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Cons: What a lot of guys who want 'working moms' want is a mom who takes on most of the childcare, cooking, housework, errands, as well as a full time job, while all he does is work full time, same as you, and 'help out' sometimes. How do you know he'll do at least half of everything if you work full time, even if he says he will? You know a lot of guys break that promise or just don't care or do it properly, right? How do you know what he's like with chores if you've never lived together? And i…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/21 05:03 PM
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There's a difference between poly and adultery.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 11:45 AM
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He wants to 'split everything 50/50' yet he earns a good salary and makes substantially more than you, while you are a student and struggling. He should know this, and likely does. If he genuinely cared about your comfort, he would pay for things and not charge you rent, or at the very least, ask you to pay a,lesser portion of everything, for example 80/20 or 75/25. Also, beware. He won't change once you marry and have kids. He'll probably expect you to get a full time job and 'split 50/50' all …
/r/RedPillWives07/08/21 09:53 PM
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Except... professions like... asphalt. Construction. Plumbing. Electrician. Pipefitters. Mechanics. The trades. Police, in states like Arkansas and Alabama. New Zealand, too. We barely have enough police in New Zealand, and three big reasons they're leaving is the gang violence, the poor pay, and sexual harrassment of female recruits. Anyway, these jobs have barely any women. Have their wages stagnated? If so, why? Because if they have, you cannot blame women, as hardly any women have entered th…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 08:38 PM
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That doesn't make sense. Women have always worked. Lower class women worked after their marriages and likely continued working once they had kids. Middle class women did 'women's jobs' such as Tupperware parties, receptionists, preschool teacher, primary school teacher, nurse, librarian, farmer's wife, pastor's wife, cashier, real estate agent, etc. All of my aunties, after they married, were SAHM when my cousins were little, but went back to work once they were pre teen/teenage. One was a prima…
/r/RedPillWives05/08/21 02:57 PM
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A true high value man would know how to deal with them, he's not a toddler.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 09:16 AM
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A true high value man won't cheat.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 03:15 AM
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If it'll give you closure, do it, but without proof, he can just tell her you're a crazy ex. I would just send her the screenshot receipt and other messages of his about her you still have saved, then be done with it.
/r/askFDS20/07/21 10:21 AM
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Tell him to never message you again, and if he does you'll go to HR.
/r/askFDS17/07/21 11:01 AM
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Open marriage or relationship Threesome Porn Prostitutes Drugs/Alcoholism/Gambling Verbal/physical abuse Putting non essential stuff on credit Payday loans Demanding I work full time while also doing full load of childcare and/or housework Insisting I convert to a different religion Probably abortion
/r/RedPillWives16/07/21 02:56 PM
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What a disgusting woman. The fact that the RNC is even giving her attention with views like that is alarming, but the extremists clearly love her. I am unmarried. There is no way I would ever want my father or most of my uncles voting on my behalf, they all have very different political views. My last serious partner was a banker and spoiled his ballot, so under this system, I'd get no vote. Now, I might be very happy voluntarily agreeing to vote the same way as my husband, especially if he told…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/21 10:03 AM
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Yeuch. That's the only thing I've got to say to all this. I'd be asking him that if he's so repulsed by you and if he's never, ever been attracted to you, and never, ever wanted to have sex with you ever, why did he even propose? He could say that he felt bad for you (Which I don't buy, I have had numerous men drop me in an instant without pity without any care for my feelings), but even if that was the reason, that just makes him a complete idiot. Why would you promise to spend the rest of your…
/r/RedPillWives05/07/21 08:17 AM
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This is good advice, I would add that if you end up divorcing, you should get child support from him. You could reduce your hours at work or hire a nanny and/or cleaner, but don't go SAHM, as you will be putting your earning power fully in your husband's hands, and currently, he can't be trusted. Maybe later, but not yet.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 01:09 AM
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You can get herpes with condoms, a condom only covers the penis, not the testicles or pubic hair, how can you be so naive? You can also pick it up from oral sex if the guy has a cold sore or even just a badly cut lip or mouth ulcer. Have you always been this sheltered? I'd also be super interested to see what TRP sub would say if a girl gave her male fwb herpes but didn't tell him anything or lied to him about it, and then just said 'gtfoh' and blocked him like a skank when he confronted her abo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:35 AM
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I did say OP needs to be damn sure she didn't get it from anywhere else, at all. It can be pretty easy to get, especially if she has been sleeping with multiple people. But it speaks volumes that (as I read OP) the guy just blocked her and wasn't even willing to go get tested. In my opinion, if it was another source, he'd be like, 'Omg, go get tested asap, where tf can I go to get tested' he might even send her the bill for the test/treatment or tell her she was an idiot, but wouldn't just ignor…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 06:59 AM
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Why is it trashy on her account? The guy is trashy for giving her herpes in the first place. There is nothing trashy about being a victim. I'd do it anonymously. If he really did give her herpes, he'd probably be too much of a coward to retaliate, I know the POS that sexually harrassed me was when I exposed him. Stop shaming women for exposing predators.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 05:46 AM
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Could do it anonymously
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 05:44 AM
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My advice? Since he ghosted you and won't listen to you or deal with you... put up pictures on social media with his first name, clear photo and city/state (not address or phone number or surname or job) stating exactly what he did, as a warning to others. No way he deserves any sympathy, respect or anonymity, and he could do this to other girls, who could then give it to other men too. He needs to be called out, yesterday. ONLY do this if you are ABSOLUTELY 150% SURE it WAS HIM that gave you th…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 01:20 AM
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Well, if you aren't enough for him, he doesn't deserve you anyway. A good teacher is worth her weight in gold, and more, and certainly is successful. Also, a high flying career woman doesn't have time to be a housewife and have children (unless they go full time to daycare), unless she is in her late thirties or early forties with a lot of her career already behind her, which is quite old, but not impossible, to become a housewife/first time mom. High flying career women that are younger are bus…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 01:48 PM
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Covid test for summer school that is now urgent because I forgot during the week and it can't wait any longer. Exams for my university students. A preparation session for my summer school students. Three weekend classes, was supposed to be two but a full time teacher they just hired threw up at 6am this morning so now it's three. Buying baking soda and white vinegar to clean. Maybe a date. Maybe not. Walking dog. Getting dog groomed if there's time. Yay.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/21 12:43 AM
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Former nanny here. Leaving six week old with a teenager in sole charge is a no no, but she can hire a teenager or college student to clean and/or cook and/or do laundry and/or mow the lawn and/or pull weeds and/or hold baby (while she is there and can take the baby back if there is any problem) while she takes care of herself, runs errands or takes care of baby. This is a mother's helper, a babysitter mostly looks after older kids, a nanny is more qualified, older and a bit more expensive but kn…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 10:12 AM
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School includes everything from pre k to phd, apprenticeships, trade school, drivers ed, community college, everything in between. A real estate agent that can't read, write, do math, drive, understand the basics of accounting and the economy, all of which you learn at high school, will not pass that 100 hour course. If school wasn't important at all and anyone could do anything, we'd have five year olds driving cars, ten year olds flying planes, and twelve year olds designing bridges.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 05:42 AM
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You may want to find another therapist. That being said... You're 27. What do you do currently if you don't yet have kids? Have you got some sort of work history and money behind you, even if it isn't a lot? There may be a time when you could need it.
/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 10:01 PM
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Ok, you tell yourself that the next time you need a doctor, nurse, lawyer, real estate agent, finance advisor, mortgage broker, builder, police officer, pilot, flight attendant (they're not glorified sky waitresses), hell, even a waitress or a nanny, etc, all who graduated from... school! Tell yourself school is the biggest scam ever the next time you open Reddit to write on here, you wouldn't know how to read this comment or write a reply to it without it. Do you know how to do basic arithmetic…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 09:38 PM
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I disagree. She's probably incredibly depressed and needs friends, badly. She also needs a really blunt talking to. I too used to overshare after a pretty bad breakup, but not quite to this extent. I was just desperate for some understanding and some company and some validation. You would think though... after ten years... she would have stopped it. She needs to be sat down... and shown these posts... and had some of them read out to her. 'What did you gain by posting about date number fifty's p…
/r/askFDS13/06/21 03:28 AM
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She doesn't sound very nice. Message her back and tell her that you don't feel abandoned by your ex, he chose porn and you have no desire to continue with such a person. And if it feels to her like you're trying to dictate her life, perhaps she's not as comfortable with the porn as she thought, because she is free to do what she wants.
/r/askFDS11/06/21 02:50 PM
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I think it's a bit like religion. Or politics. You're never going to convince everyone to convert to your beliefs. Or vote for your party. You can still be their friend. You can still be a woman's friend if she lets her partner do these things or is a sex worker or whatever. But... You might want to tell her you won't go on about it, but ask her why she thinks it's ok he follows other girls, or if he watches porn, why she thinks it's ok he gets turned on seeing other women treated so poorly (and…
/r/askFDS11/06/21 11:15 AM
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Agreed, but no girl should let a guy film them having sex, even if she does love them. Freaky shit, yes. On film, no. Any guy can turn on you and send that to your dad or your boss in the future and bye bye inheritance, bye bye job.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 12:51 AM
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Why are you recording videkos of you having sex with ANYONE? That is trashy and beyond stupid. He could sell those videos and then that person he sold them to could share them and then they could be anywhere. You could be turned down for future jobs or relationships because of this, or have it affect your family or career in other ways. Never do this again. Anyone who imposes recording videos or anything you aren't comfortable with as a condition for a relation for a relationship is manipulative…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 12:46 AM
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The RedPillWives sub however IS run by women, and male participation is heavily restricted. You do not need to be a wife, partner, mother or ex wife to participate. They just didn't want to call themselves, RedPillWomen2. RedPillWomen is the one run by men.
/r/ExRedPill08/06/21 09:41 AM
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Well, perhaps there's your problem then. If you live in a 'sh#thole', you probably need to start looking at why the place you live in is a 'sh#thole' and what kind of place you'd like to move to that isn't a 'sh#thole' where you could still get at least half decent work and meet traditionally minded guys. For Canada, I'd recommend Roblin, Manitoba or Indian Head, Saskatchewan, or Esterhazy, Saskatchewan, all three are incredibly beautiful little towns with lots of traditionally minded people, Yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 01:26 AM
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Asking for things can be feminine if you use your manners and smile. You're allowed to have feelings and desires too. Asking to go to a particular restaurant. If he earns a great deal more than you, asking nicely if you can go somewhere a little nicer for a date. And if it's somewhere that'll stretch your budget, would he mind paying?
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/21 01:15 AM
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I don't agree with everything Manguza says, but s/he might be onto something. If you swear a lot in person, it might put off a traditional minded guy, or a more shy/softer guy. If you're feminine like my friend but can be quite aggressive, it can also put off shyer guys or more traditional minded guys. Some guys have to watch their grooming if they work.in corporate for example. Being the cool girl... you shouldn't split 50/50 on the first few dates and then be their therapist for their life sto…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/21 11:30 AM
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Get an electric shaver designed for women, it's cheaper than laser and less labour intensive and faster than manual. Just do the real sensitive and hard to get to bits like the lips and bikini and toes with a manual.
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 07:22 AM
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Be blunt with him hun. YOUR body, YOUR choice. STOP letting HIM make YOU feel ashamed for something YOU have ZERO control over. What you should do AND what I would do in your situation: Stop shaving except under the arms and excessive facial hair unless it's something YOU want to do for YOU The minute your husband talks about turning down the lights because he finds your body hair unattractive, end the sex and all activity associated with it for the night. Tell him very clearly why. Tell him ver…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/21 06:56 AM
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TEFL subreddit
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 02:42 PM
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Getting banned from offmychest or AITA is like a two year old calling you a big meanie.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/21 08:50 AM
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Ehhhhh... I think the other woman did deserve to know so she could make a fair and honest decision about whether to waste anymore of her own life on this creep, but the rest of it, absolutely.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 05:15 AM
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Oh, my goodness. I think this fits into the 'we can't help you' box. As Samantha said, it doesn't matter what you deserved, or whether or not you were good enough, this relationship is broken beyond repair. Please get some counseling with a competent and registered therapist. Please.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/21 05:13 AM
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Men.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 09:04 AM
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Bring him plates? Act as his wingman? Terrible advice. He'll ditch her because he'll see her as just another plate. Women don't have the same RP goals as guys bud. That kinda stuff belongs in TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 12:43 AM
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He was the one that proposed? Yes or no? If yes, does he see you as wife material? Yes or no? If yes, why does he see you as wife material? Whatever it is, keep doing that. If not, ask HIM WHY HE proposed if he doesn't actually see you as wife material? Is he just 'settling for you'? Would YOU actually be better off NOT marrying someone who only sees you as 'damaged goods'? WHATEVER IT IS: WORK IT OUT in a couple of pre marital counseling sessions/with a pastor or imam or rabbi. And ffs don't br…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/21 12:41 AM
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Just tell the libfem pickme retards to fuck off. Stop caring what they think. Tell them to their faces that nobody likes them and they're just going to end up on prozac and with their kiddos taking ritalin anyway.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 10:04 AM
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Men trying to get you to have sex with them by acting like used car salesmen or Tupperware ladies, except at least used car salesmen and Tupperware ladies (generally) have a product worth buying. LVM that are ONLY after sex and NOTHING else are pushing a product too, but their product is dick, and dick by itself is abundant and low value.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 02:47 PM
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The thing is, if he liked you as a girlfriend, he would ask you to be in a relationship and stop seeing other women and wouldn't say, 'He wasn't at the right point in his life for a relationship'. If he's getting angry about you seeing other men but still seeing other women himself, it's about control.
/r/askFDS27/05/21 01:40 AM
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I read the TLDR, not your whole post. Your Q: IS this just a typical LVM thing to do? Not sure. Is it still a LVM thing to do? Absolutely. Should you let him anywhere near your bedroom or anything like that ever again? Absolutely not. He could be carrying an STI from one of the other girls you're 99% sure he's seeing and pass it onto you. And condoms don't cover everything. Over the counter birth control does NOT protect against STIs. Herpes is a virus, once you have it that's it, and there's no…
/r/askFDS27/05/21 01:23 AM
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Money isn't everything girl. Some of the guys that tried to get me to cheat with them were high earners. Some. Just be warned.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/21 12:16 AM
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You've been together a year. If you want to move in, set a limit. There's a saying, 'Why buy the cow when you can just get the milk for free?' You're 22, don't waste your life living with someone who won't marry you. If you want, talk to him about moving in soon and see what he says. Then, if you move in, tell him you expect a proposal in a year/18 months. If no proposal happens in that time, tell him you'd still like to keep seeing him for now, but you're going to be moving back with your paren…
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/21 12:15 AM
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Do you have a degree? You likely do. What about getting a CELTA or TrinityCertTESOL and teaching IELTS, TOEFL and Business English?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 03:41 AM
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I think this is bad advice except for number three. If she gets fired, her boss may likely no longer be willing to give her a reference so that she may be able to get a job somewhere else in her field, or work part time. If she is only willing to do the bare minimum, she shouldn't be going to work, or at least should only be going to work part time. If she sticks it out for six months and only does the bare minimum, she could get fired and not be able to work there again in future, even part tim…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 03:39 AM
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Suggestions for when you return to work: Hire someone to do housework and laundry Hire someone else to do childcare who can pick the kids up from school, help with homework, organize playdates with friends, and won't just let the kids stay on their screens all day. Ask this person to walk the dog/s WITH the kids for at least a half hour per day and cook a big meal on work nights for the family. Hire someone to work extra hours during school holidays. Make sure you communicate with this person on…
/r/RedPillWives25/05/21 03:32 AM
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Even so, if he isn't willing to work on the problem, this will only get worse, no better.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 02:09 AM
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Leave while you're still young, if he really cared, he wouldn't be doing this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 02:07 AM
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I'd leave, if he really cared about you he'd get help.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 02:06 AM
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Doesn't matter. What they do in THEIR bedroom is their private business. But they have zero right to reel a nineteen year old kid into their 'poly relationship'. ZERO. The 39 year old I was with when I was 21 also had a longterm 33 year old girlfriend. There were fights about money, fights about her kids, fights about the business we were supposed to be running together but he then decided he wanted to run solo without input from us but still have our help, fights about how upset she was about t…
/r/askFDS19/05/21 04:10 PM
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Where does she usually hang out? Can you contact her somehow like over FB? Say you don't wanna be rude, just looking out for her and explain why.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 01:49 PM
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Oh goodness yes, please do. As a woman who got into an abusive relationship at 21 with a 39 year old, PLEASE tell her and explain exactly why this isn't a good thing.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 01:48 PM
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There is everything wrong with the porn industry as a whole, when women are drugged and tricked and coerced into rougher and more and more extreme scenes in order to make money, and they are left traumatized and with injuries. Anal prolapses for example. If a man is addicted to porn, or even if he watches it semi regularly, it IS a problem, because he then begins to think the way women are treated in porn is normal and the acts porn women perform are normal and he starts expecting his sex partne…
/r/ExRedPill18/05/21 03:46 PM
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Because expecting a man to not watch barely legal porn, use prostitutes who may only be doing sex work because it's either that or starve, oggle women half your age, accost women who are working or demand sex without pleasuring you at least as much as you are pleasuring them is downright disgusting. Got it.
/r/ExRedPill18/05/21 03:05 PM
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A lot of people here don't like them. Sometimes I think they're overaggressive, but remember why they are that way. Many, many, many of the women on there, myself included, are rape victims and/or domestic violence victims, if not both. Some had years of their life wasted because a husband they thought loved them left them for someone younger or had an affair, even when they were sick. Some are just very jaded at how many men need their hand held and view being asked to do ANYTHING as nagging, a…
/r/ExRedPill18/05/21 11:11 AM
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Oh piss off. If you're not in a committed relationship with someone, you owe them zilch. Nada. If you were dating two different girls without commitment, had sex with one and then decided to get into a committed relationship with the second one later on, how would you react if she then got all in your face and angry about you 'being with another girl' when you weren't even exclusive? You'd most likely treat it as either hamstering or a shit test. If a guy wants loyalty, he can ask for it by goin…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 11:25 AM
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Ok, here's the thing. Women aren't vending machines. If she's not in a committed relationship with guy number 2, she owes him zero loyalty. Just the same as with guy number 1. So fucking what if she had sex with another dude before committing to the second guy. She's not a steak. Yeah, it was a huge mistake to offer a guy sex without commitment, but OP admits that. And are you on such a high horse that you have NEVER made a mistake? 'Men' like you are insufferable. Truly.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:59 AM
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Attraction can be built over time if there is adult maturity and foundation for marriage. This sub REALLY needs to stop encouraging women to just go for superficial attraction.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:56 AM
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First guy is a waste of time and just looking to keep you dangling on a string. Go with the second guy and block/delete first guy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/21 08:53 AM
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How do you know if you're a rebound? How many times do you pay vs him? Does he pay more often than you? When he does pay, what kind of dates are you taken on vs what dates do you take him on? Who does the planning? What attitude does he have toward paying most of the time? Does he do it joyfully or reluctantly, or with a 'You owe me' mentality? Does he ever make hints about sex or coming to your house at night or you going to his house at night, or passive aggressive comments when you say no to …
/r/askFDS12/05/21 08:33 AM
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Why do you care about her? Learn to let it go. She probably didn't get a holiday on Mothers Day, as what would her sons do? They don't have money to cook, buy her a card, take her to dinner, they don't know how to clean, they even yell at her when she threw away an old opened soda, what makes you think they'd be any different on Mothers' Day? And what makes you think they'd get married? You didn't want them. Who else would? She said those things to you because she desperately wants to get rid of…
/r/askFDS11/05/21 09:41 AM
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Yeah, but if he's watching porn every day and jerking off multiple times,a day, that's a choice he's making to prioritize that over sex with you and pleasure he may get out of that.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 09:31 AM
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No. Not in the United States, it doesn't exist there. Also in other places even if there is common law marriage his family could still be entitled to something without a will.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/21 12:06 AM
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Ok... except what about women who work with demanding bosses and deal with hYsterical clients too? Why should we have to come home to a lazy, unappreciative husband when we are just as tired? Why should I be expected to pick up after him when he KNOWS EXACTLY what he is doing and is perfectly capable of picking up after himself?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 12:01 PM
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Don't go, I got raped this way. Photo before or nothing.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/21 09:24 AM
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This is true too. Insist on an ironclad will with a good lawyer.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 03:14 AM
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I wouldn't tbh.The whole point of getting married esp if you're in the States is so that you as the mother of his children can be legally protected and so that if he dies, leaves etc, you are protected. If you're not legally his wife and buy a house together and he dies for example, you don't automatically get his half of the house, his family does, even if you have kids together, even if you have a mortgage on it. It just sounds scammy tbh. I am assuming you live in the US.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/21 12:38 AM
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Don't break stuff, they'll just turn on you. Judging from your post history, you're in Aus. Can you move to another city to study, even if it means student loans? Centrelink can be a pain to deal with but could be a way out. What about studying in New Zealand? There's quarantine free travel so you could go any time and as an Aus citizen, you have the right to live, study and work there indefinitely. Victoria University in Wellington is a great place. You also have the right to be treated as a do…
/r/askFDS07/05/21 06:00 AM
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Eh. I like hanging around cars and learning about them. I think they're interesting. He really didn't. I didn't have a problem as long as he paid for the big stuff that couldn't be done at home to be done by a mechanic.
/r/askFDS06/05/21 08:11 AM
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He was incredibly old fashioned, he made it very clear that if I moved in/married him, I would have to do 80－90% of the housework, painting and decorating, gardening and cooking, and all of the errand running, grocery shopping, driving and car maintenance as he hated driving, and he would still expect me to look presentable. I said ok, but I would not work full time on top of that, and would only work part time if I could comfortably handle it on top of all that. He said that was fine, and if he…
/r/askFDS05/05/21 05:11 PM
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I just said, 'I'm a nanny, I literally can't afford it. If you want to go 50/50, then we'll have to go to McDonalds lots and a lot of free outdoor concerts in the Botanic Gardens, because that's my budget. I can't afford Symphony Orchestra tickets unless I get student rush tickets which are the last ones left so probably not the seats you want, I can't afford to go to wine bars except for birthdays.' He didn't like the idea of going to McDonalds every single week.
/r/askFDS05/05/21 03:57 PM
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r/truechristian also
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 06:46 AM
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Patience. Doesn't get angry easily. Empathy and compassion for others. Fun to be around Does more than his share of chores around the house. He cooks at least a couple nights a week, he washes the dishes and loads/unloads the dishwasher on nights he doesn't cook, he vacuums, he waterblasts, he mows the lawn, he washes/vacuums the car, he oil changes the car or arranges it to be serviced, he cleans the toilet, he does his own laundry, he picks up after himself, he does ALL of these things WITHOUT…
/r/askFDS05/05/21 05:46 AM
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Well... in the 1950s, my great aunt had ten children and managed a farm. She could ride a horse very well but refused to learn to drive. Her husband drove the tractors and ran all the errands. One day he died. So she had her two eldest sons do the driving instead. My aunt in the 1980s never learned until her children were grown up. I believe they taught her. She married just out of high school and my uncle would probably not have been a very patient teacher. So she just never learned.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 04:39 AM
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Are you able to find out? Invest in a PI perhaps or even just do a reverse Google image search. Also, if you or mom or mom's manager can get a snap of his license plate, take it to the DMV and ask to match it to the owner, pretty sure there's a process for doing that or there used to be.
/r/askFDS28/04/21 12:50 AM
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He's 29 and can't afford fast food? He can't save money? He gets angry over wanting to discuss intimate topics? He calls women derogatory names? And then he expects you to help him? Help him with what? Cleaning his room? Operating the washing machine and clothes line? Putting his pants on right? Which names it's ok to call women online? Why should you have stayed?
/r/askFDS27/04/21 11:41 PM
17

Ehhhhh... I went out with a guy who was a banker with a six figure income who refused to get his drivers license and refused to learn even though I offered to teach him. He said the bus and train were just fine, cheaper, better for the environment and he could afford taxis if he was running late.
/r/askFDS27/04/21 11:34 PM
5

Get a gun, learn how to fire it, get a taser, learn to fire that too. Carry taser when you go out. Put cameras up. Put signs up saying, 'Warning: No tresspassing, residents carry firearms, keep out!' Then shoot him on sight, even just to injure. Keep firearms locked in your bedroom closet safe. Talk to everyone you know so he is met with an aggressive, hostile response everywhere he goes concerning you. Goes to mom's workplace, manager comes out, recording him, and screams, 'NO! you are NOT ALLO…
/r/askFDS27/04/21 08:29 AM
6

It creates a paper trail. If she gets a gun and uses it on him, there will be evidence of him violating the order and being where he shouldn't be. If there is no order and she uses a gun and injures him, he can complain and there won't be evidence of him being a problem so it will be his word against hers.
/r/askFDS27/04/21 08:26 AM
10

Did you ever actually send a message to him, in writing, telling him to stop contacting you, in any way, for any reason, ever? You need to. You also need to send him a message telling him to stop contacting your friends and family and former coworkers, in any way, for any reason, ever. They should probably send them themselves too. If you don't send him a written message, even if you've spoken to him verbally before, there is no evidence, so he can tell the judge, when you file a restraining ord…
/r/askFDS27/04/21 03:15 AM
5

If she doesn't speak English, he could be underpaying her, this is a huge problem. She could be here illegally and/or unaware of her rights. He could be exploiting her, he could be financially abusing her, possibly even sexually abusing her in exchange for a possible visa. He could be threatening her with calling immigration if she doesn't put up with working long hours for low pay, possibly even less than minimum wage. She could be putting up with it because conditions in her home country are w…
/r/askFDS22/04/21 04:14 AM
23

If he's demanding you shave, especially if he's not willing to pay for a full salon wax/hypoallergenic products that don't sting... that's a no. A trim... a bit different. It's not that invasive, also if you want him to give you oral, nobody likes getting hair in their mouth.
/r/askFDS21/04/21 05:52 AM
6

There's a separate subreddit for Christian redpill men. r/RPChristians They disapprove of sex outside marriage for men as well as for women. This sub tells men they should repent if they have sex outside of marriage and also disapproves of pornography and encourages nofap. They distinguish themselves from the main redpull community. One rule of the sub is that commenters who encourage sex outside of marriage whether for men or for women get a permanent ban. Some of them want virgin wives, some d…
/r/ExRedPill20/04/21 03:54 PM
27

Hey, I know a guy like that! He's gay 😂😂
/r/askFDS20/04/21 07:18 AM
8

Yes, I have. But why the hell should I spend my life chasing after some asshole who clearly isn't interested.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/21 09:24 PM
20

Ummmmmmm..... Wow. What a toxic mess. Why are you wasting your youth on this man? He clearly doesn't respect you, like, at all. Not even a little. I honestly don't see this changing if you improve yourself, either. If he truly respected you, he'd either break up with you and help you be an adult as much as he could as a friend without disadvantaging himself, or fully be there for you as a boyfriend who was genuinely concerned about your welfare. He's done neither, he's cheating on you and seeing…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 10:57 AM
9

No girl is going to come at you begging for a date. Not going to happen. We have better things to do with our time. A girl might ask you on a date, maybe a second time, but I am not going to sit around waiting if you show a lack of effort or interest in me. Case in point: My coworker keeps claiming how wonderful I am, and how much he wants a girlfriend. I ask him to go out after work on Sunday at 6.30. He agrees. Then I text to confirm the day before. He says, 'Sorry, I have private classes, can…
/r/ExRedPill19/04/21 06:07 AM
13

Because... we want a guy who puts in effort? Not a guy who 'just wants something casual' and expects a free hooker? How hard is that to understand??
/r/ExRedPill19/04/21 05:58 AM
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r/childfree r/truechildfree r/fencesitter r/parenting r/oneanddone
/r/askFDS16/04/21 11:49 PM
1

I think this is good advice. Also: If you can get ahold of it, I'm not sure if it's available outside of New Zealand, please buy a copy of 'The Great Brain Robbery' by Tom Scott and Trevor Grice. It's one of the most fantastic books on drugs I have ever read (except perhaps its section on weed which is very outdated and very anti legalization/decriminalization, that is my one complaint.) It has a good section on anabolics in it. It's aimed at high schoolers but is a good book for adults in their…
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 03:24 AM
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He wanted a free prostitute and free servant that would be just for him and nobody else that he wouldn't have to pay for things for. Don't want a relationship equals don't want one with YOU. At work: Grey rock. 'Hello!' 'Hi.' 'How are you?' 'Good.' 'What you get upto this weekend?' 'Watched a movie.' 'Ooooooohhhhh, what movie?' 'Rush Hour.' 'Was it good?' 'Yep.' 'How's your mom?' 'She's good thanks.'
/r/askFDS14/04/21 09:26 AM
1

Not sure if you're supposed to ask questions here if you're a guy, but I don't personally have a problem with it if the goal is to improve your relationship. What's up?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 05:51 AM
4

Google mens shed movement.
/r/ExRedPill11/04/21 11:55 PM
1

I'm not completely sold, I'm a fencesitter.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 11:58 AM
1

Give the food to your local poor!
/r/RedPillWives08/04/21 12:09 AM
2

Someone intelligent, kind, has integrity, values family/friends/community, honest, hardworking, who I have chemistry with (for a relationship that is), not toooooo much older or younger (again for a relationship), ideally doesn't already have kids (again for a relationship), Christian (again for a relationship). Someone with empathy. Now, things like being tall, having a nice figure/abs, having a six figure income, having a fantastic job, being a boss, having a degree etc are all nice to haves, …
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 02:18 PM
6

Wow. May your soon to be ex husband have his sink forever full of dirty dishes and may every single future partner of his be absolutely useless at housework.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 02:05 PM
2

While I understand where you're coming from with not waiting too long, you strike me as someone who has rather poor self esteem and a very negative self image. Just looking at the choice of your language, 'I can almost feel my womb seething bitterly for how I've neglected it...' 'Before all my eggs rot away...' 'Will we both be getting together because we are 'leftovers'?' it seems to me that you view most of your self worth in your fertility and/or your perceived infertility, and this is someth…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 01:58 PM
8

Good point. I disagree that early dates should always be in groups, it's a drag getting everyone together all the time and people often act differently in a group than one on one. But, for one on one, do things in public. Restaurants. Coffee. Mini golf. Bowling if you like it. Ice skating. A one on one picnic in a very public area.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/21 02:58 AM
3

Why now? If he was serious about therapy, he would have asked to go before. I definitely think this is just another way to suck you back in. Also, some LVM can disguise themselves as HVM to outsiders who are particularly naive or slow witted, so your therapist could end up siding with him and blaming you for all of your problems once she meets him.
/r/askFDS06/04/21 01:08 AM
4

It's a green flag. You're good.
/r/askFDS05/04/21 08:08 AM
5

Only briefly, but once. He was a university counselor, and an older man. I had to see him as he was the on duty emergency counsellor at the university clinic that day. My alcoholic ex put me in hospital, which had a huge impact on my ability to study for and ultimately take the last one of my final exams required to graduate and get my degree. The lecturer in charge listened, and then said I still had to sit the exam but to head to the clinic after and ask for an emergency appointment to see the…
/r/askFDS04/04/21 08:50 AM
7

My mother cooked for my father, my aunts cooked for my uncles, I would love to cook for my husband... if he showed me love and appreciation in return.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/21 06:11 AM
22

Tell him to stop gaslighting you. You don't need to take this from him.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/21 04:36 AM
1

Have you tried finding clothes at upmarket second hand stores? There are a lot of them in my hometown that sell older generation clothes that are still in very good condition but no longer suit the original wearer. Also... what about learning to sew and making your own clothes? You could buy some fabric, patterns and sewing supplies at a shop like Spotlight, buy a sewing machine, and get someone to show you how to use it?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/21 03:26 PM
3

trueoffmychest but they're not that much better. Or just vent here depending on what it is.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 01:54 AM
1

Well the church I attended would not impose a burden on such a young woman to remain single and loveless for life because her husband was clearly abusive.
/r/askRPC30/03/21 04:49 PM
1

The process for Baptists is: Divorce is generally ok if, and only if, your partner committed adultery OR you committed adultery AND your partner asks for a divorce OR your partner was EXTREMELY abusive OR your partner is an unbeliever and THEY initiate and demand the divorce, not you OR it was entered into fradulently, ie the man here lied and said they were equally yoked when after the wedding it was revealed they clearly weren't.
/r/askRPC30/03/21 10:21 AM
13

This embarrasses me, when I was a pickme, I sent letters to my LVM exes. I sent letters out of depression. But I reckon your LVM is sending them, if he's a narc, because he regrets dumping you/causing you to dump him and move on and giving up a good source of validation supply that he could feed off. He didn't feel it at first because he moved on to a new girl quickly, but now that the new girl's moved on he's lost that supply from her.
/r/askFDS29/03/21 12:23 AM
2

This is valid, his worth is definitely judged by his money, there are soooo many women who want a high earning guy these days, but: If he wants her to earn less money and be dependent on him, he should be willing to commit legally to her in exchange. He doesn't want to. I get why he might not want a marriage, but you don't get to dictate your partner's income, job, career etc IF you're not willing to then 'put your money where your mouth is' and offer the legal security of a marriage. If OP is i…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 07:00 AM
2

Ok. He married in the past, and he's very nervous about doing it again, because of something bad his ex did. As a result, he does not desire marriage, OR children with you, and also claims to not want these things with anyone. Ok. Fine. You yourself are childfree, and are fine with no kids and no marriage. Ok. Also fine. What is NOT fine: Him saying he is 'insecure' about your job, income, career, money, ANYTHING like that. Yes, it's true as per the statement on the WAATGM child sub that he does…
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 04:35 AM
1

Ok cool.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 06:11 AM
2

If high n count women have no 'value' to men like you, why should we even try putting in the effort? Why make an effort in the first place if you're not going to get anywhere anyway? Or are you saying that some of us actually can repair RMV and get somewhere?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 06:08 AM
3

Lol. When I was 17, I met my guy on okcupid. Yeah yeah, I know, I shouldn't have been on there. I basically didn't contact guys older than 19 and DM'd saying, 'Hi, I think you look really cool.' One replied but never went anywhere. A few never responded. One replied, went out for coffee, never heard from him again. And one 18 year old replied, we dated for five months, he went to my prom. When I turned 18, changed my birthdate to reflect this and put 'finished high school', I got way more actual…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 04:36 AM
6

Your family sounds pretty toxic. Especially if they literally used the phrase 'spoiled goods'. I can understand the grounding over sending nudes tbh, because if those nudes get out there and your face is visible, then a potential employer could either refuse to hire you or terminate you to protect their reputation. You have absolutely no power over those nudes once they leave your phone. Also... if you were 16? Technically that's CP. Some jurisdictions don't care about the age of the receiver, h…
/r/RedPillWives17/03/21 03:14 AM
1

Dump him. First of all, why is he dating a 19 year old? Secondly, if he's asking you out and insisting you go to places he knows are expensive, why is he demanding you pay half? When I was 22, I was in college and dating a guy over 20 years older than me. Yeah, it was weird, I know, but still. You know what he did when he asked to go out to expensive places? Paid for it. Now, he was made redundant for two months and asked me to pay then, but he didn't get pissy when I couldn't pay to the same st…
/r/askFDS17/03/21 01:50 AM
3

Sex doll is not the same as a real woman, even the AI version. Mail order brides are from a culture that distinctly look for quality, high earning men with family approval and a strong ability to lead and provide, especially if you're outside the culture. There are some poorer families that will accept lower quality men but either a) they still have to adhere to some standards in terms of values and income or b) if they don't, then you don't want to marry them anyway. Also, unless they're from t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 11:10 AM
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I'd tell him you're very angry with him. How dare he promise you a nice night and then invite a friend over to get drunk instead. I'd tell him he needs to make it up to you, right now, that that was your special night and he absolutely ruined it. If he doesn't, bye. I'd also tell him that if he ever does anything like that ever again, you'll break up with him.
/r/askFDS14/03/21 07:30 PM
3

I just about had a seizure trying to make sense of that. If you're going to comment on here, say something useful.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 10:13 PM
5

I'd continue to date him, but with caution. My main worries would be that he'd want a commitment free situationship/friends with benefits, marriage free years on end cohabitation, casual sex, or even just a '50/50' relationship where even if you're earning much less than he is and even if he's the one insisting on going on expensive dates or living in an expensive area, you'll still have to pay half of everything and therefore maybe struggle. Or, alternatively, maybe be expected to do full time …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 05:20 PM
15

I'd break up. Not even bother with 'Either things go back to how they were...' It'll be ok for a week then this again.
/r/askFDS12/03/21 01:06 AM
5

Please learn proper punctuation before posting here. Also: If you want to talk about why you support mgtow and MRA as a woman, a better sub for you might be r/mensrights or r/purplepilldebate. You would probably have more receptive audiences on both these subs.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 07:58 AM
11

Looking at your comment history: You are not a forty six year old woman with 6 kids, you're just here to cause trouble and shitstir in our community. The vast majority of your comments in other subs are orientated towards porn, Bell Delphine and female model subs with comments that are simping and metaphorically drooling over them. Not that women can't look at porn, but if you're professing yourself to be a 46 year old conservative Trump voting mom of six, act like one, at least in public. If yo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/21 07:46 AM
5

Ask your bf to come with you to see your doctor togeether, get tested together, get new medication together, and have him, a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL, explain to him about how you could have still given him chlamydia even though you were given medication for it, even though you've been with nobody else since, and even though you DIDN'T CHEAT. If he refuses to go, argues excessively with the doctor (asking reasonable questions is ok), is rude or hostile towards the doctor or his staff, or doesn't lis…
/r/askFDS11/03/21 01:13 AM
14

Really? It's not her fault She's acting on the advice of her DOCTOR. These things happen.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 01:07 AM
2

...In and of itself, no, it's not, as long as they didn't do anything while she was actually his student... however... please look up the case of Sophie Elliot (22) and Clayton Weatherston (31). Same age gap, he was her economics university lecturer. They dated for about eight months in 2007. She would be in her thirties now... if she was still alive. He would be in his forties now... if he wasn't in prison. Their relationship was toxic, lots of fighting, break ups and getting back together, and…
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:57 PM
4

Ehhhhhh... Be careful with this one. If she's young and might need the reference, it might be better not to do it if they can figure out it was her.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:48 PM
13

He thinks you're stupid. Either he's racist, or sexist. Get a new job, don't tell him you're looking. Use someone else as a reference if you can. Once you've got one, write your boss a letter about why you quit and then give him say a couple of week's notice.
/r/askFDS10/03/21 07:45 PM
2

ok that's good then if he's trying, I'd support him. That actually sounds amazing. Waiting til graduation is fine, I wouldn't wait longer than a year after though.
/r/askFDS08/03/21 02:59 PM
3

I think he sounds alright as long as he starts paying more once he graduates. The sex really sounds like it needs to be addressed though, it sounds miserable.
/r/askFDS08/03/21 02:44 PM
9

Is there a spam folder that he can send her messages to so he won't see the messages yet it won't tell her he didn't actually get the messages? Facebook has that function. Is there an older, very honest woman you know who wouldn't mind sitting down with her and telling her the truth about how she's making herself look? 'I know you might love that young man, but at least for now, my dear, he's occupied. The other young girls in your group aren't running after married men or men with girlfriends i…
/r/askFDS08/03/21 05:47 AM
4

Haha no, I'm white, I have friends who are WOC that get treated like that though.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 07:21 AM
3

I'd like to add something: I live in China. There are lots of foreign guys who date Chinese women. A lot of these Chinese women are traditional, and refuse at least, to have sex without a serious commitment, and make it clear they're not sticking around without a marriage proposal. The guys that stay long term in China have zero problem with that. Zero. Meanwhile, white women and WOC are seen as dumb, easy and to be taken advantage of. Um, no. You don't need commitment free sex. You don't need t…
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 06:05 AM
8

I hate feeling like I have to have sex without commitment. Sex is just... The woman is putting herself at CONSTANT risk of pregnancy and STIs, do guys care? NO! They just want a free prostitute. If they wanted to commit, they would. Why are there women out there that are stupid enough to buy into this?
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 02:35 AM
-1

I have older male friends who have been burned by women, including one close older male friend from university. And one of my parents' friends who stayed with us for a month after he divorced. Some women do indeed suck. Some. My ex best friend was one of those women. That being said men who go MGTOW are sexist, bitter and hateful. I've been taken advantage of by guys and victimized. I still feel angry about it. I haven't 'sworn off men forever' but still obsessively talk about how all menz just …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 08:25 AM
1

If you want to give away sex without commitment, nobody in this forum, nor the entire redpill community is going to stop you. Just don't be surprised if some men then seem hesitant to then commit to you, if you've been giving them all of the benefits of a relationship with only the commitment of a friendship.
/r/RedPillWives04/03/21 08:07 AM
-1

Agreed with pull it out. My ex and I used it for over a year, ONE failure. We got a morning after pill. But if he does not have the willpower, discipline and stamina to hold off and also pull out in time when he can feel an orgasm coming before it actually happens, this method won't work for you. Not every guy has the ability to do this. Also be prepared to get a plan B pill immediately if he fails (don't leave it, I know you can usually leave it with the plan B but just don't risk it.) He shoul…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 12:17 PM
27

You really need to get some grief counseling for this issue. To help you grieve the relationship you were hoping to have. And to take care of you. But you aren't guaranteed anything in this world, and if an illness is causing you to fall out of love with someone, perhaps you didn't love them that much to begin with. Also, if you leave him, you aren't guaranteed another partner who is healthy and that the same thing won't happen to them. Or that they wouldn't leave you. Even if you found someone …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 04:20 AM
-7

Hee. Hee. Hee. I didn't read your whole post, but. Buy one of those really sexy short nighties. Put it on. Do your hair. Sneak into his office before he gets home from work. Sit in his office chair and wait. When he gets home, turn the chair around and stare at him. If that doesn't work, walk slowly towards him and start kissing him and touching him. If that doesn't work... he's very possibly gay.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 02:34 AM
4

I'd give it another month, maybe two, and see if things change. He might warm up to the idea. If he wants a companion though, definitely do NOT offer ANYTHING sexual, even if he is paying for stuff, and do NOT offer to pay more than your share for activities or dates unless it's his birthday or Christmas. You do NOT owe him sex or sexual acts if you are not committed to him, if he wants to pay for activities/dates completely that's on him. You also do NOT need to pay for both of you just because…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/21 10:28 AM
7

Is this a troll? I'm wondering why you would even want to continue on with this guy.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 06:12 AM
31

See other men. I'd give him another couple months, put the onus a bit more on him to make plans, and if he still is vague about when to commit, I'd drop him.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 05:23 AM
123

Envisaging what a Maury audience would say right now about this one. I imagine, one big chorus of, 'LEAVE HIM!' Why would a guy who loved you and who wanted to be with you move away? Should have ended it eighteen months ago, with no marriage in sight which is what you desire and the two of you in completely different cities/countries with no timeline on moving, this relationship has more than run its course.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 04:57 PM
1

I disagree with this. I just decided against dating a guy, in part, because he was heavily overweight and had no desire to lose it. It wasn't the whole reason though. Other looks issues: Shave properly or grow a decently styled beard. Don't have stubble. Don't have a neckbeard. Shower and shampoo properly. Use soap. Get a decent looking haircut. Make sure your clothes match half decently AND fit you. Dress professionally at work and for formal occasions. Clean and pick up your house once in a wh…
/r/askFDS22/02/21 02:51 PM
7

Nah, girl, they won't get better. Not once he's said something like that. Block him. If you feel bad about doing that, offer him a polite explanation first and wish him well for the future. Don't discuss. Don't apologize. Don't argue with him or try to get him to see your side. Don't let him make you feel bad. Prepare for him to try. Any threats to kill himself or hurt other people or animals in his care are met with an IMMEDIATE call to 911 and a call to police/the crisis team. Also call his pa…
/r/askFDS22/02/21 11:27 AM
37

Does he do his fair share of housework, laundry and cooking? Does he clean up after himself without you telling him? Is he responsible, without anger or addiction or pornography problems? Does he take care of himself physically and not spend hours on the computer or Xbox? Is he making steady progress with his studies? Does he take care of you in bed and leave you satisfied? Do you feel happy with him and not really want to break up? If yes to all of these, then I wouldn't break up with him. I do…
/r/askFDS22/02/21 05:35 AM
18

Dating an alcoholic or drug addict because it's a disease and you need to be understanding, dontcha know Forgiving him for affair after affair Doing all the planning for dates. All of it. Buying him stuff at Christmas and birthdays, even when he never makes an effort for you. Paying for dates when he never pays for them Accepting to see them only when it's convenient for them (A POSSIBLE exception MIGHT be made if they have a VERY busy job such as doctor or lawyer, but remember... if they wanted…
/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:48 AM
14

I personally think it should be split income wise. Whoever earns more pays more, and you pay your share of the expenses into a joint account to cover expenses. The rest you should keep in your own account.
/r/askFDS22/02/21 03:21 AM
5

That's why you don't keep dating him if he doesn't commit after say three months of dates. If when you first tell him he asks you why, you can briefly explain why, even explain a little, but don't get hooked into a drawn out argument. Tell him he can accept it or you'll block him. If he tries to change your mind again down the road, say, 'I said no, drop it now,' ONCE, then block if he doesn't stop. If you're on a date, just get up from the table and leave. No argument, he knows. If he still has…
/r/askFDS21/02/21 06:55 PM
3

I strongly believe this needs to be added to the 'We can't help you' pinned list. This is the kind of thing that you can only work out with a trained sexual abuse therapist. Until you do that, you won't be able to heal. There seem to be a lot of questions like this one lately, it's rather disturbing. If your first sexual experience was rape, and you feel like you are damaged because of it, an internet forum cannot help you. We are not trained CBT or sexual violence therapists. I'm sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/21 03:06 PM
20

I think you're rushing into a relationship too quickly. You don't need to have a guy commit to wanting you to be his girlfriend on the first or second date, and you don't want a guy who wants you to make that commitment that soon either. If you both really WANT to make a commitment that soon, great. But if you don't, then just see where things go for a couple of months. An easy way to see if he's only wanting FWB since he was vague with the 'something romantic' stuff: Keep texting as you are, bu…
/r/askFDS21/02/21 02:03 PM
32

The Apostle Paul said that it is honestly better to go unmarried as he was, but to marry if you cannot control yourself. I am not sure he is right, but I think there is a lot of wisdom in feeling complete within yourself and not putting your self worth in a partner.
/r/askFDS21/02/21 01:52 PM
1

If your marriage minded HVM would allow it... Could you have a church wedding or commitment ceremony without the legal papers and then sign the papers when you are 55 and have a vow renewal ceremony?
/r/askFDS19/02/21 11:53 PM
3

Why waste energy hating her? He's a low value man, and she begged him and fought for a relationship. Okay....? Do you really want a low value man? No? So what do you have against her if she wanted him that badly? I feel sorry for her more than anything, being that desperate. Just let it go, he's a low value man, he got what he deserved (the nervous breakdown) and if she dumped him, she clearly lived to regret the relationship. Why hold onto resentment for a guy who wasn't even worth a relationsh…
/r/askFDS19/02/21 11:41 PM
26

Why are you hung up on that idiot? He made it clear he doesn't see any value in you at all. If he wanted to he would. And he's right about one thing, you are too young for him. To date him, AND to 'make him cum'. Go date some guy who's closer to your own age who values you for yourself and isn't just trying to lowball you for free sex by pointing out what other girls are willing to do. Like... Do you really think the kind of guy to do that would stop seeing those girls even if you were willing t…
/r/askFDS19/02/21 09:12 AM
2

You have the right to threaten to sue if your workplace is this level of toxic. Get a lawyer who engages in that kind of claim to start by writing a very nasty letter to HR to stop the online and in person comments. If it gets you fired, escalate to an actual lawsuit. Document all of the in person and online comments you get, with evidence, so they can't claim it's an at will firing/targeting and that you are actually being harassed. I would give your husband's family an ultimatum. Either they s…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/21 10:01 PM
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Let me get this straight. Your husband wasn't 'OK' with you quitting a job when you are literally in pain? He's disgusting. Quit anyway. Stand up to him. You don't need his permission. You are not his slave and not his little girl. Tell him that. He's 'expressed a great deal of frustration about the work you've missed'... WHEN YOU ARE LITERALLY WORKING TEN PLUS HOUR DAYS, HELLO! Is HE working that much?! If no, then he's even more disgusting for bringing this up. The snarky colleague comments...…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/21 08:58 PM
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If you have a bachelors degree already, you could look at coming to China or Vietnam for awhile once covid eases entry restrictions to teach TEFL (English as a second language.) Only need a degree, passport from a Western English speaking country (exceptions to this can be made) and a TEFL certificate (easy to get). It is so so easy to save ten to fifteen thousand US dollars in one year and still live a decent lifestyle because they have a low cost of living. If you're really lucky and stay for …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 01:36 PM
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Tell him that it's a non negotiable, and you are in pain. That you are NOT being selfish for not wanting to be in physical.pain anymore and shorten your life anymore, and you are NOT being selfish for wanting to care about your own needs for once. If he declares your marriage to be over or threatens you with divorce because of it, he's a horrible, low value man who only loves money. Any real husband would insist a wife in physical pain would step down from their job and find something less stres…
/r/RedPillWives18/02/21 11:58 AM
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Ummmm... yeah? A lot of guys WANT virgins. Get out there!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 07:37 AM
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Again, see my last post. I literally explained it. You clearly did not read it. Also, community colleges do not cost as much as a traditional university, nor do apprenticeships.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 10:31 PM
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It's a start, but it's too small on its own to draw a definite conclusion.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 03:36 PM
5

Except you wrote a whole article on how such women can repair their RMV. Or is it that such women are beyond help and shouldn't even bother now? Or should women just give up because we can't compete with OF sluts anyway?
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 03:35 PM
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You clearly don't understand my point at all. Plenty of women in the 1950s had their husbands go out of work, or get sick, or die, and were left with families to support. What did they do wrong? Nothing. What did their men do wrong? Nothing. What did these women then do? Struggle, as most of them had no education or skills beyond high school except perhaps hairdressing, reception work, typing or if they were very lucky, teaching or nursing. I had two aunts who were housewives in the 1960s. One w…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 03:25 PM
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If I want to have kids, or a husband, I want to give them the best life possible. My ex was twenty five years older than me and a banker. He also earned, and still does earn, a six figure salary. He got made redundant. If we had kids? I was a nanny during most of our relationship, how could I have supported a family plus a mortgage on a nanny's wage, especially if we had continued into covid and he'd lost his new job again to covid? What if he'd died? Life insurance could help, but not fully. Wh…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 01:52 PM
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If your only reservation against their relationship is that they started dating when they were fourteen and have been together for five years, and you don't know her very well, then you don't have the right to judge their relationship and whether it's healthy or not. My cousin is a tradesman, is a HVM, started dating his girlfriend at fifteen, and married her. They've been together for almost fifteen years and have kids. You could make the effort to get to know her and see what her actual person…
/r/askFDS16/02/21 03:11 AM
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My mom stored hers in a closet for 30 years. If it was expensive I imagine she would have sold it, but it wasn't. I think we gave it to the Red Cross secondhand store when she died.
/r/RedPillWives16/02/21 02:24 AM
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Maybe I'd humor you if it weren't for your user name.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/21 12:44 AM
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I think you need nun mode, and extended therapy with a competent therapist who is a good match for you and who won't encourage your emotional dependance on this man, but will encourage your connections with other eligible high value female friends, male matches and possibly this man once you can handle it without being too emotionally dependant. I think that if you were to get into a relationship with him right now, it wouldn't last. In the future, it could last, but you need nun mode and far mo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 11:11 AM
1

Another thing I just thought of, there's an internet dating site specifically aimed at the Muslim community. You could share it with your folks if they have reservations and agree on limits around online communicating/meeting in person.
/r/askFDS15/02/21 08:29 AM
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Can you not go out in groups with Muslim men and women your age and get to know people that way? And if you like a particular man, have him around to your house (with your parents there and in the living room only) to chat and get to know him? Perhaps your parents could move into the room next door to give you some privacy if you just wanted to talk among yourselves. Also, gain an education before you marry. Refuse to marry without at least a usable bachelors degree or apprenticeship completed. …
/r/askFDS14/02/21 04:32 PM
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He sounds like a low value man, very possible rapist, who's out to manipulate you for his own selfish ends. Block him. Never talk to him ever again.
/r/askFDS14/02/21 04:25 PM
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It's not ok for him to talk to lots of girls, and especially also tell you not to use it to talk to guys. Also I dunno much about Snapchat, but from what I see they have loads of filters, loads of cute emojis, things you use to talk to super close friends or flirt. Also... does he have Snapchat Premium? It's similar to OnlyFans just older. Also, just cos he says he stopped talking to them doesn't mean he did.
/r/askFDS10/02/21 09:00 AM
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Like, my ex and I had a very good mutual friend with schizoaffective disorder, which is similar to schizophrenia and bipolar. He got sectioned. He ended up getting better. He tries very hard to stay on his meds, and goes to the doctor when he feels his meds aren't working. My ex, however, does not.
/r/askFDS10/02/21 01:24 AM
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Agreed. It's pseudoscience. Literally the only sources I have seen from red pill men who support it are articles from a study at Brigham Young University (A heavily mormon university so biased and in my opinion not to be trusted), some CDC graphs from a study that's almost thirty years old, an article from a study that only had a thousand participants, and some Daily Mail articles. One did show me a modern peer reviewed university article that claimed to be studying it... but it said the pair bo…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/21 01:20 AM
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I can't diagnose, but this... sounds like bipolar/borderline personality disorder. Either in the depression phase or the dysphoric manic phase of the cycle. Their emotions aren't very regulated, either they don't feel adequate to live up to you so they push you away, or you're doing something that doesn't fit in with their perspective of what they expect you to be in order to meet their emotional needs, they don't understand why, they get angry and can't handle it so push you away to try and sol…
/r/askFDS09/02/21 02:47 PM
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SEND A RANDOM DICK PIC BACK! DO IT! You can get them from Google Images. 'Oh, sorry. You just sent me one, so I thought you were into that. Would you rather see one in a different size? Here' Send a smaller one. 'No? Oh, maybe still too big. What about this one.' Send a smaller one. 'Still no? Would you like to see a different colour?' You get the picture, excuse the pun. But yeah, I'd totally do this. THEN block him later.
/r/askFDS09/02/21 08:21 AM
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Nope. Don't you get modern girl. It's a scam. Guys that are conservative and want a traditional girl who cooks and cleans 100% yet expect her to pay half on dates, I just... No respect. If you wanna do the whole 50/50 thing, lose the other traditional values you expect women to hold too, why should we cook and clean and raise kids and look pretty plus go out to work for your cheap ass? If you want a girl who cooks and cleans well and is good with kids and stays pure for you and wears dresses eve…
/r/RedPillWives07/02/21 06:57 PM
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Good question. Rule number one. Don't get angry. Repeat. Don't get angry. It will achieve a grand total of nothing. After that... expect him to prioritise you as an important person in his life. He is allowed to have friends and hobbies, but... if he says he's too busy to see you but not them, that's not good. I would also listen to him and show an interest in what's going on with his work, but if it's always negative and he's constantly stressed and unhappy, he needs a therapist. Take him to th…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/21 07:03 AM
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Which is why I suggested to either wear matching opaque (non see through) pantyhose or choose a kneelength skirt, for that very reason. In China where I'm based, very short skirts are a non issue, but showing the shoulders is seen as indecent, I wore a formal kneelength loose pleated dress to work that was sleeveless, and got complaints from customers, boss said to never wear it again, at least not without a cardigan. Changed to a black and white insanely tight dress, barely covered my thighs, c…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 06:51 AM
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Looking good! That kind of outfit is VERY common in China where I'm based, and I'm glad. But since the skirt isn't near knee length, I would see if you can get some matching opaque pantyhose and nice shoes (ballet flats will do if you don't like high heels).
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/21 05:17 AM
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Oh hell no.
/r/askFDS05/02/21 04:10 AM
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That sucks. My BA is in English. Really don't want to study for another 3－4 years.
/r/askFDS04/02/21 03:14 AM
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What's the pay like? Are there lots of opportunities for new graduates/entry level? And if you already have a BA, how much more study is needed for OT?
/r/askFDS04/02/21 12:41 AM
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If you're willing to travel and have a bachelors degree... any degree is ok... TEFL in China or Vietnam. Good salary, not too long hours, you can build a good teaching career, explore a new culture and learn a new language. Try and get an international school job that offers free/80－90% discount on tuition fees for your kids. Or, try and get a university job where you'll only have to work 3 days a week, and you can get a fairly cheap sitter, and homeschool your kids the rest of the time. If you …
/r/askFDS04/02/21 12:39 AM
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I'm not sure a lot of people would agree that masturbating in front of an intimate partner is like taking a shit, but that being said... you posted yesterday about how your boyfriend still lives at home, only works part time, doesn't help much with chores and still has his mother do his laundry and make his lunch for him. That combined with this is more than enough reason to get rid of him.
/r/askFDS04/02/21 12:29 AM
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No marriage, NO HOUSE TOGETHER, PERIOD. I would also never buy a house with this man and put his name on the deed UNLESS he puts in MINIMUM half deposit AND mortgage payments.
/r/askFDS03/02/21 11:34 PM
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Watch the 1940 movie 'Gaslight'. It's on Youtube. It's about a husband who wears down his wife and mentally abuses her and makes her think she's crazy without ever touching her, even once. Your bf and family are doing this to you. If your bf truly loved and valued you, he would never have cheated on you or messaged other women in the first place. Absolutely kick him out of YOUR house and tell your family that if they want to continue having a good relationship with you, especially your mom when …
/r/askFDS03/02/21 04:16 AM
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Because he's a narcissist and/or borderline personality disorder case, possibly unmedicated bipolar or addiction problems or very severe lack of social skills too. Whatever it is, not your problem. Now that his new girlfriend has had enough, he's left without emotional support/sex, so he's hoping to turn to you as a backup option, and reel you back in by feeding off of your guilt + any small amount of love you have left for him, and it's working... just a little... because while you're not overj…
/r/askFDS03/02/21 03:54 AM
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Ephesians 5 Wives submit to your husbands, for the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head of the Church Husbands, love your wives, As Christ loved the Church, AND gave Himself up for her. Too many people since The Apostle Paul wrote this pay attention to the first part, and either twist it to use it as an excuse to subjugate women in the Church, or twist it to try and use it as evidence that the New Testament is misogynistic and sexist. Yes, women SHOULD submit to their HUSBANDS.…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 04:49 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear that. I can't begin to understand your pain. Would you be open to fostering or adoption if you couldn't have a child? What about working with children who are disadvantaged? Or some other church ministry or missionary work, or charity work if you aren't religious? Besides having children, what else would you and your husband like to accomplish together? What are your talents? Is there a particular skill or trade you'd like to learn? It may be difficult, but when you feel…
/r/RedPillWives02/02/21 03:32 PM
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There's the Men's Shed Movement, which promotes men bonding together to help heal each other's mental health through special projects, both single and married men are welcome, and r/menslib. As for WGTOW, I personally find it far more constructive than MGTOW, mostly because the mods restrict their numbers and make the sub private if it starts getting too big so it doesn't go the same way MGTOW did. Last I looked it only had about 6000 subscribers. Just checked: It has about 6500 subs, about ten …
/r/ExRedPill02/02/21 02:41 PM
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Oh my gosh. There are liberal 'feminists' who actually believe that about a guy paying for dinner? Ladies, you are NOT A PROSTITUTE, COME ON!
/r/askFDS02/02/21 01:49 AM
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Honestly dude, it's just ten days. As Ayem said, the mods have a lot of crap on their plate. Just take the ban. I will say however: Did you do something like post something that could very possibly, even slightly, be perceived as pro sex work, sticking up for LVM, standard shaming, etc? Even if you didn't mean it that way, to the mods, it could have looked like that. Just be careful what you write, they can be super strict.
/r/askFDS02/02/21 01:47 AM
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I think he has a point. 'Provide something other than money. Knowledge, wisdom, structure, leadership.' 'Provide something other than looks and purity. Knowledge, intelligence, wisdom.' He's right. My ex was 25 years older than me and a banker. He had money for sure, but he got made redundant. He got another job of course, but he didn't know how long that'd take. He'd have made a pretty damn poor partner, especially for an age difference that big, if all he could offer was his wallet. If all you…
/r/RedPillWives01/02/21 02:30 PM
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Move out. Tell him you're still in and still want to be with him, but for the relationship to continue to work, you need to be engaged in, say, six months, and married in a year. Tell him, clearly, that he should NOT think of this as an ultimatum, as you don't mean it like that, and you do love him, but you are already twenty five (?) and you want to be married in your late twenties, and if he doesn't want to plan for that, then you will make plans for your own life and future on that basis that…
/r/askFDS01/02/21 02:15 AM
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My ex used to LOVE to say, pay for peanuts, you get a monkey. You entertain and continue to engage guys you know are like this, the end result WILL be what you got. As to why some people aren't honest with their intentions, there are a few possibilities. They're too apathetic and lazy. They're too bored to meet up, but not too bored to ghost. They're mentally ill or don't have social skills. They're too cowardly to be honest and risk hurting your feelings or you getting angry. They're afraid of …
/r/askFDS31/01/21 04:48 AM
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My ex who is 25 years older than me and a banker was a DJ as a job in the 80s and early 90s, mostly at weddings and birthday parties, to earn extra money. He still has his records, and is very passionate about his music, especially that era of music. It didn't affect his mental state, it didn't turn him into a drug or sex addict, what it did do was turn him into an 80s and 90s music fiend who if he could get away with it probably wouldn't shut up about it. May God have mercy on the woman who dat…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/21 07:11 PM
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I called them incel babies, said, 'Who hurt you?' and called one guy out and tore him a new one for referring to the Wall Street Betters collectively as 'Autists'. The last one earned me six downvotes.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/21 04:12 PM
1

You shouldn't. Seventeen is far too young to get married. If you don't want to go to college, you should go to community college and study your favorite subject for two years while you think about what you really want to do. Community college is far less expensive so much less debt and in a lot of cases you can cross credit to a full degree later. Also an opportunity to learn more life skills and meet more suitable men. If you don't like community college, at the very least, learn a trade. Haird…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 07:47 AM
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You've been with this guy for four years judging by your post history and not only does he not like you as much as his mom, not only does he complain about having to pay on dates, not only does he compare you to his ex from (hopefully) FOUR YEARS AGO, but he's still not proposed after four years?? I mean, we're not supposed to suggest leaving over stuff like this, but... you're already 25. Do you really want to spend anymore of your life dating THIS dude, and even if he proposed tomorrow, do you…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 05:42 AM
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Good job for not cheating. Cut the guy you almost cheated with off immediately. If he is a coworker or boss and you need the money, set some boundaries pronto. Say this to mom: 'You are disrespecting my husband and my family by saying those things. If you want to continue to be welcome here, stop saying them.' You might want to have an honest conversation with husband about his grooming? And then back it up with how much you love his hard work and what a wonderful father and protector he is. I l…
/r/RedPillWives27/01/21 03:12 AM
1

Which is what really upset me the other day on RPW. Why is it so awful for we women to have our own saving accounts our husbands can't touch? I get you shouldn't lie by ommission about it, but why in the blue fuck do those men HAVE TO control EVERYTHING?
/r/ExRedPill27/01/21 02:24 AM
1

I wouldn't mind doing most or even all of the childcare and housework, just not in addition to working fulltime on top, and that's the way things seem to be heading these days. I don't want that to be me.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/21 01:18 AM
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Why are you dating this guy? Why are you sleeping with him without commitment? Why are you dating an older pornsick guy? Who has a big girly poster in his room? This isn't an autobody workshop, or the Shawshank Redemption movie where he needs it to cover up his attempt to dig his way out of jail. Move on and find a guy nearer your own age.
/r/askFDS26/01/21 04:15 PM
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This sub is not for RP men, it is for RP women. Also, I never said DON'T get a prenup, I said sit down with a mediator in premarital counseling and discuss it first. Try learning to read. If you have a problem with a woman refusing to sign anything without premarital counseling, you're clearly a low value loser who wants to manipulate your wife into being a doormat because that's the kind of guy who thinks that's bad advice.
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/21 04:59 AM
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War is a capitalist concept that benefits absofuckinglutely noone, and the draft should be done away with altogether. As for why women weren't drafted in the past... they were. Just different roles. Medics. Ambulance drivers. Nurses. Spies. Telephone exchange. Factory work. Women's Auxiliary Airforce. Bar the last three, all of the jobs I mentioned above were equally dangerous to combat because they also required going near the battlefield and enemy lines. Factory workers and WAAF and telephone …
/r/ExRedPill26/01/21 02:44 AM
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My ex had bipolar. You are ENABLING her by doing this. This is a HER problem and NOT a YOU problem. TELL her that. She needs to take her damn meds and go see her therapist, and if it's not working for her, change her meds and or therapist. Why should you have to spend your life tiptoeing around her just because she has bipolar? You shouldn't. It's an imposition on you. By the way, a very good mutual friend of my ex and mine has schizoaffective disorder which is very similar to bipolar, and when …
/r/RedPillWives26/01/21 01:27 AM
1

Your husband is the one who needs to change his attitude. His parents are horrible to you and you are just expected to sit there and take it. You are not EVER allowed to argue with him or have an opinion different from his due to being submissive. You do not matter, your plans are not important, your birthday went uncelebrated, you are unappreciated. I would have blown up at him and screamed in his face. But that's just me. I seriously would refuse to visit the inlaws until your husband grows a …
/r/RedPillWives26/01/21 01:18 AM
1

True
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 07:40 PM
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Please seek counseling for your suicidal ideation. A suicide hotline is not ideal, but it's better than nothing if there's no in person counseling in your area. You could search for a low cost online counseling option in your area. Or, you could contact your local Salvation Army and ask. Re abortion, I will give no advice on what to do, but I really think you should have a talk with a counselor if you can about this too before going ahead with it.
/r/askFDS25/01/21 07:24 PM
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No. She should NOT have to sign a prenup promising that. If they have kids, thirty five thousand dollars will be nothing compared to the earning power she will lose raising them and the money she would lose being a single mom if they split up, especially since her job market value AND rmv would then tank and she'd be far older too. She is in her prime now. Her BEST earning years are NOW, BEFORE she has children. Her partner is a doctor. He will ALWAYS have the ability to earn lots of money, but …
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 06:47 PM
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You lied by omission. It's fine to have a separate account with some money in it for your own security. Great idea. It is NOT fine to lie about it including by omission. Terrible idea. This is a breach of trust! Especially with the amount of money we're talking here! Reverse the genders, this would NEVER be tolerated especially for an amount this large!!! Do NOT marry this man. At least, NOT YET. His immediate reaction was to withdraw all of his money from your joint account, and hold it over yo…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/21 11:40 AM
1

I'm still friends with my childhood best friend and my three best friends from my last year in high school/university and my best friend from Canada. My best friend from junior high, I have on FB but I don't really talk to her anymore. My mom had her high school best friend to stay a few times over the years and she stayed with us for the funeral, I never met any of her other friends from school except her cousins, although she stayed really good friends with her ex from teachers college who vis…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 09:54 AM
9

Oh ffs. NO they are not attractive. The vast majority (Not all) of them are PREDATORY and want a naive girl to take advantage of. Find someone your own age.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 09:20 AM
19

I just started a new job. The other night, a new male coworker came up to me and started talking about his fiancee he just broke up with. He went on for about three hours, and I let him because I figured he just needed to vent. But past me would have felt a lot more sympathy for him and would have felt really really angry at her. As I listened, I noticed how everything was mostly her fault. She was mentally ill, a liar, the worst person on earth. I thought it a bit odd to be saying all this for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 05:24 AM
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They don't take rejection less personally. They throw tantrums, refuse to take no for an answer, yell, behave like Rumplestiltskin, gaslight, manipulate, blame, lure, threaten, and go incel/mgtow or TRP/PUA which these days are basically the same thing or very similar. In extreme cases, they do what Clayton Weatherston did ten odd years ago. There are women out there who do all this too. The men (and women) who are MATURE and HV take rejection less personally.
/r/askFDS21/01/21 12:38 PM
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Search for Dr Bob Grant relationship psychologist. He generally says, 'IF you just want to be friends with benefits, then sex without commitment is fine, but if you want a real relationship, it's a terrible idea.'
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 09:56 AM
3

Promiscuous is a key thing here. A BIG mistake I made and a BIG mistake I see SO MANY WOMEN MAKING is having sex without commitment. And they don't understand why the guy leaves after! I was talking to a twenty year old about this at the local wellness club a few weeks ago! 'But he was supposed to like me more if I had sex' Noooooooo. What a lot of psychologists DO say is... if you want commitment, don't have sex without commitment, work on yourself, AND... do NOT treat someone like a priority i…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 07:30 AM
2

Partly, I had three Doms who were significantly older than me, one eighteen years older who was NOT a good Dom because he was an alcoholic, one who was sixteen years older than me who was fantastic, and one who was twenty five years older who was generally a good Dom but had his faults like any person. I met my second Dom at a munch and he was a mentor to me although we didn't attend play parties together because I wasn't collared. He introduced me to the service and spiritual side of BDSM, as w…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/21 03:55 PM
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Accept gracefully from this guy. BUT be very careful about accepting lots of luxuries from him. He could genuinely want to give you this, this could also be love bombing. Have a sit down discussion and discuss what you both feel comfortable with. SET A LIMIT. This limit could be maybe in the middle, a little more than what you're used to but a little less than what he is used to. Let him pay for the boiler, he already said he would, but do NOT let him go over the limit again UNLESS it truly is a…
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 03:26 PM
4

Well... I was in the BDSM scene. In our BDSM society such age differences were encouraged and seen as a good thing and people who spoke against them were intolerant.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/21 10:00 AM
5

Well... I've dated older guys. I wouldn't again, I find most of them either addicted to porn, alcoholic, manipulative, or entitled. I've had age differences ranging from five years to twenty five years in my older guys. One was really weird and wanted to date sixteen year old me at 21, rather than find a college girl who wasn't under her parents' thumb all the time. No idea why. Three were alcoholics. Two just wanted something casual, one tried to get me to find other girls for him. One was marr…
/r/ExRedPill20/01/21 09:59 AM
2

Well... I will give your mom a TINY bit of credit in that although her parenting sounds appalling, at LEAST it isn't, 'He's a boy, he doesn't have to do chores, but you're a girl, you have to,' which is frequently the case with situations like these. Talk to his dad about it. Talk to his teacher at school and ask about his behavior there, ask if he behaves badly there too. If he does, ask if you guys can join forces possibly with the principal to confront your mom. They're professionals, so what…
/r/askFDS16/01/21 04:26 AM
-1

Ummmm... Skype? Wechat/Whatsapp/Line video call? Facetime? Pigeon carrier message? Smoke signals? Joking about the last two but... Sorry love just if you stick to your area you'll really be limiting yourself if you're CF.
/r/askFDS16/01/21 04:13 AM
6

Of course you will. Look on r/cf4cf. Also look on r/childfree. Any man who tries to manipulate you into having kids against your will is a LVM. A real HVM would want you to live your own life and follow your own passions and dreams, even if they didn't quite align with his. The same goes for a true HVW. Also, if you're CF, you have time. Time to wait for the right guy. A couple hints: Be willing to relocate beyond your area. Your guy may be in a different place. Also, if you're introverted like …
/r/askFDS16/01/21 03:07 AM
1

Lauren Southern is biased, she is also not an academic source.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/21 02:05 AM
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My main concern would be if he was watching hentai or anime porn. That stuff is addictive and degrading as hell. If he's not, then all good as long as he's not watching it for hours per day..
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 08:44 PM
7

Let your friends hate you, kick him out. Real friends would listen to you and either not get involved at all or not side with an entitled creep.
/r/askFDS13/01/21 02:51 PM
19

Let me get this straight. His feelings were hurt because you ate nachos without him? Omg. Wanna know who the last person I heard play that card was? My coworker's five year old daughter. She threw a temper tantrum when she saw the wrapper in the bin because we went to McDonalds without her. She had an excuse, she was five. Your bf's is... what, exactly? What do you even see in this 'man'?
/r/askFDS13/01/21 02:36 PM
6

I mean if your kids aren't his then yeah you should work and support them. But he wants you to do the other stuff too? Sounds like an asshole and a manbaby. Imagine expecting someone to take on a traditional gender role and then also demanding they perform the modern role on top of that of, work for a living. If you're expected to do both, why shouldn't he? Break up with him.
/r/askFDS13/01/21 02:31 PM
2

Five year olds can't use reddit.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 09:17 AM
1

I still know enough to know daily mail and random internet articles aren't academic research. They wouldn't be accepted by any teacher I know in any subject, without academic sources to back them up. Which I could probably find if I looked hard enough but I don't care to. Good luck with IELTS.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 07:31 AM
3

Oh hai incel.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/21 07:02 AM
1

If you work at NASA, what are you doing on incel subs? You should be too busy and too successful getting all those hot women with your high status for that. I teach IELTS to engineering majors. A lot of tobacco majors. My reasoning is just common sense? A woman regardless of her n count is still capable of being faithful and loving and respecting a husband, and if she's not, then she probably wouldn't be even if she married as a virgin. In fact, a virgin might be even more tempted to 'go out the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 06:56 AM
1

I have a university degree and teach at university. If you handed this in for an assignment WITH those sources, you would fail. Not just my class, but any class. They're not proper academic sources, therefore, they don't count.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 06:30 AM
1

I won't even read the Daily Mail ones, it's a tabloid and nothing more. The first source was a study of just 1000 people. Brigham Young University is a biased mormon university, I would not trust any study from there. An Askmen online survey is not a reputable academic source. It would not be accepted as viable evidence in a real university study. The graphs are almost thirty years out of date. The other Psychology Today study began almost fifty years ago and would have ended almost twenty years…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 01:43 AM
11

Oh shut up. Look on MGTOW. They claim they can easily pay hookers or do they not count?
/r/ExRedPill12/01/21 11:48 AM
1

And your solid science backed source for the pair bonding conspiracy theory garbage is... where exactly. Right in with vaccines cause autism and the covid virus is a plandemic.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 08:54 AM
1

This is an old thread, but whatever. If a guy from church wants a virgin wife AND is willing to hold himself to the same standard, that's one thing. Most red pill and waatgm and mgtow guys that want virgins for wives however not only aren't virgins or are anywhere near virgins themselves but they have no real interest in remaining celibate while waiting for their virgin wife. Even a lot of mgtow guys I have seen would happily pump and dump or visit escorts while demanding a virgin for a wife. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/21 06:02 AM
11

So glad you didn't become another Elliot Rodger or Alek Missanian. Good for you for getting out. Oh and by the way, dunno if you ever read Roosh V's material but even he's turned his back on it in favour of Christianity, albeit a more austere version of it. But if even Roosh V is saying it's shit, then that's a pretty big indicator that it is.
/r/ExRedPill10/01/21 03:21 PM
17

Why do you care about his precious fragile feelings when he clearly doesn't about yours? Block him. If he's a boundary stomper, message him, 'You are blocked. Never contact me again, in anyway, for any reason, ever, you're not welcome. Do so and I'll call the police. Bye.'
/r/askFDS10/01/21 09:24 AM
6

I have a VERY good friend who is a real MGTOW. He is my former student, 24, Catholic, Chinese. Lovely lovely person. Frighteningly smart and discusses Greek philosophy for hours on end. Speaks fluent English. He prefers the term, 'self partnered' or 'gift of singleness'. He doesn't like the MGTOW label AFAIK.
/r/ExRedPill09/01/21 06:20 AM
22

What a disgusting, worthless, valueless man. What kind of man gets angry over their partner asking for help? Would you? Thank heaven you didn't breed with this man and get trapped into sharing custody forever with him. Be thankful he's gone and you can find a nice person who won't cheat and who deserves you. He doesn't love you and never will. If he did, he wouldn't have cheated, and absolutely wouldn't have gotten angry over you asking for help. Oh, and block him so he can't come crawling back.…
/r/askFDS08/01/21 06:05 PM
4

claps furiously
/r/ExRedPill07/01/21 08:56 PM
1

The own engagement rings thing was never meant to be seen as a real engagement or wedding ring. Nobody's under the delusion that they're getting married to some invisible friend. They're more promise rings for people who want to dedicate more time and energy into loving thmselves and things they enjoy rather than searching for the one true man. Some women aren't even getting rings, they get watches, necklaces, scarves, renovating a home, one woman even bought a new car instead as a way of commit…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/21 05:03 PM
3

In the eyes of God, yes, we are all equal and of the same value. Some of these mgtow men might even have great value to their employers and or families/friends and or community depending on their skills. However, you're looking for a relationship, not an employee or a volunteer. In terms of relationships, the men that post on the mgtow subreddit have clearly shown that they hold absolutely no value to any sensible person of ANY gender seeking one, as they have chosen of their own accord to join …
/r/ExRedPill07/01/21 04:05 PM
1

They helped me recover from my rape and my relationship with a man with borderline personality disorder and put my life back together. They helped me see value in myself again and realize that I don't have to settle for less just for the sake of being with someone or not hurting someone's feelings. That sex work ultimately does more harm than good to sex workers, and before you shoot me down, I know about ten sex workers and a good seven of them were regularly abused, assaulted, raped or taken a…
/r/ExRedPill07/01/21 03:53 PM
3

Hey. These guys are awful, low value 'men'. They are angry and bitter because they are looking for vulnerable women to manipulate, and most women wise up to them quickly. It's better to be alone and feel like crap than to be with someone low value and abusive like that and feel like crap. Self esteem bites at any age, but don't let them drag you down more. r/AskFDS are always happy to help more if you need it.
/r/ExRedPill07/01/21 03:37 PM
8

I am more reminded of that scene in Shrek where Lord Farquaad is jumping up and down, pointing to the crown on his head, screaming, 'I'M THE KING! SEE?' Before being swallowed up by the (female) dragon... and not a single person mourned him. Every single time I see one of their stupid posts, I imagine Lord Farquaad jumping up and down in rage going, 'YAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! YAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH! WHY DID FIONA CHOOSE THAT DISGUSTING GREEN OGRE OVER MEEEEEEEEE? I'M FABULOUS! HE'S HIDEOUS! YAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!…
/r/ExRedPill06/01/21 03:23 PM
4

'I don't want to screw an old woman' Hope you enjoy screwing fleshlights when you get old No young woman wants to fuck bitter old men who base their lives around sitcoms, not when they can fuck loads of guys their own ages. Unless of course you're planning to be a multimillionaire.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 06:59 PM
-2

Honestly, people shouldn't.be having kids if they're not in stable relationships that can go the distance. We have too many school shootings. There is such a huge population in the world, the earth would be just fine with losing a couple billion off that number while society gets itself together again.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 06:20 PM
1

Except 'men' on the mgtow sub are tiny dicked losers who are obsessed with women, hate women and tear down women who are complete strangers and who they don't even know. It's not about doing your own thing, it's about talking about ways to harrass and subjugate women and talk about how much you hate women, even if it once was about doing your own thing. Your mgtow group stole, without my consent, my thread from the Christian marriage sub, and took it into the mgtow sub to insult me, be mysoginis…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 06:14 PM
1

Nothing's wrong, but why should any woman lower their standards to be with you? If you don't get why women didn't walk away back then, you're delusional. Women literally had no choice but to get married as they had very little education and no independent access to money.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 03:12 PM
1

In a traditional world, nothing worked out. Men were allowed to walk away and take everything and leave women with nothing with zero consequences. Still are in most places. In a traditional world, women got abused and cheated on because they HAD no choice but to put up with it, and leaving meant being destitute and without work that could support a family.
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 01:16 PM
9

Hard disagree. Marriage should NOT be seen as temporary, if you make those vows, it SHOULD be for life, unless of course it is particularly bad. I would absolutely despise coparenting. I would even more despise the whole 'blended family' narrative. It's not particularly good for children and it would be just the worst to have to be tied to my ex for ten plus years because we had kids together. Also, divorce 'rape' has a reputation for happening to men, but can happen to women, too, famous exampl…
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 12:17 PM
1

What the fuck? What the actual fuck. You have no clue do you. My friend in the UK was literally left destitute after her ex cleaned out their bank accounts and cheated on her. He refuses to pay child support and works under the table and the government told her to fuck off when she complained because it couldn't be proven. So you and your 'MaRrIaGe BeNeFiTs WoMeN OnLy' can piss right off. There was a woman in New Zealand, my country, who had her protection order breached SO MANY times by her ex …
/r/ExRedPill05/01/21 11:25 AM
16

What kind of job do you have Northeast? Do you have a degree? If not, could you easily get one where you are? If not, could you easily get one back midwest? Could you get a good job midwest? What kind of salary? No point being in a place where there's no work or only minimum wage. Where is your family? Do you get along with them? Do you have friends midwest? What about northeast, besides your boyfriend? Also. He's 31 and you're 24. You've been together more than two years. When will he propose i…
/r/askFDS04/01/21 04:42 AM
-1

How do I put this? There is one person nobody here or on the AITA thread or at the hospital thread has asked what she wants and that is the mother. Before you say, 'Of course she wants to be home,' Please think. Her husband has a day job he cannot quit or they will lose his income and health insurance to cover her care. He needs to nurse her through the night. He isn't getting sleep and is caring for a stage 4 cancer patient. She could have a fall and he might not notice. The only helpers he has…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 05:22 AM
1

You should have met my mom. My dad got angry but nothing like my mom. When she was angry she was something else. If something pissed her off that was it, there was no talking her down. But, my dad still loves her, still misses her, would marry her again and has still not remarried (she died four years ago.)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 05:08 PM
4

Rather focus on myself than LoWeR mY StAnDaRdS to the point where I'm begging those 'good men' for a crumb of attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:56 AM
40

Adultery. Lying. What a shame she had kids with this 'man'. I wouldn't even coparent, he obviously doesn't love his kids that much, if he did, he would be at home with them and not out partying like an 18－19 year old. I'd honestly refuse to let him see them ever again in her shoes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 06:07 AM
3

No..... I'm not a vending machine, I have feelings. I don't have any obligation whatsoever to have sex if I don't feel like it. But yeah... as someone else said, my 'move set' includes cock and ball torture in the form of biting down HARD and DRAGGING my sinking teeth along the dick when giving head. As I am being a bad partner for not doing that anymore, I will be sure to do this on all future guys I give head to, whether they like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:58 PM
2

Noooo, Jesse Shane Kempson, murderer of Grace Millane and rapist of British tourists.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:52 PM
2

If there was overwhelming evidence then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/21 11:52 PM
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I don't personally think it's helpful to say 'Don't date...' and then give a long list of jobs. Instead, vet hard. Look at the person who does the job. What are they like outside their job? If they are low value, it almost always shows up outside their work too. Look for those traits. How do they treat their colleagues? Speak to their boss? Treat the people under them? How do they treat the receptionist and the summer intern that does coffee and photocopying? What kind of stuff do they talk abou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 05:18 PM
5

It is the message. You are,advocating for the law not to be involved at all in marriage. That would completely remove any financial security at all that women or stay at home mothers/fathers have. So if a working parent or a parent was abusive or committed adultery, they could legally take all of their money and leave their partner broke, even if they were disabled or unable to work. Some overweight women do care a lot about their health. I could say the same that an overweight man who doesn't c…
/r/ExRedPill31/12/20 06:41 AM
17

Personally I'd break up with him.
/r/askFDS30/12/20 02:20 AM
5

You're funny. They scorn low effort and predatory men, as well they should. They also hold up men who care for women and do their best to treat them well as an example.
/r/ExRedPill30/12/20 12:13 AM
4

But if you go on TRP, there are GLARING examples of why it was quarantined, for example, a post about the fuckbin, a post about having girls at different levels, and starting them as a one night stand and forcing them to 'earn' their way up through the different levels of fb, fwb by doing nice things like sex, paying for dates etc in order to become your gf. And a recent post about onlyfans where they swear that women will have to compete with sluts for relationships soon. FDS doesn't have that.…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 04:59 PM
4

Preach, girl. I would also like to add something that one of the FDS mods said about marriage: 'IF marriage is just a ring and a piece of paper and is no longer relevant in today's society, why then did the LGBT community fight so fiercely to earn the right to get married and get that ring and piece of paper? Why weren't civil unions enough?' The LGBT community has a lot of other pressing issues, such as funding in healthcare, funding trans operations, mental health, trans mental health, mental …
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 03:53 PM
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IF he valued you THAT much, he WOULD have made time for you, and the fact that he didn't even reply to your last message confirms exactly huch of a priority you hold in his mind: Zilch. Goodbye, next!
/r/askFDS29/12/20 03:36 PM
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Question: Do you seriously want to stay with him? If you don't, do you seriously want to coparent? I hate the way coparenting is pushed these days as a one size fits all solution. He's not someone who needs to be coparenting. I would fire a babysitter if I found out she was looking at that stuff on our computer/around my kids/duing work time because she would no longer be considered competent.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 10:41 AM
11

Ummmmm......... okay? First of all, if FDS isn't for you, nobody's forcing you to use it. Second... FDS isn't about 'trying to get commitment' from anyone. It's about weeding out the bad, toxic people you don't want to be involved with. The mods themselves have said that if you follow the path, and especially if you take it to an extreme like they do, there is absofuckinglutely no guarantee you will end up with any guy, let alone a high quality guy or the kind you want. So, you have to be one hu…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 09:45 AM
1

You still deserve to be a priority in a relationship. If you're not a priority because work always comes first then the relationship won't be very happy especially if you have kids. Figure out where your boundaries lie, with your employer, and also with your relationships, and get him to as well.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 06:25 AM
1

Also you sound very young. You say he works in a high reward high stress job. You then say you are going to law school. Most lawyers I know work VERY long hours, so once you get in the thick of law school you yourself will likely have this problem.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 04:39 AM
1

You don't. That's the whole point. You say, 'Use this time in hospital to think about how YOU can make it up to ME and think about how YOU can show that YOU can consider ME a priority, not just when it's convenient for YOU as in right NOW, but PERMANENTLY.' If he says idk, tell him to have a think and figure it out for himself, because you're not his mother and you're not holding his hand every step of the way. If he protests that he's sick, then say that you understand that, but the very least …
/r/askFDS29/12/20 04:27 AM
2

You're not evil for setting boundaries or setting a trial period or telling him he needs to make it up to you. Personally if he wasn't interested before, I think he only wants you around when it's convenient for him. I would support him at a distance, but certainly not make myself too available and I absolutely would tell him he needed to make things up to me before giving anything another go. I wouldn't have noncommittal sex with him once he is well either.
/r/askFDS29/12/20 03:20 AM
2

Wow. Just wow. This is gonna sound SUPER callous, but send him a nice card if you can or call him if not and tell him that since he didn't see you as a priority when he wasn't sick, you're not gonna just drop everything now that he is to play wife. And that while you do still like him, if he wants you that badly, he can spend his time in hospital thinking of ways to make it up to you. Also... Don't just go running. He'll know he has you at his beck and call then and will drop you again once he d…
/r/askFDS29/12/20 02:55 AM
9

Some people in the Christian marriage subreddit believe it as well as mgtow, rpw and trp. It's horseshit. Just like vaccines causing autism. Just like the moon landing being faked. Just like Sandy Hook being a hoax. Just like Kurt Cobain being murdered so that Courtney Love could get all his money. Just like if you give enough money to your church so your pastor can buy a new pair of designer sneakers then Jesus will love you more. But you'll still find stupid fucks dumb enough to believe ALL of…
/r/ExRedPill23/12/20 05:50 AM
2

If men always decided where the relationship went, there wouldn't be any incel community because there wouldn't be any demand for one. Yeah a relationship can end even if you make a guy wait for sex, but chances are he would leave eventually anyway regardless of whether you were screwing him or not and sex by itself wouldn't change much... unless you were literally forcing a permanent, endless, forever monk mode on him.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/20 02:48 PM
5

Although, I will say that it wasn't always seen this way. Back in 1970, in my mother's graduating high school class, there was ONE girl who wanted more than anything to be a lawyer and an accountant. The other girls, including my mom, if they went to university at all, did teaching, nursing, liberal arts or maybe studied to be a doctor if they were lucky. My mother attended Catholic all girls school. There was no accounting course for them and the nuns were laughed at every time they asked for o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 01:20 PM
4

'FDS women hate men who won't treat them like princesses in the early stages of the relationship, or waste their time sleeping with them but change their minds by opting out of the Long term relationship/marriage cause men are assholes' These kinds of men don't change their minds. They have a conquest mentality. If a guy truly wanted a relationship with a woman, he'd go exclusive and not demand noncommittal sex like the asshole that he is.
/r/ExRedPill22/12/20 04:15 AM
2

More like empathy. As in, judge not lest ye be judged kinda deal.
/r/ExRedPill21/12/20 04:58 PM
1

Yes, there is r/WGTOW, but it is a LOT smaller, the mod intentionally keeps it at about 5000 members and has been known to make the sub private at times to avoid it going the same way r/mgtow did. The closest female rival to r/mgtow of any real size would be r/femaledatingstrategy and even then they are different. They have r/femalelevelupstrategy for getting advice about leveling up and goals and r/ASKFDS for questions and advice now. So the main sub is mostly memes, screenshots from r/mgtow an…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/20 03:59 PM
2

You're saying no guy would want me as a wife if he knew the truth about me? wtf why?
/r/ExRedPill21/12/20 01:04 PM
4

I'm not OP, but I'm a woman with a high n count (35 guys and 3 girls). I am now abstaining and have rejoined the church. Although I have met a lot of Christians that have sympathy, they said that I probably should at least say SOMETHING to my future husband about it, as he might see it as lying by omission if I say nothing at all and he finds out later. A guy who I was kinda involved with who asked me for my n count, I gave it to, then he laughed and said he actually thought it wasn't high enoug…
/r/ExRedPill21/12/20 09:26 AM
1

The eucharist is a big part of why I don't like the Catholic Church. Jesus gave His blood and His body for everybody, only to have it restricted by man. That to me is super offensive.
/r/RedPillWives19/12/20 01:53 AM
17

Don't let men define you as a person. Men are stupid. If they look? So what? You are more than what they define you as. Take pride in your personality and ignore them.
/r/askFDS16/12/20 04:12 PM
0

Is it healthy to drink Starbucks? I usually go there before and after workouts and get a no sugar flat white or latte with either oat, soy or skim milk.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 12:52 PM
3

VERY good advice sir.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 11:46 AM
4

Well... at the moment, I am hitting the gym 5 days a week in order to have a HOPE of attracting a guy who posts all of these hiking and travel pictures on his FB. He used to go to my church when we were teenagers. I'm 80kg/165 pounds, and he will want someone in shape. If he were to already have someone or turn me down for some other reason, all that work, all for nothing! But would it be, really? I could choose to see it that way or... I can go to the gym to feel better about myself for me too.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 11:33 AM
0

Not plate... you mean played.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 08:00 AM
2

You're already sleeping with him before you're committed? AND he's asking you for a threesome? AGAIN before commitment? Sounds like he just wants to sample you as long as he can before moving onto someone else. And you've been with him two years with no commitment at all? Sorry lovely but I think he has no intention of marrying you.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/20 07:59 AM
3

Car date? Really??!! Going in a CAR is NOT a DATE. It's a way of GETTING to a date. If a guy asks you on a CAR DATE, he doesn't consider you serious marriage material. Especially not if he does it a lot. Seriously, neither of the Muslim guys I dated took me on car dates. They took me in their cars to GET to the date. Sorry, this is NOT meant to make you feel bad. It's certainly meant as an attack at the guy you were with. 'He said he felt bad that he touched me and had to marry me.' There you go…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 10:21 AM
12

Yes. Block 'men' like this and never see them again. Creepy, creepy, awful. Especially for preying on someone so young and putting them at risk of getting pregnant and ESPECIALLY comparing her to high school girls, who shouldn't even be having sex and even if they were, a) shouldn't be with a guy over absolute maximum age 20 and b), should NEVER NOT USE A CONDOM. EVER. NEITHER SHOULD HIGH SCHOOL BOYS, EVEN IF THEY'RE HAVING GAY SEX. Don't even CONSIDER having sex with 'men' like this as they mak…
/r/askFDS15/12/20 08:38 AM
4

You say COULD HAVE. So would you have not dumped her if she had told the truth then?
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/20 03:01 AM
13

Either because they're bored, stupid, only want sex, only want an ATM, or got a better offer. In any case, they are,a LVM and not worth your time or head rental space. Move on.
/r/askFDS14/12/20 03:57 AM
12

I wouldn't have your mom drive you. Have your friend take the cat in, in a cage. Tell your friend you'll sit outside in the car, and just go on FDS until she's done. If she asks you why you won't do it, just say, 'You're his friend, I'm not, I'm not comfortable with it, if you're wanting to stay and chat with him anyway, I'd rather you do it.' If he comes out and asks to talk to you, ask him, What is it? And if it's about anything non move/cat related, say no, not interested, leave me alone. If …
/r/askFDS08/12/20 04:24 AM
3

These days, I would say Supernanny counts as conservative. As a nanny, I love her, but I often get shouted down whenever I give advice in line with her philosophy on FB mom groups. Who woulda thought kids need - gasp - consequences??
/r/RedPillWives06/12/20 04:00 PM
13

You've posted here before. You are lying to your parents about this relationship and dating in secret. The overwhelming advice you got last time you posted here regarding issues with all of this was to ask him what he wanted to do and then ask your parents honestly whether they ever could accept him and then make a choice based on that. In all honesty though, based on what you told us in your last post regarding his vagueness about you moving in and getting engaged and now him lying to you, I am…
/r/RedPillWives06/12/20 03:38 PM
3

I am a recently repented Christian and I have struggled with porn. Yes, I am a woman. My father also has struggled with porn, he was more discreet about it but I discovered it after I logged into his computer account to download some stuff (downloading needed admin privileges which my account didn't have. I was 17.) I have no idea whether or not he still uses, I don't really want to. God does. Christian forgiveness requires a little thing called repentance. If I shoplift just because I feel like…
/r/askFDS06/12/20 06:43 AM
23

Throw him in the bin. All I've got to say.
/r/askFDS05/12/20 06:25 PM
18

You made the right call. Slipping and skinning your palm/knee sucks, but when did this happen? How long before was he running and then planning to leave? Was he intending to just arrive late for a first date? He should have told you as soon as the injury happened so as not to waste your time.
/r/askFDS05/12/20 06:02 PM
27

I am with Moxymoxalone. If he really was that into you, he would have made sure you wouldn't even have felt the need to say it. He also would have at least listened to your apology before deciding whether to move on. I absolutely agree with her that if it really was just one little comment, and there wasn't anything else at all, you were wasting your time and something else would have happened sooner or later. Also? For the next guy, don't give him sex or stay overnight until you have a firm, so…
/r/askFDS02/12/20 08:46 AM
1

Yeah, it's kinda weird that you made that post then made this one six hours after. To answer your question though, I would do the project first then let him.look it over. If you are really stuck I might ask for some suggestions and advice to get started then have him look once I was finished or maybe have him look section by section/paragraph by paragraph. As someone else suggested, you can use these moments to flirt, build intimacy, praise him and make him feel needed.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 04:05 AM
2

Unfortunately they are probably right. If your name is on the lease or you were there for longer than about two weeks you are legally a tenant and you need to pay rent and give a minimum of thirty days notice to both the other tenants and the landlord if you leave, and pay rent for the period starting from when you give notice. Sometimes it's sixty days. If you don't, you'll have an eviction of your record.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 04:01 AM
19

Don't fight fire with fire. Just keep your relationship at small talk level. 'Oh?' 'Really.' 'That's nice.' 'You don't say?' 'I'm sorry you feel that way.' 'That's an interesting story.' 'I'll take that on board.' 'Mhmm.' 'That sounds a bit racist/sexist/homophobic.' 'My mistake.' 'Sure.' Imagine the video where Marge/Dr Hibbert/Ned/Abe/Mr Burns/Lenny and Carl is trying to talk to Homer Simpson, and Homer outwardly looks like he's listening, but in his head, it shows a dancing monkey band, showi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/20 05:23 AM
5

Why is HE supporting her through a recent breakup? Doesn't she have girlfriends or single male friends? Are they best friends or something? If they are, she should also be close to you. That is just so omg inappropriate. Gross. Why would he even THINK that's ok?
/r/RedPillWives28/11/20 05:43 AM
7

This is brilliant advice OP. Follow it.
/r/askFDS28/11/20 12:40 AM
2

Maybe you didn't actually read my list properly. The superficial ones I said actually don't turn me off. In other words, I'd be happy to date someone with them. The others... are bare minimum. Why should I date someone with an addiction? Who watches loads of porn? Who only cares about himself in bed? Who's an alcoholic? Are you saying women should settle for this kind of dude?
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 12:32 AM
24

What a vile sack of shit. Block him.
/r/askFDS26/11/20 10:25 AM
-6

A man not standing up to his mom or dad A man not standing up to me A man bullying me A man assaulting me A man mocking my religious beliefs A man trying to change or convert my religious beliefs A man refusing to clean up his own mess, car or apartment Unhygienic Racism, 'Asian fetish', etc Ghosting, fade out, silent treatment, standing up, being really late, contact only when convenient for them, etc Pressuring for unwanted sex Clinginess, asking why I didn't reply after ten minutes, etc Askin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 03:52 AM
1

Can you define 'using him' and give some more details about how you think this young lady is using him please? In any case, you seem to be bothered by his new relationship. Pay him no mind and focus your attention and energy on finding someone who's a better fit for you.
/r/askFDS25/11/20 07:14 AM
5

Just... l have teaching experience. My country always needs teachers, even those without recent experience. I'd just go back and sign up to be a sub teacher for like 200 bucks a day if my future husband were to lose his job like that. My mom got handed a full time high school contract after no primary OR high school teaching experience for more than ten years. It was a school she didn't like, but had our family been that desperate, it'd have paid the bills. And teachers are essential covid worke…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 07:05 AM
14

My ex worked in a major city as a banker. He wanted a traditional relationship, it's just he also was 25 years older than me and childfree. His take home pay was about 80k. On his salary, we absolutely could have supported a family of 4－6 without me working or with me just teaching piano. It's just that we would have had to move to a house that required less maintenance, we wouldn't have ever been able to afford to upgrade my car or to buy a car for him (not that he would have cared, he hated dr…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/20 04:06 AM
2

You need to have a blunt, open and honest conversation with him about where all this is going. An open conversation is not needy. Stating gently what you would like and asking him for his view is not needy. Issuing ultimatums as in, 'Marry me or else' is. You two just obviously aren't communicating well or are on the same page. That needs to change pronto. Edit: you should also, during this conversation, explain why you can't comfortably pay 50/50 for everything, explain that if you are able to …
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 06:21 AM
2

This situation sounds hopeless and I wouldn't continue in it personally. You know your parents don't approve, you have to lie, and it's already been two years of this. How much more will you take? Five years? Ten? They won't simply change their minds and they could even escalate and become dangerous towards you too. They have already threatened your safety when you refused to tell lies in court to support your father. Honestly, if I was forced to pay a lawyer a lot of money based on someone else…
/r/RedPillWives21/11/20 06:05 AM
3

Do you have board games? Dart board? What about playdough? A sandpit or even a smaller sand tub? Could you order some of those color balls off Amazon and make a ball pit? What about ordering juggling balls or stilts so they could learn circus tricks (They could watch youtube videos). Could they roll up old magazines or newspapers, tape them together and have swordfights? Paint each others' faces? Handprints? Put big sheets of paper on the floor, draw around each others' bodies and then color in?…
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 05:07 PM
1

Even if he doesn't last long, his effort should be close to yours in other ways. The fact that he doesn't view your efforts as important or even noticed them isn't great. I'd address it, I wouldn't nag though. A gentle conversation and change of technique.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 02:45 PM
1

This is sound quality advice from a man. Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 02:42 PM
13

From a woman: I think kissing is fine, she might get the wrong idea about his feelings if he doesn't kiss her and think he just wants to be good friends. Can be a bit more than just a quick peck. However, he SHOULD ask if it is ok first. Never kiss without asking. As for touching privates, blowjobs, nudes, fingering, etc: big no. He should say, 'I like you a lot, and think you're awesome, but really respect you and don't want to do that just yet, I'd rather get to know you. You don't need to do …
/r/askFDS19/11/20 05:32 AM
2

Nope, and I wouldn't.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 03:42 AM
2

One big reason: judging from the post history of those men in this thread, they have no recent involvement in the redpill community outside of RPW. I have noticed that A LOT lately, not just on this thread. IF you take five minutes to read the sub rules, you can see that this forum is meant for women. They clearly state that IF you are a man and you want to post here, you MUST be an active AND respected AND regular member of r/theredpill or their sister subs first. None of the guys on this threa…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 01:53 AM
1

They had no other useful suggestions BEYOND getting yourself off which is not useful advice. I don't immediately assume ill intent from a man. I assume laziness from a man who invades a female space and then provides advice which is not useful for women, implies laziness on his part and offers no other practical suggestions. No sympathy. RPW is a female space for women's issues, NOT a space for men to come over here and offer low effort posts. If a man really wants to post here, he should say so…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 01:14 AM
1

So how would you flirt really blatantly online without being creepy or annoying?
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 01:01 AM
2

Yeah, guys can go the other way too, to the point where they're pounding you sore for an hour. That's no better. Also? You're right about foreplay but that wasn't what those two were suggesting. They just said 'use your fingers' which quite honestly being told to do by a guy sucks if they're also not really doing anything else. I might as well just masturbate by myself as the result would be no different and probably better for me. If they had suggested more mutual foreplay then that's different…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 08:15 PM
2

You absolutely do have the right to tell him to stop watching it if you are prepared to stop too. It would improve your marriage. My meeting tonight said you should do more non penetrative sensual exploring of each others' bodies.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 02:22 PM
2

It is best to do this 'edging' technique in LTR but you can even do it masturbating alone. Have him touch you during your 'breaks'. I got this off Quora. I thought it was better advice than what I originally said, but I do still think porn is bad for the mind and for relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 07:51 AM
1

I actually just found this on Quora and thought it was fantastic and way better than my original advice so deleted my original answer. 'So here's the steps! Start having intercourse. (Best part right?) As soon as he feels like finishing STOP and take a break for 30 seconds to a minute. Repeat these steps for say 10 minutes the first couple times and then 15 for 2-3 times and just keep increasing every few times. More tips to incorporate: Some positions may enable him to last longer and should be…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 07:47 AM
1

I would, but only if he was willing to either level up quickly to an entirely new career where he would earn enough (what my dad did) or be a SAHD AND take on AT LEAST 70% of the housework AND follow through (what my cousin's husband did). There would be no way I'd have children with a man only to have to go back to work AND THEN shoulder the responsibility back home because he didn't earn enough and he couldn't be bothered doing childcare/housework either. If your SO works in childcare, could h…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/20 06:15 AM
6

Well I thought my original comment was maybe a bit harsh, but since you wanna double down, here goes: I am a woman and sex with a partner who can barely last five minutes SUCKS. A partner who thinks that's acceptable and ok and doesn't need fixing SUCKS. A 'man' who doesn't think he needs to do anything to get his woman off in bed and just tells her 'use your fingers' SUCKS. I hate sex like that and I've had it. It's boring, mind numbing and shit. It's the equivalent of a woman starfishing and b…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 06:01 AM
2

Would the Italian place even allow them in? In my home country, a lot of restaurants are licensed venues and demanded ID for those who looked under 25 even if they weren't buying alcohol and kicked out those under 18 who were unaccompanied. There was even one bowling place in the city that banned under 18s without parents because they had a liquor license. When I was a waitress in Saskatchewan at a licensed venue, we certainly weren't allowed to let unaccompanied kids under 19 (not 18) in unless…
/r/askFDS18/11/20 04:42 AM
1

Nah. My former best friend was like that. She was gorgeous and on her good days her personality was wonderful. On her bad days... I'd have rather dealt with Uncle Vernon or Miss Trunchbull, she was awful. And if this is coming from a woman, imagine what most men would say. Then again, loads of guys will take a lot of crap to get laid off a hot girl, so who knows.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/20 11:59 PM
1

Good for you. 22 is still young, focus on your hobbies and you can save up for e harmony later. I did suggest it because I got told the same thing, LVM often don't bother if they have to pay like ten bucks a month. Just don't do what I did at 22 and date someone 20 years older!
/r/askFDS17/11/20 11:16 AM
6

Why do you care about being judged? Why do you care what your mom thinks? It's not her house, unless you're living in her house rent free or she's helping you out financially to a large degree? (That ONE situation ALONE might change my opinion). Tell her to come help you out with the chores you're feeling burned out by or shove off if she doesn't like that idea (maybe in politer language than that unless she's really not getting it tlhough. No need to be rude unless someone is REALLY going overb…
/r/RedPillWives16/11/20 05:01 PM
16

AHAHAHAHAHAHA no block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 06:19 AM
10

Look outside online dating. Church. Gym. Hobbies. Join a real life group. Start groups too. Also, try e harmony. This site tends to have slightly better quality than other sites. Also, if you're not feeling it with a guy, don't waste your time on him. Cut him loose.
/r/askFDS16/11/20 06:07 AM
37

Why do men come on here and give awful advice? Rushing into marriage before you know your partner properly in case he gets 'tempted by other women' is terrible advice. A cheater will still cheat, married or not. Stupidest thing I ever heard.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/20 04:15 PM
2

I already do that. I'm asking this man about a particular situation for a reason.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 02:25 PM
-2

We are literally in different countries. It's not possible.
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 01:45 PM
3

Can you please give me some advice? How can you be obvious flirting online (covid so can't meet irl currently) without being annoying or creepy? Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/20 12:06 PM
3

Basically if a man isn't already well on the path to success then a 'good woman' can't make him do it. They can encourage him along but if he's obviously at the point where even his online posts show he needs therapy he needs professional help to be doing that, not a 'good woman'. My dad and my Dominos ex were not at that level.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/20 12:12 AM
2

In my experience, the man has to really want to do it. I dated a guy who worked at Dominos at university, who was trying to get an apprenticeship, and he ended up getting onto the pre apprenticeship course after a few months. He still was motivated to do it and still would have done it without me. My next serious partner wanted to start a business, I gave him some money and we tried to help him, but he didn't want to listen to any advice from anyone and it didn't work out. Oh well. He's doing re…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 11:43 PM
14

'Before they're complete, they're not attractive. They're boys. They're small. They're weak. They cry. They lack the emotional control that makes masculine confidence so attractive.' I've dated men 'under construction' who were boys mentally and lacked emotional control. You know what? It absolutely sucked. On a massive scale. Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. I'm not my boyfriend's mother. I'm not his therapist. If a guy needs therapy, he should go see a shrink.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 11:27 PM
1

I was thinking that you might be a good fit for someone like my first serious boyfriend. He is seriously into hiking, kayaking, running and all that, has a good job now, he doesn't drink heavily, as far as I know, he didn't lie or cheat, and he was generous to the best of his ability (which wasn't much for an at the time 20 year old pizza guy.) He was a bit of a bully, but I would put that partly down to the fact that we were very young, and partly down to the fact that he was atheist and I was …
/r/askFDS10/11/20 04:31 PM
2

I have struggled with this one. I live in China, where it is not generally culturally acceptable for a man to so much as suggest a woman pay, and if he does, it implies he is not very interested in her. When I as a woman have offered to pay, some men here (except for expats) have even viewed it as an insult, like I think they can't afford it. My last expat boyfriend in Shenzhen, we split 50/50, as we mostly just went to movies, and sometimes dinner. However, the previous boyfriend I had before t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:58 PM
3

I have a good male friend who I would consider to be mgtow, he doesn't post on Reddit usually though. He used to be a student of mine. He is extremely nice, enjoys discussing Greek philosophy and is Catholic. He wasn't particularly physically attractive, but I would have dated him.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 03:19 PM
1

I had a guy like that when I was 22... never cheated, paid for every last thing except for a very brief period where he got laid off from his job (and promptly found a new one and started paying for stuff again), didn't drive as he thought it was bad for the environment but readily used public transport and paid for occasional late night taxis, took me out somewhere nice on my birthday, LOVED Dr Who, paid for TWO overseas holidays with gooood holiday accommodation. Plot twist: He was 48 😂😂😂
/r/askFDS10/11/20 12:58 PM
3

That was a novel and a half. Are you acting entitled? The bigger question is, are you happy with this man? You've written out a huge list of reasons why you're not happy, and a few you are. Honest, pays for basic stuff, doesn't cheat, makes you laugh. Not bad traits to have tbh, but he also has a dui that sounds really bad as he seems to have permanently or at least long term lost his license, and hates hiking, and takes you to cheap places on your birthday. Would I make a fuss of my man at leas…
/r/askFDS10/11/20 12:56 PM
25

A coworker of mine just broke up with his gf and imho it's a good thing because there's an age difference of more than twenty years and he's far too old for her. We were at a public event at the local bar the other night and I asked him where his ex was and he replied, 'She wouldn't come here without me. She's not such a bitch to think she could do that. Maybe six months later, but right now? No guy here would talk to her.' Some guys can't handle seeing you with another guy. They view you as pro…
/r/askFDS10/11/20 12:42 PM
40

I have read r/theredpill and r/whereareallthegoodmen and can tell you right now I have no desire to end up with a man like that. Older, more esteemed men such as u/whisper are one thing, and I have a lot of respect for him and other mature redpill men that come over here and offer logical, practical advice. I also know several red pilled men in their forties and fifties in real life, one who was in my class at university and who helped me pass my papers and get good grades, and who very bravely …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 11:01 AM
6

Listen. I was a nanny to two mom lawyers. Both had their kids at 40 plus. One was divorced twice and relied on her teenage daughter, nannies and babysitters to help her take care of her kids. The other wasn't divorced, but her husband was a high profile businessman, ex military and ex diplomat. She also really wanted to go to the gym/do yoga regularly and have at least one weekend day off to spend with her kids. Her husband wasn't all that reliable as he too had heavy work commitments. So they h…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/20 04:35 PM
9

He sounds like a LVM. Perhaps he is right. Perhaps it would be best if he didn't have kids with you or with anyone.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/20 03:31 AM
4

I know two guys. They're both fairly immature. One is more low key but if you read between the lines it's there. The other is a walking advertisement for LVM which is a shame because he's actually really good looking. But calling women in their 20s young blood and bursting out laughing at the suggestion that maybe you should pay for most dates is LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/20 11:13 AM
8

Some of those men, I could have avoided if I'd picked up on body language etc earlier and I even picked up on one the other day within the first ten minutes of talking and said no thanks, I don't want to sit down with you and your drinking buddies and drink beer. But others are sneakier and much more subtle. My coworker was one of these types.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 12:41 AM
74

This may work but the kind of low value men I have experienced will then say, 'What's your problem? Why do you have to take it slow? What's wrong with fast?' And whine every single day over text until you get tired of them. Just tell them you don't do casual sex, ever. Only with a serious relationship or marriage. If they're still upset, ask them once to be respectful, then walk away and ghost. Guys like that suck and should be avoided.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 03:27 PM
2

Also, in New Zealand, unless you put your house in a well protected family trust with a GOOD lawyer, if you live together continuously full time for longer than two years (and in a very few cases longer than one year) in a publicly committed relationship, the government will consider it as a de facto marriage and may order you to split assets in the event of a break up, even if there were no disabilities, dependents, children or marriage talks involved.
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 01:56 PM
4

Former mistress here. I would say they probably would view it as a red flag as it is trashy. Why did I do it knowing how trashy it was? My self esteem was in the toilet. At that point in my life, I felt worthless and alone, and like I didn't deserve anything better. I knew it was wrong, but when you don't give a shit if you live or die, you don't give a shit if sex with a married man is wrong because if you can't care about yourself, you can't have the capacity to care about what other people th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/20 05:39 AM
1

I don't currently have a bf but the last time I did he got a large dreamcatcher I made. Afaik he still has it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/20 05:22 AM
14

She has LOW standards. Her standards, are things that should be expected of ANY partner. Responsible. Hard working. Family oriented. Not obese (Not even not overweight. Not OBESE). No baggage as in crazy exes or kids (Nobody wants a guy with this crap unless they're dealing with it themselves). These are all bare minimum requirements to be functional. The only one that isn't is requiring a tall man. She also specifically said she WASN'T looking for a male model, rich, ripped, etc. Dunno why peop…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 04:39 PM
19

Were they supermarket flowers, flowers he picked himself (greater effort) or florist flowers (more expensive)? Also, if you don't want flowers for your birthday and Christmas gifts, ask him to get you something else and even hint at some suggestions.
/r/askFDS31/10/20 04:54 AM
1

No it's not. When I was 16,I met my first real boyfriend, a man called Harry (his nickname, I won't post his full name for privacy.) Harry was 21. Harry claimed both to me and his university friends and to my friends he loved me with everything he had... but come final exam time, he 'needed a break' and when I started pushing him for answers the next year, he broke it off. Harry wasn't a liar. He wasn't the type to lie. He was however a fool who buckled easily under pressure.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 05:09 AM
2

I love you but I love my dick more. No I wouldn't accept that kind of love and I'd block him. Unless, of course, you are silly teenagers who should be studying and having fun and under those circumstances commitment should be at least two years away and so should sex.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 05:02 AM
7

Disagree that she should leave the room. It gives him the opportunity for threatening or parental alienation as well as the opportunity to force interaction with affair partner. She should sit out of view and record it, and hang up if he tries anything.
/r/askFDS29/10/20 04:26 AM
14

Right. So... Get a decent lawyer that accepts legal aid/won't ask for payment upfront. Ask at women's shelters. Go back to court. Eventually you should reapply for more custody and child support, but for now, you need to apply for a program called Our Family Wizard. It's a video calling app. It's user pays but your ex husband would have to pay not you (as long as you insisted). It's for divorced families with a parent or grandparent who is abusive but still needs to interact with the other party…
/r/askFDS29/10/20 02:14 AM
3

I read your post history. He drinks 6 shots a day and steals your pills. If he's a doctor, this is irresponsible and I am glad he's not mine. Get out. Now. Get out while you still can. 29 is still young enough to find someone decent and responsible who does NOT guzzle down booze like tapwater and steal pills like candy. Leave him, YOU CAN'T CURE AN ALCOHOLIC AND YOU CAN'T SAVE ONE WHO DOESN'T WANT HELP!
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 01:17 AM
3

All of those, PLUS: View on contraception? View on abortion/late term abortion if your baby is seriously ill? (Yes, my cousin had an abortion at 23 weeks because her child would have been born unable to walk, talk, see, eat, or hear.) What kinds of things do you like sex wise? Or want to explore sex wise? What's the plan to keep having regular communication, dates AND sex (even just oral sex temporarily) after baby is born? What are your career plans? Here are mine, can you support them? What's …
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 01:05 AM
4

You are seventeen. You should NOT GIVE UP YOUR YOUTH TO BABYSIT YOUR FATHER. YOUR FATHER IS AN ADULT. Let him take care of himself. He drinks? Well... I 'babysat' my alcoholic partner. This is called ENABLING. They learn NOTHING and it HELPS their addiction grow STRONGER, because they learn that instead of being forced to clean up after themselves, mom or dad or wifey or sister or daughter or son will just do it for them. The ONLY way you can stop enabling your father is by dropping the rope and…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 06:12 PM
9

Also bear in mind my father's income for the first two years was zero as he was a student with no work. I would be fine with going back to work once my children were elementary school age, and working one or maaaybe two days a week before as a piano/singing teacher if we could swing ok childcare that didn't cost the earth, but after what I have witnessed nannying, I have very little confidence that my husband would contribute 50/50 to housework and childcare. Some men do, and most men intend to,…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 05:37 PM
43

Can't afford it is just an excuse. A stupid bullshit one. When I was born, my dad was a student and didn't work. My mom worked as an HR manager. My dad got a thirty thousand dollar student loan in the days when our government was still imposing interest on those loans so that my mom wouldn't have to go back to work, because he believed mothers with young kids should stay home. He finished paying it off when I was ten. They only had one car, they had a very old 1970s tv for years and when I asked…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/20 04:26 PM
5

As someone who wishes to be a SAHM in the event we have kids, I could not in good conscience get one. As someone who wholeheartedly believes a strong Christian marriage should be a race to the back of the line, as the wonderful Andy Stanley said, ala Ephesians 5, I don't think I'd survive the lawyer meetings. Similarly, I read a story on another subreddit where a man was engaged, and his fiancee's rich parents bought them a house as a wedding gift. The catch: it was located three and a half hour…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 12:52 PM
6

DON'T move in with him if you're not married. ESPECIALLY NEVER have kids without it. It will make things much MUCH harder ESPECIALLY having kids. Just be honest and tell him and stand firm. If he respects you he'll understand. If marriage wasn't such a big deal, why did many people INCLUDING libertarians fight fiercely for same sex marriage? Why was marriage so very important to LGBTs if it's outdated? Re prenups, a judge can at their discretion throw them out especially if they were done shortl…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 02:11 AM
-1

As someone who has been in OP's exact situation at the same age except with a smaller age gap (12 years) I wouldn't tell her for one reason only: It WILL make her life and the lives of the kids ten times harder. If they split up, they WILL have to sell the house, divide assets, split custody, pay thousands for legal fees, and it WILL take months, possibly even years to figure out. You don't want to put young kids through that. IF the kids were over eighteen or if they did NOT have kids, I would …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 03:04 PM
4

I am 28 and currently single. I want at least 2-3 bio kids but also would like to foster/adopt so may end up having as many as 6－7 total kids.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:09 PM
4

OP, do NOT listen to this poster. NFP and pull out are NOT suitable methods for someone who is still in their teens and also not yet married. This method requires more experience.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 04:04 AM
3

If he is hunting for food only, not hunting for sport or in national parks or threatened species, or in safari places where the animals are specifically raised for hunting, then it's a great hobby. If you think it's cruel to hunt for food and you eat meat or dairy, think about how the animals are killed in order to get the meat or dairy you're eating. They suffer more. Much more. However, you are vegan, so maybe it's different for you. However, if you would date a guy who eats supermarket meat, …
/r/askFDS16/10/20 03:54 AM
11

Speak to management, but have you considered finding a female only gym or a gym with better management near you after your membership runs out?
/r/askFDS15/10/20 04:49 AM
4

If the relationship ended well, be nice, but tell them to move on. If they refuse after being told the first time, delete and block. No means no and if ignored is a boundary not respected. If it didn't end well, delete and block without acknowledgement. They know what they're doing.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/20 03:57 AM
2

😂😂😂😂! I'm stuck in China for a few months and he's in Sydney and the borders are shut my love. My own aging father would sorely love to come visit me and even he's barred.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 12:58 PM
1

So what would you suggest then? She should absolutely not be having children with this man.
/r/RedPillWives13/10/20 10:40 AM
1

How to be overt and forward but not openly blunt? He did say he was happy to hear from me...
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 05:59 AM
2

'When there is a mess he yells at me and calls me names and says he can't see himself marrying someone like me and that i wouldn't make a good wife or mother and says im evil and selfish and basically the worst person ever because im lazy and a slob.' That's all I needed to read from your post history, right there. I've been in your shoes and younger than you, too. Him deciding he no longer wants or needs you is a GOOD THING, WONDERFUL. For YOU, NOT FOR HIM! You don't get to waste years more of …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 05:57 AM
3

Some people say to insist on dinner dates from the get go. However... if you get stuck with someone you don't like, or the guy you spoke to over video chat or phone is a little different in person, 1 1/2 to two hours at dinner can be a long time. One suggestion can be to go somewhere cheaper that still has nice food like a Thai or Chinese place for dinner on the first date (NOT McDonalds or KFC, unless you're teenagers.) An individual on r/mgtow of all places also suggested this as an alternativ…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 05:51 AM
9

I dunno, I just haven't spoken to him in a really long time, I worry about what if he's already seeing someone although it's not on his fb, and we're currently stuck in two different countries in a pandemic.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 03:27 PM
7

This is all REALLY ridiculous. Someone explain to me WHY you would have sex with a guy who has given you ZERO guarantee of commitment and raise your n count and put yourself at risk? Why would he buy the cow when you are handing him the milk for free? That to me seems like the height of foolishness.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/20 08:56 AM
13

You do realize this is a female space, right? We don't invade r/mgtow or r/theredpill with dumb questions, stop using our spaces as free therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/20 09:02 AM
2

Perhaps mentioning leaving isn't the greatest advice I could have given in hindsight. However, she wants to have kids soon and I absolutely do stand by stating that she can't/won't have kids with him unless and until he gets help. My ex was an alcoholic and if your husband is struggling to cope for whatever reason now, adding kids will make it ten times worse. For all involved.
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 07:48 AM
1

Eight year old girls are probably saying that stuff cos Cardi B said it and their stupid parents were dumb enough to let them listen to her. My mom would NEVER have let me listen to/watch Cardi B at that age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 07:14 PM
3

You have AT LEAST NINE YEARS of viable childbearing left. Get THIS problem sorted FIRST, THEN worry about running out of time. You do not want to be raising kids for the next twenty years with a man who.drinks too much, and isn't responsible with money.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/20 06:03 AM
1

So you have no other suggestions. I myself am 'jumping on the get him and yourself in therapy train' because I personally LIVED with an alcoholic partner who was terrible with money at 21, and it was hell. I am now 28 and it still affects me to this day. In light of my experience, I would NEVER IN A MILLION YEARS advocate having kids with such a man until he can address his drinking and finances and start leading the household effectively. ANYTHING ELSE is just begging for disaster. Had my ex an…
/r/RedPillWives08/10/20 05:41 AM
5

Watch the Simpsons episode where Bart gets Milhouse's dad Kirk framed for kidnapping and he's put in jail. Eventually, Milhouse persuades Bart to ask Clancy to release him, and his response? 'He's better off in jail. His apartment was crap, and just look at all the attention he's getting from all these women now he's locked up.' Then they showed a scene of all these women outside his jail cell yelling things like, 'We love you, Kirky!' 'Sooooo misunderstood!' 'You've kidnapped my heart' In reali…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:31 AM
0

So what would you suggest then? Clearly taking it isn't working.
/r/RedPillWives08/10/20 04:47 AM
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Ah, so a question of compensation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:27 AM
3

My ex didn't really believe in therapy either and he's my ex for a reason. He was an alcoholic. You can't force someone to change, BUT with people like this who are always refusing help, if you pick up slack for them, you're enabling them. You need to go to Al Anon for Families to learn more about this. He needs to go to Alcoholics Anonymous, preferably an all male group. God helps those who help themselves. I eventually gave my ex a list of allllll the places he could go to for help, said that …
/r/RedPillWives07/10/20 01:52 AM
1

Then tell him either he goes and gets some help OR you will leave for someone who is capable of being a stable provider. If you don't want to threaten to leave, tell him you will NEVER have kids with him UNLESS he gets help as he's no longer suitable father/head of the family material.
/r/RedPillWives07/10/20 01:43 AM
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This worries me. I am thinking alarm bells for either alcoholism, ptsd or depression. Whatever you do, do NOT have children with him until this is resolved... one way or the other. It's better to not have kids than to have them with someone who's sick, or worse. Do you have a pastor or another strong, trusted male role model you BOTH can go to about this? It would be preferable if that male role model is older, happily married AND responsible.
/r/RedPillWives06/10/20 10:48 AM
3

It's strange to think that although this man says that 97% of a woman's eggs are gone by the time she's 40, my grandmother had my uncles when she was 36 and 38, and my father when she was 45, and there was NOTHING wrong with them! Amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 05:00 AM
4

What about a conceal carry weapon? Shoot him in the groin or even in the head if he makes you feel really unsafe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 02:37 AM
1

If you like him, by all means continue seeing him, but DO NOT have sex with him AT ALL, don't send him nudes or anything and don't make him a priority over any other potential HVM, your friends or yourself and your own time/hobbies unless you haven't seen him in awhile and particularly want to. I'd also be super careful of spending time with a non exclusive date at your house, or theirs.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:21 PM
1

You're being downvoted because of your advice to lie, which u/whisper addresses in his article. He said red pill is NOT the place for moralizing, HOWEVER: IF you lie, you run the risk of getting caught. IF that happens, then not ONLY will you have the original issue to deal with, but you will also have the bigger problem of your partner being unable to trust you and wondering what else you've lied about. Nothing good can come from it. If you feel the need to lie to your partner (unless it's over…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:03 PM
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'I find no difficulty in finding men who are crazy over me in bed, but I have a VERY hard time getting them to commit to me.' You sound like me three years ago. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? A guy wouldn't typically put in effort to get something he's already getting for less effort. You might see a difference if you stop offering sex without commitment. If you don't, it's either the kind of men you're pursuing, a vibe you're giving off, the kind of company you keep or some…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 03:35 PM
29

Why waste your 20s on this drama?? You could find someone young with no kids who doesn't lie to you and get angry. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 01:50 PM
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Don't give them sex outside of a committed relationship. Don't date just one person outside of commitment. Don't develop overly close friendships that can turn into fwb. Why the plastic surgery? Do you have an injury or very large mark or cleft palate or something that really needs correcting? If not, don't automatically assume that surgery will help your smv. If you still want the surgery, do it for you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 11:34 AM
1

Take the dog. Get out before he does it again. He WILL. You could DIE next time. A concussion is BRAIN DAMAGE. Report him to CPS if he has custody of teenagers.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 04:50 PM
1

Your godmother is an important person to you, right? Can you drive yourself there? Or get someone else to pick you up if you can't? Apologize, and say you'd love him to go with you, and he will always be welcome, BUT go without him if he won't go. Stop missing events for him. That includes the ceremony. Missing events literally sets him up to do it again because he knows he gets his way. If you're afraid of making him more upset or angrier if you go without him... or if you're afraid of him crit…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 03:25 PM
1

My net worth is about 18000 USD give or take. However I was very fortunate and got a LOT of help with student loans.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 03:05 PM
1

I think the adult trick or treat bags sound great. Also, since you're not getting married till 11pm, I'd do a picnic in the park with some jack o lanterns and punch beforehand, and maybe some scary boardgames too. You could also have a toast at the chapel.
/r/RedPillWives03/10/20 02:59 PM
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Ok... if I am in charge of my orgasms, I guess all my partners,are too, so I need not care about how they feel in bed because they can just get themselves off. Problem solved! Hooray!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 06:06 AM
3

Either he values his family more than you or it would be dangerous for him to stand up to them. In the first situation, he's garbage and you can do better. In the second situation, even if he does care about you, if he is in danger from openly dating outside his culture, you are in danger by extension by continuing to see him.
/r/askFDS28/09/20 04:25 AM
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Oh honey, no. No amount of money is worth having a baby at sixteen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:57 AM
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r/mgtow - quarantined r/theredpill - quarantined r/failed_Normies - the last incel sub not banned apart from withouthate. r/incelswithouthate - without hate in name only, has become overrun by angry men since the other incel subs were banned and mgtow and trp were quarantined. r/mensrights (This one actually allows women to comment and post) r/mgtow2 (This one in theory allows women to comment and actually used to be for men who were actually going their own way, but is getting more and more ove…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:45 AM
23

What they say in DMs isn't even original. 'Femcell!' 'Ur a femcell!' 'You post on FDS, U are no better than incels.' 'Man hater!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:38 AM
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My gosh. He impregnated a sixteen year old? Please tell me she's getting an abortion and they're not making her keep it because 'YoUrE kiLliNg yOuR baAyYbEe!!!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 11:34 AM
25

Or give you his polar fleece in below 20 weather because you forgot your jacket AGAIN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:44 AM
7

One text conversation I had with a work supervisor I dated for a few weeks who I later found out had a girlfriend: WS: Yeah, so things aren't going so great btw me and T right now. How's things with you? Me: Fine. WS: I was wondering, would you like to drive down to my place and take a nap with me? Me: No, I'm not doing that. WS: But you like me, why not? Me: I'm not doing that while you're still with T. WS: Your too nice. Me: Why?? WS: You care about T so much. Me: It's more that I don't want t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 07:50 AM
2

I like tall guys and prefer about 6 foot. Not fat or dad bod, but either thin and lean or muscular and with abs. However, as long as a guy isn't ridiculously short I would date him and have done. My last long term ex was about 2 inches shorter than me, I'm 5 foot 4. Dick size, I prefer an average to biggish size dick, but not TOO big because it can hurt, and preferably not TOO small. However, I have concluded that no matter the dick size, many, MANY guys only care about themselves in bed, so it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 04:11 PM
13

The police are already crap.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:49 PM
23

Nah. Most of today's guys would be no match for those soldiers. Think more, Lord Farquad with a slow dial-up modem and 2001 era computer with Windows XP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:37 AM
8

I have never read the SCUM Manifesto, but when I was 13, I watched an X rated VHS tape about Valerie Solanas called I shot Andy Warhol. I have been curious about it ever since, although most of the opinions I've read compare it to Hitler's Mein Kampf. Anyone else read it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 01:39 PM
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If you look closely at the original comment's profile pic, I'm pretty sure that's actually a woman, not a LVM. You can see from the kind of low cut top she's wearing and the way she's holding her phone in front of her face. What. A. Pickme. Most guys that are into that are just gonna call her a 'chameleon' for her trouble anyways. You can't win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 12:14 PM
2

And the fox said, 'Those grapes must taste horrible anyway. They look so sour.'
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 06:19 PM
3

NO NO NO DO NOT! My Lord. If I could hit you over the head with a chair right now I would! Listen, I'm not trying to be mean, but I had an affair with a married guy at your age too. The age difference wasn't so big, about 12 years for me, but I still did it. In my case, the reason why I did it was because I was broke, homeless, in another country with no steady job and an expired work visa with no way to get a new one, and working for shit pay on a tourist visa. I was depressed and didn't see a …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 05:07 PM
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Don't be so readily available and eager to talk to him all the time OP. Distance yourself a little, not too much but a little. Go on dates with other guys, he's not wanting to 'go exclusive' so he can absolutely NOT accuse you of cheating on him. If he does, leave him. DON'T let him gaslight you. No sex at ALL until you're exclusive. If you already have, stop doing it. Scale back on bringing him around your family and friends. And get better friends. They sound dumb af for telling you to focus o…
/r/askFDS13/09/20 06:47 PM
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What an awesome, awesome guy, but... who denies another living thing WATER?? WHO DOES THAT?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:44 PM
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Pre law change, an 18 year old girl could and would have been forced to register as a sex offender for having oral sex with a 17 year old girl, even if they got together when they were both underage. A one year age difference isn't rape. However, pre law change, a 23 year old man who had PIV sex with a 15 year old girl wasn't necessarily forced to register, as long as she was over 14 when the sex started, the age gap was less than TEN years, and they had PIV sex only (that the state knew of.) Th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 05:02 PM
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My high school was very Christian and the vice principal was an old Soviet lady. She wanted to call the police, but knew they wouldn't do anything because I was over the age of consent. I was so angry that day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 11:16 AM
6

Random question, what would you guys say about age gaps in lesbian relationships? Or where the woman is older and the guy younger?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:18 AM
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Not at my high school. I got reported for having a 21 year old boyfriend when I was 16, got hauled into the dean's office, and the vice principal was there too. They phoned home about it, several times. Age of consent is 16. If I'd been any younger, they'd have called the police that day too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:14 AM
17

Try 22 and 49. And we had the biggest age gap in our friend group, but certainly not the only one. He was and always will be childfree though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:08 AM
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And teenagers,being edgy and angsty will disbelieve any adult who attempts to tell them this. Was a 16 year old with a 21 year old bf who was always telling me I was mature for my age, can confirm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:06 AM
15

I'm white. wtaf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 05:03 AM
3

I'd have just told her a 'man' who needs his woman friend to ask a girl out for him isn't the kind of man I want to date. And he knows my number and can ask me himself if he's that interested.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 05:46 PM
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I want to add: What I wish I'd known: Why you shouldn't date more than than three years older maximum Why an older guy who's 'into' you isn't a compliment and you shouldn't be flattered by it Don't meet up with 20 something university guys online and don't lie to your parents to do it. It's dangerous. These guys can easily get someone their own age and if they can't... why not? And if they can but don't want to... WHY NOT?! Why you shouldn't hang on to a boy (or girl) who says he wants to 'take …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:44 AM
3

So have an actual lawyer send a CEASE AND DESIST letter and carefully word it, and have both you and the lawyer sign it but the lawyer write it and send it on your behalf. Take a notarized copy of it. Send his copy via registered mail with strict instructions to deliver to him only AND get his signature or return to your lawyer if not possible. His actual signature is proof he received it, if he then chose not to read it that's on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:38 PM
3

Block him there. Block him on your work phone. Give your work receptionist strict instructions not to forward calls or let any visitors or deliveries in to you without checking first. Tell manager and boss the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:35 PM
2

Is this sub going down?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:05 AM
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Well, my dad and his four brothers grew up in that era. His mom taught them to iron and sew their own jeans, sew on buttons, mash potatoes and wash and dry dishes and vacuum on a schedule. Granddad gave them the strap if they refused to help. All except my one uncle who was extremely sick with I think polio and spent months in hospital. He wasn't allowed to do anything even when he came out. He eventually recovered, and got married, and his wife refused to let him anywhere near the kitchen or he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:28 PM
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Uh, yeah he does. He literally does act on it. And even if it's not sexual... so what. Still creepy. Like, if you don't want kids, gtfo of your control freak marriage, don't take it out on a pregnant kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:00 PM
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Yuck. He doesn't deserve love. He's a rapist. She needs therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:50 PM
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She doesn't 'need' that pedophile. She NEEDS a competent therapist who is actually helpful. This story right here along with pedophile cult leader Merril Jessop is why they should raise the marriage age to 25, or at the very least bar an individual under 25 from marrying an individual more than five years older for any reason, parental/court consent, pregnant or not. For boys too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:41 PM
14

Divorce, don't have kids and no more sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:49 AM
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'Hmmm... I think I'll go to the date store today... oh, this one looks nice, hey cashier, I'd like this one please... What do you mean, someone else asked for that one already?! But I want it! I can't have it? Why not? I don't want to choose another one, I don't care that you have lots of others! I already chose this one! I want this one! Who cares about the other guy, I deserve it more! You mean I really can't have it? And I can't come to your store anymore? Oh well, who buys this old used up j…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:09 AM
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A middle eastern regime? Well... there, he would be jailed and given 100 lashes if he had sex outside marriage. If he was already married and slept with someone else and got caught, and was really unlucky, he would be put in the village square and stoned to death. If he got on the wrong side of a powerful man, he could be accused of rape or murder or gay sex and be stoned to death. If he was accused of stealing something, even shoplifting a soft drink from a 7/11: he would have his right hand am…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 02:01 AM
2

Dude... would you seriously rather be landed with a girl who's only there for the money? At least OP was honest. I turned down a guy with money too, because he couldn't respect the fact that I had to work the next day and wanted me to go clubbing at 11pm on a Thursday night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 01:43 AM
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I have no words. Just did he really say that. I have researched WW2 and the holocaust since I was eleven. Any guy who legitimately thinks this: watch The Pianist, an exact account of what Vladyslaw Spzilman saw in Warsaw Ghetto. The Nazis went jew hunting in the ghetto after curfew, forced Jews at gunpoint into the streets, told them to run and shot them in the back. Then they ran them over with the truck. One guy who couldn't run because he was in a wheelchair was tossed out of a fourth floor a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:31 AM
7

Yaaaaaayyyyy!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:13 AM
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Chingy's uncut Right Thurr video from 2003 (NOT the version edited for TV). Very popular song, certainly Chingy's biggest hit by a long stretch, most people over 25 into hiphop would remember it well today. The video had a strip club theme, and it was worse than WAP, the only difference was that there were male 'clients' in the video throwing money at the women and groping their naked breasts and asses. Right Thurr talked about what men liked about women and what men liked about women's behaviou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 07:03 AM
8

Why don't you tell her to get a backbone and stand up to the guy? It kind of is your business if someone's being abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 02:19 AM
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Ouch. Yikes. I literally felt pain just from looking at that. 2.1k (rounded approx) in two months!! Wow, please never do that again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 04:43 PM
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I'd be concerned about him getting his feet cut with glass or a used needle or getting a bee sting or spider bite. Even stepping on a stray rusty nail could require a tetanus shot. Also, if he's taking you shopping, a lot of places have long-standing 'no shirt, no shoes, no service' policies, so you'd probably get turned away from lots of places.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:15 PM
2

You can in New Zealand, get it written into the custody agreement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:24 AM
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I'd make it a condition of all future visits that she can't be there and manchild's only allowed to focus on your son, otherwise no visit, honestly. Stops manchild using Pickme as a babysitter to dump on while he goes off and sleeps or does other shit, and will also make him less upset when Pickme either gets abandoned or finally sees the light and dumps the manbaby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 07:21 AM
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I do... but they are both sex workers. Non sex workers? Nah. I'm at about 30 guys and about 3 women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:41 PM
3

The link has gone weird when I did that, but looked ok when I only replaced www.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 05:18 PM
3

Sorry, how do I do this?? I'm not very reddit savvy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:58 PM
5

Ooooh, if only we could use this cheat code to delete the occupants of r/mgtow... from the entire planet! Hey, r/mgtow losers, what do you think about THAT cheat code?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:50 PM
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Like, I do have a male friend of mine who is actually going his own way and he doesn't even use the term MGTOW. He prefers, 'self-partnered'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:14 PM
14

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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 04:09 PM
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Hmmm, just tried the link. It works for me ok. See if you can access r/mgtow and look for a post titled, 'she knew the cheat codes'. It might be on the second or third page. Sorry I can't post a screenshot people, Reddit doesn't work very well on my Chinese phone thanks to the Great China Firewall.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:30 PM
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It's not, and at the end of the day it is her choice, and if the laws were significantly different, I would maybe advocate her keeping it. But under most laws around the world, she is tied to the rapist until her child reaches eighteen, especially if they were married, and especially if there are either no marital rape laws in that state/country or the rape apologist judge just disregards them. In my case I'd skip the country, head for China and pick out a job where free childcare/tuition for my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 03:20 AM
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She should abort his spawn and ghost, any contact through lawyers only.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:56 PM
5

Organize a protest. Push the cancel culture angle. Get Black Lives Matter involved, she's a WOC. Get every single person you know out to protest DV, get them to name and shame this cop, name and shame the DA. Keep pushing and protesting and force them to change the system. DEMAND change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 09:10 AM
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File a complaint against the police officer. Demand he gets fired. Keep going and keep pushing until he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:36 AM
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Oh, he told her to prostitute herself. And he also refused to stop his mother from verbally abusing and harassing her, they were even granted a restraining order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 07:21 PM
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Happened to two women I can think of off the top of my head. My mother's cousin, after forty FIVE YEARS of marriage and I believe four kids, left her for another woman. My mom went down to see her and one of her kids' families right after and took me with, I was about fourteen. I didn't say this in front of my mom's cousin of course because I had manners, but afterwards I was talking with my mom and my aunt who had just reached forty years of marriage (mom's sister). I blurted out, 'What an abso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:25 PM
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40 years? Nah, I'd have gone to jail for murder or at least grievous bodily harm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:14 PM
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When even the other men look intimidated by him, you know this guy is low value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:59 AM
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Tell her to stop doing his laundry, cooking for him, or cleaning up his shit around the house. 'I'm pregnant and very busy with the baby and my job so need to catch up on my sleep.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:52 AM
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I have no words. Before I read the last sentence, I thought you meant a kids birthday party which still wouldn't be that hard because... the kids entertain each other mostly? The only real work would be to hand over the gift to the right kid, grab the party bag at the end, wash the kid's face and hands, talk with the other parents a bit and make sure the kid doesn't kill anyone? Then I realized it was a drinking party. He took a baby. To a fucking drinking party. And left it in a car seat. Just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 04:48 AM
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I used to be a nanny, I might hire a man to babysit, it'd depend on his references, vibe and qualifications. If you had kids, and they were lost, would you to teach them to ask a man by himself, or a woman by herself? What about a man with children or a woman with children? My mom said try to ask a woman or two parents with children or a woman by herself, IF you can't find those, ask a man with children, but NOT a man by himself or with other men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 01:58 PM
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She should tell him a condition of marriage is that he buys the same violin back... and pays her at least some of what she spent... then after that, she should take the violin, the money, the dog, changes the locks and dumps him by text. Failing that, she should sue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:54 AM
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Check out what one absolutely braindead pickme said in reply to my comment: 'OP said “our” dog, implying it’s both of theirs, I presumed one they got together. So yes, halfsies. & I didn’t expect to be disagreeing, but based on what someone else stated about why it may have need to be kept a secret until he was sure this was the person for him, I have to disagree. If he pays for the “damages” he’s caused or not helped with up to this point, is a good person & everything OP wants in a partner, th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 04:48 AM
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There was ONE comment I heard, romance wise. I was on the chairlift at a very small ski hill in Saskatchewan and was telling one of the older male instructors in his 60s about how much I loved one of the lift supervisors who was about 30. He just looked at me and said, 'Him? You know what I think? You could do a LOT better.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 03:27 PM
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I mean my cousin's wife had a kid at 47 but she is a health nut and looks about 32－33. She runs her own company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:57 PM
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I think I'd be mentally incapacitated after putting up with that halfwit for three years too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 06:59 AM
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I remember when I was that age and had a Bebo account, my profile was full of Green Day and Daniel Radcliffe pics because my mom wouldn't even let me upload anything with my face on it for fear it could be stolen. I thought she was dumb, but she was just way ahead of her time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:42 AM
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Think about it like this: How much is the typical dinner? Thirty dollars? Forty? Fifty, MAYBE? Now, I have two hooker friends who work from home. One charges about 100 USD an hour, the other charges about 160 USD an hour. Both of these women are in their THIRTIES. These rates are also AFTER any expenses. So basically, unless a guy took you to a restaurant run by Gordon Ramsay where the food was horrendously expensive, what he spent wouldn't even come close to what my friends would charge. So no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 02:29 AM
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You would be very, VERY surprised. My crystal meth addicted, alcoholic ex was a grammar nazi. He used to get really pissed when he saw spelling and grammar mistakes and he would correct me if I made them. He reminded me of my English teacher mother, except she wasn't a drug addict or an alcoholic that I know of.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 05:25 PM
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Three ways that you are a LVW, sweaty: Your user name. Using the N word Thinking that this list will definitely work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:18 AM
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Pretty sure that without the authentication code, OF can't finish setting up the account, and nothing can be posted, which is why they sent it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:09 AM
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I have two friends who are sex workers. One charges 150 NZD an hour PLUS expenses. The second one charges 250 NZD an hour PLUS expenses. Both by the way are in their thirties so well over the so called 'wall'. If I ever had a date try and tell me he was entitled to sex because he bought me dinner, I would simply say I am not a free prostitute.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 02:11 AM
18

There was no other woman, he's just an asshole doing the used car salesman trick. Except (in most cases) a used car is at least something useful, his product is dick which by itself hardly ever is. If I was feeling petty, I'd actually be tempted to ask for another chance, to prove my 'sexual confidence'... and arrange one last meetup... only to stand him up, and when he texted asking where I was, the only response he'd get would be a 😂. Then I'd just leave the rest on read and leave Rumplestilts…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 05:41 PM
1

There is one single thing and that is that he backed out of the TPPA. That was a disastrous deal waiting to happen for not just the US but all of the minority countries involved. In my country, New Zealand, we would probably have had to make huge changes to our healthcare and may have bankrupted our government prescription subsidising scheme. I imagine had it been signed, we may well have seen violent protests just like what we have now. We already had protests, highway blockages and police clas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:07 PM
35

Chihuahua trying to be tough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:59 AM
7

Ok I stuffed up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:49 PM
7

The hilarious thing is that he's a fucking English teacher. We both are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:33 PM
7

I already told him where to go. My exact message was, 'Don't bother because I'm not a free hooker.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 04:25 PM
4

I literally do not get it either. I used to belong to a Christian sect (Lord's Recovery) and their rule was no unrelated men and women ALONE in a room or car together. For example, John a married guy used to pick me up to go to meeting, bible study or church. His wife was allowed to pick me up by herself. He however had to have either his wife or at least one other FEMALE passenger in the car, usually their student Chinese boarder. His wife if she wanted to take men to the meeting without her hu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:57 PM
7

Yeah, this, there are some guys who have a fetish for being insulted by women, especially older women (30 plus), so telling a man like this that his penis was tiny would probably arouse him, give him the reaction he wanted and encourage him to try again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:50 PM
5

So how to know when a man is truly interested and not just for the chase?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:17 PM
6

Because in most US states, even if their name is not on any paperwork, they are legally a tenant if you let them stay more than a fortnight and in some cases it's just a week. He could take her to court for compensation. She is legally obligated to give him thirty days. As she has apparently done that and he is still refusing to leave, she can now either drag him through eviction court in the middle of a pandemic, which would take months and not be looked too kindly on, or just make a deal with …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 08:32 AM
110

Unfortunately we are getting new cases but that's mostly because of people coming back from overseas and they are not many, and one absolutely lovely low value male who absconded from quarantine to go to a supermarket and buy shaving cream and toothpaste and take selfies... they had to close the supermarket because of him after he tested positive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 03:59 AM
26

Write a letter to the counselor. Tell her exactly how useless at her job she is and why. Send it. Lay a formal complaint with her boss and the board she is licensed with. Keep pushing until she is properly disciplined. She has done this to other people too. I guarantee it. Even if it’s been a few years, still lay a complaint and get it put on her record.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/06/20 05:58 AM
27

Wow. I never looked at it like that. Most people also don’t consider men who sneakily take the condom off to be rapists either (like the piece of shit that raped me).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 04:25 AM
8

The only thing of his bigger than two horse schlongs put together is his nose... that’s growing longer and longer... just like Pinocchio 🤥.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:35 AM
7

Yup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:29 AM
7

Don’t see why it’ll require a protracted court battle. It’s pretty simple. She said her name is on the deed. He can’t just not give her half. If he doesn’t THEN she would have to go to court to force the sale but a) it would go for less money then and b) as the loser he would probably have to pay her legal fees and c) if her name is on the title then there’s no way the judge wouldn’t rule in her favour, same as if two friends bought a house together and one then wanted to sell, so by refusing to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 07:28 AM
2

I was in a singing competition as a teenager and a sixteen year old boy (who was actually very nice) chose to do Gaston’s song for the musical number. He had everyone laughing at him because he was such a good actor, he got the delusion and self absorption of Gaston just right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/20 02:55 PM
12

I MIGHT consider spending that kind of money on a gun for my dad, my grandad if he was still alive, or my fiancé (at the VERY least). My ex shot, I didn’t have the money to get him a gun and even if I had, I wouldn’t have for that kind of money. My close male friend? MAYBE as a wedding present IF his wife was also into guns and even then it probably would be around half. 4K on a gift for someone who’s not family and you’re not even dating is completely inappropriate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/20 12:42 PM
6

Johnny Bravo’s comeback to this one: “Really? Well, you look like the kind of girl who could use TWO!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 06:24 AM
67

My mother used to get written a check every month, depending on how much dad made at the time, but always more than $1000. The most I can remember is $3000. She used to remind him if he forgot. They weren’t divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:58 PM
5

EW 👏YUCK👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 02:25 PM
1

Yes but it’s not possible. Very few men I know are particularly interested in housework or doing their fair share around the house, and are also not particularly interested in doing most of the childcare either. Yet they still want women to contribute half, or at least half their income. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/20 02:19 PM
6

They do anyway. Look at r/childfree. Post after post of sad, sad people who are angry at years wasted with someone who was either a fencesitter or originally childfree who realized that they actually wanted children, someone who blatantly lied and said they were childfree in the hope of “helping their partner see the light” (manipulating and deceiving their partner), or someone who didn’t particularly want kids but gave into family pressure to have kids (I want grandchildren! But I WANT THEM! AL…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:00 PM
8

In New Zealand, the age of consent is sixteen, so you only have to be sixteen to enter a sex shop as long as it doesn’t sell hard core pornography (playboy is ok as it’s also R16, anything more is R18 and so is the place selling it). We have two main sex shop chain stores in New Zealand, DVice which doesn’t sell porn and is R16. They also let children under 6 in as long as they’re accompanied and actively watched and supervised by an actual parent. The other one, Peaches and Cream, is R18 becaus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 12:53 AM
4

In my experience, most men don’t find a woman’s inability to drive, since most men I have dated don’t consider it an essential skill for women to learn. My aunt didn’t learn until she was 44. My great aunt was a farmer, a single mother of nine after her husband died and she still didn’t learn. My other great aunt was a hospital matron and she learned. My first real boyfriend taught me and he shouted a lot, but he was only 20. His opinion was that it reflected very poorly on a man not to learn by…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 05:09 AM
8

Sounds like that medication actually didn’t help all that much... or he was just using his mental illness as an excuse for who he really was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/20 04:50 AM
23

Wow, I remember him from Brassed Off. I wanted to marry him, seeing him in that film... reading that article about how he’s angry about paying child support to children he chose to have despite having the money makes me feel dirty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/20 02:27 PM
8

This phrase was made popular because of the Eddie Murphy movie about two dads that got fired... so they decided to open a home daycare to support their kids... which wasn’t (and still isn’t) a popular choice for men... and they named their home daycare... Yep... Daddy Daycare. Because they were being PAID by OTHER WORKING PARENTS to care for THEIR kids. If they’re YOUR KIDS, it’s NOT a daycare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:50 PM
2

Sounds like either gay, pedophile, alcoholic or porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:44 PM
4

Keep a record with proof, of every time he calls. Call the police for a wellness check (911, NOT local police) and if you can, ask a crisis assessment treatment team to go with them. Especially important for a crisis team to accompany if at all possible at the moment with all the protests and a lot of police already feeling very on edge. If you don’t have his latest address and phone number, call him back and get it, and ask him how he’s feeling (still suicidal? On a scale of 1 to 10?) Ask him w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 11:13 AM
8

Probably wanted to let you know he was still thinking of you and to cause you to think about him in a way he knew you would find upsetting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/20 10:16 AM
3

“Annnnd THIS man likes women who take their CLOTHES OFF for MONEY!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:43 PM
73

To be honest, the way I interpreted that is that he meant, “Yeah, you look ok, but only ok. You’re nothing special.” Especially right after the comment about how he’d be fine with it if she was younger (ew).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:30 PM
11

There was always porn, it was just different. If you look at Pompeii, they discovered some primitive excavations that could be compared to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:25 PM
22

We have one guy like this. Stephen Williams. He was a crystal meth addict and murdered his stepdaughter under the influence of crystal meth. She was six. Apparently he doesn’t sleep at night. Good. I hope her mother doesn’t either, there were NUMEROUS signs that this was going to happen including the girl soiling herself, hiding under desks at school and drawing a picture at school of a police car outside her house with the rest of the family standing there and her standing apart from them. Chil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:23 PM
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I’d be like, “Wow, I’m so pleased you’re interested in getting to know me more. I’m more than happy to video chat over Skype or Whatsapp/WeChat if you want to see whether we interact well.” If he insisted on an in person meetup... “Oh! Ok! You just want to go on a date? Great!” Then when he backpedals... “Sorry, I’m confused. If you want to get to know me and talk some more, we can do that over Skype, if you want to meet in person, I’m happy to go on a date, why are we meeting just to hang out?”…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:09 PM
18

Reminds me of an article I read when I was 12 in Cosmopolitan (yes, my mom let me read it that young as a very occasional thing) where a teacher decided to get a second job as a dominatrix because the government pays teachers like shit and doesn’t give a flying fuck about them (which is true). She said she loved her new second job “because she got paid to hit men, call them disgusting names and stomp on cockroaches, ants and spiders while they watched.” Even at 12 I thought the last part was REA…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 01:26 PM
5

Why in the WORLD is Twin B having a kid with a guy like that?! No offence intended but in all honesty, if it wasn’t too late, I would have an abortion in that situation and leave over being tied to the guy for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/20 03:43 AM
16

Sorry but I liked him. Still do. He’s not real. I just thought, “What a dumb shit who can’t even hold a balloon.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 10:07 PM
36

You can still ask for advice and get perspective, just create your own post. Nobody’s forcing you to look at these posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 04:18 PM
60

Saying “God you stink.” Isn’t negging, it’s just blatant insulting. Negging is more like... “Wow, you work so hard these days and do such a good job at work! I’m so proud of you! It’s a bit of a shame you can’t put the same effort into your personal grooming.” Or... “That new perfume/shampoo you’re using smells interesting. You might not want to pick something so... overwhelming.” “What, it’s just a joke. Don’t take everything so seriously.” More subtle, more passive aggressive, more gaslighting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 07:34 AM
8

“And one day you will see that you missed... absolutely nothing.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:28 AM
9

I picture Lord Farquaad from Shrek.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 01:27 AM
7

I was about to say, did he put a picture of ELLIOT RODGER as his PROFILE PIC and label it SUPREME GENTLEMAN?!! I’m just picturing Maury making that face and going, “This... is REALLY nasty.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 01:11 AM
18

Ok. Fine. Don’t use sunscreen. Go ahead and get skin cancer later on and need surgery, skin grafts, chemo and radiotherapy to fix it. See if I care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 12:51 AM
3

They look like crystal meth addicts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/20 06:30 PM
15

When I was 16, I dated a 21 year old. Several girls in my class went to the dean at high school to attempt an intervention. They got my parents involved, my parents tried another intervention with my pastor/youth pastor. It didn’t work and my mom ended up just letting me do it. He still wasn’t allowed to attend my junior high school formal due to the age limit. I was upset at the time, but now am way happier that I took a teenage boy from my church who could at least relate to the others there. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:14 PM
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So she’s spending her spare time cleaning a house for free because her man refuses to? And they’re not even married or at least living together?!! Wow. Unless he is physically disabled to the point where he literally cannot clean (like when my mom had terminal cancer), she’s dumb. Real dumb. Or a narcissist fishing for upvotes and followers that just posed for the photo and didn’t actually do any real cleaning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 04:59 AM
87

I’m a rape victim and I don’t even know what to say to that. In fact, my advice would be to go through with the break up if it’s really the way he feels, and tell her (truthfully) the reason for it is that he’s a giant piece of trash who isn’t good enough for her and was lucky to even have a relationship with her at all, nevermind one that lasted as long as it did, and she deserves better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 08:57 AM
4

Tape an anonymous note to her car
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:57 AM
3

Ask him what he went to jail for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:43 AM
18

If I found a comment like that on my future husband’s Facebook or Instagram, I would grab the heaviest frying pan I could carry and smack him over the head with it. Not kidding. Then he’d be doing dishes forever after that. Also, even my depressed male friend who can’t work has a vegetable garden and cooks for himself with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 01:29 AM
2

I honestly don’t get why women are looked down on for wanting something of their own so they have a safety net. This is totally not about the money, it’s about not letting a guy take advantage of you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 01:21 AM
1

I stopped biting my nails as a kid but started again due to the stress of my job, especially the virus. Is there something else you could bite instead? Or a stress ball you could squeeze? I do that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 05:34 PM
1

I agree with the person who said to hire help. If he really is working 80 hour weeks right now then I might not insist on him doing more until he graduates or his workload goes down. But I would absolutely insist on hiring help to take the load off you. And as someone else said, don’t feel guilty because you work full time and make a good salary too.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 05:31 PM
1

You caught feelings for a Mgtow guy on Reddit? And you’re 20? You do realize he’s probably living in his mom’s basement right? When I was 10, I came across an awesome cartoon: two dogs using a dating site with the caption, “On the internet, nobody knows you’re a dog.” My point being, on the internet, he can make up anything and tell you anything he wants you to hear, true or not. You have no real way of knowing if your dream Mgtow guy even existed. Get out more. Find a guy in real life.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 05:16 PM
2

I just read what you said about sending nudes. Yeah... that. The thing about your ex aside... this can hinder your future employment opportunities. Don’t do this again. Face visible or not.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 01:20 PM
2

I agree with this. OP is entitled to her own money and should keep at least some of it in case of an emergency. Also, it doesn’t seem like her fiancé particularly wants to look after her and provide for her and any future family. He wants her to do 100% of the housework, plus probably 100% of the childcare when the kids come along too, AND split money/expenses 50/50?!! NOPE! Do one or the other.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 10:39 AM
4

Great advice on here, but seriously?? $30 a day for three kids and a full EIGHT HOURS was too expensive?? You were doing her a favour watching her kids for that little, as a former college nanny at most that’d get you 3-4 hours of night time sitting for one kid if I had no homework. And paying for their stuff too! That being said, I definitely understand why you offered to help as being in the middle of a pandemic nothing is easy right now and it’s awesome to see people like you willing to help.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 10:12 AM
2

Your boyfriend dumped you. Sorry to say but as of this moment you are an ex and so is he, unless and until the moment you get back together. Stop chasing him. Stop going out of your way for him when he clearly doesn’t care enough to be with you. If you don’t feel like dating then fine, but don’t not date because of him. Do that for you, and focus on improving yourself and your friends. Stop worrying about whether or not you stuffed up by talking to another guy when you’re already broken up. Shor…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 09:21 AM
6

r/childfree has a dating sub or thread as WELL as a list of doctors who don’t abuse women for wanting sterilization.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 02:10 AM
10

The only way he can voluntarily terminate his parental rights AND avoid paying child support is if you married someone else (man or woman) AND that person agreed to permanently adopt your child in place of your current SO. That way, the child would still have two legal parents, one just wouldn’t be biological, which is fine. However, then the new adopted parent along with you would be legally responsible. Getting married isn’t enough, they must agree to legally adopt. Without this, he cannot ter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 12:02 AM
44

So then you also tell him when he’s rushing to be your boyfriend so you’ll put out, “Great! We can have sex as soon as I DECIDE I am ready!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 04:10 PM
44

I’ve never seen a single one woman constantly complaining about her partner on here who hasn’t left him within the month... unless I’m missing something? Even if he’s right and she is using this subreddit to do that behind his back and even if by some stretch of the imagination he was nothing but nice to her, they probably should still break up because there’s no honesty there and they’re just hurling insults at each other now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:45 PM
15

I will say inceltears has gotten a lot of hate from Mgtow especially after they were quarantined. It’s been directed more towards FDS lately because inceltears afaik were forced to go private, so Mgtow are satisfied in that regard. Just Neckbeard things I’ve never been on, I’ve never seen it mentioned on Mgtow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 01:39 PM
29

“I want a friend who I can listen to and who will talk to and listen to me, and also have sex with me, but not expect a relationship either. Also one offs are cool. Basically I want a ‘friend’ who just happens to be a girl who will do everything a prostitute does, for free, and expect nothing in return except the ‘mental connection’ I provide, because I’m such a great person that that alone should be enough for her. I’m evolving myself by browsing r/theredpill and getting into affiliate marketin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 06:43 PM
20

I would have been so angry. I would break up over that honestly. The four hour drive and ignoring me until 4am after only speaking to me for half an hour would make me the angriest. Also this was years ago but I remember one guy I (very briefly) dated who was gushing about how his little bro had just finished his last year at high school and they were waiting for his NCEA level 3 results to come online the next morning to see whether it got endorsed with merit or excellence so he could apply for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 05:35 PM
7

Please do more than just this. Read about Sophie Elliott and Clayton Weatherston. Do NOT let him see your son, move far away if you have to. I’d get a new phone and I’d move honestly, to a different city if at all possible. Don’t see him, don’t tell him anything. If he calls again: put him on speaker phone and record him, or if you’re in a two party state, as soon as he starts up, just say something like, “ok great, I’ll listen to you on record, go ahead.” A one party state, you don’t even need …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:54 PM
2

Hey, why doesn’t the blowjob vending machine work? I was really nice to it and said all the right things, dammit!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 09:33 AM
7

Fantastic idea. I really like that you insist on paying for yourself if you decide you don’t really like the guy much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 07:56 AM
8

Prenups don’t do anything. They can be set aside at any time if the judge chooses. Also most prenups are more in the man’s interests than the woman’s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 03:55 AM
6

I really really hope this is a (super racist) troll post. Some people said they got the feeling it was, kind of? Also... some of the native people posting did say they had umbilical cord beaded pouches, but then, why would they keep something so precious and sacred thrown in with other people’s stuff where it could pick up bad energy, or get lost super easily?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 04:02 PM
7

New Zealand, not American, but our native people keep the placenta and bury it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:53 PM
29

Omg serious?! Her boyfriend is such a deadbeat that he can’t buy his own damn pizza? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 11:04 AM
1

How about no?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 03:39 AM
7

Still a creep and still disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:19 PM
22

The good news is... it’s being handled. She’s left him. She’s taken the second text seriously and shown it to the police, they are also taking it seriously and have given her a protection order. They’re looking at charging him, both regarding the rape and the threats. She has supportive friends who sent male acquaintances to go and forcibly remove her stuff from his home so she wouldn’t have to do it. They’re also hiding her and not telling him where she is until she can escape to family in a di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:12 PM
4

This is in NO WAY defending your boyfriend, he sounds like an asshole, but in my experience, shaving with an electric shaver reduces SIGNIFICANTLY the time AND the itchiness down there... not that I do it often, but when I do it, it’s a huge help over just using the regular razor and soap/shower gel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:07 PM
16

Ummmm... your boyfriend was a creep. At fifteen he shouldn’t even have seen what you looked like down there at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 06:04 PM
1

Wow, that’s super unprofessional. If the couple or one of them are coworkers, then HR needs to be involved. If they’re customers or friends of coworkers, then they need a warning at least and ideally banning from the premises.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:38 PM
7

Because the strip club girls hustle for money and a photographer’s wage doesn’t pay stripper’s tips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:29 PM
4

This post reads what a 17 year old would write... except I don’t think a 17 year old would use the word “raunchy”. Bad Steve! Get off the furniture!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:27 PM
5

Ew ew ew, your parents pressuring you to do anything is just gross. That being said, saving your first KISS for marriage is VERY extreme. No offence. I really do admire you and as someone who has a high n count without a hell of a lot to show for it, DEFINITELY think you should save sex for marriage IF your heart is in it, which it seems to be. However, if you’re not willing to at least kiss a serious boyfriend/girlfriend or romantic partner before marriage, I unfortunately think that you’ll hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:24 PM
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I’d definitely support having a split age of consent, 16-20, 18-25, 23-30 and 25 plus. Along with proper education about contraception and abortion and doing away with the stupid and unjust laws requiring underage girls to have parental consent to get them and punishing educators for helping girls get access. It’d be pretty hilarious to watch all the MRA protests.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 09:17 AM
7

He is right about one thing though. Bill Clinton absolutely belongs on the registry for what he did to Monica and Gennifer and probably other women/girls too. Yes they were over 18, he still took advantage of them and got away with it. That’s nothing to celebrate. Also I don’t know about the states but in my country he’d probably be allowed to apply to get his details/sex offender status wiped after seven years if it really was consensual sex between a 15/18 yo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:30 AM
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Ummm report the dude to IRS and keep doing it till they audit. They don’t like being robbed. Difference with my friend is that hers quit his honest job that made him declare in order to go cash in hand and she doesn’t know where he is now. His new gf knows but she doesn’t seem to give a fuck, his mom probably knows too but she doesn’t seem to give a fuck either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:47 AM
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On one hand yeah hiding money is kinda dishonest. On the other hand... my friend’s husband had an affair, cleaned out their bank accounts and left. He’s able to get away with paying the minimum in child support while he works under the table. If she had one of those bank accounts, she wouldn’t have had to struggle, or at least not nearly as much. So... yeah.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:30 AM
1

It depends on what kind of teaching job you go for. My Chinese chain school adult training centre job with its frequent observations, fines for rule breaking, demanding students who pay good money and long hours I would not call easy or low stress.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:52 PM
1

Actually he’s not exactly wrong. It honestly depends on what part of Thailand he moved to. If he moved to Phuket, he could easily live in not a beachfront property, but absolutely spend his days off surfing and snorkeling, simply because a lot of things are ridiculously cheap there, especially if he was fine with eating street food or food from Thai restaurants. It’s very possible... unless he’s also the type to blow all his money on expensive booze and Western restaurants and holidays in which …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 04:49 PM
37

I made a (non sexual but still mildly embarrassing) Snapchat video that I assumed would just disappear right away. It was saved (screen record) and shared. Fortunately it wasn’t a nude or anything, just a little embarrassing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 04:30 AM
18

My aunt made all my uncle’s meals all his life. Then, one day, her friends invited her on holiday for a girls trip. She wanted to go, but was panicking. “How will my husband manage??? He doesn’t know how to operate anything in the kitchen! My appliances will get broken!” She ended up leaving detailed written instructions on how to operate... the microwave, the coffee pot, and the dishwasher. For a 65 year old man. Everyone in the family was laughing at him when they heard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 01:07 AM
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Stefan: you do realize that: When men went to war in WW1 and WW2, women WERE drafted, just not for the main combat roles. They were drafted to drive ambulances, work as nurses, medics, tend to injured soldiers, work in munitions factories (which got bombed), work in truck and aircraft factories (which also got bombed), work as teachers, work in food supply stores and work in telephone exchanges. Ever heard of the Women’s Auxiliary Airforce? They did the ground jobs making it possible for the RAF…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:56 AM
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I personally think women SHOULD be kept out of the draft and only allowed to register for the military voluntarily or called in for medic or non combat roles, purely for the military and government’s collective failure to address the huge problem of rape and sexual assault in the military which is already rampant in the US. The two countries I can think of off the top of my head that make women register for the draft are Israel and North Korea, and I don’t know about Israel but North Korea has a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 12:45 AM
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Hmmmm... I did see an AITA post where a guy said this to his friend who was very obviously hitting on a girl who was a) very obviously not interested and b) had a boyfriend. Dude a) was blissfully unaware and b) wearing a stereotypical fedora, so OP said “She’s not gonna fuck you bro” to fedora dude to steer him away from the target of his not-so-happily-received fedora-clad affections. Girl and girl’s bf was happy, fedora dude was butt hurt, mutual friends were (of course) mad at OP for hurting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:47 PM
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I also have a good male friend with a disorder VERY similar to serious bipolar who I lived with for 2 months. The difference is that he managed his condition to the very best of his ability, was religious about taking all of his medication and didn’t hesitate to get the help he needed when he felt himself slipping into psychosis. He was also very open about discussing his condition. My ex however... “Between me and my doctor.” “Drop it!” “Piss off!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:37 PM
4

See the Maury episode: scared of peaches.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 07:57 AM
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I remember my ex who had bipolar disorder. He was a LVM but certainly not because of the sex. He used to make sure it was nice and warm inside, he’d kiss me all over, including in just the right place on my neck, he came up behind me and massaged me, and made sure to go slow and make me nice and wet before diving right in and going fast. Then he’d curl up with me and go to sleep with me after. Before fucking him I actually didn’t think I was capable of having a vaginal orgasm, it’s only ever hap…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:44 AM
10

The last film didn’t outright suck but the ending was just... weird. Why oh why did they have Kylo Ren turn GOOD???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 09:03 AM
4

My coworker’s husband left her and her kids because of a car accident. That he died in. What a cruel thing to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 11:33 PM
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He could go join the Lords Recovery Church started by Witness Lee, they’re a mostly Chinese/Korean/Filipino church but they have a big enough Western following that they wouldn’t think it was weird if he showed up and they have services in English. They are however a strict Pentecostal sect with very specific rules regarding baptism, dating and marriage, and he’d be expected not to go out alone with a woman from that church at least until they were engaged, they encourage group dating. Also sex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/20 04:47 AM
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Porn, sexual abuse, mental problems, drugs, hearing comments from other guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 04:12 PM
2

“Oh, that’s good, because I’m actually not looking for anything at all... with you, anyway.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 01:48 AM
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I mean, he COULD be telling the truth, he’s a smoker, the photo clearly shows that, and smoking ages you prematurely, that’s a proven fact. And I guess there are worse things in life than to be a smoker but... still, terrible life choice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 06:44 PM
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u/lilith1993, text him back this straight away: “I will be filing sexual harassment charges as soon as the police station is open and documenting this text with my lawyer as well as applying for a temporary restraining order. DO NOT TEXT OR OTHERWISE CONTACT ME AGAIN, I AM BLOCKING YOU, and for the safety of MY CHILD, you are now banned from seeing her for the rest of the lockdown. It’s not a good idea for her to be traveling between households at this time anyway. ANY contact, concerns or quest…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 05:39 AM
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See the word, claim. They claim they want a wife and kids when someone asks them or the subject comes up to look proper but otherwise they actually don’t particularly. Or, they want a woman who will do all of the cooking, cleaning, childcare as well as probably at least working part time if not full time in today’s economy and who will also basically be ok with them doing nothing but going to work and taking the kids out once in awhile. Most women will definitely not be ok with doing all that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:28 AM
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Guilt by association I would guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:08 AM
1

So what I’d do in this situation is start calling him my ex’s name and make it our little ‘funny inside joke’ because ‘I just liked that name better and I thought it suited him better.’ I’d choose the ex that was addicted to crystal meth and make sure to tell him that too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/20 01:05 AM
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“Welp. Enjoy your silver bracelets, and not from Tiffany’s, and your complementary ride to the free hotel if you do that.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/20 02:28 AM
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