I’ve been talking to this dude for a while.

We’re both in the same country but we’re in different areas and because of the lockdown regulations, we can’t travel to meet one another.

However, he still wanted to have dates over zoom and be able to see one another.

He arranged the first and it went well.

I’ve always felt he was more attracted to me than I was to him but he seemed very respectful and easy to talk to so I wanted to give him a chance.

Then he asked for a second “date” and we had it arranged for today.

I made a plan for how I would look and wanted to put some effort in and was actually a bit excited.

The whole day passed and no word from him.

Finally I texted him at 7pm and asked what happened?

He replied said “oh crud, I was doing boring admin work and forgot. How about tomorrow?”

Now, usually I would say “no problem!” because I want to be understanding and laid back. I know that people make mistakes and sometimes forget and it doesn’t make them a bad person.

However, I feel like this is enough to make me walk away.

If I had arranged a “date” even if it was over zoom or FaceTime - I would look forward to it and plan my time around it.

Today I had a washing machine delivered and I had known about it being delivered since last week. That was hardly an amazing or exciting thing, yet I still remembered and planned accordingly.

I’m the kind of person that would never dream of letting a friend or colleague waiting for me after I arranged something. So I don’t think I would want to be with someone that isn’t as considerate to others and their time.

It’s also quite interesting because just the night before he was telling me about how much he liked me and valued me as a person.

I’m now seeing how easy it is to just say things but the actions are the true indicator.

Am I being too harsh?

And I still haven’t replied to his message and I don’t know what to say - I don’t like to just straight up block, it’s just not me.

I just don’t know how to phrase the fact that I’m politely walking away.

Any advice is so appreciated