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FDS HUMORCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 05:37 PM
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QUEEN SH*TCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:03 PM
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NAH, SISCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:09 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?CatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:59 PM
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THE AUDACITY OF SCROTESCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 10:37 PM
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TRIGGER WARNINGCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 11:33 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:01 PM
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FDS HUMORCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 03:54 AM
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SEEKING ADVICECatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 10:17 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:50 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTECatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:35 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:40 PM
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DISCUSSIONCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:08 PM
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DISCUSSIONCatSweets/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 11:11 PM
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I've lived alone for 7 years, now I'm back with my family (temporarily, I'm saving for a down payment on a condo). It's been only one month by I already felt like dying multiple times 😅 Living alone was the best thing I ever did in my life. I've never lived with a man (only family and roommates) and never will. I need my space and my peace. Can't wait to have my own house and be alone with my cat again sighs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/22 03:00 AM
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It's always like this 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:23 PM
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They really have no shame!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:09 AM
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That's why I don't trust male "feminists", even when their content is directed (supposedly) to other men. Something similar happened in Brazil recently: a psychology student, who made a lot of posts on sexism and toxic masculinity, was exposed for plagiarizing a female author and psychologist. The first time she complained to him about the plagiarism, he BLOCKED HER but kept copying her content!!! And after he was exposed, he made a half-ass apology saying that he had blocked her because he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/22 05:42 PM
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That comic reminded me of a guy I used to date many years ago. He was talking about how society values individualism nowadays, and how he used to sit by strangers on the bus even when there were free seats, just to force this "anti-individualism" I then said "You know you terrorized every woman you did that to, right?" and he was SHOCKED. It never even crossed his mind that women are routinely victims of harassment in public transportation and that, by seating besides a woman alone when there we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 09:03 PM
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It does make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 04:16 PM
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That reminds me of one day when I was in a bus, distracted, sitting by the window. The bus was stopped in traffic. A man went on the street, came up to my window, knocked on it, waved at me when I looked, and then went away. That scrote just needed to invade my life and force me to acknowledge his presence, for absolutely nothing. They are pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/22 03:12 AM
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It's interesting to know that a parent can legally change a child's name in the US. In my country, after the child is registered, their name can't be changed until they're 18 and they choose another name themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/22 06:19 PM
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Why can't he look for the game walkthrough by himself???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 09:03 PM
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It's always the old scrotes 🙄 I take roller skating classes at a public square, there's always people looking in passing, but the only ones who stop and keep staring are the old men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 02:37 PM
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I used to watch The Big Bang Theory long ago (yes, eventually I got fed up with the misogyny and dropped it), and a big example of this is Howard. He's UGLY AF, short, lives with his overbearing mother, acts like a PUA wannabe with women, and when Bernadette comes along - a successful and beautiful woman who likes him enough to be in a relationship with him - Howard tell his friends he's not sure about her because HE THINKS HE CAN DO BETTER. He ended up marrying her anyway. This is a good exampl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/22 04:01 PM
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Look at the edit, she already did. Now I bet the guy will dump her in less then a month and she'll be 22k poorer. 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/22 05:13 PM
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I think the only time I ever saw a man mention his wife's name in the description was with Marie Kondo's husband... Other than that, famous or anonymous, it's always the women tagging their SOs, never the men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 07:37 PM
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He said his flat tire messed up with everything but the tire got flat before he met his ex that day - didn't he have, like, from January 2nd to February 12th to plan something? Or did he forget that Valentine's Day existed until the day before LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 03:36 AM
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Here in Brazil that time of the year is usually Carnaval time, so the male behavior is similar: they break up with their girlfriends or ghost their dates to enjoy the festivities, and then come back as if nothing happened 🙄 A former co-worker of mine said that he postponed asking the girl he was dating to be his girlfriend until after the Carnaval, so that could hook up with other women "in peace".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 07:06 PM
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I found it after that big purge Reddit made on "hateful" subs that ended up deleting a lot of radical feminist spaces - I saw a list somewhere of subs that would probably be deleted next, and FDS was one of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 02:26 PM
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I learned this one in this sub and I'm so looking forward to use it 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:41 PM
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It's very plausible. Last week I read in the news that a woman in my country's army was dismissed of service because she had an OF. Some colleague of hers "found out" and took it to the higher command, and they dismissed her because it "tarnished the image of the organization" or something Oddly enough, a male soldier who was caught drug trafficking some years ago wasn't dismissed, i wonder why 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:39 PM
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This! I'm a software engineer and men in the industry always think that they're much better than they really are. I bet he thought "how could my friend be passed over in favor of that w*ore??? I'll make sure she can't steal any other man's opportunity", and that's why he outed her OF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 06:34 PM
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I'm reporting this survey for giving me depression 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/22 07:13 PM
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I don't really like any talk during sex other than the absolute necessary - I can't concentrate when a guy is talking too much LOL But I don't mind some flirty/"dirty" talk before or after, as long as it's not derogatory. I've never been called a sl*t/wh*re or anything like that in bed, and this type of talk disgusts me. I won't tolerate a man calling me a wh*re on the streets, let alone on my own bed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 03:52 AM
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It happens to me too. I can't help but wonder "Am I ugly? Is this what I deserve?", because it's rare that men show interest (outside OLD), and when they do, it's always the ugly and undesirable ones. I wish I could at least experience having hot and handsome men showing interest in me like many FDSers here - it would be great for my ego 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 02:49 PM
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That's a great plan!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 07:39 PM
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I can't stand this poliamory fad anymore. I had been off OLD for almost two years, decided to install an app again last year and didn't last 10 minutes there, because the men were either too ugly or non-monogamous. My hopes of finding a man to be in a committed, monogamous relationship with dwindle day by day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 04:25 PM
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Interesting how he says his wife was "phenomenally sane" after she accepted taking him back for a trial period. As if getting angry, blocking and deleting after being cheated on for years = insane. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 02:31 PM
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😂😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 10:57 PM
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LOL are you from Brazil too???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 09:56 PM
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Imagine being this guy's wife and finding out that your husband is going on a trip to Greece, with his side piece, all expenses paid, while you stay home doing whatever 🤡🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:31 PM
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I got so angry reading this. I'm in STEM, so I know very well what kind of men OP and his friends are. The girlfriend doesn't deserve this poor treatment, I really hope she breaks up with him. She's beautiful and accomplished, she deserves so much better. ETA: even if she wasn't beautiful or accomplished she wouldn't deserve to be made a joke. No woman deserves to be in a relationship with a man who hates her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/22 04:25 PM
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He makes fun of his stomach, like if it's a cute thing. Men in my country do this all the time. They point to their beer bellies and say "a man without a belly is a man without history", like sitting on a bar and drinking all day is something to be proud of. Of course, they find fat women unattractive. And they get to have beautiful girlfriends/wives because the standards for men are nonexistent and the machismo in latin america also brainwashes women into thinking they're nothing without a man …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 03:19 AM
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She then encouraged girls to be a sugar baby to gain access to men who are further up their career for "mentorship"... That's the worst idea I've ever heard. The girl will be known as the "office wh*re" in no time, and she'll never go further in her career because people will gossip about it. This woman is doing it on purpose to keep girls on sex work/out of the "normal" workforce so they can be available for her sugaring website. Disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 12:33 AM
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Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 03:32 AM
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Case in point: some years ago, Gillette made a commercial in my country directed to men - a famous actress/model and other women saying that men should shave their chests more often. The OUTCRY was pathetic, men said they were being body-shamed and Gillette had to take the commercial down. How many of those men who complained also believe body hair on women is "disgusting", do you think? My bet is all of them. They have neither shame, nor self- awareness (and I, particularly, hate super hairy me…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:26 PM
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THIS! Maybe if we shame them more often they'll start to put a modicum of effort on their appearence/hygiene habits for a change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:20 PM
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u/chasingshoesales can you PM me the link to the female sub? I'm moving to a bigger apartment and will need some decor inspiration!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:13 PM
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Jesus, I see what you've done for other people... And I want that for me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 05:07 AM
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I'm 31 years old and I remembert *to this day* one occasion when I was 12, I was with my mother at the mall and saw through the reflection of a store window a 40-something guy almost breaking his neck to turn around and look at me. I was wearing a denim short skirt and thought it "attracted attention" so it was my fault, felt so disgusted I never wore it again. Thinking about it now while I write this comment, I don't think I ever wore denim skirts in my life again - all because of a fcking pedo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:38 AM
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I think it's rare that men do anything alone. I took a vacation this month to a coastal city in my country, it's a tourist spot, but all the men I saw were either locals or were with their girlfriends/wives or in bigger groups. The owner of the small hotel I stayed at said that 70% of the solo travelers that stay there are women. I go to the movies/museums alone a lot, and all the men I see are either with their significant others, or are old (50+). I don't think that men, in general, do things …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 01:10 AM
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I don't go on a date since March/2020. I discovered FDS in july of the same year, I'm out of OLD for good, so I don't meet any men. Before FDS, I rarely used to go on dates as well. I talked to some men on OLD but met very few of them. Maybe once, twice a year. I don't usually get approached in "real life", but I'm not going back to dating apps, so I think it'll take more years before I go on a date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 12:58 AM
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I hated how he framed everything as "I do so much for you, why won't you have sex with me after everything I did for you..." - when all he did was take her on dates. And she said it was 10 dates in 5 months? That's such a low number, they weren't even seeing each other once a week. And going into the bathroom "to cry" seems absolutely manipulative to me. As far as I know, he wasn't even really crying, just pretending, to get her to have pity sex with him. And even if he did cry because of that, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 04:13 AM
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I wish, I can't write (creatively) to save my life LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 11:27 PM
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I need this!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 10:04 PM
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Here I was thinking he looks good for a 40-something old man LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 09:37 PM
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It's like those guys who make eating meat/bacon and hating on vegans their entire personality, so cringe (and I say this as a person who eats meat and likes bacon)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 03:16 AM
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My experience is a bit similar to yours: I work in tech, so I'm always around men. They're not as violent as military, but they're misogynistic as well. I've seen men talk about their girlfriends/wives like they only tolerate them or plainly hate them. I've heard r*ape and abuse "jokes"... They're not so open about cheating/prostitution but I bet they talk about it amongst themselves. And also: they're plain ugly, boring and unkempt. I think I might met only 3 seemingly HVM in all my years in th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 02:58 PM
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This was one of the reasons why I quit OLD (before I discovered FDS). I talked to a guy on the app for weeks, he never asked me out. One day I was out with a friend and asked him to join us (wrong, I know) and he gave me an excuse. Some days later he asked my phone number and only then he pointed the different state code - I didn't even notice! He even jokingly blamed me for not realizing the distance in the app (my dude?? If we matched you were within the distance I set). He told me that he had…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 05:26 AM
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Finally someone said it!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:50 PM
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I don't want to get married. I don't want to have children either, so marriage for me would be useless. I'm in my thirties, I like to live alone, but I would like to have a committed relationship. The concept of "living apart together" appeals to me more than marriage, but I know it's more common for older people. I don't know if I'll ever get an arrangement the way I want it, but I hope for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 10:48 PM
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"Ask yourself – do I simply dislike her company after sex, or do I dislike her company all the time?" Yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 05:02 PM
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They're always talking about how they'd do sex work if they were women. What's stopping them from doing it now? I bet there are a lot of rich old gay dudes who'd pay money to be with them. But everytime I tell that to a man they're suddenly disgusted, I wonder why 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 04:54 PM
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Good point !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 02:39 PM
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Good ideia, but I'd like to add: be careful of men who will suggest anal as an alternative to PIV. They may say it doesn't cause pregnancy, so it's "safe" and complain that since there's no PIV, they need to be "compensated" somehow. 🙄 It never happened to me, but in my country many religious women will do anal to save their virginity to their wedding day (it makes no sense, I know). But to have anal sex instead - something that is more painful and requires more preparation than PIV - of course …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:58 PM
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Something like that made the news in Brazil recently: an Italian volleyball player found out that he had been scammed for FIFTEEN YEARS by a catfish using the pictures of the Brazilian model Alessandra Ambrosio. Besides the stupidity of sending money for years to an "online girlfriend" without ever seeing her face to face, he was also ugly. Why did he think he had a shot with a literal model? Men like this deserve to get scammed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 12:48 AM
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There's a famous song in Brazil that's starts like "I'm making love to someone else but my heart will always be yours". Ew
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 06:06 PM
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In order to avoid this type of situation at work, it's best you be polite, but distant. Of course the harassment is never our fault, but if you're ever slightly friendly with men, they will use that to justify inappropriate behavior - and I know this because it happened to me. When I was an intern years ago, a much older, married and with kids colleague took advantage of my friendliness to hug me from behind in my chair and kiss my cheek to "say goodbye" when we were alone in the office one day.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 08:21 PM
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Recently a tweet went viral in the Brazillian bubble because a girl complained that her date made she pay 50/50. They went to get açaí bowls and the total was R$22, R$11 each. She said she paid her half but was not going to see him again. Many men and women went berserk on her replys, guys were saying "he's not your father", "he dodged a bullet", "he doesn't have to fund you". Fund her!!!! R$ 11 is a ridiculously low amount, but she got called a gold digger nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:51 AM
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I wish they would, less LVM for us to fend off 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:46 PM
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I saw a comment here the other day that explained it like: men do things to impress other men, even if they're trying to date women. Pictures in cars, carrying a fish, in bars etc. are things that they like and impress other men, so they just post that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 07:02 PM
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"open-minded" = kinky/poliamorous 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 06:57 PM
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It's not uncommon, at least in my country - laundromats are not popular here, most people have laundry machines at home. So when young men go live with roommates or alone during college, some of them take their laundry to their mothers, even if they live in different cities. It's pathetic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 08:22 PM
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Easy: free sex, free maid, free secretary, half of bills and rent paid, free childcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 06:27 PM
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I've seen one on Reddit recently: the woman and her two "partners" bought a house and she had to take care of all the renovation projects because both men were useless. Yikes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 06:53 PM
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I'm 31 and I've been celibate for almost two years now, kind of involuntarily. I stopped using OLD after finding FDS one year ago, and outside the apps men simply don't show interest in me. Of course in the apps they just want easy, no-strings-attached sex, and I'm not here for it. And in real life the men I know aren't attractive, I haven't developed a crush on anybody in ages. It just makes me sad because I crave intimacy, affection and sex, and I know I can't get it without a relationship (an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 11:36 PM
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There's a saying I've read some time ago that went like: "a man with his mouth shut is a poet" and I have never read truer words 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 08:56 PM
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I work in a male-dominated field too, and I used to call men out as well, but then I realized they liked to see me irritated and kept making disgusting comments just to get me railed up. The company I work for now is a little better and I haven't heard anything disgusting from my colleagues, but I've heard some sexist "jokes" and I just take a mental note of the guy who did it, to interact with him as little as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/21 02:32 PM
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You're right, we need to prioritize ourselves. I absolutely agree with the handbook and the general principle that we shouldn't live with a man or have kids before marriage because it usually works against us - but for a woman who is childfree and doesn't want to live with a man, I think marriage is more of a problem than a good thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:36 PM
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I never lived with a man (only with female flatmates during college), but now I've been living alone for years and I love it. And from what I hear from the majority of women who live/have lived with a man, it's mostly nothing but trouble. I don't need it in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:15 PM
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Thanks for sharing! It's great to know from a fellow FDSer that it's possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 04:10 PM
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I'm 31, never married, no kids - and I don't want any of those things. My ideal relationship would be a monogamous one without cohabitating. I've said these things before on this sub, and some women said that it won't be possible for me to find a single HVM that is not marriage-minded, and that the type of relationship I want is more common/possible for older people, who are divorced or widowed and have grown children already. I'm not dating right now and I don't know what the future holds, but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:35 PM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 This comment should be an standalone post. Impeccable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 11:06 PM
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Loved the Sweet Charity reference 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 07:09 PM
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And if the woman pursues family instead of work, she'll also be benefiting corporations by: bearing and educating children that will become workers in the future taking care of the housework so that her husband doesn't have to, and therefore has more time to work for said corporations The big difference is that she won't be paid a single penny for this labor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 08:19 PM
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This is so beautiful but sad at the same time, because I don't know any man who would act like this without thinking he's being "used".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:05 PM
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most of the bisexual males I know tell me all the time how much better women are to be in relationships with (because women do most of the work in the relationships, they didn’t say this but being bi unfortunately doesn’t help sub par emotional intelligence as a result of patriarchy and upbringing) My ex boyfriend is bisexual. I know he had hook-ups with men, but all his long-lasting relationships were with women. I never asked the reason for this, but I know that it's because men are trash LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 04:33 AM
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🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:27 AM
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Here in Brazil a case recently made the news: a man went to register his newborn daughter and ended up registering her with the name of his older daughter. Now the couple has two girls with the exact same name (until they're able to change it)🤡🤡 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 01:25 AM
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Today I read a tweet that said I find super chic those women who get pampered during theirs periods, the only thing I get is a "you're annoying today" And I was like "aren't you ashamed of posting it? ew"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 03:57 PM
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A WOMAN'S LOVE IS NOT A CHARITY AND IT IS NOT A BAND-AID FOR THE FAILURES OF CAPITALISM. *chef's kiss*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 01:33 AM
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I remember that post. He was calling her "sausage tits" in his friend group and his friends started using the nickname for her too. It took a girlfriend of one of the friends to message the wife about the meaning of the nickname, because her husband refuse to tell her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 05:58 PM
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Like that guy who let his gf die of anorexia because he had a fetish on it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:49 PM
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Some days ago I saw a tweet like: "Of course I'm not polyamorous, making more than one man happy at a time goes against everything I stand for" and that's basically it for me 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 04:44 PM
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If something happens to the child, I bet the same people would go ballistic saying "what kind of wh*re let's her children with a stranger to go out with men?" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 07:18 PM
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I remember listening to a man who was talking to his friends about "gold-digging women who only go out with guys who have cars" ​ We were riding the subway LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 02:34 AM
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If you google "pretentious asshole" I'm pretty sure the first result will be this OLD profile My god 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 06:45 AM
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Mine are turned off too. Everytime I post something I see one notification on the mobile app and I laugh, because I know I pissed off some scrote but his angry DM will never get to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 03:16 AM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:04 AM
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Can you link the article?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:16 PM
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I didn't have a "phase", but I had a few hookups with men I didn't know before. I did it because I wanted to, was attracted to them and wanted to have sex. The thing is, the majority of them were selfish and didn't care for my pleasure, so I realized it's not worth it. Another proof that men cockblock themselves - if they were less selfish, many women would have casual sex because they'd know it would be a pleasurable experience for them 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 08:05 PM
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I just saw the title and excused myself from reading it, I don't need this kind of thing in my life 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:29 PM
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Some time ago, my psychiatrist recommended that I started new activities to meet men (I was talking about how hard it is to find a boyfriend), but I never took her advice. All my hobbies are either individual or female-oriented, and I'm not going to start a new activity just to meet men - chances are they'll be all LV anyway. I work at a male-dominated industry, if anything, I already know too many men (and I they're mostly trash). They exhaust me, I don't want to spend my free time dealing with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 07:26 PM
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Not all men 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:05 AM
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Thank you! 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:59 AM
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Absolutely. I thought you meant something else in your previous comment, but this is exactly what the LVM do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 03:26 PM
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while all the guys are addicted to porn and have these large WhatsApp groups where they share grotesque porn videos, sometimes of underage people and think it is funny Brazilian here, these groups are a plague. I don't think there aren't men who aren't part of at least one group, and even if they don't share or watch the videos, they say nothing to not upset the bros. And it's not an upper class thing - I'm middle class and deal with LVM all the time. I can say for sure I never met more than 5 p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:27 AM
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Can a man go to jail if he fails to pay child support in the US? In my country it happens, but in practice it takes a lot of factors - and many women, unfortunately, don't ask for jail time because "it's the father of their children". I think serving jail time is the bare minimum of punishment for men who neglect their children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 04:00 AM
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I cried reading this. You're an inspiration ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:47 PM
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I'm 30 and the same. Sometimes I wish I could rest and have someone taking care of me and do things for me, but I know it's impossible. I spoil myself but I'm tired. I just need to let go of this longing feeling, because if I don't do things for myself, no one - let alone a man - will.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:45 PM
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I'm sorry you this happened to you, hope you're doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:19 PM
8

True!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:09 AM
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yes, she meant it as wanting to k*ll herself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:56 AM
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Yes, especially because our money is so undervalued in relation to the dollar, I see many people joking that they'll create an OF and make a lot of money. I think many women go through with it out of necessity but only realize the consequences when it's too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:17 AM
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I really hope she can recover.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:14 AM
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Men: "FDS PROMOTES EUGENICS!!!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 03:19 AM
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Mr. Nobody McUgly 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 04:21 AM
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No worries, I understood! I think that twisted logic derives from the madonna-whore complex: if a woman has sex with "a lot" of men, or takes sensual pictures, or anything like that, she probably wants sex all the time so of course she can't be raped, right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 12:21 AM
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There's a recent case of rape in Brazil where the rapist (a rich business owner, of course) was acquitted because the woman he drugged and raped was a model and posted some lingerie shoots she did on Instagram. The rapist's defense lawyer used this to say that she was promiscuous. If that can throw a rape case, I can imagine how having an only fans will be terrible for women in court.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/21 09:34 PM
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And probably his boys will be the first ones to try to get with her as soon as they break up 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:39 PM
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Brb, googling the name of my new crush 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:26 AM
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It's always the "mini me" response. So predictable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 04:02 AM
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Hugh Dancy, I- swoons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:47 PM
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OMG he's such a crush of mine. I endured the second season of Grimm just because of him 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:45 PM
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Oooh, I have a "fun" one: Some years ago, I matched with a guy on OLD. We lived in the same city. We talked for days, he seemed nice, but we only talked on the app. One day I was out with a friend and she insisted on me inviting him, so that she could invite a date also, but he refused, sad he was tired and it was late. Ok. When he finally asked for my number, he pointed out himself: "I bet the area code is strange, right?" So then he proceeded to tell me that HE LIVED IN ANOTHER STATE, and didn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:31 PM
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That reminds me of a conversation I had with my therapist (a man, of course lol) years ago. I was complaining to him that my boyfriend at the time would sometimes get ridiculous haircuts or beard shapes, and I absolutely hated it, because he'd get ugly and people would see me with him and pity me. And my therapist kind of criticized me for seeing my partner "as a reflection of myself". Despite his critics, I didn't change my mind then (or now) - that's why I don't date ugly men, or men who don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 01:31 AM
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I used to think my ex was my friend - we broke up in "good terms" and kept talking (not daily, we'd just chat once in a while). He wanted us to be fwb but I shut it down, and we still kept friendly. As soon as he got a new girlfriend, he vanished. I'm sad because I genuinely think he's a good person overall (but LVM, still), and I believed we could stay friends, but I found out it isn't the case. Lesson learned. Men aren't our friends.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:12 PM
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Men hear about women from tv shows like Sex and the City and believe we're all like those characters 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 04:11 PM
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I hate the idea that the wedding day is supposed to be the most important/the happiest day of a woman's life. It's just a party to celebrate that you are now legally bound to a man, congratulations I guess?? But there's a lot more to life than it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:21 PM
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Krav Maga is a good option. You don't have to be strong to use the techniques, and usually the beginners start learning defenses against common attacks males use against us - like grabbing your arm, strangulation attempt, grabbing you from behind, etc. I practiced for 4 years and had to stop due to lack of time, but what I learned saved me from a attack: a guy tried to rob me, he was unarmed but could overpower me physically - so I beat him first and ran when he fell down 😅 Krav Maga really help…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 07:07 PM
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Having 5 babies? In this economy??? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 06:26 PM
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Men want to be opressed so bad LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 03:36 AM
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Having to handsome guys fighting for me lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:26 AM
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I wish that was my life 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:55 PM
4

Congratulations! Now he can take his mistress on a ride in his brand new car that you paid half for! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:49 PM
9

I've been watching kung-fu movies recently and I would like to say that Bruce Lee could have it any day
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:34 AM
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Now with the rise of K-pop in the west, It's curious to see young girls crushing on their idols and boys or even grown men who aren't asian getting all sour about it, saying "they look like women", "they're gay" and stuff Dudes, k-pop idols are well dressed, look great and can dance. We know you're jealous because Y'ALL UGLY 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:33 AM
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I think quality time for them is more like: you in the room watching quietly while he plays videogames lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:17 AM
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I've traveled some and you'd be surprised about the number of guys who automatically equate that to prostitution. No way. They really think that any woman who isn't chained to the stove = whore, hun? Pathetic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 01:48 AM
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So THAT'S why they're all bald by 25 🤭🤭🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 06:58 PM
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An acquaintance of mine just bought a house with her boyfriend. They aren't planning to be married anytime soon (she doesn't want to yet, from what I know). And although he seems HV for the way she talks about him, I think it's too risky. She's now saddled with a 30-year debt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 10:33 PM
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I'm guilty of self-deprecating humor, but I'm trying to change it as well. After finding FDS, I stopped the jokes about being desperate for a relationship, and also the ones about me being "too ugly". I still joke a lot about depression and I don't think I'll stop any time soon, but at least I'm not self deprecating myself in regards to men/relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:57 AM
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Plus for long term future goals ... I wanna upgrade my house. So I don’t see how a relationship would help that. Sometimes I feel lonely and wish for a relationship, but then I remember I want to move to another country and if I got into a relationship now it would be doomed to end soon - because I'm not delusional enought to believe a man would drop his life to move with me and support me abroad LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 03:46 AM
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That was my entire life too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 10:22 PM
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I SCREAMED 😂 😂 😂 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:51 PM
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Deal beakers: fat wide hips excessive chest and back hair balding ugly smile/teeth ugly beard design or bushy beard super tall - I like men my height or slightly taller, but I don't like to look up to talk to a man 🤭 What I like: thin or medium build, I like men in shape but not "gym bro" types hair, please nice style I do like the cute nerdy type, but they are hard to find outside of fiction LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:44 PM
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Yes, about the first scene I remembered something else: when he orders her to lift up her sleeve to test her, she rolls a bit of it and then he grabs her arm and pulls her sleeve almost up to her shoulder, ugh I also liked that his own mother ratted him out to Alina, that's the feminism I like: women warning other women about dangerous scrotes 🤭 🤭 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:07 AM
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Not really related to the topic of the post, but I was dying to comment here about Shadow and Bone because I identified Alexander was a villain right in the beginning, since FDS made me aware of his LV moves: He takes Alina to his "special place" of when he was a child and tell sob stories about how he was sooooo cursed for being "related" to the black heretic, despite barely knowing her He keeps telling her how he thinks she's special and they're destinated to do great things together Flirts wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 02:04 AM
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I'm sorry that happened to you. Men do this so often, they use our care, habilities and labor to better themselves and discard us when they're done. On the bright side, I'm glad you learned a new habiliity, I'm trying to learn how to sew and I admire you for it! We women must learn to always take care of ourselves first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 12:11 AM
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Even when there are boundaries it can backfire, one example is a post I saw yesterday on one of those relationship subs: The couple had been together for 10 years and poly for 5. They had two major rules: frequent STD tests and abortion in case of pregnancy. Now the woman got pregnant and wants to keep the baby, the baby father doesn't want to be in the picture, and the woman's partner doesn't want to "raise another man's child". Everything was fun and games, but the minute they had trouble the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 08:18 PM
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I understand your points and agree completely! The eavesdropping comments really pissed me off because he was on loudspeaker, it was not a secret conversation. He only felt comfortable shit-talking about his girlfriend because he thought she was still on the shower. I don't know a single human being who would not keep listening if they heard a conversation about them. Even on reddit there's a lot of posts from men that overheard their wives/girlfriends talking about them. The most recent one I r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:08 PM
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This right here 👆🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:33 PM
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The commenters are so hung up on her changing his style and the "high review" that she got, that they failed to notice that the boyfriend's friend offended her to his face and he shrugged it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:11 PM
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People are really used to being rated like you're a restaurant or something, it's absurd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:07 PM
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Yeah, imagine genuinely liking the person you're in a relationship with??? 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:04 PM
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Good for her!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:47 PM
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Yeah. He's now getting praised for the new style, how long it will take for him to try to find a better girlfriend than "the 8" he has now? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:45 PM
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Exactly! I bet that even if she worked out as he wanted, he would still find something else to complain about her, because men like him are never happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:43 PM
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Of course the most upvoted comments are saying she's the asshole because: she said he dressed like a bum (not to his face, but on the internet) she "eavesdropped" her boyfriend's conversation 🙄 being called an 8 "is not a bad thing" and "most people don't have partners that are 10s" she "nagged" the poor boyfriend to change his style ETA: to the (possible) scrote who sent me a DM over this post - my messages are blocked and I can't see them, byeee 🙋🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:14 PM
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I saw the post on the nice guys sub and I knew it would appear here sometime 🤭 FDS once again is proven right by men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 06:03 PM
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You post reminded me of a friend's story: Years ago, she used to go to a gym where, by chance, most of the public was of bodybuilders (men and women). This friend has always been thin and short. Some of the men, as always, used to grunt ridiculously while they were lifting their weights, so one day my friend got pissed, grabbed a tiny weight and started grunting like the guy while she did her exercises. Many people started laughing, and after that day the guys stared exercising quietly 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:38 PM
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Trust your gut if you think it's too much. In my only experience with love-bombing, the guy messaged me literally all day long, almost to the point it was insufferable. I thought it was a little bit too much but I enjoyed the attention (🤡). If you think something is off, it probably is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:09 PM
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They did because they're assholes, but I don't even work for that company anymore, it's water under the bridge. Lesson learned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:50 PM
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I made that mistake once. We had been dating for 2 months or so, it was long distance and in my birthday week he came to see me. I had a party planned so of course I invited him since he was a guest in my house. He met some of my friends and co-workers. One month later he dumped me ("found someone else" LOL) and I had to keep explaining to people that had met him that we weren't together anymore. Some of my male co-workers kept asking about my "boyfriend" just to try to humiliate me. At least I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:12 PM
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They were so cool! Polly pocket really doesn't deserve my comparison 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:25 AM
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"pocket-sized". Now I'm imagining a Polly Pocket doll: Scrote Version. Very few clothes that don't match and are stained/have holes. The house has little to no furniture. There's trash everywhere. The bed is a nest of clothes on the floor. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 01:20 AM
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That's why I don't spend my time arguing with men anymore. This week a dude appeared out of nowhere on the replys of a tweet I wrote pointing a gold-digging man, I simply took a print, blocked him, and made fun of his reply to my friends. I don't even curse them anymore, they don't deserve negative attention as well 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 08:55 PM
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I think marriage is only beneficial if you want to have children or share properties, like others have said. My personal opinion is that it's not worth it, especially because - like it was mentioned in this sub multiple times - a man can be the epitome of HVM for decades and then turn on you, so what is the point of legally binding yourself to a man? (Of course you shouldn't make the mistake of living if him/buying property/having children without marriage, because that's not advantageous to you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 05:12 PM
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They are narcissistic - many of them talk about having a "mini me" when they discuss children - and misogynistic because they don't want to go "from consumers to suppliers" (to quote their own words 🤢)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:59 PM
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He "worked", the same way many men "worked" back then, standing around drinking with other men and then they came home and beat their families because of the "pressure to provide". One of the reasons why I hate the idea that "men used to be providers now they don't do anything" is because it isn't even true (for the vast majority). Men were never shit. They barely worked, used most of their money for booze and exploited their wives and children - I know this because my family was like that, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 03:07 AM
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Many men who are respecting isolation are using women as pen-pals for their emotional labor, but as soon as they get vaccinated and can date around as usual, they'll ghost. I have a friend (we're both Brazilian) who has been talking for months with an Argentinian guy. I'm just waiting to see what he'll do after the covid situation improves - I'd like to see my friend happy but why would a man bother with a woman from a different country, let alone one that's handling the pandemic so poorly, when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:34 AM
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If dick really solves problems, why is it that the men who actually possess them have such shitty lives? 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 07:23 PM
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And they like anal so much, it would be ideal for them. 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:15 PM
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I swear, this sub is the best place on the entire internet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:24 AM
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Or when the woman gets pregnant. "She shouldn't have spread her legs" Well, in that same logic, if the guy didn't want to go to jail for "having sex" with a minor, maybe he should have kept his legs crossed too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:28 PM
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I never had LVM coming back. In the past, I wished they would, just so I could reject them like they rejected me. After FDS, I sometimes wish they would show up again, just so I could block and delete 😆 I know it's stupid, but I hold grudges. Still, like you said, it's better not to be bothered by them. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 08:22 PM
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Another good advice: when taking pictures of groups, like friends or family and the guy you're dating is present, put him in the corner so that's easy to crop him out afterwards. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:08 PM
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"I cooked, now you do the dishes!" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 05:38 PM
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The apartment owner told him the floor also had to be fixed and to look for "tiny black things that suddenly appear on the floor" - that is, dust 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:27 PM
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What is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:25 PM
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BR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 01:24 PM
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What makes me sad is that the bar is so low that dudes making effortless pasta seem better somehow. On the replies of the tweet I printed, I saw a woman saying "at least he cooks, there are men who don't even offer anything to eat" and I wanted to scream.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:44 AM
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I never asked, we never talked about it but I always see him posting campaings and news against porn on his instagram and twitter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:38 AM
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The only man I personally know who is vocal against porn is a gay man 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 12:09 AM
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............... why are men???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:59 PM
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My brother is a 6ft tall, handsome ex athlete also in tech. And is he single? 👀 ​ Sorry, just kidding LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:57 PM
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Imagine going to a man's house just to eat his leftover food and have disappointing sex 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:33 PM
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nooooooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:31 PM
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I had a work colleague say that he was going to invite his date and cook for her. I knew him and he was one of the biggest LVM I ever had the displeasure of meeting, and of course he didn't like to cook - he was just going to make some basic pasta with sausages and - his words - have her eat his "sausage" later 🤮🤮🤮🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:30 PM
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It's always pasta, and the most basic pasta ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:27 PM
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It's incredible, they are all the same - same shitty behaviour, same excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 11:23 PM
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This is the translation: "Her: he's cooking for me, he likes me! Him: LMAO I just saved 200, I'll fuck her using only what I had in the fridge" Of course a man tweeted it, and in the comments there's a lot of other men telling him not to spill "the secret" and that women take any crumb as affection, so offering to cook for us in their houses is a cheap way to get sex. Once again men prove FDS is right 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 09:06 PM
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That reminded me of this video from a Brazilian group of comedians. It has English subtitles. 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:03 PM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 This comment should be a standalone post
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 02:46 PM
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Unfortunately the friend talked about a girl he was seeing and it seemed he liked her, so no chance for me 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:41 PM
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Then by the time they're 30, they'll be changing their husband's diapers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:27 AM
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I had a guy who invited me to tag along to a bar with his friend for the first "date". I went because I was already out and had nothing else to do. The three of us just talked and ate (each one paid for their own). The next day he sent me a message suggesting we should meet up again and hinted at having sex. My reply: "HAHAHAHAAHAHAHA" He never talked to me again lol PS: his friend was way cuter than him Edit: added missing word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:13 AM
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Years ago I saw a girl on Twitter talking about the time she gave up studying abroad because of her boyfriend And then he cheated on her 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 06:27 PM
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Sometimes I see quotes of his work in that sub that discusses the stereotypical ways men write women characters (from my readings, I percieve the women he write are sometimes one-dimensional) But I didn't know about these twitter comments :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:40 AM
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Am I the only one who really doesn't find it that hard to stop consuming content when I know the author is a predator? I used to love Isaac Asimov, but after I learned he was a harasser, I could never open a book he wrote again. It just disgusts me, and like you said, there's a whole lot of other authors to read. ​ (but I confess, if I ever find out this type of news about Stephen King, I'll be extremely sad) Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 02:10 AM
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Exactly this. "Experiments" in both cases is just an euphemism for torture and sadism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 10:14 PM
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This dude was making "experiments" with her like a fucking n*zi doctor for fun I hate him so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 07:56 PM
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I had migraine crisis for YEARS, since I was a teenager, that "magically" disappeared after I stopped taking the pill (replaced by the copper IUD). The doctor that prescribed me the pill when I was a teen didn't even made a check up, my mother took me there because my period bleedings were super intense and he just took a box from his counter and gave it to me. It angries me that it's a common procedure, birth control is important but doctors should be more responsible and evaluate the pacients'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 02:35 PM
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In my country there is a terrible expression that can be translated as "give yourself to respect", that means that you have to earn other people's respect. The problem with that expression is that it's generally used by men to justify the oppression of women - like if the woman can't toe the line of the patriarchal demands (by either going out, or drinking, or living alone, or wearing a short skirt, or talking back to a man, anything really) men can say she isn't worthy of respect because she do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:51 PM
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What disgusts me more is that she mentioned that the videos usually end in hardcore anal, and that she doesn't like it (she says anal is a "birthday treat" 🤢), but he said he's not going to pressure her but would like if she did more anal Now of course she's going to try and do more a sexual act that she doesn't even like to please her pornsick husband ugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:30 PM
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I'm 30 but people think I'm in my twenties all the time. It makes me sad to this this is the type of man that expects to date me. If that's the option, I'll take being a "a crazy cat lady" without thinking twice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:27 AM
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It's like that in Brazil too. The law says that you can get your tubes tied if you are over 25 years of age OR have 2 living children, but in practice your husband has to agree to it. And if you're not married, many doctors will refuse to do it because "you can change your mind" and "what if your future husband wants to have children?" And to make matters worse, abortion is also illegal 🤡 (except in cases of rape/risk of death of the mother)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:52 PM
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I can't believe that men even have the privilege of producing more serotonin than us 😤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:30 PM
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I met him on OkCupid, we were from different states and just talked on the phone. He was talking about coming to my city to meet me, I said it was too early (one week or two talking, maybe?) and he answered that his last girlfriend died from cancer and she taught him to always move fast when you liked someone because you don't know if it will last. I think he even sent me a picture of them together I ghosted him sometime after because I felt like he was coming on too strong. I think it was for t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:31 AM
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I'm in this comment and I don't like it 😢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:09 PM
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Basically my story. I had to ask him on all the dates and plan all the activities. He dumped me after one month because he "wasn't that interested", and just because I asked why he was acting so cold. Then I learned that just because I would never date or have sex with someone I'm not interested in, doesn't mean I can expect the same decency from men. Men are never "too shy". If he wanted her, he would've made an effort. Now he'll use her until he gets bored or finds someone he really wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 06:05 PM
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I'm so glad to know that. I absolutely hated the movie ending, the male lead was an abusive asshole and Eliza should have never gotten back to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 04:10 PM
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Your comment made me realize something: when I was a kid, I was always the best in student class. But as a girl, I was constantly called ugly/nerd by both boys and girls. Now I wonder how these attacks were made because they were jealous of me. Unfortunately, it wrecked my self esteem for years. ​ Good on you for teaching your daughter that her value as a person is not tied to her looks. Hope she grows up to reach her full potential!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:35 PM
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I don't think Harry is HV Dude went to a costume party dressed as a nazi soldier as a "joke". People might say that "he was young" and "he grew as a person/he changed" but I really don't believe it. He's wealthy, he's educated and he's a public figure. He should have known better from the start.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:27 PM
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Yeah, and people say they "hate" rapists and pedophiles, that they should be killed in jail and stuff. First of all, they rarely GO to jail. Second, people only hate anonymous rapists, when it's a relative, a friend, or even a famous person they like, then come the excuses. Edit: by "anonymous" I mean "imaginary"- a random attacker on a dark alley that attacks a "perfectly innocent" victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:26 PM
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I'm not even bisexual and I'm deeply offended by this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 09:00 PM
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Imagine the tantrum he would throw if you said "I thought about having sex with you but I'm not in the mood anymore - it's ok because it's the thought that counts, right?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 08:58 PM
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Speaking of which, I was having a lot of fun with the memes about the ship stuck on the Suez canal, until I came across drawings of sexy women in place of the ship and endless jokes referencing that "stepbrother I'm stuck" porn 🤮🤮🤮 It's impossible to have innocent fun anymore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 04:09 AM
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I remember something that happened to me years ago: I met a guy on tinder and we went on a date. We tried to schedule another date but never had an occasions and eventually we stopped talking. Some time after, I removed him from my Facebook. Later, he added me again. I was curious so I accepted. He then messaged me and said that he got busy at the time and then started dating someone else, but now he was single and thought we could reconnect again. That was THREE YEARS AFTER we went on that date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:51 PM
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and it got me a 3-day ban for "harassment" Reminds me of that meme "my dick fell off because a woman wrote words on the internet"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 01:51 AM
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The silver lining is that I don't have to deal with men on a daily basis. Even though my colleagues are mostly male, I only have to talk to them on zoom or slack, and about work. Little no no personal personal information is volunteered to me - it helps that I started at a new company remotely in 2020 and because of the pandemic I didn't meet anyone in person yet. And as a reminder that men only bring trouble, some weeks ago I needed to call an internet technician to solve a problem, he asked to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:49 PM
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If this guy hated his first marriage so much, why would he want to do it again? I could respect him saying that he didn't want to remarry (I never did and don't want to), but this sudden change of mind combined with the lack of enthusiasm only suggests that he "did the math" and found out that it would be a better deal for him to sign the papers with his new bangmaid-to-be. 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 07:07 PM
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I think the romance was useful to show how a man can be nice and a "perfect" boyfriend but also a rape apologist/accomplice in disguise To me, he's the embodiment of "not all men"/"my friend would never to that" type of dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 08:58 PM
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Such a refreshing post to read. Congratulations on leveling up, and good luck on your journey! You're an inspiration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 11:25 PM
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Basically, he found another woman in his city/state that is more convenient to him. How do I know? It happened to me, but instead of making up shitty excuses, the guy just ghosted. You're better off without him. ETA: DON'T talk to him one more time. He might not even acknowledge you and you'll end up making a fool of yourself. Happened to me too. 🤡 Block and delete.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:51 PM
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Girl, fellow Brazilian here. Maybe we even saw the same instagram post 🤭. I didn't even read it, I just rolled my eyes when I saw the title. I'm so tired of this "open relationship" thing. When I was on Tinder last year, one of the factors that made me quit was that, after going through so many trashy profiles, I'd see a nice-looking guy and immediately get disappointed after reading "non monogamous" or equivalent on his profile. And if you complain about it, people flock to say that "monogamous…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:41 PM
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How to do the minimum and still get recognition? How to cultivate quiet competence? I'm seconding this. Please share your wisdom u/DutyKooky !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:54 AM
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I shit-talk men all the time, it only makes them stay away from me. Maybe it's because I don't show my face on Twitter, but I imagine that with so many pickmes catering to them, why would they waste their time with a ~misandrist? 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 09:00 PM
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I never got the people here who justify the man paying for dates because "you bought a dress, did your hair and nails" for a date (not questioning that the guy must pay, though). I didn't buy a new dress even for my graduation ceremony, imagine if I'd buy one to go out with a rando??? I dress nice to go out, but I don't go out of my way to please a man with my looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 04:16 PM
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I got into a discussion with my therapist (a man, of course) some years ago because of this concept of "unconditional love". I don't believe it exists, and he said that people who don't believe in unconditional love were not loved enough as a child. So I talked to people I know and they all agreed that it's a myth, and a dangerous one - it keeps you tied to people that mistreat you in the name of "love". Unconditional love means you love someone no matter what they do to you or how they treat yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 06:09 PM
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That's terrible. My ex-bf, LV as he was (although a good person), was the one who helped me realize I was depressed, always pushed me to get treatment and never once complained that I was "annoying" or other things men use to say to their depressed girlfriends/wives. I thought it was the bare minimum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 05:11 PM
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For me it's Mad Max: Fury Road I remember going to the theaters to watch it only because the incels were raging about it. 😂 Any man who doesn't like that movie is a man I don't want to talk to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:57 PM
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I read that. For the amount of work she does, she shouldn't be paying for anything at all. Women are out there getting scammed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 02:37 PM
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I read once that porn progressively desensitizes men to what they are used to see, so the industry has to push more and more disgusting/taboo things to keep them hooked. And what is one of the ultimate taboos? Incest/sex (r*ape, actually) with children. It's what porn is progressing to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 10:35 PM
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You're great! Keep up the good work!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:43 PM
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My reply would be "I never had to eat shit to know it doesn't taste good either"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 06:32 AM
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I watched it this week and it left me so, so sad. I know the ending feels more "realistic" given how women are treated in this world, but it still left a bad taste in my mouth. It's a good movie, though. I'm glad it got nominated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 05:54 AM
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I don't have the link right now, but it was a small post titled "If men are so visual, why are they ugly?" and I took that phrase to my heart - I remember it all the time. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 05:27 PM
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Last time I was on Tinder I put a picture of me in Japan on my profile. A guy I matched with asked if I went there, I said yes, then he proceeded to ask how good was my English and tell about his English skills. He didn't even ask if I liked my trip 😅 I unmatched him later because he used to write so many paragraphs about himself, it was boooooring
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 09:18 PM
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It kind of is, but not entirely: yes, there used to be men who thought that only the receiving partner is gay, but I think people see it more as a cope mechanism for their own sexism/homophobia. Nowadays it's kind of unthinkable to believe such a thing, at least for the majority of people. It's interesting how you heard that happened in Brazil specifically - I imagined that kind of belief was common around the world, before people got more educated about homosexuality. There's even a term, "goy"…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:51 AM
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I'm from Brazil, just to clarify, it's not a card game, it's more like lottery, I guess. People bet on the number of the animal they choose, like when you dream of an animal and then go bet on its corresponding number to try and win some money. Other than that, your explanation is right! Fun fact: Jogo do Bicho (translation: Animal Game) is actually illegal here, like slot machines - that doesn't stop people from playing though 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:39 PM
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Wow, it's worse than I thought. These men are absolute trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:24 PM
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I don't have children so I don't know, but isn't it bad for them when you don't put diapers correctly? Like, it can cause rashes or something like that? This dude is taking as an example a man who willingly put his baby through discomfort just because of laziness 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 01:39 PM
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You're absolutely right. The non-violent men benefit from the fear that's always hanging over our heads, of course it's easier for them not to do anything but to complain about "misandry".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:34 PM
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I didn't notice it before! That really says it all 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 12:29 PM
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I remember some years ago I heard a guy talking to his friends about "gold-digging women who only go out with men who have cars" ​ We were on the subway 🤭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:50 AM
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“Playing games, trying to belittle and use men in the way that perhaps women have been used historically is only going to alienate men. This could create a deeper and more toxic rift between the sexes.” So what are men going to do once they're "alienated"? Harass us? R*pe us? B*at us? K*ll us? Oh wait, they already do that I wonder if anybody ever said to men "hang on, stop being violent towards women, you're creating a toxic rift between the sexes" 🤔🤔🤔 Edit: changed words to be in accord to the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 02:41 AM
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I know of women who found out their boyfriends were cheating because they found stuff in their homes and genuinely told their girlfriends "I found your [object]", but it belonged to women they were seeing on the side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:40 PM
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It's incredible how the ALL have the same stupid excuses, we're probably from different countries but LVM are the same everywhere 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:37 PM
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I used to insist on paying for myself because I was afraid of them getting violent because of the entitlement - "I paid for you, now you have to pay me back". My behavior changed with time, and I still offered to split but accpeded if they said they wanted to pay. Then I found FDS last year, at the beginning I didn't agree with not paying for myself, but then I realized that: 1. Most men will feel entitled to sex, whether they pay for your meal or not, and 2. Women, as a class, are generally in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:30 AM
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I learned this from experience. I dated briefly a guy who love bombed the hell out of me - he'd text throughout the day non-stop, even though he was busy at work. When the text frequency started lowering, I asked what was happening (didn't know better at the time) and he told me he was "tired" because he has "a lot of work to do". After some days pressing, he told me he had found someone else. Never again I will fall for this cheap excuses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:56 AM
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All the restaurant tips are ridiculous, but I laughed so hard at the "presents" one. Even if we were dumb enough to always be misplacing things without noticing, imagine what kind of "gift" he'd take out of the box to give to the girl he's dating: an used lipstick. An earring without its pair. An old scrunchie. A scratched ring. And so on. Does he really think he can "gift" this type of thing to someone without her noticing it belonged to someone else? LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:37 AM
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It gets worse: I saw the original post yesterday, OP says she can't tell the ex-wife because of a restraining order she got against BOTH - OP's husband was alledgedly looking through his ex's windows, but OP swears he was with her the nigh it happened, and he couldn't do it anyway because he is too fat to be pulling a stunt like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:23 AM
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That part about bringing him something you made everytime you go to his house reminded me of a post a dating coach made some time ago, telling the story about the woman who always made pies for his uncle, and the only thing he has to say about her was "thats a simple bitch right there"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 03:08 AM
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True. I'm on an instant film photography sub, and every now and then I'm presented pictures of naked women on my homepage. And they don't even tag the posts with nsfw. It's such a cliche 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 03:40 AM
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That's my goal, really. I'm childfree, I won't marry. Why should I live with a man? I want my house for me and my cat only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 06:04 AM
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👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:40 PM
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Is Denmark really that great? 👀 googles how to immigrate to Denmark
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:36 PM
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I once had the pleasure of telling a male coworker during a happy hour that he was screaming and he should lower his voice And he did I need to do that more often 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:51 AM
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I love how they think they'll soon have access to a robot that not only looks like a pornstar and exists to cater to them sexually, but also: - cooks and cleans - acts like their personal assistent - bears and raises their children - runs a home They want to "replace" us but only think about the sexual aspect of the robot/dolls. I *wish* men stopped demanding our services to the patriarchy - but I know they'll never really do it, they can't function without our labor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 04:02 AM
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I read both posts and now I'm wondering if there are any worthy men out there (there aren't 😅)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:45 PM
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I'm sure my father didn't have a second family only because he died young (at 36). I knew he was sexist but lost the little respect I had for him when my mother confided in me that he had an affair while she was pregnant with me - I'm 30 and she only told me this 2 years ago. Who knows how many affairs he would've had if he was still alive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:44 AM
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I've read many stories of women who only find out their husbands had a second family during the men's funerals - when the children or mistresses show up. In that case, not only you have to deal with the betrayal, but also with more people to share the assets the man had (that of course the wife contributed largely to). I'm glad marriage never was and never will be a desire of mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:06 PM
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Have you watched the Netflix documentary Made You See (I think that's the name in English)? About a famous gallery selling fake art some years ago, some of the paintings were said to be from Pollock. I don't know anything about art, but it's funny how the collectors also seem to know very little, they think something is beautiful and exclusive, buy it for millions, then get pissed when it's revealed to be fake. I don't pity them, though. The rich couple is on video talking about how "betrayed" t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:50 PM
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She's so classy, I love her On a side note, just this week I was kind of "freaking out" because I think I have too many hobbies and I don't have time to dedicate to all of them 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:10 AM
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They don't even have to know that you "gave it" to other guy on a first date. Anything you don't want a man holding over your head, you can simply lie about it. They do it all the time, anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 02:14 AM
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I also work in a male dominated-field. The other day I commented with my colleague that my cat and the one I rescued recently were fighting and didn't let me sleep the night before. He proceeded to send me a HUGE paragraph on how the job we do is so demanding of mental wellness and we should adjust our habits to function better. I just replied "Yes I agree" (I don't) and continued living my life as if nothing happened. And he's a gay man, proof that not only heterosexual males like to mansplain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:30 PM
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Dudes better not put their dirty hands on my hair if they're not willing to loose them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 08:06 PM
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A prostitute would cost him way more than 35 dollars 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:08 PM
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These are the rare occasions I actually like to put these men "on their place", so to speak. Normally I refer to myself as a programmer, but I make a point of saying "I'm a software engineer" whenever a guy asks me what I do and I sense he's trying to neg me. They hate when we work in a "man's field" or seem more skilled/intelligent than they are and I want them to die mad 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:10 AM
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I love FDS because now I know that there's nothing wrong with me for not "putting myself out there". Every time I tried, I ended up disappointed. Now whenever people come up to me with that stupid advice I tune it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:03 AM
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I'm sorry this is happening to you, your neighbor is disgusting. This reminded me of something that I keep in the back of my mind, but years ago, when I moved to the apartment I still live in, sometimes someone would do that trick of using a mirror to shine light inside my home. I thought it was just silly and tried to ignore it, so they'd stop. Turns out one day I looked out to see who was it, and it was a man who was clearly masturbating while looking at me. Not only did he use my life as his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 05:04 PM
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OMG I got so overwhelmed I accidentaly hit the "report" insted of the "reply" button 😂 I can't stand seeing beautiful women with these ogres
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:20 AM
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Glad I could add more info
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 02:16 AM
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Couldn't agree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 01:48 AM
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OMG I missed the hair part If there's something that I hate more than someone touching my body uninvited is someone touching my hair - I've literally slapped people's hands for trying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:46 PM
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Disgusting Some of my co-workers would try to touch me/hug me on purpose after they found out I don't like being touched - just for laughs 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:45 PM
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Brazilian here. It's more complex than the gaming thing. This guy was a type of incel/redpiller, there are dangerous MRA's here, one of them even committed a mass murder at a school some years ago (look for Realengo's massacre if you want to read about it). The murderer also sent an email and videos of the body to a famous feminist blogger - this woman was the first to report the Brazilian MRAs and their dangerous chans, she's been getting threats for years. The girl who was murdered was also a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:27 PM
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Broke: saying whe word "penis" Woke: saying "abominable greasy appendage" to refer to a penis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 03:59 AM
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There's nothing that I hate more than men touching my back/waist to lead me somewhere. I hate being touched by strangers/acquaintances in general - and it's especially annoying in my country where everybody is touchy - but men doing it, without my consent/trust, disgust me. Don't put your dirty hands on me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 11:58 PM
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Thanks! 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:56 AM
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Certainly he expected a pat on the back and the validation that his girlfriend was a ~gold digger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:53 AM
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No waaaay Men really have no shame
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:51 AM
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I'm not the one you asked, but I thought I should share my experience with tech guys as well. I dated four of them, all briefly. 1- Met in college. He asked me on a date and I decided to "give him a chance" even though he was ugly. He ended up negging me on the very first (and only) date. I suspect he was a PUA wannabe. Never talked to him again. 2 - Also met in college, but he was 12 years older. He worked in tech for a long time, just wanted a degree as a formality. Our relationship was purely…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:46 AM
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LOLOLOLOL pick a struggle, dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:08 AM
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I'm a software engineer (not from Amazon), and tech guys are always the same. Countless times colleagues told me stuff like "Aren't you a feminist? Don't you want equal rights? Then do [thing that benefits only men]" .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:55 PM
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People in the comments were quick to call her a leech, but few seemed to notice how that 50/50 arrangement benefits him way more than her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:52 PM
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FDS made me start noticing this type of thing. They're all about "fairness", but don't care if you make a lot less, and never take that fairness to the housework.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 11:49 PM
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Let me just start saying that I don't think she should expect him to provide for her, given that she's not his wife, BUT: He makes way more than she does and wants everything to be split "equally", so he is in fact saving money at her expense. He doesn't say whether they live together or not, but if they do, I bet that 50/50 doesn't apply to housework. People in the comments mentioned that it would be fair if they split bills proportionately, and he resorts to the good old "we're adults, no one …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 05:11 PM
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LOL I remember when I was watching the second season of American Gods and feeling guilty for being weirdly attracted to Mad Sweeney
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 05:32 PM
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I hate them so much 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:53 PM
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Yeah, I used to have this fantasy too, but gave up for the same reasons. How can I trust that the men will please me, instead of try to abuse me? There's no way to trust them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 05:48 PM
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Ewwwww
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 09:05 PM
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Story time: I don't really watch reality shows so I don't know all the details, but some years ago a participant of big brother Brazil was talking about the "young women" he used to date and that he was a hebophile. Yes, on live television. He was in his forties, I believe. Many viewers got enraged, of course, and women from his city started coming forward with their stories about him - turn out he used to get young girls (14~16) drunk to have sex with them, among other things. That guy is now i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:44 PM
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Most ugly guys are simply resentful that they "have" to be nice to women (or at least pretend to be) and show effort and investment if they want to get laid. THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:08 AM
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shirtless selfie despite being shaped like a teletubby 💀💀💀💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 01:01 AM
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I did that sometimes when I was still using OLD, but it's just not worth it - I went on dates, took one look at the guy and thought "no way". It's just a big waste of time, so it's better to not swipe on anyone then swiping left on "meh" guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:57 AM
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Wow, that's good to know, thanks! I'll look it up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:21 PM
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Brazil 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 09:20 PM
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I think they only dress to impress other men, and one proof of this is the awful habit (at least in my country) of going out in soccer teams shirts. Everytime someone criticizes this habit, men show up to say "they're expensive, I'd wear them even to my own wedding" 🤢 - well, being expensive doesn't make it any less ugly. They're more interested in showing off that they're part of a "tribe" than in looking good. Also, I see so many poorly dressed men holding hands with their dressed up girlfrien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:11 PM
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There's no lockdown in my country anymore (unfortunately), but I've been socially distancing and working from home since April 2020. I live alone with my cat and I haven't gotten out or met anyone - I mainly just leave the house to buy food and, as of this month, I started taking rollerskating classes again. I don't mind being alone at home, miss being able to go out alone though - going to the movies, museums, cafes and such. About my love life, I've been single for 3 years now, and the last ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 05:42 AM
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I like how FDS is a modern kind of "anti-flirt" league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:55 PM
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I never cared for flowers or jewelry, I don't even buy them for myself, but seeing men being so adamantly opposed to them make me not only want to buy for myself, but also expect them from any man who wants to date me - because at least I'll know he isn't cheap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:42 PM
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I don’t actually believe in asking men to do things for me. It’s a part of “getting to know each other” phase. Same. I don't really care about holidays (even with family) or Valentine's Day, but when I started dating my ex I made it clear that my birthday was very important and in 4 years he always had gifts for me on time. If I ever feel the need to remind a man that I he should plan something for my birthday, I'll know that it's time to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 05:19 AM
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Apparently it's "eugenics" now if women don't want to have children with a deadbeat dude 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 01:48 PM
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I've been thinking about how things will be after the pandemic and I worry the dating scene will be awful. Lots of men will try to "make up for the lost time in social isolation" and try to have sex with as many women as possible (more than they do already lol). I imagine very few people are going to enter committed relationships in the next 2 years. It may be a stretch but that's how I feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 09:27 PM
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It's a Brazilian podcast, that's why I didn't say the name. But in case any Portuguese speakers are interested, it's called "Não Inviabilize" and it's on Spotify.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:54 AM
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I made a breakup journal and I would never give it to my ex to read it, because there were pretty hurtful things in there. He wanted to hurt you and make you guilty, that's why he gave it to you. Good for you to not falling for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 07:08 PM
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I listen to a podcast where the host tell stories of real people who talk to her on Twitter. One of the episodes was about a woman who met her boyfriend at a funeral house (there were multiple funerals occurring at a time). The boyfriend was taking too long to introduce her to his family, and after she pressured him for answers, she found out that the funeral he was attending that day was of HIS OWN WIFE. And he saw a cute girl in the coffee area and gave her his number while his wife was in a c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 05:24 PM
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What a horrible man, I'm sorry it happened to you. I'm so afraid of being in a relationship and have the guy flip the switch on me, it's one of the reasons I prefer to stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 04:15 PM
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they get hella mad and say, " I'm opening up to you." It's like that tweet that said "Men really 'need someone to talk to' but instead of a therapist they look for a vagina"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 02:31 AM
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The men and their partners should answer separately. I'd love to see the compared data between how much work men *say* they do vs. how much work they actually do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:54 AM
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I’m curious as to what realizations about men did other fdsers here found the roughest I realized HVM are super rare and, even if I ever come across one, why would he choose me? There are younger, more beautiful, richer women around. I'm not depreciating myself, I just know men are vain. And besides, dating and vetting are a huge amount of work. Why should I bother with that just to realize after some months that I was wasting my time with a common scrote? Thanks but no, thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:39 AM
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It's a good thing that I've never experienced anything romantic or sexual - so what I don't know, I won't miss I've experienced romantic love only once, and although he was a good person overall, he was still LV (it pains me to say it but it's true). The breakup devastated me, and nowadays I'm grateful to have loved and to be loved, but all relationships end and I don't want to go trough that pain again. I wasn't cheated on or abused, so if I think I finally found "the one" and something like th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:28 AM
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I never liked it also. Now day after day I see women complaining they send super curated nudes with great light and poses, while men send back a shitty photo in a dirty bedroom and I'm like "Why are you wasting your time, then? For a man? For FREE??" - but if I say it out loud I'm "sex negative" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:53 AM
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I didn't know about the "trust" option, thanks for mentioning it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 12:38 AM
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Thanks, I was afraid my comment came out as a critic to OP, which wasn't my intention at all. I think I hit a language barrier here so I decided to clarify. Your second paragraph summarizes pretty well what I was trying to say!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:47 PM
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I didn't mean to defend him, I understand that he's just interested in using OP for sex. I guess I'm just "projecting" my feelings, maybe? Because I know how the way he's acting enforces a racist view, but I don't condone his actions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:18 PM
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I agree it's disrespectful, I didn't mean to say it wasn't. Of course it's a disgusting way to talk to any woman. As a black woman myself, I just get sad a black person markets themselves as a sexual object. Sorry if it seemed like I was defending him, it wasn't my intention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 12:12 PM
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OkC changed the way these questions work some years ago, around 2013 you had to answer a minimum number of questions to even show up on the list of available profiles. After the success of Tinder all the other dating apps seemed to want to do the same and started lowering their requirements. When I came back to the app, around 2018, it has already changed - I clicked on profiles because of the high compatibility just to find out the guy had answered 2 questions (while I did more than 100) 🤡🤡🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:52 AM
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You know, I really felt bad for him when I read that. He's a black man and I'm guessing OP is white. I'm not from the US so I don't pretend to discuss the racial dynamics there, but in my country it's well known that black men (and women) are often seen as good enough for sex but not for a relationship. The fact that a person would not only market themselves as a sex object but also in a racist way is just so sad to me. Edit: I'm not defending him. He's 100% in the wrong here. When I said I "fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 05:44 AM
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This 👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼👆🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:37 PM
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It happened to me around 3~4 months. He love-bombed me and talked to me non-stop daily, suddenly he started taking a long time to reply and going radio silence. Dumb me decided to ask what was going on instead of just blocking, and he replied he was "busy with work". Some days after, he reappears just to say that he "met someone and wanted to make it work with her" 🤷🏽‍♀️ I wish I knew FDS back then, it would have saved me from a lot of trouble
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:50 PM
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If he's inexperienced, it's his problem. You don't have to suffer through it. Last time I decided to "give a chance" to a guy whom I had bad/mediocre sex with because I thought he was just inexperienced, I was the one who ended up being dumped. Spare yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:37 PM
24

From what I hear, one of the "methods" is driving away with the woman to a secluded place and try to assault her there, especially if it's at night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 04:01 PM
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That last paragraph says it all! I couldn't agree more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 02:46 PM
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Two years ago I was talking to my psychiatrist about my desire to have a romantic relationship, she told me I should go out there and try some hobbies that are more male-dominated to meet more people, but that's so much work (I never did it)! My hobbies are either home-based/solo (like embroidery) or female-dominated. I don't want to try something that doesn't appeal to me just to meet men. And besides, I already work at a male-dominated field, and the absolutely majority of men I meet are LV. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:21 PM
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That meme is absolutely true 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 07:15 PM
44

Great post. I realized that myself some time ago - I've seen women saying that they met their partners on Tinder, or during an international trip, or at a protest, or at work, or through friends... But none of them ever went out of their way to meet men, they simply got lucky. I don't want to have that type of "work". Nowadays I just joke that, in order to have another relationship, my ~prince charming will have to come knocking on my door, because I'm tired of going through all the trouble of m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:59 PM
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I was going to say the same! Of course you can keep a friend for decades if your only interactions are to get beer, watch sports or talk shit about women 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:43 PM
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It may be stupid, but it just occurred to me: what if men don't "have to" be serial killers today, because they can satisfy their need for violence against women just by doing bdsm """consensually""" ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 04:53 PM
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I never buy them also. I already use contraception (nowadays and IUD, but I used to take the pill), so my money and my body are taking the biggest toll here. Any man who wants to have sex with me might as well buy the condoms himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 07:05 PM
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Most women featured in those posts are millionaires. Of course they look good, they have money and time to eat well, exercise with personal trainers, wear the best clothes and, of course, have aesthetic procedures done. That doesn't mean normal women don't look good after 30, but it's different. We shouldn't set famous rich women as an example because it's simply not possible for the majority of people to reach their level - we don't have the means.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 08:26 PM
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Maybe? I never thought about it, but in the last month I hate-watched both Bridgerton and Cobra Kai 😅 I think you're on to something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 06:40 AM
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Not actually a "gift", but a guy I was dating for 3 months lent me his old foldable bike because I said I missed riding a bike but didn't have space in my apartment to store one. One month after that, he ghosted me and only resurfaced to say he "met someone" and decided to make it work with her. I asked what he was going to do about his bike and he never responded. I waited one more month and sold it (I didn't make much money but in the end it didn't matter). I thought he was doing me a favor bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:18 PM
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Men asking how two women have sex as if they don't watch porn of it all the time.🙄 I'm not saying that porn depicts it correctly, of course, but am I supposed to believe that a guy who has the guts of asking this question never looked it up on pornhub before? Please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:44 PM
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But he was 20........ when the pictures were taken LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 04:17 AM
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From what I read, the show wasn't supposed to be "historically accurate" so it's more like a romance-fantasy. BUT the explanation Lady Danbury gave about it was pathetic - "The king fell in love with one of us and made us equal" like people would magically stop being racist if a king simply told them to? It would be more acceptable to imply all the races equal, tbh, than this (in a fantasy setting, I mean).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:54 AM
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. I've reached the goals of home ownership, getting my "fun money", getting my "FUCKOFF" money and I've done all I needed to do to ensure I'm safe and comfortable for life. I'm just going to sit over here collecting valuable antiques and blowing my hard earned cash "irresponsibly" on surrounding myself with beautiful things I love... Literal goals 🙏🙏🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:34 PM
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I love the show but I hate Richard so much! His dynamic with Nicole is absolute cringe because I know it's the same in real life for so many women...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 10:27 PM
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"I probably swiped you on accident" As if we didn't know they swipe right on everyone 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:03 PM
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In my country the ownership of guns is not massive like in the US, so the only men posing with guns on tinder were cops and military - and they did their best to look threatening in the pictures. Couldn't swipe left fast enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:53 PM
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I'm out of OLD (hopefully, forever) but these are the most random things I used to roll my eyes at: pictures in Macchu Picchu. I have NOTHING against the place, never visited, but I saw so many pictures of men there that it became a cliché Also, on the topic of travels: men that put all those flags on the profile to show off how well traveled they are Pictures with wild animals like tigers or lions (we know they're sedated and it's tacky) Pictures showing off cars or motorcycles, especially ilux…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:39 AM
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I travelled to Japan for exactly the same reasons. I really loved, it was my first international trip and every now and then I sing Japan's praises (of course I know no country is perfect and a tourist experience is different) but everytime I do it I'm afraid someone mistakes me for these anime-obsessed dudes 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 07:23 PM
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I never really cared for rings (even engagement rings are not a thing in my country, couples use wedding bands only), but I'm seeing so many beautiful rings in this sub I'm staring to want one too 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:25 PM
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I'm on antidepressants for 3 years now (reducing the dose gradually with psychiatric orientation) and I feel exactly that - everything is mediocre. I'm glad that I don't feel an immense sadness most of the time, but I'm rarely happy, even doing things I enjoyed to do. I don't even know if I'll ever feel super happy again, but not feeling extremely depressed is already worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 06:00 PM
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I was thinking about it the other day. After the vaccine, almost everyone who stayed isolated (and single) will feel the urge to "make up for the lost time" and hook up/sleep around. I think most people won't even consider commited relationships for a while.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:55 PM
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They are GOALS, I love them <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:26 PM
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I just want to be a free spirit with a ton of hobbies, ,a good social network, and occasional male companionship. I'd rather who I'm seeing stay his ass in his own space and I'll come over sometimes, then I can come home to my awesomeness cave that I decorated and created for myself. I'm 30 and I feel exacly like this. I wouldn't mind being in a long-term relationship, but with no marriage, no kids and with each one livin in their own house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 07:09 PM
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Congratulations! That was so inspiring <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 03:45 AM
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He gets one thing right: young women don't want anything to do with older creeps, especially when there are hot guys in their age group interested in them. This dude needs therapy, not a "young hot girl to have sex with". I didn't have the experience of dating during my teenage years, am I going to pursue teenage boys because of that? Of course not, that's disgusting. Men realize they have psychological problems but instead of seeking treatment, they try to use young women for sex hoping it'll m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:51 PM
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I had no idea about the men of those "macabre" professions! I haven't met anyone who work in those areas, though. I agree about IT/engineering workers because that's my field and they're usually either narcs or incel/redpill types.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:36 PM
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I'd love a FDS film club!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 08:01 PM
7

One signal I always see is buying motorcycles or sports cars just to show off their "young" side.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 07:20 PM
2

Hey, if you don't mind PM'ing me the link, I'm curious about it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:52 AM
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There's a joke in my country that goes like "Doctors think they're gods. Lawyers are sure they are." These two careers are full of narcissistic men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:38 AM
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Not a therapist, but I went to a male dermatologist once, he asked if I took any controlled medicine, I named the pill I took for depression/anxiety and he said "nowadays those kind of things are in fashion, right?" As if I WANTED to have a psychological issue. I usually only go to female doctors but that time there was none available, so I made the mistake of making the appointment with a man. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 03:10 AM
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I also don't have guys trying to date me, I don't have "orbiters", I don't have anybody sliding into my DMs. BUT I've been love-bombed and discarded, I've spent my time accommodating a "shy" guy who in the end wasn't even that interested, I've caught feelings too early and was left hanging. Only after I discovered FDS I understood why all that happened and how to avoid it. I might not be sought after but at least I'm not humiliating myself for men any longer, and that's worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 02:40 AM
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That's my goal. I'm always longing for a relationship (I'll make 3 years single in 2021) but FDS made me realize most men aren't even worth it, so this year I won't worry about relationships, won't date men, won't care about whether they find me beautiful or not. As you ladies say here, men will fuck anything. Their validation means nothing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:39 AM
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They played Bad Guy in one of the ball scenes, on episode 3 I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 02:40 AM
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And Billie Eilish!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:09 AM
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in Regina George's voice: So you agree? You agree that all men are naturally rapists and must be treated as so?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 08:12 PM
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I love the Pop Culture Detective channel. He has many video essays about sexism and toxic masculinity in pop culture, all of them extremely thoughtful. Of course, being a man, he doesn't get nearly as much hate as the women who talk about these issues, but I like that he uses his privilege to do this work. I recommend the video "Born Sexy Yesterday", about the trope of women in movies who are extremely naive like a kid for some reason but are also super sensual, and of course the male protagonis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 01:22 PM
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I hope she then replies "please do not contact me again. I have a new boyfriend and he doesn't know I have an asshole father"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 06:09 PM
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That last paragraph chef's kiss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 10:36 PM
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I'm 30 and never married but I confess this is my relationship goals 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 05:36 PM
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I love video games and so did my ex. Whenever we were at each others' houses and wanted to play, we'd play together or take turns. If any of us got bored, we'd just say it and the other would *stop playing* and we'd to somethin else together. I can't imagine going to a boyfriend's house just to spend hours cheerleadering him while he plays, it's like being an NPC in his own game LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:42 PM
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I'm sorry you went through this. In the book "Why Does He Do That?" the author explains exactly what you said - these men are never "out of control", they destroy exactly what they want to, and is always their partner's possessions, not theirs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:07 PM
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I feel like this but I don't want to ask for anything, I just want to receive them. All my life I've seen men bending over backwards to get or do stuff for women they considered pretty, even if these women didn't ask. Of course I know they have ulterior motives, but at least these women got things done for them "for free". I'm used to get things done for myself, and although I'd really like to be coddled sometimes, I don't think I'll happen. If I don't do things for me, no one else will - even i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:34 AM
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Thanks for explaining!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 08:37 PM
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Not really related to the post, but is it an American thing to buy a lot of gifts for the same person in one occasion? She said she bought many items, I've seen other posts on women talking about how they bought a lot of stuff for their boyfriends/husbands... It's just that in my country people usually buy one gift for each person, these posts get me so confused 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:21 PM
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OMG my ex tried to do this and I ripped him to shreds. And if he tried to do this in person I'd say "I was the one who said that! Don't steal my jokes!" He eventually stopped LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:34 AM
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That reminds me of a tweet I made after I watched that Netflix movie about the trial of the chicago seven - "that movie is so good it doesn't even seem like it's 2 hours of men talking nonstop" hahahah I usually hate listen to men's monologues. I tune out after some minutes, it's stressful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:15 AM
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From this picture he seems nice-looking, I wonder what's the problem with him that he can't have a real girlfriend (I mean, I know: porn addiction)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 08:46 PM
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That makes three of us. Everyday I open this sub and get more and more turned off by the idea of dating men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 06:51 PM
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I think it's about ownership, same as it happens with taking a woman's virginity - they think they're branding us somehow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:31 PM
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I'm watching it now because of your recommendation, seen 2 episodes so far. I was shocked to hear people saying that "he just likes beautiful woman" or "what's the problem with being a womanizer?" and "we have to think about the pain he and his family are going through" - but what about the victims' pain?? Also, it saddens me to see women being thrown under the bus in favor of the careers of powerful men. The IMF in 2008 was like "well too bad he's a harasser but we need him during this crisis".…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 01:50 AM
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I'm laughing so hard at this dude being like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:17 PM
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That's why I'm afraid of dating in the future, I'm 30 now, what are the odds of finding a good man of my age who isn't taken? I'm not going to entertain fuckboys 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:09 PM
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I almost spat out my coffee 😆😆😆😆😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 08:01 PM
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I couldn't agree more. Usually I'm so turned off by men and their lack of style - I don't mean they should live in suits, but at least they should wear more stylish clothes. I work in tech and I'm so tired of seeing men in the combo "ugly tennis shoes + unfitting jeans + generic t-shirt". 🙄 And speaking of the pictures, yesterday an acquaintance of mine posted a picture with her boyfriend, and he was SO ugly compared to her it made me sad. Besides, they went out to eat at the mall, during a pand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:25 PM
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I know a 37 year-old man who is exactly like her description (used to work with him). LV is LV regardless of their age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 09:32 PM
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Exactly! I saw one guy commenting "I'd be ashamed to take a woman like that to that place" but wtf, he should be ashamed of takingany woman to a place like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 11:05 PM
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I can't even understand the appeal
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:54 PM
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I still believe that almost no man would take a woman to this place, but the fact that many people find it funny disgusts me a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 09:53 PM
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Translation : "She getting all dressed up // Where I'm taking her" At first I thought it was a femicide """joke""", meaning that he'd kill her and dump her body there, but no - it's about having sex in THE. DAMN. FIELD. I can't stand men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 08:52 PM
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Imagine having a big apartment by the beach but living like you're in a camp or something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 11:13 PM
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I'd trade my """"privilege"""" of finding dates easily to the privilege of not having to worry about being abused anytime 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:52 AM
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Yeah I knew that if I got started on the risks of abuse and rape I'd write a wall of text. Nothing pisses me off more than these "women have it so easy they don't have to pay for dates!!" bullshit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:49 AM
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Men: can't cook, can't clean, can't take care of children, can't take care of the elderly, can't take care of themselves, don't even know how to do proper hygiene Also men: "women live life in tutorial mode LOLOLOL"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 04:34 AM
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I realized (unfortunately) that I'm more motivated when I'm in a relationship, but nowadays I just don't see the point of getting involved with someone just to have my heart broken and then going through a terrible period of suffering, so I just don't bother 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:44 PM
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Also, has anyone noticed that she said that they "have been together for almost 3 years" and "have lived together for almost 3 years"? Seems like they moved in together super quick and, considered the age gap and that she said she supported him, it's likely that he's the one who moved in with her. He's a parasite 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 09:30 PM
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Some men on the first video are commenting that we're just ~mad because we "can't find high-value men" uh, yeah we can't find them because most of men are LV They're telling on themselves and don't even realize it LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 01:39 AM
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That reminds me of a twitter thread I read some time ago: a woman asked what kind of things men do that we find attractive, people replied with common stuff like "driving" or "cooking", and I though I was weird because what I find most attractive in a man is when he puts effort in showing he's interested in me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 10:22 PM
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I've seen a post on twitter where a woman was showing how her own pictures of her buying PS consoles FOR HERSELF ended up on internet forums, with the narrative that was a "girl buying every new console for her boyfriend". It's very much a PR campaign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 02:45 AM
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In Brazil we say something like "don't eat the meat where you earn the bread", those sayings are so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 08:48 PM
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If sex is a need, how come inc**s are still alive? 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:43 AM
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You're right, a lot of people don't care, especially men. They'll go on about how rape is "historically accurate" on a medieval story, forgetting that it's a fantasy story. That's why OP is so right, the oppinions of men on fictional characters and events like these can tell a lot about them in real life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:37 AM
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You have the men who resent the women who went into higher education because they themselves never could. Just today I saw a post on AITA of a young woman who just got approved in med school talking about her 40-something brother in law who is sort of a "alternative medicine doctor" and is always making condescending remarks to her. Old jealous scrotes are pathetic, tbh. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:27 AM
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I hope you find some other place to live and have the pleasure of telling him that he won't be getting your "dumb college girl" money anymore!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:23 AM
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I like the novels, and I liked the show before it got increasingly misogynist and deviated from the books' story. The day I found out abot Sansa's rape was the day I dropped the show, I didn't even see the episode. The showrunners chose to add sex and rape scenes to the show (that didn't exist on the book) only for shock value and to appease to the male audience, and I don't need that type of shit in my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:05 AM
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And even when they're supposed to be "heroic" - like when they see a woman getting assaulted or harassed (by another man, of course), they often choose to turn a blind eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:24 AM
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Men (most of them, at least) were always weak af, I think. My mom told me a story about a boyfriend she had when she was in her twenties: one of her little brothers fell down and hurt his knee pretty badly, my mother's boyfriend offered to take him to the hospital and there they went. The boy ended up needing stitches, and when the doctor started doing the procedure my mother's boyfriend FAINTED My mother took her brother home, left the boyfrend there at the hospital and never talked to him agai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 08:41 PM
6

I laughed so hard at "you can have free food" Why the hell am I working, then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 04:08 AM
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I don't wear any makeup, ever. I don't like high-heeled shoes either. If a man ever complains that he expected me to wear them and I didn't, I'll just laugh at his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:53 AM
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This will be my motto from now on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:18 AM
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I just wish I could turn off my desire for male companionship My one and only dream regarding relationships. If I achieve that, I'll finally be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:28 AM
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I see. I don't usually do or buy things for men - although I am guilty of planning dates, because I like to control things (when I go back to dating again I'll do better). The problem is that I do many things by myself, like fixing stuff at home or travelling alone, and people in my circles know this. I'll keep in mind to be more private in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 02:08 AM
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How do you do it? I'm the independent type and it shows in every aspect of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:26 AM
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Here in Brazil we have a goverment program that pays a monthly sum to the poorest families - it's a small amount of money, but it helped many people to get out of extreme poverty. This money is paid to the women of the families, instead of men, because women actually use it to provide for everyone - buy food, clothes, schools supplies for their children. Men would just spend with booze and whatnot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 01:23 AM
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My god, what a psycho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 12:27 AM
3

These prints just removed 10 years of my life 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:09 PM
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I didn't read the one about the mason jars, but I remember that one of the saddest I've read was about the guy who threw all of his girlfriend's plants in the lake, even one that was from her deceased grandma, becase he """""snapped""""". I don't think it ever got an update, but I hope she left him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:46 AM
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"Girls deal so poorly with rejection", said the men whose gender is known for beating, raping and killing women because of rejection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 01:38 AM
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I'm not commenting on the dirty dick (ew), but the second one is so funny: he doesn't like girls romantically but still need us to pick-up his self esteem. Go ask compliments from your boys, my dude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 05:34 PM
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I found out about it when Reddit started banning some women-only, radical feminist forums. Someone commented that this sub might be at risk, and I thought "If men are angry enough with a sub to try to ban it, there must be good stuff there" - turns out it was right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:08 PM
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I love the show too! I only don't like Richard because I can't help but think "there's men like that in real life" whenever he does something extremely dumb that make Nicole's life harder 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 05:18 AM
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The forgetful/bumbling husband is a very culturally accepted trope I hate this trope so much! I used to watch The Amazing World of Gumball with my ex-boyfriend, and I hated Richard for that very reason, while my ex liked him because he thought they have things in common LOL. Richard is a complete "man" child, it's supposed to be funny but I can't stand it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 03:11 AM
9

Wow, what a nightmare. I'm glad hunting (of any kind) is not a thing in my country, but I'll add hunters to my "list of men who I should avoid" just in case. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:57 AM
3

Good on you for dropping him! Life's to short to waste time with LVM even as "friends"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:32 AM
20

Yeah, considering he was on vacation and wouldn't be there, he absolutely wanted to make a fool of OP. He's not her friend at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 08:41 PM
10

I gave up the pills and got a copper IUD some years ago, also because of problems with hormones. My boyfriend at the time always used condoms also, I like to combine 2 methods all the time because abortion is not legal in my country (except in cases of rape). I like the IUD because I don't really have to do anything, and it lasts 10 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 01:38 AM
38

No pic, no bio, no name. This dude might not be a lawyer, but he's married for sure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:54 PM
10

I CACKLED 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 06:40 PM
56

Funny how he instantly calls his mama to save him 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 03:58 AM
65

I guess they're talking about that print from twitter, where a woman said that god created men to provide, so we shouldn't split rent with them. Quite a jump from that to "using religion", but you can't expect men to use logic 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 11:53 PM
41

Story time: some years ago, I was at a tech event for women and started chatting with a some of them. The topic of relationships came up, and one of those women started talking about her boyfriend, how great he was, etc. I asked how long they were dating, it was less then one year but they were already living together. She then proceeded to tell us how they came to live together: apparently, he had broken up recently but was still living with his ex when this girl and him started dating. Then he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:12 PM
24

To use an expression I learned on this sub: couldn't be me 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:27 PM
12

I have sex with men for the connection and the orgasms. If I only wanted the orgasms, I'd be happy with a vibrator, I'd never look for a relationship with a man. But I want to sex to be fulfilling for me too, if I don't orgasm I get unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 06:23 PM
93

In one of her comments she mentioned that she didn't expect this of his friends also, because they were always nice to her and used to invite her on groups outings. She said she didn't understand why they would treat her nicely to her face and say nasty things behind her back, and my first thought was "Because they're men. That's what they do". How can we trust men when they act like that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:20 PM
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I remember that. And she only found out because he wanted to have a prenup because, of course, she - like all women - could only be a golddigger after she supported them both for years. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 11:28 PM
55

I liked that aspect of Chinese culture. I absolutely hate random gifts, it seems like you're nothing to the person who gifted you. I ended up a +10 years friendship because she gave me something that was clearly a second-hand gift that she didn't like 🙄 I think people should not buy anything for others if they aren't willing to put some thought into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 03:43 PM
61

I'm rewatching Downtown Abbey and every time Bates say something like that to Anna I remember the FDS principles. It's actually funny to watch any romance scenes in the media now, because I look for LV behavior all the time 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 07:32 PM
80

I bet you would be banned in no time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 03:20 AM
183

Now imagine the OUTCRY that would happen if a woman replied that she'd take the time to sever as much penises as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/20 02:29 AM
157

If he's a widower, his wife has been dead for less then a year and he's already spending his money on Onlyfans. It's kind of disgusting, tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 07:37 PM
32

It happened to my mom. She was born on the day of St. Francis, so my grandmother wanted to name her as a homage to him. For context, in Portuguese the saint's name is Francisco, so the female version of the name would be Francisca. My grandfather refused and instead named my mother "Ana" (not her real name). Later, the family found out that Ana was the name of an ex-girlfriend of my grandfather. Edit: a word
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:57 PM
6

It's funny how men don't seem to see how the world is. If he continued being a teacher he'd still be fat and old, only with less money because teacher are underpaid (which is unfair, of course, but that's not the point). He'd still have chronic pain for seating/sleeping on a futon. He probably wouldn't even have a house. Now he has money but doesn't use it to ease his life. No matter what choices he made in the past, he'd still be unhappy in the present for one reason only: because he's dumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 04:44 PM
17

I can even hear men coming out of the sewers saying "BuT BaTmAN aNd sUpeRMaN dONt eXiSt!!!", like they weren't defending Batman's honor the day before just because someone on twitter said that "Batman likes to beat mentally ill people" as a joke LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 03:22 AM
40

One point about equality: we usually don't get paid as much as men, so going 50/50 with them means losing money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:36 AM
6

Why is it always pasta? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 02:19 AM
33

This is my most recent OLD story: After being single for 2 years and being bored as hell with the lockdown, I decided to download Tinder again. I swiped through an endless stream of trashy profiles for about two weeks. One night I was swiping and saw a profile whose only picture was of a guy kissing a woman's breasts (she was wearing a bra). It seemed like a softporn studio picture, so I guess it wasn't the guy in question. I used to print some of the weirdest profiles to post on Twitter as a jo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 09:02 PM
11

Girl, where is the GitHub link for that bot? 👀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:34 PM
3

Yeah, I realized he was never really a friend. I'm glad he removed himself from my life, though. He didn't cause any real trouble for me, so in the end he did me a favor - I realized I should not trust men easily, no matter their sexual orientation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:06 PM
44

I had a co-worker (I changed jobs earlier this year) that I consider absolute LVM trash. He was pornsick and openly talked about it - he had bragged that he subscribed to pornhub, for example. You would think that no women would go near him, right? But that guy is never single for more than some months at a time. He's not handsome, I don't think he can hold a good conversation. He liked to make mean jokes. But he was always dating, his relationships didn't last more than a year because - I think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 01:53 PM
28

LOL, it's the quarantine making everyone try to improve their culinary habilities - some learn to bake bread, others to boil eggs 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:43 AM
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Even if you combined his hard boiled egg with that other scrote's ground turkey and broccoli you still wouldn't have a complete meal Impressive 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 04:00 AM
6

He had other friends there too, and some he kept (including that one he complained to that I became distant). I guess I was one of those that weren't "useful" to keep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 12:49 AM
12

They really just want a sex doll, right?? 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:57 PM
5

Sometimes I read a post here and think "I wish I could be friends with this lady", and this is one of them. Very inspiring! Good luck on your level-up journey, OP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:52 PM
59

That's true. Two years ago, I made friends with a gay man from my job. We'd go out together and do many things, a friend of ours even joked that we looked like a couple. I really valued our friendship because I'm don't have a lot of friends and it's good to have someone close at work. Then he got another job, and as soon as he left the company he started slow fading then soft blocked me on the socials. He ever had the guts to tell a friend in common that I was getting distant, when he was the on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 01:42 PM
19

For my 30th birthday this year, I decided to make a layered cake with frosting, somethin I never tried before, althoug I'm a pretty good cook. I made a trial run of the recipe two weeks before my birthday, noted everything that went wrong so I could make it better on the day. Mind you, I was making this cake for myself only, because of lockdown. I'd never try something so unusual for someone else's birthday because many things can go wrong and I'd never want to ruin a special ocasion - something…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:35 AM
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Yeah, I hate how you're supposed to guide men by their hands and say step by step what you would like in bed, especially if he's doing oral sex. And you have to ask, othewise they wont't bother. All the while, I (and I guess most women) never had to be thought by our dates how to do a blowjob properly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 03:21 AM
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After being single most of my adult life, this kind of message pisses me off a little. I mean, I take care of myself just fine, I've been doing it for years. I live alone, I travel alone, I take care of my house and my cat, I go out alone. How many more years do I have to "learn" to live on my own? This is not a critique to OP, I just hear that a lot and I'm real tired of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 02:33 AM
19

It's not actually a rebuttal, but I never forget a post I saw on this sub that said: "if men are so visual, why are they ugly?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 06:30 PM
12

**inserts the "Hold on I'm calling Freud" meme *
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 05:11 PM
86

Isn't this Betty Broderick's story?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 07:05 AM
9

Amazing list! I saved it already. Best wishes to you and your husband!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 08:51 PM
2

I'm sorry for your loss. It's hard to shake that feeling of not deserving the bad things that happen to us, even though we know life is so random.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 06:05 PM
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My ex loved it and always tried to make me come more than once from it. I won't accept any man who doesn't like to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 01:51 AM
19

Yeah, it happened to me in 2018. I was dating a guy for 4 months, he was always suggesting that he wanted us to be official (I was trying to take it slow), planning things, saying he told his family about me, suggesting trips for the future. He invited me to spend new year's Eve in his city, I had already bought the plane ticket, then he starts slow fading. He then came back to say he was interested in someone else and, although "nothing had happened yet", he wanted to try with her. At least he …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 07:29 PM
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- Don't give chances to ugly men in hope they're nice. They aren't. - Casual sex isn't worth it because men are selfish. - Don't try to get closure after being ghosted. Anyone who ghosts you doesn't give a fuck about you, no matter how long you dated. - Guys who don't pursue you don't want you. He's not shy, he's just not that into you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/20 03:20 AM
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Wow, what a trash human being. I made this list based on different men I encountered, but you had the bad luck to find all that in the same guy. I'm glad you ghosted him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:53 PM
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This happened to me last year. I pursued a "shy" guy, and after one month of dating he dumped me saying that he wasn't "even that interested". I swore to myself that I'd never go after a man again, and when I found FDS this year, I finally understood why men do this kind of thing. Don't ever pursue a man, he'll use you even if he doesn't want you. Men don't have the decency to simply turn down a woman they don't like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:01 PM
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I also hate it when they try to separate themselves from rapists/assaulters by saying "they are monsters, not men" NO It's men who are doing these violences, monsters do not exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 08:45 PM
2

Good for you to get out. Unfortunately, many men from the software industry align with incel/mgtow views. You deserve better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 04:13 AM
5

I feel so bad for her. No matter what she does, the guy is going to leave her to pay the debt alone. It pains me to see women being used like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 04:01 AM
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I love seeing more women in tech anywhere! I'm lucky enough to work for a company that employs a lot of women, but in the beginning of my career I had to work in male-only places and it was hell 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/10/20 03:39 AM
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Since I graduated 6 years ago, I don't really get to meet a lot of people from different areas (STEM of otherwise), so most of the men I know are from work, an they're all in tech. And to make matters worse, after knowing them for a while they start talking to me like "one of the guys", so I've heard them complaining about their girlfriends/wives countless times, and it made me respect them even less. The myth of the "socially awkward guy who goes to work in tech not to deal with people" is kind…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:58 PM
131

I'm a software engineer and I've dated four guys from my field. They were, specifically: - one of those PUAs - an older guy who wanted to take advantage of young college women - a narcissistic/love bomber - a "shy" guy (who in the end wasn't shy, just uninterested) I'd recommend not to date men in the software industry at all, because they are mostly LV. It's not worth it. In any case, here are some red flags I have seen: 🚩If you both are from the same field of study/work, he tries to test your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 07:20 PM
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I hate this mentality that a person has to be "productive" all the time, even in their hobbies. I already work 40h a week and have to clean my house/cook/by groceries/take care of my cat, I want to have time to be lazy as well, to do nothing. I have some hobbies but sometimes I just want to spend 3 hours gaming or binge-watching something on Netflix, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Of course I'm not excusing the behavior of men who spend ALL of their time gaming/watching porn, bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 04:59 AM
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That's why I hate it when women proclaim all over the internet their preferences for guys with "dad bods" or ugly guys. When have men ever do the same? I've never seen a man say that her prefers "an ugly woman with a nice personality", or a fat woman, or anything like that. They hide their relationships with unconventional women and dump them for hotties the minute they get the chance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:23 AM
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Life goals (I don't plan on living together or having children with a man, so that's ideal)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 08:42 PM
25

Manthematics 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:20 AM
9

I think I'll pass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 04:19 AM
43

If a man did this to me, I'd immediately go to his wallet, get his card and buy new clothes (the most expensive I could find). He destroys something, he has to pay for it. I bet he'd learn how to do laundry right in a minute. I actually did something similar to my ex - he broke my favorite mug while doing the dishes and I made him pay for another one. He didn't do it on purpose, but regardless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:01 PM
19

Best outcome possible!!! OP is a queen 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 04:23 AM
15

Flawless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:33 AM
10

Some people commented on the main post that he could have been trash-talking her all along, complaining that she was clingy and never left him alone, and his friends just brought up what he already said. It's not impossible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:33 AM
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And I forgot to say that not only he was chubby himself, but he was also shorter than me. The audacity! She is correct that these put-downs are tests. We can't let it affect us, it tells more about the man who does them than us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:29 AM
2

That does make sense!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:15 AM
12

Thanks for sharing! I'll watch the longer video later, but I already watched the one about when the man criticizes you on the first date, and I noticed I use a lot the "savage way" she mentions - not that much on dates, but mostly with "friends"/at work. I have to be this way, otherwise they'd take advantage of me. I remembered that a guy I dated in 2018 once said to me "something something chubby" and I was like - Are you talking about me? - Yes, you. - Fuck you, only I can call myself chubby. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:13 AM
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I can imagine. What shocks me more in my country's case is that the serial killer was flat-out ugly! I can't imagine seeing his picture on the newspapers and being attracted to him. There must be some psychological "disorder" (not sure how to word it) behind thinking you're in love with someone who you never met and who committed a heinous crime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:27 PM
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I'd love to know more about it too. Years ago, there was a serial rapist/murderer in my country who targeted only women (as it's common). After he got caught and went to prison, he received letters from many women who claimed to be "in love" with him, and , of course, the men in my country used this to "justify" their assumption that women only want bad guys. 🙄 I really would like to understand how some people can be attracted to someone who poses a threat on their lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:16 PM
6

All right, I imagined it would be the case. Won't post the link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 10:08 PM
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It got removed by the mods, but I have the link here. Is it ok that I post it on this thread or should I PM you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:02 PM
20

I disagree about the age - dude is almost 30, maybe I'd "expect" this from a 20~22 year old guy, but at 27 he should know better. Besides, if he's still like that almost in his thirties, he'll never change. She's much better of without him, anyway!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:59 PM
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It must be the same one who tried to message me after I posted. Too bad the chat was already disabled, as many women here recommended 💅🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:14 PM
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Surprisingly, most of the comments up until now have been supportive to her. I hope she doesn't back down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:06 PM
129

"Can't she handle some hEaLtHY BaNTeR between friends????"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:02 PM
180

Yes. Working on a male-dominated field, I see it all the time. They bond by putting women down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:00 PM
65

I don't doubt for one second that he'd do everything to humiliate her just to get revenge. She deserves a lot better (and, gladly, she knows it)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:43 PM
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I loved the way she handled it, but I saw some people commenting that they were "both angry" and should "talk later to sort it out", and I really hope she won't follow that advice. This guy will respect her even less if she takes him back, and besides, what kind of shitty man is he, that listen to his friend mocking his relationship and goes along with it? Pathetic, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:40 PM
642

Exactly. Men who treat you good in private but treat you like shit in front of his friends don't deserve your company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:36 PM
69

Last time I checked, most people were saying she acted right, but the post was fairly new so I don't doubt people will shame her for holding her ground, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:35 PM
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Girl YOU KNOW he's taking you to some field he knows after he reads that 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 12:37 PM
18

I'd be ashamed to show the entire internet that I date a pig, ew The smelly towel 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:04 PM
5

3 out of 6, so 50% (I guess I'm lucky). One of those three was my only long-term boyfriend, the other two were men whom I dated for a few months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:39 PM
17

I hope she stabs him next time he pulls this shit while she's chopping something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 10:12 PM
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I watched the Netflix one yesterday. I never wanted to marry and I'm childfree, and the documentary just cemented my decision to never marry and never cohabitate with a man. Of course I want a relationship and companionship, but if he ever turns on me he can leave, there will be nothing binding him so that he thinks he can resort to murder to get rid of me. I'm terrified of ending up with a monster
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 06:27 PM
2

Thank you! I'll check her videos ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:19 PM
2

I'll look it up, thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:18 PM
2

I will message you, thanks! It's good to get new references regardless of how different our styles can be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:18 PM
2

Those are great! I love high-waisted pants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 04:16 PM
3

Thanks for the advice! I think I balance my outfits well, but since I usually wear casual clothes both to work and to go out on a daily basis (I get more elegant o special occasions, but those are rare), I never thought I could look sexy without being "over" or out of place. I'll look up some outfits on Pinterest and see if there's anything I can add gradually to my style. I don't think I'll ever look super sexy but I'd like to improve in this aspect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:14 AM
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Thanks for the advice! I like to wear clothes a little large, like mom jeans, (casual) long dresses and skirts, that I balance with a more fitted top. I used to have more of a nerdy style, but in the last few years I've been changing to more classic/minimalist clothes with a twist - usually an interesting pattern. I see myself being more elegant as I get older (like in my 40s-50s, I always wanted to be a elegant lady), but I don't know if I can be sexy because I'm always o the casual/comfy side.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:09 AM
6

. A woman can be so sexy without showing anything at all. Is there any advice you can share about that? I never liked to show my body so I really never felt I could be sexy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 01:45 AM
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I'm like u/letsberealforamoment - I like to keep it simple, especially because men don't do half the things we do to look good and are still respected. For me, my skincare routine consists of washing my face with anti-acne soap, applying sunscreen in the morning and anti-acne hidrating lotion in the evening. I also use body lotion because sometimes my skin can get a little dry. I only shave during summer, only because social "pressure". I wouldn't do it if showing hair on legs/armpits wasn't fro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:58 PM
12

I love that all of them are trash 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:53 PM
15

Go boy, give us nothing!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:42 PM
10

If such a man existed I wouldn't mind proposing to him 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:39 PM
45

Yes, they keep them and share in their WhatsApp groups. I'm terrified of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 02:35 PM
129

I remember reading a post years ago, either from Reddit or 9gag, where a man said that he was a cell phone technician and whenever a "slutty looking" woman showed up with her phone to be fixed, he always looked for nudes and always found them. I never liked to take and send nude pictures, and reading that just reinforced my decision to not do it. Imagine showing up at a porn website just because of a guy like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 01:52 PM
11

I'm dead 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 06:34 PM
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That's so weird. Earlier this year I was vacationing in Japan, and was on OLD because why not. A guy asked me on a date, and offered me two options: a walk in the park (a tourist spot) or going to a bar to drinks and dinner. I said yes to the second option because even though Japan is supposed to be a safe country (way safer than mine), there was no way in hell I'd go walking in a park with a stranger in the evening. We went out to eat and have drinks and he paid for everything, but now, after d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 01:51 PM
19

It's either one of those: they are narcissistic, love-bomb you and then ghost you they rely on you to make all the moves because they're nerdy/shy Been there, done that 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 04:41 PM
16

I don't have a father figure. My father passed away when I was four and my mother never remarried. And from what she told me of him - he expected to have the house clean when he arrived home, even though my mother worked, he didn't want her opinion while building their house, he had a mistress while she was pregnant with me - I'm glad he wasn't in my life. My mother raised me to be independent, to study, to do my own things. Maybe if my father was alive, I'd have grown up with a twisted sense of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 04:53 PM
16

The saddest thing is that the bar is so low, any men who does the bare minimum is already way ahead. Earlier this year I dated a guy. He had a nice sense of style, nice clothes (the type I like, a little bit ~hipster), took care of his appearence. After it ended, I got really sad because it's fucking HARD to find a man who has these three - literally the bare minimum (of course he had other qualities not regarding appearence, but that's another subject). Why do men have to be so ugly? 😭😭😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:08 AM
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I think he's totally projecting, maybe he did something shitty for an ex once, she complained, and now he's whining
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:41 AM
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I kind of get the annoyance of having an entire party day with multiple locations, BUT: - funny how he never blames the husband for being a "control freak", of course the woman is the evil puppet master because no man ever would plan things, right? - since when do you have to forgo birthdays at a certain age? I love celebrating my birthday and always will. I don't usually do big parties, but I try to celebrate with friends and always do something special for myself, like a short trip. I bet he i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:36 AM
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They have no shame. Once I was on a bus, standing because there were no seats left, one guy was seating at one side of the aisle, his friend at the other. Guy one stretch his arm, phone in hand, and starts showing his friend several pictures of semi-naked women (from some whatsapp group), right there in the middle of the bus. He only "hid" his phone a bit when the friend looked back, saw me staring in disbelief, and warned the other dude. Mind you, this was during the day. But they don't really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 01:26 AM
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And they can mass-send it to all the women they're talking to at a time. If a guy doesn't have something to talk to me about, I'd rather he doesn't bother me with good morning/night texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:44 PM
14

Beautiful! And I loved the name "Avant-gardens" 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:24 PM
3

I'm afraid this happens when I try dating again. It's easy for me to get emotionally attached, and I used to try and give second chances if the sex wasn't that good (which I won't do anymore), so both waiting and having sex early can have bad results for me 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 02:59 PM
5

This. Maybe Alex can turn it on OP, say that she's interested in him and is trying to sabotage his relationship. Sending an anonymous message is the best way to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 01:04 PM
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I work at a male-dominated field, so even before joining Reddit I had the displeasure of getting to know first hand how the average man thinks. After a while, they star considering you "one of the guys" (not regarding friendship or respect, though - they just stop pretending around you) and spill some of their misogynist thoughts. The way they belittle their wives and girlfriends to other men is absurd, and they view women they don't know only as objects. Of course they'd refrain to say things t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 12:55 PM
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I got 2 out of 6. The first is my ex-boyfriend. The second is one guy I dated briefly while I was taking an international trip this year - and even him wasn't as good as my ex because he didn't like to do oral. Now I wonder if I'll ever have sex again, imagine going to all the trouble of dating only to be desappointed once more
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:59 AM
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I guess it kind of relates to pedophilia as well, since there's a lot of "teen" porn where the woman must look like they're young.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 08:48 PM
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Once I was reading a thread on Twitter about "worst date stories". There was a girl saying that her date invited her to his house, I don't remember for what, but when she arrived there he said he was going to take a shower and asked her to do the dishes. She sat on the sofa and waited, but he was taking too long, so she sneaked to the bathroom door and listened, and it seemed like he was playing a game on his phone (she heard the sounds) and let the shower on just to pretend he was taking a show…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 04:51 PM
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"I was never the type to chase males or just be in a relationship with just anyone. But I have been a pickme for men I’ve felt strongly about and they were not worthy of my love." This! Unfortunately, men think that just because you treat him well, you do this to anyone and so you're "desperate" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:42 PM
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I feel that way too, and I have for most of my life. Growing up, I was an "ugly" girl who didn't have any romance experience during my teenage years, and always felt like I was lacking something. After being in a relationship for 4 years, with a man who wasn't an HVM but still was 100 times better than most men I know or heard about, I can say surely that I'm happier when I'm loved. I do everything for myself, but I'm completing 3 years single and I know I'll never be happy single. The problem i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 03:13 AM
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What is "GGG" ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 02:47 AM
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Thanks! I'll elaborate it better and post there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:53 PM
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I've been meaning to ask about it: when is it acceptable to split on dates? I've seen women here saying they only split bills when commitment is established, others say they never pay for anything. During my only long-term relationship, we splitted and took turns paying. Other than that, I didn't have many dates, but usually the men payed for the first date and some others. Sometimes I'd offer to split. All this was before I discovered FDS. Going forward, what should I expect? I know the man is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:42 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:53 AM
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I love how he says "monogamy became a thing" as if men didn't establish and enforce it through violence 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 09:34 PM
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"Don't bring him Beyoncé" is actually a good summary of the FDS principles
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:56 AM
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I'm the sobber 🙃 🙃 🙃
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:32 AM
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Once I read a tweet where a person stated that the day you are asked on a date shows the level of interest the other person has on you. Fridays and Saturdays are the best days, reserved for the "top" people. Weekdays are for people you're not sure/don't have anything better to do. Seems like this guy, as you said, will go out with someone he likes more. OP shouldn't waste her time with her anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 04:30 AM
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Wow, your aunt is great!!! I'm afraid of falling, but I use protective gear and I'm making progress. Rollerskating is super fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:34 PM
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Thanks for your advice! I always wear gear, I'm super afraid of falling and hurting myself, even though they teach how to fall and how not to fall if you lose balance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:32 PM
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These are my current hobbies: Embroidery Rollerskating (I'm taking classes, in fact I went back last week - rollerskating is not very popular in my country, so I didn't want to learn by myself since I'm "too old" to be falling in public 😅) Instant photography (I'm also learning). I really want to learn how to sew, but I'll have to wait until this pandemic ends. Edit: formatting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:25 PM
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I've read an article about it too. Also, I don't know if it happens in the US, but my country is generally very racist even though most people are mixed race, so the treatment is different for black/dark skinned people depending on what they are wearing - that's why many poc dress up to avoid being mistreated on shops/restaurants etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:07 AM
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Sorry! I think I can't edit the post, so I'll delete it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 11:17 PM
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Good post! I found out about attachment styles here on FDS, hadn't heard of it before. From the information I read and the test, I think I'm anxious. While I was lucky enough, it seems, to have had my only committed relationship with a secure attached man, I had a lot of trouble after breaking up because I've met only avoidant men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:22 PM
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I noticed that, but my friend speaks portuguese, why would he try to write in English? Maybe he thought he would have more chances if he "seemed" to be a foreigner? What a joke 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:59 PM
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Ewww I pity the women who will have to deal with their sons later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:37 AM
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Raise your son like this, then act surprised when he's 35 and you still have to make his bed everyday.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 01:38 AM
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I watched some episodes, and I was always like "I bet this dude beats/abuses the cat". That's how you make animals hate you. And there always were some guys who gave ultimatums like "it's me or the cat", like boy??? Who do you think you are??? I love cat's and I have only one for now, but I plan on getting another. I'll never date a man who doesn't like cats - what's the point of letting someone into my house who won't treat my pet as good as I do?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:16 PM
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Imagine marrying someone just to get on-demand anal sex I'm disgusted, but not at all surprised
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:45 AM
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I don't think marriage would be advantageous for me, since I don't want to have children. I understand that marriage can give security to some women, especially if they have children - but as a childfree woman, mixing finances and cohabitating with a man would be nothing but trouble.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 04:51 AM
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I think exactly like you. My dream is to have a life partner whom I'm not married to and don't live with Is this too much to ask? 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:38 AM
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When I used Bumble, my first messages to the guys were always a generic gif of a cute animal "saying" hello. I did that only to signal I was open to the conversation, and the guys who were interested would always find something to talk about. I guess it takes a lot of the weight of initiating contact.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 03:06 AM
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Then they should do the world a favor and die already Imagine the peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 09:30 PM
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Don't bother using tinder in Brazil, seriously. It's a cesspool. Men are either absolutely disgusting or fuckboys. And I haven't even mentioned the no-pic-no-bio profiles stating that they want casual sex only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:55 PM
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What app/site are you using?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:59 PM
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Why would she shop for food two times a day (every day)? The schedule is ridiculous, of course, but the two-time shopping is bothering me so much LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 11:54 PM
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I'm sorry you're going through this, but you have to end this relationship now. Imagine if you take him back, the ex later breaks up with her current boyfriend and then your guy suddenly dumps you because she's now available - something like that could happen, because if he's not sure about you after one year of relationship, he'll never be. You're better off alone. Be strong!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:12 AM
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Life is too hard already. I want my relationships to give me joy, otherwise I prefer to stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 09:43 PM
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In my country the cheek kiss is absolutely common and I LOATHE it. I usually just say hello from afar, but when the person leans forward I go along with it out of habit. I'm going to start stretching my hand in advance to avoid this kind of situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:51 PM
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OMG imagine having the nerve of not only lying about your job to seem interesting, but thinking everyone else does it too, just because you do 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:59 PM
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Unlikely, because I quit OLD two months ago and I'm still social isolated, so I don't see men anywhere (I'm just not going to say it's impossible because a dude can always appear out of thin air to talk shit 😅😅😅)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:49 AM
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Well, your last message and the title made me laugh, so for what it's worth, I think you're fun (men are the ones who overestimate their sense of humor anyways)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:47 AM
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I mean, even if they're genuinely interested/amazed by my line of work, there are better ways to phrase it that don't sound like I lied on my profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:38 AM
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LOL I'll try that next time (hope there won't be a next time though, tired of men downplaying my work)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:33 AM
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One thing that I'd always get on OLD was the question "wow are you really a software engineer???". It put me off right away, because the man who asks this is either one of those who think women aren't into STEM because of our ~pink lady brains incapable of doing math~ or he's negging. Once I got pissed and said "Of course I am, do you think I'd write that on my profile if it wasn't true?", to which the guy responded "It's because you're so beautiful, you're not the type to pursue this type of wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:03 AM
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I bet his girlfriend was the one who wrote the message, actually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:53 AM
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You should be careful because he left a long-term relationship too recently, you might be just a rebound.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:28 AM
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That's an outfit I love! The company I for work doesn't have a dress code, so sometimes I wear long blouses or sweaters with leggings to work. I also like to wear them when I have my period and get bloated, they're much more confortable than jeans (which I love, btw).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:17 AM
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Will do!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 02:23 AM
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Ask who else is going to this hang out, he might try to clarify that it's a date then (I never tried this, so I can't say if it works).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 12:01 AM
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I always thought that if a guy liked me for me it wouldn’t matter when we slept together or how it happened. I used to think so too, especially because that was how it happened with my ex-boyfriend - we had sex on the second date and we still had a commited relationship for 4 years in our early 20's (I don't want to get married so he wasn't stalling me or anything like that). I am very selective with whom I date, so when I like someone I'm very open an sincere (all pre FDS), but I guess men thin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:37 PM
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I'm not sure yet. The company I work for has offices in different countries, and I'm waiting for new openings - but there's no chance of it happening this year, thanks to COVID. Europe (have to decide a country yet) would be ideal because it would make it easier to visit new places, but I'm considering Canada too (I speak French and English, my native language is Portuguese, so language would not be a big problem).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 07:01 PM
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That's a good list! I think I'll make one myself too. Like you, I still feel unconfortable being single - I know I will not settle for less than what I want/deserve, but I still get sad over seeing lots of seemingly happy couples while I'm still alone. I'm thinking about moving abroad in the next 2 years, I haven't decided anything yet but I started making plans. I'll make the move alone, so it'll be a good chance to center myself in my own life and needs, and to occupy my thoughts with stuff th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:06 PM
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I need a trigger warning because it's been a while, sis...............
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:18 PM
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Once my ex-bf and I were talking about things we would like to try in the bedroom. He asked if I'd try anal, I said no and that was it. He never mentioned it again during the 4 years we dated, he never tried that "oops wrong hole" bullshit that some men do. Based on that, I'll never tolerate a man that insists that I do it. I never tried anal, but it doesn't appeal to me, and based on what other women say, I never will. Men know that it hurts and that women in general don't like it, that's why t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 08:06 PM
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I'm 30, don't want to have kids and don't want to get married either. I've seen those thread and articles about "apartnership" and it's truly what I want for my life. I remember watching Only Lovers Left Alive some years ago, seeing protagonists living apart but visiting each other at times and thinking "that's it, that's the goal!" 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:58 PM
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LOL I did something similar "Oops that's my bus coming sorry bye" and ran like hell 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:07 PM
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OMG I had a guy tell me that on the first date too! He was talking about how he used to have great hair when he was a teenager, but now it was thinning out (mind you, he was 25), and that he would have 4 children so at least one of them would have great hair like him 😂 He said that jokingly, and he surely wasn't referring to me, it was supposed to be a short-term thing between us, but I found it so weird that he'd say something like that even as a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 11:10 PM
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My absolute fave too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:45 PM
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In my mind she only agreed to this plan to tell the girlfriend that the guy is setting her up. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 10:33 PM
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Good for you! I'll try to keep my hopes up. I'm not a match for men with children as well, being childfree is a deal breaker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:15 PM
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There goes my hopes of finding a HVM who's childfree like myself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:55 PM
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Literally all of them 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:20 AM
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That's something I have to deal with in the future - I'm very selective overall, but when I meet someone I actually like I make my best to be available to them ( I don't cancel plans or anything for myself, but try to accommodate). I do this for my friends as well, who I don't see often because we all have busy schedules, so I always believed it's an indication that I value their company. It's sad to learn that a man will think less of me for doing that 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:27 PM
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My family is similar. My mother always thought me to be independent, study, have my own things and never depend on a man, she raised me an my brother alone after my father died, you'd think she's super progressive but no - regarding domestic work, she always made me do everything while my brother never had to lift a finger. Of course it pissed me off, and in my teenage years I started to rebel against it. I moved out of home for college and live alone ever since. Now my brother, who's 25, lives …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:17 PM
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When I moved to my first solo apartment, where I'm still living, I didn't have a lot of furniture (just bought the essential appliances) or decor. For a week I also had the infamous mattress on the floor 😅 - I had a single one, and was waiting for my new double bed and mattress to be delivered. The thing is, other than my boyfriend at the time, who I was already dating for a year and who helped me a lot with moving, I didn't invite anyone to my home until it was presentable. I could never have g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:47 PM
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Me neither. Specially now that I'm getting older, and I don't plan on having children. What are the odds of finding a single HVM in his thirties who's child free also? The good ones are all taken. I still want companionship but everyday in this sub I get a little closer to accept that I'll probably be single forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:48 AM
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I tried casual hookups for the first time this year, during an international trip. I met two guys during my trip, both took me out to dinner and drinks and also payed for everything. Sex was good only with the second, the first was selfish. After coming back home, I realized it isn't for me. I don't want to go to the trouble of talking to and meeting men just to have somewhat satisfactory sex. Casual hookups are good for men because they can be selfish and come nonetheless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:37 AM
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I'm a software engineer, I've dated three men from my field (one of them was a co-worker, actually) and they were all LV. Most of my classmates in college and coworkers were absolute trash also.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/20 01:40 AM
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Some years ago, I was at a mall, and there was a coulple walking in front of me. The guy slapped the woman's butt so hard I swear I could hear the echo. She just looked at him in disbelief, I was super embarassed for her. I'd never let a guy disrespect me like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:29 AM
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What is this "trend" of men dumping women on their birthdays or other special occasions? It's not the first time I see complaints about this. Seems like they get an extra pleasure of spoiling a day that's supposed to be good for the woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 08:00 PM
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I don't like the gym guys either. They're usually very vain, and I'm not a gym person (can be called skinny fat, if you will, and these guys tend to try and control your body, which I do not tolerate) No guys from the music industry. I've never dated one, but every single women who has say they're fuckboys, so I avoid the hassle. Must have left-wing political views, like me. Must be college educated, like me. Must not like soccer, or like moderately at most. I hate soccer, although it's a loved …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 07:21 PM
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I decided to date all of the bachelors to see all the heart events, and it was hard because I couldn't stand talking to Shane. I'm glad you're better, the man is not worth the hassle 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:29 PM
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I liked this heart-event so much, he's lovely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:24 PM
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I didn't know it happened! Guess no one is perfect after all 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:23 PM
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I love Stardew Valley 🥰
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:22 PM
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Like in real life, the women in Stardew Valley are way more put together than the men. 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:17 PM
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I GASPED when I saw the second picture, omg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:17 AM
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I'm also jealous of your mother 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:08 AM
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I don't usually like super tall guys - I'm 5'7 and I prefer guys my height, or a little bit shorter, but I dated a short guy and he ghosted me after 4 months, LVM come in all heights 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:03 PM
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You know, earlier this year I had to take my cat to another city to stay at my mom's, because I was going to travel for 15 days on vacation and had no one to watch her. Next time I'll just date a guy for a week and ask him to do it for me 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 10:44 PM
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I buy them for myself because I like to wear beautiful things - I don't really have super sexy lingerie sets, but evertything I own is tasteful/beautiful (for me). I wouldn't want any men to buy me lingerie, it's like they're buying gifts for their pleasure, not mine. My ex never gave me lingerie or asked me to wear certain types, but he praised what I bought for myself, and I prefer it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:08 PM
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i find everyone makes a big deal about books, but i don't think this is that big of a deal. Me too. I gave up physical books long ago, I only use my Kindle to read. I have some coffee table books about architecture, and that's it. If someone comes into my house and thinks I'm dumb because I don't have a stacked shelf, that's their problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 09:02 PM
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I feel the same way, wish I could even try multi-dating lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:02 PM
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When I was in my early twenties, I dated a guy who was 12 years older. It was brief, I didn't want a relationship, I just wanted to gain sexual experience. I never liked older guys and after dating this one I ended up liking them even less 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:31 AM
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That reminds me of a day I was complaining on my Twitter (where I stay anonymous) about how hard it is to meet good men. A mutual asked if she could I introduce me to a guy, and asked my age range. I said up to 35 (I don't date anybody with more than a 5-year age difference). So she proceeded to tag a guy. I saw his profile pic: balding, had hair on only half of his head, greyish beard and hair. I'm sure he was 45 years old at least. I was like "Seriously? Is this what you think I deserve?" Fort…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:17 AM
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I've been single for 2 years and although I yearn for company and intimacy, the process of dating really puts me off. OLD is a cesspool, I don't meet men in real life organically, and even if I was lucky enough to find someone worth dating, I'd never be able to let my guard down because he could reveal himself a LVM at any minute. If I'm in an relationship with someone, I want to be able to relax and trust the person - if it's not possible, why should I bother?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:27 PM
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I don't usually have casual sex/fwb, so the type #1 is not a problem for me, but boy oh boy, guy #2 is the death of me always. I didn't realize it was a pattern until I read your comment. It sucks because I really used to think I could be sincere and open up after sometime, but only got hurt afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:01 AM
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I agree. In the beginning of the relationship I think it can be excused because people are still getting to know each other, but after some time it's unacceptable. Generic gifts are for people you don't care enough about to get to know their tastes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 06:04 PM
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Goals. I'm 30 and have no desire for marriage or children, but I'd love an arrangement like yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:47 PM
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We stay single lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:41 PM
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I was reading this post like that meme "Cats, sweeties, I'm so sorry..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:25 PM
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I read two 007 novels, I didn't like the first but I decided to read the second because I refused to believe people worshipped this character for nothing. Well, it not only had some passages like "I considered if it would be polite to slap her face before breakfast", but it also had a "lesbian" character that "became" a lesbian because she was raped, but was only "waiting for a real man" (who, of course, was James Bond) to rescue her of that situation. 🤢🤢🤢🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 09:01 PM
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We have to laugh at the audacity, right??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:29 PM
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Glad he's an ex now 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:03 PM
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That reminds me of when a Brazilian right-wing journalist said that, after Scarlett Johansson cut her hair short, she was "ugly like all those feminists". This is the guy. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:42 PM
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Goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:15 PM
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It's so weird when a man say he doesn't plan to spend much time on the first date because he doesn't know if he and the woman will "stand each other", like is this a date or job function? Guys go on dates already expecting they'll hate the women... Edit: spelling
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:41 PM
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I don't get approached at all. I met my ex-bf on OLD (6 years ago), other men I dated after the break-up were from OLD also. The only time it happened in "real life", a guy from my previous workplace asked me out, but I basically had told him I was interested before, so it doesn't count (and he ended up dumping me soon after).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 10:24 PM
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I'm 30, never dated men who have children and don't intend to do so. I don't want to have children myself, and I don't want to deal with children in my life, so if I date a man who is a (good) father, I'd have to be around them and it's a deal breaker. On the other hand, if a man isn't participative in his children's life, he's an LVM and I wouldn't want anything with him either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 07:54 PM
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I'd love to see more discussions on how to implement FDS principles in other cultures as well!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:26 PM
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I was talking to a guy like this on Tinder some weeks ago (deleted the app now, btw). It seemed like he was only waiting his turn to speak, sent walls of text, and even though I didn't ask, I found out he had been on tinder for ages, that he possibly lived with his family and that he didn't have many friends and was terrible keeping in touch with them (so many red flags).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:41 PM
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The only things I disagree with for now, but haven't tested yet (I discovered FDS this year and I'm not dating because of covid) are the "no coffee dates" and "no sex before commitment", both are due cultural differences. I don't live in the US and dinner dates are considered super formal and for established couples/older people. The norm here is drinks/beer dates, so whenever I start dating again, I'd rather not go to bars and would choose a higher end coffee shop instead. About sex, I don't pl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:10 PM
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I looked the store up and I can't imagine how someone wouldn't know "where to begin" wering those clohes. It's the most basic pinterest-boho-style type of clothes that exist, no mystery at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 03:02 AM
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I saw that video on Twitter yesterday, there were lots of women saying how their husbands are like that. One even posted a picture of clothes piled over the hamper, that were a result of her complaining to her husband about him leaving dirty clothes on the floor. Other women said that they had the same problem and solved it by removing the hamper's lid. 🙄🙄🙄 I almost had a stroke Edit: spelling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:47 PM
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LOL There's also this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 05:18 PM
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I can't come from P&V sex either, only from oral/masturbation. It's not a problem for me, I like penetrative sex, but the guy has to plese me too. My ex never let me down in this department, thank goodness, but it's been almost impossible to find other men who aren't selfish.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:45 PM
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I tried to use Tinder again this month, after two years. I didn't last two weeks there. Guys are disgusting. My breaking point was seeing a profile where the guy claimed he had a breastfeeding fetish, I deleted my account and the app immediatly. 🤮 🤮 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 04:23 PM
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When I was 23, I dated briefly a 35 year old man. And yes, he was fat and bald, but I was still a virgin and I thought it would be the perfect oportunity to gain sexual experience before finding someone I really liked. We basically only met for sex (and it wasn't even that good) and I started to suspect he had a girlfriend - he suggested a threesome to a woman who had just started her sex life, so gracious - then I ended things. Some months after he tried to contact me but I was dating my ex-bf …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 03:53 PM
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It would make sense in the US, but in my country prostitution is legal, only pimping is illegal. So these dudes can hire a prostitute if they want to, but instead go to tinder to try and convince a "normal" woman to sell herself. Go figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:55 PM
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I saw many profiles like you described, sometimes they mention they are married and that's it. The ones explicity saying they are willing to pay for sex but don't want a prostitute are less frequent than those no-picture-no-bio, but are the ones that confused me the most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 04:51 AM
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I send them a link to the local escorts advertisement. ​ I don't know if it happens in other places, but in my country Tinder is the most used dating app, therefore it's also a cesspool. One thing I used to see quite often there is profiles of men who don't show their faces, write in their bios that they only want casual encounters and are willing to pay/give gifts in exchange, but they don't want prostitutes. I never understood the point of this foolery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:52 AM
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I died with this line. OP, you are a queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:32 AM
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I embroider and I'm dying to learn how to sew and make my own clothes, especially because it's hard to find clothes I love that are good/my style/good price. Unfortunately I'll have to wait until the pandemic ends to start my classes, but I'll definitely do it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:01 AM
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Reading the post and comments, I think the reason I want so badly be in a relationship again is because the first and only one I ever had was unusually good - don't get me wrong, I'm not bragging. My ex still was LV although I consider him a good person. But because of that, I made the mistake of thinking I could have good relationships with other men, and ended up being ghosted, ignored, taken for granted, not being appreciated even in the early stages of dating. What I really don't miss is hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 08:08 PM
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I didn't know beer dates were a thing in Europe - they are absolutely the norm here in Brazil too. Dinner dates are basically for committed couples. I'm not dating right now, but when I start again I'm planning to do like you said, coffee at a fancier place. Especially because I don't like beer 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:55 PM
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Yes, I know. I always read relationship_advice and AITA and thank god I'm not in such disfuncional relationships - what I lack is the opportunity to choose a partner, because there's never seem to be one for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:11 PM
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Oh, I know that. What actually bothers me is that some people have no trouble finding possible partners, while I don't even have men to vet, no one's interested. But at the end of the day, I wouldn't jump on a relationship just out of desperation, I only wish I had the opportunity to choose a partner like "normal" people do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:09 PM
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I know it seems petty/jealous, but I'm tired of hearing "you'll find someone eventually" and "just work on yourself and the right person will appear" when there are people finding relationship left and right so easily - even terrible, less deserving people. Why is it me who has to be constantly working for a relationship, and never getting it? I'm tired of thinking this way, but I can't help (still).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:48 AM
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We want loving partners and I follow this sub's advice but are ignored or never meet the right one and after accomplishing the rest of our goals, we'd like to accomplish the one last one that we have always had. So much this!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:41 AM
2

Thanks, and happy cake day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:38 AM
2

I'm a software developer and I swear to god, men in this industry are the epitome of trash. Avoid them like the plague, ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:21 AM
2

"Kubernetes" Did he mistake his tinder bio for his CV? Is this a job interview? No, so why should anyone care???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:18 AM
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I know it's not the right mindest to have, but this is *exactly* how I feel. I can only hope it gets better with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:29 AM
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While I do agree that we should never settle, this specific situation on the video seems more like stalking than anything else. Weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:25 AM
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Or "since you don't like it I won't bother doing it", I bet they'd be like "NO, WAIT"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:38 AM
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I remember reading years ago, in one of those "funny" dating advice lists fo men, that whenever the guy would have sex with a woman for the first time, he should say that he never enjoyed/was able to come receiving oral - that way she would make a lot of effort to prove she was good at it 🙄 🙄 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:00 AM
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Fellow Brazilian here seconding this ​ (I'm also ashamed our country's exporting LVMs everywhere lol)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 01:53 AM
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"Public mocking of a partner is an automatic out." My feelings exactly. That's why I absolutely hate those prank videos of guys making fun of their girlfriends - I'm not a clown to have people laughing at my expense. Any guy who try to pull this shit on me will never see me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 02:34 PM
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I'm really sorry you feel that way, and I understand it completely. I'm turning 30 this month and, although I don't want to have children, I'm tired of being alone. I just want a life partner but it seems impossible *for me* to get one. Looking around, I see so many people having no trouble at all finding relationships, and I don't know why I have such a hard time with it. What hurts me the most is seing men who were shitty to me in the past being in (seemingly) happy relationships - because the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 12:07 AM
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This is textbook abusive behaviour. Besides, it's so funny how he keeps saying that "guys" aren't to be trusted because they'll always harass women one way or another, like, you're outing yourself dude
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 10:12 PM
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I briefly dated a "shy" guy last year, did 90% of the work, and after he dumped me I realized that he hadn't complimented me a single time while we dated. I should have known (thankfully I learned my lesson).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:04 PM
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I really had no clue that happened so much. I'm sorry this fool wasted your time like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 09:16 PM
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It's so weird not trying to study the language, right? Even though you can speak English at work, how do you go about daily things like shopping for clothes or food? This guy in question said that whenever he had to go to some government building to deal with paperwork and stuff, he always asked if the staff speaked English and they said no - it's such an unreasonable thing to expect! And besides, we're not from an English speaking country, and most of the citizens here don't speak it, so why wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 05:04 AM
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They'll go back to their countries saying "there's golddiggers everywhere", I bet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:21 AM
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I'm just shocked because I went to Japan on vacation and, even though I'd not be able to learn the language, I took a lot of time to read about the culture and learn some basic phrases so I would not disrespect anybody neither pass off as a foolish foreigner. But dudes go live and work in anther country and can't be bothered to do the bare minimum and think women will chase them, lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:20 AM
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Yeah, imagine wasting your own time to teach your native language to some clown who went to your country but can't be bothered to study
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 02:17 AM
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I never liked rom coms because they're too cheesy and sometimes depict abusive relationships disguised as romance (my opinion), but nowadays any romantic story make me a little sad for the same reasons you said. I kind of suffered with The Office and Brooklyn 99, too many wholesome couples 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:53 PM
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I really would like to know how to maintain this abundance mindset when you don actually have the abundance of potential suitors in real life. I discovered FDS recently but I've always had standards and I usually don't tolerate bullshit. As a result, I rarely go on dates - since my last LTR ended two years ago, I've dated only 3 men. I have up OLD one year ago but I also rarely meet potential dates in real life - my hobbies aren't the kind you do in groups, I have few friends and they don't have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:33 AM
3

I'm Brazilian and I confirm this. He's not into you. Brazilian men take every opportunity for sex they can get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 02:15 PM
15

There's a saying in my country that goes like "you don't eat the meat where you earn the bread"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:26 AM
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So here's the list of what I'd like the guy to do: - Help me plan any possible travels we'll do together and, ideally, pay for them. - Help me clean my house or do some task I don't feel like doing. My ex-boyfriend was kind of lazy (so am I lol), but he always offered to help me with my cleaning tasks if he was at my apartment. If the man won't try to make my life easier without me having to ask, I have no use for him. - Cook for me. I like to cook for the people I like, so I expect it to be rec…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:12 AM
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That reminds me of when a guy I was dating asked me if I had only beautiful underwear or if I chose to wear my best sets when I was with him, and I was like "of course all the ones I have are beautiful?? because that's what I like to wear???" 😂 Men are really out there thinking we choose our clothes with the sole purpose of impressing them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:02 AM
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I totally understand. We can never let our guards down, it's exhausting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:54 AM
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I think you don't have to worry too much about that because (trashy) men are always eager to diss other women in front of the ones they are dating, especially if they want to pull that "you're not like the other girls" bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 09:00 PM
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Thanks! I think I'll do that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 09:07 PM
1

One question: did you use to suggest the coffee dates? In my country it's common to go out for drinks instead of dinner for first dates, because dinners are considered too formal. I'm not dating right now but I'm thinking of going for coffee dates in the future for the same reasons you listed, so I wanted to know if it's just ok to suggest it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:36 PM
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I understand! I met my ex-boyfriend on OkCupid, when we got official I told my friends but I never told my mom, because she thinks that people from the internet are all psychopaths 😂 I just told her we met through friends and she loved him when she met him, we dated for 4 years and he wasn't a psychopath, thankfully. I do my best to protect myself when I meet dates from OLD, only to go to public spaces, don't tell them where I live, but I don't like telling people I have dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:04 PM
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I think I'll start doing that! I don't date a lot and I don't like to tell my friends I'm going out with someone just to have to explain to them later that it didn't work out 😂, but this way at least someone can find out what happened to me later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:26 PM
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Yeah, but I was young (20 years, didn't date during my teenage years) and didn't know better. After this date fiasco, I deleted his number but he still tried to call me for weeks lol. I'm pretty sure he was one of those PUAs and tried to neg me, but I only found out about these "techniques" months later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 03:07 AM
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Accepted a date invitation from an ugly guy thinking "maybe he's nice". He wasn't, and at some point, mocked me for being poor. I still kissed him and he was a bad kisser. Sent a wall of text to a guy who ghosted me after 4 months of dating, and came back only to let me know that he had found someone else. I still tried to talk to him to get "closure" but he never responded. Started dating a "shy" guy and did 99% of the work to make him confortable - planned dates, asked him out, texted him firs…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 02:41 AM
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Some days ago someone in this sub suggested that, if you have a dual-sim card phone, you can buy one of those pre-paid sim cards and use only the new number to give out to men (if you have to/want to). Google Voice doesn't work in my country, so I liked this idea and will try it in the future. Maybe it can work for you too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:33 AM
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I bet he'd say something like "I didn't say that but since you're offering...", because they're shameless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:06 AM
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Me too! And to prove that LVM are the same everywhere, I've seen this list in Portuguese - they can't even make new jokes, just keep recycling and translating the old ones 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:35 AM
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I also think that Bumble is "less bad" than the other apps available. I usually just send a funny gif with an animal saying "hi" or something like that, and if they are interested, they can keep the conversation up. I don't want to come up with clever openings just to have guys replying half-interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 02:41 AM
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Yeah, the Wikipedia entry on the app gives a hint on how the reception was: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lulu_(app)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 12:52 AM
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I don't even know if it exists yet, I guess it was launched around 2013/2014, then after all the fuss they re-launched it as a "normal" dating app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 11:50 PM
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Do you remember that app Lulu, where women could evaluate how good of a boyfriend/date a man was? Men got so angry about it that it was shut down - even though they had to authorize the app to show their profiles, if they wanted to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:31 AM
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I never get attention either, even from LVM. When I use OLD I get some matches, but men don't seem to be too eager - right now I'm not using the apps thanks to covid, but if it wasn't for them I wouldn't even date, because no man approaches me in real life or on my social network profiles like twitter or instagram.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:57 AM
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He seems to be one of those guys who like to "play" with women by physically overpowering them, it screams abuser for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 01:04 AM
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Once I saw a discussion on Twitter about how men "cherish" the one compliment they received of a girl during their lives, because women compliment each other all the time, but never do the same for men. Like we can't even make a friendly comment like "your shirt is nice" without them thinking that we want to fuck them lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 03:02 PM
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I fell for this "he's shy/introverted" bullshit last year (yes, I played myself), did all the work and still got dumped aftewards. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:28 AM
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Why do I feel like he's brazilian? 😂😂😂 (I'm from Brazil and this really seems like what a right-wing brazilian man would say)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:25 AM
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He said his friend had installed Tinder on there and he had notifications off for it so he had forgotten about it. Never happened to me, but I've seen women complaining about this "my friend installed/messaged girls on Tinder on my phone" that guys use to say, and I find it hard to believe. My phone is usually fingerprint/password locked and any of my friends only ever touch it in case I'm showing something to them, like a picture, and I literally have nothing to hide. Phones hold an incredible …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 02:13 AM
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I have to disagree with that. Of course you shouldn't act like you're in love with the guy, but I wouldn't want to fake lack of interest. If I sensed a guy wasn't that into me on the first date, I'd never bother with him again. I wouldn't think high of a man who pursues a women who acts uninterested towards him also, like, doesn't he have any self esteem? OP, you can be yourself while dating, just remember not to let the guy cloud your judgment. If you're interested and he's not, move on. It's g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 01:08 AM
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I'm really grateful. Unlike most people, I didn't have any romantic relationships on my teenage years and only started dating in my twenties (met this ex-bf when I was 22). I used to feel bad about it, especially when I was younger, thinking I was ugly and that "nobody wanted me", but now I see it as a blessing. I had no self-esteem and could easily have fallen prey to LVM and abusers. Being single again (for 2 years and counting) I made some mistakes and put a lot of effort into men who weren't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 12:33 AM
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I've been through some weird stuff because I only had one boyfriend, and we really used to talk and try to find an agreement to solve our problems during the 4 years our relationship lasted. I though I could do the same with othe men I dated, so you can imagine my shock when I tried to ~communicate with a guy I was dating who decided it was a good move to ghost me after four months ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 03:30 AM
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My dude, if you hate women so much, why are you trying to date them in the first place???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 10:03 PM
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Thanks for sharing! Your points 1, 2 and 3 are basically the same views as my own. Someone else commented about living in the same building too, good to know I'm not the only one to have this idea. lol I'd love to read a more detailed post about your story, if you make it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:44 PM
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My dream is to live next door to a HVM boyfriend. LOL that's my dream too. I'm glad you dodged the bullet with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:38 PM
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My mother is a widow and she raised me to be independent too, and I'm happy she did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:36 PM
1

I feel that way too. I've been living alone for some time, I travel alone a lot (I even made my first international trip this year, alone), I don't want to have to make a lot of compromises regarding my lifestyle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:32 PM
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I see your points. I didn't mean necessarily cohabitation/joint finances when I talked about a commited relationship, but I get that something like this would be difficult to achieve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:29 PM
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That's actually a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:26 PM
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Just remember to always maintain your independence and your own money, so if/when he shows his true colors, you're ready to GTFO This. Even though I come from a traditional family, my mother (who is a widow and never remarried) always said that I should have my money, my house and independence before getting into a relationship - she let go of many aspirations because of marriage and never wanted me to do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 09:25 PM
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. I can't imagine committing to one penis for the rest of my life. LOL I love the way you say it. I guess I'm a romantic so I'd like to have the commitment with the right person, I just don't like the whole concept of a traditional marriage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:59 AM
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Thanks for sharing! I'm glad to know it worked out for you. I'm not religious either, that's one of the reasons why I don't care about marriage. From what I know, in my country there are similar laws, but marriage is still the most beneficial situation for couples. I could be wrong because I never looked it up, but I'll read more about it, your reply inspired me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:57 AM
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I never tried cohabitation, but it doesn't sit well with me. I've been living alone for years and I love it. Besides, I've seen many divorced women stating that they would never live with a man again, because it's not worth the hassle, so the idea doesn't attract me that much (even if it's to live with a HVM).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:53 AM
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I agree! Marriage/kids can be good and bring happiness to some people but not to others. To each their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:49 AM
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I'm glad to hear you're happy, I'm working towards being happy single and just welcome someone into my life if they're going to improve it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:45 AM
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I'm super out of patience but I often find myself missing the connection/companionship that I've had only in romantic relationships. I just don't try to find it at all costs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:42 AM
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I have a similar mindset. I like FDS because, even though I don't plan to marry and I'm not dating at all at the moment, it inspires me to never settle and never pursue unfulfilling relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:39 AM
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Why? Do you think that a HVM wouldn't want to be in a monogamous relationship if marriage wasn't the goal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:36 AM
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That's exactly how I feel. I want commitment and partnership, but I'd like to have that without going to all the marriage bureaucracy .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:33 AM
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I will just have to keep rebalancing what I am giving with what I am getting. That's a good way to think! When I was younger, I expected I would marry because I thought it was what everybody did in life. Growing up, I realized I didn't want or have to, so I never really worried about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:31 AM
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It's funny how men think we're as helpless as they are. Some men, if you lock them inside a full stocked kitchen they'll still die of hunger because he doensn't know how to cook one basic meal. On the other side, we can easily those so-called "harder" chores if we have to. My mother is a widow, she did almost everything around the house, and I grew up learning to do them. I live alone and I do almost everything in my apartment- from assemblying furniture to fixing power outlets - and when I can'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 03:52 AM
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I traveled to Japan earlier this year on vacation. I was using bumble there and the first message one guy sent me was "rate your head game" 🙄 🙄 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 03:10 AM
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