My man's anger issues

Inside_Ad_7292 · 2021-05-23T17:50:05+00:00

Off of the information you've provided (that he has anger issues, is addicted to marijuana, and refuses therapy), I can pretty confidently say that this man does not need to be in a relationship with anyone, much less you, until he figures himself out. It's great that he is financially stable, but that does not equal a high value man. My mother has a saying: "When you marry for money, you earn every penny." Get out now while you still don't have his children.

jesusthethirteenth · 2021-05-23T17:17:15+00:00

I would leave, what is the point of staying in a relationship with someone if they decrease your quality of life?

Kind_Entertainment_6 · 2021-05-23T17:49:36+00:00

Leave girl, think about your future children. There are just some things that are non negotiable and how can you follow a disrespectful captain, how can he lead the ship? He can’t. Leave

orangerose18 · 2021-05-23T16:50:52+00:00

Expand on the addiction. If you are scared of him and he knows this and continues to act like this around you, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU.

teaandtalk · 2021-05-23T21:44:14+00:00

Is your life better with this man (as he is - not as you wish he would be) better than it would be alone?

adriamarievigg · 2021-05-23T22:25:31+00:00

You said “I’m scared of his mood so I try not to anger him” yet he gets angry anyway, no matter what you do.

You are living in fear of this man. This is not healthy!!

Sticks and Stones may break your bones but Words are eternal. I can still “hear” the hurtful things my ex used to say 25 yrs later.

Your man is abusive. He will not change. He will turn you into a shell of a person. Leave him!

harum-scarum · 2021-05-24T02:02:23+00:00

Being scared of your partner is not a healthy way to live.

HappilyMrs · 2021-05-23T16:30:56+00:00

Will he seek any help for his anger management and addiction?

Buckley92 · 2021-05-24T02:06:39+00:00

I'd leave, if he really cared about you he'd get help.

venaby · 2021-05-24T02:52:45+00:00

The longer you stay the harder it will be to leave. I dated a man who agreed to go to therapy for his anger issues and it only helped a little and I still had to leave. He doesn’t even want to go to therapy. There is no question here, it won’t change. I know you want it to and believe it may in the future, but anger issues are serious.

Curtail_ · 2021-05-24T03:37:14+00:00

I highly encourage you to leave. Being with someone is like walking on eggshells all day. You deserve to feel happy and relaxed in your own home. When I left my ex with anger issues, it felt like freedom and I could finally just be.

Underground-anzac-99 · 2021-05-24T04:18:50+00:00

I have been through all this, though temper ranged from constant small put downs (you’re so stupid / gross / lazy / boring / annoying) to full blown screaming / having stuff thrown at me / being spat on / shoved / jabbed or kicked once hard enough to leave a bruise after I rolled over in my sleep and pulled the blanket off him. My great regret is feeling sorry for him and believing he could change and not leaving. He always said he’d never been like this w anyone else and so it was clearly my influence making him be this way. It wasn’t. It was just abuse.

Get out. If he fixes himself and returns them great. Otherwise move on.

jaefbaby · 2021-05-23T20:58:20+00:00

Leave

dirtcandy · 2021-05-24T04:09:50+00:00

Your man is unsafe for you emotionally. The Surrendered Wife does not apply to this relationship because it sounds like it’s abusive. You might want to read Why Does He Do That? instead. Sorry to hear. I recommend therapy if you can afford or get it and leaving. He won’t get better, only worse.

Impressive_Radio_872 · 2021-05-24T04:32:21+00:00

I just recently got out of a 7 year relationship with someone who had very bad anger issues. If they can’t work through their own shit they aren’t ready to fully be committed to being with someone else. In my experience, it will more than likely only get worse down the road. Good luck girl💜

northernmunky · 2021-05-24T06:30:37+00:00

My S/O had serious temper problems. I realised she fit the description of a narcissistic personality disorder. Understanding that helped me to understand how to deal with it. I’d google the symptoms and see if his behaviour fits the description as well.

Pola_Lita · 2021-05-24T00:35:14+00:00

I'm guessing you already know the answer inside but if it helps get you out the door faster, I'll join in:

LEAVE. WITH ALL HASTE.

:) Good luck, too.

Pycnostyle · 2021-05-24T00:36:34+00:00

Should I apply rules from book and wait or just leave?

Wait? For what? He's refused to work on expressing his anger safely, so why would you think that waiting around would change anything?

Nothing is going to change because your guy has no reason to change. It's not like he's some 22 year old hothead. This is him. If this is how you want to live your life for the next several decades, stay. If you'd rather try with someone else, do that. But waiting won't solve anything.

boom-boom-betty · 2021-05-24T01:12:18+00:00

Leave as fast as you can. While you hang on to this angry, moody, unhappy man... you are not opened up to finding who you are truly meant to be with. Let go of this one, and catch the right one.

Title	My man's anger issues
Author	HumanPlumbus
Upvotes	28
Comments	34
Date	May 23, 2021 4:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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