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The thing that concerns me w open tech is that I’ve always had plenty of conversations I would not let my partner see for the privacy of the other person. A girlfriend unloading about her partner / family / life is absolutely not his business.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/26 04:16 AM
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It was but she essentially doubled down and said she “got schooled” from recollection. If her “skills” stoped a woman being abused, good. But she should put a HUGE caveat stating that violence is never acceptable. There’s a post over in the surrendered wives sub from a woman whose husband says nasty things snd she’s worried if she detaches he’ll escalate, follow her from room to room and block her from leaving. The advice? Say “ouch” and do self care.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/26 11:01 AM
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I have a question for the community: Laura Doyle’s work is a mainstay of this community and while she has not condoned violence she has said using her skills can turn around a violent marriage. I believe it was a podcast. How does that view sit here? That a woman can “fix” a violent marriage if only she tries? I think things like feed into OP’s idea that there is a tacit acceptance of violence in traditional/ RP relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/26 07:49 AM
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He lives at home at… TWENTY SIX??
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/26 06:15 AM
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Yeah this is why I hate the LD stuff sometimes, it gets dragged into abusive situations and I’m sure his ex, who filed with the police, did not just “bring out the worst”.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/25 05:43 AM
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The dog not going out because it’s not his “turn” is bad for the dog. Her welfare should come first as she’s a living creature and not a task.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/25 04:42 AM
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I had this conversation with a friend many years ago but it was more about the apps than MeToo. He’s too busy swiping to get your number, he’s on a tinder date instead of buying you a drink, is what we concluded. Nowadays the only ppl who still approach me when out are drunk / old / weird. That could also be a function of my age of course. A memorable one was a guy so drunk he wound up being thrown out of the establishment because he wouldn’t leave me alone. He also took my book off me and tried…
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/25 06:50 AM
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I’m not particularly red pill myself but I hang out here as the vetting advice is sound, and both empathetic snd pragmatic. However ad I understand it, STFU is more about don’t nag about how he loads the dishwasher, not to never voice an opinion. If you’re stupider after 15 months are you sure in 15 years you’ll still be able to count beyond ten without needing to take off a shoe? If you do take off the shoe is there any guarantee you’ll be able to tie the laces? Stick around long enough and you…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/25 04:54 AM
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I’d also say asking about sexual history on a first date. That’s not something to be asked, or shared so soon.
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/25 08:06 AM
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Could you go into more detail op?
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/25 12:45 AM
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You won’t enjoy it but you better be enthusiastic!
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/25 06:03 AM
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Well yeah… they were all really fun things. I think I got her to do a pedicure though at least
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 01:53 PM
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You either express how you feel, move on, or organise it yourself and do whatever it is you want to do, possibly after the second cake decorating class he’ll step up. This reminds me of taking my former in-laws overseas. What do you want to do today? I don’t know Ok, let’s start with a walk around the lake No, Alright, how about a cooking class? No, I can cook and I don’t want to learn Asian What about the war museum? No Let’s try the temples? No, I am Christian! But they let non-Christians in, …
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/25 10:04 AM
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This is Khmer Rouge but for Red Pill as they killed all the glasses wearers for being “intellectuals”. Except now this poor man is being snarked on for a lack of masculinity based on his eye strength.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/25 03:56 AM
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And always remember, the bulk of wine is not designed to age. And milk turned into excellent cheese ages very well. We all love Parmesan but no one wants a $5 open bottle of red left in the sun!
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/25 06:54 AM
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I’m sure you’re very happy that he treats you much better than his ex, because you are prettier, but unless she was also an unpleasant person, which you didn’t state here, it seems unfair to her.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/25 02:00 AM
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Fingernails included or sold separately?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 12:32 PM
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Christ girl are you building your man up or whipping him into oblivion then saying no one wants him?!
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 11:53 AM
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And you stud him out for extra cash too??
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 10:36 AM
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Thoroughbreds run on a track at the direction of a jockey. Clydesdales are large beasts of burden that pull heavy loads at the direction of the cart driver. Are you their jockey?
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/25 09:49 AM
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I think it depends. If they both work tough jobs and she is his soft place to land letting him vent about work while she keeps her issues to herself to remain “feminine” while actually being stoic it could lead to resentment.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/25 09:07 AM
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Your line that he “gives me so little independence” stood out. Your independence belongs to you, it isn’t his to give. You can willingly hand it over, if that’s what you want, but you should make sure you can always regain it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/25 05:15 AM
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Why should she not be out of the house at 8pm? What about the no jeans or gym rules he is trying to impose? Where should it end for her to be a “good girl” for him, no seeing single female friends in case they are a bad influence? No movies with swearing? No spicy food?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/25 09:43 AM
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If you have to point out that he does not support gay or trans ppl it already sounds like yr incompatible. If it wasn’t that big of a deal you would have focussed on other things only , like that he is fine w you moving on
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/25 07:34 AM
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Christ I’m so sorry, that’s brutal. Feeling invisible is one thing but feeling unsafe is horrific.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/24 11:42 AM
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I think he means in the minds of envious young men. But come on, “earned or deserved”? She’s young and beautiful, it’s the genetic lottery!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/24 09:51 PM
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Because they’ve made a tonne of strange assumptions disconnected to the original post, like the car she apparently “slobbered over at the club”. What car?! Whose club? It’s like an AI girlie got trained real good in the back blocks of the men’s sphere.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/24 01:27 AM
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The point is that he is not working hard for her. He is not a “provider type”.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/24 01:11 PM
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He is because she’s 21 and thinks “gender roles” only apply to her, and if he makes good money is a HMV and providing by picking up an extra 10%
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/24 08:47 AM
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Yeah maybe if he can please her in many other ways it will give him confidence down the line? There are plenty of ways to satisfy a woman that don’t involve just a hard dick after all
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/24 06:52 AM
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Once a week for two years maybe?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 04:44 AM
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Isn’t the Black Honey lipstick a cult item though?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/24 04:36 AM
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I think these comments need to stop suggesting she is “dancing for other men”. She’s belly dancing in public for a mixed audience, not doing pole dancing at a bucks night.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 04:10 PM
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But this is the style she trained in. I never understand this sub, moving goal posts by either partner is frowned on usually but in this case an awful lot of commenters think he’s doing the right thing by “taking her seriously” now she’s a fiancé and not just a replaceable girlfriend and shutting down her hobby. He was free to walk earlier on if he disapproved of it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/24 07:12 AM
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It seems as though what you enjoy is the performance for an audience snd his “still letting” you belly dance in private w other women does satisfy this performance itch. Are there any other activities that concern him when there may be other men around, like the gym, or a concert?
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 09:04 AM
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If she were a musician or singer and she could still sing and play her instrument for other women but not in mixed company it would lose its lustre. I’ve seen plenty of belly dances at restaurants and the like, they’re definitely sexy but not sexual. It’s usual a mixed group of families with men, women, children, older people. He knew this about her to start. If he never liked it he could have stopped it earlier, or walked.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/24 04:32 AM
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Are they swasticas? If not there isn’t much to explain
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 07:32 PM
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I suppose it depends how many ethical stances she has and how strong it is. It’s not like being vegan. I probably mentioned to my ex I thought diamonds were nonsense but it isn’t a strong stance like food as, sadly, I do not consume precious stones daily.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 11:58 AM
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If you have an ideological opposition drop that into conversation. Stream Blood Diamond one night and rant about the industry
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/24 02:24 AM
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So if married he decides whether she continues a sex act she’s clear she dislikes?
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 02:27 PM
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She wasn’t replying to you, mate.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 12:37 PM
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And next week number 3,847 will come here and he will be different!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/24 03:55 AM
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Are you suggesting he has the final say in whether they continue a sex act she does not like?
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/24 06:59 AM
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That’s a very telling detail. You do not want to be with a mean drunk, it can escalate quickly. Drinking too much is its own issue but drinking too much and getting nasty is a pretty serious character flaw.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 06:30 AM
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Ok so he’s unhappy with life, and so when the sun was out you were great and now it’s gone in you can’t do anything right. You probably can’t fix this and the combination of petty detail (how you walk) and vast unquantifiable complaints you can’t directly address (just something “off”) is an impossible situation. If you do stay, watch out for being blamed for his bad situation as these things can follow patterns. If he’s failing exams because of your bad energy, think about bailing. Would you sa…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 04:24 AM
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How much else does he actually complain about and have others said similar to you in your life, or is this new?
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 07:49 AM
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I would say so too. They are either genuinely unhappy with you, or trying to manipulate you, or both. However if it is the first option and they are mature, they’ll realise and end things. I later dated someone and all sorts of little things drove me up the wall (some deservedly, he was grown enough to know not to make loud noises while chewing gum), but I held my tongue on those to be polite and later ended things as we were just not compatible.
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 05:45 AM
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Several years ago now, I’m far happier now. He actually called time and not me as I was so broken down and depressed it didn’t occur to me. I didn’t sleep properly for years either as I started work much earlier than him and went to bed earlier but he’d frequently wake me up when coming to bed, and it’s hard to see things when you’re also permanently exhausted, it’s just easier to go along with things. I’m stupid and gross? Ok sure, I guess… Him blaming me for his own drug use (I never touched t…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 05:23 AM
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This sounds a lot like my marriage, he nit picked absolutely everything about me, from how I walked, spoke, pushed my hair behind my ear, spooned curry into a bowl, sat, it never ended. He was fundamentally unhappy with me, and also with himself so the relentless criticism and the general “there’s just something WRONG with you, why can’t you be like a normal girl?!” just drove me mad after a while. If I asked ok, what exactly IS it that is not normal he’d fly into a temper and tell me that a “no…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/24 04:59 AM
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I think that’s a bit of a blanket statement. We all thrive under positive stress and struggle under negative stress.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/24 07:24 AM
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String disagree. I’m sure he was hurt but venting dark, private thoughts in a private way should not be something she should apologise for. She can explain it to him, but what does she say to apologise? I’m so, so sorry for having dark intrusive thoughts and trying to deal with them in a private way that helps me? He fucked around and found out.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/24 05:34 AM
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Honestly, your first step should be to establish why he thinks it is ok to read another persons journal. He is in the wrong here. After this, you can discuss what you wrote, and why. I’m sure you feel panicked and don’t wish to lose him but it’s not your job to apologise first in this circumstance.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 09:51 AM
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Play stupid games win stupid prizes: he invaded your privacy and he is the one in the wrong here. There was a discussion here recently about how single women like to sabotage their partnered friends relationships where comments moved to the dangers of venting to friends when you’re annoyed with your partner. Well, you didn’t do that. You wrote in your private journal. that said, if you're angry, wish for better treatment it might be worth exploring more.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/24 09:29 AM
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They are applying the standards that keep them single to their partnered friends.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/24 11:47 AM
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A WRX is a total hoon’s car, at least where I come from!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/24 05:19 AM
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I’m not sure on bills but not mortgage unless you can get an agreement to recoup what you put in to pay off a house you don’t own
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/24 09:07 AM
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I think living with someone will always throw up surprises but once you’re married and weird, unexpected things happen there can be an element of, I married THIS?! If engaged or just living together you have a little more leeway to decide if you want to be married to the weird thing… However paying the mortgage is a no from me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/24 11:25 AM
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There was a post elsewhere on Reddit the other week where one man’s fiancé decided she wanted to be a 100 percent tradwife after marriage, not working so she could stay home and care for their home full time, which apparently was small so did not need full time care but did need two pay checks to sustain it. He was NOT onboard at all. Her belief seemed to be, screw you jack, your feelings don’t matter and I WILL be traditional, which seems an odd stand point.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/24 05:11 AM
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I met a couple at a hostel in South America many years ago who were doing the “if we can travel together we can marry test” and I thought it was cool but they were maybe at most 22, possibly 20, and backpacking on a shoestring getting work in Canadian snowfields and London cocktail bars, and on top of that they were dossing where they could. Brazil snd a hostel with hot showers was a bit of a treat. They said that if after a year they were both still alive and talking to each other they’d marry.…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/24 06:53 AM
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And he made a Tik Tok?
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 07:18 AM
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What’s the plasma thing?!
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 04:44 AM
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I’m sorry but that line is just fantastic: I assemble furniture and have kept my roommate out of prison many times.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/24 03:06 AM
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There seems to this notion that it’s a simple binary proposition: boss babe corporate cubicle slave or free and feminine “trad wife” who bakes cookies all day in a sundress as she plays w her baby. Reality is more complex. There are more jobs that are not corporate misery than are. One girl I know has a dog grooming business, another a very successful landscape consultancy. Most of us will need to be able to support ourselves before we marry. And many after that.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 09:47 AM
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Some men believe human rights are “liberal” and the statement that “women are human beings” is liberal. Hitting others is against the law. Is that “liberal” too?
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/24 07:27 PM
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If a woman does not have family to rely on how does she survive without being self sufficient?
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/24 08:44 PM
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There was a post here the other day from someone who was told her pussy was too loose and she’d obviously had sex w bigger men before. Comments all told her that was not possible, and that you don’t get permanently “stretched out”. You need to hear this too and so does he. So if you feel “different” that is in his head.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/24 08:05 AM
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No worries! I have fancy taste but no fancy pay checks so I do this all the time. If you want higher end Vestiaire is your friend, although to save money tick your home country/ region box as international shipping adds $40 or so
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 05:18 AM
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I’m sorry?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/24 12:46 AM
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Pick out some nicer, higher end labels you like (say, Shona Joy in Australia or Kivari) and try their stuff on I store, get a great feel for the sizing. Then go to eBay. You wouldn’t believe how much nice, rarely worn stuff girls sell cheap,
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/24 06:27 AM
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With TRIPLETS
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/24 07:44 AM
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Career women who still want kids can often be happy with a stay at home dad.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/24 10:17 AM
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As another commenter has put it, she’s great if you’re getting worked up / taking very personally your husbands less efficient way to load a dishwasher and you don’t understand why he’s had enough of your shit.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 05:40 AM
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Ever since I saw her advising that women in physically abusive marriages can fix then I’ve had no time for it. That’s the kind of advice that can get people killed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/24 04:22 AM
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But in a booth? You’re better off across from each other so you can face them
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/24 12:01 AM
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I think that’s a dignified response. We’ve all made judgement errors when young, both sex and otherwise and we tend to learn and move on. Put it this way, there are plenty of other dumb things we can do as young people. Certainly I should not have decided riding on a car roof as it sped through a paddock was a good idea. It was idiotic but it isn’t something I’d do now because I grew up. And I’m sure any man then or now would be free to decide against me, but most would be happy knowing I no lon…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 12:10 PM
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Umm… you did use the word “nauseous”, which is definitely at least visceral-adjacent. Some of these things sound inherent to him and some, like the endless “do you even love me” can be worked on, as that would be exhausting for you and it’s also disrespectful to you to constantly question you like that. The sitting beside me thing, especially in a booth, at dinner used to irritate me, not sure why. Although it was uncomfortable as I was framing my neck and then he’d try to stick his tongue down …
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 04:59 AM
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It depends on what you mean by ‘ick’. I always understood it as a real toe curling disgust and it might be based on pretty reasonable things or simply random things. It is usually a way however we filter partners who aren’t right for us, even if they have nice qualities. After my ex husband I dated someone ‘nice’ but his actions gave me frequent Icks. Some reasonable: trying to make out with me in a Korean restaurant, some borderline: always insisting on sitting next to me not opposite me at din…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/24 12:21 AM
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I think “what do I do” and “gives me ick” are self explanatory, cut him loose, for both of you
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 11:24 AM
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It’s just the Laura Doyle theory taken to its logical extension, if I just submit hard enough and long enough he might just love me back…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/24 07:54 AM
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You may be able to find an english speaking therapist one on one as English is more common there. Being a partner of someone w substance issues is hard. Don’t do alone even if he is recovering
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 01:19 PM
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I think if you decide to stay you need to access support services for parters and family of addicts. It will make you feel less alone and also offer suggestions on how you can help, what to do if he relapses, and what is a bridge too far for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 07:06 AM
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And it’s why I’ve never liked her. Another commenter here said a while back her advice is for generally positive relationships and for women to hold back on pointless criticisms, like how he doesn’t load the dishwasher properly. When it turns into an idea where if he’s harming you, how do you “turn it around” and if you don’t it’s on you just adds another heavy burden and it’s outright poisonous.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 04:29 AM
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Which suggests he knows what he’s doing and it’s working. Avoiding obviously inappropriate situations is something any good partner does but second guessing innocent fun things like gift giving suggests an unhealthy level of control.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/23 04:25 AM
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Also don’t order the cheapest thing
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 07:27 AM
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I know and the advice is normally sound but so many come here asking how they can improve awful abusive relationships and there’s usually one comment along the lines of: are you certain you’re creating an environment that makes him happy and giving him enough sex? How’s your appearance? Sometimes us women nag and we don’t even know it!
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 07:26 AM
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OP this sounds pretty awful but these posts need a name: How Much Laura Doyle Do I Do Until He Stops Abusing Me?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 06:25 AM
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I’ve thought about this more and wondered, are you sure it’s about the gift giving? Could he be using this as a straw man form of control so that you second guess yourself and limit all other interactions given he gets paranoid over secret Santa?
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/23 04:32 AM
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This sounds so exhausting. You don’t know what innocent action will set him off, then when you’re upset you’re in the wrong and defending yourself and digging yourself deeper despite being innocent. You need to talk to him and ask if he truly believes you are cheating as this is like an old fashioned witch trial. Plus, it’s SECRET Santa! I got my female colleague, who I actually rather disliked, such a personalised gift she said, “whoever got me this knows me really, really well!”
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 05:38 AM
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Aww thanks! Honestly this stuff sounds fancy but it’s just as easy as anything else. Although lamb backstrap is painfully expensive you can use any red meat. I live in Australia so typically use kangaroo.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/23 05:06 AM
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Crispy pork belly bites; black vinegar, ginger and green onion chicken pieces; coffee, cumin and chilli rubbed brisket; Israeli cous cous with figs, radicchio, toasted walnuts and blue cheese; tabouleh. All sound posh but are dead easy to make and the only pricey thing might be the first salad. You could also cook pepper crusted lamb back strap very rare, rest it, slice it thin and cure with lime / lemon / even grapefruit juice. Add some finely sliced red onion, parsley and capers.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/23 07:04 AM
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I think overall we furiously agreeing, but for other readers here I think it’s fair to say most, if not all, women with a past are not thinking of their exes while with the man they chose to build a life with.
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 04:06 PM
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Sure. I see what you’re saying but it’s just less likely that she really IS thinking of another guy and you are falsely conflating a “bigger” guy with a better guy. She may well have had a bigger guy before OP. That does not make him better.
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 01:35 PM
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I am not a member of this sub but it pops up as I am a member of a women’s sub. This idea there was a “bigger” guy before and she has to think of him to finish with her husband is insane. Do not upset OP further. She married him, clearly he’s keeping her happy. OP, I know I don’t necessarily “belong” here but speaking as a woman, it is improbable she is thinking of some other guy. Most women don’t do that, despite what internet echo chambers say.
/r/RPChristians25/11/23 12:52 PM
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While personally I may not be fully onboard w all RPW views even I can see this is toxic and not aligned to views on men here. Wife has stated a desire. He can honour it or ignore it, whether the desire is fair, or not. Instead he has honoured it grudgingly, is complaining about his marriage to his younger female report who is encouraging him to renege based on no more evidence than his complaints. No wonder his wife doesn’t trust him to fix a door. It’s not her business to encourage another wom…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/23 06:55 AM
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It’s nice to cheer him up but I think extrapolating ‘wife bad’ is dangerous. If you had witnessed her behaviour that’s a different story.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 11:31 AM
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It’s nice of you to be kind to him but in fairness you have no idea what his marriage really looks like, what happened or why she may have said this. I’d stay out of it and not advise him to do something she asked him not to. My father was an amateur handyman, largely as he was cheap. Nothing was ever fixed well and the shoddy workmanship in her home got my mother down after a while.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 09:07 AM
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I often stay up late and will message friends if both genders late but these are established friendships and the messages are usually about something however trivial. If he is up to something I think the important part you didn’t mention before is that he has a baby and presumably a partner which makes any chasing of you far worse.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 06:27 AM
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At that age there is also the chance he is still just a bit dumb and doesn’t see what texting a woman at 1am actually looks like.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/23 05:11 AM
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You’ve answered your own question very neatly and this is why writing your feelings and thoughts down is so helpful. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/23 04:59 PM
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Top three of where? It absolutely is not remotely a “Top three sex tourism country” given a strict communist government. Where did you get that from?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 03:00 PM
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What is the connection between STDSand Vietnam? Do you think he is a sex tourist or do you simply think Vietnamese women must have STDS?
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/23 04:23 AM
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I knew a girl like this. She was incredibly embarrassed by the notion she would pay for anything when out with her boyfriend, who was younger and poorer, and insisted he “pay” with her card. It was a thing for her ego, not his.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/23 05:33 AM
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The food she likes?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/23 11:35 PM
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OP you have answered you own question. What you choose to do now is up to you but you can’t change him.
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/23 11:18 AM
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Whether or not I had something to “hide” wouldn’t be the issue really. There are messages from friends in there, for example, who may have had a hard day or week opening up to me and they may not like a male partner reading their intimate stuff / meltdown / complaints about cramps etc.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/23 08:27 PM
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Wait chicken AND dumplings? Not chicken dumplings? What do you fill the dumplings with in that case?
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/23 07:44 AM
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Where is he from?
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/23 05:37 AM
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Please read the comment thread. Someone told her to reflect on her part / fault in his infidelity and I called bullshit. One of the responses suggested that if he was getting his every need catered for at home, he would not have cheated. I said some men crave variety and how can she cater for that? My entire point is that infidelity is wrong and not the fault of the person cheated on.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/23 04:36 AM
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I’m replying to the comment above about every want and need.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 04:30 PM
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Every want and need includes variety. Or maybe she got older, that frequently happens too, snd no matter how well you take care of yourself 41 is not 21.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 07:55 AM
5

This is garbage, one does not “contribute” to infidelity
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/23 03:48 AM
3

In Australia it’s the same and the last draft was the VN war and draftees were 21 and under. I think a world where only very young men vote would be fascinating for the ten minutes it existed. Thus “draft” thing is always mentioned by men far too old to be drafted themselves.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/23 02:12 AM
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The majority of those drafted are males under 25. Are they necessarily the best people to vote because they MIGHT be drafted? The kind of vast world war that would require draftees from the US these days would affect the entire population meaning all of age should vote.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/23 11:38 AM
0

I find this outlook strange at times: we want to feel desired and desire to connect with us so we should “do it” when we’re not in the mood. While sometimes you may not be them warm up, how many men really want duty sex?
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/23 04:27 AM
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I think it depends. You can travel when young for a bit bit if you want a the start of a nest egg you’d be better living and working in a foreign place. Often this is better as you’ll truly experience a different world, will arguably “find yourself” more as you’ll be pushed in ways you simply won’t as a tourist and you’ll develop skills such as language or cooking for example, that will stand you in good stead. You may also be able to save more money. If you are “traditional” then depending wher…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 03:23 AM
1

It sounds like you have nice complementary skills when it comes to food. Being able to cook a lot of tasty vegan food is great! Have friends round and he can do the meat / bbq and you can do the sides and teach each other maybe? It’s a fun way to learn
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/23 01:41 AM
6

And some transwomen like to be as feminine as possible and value a traditionally masculine man. The older Bernadette character in Priscilla Queen if the Desert epitomises this, and was very lady like and sweet.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/23 01:34 AM
2

There is a book and documentary about this called something like, see what you made me do, and it’s all about how abusers turn it back on the ppl they harm.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/23 11:43 PM
5

I think the issue is they see having sex w a woman as “dominating” her while she enjoys either submitting or does not enjoy it at all. Specifically pleasuring her goes against this rigid, largely theoretical sex-framework and is therefore submissive-beta-gay…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/23 06:49 AM
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No openly gay man, ever, has enthused about how much he likes doing that.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/23 08:21 PM
2

Weight lifting and boxing classes too, also partner dancing classes
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/23 01:47 PM
1

While women have much less hair we still have naturally occurring body hair, some more than others, most of which needs to be removed for us to be considered sexy or even acceptable. Hairy legs are natural for many women but are seen are totally unacceptable and unhygienic, to the point where if you wore a business skirt suit to the office with no stockings and natural legs it would be seen as highly unprofessional. At this point it is what it is, keeping our entire bodies hairless so we meet mi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/23 02:05 AM
6

10 pounds in TWO WEEKS? That does not sound healthy and… he’s not real yet honey. Wait till you meet him
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 11:33 AM
2

Have you met him in real life?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/23 10:02 AM
1

Exactly, women w traditional values versus those who have turned it into an personality / lifestyle thing. It seems to be big in the Fundie groups too.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/23 05:55 AM
6

Yeah I think it’s not so much about SAHM than a particular subset of “Tradwife”TM content creators who are all about the joy of being barefoot in the kitchen and why they’d prefer not to vote. I’m thinking creators like Pearly Things (not married) than women who post cute home and kid stories.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/23 12:14 PM
2

Where did I say that?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/23 12:23 AM
7

Proving it Every Day would be exhausting
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/23 02:52 AM
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There was another post here some time ago that asked the same question but with younger children and she asked if getting the girls to clean up after their brothers was a good start. You are ahead of that curve. What she listens to depends on what personality type she is, some rebel in their teens and some comply. Figure that out and proceed accordingly.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/23 12:57 PM
1

Could just eating collagen (beef cheek etc) help?
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/23 02:23 PM
1

If you have a rice cooker you can do cheats clay pot chicken rice. Chop up a thigh or two (breasts dry out) and marinate in soy and pepper, a little chilli. Fry lots of garlic and ginger in your rice cooker (technically even the cheap ones can do this). Throw in the chicken and sauté a little. Add rice, more minced ginger then water for the rice and some more soy on top. Sesame oil is great to add now if you have it, chili oil would work too, Cool as normal them cook longer so the bottom of the …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/23 01:49 AM
4

I just went on a date a few nights ago, he asked me out but I suggested the venue then we stayed three hours longer than planned and ordered a tonne of things so I offered to pay half and he accepted. I was fine w this but if we had just stuck to the one cocktail as planned I’d have expected him to pay.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/23 04:29 AM
1

Shona Joy, Kivari, Auguste the Label, SIR and Bec and Bridge are all nice, well made and cute. Mix of modest and less so. Not cheap but easy to find second hand.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 06:15 AM
0

Why do you believe bring at a bar is “immodest”?
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/23 04:03 AM
2

Yes, my mother has been the same and implied in the past that if I liked it my partners would not respect me at all. It’s essentially the gift of endurance instead.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/23 01:16 PM
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I would not say I am looking for a provider on a first date or that I’m not working much as a result. Ultimately even if you choose not to work after marriage most would prefer their wife be employable in case something happens to him,
/r/RedPillWomen05/04/23 08:45 AM
1

ModCloth is great for plus size, and has some very cute stuff!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 02:00 PM
2

Yeah, all the yoga I’ve done and zero yoga teacher sexual energy! I feel ripped off now… Who has a pool boy and are they always hot?
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/23 01:57 AM
2

It’s inherently volatile video games and crypto. I know a prior generation of boy geniuses who rode the tide of the then-latest tech craze and spent like tomorrow would never come. None have retained their wealth. I have a friend who makes a LOT in a more stable way and doesn’t save but does invest.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/23 07:57 AM
2

Is that for breasts or hormones?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 04:03 AM
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Transitioning is a lot, plus you need a series of medical sign offs. It’s extraordinarily unlikely we’re seeing FTMs so other women can eliminate competition. I’d say it’s largely encouraging unhealthy eating habits / reacting with anger when the thinner friend orders a healthy option for lunch (this one happened to me more than once from the same, desperately unhappy person).
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/23 01:52 AM
1

Please go for it if you’d like. What geographical area are you in now that he was to move to?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 02:52 AM
7

I just looked that up, and no, it did not. I feel like there’s one of these posts every couple of weeks where a young woman has an insanely controlling partner and she destroys every facet of herself to keep him happy but it’s never enough and she ends up here asking where she went wrong. It’s incredibly sad but I feel like w the rise of certain to-unnamed internet celebrities/traffickers it’s just getting worse.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 01:56 AM
2

There’s nothing sad about Tabasco, ever! I was basically joking, the fact that you think it’s a possibility is awful. I’m so sorry. Long distance definitely makes ppl act crazy but he is so out of order that it could easily have worsened. What part of the world are you in and do you think he moved to Japan as he’d been sold the lie that Japanese women are incredibly submissive to men?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 01:09 AM
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This sounds exhausting and like he was trying to suck the joy from your life. What was next, no spicy food as even that could be seen as “sexy” as it’s hot?
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:59 AM
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There are endless red flags but for me denying her even bright colours. Imagine a life like that, not wearing colours as even they might attract male attention. Had you continued youd be living in a house in the middle of nowhere with cameras linked to his phone in every room and no means of communication and I bet he’d STILL find a way to complain! These people are flat out toxic.
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/23 12:11 AM
4

Hard on the Jessica Rabbits of this world though!
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/23 12:48 AM
1

Honestly that one seems almost made up. Most women here had their own household and bills before they met their men. She had four degrees cos mama told her to get ultra qualified to support herself and she has just enough but not a lot? She must have stayed in arts or something.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 04:53 AM
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For goodness sake you’re honestly telling a trauma victim she’s intentionally inflicting suffering on a hypothetical man? If she is upfront he can choose. Most will not want this but there are asexual men who are looking for girlfriends. I had a friend years ago who was like that and also liked cuddling but nothing more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/23 04:00 AM
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This does sound like my ex husband who always thought he knew better on every subject, right down to telling me vaginas needed to be washed w soap every day and yelling at me when I said otherwise. You won’t win, stop trying.
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/23 02:32 AM
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No group shots, no shots w kids ( I hate when men do this!), a variety is good but they don’t all have to be action shots, I think a pic w a drink is ok if it’s not a “getting drunk is my personality” pic. I mean, if you like wine no reason not to make that a part, albeit small. No laundry list of “requirements”.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/23 06:21 AM
2

The Silver Spoon, every Italian recipe on the planet!
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 10:05 AM
2

I think if I were in danger people would step in or at the very least immediately call the police. A few years ago I was outside my house and harassed by a very large man clearly on an even larger amount of drugs (yay meth!) and my neighbour yelled at him and got him to move along, she’s a portly 60 something whose only weapon was the spray nozzle on her garden hose. I think if I were attacked or hurt in the busy part of the city on a weekend night another man, or ten, would jump in not so much …
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/23 02:54 AM
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Yeah this is a troll
/r/RedPillWives10/02/23 07:45 AM
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I meant prime time TV shows but yes, tonnes of social media cooks too, it’s just I rarely see as much of it in real life. Maybe I move in the wrong circles?
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 06:30 AM
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It’s always surprised me that there have never been more home cooking shows, snd amateur shows with folk cooking truly extraordinary / insane food (seriously when was the last time you served apple foam at a home cooked meal?!), yet fewer and fewer ppl can really cook. I’m the only one in my wider circle and when I have dinner parties ppl look at me like I’m magical! To be fair I have three gas burners and a tiny oven so cooking a sit down meal for 18 was an effort I was proud of, big still, it …
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/23 02:39 AM
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I just don’t see it as a female specific, anti chivalry thing driven by feminism. Maybe that has a part to play but it’s a series of vast societal shifts. Or maybe it’s always been like this, there’s a reason The Good Samaritan is one of the best known of the bible.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 02:24 PM
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I wonder if civic duty has just gone down in general, it’s not actually a female specific thing. If a grandpa is being mugged does someone step in? If your car breaks down a busy road how long until someone stops? There was a TV experiment in my country a few years ago that involved a boy, less than ten, rummaging through a bin for food. No one stopped or helped until a group of school girls only 14 or 15 themselves stopped to help and tried to sort something out for him. Edit: apology accepted
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 07:48 AM
1

The weed smoking was a long standing on and off issue. When he was working he needed it for work, when he wasn’t working he needed it then because, “I’m basically on a long holiday snd I can do whatever I want”. What bothered me was were largely living in my pay, which had always been far lower than his and I’d had a steep covid pay cut but he was getting a reasonable amount of govt cash. However he wouldn’t pay back the home loan but bought weed, cigarettes and alcohol which combined outweighed…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:45 AM
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That’s what I’m saying, I was responding to someone above. Although frankly it might have been nice for an adult man to step in when others were yelling gross things from cars I didn’t entirely understand at age 12 but hey, learning experience.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:26 AM
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I’m in Australia snd an old friend just moved back from the US, he told me how happy he is that he can now call out “dickhead” behaviour without fear of being shot. The world has changed in general and was once safe enough for men to easily perform small acts of protection. There is an old new clip from the 1970s when women still weren’t allowed into the front public bar section of a pub and men didn’t want them there because they wanted to be able to swear.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 05:24 AM
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I can’t think of any time a man has stood up for me or “protected” me from being cat called even when it first started happening age 12 or 13. I think as humans we tend to protect our own and don’t step to help others very often in general.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/23 02:42 AM
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Each to their own! I guess it’s like a couple of glasses of wine opening your up but a bottle plus a night not as much. Obviously if you look at some of my posts I may seem biased as I was married to a huge stoner and it really helped kill my marriage but he was a heavy user. But I can see how a few joints a day and night would frustrate the partner of any non smoker.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/23 03:33 AM
1

Thanks! Warning lesson kids, if you’re feeling fit and healthy and decide to double the distance you planned to run then either pack extra sunscreen or buy some when out. Don’t just shrug it off snd run around like a bug under a heat lamp!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 05:29 PM
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Saying you’ve “gone days without” implies you smoke every day or pretty frequently. If a man thinks it is “sinful” or something for bad girls that’s one thing. But practically: stoned people are annoying, smoking anything frequently is unhealthy and a mark against a long term relationship, the stuff smells and stays in breath and hair, it’s not cheap, and stoned people are annoying (cos they repeat themselves). A smoke now and then is one thing but daily use is a massive pain in the arse for tho…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 02:45 PM
1

Yes. I think sunscreen is the solution when you are in the sun regardless of diet.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 06:06 AM
1

I got a horrible burn after using retinol and being in the sun after my sunscreen ran out of time!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 06:05 AM
1

I know someone missing a nose from skin cancer, so there’s that… Also like many cancers it can metastasise and move elsewhere.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/23 06:02 AM
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Yeah I don’t think this is really an area where members can offer expertise
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/23 04:08 AM
1

A good cut, fit, nice shoes and some earrings…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/23 10:09 AM
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It is inherently disrespectful to ask he stop cheating?
/r/RedPillWives01/02/23 06:05 AM
2

Where are you based that you think is so terrible for women dating? I have a friend over 50 and a bit overweight who’s just getting back into dating and seems to be doing well in terms of men taking her out, picking up the bill and asking to see her again. No horror stories at all.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 03:08 PM
2

No, I regret I stayed and tried to make it work for as long as I did because I believed it was the right thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 02:57 PM
1

Late 30s
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 02:22 PM
3

Relationships
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 02:17 PM
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I am older than you and divorced and have had no trouble attracting decent men, my age has seemingly been a non issue.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/23 06:57 AM
1

This isn’t about “women” this is about her. Few here will argue she should have married and fewer still will argue she should now abandon her marriage because he fusses with his hair (like who gives a shit right?). What we are seeing is that trivial things seem to be turning her off and she rushed into a marriage because everyone told her he was “a great guy”. And I’m sure many of us here have grandparents who married over 80 years ago and had the sense to marry someone they felt compatibility w…
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 04:49 PM
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It’s not a family as they don’t have kids. It doesn’t matter how good or otherwise someone is, if they don’t mesh they don’t mesh and it doesn’t sound like she thinks they’re compatible. Obviously she should not have married him but if she’s turned off it’s better for both for them to part ways if she can’t get over these feelings. He deserves that, if nothing else.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 11:02 AM
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And they do, if they’re into him. If not it probably seems unnecessarily fussy. That is also assuming he actually dresses well. Caring about what you wear and dressing well aren’t always the same thing.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 06:35 AM
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To me these criticisms sound more like he just gives you the ick and you’ve rationalised it away because, oh but he’s nice to me! That’s the minimum threshold not the reason for a relationship, marriage and ignoring what clearly turns you off. Please don’t hurt yourself OP and if you’re so miserable you want to get into a car accident I’d suggest move on, not into oncoming traffic! What you’ve said do not sound like deal breakers to me but they DO sound like the kind of thing that gross you out …
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/23 05:52 AM
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There is the corollary where men may like a woman’s personality and find her sexy but decide she is not conventionally attractive for public dating. I had a friend years ago who was telling me about his new girl, so smart, so funny, incredible physical connection. I told him how happy I was for him. “Yeah, but she’s just not… that attractive” I didn’t get it, she must have been if they had a great physical connection, right? “Yeah, no. It’s just … He scanned through his phone to find pictures of…
/r/RedPillWomen26/01/23 03:56 AM
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I think this is the answer. He made her a promise he didn’t keep, dismissed her concerns and lied. Quitting can be much harder than expected, there is that. But he should be open about that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/23 10:39 AM
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A lot of this is great advice but as women we’re all different and some of your points are the opposite for me, the more I orgasm, the more I orgasm. If I got myself off earlier in the day I’m more likely to come again, not less. But fixating on coming is a great way… not to come…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 09:31 AM
2

It wasn’t like that when we were dating, basically. And he had a way of making me feel like if he was being mean to me it was because I was deficient in some way. Basically think of some of the non-endorsed batshit contributors here who suggest if you just do enough Laura Doyle your man will treat you like a princess and if he’s not then you need to examine your actions, it was like that. I’m a good guy so if I’m smashing things you really need to look at yourself and how you “made” me do this. …
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:48 AM
2

Well he’s an ex for a reason. It was never as clear cut as that, but for example he’d come home and bitch about his day and I’d listen and when he was done I might say, yeah I had a really hard day too because… and he’d cut me off and ask if was insane because the last thing he needed after a bad day was for me to make it worse by telling him my problems. Or, you’re never grateful that I’m out busting my arse 40 hour a week! I’d say well sure but I work 50 hours, earn 30% less than you and pay 5…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 08:01 AM
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How do you do this if you also work full time? My ex husband expected me to contribute 50% of bills but also did not want to hear about my own work stress or tiredness. He wanted a woman who was a soft place to land, but it was hard as I had to work long hours while also being a happy, devoted wife without a care in the world. He also expected respect for going out to work each day even though we shared the bills. How do you navigate this?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 05:14 AM
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I can’t swim and I have a husband! Her life circumstances forced her to do for herself and she’s single! At FORTY! Is there a lesson here or is this just gloating?
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/23 03:20 AM
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It just sounds like OP had the luck to be born into a safe, caring family and meet a safe, caring man. Her friend was not so lucky and is doing her best surviving in her own. Why drag her for it?
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 11:17 PM
1

Growing up my next door neighbour was like this. She could not read a map or use a phone book and was proud that her husband did everything.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/23 10:47 PM
1

There was one fully cos playing a trad women on about “her” grandmothers advice about waiting for marriage and all, from recollection?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/23 01:34 AM
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I don’t know, I think everyone loves boobs, myself included
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 09:41 AM
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You left out, allergic to vagina. Will probably not want to go down on you.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/23 04:15 AM
1

More likely Brendan Gleeson (who is a wonderful actor but not, say, a silver fox)
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/23 01:38 AM
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Maybe I’ve gone to the wrong places but the clubs I frequented when young were more about the music than hookup culture and more rave-y I guess. Apart from the drugs, which was mostly ecstasy, I wouldn’t see anything very wrong with them.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/23 03:45 AM
3

Yes. Speaking as somebody who once ignored it myself (but he’s so nice!) I can say better not to waste your time and his or extricate yourself from the situation. After all, if you continue, wait for commitment before sex, and then have bad sex, what’s your next move? Grin and bear it or end things after you’ve committed?
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/23 04:21 AM
9

If you don’t like kissing him you’ll hate sex with him which is not a recipe for a good marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 02:34 PM
9

If you don’t like kissing him give up now,
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/23 01:15 PM
1

A lot of it comes down to how you carry yourself although overall I’d say it’s still harder for plus size girls. Not all can look like the buxom goddess of plenty, which she did.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 05:33 AM
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I have a friend like this. She’s much bigger but still has an hourglass shape, dresses beautifully and is very feminine. She always had men chasing her and married a guy who could have his pick of anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/22 01:56 AM
1

I’m a stick cos 17 days vomiting pooping! Ur so hot now!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 02:36 AM
1

Absolutely you are! Once I started working out and feeling my fitness increase I was so much happier.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/22 12:42 AM
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Yeah, older men I knew especially. They just think it’s completely socially acceptable to tell you how much better you look and how you were fat before. I was average before then wound up ultra thin through illness but ended up so self conscious about how gross I had been without knowing it I spent six months afraid to eat more than once a day. I was in my early 20s then. Some of these men were close to 50!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 07:43 AM
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I was never “bigger” but I remember I was maybe 5’6” and 63 kilos or so. I got a bad dose of a stomach bug and dropped a lot of weight. I’d never thought I was fat at all but the number of ppl who gave me outrageous compliments on my new stick thin shape, how much better I looked and how I was “almost fat” before was crazy. All men. All unsolicited. It damaged my confidence pretty badly as I’d never seen an issue with my proof shape until that point.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/22 05:52 AM
1

Do you mean making lotions? I can’t really see wearing them as much of a hobby
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/22 09:20 AM
3

I couldn’t say either way but it doesn’t sound expressly raging feminist to me unless you believe these issues are best kept under wraps,
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/22 03:50 AM
0

Can you please give an example of what you’ve regarded a feminist rant? For some it might be another expressing anger at the changes in US federal abortion law, for another it could be women screaming KILL ALL MEN
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 09:23 PM
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The funny thing with cheating is the only girls I’ve known who did had only been with the one man, maybe two, and became curious as to what else was out there. Obviously this is not a statistical rebuke.
/r/RedPillWomen02/12/22 12:18 AM
5

And I think the, he’s so mean to me, what am I doing wrong, how can I be better so he stops hurting me is how a lot of women end up here. They don’t want to hear, girl just leave him so they go to the opposite end and ask this forum the preferred shape to prostrate herself, hoping it’ll unlock something magical and he’ll be kind. Luckily, often, people here are more realistic. Although there are comments here and there which will always land the ball back in her court when she describes what is …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/22 10:32 AM
3

Make up doesn’t need to feel like it’s smothering you. Try getting your lashes and brows tinted, it means you don’t have to do anything but you look a little more put together.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/22 04:38 AM
0

That’s great,
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/22 11:55 PM
9

Isn’t immolation generally a protest?
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/22 08:29 AM
4

One of the things I like about this group is personal accountability, helping others and refraining from judgement. You have no idea about these two people, their situation or history. While berating your partner in public is never a good idea, I doubt people come here to read how glad you are not to be that woman.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/22 06:03 AM
1

How would you describe submissiveness at a very early dating stage?
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/22 11:24 AM
2

And I’ll just add that most sex workers in areas like Thailand have not been trafficked or forced into it. They likely wouldn’t be doing the job if they had options of a first world nation but it isn’t slavery per se much of the time.
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/22 04:52 AM
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She IS NOT abusive. Disrespectful possibly but he is trying to deprive her of sleep! Nothing she said sounds abusive. Disrespect is not abuse and those who argue otherwise live in fairy land, The man is trying to take every outlet to the outside world from her and now deny her sleep,
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:10 PM
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Why when every week you can see nuanced and humanistic responses like: Long hair and dresses, submissive to a man. Cooking! How easy is that?
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:53 PM
4

Crafts not connive
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:51 PM
4

There is no justification for this. None. Saying that if it isn’t a psychotic episode might mean she’s not being honest is damaging. The last thing a person in an abusive situation needs to hear is that they may have contributed to their abuse. Mods please, can we do something about these replies? They can be so damaging.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 12:40 PM
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I think this is NOT the time for her to assess clothes, past behaviours, etc. The absolute last thing anyone in a clearly abusive relationship needs is to backtrack and question where she went wrong to the point her husband is denying her sleep! No. She needs to stay safe not question her contribution to her lack of current safety, ever. Whatever their relationship was like, however she acted, she DID NOT contribute to this current escalation and abuse! OP, this is not your fault. We start down …
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 04:19 AM
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Her explanation does not make it sound like a marriage going well. This is not some ‘taken in hand’ thing both partners agree to, it sounds isolating and infantilising, performed by a man who is domineering not dominant.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/22 11:28 AM
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I suppose eventually but I’d wonder in those days how she survived until the court ruled in her favour? Family? I never liked that book. I understand building up your partner but not at the expense of yourself, which is what I’ve always taken away from it. I remember that section on anger and behaving like a cute toddler when angry. The times I’ve been angry w a man have been over very bad, sometimes dangerous behaviour, where shaking my cute little head would not have cut it.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 12:34 PM
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I’ve always wondered w that book and it’s advice how a woman is to survive on her own after leaving giving the author is generally anti women working or having too much education?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:42 AM
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She excuses infidelity? Why?
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/22 08:40 AM
1

But how do they actually find out? If you say you slept w one man only but it turns out you had several serious boyfriends then perhaps but in these days of greater movement and anonymity then how?
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/22 01:45 PM
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It’s not a nice word to use. Most trans woman don’t hate other women and just want to get on with their lives like any other person.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/22 03:05 AM
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I’m saying calling her a tranny. The rest of the criticisms are valid, she’s vapid and spiteful.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/22 04:11 AM
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Oh come on, of all the criticisms of her you’ve gotta revert to that?
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/22 01:07 PM
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Not long enough to ensure we all read it and avoid turning into childless middle aged wrecks?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 11:30 PM
1

And how long did it take our friend w his bullet point list?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 10:00 PM
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He was assuming our “natural respect for male authority” it seems?
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/22 09:23 PM
1

Get your lashes and brows tinted the day before you go
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/22 05:18 AM
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Kegels? Or tell him to stay still so you control all the movement for a little while. See if you can just tease him by hovering around the tip and squeezing your muscles then when he doesn’t expect it push back hard until he’s deep inside you.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/22 02:12 AM
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I never noticed “pity” as it’s an injury any of us could have. Sympathy and empathy yes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/22 02:14 PM
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Well he’d also never seen a woman walk around naked or tell him what they liked.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 01:56 PM
2

Awkward giggling? Ooh… goodness! No! Me: ok then, face it is! Aim for the eyeball! Him: …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 01:51 PM
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Ok, if that’s the community that breeds the men no wonder you’re not satisfied! I lived in quite a conservative part ofAsia quite a while ago but I never heard anything that extreme! Bonus points: I dated quite an upright guy (yay religion) who said he “couldn’t imagine orgasming in a mouth”. My reply of, what do you think my tits are for, did not go over well,
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 12:01 PM
2

How do you… take pride in never having an orgasm?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 10:39 AM
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I hate to say this but when I was in a cast people were much nicer to me, it’s a conversation starter and if you’re single (I wasn’t) it gives men an excuse to approach and “help” you. “You should see the other girl / I swear I’ll never steal a tank again / my pet cheetah meant well he just gets excited” etc.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 06:08 AM
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Where is your community? It sounds unusual, given all the men are repressed but the women are more open. Usually conservative areas repress the women first. Also: any chance the men you were with were secretly gay?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/22 01:19 AM
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As a fellow Aussie let me also say it’s easier to make friends w transplants to your city than those born there. All my friends are from different cities.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 10:41 AM
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I moved cities and was pretty friendless for a while. I met a couple of women at a work conference and joined their professional organisation where we have catch ups and made friends that way. Another old friend from my city introduced me to her friends, who are now my friends. I met another nice woman at a work event and invited her for a drink, she and her husband are now friends. Professional networking is good as you can reach out for a drink or coffee and it’s not weird.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/22 09:29 AM
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Thank you for also summing up my marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 10:43 AM
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It’s understandable but this sub also cautions younger women against much older men as they can be manipulative.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 09:38 AM
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EBay. New stuff at that price isn’t always amazing but pick out some labels you like that are a bit more expensive new, try on a lot of their clothes to get a sense of sizing then buy second hand online. Reputable sellers won’t sell you worn out, broken things.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/22 12:41 AM
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Until you need the bathroom, then it’s all downhill
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/22 10:23 AM
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If it gets to the point when they’re swearing like this at you that doesn’t seem like a Two to Tango situation
/r/RedPillWives27/08/22 04:03 AM
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I understand not wanting to be stranded or trapped but from his perspective here he is having a lovely holiday with his partner and at the very end she says, I’m not feeling it. It would be si confusing if you thought you were having a great time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 01:22 PM
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You’re so sweet! It was a long time ago. The robbery shook me up and was pretty unpleasant but I got away with nothing more than some bruises and scratches. I had all of ten dollars cash and a cell phone so cheap they threw it in the gutter. We were doing long distance. We met when I was on a visit home. He later visited me and we planned to make things work when I moved home for good. Him telling me it was my fault for living in a less developed country made me really angry as it seemed racist …
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/22 06:02 AM
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It honestly sounds like the two of you have no chemistry to start off with, meaning his inexperience is seen and experienced by you as inadequacy.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/22 09:23 AM
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This is horrible and I’m so sorry. I had a similar experience with an ex boyfriend. He seemed so caring but when I was beaten up and robbed it was the same. He just ignored me then said he didn’t know what to say, then told me it was my fault. I’m glad I found out then and moved on. You’ll survive!
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/22 02:39 AM
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Malicious? We need one another of course, however most domestic duties can be undertaken by both partners. I split from my ex, I’ve survived taking care of things he normally did. Is my maintenance as good as his? Perhaps not. Is whatever he’s cooking as good as what I did? Doubtful. While we may need each other and complement each other as two genders, this notion that we’d be unable to cope without our husbands isn’t always true. And I’d suggest examples of women who didn’t know how to take ou…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/22 12:52 AM
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Perhaps but there are plenty of city men who can’t change a spark plug and plenty of country girls who can skin a moose. Gender roles might be complementary but they’re not absolute.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 11:34 AM
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I’d like to read them if possible
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 11:05 AM
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I can’t fix things like my ex dud but I’m lucky to have girlfriends who are very handy so they help me. I teach them cooking.
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/22 11:03 AM
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True, but there’s nothing better than coming together, surely?
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/22 06:26 AM
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Outstanding response. You’re right, she may never know but he’s given what could be seen as a gentleman’s response.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/22 03:48 PM
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Depends on the guy. There was a singer in an Australian band who did years ago and wore eyeliner but always had legions of screaming girl fans.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/22 06:08 AM
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You can and it should be pretty cheap. Don’t go to dark on your brows snd accept they’ll look weird the first day snd you’re fine!
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 06:02 PM
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Hey that’s fine it was just meant to be a useful tip. Here’s another: NEVER use a straightening iron on wet hair. You can get your lashes and brows tinted to avoid makeup too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/22 05:11 AM
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I have zero idea what to do with a curling iron and never knew it was prerequisite for feminity as it’s not. If your hair is longer wash it, half dry it and plait it before you go to bed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 06:07 AM
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Monroe’s outward persona and the pressure to be that, to hide her pain, her intellect, her trauma was one of the factors that led to her drug addiction, and death. These women were always acting and they were forced into tiny boxes. But I’d be curious, who are these obnoxious, ordinary looking Hollywood actresses these days over the 1990s?
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/22 05:25 AM
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Studios still controlled far more and the idea was that actresses were a mythical ideal. Culture moved on. Now we want to be able to “relate” to them more. Plus, digital in general never gives them a break.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/22 02:18 PM
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I see “bad decisions” as continuing to date a drug user who lives at home based on the hope if you “inspire” him enough he’ll change. Not the same thing as an abusive marriage. The thing is that RPW theory recognises how innocence is so charming for a man and yet it also requires we ruthlessly vet.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 12:26 PM
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Sorry I meant saying someone who ended up in an abusive relationship made “bad decisions” is naive and damaging. Abusive people do not always walk around with big signs on their heads. In the case of a family member of mine the control and abuse only began after marriage and slowly ramped up over the years.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 08:54 AM
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Please don’t shame someone who left an abusive marriage as making “bad decisions”.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/22 06:54 AM
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Do you want a stay at home mother or a woman who stays home full time before children? If it is the latter, why?
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/22 02:05 PM
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Maybe they did but they didn’t have anything to regulate their periods as such things were not talked about, doctors paid less attention to “womens troubles” and overall there was less knowledge? Our grandmothers didn’t have a lot of things we have. I’m sure my grandmother would have welcomed the leaps and bounds we’ve taken in caring for gynaecological health.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/22 01:56 AM
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It will not wreck her chances of a happy marriage if she loses her virginity. EDIT: to expand on this. Every week young women come here sexually confused asking if they’re broken after they’ve had a couple of partners but are RP now and can they find a man to love them. They are reassured yes, they still can. Level up, be a good person, etc. Then comments get through suggesting this girl will wreck her chances of marriage not just HAVING sex but even craving it. This sub is a broad church and we…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/22 01:24 PM
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Ok there are two kinds of doing stuff you don’t like. The first is him doing gross unhealthy things that will not help you build a life but you don’t care as you’re so in love. The second is that you’re just not that into him so the way he chews makes you dig your nails into your hands. Which can you compromise on?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 03:14 AM
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Can we get a little more context here? Are you likely to be in an arranged marriage and scared you’ll get a husband like this?
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/22 02:46 AM
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I think swearing also depends on the context or way it’s done. There’s nothing less attractive than hearing an incoherent person use fck repeatedly as a kind of linking adjective. As in, its just like fkn… like fucked? Cos I was fkn like, buying cigarettes but they fkn said it was like fkn 30 dollars? Bleh. Learn to speak. Conversely the most famous line from SATC (this is not a show I normally quote or reference) is… abso-fucking-lutely.. delivered by a man, yes, but a supposed gentleman. I don…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/22 08:13 PM
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That’s ok! I don’t know if they ended up married but they’d done a snow season in Canada without murdering each other… I guess it really depends on the kind of travel you do. You won’t learn much staying at a resort but if you go budget, get dysentery and he’s the kind of man to brave the streets of Delhi so he can mime diarrhoea to a pharmacist laughing hysterically, keep him!
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/22 01:36 AM
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Years ago I met a very young couple in South America who were engaged and travelling together around the world for a year on a shoe string. Their logic was that if both were alive by the end they’d probably survive marriage too.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 02:28 AM
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I can’t answer as a Catholic or on moving in together but as for travel if you do it cheap there’s no reason to share a bed. Hell, stay in backpacker dorms therefore you won’t even be tempted. Travelling together is a good make or break way to learn more about your partner. You’ll get stressed, possibly even sick, may miss flights, you’ll see what they’re like in these situations and how you solve problems together.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/22 02:17 AM
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All masculine interests or specifically punk music? In either case why? Edit: my take is, if you need to, change some behaviours or ways you dress, but stoping loving the things you love will just crush your spirit long term.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 03:02 AM
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I think it depends on how it’s done. There’s a certain type who turns what should be a fun, flirty first date into a job interview. I think that’s what makes some run. You don’t put it all on the table halfway through the first drink. “What are you looking for? I’m only looking for something serious so if you’re not on the same page this will NOT work out!”
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/22 02:29 AM
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Also: this is quite clearly not traditionally feminine but a couple of my girlfriends restore old cars. Not only does it mean they can do some work on their own cars and save money but it’s a nice way to make friends. And, to be fair, many of those friends are in their 60s and 70s but are still lovely gentleman, some with sons…
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/22 11:20 AM
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You think he sounds almost dangerous? I’m not sure I’d go that far but if he is then best idea to ignore him not firmly say, piss off?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 09:42 AM
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Cooking, ideally for friends as it’s so satisfying and even if you screw something up they won’t care too much. I’m having a mid winter dinner party soon and so looking forward to it. This isn’t feminine per se but there is a tonne of free short stem courses at Coursera. I just joined one and I really like it. Could you foster some animals if you’re not ready for the commitment of a pet?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 09:40 AM
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You’re not wrong but context is everything. I was so stumped I just didn’t know what to say. Sober reflection suggests once i slept on it I end it, but I was just too taken by surprise.
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/22 01:03 AM
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I quite literally said: I need to be clear that I have no interest whatsoever in restarting things. I am seeing someone else. I am not interested. Is that clear? Him: crystal! When are you free to catch up?
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 07:50 AM
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You’re right. I think it’s just that notion as a woman it’s important to be polite and not upset others. When someone’s had a hard time — his wife of a decade ended things by telling him she’d never been in love with him then stayed dating new people when they were still living together— I tend to ignore stupid behaviour, even to my own detriment. I’ve shown his messages to a couple of close friends, male and female, who’ve both said he’s clueless and needs to stop,
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 07:31 AM
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Which is why you design it in a way he won’t know, if you trust this other man enough? They can have a stay at home dads stay at home holiday and this guy can see he’s not feeding his children? I’m spitballing here. I’m also holding my tongue as your post made me want to break something on your behalf.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 06:06 AM
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Jesus. I can’t think of advice off the top of my head but even my stay at home dad (retired and mum worked) wasn’t this bad. At least he taught me poker, age seven, so he’d have someone to play with. Is there another man who can pull him aside and yell, what the hell dude? It’s sad to say but often they’ll listen to other men before their own wives. But this isn’t just awfully hard on you, he’s neglecting his own flesh and blood. I’m so sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 05:35 AM
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Diet is more important than exercise but exercise is a great motivator to eat right, it will increase your metabolism and also add some toning and curves if you do weights. Plus you’ll just FEEL good and when you start not just losing weight but noticing how much fitter you are, it’ll be doubly satisfying. Boxing conditioning classes are good as they’re high intensity. The class I go to is nearly all women and none can throw a punch properly at all. It doesn’t matter, it’s fun and healthy and a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 02:24 AM
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You said “unexpected intimacy”. Are you seeing each other and having sex but he won’t “date” you until you lose another 30pounds? And when he says opportunities does he mean now or even after you’ve leaped the last hurdle for him and lost the weight? You’ve done well, you deserve better. I can imagine (and have) tried to get a partner to lose weight for their health and because I loved them and was already committed. I cannot conceive of telling an overweight guy to lose 90 pounds before I’d be …
/r/RedPillWomen18/06/22 01:55 AM
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Depends on the friend. Your BF could always be humouring him, yeah yeah, sure sure, all the women, go for it cowboy. Best to talk w yr BF, suggest you feel uncomfortable given his friend likes to play away.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:21 PM
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Still didn’t mention meeting. Honestly you’d need more evidence or a face to face conversation
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 12:44 PM
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Was that him or his friends all chatting?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:30 AM
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What actual evidence do we have? He may?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 11:03 AM
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Isn’t there a pretty big Brazilian population in Miami?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 09:41 AM
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The issue is he didn’t tell you first. Sure, you can go to Miami! FYI, I’m off to Brazil anyway! Whether he hooks up… who knows. I’m not qualified to guess. Yes, the women in their costumes look extraordinary but that’s no reason to automatically think cheating. Plus a tonne of the women around at these times in places American tourists will be will be working girls. Is that something he’s into? To be fair also, Brazilian Carnavals are amazing and there are many reasons to go past getting laid.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 07:58 AM
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I ignored it as why as we discussing border controls in a RPW thread?
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 04:10 AM
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No, and I do know this too. Plenty were snipers and spies. A friend of mines mum was actually an undercover assassin. They weren’t on the front lines like the men in the same numbers but they were an active part of the war. Sadly those who gave their youth for the cause ended up alone w minimal support afterwards sometimes. Many of the men suffered too, but w a decoration could marry the prettiest girls in the village, something not accorded to the older women. Not a lot has been written in this…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:46 AM
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My two cents is I don’t see a comparison and I don’t live in the US but I’d be concerned any time the religious start legislating in accordance w their religion. Im not religious and I don’t want decisions in my country made based on someone else’s religious beliefs. Im fine w Catholics, Pentacostals, Muslims, Jews in office as that does what it’s meant to: represent all sections of the community. To refer to one’s conscience via religious belief is one thing but to impose or stop things based o…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:36 AM
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It isn’t an either / or. Abortion is legal there. The only border controls are around the vast grey markets of the borders by China.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:28 AM
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Only those who live in countries whose borders have not been breached have this masculine view of war. Talk to the Vietnamese women who fought the French, Americans, Chinese about your wonderful draft.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:06 AM
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Anti vax but pro forced surrogacy, and for a baby you definitely do not get to keep!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/22 02:04 AM
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A friend had an I’ll advised relationship w an older married man when she was as young. My wife just doesn’t get me / all she cares about is the baby / you truly understand me / she trapped me w children… my friend was naive to truly feel “empathy” for this garbage fire human rationalising cheating on his vulnerable, new mother wife via constantly running her down.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:35 AM
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We understand it’s against his will. Fuck his will. It’s not his body, he won’t be primary carer and no woman, especially when he hasn’t even married her, should take “his will” into calculations that will change her life forever. The wishes of a committed husband? Perhaps. The “will” of a man leading on another girl and revealing his partners intimate details? No. You want him, you know it’s wrong, so you’re demonising the other woman and not him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:27 AM
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We understand it’s against his will. Fuck his will. It’s not his body, he won’t be primary carer and no woman, especially when he hasn’t even married her, should take “his will” into calculations that will change her life forever. The wishes of a committed husband? Perhaps. The “will” of a man leading on another girl and revealing his partners intimate details? No. You want him, you know it’s wrong, so you’re demonising the other woman and not him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 09:27 AM
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I’m not entirely sure if her body, her choice goes against the no feminism rule here, but though if he wants children it is sad to lose them and have no say, she should not have to carry them to suit him, especially as he’s clearly not a sure bet. A lot of people have panic attacks. People on this sub have panic attacks. It is more complex than “emotionally unstable”. He can go jump, and I really feel for her.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/22 08:17 AM
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My mother taught me that it’s unnatural for women to enjoy it, it’s something you do to keep your husband happy and women who do like it are dirty, and men don’t respect them.
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 02:53 AM
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But once you have sex with your husband, be incredibly enthusiastic, and give lots and lots of blowjobs!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/22 02:50 AM
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People treated me far better after I lost weight. I went from a US size 6-8 (so not even that big) to a size 2-4 (so quite small) and suddenly everyone was my friend. It actually made me quite sad as I’d only lost the weight through illness.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/22 11:51 PM
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Over time you’ll learn how to weed these out. Some insecure men will want a SAHM, other secure men will too and may decide you’re not for them but that’s a difference in life goals, not because your degree makes them feel lesser. The kinds who ARE intimidated will find other ways to squash you, if you’re better at tennis than them, quicker to figure out the tip, work out the twist in the murder mystery first. You have to squash your natural self each day to keep them happy.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:23 AM
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Sure but why not do a bit of work, add to the savings account and retirement fund until you have them, even if it’s part time work?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 08:21 AM
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She’s not talking about SAHM but SAHW, that is, no family.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 04:46 AM
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I think many commentators are conflating stay at home mother with stay at home WIFE. A SHM will get child support if things go belly up and it may not be finically feasible for her to work a lot if that means crippling child care fees. However I too would be worried at being a stay at home wife with no kids. What’s the retirement plan going to look like? Or the work history if you do n Ed to go out to work? If there’s a five year gap but no kids how many employers will say, ah, you didn’t want t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 04:45 AM
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If you find something genuinely fascinating and you’re good at but not doing it so as not to intimidate a guy is the wrong tack. You’re pandering to insecurity and if you’re smart and curious that could intimidate the same set of guys anyway. The difference is w option one you get a degree that allows you to pursue a variety of jobs from high pressure to more relaxed but well paid. A man who doesn’t want a career driven woman as he wants a stay at home mother for children is one thing. A man put…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/22 02:51 AM
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If you naturally laugh loudly suppressing that is only going to squash you down. I had a friend you could always find across a crowded room from her endless, very loud laugh. It was charming as she took so much natural joy in things. This is not the same as the Chardonnay Screechers, of course.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 01:38 AM
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Does that mean it’s something women looking for a traditional man should not do? Does a woman in a swimsuit just running happily into the sea seem “attention seeking”? Frankly at the beaches I go to in summer there are so many of us the men must struggle to divide that attention.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/22 06:07 AM
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A good man doesn’t “control”, he leads is RPW wisdom here. I would suggest taking time out to think about yourself. Who are you? What do you like to do? What and who do you value? Who inspires you? This last question could be anything, it doesn’t need to be a femininity blogger, it could be Muhammad Ali for his stance on the Vietnam War or the leader of a local charity or, hell, Roman lawyer Cicero. Rather than trying to think of what a nebulous “high value conservative man” might like, think of…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 06:46 AM
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The notion that women who exercise outside are thots is more Taliban than red pill. By that notion wearing a swimsuit at the beach and having a nice run around the sand is attention seeking.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 05:45 AM
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Firstly you don’t need to wear “revealing” clothes to do yoga, that is mostly a western concept. But why shouldn’t you do yoga at the beach? The principles of the practice include being more aware of and in touch with the world, surely it is better to do that outdoors than in some studio? And unless it’s a female only class men will get a view of you stretching anyhow. I think the words “extremely violent” and “forbade” sum things up. He sounds horrible and controlling. Rules are not something a…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 05:12 AM
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Yes but then you have someone on another thread saying Laura Doyle believes following her steps fixes narcissistic husbands so a lot of inexperienced women are going to have trouble looking at things objectively. Is he cheating as I can’t inspire his commitment? Is he breaking things because I don’t show “enough” respect?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 02:21 AM
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How is that even slightly healthy? Narcissism is a disorder and being a good, submissive wife does not cure a disorder.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 02:08 AM
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They would never call a 29 year old beautiful and one without children at 29 would not be “smart”, even in her limited female brain capacity.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/22 06:42 AM
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I think it depends where you are. I’m in a big city, not conservative so it’s not considered strange to be an unmarried woman at 30. The important thing is you made the right choice to leave a bad relationship rather than hang around in fear. My friend who left her husband of so long did just that: spent years more than she needed as she’d spent years with him already and was scared, even at 26, she was “too old” to find a new guy. She wasted years hoping he’d improve and finally left when she d…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/22 02:58 AM
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I met my husband at 31. Eventually it didn’t work out but age wasn’t the issue. My friend was 32 when she met her husband and they unexpectedly had a baby when she was 40. There is always hope but if you focus on your age you’re going to give off vibes that might push ppl away. My best friend left her verbally abusive husband of 13 years when they were in a foreign country. He was her first and ten years into the marriage decided he didn’t want kids. She left at 31,met someone new and now has tw…
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/22 12:33 AM
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All stick and no carrot just leaves you starved and sore. My ex wasn’t quite like that but he’f rail against say, my pajamas or work out gear, telling me how gross I looked. I asked him to buy me what he wanted me to wear, take me shopping or at least pick it out online but his view was that I should just know. It’s not worth it. And your partner should NEVER call you a slut. That is disgusting,
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/22 10:00 AM
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Yeah it’s gorgeous virgin bride or worn out old slut turned crazy cat lady who’s entire life is kitty litter, box wine and bitterness because she turned down nice-guy Jake age 21. Now he’s a billionaire with an eight pack and a 16-year old super model wife. Yes, all men are attracted to youth, most women see that when they’re young but only men you may not want pursue it at all costs past a certain age. I met my husband at 31. His ex married at age 40.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 10:04 PM
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Phrases like “take you on, even at 29” are not going to help her outlook. Yes, you can meet and marry at any age. Kids are the harder thjng but you are not too old to have children at all.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 09:38 PM
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There are two types of “they are not attractive enough “. The first is that you are not physically attracted to them. You can’t really change this. You can find very sad ways around it, like drinking before sex, but you can’t change it. The second type, and the one more men fall into, is the notion that the person is not attractive enough to be seen with. They are not a status symbol. They might be attracted to them but they are not outwardly attractive enough to show off. If your feelings are t…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 09:24 PM
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You would really recommend she stay w a man who lies, cheats, blames her and has anger issues because the dating market is full of sad women?
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/22 04:56 AM
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You can also bulk cook and freeze. Simple things like chicken pieces you can throw into the oven w some simple vegetables you don’t need to spend forever cooking, like frozen broad beans. Make some cous cous after it’s cooked, a ten minute job at most.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/22 10:15 AM
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Its not a massive issue. The only time I felt genuine disgust was someone I knew — wasn’t dating — who went through a phase of essentially “collecting” virginities and had about 18 to his name before he “got over it”. That gave me a serious ick
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 04:49 AM
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Then it’s a moot point when it comes to your central argument?
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:10 AM
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I am broken now.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:19 AM
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I don’t think women ‘work themselves up’ to bigger penises. If they’re sticking absolutely huge objects in there, perhaps. My point is that the regular guys don’t satisfy not because she’s too loose from bigger men but because regular guys lack the specific thing she likes and wants.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:18 AM
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I remember my first kiss. I was 15 and at a church hall after a school dance. I had drunk half an alcoholic lemonade for the first time. He went to the boys Catholic school. We met on the dance floor and shyly kissed. We then retired to the folding chairs in the corner where we chewed each other’s faces off for two hours. He sat on me at one point, licked my face, and eyeball, and stuck his tongue in my ear. I bit him as I thought this was the done thing. My friends took photos. Another more dru…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:08 AM
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This is not because they’re stretched out. You called them size queens and that’s what they are. They like big ones because they like big ones. That’s their thing. They’re not stretched out. A particular subset of straight women and gay men are size queens. Plenty of others, even those w experience, will scream, no, get that thing away from me before it punctures my cervix! (Maybe not the gay men, but given the OPs understanding of anatomy, maybe yes). Also, what about sex toys? Will those stret…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 12:46 AM
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I think his third point is so utterly fanciful and nonsensical it invalidates his two former points for many.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 12:36 AM
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I’m sorry! I fixed the typos! I posted here a while ago about a girlfriend of mine who was a SAHM who’d tell me how her husband left her a five dollar note so she could buy a coffee each day. When we decided to go out to dinner she had to stop at his office for the bank card. She never used Uber, just got taxi money from him. The whole situation seemed… off. At her birthday he put her down in front of me despite her writing a PhD on counter terrorism in her THIRD language. I don’t know how peopl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 02:04 PM
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The idea of staying home does too. With small children and no work what do you do if you want to have a coffee with a friend? A hair cut? What about your own retirement fund? I think when working each person keeping SOME money for themselves in a private account is fine. But if you’re married then bulk goes into joint accounts. What’s mine is yours, but I still want to make my small but stupid eBay purchases in private.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 01:52 PM
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Why would this ever be necessary? Also boyfriend or husband?
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/22 02:29 AM
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How does he want you to go about this?
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 11:33 AM
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I think it tells me that we are all different and while RPW may be a toolbox, each of us uses the tools differently or values one more than another.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 04:30 AM
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I stumbled on this too as earlier he OP said she saved herself as that’s what she personally believes and it was not to compel him but later there seems to be that cow-milk-free argument? I think looking at other posts we can see many women had sex w their now husbands before marriage and still got married.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 03:06 AM
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While nagging is rarely productive there are plenty of reasons not to do it other than, I wasn’t a virgin when we married therefore not perfect. I don’t know your situation but I’d hate to think your view of yourself could ever lead to not speaking up about something more important.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 02:48 AM
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Yes, the purity culture thing never really caught on here.
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 12:04 AM
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It ended a while ago for myriad reasons, none related to sex.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 11:39 PM
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If he doesn’t trust you, based not on your actions but the arbitrary fact you’re a woman, how can you really trust him?
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 11:50 AM
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There is a converse to this and it’s not for everyone but my marriage, despite its myriad flaws in some ways, was one of great sexual intimacy. He had a high body count, I had one that could be considered high here. We both agreed that our sex life, and intimacy, was far beyond anything we’d previously experienced and at a new level. So I do not regret not waiting, nor do I feel it damaged my relationship as I learned exactly how unusual that connection was and that we were both lucky to have it…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/22 11:38 AM
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I had issues like this with my ex. Example: he wanted takeaway and asked me what I felt like and I said I was easy, whatever he preferred. He got angry, “I can’t stand it when chicks just say whatever, be decisive, have some confidence!” “Ok, I want Thai” “Thai?! In this weather? Thai is for when we’re sitting on a beach! Why do you always pick Asian food? Thai is literally the last thing I want! We’re never in the same page, you always have to annoy me don’t you!” “But you asked me…” “Shut up, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 03:31 AM
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A lip piercing is less permanent than a tattoo. She gets it, he hates it, she realises it’s just a lip ring and ditches it. A month later you’ll barely know it was ever even there, unlike a neck tattoo. Or maybe she gets and he doesn’t care or realises her getting spaghetti stuck in it is just too funny. My understanding of this sub is that it is about realising what tou want, putting value on yourself and holding yourself to standards to find and keep the kind of man you want while maintaining …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 07:17 PM
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He may lose attraction to you or want out but you are also young and not committed. He’s not your husband. If married either of you making a permanent physical change the other would not like but would be stuck looking at is important to discuss. This is why I kept my hair the way my ex husband liked and he consulted me over tattoo ideas. Piercings or whatever aside you need to figure out a boundary of what you will or won’t do to keep a new partner happy. He might resent your lip piercing. You …
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/22 12:40 PM
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No she’s not: she’s an inauthentic simulacrum of what any guy she’s with might want w no boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/22 11:19 AM
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I thought a pick me was the opposite? Look, I don’t wear high heels and talk about makeup LIKE OTHER GIRLS! You’re essentially defining yourself in opposition to whatever “women” are doing en masse to show how much better you are. That can equally be, I’m so down to earth I wear tennis shoes everywhere OR I always dress well, not those slobby girls in pajamas in the grocery store. It doesn’t matter: other women are facile and bad, you are above them. It’s seeking male validation by tearing other…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/22 04:46 AM
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One issue: you cannot convert to Hinduism.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 10:55 AM
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The sidewalk thing only matters if you’re more likely to have a drive by purse snatching or something. As for the car door… who cares? The car door part that matters is actually from A Bronx Tale that looks at a woman’s behaviour on a first date.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 09:47 AM
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Is it electric or a stove top? The latter are trickier. Slow cookers are good, throw everything in before bed, wake up to food. Switch off, go to work and allow the flavours more time to meld. Best part is that relatively cheap cuts of beef and some basic veggies work well.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/22 04:21 AM
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If he’s put off because he is traditional and sees a higher sex drive and wanting sex, rather than gracefully receiving it as masculine and not feminine then I’m not sure vibrators will help.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/22 09:41 AM
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I still can’t help but feel she got a shitty deal. I’d hate to feel I was someone’s “rebel” phase.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/22 02:01 AM
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Whether you’re right or wrong, he’s still wrong. If she was a psycho in other ways that’s one thing but ending what is meant to be a lifetime commitment because crazy-sexy wife one was a “phase” seems unfair, and not particularly traditional, either.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/22 12:30 AM
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Of course he divorced her? So she complied w what he wanted and dressed slutty and once he’d proved his point, what? He married a more suitable woman? Sounds like it kinda sucks for her.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/22 09:41 AM
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Exactly. Anti psychotics are used to treat a very serious medical condition. I usually find RPW women to be non judgemental on mental health issues so this is disappointing. Given the inheritable nature of psychosis I can understand questions over having a child but that is a separate issue. Here taking medication is framed purely as a value judgement. Also, whose business is it if she does do anal? I’m sure plenty of women in happy relationships enjoy it. I think there are better ways to shame …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/22 01:42 AM
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Ps. Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 06:55 AM
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I wish I’d known about SJ when I got married. My GFs could have kept much prettier dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 06:54 AM
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Shona Joy is lovely, Zimmerman too although frightfully expensive. SIR the label. Bec and Bridge.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/22 03:55 AM
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I’d love that, this is amazing!
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 04:45 AM
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That imaginary research idea is fantastic! Can you send us more ideas?
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:44 AM
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The only caveat to this is if you’re in a relationship with an unfit person and start. My ex would make horrible remarks about how I was “like a man” when I was a size 2 and not even slightly bulky. It came down to his issue as I made the effort to exercise and he didn’t, so he’d try to tear me down. This however is even more reason to do the exercise you enjoy, you’ll only feel worse if you hold yourself back to make someone else feel good.
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/22 05:04 AM
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What is an office and a desk to you? What is a job? You’re describing a kind of blank slate idea, but outside of a cubicle farm idea w a “lady boss” you haven’t elaborated. Have you worked in these places? What did you do? What did you like or hate? If you’ve never done it can you explain what work looks like to you? I’ve worked my whole life and have never quite seen the amorphous desk space lady boss world outside of the internet and entertainment. It exists. So do fulfilling jobs.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/22 12:41 PM
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Whoever initiates the first date should pay. He asks you out? He pays. After that it changes. The last person I dated asked me out to one of the most expensive wine bars in the city and ordered a $100 bottle of wine. Obviously he paid. I can’t afford that and he out earned me by a factor of three to five. On subsequent less fancy dates, like a cheap but amazing Szechuan place, I paid. I think in general even with friends I’d rather go the route of one person paying this time and the other paying…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/22 12:18 AM
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I had the inverse of this w my husband. We both worked full time and in theory shared everything 50% but that worked out at my doing 100% of the cooking, shopping and washing up while being expected to share 50% of the other chores. The thing is, if I did something even slightly wrong anc not the way he had ‘told’ me to do it, there was screaming, yelling and he’d break things. I ended up a nervous wreck in my house and stopped doing extra chores because I ended up so stressed I’d be screamed at…
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/21 06:27 AM
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No it absolutely isn’t true but I’ve seen these utterly insane ideas pop up in rp and pick up subs. It isn’t allegory, they actually believe this.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 10:20 AM
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These are, remember, the same types who believe a vagina is like a tree. Just as a year adds a ring, another penis then another stretches it out further and further, until you can see it on google maps.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 08:18 AM
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I thought men aged better then a few years ago I saw a film w you g Alec Baldwin. Holy shit there is NO comparison! He might have aged relatively well and have a far, far younger wife but he was much better looking then. It’s just that men get things to compensate that women do not.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/21 08:16 AM
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Maybe be a little more specific in what he’s asking you? It’s hard to offer advice w little information.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/21 08:49 AM
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And there is also more serious things. What, bad case scenario, he’s using drugs or being verbally abusive? Honey I’m bringing you my problem: you swearing at me in front of friends makes me sad, how do we fix this? Versus If you keep doing this then I can’t keep doing this.
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/21 01:13 PM
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In fairness this is what many of us have been taught. My mother always told me it was just something you had to do when married and was very specific that a woman actively liking it was flat out disgusting. Messed me up for a while.
/r/RedPillWomen14/11/21 05:16 AM
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Whats wrong with Will Smith?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/21 10:45 AM
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There is nothing in this Daily Mail story which suggests anything he is a hard done by husband. There is his one comment about marrying a spender but I gather she also had her own money. He became a great success while they were married and now he’s enjoying himself. It happens.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 03:05 PM
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Jagger is closer to 80 than 60… I believe the woman who is mother to his youngest is still under 30 or was close to. It’s believed his affair with her was why his designer partner of many years walked out of school window.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 12:50 PM
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Niall Ferguson is one of the English speaking worlds best known contemporary historians. Best selling author, well paid speaker… how is that NOT successful?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/21 12:48 PM
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It depends on length. I’d say for really long hair, like near the shall of your back late 40s on might start being too old but it all depends on the person. Long hair in your 20s is fine. I’m in my 30s and my hair was waist length until my hair dresser got excited. It would still be considered ‘long’ however.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/21 01:07 PM
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If you get an eyebrow tint do it a couple of days before so it’s not too strong.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/21 02:18 AM
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I’m glad you like it! Happy to help. I love seeking out designers from other parts of the world.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 02:22 AM
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https://meanblvd.com/pages/chats-by-c-dam
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 02:08 AM
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The brand on there chaats/ chhats (something like that) is really lovely
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 02:05 AM
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Ps. I don’t know how to link on my phone
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 01:55 AM
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There’s also a great Vietnamese online store for many brands called meanblvd, with many pretty formal dresses that would fit you
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/21 01:37 AM
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I’ll go Korean chicken first if I haven’t had anything to drink as it’s just better
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/21 03:04 AM
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Although… when it comes to KFC… they’re right
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 07:50 AM
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There is a good, irreverent quote about this: if you did it drunk you wanted to do it sober. Answer: not sure I wanted to sleep outside in a wheelbarrow all night but ok… In vino veritas can be a thing, but not always.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 02:17 AM
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It is a pretty terrible thing to do: my now ex husband did the exact same thing to me after telling me he’d only married me to get his mother off his back. I moved to the other side of the country also, where I had no family or friends really and am now stuck. When we were together most of my friends were his friends but since we split I’ve been lucky to make some of my own. I think the other comments on whether you want to be with someone who’d go back on his word are valid. I’m so sorry, by th…
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/21 02:21 AM
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Provocative? This has no place here.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/21 01:40 AM
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And plenty of men have names for women who frequently “forget their purses”.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 11:02 AM
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Ok honestly you’re not too out of line. He asked for a favour, kept you waiting when he knew you had to work, talked endlessly about himself then sprung this on AT THE STORE! If he was low on funds he should have asked when he asked for the lift and not left you in the embarrassing position of HAVING to pay. Current day trading by retail investors is largely gambling and it’s going to fall over at some point. He can trade $930 and pay for his food. You expressed how you feel, you’re allowed to d…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 02:37 AM
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Bad will differ from person to person but I’d suggest it is actively bad rather than just not great or underwhelming. The first time for any two ppl may not be amazing. You work through that as you more about each other. I’m thinking more the kind of experience that makes your toes curl, makes you not want to go back there again. This is actually an interesting topic and I’d be keen to hear others thoughts.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 09:20 AM
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I doubt we’re ever going to see eye to eye on this but I’d really caution you to be a little more careful how you express things for some readers here who may be a bit younger. I’d hate to think a young woman who had an unpleasant sexual experience with her partner and decided not to pursue the relationship felt there was something wrong with her, or missing. It can happen. I was dating someone and the first time we were together he had ED issues. That was fine. His decision to start berating hi…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/21 02:54 AM
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So your belief is that any woman who doesn’t stick around after sex is one who can’t pair bond?
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/21 12:39 PM
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Not liking someone’s sexual style is not always inability to pair bond or being too experienced to appreciate relationship sex. There are plenty of women here who say they thought they were asexual or didn’t like sex for it to turn out their previous partners were just selfish or lazy.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 03:54 AM
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You could also realise you are totally sexually incompatible and a relationship will not work out. Many years ago I was dating someone for a while and our first encounter was so unnerving and dispiriting I never wanted to see him again.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 03:41 AM
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It’s not the swearing it’s that she’s clearly off her rocker. And trying way too hard. Less make up, too, might be nice?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 03:19 AM
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If money is shared and he makes mistakes with it that can have a big impact on both of you, so it’s not just up to him. For example I packed my exes breakfast and lunch each day not just because I wanted to but because when I didn’t he’d spend up to $30 or more on food and then when we needed to make a big purchase couldn’t afford it, leaving me to pay because “you’re money is our money anyway honey, we’re married!” I had that money because I was very careful with it but tried not to “control” h…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 02:02 AM
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We ALL look, men and women to varying degrees but the ones with class and smarts don’t get caught. Openly staring at some young girls butt “as if his life depended on it” is not a good look.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 04:36 AM
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One of the issues I’ve had reading much of this is retroactively blaming myself for my ex’s abuse, I.e I did not trigger his protective instincts which is why he would become aggressive / shove me / spit on me. He told me as much as well. While I take value from reading these posts we have to be very careful not to blame ourselves when things get too out of control also,
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/21 04:25 AM
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By the way I had a similar but different experience w my ex. We would watch the news and he’d yell at it but while he’d say “it’s so nice to be with a woman I can actually watch the news with” if I had anything that looked like an even slightly different opinion there was hell to pay. Why doesn’t someone shoot Trump? Because then Mike Pence is in charge and historically few political assassinations have yielded good results. Fuck, why do you always have to contradict me, why can’t you ever agree…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 10:52 AM
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My exes main hobby was getting stoned. Got sick of supporting that one, especially during covid when he out of work and not contributing a lot financially but could always afford pot, cigarettes and takeaway. Bringing it up was “nagging” so I eventually gave up entirely and let him do whatever he wanted to avoid a fight. We still broke up. Some hobbies are destructive, some not.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 04:27 AM
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That’s not nice. I don’t agree w you either on some of those things but Christ, unless you oppose universal healthcare on the basis of eugenics you’re not a Nazi. Has he not heard of Godwin’s Law? Ps. Why don’t you support universal healthcare out of curiosity? As someone who has taken her mother to emergency five times in a year w one overnight stay and lots of tests at no cost it’s two thumbs up from me!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 04:22 AM
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Could you give us some examples so we can better respond?
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:51 AM
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Spin classes are good if you have injuries and can burn a lot of calories.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 01:49 AM
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Regarding collagen surely beef cheek is up there too? It’s one of my favourite cuts and so easy to make, plus the northern hemisphere is heading into winter so perfect timing for a hearty, and actually low fat, stew.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/21 01:44 AM
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Which is why I don’t use it but fully subscribe to the notion. Though both genders have a portion who are horrifically immature in gender specific ways.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 10:30 AM
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What was your comment?
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 07:52 AM
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To be fair I know a fair number of men who use man child also and delicate male ego, usually about corporate types they have to deal w in their roles as specialists / scientists.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/21 01:50 AM
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It depends. They prefer women younger than them and would likely happily date someone 20 years younger if they could and connected. At the same time, I’m separated from my husband, in my late 30s and have had zero trouble dating men, finding men who like me and who are clearly attracted to me and want more than a roll in the hay. Obviously marriage isn’t a thing I’m looking for ASAP so perhaps that will change but certainly I’ve actually had less trouble than in the days when I was single before…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/21 08:46 AM
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Wow I recall Only Lovers totally differently! She was strong, cool, take charge and he was... a whining, narcissistic indie rock star pain in the arse! You’d rather submit to a dish towel, albeit a well designed one... GREAT soundtrack however.
/r/RedPillWives01/09/21 05:43 AM
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Listening to: Cesaria Evoria, one of the great singers of the 20th / 21st centuries. Most romantic music you’ll ever hear
/r/RedPillWives01/09/21 05:23 AM
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If you’re staying at home to raise children is it still “his” money? Also while I appreciate the effort you put into this, these do seem like rather important life skills, cooking, money management and tidying up should be for all of us, whether married, marriage minded or 20 and living in a cheap share house. Though I do wish I was better at keeping my plants alive.
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/21 11:54 PM
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Thank you! The brand I use is at most Asian groceries and only a couple of dollars.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/21 03:33 AM
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Black vinegar chicken Marinate bone in pieces in Chinese black vinegar, soy sauce, crush garlic and ginger, fresh and fried chilies, scallions and a touch of five spice. Cook in oven turning occasionally. Time and heat depends on your chicken. Serve w fresh scallions and rice.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/21 04:26 AM
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Thanks for that though it sounds as though you’re largely describing a stay at home wife. If the wife worked and contributed half the expenses, does the don’t bother him with your issues after work still stand? I ask as in my marriage I did so but as I worked earlier and finishe earlier I always had dinner ready or cooking once he was home. I usually asked about his day as I cooked and listened but at times I found the complaining tiring, sometimes it was 45 minutes a night on why he hated his b…
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 12:12 PM
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Some of what you’ve said is sweet but I’d also see my partner as my primary place to discuss issues. Having had a bad day and then knowing he’ll simply ‘endure’ me talking about it would make me very sad, as though my issues don’t matter and only detract from our relationship.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 01:44 AM
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You are not that big. I mean, you are larger but in terms of ‘big girls’ you’re almost on the small side. You have a gorgeous face and lovely eyes. Maybe a hair cut with some layers to frame your face and a lash lift to bring out those eyes would help too? You could shape your brows too but others love the natural look. Any man who treats you badly for being big is garbage. He might not be in love with you but courtesy is mandatory
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 09:10 AM
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Can I also suggest high intensity interval training? That will boost your metabolism so you burn more calories rather than restricting them only
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 08:46 AM
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Captain is a concept but CEO and board member are literal things.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:21 AM
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I have to ask here but how are we defining a ‘career’? Because the anti-career folk here... make it sound like a caricature, some kind of 1990s Melrose Place corporate shrike. Careers exist outside of large exchange-listed companies. A career is a reasonably paid calling, ideally with some progression. A job just gets you money. Being a librarian can be a career, if you are serious about it. Being a stockbroker can just be a job, if you’re good enough at it to make money while not giving a damn.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 03:58 AM
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Sex. Those conversations with your dad can be WEIRD. At the same time he was the only one w a more realistic and healthy attitude. Being told even kissing means you “have no self respect” and that sex is solely something to be endured is not healthy and can often backfire.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 04:01 AM
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Yes this, there is a post on from not too long ago about “settling”. I think the issue is as women were told we like the bad boys and so to kick against that, especially after a bad relationship or two, we find someone who really is very nice and then we overlook all other issues of compatibility. Music taste dull, set in his ways, sex not great, different senses of humour but he’s nice to you? Don’t be THAT girl who needs drama! Keep him! Alternately some of the kindest people I’ve met have had…
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/21 03:04 AM
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Can you tire him out before bed? Go for a run / dance class / gym, then food, wine and sex? Reward him for going to bed early, joints and pizza in bed? Just don’t set it on fire. I had the same issue but the problems were the high power bills from a flat screen and heater running ten hours a day, my being kept awake each night when I had to get up early and his flat out, I don’t care cos your job sucks and also hearing from him how tired he was every day because he didn’t sleep enough. If he’s n…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/21 04:52 PM
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Deffo, spoke the Aussie! Haha,
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 07:14 AM
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Also, we’re all focussing on teaching boys to tidy up and cook. I LOVE to cook. Know what else I’d love? For my father to have taught me basic home maintenance skills like how use tools to do basic home fix ups. My husband did all of that. Now we’re separated. Everyone should have all skills. They can share them out once in a partnership but if you’re a single woman with one income hiring handymen for basic work is an added cost to life. I’m lucky I have some girlfriends who work in trades and c…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/21 02:47 AM
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Thanks! It wasn’t all bad certainly and I did have fun, I’d feel awful if he saw this. I just realised over time it wasn’t quite right for me. I think I explained it to a friend as, I don’t think he’s ever told a dirty joke in his life. For a lot of women that would be the kind of man they’d value, but I need someone who can make me laugh and who can poke fun at things.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/21 03:35 AM
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This resonates with me. After separating from my husband I stated dating someone. From the beginning it just never felt quite... there. But my mother especially got into my head and said, if he has a job and he’s nice to you what’s the problem? Stop being so picky! This is just because you like bad boys, like your husband! I wouldn’t describe my ex that way, but anyway... So I kept at it, ignoring the lack of sexual compatibility, that he never made me laugh, that he could be quite stuck in his …
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 10:06 AM
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Here is one anecdote, which should not be taken as a universal truth but is worth thinking on. My great, great grandfather was not a wealthy man but still believed his daughter was too good to work and should simply stay at home before and after marriage. In those days she was hardly headed to law school but she could have learned something useful like millinery or professional sewing. She married, and had two little girls. Her husband was a cad who stepped out on her, with half the suburb as it…
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/21 04:45 AM
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Bret Contreras for all things butt-related, if that’s what you are after.
/r/RedPillWives01/06/21 02:16 AM
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I’ve read somewhere that much of the book was based different historical and world events and one analogue for the time was the Iranian revolution. The religious crackdown that occurred was very different to the way educated women in the city lived.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/21 04:23 AM
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I have been through all this, though temper ranged from constant small put downs (you’re so stupid / gross / lazy / boring / annoying) to full blown screaming / having stuff thrown at me / being spat on / shoved / jabbed or kicked once hard enough to leave a bruise after I rolled over in my sleep and pulled the blanket off him. My great regret is feeling sorry for him and believing he could change and not leaving. He always said he’d never been like this w anyone else and so it was clearly my in…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/21 04:18 AM
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I’ve been in this situation recently. I started seeing someone for a little while after my marriage ended. I should have ended the new relationship far sooner but my mother got in my head and was saying, if he has a job and he’s nice to you what’s the matter? Don’t be so picky! He WAS nice but it just wasn’t there for me. If the chemistry isn’t there then it just isn’t. Move on.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/21 06:06 AM
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I’m white but I’ve known a few white guys w Asian fixations. That isn’t necessarily always all bad, one friend has dated only Asian women but all his relationships were respectful, but the ones w stereotypes of petite, submissive girls are to be avoided. One way to get him to open up might be to get his opinions on western women and culture. If he starts w the whole, white women are fat unfeminine trash rant and then next him. I know this is a more traditional sub but those guys? Avoid. As he is…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/21 01:47 AM
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You do? Thank you. Life never turns as you expect I guess.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:13 AM
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Thanks for your answer. Strength is my go to but the gyms are shut so no barbells for me. When I was super strong pre pandemic (almost got to five rep sumo deadlifts of 1.5 body weight... almost) I was also the smallest I had been in years.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 03:06 AM
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I don’t have the space or a connection to follow along on the TV. I strength train as a rule w barbells but the gyms have just been shut down again so I’m looking for new, no equipment exercise ideas. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/21 03:04 AM
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Yeah criticising you so you improve is one thing but it’s not like as a kid you could do much about your chest so why hassle you unless someone’s paying for your boob job?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 08:55 AM
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I’m not sure what to add here. But I do have a funny story. Years ago I shared a house w few people including a French guy who was very much a boy’s boy. He loved weed, drinking, his motorbike and girls. We had a mouse problem in the house, way more than one, and someone put out traps. He found one in a trap still alive squeaking away as it was badly hurt. Instead of deal w it, he came knocked on my door to ask what to do. Well, put the poor thing out of its misery, I said. I ended up having to …
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/21 06:22 AM
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Cesaria Evora made gorgeous music
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/21 05:16 AM
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It’s not normal. It is sadly very, very ordinary however.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 03:00 PM
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She was also dumped for a teenager by him, who later alleged abuse
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/21 12:39 PM
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One thing: Heels are more than painful, wearing them all the time is damaging for your hips, lower back and ankles. To this day I can barely do any one legged poses in yoga thanks to terrible ankle mobility. Yay for being the girl who lived in stilettos a decade ago (young idiot!). They’re like champagne and chocolate, lovely on the odd occasion but bad for your body day in, day out. Cushioning matters and they shouldn’t be so steep your foot looks like a ski slope. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 02:47 PM
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Depends on the culture. Three or young guys crashed on a bed like a pile of drunk puppies is more normal in Asia and not “gay”. Getting the chopper out and waving it around is also sadly common among young Aussie men when drunk. Not sure if they ask their friends to sleep with them though. But in this case, I think we’ve already established the cause. Run, OP.
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/21 12:46 AM
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What, when they can watch? Pretty sure most men would have an issue w her going behind his back, but possibly a vagina wouldn’t crush his soul the way a second penis would? I think “hey honey I’m hooking up with your female friend behind your back because I hate sex with you, married you due to family pressure and might be gay in any case” is not a conversation men of any stripe want to have with their wives. But this story sure puts a new spin on the, should spouses have opposite sex friends th…
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 11:11 AM
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I understand that while RPW recommends fixing and not just leaving a relationship you can’t fix being gay. If you are, and you leave now you’ll burn down what you’ve built, hurt your husband, upset your family and have to learn to function on your own. However you are both young and will both be free to fall in love with new women. If you repress this, have sex you don’t like, get some kids out of it while all the while pretending you’re not gay until you explode ten years down the line, you’ll …
/r/RedPillWomen13/04/21 04:15 AM
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Don’t forget the humble rice cooker frittata too!
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/21 04:21 AM
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It’s funny you say that as one of his beefs was that all I did was “cook” and no cleaning. Cooking included shopping daily, preparing dinner every night, washing up, clearing the fridge, packing breakfast and lunch, loading and unloading the dishwasher. He vacuumed on the weekends and did the laundry, though I usually took it in and put it away. He was incredibly resentful of this even though he refused to cook a meal. So... probably for the best as children would have made things worse, I guess…
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 12:50 AM
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And ps OP whether you find a man or not your attitude towards yourself and your poor eggs aren’t going to lure them in. Be kind to yourself. While we all understand these realities many men would prefer to defuse a loudly ticking bomb than deal w a loudly ticking biological clock.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 03:51 AM
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I’m older than you and getting divorced after my husband discovered his shoddy lifestyle had seriously hampered his fertility and it was somehow my fault (he smokes because I’m annoying) and he realised he only married me for the short term but wants babies with some other girl, or something. Life is just... messy. Maybe I should have concentrated on getting married at 20 but I never met the right person, and when I did, well, I didn’t and have the indignity of not just being a for-now girlfrien…
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 01:16 AM
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Judging anyone unless they’re causing harm is a fraught business. I would say that older women who have always been housewives can come across more childlike than women today who might have worked or travelled before staying home with children. That is also an upper middle class thing. I would say there is a subset of now-older women who do seem childish as that’s what they’ve been taught to be and with no education, work history or money worries and trying to stretch a few dollars, why wouldn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/21 08:10 AM
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I’d like to know if this is common behaviour? I’d agree w the sentiments here, it’s not healthy or respectful and once it starts it doesn’t stop.
/r/RedPillWives29/03/21 01:18 AM
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My mother had me at 41 and she was back in her tight size small jeans after two weeks. Your best bet is to take care of your health and fitness and pre pregnancy focus on your core as a stronger one will bounce back!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/21 10:24 AM
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Depends on the friendship and culture of where you live. If you had a close lifelong male friend would you dump him for a boyfriend or only see him with your partner now there also?
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/21 04:31 AM
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The news can be depressing, but I think it’s worth knowing what’s going on in the world. I can’t change every suicide bombing, earthquake, mass murder but I’d like to at least respect those victims enough to be informed rather than worrying the parlous state of much of the world will impact my ability to be a sunbeam. That’s on me to do it despite trouble. Whether news lies depends what you watch and read and where. For unbiased world coverage SBS world news in Australia is great and can be stre…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 10:35 AM
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Rather than focussing on the near moral dimensions look at it practically. Cant curl your hair in the morning? Plait it the night before then unplait it and fluff it up. Eyelash and brow tint or a lash lift mean no mascara or eyebrow pencil. If you can’t afford it go to a student place, they’re very cheap. A good skincare routine beats lots of foundation et al. Stay healthy and fit and you should be fine.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/21 12:23 AM
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I was definitely taught by my mother that it is a distasteful chore and something one does to keep the husband happy. Her response to, but women enjoy it too ! Was to tell me not to be disgusting.
/r/RedPillWives19/03/21 05:07 AM
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And people can lose their identities in relationships. Women lose their feminine identity and stop trying to look as cute / get excited to try new dresses while men drop hobbies and exercise or... whatever. You’re busy with kids but even before you have them how much nicer to stay in the sofa together with pizza in Friday than do your hair, fit into your favourite jeans and heels and head out dancing like you did when dating or single?
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 09:01 AM
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No but you also won’t be lying around in lingerie all day. My husband used to ask me to get rid of “all unsexy clothes” like sweat pants and baggy tshirts. I didn’t as I figured once we had kids I’d hardly be getting up early to put on a surreptitious coat of mascara or lounge in a silk teddy and I didn’t want to create too high expectations but I always stayed in shape.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/21 08:57 AM
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A tonne of men in the presence of a truly beautiful woman will go to pieces, genuinely believe everything she says is fascinating and drive a 100km round trip to drop her home safe while asking other, lesser beings for $2 gas money. The dumb pretty girls turn into bitches often and the smart ones end up resentful as they’re always told they only got anywhere because they’re pretty.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/21 04:19 AM
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It’s also addiction, which ppl want to hide. A drunk will go out and get drunk. An alcoholic might have one drink at a party, make their excuses about having to drive then drink a bottle of whiskey at home w the cat.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 03:33 AM
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It could also be that being fat they eat little in public and a LOT behind closed doors. My ex-MIL who wa 5’3” and over 100kgs picked at her plate every family meal despite cooking enough to feed two armies but would inhale a box of chocolates late at night alone in front of the TV or snack all day so she could rarely eat large meals. The only bigger girl I knew who also ate a lot in public was also the only one I knew who was comfortable in herself. I knew a very large guy who was just the same…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 01:55 AM
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Happy to. Hope it’s of some use.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/21 03:18 AM
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Close male friends are also likely to be a useful sounding board less likely to yell, Yass Kween you deserve so much better! He is more likely to say, well actually your man might have a point but also rationally point out areas of egregious bullshit too. The can men and women ever be friends debate rages here frequently. Clearly I sit in the yes side. But here is an example outside of my own cultural world. For some years I lived in Asia. Expat men were exclusively interested in the local women…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:37 AM
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It’s their version of Female Dating Strategy, to a point. Except they’re giving up women while FDL is about not accepting poor behaviour to the point where it devolves into general male bashing. Read through the comments on both and some have been badly harmed, others are just bitter in general. Neither are healthy. As an aside, I’ve always wondered how gay versions of the same thing work. Do lesbians who’ve been taken for a ride swear off women? MGTOW and FDL can’t reconcile as both are convinc…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/21 03:08 AM
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Thank you for this. If I had my time over I would have been far more aware but at first I thought it was nice he was so close to his family having had boyfriends in the past who had to be reminded to call their mothers on Mother’s Day. She also competed endlessly with my mother and demanded primacy of the MILs as she was the mother of the husband and therefore the more important of the two. On the one hand she was very critical of him and in the did everything for him and expected me to do the s…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/21 03:42 AM
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He’s threatened violence to you? What sets off his anger? Frankly, this doesn’t sound a situation where being a better partner is going to help him. Get out, be safe as you do it, but let him know why if you can safely. How are you going to feel if you have daughters with him, and this is what he instills in their little heads?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 05:48 AM
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Could you elaborate more on his anger and the things he says?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/21 03:08 AM
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Pingu! Ok it’s Scandinavian claymation penguins but cute as hell.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/21 05:54 AM
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No, unless he makes the moves to really change in his own. Should I be nicer to someone being horrible to me is a non starter question but one many women in love with a sunk cost mentality ask. It’s an easy path to go down if you end up in a kind of Stockholm Syndrome and no one else hears what your partner says. If he blames it on you, which mine did saying he’d never treated a woman like this before so that was proof I “just made him so mad”, you further it’s your job to be a good girl and ins…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/21 02:49 AM
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It depends on the salad. Balsamic and olive oil is always a good, basic mix. Yes, most supermarkets sell a range of kangaroo products — fillet, steak, sausages, burgers. Except in Tasmania where they sell wallaby. Are there any other Aussies who can verify this?
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 08:03 PM
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Exercise as it motivates me to eat well. Giant super salads with seven different vegetables including legumes, plus cheese, seeds, nuts and lean red meat. Being Aussie I opt for kangaroo or a lean cut of lamb. I found I lost the most fat from very consistent heavy lifting every second day. Given I went high weight low reps I also stayed quite petite, just toned and strong plus I could eat far more without worries.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 08:33 AM
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Also, cook what you like to eat as you’ll be a better judge of taste than things you’re unfamiliar with. Move on from there. If you don’t love food expect to be a competent cook with practice but not outstanding. Watch cooking and food shows for inspiration. I always loved Anthony Bourdain, which is more food and culture than cooking but gives you a real appreciation of eating well. Read, watch and eat widely. Try new, maybe intimidating things, like the bbq chicken feet at a Chinese restaurant.…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 07:39 AM
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Start by following recipes then when you’re more confident aggregate then. So, say you feel like... Arrabiata, or mapo tofu. Read six different recipes, be sure you understand the fundamentals then cook from scratch. Thai cooking expert David Thompson is great at explaining the theory behind the food and recipes. He’s so good even the Thais respect him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/21 07:08 AM
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You’re a sweetheart. Mine never made a nasty comment to his credit, and said when I did gain a little it was fine, it was just the vibe and all the compliments when I was super tiny. It reminds me of when I lost a tonne of weight when I lived overseas and got endless compliments, largely from men in how much better I looked and how, being honest, I hadn’t before. What did you DO?? Me: contracted dysentery!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 03:18 AM
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You’re always cooking or at the gym! Was a common complaint. The other option was to eat tiny amounts of food he liked that was simple to cook, like pasta or brisket but then he was upset I was tired and rundown. You can’t always win
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/21 12:34 AM
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That’s true, I noticed my ex was nicer when I was ultra, ultra thin and grumpier w me when I gained a couple of pounds. He never verbalised that, but would compliment me more. However he was also resentful of the time it took me to maintain that size 0 to 2, so it was hard both ways. Feeling less valuable when I was a little bigger was tough on my confidence too.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 06:26 AM
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What you do is up to you but I had an ex like this except it was a magnitude worse as he’d stand by and watch a guy do something he didn’t like and do nothing then turn on me later on. A friend of mine took a bottle of wine (which, just incidentally I had paid for) from our fridge at the end of a party and instead of saying, hey buddy could you please put that back he just watched and then berated me later, for HOURS, because of it. It was proof I was no good, had awful friends, was a bad person…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/21 04:05 AM
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Ah ok. Is that the cultural disconnect that she’s in Western Europe or is she just mental?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/21 05:55 AM
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Are you all Eastern European or is she and you’re in America? Speaking as a westerner with a former Eastern European MIL they are hard work!
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/21 10:08 AM
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Well... I’d be interested in other comments but I think a short term period of not working shouldn’t mean he’d no longer like to ‘protect’ me. There is a lot of talk in this thread about the women always being capable of stepping up if something happens like a job loss. Being in permanent need shouldn’t be a requirement for a healthy marriage as these days it is not sustainable.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/21 05:58 AM
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Being well travelled may not be a ‘tick’ for men the way it is for some women but it’s indirect effect shouldn’t be discounted. Being well travelled (note: I don’t mean getting wasted in a series of backpacker hostels) might make you more open, willing to see other perspectives, willing to try new things and possibly a more interesting conversationalist. It also depends on where you are from. There is far more of a travel culture in New Zealand and Australia than the US so plenty of men would be…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/21 05:41 AM
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Well yes, but he was earning much better money than me till COVID hit when I kept my job and he was put out of work. But what is the solution? Quit my job and go into welfare to ‘inspire’ him to step up? Surely it shouldn’t be so hard.
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/21 01:18 AM
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It’s him, not you. Even if you ARE saying odd stuff, and you’re not, saying ‘normal’ girls don’t say that stuff is hurtful and wrong.
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 04:08 AM
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I think it comes down to hip to waist ratio. A woman with a genuine hour glass shape will be sexier to many at more sizes. Other shapes may not look as good at different sizes.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/20 07:58 AM
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I know where you are, I think. You can buy frozen shelled ones at some of the big Asian groceries in China town close to the city. PM me if you want more info.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 11:32 PM
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Thank you! Frozen beans and peas are your friend. Shelled edamame are great in salads and all you need to do is defrost. End of the day: if you’re worried about your cooking serve dinner an hour after they arrive so there’s time to get them drunk. Given your handle suggests you’re an Aussie this should not be TOO hard and explains why you can have a dozen ppl over.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 08:53 AM
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Slow or pressure cook some stuff before like ribs / brisket / pulled pork. Stews are good too. I did a ten dish Vietnamese menu for friends months ago and cooked caramel pork and red wine beef days before. Simple salads to match your meats you can make from scratch that day. If your oven is small roast meat and veggies in the same tin. Pastries you can make before like a spinach and feta burek.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/20 10:19 AM
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This is definitely an issue although how you deal with it will ultimately depend on his willingness to address it. My marriage was very similar in that he lashed out when in a bad mood, tired, fighting with his family, or slightly inconvenienced. For example I rolled over and pulled the blanket off him in my sleep so he’d jerk it back hard to wake me up and then swear at me. No matter how many times I’d say his behaviour was inappropriate I’d be dismissed or just told it was because “you just pi…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 03:45 AM
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It might be better if you describe your shape too not just your size. One of my friends is a big girl (UK18) but still an hourglass shape so picks cute fitted vintage style things. ModCloth is great for this. I’m a size UK6 to 8 but have hip dip so anything fitted and stretchy makes me look like an oil lamp. Ruffled blouses are cute and go with pants and skirts.
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 03:10 AM
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I think a lot of these responses are conflating attractive and attracted to. Yes, you can marry someone not conventionally physically attractive and be very happy. If you are personally not attracted to your partner it will be much harder, for both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/20 12:05 AM
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Sex aside, maybe if he won’t open up at all then there’s a bigger issue?
/r/RedPillWives24/11/20 04:05 AM
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There is also that more illusive chemistry. I’ve dated physically attractive guys who were also smart, charming and nice but felt nothing when they tried to kiss me. I’ve also dated less attractive guys where there was that spark. It depends for everyone but if yr never attracted to him, skip it as it’s unfair on both of you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 05:01 AM
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This idea that “the right woman can inspire a man to greatness” is a dodgy one. Sure, we call inspire the people who love but if he isn’t great, does that mean she isn’t trying hard enough? Having been in a relationship where my partner blamed his bad behaviour on me, I find the idea nebulous at best and harmful at worst.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 02:36 AM
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Yes, and no. A friend I knew from high school was one of the most beautiful girls I knew. A goth girl with catlike beauty, talent and charm. Every guy was in love w her. Not just lust, they all fell head over heels. The guy friend who’d ask me for $2 petrol money to drop me off when it was in his way happily drove 100km out of his way to drop her home for free. She would say, he’s just being niiiiice! Her bigger issue was that she was a musician and in a two girl band with a far plainer but more…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/20 07:45 AM
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I’d offer to pay or maybe if it was dinner bring a bottle wine and he can pay for the meal. I once went for lunch with a guy who literally POUNCED on the check, looked it over and informed me exactly what I owed. Another who made a huge deal out of paying for a $14 meal for two. “I’ll be the man and pay!” So... I didn’t see either of them again.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/20 12:52 AM
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Off topic but I haven’t heard ‘old mate’ in ages!
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/20 07:50 AM
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You can get fleece lined tights too. They’ll add a little to your frame making you look a little bulkier but my, are they warm.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/20 02:59 AM
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My observation has been that men have more immediate control over expression of emotion than women, but often less control when those emotions become outsized. Hence, while we may cry, nag, wonder why he hasn’t called when things get too much a man may react by smashing things, drinking too much, or engaging in something dangerous. Of course, this all depends on the man but i spoke to an ER doctor once who spent a fair amount of time fixing hands that had collided with a wall.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/20 01:18 AM
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I think it depends on the duration of friendship. I had bridesmen in my wedding party they were that close but I knew them since high school. I’ve always had a balance of male and female and my friends of both genders have friends of both genders. Personally I wouldn’t want a man who didn’t have female friends as simply platonic friends, but that’s me. To me it shows a man can see beyond a woman’s sex appeal to value her as a person. However making random new male friends once you are married mi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/20 05:52 AM
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I have been through this myself and it’s one of the reasons my marriage is ending. We never saw eye to eye on this and he constantly told me I was dirty, grubby, gross and messy and all I did was cook. I cooked dinner each night, shopped, kept track of food and did the washing up and he did other tasks like laundry and vacuuming. Despite my spending 90 minutes a night on these tasks and his taking less time he was convinced he “did everything”. He criticised the way I did everything and if I put…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 05:37 AM
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No, weed. I mean, my goodness no!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 07:15 AM
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The old fashioned Aussie way was to get drunk and pick up at the pub and either make out or go home together. If they still look ok the next day, game on. That’s obviously an antiquated world view but I know plenty who did it that way.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:40 AM
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As an Australian I’ve always found this “exclusivity” stuff odd. Though I know tinder has changed things and some people might see multiple people I’ve never for a moment assumed someone I was seeing was seeing other girls, or that I would date other men. Even if it didn’t work out I’ve never had “that” talk. Can any other Aussies verify this?
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/20 04:09 AM
1

He worked until Covid ended his job and I want to work things out as we’re married and that means something to me, despite the faults and way he acts.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 02:13 PM
2

I would say here mostly that I’m looking for advice on whether his claims sound valid: that being with me makes him depressed so he smokes a lot of pot, stays up late each night and is in too much of a negative mindset to change his life?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/20 04:54 AM
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