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This is beautiful thank you for leaving this comment
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 12:40 AM
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I am not supporting her lying and claiming virginity if asked; I do not think it provides any value to share the exact count and fill yourself with shame due to your sexual past before a quality man. If you are ashamed, shame is what you will give off, and he will start pondering more about this. But if you phrase it as, “Yes, I engaged in sex with men before being saved, and since being saved, I have been abstinent,” then that in itself is the truth. This does not define your worth as a woman. …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/24 12:34 AM
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I do not fully understand this narrative. You become unworthy when you think you are unfit, which becomes the energy you give off. No one honestly needs to know your body count; forgive yourself if you regret them, and accept yourself if you do not regret it but are worried about finding a forever life mate. Trust me; a man who has discovered his wife will be grateful to find his wife! He who finds his wife finds a good thing and receives favor from the Lord. Additionally, if this becomes a big …
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/24 11:59 PM
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Yes, I was very into Red Pill Women and continue to share resources currently on many headliners in this area ( Laura Doyle, etc.) because some RPW advice is genuinely beneficial in helping women within marriage and understanding men’s needs. And then you have this side of the red pill, where obviously, deep spiritual work needs to be done by the men who engage in this undermining thought process and propel this narrative forward. Horrid Short version: I agree!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 04:54 PM
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It's completely delusional and very weak-minded thinking for a man. I am convinced men who think this way are profoundly insecure. The thought of their woman being with a better lover - ( both in physical attributes, penis size, and financial income) is SO terrifying to them that they make it an obsession to find a woman with a low body count to create safety measures for their DEEP insecurity and traumatic childhood. It's a bit sad, honestly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/24 10:26 AM
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This!!!!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/24 12:01 AM
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Life is so much easier this way!!! As a woman who married a man who makes me look good, - both physically and career-wise, life is just smooth sailing when it comes to social atmospheres
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 10:57 PM
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Great advice as always
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/23 11:54 AM
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Excellent post - thank you
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 12:32 AM
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👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 04:54 AM
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Excellent!!
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/23 08:34 AM
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I came here to write this. Unhinged and irrational
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/23 01:59 AM
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Beautiful
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 09:25 AM
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I'm in!!!
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 03:49 PM
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24 is not old I met my husband at 28, Married him at 29. Many women have walked your path and wasted years with an unsuitable partner only to find themselves on the other side (in their 30’s and single). It is a much better strategy to devote the next few years on finding your real captain. God/the universe/ whatever you believe in - presented you this man and opportunity to learn about the red pill. Use what you have learned, and go forth and find a man worth following. Best of luck
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/23 12:15 PM
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Great questions
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/23 02:04 PM
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OP questions I am asking myself as I'm reading your post, and I apologize in advance for the directness: 1) has your looks heavily altered over time? By this, not only do I mean high weight fluctuations but also effort into looks. Some people do rely heavily on the physical to continue their enchantment. Men are very visual; I wonder if your husband is one of these men but can’t pinpoint this with words. 2) does your husband listen to red pill content, which has changed his mindset on certain th…
/r/RedPillWives01/12/22 12:41 PM
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Excellent comment - I went ahead and bought the book.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/22 01:27 AM
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Your words of wisdom are always appreciated
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 10:10 AM
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Thank you for this. Her book “Marry Him! The case for settling for Mr. Good Enough” was a great read. I am surprised by the life choices she has made. But from reading her book it appears her wake up moment was after having a child and she noticed the grand change in her sexual market value, looks ect.
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/22 10:04 AM
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This is the best comment and it is 100% fact. It’s normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 08:46 PM
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Yes way to go for purrin your intentions out there! Wishing much success for you let us know how this week goes!
/r/RedPillWives25/07/22 02:23 AM
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It's unfair but such is life
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:22 PM
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Thank you! It doesn’t help that I’m very new to my city so we will see how finding my co workers go. 😅
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 03:40 AM
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Thank you for the advice! Correct I don’t have children yet! I am also leaving a demanding job that was not sitting well with my spirit and husband thought we could try this out. Can I ask what did you end up picking up and overall did you like being at home, or not so much. Did you feel like it made your relationship with your husband stronger and better in any way? Thanks again for chiming in with your thoughts it’s great to meet another women who went through something similar.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/22 03:32 AM
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Blue bell, respectfully, and I do mean this respectfully. Your husband cares. Men are visual creatures, he 100% cares. The only reason why he can’t be bothered to drive you to the orthodontist, or acts as if he doesn’t care, is because he does not want the added labor. He does not want to mentally deal with driving up your performance. The clothes, the doctor visits, the talks - he doesn’t want to deal with it. Hey, listen, Not all men are catering in this way, or want this responsibility, it is…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 01:45 PM
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Happy for you. Thank you for sharing ♥️♥️🌹
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:30 AM
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Honestly, to me it sounds like your husband is seeking high attention. Questions OP. How do you carry yourself - looks, physical care, house wardrobe? What are your husbands love languages and are you applying this to him? - I.e physical touch, words of affirmation, ect I agree with another poster, your husband does sound resentful to be the bread winner. He actually sounds resentful of the life you two live - which leads me to ask the question on looks, physical care and love language. As women…
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/22 07:25 AM
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Speak it!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 04:38 AM
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OP you shouldn’t tell potential prospects your situation. I almost got suckered in here when I was in the dating world, and told my boyfriend at the time( who was also an “entrepreneur”) my money situation and then he started making plans with my money for his ventures!!! He mentally started making them and let it slip verbally down the line! Lol trust me OP, these men are smart. Be mindful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 12:50 AM
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People talk all the time about what they are going to do, what they are going to receive. The reality is that he has not self actualized. He’s 34 years old and broke. That is ok, but that is the reality currently. We do not know if he will succeed. We have his track record to look at, and he hasn’t. Given his track record, I’m not sure if he will succeed the way you want in a man. You should ask yourself if you would be ok if he only stays within a minimum bracket (making 40k-70k). Some women ar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 01:03 PM
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Yes I achieved all my goals and then some. Married, slowly climbing to the top 1%, very attractive husband, great apartment. Right now I’m just working on being the best wife possible, slow down on things I know I need to slow down on, get my butt back in the gym and have a clean home/food in the table when hubby gets home. I’ve always been very goal oriented. My life shows that
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:25 PM
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Sunshine do you mind sharing what the project is? Also as a side note I want to share that I appreciate your contribution in this sub it’s always nice reading your thoughts. Wishing you a successful year with your captain in 2022
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/22 01:39 PM
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In this case I personally would determine if it’s truly a cost thing, or if this is not something he wants in his heart. I would casually say something to the effect of, “ honey, so I know we have spoken about getting married and you brought up expenses, I’ve been thinking about this and thought, why don’t we have a nice elopement + dinner with our closest family and friends! What do you think about this”. Essentially you are removing the money excuse and see where his intention lies. You should…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 12:19 PM
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This post said everything I can think to say.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/21 12:20 AM
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Therapy
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/21 03:05 PM
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Peace
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 06:51 PM
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I was reading your prior post and I honestly am not sure that this man is the right man for you, just sounds like he was the right man for the season. It sounds like he has a lot of growth he still needs to do tbh. To answer your question though I think it’s possible just frame it positively its not you it’s me. Tell him how you’ve always wanted to experience living on your own and it’s a bucket list item, that you just want to try it out once in your life. If he tries to sway you then tell him …
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 03:45 AM
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I am widely against young women living with their boyfriends. I’m against it because I walked this path, and lived to tell the tale. I’ll share my story and hopefully it is helpful to you as you navigate this decision. When I was 23 I moved in with my boyfriend, similar to your story out of convenience, got engaged a bit shortly after. I spent 5 years in this situation, 5 long years with a resentment that was built so strong - Cooking, cleaning, laundry, and working 9-5. My resentment built to n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 02:28 AM
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Love this thank you for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 02:43 AM
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I agree here on the lifting. My husband is bald and sexy! He lifts
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/21 06:29 PM
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Im Hispanic and it was the same way with my parents! The funny thing about life is, you can’t live for them, you have to live for you. My parents were so upset when I moved out, but then ( because I moved out and got some independence), I met a great man, got married, now my parents are happy again. Posting pictures of me on Facebook etc. you can’t really live for them, everyone will always have something to talk about! Live for yourself. Don’t let the years go by and be mid 30’s and think “ sho…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 06:16 PM
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I think it’s time to move out. Your parents are probably being critical like most parents. I find that human beings in general can be unhappy in their lives and take it out on those they love the most. But if you move out, you can just begin to focus on self, and once you heal yourself and cultivate the life you want, then you can begin to rebuild that relationship with your parents
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 05:53 PM
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Beautiful!! Enjoy your new life together ♥️
/r/RedPillWives30/09/21 11:49 AM
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OP do not let this man’s words fool you! You need to double check that he is who he says he is! A lot of men can lie about their finances, their money situation, etc, but when your intuition tells you something is up don’t ignore it. Seriously any HVM would not be in this situation. It is embarrassing
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 11:45 AM
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Who are you seeking advice from? (Talk about shooting your self in the foot) RPW is all about being his light. How are you his light with bringing to him your dissatisfaction? We all feel dissatisfaction with ourselves and personally I have a journal where I can account for my self improvement. There’s some things you can bring to your captain, and some battles you fight solo. Be mindful
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 06:09 PM
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👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 04:17 PM
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Money won’t buy happiness is a lie told to get women to settle for dusties
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:51 PM
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Thank you for your opinion I do appreciate it. I do think you learn a lot from someone from living with them, def not the argument here. But overall feel it’s not conducive to the goal of getting married. I think it can cloud your judgement, prolong the dating phase, and there are other ways to get to know someone other than living with them. Nonetheless, thanks for your opinion and reading.
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/21 11:32 PM
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Not everyone wants to get married and that’s ok! This post is for those who do want to get married. I’ll break down my personal pros with marriage: Health insurance benefits ( I am on my husbands health insurance) Social security/pension benefits Spousal IRA Next of Kin for all decisions should my husband not be able to make them Estate protection The benefits go on for me. My husband makes and has many assets, overall should something happen to him or us, me and my future children will be taken…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/21 11:55 AM
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Thank you for your thoughts here. I agree with the first part. I really wouldn’t recommend a woman discuss her past relationships or trauma in depth with a new man. Personally, I did live with an ex before and when it came to my now husband; I did not delve into this that much. On your second point, l wish those men dumped my friends earlier! But due to the move in situation the relationship was prolonged. And what is to be considered here is the opportunity cost. When women are in a move in LTR…
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/21 01:24 AM
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Millennial here too. Gen Z is now turning 21 so I am sure we will start seeing this in a few years. But we don’t have to see it in our generation to know it’s true. Look at the divorce/cheating rates with the baby boomers etc. But historically, younger mistresses have always been around. It’s just with no marriage or protection in place it’s easier to be left with nothing. Agreed on not being a well rounded person and hitting the wall sooner.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:46 PM
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I see your perspective but disagree. I aimed to share this in the beginning within the talking phase, before a relationship was established. I guess that’s the reason why I’m not seeing it as an ultimatum - there wasn’t even a relationship to leave from. Perhaps down the line it could be read as an ultimatum, but with my husband this wasn’t a discussion because the expectation was set so early on
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:38 PM
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Who is to say that boomers who got married but ended in divorce was not due to the rising feminist movement? For millennials what I am seeing is, % of single mothers increasing, % of egg freezing increasing, % of single woman after 40 increasing. One can argue that marriage rates are lower because people who shouldn’t get married aren’t, but I also see it as due to people not prioritizing it, and cohabitation becoming normalized.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:22 PM
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Thanks for the dialogue. All of the studies published on this show that cohabitation before marriage leads to a higher percentage for divorce. Recent studies in 2018 have found that cohabitation before marriage was associated with a lower risk of divorce in the first year of marriage but a higher risk thereafter. . I have also lived through this experience and am here to tell the tale. I find that it prolonged relationships/drag the break up as there are other factors to consider (I.e. moving ou…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 05:16 PM
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Yes exactly
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 01:42 PM
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Sometimes what’s meant to be is what you allow and move forward with. One thing I appreciate about red pill teaching, is that you can’t control others, but you can always control yourself. For my friends and I, we all communicated our desires. But there’s a go with the flow mentality with millennials and gen z that wasn’t as prevalent in previous generations. And we all also thought we had time. Time to be a wife time to be a mom, and then you wake up one day and time is up. Most importantly thi…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 01:37 PM
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Hey Sunshine! I appreciate this thought. Personally I’m not sure I agree with it. Of course withholding alone wouldn’t inspire a man, but withholding + additional attributes can inspire. For instance with my husband, while not living together was a strong boundary of mines, when he did come to my place, it was extremely feminine and nurturing. Food on the table, beautiful sheets, candles going. I think all of these things inspired my husband into making me his wife. We are very happy together an…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 12:01 PM
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It can happen easier than one thinks. My two best friends are in the following situation: Friend 1: started dating a man at 24. Moved in with him, have been together for 4 years and recently broke up. She is now 29 and... it’s covid.. so dating is tough. Friend 2: started dating a man at 26, broke up after 3 years.. is 30. Two thing I noticed in both. Moving in prolonged the relationship. Convenience is a strong drug.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 11:29 AM
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Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/21 11:20 AM
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Convenience is one hell of a drug. Completely agree here
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:32 PM
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“The law entitles her to half of all marital assets,” And regarding having children outside of marriage, and becoming a single mother, there’s data out there that goes further into how it impacts children etc so I won’t get into that here.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:29 PM
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It wouldn’t be an ultimatum, I completely think that ultimatums are a big no no and a relationship killer. It’s more so a boundary you established for yourself. For me and my husband, I just phrased it casually “ oh yea I don’t really want to live with a man until we’re married, I love living by myself”.. and that was that.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:07 PM
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I do challenge us to review just because it’s widely normal in today’s society, doesn’t make it the best course of action. But I know everyone has different opinions, this just happens to be my thoughts
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:06 PM
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There is a HUGE risk in a woman being with a man for years on end. The biggest risk is fertility wise and that window of opportunity to bear your own children to close. I can’t tell you how many of my friends are in this same situation now, where the man met someone else.. ( sometimes someone younger) and who gets the short end of the stick? Us unfortunately
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 08:04 PM
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Something I am widely noticing is women deciding to move in with bf, spend a few years with them, and then something happens and they break up. The women is mid 30’s at this point, her fertility window is at risk, she’s thinking about freezing her eggs, and wondering, “what happened”. What I am arguing the most here is to be mindful of the delay that living together can cause in your marriage goals, and how it may not even happen. That’s the biggest take away here, be mindful of your time and go…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 07:59 PM
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Beautiful!
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/21 12:02 PM
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Hey OP I truly empathize because I have gained about 30 pounds in the pandemic and am working on losing it as well. Those words your husband said hurt me. I agree with the other poster on not being hard on yourself and having grace for yourself. I would stop asking your husband about it because it just sounds like a source of pain. I would just focus on yourself, self care, and self improvement. I’m sure once your husband sees all your action and work his tone/feelings will change but for now th…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/21 11:59 AM
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Psychology and human nature is a very difficult concept to understand. Humans can be vindictive, revengeful, and I put all of these characteristics under survival of the fittest based on your environment. So you just so happened to be in an environment, where fitting in meant having a “ care free attitude”, and some people in order to “survive” in this environment, went on the extreme end. History has shown us that this happens ... a lot ( I.e. Stanford prison experiment). But honestly, I wouldn…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 12:32 PM
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I don’t see it that way. I get in this day and age, but honestly, I don’t really compare myself to other women or what other women are doing. There are different types of seduction tactics, it’s not only sex. I would read up on Robert Greene art of seduction to truly learn a bit of female seduction, that doesn’t involve sharing your body. I swear, till this day my husband talks about me like I’m this exotic creature, he says “ you were just this bunny in the wilderness and I had to go out and fi…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 01:44 AM
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My rule is don’t have sex until commitment, and if you did before commitment, don’t be surprised by the outcome
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/21 12:01 AM
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Mines too but I am vowing to try to make a difference. We can be each other’s accountability buddy and encouragement if you want?
/r/RedPillWives29/08/21 10:22 PM
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Would you mind sharing what came of you and your husband, for those of us that can relate
/r/RedPillWives21/08/21 04:13 PM
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Excellent advice
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:42 PM
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Please listen to this advice. Your mind is trying to self sabotage
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/21 01:25 PM
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Yea there’s really no excuse not to just have the paperwork done and be officially “ married”. If you want to have a big wedding and that’s the reason, just get the paperwork done, make it official, and plan for the wedding - I mean with covid these days and people realizing time is not granted + elopements being very normalized, everyone who wants to get married, is getting married. no excuse.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 11:22 PM
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Can you try to find different work from home jobs? Regarding him wanting a “ strong” woman, or “business woman”.... are you sure what you both want for the future is compatible? He may grow to resent you in the long run if this is truly in his heart ( him wanting a business woman). Assess the situation for yourself and see what conclusion you derive at.
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 12:33 AM
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Yes this!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:28 AM
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Dating in your 30’s/late 20’s is great because you see who is successful and who is not so easily! When you are dating in your 20’s, you can’t fully assess, but in your late 20’s or 30’s, either you are successful, or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 12:18 AM
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Why did you tell him all these things about your past? You are still young, 22. He is almost 30 and unemployed? Listen maybe this guy is for you, maybe not. I don’t know if any man approaching 30 would continue to dig into this so much. It’s either something you accept about your partner, or decide it’s a deal breaker and move on. For the sake of your future relationships, don’t reveal your past trauma to your partners. If you want to talk to someone about it, go to a therapist and vent your hea…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/21 04:40 PM
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Wise words
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 03:51 PM
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Babe you guys are very far apart in age. Aww you sure he is the captain that is ready to command your ship?
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/21 03:20 AM
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OP save your marriage and listen to this advice. Read Laura Doyle, tomorrow.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 03:53 AM
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Internet hugs It’s ok, to be really honest herpes is easily spread and it could have happened to anyone. It really could have. I know this is prob shaking up your world right now but luckily, in the grand scheme of things. This has no effect. No effect on your job, friends, family, health. There are prescriptions that can keep this at bay, and moving forward, it may even be a qualifier, and help determine men who are truly invested in you as a person. Regarding the “‘man” who gave it to you, he …
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 11:33 PM
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Absolutely amazing advice!! Especially the advice on what to do when he wants to skip work, this has been a very hard one for me as I want to be “ the goddess of light” but then it was beginning to backfire! Lol thank you for these bits of advice
/r/RedPillWives22/06/21 05:44 PM
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Thank you for this advice, I feel you gave me things to think about. A part of me wishes that him feeling good about providing for us would be enough, but as you mentioned, It is not. (He also is currently is looking for another job and gets even more bummed out with the “no” he receives)
/r/RedPillWives22/06/21 05:11 PM
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The apps are very overwhelming! But someone who is intentional also has certain pics he selects (family pics, accomplishment pics, pics of nieces and nephews around etc). For the apps I would have my filter really high. I also cared more about what they said vs how they looked. ( hinge was really good for this!). My husband actually isn’t the guy I would have immediately swiped right to before, but since I was looking for diffeeent things this time around ( marriage), I opened the box to who “ m…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 11:21 PM
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Thank you for this comment. I texted my father happy Father’s Day due to this message. Helps put things in perspective and have a bit more empathy for the situation and for him.... Or at least trying to. Nonetheless; thank you.
/r/RedPillWives20/06/21 10:10 PM
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When you are in a big city, everyone’s mindset is the same. Men and women. “Have fun, live life”. This makes it really hard with dating because husband/kids just doesn’t become the norm. Then it becomes you attempting to find a needle in the haystack. I’m not saying it can’t be done, but big cities pose a lot of other threats. ( more competition in other women, competing against the lifestyle) And now with outside finally opening up? Wow I can only imagine men just being ecstatic to live it up t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 09:40 PM
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Got it! Perhaps some subtle positive encouragement would help? “ baby I love it when you do x” and then leave it alone. Then mention casually “ I love it when you do y”. Perhaps you have to awaken his senses in that way and if he feels you like it or want it more, it can help spark it. My husband is a very good, nice man, very catering to my needs, but I have found that me saying these things and being more submissive with him (calling him daddy in bed, being super submissive in oral play) has c…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 09:18 PM
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This is one of the reason why I left a big city ( New York). Your friends try to help but guess what? Misery loves company. Sometimes it’s best to walk your own path to achieve your true dreams and destiny OP.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 09:02 PM
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Hey OP! First I want to apologize if I was too honest in my post and not empathetic enough. I want all of us to win! And sometimes a nice cold water thrown at us is what’s needed for us to really wake up. No one tells us these things in life, and then time slips by and you are left wondering “ what happened?!, where did I go wrong”. The advice another poster said about leveling up and getting back yourself and your confidence is golden!! When I was aggressively dating at 28 I thought of this tim…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 08:40 PM
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Thank you for this response. It is comforting to know that I am not alone. I feel like fathers like this don’t even realize the impact and effect they have had on their daughters, and it’s up to us to figure life out and heal ourselves. Very happy that your husband is a great man, as is mines. If you find any light at the end of the tunnel, feel free to share. I am also trying to not let this impact my relationships with my sisters, but at the end of the day, I feel good that I’ve been able to c…
/r/RedPillWives20/06/21 07:16 PM
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It’s really not toxic it’s just brutally honest. There’s many women who have walked this path and have ended up missing out on there child bearing years - with regret. Trust me, this is the reason why the egg freezing business is booming, but that’s another topic. This is red pill, if the truth is not what you seek there are other subs for that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 07:03 PM
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I’m sorry for asking this so blatantly, but how do you look like/dress like? To be honest I find that how I look/dress like, really really has a drastic effect on if my husband wants to jump my bones. And I’m not talking sexy lingerie, I’m talking nice silk robes/dresses in the house, fresh face, hair down. Just something sensual and feminine and he literally CANNOT keep his hands off me. I also try to work on smelling nice. I’m not always conscious of this but I try to. When I dress very blah (…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 02:28 PM
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All I have to say is, girl, you really need to get your act together! If you were 21-24, I would tell you to see what happens but be logical and realistic. But you are 28! Let me repeat that, you are 28! You do not have time for these games with this man! Before you know it, 30 will approach, then 35, and guess what? You wasted your whole entire young adult life being hung up! Hung up on someone that has not courted or expressed real interest in you! He has clearly stated he is not ready, believ…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/21 01:50 PM
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I find FDS and RPW both pretty valuable. FDS helps women to not be taken advantage of, and really create a sense of self as main priority. FDS helps weed out the rotten apples and truly focus on the golden green ones in terms of dating. When I was not married, FDS was a great source of information. I still love FDS honestly I am married now, and want to keep a happy home, and therefore RPW is really valuable in this aspect. RPW focuses on maintaining your man happy and how to cultivate the life …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:39 AM
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⁠To what extent does the height of a man affect his attractiveness? I find taller guys more attractive just because I can feel safe and small in his arms, but it’s not the biggest thing. Lifting has this impact as well. What is your minimum cutoff point for height? 5’11. ( my height is 5’7 by the way) What range of height is the most attractive on a man to you? 6’2 - 6’6 What is the height of the shortest man you have dated/hooked up with? 5'10 What is the height of the tallest man you have date…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:30 AM
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Yay!!
/r/RedPillWives12/06/21 09:50 PM
1

Love that it’s going well!!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/21 12:26 AM
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I’m sure it will sting for a bit, it’s what makes us human. If it makes you feel any better, early last year me and my LTR broke up after 5 years together and also having a reality check. The sting was enormous here... but I just focused on self and in my heart, knew, that things would be ok. A few months later I met a man at a supermarket. We bonded over talking about our love for mangos in the isle lol. That man today is my husband. Long story short, you can miss out on blessings holding on to…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 01:52 PM
1

Indeed!
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 04:46 AM
1

Love to hear you that you found some sound conclusions from the direct conversation!, how are you feeling about everything so far?
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 04:44 AM
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“Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” You came to red pill wives and we give you this advice because so many of us have walked this path, only to get nothing in the end except wasted time. feel free to walk your own path but like the previous poster said, I would at least have the talk about a timeline before I move forward and set foundations on an uncertain future.
/r/RedPillWives27/05/21 08:43 PM
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Leave girl, think about your future children. There are just some things that are non negotiable and how can you follow a disrespectful captain, how can he lead the ship? He can’t. Leave
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 05:49 PM
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Self discipline is not an act of will but of habit. Start with today, today when your husband gives you a kiss, you will receive it. With everything you have, you will fight the inner urge to reject his love. Once again, self discipline is not an act of will, but of habit. Waiting around for will to come is a fools game. Inner will does what it wants. Inner will is what has us eat cake when we really know we shouldn’t. But discipline, discipline is hard and takes conscious effort and practice. F…
/r/RedPillWives23/05/21 12:55 AM
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You go girl!!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 05:35 PM
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Read this to yourself everyday: “I need to own that I am terrible at knowing and communicating what I want and that I either crave or allow a level of drama that is not in line with my values.” This right here will save you a lot of time. Review all your choices with this man with this in mind. We do not have time to waste, you need to decide whether moving forward with him will keep your long term goals at bay, or move you towards your goals. You know in your heart the answer, you have spend 2.…
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 05:35 PM
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Loved reading this!!! Thank you OP
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 01:12 PM
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Just keep going at it OP. Try and find a spot for everything in the house and declutter declutter declutter. I often times browse the hoarding subs, organization subs and cleaning subs to get me inspired and up my butt when I feel like just laying down!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 12:55 PM
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Please keep us updated on your journey! Truth be told I would have never encouraged an RPW to share any red pill content with her captain as personally I think the negative could be worse than the positive. But I am eager to see if you have found success and if there is opportunity to have success by sharing this content. Thank you for keeping us updated!
/r/RedPillWives20/05/21 12:42 PM
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You can have a high value man be alpha or beta: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3k1Z-Unpzpg
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/21 09:04 PM
2

OP just wondering if you are wanting to stay in the LTR or are hoping for marriage in the near future?
/r/RedPillWives13/05/21 12:47 PM
2

Thank you for this!!
/r/RedPillWives13/05/21 11:56 AM
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I repeat DO NOT send your husband to MRP! Read Laura Doyle and begin to practice true submission. Once you read you’ll understand. She also has a fabulous podcast.
/r/RedPillWives05/05/21 12:39 AM
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Being light takes discipline. It’s unfortunately not something that just comes to us :/, it takes discipline to be warm to your husband continuously, discipline to be quiet when you want to yell at him. To walk away to take a walk when you are upset, to let your emotional mind come down and your rational mind to catch up when you are in moments of high feelings. I hope that makes sense. This is something I am continuously practicing so i def don’t have all the answers, but things are 100000% bet…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/21 12:25 AM
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This is the answer. Be his light at home, his warm place to land
/r/RedPillWives02/05/21 05:21 PM
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Horny 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 12:40 AM
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It’s not as complicated as you make it sound. Men do not like promiscuous or overly sexual woman by nature. Sure they may have sex with them, have fun with them, but turn a promiscuous women into their wife? Negative Men can cheat with promiscuous women, but not marry them, and a man that uses you for just sex but does not claim you is the ultimate sign of disrespect. RPW women are not phased by promiscuous women knowing that this game never ends well on the other side.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 05:44 PM
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Love this thank you so much
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 02:46 AM
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Did you feel it was helpful in accomplishing your goal? (adding spark back)
/r/RedPillWives10/04/21 09:50 PM
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I don’t think feminism is bad per se, but I do believe it’s created this new culture of holding women to masculine expectations. For instance, women are now expected to have a top career as an executive making X amount of money etc etc, and thus, absolving men from being full protector and providers. But worse of all, it is the long term impact. Because women are now in the workforce and able to provide for themselves, we see divorce rates going up where I feel like when trouble arises, the solu…
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/21 05:31 PM
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Beautiful! Wishing you an abundance of blessings. I am so happy you found your one
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 10:44 PM
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Can you speak more on this?? Once the sex happens you’re treating him with your rarity for his status? What does this mean? I’m providing sex for his status? ( confused about what status implies)
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 10:32 PM
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Taking a man in my mouth is pretty intimate to me. If I decided to do this I would 100% phrase it as a reward for him, and not something casual. More like, if he’s been waiting for a while for you here is something to keep him patient ;). Depending on how good it is he may not stop thinking about you. If it’s really casual and just like “ok here’s a bj”, it loses the effects. Nonetheless, I would not have played this type of card with a man I saw as my potential husband. I would have made him co…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 10:28 PM
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OP as a fellow woman in love, and the thought of my partner cheating on me crushes me; I can sympathize with your situation. But OP, this is a very very difficult situation to be in given your line of work. I feel in my heart that your partner will grow to resent you and see it as non balanced. Are you still actively working? Relationships like this that I see work, the man is a cuckold, and allows his women to move forward this way because he secretly enjoys it. Is this the case for you? Also O…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/21 10:15 PM
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Do you think what Laura Doyle teaches- “ saying ouch” and then stepping back to give breathing room, may help him acknowledge that his words are hurtful, without having to drag the meanness and cause a dispute?
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 02:42 AM
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I’m really sorry OP (((internet hugs))) let me know if you want to talk about what happened and figure out how we can work this out with you and your husband, if you just want to vent, we are here for you to do that as well ❤️
/r/RedPillWives31/03/21 02:20 AM
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That is a ridiculous argument, and I say this kindly with no offense. Money affects everything. From the school your children go to, to your health care options, to your quality of life, to retirement goals and plans, to even building generational wealth. The money you and your husband have in this life time can impact your entire lineage! Body count impacts nothing. Whether I have a body count of 30 or 5, at the end of the day, this has no impact on winning this game called life. My lineage won…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 04:21 PM
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This is a whole other conversation, but I’m honestly not understanding why men need to know our body count? Is it your body? No. Of course, our partner should know our std status etc, but whether a woman shares their number of sexual partners is 100% up to the discretion of that individual. It is their experience, their body. Some men just find alternate ways to judge us and demean us, with body count being another example. Let’s do better, seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/21 12:54 AM
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I think this is my biggest complaint recently with TRP. somewhere along the line, it went from very helpful insight to, no accountability being taken by men to hold each other accountable, and themselves accountable. I felt like before it was a platform where men could help each other be who they aspire to be (I.e. honest, leaders, great fathers and role models etc.) and somehow somewhere, this has turned into a women bashing train.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 08:13 PM
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And you can battle it! This deadly disease is standing in the way of your life, your future children, your happily ever after. It’s time to put on some gloves, and take it down! You can do this!!
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 07:32 PM
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Woman! I know that you know you need to snap out of this! Pretty soon if you continue down this path, you will bring to life your biggest fear. In life, what we think becomes real, it is the law of attraction. Any woman who is really red pill would try to be her husbands light, instead of his dark. Emmen1212, Your husband has voiced concerns over having children with you, that is saying A LOT. For the sake of your family and future children, battle this on your own but spare your husband. There …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 07:12 PM
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So are we not holding men to a certain standard on being honest with us? Not lying to us? And letting us know what they want? Or is it all just the women’s need to vet and fault? Serious questions
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 06:56 PM
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Feel free to message me! I am also a WOC and at 28 discovered RPW. 9 months later I am now married to my husband who is a very high earner, a provider, a protector, and my life has literally changed overnight, to be honest. I went from living in a decent size place, to living in a penthouse. I can’t even begin to describe how RPW has helped me see the error in my ways, how I was so DEFENSIVE in the past. I am here to tell you that it is NOT too late. Charisma, energy, looks, and submission is ne…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 10:04 PM
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I think he broke up with you because he had a lot of shame surrounding it, and not everyone is able to fully deal well with the feeling of shame. Porn addiction is not healthy, at all. OP I’m sorry he couldn’t see this. I’m not sure how you approached the topic as limp dick can be one of those things that really embarrasses a man and can even make him feel emasculated. Perhaps after some time he will see the error in his ways, I think right now he may still be dealing with all those feelings tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:18 PM
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That therapist needs a damn raise because she nailed it!!! 100%! Changing your overall energy is very difficult; but it can be done by tuning into the deepest layers of self. Highly recommend looking at the art of seduction by Robert Greene and reviewing how women throughout history have successfully captured their aura and enhanced their magnetism.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/21 01:46 AM
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You did the right thing! 100% Don’t invest in someone that doesn’t want to or “ IM nOt REadY To” invest in you. The right one would not even hesitate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 01:56 PM
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Women do not lose attraction, they lose respect. Women lose respect and monkey branch and once your woman has lost respect for you, she is gone forever. Respect can be seen as how highly you value yourself, and when you let someone else disrespect you, or you don’t respect yourself, how can you then lead a household. Women want providers and protectors, if you cannot lead, we lose “attraction” and monkey branch to someone who can lead - ( or who we think can lead) unfortunately. It’s like this i…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/21 01:18 AM
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The dream
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/21 02:15 AM
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If your heart wants to go to med school then move forward, but don’t disrespect others that choose another path. Personally it wasn’t until I got everything I wanted ( the dream job, the dream home) and after all of it I thought - this shit is exhausting. What women don’t tell each other is “ having it all” is really a fantasy - but you will figure that out in your own time. I encourage every woman to listen to their heart and themselves. If you have a passion for medicine then by all means. I o…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 01:04 PM
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Love it! We need more content like this
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 08:16 AM
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If I could give this an award I would. After thinking about it and even examining successful women in my life, I agree and feel that the public woman often times takes on more energy than she should and thus her concentration shifts. She gets distracted, and like you said, disconnected. This conversation makes me feel sad a bit for the collective, but it is giving me much understanding that the collective is not my battle. Thank you for the insight
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 08:12 AM
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It’s amazing how a lot of us had to find our own way. Very glad our instincts led us to the right direction. Wishing you the best of luck and that you can share your thoughts and knowledge to your kids one day.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/21 08:06 AM
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I will say that if it wasn’t for specific women who felt it a calling in their heart to spread the message, that many of us wouldn’t have resources to turn to. (I.e Laura Doyle etc). I completely agree on cleaning your own room first before worrying about anyone else though, but where does that leave us with dear friends?
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 04:34 PM
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Why provide a man with comfort, emotional connection, sex, your company and pleasure, if he won’t even commit to you? This is you undervaluing yourself. He’s told you, he considers you as a fuck buddy, he’s not lying, this is you not listening. Men are very direct, women are the ones who read between the lines. Your whole message is made up of you reading between lines that don’t exist. Here it is plain and simple - if he liked you and wanted you exclusively, he would have made it happen. As no …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 02:44 PM
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A bit of intimidation can occur, but it serves its purpose. Usually we run into our first perceived SMV in high-school in the form of the popular football/basketball player etc. For me, this was when I first faced a real dose of my reality, my SMV, my chances at a man with a high SMV, and let it fuel me to work on my appearance. Now at 29 I consider myself a good 7 or 8 (when my hair is out) and because I’m older, looks/popularity/demeanor doesn’t phase me as much as what type of stability a man…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 06:53 PM
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I think this is a topic that can be delved into more because to be honest, each of us have aspects of masculine and feminine energy. My partner, who is a very handsome, 6’8, very masculine high earning man, has feminine aspects to him that I cater too. He gets sensitive, soft, wants to be caressed and held almost like a mom would caress and hold their child, and as his partner I welcome all sides of him, and all of him. I don’t believe in shaming my partner for any of his feminine aspects, I wan…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 02:36 PM
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Curious, why did you turn him down?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/21 10:43 AM
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My partner is a 6’8 God. He is oh so sexy to me. Top 20% in my book
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 10:45 PM
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This is solid advice and I would recommend to the OP the same
/r/RedPillWives08/03/21 05:18 PM
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Love this deck as well. This may be the wrong forum ladies, but saying hi from a fellow Scorpio!
/r/RedPillWives08/03/21 05:11 PM
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I am a WOC and I can tell you just keep looking! It’s all a numbers game with this app. When I met my fiancé, he was the one who told me that we should wait before l even brought it up. My partner was very intentional too and in less than a year we are engaged. There’s still good men out there, we just have to look through the dust.
/r/RedPillWives07/03/21 03:16 PM
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Take the rest of the night off, I sure am! this is way too much for me too, way too much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:30 AM
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This is disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 12:28 AM
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Just saw her videos- all I can say is wow! Thank you for sharing, very spot on
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/21 03:15 PM
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100% this, any man who would prioritize your money over health is simply - low value- point blank. Have a conversation with him and if he is firm where he stands, then you are finally met with who you married and can prepare
/r/RedPillWives18/02/21 09:46 PM
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When I was younger (18-25) I consistently dated up... not by a lot of points, like 1-3, but up is up. When this wasn’t working for me and I wanted to try to find someone to settle down with, I started dating down. Again, not by a lot of points just 1-2.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:25 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:22 AM
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Spot on once again! Thank you for sharing this insight. Hopefully other young woman browsing by can gain from this comment. Like you said, It is what it is, loads of people can come here and share counter arguments but it doesn’t take away from the fact that more often than not, this is what we see.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:18 AM
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This is spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/21 09:10 AM
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I would start off with everything Laura Doyle, your man has a hard job, be his peace.
/r/RedPillWives04/02/21 11:57 PM
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Give it a try, better to know then to wonder
/r/RedPillWives04/02/21 11:54 PM
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It takes weeks (3-5) for a man to know He wants you to be his girl friend and within months he knows if he wants you to be his wife. In my case we made it official after 4 weeks, engaged after 6 months. OP every situation is difference, but trust me it does not take long for a man to know, stop letting men keep you on a hook waiting to see if you are worthy. Turn the tables, and know that the man for you will see your value from a mile away and will move mountains to be with you, not wait months…
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 06:09 AM
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Thinking about how far away your goals are is a way that our brain tricks us into inaction as it discourages us from even taking that first step... I am in the same path as you as I have gained a lot of weight as well, but I’m taking it one day at a time and starting with ... everyday I will go to the gym and drink a green smoothie for breakfast. It takes 21 days to develop a habit so that’s my goal for the next 21 days and when I have this down packed, I’ll add something else on top of it like …
/r/RedPillWives03/02/21 05:33 AM
2

This was beautiful
/r/RedPillWives03/02/21 05:27 AM
1

One sentence isn’t going to convey your whole entire stance on this. Your tone, demeanor, actions will convey more. If he is not being intentional enough, you distance yourself, when he is being intentional, you move forward to him. Make sure you are seeing other people. Instead of focusing so much attention on this one sentence, pick a phrase that works for you, that doesn’t show you are really keen but still shows your stance, and have your actions and demeanor match so there is no confusion f…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 10:33 AM
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Take what you like, leave what you don’t. I think for this book the author meant not to sound overly eager to want to be in a relationship with him. Personally, I always say to men something along the lines of “ I’m looking for someone intentional and am you know, seeing what’s out there”. I think this says that I am looking for someone serious without using the word serious as I think it is a word that has scared men since the dawn of time; and then saying I’m seeing what’s out there and this i…
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 03:30 AM
1

Im not I'm engaged 😜
/r/RedPillWives20/01/21 03:11 AM
1

Well said
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/21 03:09 AM
1

Love this!!!!!
/r/RedPillWives19/01/21 02:29 AM
2

I appreciate the honesty and insight here
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 10:18 AM
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This journey may be his to take in order to develop him into the man he is meant to be. You supporting him through words and hugs is you doing right by him. Don’t involve money or help him apply for the jobs, don’t nag him. This is a good testament to see what he does when life throws a hurdle
/r/RedPillWives12/01/21 09:34 AM
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Thank you for this. 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 06:20 AM
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This deserves all the thumbs up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:13 AM
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The truth in writing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 05:02 AM
5

You sound like an amazing wife! How do you manage it all?
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 04:50 PM
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Agreed here, great advice. Pick your battles
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 04:49 PM
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Love!!
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 04:47 PM
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Basically
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/20 09:40 PM
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Thanks Kendi for the feedback. A few weeks ago we had a budget/bill discussion that didn't go over so well so I'm going to lay cool from this topic. I'm actually happy that this system works for you especially since a lot of Laura doyles book encourage to let your husband manage the finances, so it's nice to hear how you managing it works. I'll provide an update later on but idk this seems like a sensitive topic so I agree about what you are saying and finding out the ”why”. I think I'll approac…
/r/RedPillWives24/12/20 04:57 AM
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Proud of you
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/20 06:35 AM
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I understand your sentiment. I decorated the house as well, and got beautiful handmade stockings for us. He didn't contribute to the tree, ornaments, rocking a light, reindeer's, I can go on and on: but to be honest, I did this for me. To make me happy and it does. And seeing me jolly and happy makes him happy. I don't really need him to contribute as much to Christmas because he already contributes in other ways :) I'm sure your boo does as well. Just remember you did this for you, because due …
/r/RedPillWives23/12/20 06:03 AM
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She reacted that way because she most likely feels pain that you had/still may have such strong feelings for another woman. Your gf perhaps is struggling with this internally and instead of speaking to you from a place of vulnerability, she is speaking to you from a place of anger. ( vulnerability isn't easy for everyone). The truth of it all ( you were with her for four years, you were going to marry her etc) doesn't negate the pain of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/20 12:13 AM
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This
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:36 PM
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Pandemic of LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:30 PM
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This community is a blessing. Glad you are self analyzing and assessing. Wishing you luck and continued growth on your journey
/r/RedPillWives14/12/20 01:19 PM
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In my heart this is what I would like as well. My partner has lived with other women in his past and all he’s ever known is split expenses/money so it’s also a bit conditioned in him. I’m glad your partner already came in with that mindset so it wasn’t a hurdle you guys had to cross.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 06:08 PM
1

Very helpful thank you
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 06:04 PM
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MissOrion, if it works for you it works for me! I just wanted to share a different perspective, the reality of it isn’t sometimes discussed enough in the real world.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 05:53 PM
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I like this. Thank you for the advice. I agree you never know what could happen. I have a small savings account and thought that could be my “ emergency” money as back up. But maybe I need to be thinking more about this.
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 05:44 PM
1

This!!!! Completely agree with you and your thoughts. Loved that last line 😉 Ok so you did separate accounts under each of your names? Whose was for play and whose was for bills. Did you both have access to the accounts? And how were you able to still have everything joint with two accounts. Sorry for the questions just trying to navigate this in my mind
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 05:40 PM
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Miss Orion, I'm really happy it works for you! So to give you more back story, when I was 24, I moved out on my own for the first time and with my bf. At that time, everything was excellent! I was soo happy to be on my own, away from my parents, and more than happy to be partners in the relationship and equally contribute. I had some vague notion of RP back then but didn't know the term and was not as well versed as I am now. Shortly after we moved in, we were engaged ( this was a requirement fo…
/r/RedPillWives07/12/20 04:37 PM
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What did I just read??? 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 02:28 AM
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I find this post interesting. Thanks for answering and helping other young RPW on their journey, sometimes it really helps hearing it from the horses mouth. At 31 you are still very young, and most would consider these years to be your prime :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 12:19 PM
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100% this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:41 PM
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My thing is, why are men becoming so resentful for paying for dates? Where did the tide turn? I’m just confused and a bit insulted at the high amount of resentment. Even on the first two dates where one can really agree that it isn’t out of this world that a man initially pays when courting a woman. And the end where he’s like “ I’m ignoring all of her messages” ... excuse me?? Just the way he said it was kinda like “ serves her right for not paying”...... I just don’t understand men these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 11:20 PM
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I saw this on my newsfeed too! Wow how troublesome that this advice is spreading to young men and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:25 PM
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Her advice was horrible! She technically agreed with him and asked why he kept handing his card? She also spewed some 50/50 nonsense regarding dating and how both parties should pay. This is why we are here. LVM and the women that encourage this type of nonsense. Here’s the link if you want to read it https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mercurynews.com/2020/12/02/ask-amy-she-acted-like-i-was-violating-rules-of-dating/amp/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:15 PM
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Are you in this for the short term or the long haul? Seriously, before you even date decide this. If it’s the long haul, have a conversation with yourself. Limit the alcohol to be in control of your inhibitions. Use a vibrator if you have to before the date. But don’t let yourself down, she’s counting on you. When I took my own needs into account, outside of my physical body, but my own life goals and plans, it became easy to do things in line with my life goals. And to really put myself first. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:57 PM
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At 20 you are still very young. Trust me once you’ve dealt with guy after guy after guy who is either: 1) using you for sex 2) not intentionally marriage oriented 3) becomes bored of you easily and replaces you fast with the next “Decent looking chick”.... yet, he’s hot right? 4) ashamed of you and won’t show you to their friends .:: ( but he’s hot! So let me talk myself out of what’s clearly happening and tell myself that he’s just shy) 5) a player 6) party addicted/drug addicted/ alcohol addic…
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/20 04:54 PM
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Me and you are very similar! That’s what I find, that I still do things I still need to apologize for! The other day I cooked this elaborate meal and got very sad that he didn’t say thank you and didn’t notice my effort as much as I wanted him to. I ended up abruptly leaving ( bad habit I picked up), and apologized the next day. These stints though hurt our relationship so I’m trying to catch it earlier on, very difficult. Your relationship sounds aspirational and reminds me to keep going with t…
/r/RedPillWives24/11/20 02:11 PM
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Hey June bug, thank you for this it is soooo needed! Can I ask you how you work through arguments or perhaps when your feelings are hurt, the best way to work through that? That’s something I find myself struggling with
/r/RedPillWives24/11/20 06:48 AM
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And take into account the time you spend studying/ in school and not on yourself, it can cause us women to age very quickly.
/r/RedPillWives05/11/20 07:26 PM
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Having a strong sense of self! Yes that’s what I’m getting at lol
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 08:46 PM
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Ok so when you read these things, take what applies, leave what doesn’t. Like for the book the art of seduction, you can be a mix, most importantly find what makes you seductive, instead of following a guide on how to act or be. Just start working on your thought process, there’s a lot of info on how you should act, etc etc but if you don’t change your mindset; it will all sit in the surface and you may interpret it wrong. Whenever you read or watch videos, think about how you can apply it to yo…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 08:22 PM
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Listen this has taken me years, and there are still sometimes when I fall and pick myself back up. It’s ok to give yourself grace. Personally what has helped me is looking into books, podcasts, YouTube videos. Some just to reference: the art of seduction by Robert Greene- it talks a lot about the strategy behind seduction For self respect - mindful attraction on youtube. One of my favorites videos of his is how he talks about valuing your self respect over everything, and I mean everything. When…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 08:06 PM
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Desire and seduction has less to do with how many men a woman has chasing her, but more with how a woman carries herself, her confidence, her charm, her demeanor. A woman shouldn’t derive her value from external validation. When you seek external validation from men, you put that above your own needs, your self respect, your value. Find value within and you wouldn’t need so much external validation from anyone. You fill your own cup.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/20 07:44 PM
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Thank you for this so much. You have no idea how much this has lifted my spirits. So much. I love what you said about not wanting a husband and father figure that won’t extend his love when mistakes are made, working it through and coming out stronger, or a stronger sense of my future partner. Feels like a message from above. Thank you
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 11:03 PM
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It’s been 4 months, I agree it’s still early. I wasn’t casually dating less than a month ago, just missing some of the feelings of dating, hence my post on life transitions. Yea maybe it’s best to move on we will see.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 09:48 PM
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Thank you this was very helpful. Very very helpful
/r/RedPillWives27/10/20 04:32 PM
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Agreed here. A lot of guys operate on “ it’s not me so not my problem”. I appreciate your ex bf letting you know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 11:07 PM
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I agree! I think right now men in my life, out of nowhere are coming out just directly asking for sex. Men I haven’t spoken to in a while/men I thought were my friends/men I thought cared about me. Some of them, are asking me to “visit” them. “Spend time with them” 🧐 I’m also online dating and the responses have been increasingly sexual related. Ladies let’s be careful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 07:23 PM
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Why do you guys think it’s on the rise during the pandemic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 03:56 PM
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Be intentional or get out of my face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 07:12 AM
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Great advice
/r/RedPillWives16/10/20 07:23 PM
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Because he is not marriage minded. There's a big difference with someone who is marriage minded vs your boyfriend, who is essentially going with the flow. Edit because I didn't even read the three some part and the ” need to sleep with other woman”!!! Do yourself a favor and plan out your moving plan. You are in key year's right now, with little time to waste on this man child.
/r/RedPillWives12/10/20 01:37 AM
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So appreciate you sharing and feel free to vent all you want!! So did your partner have leadership qualities when you met him? I think it is very hard to instill leadership qualities, but not impossible to support him in this goal by letting them make decisions on their own, good or bad ones. And you hit it on the head, some things only he can do for himself by digging deep. I really hope things get better and your hubby is able to be the man you and your little one need. My partner lost his job…
/r/RedPillWives10/10/20 02:35 PM
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Congratulations on the baby new momma! Yes I’ve completely chilled out on the criticisms verbally, but I still internally feel them so I am still working on that mental shift of having my mind catch up to my actions. It sounds like you are also in that stage, how’s it going with you trusting him more and enabling less?
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 09:48 PM
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The podcast is gold!! Like it is so inspirational, she talks a depth of topics, I absolutely love it, daily reminder on why I am pursuing this path:
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 09:45 PM
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Yea I was hesitant too, but it has really helped. Can you share a bit on how your relationship has enhanced overall? Is there anything you are still hesitant about when it comes to her teachings?
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 09:44 PM
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A mess
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:11 PM
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Can you link the MRP post? I am so fascinated with Doyle’s works lately and other ppls thoughts on it. I have to look into hamstering, thanks for the breakdown and the sprinkle of knowledge
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 05:35 AM
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I agree on therapy and how it rarely works. I don’t see many RPW women truly recommending therapy tbh as there’s a lot of information out there on how it has backfired ( from my readings and experience).
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 04:44 AM
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The yielding portion of this is very interesting. Thank for your posting, I enjoyed the read ♥️
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 04:41 AM
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Can you guys summarize this? I see it’s an hour long, is it worth the listen?
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 04:22 AM
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Cute!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:18 PM
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This man needs help. Small dick energy indeed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:58 PM
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I would start with the surrendered wife, and then the podcasts are really inspirational “Laura Doyle The Empowered wife” podcasts. I wish I had this a few years ago with my LTR, but glad I have it now. I hope it is beneficial to you in some way. 🤍
/r/RedPillWives06/10/20 11:36 PM
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Amazing! Thank you for taking the time out to write this!!
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 06:14 PM
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Laura Doyle has changed my life! And that of my relationship! I really really really recommend it. It is important to look at yourself in the mirror and realize your contributions as well, and acknowledge, that maybe, just maybe, it’s not all your husband. I don’t know why I was downvoted but alas, I hope OP does look into it and decide for herself
/r/RedPillWives06/10/20 02:58 PM
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I think sometimes we expect men to be just like us, how women are - emotionally responsive, feelings oriented etc.- but sometimes men are just not like that. I’m sure he didn’t mean anything by it and in his logical mind he just thought “ don’t do self harm” so he texted you that. You said yourself that things are great, so I don’t think this moment should negate from all the amazing times that he was there, and that things were great. I had a similar thing happen with my bf and I just had an ep…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 01:55 PM
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Immense yourself in Laura Doyle ( podcast, books etc) and you will find the answers you seek
/r/RedPillWives06/10/20 01:43 PM
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What? Sexual compatibility can grow the more the relationship is nurtured and trust is entered into the relationship. To me this thought is short term thinking. Short term thinking = short term benefits 🤷🏽‍♀️ but whatever works for you.
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/20 01:41 PM
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Oh thats a whole other topic. I think you are underestimating a woman in love and how very loyal a woman in love can be. That in itself has less to do with height and more with interaction, true bonding with your woman, bedroom tactics. But yea as women, we really want stability, love, and rough play. No woman who is Ready will give up all of that just to chase after some tall guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 02:26 PM
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I would honestly focus on your energy and magnetism. For instance, even someone like me, who hasn’t really dated a man shorter than 5’11, is highhhhhhhhllyyyyyyyy attracted to bruno mars at 5’5. I saw him in concert once, yess. Granted he is a celebrity yada yada but it’s more than that. It’s the energy, the magnetism, the allure. Same thing for me, I don’t have a big butt, I have decent boobs, but the allure of me, my eyes, my sexy smile, my feminine energy, perfecting this has really gotten me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 02:17 PM
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Thanks for being open to these thoughts I was preparing myself for a “what??” Lol I wouldn’t say it is the most important. To me character + attractiveness is the most important. Also, dick size doesn’t hurt. I’ve been with men who were very tall, but very small. Interesting. Ok so taking it back to height vs lifting, I can completely see why men lift especially since they can’t change their height, so lifting makes a lot of sense. It’s attractive. I would compare both similarly tbh - “wow he’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 01:57 PM
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I like how you involve personality types in this answer. I’m an INFP and I find that men are attracted to me for the same reasons you listed you were attracted to your ex
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 01:37 PM
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A lot of people here already outlined the whole “ feminine feels” that tall men can provide a woman. But in beta/alpha terms, I think it’s an alpha quality. Having people, men and women, look up to you, literally. On a very subconscious level, it’s something that highly attracts me when thinking about having kids, having men and women look up to my son. Respect my son. For me and my current partner, ppl stop and look at him when he walks in. Men even come up to him asking him questions with admi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 01:23 PM
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I’m 5’7 here and most of my boyfriends have been 6’2 and up with right now my current boyfriend at 6’8. Now I don’t go around and eliminate a good man just because he isn’t tall. It’s almost like how I don’t expect men to eliminate a good woman just because she doesn’t have a big butt, or big boobs. You are accepting, but think in your mind, it would be nicer if she/he was taller/ had bigger boobs! It’s a nice complimentary Granted, I think height for women is more of a turn on (subconscious) th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/20 12:57 PM
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Listen doll, there are so many outliers! A man you have been with for years and has continued to promise you true commitment (marriage) can wake up tomorrow and decide, “actually that’s not what I want”. And where does that leave us? Years outside of the dating market focused on one man where we could have been strategic and focused on many, but only provide true commitment (exclusivity) to the one who rises to the table. Any rebuttal I give, you can give a rebuttal back “ yea but if you spend y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:37 PM
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Not saying that this is not valid, but what I am saying is that a lot of what we see now a day’s is women taking themselves out of the dating market to be monogamous to some regular degular guy without knowing 100% for sure that “ yes we will get married”. Women give up so much for this “ boyfriend title” and for a lot of us, there is little to show for in the end because the amount of marriage minded men around here is declining. I know you can argue that we need to vet etc. etc. but it’s a har…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:39 AM
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Monogamy without marriage only benefits men but unfortunately I haven’t found a way around it yet 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:20 AM
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Hi there, some other fonts may be able to provide much more helpful RP advice, but I still wished to offer my two cents. First, I am proud of you for assessing this now at 30 vs much later, when fertility for us looks different. I think you should have an honest RP conversation with your partner about marriage, expressing your feelings and desires. Within this conversation, bring forth your most authentic self- observe his eyes, his body language, his words, his speech... all of these things are…
/r/RedPillWives02/10/20 04:58 AM
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Here for the comments because everything you said makes 100% sense to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:10 AM
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Love this! Your wife reminds me a bit of myself and it just reminds me I need to make more of an effort to let my walls down with my partner.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 12:01 AM
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Accurate!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 08:49 PM
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Agreed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 03:02 AM
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Do you feel like moving in with one another has affected the relationship? Has it made it better or worse? Thanks for the follow up, I’m going through a very similar situation as you and me and my HVM ( still scouting) mayyyy be living together because of unforeseen circumstances , although I am not 100%. Worried it may affect our dynamic. Would love to hear your experience with this 🤍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:01 PM
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It seemed like a good idea before, but you are right, it is the finest mouse trap filled with tempting cheese, but a trap it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:31 AM
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I can’t get past the two years, I really really can’t. To me it sounds like he wants to have an active social life without the “ girlfriend” feeling. Almost like having the best of both worlds, a girlfriend at home but feeling “ single” with his friends. The fact that his friends are making fun of the guy for “ caving” into a married life is extremely concerning. You have been into RP for 5+ years, but have you really taken in the content? Listen, a lot of what your boyfriend is telling you: “yo…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/20 01:11 AM
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OP, any updates on this? How’s it going so far?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 05:10 PM
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Hi I just felt the need in my heart to speak with you about this. Not saying this will happen to you at all, just wanted to share my experience. So my LVM and I were previously together for 6 years, we were also engaged and living together. He like your boyfriend, lacked drive, passion and was fine with being comfortable. He did not have any ”leading” qualifies and over the course of time it changed our relationship. When we would discuss this, he would always aim to do better, false promises. B…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/20 10:58 AM
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Agreed just unmatch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 04:25 PM
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Cheers to you! Lovely comment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 11:24 PM
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Amen amen!! Honestly I would just stop texting the friend too. Just stop all communication these men are ridiculous. Proud of you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:10 AM
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We need to unite as women because there is a broke men pandemic going on and us women are still entertaining these fools!! I swear if we ALL ask men to level up and demand courtship/providing, then these men will all strive for more. But as long as there’s women who are willing, there will be men who are fine doing absolutely nothing, being broke, chillen in the couch, while we cook, clean and have to sexually please?????? The audacity. I’m getting sick just thinking about it It hurts my heart. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:01 AM
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