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Ok but even if no one is sahp then someone still has to take off work when the kid is sick, or has a doctors appointment, and has to prioritize getting the hours that let them be home whenever the kid gets off the bus rather than prioritize climbing the corporate ladder. Someone’s career takes a backseat. Unless no one is willing to do that and the kid just has rotten teeth because he’s never been to a dentist and comes home everyday and eats junk food in front of the tv with no one home for sev…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 12:50 AM
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If you want children and to raise them in a stable home and you assign some value to that, that would have to be considered when calculating your “assets” and whether you were “net positive” or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 11:18 PM
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A two parent home where the parents are unmarried seems hard to navigate. Both people would have to put themselves and their own interests first vs the overall good of the family/children. Even if they both thought it was better for one parent to take a few years off work for example, neither would be willing to make that sacrifice because they have to look out for their own financial well-being and future career prospects. They’d constantly be trying to force the other one to take on more of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 11:10 PM
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My brother did this. His friends all eventually got married and started families, so he found younger friends to party with. Then those friends all got married and started families. He’s almost 50 now and goes clubbing and hangs out on boats with a bunch of 20 somethings. I wonder how long he can keep finding young people willing to be friends and party with someone old enough to be their grandpa. It’s kind of sad tbh.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:55 PM
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How would anyone “enforce their relationship” without marriage? If my boyfriend and I decide to live together and raise a family, and I make career sacrifices so I can do all the unpaid labor of managing the household and caring for the children, while he keeps all the assets in his name like the house, retirement accounts, etc, and then the kids grow up and leave home and my boyfriend decides to kick me out, how would I “enforce” anything? I’d be enforcing myself to the homeless shelter. If we …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:51 PM
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FDS doesn’t tell you to demand anything from a man, just to dump him if he isn’t willingly giving you the things you want. FDS teaches it’s better to be alone than with a man who isn’t giving you everything you want in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 07:46 PM
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I didn’t even wear one when I was engaged. My husband didn’t wear one until after we got married so why should I? I’m kind of cynical about it though and know that being “engaged” doesn’t actually mean anything, having been the recipient of THREE “shut up rings” from three different boyfriends, that never actually indicated any intention to marry me. When my husband asked me to marry him I was like I’ll believe it when we sign the marriage certificate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 07:41 PM
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Men who only date women significantly younger than they are are defective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 07:40 PM
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FDS isn’t about manipulation. It’s about how to avoid and weed out men who are trying to take advantage of you. It’s basically, set boundaries and enforce them. I don’t see what’s exploitative about that. If a woman wants a relationship with a man who will take her out on nice dates then it only makes sense to walk away from any man who offers a coffee or walk date. No exploitation there, she just wasn’t buying what he was selling. RP says to pretend you’re interested in a relationship with a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 07:33 PM
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At best it’s about how to get women to consent to sex that they don’t actually want. All the stuff about overcoming last minute resistance is basically, when a woman tells you no, just wait a minute and then try to stick your dick in her again, if you keep trying enough times it will eventually work even though she’s saying no and clearly doesn’t want to have sex with you. It’s disgusting, and the correct approach when a woman says no is to back off and stop trying to escalate. Change the subjec…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 07:11 PM
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Lying and manipulating women to gain sexual access is exploiting women. Any strategies to “get past last minute resistance” are rape strategies. TRP is a rape handbook.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 06:39 PM
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If he doesn’t find it first
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 06:21 PM
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My husband doesn’t hold it over my head that he “pays for things” and I don’t. He knows it’s easier to go to work every day than it is to stay home with the baby and keep the house clean. He doesn’t feel like I owe him anything in that exchange, and if anything he owes me because what I do is way harder than what he does, so no I’m not making it up to him by letting him stomp all over my sexual boundaries. There’s no power dynamic of male dominance, just a division of labor that makes sense for …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 02:26 PM
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Lol why on earth would I be friends with anyone who would sleep with my husband? Interesting how you think of any random women not as people with their own ability to consent or not consent, but as just objects for any man to use whenever he wants. Oh my bad interesting is the wrong word I meant disgusting. Never mind that my husband knows he can sleep with other people as long as I also get to sleep with other people. He didn’t go for that one because he knows I’d have basically unlimited optio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 01:41 PM
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Anal is great as long as I get to peg him afterward
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:59 AM
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I’m ok with swallowing my husband’s cum as long as half the time he lets me spit it back into his mouth instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:18 AM
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It’s because by definition the woman’s exposure to “alpha” men is in her past and your brain kind of recalibrates after a while. If a guy stops watching porn for a while most of the effects subside, so why wouldn’t the effects of being “alpha widowed” also subside over time?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 03:16 AM
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No one’s talking about most women, most women are thots remember? We’re talking about those elusive 18 year old virgins with no tattoos or whatever. The super rare woman who could make Chad commit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/21 06:13 PM
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Lol once a guy told me he didn’t need to wear earplugs around loud noises because his body is so spiritually elevated or some bs. Like I’m pretty sure you will damage your hearing just like anyone else would if exposed to a certain level of noise buddy. But you go right ahead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:08 PM
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If I’m not mistaken brugmansia is another word for angel trumpets. It’s pretty well documented that it causes hallucinations and is basically guaranteed to give you a bad trip. Anywhere from just seeing scary stuff that isn’t there to, one guy had such a bad time on it that he cut off his own penis and tongue. Terrifying. There are stories and “trip reports” available online to read if anyone curious about the possible effects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:05 PM
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I might do it if my husband were there with me and not doing it. Like if he would just be there only as a chaperone for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:01 PM
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Guys will also try to match with women in other towns/ cities and then say they’re planning on moving soon. I’ve had guys do this and they really don’t like it when I say, “oh great let me know when you get settled in.” Because they aren’t really planning on moving but they want an out of town hookup. Also when you tell them you’re not interested in dating until after their move, you will NEVER hear from them again I guarantee it. They are not moving. They are full of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 05:28 PM
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She looks much better than he does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 02:42 AM
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Haha sure I’ll be right over after I finish putting my 🤡 makeup on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:55 PM
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It was a long time ago so maybe I just don’t remember, but I don’t remember being angry. I was more just kind of baffled by the situation. Like the whole thing was so absurd to me I didn’t really know how to react.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:43 PM
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Once a guy asked me to meet him at a restaurant, then didn’t show up so I texted him after sitting at the table drinking water for a while. He said, “oh I forgot, sorry, but you can come hang out at my house with me after you finish eating if you want.” Wtf. I wondered if this strategy had ever worked for him before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 03:45 PM
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That to me is the worst thing about having tattoos, having to hear about how much random other people hate tattoos. Usually when someone says that to me I tell them they should try working out to lose the gut, or that there are procedures that can help with that saggy bit of skin under their chin or whatever, then I ask them if they like having other people criticize their bodies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:07 PM
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Guys take a woman’s offer of friendship as an insult. I decided a while ago that if I’m not good enough to be someone’s friend then I certainly don’t ever expect that they would marry me or be a good partner, so there’s no reason to have sex with them. Friendship was a prerequisite to dating me. It was a great way of filtering out guys who liked me enough to sleep with me but not enough to spend time with me with no expectations of sex. And that’s how I knew my husband was the one, we were frien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:03 AM
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🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:45 PM
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Doesn’t he think she might be hungry though? That’s what I don’t get about this kind of plan.. like if you think you’re going to dinner you aren’t going to eat beforehand, so then you’re just not going to eat anything? How would you possibly have a good time?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:19 PM
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No. I don’t miss the person I used to be at all. Sometimes it scares me to think about where I’d be now if the accident had never happened. My life is better now in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:16 PM
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Living with some loser they’ve been with for 7 years but who won’t propose because he’s not ready for marriage yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 02:54 AM
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Most women aren’t confident enough to do that. Girls are socialized to be nice and go along with what other people want. So it’s pretty easy to pressure them into sex. Most young women also don’t really understand that a lot of guys will have sex with practically any woman whether he likes her or not. They think that the way to a commitment is by giving the guy what he wants, sex, and then he’ll be nice enough to give her what she wants, commitment, especially since he must like her to be having…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:24 AM
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No, I actually met my husband about a year after the accident and then we got married about 2 years after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/21 01:04 AM
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I had a traumatic brain injury that caused hypersexuality. It also caused me to be much more confident about telling people to fuck off if I didn’t like them. Basically changed my entire personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:54 PM
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About 98% of the sex I had before age 30 was sex I didn’t really want, after age 30 it’s been about 15%.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/21 10:46 PM
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The worst is when a guy leads a woman on and ends up getting her pregnant and then wants to blame women for being single moms… if men would stop sleeping with women they don’t even like, maybe we’d have fewer kids grow up wondering why their dad’s never been around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:49 PM
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My husband is younger than I am and he still pays for everything. Don’t settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:03 PM
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If my husband wanted a divorce because we had a special needs child, I would fight to give him full custody and just be the fun weekend mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 12:40 PM
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It’s not really women’s fault. Women want to marry a man close to their own age. Men mostly don’t want to get married in their early 20s. So women wait until men their own age want to get married. I wanted to get married in my early 20s. The guys my age were not ready to settle down. So, as is common for many women these days, I waited until they were, I got married in my early 30s, and was able to have healthy kids, although if I’d wanted like 4 or 5 of them I may have been in trouble but let’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 09:55 PM
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I met my husband on tinder. We didn’t hook up though. We didn’t have sex until we’d known each other for ~6 months and were in a relationship. But yes hooking up with random guys on tinder probably is not the way to find a husband. I was incredibly lucky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:09 PM
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Right. It’s like the difference between saying “half of all redheads are female,” which is likely true or close to true, vs saying “half of all females are redheads,” which we know is nowhere close to being true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 06:06 PM
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One third of marriages starting with a hookup is not the same thing as one third of hookups ending in marriage. I know you can’t edit the title though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:57 PM
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Maybe a 19 year old talks to him, if so she probably thinks of it as adopting a grandparent or something. Not a romantic relationship. What a creepy old guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 02:07 AM
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Maybe he threw her out because she got old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 04:14 PM
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Right. If I’m paying bills then I’m not cleaning up after anyone else or cooking for them, wtf. Why would anyone see this ad and think, sounds great where do I sign up? You could just go live with roommates and have your own room and maybe a cat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 01:21 PM
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He thinks he will get older but the women he dates will stay the same age. So in his mind he will be 60 but his wife will be like 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:09 PM
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Any guy who hasn’t gotten married and had kids by 35 (really more like 30 but I’m being generous) does not want to get married and have kids and never did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:08 PM
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Every time a guy has complained to me about not being able to find anyone, it’s because their standards are way too high. They want women who look like models and are 5 years younger. When they are short, bald, average income. You don’t get the top 5% if you’re average, you get someone average.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 03:26 PM
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I met my husband on tinder. I didn’t post any bikini pics, or anything suggestive, or even any pics where I had makeup on, mostly because I’m not a daily makeup wearer, I wear it maybe once a month or on a special occasion or night out and didn’t want anyone with any expectations that I put makeup on just to hang out at home or go to the grocery store. It was all pictures of me doing hobbies like playing music, softball, running, singing with my choir, etc. I immediately unmatched anyone who sen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:48 PM
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It’s so weird how there seems to be this divide in how guys see tattooed women. Because you’re right, a lot of guys do seem to look down on it, but also I know a lot of heavily tattooed women, lwomen with full sleeves, who are happily married, and their husbands just think tattooed women are great and love their wife’s tattoos. I’m fairly heavily tattooed and my husband is just into tattooed women, and always has been, it seems like something with his friend group honestly all of their wives and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 08:33 PM
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When I was single in my late 20s/early 30s and would get these old guys (38+) trying to approach me saying they were ready to settle down I would straight up tell them I only wanted to marry a younger man bc women live longer than men and I wanted someone who would hopefully be around for the rest of my life. They hated it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 06:15 PM
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Maybe if it’s a guy who has a history of not being a fuckboy but then decided to try it briefly because of the culture/ the availability of that lifestyle/ society tells men it’s a good thing to be a fuckboy, or whatever other stupid reason. If someone tried it for a little while and then didn’t like it much, then yes they’re still marriage material, but a guy who’s in his 30s or 40s and has been a fuckboy since his teens or early 20s, no way. They belong to the streets. I actually know a couple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/21 05:47 PM
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Holy crap. When you’re in a relationship yes he should pay for your dates. He should get you gifts. If he loved you he would. He should want to do something nice for you. The first time a guy ever buys himself food, without even asking if I want something, and then eats it in front of me would be the last time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:12 PM
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I only ever dated one HVM. I married him. It’s like finding a diamond in a pile of rocks or something. One of my brothers is a HVM. My brother in law also seems to be. Otherwise never really run across them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/21 06:03 PM
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A lot of us don’t really want that but we kind of have to because we can’t support ourselves without working. I guess in past times people got married in their teens so it wasn’t an issue, but nowadays it seems most men aren’t thinking about marriage until their late 20s or early 30s. So a woman wanting a husband the same age as her also has to wait until that age, so from 18 to, say, 26, how will she support herself without working? In my case I was 33 before I got married so what would I have …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:37 PM
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A lot of times the women do leave and then we see the man on here moaning about how his wife left him and took the house and kids and now he has to pay child support. And they somehow blame the woman or think it’s because she had too many sexual partners before marriage or because she’s hypergamous or whatever nonsense they think is the reason for most divorces. It’s because you were a shit husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:04 PM
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Well yes, once they reach a certain age they do, but for the first couple years they are home all day and they wake up during the night and need to be cared for. If you have multiple kids then this could end up being like 5 or more years of your life spent providing round the clock care for tiny people.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:59 PM
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You are describing a life without kids, yes you’re absolutely right that taking care of the house and cooking dinner when you don’t have kids is not that much work and can easily be done in a couple hours a day. With kids though, especially small ones, it’s a lot more work and some of it actually becomes impossible to do without the other person helping you. Lawn care comes to mind- if you have a baby, you’re not just going to leave them unattended for an hour or two to go out and mow the lawn. …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:56 PM
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Cooking cleaning and child care is more than 40 hours a week. Child care is 24/7. So of course if a man works 40 hours a week when he comes home he should be expected to help with childcare, even if his wife is a sahm. What nonsense for any man to think that he’s not responsible to help care for his own children. That is why women leave their husbands, because it’s like raising another child, and at least if you divorce and split custody, some of the time the man is forced to be responsible for …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 03:18 AM
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Single attractive people are more prone to being crazy than single unattractive people. Think about it. For every single person there’s a reason they’re single. For unattractive people, the reason is probably because they’re unattractive. For attractive people, it’s something else, usually something to do with their behavior or personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:44 AM
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Men want traditional housewives who also split bills 50/50. I know more women who want to be housewives than men who can afford to pay for everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:40 AM
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This is why guys always end up in sexless marriages and complain about it. They don’t go for the woman who likes them enough to approach, they only want the one who reluctantly settles for them out of lack of better options.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:57 PM
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I got hit by a car once. The paramedics cut all of my clothes off. My favorite jeans. So really if you think you’ll be getting hit by a car, wear something you aren’t too attached to or at least something replaceable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:26 PM
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Here in America guys take you on dates so you’ll think they want a relationship but they really just want a hookup. Or they want something that is like a relationship on your end but on their end something akin to a free prostitute.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 03:08 PM
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That’s not any worse than what trp advocates for men to spin plates and be seeing a bunch of women at the same time and not tell them about it. The amount of outrage at that post was frankly hilarious if you compare it to the strategies advocated in the manosphere. If a woman is sleeping with one guy while dating other guys at least she’s not spreading stds, since she’s only sleeping with one guy at a time regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:17 AM
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I think that was a satire making fun of the red pill “spinning plates” thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 03:13 AM
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When I was in my 20s, every older man who ever showed interest in me was a misogynistic abuser who wanted a relationship with a power imbalance and someone naive who he could get away with mistreating. Maybe these guys were physically attractive and financially successful but they were in no sense high value at all, they were trash. Incidentally I ended up getting married at 33 to a guy a few years younger who is everything I ever wanted in a husband and more, and treats me like an absolute quee…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 02:30 AM
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I wasn’t really thinking of it from the perspective of the man and whether or not there’s a chance he’d be successful. Was more thinking of it from the woman’s perspective of wanting to be able to go out in public without worrying about being approached and harassed by random guys who are trying to get laid. Really just want to be able to get through my day without being treated like a prey animal. Especially as a married woman now you’d think the guys would notice I have a wedding ring on but w…
/r/seduction24/05/21 01:51 AM
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That’s the problem. There are so many men who would love to have a tradwife (I mean honestly who wouldn’t) but they aren’t able to provide the other half of that relationship and be a traditional husband/ provider. So what they want is a woman who is submissive to them, does all the housework, and also pays for half (or more) of everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 09:06 PM
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I don’t think that’s true. I’m sure some men would, and I believe that you’re probably one of them, and therefore a little biased thinking everyone is just like you. The thing is the guys will even tell you that they’re planning on marrying you one day, but they just aren’t ready. Idk if they really believe this or not, they seem to on some level, but after 3+ years of no wedding plans it becomes a little ridiculous. Like what are you waiting for? Guys will even get engaged with no actual plans …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 10:21 AM
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Not really. Guys just don’t see relationships the same way women do. They don’t think of it as wasting time even if they know the relationship has an expiration date, as long as they’re enjoying the company then what’s the problem? They don’t get that women assume that a guy would leave as soon as he realized there was no long term potential, and to be honest, it is on women for assuming that, I guess. I know my dating life got way easier and more successful when I stopped assuming anything like…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:44 AM
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I mean obviously he wasn’t compatible with her. That’s not the issue. The issue is that he was willing to stay with her for like 5 years even though he likely knew pretty early on that he wasn’t compatible with her. Soo many guys do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:13 AM
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I can only speak from the experience I’ve lived, unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:11 AM
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I dated a med student for years and as soon as he graduated he broke up with me. Happens to a lot of people, apparently. I ended up marrying a guy who already was successful in his career, near 6 figure income, homeowner, good social life, basically had accomplished everything needed to say that he was successful in life. I’m not negating your experience but a lot of guys settle for whatever they can get until they’ve made it and then go after the type of woman they really want. My husband also …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 07:21 PM
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Sorry I forgot the /s
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:47 PM
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Nice straw man argument. Very insightful. Men are literally the ones choosing the women they commit to, so if the relationship fails later on, who bears more of that responsibility? Men love to say women have sex with the wrong men who cheat on them or get them pregnant and then leave, making them a single mom, which is somehow all the woman’s fault for sleeping with the wrong guy. Seems just as fair to say if a marriage fails it’s the guys fault for choosing the wrong woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:39 PM
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Problems like this are actually men’s fault though, since men are the “gatekeepers or commitment” as they love to point out. Men are the ones who don’t commit to the woman who they have great sex with. They choose the woman who isn’t all that attracted to them and the sex is kind of meh, because they somehow misinterpret this to mean that the woman they have great sex with is slutty while the one who barely wants them is more chaste, even though in reality (like in the example above) the woman t…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:22 PM
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The problem is that either the guy never makes anything or himself, or if he does, he leaves once he levels up. They think, this is what I could get before I was successful, but now that I’ve made it, I want to trade up. You want the guy who chooses you when he’s at his maximum value. Then you know that he thinks you’re the best he can do, and he’s going to stick around for the long haul.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:08 PM
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Please do not approach women at the grocery store. I’ve had guys do this to me and it’s really obnoxious, I’m there to shop, not to get a date. It’s not a singles meetup. It’s a grocery store.
/r/seduction02/05/21 08:52 AM
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Does body positivity make men attracted to women who aren’t attractive? I don’t get why this is specific to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 08:41 AM
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He doesn’t recognize all the things she actually does that make his life easier. If I were her I’d probably get a job and stop doing housework / reduce her housework to match the level that he contributes. So he can see what it’s like to come home to a dirty house and an empty refrigerator. Hope he has fun waking up for work and realizing he has no clean clothes, no milk for his cereal, and all the dishes are dirty.. all that stuff that just magically happens around the house that he never even …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 12:04 AM
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Once some guy asked me to go for a walk in the park with him. I didn’t realize that he thought it was a date, because a walk in the park is not a date. I thought he was just lonely and wanted someone to talk to, so I went for a walk with him, and then was talking about my boyfriend and he got kind of upset and was like, why did you come on a date with me if you’re not single? And I was like, I didn’t...?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 01:45 AM
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Most men are not capable of 50/50. If I’m paying for half the bills then I expect him to do half the housework. They won’t do that because their standards for how the house should be are nowhere near what mine are, plus they are lazy af and used to their mommy cleaning up after them. When I was younger I tried the cohabitation thing and then matched the level of effort the guy was putting into housework. Ended up living in a dump, and also having to deal with the guy complaining/trying to shame …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 10:50 PM
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No, men are entitled and think they deserve the best of the best and won’t settle when it comes to a relationship, but at the same time they are willing to sleep with basically anyone who will let them. Maybe you don’t see this happening but I do, I have guy friends who tell me about their dating lives and one day they’re telling me about how they got laid, and like a week later complaining that none of the women they like on tinder like them back. So they’re finding women who like them who meet…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 10:32 PM
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Guys also do something similar. They complain about never getting any matches, then when they do get their one date a month or so (because eventually they do get a match and go out on dates), they pump and dump these ladies and then a week later back to complaining how much they hate being single and want to find someone for a relationship/marriage.. always complaining how no one wants them but when they find someone who actually does they always decide she’s only good enough for casual sex. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/21 10:07 PM
87

Men who wait until they’re so old that no one wants them to try to find someone to settle down with deserve to be forever alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 03:15 AM
4

Lol. You do know there are single women and lesbians who buy sperm to impregnate themselves with, don’t you? I get that you hate moms and motherhood. I’m just not sure your comments are appropriate for this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:57 PM
1

The seeds of what? Internalized misogyny?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 05:41 PM
10

If your views are that being a mom ruins your life and body, then that’s a no from me on accepting your views. Denigrating motherhood is inherently misogynistic. Gtfo of here with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 04:21 PM
8

This isn’t childfree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:04 PM
167

At least it’s right there in his profile. You don’t have to match with him to find out how low effort he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:18 PM
2

Grown ass men in their thirties also try this. It’s not just college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 01:54 PM
2

It’s pretty easy to prove who someone’s father is using dna testing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:34 PM
6

The real advice should be to marry someone whose libido and expectations for sex match yours. That way you’re both satisfied.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:20 PM
5

That would be great for her but probably not so great for the kids unfortunately. I wouldn’t want to be raised by some asshole who would treat the mother of his kids this way. He would probably abuse the kids too, narcissists gonna narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:22 PM
18

If someone did any other thing to another person that, through their negligence or intent, caused that person to require thousands of dollars in medical care, they would be responsible for 100% of the costs, no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 11:23 AM
7

It’s not just that the guy is single at 35+ but also the fact that he’d be looking to date someone much younger. Guys who want to date much younger women usually are that way for a couple reasons and none of them are good. Maybe they enjoy the power imbalance, or maybe women their own age won’t date them because they are experienced enough to spot red flags moreso than a younger and less experienced woman would be, or maybe the guy never wants to settle down so he chooses a younger women because…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 03:36 AM
1

That’s probably because women his own age have learned to pick up on red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/21 03:25 AM
33

I get what you’re saying, but imagine if this had been a single parent family with only the mentally ill mother. One reason it’s good to have two parents is in case something happens to one of them. This story is literally an example of why a two parent family is better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:27 PM
36

A lot of them say they’re looking for a female roommate but then in the text they specify that you’d be sharing a bed and doing all the housework and cleaning up after him... why not just say you want a bangmaid in the title?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:18 PM
9

🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 06:17 PM
1

The problem isn’t that men can’t find women who want to be homemakers. They can’t afford to be the sole provider, and can’t find women who are willing to work and can bring home decent money on top of doing the lions share of the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 05:26 PM
13

My husband is the first guy I’ve ever felt comfortable to turn to if I’m upset. In the past I’ve had all kinds of shitty reactions from men if I happened to get upset, starting in childhood with my father who would laugh at me and tell me I was making a “monkey face” if I cried around him. A lot of guys seem to get angry and defensive if a woman gets upset around him. They have this idea that crying is a manipulation tactic, and it pisses them off. My husband though, if I’m sad around him, he ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:40 PM
1

I don’t think you can generalize like that. Some men are smart. Some women are dumb. The thing is that being around a dumb man seems to be much more likely to cause harm to me than being around a dumb woman, because in addition to being dumb, most men seem to also lack any awareness or care for how their actions or shortcomings affect others. The problem with most guys isn’t how dumb they are, but rather their selfishness. Women are more aware of other people’s needs, because we’re socialized to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:34 PM
72

He complains that it felt like two people becoming friends. I don’t see the problem with that. What’s wrong with making a friend? Maybe in the future that leads to a relationship. What is wrong with these guys? Is it just me that thinks that friendship should be a prerequisite to anything more, anyway?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 12:16 PM
3

I hate when men think of having kids as something the woman is doing and his only role is to “be supportive from a distance.” It should be something you’re both actively doing together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:07 PM
24

He was too lazy to clean it up. That is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 08:28 PM
1

Well, I used to think sex was a relationship until I learned from men that it is not. My life became much easier once I was playing by the same rules as the people on the other side of the table. I stopped being used for sex when I stopped having sex with men I wanted a relationship with until those men gave me a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 09:15 AM
1

I’m pretty sure single means you’re not in a relationship or married. Also, my husband knew about my fwb, back when we were friends and not in a relationship. And I knew about his. In fact, I’ve met his, and he’s met mine. It wasn’t a secret. We’ve both always been honest with each other. I didn’t announce it randomly but whenever it came up I didn’t deny it, and neither did he. I’ve said that multiple other places in this thread but I guess you didn’t read every single post I made. I get that y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/21 02:08 AM
1

Disclose what to whom?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 11:00 PM
2

I didn’t cheat on anyone while dating them. You can’t cheat on someone unless you’ve both expressed that you’re in a committed, monogamous relationship. No one has a right to expect exclusivity when they’ve neither asked for nor offered it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 10:15 PM
2

Wow, no need for personal attacks. Take some deep breaths. I’m sorry your life is so shitty but there’s no reason to take it out on strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 09:21 PM
3

Your girlfriend? I’m talking about having female friends. As in platonic friends that you don’t have sex with. Since when does “basic respect” include sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:20 PM
1

Maybe they aren’t so insecure that they need that kind of validation. How are men friends with other men who don’t see them as worthy for sex? I’d imagine it’s pretty similar to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 06:12 PM
0

Why is it stupid that I don’t want to be around anyone who doesn’t see me as worthy of their friendship because of my gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 02:22 PM
5

I won’t involve myself with any man who can’t have female friends. There are guys who think this way, and it’s a huge red flag for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/21 01:38 PM
1

I didn’t just abstain from sex because I saw no reason to, I didn’t want to, and I didn’t have to. Also, I felt like I was on a more even footing with the guys I was dating, since they were all sleeping with other people too. Really why would I need to abstain from sex? I’m not religious. Maybe you have some moral dilemma with casual sex, but I don’t, so what reason do I have for abstaining from sex? I’m not sure what you mean by “split my needs with men in a covert way.” And for your final ques…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:57 PM
1

No, I haven’t been married 15 years. But still I don’t understand the question. What problems do you think I have? You’re the one who seems to be having a rough time, judging from your post history.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 08:01 PM
1

What “problems” are you referring to? My life is amazing. I’m not on here complaining, I’m on here saying, “I’m happy and I finally have everything I ever wanted and this is how I got here.”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/21 07:54 PM
1

I do think they would still wait, or more likely they would jump into a committed relationship sooner and with someone who isn’t quite right just because of the added pressure to do so because it’s the only way they’re having sex. And probably the same would be true for women, or for some women who have a high sex drive. I didn’t make things the way they are though, and even if I disappeared completely, guys would still be out there spinning plates and wasting women’s time. Idk what you expect m…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 02:21 PM
0

It’s not cheating, read the post again.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:37 PM
1

I can’t control what other women do, but if they would stop having sex with guys in hopes of securing commitment (which doesn’t work btw) then a lot of things would change in the dating scene which would be good. I can’t change the fact that having sex with a guy doesn’t get you a relationship. All I can do is react to it. If other women want to stop being used for sex by guys who they’d really like commitment from, they also can stop having sex with guys who won’t commit to them, and accept tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:32 PM
2

I don’t endorse everything in the FDS handbook. I think you should get to know a guy for a long time before commitment and expecting the guy to spend a lot of money on you goes counter to that because most men aren’t going to keep throwing money at someone for >6 months if the relationship isn’t escalating.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:22 PM
0

I didn’t “weaponize” anything. I protected myself from being led on and hurt by a guy who had the potential to do that. I didn’t want to have sex with him outside of a committed relationship because I didn’t want to be his fwb, or fuck buddy. I didn’t want to give him any reason to lie to me or lead me on or settle for me for now because the sex was really good, but with him knowing that the relationship would never go where I wanted it to. I really liked him, and if I’d also been having sex wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 09:21 AM
1

I literally did the exact same thing he did but somehow it’s wrong when I do it but ok when he does it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/21 01:04 AM
1

I’m pretty sure there are a lot of things I could stop doing that would end the relationship though. It’s not just sex. What if I told him I was moving out of our house and would only come by a couple times a week for sex, or that I was going to have a baby with someone else’s dna using a sperm donor, or that I was going to stop cooking dinner with him and go make dinner with the neighbor instead every day, or that we couldn’t watch tv together anymore but I was going to go watch tv with the nei…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 10:26 PM
1

They shouldn’t have had sex with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 09:19 PM
2

This was a post about how I successfully found a relationship/ marriage. It wasn’t a post about all the traumatic things in my dating history prior to that which led me to become this cynical. I used to trust men by default; I wouldn’t make them pursue me for so long before I believed that they cared for me. This led to a lot of crappy situations with guys who didn’t actually like me all that much but were happy to lead me on for as long as I was willing to be their bangmaid. So yeah, I was a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 09:13 PM
1

Why? Is it wrong for a woman to have sex? If so, how is it not equally wrong for a man to have sex? I didn't cheat on anyone, or deceive anyone. I didn't do anything guys don't do all the time. Either way my husband would have gotten the same amount of sex from me that he did, on the same timeline. So how does it affect him? Also, if there's some expectation that I didn't have sex before I was in a relationship with him, does he have the same expectation, i.e., did we both not have sex with anyo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:24 PM
0

You can't ask someone who barely knows you if they want to be in an LTR. You don't know each other well enough to make that decision. It takes time to get to know someone well enough to decide if you want an LTR with them. Was the FWB guy "using me for sex"? Is that possible when I also was "using him" for sex? Can two people mutually use each other? I feel like it's only "using" someone when they want something different than what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:16 PM
1

It takes longer to figure out if someone is a good potential LTR. You have to actually get to know the person first, and that takes time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:12 PM
1

Yes, sex with one person is less risky than sex with multiple people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:11 PM
1

Because I like to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 08:05 PM
1

I didn't want to have sex with every single guy I dated. The thing is most of the people you date are not going to be marriage material, or ltr material or even friendship material. But you don't have to have sex with them to figure that out. Having a lot of sex partners is risky, and there's no real upside to it vs having one long term fwb.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:52 PM
1

Guys who reduce a woman's entire value to her ability to have sex are missing out on most of what makes relationships great. If all my husband wanted was sex then he could have had sex. Just not with me. I mean he literally did. I just didn't want to have sex with him because I didn't want to have sex with every single guy I dated while trying to get to know them. That's how people end up with kids who have no idea who their dad is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:48 PM
1

It's not a valid question. He wasn't 'entitled' to sex. I had sex with him, but it was for myself and not because it was something he was 'entitled' to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:41 PM
1

I wasn't having sex with him for his benefit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:34 PM
1

Oh well..? I mean honestly what did he give me at that point that would have meant he was entitled to sex with me? It's a trick question because no one is ever entitled to sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:29 PM
1

When I say a sex partner was bad or good, it sounds simplistic, but what I mean is that for me the sex was not enjoyable/ we weren't sexually compatible. I could go on and on about the reasons why, which are varied depending on the person, but still the bottom line is I didn't enjoy sex with that person so I didn't pursue the relationship any further.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:25 PM
1

Enjoy what? Hooking up with other people? He says he did.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:18 PM
1

He would have had sex with me during that time but I didn't want to. But yes he was hooking up with other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 07:01 PM
1

"But what's incredibly dishonest and what your husband certainly wouldn't like is if you told him that while you made him wait you were fucking other dudes who had zero interest in dating you." He knows this and was literally doing the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:47 PM
1

You're assuming a lot here. The guy I chose for a FWB was not more valuable than my husband. My standards for FWB were way lower than for marriage. He only had to be physically attractive and polite/ respectful. He didn't have to be able to support himself, or have similar interests as me, or have similar life goals, or the same sense of humor. None of that mattered. For those reasons it was easy not to get too attached to him, honestly. We weren't all that compatible. The only thing we liked ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:39 PM
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Well, I actually dated a couple of different guys who I would have been open to a LTR with, but then ended things with them because the sex was bad. That is a risk, admittedly. My husband and I, in addition to being compatible as friends, also turned out to be really sexually compatible as well. Lucky us. I've seen a lot of comments on Reddit from men that women having sexual experience before marriage is bad because the sex with their husband won't be as good and they won't want to have sex wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:28 PM
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Well, one is also getting more from me than the other did, if you really want to look at it as transactional that way. FWB just got what he gave me- sex. Which is great I guess but not really life changing. He could probably go get sex from someone else and it would be more or less as good. My husband gets my companionship, he gets to live with me, he gets someone to tell him good morning and to cook dinner with and to remember to pick up his favorite snacks from the grocery store and share insi…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 06:14 PM
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We weren't really "dating," we didn't have any commitment, expressed or otherwise. We were just getting to know each other. And yes he did, like I said, we weren't in a relationship with each other so we both kind of did whatever we wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 05:57 PM
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Why was it necessary to have a fwb? I have a really high sex drive. I guess it wasn't totally "necessary" but it definitely made it easier to say no to sex with guys that I was evaluating for LTR potential. And maybe not all men are like that, but enough of them are that it's not safe to be vulnerable with them that way until you really know them and know that they really care about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 05:56 PM
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I mean the premise of the comment I was responding to is that men pay a "price" for sex and I charged one a higher price than the other. And I'm saying, I'm not a sex vending machine. I'm not giving out sex as a reward for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 05:54 PM
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I would tell him as soon as he brings up wanting kids in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:41 PM
0

I didn’t lie to him about it. I didn’t open with that or anything but when it came up I didn’t try to hide it. He didn’t open with the fact that he was fucking other people either but he also never lied about it. As to the mod who posted that, take it up with her I guess? I’m not responsible for other people’s comments. Do I have to argue with everyone who posts something on reddit that I disagree with? That would be a full time job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:19 PM
2

I’m married, I’m not like hypothesizing about what would be successful to find a husband, I’m telling you what was successful for me when I was dating to weed out all the fuckboys and find the guy who actually wanted to marry me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:17 PM
-2

I’m not a vending machine that you put some token into and sex comes out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:15 PM
2

The rule isn’t “no sex unless he’s really attractive.” It’s no sex if he’s someone I’d want a serious relationship and potentially marriage with. Mostly because I didn’t want to get emotionally invested in someone only to realize they didn’t actually like me but instead were only using me for sex. It’s pretty gross that you seem to think the only value I have is sex. The whole point of this was to find someone who doesn’t think that way about women and who values me as a human being rather than …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:10 PM
2

Yeah. When I was dating, most of the guys would just ghost after they realized they weren’t getting quick sex. Like 90% of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 04:03 PM
2

How many guys do you think are willing to fake a friendship with a woman for >6 months just so he can pretend to want a relationship with her so that he can have sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 03:42 PM
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So if you are the woman that is making a man wait for 2 months, unless he really really likes you he is moving on to someone who is not going to make him wait. ​ This is literally the point of making the guy wait. If he doesn't really really like you, he will move on. That is what you want. Also when people talk about making the guy wait for sex, you're not really making him wait for sex. You're making him wait for sex WITH YOU. He's probably having sex with other people. That's ok. You can eith…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 03:28 PM
2

Women can end a relationship too. Actually I'm pretty sure women initiate more divorces than men do. I don't understand what your point is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:58 PM
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I’m literally talking about being friends with a guy you consider a prospect for marriage. So no, it’s not “leading him on.” You actually do like the guy, but you don’t know each other well enough to realistically decide if you’re compatible enough for a ltr and potential marriage. That’s why you’d be friends with him for months first. If a guy offers commitment but you two barely know each other, that’s kind of a red flag imo. But if a guy offers commitment when you’ve been friends for months, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:44 PM
2

Yeah exactly. That’s why as a woman who wants commitment, it’s smart to wait for the guy to offer commitment first before having sex with him, which is what I’m advocating for.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:39 PM
5

I don’t feel responsible for the things other people post. People post stuff I don’t agree with in a lot of subs that I’m in. It’s reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:27 PM
0

It actually has nothing to do with that and more to do with finding a guy to marry and have a family with. It’s not that having sex cheapens your value, it’s that people waste your time if you let them, so you can’t let them do that. Otherwise, eventually, you’ll be too old to reproduce and even if you find the best guy ever and marry him, you’re not getting the family you always dreamed about.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 02:10 PM
5

Yeah it’s true it doesn’t agree with fds rules. I, personally, don’t agree with a lot of fds rules. I do think that overall it’s a good idea to have a sub like that though, for women, and some of their messaging is great. But the stuff about getting a guy to spend a lot of money on you right away isn’t for me. Once we were in a relationship and especially now that we’re married, I do expect him to pay for most things and he does. But I’ve found guys that spend a lot in the initial getting to kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:59 PM
5

I didn’t “utilize it as a tactic” for anything. I’m having a hard time even understanding what you’re trying to say here, tbh. I didn’t “dangle” anything. I didn’t have him doing boyfriend stuff for me without reciprocating with girlfriend stuff for him. We were just friends until we were in a relationship, then we were in a relationship. It seems like you’re saying I should have given him sex before he gave me commitment, and somehow you think that would have been “fair”. I don’t follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:09 PM
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I mean, maybe, if you consider hanging out with me as friends to be “courting” me. He was under no illusions though, like I didn’t tell him I was his girlfriend and when we did go on dates they either didn’t cost anything or we each paid for ourselves. He also was fucking other people during that time, which is fine because we weren’t in a relationship, we were just getting to know each other. As soon as we defined the relationship we both stopped seeing anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 01:01 PM
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Nope. I don’t owe every guy sex just because I had sex with one guy. The logic there is pretty bizarre imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 12:52 PM
5

Nope. I don’t owe any man sex in exchange for his friendship. If a guy doesn’t want to be my friend without me having sex with him he can walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 12:51 PM
0

As the original author of the post you linked, I feel the need to defend it. It literally says to be friends with the guy first before getting into a relationship. I don’t see what’s wrong with this or how anyone could criticize it. If you’re friends with someone, you’re not having sex, nor are you in a relationship, nor is there any reasonable expectation that you’d be celibate. It’s not dishonest. Also most guys would be sleeping around also during this time, so you’re not even doing anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 12:21 PM
0

Nah. The fact that waatgm is allowed indicates that pretty much anything goes on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/21 11:51 AM
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Men who don’t value a woman’s friendship are trash. They only see women as a potential sex partner and if she’s not putting out they discard her and move on to the next. Let these guys weed themselves out imo. I’m only interested in men who see me as a human being. It’s a good test, honestly. Try “friend zoning” a guy and if he still wants to be your friend, that’s the only way you know he was really your friend in the first place. If he doesn’t then he never actually liked you but really just w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 06:10 PM
14

Gross 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 05:05 PM
109

Once I had encephalitis and was throwing up for 15 days straight. At some point during this all the laundry was dirty and a lot of it was covered in vomit. My nvm ex wouldn’t go to the laundromat even though I could barely stand up. So I went and just tried not to get sick. I can’t even imagine what it would be like to be that selfish. Also my mom, when I was born, left my older brother who was a toddler home with dad while she was in the hospital giving birth, and she said that they totally tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:18 AM
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I’ve suggested before that if men don’t want to be baby trapped they might refrain from sex with women they wouldn’t want to reproduce with. They don’t seem to like that idea much though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:59 PM
3

There are other entire subreddits created by women dedicated to figuring out how to avoid the type of men who would lead them on and use them for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 01:40 PM
2

I think this works on younger women but most women with a bit of experience can see right through it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:37 AM
2

What went wrong with the other 200 women you tried to date? You weren’t compatible with ANY of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:34 AM
2

Lol there’s no rule that says you have to date dozens of people each week.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:33 AM
23

Yeah I’ve tried to give something away for free online and after people kept ghosting me and/or making a plan to come get the thing and never showing up I finally just dumped it in a dumpster somewhere. Also renting out a room I had people set up times and then no show. Sometimes I would text and ask if they were still coming and they’d be like, “no, changed my mind, it’s too far from work/school/whatever” like you couldn’t either look at the address before you made the appointment or let me kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 09:31 AM
33

Was about to post this. Don’t get drunk. Or only get drunk if there are no guys around who would take advantage of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 02:16 PM
50

If guys don’t want to do any chores then they need to figure out how to earn enough money to pay for everything, including a maid and nanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:24 PM
20

I’ve thought about this before, specifically that infant daycare damages people’s ability to bond with others. The epidemic of people with attachment issues, particularly avoidant attachment style- I wouldn’t be surprised if it was correlated with being put into daycare at a very young age. It’s not good for a baby’s development- babies need a consistent caregiver who loves them and who they can depend on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 04:02 PM
57

60K is enough to live comfortably on as a single person in most of the us. It would be a struggle to support a family on that amount in anywhere but the most rural low cost of living areas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 11:33 AM
26

What they did to the black lady with the gap was also pretty extreme, I think they gave her veneers which they have to basically shave off all the enamel from your tooth and glue porcelain or something over it. It’s extreme to do that to perfectly healthy teeth, those teeth have to last the rest of her life. I’ve read horror stories of people with veneers who end up losing the teeth because of the damage or the veneers keep falling off. So insane to ask someone to do that when her teeth were abs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 03:08 AM
125

I remember watching the first couple seasons. After seeing how being on the show ruined Jael Strauss’s life I was like, this can’t possibly be good for anyone’s mental health, to be scrutinized that way based on looks and judged so harshly on tv in front of everyone, and the contestants on the show are so young to be dealing with this kind of crap. The whole thing is pretty unethical imo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 08:35 PM
5

My ex was like this. For years we lived together and I wasn’t allowed to have anything. Any thing that I did get, he would either make fun of it until I threw it away or just straight up break or destroy it. I finally left, bought my own house, and filled it with items I chose. It’s been amazing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:45 PM
692

Most millennials today can’t even think of having kids. They can’t afford it. Thinking of all the millennials I know, late 20s and early 30s who you’d think would be in their prime babymaking years, are renting a room in a shared apartment or a house with a bunch of other people, have tons of debt, and can barely afford to take care of themselves. This is especially true of the men, a lot of whom seem to have given up on ever getting married or having a family because they know they’ll never be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:05 AM
65

The thing is, a lot of guys would still marry a woman if they slept together on the first date, if that woman also happens to be compatible with them and what they consider wife material. Most guys are not going to feel that way about you, you just aren’t a good match for everyone you happen to go on a first date with. So if you go on 50 first dates in a year or two until you finally meet the guy you end up marrying, and you sleep with all of them on the first date, you’ve slept with 50 guys. Ho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 05:36 PM
60

I think one thing is their tolerance for mess is higher/ standards are lower. Obviously if they lived alone they eventually would have to take the trash out, and probably did, but only after there’s like 3 feet of crap stacked on top of the trash can and stuff spilling onto the floor. If you’re tidy and would never allow such a situation to occur, then the messiness threshold for taking out the trash is never reached for them, so they never end up doing it. Like maybe if I let the house become a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 11:05 AM
21

I had to switch gynos midway through my pregnancy because the one I have tried to force me to take antibiotics that I don’t actually need, and also just is overall an incompetent twit, and unapologetically so. Her being a woman didn’t seem to help unfortunately. That said, the only man I want near me when I’m giving birth is my husband. It’s uncomfortable to me to have a man poking around down there. I ended up transferring to a midwife practice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 10:55 PM
38

So honest. He’s looking for a traumatized woman so he can abuse her with no strings attached. If all men were this honest, the human race would die out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:57 PM
16

Lmao
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 01:20 PM
37

I’d say more than 90%. It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack. Assume they’re low value until they prove otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 07:14 PM
18

Yeah I guess it was the cheapest thing on the menu. He didn’t actually eat any of the tomatoes. Super weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 05:49 PM
16

Being the child of a jerk like this isn’t exactly a prize either. I lived that life and wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:06 PM
88

I went on a date with this guy who invited me out to a restaurant, then said he wasn’t hungry and only ordered drinks and a plate of tomato slices and proceeded to tell a bunch of boring stories about bachelor parties he’d been to. We were supposed to go to a comedy show after but I told him I couldn’t go because I still hadn’t had dinner, so he left and I ordered myself some food. The whole experience was pretty confusing honestly. Ohh yeah this other time a guy asked me out on a date to a bar,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 02:45 AM
1

Nah pretty sure all those guys are dead.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 05:00 PM
103

What they want is a ready supply of insecure women who will have sex with them for basically nothing in return. So by putting down single moms and other women who aren’t up to their standards, they’re trying to ruin women’s self worth enough that they can use us however they want and not feel bad about it because we deserved it anyway for being a single mom/ having tattoos/ being over 28 etc. If their goal was marriage to someone they deem “worthy” then they’d be after those women not complainin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:08 PM
0

Being from southern US isn’t the same as being uneducated.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 01:46 PM
59

I rarely ever wear makeup and no guy has ever complimented me on that, but the rare occasion I do put some on of course they notice and say something. Guys want women to wear makeup. Idk why they would say otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:47 AM
25

A lot of guys won’t clean but will complain if you don’t, or try to get you to clean up after them. It’s as ridiculous as it sounds, but they still do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:15 AM
27

If you’re going to pay your own way, the best thing is to get roommates because they don’t expect you to clean up after them, cook for them, provide emotional support, take care of their pets, etc. but any guy I’ve ever lived with while being romantically involved did expect me to do all those things in addition to paying half or more of the bills. At some point I said enough, and decided the only way I’d ever live with a man again is if we were married and he was paying most if not all the bill…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:12 AM
282

It’s not all men. It’s only like 98% of men. So functionally all men. It’s so shitty. Especially when you’re friends with a guy and he treats you with respect, like a human being, but then you learn how he treats his wife or the women he dates. Men don’t see women as human beings and it’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:38 AM
43

My experience with trying to date mutual friends or people I’d met organically is that they didn’t want to get involved with anyone who knew their friends because they knew they were trash and wanted to separate and insulate their dating lives from their social lives. Basically a lot of guys don’t want to date anyone they can’t screw over and then ghost without any repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 03:18 PM
30

My husband also waited over 6 months, that’s how I knew he was the one. A guy will wait forever for the woman he really wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:46 AM
2

I met my husband on tinder actually but otherwise yeah it would have had to be through a mutual acquaintance. My husband and I actually knew a lot of the same people anyway which we realized after we met, we’re both very introverted though so who knows if we would have eventually ended up talking to each other without online dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 05:02 PM
41

I don’t either, and I also usually don’t find myself attracted to the kinds of guys who would cold approach a woman in public.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 11:30 PM
5

I mean, I don’t need all that stuff, or if I did, realistically I could buy it for myself. But my husband wants to give me presents because he loves me. It’s fun to get presents. Why be in a relationship with someone who puts forth no effort?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 02:51 PM
144

They’ve been married one year. I wonder how long this marriage lasts. If I were this guy’s wife I would run away. I actually like doing housework but not on top of a 40 hour a week job. That sounds exhausting. Wtf is it with guys wanting a trad wife but also expecting her to work and pay for half of everything? Why would any woman say yes to this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:13 AM
30

Any guy who really wanted a family would have done something about that before he’s 43 ffs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 10:44 PM
15

Last year he probably picked a fight with her on Valentine’s Day so he could ignore her all day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 01:26 PM
37

I don’t want to date anyone who doesn’t value my friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:37 PM
30

I decided a while ago that I wouldn’t date anyone without being friends first. If I’m not good enough for friendship then why would you want to date me? I weeded out so many guys that way who pretended to be interested but were really only after quick sex so that they could suddenly realize they didn’t see a future together (I assume). Also you find these gems who say they don’t want female friends, or they “have enough friends already.” Those are code for, “I don’t see women as human beings.” I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:35 PM
12

Once I was at the tattoo shop getting a tattoo and some girl came in with her boyfriend, she looked really young, maybe 19 or 20, and she was getting her boyfriend’s name in script on her lower back. So now this girl has “Larry” tattooed across her back, no one tried to talk her out of it either. I guess she could at least get it covered up. Idk what the lady in the op could do. Suicide maybe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:25 AM
91

She should take legal action against him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:21 AM
19

My mom did this. She had two kids with a guy who treated her like his mom. They’d been together for years by the time my brother and I were born so it’s not like she didn’t know what kind of person he was- she’ll tell you about all the crappy, abusive things he did to her all through their relationship. I’m just like, what on earth made you think he’d be a good dad then?? But I think she didn’t think he would be a good dad, she just really wanted kids and felt like it was now or never because sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:32 PM
35

Any guy who waited until their 40s to think about having a family couldn’t have possibly wanted one all that much. I really don’t understand these guys or why they think young women would want to make a family with someone old enough to be their dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:10 AM
4

I was anxious and then after being treated like garbage by avoidants for so long I became fearful and the only way I was able to heal it was to stop dating anyone who wasn’t secure. Like I had to get guys by whether they had a secure attachment style and then drop them immediately if I realized they didn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:55 PM
3

Yeah. My house went from $170K when I bought it a couple years ago to about $220K now. It’s unsustainable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:52 PM
6

One of my coworkers keeps talking about buying a house with her boyfriend. I’m like, you mean after you get married, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 09:49 PM
13

All I want is a beautiful woman with an education and a good job who wants to cook and clean and serve my every whim. Why is it so hard? I’m an electrician apprentice ffs I should have women fighting over who gets to be my new mommy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:16 PM
25

He wants all this but also wants her to have a good job so he doesn’t have to provide for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 02:14 PM
10

You can’t make anyone love you or treat you well. The advice should be how to walk away from situations and people if they aren’t giving you what you want. That is the only power you have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:30 PM
-6

Yeah, some of us actually want to be housewives and this thread is kind of shitting all over that tbh. Doing housework and taking care of your family isn’t oppressive. I’ve even met women who won’t cook and clean for themselves when they live alone because it’s beneath them somehow, my grandmother was like that. If a guy can hold up his end of the marriage, provide financially, take care of the kids when he isn’t working, help out with whatever chore list I give him on the weekends, and apprecia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:03 PM
1

If he wants to call her his wife, he should marry her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:58 PM
118

Having kids so you have someone to entertain you when you’re old is probably not the smartest move. Figure out how to entertain yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 03:24 AM
48

I actually work part time. Like 24 hours a week, every week. My husband still does chores. Not half of the chores or even close to that really, but he does whatever I ask him without complaining. Also I know if I did want to hire someone to clean he wouldn’t say anything about it. This lady’s husband seems to just want to make her suffer/inconvenience her out of spite. And the fact he’s involved his mom in their relationship like this is pretty obnoxious too. I feel bad for her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 05:37 PM
15

We have to stop shaming women for being treated poorly by men. You sound like one of those guys on waatgm shaming women for being single moms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:57 PM
19

How should she “do better”? Should she get a time machine and go back and choose a different father for her child? It’s unfortunate that her kid’s dad is trash, and it’s not one of those things that can be changed. The kid is stuck with this trash for a dad. So I’m not really sure what you’re getting at with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:47 PM
29

Way to blame the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 08:13 PM
88

I would never have a baby for some man who won’t even marry me. Luckily I never had to have an abortion, but I know I would have because I could never let someone use me like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:13 PM
66

I understand wanting to keep the family together for the kid but I could never get past that kind of betrayal or trust someone again after he cheated, especially if I were the mother of his child. This man is trash and there’s no fixing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 02:04 PM
52

If my husband wants to eat he has to help me cook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 11:49 PM
15

Me too. I feel like the best part of my life started at 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 01:19 AM
77

The only male friends I’ve ever had who were real, true friends to me with no romantic interest whatsoever, were guys I played music with in bands. It’s like some switch flipped in their heads and they don’t really see me as a woman but instead just see me as a drummer. Any other guy who’s ever tried to be my “friend” was some variation of what you’ve described here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:21 PM
9

I’m not the person you asked, but I do like to date younger, or I did before I got married. For me, 3 years younger was my max. Like I was 31 dating 28 year olds and that was fine, but any younger than that and I wasn’t really interested. Ended up marrying a guy 2 1/2 years younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:33 PM
139

If he’s not sure after 5 years, it’s a no. Really two years in you should know. Definitely time to move on. I wish there were some way to make every woman understand, at as young an age as possible, that men will lead you on for as long as they can get away with, with no plans to ever marry you. I think most women won’t do this- they think of an LTR as building a future with someone, and that it’s eventually going to lead to marriage because otherwise what’s the point? But men don’t think of it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 07:50 PM
7

If men would stop having sex with women they don’t even like, maybe this wouldn’t be so big of a problem for them and they wouldn’t get “trapped” with kids with some woman they were just trying to use for sex a few times and then ghost. Maybe the problem is guys don’t take sex seriously enough and will literally sleep with anyone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:23 PM
1

Maybe it’s literally everyone else in my life’s fault but I’ve always heard that if all you meet are assholes all day then actually you are the asshole. So applied here I’d think if literally everyone I know is bad at getting me gifts, maybe it’s actually a problem with me and not them. I’m cool with it. If I never receive another gift in my entire life, that would be great vs getting more stuff I don’t want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:08 PM
21

Everyone is bad at getting me gifts, so I don’t see it that way.. I can’t remember the last time someone got me a gift I actually liked and didn’t feel burdened by. I don’t make a lot of space in my house for clutter or random items so a lot of times even though I might actually like something, I have nowhere to put it so I end up throwing it away. I always tell people not to get me a gift but they don’t listen and then I go through this whole thing of having to get rid of whatever they got me b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:18 PM
4

My age range when I was using apps was + or - 3 years but truthfully all the guys I ended up actually wanting to date were younger than I was. Maybe coincidence maybe not. Every time I’ve been approached by a guy 40+ in my early 30s I’m just like.. you want to get married and have a family now? What were you doing the past 20 years?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 06:19 PM
147

He might keep cheating anyway. When he says he doesn’t want to throw away everything they have, what he means is he doesn’t want her to leave and take half of their stuff. Not that he loves her and doesn’t want to give up that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:07 PM
37

Men who have sex with other men are much, much more likely to have an STD. If I were going to take that kind of risk, I’d want to at least know what I was signing up for. I know you can insist he get tested but what if there’s some new STD that there isn’t a test for yet? At some point HIV was in that category, no one had ever heard of it and then people started dying and the vast majority of those people were men having sex with other men. It’s risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:15 PM
14

Liberal feminism is a scam.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:32 PM
22

It’s crazy that they banned all the feminist subs and then let subs like TRP, MGTOW and especially WAATGM stand. It’s like women are the last group that it’s ok to hate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:31 PM
80

Men only like feminism when it gets them easy sex or women who don’t mind paying for half of everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 03:29 PM
6

His name suggests he frequents the misc which is like an incel/troll forum. So none of this is surprising.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 09:06 PM
125

A guy who I met through friends tried to date me. He has four kids with, I think, 3 different moms, one of the moms passed away and he still doesn’t have custody of any of those kids. Idk where the kids are actually but they come to see him for the weekend sometimes. What could a guy like that possibly have to offer anyone, when he can’t even take care of his own kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 01:41 PM
152

Just tell him you’re not ready to have sex yet, and that you want to get to know each other better first. Don’t be afraid to leave or ask him to leave if he keeps pushing you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:38 PM
19

I would love to be invisible to men. That sounds amazing. At 33, it hasn’t happened yet. I still get approached in public, even in my frumpy clothes, with my hair in a messy bun, no makeup, and my wedding ring on.. I wish guys just didn’t notice me. That would be amazing. Getting harassed by randos when I’m trying to do the grocery shopping or whatever is not as fun as it maybe sounds like it would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:35 PM
9

I’m 33 and my husband is 30. Older men tried to date me but why would I choose them when I could have someone my age or younger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:34 PM
29

It actually depends on the woman, some women have a really shallow vagina/ the guys dick doesn’t have to be super long to hit it. So just because a guy’s dick hit someone’s cervix doesn’t mean much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 01:23 PM
206

The age difference is a big red flag. If a guy won’t date a 30s woman when he’s in his 30s, he’s not going to be satisfied with one when he’s in his 40s either. He’ll always want to keep trading in for a younger one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:23 PM
7

The reason it’s so much easier for women to get a date is because a lot of men are willing to go on a date with pretty much anyone. They’re also willing to have sex with people they have no intention of building a relationship with and feel no connection to. Basically it’s very easy for women to find someone to use them and take advantage of them for sex. It’s not so easy for a woman to find a man who will actually be a good partner for her. The difference is men get left alone by women who don’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:23 PM
4

Even if a guy’s house is clean it’s not necessarily a green flag.. some of them pay a housekeeper because they like a clean house, but won’t clean it themselves, and then if they ever move in with a woman they’ll stop paying for that because now they have wifey to clean up after them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:58 AM
6

I used to have roommates and I was kind of militant about cleaning. I mean I didn’t feel that way, I thought it was reasonable. My rule was no storing dirty dishes in the sink, either wash them or keep them in your room/out of the common area. I was able to screen people and find roommates who also liked this rule, so I figured it must not be too crazy. I think we all liked knowing we’d be able to use the kitchen at any time without having to work around someone else’s mess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 12:56 AM
15

This is how my marriage is. It’s the first relationship I’ve ever had that felt like this, too. I’m so glad I didn’t settle. Our relationship is not work, I mean, life is work and we’re doing that work together as a team, but for us relating to each other, there is no work, only peace and comfort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 05:28 PM
139

The problem I found with vegan men is that they’re spoiled for options. None of them wanted to commit because there are so many more vegan women than men, and lots of vegan women won’t consider dating a non vegan. You end up with like 5 vegan women for every vegan man so of course they want to keep their options open. This is even for vegan men who are broke, live with their parents, not physically attractive, even ones who don’t own a car and live with several roommates. They all had a way over…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:19 AM
130

Guys don’t realize how much they’re asking when they say they want a woman who stays in shape and also wears makeup daily (which is what I assume he means by “has a classy vibe”). I have time for only one of those, because I have a life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 01:13 AM
214

Any time I’ve stopped wanting sex in a relationship it’s because the guy is acting like a complete fuckwit, or a child expecting me to take care of them. You can’t treat a woman like she’s your mom and then expect her to want to have sex with you. The other thing that bothers me about men wanting women to have sex even though they don’t want to is that it actually is painful to do so, which guys don’t realize or care about, they think the woman should just do it... like for a guy I think even if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 05:54 PM
49

I thought the reason people say not to use ultimatums is because you shouldn’t have to- if it’s gotten to the point where just asking the person to change their behavior hasn’t worked for so long that you’re considering issuing an ultimatum, the relationship probably isn’t good anyway because if they really gave a crap about you, all you’d have to say is, “hey this bothers me, please stop doing it,” and they’d stop, no ultimatum needed. At least, that’s how I like to think about it. I’m done bar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 03:23 AM
1

I took this to mean they got married with a cheap ring and then 14 years into their marriage he got her an upgrade, not that they dated for 14 years before getting married because he couldn’t afford a ring. I’m kind of ok with it, but I know this isn’t going to be a popular opinion here. I’m not really a jewelry person and don’t understand blowing a lot of money on a ring. Especially for people who got married super young like religious people tend to do, the guy probably wasn’t established in h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 02:17 PM
15

It’s not a real engagement without a date set
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:43 AM
24

I’m married to a mechanical engineer. I love him so much. He doesn’t have low emotional iq, but he has told me that when he was younger he had a hard time in social situations because he was kind of awkward. It’s something he had to learn to do. But by the time I met him, when he was 28, he was pretty good in social situations, although still very introverted which isn’t a problem because I am too. He’s hilarious, that’s probably one of the best things about him. We get each other’s sense of hum…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 11:25 AM
99

They will pretty much all do this to you if you let them. That’s why you don’t have sex after a few dates. Wait until you know you both want a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:56 PM
3

I know some late 20s and early 30s guys who are at a great age for settling down and starting a family if that’s what they wanted, but they all seem to think they can just wait until they’re late 30s or early 40s and find a much younger woman at that point. They’ll say they eventually do want a family, but at 32 they think they’re way too young to be settling down. They’re aware that it’s best for a woman to have kids before 35, but yet they think this age limit has nothing to do with them becau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 05:17 PM
9

My husband doesn’t like football but he plays magic the gathering online.. I’m ok with it because he doesn’t let it interfere with anything else. It’s like a normal hobby he does in his actual free time, not an addiction that affects other parts of his life. And if I go to him and interrupt him while playing and ask him to do anything else, whether it’s cook dinner together, watch tv together, have sex, go to the park, etc, he always turns it off immediately. It’s about priorities I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:36 PM
14

He sort of is being a hypocrite if he’s having time to work out daily while she’s raising his seven kids, breastfeeding the youngest and cooking them all meals from scratch daily. If he really wants her to get back in shape he could offer to get her a membership at CrossFit or orange theory or something and make sure she has time to go by taking over some of her domestic work. But I guess it’s easier just to body shame her. Disgusting. Also... I say this as someone who loves working out and woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:21 PM
5

My husband owned a house already when we met and also took me on dates & vacations. The guy should have his finances together AND be willing to show you a good time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:17 PM
8

Also the guys who are in grad school, law school or medical school. The woman who supported them through all that won’t be the one they marry. You’re the one keeping his bed warm until he levels up enough to go after the woman he really wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:14 PM
7

The problem is likely that they’re going for women way out of their league. Any time I’ve had male friends complain about not getting matches or dates and then asked them to show me their apps, I ALWAYS find that they’re only swiping/messaging the top 5-10% of women based solely on looks. If the people you want to date don’t want you, and the people who want you aren’t who you want to date, either stay single or improve yourself until you can attract the ones you really want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:48 PM
42

The house becomes a disaster and eventually the man will start shaming you about the house being messy and abusing you over it, because of course it’s your responsibility to clean everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:41 PM
141

I was 29 by the time I learned all the hard lessons. At least I know if I have a daughter or if any of my nieces ever come to me for advice I’ll be able to tell them the truth about men instead of just raising up a new generation of pickmes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:28 PM
72

It’s ridiculous honestly. If you actually go and read red pill, they hate single moms, women who’ve had many sex partners, and divorced women. They say they pump and dump women because the women are trash and not good enough for commitment because they’ve let men use them before. So you’d think they would love this sub. It’s teaching women how to not get taken advantage of by shitty men, how to avoid giving men anything if they aren’t marriage material. So logically this would lead to fewer of w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:21 PM
63

If they told you, and also the other women they’re seeing, you’d all try to set up a date for the same day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 12:20 AM
49

You’re right that there’s no changing them. I was with a lvm for years and kept setting stricter and stricter boundaries to stop him taking advantage of me or embarrassing me in public, to the point where at the end we were only roommates because I couldn’t do anything for or with him without being taken advantage of. So I finally just left because what was the point of staying? I thought at some point he would realize that I had stopped cooking for him because he would pull something like the g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 05:54 PM
52

Any adult should be able to cook. Kids learn to do it. Any adult who can’t cook is missing a basic life skill. It’s not cute or funny to not be able to read and follow a recipe, it’s sad. It’s also usually not that they can’t cook but more that they think it’s beneath them, for whatever reason, so they never tried to learn. For me an adult of any gender that says they’re “useless in the kitchen” is a red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:52 PM
27

Maybe they will say they’ll clean up but then when it’s time to actually do so, they’ll get super drunk and be like, “oh we’ll do it tomorrow” or something... that’s usually how it goes. So then at least they offered but you can’t leave that mess in the kitchen all night plus you know you need the dishes for breakfast tomorrow..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:20 PM
31

It depends. If you like extroverts then likely the HMV extroverts aren’t on tinder or other apps. But it’s possible that the introverted ones could be. Most of the guys on apps are utter trash though, and I’m talking >98% of them, so it is tough to weed through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 07:18 PM
27

This is the problem, women not being able to afford housing. I was 29 before I was able to afford a place of my own. All the time between age 17 and 29 I was living with various shitheads in various abusive situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:33 PM
34

She asks how she can get it to stop.. you can get it to stop by dumping him. I remember being like this when I was 19, and it’s painful to think about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 01:28 PM
56

There would be way less children. That’s probably a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 11:18 AM
8

Both the guys I met on hinge turned out to be batshit crazy. They love-bombed me, became obsessed with me the first time they met me. One of them started naming our kids on the second date. It scared me off hinge. The tinder guys are bad with their not wanting any commitment but the hinge guys actually seemed dangerous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:12 PM
8

This doesn’t happen to me, but I really don’t talk that much and if someone ignores me one time I pretty much never try to tell them anything again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:08 PM
228

The old man and young man are both trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:21 AM
1

It’s true. They do end up hurting everyone around them on a regular basis. I was just trying to explain why sometimes they do the right thing. It doesn’t make up for all the awful things they do, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 11:18 AM
13

I am not sure. I think maybe he didn’t know he could dispute it, or he just felt responsible and knew that I was his kid and thought he should pay child support. My dad sort of loves me in his own way, he’s just a terrible person and can’t actually put anyone else’s needs over his own, even though he believes that he should. I mean he literally is a narcissist. It’s a personality disorder. I think deep down he wants to be a good person, he just can’t because it’s so, so hard for him to not alway…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 12:10 AM
6

She wanted child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 11:37 PM
26

One day I just happened to notice it when I had my birth certificate out because we had to get it out for school or something. I thought it was weird, especially since I have his last name. So my birth certificate just has my mom, with her maiden name, and then no father but me there with inexplicably a different last name than her. It doesn’t make any difference to me that he’s not on there; I don’t remember ever being upset about it, just thinking it was kind of strange. The only time I’ve eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 10:12 PM
6

The worst thing is even if you explain this to men, they can’t admit it. They have to believe that it’s some inherent superiority that men have, that even if women were given equal opportunity as men they wouldn’t ever be as successful. Their fragile egos can’t bear the thought that actually their privilege has contributed to their success.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:08 PM
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Women can still have sex while pregnant usually, and sometimes even if they want to, their husband won’t want to have sex with them because they don’t like the way her body looks while pregnant. I can’t even imagine how shitty it would feel to be rejected by your husband because you’re carrying his child, only to have him cheat on you with someone else during such a vulnerable time, but I know it happens to a lot of women. My dad had an affair with one of his employees while my mom was pregnant,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 06:40 PM
8

My husband is the first guy I’ve ever been in a relationship with who liked me as much or more than I liked him. All the other ones would use their indifference toward me as a way to manipulate me into doing things for them, wanting me to earn their affection by doing them favors, cooking for them, buying them stuff, dressing up in slutty outfits so they could show me off, doing degrading sexual acts that I wasn’t comfortable with, etc. My husband doesn’t expect any of that. All I have to do for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:49 PM
110

Once I got into an argument with a bunch of guys on a drumming forum about why there aren’t more high level female drummers, or other musicians in general. I told them it’s because most girls have a ton of chores to do and are treated like a maid while their brother has to maybe cut the grass once a week if that, so boys have way more time to practice their instrument. The thread ended up getting locked because they got out of hand arguing with me about it. It’s true though- well for me and my f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:04 PM
31

They’ve been together five years and have a child together and he’s like, “I want to get married one day, I’m just not ready now.” What could he possibly be waiting for? He doesn’t want to marry her. He likes having something to hold over her head. She needs to throw this one back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 01:59 PM
79

I’m 5’6” and every guy who is 5’7” is shorter than I am. The 5’8” guys are about my height.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:40 PM
50

The idea of being completely financially dependent on anyone is terrifying. You can’t let anyone have that much power over you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 03:04 PM
15

I’m willing to take the lead on most housework in my marriage because my husband pays for pretty much everything. I work part time and use my earnings to buy myself whatever I want while he pays all the household bills, so in return I do most of the vacuuming, mopping, yard work, maintenance cleaning around the house, wash the bedsheets and all that. But there is some stuff I will not do and that’s stuff that’s just straight me cleaning after him. For meals we both eat (he usually cooks or we co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 12:35 PM
249

The worst thing about this is that she apparently has no access to their money. She would have to ask her mom for money for a train ticket? She should be able to just take the money from their joint account or something. Her having zero access to money is financial abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 11:59 AM
34

I can’t with guys who expect me to wear makeup. I just won’t do it. Maybe on Halloween. Also if the guy expects me to wear uncomfortable shoes. I don’t get why they think it’s ok to have this expectation for a woman when men don’t do any of these things. I’m a human being. I don’t have hours to paint my face to look “presentable” to you. This is my face. This is what it looks like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 12:26 AM
25

Yeah pregnancy kind of sucks. I’m sure it sucks way worse when your partner is a selfish asshole like this guy. I feel bad for his wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:57 PM
2

Do you have any sources for women having the symptoms of bpd while in abusive relationships even though there’s nothing really wrong with them? Asking because when I was a teenager living with my abusive father I had symptoms of bpd but it completely went away as I got older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:51 PM
30

I’m never using the toilet again thanks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 09:32 PM
25

Where do these guys find the time to chase women when they have a wife and three kids at home?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 11:55 PM
6

I can’t really argue.. my husband is 2 1/2 years younger than I am. Old guys used to try to date me and I was like, if you really wanted a relationship I’d think you would have found one before late 30s. What especially got me was the 40+ guys who would claim they wanted a family. If you wanted kids, why not do something about that before you’re 40? What reason could you possibly have for waiting until you’re 45 to settle down, if that was a priority in life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 04:58 PM
107

This is the way. I’m having a hard time believing that this is even a real post and not a troll.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:58 PM
28

The sweetest thing is him putting the phone down and actually having a conversation with me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 06:56 PM
33

They complain about women only going for the top 20% of men but it’s really men who only go for women way out of their league. Then complain about it bc of course a pretty college student doesn’t want anything with your 30+, dad bod, balding self.. maybe try dating someone your own age? But the thing is these guys don’t want someone their own age because they want to pretend that THEY are still college age/ early 20s and never have to grow up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:40 PM
7

When I read this I think the guy is probably super messy, like cleaning up after a toddler. So not just the regular vacuuming and dusting but also he leaves crumbs and dirty dishes all over the house, cooks and leaves pots and pans with food stuck all over them, shaves and leaves hair covering everything in the bathroom, walks through the house with muddy shoes on every day and doesn’t even attempt to wipe them at the door. Plus he has dogs that he lets roll around in mud and then come in and ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:25 PM
2

Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 02:08 PM
6

I have a friend that doesn’t use soap, he just rinses off and puts rubbing alcohol on his armpits or something. Really weird guy, but he never smelled bad or anything. I also didn’t get that close to him or sleep with him so idk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:44 PM
6

I dated this one guy who owned one towel and would basically never wash it. Also I think when he finished showering he wouldn’t try to shake any of the water off or wait for any of it to drip off of him before getting the towel, so the towel was always soaking wet. You could smell the mildew smell from the hallway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:35 PM
21

I’m not getting my husband a ps5. Not that he would ever ask me for one. He can buy it himself with the money he makes from his job..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:31 PM
56

For me it was my dad who wouldn’t let me paint my nails, especially my toenails, because it’s “too sexy”. I always thought it was weird to consider that sexy, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve decided it must be because he has a foot fetish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:23 PM
19

They’re talking about women who are 10/10, 18 year old virgins that they want to marry. They could love a woman like that. The women they sleep with and lead on are whores and unworthy of even basic compassion, don’t you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:31 AM
1

All the vegan men I’ve dated were fuckboys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 12:34 AM
1

We don’t have a kid yet, I’m pregnant. But he’s cool with paying all the bills while I stay home with the kid. And on the weekends I’m going to work and he’s going to stay with the kid so, to answer your question, yes? He is going to stay home so I can go to work on the weekends. But no I really wouldn’t want that, for me to go to work full time and him stay home with the child. The problem I have is guys who want to have kids but also want their wife to pay half the bills in addition to doing l…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 03:59 PM
3

A lot of women want to be stay at home moms. Most of my high school friends never went to college but instead just found a guy to marry and had some kids. I also wanted that when I was younger- I remember my parents and other people asking me what I wanted to be when I grew up and I would say I wanted to be a stay at home mom. I learned pretty quickly that this wasn’t acceptable and that I basically wasn’t allowed to want that, it was discouraged. My parents expected me to go to college and have…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/20 02:14 PM
22

Most of them swipe right on literally everyone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 12:49 PM
6

I think a lot of them think the guy will grow up if he becomes a father. Maybe some of them do, how would we know because you’d never hear about them. For me the risk was far too high to take that chance. I decided a long time ago I was fine with never having kids if the alternative was to reproduce with some lazy asshole who would neglect them and put it all on me to take care of. Women need to believe that they deserve better, that they should keep looking until they find someone actually wort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 12:15 AM
1

If I were rejected by a guy, I wouldn’t think that I was less attractive. I know I still look the same as before he rejected me, and that some people would still find me attractive. I would just think I wasn’t his type. There are guys who are generally considered to be classically attractive who I wouldn’t be attracted to, doesn’t mean they’re ugly, just not my cup of tea. I would think, oh this guy must not like pale women with athletic body type, or whatever, maybe he only dates very curvy wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/20 01:50 PM
1

I haven’t heard of this. This doesn’t happen in the world I live in. The only place I’ve ever heard of any of this is in red pill lala land. Also I don’t think it’s accurate to describe a woman’s sexual access as one of her most valuable assets. It’s hardly valuable at all. The market is pretty flooded at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/20 12:33 AM
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People have different expectations for a hookup vs their husband. Nothing”funny” about it. I don’t care if a hookup leaves dirty dishes all over his house- it’s his house, not mine, so not my problem. I’m telling you, even if a woman married Chad she’d end up divorcing him too if he was lazy and took advantage of her. The reason women divorce their husbands is because some guys are so difficult to live with that it’s easier to be a single mom than deal with their bullshit. If a guy was a positiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 09:06 PM
1

I wanted to get married for the financial benefits. Putting each other on our health insurance if we wanted to, being entitled to the other person’s social security if he dies first and earned more than I did, him being able to make medical decisions for me in the event I wasn’t able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 05:02 PM
3

I think this happens way less than is claimed. Usually the thought process for a woman deciding to divorce goes something like, the couple has kids, the guy expects to not have to do any of the hard work like cleaning up after the kids but instead just play with them when it’s convenient for him but dump as much of the actual work on his wife as possible, including making even more work for her by not even cleaning up after himself. The wife is so disgusted by this behavior that she doesn’t feel…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 04:26 PM
2

Their incentive would be that they want a family. If they don’t, then you’re right, they have no reason to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 04:16 PM
6

I think that if this were true then women wouldn’t have such high standards for their partners. Maybe it’s wishful thinking that women don’t care about looks. Maybe in past generations it seemed that women didn’t care about looks because they were more willing to settle due to lack of other options besides marriage for securing financial support. Nowadays women don’t have to settle for anyone, which is why guys who are unattractive have a hard time finding women willing to date or marry them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 04:13 PM
3

Do the children of tradcucks always grow up to be tradcucks themselves, though?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 04:07 PM
2

I have heard that it’s different in Europe. I can only speak for the US because that’s where I live. In the US, my experience with the millennial generation men is that they kind of know it’s not fair for them not to help with the cleaning, but they just really don’t want to do it and are terrible at it anyway. They’ll do it if you remind them and tell them exactly what needs to be done, but the entire responsibility of managing the household and knowing what to do when is something they never l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 12:47 PM
1

Guys just aren’t that good at keeping a clean house, on average. It probably has something to do with their upbringing. Hopefully the next generation will be more equal, but I know when I was growing up he household chores that I and my siblings and friends were expected to do were very gendered, so it’s not surprising that most guys who never had to clean as kids and only had to cut the grass then grew up into men who don’t know how to or expect to have to clean but instead only know how to cut…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 12:37 PM
3

There are other ways of contributing to a relationship besides financial ones. I think a lot of women want the man to pick up more of the financial responsibility because she knows he isn’t going to cook or clean as much as she does. It’s one thing to clean up after a man who is paying your way, that’s sort of fair, but if you’re cleaning after him and paying for him you’re basically just a mom to a man child.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 10:19 AM
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