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Fair enough. I can't imagine trying to start a family in my early or mid 40s. My youngest graduated high school when I was 49 and I was already retired by then! This is one area where I think RPW really gets it right: the notion that the popular life trajectory of delaying even considering finding a husband until her late 20s or early 30s is going to force a woman (who wants kids) to make a lot of high-consequence decisions under biological duress.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 06:07 PM
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My take would be: it's the approach in "The Case Settling for Mr. Good Enough." Women need to lower their standards for the superficial stuff (looks, money, status, height) and raise their standards on character (honestly, faithfulness, kindness, emotional maturity). I chuckled when I read this because RP men are deliberately selecting against women who act on this philosophy (colloquially, we would call this being "beta bucks"). We're generally looking for signs of "genuine burning desire" that…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/26 05:08 PM
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I'm neither a therapist nor doctor, but this is reddit, so why should that stop me from dispensing advice? Here's a theory to consider if it applies to you: You might be in a self-reinforcing negative cycle that looks like this: You are overweight You want to attract a high quality man to settle down with You understand that men, on average, prefer women who are not overweight You feel negative feelings toward yourself (shame? self-hatred? something else?) You comfort yourself the only way you k…
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/26 06:30 PM
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I'm a man, and I endorse this message. If you're looking for other ideas, my favorite ex used to make me these cute, whimsical sketches from time to time. I thought it was a really sweet gesture.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 07:07 PM
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I truly desire to be married (just once) and have a family. Sounds like a wonderful goal. Unfortunately, it's pretty obvious how following your mom's advice will move you further from your goal rather than towards it. You'll be inviting toxic love-bombers into your life and just keep churning through them, discarding each one once he fancies a new woman or runs out of money. There is just nothing about your mom's advice that is compatible with your goals. You said you weren't looking for advice,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/26 02:23 PM
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For the sake of discussion, let's just take it on faith that you truly are as ugly as you say you are. Here's what I would tell you if you were my friend or sister or something. In no particular order: Physical appearance is important to men (but it isn't everything); so what you can to get to at least 80% of your genetic potential in the key areas like physique, hairstyle, skincare, style, makeup, etc (the helpful women here can fill in the 'etc' way better than I could). But really use the 80/…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/26 10:29 PM
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Good. So it sounds like you know the process. When is your appointment with your doctor? Taking a very quick glance at your Reddit post history, I think there are just too many moving parts in your situation for you to get inner peace from a forum comment. Working over time with a trained professional who can also be an accountability partner would do you some actual good vs. the quickie dopamine hit you get from venting online.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/26 04:18 PM
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I mean, there all kinds of men out there with all kinds of opinions, but I can't imagine a man thinking a woman was "icky" because she was raped. Anyway, if there is a small minority of men who would think such a thing, that is definitely not the man for you (or frankly probably for anyone, but that's a side issue). If it were me, I'd more want to know how your history affects you, and by extension, affects me. If your plan is to use me as your untrained, unqualified therapist, that isn't someth…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/26 09:17 PM
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When you were cheated on in the past, what hurt more? The sex? Or was it the lying, the deception, the broken promises, the humiliation? Maybe a mutual friend knew and said nothing? Maybe you were the last to find out? For most people, the real sting comes from everything other than the sex itself. Like, if my partner lied to me about this, or promised me this, but then did something else, what else is her or she lying to me about? Or what other promises will he or she break? And of course, bein…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/26 06:56 PM
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It's a shame Red Pill can't be trademarked, because my understanding is that "women are the problem" is Black Pill, no? My takeaway from TRP that there is a difference between what society tells you and how life actually works. If you act in accordance with how life actually works, you will save yourself a ton of grief and frustration. Red pill should be liberating for a man. An a-ha journey. Sure, there's an anger phase at having been misled, but staying angry is wasting valuable time and energ…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/26 05:32 AM
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I've never once seen any red pill theory on the men's side that includes hitting a romantic partner. This is not something that red pill addresses or frankly would even tolerate. If your boyfriend is already hitting you in front of firefighters(!!), you should not stick around to see what he is capable of behind closed doors.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/26 05:32 PM
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Four months is still supposed to be the honeymoon phase. Not the "is my drama llama boyfriend even straight?" phase. You're in college! If your mind is mush, it should have been from having read too much Kierkegaard at 3am. Not from your gay boyfriend drama.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 02:41 AM
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When someone feels the need to get into others' faces to proclaim how happy they are, I always wonder if they're being honest with themselves. This just doesn't seem like something a contented person would do.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/26 08:46 PM
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You're going to give your boyfriend a lot of cognitive dissonance if you ask him to hold the following two facts in his head at the same time: "I'm lucky to have found you and imagine a future with you" "I want to date other men" I'm trying to think of how I might have reacted had my wife dropped this on me while we were boyfriend/girlfriend; and nothing I'm coming up with is "married sooner" or even "married at all". I'd listen to your instinct that this might sabotage what you two have going. …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/26 09:05 PM
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Yes, I have female friends. No, none of them have offered to set me up when I ask. This is telling right here. A good man is hard to find, so why would precisely zero of them ever play matchmaker? There's something with you that's a dealbreaker that they're not telling you about. And it's not your height and weight, because look around you. There are short, fat men who are partnered-up. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings here, but your issue is that nobody is willing to level with you. So you'…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/26 02:44 PM
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Others have given you dating advice, but let me try to answer your question about regrets. When I revisit past decisions that I made, I like to ask myself, "Self, did you make the best decision that you could have, given the information that you had at the time?" When I frame it that way, I either erase any regrets I might have had since I did the best I could have; or if I really could have made a better decision, I use that information to make better decisions going forward. Which brings us to…
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/26 02:22 PM
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Male ECs: feel free to add/correct anything in the comments Only thing I'd add is that you can encounter some angry blackpillers, too. We try to shoo them over to the sidebar for a healthy dose of self-improvement. Get off the men’s spaces. I agree with this 100%, and would also add that red pill men and women aren't as automatically compatible as the names would imply. The "red pill" part just means we're both trying to align our life and relationship strategies more closely with our life goals…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/26 04:26 PM
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I'm just curious. This guy you want, who is "someone who not only going to do all those things but making over 100k", as you say. What's your plan to find him? Are you getting hit on a lot by rich dudes? I think you should marry your fiance. You love each other. He had some legal trouble, but he's still who he is, and he'll probably land on his feet. He goes to church. I know it's easy for me to say since I've never tried living paycheck to paycheck, but you two sound like you'd make a great tea…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/26 01:05 AM
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First of all, I wouldn't approach in the gym. Be sociable with everyone, sure. But don't start asking for numbers or socials unless a girl approaches you. You don't want to be the gym creeper, and if you're bad enough, you won't be allowed to lift there anymore. But other than that, I think you're worried about nothing. As you go about your day, strike up conversations with lots of people, guys and girls. For the girls, do your flirty escalation and see if she keeps matching you. If yes, great! …
/r/seduction18/01/26 07:12 PM
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Nobody here can read this chick's mind, but it's 90% a soft no. If she were interested in you, she'd make time to get a coffee with you. I'm also a little confused why you went from a hike to a coffee date. That's a de-escalation, no? Why not invite her to something you might both enjoy, based on your conversation on the hike? Or at least something that's a bit more "you"? Something to keep in mind for the next chick. If she texts you next week, great! But don't count on it. Keep approaching oth…
/r/seduction17/01/26 07:22 PM
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How long does STI screening take by you? I get results in like 2 days. I'm not OP, but I don't think waiting 2 days for sex was what he was talking about. Also, your "does he want a relationship?" test is pretty shaky. If he doesn't think you are sexually compatible, that relationship isn't going to last long enough to nurture your soul or whatever. In modern, secular dating, sex precedes commitment. Run your girl game as you see fit, but at least put yourself in the guy's shoes and think about …
/r/seduction09/11/25 03:43 PM
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Wow, dude. You're 22. You've got a lifetime of earning potential ahead of you and you're paranoid that someone might take the smallest advantage of you. If you need an asset protection attorney, call one. But until then, focus on building a life of abundance. And if someone takes advantage of you? Whatever, you'll dust yourself off and move on. But being so paranoid and guarded is going to get you nowhere.
/r/TheRedPill06/10/25 05:50 PM
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Would you want to date yourself? Even ignoring your height and your looks, would you want to date someone with your attitude and with your life? Your attitude and your empty life can be fixed, and I strongly recommend that you do so because, woman or no woman, you will always have to live with yourself. The good news is you're only 22. You've got your whole life ahead of you. You should read a ton of the wisdom on the sidebar, but here are some specific tips that I noticed just from reading a fe…
/r/TheRedPill06/10/25 05:35 PM
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5'7" guy. On the one hand, there's no denying the reams of social science that show advantages afforded to taller men. On the other hand, there are all kinds of other advantages a man can develop that we actually have control over. Did I miss some sexual and career opportunities due to my height? Yeah, probably. But I can't control this, and there anyway is plenty of opportunity out there for us 5'whatevers. More than any of us could take advantage of in just one lifetime. The usual RP principle…
/r/TheRedPill17/04/25 02:54 AM
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Hell, when we met I was the one who watched porn more, though it was pretty casual and not something intense and overwhelming. This is really the key. Addiction to anything is going to be hard on relationships by definition. One of the defining characteristics of addiction is that it's harming the addict's relationships. For my wife and me, porn isn't a problem. Hell, we watch together! I think it's been a positive force in our sex lives. It gets us in the mood, and after 25 years, sometimes a l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/22 01:20 AM
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Kids learn the most by what they observe. Always model the behavior that you expect from them. And that goes especially for your relationship with your wife. People tend to default to the type of relationship that their parents had, so build the type of relationship with your wife that you'd want for your children. As long as I'm on my soapbox, I'll give you two more nuggets for no extra charge: Read to your kids every day. Even as a newborn. They'll get to an age where they are super curious ab…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/22 02:50 AM
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A lot of redpill men want their wives to be homemakers. On the men's side, there isn't a lot of redpill philosophy on marriage. It's mostly about finding an executing on our life's mission, living up to our potential in life, and sexual strategy for men. You won't really find much, if anything, about housewives. A big chunk of redpill men aren't looking for (or offering) commitment at all (see "spinning plates"). For those of us who are in relationships, we're generally selecting for the most fe…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 12:50 AM
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He said he may change his mind in the future but why do we need to put a label on things. Assuming that nothing changes, is this the relationship that you want to be in? If you're happy, then go for it! But he definitely deceived you about the vasectomy, and it sounds to me like he's trying to keep your hopes for some type of commitment alive with vague maybe openness at some point in the future, but maybe not. So that's why I'm asking if you're happy with things as is, because if you're not, th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 04:38 AM
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Based on your other comments, this dude is flying more red flags than a Chinese New Years parade. But I did want to answer this question for you: Is this a common trend for all HVM that are into the red pill theory. The answer is "it depends" on where the guy is on his life journey. For me, before I got married, I wanted to have all of the fun and variety that I could. But eventually that got a little repetitive and unexciting and I knew that I wanted to start a family. Met a young lady who want…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/22 04:43 PM
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You've gotten a lot of good advice and I'm also a guy so I'm not going to write much, but I just wanted to point out that you can practice medicine with femininity. I'm reminded of an urgent care doctor who treated a minor issue a few years ago. She treated me with remarkable compassion and kindness. Something to keep in mind.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 02:23 AM
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You've been dating for over a year. Don't you think you've passed the point of red flags or yellow flags or whatever? Haven't you gotten a sense of his character yet? Anyway, if you're expecting a 22-year-old to have his whole life figured out, you're gonna have a bad time. He's going to be trying on a lot of different philosophies for size. That's part of being 22.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 03:25 PM
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Unpopular opinion? Well, I had the very same thought. This is really unusual behavior for a guy, to be able to conjure up so many images of dress styles that he likes. For the sake of comparison, in all my years of being a dude, my knowledge of women's clothing begins and ends with how to remove it most efficiently. I could speculate about what would cause him to be so into dresses, but in the end, it'd just be guesses. Maybe he has a kink for women modeling dresses for him in private? If that's…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/22 03:14 PM
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he doesnt think marriage gives any important legal benefits for him He's probably wrong about that. Let's say you buy a house together and cars and boats and stuff together. He's a baller, no? Now let's say you die. Not a pleasant thought, but is he going to be any happier now that he co-owns all that stuff with your parents? My general position on marriage is that you need to get married if you're either: Buying property with someone Raising kids with someone. Why? Because marriage law is more …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/21 09:20 PM
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A few things to think about: There is no exclusivity law about who can use the term "Red Pill". It's a metaphor from a movie, symbolizing the revelation that the society and its rules that you thought were truth were actually a lie that's convenient for someone other than you. That is naturally going to mean different things to different people. Unlike the movie, "taking the red pill" in real life isn't just a pill that you pop and enlightenment is now yours. It's a long and sometimes unpleasant…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/21 09:29 PM
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I have some bad news for you: high net worth men are actively screening against partners who are primarily interested in their money. That predates any "manosphere", pills of any colors, etc. Hopefully, the reason is obvious. We want a partner who actually likes us and will enhance our lives. I'd recommend that you not think about a partner in terms of net worth. Rather, you should be thinking about the life and lifestyle that you want. If you meet some dude who's already living that way, you'll…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 07:21 PM
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i think you saying anything below 5'9 and its 'over' is a bit of a stretch. I'm 5'7" and I can confirm that OP is 100% silly. Now I've never tried online dating before, so maybe that's what OP meant? Anyway, I've nailed chicks everywhere from 5'0" to 5'10". I do agree with you that shorter dudes may have good luck with Asians or Latinas. I know that I have. But looking back, most of the Asian chicks I was with were westernized (born in the US) anyway, so I don't think ethnic background really pl…
/r/TheRedPill22/10/21 02:38 PM
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RPM here. I think you are very close, but I'd take it a step further. When I picture a "post-wall woman", her demeanor is angry, contemptuous, and she blames/shames men for her newfound lack of dating success. Those attitudes are phenomenally off-putting and wind up only feeding her bad dating luck even more. In other words, the situation is more dire than just not knowing how to put her best foot forward. She's allowing her frustration to undermine any chance of success. A feminine woman who al…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 08:31 PM
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Men generally prefer to approach women who appear approachable. Hopefully this is not surprising. You've identified parts of how you carry yourself that might make you appear unreceiptive to being approached. But your username makes me think that there is an elephant in the room, so I'm just going to go ahead and say it. If you're waiting for a non-Muslim man to approach you while you're wearing a Hijab, I'm sorry, but I think that you'll be waiting for a long time. Not because there's anything …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 03:03 PM
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Am I trippin? From what you've written, I think that you likely are. She was the one who ended things with your ex, so that means she doesn't see him as the right fit for her. And they work together, so it's no surprise that they are trying to remain on cordial terms. If she wanted to try again with him, it would have happened months ago. Which brings us to you. Why did you and your ex break up? What makes you think things will be better for round 2? What are you looking for in a relationship wi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/21 02:40 AM
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Short answer: I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself what kind of relationship you want. Only once you know that, will you know if your BF is the man to build it with. Long answer: So far, I count two things your relationship has going for it: You are emotionally attached to him ("I love him very much"), and The sex is good. Those are both good things, no doubt. But attachment, you can form with anyone through enough shared experiences; and good sex can be had once you know what y…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 04:54 PM
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This dude was married to his ex from age 20 to very recently. I've been with my wife since age 19, so maybe I can tell you a few things. He doesn't know his adult self yet, outside of the context of his ex. He doesn't really know what his life is like now, either. What with coparenting and all. He's going to oscillate between high availability and low availability, depending on when he has his kids. He may or may not know if he wants to have more kids. Not sure where you stand on that, but I can…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/21 04:34 AM
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I will now present to you Pycnostyle's Guide to Infinite Conversation. Most people would pay a lot of money for this*, but I'll give it to you for free. To keep a conversation going forever, all you need to do is listen to what the other person is saying, and then respond in one of 4 ways: Ask a question about what the other person just said. (e.g. "What did you think about X?" "Did you get a chance to X?" "What even gave you the idea to X?") Tell a story about something related to what the othe…
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/21 04:15 AM
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these are choices he is making due to his new lifestyle I'd ask him to tell you more about what he means by that. Like what new lifestyle? What choices? Does he like his new lifestyle? Does he see it as his lifestyle for the foreseeable future? Everyone's feeling something with this pandemic, whether it's vulnerable, lonely, defiant, whatever. But it will end eventually. Ultimately, you can't help someone who doesn't want help. And I think it would be hard to stay with someone who is sick but is…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 03:32 AM
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None of this makes sense. If he just didn't have feelings for you anymore, why did he block you on everything? I don't have my exes blocked. I don't have feelings for them, so why should I need to prevent them from contacting me? He's behaving unreasonably and you're the one trying to make things right. There's nothing you can do to make things right, because you didn't even do anything wrong. It's all in his head. After dumping you, blocking you, and now losing his shit at you for having sex wh…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 05:52 PM
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My wife and I met in college and we lived together the summer before our senior years doing internships on the other side of the country. That way, there was a natural end date and no hurt feelings when we went back to living separately. It was definitely a valuable experience, learning each other's habits and ironing out some of the kinks between how we each prefer to live and how we handle life's little crises. I'm sure we could have done that while married, but had we found that living togeth…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 06:46 PM
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My first reaction was that she might think that she has your best interests at heart. But then I read "She answered that I'm just too sensitive and laughed it off." That's a total abuser thing to say. Anytime someone says that to you, your alarm bells should be going bananas. As for how to proceed, you've got choices. You could call her on it and just say, "Don't be a coward. If you have something to say to me, tell it to me straight, woman-to-woman." You could do better at enforcing your bounda…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 05:56 PM
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I'm an older man whose wife left her career to raise our children, so I can tell you a bit about our experience. It's more or less what I would have told my daughter, had she brought this up when she was 15: Being a good homemaker takes a lot of skills and organization. My wife was a project manager by trade, and it helped her a lot. It's more than just knowing how to cook (which is easy to learn) or clean (we have a housekeeper, anyway). You can practice being organized in school. When adults i…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 04:56 AM
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One guy's perspective: You know, it's funny. Reading through this, I liked it, and I kept thinking of things I'd like to add, but then you just covered everything I could possibly think of. Very well written. So all I can say is, ladies, I recommend reading and rereading this post. And I mean, take from it what you want, but it captures very well what's going on in my head when I'm teasing/flirting.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 05:25 PM
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What do you think high value men want in a woman? I'm very happy for you that you have a great career, your own home, solid personal finances, healthy habits, and a life full of hobbies. I don't in any way, shape, or form criticize those. You absolutely should live life to the fullest. Take a moment and try to imagine yourself as a HVM. Not a fantasy HVM, but a real, living, breathing human being. Obviously imagine your aspirations, your triumphs, the times you fell short and dusted yourself off…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 03:39 AM
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Your friends and family don't know your ex as well as you do, so they see her differently. That's why they're saying what they're saying. From how you described her, you were right to have moved on. That being said, there's no reason you need to badmouth her. You can just say something like, "You're right, she's a great girl and she'll find her Mr. Right. But we weren't a good fit together. That's just how it works sometimes." Some others have said to say some variant of "I'm not ready to settle…
/r/askTRP20/06/21 09:19 PM
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Old, married dude here. I work outside the home (in a manner of speaking. Thanks COVID) and my wife quit her job to raise our kids and keep our home. She does a great job and I really appreciate everything she does. Personally, I'm fine with the arrangement as is. The only problem I have is that if we were ever to divorce, she would probably get half our assets plus maintenance. But really, half our assets is enough for her to live on comfortably, so it's the maintenance I'd be pissed about sinc…
/r/askTRP16/06/21 07:27 PM
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You didn't happen to find out about this from a Nigerian Prince, did you? Anyway, by all means, speak with an estate attorney in the state where granny croaked. I think you will have an uphill battle trying to contest her will, but you might get the trustees to send you a few bucks to piss off.
/r/askTRP15/06/21 12:35 AM
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Some thoughts Discuss this with your OBGYN and make sure everything is okay medically. If your OBGYN blows off your concerns, get a new one. Have you tried masturbating with toys? Many women have better luck with toys. If you're in a legal state and you have no moral qualms about it, marijuana can help. A lot. Is the pain that you get after 10 minutes due to insufficient lubrication? If so, add lube. Consume a variety of erotica--you might discover a few sexual fantasies.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 05:57 PM
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Unfortunately, he's making a promise that he cannot keep. Even if he has full custody right now, if she gets clean and develops an interest in reconnecting with their son, that arrangement could change. You are 21 years old. I mean, c'mon. What are you doing here? Why do you want to dive right into the deep end of middle aged people problems when you're 21? His age is just a number--it's his baggage that you need to take a cold, calculated stare at.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 05:36 PM
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You've gotten some good advice. I'd like to add two things that you should be focusing on that will tell both of you if you're on the right track: values and making memories. If you want to team up with someone to start a family with, you have to share values in the areas that matter to you. Some values are going to need to matter, like religion, if you want kids or not, how many, how to raise them, how to handle money, what kind of sex you desire, forgiveness, etc. But start talking about your …
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/21 05:10 AM
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Should I apply rules from book and wait or just leave? Wait? For what? He's refused to work on expressing his anger safely, so why would you think that waiting around would change anything? Nothing is going to change because your guy has no reason to change. It's not like he's some 22 year old hothead. This is him. If this is how you want to live your life for the next several decades, stay. If you'd rather try with someone else, do that. But waiting won't solve anything.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 12:36 AM
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I've been married a long time, closed relationship, and I'm not sure I can say say that the answer is black and white. It really depends on the relationship and the reason for bringing in extra partners. Like, what happens if one partner loses interest in sex and doesn't want to bang anymore? Why should he or she get to force the partner into a life of celibacy? What if there isn't a sexual compatibility, like one partner is super kinky and the other is super vanilla? Then what? Just split? What…
/r/askTRP19/05/21 12:20 AM
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I'm not OP, but I can give another data point for you to consider. I'm an older, happily-married dude. Kids are grown. Money is not a problem. We enjoy each other's company. I don't regret anything, but if we were to ever split for whatever reason, I would not remarry. Why would I not remarry? There is no need to! I'm not having any more kids. I own my home outright, so no need to own/pay for property with a woman. I would want my estate to go to my children. So... why should I get married? I th…
/r/askTRP14/05/21 05:14 PM
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Do these friends live with him? If not, why are they weighing in his personal covid precautions? But given that they did, why does he care what they think about that? And why is he telling you his friends don't think he should see you? A buddy of mine partied all through the pandemic and even got covid and all I offered him was, "haha. dumbass." What does he do to have music in his life? That's his passion, no? I mean, it's probably for the best that he didn't make a career of it, because then t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 02:58 PM
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If paternity leave is not red pill then I'm not red pilled. Same here. My wife got 20 weeks of maternity leave and I took the same amount of time off. Having a kid is kind of a big deal so why wouldn't I want to take part in that? Nothing against dudes who can't make that happen due to work situation, but since I could, I did. Totally worth it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 05:40 PM
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It's been a lot of years since my wife had our kids, but here are some thoughts based on what I remember: If you're "STARVING", as you say, you might not be eating enough. Making milk, and the milk itself, takes calories. My wife ate about the same amount that I did while she was nursing, and she still lost her pregnancy weight very quickly. Ask your doctor for advice if you need more specific numbers. I'm impressed that either of you have the energy for any type of sexual activity right now, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 04:38 PM
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Imagine, hypothetically, that I said some really mean, untrue thing about you. Would that bother you? Obviously not. You'd know full well that I was wrong, and that I anyway don't even know you. My nastiness would hold no more significance to you than the dog in the window who is barking at you. You'd just keep right on walkin', and 5 minutes later, you'd have forgotten about him. Yet these comments "have [you] feeling incredibly hurt". Does that suggest that you have some anxiety or insecurity …
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 06:11 PM
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I was all set to give you some variation of, "If she isn't willing to get help and work on her issues, you can't stay, but if she is willing, then you could at least consider it," but you're way past that now. She's physically attacked you multiple times. What, are you waiting for her to murder you in your sleep? Get an attorney and get you and your daughter to safety.
/r/askTRP04/05/21 06:42 AM
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This type of thinking is a great way to become a father. Wear a condom or get a vasectomy or both.
/r/askTRP20/04/21 03:28 AM
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A lot of people look at RP jargon, find it .. eh .. jarring, and latch onto the details, missing the forest through the trees. In my mind, the crux of RP is striving to be the type of man you can be proud of, then walking confidently through the world, secure in the knowledge that you're on the right path. And when you're confidently walking your right path, people respect you and gravitate toward you. Am I right that your boyfriend discovered RP after you two met? It's just shocking to me that …
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 07:23 PM
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I run into this all the time on the RP side. Maybe my experience can help you? The two things I like to keep in mind when talking with frustrated men are: You can't help someone who doesn't want help. Mentioning Red Pill, or any Red Pill jargon, is a great way to get someone to tune you out. Polite society has done a great job vilifying this vocabulary, so put the concepts into your own words and let them stand on their own. For example, if a guy is frustrated that he's "in love with" a woman wh…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 07:16 PM
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I'm an old married guy. Definitely check out MRP, but make sure that you take what you see there and think for yourself what would be a good idea to bring into your life and your marriage. Some of the folks over there go full Rambo and just blow everything up all at once. You definitely want to get out of her frame and into yours, don't get me wrong. Just be sure that the frame that you're creating has room for her to have a good life in so she'll want to join you in it. So she'll feel lucky to …
/r/askTRP11/03/21 04:14 PM
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That’s exactly why they need to be held to high standards and be accountable for their actions. I agree 100%. The whole point of the police and the courts is to protect victims, and to protect the accused. People need to trust that the criminal justice will try to bring justice, but the accused need to believe that they will be treated in good faith by the system. Without a justice system that people trust, the only way for people to get justice is through direct violence. That's chaotic and lea…
/r/askTRP08/03/21 06:08 AM
2

It's because this group doesn't own a monopoly on the Red Pill metaphor. Red Pill, as a metaphor, just describes revealing the truths that society conceals. For the alt right, that means that they see the world differently from the mainstream. They think that they're being lied to. In a percentage of cases, they're probably right. I don't know enough about alt right to even guess at that percentage, but judging by how wrong mainstream society gets masculinity and relationships between the sexes,…
/r/askTRP02/03/21 07:21 PM
3

I want her to know I that I know the shit she did. Why? Anyway, it doesn't matter. The end result is the same. You'll dump her, she'll stir up some drama, then that's that. If you tell her why, she'll stir up extra drama. That's the only difference. Back when I was dating, I'd just say it was over and go no contact and get on with my life. Why do you want to invite extra drama just because your ex was flirting with cheating on you? She was the one behaving badly, so you might as well prioritize …
/r/askTRP20/02/21 07:11 AM
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If this job is killing her, why doesn't she get a different job? How often did you bang before this shit job? At this rate, once every 10 days is going to turn into once a year on your birthday once you have kids. You're young. You should be all over each other right now. Help lead her out of this situation, but do not marry or reproduce with her unless this gets big time fixed.
/r/askTRP16/02/21 06:08 PM
2

Finally, a question that isn't about some girl. Right now, you're faced with a short term question: do I work unpaid overtime, that I don't want to work, to increase my chances for a promotion? I can't answer that for you, but I can tell you how to approach the question so you can answer it for yourself. The way to frame this is to consider how your decision impacts the career part of your mission. Like where you want to be in 5-10 years. Because what you do here might not matter at all in the b…
/r/askTRP16/02/21 05:00 PM
1

It doesn't matter what you do. She's already swung to the next branch.
/r/askTRP11/02/21 07:23 AM
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I've been married a long time. I can't give you any guarantees, but I can tell you what worked for me. Make sure you both want the same things in life. You want her to be the barefoot and pregnant type? Make sure she wants that, too! Sounds obvious, but looking around, too many people forget that you need to have the same values. Good wives are equal parts found and made. Don't forget to set the tone and lead by example. For example, my wife tends to flip out under pressure, so I make a point of…
/r/askTRP09/02/21 06:10 AM
2

Being in a relationship definitely will help you to avoid being single, by definition. But is that why you want to be in a relationship? Just to avoid being single?
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 04:56 PM
2

It's good that you are reading and asking questions and learning all that you can about relationships. As you do this, I'd urge you to consider the full context and perspective of what you're reading. In other words, when you're reading Red Pill jargon like "the wall", try to put yourself into our shoes to get a more accurate idea of what we mean by that. In this case, I'm sure I don't need to tell you that a large percentage of women in the 18-28 age range get more male attention than they coul…
/r/RedPillWomen27/01/21 04:35 PM
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If you aren't interested in sex, it's worth bringing it up with your doctor. It could be a sign of a health issue. Or you could just be asexual. It's not super common, but it's common enough. If that's the case, I would recommend seeking a partner who is also asexual. Otherwise, the sexual incompatibility will be dramatic and I wouldn't expect the relationship to last in the long run.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 04:29 PM
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Oh man, now I feel guilty. Not trying to cause breakups. But I guess if he's Mr. Wrong, he's Mr. Wrong. Being dumped sucks, but hopefully he'll land with a woman who's excited to be with him, rather than one who's resigned to be with him.
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 09:54 PM
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And that's the beauty of it. Just because I'd approach the situation one way doesn't mean it's right for everyone. You need to do what's right for you. If a 5 year age gap is your max, then it's your max. Obviously the longer your Mr. Right punchlist is, the harder he's going to be to find. Marrying a dorky older guy just because he makes money is a recipe for divorce and loss of attraction in the marriage I agree, and just to be clear, I said and very much meant "Maybe he was a little dorky in …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 09:47 PM
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One thing I'd advise is to consider the logistics of what you're after. Once you know your target market, where to find him should be clearer. It sounds like you want a man to support you financially, while you would not work outside of the home. There's not necessarily anything wrong with that, my wife doesn't work outside of the home either, but you have to remember that most couples are dual income these days and a relatively smaller percentage of men will be able to support you, even if they…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/21 04:32 PM
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Married dude here. 99% of my texting is logistics. That goes for my wife, my kids, my extended family, and my friends. The other 1% is sharing links or photos that they asked for. But anyway, one of the perks of being in an LTR is you can just say, "texting is great for logistics, but I don't do too much texting chit chat. I'm not gonna get pissed if you text me, but don't expect a million bajillion texts back." Why would you even want to text so much, anyway?
/r/askTRP18/01/21 03:52 PM
3

Red Pillers often claim that even “average” looking woman are bombarded with suitors When we say that, we're talking about online dating. A literal ham sandwich will get 100 emails a day if it has a female dating profile! At least that's what I'm told. I met my wife before online dating was a thing. So am I doing something wrong? Not being flirtatious enough? Probably, to be honest. You've gotta give a guy some clue that you want to be approached, especially in 2020. Google for what guys conside…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/20 08:18 AM
1

best female friend. The fuck kind of best friend is that? Anyway, you're better than that and you know it. Shake that shit off and get back on mission. Meet chicks in person. Some 5'3" chick can't tell if you're 5'8" or 5'whatever" anyway. What's she got laser eyes? I didn't think so.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 06:33 AM
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There is no point in bringing up the red flags: He'll just rationalize that "she's changed". You're not just calling his GF into question, you're telling your friend that his judgment sucks. That may be true, but he's going to be really resistant to accepting that one! Recommendation: remind him that 22 is too young for anyone to get married and he needs to wait a few years. She'll cheat and branch swing before he proposes, so he'll dodge the bullet that way.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:02 PM
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I think in a lot of ways, it depends on what we're calling "friends". Like, what's the minimum level of familiarity to use the word "friend"? Do we need to hang out together? Or at least catch up every once in a while? There are definitely women in my life who I refer to as "friends", like my wife's friends, or my friends' wives, etc. Nothing against them, but they are more like "conditional friends" than regular friends. I say that because if the conditions changed, they'd fall out of my life. …
/r/seduction10/12/20 06:01 AM
1

From your comments, it looks like she broke your heart bigtime. You need her to stay out of your life. Your personal sanity is worth more than a couple of sweatshirts. Block her on all platforms so you can move on.
/r/askTRP06/12/20 11:27 PM
3

You do not have to live like this. Divorced in your 40s is a sweetheart deal for men. Think about it. With 50/50 custody, you can be with your kids plenty, but when they're with mom, you can go out and do whatever makes you happy. Have a consult with a divorce attorney to see what a settlement might look like in your area, but you said above that she works. If you two make similar $$ you almost certainly won't get divorce raped. Start documenting all the time you spend with your kids just in cas…
/r/TheRedPill03/11/20 11:41 PM
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I disagree that RP men dislike women who sleep around. Why should I dislike a woman who likes sex? I like sex, too. RP men, however, don't generally view those women as wife material. You can read why in the sidebar. Don't make the mistake of moralizing male vs female sexual strategy. Sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill02/11/20 06:46 PM
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"I just got to the gym so you're stuck in the doghouse for now (dog emoji)" Don't send any more texts today after that. You were busy. If she hasn't offered to come by with beer and sex, and you still want to see her again, only invite her to join you with something you were already going to do anyway. That way, she can't waste your time again. Going forward, you'd have to worry a whole lot less about "holding frame" if your life were full of things that are more important to you than some rando…
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:48 PM
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Depends on how you reacted to the cheating. I'm an old married dude, but it turns out that my prior LTR cheated on me, so I left her and cut contact. She blew up my phone, my family's phones, you name it. But my time is valuable, and I wasn't about to waste any more of it on her. If you think that lowers my value, you're entitled to your opinion, and I wish you a pleasant day.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 11:08 PM
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Depends on how you reacted to the cheating. I'm an old married dude, but it turns out that my prior LTR cheated on me, so I left her and cut contact. She blew up my phone, my family's phones, you name it. But my time is valuable, and I wasn't about to waste any more of it on her. If you think that lowers my value, you're entitled to your opinion, and I wish you a pleasant day.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 11:07 PM
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Depends on how you reacted to the cheating. I'm an old married dude, but it turns out that my prior LTR cheated on me, so I left her and cut contact. She blew up my phone, my family's phones, you name it. But my time is valuable, and I wasn't about to waste any more of it on her. If you think that lowers my value, you're entitled to your opinion, and I wish you a pleasant day.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 11:07 PM
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Depends on how you reacted to the cheating. I'm an old married dude, but it turns out that my prior LTR cheated on me, so I left her and cut contact. She blew up my phone, my family's phones, you name it. But my time is valuable, and I wasn't about to waste any more of it on her. If you think that lowers my value, you're entitled to your opinion, and I wish you a pleasant day.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 11:07 PM
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I get your point about cancel culture, but what's the point of being RP, only to pretend to the world that you're a "liberal-minded, sex-positive feminist" BP? The answer obviously isn't to pretend to be BP. Rather, you need to be prudent in how you frame your RP philosophies and principles, which are anyway nothing more than explanations of how the world works. That means no mentioning of "Red Pill", since people view the name as toxic, and no RP jargon, which will make you look just as bad. Bu…
/r/TheRedPill23/10/20 04:33 PM
0

There's no direct need for you to care what LTR's mom thinks of you. All that matters is its effects on LTR, herself. Does her mom's bitching bother her or does it just roll off her back after all these years? Is LTR okay with the division of labor? Is she okay with whatever sacrifices she made to be with you? Because that's the foundation of how you deal with this. And if that foundation has cracks in it, whatever you build on top of it will eventually fall over. In LTRs, it's best if each part…
/r/askTRP11/10/20 07:41 PM
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A woman who is "not bad looking", but is offering to pay for sex, is a yellow flag. Unless you are really really attractive, I guess, or there's some good reason she needs to bang you specifically. Women who are "not bad looking" can easily find attractive men to fuck. But I think it's just a yellow flag. If she has some logical reasoning for why she wants to pay you, then it should be okay. Like if you need to keep things discreet or if she has a power-play fetish where she gets off on paying a…
/r/askTRP09/10/20 04:05 PM
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I think it really depends on how you define cheating. If you include branch-swinging (starting a new relationship before ending the current one) in your cheating definition, then that number sounds very low to me. Pulling numbers out of my ass here, but I think I'm on safe ground if I say that the majority of women have branch-swung at least once in their dating careers!
/r/askTRP05/10/20 05:33 PM
1

Bro's my life is going bad, not like petty bad, actually bad. Why do you say that? From where I'm sitting, it looks like you're killin' it, man! You got a fulltime job working with good people, you just upgraded your car, you quit smoking and lost weight, you upgraded your friends, you're gonna be moving out of your shitty situation soon. You've accomplished a shitload in just 2 years, and things are only going to get better! Okay, so you had a 1-week setback. Dude, nobody's perfect. Forgive you…
/r/askTRP04/10/20 10:32 PM
1

I'd say we did. Early 20s.
/r/askTRP03/10/20 04:18 AM
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Guys who have not been divorced and who are married will try and project how great it is. Generally it’s younger guys under 40. I'm a happily married guy over 40, never divorced. Two kids. I'd advise getting married only in two situations: If you're having kids together, and/or If you're owning any joint assets (houses/cars/etc.) together. Reasoning: A marriage is a legal construct. Nothing more, nothing less. It doesn't show your love, commitment, or anything like that. All it changes is how yo…
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:22 PM
2

Sometimes I wonder if people even read what they write before hitting send. It was obvious that she liked him way better than me: She canceled our date once to have sex with him, [...] She ended up with me because she realized that he was just using her for sex. He is a medical resident You don't excite her at all. You are her security blanket. She's with you because you're one small step above being all alone. Find some sense of self-worth, jesus. Residents don't really have time for dating, bu…
/r/askTRP01/10/20 09:32 PM
2

It’s different for women. They don’t care they can get a BF easy, they don’t want 99% of men. I came here basically to say this, but it's way worse for them than what you wrote. The problem isn't that they're all chasing Brad Pitt. The problem is that most men are extremely low value. Why do you think RP works so well? Because its core tenet is self-improvement for its own sake, not to please others. And once you are: On mission Working out Improving your social skills you are now higher value t…
/r/askTRP25/09/20 04:20 PM
1

Dude. Is this chick LTR material? Really? If it's true that she's doing this "social media slut" routine to retaliate against you and you social media, that's not how grownups resolve conflicts. Her social media slut routine reflects a hell of a lot worse on her than it does on you. Assuming her contacts think you two are still together. I mean, would would you think about someone who wrote that? So no, this chick is not LTR material. You can do way fucking better. If you have feels for her, thi…
/r/askTRP17/09/20 08:39 PM
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I know this isn't what you asked, but what's the rush to get married at only 21 years old? You two hardly even know your adult selves yet. How could you possibly know if you would make good life partners for each other?
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/20 07:14 PM
1

OP shuda measured fingers Isn't it a little awkward to whip out your ruler in the middle of a bar?
/r/TheRedPill05/09/20 06:03 PM
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Of course I've spoken about red pill concepts with women. Why shouldn't I? They're just various observations about human nature. The trick is not to use RP jargon. Especially not the words "red pill". People have heard of RP and just know it as "misogynistic incel shit". Most people don't walk around talking about hypergamy, branch swinging, frame, etc. Instead, just summarize the concepts in your own words so you don't out of character. And your source is "life lessons".
/r/askTRP01/09/20 11:04 PM
2

I believe part of being "alpha" is having the ability to trust yourself and walking away from shitty situations. There's a difference between walking away from shitty situations and burning bridges. I'm always in favor of improving your situation, but I see zero long-term upside to burning the bridge. It may make you feel good in the short run though, I'll grant you that. Some principles I try to live by: I can't control others' actions; I can only control my reaction. I'm more important than an…
/r/askTRP28/08/20 05:17 PM
2

It's normal to feel empathy. It's part of being human. Just remember that you are both better off apart. It's obvious how you're better off. As for her, she needs to focus on her mental health without distractions. And it sounds like she understands that, since she even said she'd be seeking more support from her therapist. You did the right thing. Sometimes the right thing doesn't feel good, but it's still right.
/r/askTRP11/08/20 06:16 PM
2

Glancing at your post history, your situation is complicated, assuming that you are telling the truth on the internet, which can admittedly be a foolish assumption. You just moved from TX to OH. Your wife is running from a parole violation. Wife is breaking shit and threatening to report you for domestic violence if you don't do as she says You hate caring for your child and try to dump all parental responsibility onto your wife You, yourself, may also be somewhat unhinged. This whole situation …
/r/askTRP07/08/20 03:13 PM
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you don't need the internet's permission to dump her jesus christ
/r/askTRP03/08/20 08:33 PM
1

If you let her choose then you are handing her your balls and control of the relationship. Break up with her immediately, Unless you make LTRs out of vaginas attached to brainless automata, a chick is going to have some modicum of free will. OP doesn't lose his frame or testicles if he says, "interesting. Well, we're obviously not turning a 6 month thing into an LDR, so enjoy your time, but we're done." She has a choice whether you like it or not. She can always walk, and I'm 90% sure that's wha…
/r/askTRP25/07/20 05:58 PM
1

Gullible, but responsible. If I misjudge my ability to drive safely due to being stupid drunk, whatever happens is my responsibility. So why is some chick somehow not responsible for misjudging what sex she wanted to have? Dudes aren't mind-readers.
/r/TheRedPill13/07/20 09:10 PM
2

I had an ex go bananas on me. It was before #metoo or even social media (I'm old), but she did call all of my family and friends to tell them what a horrible human being I was. When people asked me about it, I'd just shrug my shoulders and said I don't know what to tell you. I could give my side of the story and make it a he-said-she-said, but I just don't have the energy for it. So think what you want to think based on what you know about me and what you know about her, but all of my energy is …
/r/askTRP13/07/20 09:05 PM
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I've never understood the "if you're drunk, you can't give consent" concept. If you get drunk and drive, you're 100% responsible for your decisions, but if you get drunk and fuck, you're somehow 0% responsible for your decisions? I mean, drunk people either can or can't legally make decisions. Which is it?
/r/TheRedPill06/07/20 04:39 PM
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the case of who to save on a sinking ship, where participants said 60:1 that it should be women first over men first. I always thought getting rid of the women and children was so that the men could focus on saving the ship.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/20 05:43 PM
1

I think that you and /u/theredfinance are more or less saying the same thing. TRP doesn't say you need to apply 100% of your focus to mission. Who would want to live like that, even if they could keep it up in the long term? The point of mission is to have yourself and your needs be your primary focus. Because if you tie your happiness and life fulfillment to the whims of women (or even worse, the whims of one specific woman), you will lead a bitter, miserable existence. You should always have s…
/r/TheRedPill29/06/20 04:05 PM
1

I don't know who that is, but really? $5M/yr? That seems off, but if she can do it, more power to her!
/r/askTRP25/06/20 07:02 PM
1

If a particular woman is a 3/10 to you, why do you concern yourself with what her taste in men is? It makes no difference.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 06:59 PM
2

People who are high value and know it aren't mean to others. Confident and even a bit cocky? Sure! But when you're already on top, you don't need to cut others down to try to boost yourself up. But, if you were unattractive and knew it, wouldn't you be pissy too? These women can taste the social media validation yet they know they can't parlay that into bagging a Chad for more than a quick pump and dump. So they're bitter and frustrated and take their failures out on men, in general. Personally,…
/r/askTRP25/06/20 06:58 PM
2

Lead by example. Some will follow; some will not. That's life. But doling out unsolicited advice is a waste of your time and effort.
/r/askTRP25/06/20 06:42 PM
1

Have you had an actual conversation about the effects her interruptions have on you? She can't read your mind. Surely she can grasp the concept that when you're in the flow and you have an hour left of work, if she breaks your focus, then you still have that hour of work left, but you have to take more time to get your focus back. So by being "cute", she's working against her goals of spending more time with you. So have a conversation to make sure you are both on the same page and maybe come up…
/r/askTRP23/06/20 05:06 AM
1

I do think that Red Pill is becoming more and more well known. That being said, the proportion of people who view Red Pill positively vs negatively still skews hard toward the negative. Anyone doubting this should contemplate why reddit quarantined all RP communities. I think a lot of the hate is from people who have never visited an RP community and just thinks it's a bunch of violent incels. But anytime some loser comes around posting incel garbage, they get called out and downvoted pretty qui…
/r/askTRP16/06/20 02:57 PM
2

You wanted to bang her before. So she booty calls you and you still don't smash? I guess you had your reasons.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:44 PM
1

Your beneficiaries will get the proceeds in the proportion that you designate. If no beneficiary, your heirs get it based on your will, or the laws of your state, if you have no will. In the US, if you have no beneficiary and no will and no statutory next of kin, your state would get your money (Google term you want is "escheat"). Your broker definitely doesn't get to keep your money.
/r/askTRP15/06/20 09:42 PM
3

Do you know any actual people in their late 60s early 70s? Because the ones I know seem really happy. It's almost as if a person's interests can change over time and the allure of snorting coke out of a hooker's asscrack is fleeting. From what I see, most old folks don't start wishing they were dead until their 90s when shit really starts to fall apart.
/r/askTRP13/06/20 06:13 PM
1

When you croak, your broker doesn't just steal your money. Your heirs get it.
/r/askTRP13/06/20 06:02 PM
2

Are you in sales, by any chance? While I note your persistence and admire your courage in attempting to dress up "sticking my tongue into some dude's foul poop chute", maybe you should start small in trying to entice a straight dude into his first gay whatever.
/r/askTRP13/06/20 12:40 AM
2

I have not. And it turns out that this is not on my bucket list, either.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 10:31 PM
2

Heh. Well yeah, of course we're not. I'm not gay, and you're not either. If you were, you'd be ordering dick on the apps right now instead of trolling random dudes on TRP.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 09:07 PM
2

You're having way too much fun with this.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 08:35 PM
2

I'm very happy for both of you. But that doesn't help OP carry a conversation.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 08:21 PM
2

But he doesn't want to have sex with the dude. He wants to be able to carry a conversation when the dude isn't there. I get it. You like gay sex a lot. But it turns out that gay sex isn't the solution to each and every one of life's problems.
/r/askTRP12/06/20 06:28 PM
2

What the actual fuck does this have to do with OP's question about keeping the conversation going?
/r/askTRP12/06/20 05:08 PM
1

You can't just tell a chick to lose weight, what the fuck. Most people can't muster the knowledge and/or motivation to lose weight, and anybody doubting this is encouraged to visit the local Walmart for some people-watching. Thanks Netflix and Doordash. Like anything else, the man needs to be the leader. Eat right, work out, be active, and invite your LTR to join you in all of these. Do the thought work for her and all she has to do is show up. If she does, then great! If she does not, then the …
/r/askTRP05/05/20 03:50 PM
1

it's going to be very hard to get her to lose baby weight. Post baby is when most women gain weight and never lose it. FYI, this was not the case in my wife's experience. I mean, it's not like she lost it all in the first month, but she did in the first year. Granted, we're a really active family and we eat healthy food, but I'm just saying that having a kid doesn't change the fundamentals of fitness. Like anything else, the man needs to be the leader of the household. Be active, work out, eat r…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 03:43 PM
1

Are you sure you're not overthinking this? You suggested later in the week because you already have plans earlier in the week. That's the whole point of spinning plates. You keep options so that you're not beholden to the fleeting whims of any specific chick. None of this is punishment. It's just the reality of being with a high SMV dude. She needs to accept that you have a busy social calendar and not take it so fucking personally.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 10:26 PM
5

I think hard next is an overreaction. She could have just meant she's having a bad day. You could have just said she's fucked now because the Rona will turn her lungs into soup. See where that went. Does she normally talk like this? That being said, I'm not sure I'd personally want an LTR who talks like that. Maybe because I'm old, but that's just not my style.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 07:30 PM
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Real estate values vary wildly by locality, and if housing prices in your area tank, it's probably because the local economy is also in the tank. It's really hard to tell you what to do without knowing your entire financial picture, but let me give you some guidelines based on what you've said: Any money you need within the next 12 months should be in a liquid, FDIC insured account. Like a money market or CD or something. You say you could pay for your downpayment with future income stream. Futu…
/r/askTRP16/04/20 04:37 PM
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A few observations: The text was from "one of the main guys in my social circle". That sounds to me like more of an acquaintance than a friend. That is to say that he less likely to be acting in your interest, as a friend, than he is to be acting in his own self-interest, whatever that may be. So a bushel of salt is called for here. Also, you don't really mention if you are also one of the "main guys". If you're not, that's not good. The guy who's White Knighting you is surprisingly crass for be…
/r/askTRP14/04/20 07:07 PM
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I haven't been married for 45 years, but I have been married for 30. I don't think my wife will cheat on me, but if she does, you know what? She had my kids, kept my home, gone on my adventures, been my cheerleader for 30 fucking years. That's a hell of a lot more than most people get, so while I'll miss her if we break up for whatever reason, it's not like I'm going to look back at the last 30 years as a mistake or failure.
/r/askTRP28/03/20 08:12 PM
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Before I answer your question directly, I'm going to ask you the following: If this is happening so often that you felt the need to ask the Internets how to handle the situation, are you sure this job is part of your life mission? To work at a company where chicks cry to get out of working and then you have to do their job for them? I have to believe you're working below your capabilities if you have such ineffective coworkers. Update your resume. Okay, when this happens, your job is to be the c…
/r/askTRP19/03/20 02:38 PM
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Where might one go to learn more about this better living?
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