I love miniskirts lol). I take issue with how "empowerment" is often defined as feeling confident in yourself, with that confidence coming from how much others consider you "beautiful." My friends friend said once said why do people even want the validation from a socie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 11:21 PM |
| 7 | Who wants to guess the gender of the higher earning spouse? (Hypothetically) The audacity... 🤭Assuming this isn't a troll, the high earning spouse aka the husband would be fine with that 40K going into an account solely in the wife's name and solely being spent on her, right? And if this is a true story, it's both your damn kids. Don't have fucking kids if you don't want to actively participate in raising them full time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:44 PM |
| 10 | Before r/FemaleDatingStrategy, I would have used this app!Nooooo lmfao girl this is horrible/terrible, I love it 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:39 PM |
| 12 | Wow!NOOOOOOO I can't believe you've had a guy say that to you 😭😭😭😭. I wouldn't be surprised if this guy was like this. I can't imagine this is the first controlling, insecure thing he's done. Unless the dude is an actual sociopath, there's usually little red flags | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:36 PM |
| 30 | All fax 📠 no printer 🖨Oh no 😭. I probably did some of the picking up slack in group projects in middle school. Like me and a friend being paired w/ chronic underperformers. Worst ever was in college I was paired w/ 2 people on a semester long project that had multiple stages. The 3rd person, this dude never came to class, never contacted us. Thankfully this prof said to label which person did each part, so if you didn't do shit, you got no credit. This guy had the audacity to email us the night before the final part … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:21 PM |
| 32 | Wow!"I told him to fuck off and went home" good for her, I hope she keeps that energy. I don't think she is one of the "looking for permission to stay in a bad situation" people that post to these subs often. She sounds like she KNOWS this is crazy but he warped her mind so badly in the convo she needs some positive reinforcement (I would think you'd go to your friends for that, but whatever helps I guess) This guy is a fucking psycho. Honestly what is wrong with him? He has what sounds like a great… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 10:01 PM |
| 6 | Is this a neg??Totally weird. Either it's a neg or he doesn't have great social skills. Either way....not worth your time if he's weird this early in. It make more sense if it was one of the first messages he sent you on the app, but it would still be a weird/rude first message. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:48 PM |
| 125 | All fax 📠 no printer 🖨We should call it the group project syndrome. When have you ever offered to do all the work in a group project? Never. You likely got pinpointed as the most competent one in the group, so the others don't do squat, and then you ended up doing everything cuz you were the only one who cared about getting a bad grade. If you have lived w/ roommates, when have you ever jumped to do all the cleaning, cooking, and laundry for you roommates? Didn't you have a chore schedule? Didn't you bring it up w/ y… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 09:44 PM |
| 9 | I just want to remember what it took to get here. And that it doesn't end here, we don't sit and say we don't need Feminism anymore. We will always need Feminism, the very rights we enjoy are because of Feminism. Because the women before us paved the way for us. And now we do the same.Well said. You never see women who grew up in bad neighborhoods, or who were struggling financially, who had no support system, vigorously support prostitution, stripping, etc. It's ALWAYS people who come from solid economic backgrounds and are college educated, liberal intellectuals. Even cardi b, who we all know has awful taste in men, has said that she would not recommend stripping to any girl who was in her situation (financial distress and estranged from her family I believe). She said whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 06:43 AM |
| 4 | A Church Girl's RantAs someone else said on here, most Christian people don't ever pick up a Bible. I went to catholic school for 12 years and RARELY cracked open a Bible lol. I moved away from catholicism for a boatload of reasons and am just Christian, but unfortunately most Christian churches out there do not really follow the Bible, or are riddled with people using the Bible for their own gain. Often that means men employing power over women. Tbh I think you're better off not belonging to a church and practicin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:57 AM |
| 12 | Great advice for men on the r/AskMen subreddit. The burden of proof is on you, and you only have other men to blame for that."I'm so tired of having to prove I'm not a creep" When he goes on interviews, does he bitch that he's so tired of having to prove that he will be a good employee to these people he just met who know nothing about him?Seriously 🙄. Great response from that guy. And the "but covid!" crap the commenter was getting is bs - guys whining about how they can't get a date when only using dating apps to find dates was commonplace on dating subs WELL before covid. People are just lazy and have drunk the koo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 05:18 AM |
| 2 | The absolute state of this threadOnly explanation would be she never saw a dick before, but your other comments show that's not the case and these guys gave her infections 🤢. Come on dude, are we living in the 1700s with this fucking men who don't shower bs? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 5 | The absolute state of this threadA TRASH CAN WITH A LINER IS THE BEST I CAN DO 😂😂😂😂 Also, when she asks where the bathroom is, what's wrong with saying "and btw i have sanitary products in the guest bathroom if you need" If this was a planned visit, which going to a guys house should be, that would tell me he prepared for me coming there. It would only be weird if the dude did it to score points and not because he's thoughtful. And your gut will know which it is. Because his other behaviors prior to that moment will tell you. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:09 PM |
| 4 | The absolute state of this threadWHAT FIABFOWIFB what...the fuck 😭. How did she not vomit. Did she think B.O. was musk?? Like seriously, HOW!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:03 PM |
| 5 | Be very careful when meeting a man for the first time. Tell a friend who you’re meeting and where you’re going. Have your phone fully charged. This kind of thing happens way too often.Thank God for that security guard. This piece of shit better get locked up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Cringe story from my Pickme 🤡 daysNooooo not an MLM! I got sucked into a meeting w/ one of those via a friend. I was totally blindsided cuz she kept talking about her financial planning mentorship program. Her "mentor" shows up (this woman was younger than us both) and dude I had front row seats to the douchiest, most bullshit of Ted talks 😂. But lesson learned and nothing lost except some trash, right? Now you are better prepared for the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 08:58 PM |
| 2 | Don’t ask me if I can cook unless you’re prepared to replace my brakes and do an oil change on my car.Lmfaooo I love this 😂. I have 0 interest in dating anymore but if by some miracle a potentially viable man came along, he'd have to be almost as handy as my dad for me to consider. Like maybe not laying tile lol but fixing leaks, MacGyvering solutions in general - if you own a home you save a looooot of money knowing how to do that stuff. It helps a lot w/ elder care too, being able to fix stuff in your in laws house, especially when they bough it 40 yrs ago and didn't change a thing 🙃. But of c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 1 | She flew across the world to go on a date with him and he broke up with her when things got tough. They are married now, so happy ending, I guess!Right? Except Jenny and sumit is even worse!! Idk how sumit is not classified as a pathological liar tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 08:26 AM |
| 4 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???You're right it's not you, OLD just blows. It puts all the ugly, LVM out there at your fingertips so it's a very frustrating experience. All you can really do to try and meet someone is keep your standards high and keep yourself in social hobbies that you love. Either a HVM's path will cross yours, or not, but if not you'll keep living the life you love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:20 AM |
| 15 | The cesspool of online dating is pure male delusion, really dude???My ex, whom I met on OLD, mentioned that there was a point when he was just swiping right on everyone and had gone on a ton of dates that year because he was trying so hard to get a gf. I was just like lol what? And stupidly didn't realize that that meant he was desperate. My friend also told me about a guy she saw on the train, swiping right so fast on each profile there was no way he was reading them or even looking at the pics. Just swiping right as fast as humanly possible. So yeah, this is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:16 AM |
| 17 | LVM gets girlfriend pregnant, says he always wanted to be a dad, but then asks her to get an abortion after she asks him to help with chores.Notice how she said all of the housework and dishes. There are 3 other people in that apartment. She's cleaning up for ALL of them, plus doing this losers laundry. Why!? Like come on, I know most of us here have made bad mistakes w/ men, myself included, but this is even beyond that. I'll bet she's the only woman in the house and is clearly a doormat, so these men don't lift a finger, and she keeps picking up the slack. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 02:09 AM |
| 5 | I'm FREE- they don't change but you can change your life!Congratulations ☺️!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:56 AM |
| 16 | She flew across the world to go on a date with him and he broke up with her when things got tough. They are married now, so happy ending, I guess!If this woman was American she would've been on 90df. Even at my rock bottom, stupidest pick me, I cannot imagine making the decision to take a week long vacation alone w/ a strange man in a country I wasn't familiar with. And then agree to marry him after a week. And not wonder "he wants to call it off because he thinks I can't adjust? Why didn't he think of that before he proposed?" This guy's a complete loser and she's in the pickme hall of fame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:55 AM |
| 3 | And they wonder why we call them incels...That was a lot of words to say he's a virgin, skipped anatomy 102, and also has never talked to a woman before 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 01:44 AM |
| 10 | It’s sad that this kind of behavior from men is so rare.My friend used to work at sephora and would quite often get male customers. Often these were very young men, like teenagers. And they didn't know shit about what kinda make up the girl used lol. Granted this girl was maybe not even their gf, and if she was, they didn't live together, so not like he could check her make up collection out anytime. BUT. she would ask them ques about what kinda make up the girl wore and they couldn't do much beyond "idk it's bright??" It was like they saw her wear e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 08:26 PM |
| 7 | They find any sort of crack to slither back inDo scrotes share more DNA with roaches than the average person? How else can one explain how they keep finding ways to come back into your life despite your best efforts to lock them out lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 32 | Somebody call her an ambulance!Please tell me this woman is only like 17 or something and that's why she thinks this was a relationship 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Yes 😂! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Men I unmatched and/or swiped left reappear in my pile?Ugh dude this used to happen to me ALL the time on hinge when I bothered. I know it's a different app, but I'm quite sure it's the same idea, which is there are only X number of men in your area that meet the filter criteria you set, so unless you block them, you'll see them again. Either that or some may make new profiles | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Do it.Thanks for sharing your story, it's uplifting and I'm happy for you ☺️!! "Don't let life "just happen" to you while you watch. The best thing we can do to ourselves as women is to be active in our choices and decisions, instead of letting others pick our future for us." This is soooo true and I know a woman, someone I used to work w/, who could seriously use this advice. She let's everyone else in her life, especially whatever man she has latched on as a way to improve her life, lead her around.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Giving up birth control?If you're in the US, a vasectomy is an out patient procedure that's fairly non invasive (tiny incisions) that can be done as quickly as 30 mins and is reversable. You could also look into the Skyla IUD. This releases a very small amount of localized hormones to minimize the possibility of hormones screwing you up. There is also the copper IUD, but VERY heavy periods are a side effect of it. Like going through a super sized tampon in an hour or less. The kind of period where if it comes when you'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:47 PM |
| 15 | male depravity has exponentially grown since lockdown. try and prove me wrong.GIRL tell me about it, I haven't gone out much in months because outdoor dining only + some of my friends arent comfortable with that, but the few times I've passed by crowded restaurant areas? What the fuck is with the STARING? I also NEVER got bothered in my neighborhood until the pandemic. live in a v crowded area that people commute through, so everyone's super busy, nobody looks at you twice. I've been coming to this area for years before I lived here and again, the same, I can't remember b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:36 PM |
| 5 | I really hope she will get away from him... He honestly sounds like a lunatic.I think this must be a long term abusive relationship. No woman with healthy self esteem OR a good grip on reality would think she deserved to be physically assaulted for shouting at guy (especially when he shouted at her first). Abusers slowly warp their victim's reality and ruin their self esteem in these underhand gaslighting ways. that's when you're going to think "maybe I deserved to be physically assaulted by someone considerably stronger than me who could easily overpower and kill me" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:18 PM |
| 11 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.GIRL 😂. Do you know drag queen Jasmine Masters? She has this video about body positivity video where she talks about hooking up w/ a guy who was 6' 3". I'm sure it's exactly how your friend felt about him 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:13 PM |
| 40 | What my 6 years LVM boyfriend thinks about 50/50 before I moved in vs. when I moved in.Be very proud of yourself that you're leaving. Your mind sounds made up but in case he starts to get his filthy claws hooked back in your mind, come back to this thread to reminds yourself why you're leaving. Did you send him the screenshot from before you moved in btw? Just to fuck with him and watch him squirm lol. I am floored that he makes a great amount of money per month and couldn't even buy you a fucking fast food meal? Expects you, A STUDENT, to go 50/50 on groceries when HE'S the one w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:21 PM |
| 55 | maybe its considered creepy because this man is 11 years older than her ? if he is so successful & in his prime (🤣) why don't you shoot your shot limpdick?He's a freaking congressman using his WORK ACCOUNT to post a flirty comment, like a total loser, to a much young woman who is also a relative of the president. Yeah, that's not unprofessional or inappropriate 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 07:08 PM |
| 7 | Men: “Just give us a signal you’re open to being approached!” Women: “Ok, how?” Men: “Ask us out”Ugh exactly!! I guess in a way though part of that is true. Like, women don't typically think less of men if they have sex before commitment, and men don't think less of men for that, but men do think less of women for that. That's patriarchal and unfair, but the truth. Point that out to people on this website especially though and you're sexist 😂. And I'm like either you've never hooked up w/ a man or you have plenty and are in crazy denial. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Female SpacesUgh true!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 04:52 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I wouldn't necessarily say you're too attached to him, like you know someone for 4 years and talk all the time, anyone in your shoes would feel hurt. But you know you best of course. And yeah, the walking away thing, or even simply taking a step back and not putting in more than you receive, is really important to learn, for all relationships, friends bf, work even. Something I wish I'd been doing ages ago, especially in a work setting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 02:38 AM |
| 15 | Who has a HV boyfriend/husband right now?Very happy for you 😊. The fact that he held himself together so that you and your family could rely on him speaks volumes. How many times on the relationship subs do we see a woman go through illness or a hard time and the man makes it about himself? (like the accidental pregnancy with his wife that was cross-posted here the other day). I see that he recognized you were the one in pain, you were the one who needed support, you needed someone strong and optimistic to get you through something rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:51 PM |
| 8 | "New in town"Girl you're reminding me, last year I had this guy try to be my friend by telling me he didn't have a lot of friends in our borough. I laughed and blocked him because he had told me only a couple weeks prior that he'd been living in the same building for 4 years at least. My ass he didnt have any friends in the area 😂. AND this is after 2 weeks prior he was like "im looking for something different" when I said no to a "date" at his place later that day and that I wasn't sure about later that wee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:37 PM |
| 63 | Men: “Just give us a signal you’re open to being approached!” Women: “Ok, how?” Men: “Ask us out”Great comment. Biggest mistake I made and that tbh I think most women make is thinking men are just like us. All this bad advice is predicated on the falsehood that gender equality means men and women being treated exactly the same cuz we are the same, when we're not. People fly off the handle when you say this cuz they assume you mean we aren't equal in the old patriarchal gender stereotypes (women weak, men strong), and cuz they assume everything is butterflies and rainbows, and/or cuz they're… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:22 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020"Imagine if women turned you down like jobs did?" " Sarah I loved our coffee date, I'd love to maybe take you out on a second date?" "We're sorry to inform you we found a more qualified person, bye." I advise we start sending texts like this lmfao 😂 From this video https://www.instagram.com/tv/CGqDRmbJVfi/?igshid=uta3qk8lbvbs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020I'm sorry :(. If. You feel hurt and like he doesn't value your friendship, don't ignore that it push it aside by thinking you're being unreasonable. Some drop in communication is normal if you're spending a lot of time dating someone, but to pretty much forget about you like this isn't okay. In your shoes normally my gut reaction would be I want to say next time you see him or he calls you, tell him he's been a shity friend. But lately I've decided pulling back might be a better strategy. Give a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 10:07 PM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020This sounds like something you should do only with a boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 09:59 PM |
| 38 | Female SpacesI have talked w/ my mom about this, that I'm cool w/ a single gender neutral bathroom (like a toilet and a sink in 1 room, not multi toilets) and she's like no, I do not want to share a bathroom w/ strange men period. The discussion here is making me inclined to agree w/ her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:52 PM |
| 52 | Female SpacesThat's fucking disgusting. Your theory that he gets off on using and violating female space is spot on. I'm super anti bathroom bill or any of this other bs that provides legal protection for men to enter women's spaces. They have their own shit. Literally why tf do they need ours. So tired of everyone trying to bully women into putting men's feelings above our own fucking safety and rights as a protected class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:50 PM |
| 13 | House Hunters - Delusional Husbands"but I can fix it!" Did you see they have this new show called "help I wrecked my house"? From what I've seen it's lazy ass husband's who never got up off their ass to do what they promised. Watched an ep with my dad recently, who is extremely handy and he was incensed that the husband couldn't be bothered to plant a few small trees he'd gotten for their yard 😂. He was kinda the pot calling the kettle black though because my dad does drag his feet on major projects lol, but never the yard as he … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 2 | The partisan gender gap is larger among Millenials than any other generationI get that, I'm not necessarily in favor of "you got pregnant? Okay, ill marry you" either because if he's not a right match, you shouldn't marry him, but I absolutely do appreciate the gesture because it comes from someone who clearly believes in personal accountability and that actions have consequences you must be prepared to deal with. Personal accountability is something that I see woefully lacking in America in the last couple decades, especially among men. I mean men often got away with s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Just took a brief glance at the post history of someone in deadbedrooms. Awful. Her husband was a porn addict and didn't touch her for years. Said she asked him to quit and he supposedly did. This woman was in anguish and felt unwanted for years, and anytime they had sex he basically used her like a fleshlight. She said he initiated for the first time recently and it was great, so I hope things change for the better. I hope her happiness lasts but imo, if you let someone treat you like shit for … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 02:39 AM |
| 17 | “Male PPD” is the new “Communicate” 🤦♀️Male PPD is not real!! What the fuck! First they steal our whole gender, then they try to steal disorders that only affect us too? How much fucking attention do men need, shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/20 01:57 AM |
| 7 | I don’t have much experience sexually, and I don’t trust men with that knowledge.Keep waiting. I didn't and I regret it. I'm feeling especially bad about it lately, cuz i was searching for a text w/ a friend and came across one where she made a joke about a project she was working on being a highly fictionalized version of how she had her first time (it was w/ husband). And it hit really hard that I can never do that because mine was crappy (in the moment I was fine but the guy was an LVM). I never wanted to make that mistake and then in one stupid moment of weakness I decid… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 11:07 PM |
| 15 | The partisan gender gap is larger among Millenials than any other generationAppreciate you noting that men are sexist no matter political affiliation. Imo the liberal dudes are the worst, they're so pro abortion yet pro my emotional support girlfriend I feel entitled to sex with 🙄. Getting blindsided is more likely Anyway, yes absolutely not topics to avoid!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 10:57 PM |
| 4 | This is what a HVM looks like: Warrick Dunn helped provide families with a positive home environment so that children can thrive educationally, socially and economically.I thought it was from the comeback kid but it may be kid gorgeous. First time I saw the comeback kid I was like 🙄 when in the comeback kid he makes a joke about his wife asking him "when are we gonna get married" but then he turns it around and owns himself by saying he's very lucky to have her and that getting girls was nothing he was known for lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 09:54 PM |
| 6 | My friend has been using OLD recently and told me 10 men in a row have asked her for a PARK DATE. I AM GOING TO SCREAM!!!!It's amazing how much time these guys have on their hands. Cuz think about it - they are sending the same message to dozens, if not hundreds, of women. LVM are basically shitty salespeople - sending out 100 shitty emails a day to prospects and hoping for a 1% or even 2% return. They are taking the time to send out these messages because past experience and statistics tell them at least one girl is bound to respond. Imagine being T H I S desperate for a chance at sex, or a gf, that you would take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:44 PM |
| 6 | Whelp it’s the end of an era y’all. r/UnpopularOpinion moderators and their selective application of the rules only on women who have actual unpopular opinions that they don’t personally like strikes again.Women shouldn't be allowed to vote automatically wasn't removed!? Reddit is really dedicated to being the birth of the incel movement and a haven for vicious misogyny, huh? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:32 PM |
| 9 | TLCs “I love a mama’s boy”- thoughtsI'm so tried of TLC profiting off blatantly abusive relationships, and also the freak show shit like these people who never got over their Oedipus Complex. Gross 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:21 PM |
| 7 | What do you need for good sex?Same girl, everything about your comment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:17 PM |
| 6 | First date since breakup, and first date since reading FDS. Thank you!Ugh gross, he clearly just wanted to get laid. And I feel you on being like "wait, no I actually don't want to see this guy again" vs worrying about it in the past and ignoring those red flags. I've been there. I'm sorry you had an upsetting experience but at least you learned some stuff to be more prepared to next time! even if you know a guy if he asks you to a bar, decline and stop talking to him, because he just wants to get laid. In the parking lot situation I understand women normally don'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 2 | Am I weird for this?He's younger than her actually, by a couple years. He was 30 when he did this. Lol. Unfortunately the red flags that he was a weak man were there from day 1. Neither of them had lived on their own before, and she bought her own place and let him move in right away despite all her talk of "that won't happen, I need to do this on my own" (they'd been together 2 yrs by then). She complained constantly that he wouldn't clean up after himself, and that he would be out all night, not even texting her,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 08:04 PM |
| 4 | This is what a HVM looks like: Warrick Dunn helped provide families with a positive home environment so that children can thrive educationally, socially and economically.Absolutely, and I love John Mulaney. Love how he makes that joke like "call you a bitch and say I don't like you? That's not even good comedy" but that's a lot of married men's comedy 🙃. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:42 PM |
| 3 | Am I weird for this?The thing is she was going to leave. Because he didn't just cheat, he hid it for months, then had a "mental breakdown" and literally ran away from home like 2 weeks after she sold her apartment (where they'd been living) and the 2 of them were living at his parents (cuz the house they were buying wasn't ready yet).. So he did this at literally the worst possible time. And she couldn't even have any privacy to deal with this. Typical LVM pattern you see on reddit right? His own father had to trac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:37 PM |
| 8 | This is what a HVM looks like: Warrick Dunn helped provide families with a positive home environment so that children can thrive educationally, socially and economically.The fuck 🤮. I was so disappointed when he made light of Chris Brown being a domestic abuser, but he just had to keep going 😑. Idk about these days but in the past he referred to himself as a religious man, which how can you say that when you make fun of women or sympathize with the men when men assault women?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:29 PM |
| 27 | Kick him out sis"Who do these people think they are." Girl that's the question of the century lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:25 PM |
| 8 | Am I weird for this?Not weird at all! It is important to examine our preferences to make sure we don't hold them for negative reasons, and that they aren't harmful to ourself or others (ex: being into bdsm is innately harmful). Nothing harmful about not liking guys over 35. And don't worry you're missing out - if you're not attracted, you can't force yourself to be. This goes for any traits you're not attracted to. Attraction is what it is, and unless someone has an immoral fetish, it shouldn't be changed. Do not w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:24 PM |
| 32 | We regret to inform you ...Lmfaoooo what an excellent clap back. But also off the top of my head? Uh, Marie fucking Curie and radiation therapy? Jackass lol. Also Madame C. J. Walker and I think it was hair straightening products? She was the first American female black millionaire. And another one off the top of my head is the windshield wiper. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 07:00 PM |
| 77 | Kick him out sisLmao Adam gave eve his own damn rib but these guys won't even give money | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 06:51 PM |
| 3 | Avoiding types that are dead-ends: can artsy men ever be HVM?Great response, and very glad to hear you figured out how to improve your dating life. Your stuff about how realizing how you don't even talk about this stuff much and seeking men out w/ those interests didn't work reminds me of something my friend said. She was like interests are really a your mileage may vary kinda thing in the relationship. Some people need to share a ton of interears/hobbies w/ their partner, others don't. But you ALWAYS have to share values (and I think a sense of humor too… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 01:42 AM |
| 25 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️That is definitely true as well. Didn't mean to "all women" women here. I usually feel especially bad when it's very young women because I think do you really have no one in your life whom you can talk to about this? Got to be a combo of women prioritizing men over making solid friendships, plus abusive men isolating women. I think there is definitely a solid group however that should know better and is looking for that permission to stay, as "breaking up isn't an option" type posts are common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 10:28 PM |
| 20 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️Great response. Just how I feel about this. This dude is a nasty scrote, but at 33 you should know better than to give anyone a bunch of money w/o any legal protection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:47 PM |
| 2 | COVID is NOT an excuse for Low Effort Dates.Yikes, those are truly some horror stories!! Where I live once you hit about 26/27, you should be able to afford to live with roommates at least, as one bedrooms are nearly or over 2k a month. Whether or not you move out, and why, that's a different story. I had a coworker whose husband absolutely could've afforded to move out, he had a great union job with kickass healthcare, so huge cost savings there, but he lived at home, because mommy was picking up after him, cooking for him, and doing his… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:43 PM |
| 114 | Congratulations sis, you played yourself. DO NOT buy homes and have children for men you're not even married to. 🤦♀️These women are usually looking for what I call "permission to stay" and that's why they come to reddit, not a lawyer. They're looking for the comments to tell them there's a nice way to get what they want and their husband/BF actually respects them like they want to believe he does. Can we get a "congratulations, you played yourself" tag? Like you wouldn't give a friend 35k for a down payment w/o getting I'm writing that it was a loan or it was in exchange for being put on the deed, so why tf w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 90 | This is what a HVM looks like: Warrick Dunn helped provide families with a positive home environment so that children can thrive educationally, socially and economically.Nice to hear, especially since the NFL is rife with domesric abusers that the NFL protects | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 08:22 PM |
| 2 | anyone else think men have been telling on themselves a lot more lately?It's incredible how much these guys must hate themselves deep down. Yet at the same time feel very entitled to sex, a girlfriend, life in general. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 06:02 PM |
| 7 | Let us treat our wives as our motherApple juice though? Wtf. Imagine if Freud was alive today; he could just put together thousands of memes made by men to propose his Oedipus Complex, no clinical research necessary lmao. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:58 PM |
| 9 | What theory explains why women seem to just be better quality than men, especially in the last 10-20 years?It has to start with biology, which creates the social structures. I would say social media and bad liberal feminism are a part of the sociology, like they just amplify it. Misogny is rooted in biology. Historically men have oppressed women simply because they can due to biology; they are usually physical stronger than us, and being pregnant and raising children puts us at further biological disadvantage. This of course then manifests in society in various ways, with lots of messages and attitud… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:49 PM |
| 8 | COVID is NOT an excuse for Low Effort Dates.Well said!! And girl, add it to the low effort list - on overheard bumble on insta, I saw a girl asked some guy about voting, he said he couldn't cuz he's English and not a citizen, but that he would wait in line with her while she waited to vote and it would be a cute first date. This lvw responded that that was so amazing and she felt like Meghan Markle 🙄🙄 The only exemption I find w/ the living situation is for people who live in areas where housing is super expensive. Where I'm at a lot of m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:50 PM |
| 12 | men like this are why I’m happy being singleFantastic comment!! And he absolutely didn't want this kid. Or wasn't ready. I commented separately that this story reminds me soooo much of an old coworker who married a weak man who completely freaked tf out, fucked somebody else, and disappeared on her when she was trying to get pregnant. Like my old coworkers still husband (yup lol), I'm sure there were many red flags showing this guy was a weak man and didn't really want the kid, but the biggest had to be that he had performance anxiety. Li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:32 PM |
| 5 | men like this are why I’m happy being singleGuarenteed he will divorce or cheat on her within the first few years of the baby being born. Case and point: A former coworker married a weak man. I never liked the guy because he was a man child. Well he turned out worse than I thought. He was like this guy, felt a lot of "pressure" at doing normal life shit (trying to get pregnant and buy a house in the same year). So one year into his marriage he fucked someone else. Hid it for months, told her he did something he couldn't fix, THEN DISAPPEA… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:25 PM |
| 3 | OP is in the comments talking about how her boyfriend will say ‘looks like she gives good head ‘ to her about other girls. Continues to defend him and refuse to see that how he perceives women is DISGUSTING. She also told me good luck finding a dude 😂😂😂Best comment on here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:29 AM |
| 35 | Crushing on OnlyFansGirl SAME, laughing at this absolute fucking loser. Cucking himself indeed, love to see it /chefs kiss/. And those comments 😂😂😂😂 he absolutely did post this to fish for sympathy and did absolutely pretend to be bothered by the age gap in the hopes that someone would say "no its okay! You should go for it!" What a loser 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/20 12:24 AM |
| 2 | UnbelievableThat's what I said when I saw his pic lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:24 PM |
| 3 | Beware the guy who’s too good to be trueSeriously! Either he's a cheater, not over her, or has unresolved personal issues. Like stuff that negatively affected his last relationship (low self esteem) and will affect all future ones until he fixes it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:23 PM |
| 41 | On a post about a woman getting into a car accident and her boyfriend not giving a single fuck - a great example of how women are expected to stay in relationships that aren't serving them in any positive way.This is actually what you SHOULD ask someone who's in a bad relationship. Saying "your bf treats you like shit" often doesn't work, because the woman rushes to his defense. You can point out all the bad things until you're blue in the face, but it won't make them believe it. They have to convince themselves. You can help by bluntly tell someone the problems you see in their relationship and why you're worried for them. But to get them to truly make that connection, you have to get them to ask th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:07 AM |
| 25 | Beware the guy who’s too good to be true"For some reason my pics won’t upload. Must be a bandwidth issue." Girl........... Where do you have to be at mentally to believe that bs. That plus all the other red flags: "Your pictures don’t do you justice" talking about his ex fiance on the first date!?!?!? "we're not married but I hope to be that lucky" "you're soooooo hot" I wonder how old she was at the time because seriously. This shit is cheasy and inappropriate in a first date. Waaaaay too much focused on her appearance. Says he was l… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:49 AM |
| 7 | The majority of the comments used her mental illness against her and barely anyone told her to be careful. They jumped straight to making excuses for hin. If its a joke, it's not funny at all. There are better ways to spend your time. Yeah...I'm scared of men.DUDE WTF!? I hope this is a joke. Because who tf would ask reddit for advice on this, like girl do you not have a therapist? Also why would BPD affect this at all!? Just goes to show how messed up her self esteem is and how much she doubts not just herself but reality because this guy is READING 2K PG BOOKS ABOUT KILLING WOMEN, anyone in her shoes would be concerned!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:32 AM |
| 29 | Unbelievable🤮 What the fuck is it with this generation of men and their frat boy, tosh 2.0 humor? They talk to women like they're their bros and expect women to find it funny. No where near as bad as an example, but yrs ago when I used OLD, some dude swiped right on me w/ the message "your fav video game listed in your profile is gay lol. want to smoke a bowl" What am I, a fucking teenager!? I could not believe I how I was being spoken to. I also couldn't believe that was his strategy to get laid? And yet w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 01:27 AM |
| 10 | Guess the subUgh that's the worst if they shame others. Mostly I just seem them complaining CONSTANTLY but not making any changes to improve their situation (because "breaking up is not an option!!!" 🙄) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 12:23 AM |
| 36 | Guess the subSpot on. I've really been noticing lately how much some women actually secretly love being the martyr. I have known women like this irl too. I think it's because they must have a fucked up definition of womanhood, that it means grueling self sacrifice above all, and are secretly proud to be so "womanly" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:25 PM |
| 15 | Guess the subFor the Americans here, remember Nancy Regan's whole "just say no to drugs?" We need a "just say no to being a scrote's doormat" for women. Like seriously, does the world "no" not exist in these women's lexicons!? I think of my mother and she'd literally fucking never She really expects women to take responsibility for themselves and not tolerate bad behavior from men (she is too dismissive of how powerful societal and family influences are in poisoning women's minds and making them doormats for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 08:19 PM |
| 8 | Why do women tolerate this? They know but they stay...Woman: goes out of her way to do something nice for a man and expects him to reciprocate Man: never does anything nice for the woman in the first place. Man: does not reciprocate the favor Woman: surprised Pikachu face Look my friend is married to a fairly traditional old world kinda guy, and even he has no problem taking care of his own damn children so my friend can have me time. That is because my friend was like no way, and didn't budge on her expectations, and so it worked out. BUT it only … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do women tolerate this? They know but they stay...Lmfao girl that title 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:34 PM |
| 36 | Please STOP doing this.Anyone ever seen that meme with the 2 entwined lizards about this very thing lol: https://me.me/i/this-how-dudes-be-tryna-pass-by-females-at-parties-74e98a1133e444b9b2b77ad3c9d94eee Fucking literally 😂. I always enjoyed dancing at bars/clubs and stuff but the one good thing about covid is I went a year w/o this bs. It happens maybe like once or twice a year to me. It's so gross, like the second scrotes enter that club atmosphere they get so bold. Maybe cuz it's dark or they think you're drunk an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 07:22 PM |
| 24 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020A little story about how holding your boundaries will make the right man adapt to the lifestyle you want: I brough up to my mom recently that I don't want kids, or marriage or even a bf anymore (she was surprised but not dismissive which I appreciated). I said MAYBE I would consider dating if I never had to live with a man. My dad has been a great father and husband to my mom, but there's some things about him that I would never accept in a man, and one is that he's kinda messy, for 30 years my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Dude wants to watch porn ON HIS WORK LAPTOPI hope he does this and gets fired. What kind of fucking jackass would even THINK to do this??? Reminds me of how, so you know how they have cameras in truck cabs now to watch the usually male drivers for insurance purposes? Well they need to do this because these scrotes do shit like get into accidents because they were watching porn on their phone while driving a fucking 18 wheeler. True story I heard from an insurance provider at a conference at my old job lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Daily reminder that some “nice guys” are the oppositeThank you 🤗💞 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 05:53 AM |
| 6 | Daily reminder that some “nice guys” are the oppositeI didn't think it was an original line but yup lol, sounds very tumblr lol. And thanks for the sympathy but my own fault I dated him, stayed, and made it a very messy break up for myself. Wish I'd found FDS a long time ago before I dated that loser. Or that I'd just spoken to someone honestly about the extent of my self esteem problems. I don't really like to talk about my problems but if I did maybe I would've gotten a more accurate perspective than my pessimistic own, and I wouldn't have gone … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 08:24 AM |
| 75 | Daily reminder that some “nice guys” are the opposite/Google search voice/ Did you mean: prostitute Never thought I met a guy like this, and then I met my ex. Thanks to the friends in my life he was my bf only briefly, but even in that short time he pulled some rapey shit like this. He had a major victim complex and a huge chip on his shoulder. So he got all pissy the one time I wasn't up for sex. Hate to say I knew he was reacting wrong, but that my self esteem and boundaries were so bad I pushed that feeling aside because he was acting so differ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 01:50 AM |
| 34 | No 50/50 birthdayYour boyfriend is embarrassingly tacky. I see this guy has been taking you for a ride for months living at your place where he does not contribute 50/50, and then has the audacity to ask you to go 50/50 on your dinner??? This speaks volumes about his character and what he thinks of you. If he doesn't even want to pay his fair share during the good times, what makes you think he'll pick up the slack when you need him to? What if you lost your job? As a comparison, when I go out for my bday, male … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 11:39 PM |
| 68 | ahhh, the real hystories:My grandma told me she once read a historical fiction book in which the dudes in England were salty about the vikings for this very reason, and I always thought it was just the author taking artistic license. I guess not 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 11:21 PM |
| 38 | ahhh, the real hystories:Viking men were better groomed than the modern scrote, grave sites have been found w/ tools for cleaning fingernails and beards haha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 11:20 PM |
| 120 | Ladies, yet another manipulation tactic we should be aware of! This one is more subtle and absolutely terrifying.I read Bandcrofts book earlier this year and he described this as the abuser warping his victims reality. It's terrifying. It's why you get out the SECOND you notice a red flag, especially a potentially abusive red flag. The longer you stay, the more you are bonded to an abuser, and the more susceptible you become to him controlling what you think and believe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | I thought this belonged here.Haha yes! I remember reading this post a long time ago. Admitting to resenting his son, what a piece of shit. That kid would be better off adopted away from his asshole dad to parents who truly love and want him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:29 PM |
| 17 | HVM may still end up screwing you over the minute they see you as “defiled” or impureHow horrible, this poor woman :(. What really alarms me about this is he was already a shit bf to begin with (screaming at her cuz she's spending more time with friends) and after the attack, he became her whole world. She didn't mention friends or her own family :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:02 AM |
| 41 | r/sex told an ABUSE SURVIVOR not to be scared of someone who wants to STRANGLE and HIT her 🤡🤡🤡smalldickproblems IS A REAL SUB!??? wow. Congratulations, you played yourself at its peak lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:49 AM |
| 3 | Learning self defense and or carrying pepper spray is so important.A friend of mine told me that after she moves to the concealed carry state she's wanted to move to for other reasons, she's learning to use a gun. I was quite surprised. Her reasoning wasnt related to men's behavior, but after hanging out on this sub more and seeing stories like this, I'm not surprised anymore. It makes sense and I want to learn myself. Thankfully I haven't had it anywhere near as bad as many women who share stories on here, but you never know what a man could do to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:46 PM |
| 15 | Liberal feminism in a nutshell🙌🙌🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:34 PM |
| 70 | Grab your glass of wine girls. AUDACITY of this scrotes broke my triggerometer.Scrote decides he will leave his wife nearly 20 years in the future bc she turned him down for sex. Scrote proceeds to cheat on her, first emotionally, then physically. AND yet is all surprised Pikachu face that she never wants to have sex with him? GEE I WONDER WHY. MAYBE CUZ WHEN U MAKE A DECISION TO LEAVE SOMEONE...THEY FEEL IT I can't fucking believe it lol. What a disgusting loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 08:31 PM |
| 22 | This man...his humanity... Reading this made me tear up. This IS the definition of a real manI never heard about this. Kind of agree w/ the other comment that this is basic decency to ask her what's wrong, but what I think stands out here is why is he the only one who asked?? What also stands out is when she came back she either didn't think or was pressured not to advocate her needs. Like it took an intervention from someone else and his continued help for her to take breaks and pump, as every new mom on the planet needs to do. It's just sad like she either didn't think about herself, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Woman finds out husband of 6 years is a porn addict and cheats on her with webcam girlsWhile his wife was in labor? Fucking disgusting. He thought marriage would fix it. Seriously? He's not a closeted gay man in a violently honophobic society whose hoping marriage can fix him (which is still wrong on his part, but I understand). He's a fucking porn addict. It's called therapy, not dragging a woman and now two children into trying to fix you. I hope to God she tells this sick fuck he can take his sob story to his fucking lawyer. He shouldn't even have a pulse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 02:37 AM |
| 7 | Bruh...LVM and little brother sends chills down my spineExactly. I don't know that if I was her age I'd talk to my mom about this. But I would've talked to my closest friends. I always think about that when I see these exceptionally alarming posts, or posts from a woman whose self esteem is clearly rock bottom. Like, why are you going to reddit for advice? Don't you have trusted friends or family? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/20 02:32 AM |
| 3 | I’m at a loss of words. This woman’s husband doesn’t give a shit about her or women in general and she’s asking what to do? How can people like this exist?That sounds like a pretty accurate interpretation. Still though, if this is so important to you how the hell do you not make sure this is also super important to someone else before saying yes let me legally bind myself to you for the rest of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 05:52 PM |
| 6 | Remember ladies! It's okay for males to body shame women but never the other way around 🤡Local Man Admits to Friends He Has a Tiny Penis. Surprised these women were even talking about this around a guy friend. I would never lol. A guy friend and I talk about the dating world often and how much we hate it/why we're not dating lol, but I would never talk about anything sex related w/ a male friend. It's just not appropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 02:09 AM |
| 13 | I’m at a loss of words. This woman’s husband doesn’t give a shit about her or women in general and she’s asking what to do? How can people like this exist?Did she literally never figure out his stance on gay rights before she married him?? Or did she have an inkling and marry him anyway? People don't form these opinions overnight. My God. To say to your bi wife "I don't care about people like you having the right to marry." He thinks she's worth less than dirt. On one hand she must be in shock, but only someone with really low self esteem, or whose reality has been warped by abuse, would be at a loss for what to do here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 02:02 AM |
| 9 | Sounds like this guy found a woman who was willing to be a bangmaid, pay all of his bills and plan his life like a toddler 🤡PEAK clown shit lmfao. Why did she even DATE him!? The dude is the DEFINITION of "loser" and "parasite" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:53 AM |
| 1 | I hope she divorces himGIRL I'll do it 😂😂😂 I'm sure I'd get banned in 5 secs tho lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:40 AM |
| 3 | I hope she divorces himThat's how it's done! And I'm sure one of many reasons why he's an ex lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | I hope she divorces himFrom what I've seen or experienced myself, I think these all women don't have good self esteem/a backbone, and either don't know better, are unhappy and this is a cry for help, or dislike this but take pride in being a martyr, cuz they think that's what being a woman is. We're all entitled to bitch about shit, but at the end of the day though each of us is responsible for taking steps to secure our own happiness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/20 01:38 AM |
| 4 | I hope she divorces himIt definitely is some kind of brainwashed. Low self esteem has to play into it to. And I say so because I've been there myself. Thankfully never gone so far as to marry anyone but really wish I hadn't let myself get to a point where I thought being better w/ anyone was better than being alone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | I hope she divorces himGross 🤢. This is def a combo of low self esteem and they don't know any better (fed messages by media, social media, and family that this is what a relationship is). So they are probably posting these thinking, consciously or not, "everyone look what a good gf I am." Or maybe it's a cry for help, in a way - not directly asking for help, but showing everyone how bad things are, hoping someone asks them. Either way it's terrible, and a reflection of how we are woefully lacking in shame in the west… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 07:19 PM |
| 235 | I hope she divorces himWhy doesn't everyone on these relationship subs just title their post: Local Woman Admits in Broad Daylight Husband/BF Doesn't Respect Her at All, Stays with Him Anyways | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:17 AM |
| 10 | This is just sad, a young, strong and ambitious young woman GONEThat's so horrible. Rape isn't a "good guy gone wrong" or a crime of passion, where you got so angry or upset you lost your head. It's a specific kind of sick, and it's not a one time thing. Like all the evidence points to it being that way! Forget about "promising young man" Brock turner, even if these guys are absolute fucking low lifes like the serial rapist where you live or candy's murderer, they are still let out! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Men are the weakest link. She liked all the comments about breaking up with him, but haven't done anything about itSame. I didn't date my gamer ex long enough to know if he would've done shit like this, I think he was too self conscious to have a stream/be in the public eye, but I'm certain i would've dealt with the several hours long marathon gaming sessions with his friends 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 04:12 AM |
| 10 | Yes, sister(s). If this ever happens pack your bags and run as fast as you can"you can communicate him out of his gambling addiction!!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Men are the weakest link. She liked all the comments about breaking up with him, but haven't done anything about itHonestly 🙄 And besides, I've watched enough prerecorded video game walkthroughs to know these losers who take it one step further w/ streaming have absolutely no valuable, interesting, or funny commentary to add to the game play | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:25 PM |
| 17 | Men are the weakest link. She liked all the comments about breaking up with him, but haven't done anything about itAre you kidding me....he sounds like a whiny 12 year old arguing with his mom!! "but mom I'm live streaming!!!" Girl PLEASE leave. I can only imagine if I had a bf like this and told my parents this happened, they'd broke break a foot off in this whiny little man child's ass. Women will be so much happier if we chose not to be embarassed by a guy than choosing to cling onto such an embarrassing guy (who's also a total asshole to boot). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 10:03 PM |
| 16 | This is just sad, a young, strong and ambitious young woman GONEThank you for sharing this. This is so, so awful. Why a violent, repeat rapist who also had weapons in prison was released back into the world is beyond me. Candy should still be with us today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:57 PM |
| 18 | Reason #473726 to never entertain a coffee date. No response even necessary just block and delete! This poor woman. Porn/sex addiction is real and it’s prevalent, and easy to hide.Holy shit. How is this real!! This dude is so fucking sick 🤢. Literal psychopath. I'm sure she wants to know why he did it because she is in so much shock she is trying to find a reason to help her process what happens to her. But there is no satisfactory reason. He is an immoral psychopath, that's the only reason. I hope she gets I to therapy ASAP instead of questioning him for answers, because the only answer is to do her best to let it go :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 09:38 PM |
| 17 | This melts my heartAwww that's so nice!!! I have had cats all my life (family pets) and just a couple months ago got my own. If I ever go back to dating, I'll be making it very clear me and my cats (I plan to get a second) are a package deal and they'll always be picked first! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:49 PM |
| 14 | Every day my faith in men gets closer and closer to zeroShit, and I thought the Verizon guy was unprofessional for giving my friend his # in case something went wrong after he installed her internet. This is disgusting. Also, who would be that fucking stupid to put something like that IN WRITING where she could totally blow his spot tf up to the news, whatever contractor certification boards, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:07 PM |
| 24 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?Another woman just posted here today about her ex who lied about being married during the 2 years of their relationship, and how to this day she can't believe that he was lying, he was that good. I bring it up because a commonality with your story - dude always talked about honesty, how important it was to him, how honest he was. If being a certain way is important to someone, they live their life like that, they don't talk about it constantly. It is still hard though. All you can do is maintain… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:04 PM |
| 12 | How to vet without moving in together before being engaged/marriedAw congrats, so glad you have each other 💓. Great list! The living with roommates and alone thing is so key. An old coworker got married to a total man child who, surprise surprise, went from living at home where mommy did everything, to her letting him move into her first apartment asap, where he expected her to clean up after him. Needless to say, as long as it knew her it was always a point of contention during their crappy relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 36 | From advice, at least they feel bad but who the hell is this deranged to do this?"I sexually harassed someone and I feel horrible." Go to therapy because that's not a fucking normal thing to do. He's either an alcoholic or a pervert who can't control himself when he gets drunk. Quit coming to the internet for sympathy and not actual help! It is one thing to come to FDS, the heart support forum, a support group for specific type of diseases/condition, any support group with a specific goal. But this is just wanting sympathy points rather than having to do the work of figuring… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 08:54 PM |
| 2 | New lows in dating effort for menOkay, so at first I thought this was a typo, because I thought you meant they are like "hey I'm about to go run errands in 5 mins, want to join?" But no it's EVEN WORSE, they are asking YOU if THEY can join YOU on your errands or whatever? Wow. WOW. that's insane lmfao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 05:00 PM |
| 3 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.You're right he was never a HVM to begin with. Either this guy doesn't know what he wants, met someone else, or his greatest hobby is chasing pussy and he loses interest once a woman has slept with him. Many guys also think less of women when they sleep with a guy who has not asked the woman for commitment - nevermind the total fucking hypocrisy of that. A HVM would know what he wants, and if it changed or he realized you weren't quite it for him, he would've told you in a private setting where … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:50 PM |
| 1 | The scam of believing men will bring you fulfillment"Marriage and kids became potential liabilities to my life, a set of restrictive expectations and obligations." "But right now I don't have the level of sacrifice inside me, willing to become emotionally at an others mercy" Dude....this is EXACTLY how I started feeling a few months ago. Lately I've been afraid that the depression I had morphed from like the abusive self talk and feeling too worthless to get out of bed to apathy. There's other things I don't feel that interested in that I used to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:42 PM |
| 3 | This girl on tiktok reading LVM dating profiles 😂I'M SCREAMING, THAT REVEAL 😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:13 PM |
| 6 | One time I got drunk at brunch and then got “dump him” tattooed on my ring finger. I would never marry someone who didn’t find this hilarious anyway.😂😂 I have never wanted a tattoo but now in like what if I got "no thanks" on my ring finger lmao | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:07 PM |
| 2 | Even if he says he wants a relationship, plans trips with you, puts in a ton of effort. He will still change his mind in a heartbeat.What kind of person drops "so I used to see you as long term but now I don't" in the middle of a fucking vacation!? A loser who gets off on the power play. Some guys are all about "conquest" and they certainly are very good at hiding that fact. I'm really sorry he treated you this way. Only advice would be next time wait until a guy asks you to be his gf and then STILL wait. Or you could go one step beyond - there was a woman who posted here a few months ago, she had been in a failed engagement … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:05 PM |
| 3 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveWow toddler-esque is right. I mean isn't that what you do when a kid is throwing a tantrum, you keep calm and don't give in, because they will tire themselves out eventually? Good for you not being tied to that anymore! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:42 PM |
| 7 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveLMFAO you slam dunked his ass 😂. Love it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:38 PM |
| 8 | My ex-husband called me aggressiveOh man can we start an FDS sub group that's about how FDS can change your professional life, and also to support/vent about clients who think they can do whatever tf they want with our money? I used to deal with a lot of those types at my old job, and I'll bet this asshole ex-client of yours was just trying to hold out in the hopes you'd give up on collecting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:38 PM |
| 3 | You don't owe anyone a chance. You can end an interaction/relationship WITHOUT having to justify your decision.Thanks for this. Earlier this year I dated a guy for a short while, realized I wasn't really into him or dating, and asked to be friends. We texted every so often for months until he pulled some nice guy shit on me. I was like uh, what? It ruined my evening. After a few days of no texting (which wasn't unusual for us) I decided to block him. This was a couple months ago and I feel a twinge of guilt here and there like I already must've hurt him by saying I didn't want to date, and now with ghost… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Help a Sister Decipher these NVM Abusive BehaviorsI am so, so sorry he abused you. His abuse was NOT your fault. No woman will ever be good enough for an abusive man - an abusive man's goal is to keep you around by controlling and overpowering you, mentally and physically. He cannot do that if his victim is mentally strong and whole, if she knows she's good enough to be loved, because then she'll know she doesn't deserve this treatment and will leave ASAP. Please read Lundy Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That? This is a book all about abusive men, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:25 PM |
| 4 | Kind of scared but I hope my story helps someone. Also looking for some advice too!Ugh straight up emotional and psychological abuse!! And you did her a favor. She tried many, many times to leave, but he had his hooks in her and always drew her back in. When you sent her hard evidence that he'd cheated on her, physical proof that he's a piece of shit, that must've helped immensely. Because that wasn't something in her head, that wasn't something he could twist. That's a hard fact that he couldn't manipulate and it definitely helped her break free. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:14 PM |
| 4 | my mom used to get up early and make me and my siblings cooked breakfast every day before school at 6 am. women have BEEN doing the most and STAY doing the most for others. where’s the praise?My dad would be embarassed to cook something that tasted bad 🙄. How little does this guy do for his daughter that she's ecstatic about this? Also PANCAKES ARE NOT HARD!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:11 PM |
| 3 | Man terrifies woman into blocking him on multiple forms of contact. Cue him whining and hundreds of comments calling her a bitch without hearing her side of the story.Dude this reminds me of a guy my old coworker briefly dated!! So my old coworker - I used to work in an hostile and abusive work environment where management did not respect anyone's privacy (seriously you couldn't ask for a day off w/o being interrogated, even if it was to see the doctor. Like hello, health records privacy!?!?). The one girl I liked there, she briefly dated this guy who like two dates in sent two dozen fucking roses to the office. He sent flowers multiple times, got her a teddy… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 03:02 PM |
| 3 | Kind of scared but I hope my story helps someone. Also looking for some advice too!You should be super proud of yourself for removing yourself from this relationship. I am sorry this piece of shit did this to you, and to B, and probably to his ex wife before her. Also what a surprise, he's a cop!? I would've never guessed 🙄. What a fucking monster. I'm sorry you don't feel totally over it yet. Since this happened recently where you talked to his now ex wife, it's not like it's long over, so I will bet that's why, and you just need more time. I am sure between therapy and your … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 02:28 PM |
| 1 | This poor girl defending her boyfriend who doesn't talk to her and wants to keep their relationship on the DLSo what was her point of even posting this? If she's going to argue with all the advice she's been given, what was the reason for asking the internet what she should do? She's unhappy, she knows he's not behaving right, but I guess she's looking for that one pickme in the comments to tell her if she keeps her distance but keeps loving him hell magically turn into the bf he used to be. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 02:21 PM |
| 13 | Our daily reminder that dating older men will get you absolutely nowhereSeriously! They're both dumb. Stupid on him for dating a nineteen year old and not expecting her life goals to change (if he never wanted kids.....why not date a woman 30+, which would've been appropriate, who has likely figured out and isn't changing her mind about no kids? (oh right cuz a 30+ yr old is significantly less likely to be manipulated) And stupid on her, she's been trying for two years to change the mind of her woefully underemployed boyfriend who doesn't even want to marry her? I k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:35 PM |
| 12 | Eh... I truly feel bad for her and I just cant stop being amazed at what some men r like.... they really don't give a shit, do they...Right, I don't think they just leave for the hell of it either. I think it's absolutely a case of lying to get whatever they want from a woman, and seeing no problem with that, having no sense of immorality when it comes to women, having no care for their feelings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:29 PM |
| 24 | Why are these women buying property with dudes when they don't have a ring yet.... Hope she sat with a lawyer before hand to make sure she is protected.B r u H.....honestly. A woman I know has done this TWICE. Stayed in a horrible relationship because she had a house she couldn't afford the mortgage on w/o the shit bf, AND now is continuing to cling to an awful, borderline emotionally abusive situationship, because, other than having low self esteem, she's hoping this absolute deadbeat will move in with her and help pay her mortgage. Being a pickme is so freaking harmful. We've all been there and like seriously it's a form of self harm. You can… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:26 PM |
| 52 | Eh... I truly feel bad for her and I just cant stop being amazed at what some men r like.... they really don't give a shit, do they...How awful :(. Often with these stories you figure or even see in their account that there were some red flags but sometimes there really aren't. Some men are just sociopaths. My mothers friend, her son in law led a double life for years, before he even got married, had multiple girlfriends, one even in another country, made fake divorce papers to show to one. I hope this woman takes care of herself and believes that she deserves to heal and have better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 09:16 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020We've definitely all been there. The important thing is to realize it quickly and listen to your logic and not to the thirst haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 06:18 PM |
| 5 | I'm loving social distancingwhat magical place do you live??? Men have been so much worse w/ cat calling and the fucking staring since day 1 of quarantine, and I live in what was the hardest hit city in my country for months. Like. Back at the height of this in April, dudes were still trying to talk to me as I was just walking down the damn street. At least work from home and most things being closed means I rarely have to go out and deal with perverts, or anyone annoying for that matter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 07:43 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020If you don't have much in common, the monologue thing, and it being awkward, those are all signs you two are not a match for each other. It sounds like you're listening more to lust than to logic here, which we've all don't at some point. Also him stopping you is what any decent guy, decent (and smart) person, would do - wait until they know someone well before intimacy. You should take a look at why you convinced yourself you were ready to have sex with him right away. Could just be thirstiness… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/20 12:22 AM |
| 4 | Having no boundaries/ weak boundaries actually scares away HVM.Man I was just talking about this w/ my friend yesterday. I said a woman I know, who unfortunately has v low self esteem and no boundaries, is waiting for a knight in shining armor to fix her life. Besides being that's now how life works, a really good guy wouldn't want to date a woman whose own life is a mess, who has no boundaries, who overall isn't a healthy person. Like this guy you know said, he doesn't even know if he likes her, and probably thinks if she never says no about small things, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Of course! Anytime ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | Seeing the way men talk about sex workers makes me wanna rip of my body, and the fact that most clients are married or in a relationship scares me so much. How is serving cheating men and acting like an sex robot empowering to women?I never heard of this channel, it's unfortunate that honestly groundbreaking documentary work like that isn't well known, because well, cracking down on prostitution really isn't much of a political platform, especially with all these freaking libfems out there. So sad :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 10:08 PM |
| 40 | Gas me up to drop this manHe asked you if your abuse turned you on. That is so fucking disgusting, I gasped out loud reading that. That is honestly sociopathic levels of lacking empathy. Please block this guy and do some intense self care and self reflection to pinpoint why you entertained this guy and revealed these things to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 01:13 AM |
| 4 | I love it when men put LVM in their placeNoooooo ugh you're probably right 😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:56 AM |
| 3 | Reading this made me so sad and angry. Guard your womb like your life and that of your future children’s lives depend on it. Because it does.I know abused women's decision making gets warped, but no abused woman is w/o the power to untangle her mental state from the relationship. I am not saying it is easy. But she is making a decision. She is making decisions based upon fear, she's choosing to entangle herself further with an abusive man, AND to bring children into that abuse. I feel really bad for her that her fiance is abusing her, but I also don't have sympathy for someone who is deciding to endanger others' lives like that. You'… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I'm not the best at giving advice on how to be closed off because I'm still learning. But some stuff I've tried is if someone you're not interested in approaches you, don't ask a lot of questions, and conduct yourself like you have someplace to be soon. If you were in a rush you wouldn't spend a lot of time being extra nice to someone, cuz you need to be somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 03:39 AM |
| 25 | Seeing the way men talk about sex workers makes me wanna rip of my body, and the fact that most clients are married or in a relationship scares me so much. How is serving cheating men and acting like an sex robot empowering to women?99% of the women who champion this are not prostitutes, cam girls, strippers, porn actresses, etc. Not do that actually know any irl. If it's so great why aren't they doing it lol. Why do they gang up on former sex workers who talk about how awful it was? People like this, their main concern is their own beliefs and how they appear to others. They don't care about the people this actually affects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:31 PM |
| 48 | Reading this made me so sad and angry. Guard your womb like your life and that of your future children’s lives depend on it. Because it does.How stupid and selfish are people. Honestly. I know a lot of things are stacked against women, that being in a bad relationship makes it very difficult to think straight, but when you bring kids into your shitty fucking decisions, that's when I lose sympathy for women like this. Another woman on this sub commented recently that her friend is getting married to a physical abuser because she is over 30 and sees him as her only option to have children. She wants the father of her future children. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 22 | I will never prepare a man for his forever home that isn't with me.Shouldve texted that jackass back like "great, I'll email you the invoice for my services shortly, net 30 days, here's my venmo" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:17 PM |
| 22 | I love it when men put LVM in their placeLmfaooooo congratulations, you played yourself. How is he around women ALL DAY and still can't get laid 😂? (Although why DOES he work at a women boutique anyway). But yeah, i wonder how old this guy is - millennia men are probably the most entitled and lazy men ever. Men in the old school misogyny days felt they were entitled to a womans body, especially their wife's, but they understood they were required to bring something to the relationship. I can't believe I'm saying the old school sexist d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 11:15 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I am so sorry you've been stalked! That's awful. About attracting fuckboys, i think others in this sub may have better info, but part of the reason we attract the people we do deals with the spaces we exist in and how we present ourselves. I am not sure if you're traditional collage age and these guys are too, but if so, that explained the derth of fuckboys to some degree. The other part is your one personal presentation; I believe fuckboys will approach any woman they find is attractive, but th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:26 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I'm sorry youre having such a hard time :(. Focus as much as possible on how much better your life is w/o him. Something to help keep you positive, can you do a weekly call/video chat/meet up (if stuff is open by you) with a friend? I was never formally diagnosed but I must have had some level of depression for about 2 years, and being with people, outside of my own head, always helped. I'll admit it was a temporary fix because it's not permanent until you fix your own perspective, as you know. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 06:09 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I'm so glad you found my reply helpful! And yes ask lots of questions here, everyone is nice! There is plenty of tough love, but we all need that sometimes. Nobody's going to judge you unless you're willingly being a pickme :p And wtf kinda answer is that, flirting over text but not in person lol? That's when flirting is most fun, in person! I would say those guys probably were not very into you, don't know what they want, or just aren't a good match personality-wise. Also another thing for lear… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:51 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020You don't have to tell a guy you like him. If he keeps asking you out, and you keep saying yes, that's indicator enough to him. Women keep going out with guys they like, but that is not so true for men. Sometimes they go out with you cuz they're trying to get laid, desperately want a gf and any woman will do, etc, so that's why we have to vet. It is also better with men to not lay all your cards out on the table. Don't actually tell him "I like you" especially not before he has asked you to be h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:25 PM |
| 15 | Religions?I think a lot of women on FDS aren't comfortable with religion because they grew up in a situation where religion was used as a means to abuse and subjugate women. Your post indicates that, and I have heard other muslim women say the same. I've also heard other Muslim women express a lot of love for their religion. I've never read the Quran so I do not want to overly criticize or praise, BUT the fact that Mohammed did have multiple wives and was engaged to a child is alarming, and I'm not sure h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 05:05 PM |
| 6 | Yeah, how dumb of you to give up the privilege of having no choice other than to bear children and be maid, who can easily be discarded for a "newer model". It is mind-blowing how men think of the position women were once in. They literally see no problem with and think we had a easy job.This is the article btw: https://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/25/world/asia/bangalore-india-women-factories.html?smid=tw-nytimesworld&smtyp=cur&_r=0&referer=https://t.co/YtD1YVDFv1 It was an interesting read; on one hand their lives are tough, but they also seem to be enjoying themselves, and it gives them a chance to escape "be a wife and mother" if they don't want that. Sometime later I also watches a short documentary on lesbians in India, which of course was really heartbreaking, and something li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 04:45 PM |
| 22 | So apparently this man is engaged but still has the time to write an essay on why FDSers are evil and entitled b******. If he was so happy, why would he care about what women he’s not dating are doing?A restaurant for a first date is entitlement??? It's entitlement to want a normal date 🤣? Look, maybe before OLD, a man offering to take you for coffee or a drink was not a low ball offer cuz he did not have the technology to send that offer to hundreds of women a day to try to get laid multiple times a week. But that's not the case now. Now if a man thinks any kinda restaurant is too expensive for a first date, it's because he's 1) going on (or expecting to go on) multiple dates a week w/ diffe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 04:31 PM |
| 9 | Yeah, how dumb of you to give up the privilege of having no choice other than to bear children and be maid, who can easily be discarded for a "newer model". It is mind-blowing how men think of the position women were once in. They literally see no problem with and think we had a easy job.1) Amazing how they have no idea the level of work that's involved in maintaining a household. Even just living alone! What guys like this tell me are 1) their parents never made them do much, or any, chores 2) they've never even babysat for a day, or spoken in detail to anyone who has 3) they barely clean their own houses. If they had chores and kept their places actually clean (like, dusting the stupid fucking molding clean), PLUS knew how much work kids are, he wouldn't be saying being a stay… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 04:23 PM |
| 5 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men.Ugh my thoughts exactly!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:54 PM |
| 8 | This is why we don’t take a man back, even once. He WILL do it again and you WILL find it increasingly harder to leave. I feel bad her daughter will grow up and see and accept this treatment by men./SIGH/ I knew this was going to happen....I have seen her say positive things about how to deal w/ men - when she first separated from him, in her harpers bazar interview she said she wouldn't date cuz she's got a kid, she can't bring just anyone around a kid. But somehow it doesn't apply to him. This man cheated on her and let the whole world know it for shits sake. Idk, she likes a certain kinda guy and also tbh I think she likes the drama. You see the way she behaves with many other people, s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 03:51 PM |
| 6 | Nantucket Girls – High-Value Women of the 1800sThanks for sharing, this is really cool! I didn't know that ws a quaker community either, makes sense when you think about the level of equality. I read (most of) Moby Dick and loved it, so I will absolutely check this out, will be cool to have that added historical context | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:16 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020On one hand I'm sorry about your friend but on the other it's kind of a good thing you took the initiative to not put effort into someone who isn't worth it. With my friend honestly probably would shape up on this if I pointed it out each time and said there's a pattern here (she's improved on other things). I sorta did that w/ the restaurant, I said I only brought it up cuz it was her idea. But I think stepping back is also a good idea for me too. I am always ready to talk shit out cuz I feel p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 11:15 PM |
| 5 | “There’s nothing wrong with being alone.” - Daniel Sloss - JigsawLove this! I know a woman who needs to see this - we used to work together, a good friend of mine still works with her, and she talks about her situationship problems to him all the time. She told my friend she literally cannot be alone. Which is probably part of why she's has a litany of bad guys in the 5+ years I've known her, but this verbally and emotionally abusive underemployed loser who ignores her Monday through Friday and refused to commit to her when she asked, is the worst. She is in … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:32 PM |
| 14 | Pickmeshas be likeThe mental fucking gymnastics. It's like her subconscious is crying out for help but she's so brainwashed she chooses not to see it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:18 PM |
| 19 | If they didn't do it for themselves, they're not going to do it for you.I'm sorry he put you through so much bullshit and you were at a point where you were taking it, we know what that's like :/. Be proud of yourself everyday for no longer taking that shit. I really wish it was a cultural thing to seriously stress us to just THINK about dating for ten minutes, and be brutally honest with ourselves, we would quickly realize this stuff and not make these mistakes. If you just thought about it, why would you want someone who was happy being a crappy person? It means t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Wait they aren't even MARRIED!? And she's paying his mortgage!? That's more shocking to me than them having kids. Kids can happen by accident, but paying mortgage on what is not even your house!? And yeah seriously, how much is the house even worth if it needs 70K in repairs? That sound like they're never going to happen unless she spends her own money to hire contractors. And still isn't on the deed. Unless she's living in a communal property state where she's planning to marry him, which entit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 04:02 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I didn't see the actual post either, just the cross post. Just checked out that sub again today and came across a woman whose husband has been mostly unemployed for several years, and yet she does nearly all the domestic labor, and child care, AND pays the mortgage on his house. He won't even put her on the title. I can't, man. I know what you mean about how that subs makes you irrationally upset!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 03:48 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020Dude did you see the one that was cross-posted here about the guy who got hooked on his gf to wearing the anime snapchat filter during sex? Couldn't stay hard during non anime sex anymore. The dude is clearly a hentai porn addict and the girl needs SERIOUS therapy (said she gets a panic attack when she tries to speak up for herself). Insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:24 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020I have a very good friend of several years whose bad habit is flakiness. Not emotional flakiness, overall she's loyal and is always ready to go to bat for me, but she doesn't follow through on plans often. The typical pattern is she's like omggg let's go out on the weekend. 2 days later, it's the weekend, I'm looking forward to it, and she's like eh I'm not feeling it. I can't say how many times this has happened, I'm not keeping score, but it's enough and no one else I know does this. my tolera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 01:20 AM |
| 70 | A first date unlike anything I've experienced before.Aw cute! Here's hoping things continue going well. Keep enjoying yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 10:15 PM |
| 27 | Societal gaslighting about women and their “mood swings” when in reality men have mood swings way more often. Do not be silent about this any longer! Bring it up! Are they having erectile dysfunction mood swings? Is it porn induced? Request they see a mental health professional about this!So well said! I was going to comment something like this. The only person I've ever seen suffer from hormonal induced mood swings is myself, and it was triggered by bad anxiety and what was probably depression. And I freaked out by myself. I was very anxious because I thought a friend wasn't speaking to me/was angry, and yet even though my emotions felt out of control, I did not act out on others. I didn't blow up that friend's phone and make her responsible for my emotions that I was sure were … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 09:54 PM |
| 13 | American Murder: 7 Relationship Lessons That Could Save Your LifeThanks so much for sharing. I never heard of this case until I saw the women here talk about it. Can't even describe how horrible this is. She probably never thought he was capable of murder. Even if she had decided she deserved better than to beg him to love her and had left, he may have killed her anyway, the fucking psychopath. When are we going to make reading Lundy Bandcroft's Why Does He Do That? like government required reading for women? Like getting your license - can't drive w/o it, ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:07 PM |
| 3 | LibFem Twitter is at it again. WTF is “Sexual Mutual Aid”? Notice how quickly the Incels jumped into the fray to spin this idea into a way to punish women who won’t have sex with them🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️You ladies running the FDS Twitter make me want to get an account on that stupid ass site again just to follow this account haha Also I literally cannot w/ libfems 🙄 have these women ever even had sex??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 03:28 PM |
| 13 | If you've been so happy together for so long, then why not get married??"I hate the question when are you getting married" even though she's been engaged for 8 years so it's only natural for people to ask if a wedding is ever effing happening. And if marriage doesn't matter to her then why tf did she even get engaged lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:33 PM |
| 2 | Boyfriend's "RULES"Honestly I have no sympathy for someone who chooses to keep an absolute deadbeat around their children, especially a deadbeat who doesn't even like the kids or sees them as cutting into their free time. It's bad enough to not respect yourself, but to not respect your kids enough to bring someone who, bare minimum, likes them into their lives?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:46 PM |
| 3 | Hard to choose just one flair for this NVM...The second I saw the mention of the anime filter I was ready to vomit 😭. And then they met clearly at an anime convention when she was in cosplay, H E L L no. I dated an anime nerd for a brief period but apparently he wasn't even the worst they come, because he wasn't hentai porn sick like this guy! (though I'll bet he did watch anime porn lol, thanks to my friends I didn't stick around long enough to find out). "I PROMISED" him, what the fuck is she, 12? If he said "I have something to tell you… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Setting Standards for First Dates - OLDI went on 9 first dates when I used OLD. 4 were dinner, 3 were a cafe, 2 were drinks, guy always paid. Their ages ranges were late 20s to late 30s, some American born, some not. I think all times except 1 the guy asked me out first, but half the time I made the suggestion of where to go (cafe included). The let's get a drink was suggested by two guys - one did the bait and switch on me, asked me to dinner and then texted me that day to change it. Shouldve dropped him then, dude was very charming… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 05:01 PM |
| 2 | Found this gem in my suggested posts. It’s actually crazy how delusional MGTOW are. Do they really think they need this much protection?If he's MGTOW why tf does he need any of this if he doesn't plan to be around women 😂😂😂? Oh right because he's actually DESPERATE for a woman to love his disgusting, misogynyistic ass, as evident by the fact he's already planning to fail at MGTOW. Imagine thinking you're this freaking important lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 04:23 PM |
| 6 | What in the PiCk Me I’M a CoOL GirL Hell is this????!!!Can idiots please stop posting shit like this and giving the scrotes validation 🙄? If you have this many freaking insecurities about your physical appearance (notice all but 1 reason not to date a cut dude deals w/ her body), go to therapy. Yes I firmly believe you should never date a man who is objectively more attractive than you, it should always be the other way around, but he should still take care of his body and you should still be VERY attracted to him. Also binge drinking is one of her … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:23 PM |
| 35 | Thank god this girl realizes he wants a new mommy. Stay strong girl or you’ll be participating in #kickhimout2020My old coworkers husband was a totally useless manchild and it was 100% his mother's fault. She babied him like crazy, including opening his mail and snooping on his bank accounts when he was in his late 20s. He went straight from living with his parents to living with his future wife, having never lived alone, and she constantly complained about how much she had to nag him to clean up after himself/contribute to the household, and how he still lived like a single guy. And yet she married him an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:06 PM |
| 23 | *internal screaming, forever*Hey at least he didn't lie by promising he'd change 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:12 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 7 2020That's terrifying 😭. And you're right, I get they need someplace to live, and no place will be perfect, but wtf why do they so often end up right next to places full of children!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:09 PM |
| 2 | "If she hits you, you better fucking hit her back"Lmaooo i know right? You could quote Bandcroft and his heaps of experience and they would still be like oh they're too embarassed to come forward. Yeah, but women are lying about how much domestic violence or sexual harassment happens to them, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 09:42 PM |
| 1 | IndependenceMan it's dangerous not to know anything about your main mode of transportation! My dad taught me the basics at least, but I don't know as much as him. Like if something is off he knows what it is right away, and that's cuz the first car he bought was a POS, and he didn't have the money to take it to a mechanic all the time, so he had to learn how to fix tons of shit. In the days before YouTube lol. Saves you a lot of money too to learn to fix as much as you can. When I had a car, my dealership w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:51 PM |
| 2 | When the cost of repairing your car window > The life of your child. THIS IS WHY YOU NEED TO RUTHLESSLY VET THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILD. Trigger warning because this might ruin your dayHe better get charged with murder. He had so many chances to save her and every time he said no because her weighed his money to be greater than her life. Disgusting. And those cops should be charged with neglect or something to reflect how their inaction killed someone they had a chance to save. Cops will empty an entire clip into someone within 10 seconds of arriving on scene, but they see a baby trapped in a car in THE DESERT and are like "okay well wait"!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:41 PM |
| 2 | Being a pick-me and pandering to men is dangerous.Hope she gets picked ❤️. Hopefully by a redpiller type who wants a trad wife, lord knows she deserves it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 07:23 PM |
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