Hey guys I just made a new account so I could get some advice. I love FDS and you’re all so supportive and helpful. I’m extremely glad I found it.

Basically, I’m 22 and I’ve been in two long term relationships. My ex from high school, who I stayed with for 4 terrible years, was abusive and my other ex was a porn addict who I stayed with for two years. I have some trauma from those relationships but I’ve worked through most of it through therapy and self love.

After my last breakup, I decided to focus on myself and learn how to love and trust myself. It’s been almost a year and I feel like I’m finally getting to where I want to be and I want to find a partner. But I use dating apps and it just sucks. I’ve been talking to some men but I don’t know, they’re just all so lame. Like they have nothing to talk about or they just call me pretty like I don’t already know that. Like what are they even looking for, because I deserve a loving, thoughtful partner.

I guess I just feel like dating is pointless. I’m okay with being single forever, I’ve done enough self work to accept that I may never find someone who deserves me. But I want to, like I want to fall in love and go on dates and have someone adore me. It feels like all men are just porn addicts or abusive or LV. I know logically that there has to be some HVM out there, but where do I find them?

Thanks for reading and for any advice you have.