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He feels more like family than my blood family. We've been through hell and high water together (the loss of a child, poverty, serious illness, etc) and I cannot imagine going through it with anyone else. He is the single constant in my life and the single deepest love I have ever felt for anything or anyone.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/21 05:37 PM
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By the fact that you don't even understand the basics of what a therapist can and cannot do, I don't think you're terribly qualified to know what this woman (whom you do not know) does or does not need. She asked for advice on how to look for a therapist, not whether or not therapy was even valid.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 05:06 PM
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First of all: therapists aren't permitted to prescribe medications. That is a psychiatrist's job. Secondly: a good therapist will be centered around helping their patient move on from their issues rather than dwell on them. It sounds like you've had an experience with a bad therapist or two who didn't understand your needs, but that isn't a good enough reason to tell people who obviously think they need help to refrain from getting themselves help.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:50 PM
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My advice would be to shop around, if you can. During a first meeting, it's best to treat that meeting like a job interview. Ask about who they are, why they do what they do, how long they've been doing it for, etc. And be very open and honest about who you are, why you believe what you believe, your past experiences with therapists, and what you'd like to accomplish with therapy. You won't get anywhere if you're not totally and completely transparent with them. Make sure you feel like you can l…
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:41 PM
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I'm not a SAHM, but we kind of split the responsibility. I figure out the budget and keep track of bills because we both know I'm a bit more organized. But when it comes down to figuring out what/what not to spend on, we talk about it together and make sure we both agree something is or isn't a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:30 PM
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This is not "just a guy" thing. And I don't think that this is an example of emotional dependence. It's you getting annoyed that he doesn't think you need time off because you're on your period. I don't think the answer to this is saying "Well, I don't need him to emotionally fulfill me," because that's a one way ticket to being distant, which he will pick up on and question it. I think seeing things from another perspective and respecting that perspective is probably a good way of dealing with …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/21 04:24 PM
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Oooo, I love the color options.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:55 AM
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Always a failsafe option lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:54 AM
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Well hot dang, count me in on those kinda deals. And the stuff does looks really nice! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:54 AM
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Those do look really cute, thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:52 AM
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I'm a tiny cold thing that lives in the Midwest US (AKA literal Antarctica) lol so satin works fine for me! Thanks so much for the website suggestions. Are there any particular vendors on amazon that you would recommend? I've gotten some bum stuff off of there before so I'm a little wary.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/21 12:51 AM
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Well, I don't know exactly what you look like... But even if you really do have masculine features, that's not a reason for men to dislike the way you look. Brooke Shields had pretty similar features to the ones you described. Any face can be attractive if you're taking care of it with good skincare, working out and proper diet, a little bit of natural makeup, a great haircut (seriously, invest in a really good haircut from somewhere like an Aveda salon) and good old fashioned confidence. Your a…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 10:52 PM
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The biggest sign for me is whining about something without enacting a plan to change it. That generally means that they're determined to live in a negative mindset and nothing you do or say will make them happy.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 09:07 PM
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Sounds to me like you've outgrown your party friend. Like someone else commented, I'd reach out to your other friends to try and maintain friendships with them individually, and don't worry about being excluded. If they really value you, they'll stick around. If they don't... good riddance.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/21 01:42 AM
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I live in the the midwest US, so it's either mildly warm, or hypothermia cold lol, so my fall go-to is Russian valenki felt boots. Cute, intensely warm, and relatively affordable.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/21 12:04 AM
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I had a whole other thing typed out and posted, and I realized that I was kinda bullcrapping around the point... the reason I, personally, leaned towards male friendships in my younger years was plainly because finding tolerable women is so damned hard. Even now, when I am so desperate to find women that I want to be friends with and have given up friendships with men for all the same reasons as all the other commenters here... I can't find a woman that is tolerable to me. Maybe that makes me an…
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 11:50 PM
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Thanks, I'm gonna rehash my pinterest account and see what I can find over there for sure. And I'll check out those subs, thanks so much :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 03:05 AM
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Oh yeah I love me some antique stores and thrift shops! Thanks so much for your tips, I'll keep them in mind. Any good tips for organization, or know spots that have good tips? I'm very clean, but have so little space to organize, its crazy making. I have like 2 inches of kitchen counter space lmao
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/21 03:02 AM
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Ooooh, I'll definitely check that out
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 10:41 PM
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I'll have to pick that up, thanks a bunch
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 10:13 PM
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What an awesome site, thanks for the recommendation :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/21 10:13 PM
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Well, I'll start by asking what makes him high value. It's great that people respect him, that he seems kind, and has the ability to be assertive... But there is more to being high value than that, and I feel like you would need to know more about him to truly determine that. So don't get too deep into your crush until you know for sure. As far as attracting him to you, I don't really know how far you've gotten with him, so I would say start by approaching him during some down time (maybe during…
/r/RedPillWives03/10/21 09:16 PM
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Good for you. You've got a good, healthy headspace for moving on. My only advice would be to not rush into anything new too fast, because you don't want to do the rebound thing or get into anything just because you're a little lonely. Enjoy your time with your friends and family and savor being back home for a while. Glad you're doing well.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 09:52 PM
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Well, I think part of your problem is that you think men in general are egotistical and closed off, and that you seem to think that you're different by being competent, unique, loving, playful, and wise. It sounds like you look down on others to pump up your own sense of self worth, which likely makes you difficult to interact with. I don't know you, but that's what it sounds like. Perhaps you could try humbling yourself a bit and hanging out with men you wouldn't normally like, and trying to se…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 03:28 PM
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Well, female attraction is based on hierarchies. Pretty much anything that is not at the base level in a particular field, not so much about the field itself. There are of course certain fields that are particularly unattractive, like working fast food past their early twenties. But anything that requires ambition, hard work, intelligence, etc is gonna be attractive. Doctors, lawyers, tech developers, business owners, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 02:20 PM
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I definitely think that this is worth talking about, especially since there are non-hormonal or low-hormonal contraception options such as the copper IUD and other types of implants. We like to think in this day and age that we know everything there is to know about human biology, but we don't. For crap's sake, people used to take heroin and cocaine over the counter only a little over a hundred years ago... with FDA approval. Messing with our body's chemistry is a pretty new science, so being di…
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 02:09 PM
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Let it be. She's acting like an immature child, and your ex should know better than to believe this woman that he doesn't even know, so screw him too. Rise above the drama and live your life peacefully.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/21 01:29 PM
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This is 100% an abusive relationship. Not only should you not move back in with him, you need to cut him out of your life completely. You deserve so much better.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 11:14 PM
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Aw, that makes me so happy for your friend!
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/21 12:29 PM
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oh snap you're probably right.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 11:47 PM
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So, if you're already feeling overwhelmed with life, why are you having another baby right now? I'm sorry that you're feeling overwhelmed and I totally understand why: kids+school+work+pregnancy sounds really difficult to juggle. But in this day and age getting pregnant is a choice, unless by some crazy happenstance your BC failed (been there, currently two weeks out from a due date when I had an IUD in at conception.... like wtf). To me, it sounds like you guys chose to get pregnant, or at leas…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 11:29 PM
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Personally, I think you're half right. What I think you're wrong about is that looks have nothing to do with the root cause of The Wall. Biologically, men are more attracted to youthful beauty because signs of aging are signs that you are becoming less fertile, which is the reason men are attracted to women in the first place: the ability to safely and effectively have lots of babies. But I do think that you're right in thinking that you're definitely at a disadvantage if you're some demanding, …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 10:58 PM
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I'd say that if he asks for your help with homework, then don't worry about it and just give him your help. If he doesn't ask for it, keep it to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 10:38 PM
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I will add to this: you should also keep your mouth shut when you're proven right. Don't be a sore winner. It's a small example, but when I went to the store with my husband the other day to grab something from the pharmacy, I knew for a fact where the pharmacy section was. He disagreed, and so I said "okay, maybe you're right" and I happily let him lead me around the other side of the store before we made our way to where I knew it had been. Did I say anything? No. And I was happier for it. Thi…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/21 01:10 AM
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Personally, I define femininity as being a light in a dark place. It's not all about the looks, smiles, submission, etc: those things culminate in the act of being something beautiful in an ugly place, a light in the dark, a spark of joy where there is none. By contrast, I think that masculinity is about being willing to brave that ugliness, darkness, and hardship to do something selfless and generous for their family. So being that "soft place to land" makes sense in a sort of yin/yang way. And…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/21 02:54 PM
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We, as humans, have a fascination with sex in the same way we have a fascination with food. It's a primal need/want and not everyone is going to be as discerning about what kind of sex/food is actually good for them and worth having. You've got masses of people who are content eating McDonald's every day just the same as you have people who are willing to have casual sex. Both of those things may temporarily fill a hole (ha), but you gain zero long-term satisfaction. Within an hour you'll be hun…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/21 07:26 PM
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I think there's a reason conservative men like their women to dress modestly; because they know what it's like to be a man seeing a woman's body and find it irresistible to ogle at. Women subconsciously understand that men are visual creatures, and these days they take advantage of that to gain male attention for their own personal self-satisfaction. It feels good to be ogled at, it makes you feel desirable. It's a quick way to get a huge dopamine hit. But my husband and many other men have talk…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 05:20 PM
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Lol I feel like we dated the same guy. Definitely agree.
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/21 03:38 PM
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I'm not sure if involving oneself with sex work/alternative lifestyles could be considered a hobby? I suppose unless it was done constantly, in which case that's a whole other can of worms lol. And I could see the hunting thing, for personal ethical reasons, which is better than just "I don't like it" lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 04:51 AM
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I'm not sure if gambling is a hobby? Tends to be that its either its a form of rare entertainment or a straight up addiction lol. But I agree doing it too much is definitely a turn off.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 03:50 AM
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I will admit, it's not super common for people to do what my husband has done with it. So that's a fair point. I could see it being a little more difficult to deal with if it weren't so beneficial. I will also admit that I'm not personally demanding on the "couple-time" front. We're both very happy doing our own thing a good chunk of the time, and coming together to talk, have dates, cook together, etc. So I can see your point that if someone needs more time, it could be harder to accept. Also, …
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 03:45 AM
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I can respect the fact that you specifically looked for someone who didn't have that particular quality. I just don't get these women who find a man who they know likes something they don't approve of, and just try to change it later. I do think its really detrimental. I can't imagine my husband telling me that I'm no longer allowed to read books or write stories... Because he KNEW that was what I loved before we got serious. It's just very strange to me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 03:36 AM
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I am also 4'11, and trust me, your size is not a downside. Have confidence in your body because that is so much more attractive than any type of clothing, makeup, whatever. Total comfort inside your own skin will make you glow and will draw people to you like you wouldn't believe. My husband ADORES how I look on every level, even when I'm wearing PJ's and my hair is all crazy, because I'm totally comfortable with my body, and I take great care of it. If I were to give advice other than confidenc…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:52 AM
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I went through a similar thing with my husband and I think it's a good approach: rather than an ultimatum of all in or all out, find a healthy middle ground.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:37 AM
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Definitely gonna start listening to this at work, thanks for the suggestion!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:32 AM
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Well, this isn't fasting... In my experience, when cortisol levels are high, hunger signals go down as well. When I was in a chronic high stress situation for about two years, I dropped down to around 85 lbs without even trying to. Eventually, I couldn't eat without puking it back up, and I started to have medical issues. Do not think this is fasting, this is unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:24 AM
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Depends on your perspective of what is and isn't a physical manifestation. Like, people who play shooter and strategy games are proven to have improved hand-eye coordination and decision making skills; and general gamers are proven to be better at sticking with difficult tasks until completion. There's a ton of research into how moderate gaming time is actually good for you. Some older folks are getting into it to help keep their brain sharp. My mom just bought a PS4 lol.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:21 AM
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I don't personally think that you have to be on the exact same page as someone to have a healthy, solid relationship. But you do need to be reading the same book. Obviously this guy is in a different library. It sounds like this has been a fun fling, but was not meant to last. I think you're right in thinking that dating someone more likeminded would be a good idea.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/21 02:09 AM
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Its difficult to do because people usually become extremely emotionally charged when discussing sensitive subjects, and it’s unlikely anyone will change their mind when being berated by the opposing party. It’s also difficult to convince anyone of anything by words alone; they have to experience something for it to become real. I was once on the other side of the fence and I didn’t realize how wrong I was until I met my husband, who showed me what it meant to be with someone who held traditional…
/r/RedPillWomen08/08/21 02:42 AM
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I know things are pretty different here in the west, so I don’t think any specific advice would help. But I think some good general advice would be to remember that you can only do so much to make someone like you. Obviously, be respectful, courteous, and follow the hospitality traditions of your culture. But don’t change yourself to try to impress. My experience the first time meeting my in-laws was a natural disaster, as it was with every other girlfriend my husband ever had, because they were…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 11:16 PM
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Well it depends on what he finds most relaxing, because everyone has different things they like. My best advice would be to incorporate the things you know he loves most. If he likes the outdoors, go on a hike somewhere he hasn’t been before. If he likes movies, set up a playlist of all the movies you know he loves. If he likes to cook, invent a dish together. Etc, etc, etc.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 08:33 PM
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You are not wrong, this is weird. I’d say this warrants a serious talk to try and understand where his head is at. You made it clear that you were uncomfortable and he chose to go anyway… I really have to wonder what his priorities are. Not to say he couldn’t have a good explanation, because I don’t know him, but I’d say talk to him (calmly) and come at it trying to understand why he made that choice and make sure he understands why you’re uncomfortable. Maybe he didn’t get the full scope of how…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 04:51 PM
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One: as a 26 year old woman, I cannot for the life of me ever imagine being attracted to a 19 year old boy. I’ve met a few (my husband has a younger brother who brought his friends around when we were staying with his family) and all of them were extremely immature. Men go after younger women because men are attracted to youth. Women are attracted to stability, responsibility, and maturity, none of which a much younger man has. So that makes me think you’re immature, irresponsible, and unstable,…
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 04:30 PM
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It sounds like you might just be sexually incompatible. Men wanting women to sexually stimulate them in that area doesn’t make them inherently not masculine. I will also add that you shouldn’t do anything you’re uncomfortable doing just because he wants to do it. Be open and honest with him.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 04:55 AM
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Attempting to be a “main character” may be exciting, hectic, and invigorating. But I think that a deeper sense of peace and wisdom comes from accepting that you aren’t the center of the universe and it’s okay to exist in a quiet world without much hustle and bustle. Find the beauty and happiness in the small moments, because anything else is fleeting.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/21 04:43 AM
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Laugh more. When you feel awkward, ugly, weird, like you want to crawl into a hole and die, etc… especially in the middle of sex or social situations. Laugh! I feel like people are resistant to finding the humor in uncomfortable situations, which is where I find the most humor. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve turned around a horribly embarrassing situation around because I just accepted it laughed at the absurdity.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 06:24 PM
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To not take everything so seriously. If you’re too “in your head” about anything, it saps all the joy and playfulness out of love.
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/21 03:53 PM
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I think you’re overthinking. There could be a million reasons for this behavior other than disinterest. If it truly concerns you, ask him about it. It’s best to be upfront about concerns.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/21 06:23 PM
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Currently running myself into the ground. About to start a new job, plus doing web development on the side, handling a lot of family drama, as well as dealing with third trimester of a difficult pregnancy…. Woof. I’m burnt out.
/r/RedPillWives04/08/21 08:11 PM
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Really good list for newcomers!!! Love it 😊
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/21 03:30 AM
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It’s really nice that you want to help her, but you need to understand that she needs to want help herself before any meaningful change will happen. The best I can do is explain what worked on me, since I was pretty similar to your sister once upon a time: I found someone that was worth being better for and expected better of me. Maybe you could be that person for her by making sure that you’re in her life, hold her accountable, and be the man that she has sorely missed in her life. Be a role mo…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/21 02:47 AM
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Someone telling me that they think I’m good enough to have sex with but not good enough to actually date is pretty disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 10:06 PM
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How is a future spouse going to feel about you being friends with someone who asked you for casual sex?
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 10:04 PM
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You need to immediately stop being friends with this man. Such blatant disrespect is absolutely unacceptable.
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 07:35 PM
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Yeah, I think separating people from their past is important. Anyone is capable of growth if they want to. I’m really happy that you could move on from bad habits and learn your own way in life, that’s a beautiful thing. Don’t let anyone crap on that. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/21 01:08 AM
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I’d say the difference between him and every other guy was that he didn’t seem to have an agenda, outside of wanting to have a good conversation. Meaning he didn’t really try to lead it any specific direction (like, “can I have your number?”). Also, he’s a naturally magnetic personality. He laughs a lot (very loudly), smiles a lot, and genuinely puts effort into talking about things that he has in common with people rather than taking over conversations with things that would be “impressive”. He…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 10:39 PM
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Yeah I see where you’re coming from, I just think in terms of what I would think if I had gone on a few dates with someone and then had something like that come up. It would be understandable if someone were to lose interest while on hiatus so early in courtship, so he might appreciate the reassurance, even if he chooses not to respond. But, ultimately, it’s best to do what you think is right.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 08:48 PM
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I met my husband in college, just hanging out outside. He came up to me out of blue and gave me a small compliment on a piece of jewelry I was wearing and asked me about it. Led to a 5 hour conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 07:43 PM
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Maybe don’t totally leave him alone. Maybe text him with a “hey I’m thinking of you and hope you’re doing okay, feel free to talk to me when you feel up to it.” sort of thing, just to make sure he knows you’ll still be there when this is all over. In the interim, meeting some girlfriends is a great idea. I’d say the best thing you could do is develop your ability to be a happy place, especially if he plans on coming back to you after such a stressful ordeal. You have the opportunity to become a …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 07:34 PM
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I agree with everything except #2 and 3. My husband grew up in a VERY contentious passive-aggressive household, and therefore decided he didn’t want to emulate that in his own home. I’d say you’re not totally wrong, because a lot of people do tend to emulate their childhood homes, but not always so idk if that’s always the best advice. And #3 feels kind of sneaky, which I don’t think is a good way to treat your SO. If you want to know something about them, be upfront about what you’re doing inst…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/21 03:51 PM
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Well, how do you define “distant”?
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 09:42 PM
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I don’t really think it influences me, no. But I have found that as I have changed my lifestyle, I like those forms of entertainment less and less because I find myself thinking “why are these bad choices being glorified?” rather than actually enjoying the entertainment. However, I agree that people who are already supportive of certain lifestyle choices can use those forms of entertainment to rationalize their choices as “normal”. I think that’s the most harm it really does.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 07:48 PM
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I’ve never been in your exact position, but I do understand what you mean about sex lacking intimacy. I relate to that a lot. My husband is naturally a very sexually intimate person; it’s sort of his way of being affectionate and close with me, which is amazing. But it took me a long time to catch onto that, I think because of how our “raunch” culture portrays sexuality as this meaningless, casual, physical pleasure centered activity. What really helped me develop intimacy was realIzing that whe…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 02:51 PM
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Oh, I hear that. I feel much more rebellious now than I ever did being a “rebel” lmao.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/21 02:33 PM
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Learning how to keep certain aspects of my life private. I’m naturally a very open and honest person, at times to a fault. I know I’m not alone in this trait; since much of my time has been spent in conversation with women (and men) who have a similar tendency. But there is a certain power in withholding the more sacred or special aspects of your life. It creates a sort of exclusivity for those few you choose to include (including your spouse).
/r/RedPillWives31/07/21 02:28 PM
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This calmed me a bit, it’s so nice to hear reassuring stories. I walk for over an hour every day and have been doing prenatal yoga since first trimester so I’m hoping that helps. Good to know it worked for you, so it makes me feel more positive about it. I’ll look into your other suggestions for sure. Thank you so much, I’ll absolutely ask if I have any questions ❤️
/r/RedPillWives26/07/21 01:29 PM
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I feel like this is just talking about empathy.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 12:39 PM
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There isn’t some magical equation for this. The best advice I can give is to understand what you are looking for in man, be on the lookout for that, and don’t wait too long to marry once you’ve found someone great (I’d say waiting two or three years is about right). Don’t place a strict timeline on yourself because that could cloud your judgement and get you into a relationship that you might not want to be in. Your father means well, but no, you shouldn’t be waiting a super long time, but don’t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/21 01:41 AM
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That’s just the thing, it’s the demand that interests me. Not so much that the company made the change.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 08:10 PM
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This makes a lot of sense. It’s easier to pay to live in a comfortable lie than it is to face an uncomfortable truth.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 07:56 AM
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I suppose the best question I could ask then is what do you think would change the direction we are headed in? If our desires aren’t enough to motivate us to change, what would motivate folks to better themselves? All it took for me was seeing the dismal failures of those around me. Why isn’t that enough for others, when it’s obvious that these behaviors lead to huge dissatisfaction? It feels like anyone with half a brain and an age that doesn’t end in “teen” should be able to see that the popul…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 06:28 AM
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You’re definitely not wrong about companies following the money. I just wonder WHY the money is going that way. I understand that maybe some folks aren’t as interested in pink and frilly stuff, but to be blatantly unfeminine? I feel like the point of the brand was to be “sexy” and so taking the product in the direction of utility/comfort over style is interesting to me. Nothing wrong with updating fabrics to be less abrasive or including styles that are more attractive to a mature woman, but I f…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 06:15 AM
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I feel like if that’s true, then that would require that men and women not care that the other sex was becoming less attractive. But we do. You hear folks say all the time “where are all the good men/women?”. Women crave masculine men and men crave feminine women; so you think it’s possible that this process reverses itself for the sake of our own desires? Why or why not? I want it to be reversible. I feel like it is because my husband helped me figure myself out and fix my view of the world. An…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:59 AM
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Why do you think men allow it to happen? I mean, men have the ability to put their foot down and expect better. Why don’t they?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:17 AM
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This is exactly why I’m worried about this strange transition. And I have to wonder if this is EVER going to end; it seems it only gets worse.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:08 AM
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What do you mean by that?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 05:05 AM
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What is a “49er”?
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:54 AM
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I agree that the brand would be wise to show off women of a healthy body type. And I agree that the quality is not always the best (though it depends on what you get, I have some stuff that’s held up for almost eight years and some stuff that fell apart within months). But it is mostly the shift in how unfeminine they have become that struck me. I’d love to see healthy bodies showing off cute undies, but I guess that doesn’t fit with the weird narrative they’re going for.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:47 AM
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This is what confuses me as well. They claim to want to represent “real women”, as if that means real women don’t want to be feminine. And if you, as a woman, want to be feminine, there must be something wrong with you. It’s as if being “girly” is a slur now.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:40 AM
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It wouldn’t even remotely surprise me if this was the case. Undesirable women have been making waves with their feeble attempts at self-assurance; I’m just shocked it reached such a notable brand.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 04:17 AM
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Currently seven months pregnant and starting to freak out about childbirth lol. Everyone has such intense horror stories about the pain and I just want to cry sometimes because I’m so tiny and I feel like I’m going to get torn in half lol. I wish women would be a little more encouraging about childbirth. I know it’s kind of a rite of passage or whatever, and it can make you feel like a badass to say you got through something that hard… but it makes it really scary to someone who has never been t…
/r/RedPillWives25/07/21 12:17 AM
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So sorry to hear about your brother-in-law, hope your family is handling it okay. Such a hardship for your SIL to be left with the kids and pregnant! I can’t imagine dealing with something like that while pregnant… But that is such a cute thing to celebrate, lol, what exactly made him change his mind about you?
/r/RedPillWives25/07/21 12:11 AM
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This is a good idea! That way whatever you both pick out is guaranteed not to make him uncomfortable when you wear it around others and you can wear it with confidence (which is what makes an outfit sexiest).
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/21 12:04 AM
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When I met my husband at 19, my entire world turned upside down. We could not have been more opposite when we started talking. I was a “Demi-sexual” pagan with a filthy mouth, clothing fit for a punk rock stripper, and a chronic cigarette/joint in my mouth. My husband was a good Christian boy who grew up in million dollar homes, had a good job, was going to school to be a surgeon (which changed later to Cybersecurity) and was STAUNCHLY conservative. I really could not tell you why he even looked…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/21 11:57 PM
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I think a woman is needed to bring light into the world through the nurturing of others; however and wherever she chooses to do that is up to her. Plenty of women choose to enter the medical field (doctors are overwhelmingly female), stay at home with their kids, become social workers or teachers, etc. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, not just in the home. I, personally, don’t want kids. I’m currently pregnant and planning on doing adoption. I’m probably in the minority on this sub wi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 03:33 PM
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I also have a rather strained relationship with my mother due to different values, so I feel your pain here. My best advice is to set boundaries that you are comfortable with. I, for instance, don’t talk to my mom unless I want to. Period. And if she brings something up that I don’t appreciate, I don’t argue it, I just excuse myself from the conversation even if she protests/gets nasty about it. You also don’t HAVE to stay in contact with her it the relationship is truly toxic. But that’s a pers…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 02:58 PM
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Sure, that is true. But generally those changes did not have obvious social negatives like social media does. It’s been proven that regular use of it causes higher rates of anxiety and depression, especially in younger people like OP. So yes, if it makes her feel badly, she doesn’t need it. Her friends should be willing to accommodate that or else, no she does not need them if they are willing to be petty enough not to communicate unless she has Instagram.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 12:24 PM
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No, we don’t.
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 12:10 PM
1

No I don’t think it’s necessary, and if anyone says differently, they’re wrong. Humanity has survived millions upon millions of years without social media, and just because it’s ubiquitous now does not change anything. If someone doesn’t want to call or text you, or even actually meet up to hang out, then whatever. Don’t need ‘em. You need one maybe two really good friends, a spouse whenever that becomes available to you, and family. That’s all you need. Anything else is icing on the cake. So if…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 04:41 AM
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It’s definitely not on “command”, but I do have an understanding that men need sex more often than women. If I truly do not feel up to it, my husband is not going to demand that I still have sex with him ( especially since I’m pregnant right now). But, generally, we try to have sex once a day because that’s what we agreed was a good amount. There has to be understanding, effort (from both people), and good communication in order for you both to have a good sex life.
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 03:06 PM
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My best concrete advice would be to realize that just because a man allows you to say you love him does not make him your soul mate. I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had such a terrible past, but you can’t allow that to lower your standards. I’m sure your boyfriend is a nice man, and that you haven’t really experienced that before, and that can make it hard to see things clearly. But he seems controlling to me, especially for only being together a month. Ultimately it is your life and your choic…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 06:54 PM
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And I don’t want you to think I’m saying this stuff just to be mean. I’m not. I just don’t want you to start out life obviously so full of potential and happiness, and then squander it with bad choices, which you are obviously making. You deserve to have a rich and fulfilling life with a good man. Please don’t waste your potential on someone who does not deserve what you have to offer.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 04:51 PM
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Real life is made up of more than having a lot of money. It’s also about the choices that you make. If you inherit your parents money, and you’ve decided to marry an immature man, he could easily squander your inheritance. I doubt a 20 year old man has a good job that could sustain you living at home without a good inheritance. And if you give him access to that kind of money without having earned it, what is his motivation to be personally successful? Is he going to school? Is he starting a voc…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 04:38 PM
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More than one person saying that you have the maturity level of a high school student is not funny. You need to get your act together, or else real life is going to hit you hard when your parents aren’t in the equation anymore. At your age, I don’t even understand why they would be supporting you at all.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 03:26 PM
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I hate to sound harsh, but you need to seriously ask yourself why you (a 33 year old, grown woman) is dating a boy who is barely out of his teen years, and allowing him to dictate how you navigate your professional contacts. And the fact that you actually decided to tattoo this boy’s name onto your body after a month of dating (or at all, for that matter)… that speaks volumes to your ability to make sane, logical life choices. I suggest you take a step back from this relationship, and the dating…
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 04:47 AM
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The other day I was talking to my female coworker while waiting for my husband to pick me up for an impromptu doctor visit, which was due to the fact that I had a sudden hole in my vision and felt like I might faint. A guy who works in the office next to where I was came over and said he overheard me talking and offered to help me walk out to my husband if I wasn’t feeling well. Was super nice of him. Never spoken to him before or after.
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/21 04:15 AM
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I personally think that it’s good that we have access to so many points of view, because it allows us to educate ourselves at a whim. However, I think that people don’t understand how to tell who is most qualified to speak on a subject and generally can’t be bothered to check the information they are being given. I’m pretty right leaning, but I still check right leaning news before taking it to heart. I also look up the qualifications of those who are speaking, their reputation, and if they have…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/21 03:58 PM
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Don’t allow stress to take the joy of your first time away from you. Don’t worry about being good at it, because it’s not about being “good”, it’s about being together in a vulnerable moment and feeling close to one another. It’s a really beautiful thing. And yes, he’s done it with other girls, but he never did it with a woman he loves as much as you, and so you will be more special. Be in the moment, enjoy the closeness, and worry about technique when you’ve done it a few times. Be sure to be c…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/21 12:33 PM
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Ive been looking for something like this! I’ll start listening this week.
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/21 04:24 PM
3

I’m struggling to deal with the lack of exercise I’m capable of doing now that I’m in my third trimester of pregnancy. My body feels stiffer and more achey because of it. My husband also hasn’t been going to the gym because he just got a few new tattoos, so we’re both feeling super lazy and gross. Any tips for at home, low impact exercise we could do?
/r/RedPillWives04/07/21 03:39 AM
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How are you liking Perel’s book? I watched an interview with her before deciding on purchasing it, and she had some weird things to say about monogamy so I got a little thrown off.
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 07:07 AM
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Also listening to a lot of JP again lately!
/r/RedPillWives27/06/21 07:05 AM
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I’m gonna be really honest, so I’m sorry if it comes off rude. You sound really immature. It sounds like you have realized that you’re not getting any younger and thought that you could take your transactional business-like view of men into a serious relationship like it’s nothing, expect them to give you everything, and offer nothing. You spent your best years offering yourself up to the highest bidder, and men do not respect that. You need to some time to really figure out where your head is a…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 04:12 AM
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Why do you say nothing you do is enough for him? Does he say that?
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 10:13 PM
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I was also banned from r/childfree because they found out I was a member here.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:35 PM
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I would add to this that you’re gonna meet most of the people you know at your job. If you’re working somewhere like a hospital or law office, the people you meet are probably gonna be higher value people with degrees. And you can also meet people in college, which is how I met my husband. So I wouldn’t say it has everything to do with the actual fact of having a degree, but also the people that degree puts you into contact with. Probably hence why most doctors marry doctors or other HCW in gene…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:32 PM
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Oh man, I just moved from the Eugene area about two years ago. Wishing you luck, it’s rough to be a RP woman out there.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 08:25 PM
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I think he’s lying, but even if he isn’t…. Good riddance. Either way, he’s a manipulative jerk who was using you for his own selfish reasons. Whether he means what he said or not, to say that to someone is cruel and heartless and you didn’t deserve it. Don’t allow such a jerk to ruin your trust in future relationships. Let yourself have some time to heal, to understand what a selfish prick that guy was, and eventually give yourself to someone who actually has your best interest in heart. It hurt…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:47 PM
1

I wish I could give more advice, but I think the best advice is to seek out professional mental health services. There is zero shame in getting diagnosed and treated for whatever might be going on. You’ll be in my prayers. ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:39 PM
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How are things so turbulent in your marriage? Unless one of you is abusive or cheating, it can probably be saved if you both put in the work.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 04:33 PM
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I have the same issue a lot of times. It’s just a difference of personality, and I wouldn’t take it personally. Not everyone is gonna think you’re the best that’s ever been, and that’s okay.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/21 09:56 PM
1

Sure! Where do you think we could advertise it, though?
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 08:25 PM
1

Unfortunately mods said it wasn’t allowed
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 08:16 PM
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It’s really kind of you to say so lol, but we made up our minds after quite a lot of discussion and deliberation. I really do appreciate the compliment though!
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/21 04:38 PM
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I suggest JBP in general. His books and videos sorted a lot out for me.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 10:56 PM
1

Unfortunately, mods said no..... and I’m not sure how to advertise it if we can’t do it on this sub.
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 03:04 AM
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Of course! Ask as many questions as you like I’m an open book lol. On the note of what I feel about what constitutes my worth as a woman, I don’t think I am defined by softness and personality so much as the joy that I bring into the world. I will not always be perfectly soft and delicate and that’s not really the goal. The goal is to help others shine their brightest and make myself a place of respite from a chaotic and negative world. And I think that’s worthy of as much praise as industrious …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 01:06 AM
5

What do I wear? Anything modest, form fitting, and brightly colored that matches my skin tone. No leggings, no jeans, no t-shirts. And as to how I see my life moving forward... Well for starters my marriage has improved drastically as a result of the changes I made. We used to argue, viciously, every few days or weeks. We’ve now gone months without any more than a two minute spat. And that’s not because I gave up arguing my points, I just became kinder and gentler about how I communicated those …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/21 12:40 AM
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I personally feel like it came from using my femininity to better myself and the people around me. I noticed that as I softened myself, I softened others as well. I bring so much more light and joy to the world and that feels powerful, because it’s a much larger and positive impact than I was making before. And of course this came from more than just wearing bright colors and smiling more. It came from an overall softening of my sharp edges. I don’t use foul language, I don’t fret over small thi…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 10:55 PM
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You remind me exactly of who I was about five years ago. Allow me share my experience so that you can understand where I’m coming from when I give you the advice I’m going to give. I grew up very rough and tumble with a father who clearly wanted a son, and a brash career woman mother. I have always been extremely disagreeable. This has been to the point that when I’ve asked people close to me what their original impression of me was, they usually say they were extremely intimidated by me. And mo…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 10:05 PM
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I would also add: make a list of things you value in yourself. Talents, positive qualities, etc. You need to remember that he chose you over her at this point, since she obviously is still desiring him. He sees more value in you and you should follow suit.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 09:06 PM
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My best advice would be a social media break. I don’t think you need to be worrying yourself over this since he is obviously disinterested in her, and has stopped communicating with her. Cut social media completely for a week or so and allow yourself to breathe. You won’t be able to relax if you continue to let this woman into your life.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 09:03 PM
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Ohhhhhh no. No. That is such a red flag that the red flag is waving a red flag. Thank God you were wise enough to realize things aren’t good this early in the relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 04:10 PM
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If he is acting this impulsively and angrily two weeks into your relationship, you need to end things pronto. Nothing about this situation says anything good about him, whatsoever.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 03:54 PM
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I could set one up after work today. I’ll contact mods and see if it’s okay to make a post about it, and get people to join.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/21 01:04 PM
3

Seeing as a bunch of ladies in the same age range and situation have commented, maybe we could consider a discord chat for us all?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:21 PM
1

Maybe seek out a women’s small group at a local church, or see if you can attend a weekend convention?
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:20 PM
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You were meant to learn and grow from him, not to stay with him. I’m sure he feels special because you had a lot of firsts together, and it hurts to let that go, but it’s for the best. You’re obviously still young; allow yourself to find your footing, mentally, and I’m sure you’ll find someone special.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:15 PM
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I forgave him. That doesn’t mean I forgot, because I haven’t talked to him in almost ten years and never will again. But I forgave him because to forgive was to take control of the effect he had on me. I took his power away from him and gave it to myself.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 10:07 PM
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Sorry to hear that, I hope he feels better soon. My best advice would be to perhaps give him some things to do that won’t strain his injury, but make it so he doesn’t feel quite so useless. An idle mind is prone to negativity.
/r/RedPillWives09/06/21 01:45 PM
2

In all honesty, no I don't feel that way anymore. For me, it took about two years to move past it completely. Now, after being together for almost eight years, and a few years of marriage, I've never had a more relaxed and honest relationship in my life. He is the only person I can totally be myself around, and that is a wonderful feeling. What helped me most was understanding that we are all human and so long as two people have a connection, which you two obviously do, then you can be in love w…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/21 05:06 PM
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I feel like I'm reading a post from my diary when I met my husband lol. For real, I feel you. Just to give you an idea of where I'm coming from with the advice I'm gonna give: I was raised EXTREMELY poor and uneducated, came from a toxic background steeped in low-class culture (drugs, excessive drinking, crude behavior, etc). I never went as deep into this culture as my peers or family (thank God), but was not untouched by it. I met my husband in college. He was from a VERY wealthy family (maids…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/21 11:41 PM
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I met mine at college! I was outside enjoying the fresh air, and he plopped down next to me and gave me a little compliment about the necklace I was wearing and we didn't stop talking for almost five hours. We both missed classes lol. I'd suggest going where people just hang casually. Perhaps join a book club, go to the park, take a class (arts, language, exercise, etc), get involved in church (if that's your cup of tea), go to the beach with some friends, etc.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/21 06:40 PM
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Gosh dang, you're a great mom.
/r/RedPillWives23/05/21 06:28 PM
2

Well, there are some layers to this. It sounds like you might have a bit of social anxiety, which I also have. Loads of people deal with these types of feelings, so it's totally normal to feel this way. You are not alone. The best way to cope with this is to set yourself some boundaries. Things you don't talk about unless you are talking to people you are close to. Topics such as sex, religion, and politics are a good starting point. To expand on this list I suggest that instead of wondering wha…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 06:03 PM
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Off of the information you've provided (that he has anger issues, is addicted to marijuana, and refuses therapy), I can pretty confidently say that this man does not need to be in a relationship with anyone, much less you, until he figures himself out. It's great that he is financially stable, but that does not equal a high value man. My mother has a saying: "When you marry for money, you earn every penny." Get out now while you still don't have his children.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 05:50 PM
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For one: after three years, your boyfriend should be clear about what he wants out of this relationship. After nine months, my husband knew exactly what he wanted out of our relationship and proposed to me. We didn't get married for another two years, which is fine, but it helped to know that we were on the same page and wanted the same things. You need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend. If he can't figure out his goals for your relationship soon, then you need to respect yourself and f…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 05:38 PM
1

I met my husband at college. Most people I know met their husband/wife through some mutual friend/work/school. And it's not as though this is because I'm older; I'm only 25. I haven't been on social media for about two years and I've not noticed that much of a difference in my social life. Even in regards to friends: most of them I've met at church or work. You don't need social media.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/21 04:04 PM
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Remember that you are who you surround yourself with, so watch who you give your time to. School is an easy place to make friends, and you can find yourself hanging around with people who aren't good for you without much effort. Like others have said: avoid hookup culture. Overall, studies have shown that women who sleep around suffer from self-esteem issues and are generally dissatisfied with their sex lives. Save yourself for something meaningful and fulfilling. Get off social media as much as…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 01:56 AM
1

Cleaning... I suck at keeping up on it since I work full time. My husband is wonderful and helps out when he can with the small stuff, but he works a lot more than I do and it's not fair to ask him to do a full half of it. I'm doing better about it than I ever have, but I could get a lot better.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/21 06:21 PM
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