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The entire “game”, negging, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 12:07 AM
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Do women stop being feminine when they are older? You gave examples such as height for masculinity, and you gave youth as an example for femininity. Was Queen Elizabeth less feminine in old age?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 11:37 PM
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Also, the couples that I know personally who are married all met through college. I don’t know of any couples in my life, parents’ generation or otherwise, who DIDN’T meet in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 11:48 PM
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I’m not a fool. I know that a man older than me has had more time to learn how to lie and obfuscate their mistakes with distance and generalizations. Young men are more honest and their time is accounted for.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 11:47 PM
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I know. Practice boyfriend of similar age is much lower risk than a man who is significantly older.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 11:06 PM
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So, I wasn’t interested in getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:37 PM
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Ok that’s funny, I’ll give you that 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:01 PM
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🍑🍑🍑
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:59 PM
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I think if a man was seeking someone to be a partner in life, he’d seek out someone who had at least a full time job and financial savvy after living on her own a few years. The fact that I was still financially dependent on my parents should throw off any honest man older than 24. Hence, if an older man is dating a young woman still in college, he isn’t really seeking a wife or a LTR. He wants young pussy lol. This is preemptive deduction. I’m not going to wander into the city wide eyed and ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 09:58 PM
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I’m my college years, 3+ years was the oldest I’d go. Any older and I’d feel used for my body and youth. Now that I’m 22 and working, I’d be willing to date up to 5 years older, but only if he’s actually made use of his extra 5 years of age — appropriate career progression, wealth accumulation, life experiences, and strong friendships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 08:38 PM
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Same for women. I see a lot of cute, happy women every day but men will rate them as “mid” or “you can do better bro”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 12:28 AM
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As a child of divorce, I am happy that my parents divorced when they did. My mom was fully capable of raising myself and my brother on her own (with the help of church sisters and neighbors on occasion). While I feel that I matured a little quicker than the ideal (I was 7, brother was 4) and I had a bit of an issue trusting my stepfather at first (I was 11), I think I turned out much happier and confident than I would have seeing my parents in a tense, loveless relationship. In contrast, my step…
/r/RedPillWives14/02/22 11:57 PM
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Mainly B. It's like wading through shit to find a diamond. Glad I have a boyfriend now, dating sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 07:35 AM
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Yes. 5'4, 125lb, Asian. Lots of guys interested in sex, not so many guys interested in a LTR leading to marriage where both of us benefit. May be due to 2 factors – was not mentally healthy until recent year or so, also my age bracket in a liberal uni means not many men want serious relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:57 AM
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I was only on tinder while in college, so these may be college specific no evidence of being currently enrolled/graduated in/from college (usually a "[school] 'year" would suffice) vaping, squinty, in the passenger seat of a car, camera below your chin excessive alcohol use, drug use emaciated body / unhealthy facial features such as ashen skin or sunken eyes heavily filtered / black and white shirtless pics in a dirty bathroom mirror – a tasteful shirtless pic in normal color taken by someone o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 07:27 AM
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Insecure women are a little whiny. Insecure men tend to project their insecurities on the outside world. I have some masculine facial features despite being a cis woman. That has turned men off before. I kinda just roll with it, like rip, what can I do besides get surgery, you know? Men on the other hand are more prone to get dangerous with insecurity. It's my fault if I'm more educated or earn more than him because he's insecure about his job. It's my fault if I dress hot when I go out with him…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/22 06:49 AM
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Women are not a monolith, this could go either way
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/21 04:15 AM
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Wow it’s almost like promiscuity is bad in both sexes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 06:22 PM
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21F, virgin. Have had a number of boyfriends but only done 2 BJs, the rest never went beyond heavy petting / mutual masturbation. Penetrative sex has a lot of consequences for women. Birth control will fuck with your mental health. IUDs are invasive and expensive. Men can’t be 100% trusted with condoms, especially if they aren’t married to you. Penetrative sex isn’t ever going to be so fun that it outweighs the risk of premarital PIV. I’d rather be healthy than fuck. And any man who pressures me…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/21 08:12 AM
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Women need to feel comfortable with the man. She needs to know he's safe to be around, can be trusted, and cares deeply about her pleasure. How can a woman feel comfortable if it's just a one night stand? It takes weeks of building trust, of continuous green flags, in addition to the man being hot. It takes diligence and a lot of time for men to understand what exactly each particular woman's clit needs, because every clit is different. Same with BJs. However, men can just do PIV according to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/21 09:36 PM
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I see where you're going. I'm an alcoholic, but whoever I date must be sober and have never drank before! I made shitty choices with my life and broke my dick, but I deserve a perfect woman who never makes mistakes and has never slept with anyone! I'm a bitch boy slob who lives in his momma's basement and doesn't know how to do my laundry, but I have to marry Martha Stewart! vs I'm short, but I like tall men. I'm blonde, but I like dark haired men. I have big tits, and I like men with big dicks.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 06:37 AM
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All of them seem to have Alzheimer's. They have SO much trouble recalling simple details whereas women will remember things down to the last blade of grass. I'm like – y'all claim you're smarter and more superior and competent but why do I remember your schedule better than you do???
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:59 AM
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Max 4 years up, min my age. I'm 21, graduating college this academic year, with a full time 6 figure job lined up post grad. If he can't do laundry, cook for himself, budget, held a job before, or dress himself appropriately then it's an automatic dealbreaker. Sadly most men my age are still incompetent, so I wouldn't bother lowering my age threshold. The ideal is a man my age, at my stage in life, with my level of competency or higher. If he's 2 years older, then he should be at a place in his …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 04:54 AM
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it's like taking a shit. if your partner is constipated, that's not healthy. if your partner is spewing explosive diarrhea, that's not healthy. a lot of men fall into the former category with their emotions and hurr durr their way into thinking that communication + emotional vulnerability = diarrhea. I just want a partner who expels daily, well-formed shits.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/21 01:35 AM
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Let me rephrase. Not necessarily freaked out about me, just really awkward with their body and panicking when they had to make decisions about where to put their arm/leg/whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 06:36 PM
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Woman here. At my age (early to mid 20s), a count over 10 in a man is a red flag. I’ve also attempted to be with a virgin but although I too am a virgin, male virgins simply don’t have the confidence physically to be fun when cuddling or making out. They freak out really easily and I hate having to teach someone to be comfortable with their own body. Like goddammit, I’m supposed to be the anxious one I can’t handle you too lmao. So n count of 1-3 within the confines of a long (9mo+) relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:15 PM
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Yeah women care. I feel secondhand embarrassment whenever I walk past a couple where the woman is wearing a cute outfit and nice shoes and the man is in a pair of scruffy ASICS, cargo shorts, and t shirt with holes at the collar. I decided that I’m never going to be the female half of that sort of couple. It’s too common. I want a man who has self respect enough to present himself decently when going out. I don’t care what he wears to lounge and hike so long as it’s comfortable and appropriate, …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/21 05:01 PM
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Ah. I’m basing this off the most successful people I know, who have ridiculously low n counts. We have different experiences I suppose. Perhaps a better way to state my claim is that busy people don’t have time for sex. Truly busy people. Not “busy” people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:41 PM
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I don’t see how our comments contradict each other. Busy people who have interesting hobbies don’t feel the need to go out and party. Humility and speaking little usually mean that when they do say something it’s quite perceptive or interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 10:28 PM
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Yea excellent advice, intoxicate someone you want to fall in love with then rape her. /s I see that you edited the comment after I accurately pointed out that intoxicated people cannot give consent. Ok wannabe rapist
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 07:15 PM
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Busy people have less time to goof off. For both men and women — look at people who are academically and professionally successful — not the ones who posture and brag, but the quiet, humble ones in both genders tend to keep to their own business and have true confidence in themselves such that they don’t seek validation from the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 06:47 PM
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So a woman who’s had an n count of 3-5 within committed relationships is a no go??
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:17 PM
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Your husband should be learning to manage his emotions himself. It must be stressful to do the work of 2 in a relationship. He sounds codependent. Maybe you two could brainstorm self care for yourselves and try it out?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/21 05:15 AM
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Late to the party but — I’ve had many opportunities for casual sex. I struggle with self worth issues. My piece of shit father left when I was 7 and my slightly less shitty stepfather was overly critical. As the older child and a daughter there was a lot of pressure to make straight A’s, take all the AP classes, take care of my chores, and still remain unflappable and courteous at all times. I wasn’t ever allowed to feel frustrated, burnt out, or tired, or else I was accused of being ungrateful …
/r/RedPillWives17/09/21 11:10 PM
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How do you know? Did you ask? I have friends with extremely large honkabadonkas and believe me, it was completely natural. They hated it whenever people commented on them and they had trouble finding clothes that made them look modest.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 10:06 PM
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Because it’s not something I can control. You are complimenting my state of being, not my acts of doing. What I do can be controlled, my breast size is not something I control. Acceptable compliments are: hairstyle, shoes, how I dress myself, my makeup choices — because these are all things that represent me as a human. I didn’t spring from the womb or go through puberty carefully curating my boob or butt size. I had no control over that. “Compliments” about those mean that you value my body ove…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 09:57 PM
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You’re moving too fast. He’s a stranger. He will be a stranger until around 4-6 months.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 07:32 PM
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I disagree. I think my parents splitting up was for the best. It’s not good for kids to be around a parent who’s abusive to the other. If I had continued growing up in that situation my picker would have been calibrated horribly.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 03:45 PM
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If a man leaves his wife that’s totally fine. If it’s because he’s monkey branching, that’s repulsive because it smells like he can’t live even for a year by himself. It reeks of insecurity, which is not an attractive masculine trait. Leaving? Yeah leave if your partner isn’t what you want. But don’t leave because suddenly some better option came along. Leave because you’d rather be alone than with that person.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/21 01:01 AM
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As an add on — this means you need to actually know the woman better than a stranger. No idiot should be approaching within 5 minutes of meeting someone. Casual contact over time will allow you to see if she’s actually interested or not. This also means that men need to consistently go to coed social activities.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 09:10 PM
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Sex is only guaranteed to get the man off (classic penetration) so yes I’d need time specifically focused on my own pleasure. Boggles the mind when I see men on Reddit whining that they aren’t getting blowies or penetration when their wife is preggo and nauseous but they won’t go down on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 03:55 AM
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Yes, but their standards from men are very high because we’re picky. (Hence low N count). Their type is usually educated gentleman. What an American might sneer at as being “simp”-y, but they just don’t rely on aggression and peacocking and instead are very selective with the women they pursue. These men also generally have a distaste for casual sex. I find them generally in hard sciences (physics, engineering). The men there generally split into fuckboys who aren’t that good at the subject but …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:41 AM
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Hair: wash 4x / week, 20min shower + 15 min styling and applying products = ~ 2 hours/week. I also spent a lot of time figuring out the best hair routine for me and bought a frickin silk pillowcase ($40), along with hair oils ($10/bottle) and sewed together a couple of t shirts to dry my hair with. (Normal towels take out too much moisture.) Face: ~ 15 min per day because no makeup. Just wash and moisturize in the morning, wash and apply rosehip oil in the evening. = 2 hours/week. Also purchased…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:16 PM
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Personally I would have no concerns at this point. I think it’s easier to frame it as “he, as a regular 20 year old, experimented with what he wanted” vs “men are unfeeling creatures when it comes to sex.” Men display lowered pair bonding with increased promiscuity, same as women.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 04:11 PM
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It’s totally normal for you to feel this way. Man whores have never been attractive and should not be praised as “Chads”. However, this is something you should have realized and noticed at the start. But like other commenters have said, he chooses to be with you now. It’s a lot harder since you haven’t been with other men before (tbh if you had 1-2 previous partners this may be an easier experience for you) but most people don’t end up with their first. It’s quite normal to want to experiment wi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/21 02:59 PM
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Some advice I’d give to my freshman year self: it’s tempting to get into a relationship because college is new and scary and you want someone in your corner, but don’t do it. Focus on building strong friendships and joining clubs for things you’re excited about. If you have control over your allowance now is also the time to experiment with what you like on your body. Look up body types (I’m a short pear with a square face) and figure out how to dress for that. Feminine does not mean immodest. H…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/21 03:43 PM
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It is if your main goal in platonic friendship is eventual romance. If you genuinely are friends with a woman because you wanted to be friends with them then oops both of you caught feelings, that’s quite understandable. Here’s a lil tip: be friends with women because they’re people, not because you eventually want to fuck them. Put away your horny brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 03:05 PM
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There is no 100% certain way to tell if a girl is flirting with you or sending IOIs either. Dating wasn’t meant for strangers. It was meant for acquaintances and friends and family connections. One woman’s flirt is another woman’s normal behavior. One man’s respectful approach is another man’s creepiness. So how do you interpret things correctly? GET TO KNOW THE PERSON PLATONICALLY FIRST. Sheesh.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 04:47 PM
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Aw poor baby did your feefees get hurt? It’s the truth men are thirstier than women
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/21 12:00 AM
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Do not worry about meeting guys right now. Male attention is cheap. Once you leave high school you will have more than you want. Focus on your studies and interests. Romance is not the end goal of life.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/21 05:27 PM
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That makes much more sense. Alcohol as a first date is a horrible idea because then you’re evaluating each other under the influence of drugs.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:50 PM
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Drinks are a red flag. Drinks are meant to lower inhibitions and create false intimacy and make you more likely to sleep with them. Stupid decisions are made while tipsy. You’re right to stay away from them. Culture difference or no, never be vulnerable around a stranger. Oh. You’re broke. Don’t date until you can support yourself and afford a couple weekly extras. Dating is not mandatory, it’s an activity you do once you’re an established human. Never go on a date banking on the man to pay, if …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:29 PM
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Dinner is usually the same price as drinks. You can get a decent dinner for the same price as a drink or two. (I’m talking $15 cocktails). Money is not an excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:28 PM
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I think it’s quite telling that you grew up in a home where mom did everything and dad was useless. Do you want this dynamic to continue? Do you want to be full time handywoman, maid, cook, and full time employed for the rest of your life? You say this full time job is temporary but right now you’re doing 250% of what your bf is doing. I thought men were supposed to lead and be capable? Is your bf leading and capable? Right now I see you as the head of the house and it will be very difficult to …
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/21 03:26 PM
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Benedict cumberbatch and Adam driver aren’t hot. They’re just white with dark hair and play interesting characters. Benedict looks like a turtle and Adam’s nose is way too large. 6ft tall guys tend to have mental health issues and end up spinning plates (crazy chicks) and think their height can carry them. (The same way some super hot girls think their hotness allows them to sleep with a lot of men and still remain sane.) The men I and my peers have been most attracted to long term are between 5…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 03:10 PM
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I think we have different opinions about the top 20%. To me the lower 80% may include hot, established guys but the lower 80% also have shitty character, like treating girls like cattle. The top 20% of men have honor and respect towards themselves and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 02:51 PM
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I acknowledge there are mean girls. They’re usually much rarer and direct their meanness to women in their female circles while I’ve seen PLENTY of condescending rude men. There was a post by an autistic guy at some point where he said that while women wouldn’t necessarily go out of their way to be friends with him, they’d at least treat him politely and with kindness. Men were the ones that bullied him. I’m talking broad stroke behavior here. Where have I complained? Look through my post and co…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:54 AM
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If 80% of men aren’t up to par then there’s something wrong with 80% of men. I look around in daily life and women will all be groomed and dressed in well fitting clothes and shoes in good condition even if they’re not glammed up. They will willingly go out of their way to make a stranger welcome and comfortable, even if it’s this autistic dude who brings no value to their lives. It’s completely natural. Then I look around and see men who don’t do the dishes when they’re home with their parents,…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 07:05 AM
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RMV: not going to be less sensitive than I am. My sensitivity allows me to read social situations much better than the average person and I can be more compassionate at appropriate times. I like being moved to tears when I see a heartwarming/tragic situation. I like feeling joy when there’s a pretty flower or a beautiful sunset. The flip side of that is that I’m sensitive to harsh words, raised voices, and loud crowds. And men find the latter frustrating but that’s part of me. If you want a femi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 09:03 PM
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I’ve interacted with these women before. It’s a game — they are insecure and they want to be seen as the alpha female. If you play that game and ingratiate yourself to her (you can do this with dignity, it’s not demeaning) then you get more privilege and social capital with that proximity. Compliment her on the things she obviously cares about. She will relax more around you. This might be a more clear example, but every social circle has an alpha female. If you can figure out who it is and what…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/21 08:45 PM
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Why should women be celebrated for chasing dreams that have only within the past generation been open to them?
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:36 PM
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As opposed to what.... millennia of women only being valued for virginity or motherhood? It’s only been 50 or so years. I don’t see the issue. Teachers or nurses or therapists probably aren’t pissy about this.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/21 04:31 AM
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If it’s not intentional, then it shows he doesn’t have intentions. This is a rather spicy adage but it’s never failed me — “if he wants you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be confused.” Sounds to me like you’re confused.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 09:34 PM
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It sounds like future faking — might be trying to make you more attached than you should by playacting about house and babies, but not actually having those intentions. I think a general rule of thumb is that a man will make his intentions clear — they tend to be much more direct than women. If he’s not direct, then he isn’t sure of his own intentions, and that’s a major turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 06:23 PM
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Oh absolutely! I like earning my own money and I think I only wrote this Bc I spent some time with the guy I was seeing who I feel very submissive around so it got amplified haha. But yeah I’m an engineer babe and I just want to find a good engineer dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:36 PM
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I’m a submissive woman in my relationships with men. Quite frankly, I don’t want to have make decisions. I tend to get caught up in minutiae and get anxious if I have to make too many decisions. Dominant men don’t seem to have that issue. I don’t care about 90% of things that happen so long as I’m safe, employed/employable, able to eat healthy food, and with my partner and have access to my friends. I don’t care if I’m living in Seattle or Austin, suburb or urban, driving a Prius or a Tesla, etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 06:14 AM
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Try getting him into a culturally relevant physical sport – a lot of Asian kids do Shaolin kung fu, for example. It's important that he feels like he has a cultural "home".
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 09:12 PM
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I was also trucked around to sports lmao. Asian American women do it all. That’s why it’s so frustrating to see whiny Asian American men. They do less and expect more. Also, in my area, Asian Americans make up around 40% of the population. Not negligible.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:56 PM
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Like I said — you don’t know how women are raised.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:48 PM
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Yeah so what you’re telling me is that OP is just asking gotcha questions that no one is ever going to give a satisfactory pity party to. Ok here you go: “men have it so hard boo hoo so they should just sit around Reddit and cry” happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:48 PM
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Yeah see you really don’t know how families and culture works. Stats and schooling don’t tell all.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:46 PM
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You don’t seem to understand how women are raised. We’re told “no” from the crib. No, you can’t go play with the boys, your skirt will get dirty. No, you can’t sit with your legs open, it’s unladylike. No, you can’t go play with the kids (round 2), you have to help wrap the dumplings. No, you won’t be as smart as the boys, so don’t bother asking for equal treatment in the classroom. If after all that I’m still sweet and bubbly to people around me, I can handle rejection. Heck, still smiling and …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:21 AM
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I have fit, 5’7 friends who get lots of female attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:16 AM
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I think fundamental brain chemistry would have to change. I’m quite submissive and bubbly and feminine when I’m comfortable (keyword, when I’m comfortable) so I do not know what I’d be like as a man. Assuming I keep the social conditioning of being raised female I’d be at a significant social advantage to other bottom 30% guys. I already know how to carry a conversation, be interesting, make friends, etc. I have a very good taste in fashion so I’d dress and groom myself appropriately. With women…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 11:03 PM
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21F, super liberal college with sex-shamey Asian upbringing. Option 4 for me. Don’t want casual sex, don’t want to touch it. I’ve gotten physical with boyfriends in the past and after breakups I notice that the ones I got more physical with had a greater impact on my post-relationship recovery than ones I kept it PG with. So casual sex would be an absolute roller coaster for my mental health. I had friends who did it and I never felt comfortable talking to them about it, so we drifted apart. It’…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:56 PM
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Aerie is fantastic! I recommend their “Sunnie” fabric for bras. Their models look feminine and happy and I’m much more comfortable shopping there than shops with only rail thin models and heavy retouching. I also don’t recall VS ever going political, just going towards more comfy avenues. Their undies... ehh the quality has been going down. I got some lace trimmed high waisted boy briefs a while ago that were super cute and comfy but their fabric formulation has changed and the cuts are wedgie i…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 10:38 PM
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If you take “never settle” to mean “there are no men out there fulfilling that criteria” then you are a raging misandrist. I choose to believe that there are honorable, masculine, intelligent, attractive, fun guys out there. Hell, my entire friend group is made up of guys like these and their girlfriends. I’m currently seeing someone who seems to fulfill these criteria (only time will tell). But anyway. “Your standards are too high” only means that they’re too high for you. That’s a self burn.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 06:53 PM
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Supermodels look malnourished and they’re mainly white. White people don’t do anything for me lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:53 PM
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Because that means 80% of the time women get fed up with subpar treatment, in which case, 80% of men wake up! .... or they just happen to do the paperwork because they do everything else around the house too. Manager + mommy + wifey + live in chef + maid. The robber doesn’t file a case. The robbed do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:47 PM
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So if he spills coffee on the carpet... you still clean it??? That makes no sense. I always understood “cleaning” as maintenance cleaning combatting the natural dirt and dust accumulation, not “cleaning” as “I’m your mommy and will pick up after you”.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 03:10 PM
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I have a quibble with part 3. There’s a big difference between someone leaving their dirty socks around ONCE... and making it a habit. Emotional incontinence is a poor way to describe open communication. The point isn’t to let it build up into a rage. It’s to wait long enough to know whether something is a problem that bothers you enough. So a midway point. First couple times, eh, rough week. Continuous habit that ticks you off? Bring it up once you know it will CONTINUE ticking you off. Don’t w…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/21 08:00 AM
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Religious women will not take kindly to dating a closet atheist. Be upfront with your values.
/r/RedPillWives12/08/21 03:34 AM
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If I’m not feeling fulfilled in a relationship and the man isn’t adding value to my life, then yeah time to jump ship.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:18 PM
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I don’t date guys over 6’. Being able to see his face easily is a pretty big deal for me. So I guess I’d rather date a 5’7 guy with a nice face than a 5’11 guy with an average face, all else being equal. Edit: I’m 5’4
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:57 AM
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Groom your beard. Work out. There’s hot Indian guys who go to the gym and there’s whiny Indian guys who complain about being horny but put no effort into grooming and dressing themselves properly and getting a personality besides SWE and Leetcode. Edit: said hot Indian guys also really liked coding. Hot engineers with a personality exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:00 AM
9

Im not in a serious relationship yet but I find that having an appreciation booklet is really helpful in my relationships with friends and housemates. I write down things I appreciate about them and things that they’ve done around the house. It keeps me humble and heightens my love for them. Super recommend for unmarried women!
/r/RedPillWives10/08/21 09:11 PM
14

Whoa PUT THIS IN YOUR MAIN POST WTF. THIS DUDE CHEATED ON HIS THEN GF. NOT OK.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 07:15 AM
5

Ok no. Name calling shows contempt. Contempt is the absence of love. It’s the #1 cause of breakups. Sweetheart I know you want to have a long lasting relationship but after what you did at the start and how he’s reacting to it.... it’s been 9 months. Don’t do this to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 06:25 AM
8

His feelings are valid. But yours are too. It’s really standard dating etiquette that exclusivity can’t be assumed until both people are on the same page about it. I get how he’d feel betrayed but he made up a covert contract that you’d be exclusive before you both were. I think that if he’s still giving you grief about this 9 months later after you’ve apologized profusely, genuinely regretted it, and haven’t done anything to indicate you’d behave the same in the future..... he seems to enjoy re…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/21 05:40 AM
2

Really, incompetence and immaturity is something a male should grow out of by 18 or so. Not sure why that’s controversial. Anyway, a girl can dream 💅
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:33 AM
1

Whoops I misspoke. And DRY DICK for incompetence and immaturity, and ill fortune for pickmes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:32 AM
0

And single hood for incompetence and immaturity. As it should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:29 AM
0

Traditional women are no longer reliably on offer, but whiny men who want to be obeyed yet don’t do the Man responsibilities are a dime a dozen.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:26 AM
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If a man wants to be the leader in a relationship and wants a feminine woman, he pays for the first few dates. I have zero issue letting a man lead the relationship if he shows strong leadership qualities. One of those qualities involves being willing to invest and take smart risks, and that involves paying for the first few dates. Of course if a man doesn’t pay and doesn’t exhibit leadership qualities alongside “basic decent human” qualities, then I decline further dates. It’s not usually cut a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:37 PM
2

Oh no! Sorry to hear that this comment is definitely not for you haha. I did mention the crocs and nails and... it was like he didn’t even realize they were not socially acceptable. It was just an exhausting time being around him too, he seemed way too interested in my mental health on date #1 and later on used it as an excuse to paint me as unreasonable. All I said was that I was depressed at one point in life. Ugh. But I’m happy that you and your gf are in a loving relationship ❤️ that’s what …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:58 PM
4

If you have such good hygiene why are you so pressed about me not liking poor hygiene? Sounds like I’m not the type of woman you want to date anyway. Good luck finding a surrogate mommy. I will level up! Thank you! Luckily right now I’m dating a PhD student in the top engineering program in the US — and yes, his nails have never once been gross and he always showers before meeting up with me. He has an 8 pack, can carry me easily, and is great fun to be with. He makes plans ahead of time. He’s v…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:08 PM
2

You’re a man. Women are taught that ones virginity is only to be given to someone she loves and it should be a romantic moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:06 PM
3

I appreciate the concern. There’s a lot of pent up rage that I felt unreasonable for having because of all the times that men in my life have lowered the bar to hell. It was pleasant for a moment to happen upon FDS and see that no, I’m not unreasonable to expect more. I think the memes etc are cringe but the text posts are 80% of the time helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:06 PM
7

If you can’t tell from the men commenting on this comment, women are told to lower our standards every single day by a) parents and b) other men. The ONLY people on our side are the women who will call you “kween” and shit. Personally not a fan of the queen lingo but these women actually support the female prerogative instead of constantly belittling my gut feelings. It’s the only space where women will be like “yep he needs to be able to take care of himself before he can enter a relationship” …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:55 PM
2

Sounds like you forget to wash your hands before you eat. Spend less time on Reddit and more time ensuring that hand washing is a habit for you. His toenails literally bent over backward.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:49 PM
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Also no, I’m not perfect 100% of the time but I recognize when I slip up. The nail thing didn’t even occur to him as something wrong. Neither did wearing crocs on a date. Nor straight up ignoring me when I asked a difficult question. Nor did the fact that he never planned things in advance but instead hit me up by the day showing an extreme lack of respect for peoples time. But the point is, basic hygiene is a hill I can and will die on because if little old me can brush my teefies and cut my li…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:21 PM
5

Think brown, coarse paper towels a la McDonald’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:13 PM
0

LMAO not telling you, how about you focus on being a selfless partner first.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:11 PM
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Oh wait I forgot to mention his pushiness around sex. Every time we met up he wanted to do sexual things. I’d say no and he still kissed me and started fondling me. But yeah even if it is shallow, I want a guy who’s at bare minimum has the same level of hygiene as I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:09 PM
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FDS has legitimately helped my dating life. It sounds harsh but the crux of it is “set and enforce your boundaries,” and for women conditioned to prioritize other’s happiness over their own, the repeated harsh language is necessary. You don’t look at someone in a building about to collapse and say “hey darling, sweetie, maybe think about getting out”, no you say “GET THE FUCK OUT” and that’s what FDS tries to do for women who tend to be kind and sweet and self-denying. It’s dangerous to be naive…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:50 AM
1

Idk why you’re so pressed about having every woman fit into a narrow box of fuckable. Literally no woman I know fantasizes about Chris evans or Henry Cavill. Too muscular. Not lean enough. I know some guys who are jealous of Cavill’s ass though, and I can see that. There’s quite a wide range of what men find attractive as you acknowledge, so I don’t really see the point in shaving my thighs and pits when I can easily attract men while also being comfortable. I find the behavioral aspects of RPW …
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 08:36 PM
1

Classically feminine and beautiful only works if you’re also a hard worker, intelligent, and educated. Men I’m going after won’t even date a woman with a humanities major — they want their smart software engineer wifey.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 07:12 PM
1

I think Asian red pill would work better for me haha. It’s also truth but more in line with my goals. I’m unfortunately not attracted to Western men.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:44 PM
1

RP to a certain extent works in my life, but a lot of it is downright unrealistic and false in my terrain. I usually speak for my terrain to give a perspective that’s not usually seen on this sub. I feel like a lot of these strategies work on politically red white-majority populace’s, but would backfire horribly in pan Asian-majority politically blue regions.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:28 PM
2

If you get good sleep and wash your face properly your skin should be fine. If you have “dead eyes” then your lifestyle clearly isn’t working for you and it’s unhealthy. Women didn’t shave before WWI when men went off to war and razor companies needed to continue selling their product. I think artificial beauty standards created by a company to sell a product are not a true indicator of my femininity and not worth following. Continuing to participate in the capitalist propaganda rat race will on…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:22 PM
1

I’m not being feminist. I believe in core RPW truths but disagree with some of the minutiae. I think femininity is a good tool and I enjoy cultivating it. I just don’t think being shaved bare is a core tenet of femininity.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 05:12 PM
1

I have around 5 or 6 good male friends. I could be romantically attracted to any of them if I thought hard enough about it but when I met them they were already taken so I never let my brain go there. The one single guy friend I have is 6ft tall with a good face and decent muscle but is quite passive and too “go with the flow” to be attractive. I met these people through classes (I’m in college) and school clubs. They’re legit friends not just acquaintances. We have pretty deep convos about life…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:28 AM
1

No one said she had to work while the kid was young. Once the kid goes to elementary school it should be feasible for a parent to work during their child’s school hours at least.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 06:57 AM
0

ISFJ-T, 21F, blue pill as a teenager and gradually red pill in the sense that the truths hold, but not the conclusion that most people get from it. I think my F type makes it hard to have relationships with really masculine, logical types because they get frustrated with how my reasoning is based more on making everyone feel good rather than a “fair” result.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:09 PM
7

This is the most retarded question I’ve ever seen. “Why should I care about being polite to strangers?” Why should you care about being nice to cashiers? Why should you care about tipping the waiter even if the restaurant ran out of a popular dish? Because it’s basic fucking decency and a bare fucking minimum of existing in society. So if you hit on a woman, chances are it won’t ruin their day, if you’re actually interested in seeing her romantically. If you treat her like a sex object and catca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:00 PM
3

What makes a man a man besides muscles and a penis?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 07:22 AM
1

What makes a woman a woman besides her physical attributes? OP didn’t say genderless, they said disregard physical attributes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 07:21 AM
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I was 13, all we did was hold hands. Didn’t kiss til 16. First serious relationship at 18, ended at 19. Been vetting hard since then so I’ve been dating and entering short relationships but nothing serious yet. I’m currently 21. Edit: I think kids should be allowed to explore their romantic interests when they start having them. In preschool some kids get “married”. In elementary school they have crushes. Maybe in late middle school / early high school they want to experiment with a relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 02:10 AM
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Cheating is what happens when a man wants to “win” but can’t feel like he’s “winning” in the written, agreed upon contract, so he bends the rules. A man of honor lives by his word. A sleazy LVM feels no remorse about going back on his word because his promises mean jack shit. So your premise is entirely false. A HVM wouldn’t cheat or go after other women. A HVM is a man of honor. The man you’re describing is a LVM.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 11:22 PM
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Having someone push you towards femininity will only drive them away more. Focus on loving your sister no matter what. Other commenters have already touched on her mental health and that’s honestly the most important thing — whether she’s happy dressing in boxy athleisure, baggy jeans and dad sweaters, or cute dresses, the most important thing is that she is happy and taking care of herself. Do NOT force her towards femininity. She’ll gradually figure out what she likes. Be a supportive loving o…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 07:01 AM
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I think a woman’s definition of a HVM is different than a man’s. To a woman a HVM has many options, but is a man of honor who respects the commitment he makes to his wife. Cheating and violating that promise is a mark of dishonesty and low value. Honor contributes to a man’s high value, sleaziness in a man — no matter how hot, rich, and tall they are — is low value.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 05:25 AM
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I think most men would want their kids to be educated and raised by an intelligent mother, that’s the only criteria these commenters are missing. You obviously value education and hard work, so don’t look at the shallow trimmings but look at your core. Never question whether you’re good enough for someone you’re dating. That’s his problem, not yours. Just keep doing you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 02:46 AM
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If you don’t wanna get oneitis, date a few girls before marrying so you know you can get girls. If you wanna get married, don’t fucking hit on other girls DURING your marriage. Otherwise just stay single 🤷‍♀️
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 03:25 PM
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Even a casual look through r/marriedredpill encourages married guys to hit on girls casually and daily to “prevent oneitis” which is complete bullshit.
/r/RedPillWives02/08/21 07:34 AM
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People get to try things. People get to decide what’s good for them. I tried getting drunk multiple times. I didn’t like it. If I have new friends and tell them hey, I don’t drink, are they good friends if they whine and say “but you drank with your previous friends, are we just not enough funnnnnnnn that you won’t drink with us?” Wtf dude?
/r/RedPillWives30/07/21 11:09 PM
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Chiming in here as a Christian who went through lots of purity culture indoctrination — it absolutely has a huge psychological effect. I get bad anxiety around anything sexual. In my one mature LTR when we started fooling around more I could not orgasm ever even though my bf was doing everything right. My heart would be pounding and I’d want to throw up. It is terrifying and limiting and I hate the mental shackles it’s placed on my brain. After we broke up, even though we never did penetrative s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:58 PM
2

This still doesn’t mean it’s going to work out. Is she going to have to initiate every time? Is he actually interested in her or is her “chasing” mean that she’s going to be low effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 02:47 PM
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Take off your rose tinted glasses and get the hell out. I’m seriously disturbed by this account.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 11:46 PM
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Tbh he sounds adorable,..... But please elaborate on the PEEING IN PUBLIC and wild absurdities. Edit: I MISSED THE PART ABOUT SHOWERING. Ma’am the ONLY situation where you should parent a man is if he’s your CHILD.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 11:11 PM
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You: makes a claim Me: makes a counter You: flips the fuck out
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:29 PM
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I see your last paragraph as a red flag, not a green one. Any sane, self respecting man would want to meet in person first before committing. The fact that he moved this fast means that he doesn’t care about the relationship, he wants a woman who’s committed to him when he’s not committed to you. His words mean nothing. Moving forward doesn’t mean moving forward WITH HIM. Move forward and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 07:53 PM
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Issue is these guys want pussy, so no, they’re not wanting to be left alone they insist on getting laid although they’re not the type of guy any woman would want to sleep with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 07:47 PM
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Building emotional intimacy over text is a great way to get a woman hooked without anything real being there. It also sounds like you’re being too physical already and spending WAY too much time together. 8 hours spread over a week is normal, 8 hours at once is not. He’s showing you how he wants to treat you. Believe him. Men busier than him will carve out time during the week to see a woman if they really care about wooing her.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 07:23 PM
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Look past the initial flashy gestures. Look for high value BEHAVIOR not literally high value ($$$). Don’t make a decision to get into a relationship until 3 months of consistent behavior from the guy. Consistency is king. Does he respect you as a person? Does he respect your life choices? Does he neg (reeks of insecurity) or does he speak honestly and frankly with you? Is he on time to dates? Does he communicate well? What is his dating history like? Are all his exes “crazy”, or does he have sel…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 07:20 PM
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I agree to some extent, but to punish moms for being “absent” (read: gone during school hours) when kids are old enough to fix themselves their own snacks is messed up. Nothing wrong with a mom wanting to provide financially instead of penny pinching and stressing on a single salary.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 04:18 PM
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How much was your father there for you? Would you consider him an absent dad?
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 02:35 AM
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Personally I think the current models are really unrepresentative of healthy femininity (seriously, your fertility gets affected at a low enough BMI) but i love the lacy fantasy look. I do think their products are shit quality though. Would be great if they bumped up the quality, introduced women with butts and thighs and boobs to be models, and kept the fantasy going. Edit: by “the fantasy” I don’t mean the uncomfortable parts. I think it’s really fucked up that women have to suffer wedgies and…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:41 AM
1

Then he’s not a lovely man. And I wouldn’t want him.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 01:01 AM
2

I want my career though and I want men to see it just as much as my personality and other skills — I’m sorry that you model your life around attracting a mate but to me attracting a mate comes second to doing what makes me happy. And any man I want is going to see my accomplishments and be proud of me the same way I am proud of his own.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 10:55 PM
0

Usually the women in my life who are attracted to dark triad traits have been hurt in some way and are seeking out familiarity in the relationships — ie they only know love as pain because that’s what they’ve experienced. Personally the guys I have been most attracted to and have not been able to get my hands off of when dating are — tall(er than me), masculine looking guys. They are muscular, but it doesn’t need to be cut and chiseled I just need to be able to see the muscle mass. They are kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/21 03:06 PM
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Politely decline and Uber yourself there. This is also a good vetting opportunity. See how he reacts to you handling your own transport. If he gets huffy or upset, this is not a good sign. He will, in the future, expect things to go his way and not respect your input. If he accepts smoothly, proceed as normal.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 06:58 AM
5

Is the behavior discouraged? Like are men cold to the cheaters or do they still treat them the same way? Why do the cheaters feel comfortable being known as cheaters?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:57 PM
5

And do the guys you work with shun the cheaters?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:09 PM
13

Hmm... I have been approached by guys who want me to sugar mommy them (tongue in cheek) because of my career but I also want men to notice my career and care about it because it’s part of who I am. I’m not going to ignore a guy’s cooking skills just because he’s a guy. Life is too short to find one who loves the ocean for only its calmness and not its fullness.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/21 07:59 AM
4

Nurses make legit bank, wtf are you talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 01:21 AM
3

It’s a fucking turn on to see male sexual selectivity. So many guys are horndogs that a guy who actually respects himself and selects for women is very very attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 08:45 PM
1

It’s a physical preference and it’s just what I’m attracted to. I’m 5’4 and anywhere in the range of 5’7 to 6’ works for me. (Taller than 6’ is giraffe height and weirds me out.) I really hate liars though — sometimes a guy will say he’s 5’10 but he’s actually 5’8 and assume that just Bc I’m short I can’t tell the difference, but I can. Instant reject even though I’m attracted to 5’8 guys as well. Also, I have gone on dates with short guys before and their height insecurity is painfully obvious.…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:18 PM
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As a 5’4 women it’s painfully clear when a guy says he’s 6 foot but actually 5’10. If you stand close to him you notice where his shoulder/chin are relative to yours and it’s quite apparent. That being said, 5’7 to 6’ are the range I date in, any taller and he’d be a fucking giraffe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:05 PM
3

I keep sane, level headed company. Yes, my friends and peers usually know what they want. I speak for a small subset of highly educated women from immigrant families.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:04 PM
0

“Little Mexico” and repeated! Mentions of BLM is a red flag for me, especially this early. Speaking as an Asian woman.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 04:08 PM
25

Matching athletic sets are super cute! Cropped sweatshirt with matching sweatshorts, with practical comfy bralette underneath (see Bamboo Underwear)
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/21 02:16 AM
0

Did you miss the “attracted to” and “masculine” parts But irl yea, that’s why I haven’t fucked guys yet Bc they haven’t proved themselves to be both masculine and kind
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:45 AM
3

“Women like fucking guys they are attracted to who are masculine, kind, and attentive” such a hot take
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 12:41 AM
1

Young unmarried adult here. “Does a career make you feel independent?” A career doesn’t make me “feel” independent, it makes me independent. I’m a gosh darn adult and adults aren’t financially reliant on other people. So to call myself an independent adult I need to be making my own living. “Are you completely opposed to the idea of being a housewife if the choice arose, whether by circumstance or by choice?” I’ve toyed with the idea of being a SAHM before and I’d be open to it for maybe 1-2 yea…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 10:40 PM
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by all means gfto, but that doesn't mean sometimes the criticism is valid. it also doesn't mean that OP must be naive and go into this whole SAHM without a thick skin. I'm limiting contact with my mother because it's unhealthy for me to see her often, but mean or cruel or not, she is smart and discerning and I can borrow that from her. OP would do well to do the same.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 11:35 PM
2

You have fewer options. Most men are left swiped, the lower quality the photo the faster the left swipe.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 04:52 PM
2

I’m replying based on my own experience with my mother. My mom sucks at communicating and says hurtful things and by western standards the relationship is quite toxic, but it takes a mature person to see past the bullshit and realize that past the smoke and mirrors she has always acted in my best interest in methods I may or may not agree with. Sure, talking with her makes me want to blow my brains out, but it’s enabled me to find value in every hurtful thing someone says to me, be it an ex boyf…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 04:08 PM
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Have some empathy. A woman making her own money enables her to have independence and freedom. Your mom doesn’t want you to become trapped if you make a poor choice of a life partner. It’s perfectly reasonable of her to think that you’re probably being lazy by not working in the workplace — I do daydream of being a SAHM but when the reality sets in of being completely reliant on a husband’s salary the bubble pops. An aspiring SAHM in today’s dating world — with family so far removed from the vett…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:51 PM
10

Say “I don’t HAVE social media”. If you don’t “use” social media that means “I have social media but I don’t want to use it to talk TO YOU.”
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 06:42 AM
1

Consent is hot, sex is more fun when the guy teases you and makes you ask for specific things
/r/TheRedPill13/07/21 12:53 AM
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Idk where you are but on the coasts egalitarian men are the norm.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:02 PM
2

Doesn’t every author?
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/21 08:02 PM
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You’ve had a tough few years, I’m sorry you went through that. I recommend taking some time off from finding a life partner and focusing on being okay with yourself single. This will probably take around a year. Fill your time with wholesome activities and friends and family. Enjoy being your best self. Let yourself heal and seek out therapy. You cannot be a good life partner until you are healed and happy. Let yourself regenerate.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 11:26 PM
3

Yikes. I’ve been in a relationship with this sort of guy. He turned out to be selfish, self absorbed, and totally devoid of any male protective instinct. There are men with actual mental health issues who will keep you informed of their status but also be willing to listen to your problems and respect your time and energy enough to not vent at all hours of the day.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 07:28 PM
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record scratch you have a child with this man who won’t even marry you? Why are you with him? Conservative Christianity doesn’t even encourage sexual intimacy before marriage. What is your reasoning for being a wife to a man who doesn’t want to be your husband? Why are you in this relationship? Asking these questions for your benefit, you don’t have to respond here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 04:18 PM
5

Yap in the male spaces. What’s the point of you lecturing to the women? We have a lot of resources here already. Women were the original computer programmers until it became lucrative and they got pushed out of the field. Less logical my ass lmaooooo
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 04:19 PM
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Thank you for putting this into words, fuck I got wet reading this 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 05:02 AM
3

So you’re saying that a manly men will.... pressure a girl into sex when she doesn’t want it? You misread my comment
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 01:32 PM
10

I guess my definition of manly is self assured, confident. And that confidence doesn’t depend on how much pussy he gets. I find it really attractive and masculine when I tell him that I do not plan on having sex before marriage, he says ok, but continues to act just as confidently as before. I’m also not saying that a man HAS to stay with a girl who chooses to be celibate. I’m saying a manly men will respect her choice and not pressure her. He will then either take his leave, or stay and not che…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 05:12 AM
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Hi! I was raised religious but no longer place a huge priority on it, and I date mainly atheist men. I am also planning to be celibate til marriage. If they are worthy of being called a man, they will respect your choices FULL STOP. I have never had an issue with a guy pressuring me for sex. NEVER. And we’d do typical bf gf things like getting food, going on day trips, etc. For a man worthy of being called a man, the celibacy is not an issue and will usually increase his respect for you. Manly m…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/21 05:00 AM
2

LOL fair. But these girls will also vet for religious behavior. I’ve seen them reject guys because their faith wasn’t strong enough and they couldn’t respect their leadership in faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 03:10 PM
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I’m gonna have to disagree here. Girls at my church are super innocent and are watched like hawks even throughout college by church elders and adult church employees. I actually left Bc of how restrictive it was an how little freedom I as a girl had. Mate it’s called conservative Christianity and genuine faith. Look it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 02:02 PM
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The girls who care about maintaining virginity won’t marry a high n count man. They’re usually religious and will only be willing to date a religious man who is similarly chaste, or if he’s had a sexual encounter he is overwhelmingly repentant about it. If you want to be a hoe, don’t expect to settle with a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 06:22 AM
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I’m sorry to hear that. In this case though, you tried to figure out the reason and address your issues. That’s admirable! That IS working on yourself. Is this boyfriend doing the same? Does he try to figure out why he isn’t functioning normally?
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 07:11 PM
2

You already posted. We already gave you advice.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 05:19 PM
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Is it neurotic to organize things and be on top of tasks? Is it normal for someone to be bad at managing one’s time? Is someone dependable and thoughtful if they fail SEVERAL college classes? One, sure. Two, eh. SEVERAL? That shows a severe lack of critical thinking and a lack of desire to improve oneself. This is a dealbreaker to me. I recommend you think less about his salary and more about his behavior patterns that would make him a good captain and provider.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/21 05:19 PM
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DM me!
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 02:48 PM
3

Biker shorts are really common under skirts, lots of women’s advice blogs tell you to do this to prevent chafing and preserve modesty
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 02:42 AM
3

Whoa, you think Old navy is expensive?!! That’s literally cheapest of the things that will last past 2 washes. Go to high end malls, not malls in trashy neighborhoods. Crop tops and high waisted cover the same amount of skin as long tops and low waisted. I’m sorry you feel insecure about your bum, but leggings and jeans are totally different in terms of suggestiveness — a structured, high waisted straight jean looks much classier than a low waisted bootcut. Crop tops also don’t have to be under …
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 02:38 AM
2

If you want that, focus on your personality and your health/grooming, not on makeup and clothes.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 02:37 AM
2

Take a look at my later comments. Asian women will be SAHMs when and only when they start having children. But also, you’re the exception, not the rule. And, I like to do things for myself. God forbid I have a life outside of the home.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 12:20 AM
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Seriously, my friend just keeps her hair long and her skin clear and she has a nice bod and she gets tons of attention from men. Her daily uniform is just a women’s t-shirt and skinny jeans.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 05:03 PM
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Pro tip from r/femalefashionadvice: if you have a cute outfit that you want to wear out but are a little nervous to do so, go to the grocery store in it first. There’s no one you know, it’s a low stress environment, and people go to the grocery store at all times (after work, before a party, etc) so you won’t look out of place. Also, there’s tons of feminine things on trend right now. If you can’t find feminine clothing you’re not trying hard enough or basing your opinion of the market on other …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 04:57 PM
3

Midi skirts make you look shorter, a simple google search will tell you that. To look taller you need skirts above the knee. This isn’t immodest at all tbh.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 04:55 PM
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No no no. He is not doing enough. No matter how ugly your husband or wife gets they are your partner and you need to be doing your fair share. He should NOT have married you if you’re not his type??? So you are… trying to be a submissive wifey who respects her husband... and your husband isn’t doing anything to earn that respect and instead tells you you’re NOT HIS TYPE??? And your kids aren’t even your own and you’re their PRIMARY CARER??? Girl wakey wakey???
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 09:49 PM
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Girl. So many fat, anxious, unpleasant women are married and their husbands won’t leave them. Wtf makes you think your life ends at 30? Look at kdrama actors. Many are over 30. The wall is real, but real in the sense that mice in your home are real. To be dealt with, but not a catastrophe.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:11 PM
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You know what? You’re right. People want to marry someone of the same social class. So if a woman doesn’t go to college and instead goes to trade school, she’d be better off with a guy who also works in the trades. A degree is a sign of breeding and cultural values. There is no other way to indicate this. This makes having a degree extremely important. What people also forget is that college shapes who you are as a person. Call it liberal or whatever, but people who go to college have been expos…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:06 PM
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Your mistake is basing your worth off your SMV and value to a man. Who are you? (Don’t say wife, mother.) WHO are you, not WHAT are you? Until you find that self worth you will not feel secure in your marriage or in life.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:42 PM
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You’re not the demographic that women want to date then.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:59 PM
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I won’t have loans because I worked through college to cover my rent + food, and my parents covered the rest. If you come from a family that values education and saved up for you, do it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:57 PM
3

Well you’re a piece of work.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:40 PM
3

Both. Men in my social circle explicitly avoid women without a degree. I’d avoid a man without a degree because of those same reasons — as a middle class woman, getting a degree, as someone else on this thread mentioned, is “having your shit together.” No man or woman will date someone without a degree. Men in my circle will also explicitly seek out women with an engineering/medicine/law degree because of similar interests and because going through these degrees is a sign of toughness and grit. …
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:07 PM
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I know some Asian SAHMs but that’s after the woman has already completed a PhD and after the first child is born and only if the grandparents are not in the US. I would like to marry someone within my culture because I highly value it so this is the way. It isn’t just status. It’s the dual income to lead a prosperous life in the Bay Area (super expensive, but also chock full of the East Asian diaspora.) Our families lived through the cultural revolution. They were all of them dirt poor until the…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 01:59 PM
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I do know a lot. My parents raised me well. You seem preoccupied with yourself. Narcissism isn’t hot. Edit: Guy above me originally had the comment “you seem to think you know a lot 👍”
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 02:16 AM
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We don’t care about one specific man’s preferences. We care about sustaining ourselves when we don’t have a man. We care about appealing to educated men. You don’t sound like the type of man I’d like to date.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 01:47 AM
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Having a career/degree is important. End of story.
/r/RedPillWives25/06/21 01:25 AM
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Is there something wrong with having a career for financial independence, meeting someone with similar interests and financial background, and cutting down hours after marriage? I’m curious what type of men you’re finding and how you’re finding them — I’m exposed to HVM in my career daily and these men won’t frequent places where single women without a degree hang out. If they do, it’s LVM in bars.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 11:16 PM
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Absolutely agree! “Men do not care about your career” != “you should not care about your financial independence and/or career” But also, men absolutely care about your career. High achieving middle class Asian men in my area won’t date a girl with no white collar engineering/medical/law aspirations. Their parents will not accept you as their DIL if you’re not accomplished in that right. Since that is the demographic I want to look for, it’s just as well that I’m a software engineer. Other areas …
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 10:49 PM
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Once again, I’m reiterating that I’m not doing these things to be attractive, I have other areas that I work on for that. It’s to prevent me from falling for someone below my level of competency. I am XYZ and I’m a normal woman, so if a man is less than XYZ it’s not that high of a standard to expect him to be XYZ. you can rail about biology all you want, but I’m going to do what I want, and that’s going to make me happier than being a simpering dainty girly girl.
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 07:12 PM
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Indian food
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 04:45 PM
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I think what you’re missing is that OP and I would really much rather be single than find someone who doesn’t match our criteria. Sure, life is better with a man, but it’s livable and enjoyable without one too. My social circle is made exclusively of men who earn approximately my salary or higher. It would legitimately be difficult to find someone with a similar cultural background and life credo who earns significantly less. I don’t want to make decisions out of desperation or fear of being alo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 04:40 PM
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My point is not that by doing these things I will attract someone similar, but that it is a rational litmus test for my standards. The key here is realistic. If I’m expecting a 6/6/6 guy, and I’m overweight and unmotivated, that’s unrealistic. But if I want an attractive guy over 5’7 with a stable career who is around my age and shares my (relatively liberal) views, I myself should have a stable career and my shit together. This comment assumes every man is looking for a SAHM or something entire…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 11:32 AM
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100% agree on intercourse. I do like cuddling though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/21 02:59 AM
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This is very relevant info, thanks for mentioning it! At this point it’s a bit out of depth for me but maybe add it to your original post so others can help!
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/21 02:34 AM
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That is a fair point. Porn addiction is not the same as casual use.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 10:00 PM
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Stay single for now. You will treat yourself much better than a random man will. Eat healthy. Sleep well. Eventually find a man who will enrich your life, not detract from it like this past relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:54 PM
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It’s only been 3 months. Why are you dating someone who has 15 years of experience on you but is evidently only a similar level of capability as you? What else has he been spending these 15 years on? I wouldn’t be able to respect this guy because there’s nothing that he’s earned my respect for from what you’ve told us. Date a man you can respect. Edit: to the downvoters, grow a pair and tell me exactly what is wrong with this view. OP isn’t married. Do we stop vetting 1 month into the relationsh…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:53 PM
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You disagree that it is dehumanizing. Yet popular porn simply shows women as props for the expression of sexual desire by men. There is straight porn that shows sexy, mutually consenting, sensual desire, but it’s rare and hard to find. You can look up incestual rape and how its rise is linked to the prevalence of stepsister/stepbrother porn. Humans will find intercourse and porn hot, we’re biologically programmed to. But only reinforcing the aggressive aspects of sex is not good.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:45 PM
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Anger issues are a precursor to abuse. I’ve seen it too often to unlink the two.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:15 PM
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a HVM isn’t defined by wealth. A HVM is defined by moral character. One can progress from LVM to HVM through self improvement and work on himself, but until he reaches a point of self control, he is still LVM. There is no such thing as an abusive HVM.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:10 PM
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Ah, I could talk all day about the military-industrial complex. The issues you raise are indeed horrible! And I don’t see why we accept the fact that beautiful works of art are somehow less than brutish strength or tactical strategy. You are very valid to have these complaints. Try to cultivate an inner dialogue contrary to society. Society says X, but I say Z. Society thinks women are worthless, I believe women are priceless. It will be difficult, but it will be better for your mental health. B…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:06 PM
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It is pathetic for a woman to read romance all day. The difference is, most porn is violent and dehumanizing towards women. Romance novels simply show handsome, chivalrous, kind men. The two are not equal.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:03 PM
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Yes — but anger issues can be addressed. Porn addiction can be addressed. Unchecked and unabashed practice of these issues is a major red flag and OP is not unreasonable for setting boundaries there.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 09:01 PM
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A master potter could not be a decorated general. An accomplished general could not be a master potter. Consider looking into crafting history to gain appreciation of the arts. Consider reading feminist history to gain an appreciation of women and the work that they have done. Every woman can pop out kids, not every woman can be a good mom. Every man can be a sperm donor, not every man can be a good father. The reason why this sub rarely ventures out of the scope of relationships is because outs…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:57 PM
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Ok, I agree with the parent comment. Please go to therapy. Where do pots come from? A potter. Where do babies come from? A woman. What is the ideal of beauty and love? The goddess Aphrodite. Do you want to be a powerful, abusive man? Power does not equal goodness. Just because you don’t value something doesn’t mean it’s not important.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:40 PM
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Basic decency and a will to self improve is not too high of a standard. All the problems OP listed are not going to be issues for a HVM
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:38 PM
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Lack of strong male role models and “average guy getting hot girl” media. Read JRR Tolkien for good male role models. They definitely existed, fictional characters don’t exist in a vacuum. It is not too high of a standard to expect a man with similar values and behaviors to you. And yeah, there are a disappointingly high amount of men around me with the issues you’ve described, so while you should always be growing and improving, you’re allowed to hold men to the same standards you set for yours…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:37 PM
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It absolutely isn’t.
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:22 PM
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Oops op I responded to you in a higher thread level. Take a look at my comment in this chain!
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:22 PM
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I don’t think OP is trans. I think she suffers from internalized misogyny, which to be fair, who wouldn’t? The messaging I got as a kid was that blue was for boys, but it was ok for a girl to wear it. However pink was girly and it was shameful for a guy to wear it. It’s okay for a woman to exhibit aggression, but shameful for a guy to exhibit tenderness. It’s always been masculine traits that are uplifted and feminine traits that have been degraded. You tell a woman that she’s not smart or ambit…
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 08:21 PM
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Answer my last question
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 03:14 PM
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Why did you start an online relationship with him? Why do you think you’re having sex issues after only 3 months? The first 6 mo should be easy and honeymoon-y, the fact that there’s issues after only 3 months requires you to think hard about this situation. What is wrong with men in your social group that you feel the need to start a relationship with someone not even physically close with you?
/r/RedPillWomen23/06/21 05:28 AM
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Hey good luck! Apartments and adulting is hard in the beginning but you’ll get the hang of it. The reason why I assert that homemaking is a skill that everyone can learn and that is not terribly difficult is because I’ve been living independently for over 2 years now, and now I’m the “mom” of my house with 6 people. Large chores get split up between people but I’m the person doing daily sweeping/putting random stuff away, doing miscellaneous dishes that people forget about, and I also did the de…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 07:09 PM
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You definitely don’t have to be passionate! I mean, you should definitely derive some satisfaction or pleasure, but it doesn’t need to feel all-encompassing or overwhelmingly positive. For me, I love it when all my test cases pass and something I built works! I enjoy debugging parties with friends when there’s snacks and we’re complaining and everyone shares a common struggle but we all secretly enjoy it. But a lot of the time I also think CS is a bit of a slog and while I can think “oh hm this …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 06:05 PM
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Hm that’s fair but my brother and I were 2.5 years apart and our parents didn’t upgrade to a 2 bedroom apartment til I was 6 and we turned out just fine. Maybe we were just very well behaved babies. My parents do insist that we have kids early and be frugal about it and upsize once the kids actually do need space. Both of them are also very against age gap marriages, not just for potential power imbalance but also for the fact that they believe both parents should be at a similar level of fitnes…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 03:09 PM
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My peers can? A 25-30 year old should be able to support a wife and a baby or two, no one needs luxurious housing for that, a one bedroom apartment is just fine until the kids are 4-5ish
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 01:42 PM
1

Oops thanks for catching that. Maybe it’s just where you are but in my demographic (younger millennials, older gen z, California) not changing your name is the norm unless you’re super religious.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 10:32 PM
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Older, yes. 2-5 years is perfect. A generation older? Hell no
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 10:23 PM
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So our job is to hamster away all the possible problems this guy has and encourage OP to go for it? Sure, this guy is pursuing what’s best for him. That doesn’t mean it’s what’s best for OP. Being red pill aware doesn’t mean “sympathize with the poor older man ruined by feminism boo hoo.” This is a woman’s community and we need to be aware that OP is 24, prime age, and she could do SO MUCH BETTER than a 40 year old. THIS is the time for her to be picky and select the best 25-30 year old guy arou…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 10:21 PM
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If it really was the norm, wouldn’t the process be easier for women changing their surnames? You really have to consider, is your ego worth having your wife fight with insurance companies 6 years down the line just to prove that she oh so respects your manlihood? Chinese people so respect their family that the family name comes first when introducing themselves. For example, John Smith wouldn’t be a thing. It’d be Smith John, Doe Jane, etc. Consider also that Chinese families have traditionally …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 10:09 PM
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If you want to talk about the path of least effort, jumping through hoops and fighting with companies to recognize your “new” name IS the unnecessary fighting. Thank god I’m Chinese and family cohesion has nothing to do with the wife’s surname.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 09:06 PM
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Yeah absolutely. I hear a lot on here about how “men are attracted to youth and fertility” as some sort of justification for going after much younger women, but mature men also prioritize being able to relate to their spouses and having a meaningful, deep connection with mutual respect.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 05:38 AM
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It sounds pretty recent if it’s within the past year. Recall, he rejected the model because SHE DIDNT WANT KIDS NOW. He wants kids ASAP. Also — the 9 year LTR — of marriage had been on his mind... why didn’t he propose 2 years in?
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 03:13 AM
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Obsession since first date is a red flag for me. Healthy people don’t attach to others that quickly. Asking you to be his girlfriend after ONLY ONE MONTH is also red. The age gap is a red flag. If he is such a standup guy, where are the women in their thirties and forties that he’s interested in/ that are interested in him? I wouldn’t necessarily trust what he says about his dating history either. My take: he’s only now starting to think of marriage, children etc. He sees you, a young and fertil…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 12:47 AM
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Oh that’s rude lol, but absolutely that’s how I feel in relationships too
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 07:29 PM
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Ahhh I love seeing a happily married bi woman in a loving wholesome domestic life, you give me hope 🥺🥺🥺
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 07:05 PM
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Aren’t men supposed to lead and be competent? His room should be even tidier than his sister’s. Men and women are not two halves of a whole — there’s a reason we are born separate. Both your children should be independently functioning adults, ie your daughter should be able to do basic repairs around the house + car, and your son should definitely know how to cook and feed himself + impress a date with his steak. (Seriously, men who cook well are way more attractive than men who don’t, masculin…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 02:52 PM
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Yeah, it’s a general trend not an absolute rule. Happy for you both!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:13 PM
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Then their disadvantage isn’t that they’re Indian, but some other facet of their body or personality. Claiming their race is a cop out instead of changing what they can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:06 PM
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Asian culture doesn’t mesh well with white culture. A lot of Indian guys I know only go for Indian girls, or East Asian if Indian doesn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 11:06 PM
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It was an analogy for healthy desserts. But as a side note, yes, exclusively, as an Asian woman I’m only attracted to pan-Asian men. Befuddles the mind when some Indian guy comes on here and complains that being Indian is a disadvantage. The skin tone, face structure, body hair is chefs kiss
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:21 PM
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It’s not bitterness, just realism. Ice cream (most) men are awesome as friends. For relationships you’re gonna have to go for Asian desserts because they’re healthier, but less common in most supermarkets and thus harder to find.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:12 PM
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Nah, men are like ice cream. Delicious and wonderful in small amounts, but bad for your health in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/21 10:02 PM
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Math is one of the most mentally rigorous and taxing disciplines in the universe. Your husband must be a very intelligent man. As a university student, we think of accomplished professors as rockstars. Maybe frame it in the way that he’s some sort of A-list actor? Your concern that he’s not focused on providing, however, is very real and valid. Have you brought up these concerns before? Do you yourself work / help contribute financially to the household? If it’s all on him that’s more serious th…
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/21 09:55 PM
2

I’m by no means encouraging you to work if you hate working, but it sounds to me like you hate your job, not the fact that it’s work outside the home. Have you tried other jobs in your field?
/r/RedPillWives18/06/21 01:56 PM
3

I’m a college student and have always cooked for two. Myself, and myself tomorrow lunch. Just double the portion of whatever you’re making.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 03:19 PM
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But then their childhood sweethearts also stay with them, therefore no hypergamy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 03:35 AM
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You first.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:32 AM
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There are plenty of “guys” who would be “okay” with a relationship... if a relationship is just free sex with minimal effort. We’re talking quality men who actively pursue a mutually beneficial relationship. The two are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 02:32 AM
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Getting a relationship minded man is different than getting a slutty man. Slutty men will look for scantily dressed, “easy” women. Relationship minded men will look for a more mature, attractive, dignified woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 12:33 AM
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— for a hookup. We’re talking relationships buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 10:53 PM
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Not a dominant chad. East/South Asian guys are my favorite, 5’7 and above, the type that opens doors and gets between me and possible threats. Like they label themselves as Brads tbh based on height/career/charisma but I’ve crushed on them way harder than I have on Chads.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:35 PM
1

Finding a man who’s not super religious who’s willing to wait til marriage for penetrative sex. I’m Christian but not super gung ho fundamentalist, but I still want to wait til marriage for sex. I’m a legit virgin, like I’ve kissed and made out and groped/been groped a little and I know enough about how I react to physical touch to know that I don’t want to feel those bonding hormones (that come with sex) with anyone else other than someone I’m committed to for life. A lot of guys are scared off…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 08:10 AM
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Hmm... another example I can give is my friend’s roommate who is an English lit major who found her engineering SO on online dating. I think the qualities that make that work is that they both are from a more “redneck” tradcon area of California so they’re incentivized to go for a more settled life and they’re planning to get married soon while they’re still in their early twenties. Yes, they’re both white. But this is highly unlikely. Idk what ethnicity you’re from but you sound South Asian, an…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 08:37 PM
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I have multiple examples of homemakers with happy families, and some without. The wives that are happiest are of similar age to their husbands, and have advanced degrees (PhD in math/electrical engineering) and they met their husbands in college in the same major. They then gave up their careers after having children but are still super involved in the advanced STEM programs at their kids’ schools. As a child, I benefitted a lot from the work that some of these women did and I can attribute my s…
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/21 06:59 PM
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With all due respect, the original post came off as extremely fishy and clickbaity. I’ve seen a lot of other posts by women looking for friends but they seemed like normal women, not a walking collection of stereotypes. This seemed really odd and different because of how OP described themself (every tradcon stereotype), the age (18), and some other uncanny valley vibes. They also seemed much less mature than an 18 year old, which made it feel like it was an older person cosplaying as one. She al…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 11:00 PM
1

You don’t. Try making friends with women around you like a normal person.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 10:46 PM
1

Smells like LARPing and baiting to me
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/21 06:24 PM
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My mom initiated because if my dad walked out he could at least be court ordered to pay child support, since he wasn’t going to be around to do any parenting. He responded by going to another country so he couldn’t be held accountable. “Worse than an unbeliever is one who doesn’t provide for his own children.” Also, women tend to do the paperwork around the house. Booking appointments etc.It’s how it is even among co-Ed social groups, you’ll see the girls doing the legwork to handle logistics an…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 11:04 PM
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I have a few friends who also had single mothers. It was always the man who decided he wanted a younger woman, to “further his career” by moving across the world. I’ve never heard of a woman who’d willingly get rid of her coparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:15 PM
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Hm try again. My father ditched us because he didn’t want the responsibility of having kids. It was pretty unilateral. Even when my brother ran out to beg him to stay (he was 5) my father just shook him off and drove off. He also didn’t pay any child support and basically acted like we didn’t exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 01:12 AM
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Words are cheap. Don’t trust a man’s promises, trust his actions. And his actions led him to be married to a drug addict with a split family.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 09:33 PM
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There are probably 10 men I can name who are “really good guys” right now. They are PLENTY. His downsides are bigger than most downsides. Most men will maybe enjoy video games a little more than is ideal, women will be a little obsessed with social media, these are common faults for young people. His downsides are enormous, glaring burdens that, as a fellow 21 y/o raised by a single parent, I will say are TERRIBLE FOR YOU AND YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.
/r/RedPillWomen04/06/21 09:32 PM
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I have many outdoor cats and the common association between women and cats is true — after interacting with my cats I feel calmer, more elegant, dainty, but also powerful and secure in my own being. Be like a cat :) Update: I read the folktale, and while it is a good lesson, men are more dangerous than tigers in that one has to actually live with them. I come from a family where my father was abusive to my mother. No manner of femininity will stop a man from being violent when he wants to be. So…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/21 11:20 PM
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Not OP but am also 20s woman. Around 18-24 men would be normal for that age range of women. Any more and there’s an uptick in life experience that will be the cause of a maturity imbalance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 10:41 PM
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Do you think medieval women just laid around and did nothing? They work just as hard as the men and they were valued for how they could contribute to the household in that way. Labeling everything as PC when it’s simply a compliment that’s not shallow is really snowflake behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/21 06:29 AM
3

This exactly. I love compliments about the things I care about and take pride in — my work ethic, my occupation, my clothes. Never compliment a woman’s natural attractiveness casually. Only in a romantic context. Compliment things that women have control over.
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/21 06:28 AM
1

Please treat her kindly. Pickme’s suffer a lot from being taken advantage of because they have trouble enforcing boundaries. If she looks uncomfortable don’t push her to do anything (sexual or non sexual). I’m speaking as a former pickme myself. You need to lead and set the pace, don’t dive all in just because she wants to.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:27 PM
1

You know that it’s super easy for a woman to attract a guy. This includes good, bad, meh, etc. being a pickme is just going with the first guy that wants you. That’s a REALLY LOW BAR considering the amount of attention women get. If a pickme throws herself at you, it’s because you gave her attention that she lacks in her life. It doesn’t mean you’re a good guy. It doesn’t mean you’re good for her. It means you happen to be male and you happened to give her attention. Why would you want a pickme …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 04:11 PM
72

Strength is not muscles. Strength is mental fortitude. Strength is a mother tiger. Strength is holding fast to your morals and boundaries. Strength is not tolerating bullshit. Strength is shutting shit down if you’re uncomfortable. Strength needs rest and needs time to recharge. I know many of us want to curl up in a man’s arms and feel safe and protected. But the truth is, we do not exist exclusively to serve a man. We are born separate for a reason. Strength is genderless, and strength is attr…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 03:10 PM
1

Pickme’s usually have mental health issues that lead them to choose being picked over waiting for a healthy relationship. They have trouble upholding their boundaries. They are overeager to please and don’t have personal goals. They center their lives around pleasing their man. This is dangerous because the man can sense this and, since the pickme is bad at vetting, the man usually isn’t very high value in the sense that he’s not of good character. He takes advantage of the pickme. You’ll see po…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 03:09 PM
2

Yeah I mean he was also an entitled asshole so she left him LOL. The point is, it doesn’t take much to attract a pickme.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:39 AM
2

Hm no I told you about average looking guys who had consecutive girlfriends. Average chubby chuckleheads can get a pickme if they just give half a damn more about her than anyone else in her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/21 06:12 AM
11

That’s.... why you made this post. I know you don’t know. Google it.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 07:30 AM
41

No. That might be a sign of nearing squirting though?
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 07:25 AM
2

Makeup and clothes are performance art. It’s perfectly normal to want to be comfortable at home. It’s also extremely unhealthy to fantasize about a man unendingly. Other than that, what exactly is wrong with your feminist friends? Is your life that boring to where all you can talk about is some hypothetical future husband? Some socialization is better than no socialization. Even tradcon friends would be concerned for you if everything on your mind was about courtship and marriage. No man in his …
/r/RedPillWives24/05/21 07:23 AM
3

Where did you learn how to mind read?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:14 AM
9

Tech nerds who can’t get pussy are the worst. They end up on TRP and get aggressive and pushy and dangerous without reading the very important fact that they need to get a life of their own first. Men who don’t have options only have themselves to blame. I’ve seen very meh guys have consecutive girlfriends simply because they were really good at something, were passionate about it, and had a visible drive and purpose. If you don’t have that then why would anyone want to date you? Men need to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:13 AM
2

Strict Asian parenting in an overwhelmingly lax American environment will breed a lot of resentment towards parents and lead to mental health issues down the line. Don’t go for Asian women unless you’re willing to learn their culture and help pass it down. Source: am Asian woman who is fucked up because of strict parents White men look all innocent but then they’ll expect you to be submissive just because you happen to be Asian lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 07:11 AM
3

I love your approach to the children — it would have meant the world to have this done for me when I was younger.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/21 04:52 PM
32

Expand on the addiction. If you are scared of him and he knows this and continues to act like this around you, HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:50 PM
3

It does feel trivial to just be reduced to a baby making machine and maid and sex toy. One thing I like to remind myself is that the social nature of women is the societal glue of humanity. Without that, there’s no point in men fighting for honor, because there’s nothing to fight for without a loving, harmonious society. And women create that. You don’t need to be a submissive SAHM to be a woman. You can absolutely own your femininity, whatever that means to you (sexual bombshell, aloof and eleg…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 04:35 AM
2

It turns out part of the anxiety I felt about this date was because. I’m straight up not attracted to white guys. It’s always like “is he hot or is he just white?” And turns out white features just read as very flat and neutral and something I personally can’t appreciate. Our romantic personalities also didn’t align. He was definitely a great guy and as were in the same major we are going to continue being friends.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/21 07:21 AM
1

Take a look at quiet-orchid’s comment for a more detailed explanation!
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 11:34 PM
1

Thanks so much for your detailed response! It’s super helpful ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 11:33 PM
1

It’s wanting us for the “look” but making that the biggest part of your attraction. It’s wanting the aesthetic but not bothering to appreciate and learn our culture and deal with trauma from our Asian parents. It’s only taking the superficial nice parts about us and ignoring the part that makes us human.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/21 11:32 PM
3

GOOD BOT
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 04:50 AM
4

My mother is awesome objectively — she worked hard as a single mother to raise myself and my brother (with a good sprinkle of turning me into a second parent) then married my stepdad when I was 11. After that she prioritized his comfort and his emotional well being over mine. It was always “be more empathetic with how shitty stepdad’s childhood was” instead of recognizing that he was ruining my childhood with his sensitivity, OCD, and anger issues. I’ve never heard her care one bit about my emot…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/21 04:46 AM
3

No men’s questions. No one wants to interact with someone who can’t express themselves clearly.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/21 07:47 PM
27

Didn’t work for me. The kinder and sweeter I became the more he stepped over my boundaries. This was luckily a short term relationship so I ended it. If your partner is violating so many of your boundaries, then he is not a good man. “He is not a bad man” is the bare minimum of existence in a human society. “He is not a bad man” means he doesn’t kill or rape or go out of his way to be cruel. That doesn’t mean he is a good man. Every man has potential. That doesn’t mean he will realize it. You ar…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 10:02 PM
4

For “how to give true sympathy” this should be mandatory reading for both genders. I’m a woman and it makes me froth at the mouth whenever someone tries to talk me down from a problem by minimizing it. Just because it seems trivial to you doesn’t mean it is trivial for me. It’s the biggest turn off when a man does it, and I emotionally distance myself from female friends who do it. Also offering solutions isn’t going to help me be less upset. If it was simply a technical or logistical issue, I m…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 02:44 AM
1

It’s definitely a weird term LOL — I think it’s a bit tongue in cheek and supposed to point out how racist / fetishist white men who exclusively go after Asian women are
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/21 09:45 PM
5

Not “a lot” but enough. Like housewife is 24/7 so I was hoping to see men who understood service as being part of leadership and taking on their share after their 9-5 job. Because leadership isn’t just task delegation, it’s actively seeing if their followers need a boost here and there and putting in the time to make it happen.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/21 06:00 PM
1

What is your husband doing to take care of the house? I’m assuming he lives there too — 2 young children and the needs of the entire house takes far more work than any wage earning job. I don’t mean this in a 50/50 way but it’s really concerning that you’re burnt out this way and I want to see how a Rp lifestyle works where the guy also takes responsibility around his home.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/21 09:06 AM
2

Thank you so much! Will definitely try to relax about this a little more
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 09:52 PM
2

From California, grew up in a college town. Liberal leaning political view. Most of his friends are Asian by nature of being in an Asian-dominated major, but he’s also worryingly enthusiastic about Korean culture. (I’m Chinese and he knows this lol)
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 09:38 PM
2

gotcha. thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 05:54 PM
4

gotcha, thanks! I'm just scared because I roomed with a girl one summer who had no clue her bf had yellow fever until they were in a relationship for like a year. I don't want to be in her situation and I'm a bit jumpy because I don't do well in white culture situations (Asians tend to be more blunt and honest whereas white ppl may be more polite but you don't know what they're thinking)
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 08:51 AM
6

yeah so – how do you tell one has yellow fever without getting too involved?
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/21 06:15 AM
21

Do you have other mentors in the field? My family and social circle includes female doctors who also have good families. Try talking to established neurologists.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/21 11:47 PM
33

This seems like advice to be a vulnerable doormat. God never told men to get a degree either. Jesus also told men to pluck their eyes out if they were lusting after other women.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/21 05:21 PM
1

^
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/21 08:54 PM
8

Be there when he needs you, but don’t smother him with attention out of your own guilt / need to nurture
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 11:48 PM
6

You’re not special lmao. Just bring up your fav artists if he asks
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 11:47 PM
3

Plenty of female dermatologists end up in happy marriages. Consider asking other female derms about how they work instead of coming to a reddit sub where people likely make under $100K
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 09:56 PM
3

Don’t feel bad about potentially hurting his feelings — if you want to improve your own behavior, do it for your peace of mind. Walking away would be better for your mental health so try approaching these situations from that angle rather than as a voyeur judging how your interactions may come off to someone else!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 08:03 PM
26

That’s also a really rude guy who you shouldn’t interact with in the first place shrug
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 06:27 PM
3

I see a lot of posts on here complaining how everything is cropped when it... really isn’t and you’re probably being too dramatic. I mainly shop from American Eagle, Old Navy, Express, and Target. AE for jeans, ON for activewear and dresses, Express for pants, Target for basic tops.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/21 12:26 AM
3

Yeah a lot of people in comments are saying how it’s an incredibly enlightening article but I don’t think it is. Not arguing with your male experience, this article just seems to make a mountain out of a molehill.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 08:53 PM
14

Yeah so my issue with this article is how it paints sex as a super emotional bonding act for men when really it’s... not, across the board. Sometimes it is bonding and sometimes it isn’t, we already knew that, nothing special is drawn from this article.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 07:18 AM
-7

In that case, women should attach more emotional value to sex. It clearly means much more to women than to men if you’re willing to sleep around.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 03:48 AM
1

I like the idea of cooking for my boyfriend, but that doesn’t make me a better girlfriend than one who doesn’t. It’s irritating that “cooking” is listed as a requirement for a high value woman when it usually isn’t for a man. Cooking is an act of love, and to emphasize it more in women is insulting to men. It almost sounds like “men, you don’t know how to cook and you’re too stupid to learn, so don’t even bother”
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 03:45 AM
7

So men feel emotionally replenished by plates? This makes no sense — either sex is incredibly special and a connecting event for a man across all experiences, or men just happen to be hornier. Make it make sense.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 03:29 AM
1

He sounds like both a jock and a nerd. They aren’t exclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 08:15 PM
1

You probably do have an unhealthy obsession with her — this story is very one sided. She gave you reasons and those are valid. Work out, get fit, have confidence in yourself instead of the opinions of others.
/r/RedPillWives30/04/21 06:03 PM
9

HVM isn’t good looks or current income. My peers earn hundreds of thousands of dollars straight out of college. Shitbags and good people among them. Good looking and ugly. Those are a dime a dozen where I go to school. I want good men, not money banks.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 09:15 AM
17

Wtf no — high value is all innate — a man’s drive, honor, confidence, ease. I’ve seen 5’3 men have success with girls because of these qualities.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 06:41 AM
22

Not stats wise but also a kind, good man, wise, and generous. Generous to children and the poor, good with animals, laid back, secure in his masculinity and unthreatened by a woman’s education/job — where did you find this type of man?
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 03:34 AM
1

Children can see when their mother is unhappy. It hurt me so much to see my mother stay with my father even when it wasn’t working for her, and even though it was hard after they separated it felt as if a dark cloud had been lifted from our family. Your daughter will learn that settling for someone unwilling to work on themselves is a good and normal thing to do, just as I learned that emotionally unavailable men are partners I should be ok with. Be a good model to your children, especially your…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/21 02:44 AM
6

Agree on everything except the last part — it’s her business, not a family business.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/21 02:37 AM
13

You need to be invested and believe in your product in order to grow your business. Doubting yourself will not help you succeed career wise. One would never tell a male CEO to think less of his product. Why should you? The issue isn’t your belief in your product but rather your sense of self. You can think you’ve made the best thing since sliced bread, but if you think that YOU are the best thing since sliced bread then that’s a problem. Your boyfriend’s complaint is YOUR ego, not your belief in…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 10:41 PM
2

Aerie underwear used to have cute and comfy basics, they’re still cute but the quality seems to be getting worse. I’m also on the hunt for seamless, comfy, high rise panties that are also durable and cute.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 10:28 PM
11

Your academics should be your top priority. Anything else is getting in the way — bowling, working, boyfriend. Fix your mental health and fix YOURSELF first before you think about building a life with someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 07:46 PM
33

You’re right that this is crap content. It’s good once in a while for those who need a kick in the pants, but if you’re already doing well, this is really bad for you. Please leave these subs and focus on living your own life.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/21 04:09 PM
2

Stop dating men until you're a grown woman.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 11:14 PM
8

Yeah I'm really confused as to why so many people are genuinely surprised by this. As a girl (I was 12) you're always told you're too fat (spoiler: i was nowhere near overweight, I was simply not stick skinny petite), too ugly, you don't dress pretty or feminine enough. Boys have simply been too coddled.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 08:01 PM
6

you have to be an adult, not a child.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 07:50 PM
2

Got it, thanks! I read the chart too – "Lady" is the name of the type. It's right on the dot that I have zero clue how to embrace my sexuality haha. It took a bit of digging to find the links but I found it! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/21 12:08 AM
3

I think she is trustworthy because George married her and they have stayed married. Trust takes time to build and it cannot be built with anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 08:52 PM
6

With that many assets, overemphasizing looks in a spouse would be a foolish move by george. one will need a partner who is intelligent, capable, and trustworthy and we simply do not know how these qualities are distributed among famous people. The trust that he has in Amal cannot be upgraded.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 07:31 PM
12

That’s... why I specified hookups separately. I understand the want to experiment.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 05:03 PM
2

Ooooof mother is my main one. I hate being mommy girlfriend, how do I fix that in my relationships?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 04:11 PM
25

I’m 21. Anything over 5 is a big red flag. I’ve never had sex and I expect my partners to only have had sex within a LTR with maybe 1 or 2 hookups total.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 03:47 PM
57

Analyzing celebrities is pointless. You know nothing about them except for what crumbs they feed you. Blue pilled doesn’t mean bad or unfeminine.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 03:45 PM
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Never stop vetting until you’re married. I trust that you believe your fiancé is a good man, but you’re extremely young. I’m only 21 and 19 is NOT an age where most unscarred women are mature enough to make this significant of a life decision. Be kind, not naive. Finish college. You seem like you already try to be the best fiancée you can be which is great. Eat healthy and work out. Maintain good relationships with your friends and family. Wishing you health and happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/21 03:09 AM
3

No one has said this yet, but get up and MOVE. You will be warm immediately after waking up, but you will never stay warm unless you frequently move around. Go for a 20-min brisk walk outside in your coat every few hours, then come back to your warm layers. Warm layers alone are not enough. Also, your extremities are important – wear warm socks and a beanie. Your head and feet are where you lose the most body heat. Edit: REALLY unsure why this was downvoted! Someone pls tell me where I went wron…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 03:49 AM
3

Don’t date those men? From my tech bro friends and online communities, they want a woman who can keep up with their passions because their work means a lot to them and they want to share that with their life partner. Also the general sentiment is that girly girls not doing STEM are very common. Men want rarity — they want a woman who succeeds despite facing setbacks who shared their interests. Most also believe the “men are better at STEM” thing is absolute poppycock. It’s a common line — if I f…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 04:35 PM
4

on the street is one thing – it's exclusively for his crude pleasure. you said it yourself – the yoga videos are not that extreme. your boyfriend is working out. Do you want to find some male yoga videos that are as good quality as the one he is watching? please get off those subs and forums! you will only see the things that you are looking for – if you feed yourself toxic media you will only see toxic things. I follow a youtuber's yoga/cardio workouts – she is slim and hot. Do I look at her so…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 09:01 PM
1

Whew mami you got some internalized misogyny going on there. A woman doing yoga is not “showing off her body” she’s exercising — and if she’s a good enough teacher then she’s teaching people ffs. Instead of viewing things through the lens of sex sex sex, reframe it in an appreciative and uplifting way. Wow, she is so powerful! Wow, she has worked so hard on her health and strength. It’s good that your boyfriend is working out and improving his flexibility too — men often neglect that. I want to …
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/21 08:25 PM
0

You really underestimate his character. Shame on you.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 03:56 PM
3

Thanks for the detailed reply! I love seeing your posts and comments btw :)
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/21 08:39 AM
-2

Be blunt, how else are you going to get there? “Hey, I’m interested in seeing you romantically. What about you?”
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 12:30 AM
-1

Go for walks outdoors with masks on. You can have interesting dates entirely outdoors.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 11:09 PM
3

Your oldest is 16, this is when people try thinking for themselves and not follow their parents as much. It’s necessary in becoming an independent adult. It’d be concerning if her beliefs lined up with yours at this age lol. Let her make her own choices — RPW works, but so do many egalitarian marriages. Please be there as support — one day she may turn around and ask for advice.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 03:35 PM
19

RP stuff as a girl was harmful to myself and many young women I know. Childhood isn't the age where you tell girls to settle for less than ideal behavior of boys. It isn't the age where you tell girls that their purpose in life is to be a homemaker. It is the age where I wish I was encouraged to dream and reach for the stars and play and get dirty in the mud and to have a lot of self worth in my own person, not how I related to boys and men. Avoid romantic fantasies at all costs. It is as harmfu…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 05:10 AM
3

Hmm... it sounds like you have an issue with tidiness, not coziness. Don’t buy anything to fill up the space if it’s already limited. What helped for me (I live in a 2b2b with 3 other girls) was having a place for everything that was universally acknowledged — this means that your partner needs to be on board with where things go as well <— IMPORTANT. After you’re done using something, put it away. If you changed out of jeans into pjs, fold it and put it away. If you used scissors, place it back…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 03:50 AM
1

Great post! I’d suggest replacing (1) with anything spiritual — your religion, being in tune with yourself and other people around you, including witchy things if you’re into that as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 03:43 AM
12

if a man is interested, you will know. if he is not, you will be confused.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 02:48 AM
1

yup as a woman I will say that sometimes I'll go to tinder for validation lmao *yes this is unhealthy, yes therapy is on my calendar when I am looking for someone though, turn ons are: - responds in a timely manner but also in a way that shows he has a life outside of tinder thirst – typically a few hours. anything over 10 hours shows he isn't actually interested and I have cancelled dates because the guy wouldn't respond fast enough for me to get a confirmation on my calendar and i had already …
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 02:47 AM
2

I definitely think the author of FW makes many good points. But examples of successful marriages are very rarely found between wildly successful individuals. One spouse almost always suffers. Normal people who live honest and healthy lives are probably the best role models.
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 01:03 AM
5

Pre-homework: have conversations with the female friends in your life who you are not romantically attracted to. Talk to your mother and your sister. Have a conversation with them about anything — how their day was, what they’re currently working on in life, normal human stuff. After you spend some weeks or months speaking to women you are not romantically interested in, THEN go on tinder. Do: be honest. Do not: “hi” “hey” “what’s up” as the first line Do: ask for what you want Do not: lie about…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 12:58 AM
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These historical examples conveniently leave out Sofia’s side of the story. I don’t doubt that FW is a worthwhile read, but it could do without the leaps of logic based on limited historical information. Leo married Sofia when he was 34 and she was 18 — there is already an unfavorable power dynamic there. He had sexual relations with many other women and TOLD HER ABOUT IT the night they got married. He fathered a child by another woman. Sofia was his copyist — she wasn’t exactly an awful wife. Y…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 11:53 PM
2

I don’t see why people are downvoting OP. She’s answering genuinely and this is one of the more trad leaning spaces which she may have been used to.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 03:56 AM
3

Are you able to go back to your parents if you’re single?
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 11:58 PM
2

ah, gotcha! It seems that RPW praises this book a lot so I thought it was the guiding philosophy of this subreddit.
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 07:50 PM
9

I read about Mumtaz - what sort of domestic qualities did she have? She was literally an empress – I doubt she knew much about housekeeping. She had a lot of children but that was a result of their "erotic, passionate" love and a lack of birth control. Many died. How would you suggest balancing what men find valuable and women find valuable in oneself? Being the perfect woman for men is one pursuit, but erases a lot of the human value that women appreciate in each other – the artistic traits, th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/21 04:53 PM
2

already got mine. anything I can do for a normal school year – i miss campus and the little social interactions each day.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/21 07:02 AM
5

awesome! Seems like a sister sub to FDS but more self esteem + self improvement focused, I like it! thanks!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/21 03:37 AM
15

He’s putting the responsibility of his emotional state on you — this is NOT healthy. An emotionally mature man would proactively suggest an activity for you both to do to take his mind off of things. It’s not your job to read his mind. I’ve been with enough guys who do this when they’re upset to know that no matter how handsome or charming they are, it is not worth being his therapist. He will only lean on you more and more. If he needs to be consoled, console him. If he wants to hang out with y…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/21 02:38 AM
5

You want certainty and commitment and this man isn’t demonstrating that he’ll provide it. You are totally able to start over at 42 — it’ll be more difficult than in your mid 20s but plenty of older women in my life have found happiness with their second partner rather than the one they found in their naive youth.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 01:09 AM
15

this^^^ when girls date shitty men, their girlfriends try their best to point out better alternatives, which may piss them off but it's well meaning. give her the benefit of the doubt. if she's been your friend for a while, she usually has a vested interest in trying to make your life better. don't take this maliciously until you clarify.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/21 03:17 AM
1

As a Christian virgin who is friends with other Christian virgins, (repeated!!!) sexual immorality is a huge turn off... And typically only practicing Christians remain abstinent. Practicing Christians want to find other practicing Christians. good luck tho?
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/21 04:49 AM
20

My mom is a nurse and makes $80 an hour. More than just the grossness of it all, think about how much time you’re wasting chasing pennies instead of getting an actual secure job.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 09:22 PM
1

out of curiosity, as a religious person yourself, have you slept with any women?
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/21 04:55 AM
2

sounds like you actually have some self control and decency then, unlike some guys i've known who want to date virgins but pressure them into sex almost immediately. Still though – women who are virgins are usually religious, which prohibits men from having premarital sex as well. good luck finding an atheist virgin.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 09:38 PM
2

then don't have your future wife sleep with you until you are married, because until you are married, you're just another LTR that could end at any time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 09:19 PM
1

many hugs to you <3 be smart and kind, life will work out.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 05:10 AM
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You seem really honest and I’m sorry there are so many rude people commenting right now. I’m 20 years old and a virgin and I want a monogamous relationship for the security. I want to love someone and be with them for life because they are interesting, dependable, and loving. I want deep trust between myself and my partner that lasts. I want a stable home with children who never worry about their parents divorcing or having other adults in and out of their home. I’m ok with my partner sleeping w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 04:42 AM
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OP, look at this comment. There was a story on Reddit about a woman whose boyfriend burned a sentimental candle commemorating her deceased sister ON PURPOSE because that woman was becoming more independent, healthy, and capable. He wanted to throw her back into the “damsel in distress” mode.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/21 08:34 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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